In my 20s I was so worried about what people thought of me, in my 30s I finally stopped worrying about what people thought of me, in my 40s I realized no one was thinking about me in the first place... 🤣🤣🤣
I think it is completely irrelevant. Thinking that people don't give a crap about me, does nothing to soothe the embarrassments that I had and relive regularly. This is the major lie of this kind of therapy or method: these kinds of realizations seldom or never do anything to soothe those emotional experiences.
I am not what I think I am . I am not what you think I am .. I am what I think you think I am .. Buddha said that to elaborate this very topic a long long time ago. We get caught up in this vicious cycle of perception of a perception about what others are thinking about us, but in reality, none of that should matter when you build strong self-confidence and self-esteem.. @@ernestoberger7589
People who are terrified about what others think about them are actually worried about all the shitty things they think about themselves, being reflected back at them. -Mark Manson
Yeah, but sometimes that bullshit also was put in your head in the first place, like, if in the past your parents always told you that you were unworthy and a piece of trash, it's normal that you think that other people think you're unworthy and a piece of trash, it's not you, are your traumas, lol.
People who are terrified about what others think about them are actually worried about all the shitty things they think about themselves, being exposed to others. It's ego my guy. that's a huge part of it too. you don't want to look bad, so you hide from things that'll potentially embarrass you
so many people on this earth that don’t have the opportunity to live a fuckless, carefree, blissful lifestyle it’s crazy how many people put that to waste.
Everybody does, people are too scared about what people they don't even know or will ever interact with might think of them lol. Life is so simple.... acknowledgement, and accepting responsibility that's what people can't give a fuck about. 99% have it backwards.
It's not that they don't have the Opportunity. It's a choice. Be free or be a slave to fear. It's because they chose to continue to be too self-conscious. They chose not to challenge their fear of rejection and fear of ridicule. Why do people live in oppressive countries or societies? They fear leaving the known and facing the unknown or the new.
The first time I ever sang in public I did so horrible people were booing me and telling me I suck. I said in the mic "That's ok I'm still going to keep singing". Fast forward 11 years later and I'm a full-time musician with recordings and I pay all my bills with my music. My thought was "This is every performer's worst nightmare, and I survived. This is where I started. I can only go up from here." Still one of my favorite stories to this day. 🙏🏼♥️ Keep it moving people. You're doing great. 👍🏼
I fucking love you man. I used to never be socially awkward or have anxiety until I hit rock bottom with stress. Then all shit went down hill. I graduated and have been home ever since, rarely leaving my apartment. And I mean, I don’t even go on walks for three weeks at a time. Everything became a challenge, a chore. I didn’t have the balls to use my credit card in a store for years because I was afraid of embarrassing myself. Your videos make me WANT to face all my fears, and I started today. I went to go to the local library. I respect you
Thats rough. I'm going through something similar. I got a dog and she forces me out the house. Now we go on 3-4 hour long walks everyday and my insomnia is a thing of the past. I still deal with depression and social anxiety though. But I feel a little more hopeful now with my insomnia treated. The hardest part is dealing with the low energy. I hope you start feeling better soon :)
There is a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE difference when you are with friends backing you up and when you are embarassing yourself alone. I can do whaever the fuck I want if there is people with me, even though they are watching me from far. I get confortable with the idea that I have someone with me in case things go wrong. When you are by yourself, you have no plan B. Dance like he did alone, never. No one would do that. At least not sober. You can record me and challenge me to do anything, not shy at what, but again, alone never.
Yea I was wondering if this would be included in his point because I agree 100% that it’s so much harder to do alone. A lot of the stuff you would do that is stupid alone are things that are characteristic of a creep so there is a fine line to draw. I guess it’s still just a general mentality that you shouldn’t care what other people think or what you must do based on your history and act on that. Rather than say doing stupid actions only
Part of the problem is that in school other kids really DO care about you, as do the teachers to varying extents, and they either praise or bully you, making it hard to fly under the radar. F giving gets so engrained in you that it takes forever to shake this off, and the schools make no effort to help us with it, but instead regard it as an excellent preparation for corporate and bureaucratic life. Thanks, Mark, for opening our eyes!
yep the video shows even though people will think you are weird you are fine the world isnt ending like many people think it will especially with severe social anxiety
It doesn't help that, up until that point in our lives' many important decisions had been made for us and for those that hadn't, we sought approval when making it for ourselves. School is a time when we gain greater control over the decisions, but conditioning has us still seeking approval or meeting criteria that are not our own. The feedback we gain too often focuses on the outcome, "I'm proud of you for making the right choice." When in fact the encouragement should come from why we made that choice, "I'm proud of you for doing what you thought was best, it reflects the type of person you want to be and informs others what is important to you." Eventually we will encounter decisions in our lives where the right choice isn't obvious or may not even exist to us, but we still have to choose. This makes the process of coming to the decision more important than the decision itself because although you may not like the choice you made, you can at least be o.k. with why you made it.
@@Mad4400 I'd say this is yet another aspect of what others think of us, namely that they almost never care about what's good for us as individuals, but rather want us to conform to what's good for THEM or for some conception of "order" they espouse. In other words, the Fs given are entirely one-sided. This isn't exactly rocket science, but it's surprising how few people understand this basic concept.
Not just in schools, there are people who will always care about what you do, but not giving a dam means you make the burden theirs. Bullying is something else and is frowned at by all schools.
I was a former powerlifter and went to a anime convention dressed as sailor moon and doing so actually gave me a very big covidence boost and also really helped not give a f***. I love that you built nonf**kery up and show the world how so do so by a very entertaining YT video.
This aint even one of those generic dating advice videos you find on yt and this was way more better than them. Just don’t give a f*ck and dont take every interaction with a person as an exam. Very well said.
@@MichaelsPaintingChannel no no, they're quite right, if the child will eventually think about it, then it's only fair that you let them know beforehand, and that they must overcome that later on, i think this is a very good way to grow your child, being honest with them and stuff
Garrett realized a lot of things halfway through. Honestly sounds like you just need to keep doing something over and over with failure until it clicks successfully.
95% of the people that watch someone performing on the dance floor is very rarely criticizing them, instead they are wishing they were able to become that outgoing and do that very same thing.
@@kanapkitozo3169Come back when you're an adult. In the real world it's the nerds making all the money and living in mansions. When your bills are no longer being paid for you by your parents that's when you'll stop thinking like that. The people who were nerds and geeks in my highschool years are all making over $100k/year while most of the "popular" kids work minimum wage at McDonald's at 25 or are dead or in prison. I guess those nerds really winning
my dad taught me "nobody gives a crap about you so don't give a crap about them" from a young age. It makes me a bit of an egoist, but hey thats how you get successful
We are a 6 figure income couple and had very little saved and not much cash lying around the preverbal". '...don't have $500 for an emergency" that was us. The big thing was debt all kinds of it, cars mortgage (although our home isn't a high price one), student loans for our kids, and of course credit cards. One day we just got sick of being broke and went total scorched earth and became frugal overnight. Paid it all off, it took almost 5 years but now we have no debt and this year our savings rate is 50% on basically the same income that had us perpetually broke. So for us it is mainly staying out of debt and watching our spending, at first it was a real effort to save in our HISA and 401Ks but now it's actually fun watching our money grow. No car or vacation or neighborhood is worth being broke or financially unstable.
Facing your medicine can be difficult. However, with commitment, you'll ultimately reach a highly satisfying place. It's all about the actions you're willing to take.
Your financial journey is truly inspiring, and I'm currently striving to achieve the goals you've reached. Could you please share some tips to help others learn and navigate their own paths to financial success? Your insights would be invaluable.
I believe everyone could benefit from having a personal financial advisor. They can assist you in reaching your customized financial objectives at any point, ensuring you remain profitable.
Not many people know this, but he said the word "fuck" before 0:30 seconds which caused the video to be demonitized this dude truly does not give a fuck
When you learn a second language you realize that the worst profanity in that language is just some word to you. Gives you an interesting insight into your language’s profanity.
Damn, I nearly cried at the end. Garrett, you're great. I wish I could do all of that too, and I imagine, how angry you was inside when you needed to go to those people
That’s very honest and that alone is admirable. My tip is that most decent people will respect you for doing something they don’t have courage to do themselves such as stepping outside your comfort zone whatever form that may take. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. 💪
You helped me quit the job I hated and start working on my game. Your book inspired me to fucking do something with myself and I'm so glad ur making videos now cause It gives me the reminder I need more consistently.
When, in my twenties, I realized no one actually cared about me, I wanted everyone else to experience the freeing feeling the realization brought, but I found that some people are super resistant to this concept... Hopefully this video will reach them in a way I couldn't. 😊❤
I'm 20 years old, and I just figured out this recently (and having just finished his book in the meantime). The sudden feeling of liberation is amazing. Simply beyond words.
•I do understand i been there but you have learnt this you can unlearn it too-Ask yourself- If today was the last day of my life would I Do what I am about to do today •If you live every day like it was your last one day you will be right •All Pride embarrassment fear of failure,Expectation fall away in the face of death Leaving only what is truly important •Knowing you are going to die,Is the greatest way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose •There is no reason not to follow your heart •Your time is limited so don't waste it live in someone else's life, Don't be trapped by dogma which is living other peoples thinking, Don't let other peoples opinions drown out your inner voice •Follow your heart and intuitionThey somehow already know what you truly want to become •Stay hungry stay foolish
Just remember one thing , people have their own problems , they will be occupied with themselves , even if you do something embarrassing like letting out a huge fart in a class , suree people will laugh, but after even 1 day , people will forget about it , even if they do , they couldn't care less about it
Where has this video been all my life? Thank you my brother for the practical way in which you simplify overcoming the stresses strains and struggles that we all face in our everyday lives. 🙏🏽
One of my favorite videos of all time so glad i watched it , i worked part time in McDonald's when i was 16 and i always wss thinking what other workers think of me and i always was afraid to ask my coworkers work related questions because i didn't want the to think im Idiot and always thought what to say word for word ,2 years later in my first full time job the same thing happend again it got to the extent that i thought about quiting work just because im bad at it and i don't want to be embarrassed although its only been a week since i started ,thanks alot ❤.
I ran out of F#@KS to give years ago. That is when I found my freedom, my joy and have made my life a wonderful fun filled adventure. Even the bad parts can be faced without any more fear. Now I do and say silly stuff to be entertained watching how other people react.. giving people a reason to smile or laugh..
As a clinical psychologist I envy you being able to make such a great treatment, then I remember my stoic virtues and revoke my envy and can say this really warmed my heart ❤
I am fucking crying right now. I am 26 and I am slowly grasping all this and man this video is an absolute thing of beauty. Keeep it up, would love to meet you brother
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
This has the be the most encouraging video I've ever seen. Watching it just gave me such a good feeling all around, and gave me a much-needed reminder that others around us are too concerned with their own lives to worry about us, and there isn't some constant spotlight highlighting all our failures and mistakes. And even so, who cares anyway? Failure is how we progress. Thank you for this video, man!
Most probably you are not gonna watch this comment mark but i wanna say that im a teeager and i am working so hard on your advices And i read your books. I just wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart 🥺🥺
Such a joy to watch! just remember, watching RUclips videos is not actually doing the thing, so let's get up (myself included) and live our lives!.. Thank you mark for all of this...
Two life changing quote from this video. 1 You can't be good at something until you're terrible at it first. 2 look, you and everyone you know are gonna die one day. So what the f*ck are you waiting for?, second one hit me so hard, it reminds me death. So im gonna f*cking live my life 🔥. Thanks man after watching this video i have'nt felt that introvert personality in myself for a while. Came back to thank you ❤.
On the second date with my now fiancé, he was telling me how clumsy he was as he literally tripped and almost fell. He didn’t get embarrassed. He was just like “see, I told you!”. He didn’t take himself too seriously or even bother looking around to see if anyone saw him do it. I often say that as he was falling, I was falling for him. 😂 it will be our 10 year anniversary in a few months. 😊
He was actually pretty good at breakdancing given that he learned it in a day. This guy is similar to me - prior to me learning to not give a single F about others opinions. Thank you for the AMAZING content Mark!
I really need to do something like this. I'm so stuck in my life it's unreal. Maybe we can do a meet and greet with Mark and we can ALL do this. Maybe something like a 2-3 day conference.
(Update below)I needed this right now, perfect timing. I have to start a new job position that I’m nervous as F about and I need to tell myself to stop giving an F and just chill out & trust that I know what to do. It’s super high pressure and something I don’t want to do but I have to do it. Hey y’all I thought I’d update this comment if anyone gives an F to read it, I just wanna share anyway. I just had my first day doing my new job and… I crushed it with only 1 minor mistake! My world didn’t end and I didn’t die, I survived and I thrived. I thought I was going to shit myself and pass out but I goddamn did it. I can’t believe it. I’m so proud of myself.
I read your book a million times it’s like my personal Bible but this one video has really changed me. Especially the part about saying things to get ppl to like you vs seeing if you like them. Wow never knew it would be that easy.
Watching this video, seeing Garrett's problems and identifying myself on it made me sad, but seeing him surpass all of that made me cry of joy. That's so wholesome
One thing I've very grateful for. Is early on, I never really cared about what anyone else thought. Definitely helped my early years, as I can see my younger brother who is 12, really struggling with kids his own age. He can't take any criticism from his own friends, even when they're clearly joking. Not giving a fuck, really is a lifestyle and it certainly helps live a happier life. From my experience at least. Absolutely love these video mark.
I have subscribing to Mark's Newsletters and Periodicals since 2017. Whenever I want to get that "shake and stir" of myself, to slap me out of a funk or stressful reality I've created or got myself into, I read one or two of his newsletters and I'm good to go for awhile. Now that he has his own channel, I have another resource to help give myself a little more than a breath of fresh air. Thanks always Mark. ~DMc
00:00 🚫 Learn to let go of unnecessary worries and anxiety by embracing the art of not giving a "beep". 01:32 🔦 The spotlight effect, where people believe they're constantly being observed and judged, often doesn't reflect reality. Most people are too absorbed in their own concerns to notice or care about your actions. 03:01 😬 Overcoming the fear of embarrassment is fundamental to not caring excessively about others' opinions. Facing public humiliation diminishes its power over you. 07:24 💔 Being unapologetically authentic in relationships, willing to face rejection, is key to finding genuine connections and self-assurance. 16:25 🐓 Achieving the pinnacle of non-fuckery involves not only liberating oneself from insecurities but helping others shed their constraints, fostering a contagious liberation.
My hearing is horrible. Growing up my brother would talk hella loud and so I speak mostly normal. I got my first hearing aids at 14 and was so nervous about being singled out for them. After a few years I realized my hearing wasn’t ever going to get better. I could either try to hide it my entire life or just get over it. I’m pretty un-apologetic about to now. I just straight up tell people I’m just meeting that I have no idea what they said. Even people who have known me for years still forget and I’ll have to remind them. Like “Yeah, I only heard about 20% of that and have no idea what you were actually saying to me”
I was buying hearing aid batteries once at the corner store, nothing else just batteries, because both mine had died and when the checker tried to talk to me I told her I couldn’t hear her. She laughed and said “sure you can’t” in a very rude way. I wouldn’t have known but my wife was there and set that checker straight real fast 😂
Omg I can’t believe it, I been reading your book the last few weeks and watching a video of how to unf*** your live your channel get recommended. I love your book so far and now I have something to watch too.
I actually love this. This a true, honest and good approach for my perfectionism, rejection issues and.. Oh what ever. Let's not give to much of a fuck
This video is amazing 👏 I showed my 11 year old son. And the quote you can't be good at something until you're terrible at it first ❤he tries so hard to be perfect at everything and doesn't want to try new things. I want him to not care what others think because I know how awful that is. Don't waste your good years caring so much about others thoughts. I needed this video thank you!
I learned 3 of these lessons from Drama class in high school, and I have said multiple times how thankful I was for those experiences. The good and the bad all taught me so much.
Something I am starting to realize. The vast majority of us are great at stacking improvement. Once we get going we are able to do more. The problem I think we have ( especially me) is to just simply not do NOTHING. As long as you do SOMETHING, ANYTHING will start to make changes and build on each other. It is when you decide to do NOTHING is where the problem lies. We need to just move. Even taking a shower, clean, do dishes or laundry. That step is huge for those who are truly depressed or have anxiety. Because the mere idea of anything is daunting. That is where I think most of us needs the most help.
There’s something in the way this content was composed that is very profound. I felt so invested in Garret’s success! Thoroughly enjoyed watching this (and your book Mark!)
Garret, you are a legend. I got my foot stuck on the outside of the plane when I jumped. Scary AF. THEN THE CHUTE pulls and its the most tranquil experience ever.
Everything makes sense when you watch a Mark Manson video and expose. I embrace most of the tutorials you give because they are relatable and genuine.Some of the ideas are not new but it helps in how you make it simpler to follow and replicate. These ideas you put out here are worth their weight in gold, regardless of age or place in the world. Thanks Mark...I am giving you a hug from Abuja, Nigeria.
What a great gift you are giving the world. I remember a time too scared to ask a question. We should have the courage to be disliked even... it is our life. We should not live it based on what others think
Let me just say, you are the GOAT, for me at least.I’ve only seen two of your videos so far and I’m already sold on the rest of your content. You don’t beat around the bush and it’s honestly so refreshing to see someone as authentic and straight forward as you. Thank you, I truly mean it. My past decade of trial and errors would have been a lot smoother if someone like you had appeared in my feed sooner. Still, I had a chance to learn some of these lessons on my own so no harm in that. Let me say again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I hope you realize just how impactful you are to the people who need to hear you the most!
I'm blown away at how incredible your videos have been @Mark, and glad to have found your channel so early on. I can't wait to see more, and hope to find my own breakthrough sooner than later. Thanks for doing so much for so many people. Bravo 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This was one of the most creative ways to integrate the sponsor ad content into the actual video. Found myself not fast forwarding for a change. Pretty brilliant!
Wow! Sooo awesome!!! Thank you Mark! All efforts appreciated, so excellent all the way! Thank you for pursuing your moral duty to liberate us. You feel like a friend, you feel safe. Thank you ❤
Perhaps a good idea for the next video would be to explore the path of a person who lacks authenticity on the account of being very good at overcoming challenges to the detriment of his personaity. These people normally become very miserable when they’re older…
Had a similar experience back during freshmen year of college. I was in a foreign country, on the opposite side of the planet for a summer vacation, and one of my roles there was to meet new people. I had always had terrible social anxiety, but what I had to do there was walk up to strangers on the street, and ask if they wanted to hang out. After that trip, I realized it wasn’t so bad. The anxiety never fully went away, but I never really struggled with the “spotlight” effect afterward
Mark this is great. I am familiar with your book. A fun fact you might already know: There is a very specific kind of Yogic practice called "Vairagya" which is exactly this, not giving any F*s. The core of the practice is the idea of not wanting anything. The Vairagin starts by learning to do things for their own sake, without being attached to any outcomes or results. After a person has experienced a significant amount of failure, they will need to find this practice as soon as possible. As someone who has experienced a great deal of failure at various things, at varying levels of achievement, I consider myself "all-in" on this. The less I want, the more freedom I have, to want nothing is the ultimate freedom. If you know about something like Aghor Yoga, I would consider that an extreme form of this approach, but very dangerous and it doesn't work consistently across the board for many practitioners. The more I get into Vairagya practice, the more I like it. If I break practice, the world is quick to punish me with failure, anything I care about or put effort into with an eye toward results, is quickly destroyed or put utterly out of reach. Usually as a result of multiple things that are not in my control in the slightest. If I don't care at all, anything I think I lost or failed at immediately boomerangs back to me, more viable as a goal than ever. I have numerous examples of both things happening, if you had an hour or so and some adult beverages. Just trust me on it. A great semi-famous example of this is the Chess Grandmaster Hikaru Nakamura, who most likely read your book. He was 5x United States Chess Champion. After having a brief career downturn, he started streaming and YouTubing chess. He then decided that streaming was his main focus and he was no longer mainly a pro chess player. Immediately, he started to comeback, he started winning a lot more and his rating hit new highs. He quickly got back to about #3 ranked in the world or so. Now he is in the next Candidates Tournament for the World Championship for either the 2nd or 3rd time. I've seen him win 60K for first in one tournament, Chess is a real thing. The magic power of giving no F*s took away the pressure to win for Hikaru. I plan to pursue this approach even more aggressively until I run completely out of F*s to give about anything. Also great video, liked and subbed.
I just love these....types of videos. No just spitting out words and instructions but actually showing you results how its like. These videos are more easy and entertaining to watch.
I remember when I discovered dating in my 20s and knowing that my life would be absolutely fucked if I didn’t overcome these hurdles. It’s nice to get a review for myself in my 30s where I may have forgotten some of these lessons. Thanks mark.
Yes. The fear of public humiliation can be worse than the fear of death. “The judge said son what is your alibi. If you were somewhere else, then you won’t have to die. I spoke not a word, but it meant my life. I had been in the arms of my best friend’s wife.”
Yes I was also wondering how the girl with the social anxiety from a MM vid from a while ago was doing now, after some time has passed since MM filmed her challenges.
Ever heard of brain plasticity? It's the innate ability of the brain to adapt. Literally, how you think affects how your brain works. This is why you have to keep doing something that benefits your life. By making it a priority, and not settling back, it becomes part of you.
In my 20s I was so worried about what people thought of me, in my 30s I finally stopped worrying about what people thought of me, in my 40s I realized no one was thinking about me in the first place... 🤣🤣🤣
I want to get to that point. I still worry what people think. I don't know why.
I think it is completely irrelevant. Thinking that people don't give a crap about me, does nothing to soothe the embarrassments that I had and relive regularly.
This is the major lie of this kind of therapy or method: these kinds of realizations seldom or never do anything to soothe those emotional experiences.
I'm 18 yo, I want to try new things but sometimes, I have that inner voice saying don't do it or hide.... Any advice?
I am not what I think I am . I am not what you think I am .. I am what I think you think I am .. Buddha said that to elaborate this very topic a long long time ago. We get caught up in this vicious cycle of perception of a perception about what others are thinking about us, but in reality, none of that should matter when you build strong self-confidence and self-esteem.. @@ernestoberger7589
@@joaotome40Do shadow work. Deep inner work.
People who are terrified about what others think about them are actually worried about all the shitty things they think about themselves, being reflected back at them.
-Mark Manson
Yeah, but sometimes that bullshit also was put in your head in the first place, like, if in the past your parents always told you that you were unworthy and a piece of trash, it's normal that you think that other people think you're unworthy and a piece of trash, it's not you, are your traumas, lol.
@@NayeliTemplos yea and also timetimes you just see what others say of others be it stangers or close people
They could have had a super critical parent too
People who are terrified about what others think about them are actually worried about all the shitty things they think about themselves, being exposed to others. It's ego my guy. that's a huge part of it too. you don't want to look bad, so you hide from things that'll potentially embarrass you
oh hell yeah, thats my mother and father all day. crippled by the unknown opinions of people they dont even like!
It's crazy how you don't feel like cringing while watching him but just proud over him for going out there and doing it
Yes, Mark Mason is living what he preaches.
I was cheering Garrett on… good dude.
@@Psych2go Woah, happy to see you here
Agreeeed! He’s so awesome!
@@Psych2godude youre here too?? crazy
so many people on this earth that don’t have the opportunity to live a fuckless, carefree, blissful lifestyle it’s crazy how many people put that to waste.
wow, that's fucking true
Everybody does, people are too scared about what people they don't even know or will ever interact with might think of them lol. Life is so simple.... acknowledgement, and accepting responsibility that's what people can't give a fuck about. 99% have it backwards.
It's not that they don't have the Opportunity. It's a choice. Be free or be a slave to fear. It's because they chose to continue to be too self-conscious. They chose not to challenge their fear of rejection and fear of ridicule. Why do people live in oppressive countries or societies? They fear leaving the known and facing the unknown or the new.
"You can't be good at something until you're terrible at it first"
Okay now those are some wise words
The first time I ever sang in public I did so horrible people were booing me and telling me I suck. I said in the mic "That's ok I'm still going to keep singing". Fast forward 11 years later and I'm a full-time musician with recordings and I pay all my bills with my music. My thought was "This is every performer's worst nightmare, and I survived. This is where I started. I can only go up from here." Still one of my favorite stories to this day. 🙏🏼♥️ Keep it moving people. You're doing great. 👍🏼
people suck 99% of the time and don't suck 1% of the time when they get something from you that they needed. :(
Thats AMAZING! 🦋✨
@@videofandude99 very true and well stated
How u got all that courage
Listend to your songs on YT. Crazy beautiful
"You can't be good at something until you're terrible at it first" That resonated with so many things. Thanks for an awesome video.
Not really. You can find smth that you are good at from the start. It's called a natural..
@@crystalgames7744 don't let limiting beliefs stop you. I am a standing ovation of doing something I was absolutely shit at until I got good at it
@@souldepletion13 Umm. Thanks, but that's not what I said lol.
@@crystalgames7744People need to be careful, comparing themselves to other
@@crystalgames7744passion > natural
When the two chickens hugged at the end .... tears. Best video on the web. Literal life changer in 20 minutes flat.
"When the two chickens hugged at the end" is the best comment on the web!
True❤
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I fucking love you man. I used to never be socially awkward or have anxiety until I hit rock bottom with stress. Then all shit went down hill. I graduated and have been home ever since, rarely leaving my apartment. And I mean, I don’t even go on walks for three weeks at a time. Everything became a challenge, a chore. I didn’t have the balls to use my credit card in a store for years because I was afraid of embarrassing myself. Your videos make me WANT to face all my fears, and I started today. I went to go to the local library. I respect you
Thats rough. I'm going through something similar. I got a dog and she forces me out the house. Now we go on 3-4 hour long walks everyday and my insomnia is a thing of the past. I still deal with depression and social anxiety though. But I feel a little more hopeful now with my insomnia treated. The hardest part is dealing with the low energy. I hope you start feeling better soon :)
Damn, best of luck with your climb up out of your funk. That sounds like a heavy case of depression. This internet stranger be rooting for you
How's it going brotha
indulge me in this
how does using your credit card embarrass you?
I'm not making fun of you, I'm just curious as to how your shit operates
Hope you’re doing better
There is a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE difference when you are with friends backing you up and when you are embarassing yourself alone. I can do whaever the fuck I want if there is people with me, even though they are watching me from far. I get confortable with the idea that I have someone with me in case things go wrong. When you are by yourself, you have no plan B. Dance like he did alone, never. No one would do that. At least not sober. You can record me and challenge me to do anything, not shy at what, but again, alone never.
Yea I was wondering if this would be included in his point because I agree 100% that it’s so much harder to do alone. A lot of the stuff you would do that is stupid alone are things that are characteristic of a creep so there is a fine line to draw. I guess it’s still just a general mentality that you shouldn’t care what other people think or what you must do based on your history and act on that. Rather than say doing stupid actions only
Part of the problem is that in school other kids really DO care about you, as do the teachers to varying extents, and they either praise or bully you, making it hard to fly under the radar. F giving gets so engrained in you that it takes forever to shake this off, and the schools make no effort to help us with it, but instead regard it as an excellent preparation for corporate and bureaucratic life. Thanks, Mark, for opening our eyes!
yep the video shows even though people will think you are weird you are fine the world isnt ending like many people think it will especially with severe social anxiety
It doesn't help that, up until that point in our lives' many important decisions had been made for us and for those that hadn't, we sought approval when making it for ourselves. School is a time when we gain greater control over the decisions, but conditioning has us still seeking approval or meeting criteria that are not our own. The feedback we gain too often focuses on the outcome, "I'm proud of you for making the right choice." When in fact the encouragement should come from why we made that choice, "I'm proud of you for doing what you thought was best, it reflects the type of person you want to be and informs others what is important to you." Eventually we will encounter decisions in our lives where the right choice isn't obvious or may not even exist to us, but we still have to choose. This makes the process of coming to the decision more important than the decision itself because although you may not like the choice you made, you can at least be o.k. with why you made it.
@@Mad4400 I'd say this is yet another aspect of what others think of us, namely that they almost never care about what's good for us as individuals, but rather want us to conform to what's good for THEM or for some conception of "order" they espouse. In other words, the Fs given are entirely one-sided. This isn't exactly rocket science, but it's surprising how few people understand this basic concept.
School teachers only care about indoctrination
Not just in schools, there are people who will always care about what you do, but not giving a dam means you make the burden theirs. Bullying is something else and is frowned at by all schools.
This is such a joy to watch! A great reminder to take yourself less seriously.
I was a former powerlifter and went to a anime convention dressed as sailor moon and doing so actually gave me a very big covidence boost and also really helped not give a f***. I love that you built nonf**kery up and show the world how so do so by a very entertaining YT video.
Dear god that’s based
That sounds super awesome I would totally take a pic with u
This aint even one of those generic dating advice videos you find on yt and this was way more better than them. Just don’t give a f*ck and dont take every interaction with a person as an exam. Very well said.
He’s so cute, his smile…he has very kind eyes that will only get kinder as he ages.
I always told my kids:
“It’s simple to be free…stop caring what others think and say about you. Notice I said “simple”, not “easy.””
wow that is pretty profound, I resonate with that message a lot! Thanks for sharing :)
The problem is.. Isn't saying that somehow bringing them to think about it? But,.. Maybe it works. I don't know.
@@MichaelsPaintingChannel no no, they're quite right, if the child will eventually think about it, then it's only fair that you let them know beforehand, and that they must overcome that later on, i think this is a very good way to grow your child, being honest with them and stuff
Garrett realized a lot of things halfway through. Honestly sounds like you just need to keep doing something over and over with failure until it clicks successfully.
Or until it clucks 😅😅
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@@john.hughes lmao, you just made the likes cap at 500.
It'd called reinforcement learning in AI😅
95% of the people that watch someone performing on the dance floor is very rarely criticizing them, instead they are wishing they were able to become that outgoing and do that very same thing.
nah, i had in my school some nerd kids and it was cringe, painfull to watch. We have our emotions for reason
@@kanapkitozo3169Come back when you're an adult. In the real world it's the nerds making all the money and living in mansions. When your bills are no longer being paid for you by your parents that's when you'll stop thinking like that. The people who were nerds and geeks in my highschool years are all making over $100k/year while most of the "popular" kids work minimum wage at McDonald's at 25 or are dead or in prison. I guess those nerds really winning
@@kanapkitozo3169 I get you bro, but I'd also argue that if they are enjoying themselves. The only cringe that is occurring is the cringing itself.
@@kanapkitozo3169Your comment sounds very cringy too. Calling people "nerd" in this day and age, it's kinda childish and outdated...
@@roenlezma9361 ima nerd too. Bye
my dad taught me "nobody gives a crap about you so don't give a crap about them" from a young age. It makes me a bit of an egoist, but hey thats how you get successful
sounds like your dad was neglected as a child
We are a 6 figure income couple and had very little saved and not much cash lying around the preverbal".
'...don't have $500 for an
emergency" that was us. The big thing was debt all kinds of it, cars mortgage (although our home isn't a high price one), student loans for our kids, and of course credit cards.
One day we just got sick of being broke and went total scorched earth and became frugal overnight. Paid it all off, it took almost 5 years but now we have no debt and this year our savings rate is 50% on basically the same income that had us perpetually broke. So for us it is mainly staying out of debt and watching our spending, at first it was a real effort to save in our HISA and 401Ks but now it's actually fun watching our money grow. No car or vacation or neighborhood is worth being broke or financially unstable.
Congratulations on taking the steps necessary to get yourself out of the financial bind you were in.
Facing your medicine can be difficult. However, with commitment, you'll ultimately reach a highly satisfying place. It's all about the actions you're willing to take.
Your financial journey is truly inspiring, and I'm currently striving to achieve the goals you've reached. Could you please share some tips to help others learn and navigate their own paths to financial success? Your insights would be invaluable.
Samuel Peter Descovich that's whom I work with
I believe everyone could benefit from having a personal financial advisor. They can assist you in reaching your customized financial objectives at any point, ensuring you remain profitable.
This is a tremendous message and is 100% what social media is for. Well played sir!
Not many people know this, but he said the word "fuck" before 0:30 seconds which caused the video to be demonitized
this dude truly does not give a fuck
That is excellent no-fuck giving.
When you learn a second language you realize that the worst profanity in that language is just some word to you. Gives you an interesting insight into your language’s profanity.
Fuck…
Why should I give a fuck? I don't care that he said fuck lol
He bleeped out the one at 0:28 😭
Damn, I nearly cried at the end. Garrett, you're great. I wish I could do all of that too, and I imagine, how angry you was inside when you needed to go to those people
you can
Don't remember who said it, but he said that you cant become what you want, you just be it.
Or smth like that xd
Mark, thank you so much for this. I’ve suffered from a crippling need for approval in every interaction I have. I needed this. Much love my guy.
That’s very honest and that alone is admirable. My tip is that most decent people will respect you for doing something they don’t have courage to do themselves such as stepping outside your comfort zone whatever form that may take. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. 💪
OMG! How much I needed this. I'm a chronic perfectionist. I won't do something unless I believe it is absolutely the best. Thank you very much Mark
You helped me quit the job I hated and start working on my game. Your book inspired me to fucking do something with myself and I'm so glad ur making videos now cause It gives me the reminder I need more consistently.
Woah!
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You rule, good job
woahh, no regrets go forward
When, in my twenties, I realized no one actually cared about me, I wanted everyone else to experience the freeing feeling the realization brought, but I found that some people are super resistant to this concept... Hopefully this video will reach them in a way I couldn't. 😊❤
I'm 20 years old, and I just figured out this recently (and having just finished his book in the meantime). The sudden feeling of liberation is amazing. Simply beyond words.
I was never able to convince my ex-fiancée of the truth of the spotlight effect, much to my deep sorrow.
Man i really need to fix my insecurities.
Worrying about other people’s opinions is a pain in the butt.
•I do understand i been there but you have learnt this you can unlearn it too-Ask yourself-
If today was the last day of my life would I Do what I am about to do today
•If you live every day like it was your last one day you will be right
•All Pride embarrassment fear of failure,Expectation fall away in the face of death Leaving only what is truly important
•Knowing you are going to die,Is the greatest way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose
•There is no reason not to follow your heart
•Your time is limited so don't waste it live in someone else's life, Don't be trapped by dogma which is living other peoples thinking, Don't let other peoples opinions drown out your inner voice
•Follow your heart and intuitionThey somehow already know what you truly want to become
•Stay hungry stay foolish
Yeeeeah
Just remember one thing , people have their own problems , they will be occupied with themselves , even if you do something embarrassing like letting out a huge fart in a class , suree people will laugh, but after even 1 day , people will forget about it , even if they do , they couldn't care less about it
Where has this video been all my life? Thank you my brother for the practical way in which you simplify overcoming the stresses strains and struggles that we all face in our everyday lives. 🙏🏽
One of my favorite videos of all time so glad i watched it , i worked part time in McDonald's when i was 16 and i always wss thinking what other workers think of me and i always was afraid to ask my coworkers work related questions because i didn't want the to think im Idiot and always thought what to say word for word ,2 years later in my first full time job the same thing happend again it got to the extent that i thought about quiting work just because im bad at it and i don't want to be embarrassed although its only been a week since i started ,thanks alot ❤.
I ran out of F#@KS to give years ago. That is when I found my freedom, my joy and have made my life a wonderful fun filled adventure. Even the bad parts can be faced without any more fear. Now I do and say silly stuff to be entertained watching how other people react.. giving people a reason to smile or laugh..
As a clinical psychologist I envy you being able to make such a great treatment, then I remember my stoic virtues and revoke my envy and can say this really warmed my heart ❤
This performance vs authenticity thing? It's a game changer for me. THANK YOU.
I am fucking crying right now. I am 26 and I am slowly grasping all this and man this video is an absolute thing of beauty. Keeep it up, would love to meet you brother
I’m 26 too lol. I felt awkward just watching him do all this stuff, so I definitely still give too many fucks
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes he is dr.porass.
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Can dr.porass send to me in UK?
Absolutely, his offerings extend to global delivery, prioritizing complete confidentiality for individuals valuing their privacy.
This has the be the most encouraging video I've ever seen. Watching it just gave me such a good feeling all around, and gave me a much-needed reminder that others around us are too concerned with their own lives to worry about us, and there isn't some constant spotlight highlighting all our failures and mistakes. And even so, who cares anyway? Failure is how we progress. Thank you for this video, man!
1000% It gave me so much strengh
Most probably you are not gonna watch this comment mark but i wanna say that im a teeager and i am working so hard on your advices And i read your books. I just wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart 🥺🥺
Glad you're working on yourself from a very young age
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I hope, I would also be able to work on my self
Such a joy to watch! just remember, watching RUclips videos is not actually doing the thing, so let's get up (myself included) and live our lives!.. Thank you mark for all of this...
Two life changing quote from this video. 1 You can't be good at something until you're terrible at it first.
2 look, you and everyone you know are gonna die one day. So what the f*ck are you waiting for?, second one hit me so hard, it reminds me death. So im gonna f*cking live my life 🔥. Thanks man after watching this video i have'nt felt that introvert personality in myself for a while. Came back to thank you ❤.
On the second date with my now fiancé, he was telling me how clumsy he was as he literally tripped and almost fell. He didn’t get embarrassed. He was just like “see, I told you!”. He didn’t take himself too seriously or even bother looking around to see if anyone saw him do it. I often say that as he was falling, I was falling for him. 😂 it will be our 10 year anniversary in a few months. 😊
You are really helping others. Tomorrow, I will approach someone and I hope I get rejected. Stay tune😂
Well?
He was actually pretty good at breakdancing given that he learned it in a day. This guy is similar to me - prior to me learning to not give a single F about others opinions. Thank you for the AMAZING content Mark!
I've asked so many people to take me and do this stuff like Mark did with Garrett. I've been able to do level 1 by myself and I love it.
GREAT video!
I hope I could join someday too 😂
I hope I could join someday too 😂
This video made me cry - highest praise possible for this human.
I smiled from ear to ear THE WHOLE WAY through this video ❤
I really need to do something like this. I'm so stuck in my life it's unreal. Maybe we can do a meet and greet with Mark and we can ALL do this. Maybe something like a 2-3 day conference.
Ufff, that would be amazing!
(Update below)I needed this right now, perfect timing. I have to start a new job position that I’m nervous as F about and I need to tell myself to stop giving an F and just chill out & trust that I know what to do. It’s super high pressure and something I don’t want to do but I have to do it.
Hey y’all I thought I’d update this comment if anyone gives an F to read it, I just wanna share anyway. I just had my first day doing my new job and… I crushed it with only 1 minor mistake! My world didn’t end and I didn’t die, I survived and I thrived. I thought I was going to shit myself and pass out but I goddamn did it. I can’t believe it. I’m so proud of myself.
I read your book a million times it’s like my personal Bible but this one video has really changed me. Especially the part about saying things to get ppl to like you vs seeing if you like them. Wow never knew it would be that easy.
This is such a delightful watch ...just never knew what was gonna happen next...poor Gareth...phobias are f*cuking not easy to overcome!
Watching this video, seeing Garrett's problems and identifying myself on it made me sad, but seeing him surpass all of that made me cry of joy. That's so wholesome
I hope he keeps this up! He can do whatever he sets his mind to. A little hesitance, but then he’s all in. Super cool!!!
F*cking best personal development channel. Mark manson keeps innovating, damn, love this.
One thing I've very grateful for. Is early on, I never really cared about what anyone else thought. Definitely helped my early years, as I can see my younger brother who is 12, really struggling with kids his own age. He can't take any criticism from his own friends, even when they're clearly joking. Not giving a fuck, really is a lifestyle and it certainly helps live a happier life. From my experience at least. Absolutely love these video mark.
That was probably the most organically-delivered ad read that I've seen so far, it's fucking unbelievable.
I have subscribing to Mark's Newsletters and Periodicals since 2017. Whenever I want to get that "shake and stir" of myself, to slap me out of a funk or stressful reality I've created or got myself into, I read one or two of his newsletters and I'm good to go for awhile. Now that he has his own channel, I have another resource to help give myself a little more than a breath of fresh air. Thanks always Mark. ~DMc
Mark dropped the most educative content on youtube and thought we would not notice, great video mark
00:00 🚫 Learn to let go of unnecessary worries and anxiety by embracing the art of not giving a "beep".
01:32 🔦 The spotlight effect, where people believe they're constantly being observed and judged, often doesn't reflect reality. Most people are too absorbed in their own concerns to notice or care about your actions.
03:01 😬 Overcoming the fear of embarrassment is fundamental to not caring excessively about others' opinions. Facing public humiliation diminishes its power over you.
07:24 💔 Being unapologetically authentic in relationships, willing to face rejection, is key to finding genuine connections and self-assurance.
16:25 🐓 Achieving the pinnacle of non-fuckery involves not only liberating oneself from insecurities but helping others shed their constraints, fostering a contagious liberation.
Thank you for this.
Thank you bro for this
You just gave a fuck with censoring the word "fuck"
My hearing is horrible. Growing up my brother would talk hella loud and so I speak mostly normal. I got my first hearing aids at 14 and was so nervous about being singled out for them. After a few years I realized my hearing wasn’t ever going to get better. I could either try to hide it my entire life or just get over it. I’m pretty un-apologetic about to now. I just straight up tell people I’m just meeting that I have no idea what they said. Even people who have known me for years still forget and I’ll have to remind them. Like “Yeah, I only heard about 20% of that and have no idea what you were actually saying to me”
I was buying hearing aid batteries once at the corner store, nothing else just batteries, because both mine had died and when the checker tried to talk to me I told her I couldn’t hear her. She laughed and said “sure you can’t” in a very rude way. I wouldn’t have known but my wife was there and set that checker straight real fast 😂
Omg I can’t believe it, I been reading your book the last few weeks and watching a video of how to unf*** your live your channel get recommended. I love your book so far and now I have something to watch too.
Can't even express how totally cool this was. Mark, damn, you are doing just awesome things to help folks .
Floored by your humanity !!! Wow!!
Your videos have more wisdom than any therapist I've ever seen.
This was such an incredible experience. I’ll remember this for the rest of my life. Thank you!!!
May you continue to give ZERO FXXX! Good on you mate! 🔥🔥
All the best in your life, man!
You freaking showed up! Proud :)
Yes Garrett!! You're an inspiration
I’m proud of you
I actually love this. This a true, honest and good approach for my perfectionism, rejection issues and.. Oh what ever. Let's not give to much of a fuck
This video is amazing 👏 I showed my 11 year old son. And the quote you can't be good at something until you're terrible at it first ❤he tries so hard to be perfect at everything and doesn't want to try new things. I want him to not care what others think because I know how awful that is. Don't waste your good years caring so much about others thoughts. I needed this video thank you!
Oh my gosh this was amazing.
Makes me realize there’s a whole world out there I’m missing out on!
Mark, holy shit man! Best video you’ve ever made. Also, A+++ on the sound editing. “Run to the Hills” gave me chills!
You did him dirty for all the perfect reasons, well done 👏 ❤
I learned 3 of these lessons from Drama class in high school, and I have said multiple times how thankful I was for those experiences. The good and the bad all taught me so much.
Something I am starting to realize. The vast majority of us are great at stacking improvement. Once we get going we are able to do more. The problem I think we have ( especially me) is to just simply not do NOTHING. As long as you do SOMETHING, ANYTHING will start to make changes and build on each other. It is when you decide to do NOTHING is where the problem lies. We need to just move. Even taking a shower, clean, do dishes or laundry. That step is huge for those who are truly depressed or have anxiety. Because the mere idea of anything is daunting. That is where I think most of us needs the most help.
The storytelling, the edit and Garrett energy is damn good
Anyone can learn from Mark, i call him my favorite philosopher! He has changed my life in many ways!
Τhis is honestly one of the best videos I've ever seen. Congrats, Mark, you rock!
There’s something in the way this content was composed that is very profound. I felt so invested in Garret’s success! Thoroughly enjoyed watching this (and your book Mark!)
*Life rewards those willing to take risks* 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾
Garret, you are a legend.
I got my foot stuck on the outside of the plane when I jumped. Scary AF. THEN THE CHUTE pulls and its the most tranquil experience ever.
Everything makes sense when you watch a Mark Manson video and expose. I embrace most of the tutorials you give because they are relatable and genuine.Some of the ideas are not new but it helps in how you make it simpler to follow and replicate. These ideas you put out here are worth their weight in gold, regardless of age or place in the world. Thanks Mark...I am giving you a hug from Abuja, Nigeria.
What a great gift you are giving the world. I remember a time too scared to ask a question. We should have the courage to be disliked even... it is our life. We should not live it based on what others think
That was one of the most uplifting interaction I have ever seen. You guys created a wonderful bond, which is beautiful to see!
Mark you're the real deal my man. Keep these up.
That's fkin GOLD. Well done Garrett! HUGE kudos to Mark too, you're really changing people's lives bro!
This series is great. Please keep it up long-term.
Mark, you're crushing this thing called life 🤝
Let me just say, you are the GOAT, for me at least.I’ve only seen two of your videos so far and I’m already sold on the rest of your content. You don’t beat around the bush and it’s honestly so refreshing to see someone as authentic and straight forward as you. Thank you, I truly mean it. My past decade of trial and errors would have been a lot smoother if someone like you had appeared in my feed sooner. Still, I had a chance to learn some of these lessons on my own so no harm in that. Let me say again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I hope you realize just how impactful you are to the people who need to hear you the most!
I love what you're doing with these videos! Revolutionary!
This video pulled me out of my day to day stresses for the first time in a long time. Thanks Mark!
I'm blown away at how incredible your videos have been @Mark, and glad to have found your channel so early on. I can't wait to see more, and hope to find my own breakthrough sooner than later. Thanks for doing so much for so many people. Bravo 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
❤
This was one of the most creative ways to integrate the sponsor ad content into the actual video. Found myself not fast forwarding for a change. Pretty brilliant!
I think the greatest strength of this video in particular is actually having someone go through the process while it's explained.
Wow! Sooo awesome!!! Thank you Mark! All efforts appreciated, so excellent all the way! Thank you for pursuing your moral duty to liberate us. You feel like a friend, you feel safe. Thank you ❤
Perhaps a good idea for the next video would be to explore the path of a person who lacks authenticity on the account of being very good at overcoming challenges to the detriment of his personaity. These people normally become very miserable when they’re older…
apperetiate the efforts you take to change someones life keep the good work.
Had a similar experience back during freshmen year of college. I was in a foreign country, on the opposite side of the planet for a summer vacation, and one of my roles there was to meet new people. I had always had terrible social anxiety, but what I had to do there was walk up to strangers on the street, and ask if they wanted to hang out. After that trip, I realized it wasn’t so bad. The anxiety never fully went away, but I never really struggled with the “spotlight” effect afterward
I'm speechless, he did everything i dream of doing. It's such a joy to watch!
The hardest challenge would be to repeat the whole challenge once again without the camera and the crew.
Mark this is great. I am familiar with your book. A fun fact you might already know: There is a very specific kind of Yogic practice called "Vairagya" which is exactly this, not giving any F*s. The core of the practice is the idea of not wanting anything. The Vairagin starts by learning to do things for their own sake, without being attached to any outcomes or results. After a person has experienced a significant amount of failure, they will need to find this practice as soon as possible. As someone who has experienced a great deal of failure at various things, at varying levels of achievement, I consider myself "all-in" on this. The less I want, the more freedom I have, to want nothing is the ultimate freedom. If you know about something like Aghor Yoga, I would consider that an extreme form of this approach, but very dangerous and it doesn't work consistently across the board for many practitioners. The more I get into Vairagya practice, the more I like it. If I break practice, the world is quick to punish me with failure, anything I care about or put effort into with an eye toward results, is quickly destroyed or put utterly out of reach. Usually as a result of multiple things that are not in my control in the slightest. If I don't care at all, anything I think I lost or failed at immediately boomerangs back to me, more viable as a goal than ever. I have numerous examples of both things happening, if you had an hour or so and some adult beverages. Just trust me on it. A great semi-famous example of this is the Chess Grandmaster Hikaru Nakamura, who most likely read your book. He was 5x United States Chess Champion. After having a brief career downturn, he started streaming and YouTubing chess. He then decided that streaming was his main focus and he was no longer mainly a pro chess player. Immediately, he started to comeback, he started winning a lot more and his rating hit new highs. He quickly got back to about #3 ranked in the world or so. Now he is in the next Candidates Tournament for the World Championship for either the 2nd or 3rd time. I've seen him win 60K for first in one tournament, Chess is a real thing. The magic power of giving no F*s took away the pressure to win for Hikaru. I plan to pursue this approach even more aggressively until I run completely out of F*s to give about anything. Also great video, liked and subbed.
I just love these....types of videos. No just spitting out words and instructions but actually showing you results how its like. These videos are more easy and entertaining to watch.
I remember when I discovered dating in my 20s and knowing that my life would be absolutely fucked if I didn’t overcome these hurdles. It’s nice to get a review for myself in my 30s where I may have forgotten some of these lessons. Thanks mark.
bruh that ad was way too good. the transition on "you never have to worry if you're doing the wrong thing" with getting kicked out was *chefs kiss*
Yes. The fear of public humiliation can be worse than the fear of death. “The judge said son what is your alibi. If you were somewhere else, then you won’t have to die. I spoke not a word, but it meant my life. I had been in the arms of my best friend’s wife.”
I did stuff like this back in the day and it felt good for a few hours but was back to zero the next morning. Guess need to keep at it day in day out.
Yes I was also wondering how the girl with the social anxiety from a MM vid from a while ago was doing now, after some time has passed since MM filmed her challenges.
Ever heard of brain plasticity? It's the innate ability of the brain to adapt. Literally, how you think affects how your brain works. This is why you have to keep doing something that benefits your life. By making it a priority, and not settling back, it becomes part of you.