This quote really resonated with me: “Side Note: As a rule, people who are terrified of what others think about them are actually terrified of all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at them.” SO FUCKING TRUE 😳😳😳
I agree. On the lower end of the spectrum people are concerned so they can make adjustments to become better. They care about their reputation and narcissists love us because we give a damn. Learning how to navigate around them has been a satisfying challenge.
As a rule there are no rules and no cookie cutter packages for you to climb your lazy ass into > look some people are bullied and so your little “pattern” doesn’t work in that instance >>>> some people are actually innocent > when people are messing with philosophy they need to ask the questions in the extreme in order to really distill it
@@hami4993 Sooner you start implementing boundaries in your life, sooner you'll be able to free yourself from narcissists and energy draining leaches. Boundaries will teach YOU how to respect yourself too.
A trick my mother taught me in social anxiety was to find the other person in the room who is clearly struggling and make it your goal to make THEM comfortable. You forget all about your own while your mission focused on a good deed.
So true, I feel I am an introvert. A few times in a social gathering, I have found people who are more introvert than I am and spent time with them. By the end of it, they would be happy and I would feel like an extrovert.
Bro - your book saved my life 5 years ago. I was 100% out of life sauce, and someone recommended this book to me and it absolutely changed my trajectory forever. Forever. Thank you So much for sharing this work with all of us, Mark.
I read this when i was 17. It pulled me out of depression, and gave me a direction in how I think and tackle my daily life. Im 24 now and live great and happier than ever. I love my job and surrounded by friends and family that I love.
yash chauhan youre right. I misremembered. I had an bad breakup when I was 17 that put me in a depression for about two years until I started reading this and applying the philosophies . It was around 18-19 years old. I also turned 24 couple months ago.
1- Death is certain 2- don’t overestimate your problems to make it unsolvable 3- you are not the only one on earth who have problems 4- don’t try to avoid the pain of your problems 5- being optimistic all the time is not the answer to all of your problem 6- you are not special in anyway you don’t deserve special treatment 7- don’t blame others on your problems this will not solve any of them 8- any problem in your life you are the one who is responsible for solving it not ignoring it even if you are not the reason of it 9-Don’t give yourself so many choices because no matter how good is your choice you will always think what would happen if you chose any of the other choices 10-stop spending money on thing you don’t need 11- you say that you have experience in so many things while the only thing you have done is scratch the surface of so many things to have experienced you must dig deep in each chance 12- don’t help someone because you feel you have to but because you want to , remember helping is an option not a must 13-remember death is certain so being shy , scared or confused is not necessarily ( sorry for the bad english )
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Me after first 5mins of this video - "Ha what an idiot, i can just watch this and get the book for free" Me at the end of the video- "Damn i need to buy this book"
the more you wanted to be happy, the more lonelier you'll be the more you wanted to be rich, the more poorer you'll be the more you wanted to be sexy, or desirable, the more you'll feel insecure just be satisfied on what you have, learn to accept things that are inevitable and learn how to appreciate the little things. life goes on Update: Hi! I suggest to read his book called, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. If you did already, read it again. after that go back in here and watch the video. you'll definitely get why I said this. Anyway, thank you for the likes.
I am 18 .....my class teacher after seeing my problems gifted me this book. I, a fool because I had exams kept it. To be read after they are over. But now I have a complete different perspective toward my life. I try to implement those learnings of this book. I do vipashna( a meditation technique) and this book is like theory part of it. Completely in shock after reading the reality of this life. I pray for your better health Mark brother. You have changed life of many forever. An evergreen book. Thanks to my Class Teacher (Rohit Yadav). If he would have just dictated the name i would have forgotten it and kept looking at it in my read list but he gifted it to me. So I was more motivated to read it. An extra step to make that action happen by my Sir.
This guy's onto something. It goes against society's obsession with living comfortably, having lots of so called friends, and looking good in the eyes of others.
Bla bla bla just repeating your dogmatic mantras that have been stated millions of times by literally anyone with a half working brain and you people are excited like its the revelation of the century. Perfect example of why you should always make books markerted to stupid people, anything will be news to them.
@@probonobeats1706 care to explain more? i agree most motivational/self help books are just common sense stuff regurgitated a million times over and over again.......but people act like as though its revelations from the gods.oh i read this man's book while driving to blah blah blah and it changed my life!!!!!
"People don't like hearing the idea that every problem in their life - they chose it." I feel personally attacked by this statement, but also... truer words have never been said.
@@Fettclone1 Careful now, there’s a fine line between mental health problems and the problems of situations that you have chosen (but probably haven’t figured out yet, that you chose them), that you ended up in. Mental health problems DO NOT completely apply to that statement.
@@Fettclone1 He explains that with a cancer analogy. You don't choose to have cancer but you choose how you deal with it. Same thing applies to mental health. I think that's short-sighted and not sure if it would actually help anyone with real problems, but that's his logic.
yes dude i chose to be born with disabilities physical and mental, be abused as a child, i chose to be born in a poor country and i chose to not afford to get treatment for this.
@@身赤-w3w @수프치킨 I wonder why you have to take every generalized RUclips comment as a personal offense? I also suffer with shit - chronic backpain due to Bertolotti syndrome, I also have endometriosis and severe debilitating migraines since I was 12, not to mention depression since I was 19. I am not sitting here being offended by his video, rather I am referring to the type of problems he's obviously referring to - generic problems one brings upon one self - money, relationship, other hardships that have resulted as a consequence to previous choices. Try not to be offended by comments where offence is evidently not intended.
I don't think I have ever been more wrong about a book title, ever. Thanks. You've won another customer. Imagine, helping yourself without cleaning up your room. I love it!
The fact that he can summarise every chapter goes to show his clarity of thought and flow and how none of his chapters are filler chapters. Either that or he's really good at bsing. But I buy his bs so alls good.
"If your always worrying about what people think about you. The problem is not what people think about you. The problem is you don't have anything better to worry about." - 2021 Motto
Im 66, you're letting me know how much i learned that i now need to unload to enjoy what time i have left!! Going to bookstore in morning and recommend this to everyone i know. Thank you
Is rare to find authors who summarize their books giving exactly what the readers need to hear. Pls continue writing books , im amazed by ur talent. Greetings from Albania 🇦🇱
I wish there’s more authors who would summarize their own book in this way. I understand it more when it is explained to me tbh. I have a hard time reading and comprehending written words so this is very helpful 😊
I read an article you wrote. It was called “stop trying to change yourself, change your actions”. Really hit home. Brought me here. Thanks for your work.
Regarding chapter 5: One of the things I've learned to do over the last few years is to not be mad about spending time doing things that aren't actively stimulating. I've had to learn to enjoy to take things at a slower pace. To revel in the calmness. Going for a walk or drive, laying in bed lost in thought, those kinds of things. If I stress about the time that I'm "wasting", I'm just going to be unhappy. If I instead realize that there is value in calm, I enjoy that time much more, and come out the other side without all that extra stress. The only person that can choose whether your experiences are positive is you.
I have a hard time doing relaxing things cause i always feel that its not productive. Thank you so much for your comment, its like a light at the end of the tunnel.
Happiness is a state of mine a choice we make. “When I get that job? When I get thin, when I get my life partner, when I’m rich” then I’ll be happy. Doesn’t work like that. Change your thinking full stop..instead of going through your day complaining about all the shit that happens to you, stop those thoughts in their tracks! Manifest your happiness, be present in the moment. Have gratitude for all of that that you have x
in brief : The video is a comprehensive summary of his book, presented by the author himself. 1. **Chapter 1: Don't Try** - Manson starts with Charles Bukowski's story, emphasizing that success can come despite flaws. He introduces the concept of the "backwards law," suggesting that the pursuit of positive experiences is counterproductive, and instead, embracing negative experiences can lead to positive outcomes. 2. **Chapter 2: Happiness is a Problem** - This chapter discusses the Buddhist concept of dukkha (suffering) and the evolutionary usefulness of suffering. Manson argues that negative emotions are signals for action and that happiness is not the sole purpose of life. 3. **Chapter 3: You Are Not Special** - Manson talks about entitlement, using a story about a con man named Jimmy. He explains two forms of entitlement: grandiose narcissism and victim narcissism, and criticizes the culture of exceptionalism fueled by social media. 4. **Chapter 4: The Value of Suffering** - The focus shifts to values, using the story of a Japanese soldier from WWII. Manson discusses good and bad values, emphasizing that good values are reality-based, socially constructive, and immediate and controllable. 5. **Chapter 5: You Are Always Choosing** - This chapter is about responsibility and choice. Manson uses various examples to illustrate that we always have a choice in how we perceive and respond to situations. 6. **Chapter 6: You're Wrong About Everything (But So Am I)** - Manson discusses the importance of uncertainty and open-mindedness. He uses personal stories, including one about a cyber stalker, to show the dangers of extreme certainty. 7. **Chapter 7: Failure is the Way Forward** - Here, Manson argues that failure is a crucial part of success. He introduces the "Do Something Principle," suggesting that action leads to motivation. 8. **Chapter 8: The Importance of Saying No** - This chapter deals with relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. Manson emphasizes the need to say no and manage conflicts for healthy relationships. 9. **Chapter 9: And Then You Die** - The final chapter discusses death and its role in clarifying what matters in life. Manson shares personal stories and reflects on how confronting mortality can bring clarity and meaning to our lives. Manson concludes by tying together the major concepts of the book and encourages viewers to read the book for a deeper understanding. He highlights his use of humor and profanity in his writing style and invites viewers to subscribe to his channel for more life advice.gpt4
I forgot a lot from the book. That's the problem with a lot of self-help books. Unless you actively apply what you learn to your life, it won't be of much help.
I love the chapter 5 anecdote of the marathon--my mind is blown. This reminds me of the Rilke quote: “If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for to the creator there is no poverty and no poor indifferent place.” Thank you for this, now I need to read the book!
I read your book 2 times and I’ve listened to it on audio book 6 times. I was going through a difficult time, with my kinda girlfriend, work, having too many options I couldn’t choose what to do. I drove to the Eclipse Festival in Oregon in 2016 and listened to it 3 times on the way there and 3 times on the way back. That trip changed my life. Your book changed my perspective. Long story short I’m the type of person who’s super prone to depression. I’ve been on anti anxiety meds for years, I’ve tried every single variety of anti depressants since I was 14 years old. The subtle art of not giving a fuck truly got me off medications and I finally learned to accept that Ill always have to eat a shit sand which. But I’m happy now choosing the shit sandwich I want to eat. It was all the therapy I ever needed. Thank you.
get off the tabs, whatever....! enough natural stuff that has no sides, stop listening to pay-as-they-prescribe doctors. Life is a bitch, and life is beautiful, expect both, deal with both humbly.
Well said! I believe that in life we are destined to have as many unpleasant (i.e. painful) experiences as we have pleasant (i.e. pleasurable, happy) ones. So, the more choose to "take" pain (e.g. hit the gym, tackle stressful/difficult projects), the less we will "receive" unwanted pain (e.g. anxiety, depression, chronic pain). On the flipside, the less we indulge in unnecessary pleasure (e.g. sweets, recreational drugs), the less we will suffer unwanted pains (e.g. anxiety, depression, chronic pain). I've recently published a 100% free, evidence-based book called The Sudist Way that dives deeply into these ideas and how to use them in day-to-day life to live life to the fullest and get rid of chronic anxiety, depression, and pain naturally without medication. You can read it for free at sudism.org/the-book-of-sudism/ or major online bookstores. Take care...
Most inspiring comment here! it brought tears to my eyes. If Manson achieved absolutely nothing else in life, his impact on yours is the most inspiring success anyone could wish for. Your life story, your struggles and realisations are truly unique... take your shit sandwich and shake the crap out of it...to _your_ success! ...
@@Sammyli99 yes, there's medication that's bad, or that will have negative effects. but I do want to make the case to you that it is not as black and white as you are saying. before I got my ADHD medication (not amphetamines) I genuinely could not focus on something of my choosing for longer than 5 minutes. that is not an overstatement, I physically could not, no matter how many times I tried. now with the medication I can actually pursue college, I can watch this video without a problem. I can positively say, medication changed my life. now I agree with you, some anxiety, ADHD, depression meds will definitely fuck you up. but if you really need them, they might be your way out.
Instead of torturing myself by watching all of a movie in a movie theater that I paid for...I decided to get up and leave. I made the decision not to struggle watching something that was boring and was awful. I was proud of myself.
I've walked out too, didn't give it much thought just just up and walked like how Marc went to South America, you might remember he says 'just did it' in relation to that. Sometimes we do have to way up the pros and cons of x y z thing but if i want a cup of coffee i'm just gonna get off my rusty dusty and make it no doubt no debate time for action. It may back fire what do i care.
Love the "backwards law". I've been living my life this way (50 adult years) and didn't realize it. Don't sweat the small things, but know that just about everything is a small thing in the grand scheme. Procrastination might mean that the task isn't so important. And live in the present. I'm happy with not over- defining life and death. I watch for opportunities that present themselves.
I like it,.... basically, despite what impression you may get from the title, it's a much more realistic mantra of how you should condition your thinking, so that whatever problems life, or your self-reflection throws at you, you're always ignoring the problems that you shouldn't give a F*ck about, but you're happy to focus on the ones that will make a significant impact on what you truly want in life. You've got yourself another reader.
a friend of mine gifted me your book. It changed my perspective on a lot - especially standards (the metallica/megadeath anecdote)... Your book had a huge impact on me. Thank you!
If that was your quote, damn I needed to read that so thank you and continue remaining positive and strong 💪. If that wasn't your quote, still thanks and I'd like to know who originally said that.
Yeah, totally. Try having your name slandered or being thrown in the can because some vindictive gf makes up a lie about you. Some things are in fact better left undone.
I feel like I've had this negativity leads to positivity mantra my whole life. "set the bar low so you thrive" vs "set the bar high so you fail" concept. People always think I'm some negative nutcase. Finally someone can put that into words and organized concepts. Thank you Mark!
I have a personal solution for when my mind is going nowhere or somewhere it shouldn’t. I tell myself, do something you’ll be proud of once you’re done. It can be anything like washing the dishes I’ve been postponing to do. I end up doing more than that and as a result feeling great
“What am I willing to struggle for?” - this was the question I asked myself last year before diving into the academe and pursue my master’s while I am currently working full time. This helps me a lot to figure out, whether I like the process or I just love the end-result. Here I am, on my second semester, hustlin’, but not complaining coz that’s the struggle I want in my life. Thanks M.Manson for profoundly explaining these principles thru your book! 💙
Someone gave me this book in a hostel in the middle of nowhere in New Zealand and it changed my entire perspective on life. I read it once a year to keep things in perspectives. Great book.
The most deep, interesting, coolest people I’ve met have been in Recovery. They’ve gone through the trenches, have empathy and I think are the most beautiful people. I have 8 years sober from heroine amen. Thank you. Going to buy mad love and ✊
I remember readin your book when I was in a mental hospital a couple years ago when one of the doctors recommended it to me. It actually really helped me through a dark time in my life, thank you for that.
When I get upset, my wife always asks "why are you shouting" and I always reply "I'm shouting because I'm wrong". And then we chill and laugh. Realizing you're wrong and being cool with that is very important.
that made me laugh out loud. I know when I am correctly accused of shouting I recognize that I am wrong for doing so and I try to stop - because I want the other person to be in the wrong, not me. So mine is more a case of I don't want to undermine the point I'm trying to make by changing the focus to how I'm expressing it.
Thank you so much for this summary. I can relate to chapter 3: You’re Not Special. I firmly believe that bad things can and will happen to me the same as any simple human. Though it makes me a bit anxious, it also propels me forward. I had a personal tragedy recently where my baby daughter passed away. For a parent it doesn’t get much more traumatic than having to survive a child’s death. People were wondering why I didn’t seek out support groups and after thinking about it my answer just came to me. A lot of people who’ve suffered like this often dwell on the question “why?” They ask why it happened to them and what they did to deserve this or some variation of that. My thought was more along the lines of why NOT me? There is nothing special about me that would make me or my children immunity to sudden death. It was a lot of pain but I needed to unpack it my way, and I did. I didn’t sugarcoat, I didn’t try to justify it, I didn’t ask why me, I didn’t blame anyone. This happens to thousands of parents a day and I am just one of those unfortunate ones. I figured out a way to move forward with the pain. Now I hug my remaining children tight each day knowing that tomorrow is not promised to any of us no matter how awesome we may be.
What happens when people say Why Me? They dwell on the path of sadness in their lives. They don't build connection with other children and so vice versa. You did the right thing!
My math teacher once told me (which helped SO much throughout my life) was that if you don't know the answer to the question, plug in all the information that you DO know..Game changer!
I enjoyed your book so much Mark. At the age of 51, I wish I’d adopted the philosophies at 18, and wouldn’t have wasted so much of my life with unhealthy values. I now continue to feel liberated and - yes - happier in a good way since reading and re-reading this book. I am of course pointing others in its direction and trying not to get wound up if they don’t read it and choose to stay stuck. That’s their choice. So it’s a huge THANK YOU from me.
Great job👍I’m a cancer survivor. 71 rounds of chemo, 25 days of targeted radiation, 4 surgeries and a near death experience. Being surgically disemboweled was the best part. Colorectal cancer 2nd most deadly of all cancers. Quitting is a fate worse than death. I’ve been mostly bedridden for going on 20 months now. I would recommend your book✌️
We lost our youngest son in a car accident - 12 years ago - he was 22. It continues to be very hard to care about most things and give a fuck about understanding what we lost. Thank you, I've read your book twice ....... searching for some ways to find some peace.
Hello....so sorry to hear this. I have a solution for your problem. Vipashna is a meditation technique. It is taught in a course of 10 days. You'll have to maintain noble silence for 10 days and food and accommodation will be free. In our country, India, there are it's centres in each state. I have not more idea about your country. Try to search it and attend a 10 days course. I am damn sure. You'll be out of it. Be happy. I am from India
00:00 - Introduction 02:40 - Chapter 1. Don't Try 06:46 - Chapter 2. Happiness is a problem 10:58 - Chapter 3. You are not special 15:01 - Chapter 4. The value of suffering 18:15 - Chapter 5. You Are Always Choosing 22:58 - Chapter 6. You Are Wrong About Everything (But So Am I) 27:29 - Chapter 7. Failure Is The Way Forward 30:31 - Chapter 8. The Importance of Saying No 33:37 - Chapter 9. And Then You Die
Great message, especially, for the young people who feel under pressure to become "someone". "If Everyone were extraordinary, then by definition No One would be extraordinary".
Hi, My name is Anh from Vietnam This is the first English-language book I have ever bought in my life to improve my reading skills in English And it turns out to be a great wealth of counter-arguments with advice from self-help books I've read before. I appreciate your thoughts as well as your arguments in this masterpiece that have really change my life. Thanks a million and hope to see your new books!
I printed a quote from your book, "Life is a never-ending upward spiral. And if you think at any point you’re allowed to stop climbing, I’m afraid you’re missing the point. Because the joy is in the climb itself.", in an A4 size paper and posted it on my wall just to remind myself everyday to love the process itself of me becoming an architect someday. It makes me appreciate the PRESENT more. Thank you
My wife read this book a while back and I've seen her going back to this every now and then at night. The title was hilarious but I couldn't muster the energy to read it. Then RUclips randomly puts it on my recommendation list and holy shit, I gotta read the whole book now haha thank you algorithms and thank you Manson 🙏
I bought your book in 2019 thinking it was going to teach me how to stop caring so much, and I was pleasantly surprised to find out there was so much more to it! I’ve applied the ideas and principles ever since. Thank you!
Agreed with everything you said, especially in regards to happiness. Everyone's chasing happiness, no one wants to experience suffering. Suffering is necessary and it adds value to your life. Your goal should be contentment not chasing happiness.
Been suffering till this day but it does keep me in check on how to care about people and show love and be overall a better human being but at times i find my self completely alone but hey we keep trying right
I've found in my 48 years on this planet that my happiest times were moments of pain and/or some sort of discomfort because at that moment there was a chance of either succeeding or failing whether it was striking out with a woman or something physical where I had no choice but to overcome that obstacle. Those were moments where I grew as a man.
bounce that bitch, exactly....and listen to good peeps, key is don't over romanticise the good shit, and constantly playback the bad. Just clip it all in the neutral bin.
You're already published in 45 languages which accounts for all the publishing industry there is, likely a bestseller in 18 of them....but you still wake up, set the lights, and record. Kudos ma man!
everything he says just makes so so so much sense. he told all the major dilemmas i have faced in life. and the downward curve ...my god.... wonderful.love mark manson
My first ever RUclips comment, which means you have touched me a lot, thank you Mark, loved the summary, and getting the book today, there was absolutely nothing I could disagree with, it must have been a hell of a journey to collect all that wisdom.
I’m 25 years old and this is the first book that I ever read in one sitting, I actually couldn’t stop, I’ve also never read or seen any type of “self help” like it, completely bullshit free, straight to the point and humour to add a little ✨spice✨
"what am I willing to struggle for?" That's by the way, is the true meaning of Passion. not something you have "fun" doing. What are you willing to suffer for? That is your passion.
I’m from Brazil. This book was the first book I read, and I liked it so much that I decided to look up the author. That’s when I discovered you had this channel, so I came to see if you had any videos talking about your own book, and here I am. You did a great job. One of your best creations. Feel proud and happy about it. It’s a shame your channel isn’t in Portuguese, haha.
The 9th chapter: Death, really moved me. It literally switched my mindset as soon as I heard it. This is some really powerful stuff. I am grateful for this information. It quite literally changed my perspective on life.
I was once at a BBQ at some friend's house. During the dinner their son dropped a piece of potato on the ground and he started crying over the lost nutrition. I jokingly suggested that I could come back next week and ask him if he still felt grief over the disaster and if he even remembered the incident. The point is that children often care about things that adults find trivial. My thought is that maybe most of the things we as adults care about are still, in the grand scheme of things, just dropped potato. In this day and age there is a real risk that you may end up celebrating your thousand years birthday, and this question "what should I value if I knew that I will die tomorrow?" will not be very relevant. However, it seems to me that the question "If I should live forever, which problems should I then stop caring about?" could be just as profound and liberating as the thought about the possibility of imminent death.
This is one book that i'd keep coming back to, because it throws facts on your face instead of providing impractical solutions. It was a major life changer for me in my teen years. Thanks!
I really liked this book. I listened to it after an especially bad 2 weeks of dealing with my panic disorder (from PTSD). It reminded me to focus on what's important and try not to grip too hard on to life, but go with the flow. Thanks a lot!
when my dad died, I was 25 and it completely caught me off guard. The next few years were a struggle, some of the hardest I've ever had to deal with internally and yet, confronting death or perhaps having death confront me, did completely change my perspective on life and what was actually genuinely important in it. Somehow confronting my own mortality gave me a new appreciation for the simple act of waking up each day, tired as hell, with a job to go to with endless problems to solve (ha!), an appreciation that had never been there before. Really glad you as the author did your own fucking summary, hell yeah man, going to have to pick this up now and add it to the pile of "stuff I definitely totally 100% am going to read at some point".
Mind blown 🤯. I don’t think he realizes it but some of this feels like spiritual advice. I love the idea of acceptance of our current moment and finding value in both our positive and negative experiences. How perceptions or the story we tell creates our experience of our reality and how we are always making choices in life hence co creating reality ❤
I’ve read the book 3 times several years ago. I still struggle with some things but this was a great refresher. I believe this book allows me to see just how important it is to focus on who you will become, versus who you were or have been.
maybe he meant someone with three kids and the 4th one being in labor and only having half of their body out of the womb, in that case it would sound logical ig
Thumbs up for number 5! This is actually the constant factor in suffering people I meet in my job as a social worker within psychiatry. People are sad and mad for feeling completely out of control - but it's mostly them being victimized by themselves. It was also the most important for myself, when I realized it's possible to actually respond to situations consciously and not just react. Problem is, it's very easy to forget...
I don't know if you'll see this comment, but i got this video recommended just when i needed it. Just made me feel better about something thats been haunting me for weeks. Thank you!
Hey Mark, your book is a masterpiece. I've lost count of how many times I've listened to it and still learn from it every time. By the way, the guy who reads your book in the Spanish version in Google play, is a crack, he makes your book more enjoyable. Thanks from Mexico, man.
I hope you read this comment,I never bought the book because I always thought it's a book about not caring about anything but I was so wrong ,now I am excited to read this one.some of the ideas are really good and may help me in the long run .
I had the same insight recently when I faced a nervous breakdown and subsequent insomnia from hell. Fear and avoidance of suffering keeps you in a prison and it’s only through the willingness to accept and experience suffering that we are set free from that fear. I enjoyed the video breakdown of your book.
My God, this was totally a wholesome experience, a flush of different emotions and reality checks, and just to cap it off with that chapter nine - and then you die is truly the realest reality check anyone could ask for. Thank you Mark Manson. You wrote a masterpiece that'll outlive you!
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Some singers leak their songs... This man leaked his whole book. He's built different
he just dont give a f@ck!
it's not considered leaked if it was published over 5 years ago
Lol
the book is a prank. hes trolling us all. its a trick!
@@mikelisteral7863 the only one trolling you is your dad. Went to the grocery store and never came back
This quote really resonated with me:
“Side Note: As a rule, people who are terrified of what others think about them are actually terrified of all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at them.”
SO FUCKING TRUE 😳😳😳
plzzz tell me summ more qoutes :)
I agree. On the lower end of the spectrum people are concerned so they can make adjustments to become better. They care about their reputation and narcissists love us because we give a damn. Learning how to navigate around them has been a satisfying challenge.
Concept of shadow summarized in a nutshell
As a rule there are no rules and no cookie cutter packages for you to climb your lazy ass into > look some people are bullied and so your little “pattern” doesn’t work in that instance >>>> some people are actually innocent > when people are messing with philosophy they need to ask the questions in the extreme in order to really distill it
@@hami4993 Sooner you start implementing boundaries in your life, sooner you'll be able to free yourself from narcissists and energy draining leaches. Boundaries will teach YOU how to respect yourself too.
A trick my mother taught me in social anxiety was to find the other person in the room who is clearly struggling and make it your goal to make THEM comfortable. You forget all about your own while your mission focused on a good deed.
So true, I feel I am an introvert. A few times in a social gathering, I have found people who are more introvert than I am and spent time with them. By the end of it, they would be happy and I would feel like an extrovert.
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Plot twist: or we can say fuck you, I will make you as horrible as how I feel too. Evil deeds sometimes too ;)
I have to admit, that's pretty damn good....
Bro - your book saved my life 5 years ago.
I was 100% out of life sauce, and someone recommended this book to me and it absolutely changed my trajectory forever. Forever.
Thank you So much for sharing this work with all of us, Mark.
That’s so lovely 😊
This books a life saver for real
How did you change yourself from a overthinker? May b you were like me nd even iam struggling to change myself of thinking to be reputed tips plz!
6 years a psychiatrist told me to read this book. In fact he lent me his copy. Thank you sir.
@@ndjubilant8391what did it help u with? Social anxiety?
Not even 20 seconds in
"Well Fuck You"
I like this man already
You like men
@@TheSeanpatrickobrien I'm sure he is
🤣🤣🤣
0:17 lmao
why are you gay?
I read this when i was 17. It pulled me out of depression, and gave me a direction in how I think and tackle my daily life. Im 24 now and live great and happier than ever. I love my job and surrounded by friends and family that I love.
Congrats man, I’m 24 right now and read this back last year.
God bless n stay away from hard drugs.
That's amazing. I'm happy for you :)
yash chauhan youre right. I misremembered. I had an bad breakup when I was 17 that put me in a depression for about two years until I started reading this and applying the philosophies . It was around 18-19 years old. I also turned 24 couple months ago.
someonefromearth ❤️❤️❤️
1- Death is certain
2- don’t overestimate your problems to make it unsolvable
3- you are not the only one on earth who have problems
4- don’t try to avoid the pain of your problems
5- being optimistic all the time is not the answer to all of your problem
6- you are not special in anyway you don’t deserve special treatment
7- don’t blame others on your problems this will not solve any of them
8- any problem in your life you are the one who is responsible for solving it not ignoring it even if you are not the reason of it
9-Don’t give yourself so many choices because no matter how good is your choice you will always think what would happen if you chose any of the other choices
10-stop spending money on thing you don’t need
11- you say that you have experience in so many things while the only thing you have done is scratch the surface of so many things to have experienced you must dig deep in each chance
12- don’t help someone because you feel you have to but because you want to , remember helping is an option not a must
13-remember death is certain so being shy , scared or confused is not necessarily
( sorry for the bad english )
Best summary.
Thank you very much. God bless you.
Great English. We could all understand-that is the point of of communication. Keep improving though but great English! Thank you for the summary.
Thank you, Sir.
Thanks Mo
Thanks
Mark doesn’t realize this, but he's making everyones day better.
Nah he seems confident enough in himself. I’d say he knows 😂😂
@@savoury9970 I’d say he wants to 🤣
At least us Normals.
Lol except Mark here obviously gave enough of a fuck to summarize his book
oh he does, he's well aware of it
He actually sounds nicer than i imagined
True. I thought the summary would be something that's really loud and angry
He dont give a fuck about that .
Im sure he doesnt give a fuck
i dont give a fuck about how he sounds, he is a great guy
I agree, he’s so likeable! Just discovered his youtube channel and binge watching :)
"The problem is not what people think about you, its that you have nothing better to worry about" 🤔 that one got me😁👍
Thanks for the line.
Me too!
Then the problem is solved
Thanks. Good video. I'm never 100% sure I can make money. Never place 100% of your savings in just one type or type of investment
Every investor's dream is to find a strategy that guarantees, if not 100% success, at least 99.99%.
What sets John Joseph apart from other account managers is his ability to comply. His managerial skills are second to none. With profitable weekly signals, one can only be grateful.
Who is this man everyone is talking about? Is there any way to contact him?
I would love to try it. Is it reliable?
Me after first 5mins of this video - "Ha what an idiot, i can just watch this and get the book for free"
Me at the end of the video-
"Damn i need to buy this book"
First time I ended the book, I waited for almost 20 minutes, before I started the audiobook again.....
It is an enjoyable read. Very refreshing addition to the self help world which becomes repetitive and boring.
Haha! It's worth the read, great book!
read it like twice haha
Thank you, because that 1st 5mins was really undermining. Happy you stuck it out, he is the best person to summarize his book 😊💜🙏🏻
the more you wanted to be happy, the more lonelier you'll be
the more you wanted to be rich, the more poorer you'll be
the more you wanted to be sexy, or desirable, the more you'll feel insecure
just be satisfied on what you have, learn to accept things that are inevitable and learn how to appreciate the little things. life goes on
Update:
Hi! I suggest to read his book called, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. If you did already, read it again. after that go back in here and watch the video. you'll definitely get why I said this. Anyway, thank you for the likes.
Nice, in life u don’t fxkin worry about anything in life u have to care about things
@la writerin not true ........its random and uncertain..... And differs for different people.
Bollocks (English for b.s.) Alan Watts was a drunken misery-guts (more English.)
Accept where I am in life? I can’t I want to grow and develop. I’m not comfortable with this even though I love myself
@@Longtack55 How?
This is the kind of book that you need to read every year
Idgaf
Every day
BIG TRUE
every hour
For real i need to keep reminding myself
I am 18 .....my class teacher after seeing my problems gifted me this book. I, a fool because I had exams kept it. To be read after they are over. But now I have a complete different perspective toward my life. I try to implement those learnings of this book.
I do vipashna( a meditation technique) and this book is like theory part of it.
Completely in shock after reading the reality of this life.
I pray for your better health Mark brother. You have changed life of many forever. An evergreen book.
Thanks to my Class Teacher (Rohit Yadav). If he would have just dictated the name i would have forgotten it and kept looking at it in my read list but he gifted it to me. So I was more motivated to read it. An extra step to make that action happen by my Sir.
This guy's onto something. It goes against society's obsession with living comfortably, having lots of so called friends, and looking good in the eyes of others.
IKR!
Pff this mentality has been around for decades nothing new .nope.
@ Agreed, yeah I know but it seems to have escalated in the past few years wouldn't you agree
Bla bla bla just repeating your dogmatic mantras that have been stated millions of times by literally anyone with a half working brain and you people are excited like its the revelation of the century. Perfect example of why you should always make books markerted to stupid people, anything will be news to them.
@@probonobeats1706 care to explain more? i agree most motivational/self help books are just common sense stuff regurgitated a million times over and over again.......but people act like as though its revelations from the gods.oh i read this man's book while driving to blah blah blah and it changed my life!!!!!
"People don't like hearing the idea that every problem in their life - they chose it." I feel personally attacked by this statement, but also... truer words have never been said.
That's one area where I disagree and it's easily refuted. No one chooses ongoing mental health problems.
@@Fettclone1 Careful now, there’s a fine line between mental health problems and the problems of situations that you have chosen (but probably haven’t figured out yet, that you chose them), that you ended up in. Mental health problems DO NOT completely apply to that statement.
@@Fettclone1 He explains that with a cancer analogy. You don't choose to have cancer but you choose how you deal with it. Same thing applies to mental health.
I think that's short-sighted and not sure if it would actually help anyone with real problems, but that's his logic.
yes dude i chose to be born with disabilities physical and mental, be abused as a child, i chose to be born in a poor country and i chose to not afford to get treatment for this.
@@身赤-w3w @수프치킨 I wonder why you have to take every generalized RUclips comment as a personal offense? I also suffer with shit - chronic backpain due to Bertolotti syndrome, I also have endometriosis and severe debilitating migraines since I was 12, not to mention depression since I was 19. I am not sitting here being offended by his video, rather I am referring to the type of problems he's obviously referring to - generic problems one brings upon one self - money, relationship, other hardships that have resulted as a consequence to previous choices. Try not to be offended by comments where offence is evidently not intended.
Chapter 9.....that chapter saved me from depression and I'm genuinely grateful that I got a chance to read this book
Nothing but love brrother. It helped me too
That's honorable, and now I want to read the book
fair play man
why
I don't think I have ever been more wrong about a book title, ever. Thanks. You've won another customer. Imagine, helping yourself without cleaning up your room. I love it!
Fumutts
Dont judge a book by its cover😉
"Action leads to motivation."
This completely changed my life. A million thanks Mark Manson!
+1
The do something principal
Same
People don't believe me when I say this but it's true
@@AndyVandercoy can you please tell me how to implement this idea
The fact that he can summarise every chapter goes to show his clarity of thought and flow and how none of his chapters are filler chapters. Either that or he's really good at bsing. But I buy his bs so alls good.
its not BS if it helps you.
One man's trash can be nother man's treasure...
@@sakuranovaryan9261 That's PROFOUND. Why has this never been said before?
@@debkski6084 it has been said before , in the song Macklemore - thrift shop
A very Calm video on why Existential emptiness creates bad parents ruclips.net/video/vdwR6sVRulk/видео.html
"If your always worrying about what people think about you. The problem is not what people think about you. The problem is you don't have anything better to worry about."
- 2021 Motto
Yes, it's more important what you think of yourself.
love this.
"What others think of me is none of my business". I don't know who coined this phrase, but it could have been me
Fact....
A very Calm video on why Existential emptiness creates bad parents ruclips.net/video/vdwR6sVRulk/видео.html
Im 66, you're letting me know how much i learned that i now need to unload to enjoy what time i have left!! Going to bookstore in morning and recommend this to everyone i know. Thank you
Only a few years left to live. Make the most out of it.
Is rare to find authors who summarize their books giving exactly what the readers need to hear. Pls continue writing books , im amazed by ur talent. Greetings from Albania 🇦🇱
Is country name essential to wrote
@@examtime4887 yes it is
I want to know
@@ujepagaz8495 but why
For research purposes
@@ujepagaz8495 which research , are you from intelligence agency , then I say everyone should not mention their country's name .
I wish there’s more authors who would summarize their own book in this way. I understand it more when it is explained to me tbh. I have a hard time reading and comprehending written words so this is very helpful 😊
You should try the audiobook! Audiobooks help me get through the whole story, but also my reading comprehension isn't the best either
Ryan Holiday does it... I find his stuff really good.
This book has completely changed how I see life. From having a “victim” mindset to becoming fully responsible for it. Thank you Mark Manson.
I love that you're summerising your own book ❤
I wish all authors would do that 😅
I read an article you wrote. It was called “stop trying to change yourself, change your actions”.
Really hit home. Brought me here. Thanks for your work.
where can i read that?
I'm working on Be Still.
Regarding chapter 5: One of the things I've learned to do over the last few years is to not be mad about spending time doing things that aren't actively stimulating. I've had to learn to enjoy to take things at a slower pace. To revel in the calmness. Going for a walk or drive, laying in bed lost in thought, those kinds of things. If I stress about the time that I'm "wasting", I'm just going to be unhappy. If I instead realize that there is value in calm, I enjoy that time much more, and come out the other side without all that extra stress. The only person that can choose whether your experiences are positive is you.
Awesome insite! It’s hard to be still for a lot of us that derive their value or worth but what or how much they “accomplish”!
I have a hard time doing relaxing things cause i always feel that its not productive. Thank you so much for your comment, its like a light at the end of the tunnel.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
'But what is Happiness? Its just the moment before you need more happiness'
Don Draper
Happiness is a state of mine a choice we make. “When I get that job? When I get thin, when I get my life partner, when I’m rich” then I’ll be happy. Doesn’t work like that. Change your thinking full stop..instead of going through your day complaining about all the shit that happens to you, stop those thoughts in their tracks! Manifest your happiness, be present in the moment. Have gratitude for all of that that you have x
happiness is temprorary but meaning is permanent
Who is this Don Draper? An Oracle of Great Wisdom?
@@timpackert2431 Mad Men. Loved that show.
@@timpackert2431 might as well be
in brief : The video is a comprehensive summary of his book, presented by the author himself.
1. **Chapter 1: Don't Try**
- Manson starts with Charles Bukowski's story, emphasizing that success can come despite flaws. He introduces the concept of the "backwards law," suggesting that the pursuit of positive experiences is counterproductive, and instead, embracing negative experiences can lead to positive outcomes.
2. **Chapter 2: Happiness is a Problem**
- This chapter discusses the Buddhist concept of dukkha (suffering) and the evolutionary usefulness of suffering. Manson argues that negative emotions are signals for action and that happiness is not the sole purpose of life.
3. **Chapter 3: You Are Not Special**
- Manson talks about entitlement, using a story about a con man named Jimmy. He explains two forms of entitlement: grandiose narcissism and victim narcissism, and criticizes the culture of exceptionalism fueled by social media.
4. **Chapter 4: The Value of Suffering**
- The focus shifts to values, using the story of a Japanese soldier from WWII. Manson discusses good and bad values, emphasizing that good values are reality-based, socially constructive, and immediate and controllable.
5. **Chapter 5: You Are Always Choosing**
- This chapter is about responsibility and choice. Manson uses various examples to illustrate that we always have a choice in how we perceive and respond to situations.
6. **Chapter 6: You're Wrong About Everything (But So Am I)**
- Manson discusses the importance of uncertainty and open-mindedness. He uses personal stories, including one about a cyber stalker, to show the dangers of extreme certainty.
7. **Chapter 7: Failure is the Way Forward**
- Here, Manson argues that failure is a crucial part of success. He introduces the "Do Something Principle," suggesting that action leads to motivation.
8. **Chapter 8: The Importance of Saying No**
- This chapter deals with relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. Manson emphasizes the need to say no and manage conflicts for healthy relationships.
9. **Chapter 9: And Then You Die**
- The final chapter discusses death and its role in clarifying what matters in life. Manson shares personal stories and reflects on how confronting mortality can bring clarity and meaning to our lives.
Manson concludes by tying together the major concepts of the book and encourages viewers to read the book for a deeper understanding. He highlights his use of humor and profanity in his writing style and invites viewers to subscribe to his channel for more life advice.gpt4
This was the first self help book I read and after this I got into reading habits. Thanks Mark for such an awesome book all the way from NZ
Same bro same!
@@IAmMarkManson What is your advice for old timers who missed the mark?
Same here..
@@IAmMarkManson hey this should be family friendly you will go to jail for saying f word
🙌
“Modern masterpiece” “advice that doesn’t suck”
The self confidence I love it
I aspire to be this proud of my art/work some day
Wanna be less miserable. Read this book. This isn't self help. This is life changing.
Mag kiti life change zali
Kay re donya, kuthe firto
Kya?
I never gave a fuck. Even when I did.
I forgot a lot from the book. That's the problem with a lot of self-help books. Unless you actively apply what you learn to your life, it won't be of much help.
I love the chapter 5 anecdote of the marathon--my mind is blown. This reminds me of the Rilke quote: “If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for to the creator there is no poverty and no poor indifferent place.” Thank you for this, now I need to read the book!
omg i love this quote. Thank you for sharing it.
I read your book 2 times and I’ve listened to it on audio book 6 times. I was going through a difficult time, with my kinda girlfriend, work, having too many options I couldn’t choose what to do. I drove to the Eclipse Festival in Oregon in 2016 and listened to it 3 times on the way there and 3 times on the way back. That trip changed my life. Your book changed my perspective. Long story short I’m the type of person who’s super prone to depression. I’ve been on anti anxiety meds for years, I’ve tried every single variety of anti depressants since I was 14 years old. The subtle art of not giving a fuck truly got me off medications and I finally learned to accept that Ill always have to eat a shit sand which. But I’m happy now choosing the shit sandwich I want to eat. It was all the therapy I ever needed. Thank you.
get off the tabs, whatever....! enough natural stuff that has no sides, stop listening to pay-as-they-prescribe doctors. Life is a bitch, and life is beautiful, expect both, deal with both humbly.
This was so well said, & truly inspiring
Well said! I believe that in life we are destined to have as many unpleasant (i.e. painful) experiences as we have pleasant (i.e. pleasurable, happy) ones. So, the more choose to "take" pain (e.g. hit the gym, tackle stressful/difficult projects), the less we will "receive" unwanted pain (e.g. anxiety, depression, chronic pain). On the flipside, the less we indulge in unnecessary pleasure (e.g. sweets, recreational drugs), the less we will suffer unwanted pains (e.g. anxiety, depression, chronic pain). I've recently published a 100% free, evidence-based book called The Sudist Way that dives deeply into these ideas and how to use them in day-to-day life to live life to the fullest and get rid of chronic anxiety, depression, and pain naturally without medication. You can read it for free at sudism.org/the-book-of-sudism/ or major online bookstores. Take care...
Most inspiring comment here! it brought tears to my eyes. If Manson achieved absolutely nothing else in life, his impact on yours is the most inspiring success anyone could wish for.
Your life story, your struggles and realisations are truly unique... take your shit sandwich and shake the crap out of it...to _your_ success! ...
@@Sammyli99 yes, there's medication that's bad, or that will have negative effects. but I do want to make the case to you that it is not as black and white as you are saying. before I got my ADHD medication (not amphetamines) I genuinely could not focus on something of my choosing for longer than 5 minutes. that is not an overstatement, I physically could not, no matter how many times I tried. now with the medication I can actually pursue college, I can watch this video without a problem. I can positively say, medication changed my life. now I agree with you, some anxiety, ADHD, depression meds will definitely fuck you up. but if you really need them, they might be your way out.
Instead of torturing myself by watching all of a movie in a movie theater that I paid for...I decided to get up and leave. I made the decision not to struggle watching something that was boring and was awful. I was proud of myself.
As u should! U can be really proud of yourself ✨
people find ridiculous things to be proud of
You should have watched dude
I've walked out too, didn't give it much thought just just up and walked like how Marc went to South America, you might remember he says 'just did it' in relation to that. Sometimes we do have to way up the pros and cons of x y z thing but if i want a cup of coffee i'm just gonna get off my rusty dusty and make it no doubt no debate time for action. It may back fire what do i care.
Cool, you should be!
Love the "backwards law". I've been living my life this way (50 adult years) and didn't realize it. Don't sweat the small things, but know that just about everything is a small thing in the grand scheme. Procrastination might mean that the task isn't so important. And live in the present. I'm happy with not over- defining life and death. I watch for opportunities that present themselves.
I like it,.... basically, despite what impression you may get from the title, it's a much more realistic mantra of how you should condition your thinking, so that whatever problems life, or your self-reflection throws at you, you're always ignoring the problems that you shouldn't give a F*ck about, but you're happy to focus on the ones that will make a significant impact on what you truly want in life. You've got yourself another reader.
a friend of mine gifted me your book. It changed my perspective on a lot - especially standards (the metallica/megadeath anecdote)... Your book had a huge impact on me. Thank you!
..as a Good friend of YOU - Please give ME now this wonderful Book! I don´t give a F****buying it. Lesson learned - from you! Great!
@Stephen Kim NOW I am!
Did it actually help you though?
Metallica and Megadeth anecdote?! Everything I hear about this book increases my interest in it.
Yeah! I still have 30 pages left to finish reading it
"Regret for things we have done can be tempered by time,
Regret for things we did not do is inconsolable"
If that was your quote, damn I needed to read that so thank you and continue remaining positive and strong 💪. If that wasn't your quote, still thanks and I'd like to know who originally said that.
Yeah, totally.
Try having your name slandered or being thrown in the can because some vindictive gf makes up a lie about you. Some things are in fact better left undone.
@@e.a.jeanson2772
I'm sorry I forget who said it, it was taped to my fridge for years ✌️
failing to do something is doing something.
@@CrakenFlux Holy Sh!t. I never knew my life could be summed up so concisely.
More authors should do summaries like this about their books! This was amazing dude and I do wanna check out the book now, sicc content keep it up.
Read the book already might reread and you’re they should it would be smart for the viewer and for general content
I feel like I've had this negativity leads to positivity mantra my whole life. "set the bar low so you thrive" vs "set the bar high so you fail" concept.
People always think I'm some negative nutcase.
Finally someone can put that into words and organized concepts.
Thank you Mark!
🙏🏾
Maybe you are a nutcase evans. Jk jk😂😂
Have a great day!!!
I have a personal solution for when my mind is going nowhere or somewhere it shouldn’t. I tell myself, do something you’ll be proud of once you’re done. It can be anything like washing the dishes I’ve been postponing to do. I end up doing more than that and as a result feeling great
“What am I willing to struggle for?”
- this was the question I asked myself last year before diving into the academe and pursue my master’s while I am currently working full time. This helps me a lot to figure out, whether I like the process or I just love the end-result. Here I am, on my second semester, hustlin’, but not complaining coz that’s the struggle I want in my life. Thanks M.Manson for profoundly explaining these principles thru your book! 💙
I had a similar experience but with undergrad. Full time work, full time schooling, and no stability. That question changed my view on everything.
Nothing.
Someone gave me this book in a hostel in the middle of nowhere in New Zealand and it changed my entire perspective on life. I read it once a year to keep things in perspectives. Great book.
well, idgf
I do hope you enjoyed our gorgeous country, French...or are you living here in NZ :o)
There’s a guy from NZ in this comment thread, I wonder if it was him.
The most deep, interesting, coolest people I’ve met have been in Recovery. They’ve gone through the trenches, have empathy and I think are the most beautiful people. I have 8 years sober from heroine amen. Thank you. Going to buy mad love and ✊
They have got the best stories
I remember readin your book when I was in a mental hospital a couple years ago when one of the doctors recommended it to me. It actually really helped me through a dark time in my life, thank you for that.
hope you got better !
Kudos for the user name :)
@@ropy89 Thank you! yes doing much better!
When I get upset, my wife always asks "why are you shouting" and I always reply "I'm shouting because I'm wrong". And then we chill and laugh. Realizing you're wrong and being cool with that is very important.
Damn it's so fucking true
God if only more people thought like that!! I’m definitely working on it!
that made me laugh out loud. I know when I am correctly accused of shouting I recognize that I am wrong for doing so and I try to stop - because I want the other person to be in the wrong, not me. So mine is more a case of I don't want to undermine the point I'm trying to make by changing the focus to how I'm expressing it.
this is beautiful, lol
Who is harder on you than YOU? No one
Thank you so much for this summary. I can relate to chapter 3: You’re Not Special. I firmly believe that bad things can and will happen to me the same as any simple human. Though it makes me a bit anxious, it also propels me forward.
I had a personal tragedy recently where my baby daughter passed away. For a parent it doesn’t get much more traumatic than having to survive a child’s death. People were wondering why I didn’t seek out support groups and after thinking about it my answer just came to me. A lot of people who’ve suffered like this often dwell on the question “why?” They ask why it happened to them and what they did to deserve this or some variation of that. My thought was more along the lines of why NOT me? There is nothing special about me that would make me or my children immunity to sudden death. It was a lot of pain but I needed to unpack it my way, and I did. I didn’t sugarcoat, I didn’t try to justify it, I didn’t ask why me, I didn’t blame anyone. This happens to thousands of parents a day and I am just one of those unfortunate ones. I figured out a way to move forward with the pain. Now I hug my remaining children tight each day knowing that tomorrow is not promised to any of us no matter how awesome we may be.
Underrated comment
What happens when people say Why Me? They dwell on the path of sadness in their lives. They don't build connection with other children and so vice versa. You did the right thing!
Wow, thank you for sharing this approach 🌟. Totally resonated with your perspective.
"Why not me" that made me think a lot. Thank you for sharing your experience and I am sorry for your loss.
As ax lzazazalaza sax zazlpzzz🙂🌞
Man this author is so relatable about the things we face in life and gives the most basic simple solutions to it.
My math teacher once told me (which helped SO much throughout my life) was that if you don't know the answer to the question, plug in all the information that you DO know..Game changer!
“It drops a lot of F bombs, a lot of people like that, some people don’t. “
You missed a great opportunity to say, “Who gives a fuck”
The student becomes the master
lol na that would’ve been lame
I watched that part twice to make sure
Swearing was not uncommon in days of yore. Somebody or some collective group decided how we should express ourselves.
@@glennoc8585 most likely the church
What i love about him is that he looks and sounds exactly as i expected when i read his book.
When I got my new Volvo 20 years ago, it made me happy. It solved my problem of feeling safe in my car. The problem was solved instantly.
"Happiness comes from solving the problems in your Life. "- Mark Manson
❤
I enjoyed your book so much Mark. At the age of 51, I wish I’d adopted the philosophies at 18, and wouldn’t have wasted so much of my life with unhealthy values. I now continue to feel liberated and - yes - happier in a good way since reading and re-reading this book. I am of course pointing others in its direction and trying not to get wound up if they don’t read it and choose to stay stuck. That’s their choice. So it’s a huge THANK YOU from me.
Great job👍I’m a cancer survivor. 71 rounds of chemo, 25 days of targeted radiation, 4 surgeries and a near death experience. Being surgically disemboweled was the best part. Colorectal cancer 2nd most deadly of all cancers. Quitting is a fate worse than death. I’ve been mostly bedridden for going on 20 months now. I would recommend your book✌️
Omg ... Thankyou .. n more strength to u. I'm working on colorectal cancer so... Cn relate
Good luck to both of you!
Bless you bro. 🙏🏽
God do a miracle in his life! God bless you with many more years, Bill.
Prayers. Update
We lost our youngest son in a car accident - 12 years ago - he was 22. It continues to be very hard to care about most things and give a fuck about understanding what we lost.
Thank you, I've read your book twice ....... searching for some ways to find some peace.
I'm so sorry to hear that 😢
I'm sorry for your loss.
Hello....so sorry to hear this.
I have a solution for your problem. Vipashna is a meditation technique. It is taught in a course of 10 days. You'll have to maintain noble silence for 10 days and food and accommodation will be free. In our country, India, there are it's centres in each state. I have not more idea about your country. Try to search it and attend a 10 days course. I am damn sure. You'll be out of it.
Be happy.
I am from India
🙏🙏
00:00 - Introduction
02:40 - Chapter 1. Don't Try
06:46 - Chapter 2. Happiness is a problem
10:58 - Chapter 3. You are not special
15:01 - Chapter 4. The value of suffering
18:15 - Chapter 5. You Are Always Choosing
22:58 - Chapter 6. You Are Wrong About Everything (But So Am I)
27:29 - Chapter 7. Failure Is The Way Forward
30:31 - Chapter 8. The Importance of Saying No
33:37 - Chapter 9. And Then You Die
I really don't give a fuck, but hey thanks
Thank You
Thank you ..I appreciate this.
I hate timestamp people
@@TheSeanpatrickobrien Truth, it wasn't necessary
I’m an artist - if “stuck” I ask someone to come into my studio, define the problem to them and without fail the answer presents itself. Always!!
I m a Buddhist monk. I was amazed you writing about Buddha like story as a living life lesson.
I’m a Buddhist. I read it and felt I was already living this way.
@@mikef2813 was the read still worthwhile to you?
@@jasonlieberman4606 yes, it didn’t serve the same purpose for me that it might for non Buddhists, but it’s a worthy reminder.
Every sentence he says, feels like a quote to be put on the wall and see daily. I'm amazed by how much wisdom he carries.
“Your actions actually don’t matter that much in the grand scheme of things…“ A bestselling author summarizing his book in a viral video.
I'm sure it comes as a great shock to those who somehow think that they are the center of the universe.
Bestselling author in the English-speaking Western world, which is not that great a number. Like Einstein said, 'everything is relative.'
Serendipity!
Ironic.
Great message, especially, for the young people who feel under pressure to become "someone". "If Everyone were extraordinary, then by definition No One would be extraordinary".
No one is extraordinary, some are just more than others
@@brightstar78 making a person stand out... more, or less, than somebody else.
Hi, My name is Anh from Vietnam
This is the first English-language book I have ever bought in my life to improve my reading skills in English
And it turns out to be a great wealth of counter-arguments with advice from self-help books I've read before.
I appreciate your thoughts as well as your arguments in this masterpiece that have really change my life.
Thanks a million and hope to see your new books!
Well done.
I printed a quote from your book, "Life is a never-ending upward spiral. And if you think at any point you’re allowed to stop climbing, I’m afraid you’re missing the point. Because the joy is in the climb itself.", in an A4 size paper and posted it on my wall just to remind myself everyday to love the process itself of me becoming an architect someday. It makes me appreciate the PRESENT more. Thank you
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My wife read this book a while back and I've seen her going back to this every now and then at night. The title was hilarious but I couldn't muster the energy to read it. Then RUclips randomly puts it on my recommendation list and holy shit, I gotta read the whole book now haha thank you algorithms and thank you Manson 🙏
"If there's gonna be a summary of the book, it should come from the MASTER" AMEN!! 😂🙌🙌
As we should know,never outshine the master. Especially the master of not giving a fuck lol.
Ur stupid
@@deuceswild6350 ur stupid too
I bought your book in 2019 thinking it was going to teach me how to stop caring so much, and I was pleasantly surprised to find out there was so much more to it! I’ve applied the ideas and principles ever since. Thank you!
Agreed with everything you said, especially in regards to happiness. Everyone's chasing happiness, no one wants to experience suffering. Suffering is necessary and it adds value to your life. Your goal should be contentment not chasing happiness.
Been suffering till this day but it does keep me in check on how to care about people and show love and be overall a better human being but at times i find my self completely alone but hey we keep trying right
@@michaelperez265 Yea, we keep going. 💯💪
I've found in my 48 years on this planet that my happiest times were moments of pain and/or some sort of discomfort because at that moment there was a chance of either succeeding or failing whether it was striking out with a woman or something physical where I had no choice but to overcome that obstacle. Those were moments where I grew as a man.
bounce that bitch, exactly....and listen to good peeps, key is don't over romanticise the good shit, and constantly playback the bad. Just clip it all in the neutral bin.
You're already published in 45 languages which accounts for all the publishing industry there is, likely a bestseller in 18 of them....but you still wake up, set the lights, and record.
Kudos ma man!
Absolutely
everything he says just makes so so so much sense. he told all the major dilemmas i have faced in life. and the downward curve ...my god.... wonderful.love mark manson
If you want to stay reasonably safe, stop falling for guys like this.
My first ever RUclips comment, which means you have touched me a lot, thank you Mark, loved the summary, and getting the book today, there was absolutely nothing I could disagree with, it must have been a hell of a journey to collect all that wisdom.
I’m 25 years old and this is the first book that I ever read in one sitting, I actually couldn’t stop, I’ve also never read or seen any type of “self help” like it, completely bullshit free, straight to the point and humour to add a little ✨spice✨
omg same here, 25 and first book that i actually treasure and read regularly :D
I love finding books that engage you and align with your life so much at the time that reading them becomes an addiction!
@@PolntBlank LOVE THE USERNAME :D
this is actually scary...we have 500 million 20 somethings, who's longest read is a donald trump tweet. (small caps for a big head re DT)
@@SeptemberSkyHD dank je vel! September is my month...
"what am I willing to struggle for?" That's by the way, is the true meaning of Passion. not something you have "fun" doing. What are you willing to suffer for? That is your passion.
I’m from Brazil. This book was the first book I read, and I liked it so much that I decided to look up the author. That’s when I discovered you had this channel, so I came to see if you had any videos talking about your own book, and here I am. You did a great job. One of your best creations. Feel proud and happy about it. It’s a shame your channel isn’t in Portuguese, haha.
The 9th chapter: Death, really moved me. It literally switched my mindset as soon as I heard it. This is some really powerful stuff. I am grateful for this information. It quite literally changed my perspective on life.
I was once at a BBQ at some friend's house. During the dinner their son dropped a piece of potato on the ground and he started crying over the lost nutrition. I jokingly suggested that I could come back next week and ask him if he still felt grief over the disaster and if he even remembered the incident. The point is that children often care about things that adults find trivial. My thought is that maybe most of the things we as adults care about are still, in the grand scheme of things, just dropped potato. In this day and age there is a real risk that you may end up celebrating your thousand years birthday, and this question "what should I value if I knew that I will die tomorrow?" will not be very relevant. However, it seems to me that the question "If I should live forever, which problems should I then stop caring about?" could be just as profound and liberating as the thought about the possibility of imminent death.
I hust shared this comment with a person who I think may need it. 🤞🤞
your comment is severely underrated
@Chris Nunyabeezwax Are you okay?
@Chris Nunyabeezwax lol take a chill pill 💊
@Chris Nunyabeezwax I would read anything you wrote you adorable, cynical, WRITER.
Someone: "Everyone is special"
Mark Manson: "nobody is special"
My wife got me this book and then she took it from me without giving a f*** about it... It's a great read.
Then you grand slammed your neighbor into next week and didn't give a f***. She still can't walk straight and you're the legend on the block.
Good one🤣
This is one book that i'd keep coming back to, because it throws facts on your face instead of providing impractical solutions. It was a major life changer for me in my teen years. Thanks!
I really liked this book. I listened to it after an especially bad 2 weeks of dealing with my panic disorder (from PTSD). It reminded me to focus on what's important and try not to grip too hard on to life, but go with the flow. Thanks a lot!
when my dad died, I was 25 and it completely caught me off guard. The next few years were a struggle, some of the hardest I've ever had to deal with internally and yet, confronting death or perhaps having death confront me, did completely change my perspective on life and what was actually genuinely important in it. Somehow confronting my own mortality gave me a new appreciation for the simple act of waking up each day, tired as hell, with a job to go to with endless problems to solve (ha!), an appreciation that had never been there before.
Really glad you as the author did your own fucking summary, hell yeah man, going to have to pick this up now and add it to the pile of "stuff I definitely totally 100% am going to read at some point".
Your book is genuinely life-changing. It's radical, refreshing, and generous of you to spend the time sharing these life lessons with the world.
Marcus Aurelius better
@@hisukahasuka9468Subjective.
@@hisukahasuka9468 Wasn't he the one who said, "Everything is an opinion, not a fact"?
don't worry , he's also generously getting paid for generously spending the time sharing his life experiences with us
Mind blown 🤯. I don’t think he realizes it but some of this feels like spiritual advice. I love the idea of acceptance of our current moment and finding value in both our positive and negative experiences. How perceptions or the story we tell creates our experience of our reality and how we are always making choices in life hence co creating reality ❤
It still boils down to the fact fact that life is more spiritual than physical.
I remember when I read this book during summer 2019 I was in a bad place mentally and it literally shook me ! Thanks a lot Mark.
we get to decide what success is #lobsterlabmedia
I loved your book so much Mark that I bought 10 of them and gave them to my children and grandchildren. The very highest and best to us all.
I’ve read the book 3 times several years ago. I still struggle with some things but this was a great refresher. I believe this book allows me to see just how important it is to focus on who you will become, versus who you were or have been.
“Three and a half kids”
Ok. I like the author a lot already.
maybe he meant someone with three kids and the 4th one being in labor and only having half of their body out of the womb, in that case it would sound logical ig
for using the forty year old cliches? OK... you do you....
@@baby-fb9rr or one of them doesn't have legs
haha he means a national average of kids people want. Sometimes average number come out with decimals
@@themudpit621 Another SNARKY comment- how PROFOUND.
This book and can’t hurt me by David Goggin really have changed my life.
Just read Can't Hurt Me. I agree it was awesome!
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Thumbs up for number 5!
This is actually the constant factor in suffering people I meet in my job as a social worker within psychiatry. People are sad and mad for feeling completely out of control - but it's mostly them being victimized by themselves.
It was also the most important for myself, when I realized it's possible to actually respond to situations consciously and not just react. Problem is, it's very easy to forget...
I don't know if you'll see this comment, but i got this video recommended just when i needed it. Just made me feel better about something thats been haunting me for weeks. Thank you!
Read the book it's even better
I’m happy for you
Hey Mark, your book is a masterpiece. I've lost count of how many times I've listened to it and still learn from it every time. By the way, the guy who reads your book in the Spanish version in Google play, is a crack, he makes your book more enjoyable. Thanks from Mexico, man.
I was just thinking that I HAVE TO read this book. Now I'm going to do it AND learn Spanish!
You have lowered your standards for masterpiece
@@g-loveuniversity9066 was thinking the same
Abraham, can you shared the app, I wanna listen the book in Spanish too
@@gisselfrancoreynoso3805 Hola Gissel, es la app de Google Play Books, lo encuentras en español. Vale como 10dls, pero vale la pena comprarlo.
This was one of the nicest books I read in the last times. The point of "Finding a problem you like" was really an eye opener.
I hope you read this comment,I never bought the book because I always thought it's a book about not caring about anything but I was so wrong ,now I am excited to read this one.some of the ideas are really good and may help me in the long run .
This should be required reading for all high school students.
middle school
I can imagine the pearl clutching over the F-bombs
@@Kate98755 elementary school.
@@LunaGer yea when in reality they already know the F bomb....
@@Redditor6079 agree, even better, i basically taught this type of theory to my kids
I had the same insight recently when I faced a nervous breakdown and subsequent insomnia from hell. Fear and avoidance of suffering keeps you in a prison and it’s only through the willingness to accept and experience suffering that we are set free from that fear. I enjoyed the video breakdown of your book.
My God, this was totally a wholesome experience, a flush of different emotions and reality checks, and just to cap it off with that chapter nine - and then you die is truly the realest reality check anyone could ask for.
Thank you Mark Manson. You wrote a masterpiece that'll outlive you!