Never thought i came back to this. Decided it was not working out with the girl so I ended it as I’m posting, I truly loved her, saw a future with her just like you said and she moved away to the UK and it was all downward spiral from there. I cried for like a few minutes and remember this video, and it is the best things for someone to hear when someone is depress to hear that there are people out there who also went through and get what it means to have these things happen to them. So thank you, from the bottom of my heart, I always practice a mix between between boxing and Chinese martial arts but never tried it with someone in a ring, my new goal is to be able to fight in the ring at least semi professionally.
Just broke up today, and the first person that came to mind for advice was Hamza. Never fails to deliver. Thank you for everything. ❤ Edit: Everything Hamza said is so strangely similar to my situation. Breakup at 19, around Christmas/New Years time. This eerie feeling of loneliness, bursting into tears. Seeking brotherhood… Even his advice on starting a new physical endeavour… I literally started BJJ yesterday ontop of my muay thai and weightlifting. It’s like the universe placed Hamza’s wisdom within arms reach. Time to do the hard work…
@@Hamza97 dear brother, how can I join your brotherhood. Me in great pain right now. I broke up with her on November 5th and now she’s with someone else on January 5th. I need some serious comfort from all the brothers who have been there 🙏🏽
I got dumped by a girl 2 months ago and still very much feel the pain. I was used and gaslighted and falsely accused of abuse (she admitted to lying about it eventually) despite what she did 2 of my friends were weak and kept talking to her and adding her as part of the friend group and pretty much flirting with her. It hurts. No matter what happens in life, please have a strong set of friends brothers and stay loyal to your friends 🙏
Real friends don't do that, you gained something from that brother. I'm very grateful for my friends and inshallah you will have friends like that too soon
Sorry to hear that brother. Fuck them boys and her! I know the feeling man my ex basically left me for a coworker. It's been little over 18 months but I'm ok now. If I could give you advice KEEP MOVING FORWARD and don't torture yourself. You'll be fine bro!
Quick note: this is the best moment to start your self improvement and most importantly DONT EVER DO IT TO GET YOUR EX BACK, she’s gone bro she’s thinking about another guy and you deserve much better trust me ❤
Going through this now at 36. Hamza advice is not just for younger people. This is universal advice through all age groups. Great advice on a lot of videos on your channel
@@Sirvalian I am so sorry to hear you are still suffering a year on. My breakup is only a week gone and coming out of a 3 and half year relationship. It’s tough brother, we all need to band together to help one another ✌️
I actually really needed this hamza. My girlfriend broke up with me and I was sleeping all day and eating junk food, and I stopped doing all the good habits I was doing. This made me realise that there’s no point in being sad when I can work on myself. Thank you hamza ❤
Fucking needed this. Broke up with who I thought was the love of my life 6 months ago. Now lost 16kgs, got sober (4 months) hit the gym hard, dieting, went to therapy, got into nature. I'm now healing and doing alot better. But yea. It almost destroyed me, I really needed this today Hamza. Thank you.
Everyone always talks about being dumped but honestly I left my what I thought the love of my life after 4 years and it has been such a difficult journey but everyday gets better man. Good luck to you and everyone else on this journey as well.
Very much needed. Currently 19, broke up with my first girlfriend after 8 months a couple weeks back. Immediately began self improvement, logging habits, going gym. picked up educating myself on nutrition and fitness in order to give me a healthy obsession. This video reaffirms the path i chose to go when she broke things off. thank you. Im going to be starting Uni in a couple years and im going to be a different person when that comes.
For everyone who is going through hell, if she left you and you gave it your all. She wasn't meat to be with you. Someone who truly belives in you and loves you will stay with you because they want to see you become better. Realize that you are attachted to the past. Talk to your close friends, they will support you. Envision the best version of yourself and work towards it. The more you love yourself and the more responsibility you take the better you will be as a person. Let the emotions flow, but do not get addicted and attachted to them. Put your mind somewhere else, put your focus in something that will make your life better. Love to all brothers out there, you are not alone!
Wow thank u bro this comment really hit home I just got with smn that I loved for such a long time and she did too but then she just lost interest and this comment rlly did change my perspective on it thank you my brother
I’m 18 about to be 19 and I got dumped 3 weeks ago after 3.5 years of dating. I loved her so much she was my first girlfriend and she took my virginity. We bonded a lot I really thought she was the one and we would always talk about our future and getting married. Not even 2 weeks after breaking up I see her wirh another guy already and that shit sent me into a wild depression. It’s been 5 days since i seen them together and I’m still not over it but I realized that she’s gone. that she doesn’t care if I’m crying or upset over her. I am trying to improve watching your video really changed my mindset and the way I think. Thank you so much hamza ❤
Bro I can feel you, I'm 18 , turning 19 soon too and I can feel you bro, my relationship was 1 year strong, i remember all those things we promised and she still left me, all those time i spent with her...
The girl I lost my virginity too, also my girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I ain’t never stop working though. Been crying every night and I can remember working while crying, eating while crying and being at the gym while crying. The grind don’t stop, stay hard you mother fuckers. Last night was the first night I didn’t cry over her, and I’m trying to find new women to talk to currently.
@@kommit-456 I can't speak for her, but that could be part of the reason you got rejected. Use that and build your confidence to do it yourself the next time. Every bad experience is a lesson! You got this bro
Breakups were what motivated me to work out the most. I've had two severe breakups in my life (technically 3, but I was around 14) and both of them were what drew me to working out and self improving. Both were incredibly painful causing depression, taking antidepressants and sucidal thoughts. I don't think you can be a real man without heartbreakes and struggles in life. You must experience something that could potentially crush you.
Male depression and suicide is a serious thing and it will only get worse. If your out there feeling struck down and not wanting to get back in life, find the love in yourself for yourself to get up. Its not about doing it for someone else its about doing it for you. Cry it out, shout it out, punch it out. Get it out of your system until the space to love yourself is taken back. Never hesitate to call your best mates, even if you need a shoulder to cry on. "Do the hard work, especially when you don't feel like it"
My relationship ended exactly 30 days ago. I was heartbroken and couldn’t believe it was real. A friend of mine said that he wanted me to go with him to the gym. Best choice i’ve made in years. I’ve been feeling so much better now because of going to the gym daily. Don’t get me wrong, i still think about her but the feeling that i “lost her” is slowly disappearing. If you go through a breakup and you have that bad feeling: use that feeling as fuel to work on yourself. Trust me, once you become the best version on yourself she’ll realise what she lost, and that’s when you should stand your ground and not give her another chance. Goodluck to everyone who is going through a breakup 💪
When I went through my first breakup, I kinda got over it quick, or at least I thought I did. She did a lot of shitty things so I thought I was over it. A few months later I start realizing that I miss her. I didn’t talk to her at all since it but she sent me a message and we had one or two convos. I realized that I was making it worse and that she didn’t matter. All the things she did didn’t matter anymore. Another few months go by and I start talking to this one girl more and I ask her out. She said yes and I’m way more happier now. For any guys reading this, for whatever you’re going through, it’ll get better, you’ll find better.
My friend is literally so depressive for like half a month over his ex now, I am greatful you uploaded this video. You are my hero and hopefully you can be my friend's hero too. Love from the Netherlands mate 😎 Edit: I have my little inspirational quote I came up with today, "You are important when you choose to be important", I think I will hang it literally everywhere in my room to remind me of my goals.
i’m 21 I lost the girl who i thought was the love of my life last week, and i have been miserable ever since. I miss her horribly now more than ever but at the same time i know that she is gone and she will never come back ever again. I came across this video and i’ll try to implement everything that you’ve said into my life, and for myself this time, not for anybody else. I’ll be back here in exactly 6 months, hopefully a much better person, with an upgrade in every aspect of my life. Thank you.
This hit deep and made me tear up because I realised self-improvement really changed me. This is exactly how I navigate my relationships. Thank you so much Hamza, I really appreciate your advice and guidance
Bro hamza just litteraly changed my life I started working out becouse of him Meditating Starting journaling recantly My confidence About my physique has gone up my mental health is so much better I appreciate him from all my heart Keep pushing brother s for the man You re son wants to become
Today me and my girlfriend brokeup. We both love eachother very much. It is respectful. She is an amazing girl, but we just dont align anymore. Thank you for this video Hamza
Just turned 19… hearing this feels foreshadowing. As you’ve said, wise men learn from the mistakes of others, if I’m meant to find a relationship, fall in love, and breakup this year, then I promise to use that energy for the greatest success I’ve ever achieved yet!
A almost 1 year long relationship ended just an hour ago. She was my first girlfriend and I lost my virginity to her. I really needed this video because i was already going down the wrong path. Thank you Hamza for giving me the strength to get through this.
Gym and early morning Walks/Runs/Swims are your best friend. Do not under estimate how much a simple walk/run and especially swim can do for your health early morning, it’s amazing.
@@Trinsicity agreed! I realize he addressed his male audience in this video (cuz he’s a guy) but I felt it touch me as well. I’m going through it HARD and it hurts, but it’s a relief that it’s so universal
Just got out of a 5 year relationship with my first everything since age 17 and this video has been a breath of fresh air. I’m not in university but I’m gonna go back soon, thank you Hazma. I’m working out and getting back on my sh!t It’s painful but I needed this to get back on my pivot
I pretty much have the same story ! I was in love with a girl who ended up leaving me because i was stressing her too much. This breakup destroyed me and i stayed in bed for 2 months. Then i started to pick myself up, training at home, reading, meditating.. 5 years later, im opening my own mental health and self improvement buisness ! I share your videos to other french mens like myself, keep up the good work !
This is the kind of video everyone needs! I pretty much realised this myself and I still have a long way to go, but tripling up the self development really helps filling up that free time of not having a girlfriend anymore and stops overthinking. Learn from your mistakes and do your best! Go to gym, start reading, do some volunteering, start meeting new people. Stay strong and you'll be just fine, guys! I am writing this for myself too. I totally related that first relationship in the video with my actual break up. Thank you, Hamza and keep up the good work! ❤
I needed this. I just got dumped two weeks ago after a 6 years relationship. Listening to your words really helped, and I'd like to thank you for it. I promise I'll be following your advice to the letter, you're one of the very few genuine ones. I won't lie, i wasn't sure about your channel when it first started getting recommended to me, but then i kept watching and learned what this is really about. Self improvement is exactly what i need
>Be me >See Hamza Vid a week after made, so curiosity click. >Cue RUclips Commercial sequence. >"hOW To geT yOuR ex BacK" >LOLWUT.exe >Stay through commercial despite the Algorithm. > Itsfinallyover >Recline with a microbowl of popcorn as Adonis's smooth words take over the player. Seriously, i'm starting to think the Powers That Be are noticing you and what Hamza's up to here. they mad.
I am 14 years old and I just went through my first breakup, I haven't completely dropped all my good habits like weightlifting, and kickboxing. But I've felt very very lonely and unsure what to do going forward... We had been dating just about 3 months and we broke up because I felt like I was putting in much more investment into making it work when it was difficult, than she was... Anyway, this video really helped me -even though I am a lot younger- thank you so much Hamza, keep doing what you're doing.
Weird timing of this video, didn’t think I needed it, but really it helped me so much, been with this girl just a bit before first lockdown February 2020, throughout that time period we’d chat every day, FaceTime etc. Only 4 weeks ago she ended it all because I sensed something was off finally, and she finally said she left me mentally 2 months ago around the time of my bday, and that she caught feelings for a guy she met on holiday who also lives near an hour from our town we live in. Been out every weekend since, just trying to distract my mind (I’m 25 now so I’m why past the point of enjoying going out and clubbing) but fuck it, it was something to do, I’d find out 2 weekends ago and the weekend just gone she cheated on me with a bit of a distant friend back in May (this guy isn’t my friend anymore) and also one really good friend of mine last back in April 2021 when me and her had a big argument, it was my own good friend that told me this too, as much as I appreciated his honesty it just made me contemplate my life decisions, such as thinking I was with a girl who actually loved me, but was in turn sleeping around behind my back, and I’m just gonna assume she’s done it loads of times through our relationship as that’s only 2 occasions I’ve heard about from that said good friend. Since this break up as it’s still new to me because I’ve never had a relationship this long, and this painful. It really has opened my eyes a lot about the type of ppl I bring into my life, these fake friends and a fake girlfriend. I’m somewhat of a skinny guy but this breakup has made me wanna do better and become so much more better as a person. I realised I was putting too much love into other people and not really myself, self reflection is such an underrated thing to do as in general life we have tons of distractions. But something as simple as giving yourself a pep talk in the mirror is a simple way to get you back onto your feet and become the best version of you that you have implanted in your head. I’ve took up reading (something I’d never of done) and cold showers more regularly, even finding that I really wasn’t pushing myself 100% in the gym every time, and knowing I could even do a cardio session in that same day because I was thinking of being lazy. But as of right now each day is strange some days are good some are just waves of sadness. I know that this all in the end was a blessing, because as much as it’s sad right now that I’ve never felt more lonely in my life, it’s a gift knowing I won’t be having those fake ppl in my life again, and those fake ppl will just only help me learn and rebuild stronger connections with new ppl that genuinely care for me. Im on a path now, and thanks to the likes of Hamza and other influencers that help men become… men, I know deep down everything will be ok in the end and that the best way to feel good in all the shit is to really get the fuck up and don’t hesitate to that thing!
I'm finally FINALLY pushing myself to work out, wake up early, focus on my hobbies, and improve myself physically and mentally, and I cannot thank you enough Hamza for encouraging me to get my life back together. I'm 15 and I've been sitting in my room for quite a few years now, doing absolutely nothing with no discipline, feeling sorry for myself, wanting things to get better without me having to do anything to make that happen. I wanna be a youtuber, but procrastination has always stopped me, but recently I've realised that the reason I can't get what I want is because I haven't been helping myself mentally or physically to get better, so now I am on a journey to better my health, once I feel confident I am healthy and happier, then, THEN, I will fully commit to doing youtube and hopefully getting what I forever have longed to have. thank you Hamza ❤WE CAN ALL DO IT, YOU JUST HAVE TO HAVE HOPE.
It's 3 am right now and I've resorted to watching this. It happened last night and I didn't know it would have such an impact. I woke up at 2 and my heart was racing. I never thought I'd be watching this one but here I am
7:45-9:04 my biggest problem for me has been everything that you said here. It has crippled my life, put it completely on hold. I've even trying to find someone anyone to hear this from and I'm glad it was you Hamza. I'm still working on it, and it's been hell, but I haven't allowed myself to truly let myself go to hell either. I'll bounce back!
Hey brother, i saw your comment here and wanted to check up on you. I hope everythings alright. I myself am going through the same thing right now so I just wanted to hear you doing alright. If I know one of my brothers has made it through, I know I will as well
Another great video hamza Getting your heart broken is really hard. It puts you in a position where you are not interested in doing anything but still want to do something to get your mind away from the incident. Work on yourself and get your life together 👑
To all poeple that have lost a partner in the last month. My ex gf and I broke up 3 weeks ago, we have been together 4 years. We started as we both where 14. She betrayed me with another dude, but work, sport and a few good friends keep me abothe. If you feel bad, just do something that is good for you. Dont fall for bad habits like smoking and drinking. Make yourself better and stronger. Make the people that betrayed you wishing you back in their life. Whatever bad happens to you, you are not alone, and you are strong enough to fight aigainst everybody and yourself. Keep grinding, we all gonna make it!
Thanks hamza for sharing your experience Im 17 and experienced my first break up I was and am just like your past self I taught we gonna be together forever i am in grade12 as well so i gambled with my furture We started the relationship around November 2021. Over the relationship problems started She was more closer to my best friend at school i never think much as i trusted him But eventually they both stabbed me and she dumped me. I was heartbroken and i cried everyday She eventually started dating him so i lost my friend as well Now im doing alright Thanks to the revolution of hamza and others Stay strong brothers and sister And remember dont live in a fantasy That was my problem Lifes not a disney movie
Needed this. I relapsed for a while but things which helped me to get over my ex were fuelling my ego that I'll only get better and better. I picked up learning an instrument, I was already into kickboxing and gym. Started journalling, meditation, mental health well being course and improved my diet and all of these things and more helped me so much. Gratitude journalling too, there came a point where I was actually GRATEFUL THAT WE BROKE UP! And one of Hamza's videos said to note down all the reasons or issues you faced in the relationship or why it couldn't have worked out, devaluate your ex from your mind.
Also, getting into dating helps too. Just going out w different girls or just spending time w friends. Please, please write down your feelings, journalling is so important. I'd often say "It's only about to get better." And yeah, NO CONTACT! I can't emphasize it enough, cut her off from everywhere, even block her calls and from everywhere else.
And before you start socialising w other ppl, yes it's important to work on yourself first- So the books I recommend first would be the ones which focus on yourself like the rudest book ever or the way of superior man then how to win friends and influence people. Validate your emotions.
@@vinayyy.n2875 true a couple minutes after my ex broke up with me I got my journal and listed 12 reasons why the breakup happened,where I went wrong and also what i could do to further improve mysef(ngl the first 2 days were hard because I built up an attachment to her) 5 weeks past now and i'e forgotten about her for the most part and started taking karate seriously
@@zionwilliams609 Amazing! Don't forget no contact btw, it's so important, I forgot to cut her off from sms and that's the reason why I relapsed (But I've picked myself up again so no worries, but yeah it messes up one's brain) don't bother talking or anything to do w her at all, just run and move on, there's no point to waste on someone who's of your past when you can use it to get someone new and better.
When you are on your self-improvement journey, it’s just you, not only will relationships come and go but friends will come and go. But take everything you learned from those friendships and relationships and use it to better yourself.
thanks brother, getting over my relationship with whom yes I still keep in contact with her but more leniently. Plans with some of my bros and lady friends and gonna get back into martial arts and piano. Best way to forget sadness is to make more happiness and this video is definitely what I needed to see today so I appreciate you for posting it, stay strong chads, it's a tough world but we're tougher men
Damn bro, like u knew what's gonna happen.. just got dumped today.. she was my first girlfriend and we were together for 6 years.. But I'm keeping my head up, moving forward, starting to fight and push myself to the limits! Thanks mate, your work is much appreciated! ❤️
Yes bro that’s the spirit keep moving and improving even when it’s hard keep pushing in order for you to become the best version of yourself🤝sorry to here that, u got this
@@howitzerproject no worries mate. I’ve got some content on rejection, moving on and self improvement. Feel free to have a look it may help you! It’s hard ik but you’ll get through it if you keep moving and improving. U got this🤝🤝
It’s insane how similar my situation is to yours, Hamza. From the stress affecting her health, being together non stop daily, loosing my virginity to her-someone I truly love. I lost her because we aren’t compatible and were not in a healthy relationship. I hope the best to everyone reading this, you fucking got this don’t stop moving.
Last month my (now ex girlfriend) of almost 4 years cheated on me. At the same time I found this channel and ever since of been on self improvement. I have not shed a bloody tear, because I feel better than ever! Thank you so much Hamza for everything!
I’m going through the worst break up i’ve ever had in my life and i’m trying to improve myself as a woman. He manipulated and used me and i’m so heartbroken I know that this chanel is for the male but I enjoy watching your videos and it helped me a lot too thank you for this.
I never expected that you and I have a similar breakup story Sir. I'm currently 19 and my relationship (8 months) ended. Similar to yours. Because I was so Jeffrey and she started to fall out of love. One day everything ended. She couldn't tolerate me and left me. I think it's right because no girl would love the Jeffrey kinda guy. I feel extremely guilty for hurting her because of my Jeffrey character. For 2 months straight, I haven't eaten or slept properly. I would eat one meal a day and sleep for like 1-2 hours. Crying all day about losing her, losing the relationship. I eventually found you. Started watching many of your videos. Then i realised that you had the same scenario as me. Now you are like my big brother who's helping me to get better. Thank You Brother 🫂 God bless you....
This video comes at an opportune time. Over the last 3 years, I've let my health and physical state go. I broke off the relationship with my girlfriend (who turned alcoholic) last September. I took a break for a month from my life, stayed with my family. I'm 33 now. I'm back at the gym. I've lost so much strength and I'm unhappy with my body. But I am working at improving it and at building myself back up. It's never too late to make a change, fellas.
I think I should share my story brothers. Me and my ex broke up around 4 days ago I stupidly agreed to stay friends with her. But i have now gone into ghost mode and will not be giving her the time of day. We broke up because she lost interest it’s a hard pill to swallow knowing that they love you one week then lost it all the next. I had a long as phone call with her today taking about the break up because she went on a church camp and couldn’t have her phone. We talked and she reckons that I need time until we hang out next. But brothers she ain’t getting the time of day anymore she wanted us to be friends. I only do friends with benefits.
Watching this video after breaking up with a girl on New Years Eve. She was gorgeous, sweet, lovely, her and her family all trained at my Dads kickboxing gym with me and they came around to our house for dinner a lot. We had so much in common and I was kind of shocked to find a girl of such high quality that fit the criteria to be my partner. Long story short she ended up not being quite as mature as I had thought and as she had made herself out to be. So I knew I had to end things instead of trying to rescue her, which is the type of guy I am (rescuer). Anyway this video will help me A lot, thankyou brother!
I think it's always harder for the person being left, than the person who is leaving. I agree it would be a lot easier on you if you're travelling and have other experiences to look forward to. It's not often that our tribe gets to experience that when they break up. There's some really dark days fam. However, you're also right. We don't stop looking out for ourselves and our brothers.
Hamza could you do a video about dealing with loneliness? I always see content about dealing with breakups but never how to deal with never having had a gf at 18, and it would help immensely
It’s so painful to identify yourself with these situations, for me it was the same, I thought she was the one, the supposed mother of my children, I never met someone who loved me at the intensity she did, I really thought it was going to be. Now I don’t think I can love another person the same way I used to love her. Thanks hamza, you’ve been helping a lot of young man in their own journeys, u should be proud.
i honestly never thought i’d watch this video as i’d never been in a relationship, but after having a crush on a girl for almost 6 years and being friendzoned, i was shattered. not only that but now i just have to see her with somebody new. only difference is that i dont really have much friends to spend time with as we were all part of the same friend group and they’re closer to her.
Me and my Girlfriend broke up Last night! The reason being that i asked her to remove one guy who kept breaching boundaries, publically posted i love you stories for her, tagged her in pics, but whe. I asked to remove that guy then she said she won't he is just a friend, but that guy kept on doing things like that and my girl never questioned him and liked the attention.. And eventually when i confronted she said i am being controlling and left me, I was down to remove any girl or female friend from my life and made her a priority but she didn't wanted to prioritize, i Still hate myself for being so good to her. She had many ex's so she knows how to cope up with a breakup, unlike me for whom she was my 1st. But thank you Hamza ❤️ I'll keep improving myself and be the guy that she will Regret Leaving forever!.
Hey Hamza, I just want to thank you and everyone. I just went through a break up and I was sad. The I remembered that I am part of a brotherhood and I can get help and help other people.
Was with my ex for around 8 months this year. Spent every weekend together and she is literally a 10/10. I felt on top of the world, I was so in love I spent every waking minute thinking about the next time we would be together and the weekend I'd setup for us. Then she cheated and left. Decided to start lexapro, therapy, and eating like crap. A few weeks ago I said fuck it, quit lexapro and therapy, and started eating 1500 calories a day and excersizing 2 hours per day. I've literally never felt better in my whole life. When doing the lexapro and therapy, it felt like my life was still in the hands of her, but eliminating those hinderenses and focuses on her, I just feel on top of the world. As well, I deleted all my social media and I've been off completely for 3 weeks now. I'm already getting back to the body I had before her and Its just amazing. For anyone who doesn't know what to do but feel nihilistic, just workout. Just run. Just get off the pity train. Youre not going to stop the intrusive thoughts with this method, but they won't linger nearly as long and you'll soon have them less and less. My experience..
I'm 20, I had never been in a relationship. Found a girl, we bonded; but very quickly I knew it would not work out (different life goals/standards/plans) and broke it off within the first two weeks. We ended on good terms, but the pain afterwards has been alot to deal with. It was only 2 weeks, but it felt like 2 years. That just happened a day ago. I needed to hear this.
My first girlfriend (first sex experience btw) cheated on me 7 months ago. Its still hurts like shit but i keep my self as busy as possible and im making very good progress at the gym and in my social life... I discovered a new passion, bought a brand new Sportsbike and i can say that im happy now. A man is only strong enough if he doesnt focus on women the entire time. I used Dating apps a LOT after the breakup and i realized that its fucking useless to improve my mental health. So i quit this shit and set other priorities for myself. And there is still a lot to improve... What i want to say is: You can always get through this dark period of your life. Once you've made it, there's nothing that can stop you anymore. Im 20 and from Germany. Thanks for your videos, Hamza 💪🏽
Hamza these 20-30 minute long cult speeches are really good to have in the background while we do productive stuff, I'd love if you kept with the format. Nothing beats having our cult leader subliminally implanting his thoughts into our minds throughout the grind.
Once you keep pursuing your mission and purpose, nothing well stop you. Brothers, know that the pain you feel is part of the process. However, use that pain to fuel yourself to become the best version of yourself!
hey hamza thanks for talking about this! Some people might need to hear this. Ive personally been through quite a toxic relationship a few months ago and im just saying I heard something like this and it really motivated me to change to the better! Just saying thanks because some people really need to hear this!!
Hamza, you're like a big brother to me. not only do you look out for us. but you're also 100% relatable in your way of thinking. thank you for your good work.
Thank you Hamza, I went through a break up recently. Ive been getting over it a lot quicker than usual. But I couldn’t have done it without your videos. I remember the first day I meditating. The day I started journaling, It all started because the youtube algorithm recommended you to me. Im grateful for you.
Never thought I had to agree with the boys again. But damn doesn’t it feel good to have your brothers whose always on your side when going through these tough times. Keep staying humble brahs 💪
Hey brother, I just got out of a toxic 4 year relationship.. I knew it was coming for, like at least a year, but damn buddy it still hurt like a bitch. But you my friend, are helping me out. You're a great inspiration to me and I'm sure so many other young men similar to me. Keep it up homie. Thank you.
Yo hamza I see nowadays people just recalling what they hear read see and not doing any thinking for themselves. I feel like how society is structured, it is hard to formulate your own ideas and do critical thinking. What’s the best way to develop this critical thinking skill? And Instead of falling into the trap of reiterating someone else’s pov actually think of your own using past experiences and knowledge. anyway love your videos u doing bits out here ❤❤❤
No matter what you do, how you do it, heart break will always be there. It wont go away in a day, a week, or even a month. The feeling you felt in that relationship and hardships you'd been through with your partner it hurts. I work out everyday, run everyday, surround myself with good friends, i got into modeling and acting and occupy myself as much as possible and the little feelings it still hurts. If i can give one piece of advice is to occupy yourself with as many good things and good habits as possible. Cut out every single commutation you have with your ex partner as i know how tempting it is to text. A hot take is that Heartbreak is the best and worst thing to happen to you. Reputition learning how to deal with things maturely, the first girl you meet you most likely wont marry or have kids with neither the second one. Always be prepared for the worst and look towards the best which is the future :)
Thanks hammy she left me alone but as I am improving myself i can feel she did left alone not lonely i got my masculine brothers who make me more purposeful and a ton of women who are interested and feminine towards me. The lonely period in went through I'm grateful for it ❤️
That pain disappeared, i don't care anymore. So, i suggest you, after you finish with memories - leave everything behind if things/people leave from your life. Thank those people for being part of your life, because they've teached you lessons, they took part in building your current personality, part of them is still in you, and part of you is still in them, there is no distance between us. Just believe that distance doesn't exist, there is only time between you and them, time to travel.. So thank them, and then, you need to allow yourself to go forward. Enjoy solitude.. Hamza is also making a good point. When things get bad, put more effort than usual, in the future you will remember those times as "times were bad, but im glad i was struggling against it", makes you feel proud.
Guys don't worry, focus on yourself, hit the gym and improve constantly and your ex will crawl back to you. If she doesn't, trust me you'll find a better, more beautiful and more feminine girl than her anyways, so no excuses. I have been through this. My ex is basically under my control rn and tbh at this point I'm losing interest for her
I got dumped a month ago and it hurts like hell. My situations I was already on self-improvement while I was dating her. I never did anything wrong in the relationship, I would say it was pretty healthy but some things are out of our control. Feels like I'm at my lowest but I will push myself to hang out with people and go out and do things I love more.
So yesterday was the end of an era. She chose her bestfriend over me. I was always there whenever she needed me, or whenever she needed financial help or when her friends ditched her. I tried to change myself and my opinions to her liking. But still she did not choose me. I feel alone because I left all my friends as she did not like them. I'm never trusting another human again.
Broke up with my gf recently because she said she felt like everything was going my way instead of hers since I started going to gym and gaining muscle and becoming attractive, started making more friends being invited to parties and ngl it's been hard seeing her at my highschool laughing and stuff with other guys like that while year we spent was nothing, but I haven't let that get me down and she looked so frustrated that I still kept my composure talking to her with her new bf as if she wanted me to get down to her level, really hurts ngl but I'll be working to get better still
I’m 22 and I’ve just broken up with my partner of 8 years. This is an affirmation that life can and will be good after working on myself. We were only 14 and it’s been so hard. But I’m a better man for it
Got fcked hard by my ex last year, very tragic and traumatising story. Lost 12kg in 2 weeks, because I wasn't ready for what happened back then. I wasn't able to eat anything during that time, while I was on vacation in Morocco and we had 48°C constantly. It took me 4 months to get back to life and I started working out again. Now after a year I went from 79 kg back to 96 kg with the best body I ever had. I'm thankful that I witnessed so much pain without going insane. That took my body and my mindset to the next level, I still have to face some challenges in order to abandon my past, but I'm very optimistic about that. Keep going and never lose yourself due to others, it's not worth it. Love your content
Thank you hamza Im 17 and broke up with her after 3 and a half years Her friends change her so much that she turned into a bi*** So i had to break up and the thought of what shes doing know is painful but your videos help Ive gotten to the gym ever since It helps but i dont find enough distraction tbh... Thank you again hamza
I can't believe how similar my situation is with yours right know, she dumped me a week ago and I feel like shit, my friends are busy with Christmas, I try to improve, work out at home but is hard doing this all by myself..
I’m super young, but still I really cared abt her. Smth I’ve noticed is that it seems to be the same for everyone. A break up is smth anyone can relate to. Edit: it’s been 2 months and my life is a lot better. Find Jesus because he kinda already found you😂. I had been a believer for a while, but never an active one. Don’t be half hearted in your faith people. Be intentional towards God. God made us bc of how much he loved us. So should you make a family through love right?
I just commented in the previous video to make a video on *how to be heard more by the people* , like what's the ultimate thing to do, How to be louder? How to be clear? How to be confident? It would be of great help if you make a video on it cuz majority of us introverted bros suffer from this. For example:- I in a busy stall asked the worker there for a bottle of water, I literally asked him around 7 times, but then one man walks in a gets what he wants in one go, like bruv 😞, what am I doing wrong?
it's a combination of things, you have to go with a good posture, speak loud but kindly, gently and slowly, look in the eyes. But most importantly you have to be genuinely confident about yourself, if you are confident the other things will come by themselves. Practice makes perfect! you got it
I opened up to her about my mental health for the first time, that same night she cheated on me I’m emotionally destroyed, I know no one cares on the internet but I want to put this out there
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Never thought i came back to this. Decided it was not working out with the girl so I ended it as I’m posting, I truly loved her, saw a future with her just like you said and she moved away to the UK and it was all downward spiral from there. I cried for like a few minutes and remember this video, and it is the best things for someone to hear when someone is depress to hear that there are people out there who also went through and get what it means to have these things happen to them. So thank you, from the bottom of my heart, I always practice a mix between between boxing and Chinese martial arts but never tried it with someone in a ring, my new goal is to be able to fight in the ring at least semi professionally.
You're welcome brother. Myself and a bunch of other men have been there, and we grew out of it. Just like I expect you to. Do the hard work...
@@Hamza97 thank you
@@Hamza97 especially when you don't feel like it.
Times like this, I truly wished I had brothers.
Just broke up today, and the first person that came to mind for advice was Hamza. Never fails to deliver. Thank you for everything. ❤
Edit:
Everything Hamza said is so strangely similar to my situation. Breakup at 19, around Christmas/New Years time. This eerie feeling of loneliness, bursting into tears. Seeking brotherhood…
Even his advice on starting a new physical endeavour… I literally started BJJ yesterday ontop of my muay thai and weightlifting. It’s like the universe placed Hamza’s wisdom within arms reach. Time to do the hard work…
@@Hamza97 dear brother, how can I join your brotherhood. Me in great pain right now. I broke up with her on November 5th and now she’s with someone else on January 5th. I need some serious comfort from all the brothers who have been there 🙏🏽
I got dumped by a girl 2 months ago and still very much feel the pain. I was used and gaslighted and falsely accused of abuse (she admitted to lying about it eventually) despite what she did 2 of my friends were weak and kept talking to her and adding her as part of the friend group and pretty much flirting with her. It hurts. No matter what happens in life, please have a strong set of friends brothers and stay loyal to your friends 🙏
Sorry to hear that man. Sounds horrible getting falsely accused for something.
Welp time to find new friends
I was abused for 2 years, been 3 months since I was cheated on. Still struggling
Real friends don't do that, you gained something from that brother. I'm very grateful for my friends and inshallah you will have friends like that too soon
Sorry to hear that brother. Fuck them boys and her! I know the feeling man my ex basically left me for a coworker. It's been little over 18 months but I'm ok now. If I could give you advice KEEP MOVING FORWARD and don't torture yourself. You'll be fine bro!
Quick note: this is the best moment to start your self improvement and most importantly DONT EVER DO IT TO GET YOUR EX BACK, she’s gone bro she’s thinking about another guy and you deserve much better trust me ❤
thank u bro
I needed to read that
Yo bro thanks alot needed that fam.
thanks man i guess that's the reality, pretty harsh but it is what it is. 🤜🤛
Going through this now at 36. Hamza advice is not just for younger people. This is universal advice through all age groups. Great advice on a lot of videos on your channel
That was probably a much longer relationship than anything talked about here though, much harder to get over. Still suffering after a year myself.
@@Sirvalian I am so sorry to hear you are still suffering a year on. My breakup is only a week gone and coming out of a 3 and half year relationship. It’s tough brother, we all need to band together to help one another ✌️
@@RiseUpElevate did you ever feel it was perfect?
@@walexander8378 early on, most definitely. That did slip a lot as time went on
27 and on my Adonis journey.
I actually really needed this hamza. My girlfriend broke up with me and I was sleeping all day and eating junk food, and I stopped doing all the good habits I was doing. This made me realise that there’s no point in being sad when I can work on myself. Thank you hamza ❤
Sorry to hear that mate! stay on track as much as u can and improve from this use that negativity to push u to new heights. Good luck🤝
Bro, fucking conquer this world DONT GIVE UP!
It's gonna be ok bro, don't stop, go harder, lift that fucking weight, focus on yourself, we're all gonna make it brah 🫡
Work on yourself brother!
You got this man, we’ve all been there and now look at us
Fucking needed this. Broke up with who I thought was the love of my life 6 months ago.
Now lost 16kgs, got sober (4 months) hit the gym hard, dieting, went to therapy, got into nature.
I'm now healing and doing alot better. But yea. It almost destroyed me, I really needed this today Hamza. Thank you.
Awesome bro! I experienced something similar. It hurts bad. Stay strong!
Everyone always talks about being dumped but honestly I left my what I thought the love of my life after 4 years and it has been such a difficult journey but everyday gets better man. Good luck to you and everyone else on this journey as well.
good job brotha I'm at the same time span and it feels good making daily positive strides becoming a better version of yourself
« do the hard work especially When you dont feel like it »✊
Mwa
yes brotha
i have this quote as a sticker on my bugatti
@@luwado based.
@@luwado what color is your bugatti
“Focus and do the things for your future self”
Very much needed. Currently 19, broke up with my first girlfriend after 8 months a couple weeks back. Immediately began self improvement, logging habits, going gym. picked up educating myself on nutrition and fitness in order to give me a healthy obsession. This video reaffirms the path i chose to go when she broke things off. thank you. Im going to be starting Uni in a couple years and im going to be a different person when that comes.
You go, bro
Good luck bro amazing to here👏
you don't need a "good luck" we know you're gonna do it
same bruv im also 19 its crazy how many people are in similar positions
@@mr.minecraftkid0802 I’m 19 too lol wtf nd literally had a similar situation!
For everyone who is going through hell, if she left you and you gave it your all. She wasn't meat to be with you. Someone who truly belives in you and loves you will stay with you because they want to see you become better. Realize that you are attachted to the past. Talk to your close friends, they will support you. Envision the best version of yourself and work towards it. The more you love yourself and the more responsibility you take the better you will be as a person. Let the emotions flow, but do not get addicted and attachted to them. Put your mind somewhere else, put your focus in something that will make your life better.
Love to all brothers out there, you are not alone!
Wow thank u bro this comment really hit home I just got with smn that I loved for such a long time and she did too but then she just lost interest and this comment rlly did change my perspective on it thank you my brother
I’m 18 about to be 19 and I got dumped 3 weeks ago after 3.5 years of dating. I loved her so much she was my first girlfriend and she took my virginity. We bonded a lot I really thought she was the one and we would always talk about our future and getting married. Not even 2 weeks after breaking up I see her wirh another guy already and that shit sent me into a wild depression. It’s been 5 days since i seen them together and I’m still not over it but I realized that she’s gone. that she doesn’t care if I’m crying or upset over her. I am trying to improve watching your video really changed my mindset and the way I think. Thank you so much hamza ❤
Bro I can feel you, I'm 18 , turning 19 soon too and I can feel you bro, my relationship was 1 year strong, i remember all those things we promised and she still left me, all those time i spent with her...
I can feel you bro.. My 3years 7 months relationship brokeup 🥺a week ago and within 2 days after breakup she's with someone else...
I am 21...i got breakup with 4 year relationship
@@hashintha forget about that bitch and become the best possible version of yourself bro. Focus on you and only you.
@@hashintha sorry to hear that bruh 🥺🥺
The girl I lost my virginity too, also my girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I ain’t never stop working though. Been crying every night and I can remember working while crying, eating while crying and being at the gym while crying. The grind don’t stop, stay hard you mother fuckers. Last night was the first night I didn’t cry over her, and I’m trying to find new women to talk to currently.
How are you doing?
Just got rejected yesterday by my crush, so this video came out at a great time, thank you Hamza for making me and men masculine again ❤
good job on getting rejected now have that same bravery and do it over and over again
Kudos to you for trying. I’m finding it hard to approach lol. Give yourself a pat on the back 💪🏽
Unfortunately I don’t have the guts to tell her directly, my friends did it for me. Rejection hurts but we move on
@@kommit-456 I can't speak for her, but that could be part of the reason you got rejected. Use that and build your confidence to do it yourself the next time. Every bad experience is a lesson! You got this bro
@@kommit-456 Lol same case 🤝
Breakups were what motivated me to work out the most.
I've had two severe breakups in my life (technically 3, but I was around 14) and both of them were what drew me to working out and self improving. Both were incredibly painful causing depression, taking antidepressants and sucidal thoughts. I don't think you can be a real man without heartbreakes and struggles in life. You must experience something that could potentially crush you.
hamza , idk why but what you’re going through was EXACTLY what i was going through. i really needed this. thank you brother.
Male depression and suicide is a serious thing and it will only get worse. If your out there feeling struck down and not wanting to get back in life, find the love in yourself for yourself to get up. Its not about doing it for someone else its about doing it for you. Cry it out, shout it out, punch it out. Get it out of your system until the space to love yourself is taken back. Never hesitate to call your best mates, even if you need a shoulder to cry on.
"Do the hard work, especially when you don't feel like it"
So true bro great advice🤝
My relationship ended exactly 30 days ago. I was heartbroken and couldn’t believe it was real. A friend of mine said that he wanted me to go with him to the gym. Best choice i’ve made in years. I’ve been feeling so much better now because of going to the gym daily. Don’t get me wrong, i still think about her but the feeling that i “lost her” is slowly disappearing. If you go through a breakup and you have that bad feeling: use that feeling as fuel to work on yourself. Trust me, once you become the best version on yourself she’ll realise what she lost, and that’s when you should stand your ground and not give her another chance. Goodluck to everyone who is going through a breakup 💪
So true bro imagine in 6 moths to a year of consistency. Keep on the grind and you’ll attract someone way better good luck brother!
Keep up the streek. Just do not show up to her front door with a pizza
@@louish2310 Thanks alot bro
To be fair tho, you were a meth kingpin and got Hank killed so no wonder she left you for Ted
Fr tho, hope you're doing well now :)
@@harry5326 i’ll try, maybe that i’ll throw the pizza on the roof
When I went through my first breakup, I kinda got over it quick, or at least I thought I did. She did a lot of shitty things so I thought I was over it. A few months later I start realizing that I miss her. I didn’t talk to her at all since it but she sent me a message and we had one or two convos. I realized that I was making it worse and that she didn’t matter. All the things she did didn’t matter anymore. Another few months go by and I start talking to this one girl more and I ask her out. She said yes and I’m way more happier now. For any guys reading this, for whatever you’re going through, it’ll get better, you’ll find better.
My friend is literally so depressive for like half a month over his ex now, I am greatful you uploaded this video. You are my hero and hopefully you can be my friend's hero too. Love from the Netherlands mate 😎
Edit: I have my little inspirational quote I came up with today, "You are important when you choose to be important", I think I will hang it literally everywhere in my room to remind me of my goals.
I like it bro, might do the same myself lol.
Good quote, can I use it? Some people around me may be needing to hear it : )👍🏻...
@@MiguelMedV yeah you can use it, we need to spread the word 😎
i’m 21
I lost the girl who i thought was the love of my life last week, and i have been miserable ever since. I miss her horribly now more than ever but at the same time i know that she is gone and she will never come back ever again. I came across this video and i’ll try to implement everything that you’ve said into my life, and for myself this time, not for anybody else. I’ll be back here in exactly 6 months, hopefully a much better person, with an upgrade in every aspect of my life. Thank you.
This hit deep and made me tear up because I realised self-improvement really changed me. This is exactly how I navigate my relationships. Thank you so much Hamza, I really appreciate your advice and guidance
Bro hamza just litteraly changed my life
I started working out becouse of him
Meditating
Starting journaling recantly
My confidence
About my physique has gone up my mental health is so much better
I appreciate him from all my heart
Keep pushing brother s for the man
You re son wants to become
Today me and my girlfriend brokeup. We both love eachother very much. It is respectful. She is an amazing girl, but we just dont align anymore. Thank you for this video Hamza
Just turned 19… hearing this feels foreshadowing. As you’ve said, wise men learn from the mistakes of others, if I’m meant to find a relationship, fall in love, and breakup this year, then I promise to use that energy for the greatest success I’ve ever achieved yet!
A almost 1 year long relationship ended just an hour ago. She was my first girlfriend and I lost my virginity to her. I really needed this video because i was already going down the wrong path. Thank you Hamza for giving me the strength to get through this.
Stay strong brotha
Gym and early morning Walks/Runs/Swims are your best friend. Do not under estimate how much a simple walk/run and especially swim can do for your health early morning, it’s amazing.
I m going through the exact same shit right now. Out there are more better girls waiting for u if you keep the grind
how you doing bro
I want to thank thank you hamza , as a female im so glad theres someone out here teaching this generation of males about self improvement etc!
@@Trinsicity agreed! I realize he addressed his male audience in this video (cuz he’s a guy) but I felt it touch me as well. I’m going through it HARD and it hurts, but it’s a relief that it’s so universal
That "she's not as special as you think she is" Is gonna help me navigate this.... Thank you brother...
Just got out of a 5 year relationship with my first everything since age 17 and this video has been a breath of fresh air. I’m not in university but I’m gonna go back soon, thank you Hazma. I’m working out and getting back on my sh!t
It’s painful but I needed this to get back on my pivot
I am 21...i got break up with my 4 years relationship
I pretty much have the same story ! I was in love with a girl who ended up leaving me because i was stressing her too much. This breakup destroyed me and i stayed in bed for 2 months. Then i started to pick myself up, training at home, reading, meditating.. 5 years later, im opening my own mental health and self improvement buisness !
I share your videos to other french mens like myself, keep up the good work !
This is the kind of video everyone needs!
I pretty much realised this myself and I still have a long way to go, but tripling up the self development really helps filling up that free time of not having a girlfriend anymore and stops overthinking.
Learn from your mistakes and do your best! Go to gym, start reading, do some volunteering, start meeting new people. Stay strong and you'll be just fine, guys! I am writing this for myself too.
I totally related that first relationship in the video with my actual break up.
Thank you, Hamza and keep up the good work! ❤
I needed this. I just got dumped two weeks ago after a 6 years relationship. Listening to your words really helped, and I'd like to thank you for it. I promise I'll be following your advice to the letter, you're one of the very few genuine ones.
I won't lie, i wasn't sure about your channel when it first started getting recommended to me, but then i kept watching and learned what this is really about. Self improvement is exactly what i need
>Be me
>See Hamza Vid a week after made, so curiosity click.
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Seriously, i'm starting to think the Powers That Be are noticing you and what Hamza's up to here. they mad.
How are you doing now, 4 months later?
I never had a relationship but I wish all of you that is experiencing heartbreak right now that you will become stronger in the near future✌🏻💪
I am 14 years old and I just went through my first breakup, I haven't completely dropped all my good habits like weightlifting, and kickboxing. But I've felt very very lonely and unsure what to do going forward... We had been dating just about 3 months and we broke up because I felt like I was putting in much more investment into making it work when it was difficult, than she was... Anyway, this video really helped me -even though I am a lot younger- thank you so much Hamza, keep doing what you're doing.
not like thatll be an issue for me
Weird timing of this video, didn’t think I needed it, but really it helped me so much, been with this girl just a bit before first lockdown February 2020, throughout that time period we’d chat every day, FaceTime etc. Only 4 weeks ago she ended it all because I sensed something was off finally, and she finally said she left me mentally 2 months ago around the time of my bday, and that she caught feelings for a guy she met on holiday who also lives near an hour from our town we live in. Been out every weekend since, just trying to distract my mind (I’m 25 now so I’m why past the point of enjoying going out and clubbing) but fuck it, it was something to do, I’d find out 2 weekends ago and the weekend just gone she cheated on me with a bit of a distant friend back in May (this guy isn’t my friend anymore) and also one really good friend of mine last back in April 2021 when me and her had a big argument, it was my own good friend that told me this too, as much as I appreciated his honesty it just made me contemplate my life decisions, such as thinking I was with a girl who actually loved me, but was in turn sleeping around behind my back, and I’m just gonna assume she’s done it loads of times through our relationship as that’s only 2 occasions I’ve heard about from that said good friend. Since this break up as it’s still new to me because I’ve never had a relationship this long, and this painful. It really has opened my eyes a lot about the type of ppl I bring into my life, these fake friends and a fake girlfriend. I’m somewhat of a skinny guy but this breakup has made me wanna do better and become so much more better as a person. I realised I was putting too much love into other people and not really myself, self reflection is such an underrated thing to do as in general life we have tons of distractions. But something as simple as giving yourself a pep talk in the mirror is a simple way to get you back onto your feet and become the best version of you that you have implanted in your head. I’ve took up reading (something I’d never of done) and cold showers more regularly, even finding that I really wasn’t pushing myself 100% in the gym every time, and knowing I could even do a cardio session in that same day because I was thinking of being lazy. But as of right now each day is strange some days are good some are just waves of sadness. I know that this all in the end was a blessing, because as much as it’s sad right now that I’ve never felt more lonely in my life, it’s a gift knowing I won’t be having those fake ppl in my life again, and those fake ppl will just only help me learn and rebuild stronger connections with new ppl that genuinely care for me. Im on a path now, and thanks to the likes of Hamza and other influencers that help men become… men, I know deep down everything will be ok in the end and that the best way to feel good in all the shit is to really get the fuck up and don’t hesitate to that thing!
I'm finally FINALLY pushing myself to work out, wake up early, focus on my hobbies, and improve myself physically and mentally, and I cannot thank you enough Hamza for encouraging me to get my life back together. I'm 15 and I've been sitting in my room for quite a few years now, doing absolutely nothing with no discipline, feeling sorry for myself, wanting things to get better without me having to do anything to make that happen. I wanna be a youtuber, but procrastination has always stopped me, but recently I've realised that the reason I can't get what I want is because I haven't been helping myself mentally or physically to get better, so now I am on a journey to better my health, once I feel confident I am healthy and happier, then, THEN, I will fully commit to doing youtube and hopefully getting what I forever have longed to have. thank you Hamza ❤WE CAN ALL DO IT, YOU JUST HAVE TO HAVE HOPE.
I just went over 10 hour worth of videos on going through a breakup. This was the best one, you got a subscriber. Gonna workout now!
Damn I really needed this video right now. I'm going through some bad shit right now and this helped a lot. Thanks for the motivation Hamza
It's 3 am right now and I've resorted to watching this. It happened last night and I didn't know it would have such an impact. I woke up at 2 and my heart was racing. I never thought I'd be watching this one but here I am
7:45-9:04 my biggest problem for me has been everything that you said here. It has crippled my life, put it completely on hold. I've even trying to find someone anyone to hear this from and I'm glad it was you Hamza. I'm still working on it, and it's been hell, but I haven't allowed myself to truly let myself go to hell either. I'll bounce back!
Hey brother, i saw your comment here and wanted to check up on you. I hope everythings alright.
I myself am going through the same thing right now so I just wanted to hear you doing alright. If I know one of my brothers has made it through, I know I will as well
Another great video hamza
Getting your heart broken is really hard. It puts you in a position where you are not interested in doing anything but still want to do something to get your mind away from the incident. Work on yourself and get your life together 👑
To all poeple that have lost a partner in the last month. My ex gf and I broke up 3 weeks ago, we have been together 4 years. We started as we both where 14. She betrayed me with another dude, but work, sport and a few good friends keep me abothe. If you feel bad, just do something that is good for you. Dont fall for bad habits like smoking and drinking. Make yourself better and stronger. Make the people that betrayed you wishing you back in their life. Whatever bad happens to you, you are not alone, and you are strong enough to fight aigainst everybody and yourself. Keep grinding, we all gonna make it!
Thank You i needed that
Nobody is special, only you make a person special
Thanks hamza for sharing your experience
Im 17 and experienced my first break up
I was and am just like your past self
I taught we gonna be together forever i am in grade12 as well so i gambled with my furture
We started the relationship around November 2021.
Over the relationship problems started
She was more closer to my best friend at school i never think much as i trusted him
But eventually they both stabbed me and she dumped me. I was heartbroken and i cried everyday
She eventually started dating him so i lost my friend as well
Now im doing alright
Thanks to the revolution of hamza and others
Stay strong brothers and sister
And remember dont live in a fantasy
That was my problem
Lifes not a disney movie
Great to here your doing better! Keep improving and they’ll regret it soon and you’ll be on to better! good luck bro🤝
@@louish2310 Thank you so much brother
You keep doing your grind as well much love
Needed this. I relapsed for a while but things which helped me to get over my ex were fuelling my ego that I'll only get better and better. I picked up learning an instrument, I was already into kickboxing and gym. Started journalling, meditation, mental health well being course and improved my diet and all of these things and more helped me so much. Gratitude journalling too, there came a point where I was actually GRATEFUL THAT WE BROKE UP! And one of Hamza's videos said to note down all the reasons or issues you faced in the relationship or why it couldn't have worked out, devaluate your ex from your mind.
Also, getting into dating helps too. Just going out w different girls or just spending time w friends. Please, please write down your feelings, journalling is so important. I'd often say "It's only about to get better." And yeah, NO CONTACT! I can't emphasize it enough, cut her off from everywhere, even block her calls and from everywhere else.
And before you start socialising w other ppl, yes it's important to work on yourself first- So the books I recommend first would be the ones which focus on yourself like the rudest book ever or the way of superior man then how to win friends and influence people. Validate your emotions.
@@vinayyy.n2875 true a couple minutes after my ex broke up with me I got my journal and listed 12 reasons why the breakup happened,where I went wrong and also what i could do to further improve mysef(ngl the first 2 days were hard because I built up an attachment to her) 5 weeks past now and i'e forgotten about her for the most part and started taking karate seriously
@@zionwilliams609 Amazing! Don't forget no contact btw, it's so important, I forgot to cut her off from sms and that's the reason why I relapsed (But I've picked myself up again so no worries, but yeah it messes up one's brain) don't bother talking or anything to do w her at all, just run and move on, there's no point to waste on someone who's of your past when you can use it to get someone new and better.
When you are on your self-improvement journey, it’s just you, not only will relationships come and go but friends will come and go. But take everything you learned from those friendships and relationships and use it to better yourself.
thanks brother, getting over my relationship with whom yes I still keep in contact with her but more leniently. Plans with some of my bros and lady friends and gonna get back into martial arts and piano. Best way to forget sadness is to make more happiness and this video is definitely what I needed to see today so I appreciate you for posting it, stay strong chads, it's a tough world but we're tougher men
Damn bro, like u knew what's gonna happen.. just got dumped today.. she was my first girlfriend and we were together for 6 years..
But I'm keeping my head up, moving forward, starting to fight and push myself to the limits!
Thanks mate, your work is much appreciated! ❤️
Yes bro that’s the spirit keep moving and improving even when it’s hard keep pushing in order for you to become the best version of yourself🤝sorry to here that, u got this
@@louish2310 Thanks for your words, feels good to hear/read such things in such kinda fckd up times ❤️
@@howitzerproject no worries mate. I’ve got some content on rejection, moving on and self improvement. Feel free to have a look it may help you! It’s hard ik but you’ll get through it if you keep moving and improving. U got this🤝🤝
It’s insane how similar my situation is to yours, Hamza. From the stress affecting her health, being together non stop daily, loosing my virginity to her-someone I truly love. I lost her because we aren’t compatible and were not in a healthy relationship. I hope the best to everyone reading this, you fucking got this don’t stop moving.
Last month my (now ex girlfriend) of almost 4 years cheated on me. At the same time I found this channel and ever since of been on self improvement.
I have not shed a bloody tear, because I feel better than ever!
Thank you so much Hamza for everything!
I’m going through the worst break up i’ve ever had in my life and i’m trying to improve myself as a woman. He manipulated and used me and i’m so heartbroken I know that this chanel is for the male but I enjoy watching your videos and it helped me a lot too thank you for this.
How are u feeling now ? I'm going through my worst heartbreak and I really need tips
I never expected that you and I have a similar breakup story Sir.
I'm currently 19 and my relationship (8 months) ended. Similar to yours.
Because I was so Jeffrey and she started to fall out of love. One day everything ended. She couldn't tolerate me and left me. I think it's right because no girl would love the Jeffrey kinda guy.
I feel extremely guilty for hurting her because of my Jeffrey character.
For 2 months straight, I haven't eaten or slept properly. I would eat one meal a day and sleep for like 1-2 hours. Crying all day about losing her, losing the relationship.
I eventually found you. Started watching many of your videos. Then i realised that you had the same scenario as me.
Now you are like my big brother who's helping me to get better.
Thank You Brother 🫂
God bless you....
The girl I loved so much broke up with me yesterday and it just fkn hurts. Hearing your words, that I'm not alone, is extremely helpful. Thx
How you doing so far bro?
This video comes at an opportune time. Over the last 3 years, I've let my health and physical state go. I broke off the relationship with my girlfriend (who turned alcoholic) last September. I took a break for a month from my life, stayed with my family.
I'm 33 now. I'm back at the gym. I've lost so much strength and I'm unhappy with my body. But I am working at improving it and at building myself back up.
It's never too late to make a change, fellas.
Fax
How many Indians here?
You still on self improvement brother?
Bol Bhai
@@nabighjamil3897 tu bta bhai
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@@Zahid97.Lol prolly not
I think I should share my story brothers. Me and my ex broke up around 4 days ago I stupidly agreed to stay friends with her. But i have now gone into ghost mode and will not be giving her the time of day. We broke up because she lost interest it’s a hard pill to swallow knowing that they love you one week then lost it all the next. I had a long as phone call with her today taking about the break up because she went on a church camp and couldn’t have her phone. We talked and she reckons that I need time until we hang out next. But brothers she ain’t getting the time of day anymore she wanted us to be friends. I only do friends with benefits.
Watching this video after breaking up with a girl on New Years Eve. She was gorgeous, sweet, lovely, her and her family all trained at my Dads kickboxing gym with me and they came around to our house for dinner a lot. We had so much in common and I was kind of shocked to find a girl of such high quality that fit the criteria to be my partner. Long story short she ended up not being quite as mature as I had thought and as she had made herself out to be. So I knew I had to end things instead of trying to rescue her, which is the type of guy I am (rescuer). Anyway this video will help me A lot, thankyou brother!
I think it's always harder for the person being left, than the person who is leaving.
I agree it would be a lot easier on you if you're travelling and have other experiences to look forward to.
It's not often that our tribe gets to experience that when they break up. There's some really dark days fam.
However, you're also right. We don't stop looking out for ourselves and our brothers.
Hamza could you do a video about dealing with loneliness? I always see content about dealing with breakups but never how to deal with never having had a gf at 18, and it would help immensely
It’s so painful to identify yourself with these situations, for me it was the same, I thought she was the one, the supposed mother of my children, I never met someone who loved me at the intensity she did, I really thought it was going to be. Now I don’t think I can love another person the same way I used to love her. Thanks hamza, you’ve been helping a lot of young man in their own journeys, u should be proud.
perfect timing man. can't even focus on work or school.
i'm ready to be positive again. being upset wont help anyone.
i honestly never thought i’d watch this video as i’d never been in a relationship, but after having a crush on a girl for almost 6 years and being friendzoned, i was shattered. not only that but now i just have to see her with somebody new.
only difference is that i dont really have much friends to spend time with as we were all part of the same friend group and they’re closer to her.
Going through something similar rn, tc bro
Hope things get better for you 🙌🏼💙
losing someone could be your origin or ending episode, it come to you to take the best from the situation
Me and my Girlfriend broke up Last night!
The reason being that i asked her to remove one guy who kept breaching boundaries, publically posted i love you stories for her, tagged her in pics, but whe. I asked to remove that guy then she said she won't he is just a friend, but that guy kept on doing things like that and my girl never questioned him and liked the attention..
And eventually when i confronted she said i am being controlling and left me,
I was down to remove any girl or female friend from my life and made her a priority but she didn't wanted to prioritize, i Still hate myself for being so good to her.
She had many ex's so she knows how to cope up with a breakup, unlike me for whom she was my 1st.
But thank you Hamza ❤️
I'll keep improving myself and be the guy that she will Regret Leaving forever!.
Hey Hamza, I just want to thank you and everyone. I just went through a break up and I was sad. The I remembered that I am part of a brotherhood and I can get help and help other people.
Was with my ex for around 8 months this year. Spent every weekend together and she is literally a 10/10. I felt on top of the world, I was so in love I spent every waking minute thinking about the next time we would be together and the weekend I'd setup for us. Then she cheated and left. Decided to start lexapro, therapy, and eating like crap. A few weeks ago I said fuck it, quit lexapro and therapy, and started eating 1500 calories a day and excersizing 2 hours per day. I've literally never felt better in my whole life. When doing the lexapro and therapy, it felt like my life was still in the hands of her, but eliminating those hinderenses and focuses on her, I just feel on top of the world. As well, I deleted all my social media and I've been off completely for 3 weeks now. I'm already getting back to the body I had before her and Its just amazing. For anyone who doesn't know what to do but feel nihilistic, just workout. Just run. Just get off the pity train. Youre not going to stop the intrusive thoughts with this method, but they won't linger nearly as long and you'll soon have them less and less. My experience..
I'm 20, I had never been in a relationship. Found a girl, we bonded; but very quickly I knew it would not work out (different life goals/standards/plans) and broke it off within the first two weeks. We ended on good terms, but the pain afterwards has been alot to deal with. It was only 2 weeks, but it felt like 2 years. That just happened a day ago. I needed to hear this.
My first girlfriend (first sex experience btw) cheated on me 7 months ago. Its still hurts like shit but i keep my self as busy as possible and im making very good progress at the gym and in my social life... I discovered a new passion, bought a brand new Sportsbike and i can say that im happy now.
A man is only strong enough if he doesnt focus on women the entire time. I used Dating apps a LOT after the breakup and i realized that its fucking useless to improve my mental health. So i quit this shit and set other priorities for myself. And there is still a lot to improve...
What i want to say is:
You can always get through this dark period of your life. Once you've made it, there's nothing that can stop you anymore.
Im 20 and from Germany. Thanks for your videos, Hamza 💪🏽
Hamza these 20-30 minute long cult speeches are really good to have in the background while we do productive stuff, I'd love if you kept with the format. Nothing beats having our cult leader subliminally implanting his thoughts into our minds throughout the grind.
Once you keep pursuing your mission and purpose, nothing well stop you. Brothers, know that the pain you feel is part of the process. However, use that pain to fuel yourself to become the best version of yourself!
hey hamza thanks for talking about this! Some people might need to hear this. Ive personally been through quite a toxic relationship a few months ago and im just saying I heard something like this and it really motivated me to change to the better! Just saying thanks because some people really need to hear this!!
Well done my bro! Glad to here it🤝
@@louish2310 appreciate it!
Hamza, you're like a big brother to me. not only do you look out for us. but you're also 100% relatable in your way of thinking. thank you for your good work.
Thank you Hamza, I went through a break up recently. Ive been getting over it a lot quicker than usual. But I couldn’t have done it without your videos. I remember the first day I meditating. The day I started journaling, It all started because the youtube algorithm recommended you to me. Im grateful for you.
Never thought I had to agree with the boys again. But damn doesn’t it feel good to have your brothers whose always on your side when going through these tough times. Keep staying humble brahs 💪
Hey brother, I just got out of a toxic 4 year relationship.. I knew it was coming for, like at least a year, but damn buddy it still hurt like a bitch. But you my friend, are helping me out. You're a great inspiration to me and I'm sure so many other young men similar to me. Keep it up homie. Thank you.
badly need this rn
Yo hamza I see nowadays people just recalling what they hear read see and not doing any thinking for themselves. I feel like how society is structured, it is hard to formulate your own ideas and do critical thinking. What’s the best way to develop this critical thinking skill? And Instead of falling into the trap of reiterating someone else’s pov actually think of your own using past experiences and knowledge. anyway love your videos u doing bits out here ❤❤❤
Meditation is a good start. Then you can probably journal and start having more and more introspective thoughts. Just my opinion tho.
@@user-bp4qq7tt1u thanks my guy 👊
No matter what you do, how you do it, heart break will always be there. It wont go away in a day, a week, or even a month. The feeling you felt in that relationship and hardships you'd been through with your partner it hurts. I work out everyday, run everyday, surround myself with good friends, i got into modeling and acting and occupy myself as much as possible and the little feelings it still hurts. If i can give one piece of advice is to occupy yourself with as many good things and good habits as possible. Cut out every single commutation you have with your ex partner as i know how tempting it is to text. A hot take is that Heartbreak is the best and worst thing to happen to you. Reputition learning how to deal with things maturely, the first girl you meet you most likely wont marry or have kids with neither the second one. Always be prepared for the worst and look towards the best which is the future :)
Thanks hammy she left me alone but as I am improving myself i can feel she did left alone not lonely i got my masculine brothers who make me more purposeful and a ton of women who are interested and feminine towards me. The lonely period in went through I'm grateful for it ❤️
That pain disappeared, i don't care anymore.
So, i suggest you, after you finish with memories - leave everything behind if things/people leave from your life. Thank those people for being part of your life, because they've teached you lessons, they took part in building your current personality, part of them is still in you, and part of you is still in them, there is no distance between us. Just believe that distance doesn't exist, there is only time between you and them, time to travel.. So thank them, and then, you need to allow yourself to go forward. Enjoy solitude..
Hamza is also making a good point. When things get bad, put more effort than usual, in the future you will remember those times as "times were bad, but im glad i was struggling against it", makes you feel proud.
Guys don't worry, focus on yourself, hit the gym and improve constantly and your ex will crawl back to you. If she doesn't, trust me you'll find a better, more beautiful and more feminine girl than her anyways, so no excuses. I have been through this. My ex is basically under my control rn and tbh at this point I'm losing interest for her
I got dumped a month ago and it hurts like hell. My situations I was already on self-improvement while I was dating her. I never did anything wrong in the relationship, I would say it was pretty healthy but some things are out of our control. Feels like I'm at my lowest but I will push myself to hang out with people and go out and do things I love more.
So yesterday was the end of an era. She chose her bestfriend over me. I was always there whenever she needed me, or whenever she needed financial help or when her friends ditched her. I tried to change myself and my opinions to her liking. But still she did not choose me.
I feel alone because I left all my friends as she did not like them.
I'm never trusting another human again.
Website is the best idea you've had. Good chance it will save lives, props to you hamza!
Broke up with my gf recently because she said she felt like everything was going my way instead of hers since I started going to gym and gaining muscle and becoming attractive, started making more friends being invited to parties and ngl it's been hard seeing her at my highschool laughing and stuff with other guys like that while year we spent was nothing, but I haven't let that get me down and she looked so frustrated that I still kept my composure talking to her with her new bf as if she wanted me to get down to her level, really hurts ngl but I'll be working to get better still
I’m 22 and I’ve just broken up with my partner of 8 years. This is an affirmation that life can and will be good after working on myself. We were only 14 and it’s been so hard. But I’m a better man for it
Your closing in on helping over 1 million people
Got fcked hard by my ex last year, very tragic and traumatising story. Lost 12kg in 2 weeks, because I wasn't ready for what happened back then. I wasn't able to eat anything during that time, while I was on vacation in Morocco and we had 48°C constantly. It took me 4 months to get back to life and I started working out again. Now after a year I went from 79 kg back to 96 kg with the best body I ever had. I'm thankful that I witnessed so much pain without going insane. That took my body and my mindset to the next level, I still have to face some challenges in order to abandon my past, but I'm very optimistic about that. Keep going and never lose yourself due to others, it's not worth it. Love your content
Your timing is amazing, thank you
I MADE IT HAMZA. I HAVE CONQUERED MY FEARS AND REACHED THE NEXT LEVEL IN MY LIFE. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️No homo
Back to this video Hamza. My breakup is what will lead me out of my rut. Thanks for this.
I needed this, I feel better, and I'm meeting other girls, she was my first serious relationship, but we gotta move on broskis
Thank you hamza
Im 17 and broke up with her after 3 and a half years
Her friends change her so much that she turned into a bi***
So i had to break up and the thought of what shes doing know is painful but your videos help
Ive gotten to the gym ever since
It helps but i dont find enough distraction tbh...
Thank you again hamza
I can't believe how similar my situation is with yours right know, she dumped me a week ago and I feel like shit, my friends are busy with Christmas, I try to improve, work out at home but is hard doing this all by myself..
hit me up
Lmk if you want to talk on discord man. I have such a similar experience.
I’m super young, but still I really cared abt her. Smth I’ve noticed is that it seems to be the same for everyone. A break up is smth anyone can relate to.
Edit: it’s been 2 months and my life is a lot better. Find Jesus because he kinda already found you😂. I had been a believer for a while, but never an active one. Don’t be half hearted in your faith people. Be intentional towards God. God made us bc of how much he loved us. So should you make a family through love right?
Not even a week after my breakup and you upload this. No way. Even though I'm doing okay, this will still help
I just commented in the previous video to make a video on *how to be heard more by the people* , like what's the ultimate thing to do,
How to be louder? How to be clear? How to be confident? It would be of great help if you make a video on it cuz majority of us introverted bros suffer from this.
For example:- I in a busy stall asked the worker there for a bottle of water, I literally asked him around 7 times, but then one man walks in a gets what he wants in one go, like bruv 😞, what am I doing wrong?
Yeah I feel that, I'm reasonably quiet when I talk unless I shout but I don't really want to do that
it's a combination of things, you have to go with a good posture, speak loud but kindly, gently and slowly, look in the eyes. But most importantly you have to be genuinely confident about yourself, if you are confident the other things will come by themselves.
Practice makes perfect! you got it
@@ivogutierrez1892 I'll keep this in mind when I talk next time definitely, thanks.
Who is here after abreak up😔✌
from the bottom of my heart,
thank you
I opened up to her about my mental health for the first time, that same night she cheated on me I’m emotionally destroyed, I know no one cares on the internet but I want to put this out there
thats rough bro if you had to tell someone a close friend should be the first go to
@@robertfenlon7826 cheers for the advice :)
Hey brother, fuck that bitch you can do better. Keep your head up 👑
I really needed this video - thanks for this Hamza