Heart-Breaking 💔 Sabbatical Story I've Never Shared Before
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- Heart-Breaking 💔 Sabbatical Story I've Never Shared Before
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I came home and ordered luxury bedding for my personal bed room. Shopped from the Ritz/ Carlton line.
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Mama Perry, sending you so much love and so many blessings ❤
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Love it 👏
Mrs. Connie, you deserve every luxury there is! Stephanie doesn't like for anyone else to call you mom but I think you are actually a Grandmother to all the women Stephanie has set free. So buy the best!!!!
Well, my mom died last February 2024. I am 75 and living in Mexico. I told my girls,”no funeral no casket.” I am continuing to do what my mom never would do, TRAVEL AND ENJOY LIFE MORE!!!
I am in my 30’s with insurance policies and I always tell my family spend the least amount of money use money for a house down payment ,clear debt and investing
7:13 😢 YOUR MOM IS RIGHT!!!
I looked at my mom in her casket I was 7 and she was 32.
I kept wondering why did they make her so pretty now?
She was in a ball gown and makeup...but dead. The only time Id ever seen her that dressed up was when she pinched pennies to take me and my cousin to see the Nutcracker Ballet. The second was when she laid lifeless.
That left an imprint on me forever.
I dress up now. I spend now. I live now.
You don't know how much time you get...
This breaks my heart, MiaSymone. I love that you're living now and not putting off the good. 💗
Your story broke my heart.😔 I’m sorry. Unlike your mom, my mother loved to dress up, especially for church. She lived to be 85 years old and had a good life after her mid 20’s. She told me that living is not a dress rehearsal. This is the only life you get. So, enjoy each day the best that you can, doing the things that YOU want to do or don’t mind doing. Be careful not to be guilted, manipulated, or bullied into doing things for others that you really don’t want to do. I wish for you the best life that you can have.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story. Such a powerful reminder for me as a mom. Was contemplating skipping some responsibilities and taking my little girl on a movie date. This confirmed it. Want to make as many memories with her as possible.
Much Love to you -Sis-Star 💫🌟✨
I have tears in my eyes! I can only imagine the heartbreak 💔 of losing your mom at age 7 . I hope you had family that stepped up and help raise you.
If a casket is the nicest thing a woman ever has it sounds like she spent all of her years existing for others.
Boom 💥
"Money is renewable. Time is not." I always get a word Stephanie. 💎 Jewels 💎 we're dropped
On a gap year break now. My mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health was more shattered than a bag of chips at the bottom of a grocery bag. I was constantly pouring from an empty bucket at a very high level for years and years and did it for so long I thought it was normal 😢 Now Therapy, sleeping, taking walks, therapy, prayer, prayer, and more prayer. All the R’s - recovering, reconnecting, refreshing, reevaluating , retail therapy, restoring, restarting, reimagining my life,rebuilding me, restaurant- ing, relaxing, reducing stress, reshaping , relearning and releasing all that does not serve me or contribute to my rebirth . Long road to go but being on Sabbatical is the only way I could start healing
Me tooo right there with you
This is so true Stephanie. I am seriously exhausted mentally and physically with my job. I slept so hard last night that I missed 17 calls and my daughter knocking at the door for almost an hour or so. My job is seriously stressing me out, along with paying bills girl. I will find a way out of this rat race. Cuz a sista is ready to relax, release, and enjoy more pleasure and satisfaction. This message hit me like a sack of bricks. ❤❤
I am with you sister. From childhood, I always wanted to travel and write. Never could do it early in my life because as a divorced woman I raised my daughter alone with no extra help. (You know how that goes). I am now 82 years old and went with my then spouse in 2022 to Tanzania. Truthfully, I did not enjoy myself on that trip, so after a breakup, 10 months later, I treated myself to Tanzania and Zanzibar and went alone. Sister, I had a wonderful time. I met locals during my first trip and met with them again in 2023 . I had used a travel agent who made my trip very easy. Every day, I think of my wonderful trip. You are correct that our sisters MUST live their lives
Wow Kudos to you for taking the second trip and enjoying yourself. You proved that it's never to late to live your dreams. ❤ Curious...did you travel alone or with a group the 2nd time?
Can you refer that travel agency? I'd like to do the same but not sure who to trust
You traveling in your 80's is such an inspiration!!!!
Thank you Stephanie! I'm spending my kid 's inheritance money now. I retired, sold everything and I'm now living in Eastern Europe. I have two insurance policies, one to take care of my burial snd the 2nd one for my family to party or take a trip in honor.🎉🎉🎉
Don’t spend all of your money and leave some to your kids so every generation is not starting from scratch ..
I can say, My MOM TRAVELED AND ENJOYED HER MONEY! I'M SOO PROUD OF HER❤. THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I'M GOING TO DO FOR MYSELF!! I.E, I THINK HER FUNERAL WAS THE LESS AMOUNT SHE SPENT ON HERSELF❤❤
Thank you for this message. My mother died in 2020 and her death and my nephew death, which happened about six weeks after my mother inspired me to get off the can quit my job and start living the life that I wanted to live. And I’m always grateful to you and your channel because it was the blueprint for how to do what I wanted. Life is for living. It’s not for living later. It’s for living now. if you want to travel do it. Stop waiting for other people stop waiting for somebody to give you permission money comes and goes but TIME does not! get out there and live your life. Now Let me get back to my yacht cruise.🙂
I buried my mom a few years ago at 80, and it was like a light bulb for me. I kept hearing "this is not living." So, I took a chance and left the only home I knew. Unfortunately, I left during a universal upheaval which resulted in me and my daughter living in our car (homelessness).
While its been a trying journey of survival I still strive to live. I just recorded yesterday and said "I want to write my lifes tale not its ending".
Thank you for sharing this reminder to keep going ❤
BTW we are in our first housesit and have another one lined up. Slow climb but we're flowing as best we can.
I always celebrate my birthday MONTH. Not birthday. Celebrate entire MONTH. Plus my mom has gone home 12years ago. She planned her will, etc. & and told me Don't waste any money, insurance money or whatever on her funeral. Save your money. Cremation was her request. We had memorial celebration. She said my body / I'm not gonna feel anything anyway. And BE HAPPY. ❤
❤ I do the same, I’m traveling the world now.
Wow! Yo Mama Deep Girl ... My mom told me something similar too, before she died. From now on, the "Month of Monica" is the new January!
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I’m not having a casket and my whole life policy just expired. They ought to call it what it is: death insurance. Glad I borrowed from the cash value. At least I hit something out of it ALIVE. So🤷🏽♀️ I’m still going to live abroad in my last decade because I’m not promised a day. If I die planning to move abroad, I’ll be content. Putting things in place right now. Love you Miz Stephanie.
Interesting topic. I've also been traveling a lot (international & domestic) since I retired 6 years ago.
My Dad use to say: when it's my time, "Don't put all that money in the ground". So, we buried him in a modest casket and free burial in the military cemetery (as part of his benefits as a veteran). I've updated his wishes for me: 1) modest casket/service 2) buried in the military cemetery (I'm a vet too) and 3) most important: give as much of my children's inheritance to them NOW before I die. Thanks Stephanie for this topic!
I'm retiring in 25 months!!!! at 59 I will be where I want to be when I want to be there. So excited
Sorry I missed the live, was watching Chrishan live, but I am working on making myself a priority. I spoke to the retirement rep at my job and I gave them a date of 12/31/2024. The teacher's pension won't be much, but combined with collecting social security early, I could live comfortably in several countries outside the US 🤔
Oh good, Winnie B! I'm excited for your retirement! 💗
Wow! That statement is sobering, and unfortunately true for way too many Black women. 😢 My philosophy is that we should LIVE MORE, not less as we age. Use up all we have. 😊thank you Stephanie and Mrs Perry for this powerful word. ❤
ooooh "take the plastic off your life" here for it!!!!
Absolutely true. Thank you for sharing this. I finally started the journey to reclaiming my life back after 3 years of watching this channel. Two weeks ago I moved to a new city where I intend on establishing a home-base, having access to the outdoor lifestyle I love and saving money for international travel.. Within days of arriving I asked myself why I took so long to finally choose myself..
So true! When my dad passed away, it made me think about my dash. When we look at an obituary we see a birthdate and an end date, but what about the dash? We need to make sure that our dash (our life) is meaningful.
I literally just got back from the Hawaii (the Big Island) with my mom (it was her Mother's Day gift). This was one of the best trips we've ever taken. It reminded me how important it is to invest in yourself and practice self-care.
This is wonderful my mom’s most expensive item was her bed and funeral. So glad I went to France in 2018 and Senegal in 2020 it refreshed my life. My friend who invited me on both trips, died of Cancer in 2022, gone way too soon. I did not know he was ill. He always encouraged me to live and enjoy life. This story reminds me that I need to keep traveling and experiencing life like I did in my twenties.❤❤
I'm a hospital chaplain. Shout out to your mom for 20+ years of service. She certainly deserves all the nice things.
Something that I want to do for myself is travel outside the US. I’ve never been outside of the US. I’ve never had the money to do it. I have struggled all my life raise two children by myself so I’m hoping over the next couple years I can get me a passport, and go to one place like Costa Rica maybe Canada and a few others
We only have the present moment! ⏰ Stephanie, I started traveling after I subscribed to your channel I went to Greece 🇬🇷 and Istanbul 🇹🇷 . Had a nice 10 days vacation.
This video is right on time, Stephanie. I arrived at work this morning and signed into my computer. Before I could get settled in…i was given the news that one of my coworkers passed away last night. She (and her husband) had been with the company since the 80’s. She was well loved and one of the sweetest people you could know.
I remember when we were having a team meeting…she stated that she was looking forward to retirement. She had grandchildren that she adored. So I know she was looking forward to spending more time with them.
We do not know when our time to leave this earth is going to come. Don’t wait until retirement if you don’t absolutely have to. There is a way to take that sabbatical, move abroad, or become a digital nomad. Stephanie is not just blowing hot air…she did it and we can do it too. You will learn so much about your self. We have the opportunity to create a whole new life if we want to.
Don’t wait to have that something nice when you can’t even experience it. ♥️
I'm sorry for your loss Tisha. And thank you for your encouraging words. 💗
This ‼️
Than you and you’re welcome.
So true. Not me, I’m dying with zero.
You don't owe anybody ANYTHING to fight over.
I'm about to retire from a very stressful job. I want to travel when I retire. I'm so afraid to travel alone. I'm looking for singles travel groups.
Why wait for retirement ? That’s such a conditional and programmed time frame,especially in North America,USA. Dreams,aspirations,something maybe not in the norm of the culture or norms of your people closest to you or the mentality of custom of a life lived in repetitiveness. Do trips or goals of a lifetime now,in increments,small,large or in between, otherwise you’re perpetuating norms with constraints
I’m solo traveling right now. I never thought I would do it but I’ve been in Europe since March and solo travel has been a wonderful revelation for me-I love it. It’s me and God and we are both great company. Don’t let fear be bigger than your faith. Get out there while you have the time, money and health.
Retire now! This is your sign :)
I've only taken 1 trip alone and I loved it! I'm an introvert too so being alone does not bother me. Why don't you take a simple trip to a nearby city and just book a nice hotel? Life is too short to wait around for people.
You’re not any safer traveling with other people than you are traveling by yourself. If you wanna travel, go do it and stop waiting for other people.
Watching the replay. Awesome nugget. I have the time and the money (retired early and invested wisely). I must now take some time to lavish on myself. Thanks for the gentle reminder to treat myself.
You're welcome Cheryl. Treat yourself. 💗
Wow, very powerful message! I was feeling a little guilty about some upcoming trips I planned just for myself. This was the confirmation I needed to GO and enjoy! ☺️
I love that - “the month of Connie.” How beautiful to intentionally celebrate yourSELF and spend money on your joy for a full month.
That's a deep point that the most money you will spend on yourself is your casket.
My sister was a hospital chaplain too for a few years and she said sitting in silence was the best gift to give people.
Thanks for all of your words of inspiration and helping other Black women to travel affordably.
Wow 😭 just buried my mom in March.. she saved for a lavish funeral and we did as she wanted but I don’t want that for me. I am retiring in a few months and by the grace of God will spend my money enjoying life I don’t want my money spent on funeral arrangements and burial once I am gone I don’t care. Thank you for this video your momma is a wise lady. Much love and happiness for all
Wow. This really hit me. Feeling tearful. Thank you.
Hi Stephanie I totally agree with you live your life now. My grandmother said do not spend more than $5000 on my friend back in the day. She believed and did travel to various country to include Africa. She actually paid and plan her whole funeral plans. Knowing that it would be hard for me. Now I enjoy traveling with my daughter,Dr.Kimberly Madison . Traveling is my hobby! Black Women live your life ! You will always have bills. And don’t wait until it’s too late. 😊
I’m loving these headwraps. Your hair is beautiful. Happy hair. Growing.
This was so timely! Thank you. I feel stuck and can't seem to get to that place where I can just travel. It is a deep desire n my heart.
Doing THE MOST works well if you want to be constantly stressed out - in this system.
wow...that is so utterly sad. thank you for sharing this. this is the "brick in the face" that's so needed for a lot of us.
Wow! that statement by your mom was really deep.
Chile...you are so right about it. The more time and resources (joy and peace) we spend on ourselves, the better we are (in life) for others. I put money away for each grandchild and I'm spending EVERYTHING ELSE without any guilt. If I want to sell property instead of passing it down....then guess what!!!!!!
Sad but true Stephanie. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m learning new ways to celebrate my life now life is short and goodness by the time some of us figure life out it’s time to go. ❤
My mom LIVED with breast cancer for 10 years before her death that she denied would be inevitable. She refused to discuss or make afterlife plans. She did the best she could but always lived a small life check to check and in the merciful hand of God. I tried to make her understand that I knew she felt bad never making enough money to provide everything she wanted for me but with a life insurance policy she could provide those big things once she was gone. Please have these conversations with your parents & siblings now, before it’s too late.
This message was right on time! Thank you!
Hey Stephanie 👋🏾 Watching from the future. I am going to try to spend my money and enjoy it.💜
It's a great public service announcement
@StephaniePerry Thank you for this timely message. I'm 63 and making my final arrangements (no illness just the usual preparation) and I'm relieved that I've spent more on other things in my life. I have more life to live and I will definitely put my all into living each day to the fullest. I'm sending your video to friends I think will appreciate your message. You said a *WORD* today! Blessings to you on your travels! 🙏🏽
Thank you Stephanie- You and your ministry are luminous
Lady Stephanie, thank you for sharing this light bulb moment with us. You are teaching us to live our "rich life" by taking time for REST and REJUVENATION. Happy year of Connie. Blessings from Jamaica❤
Oh...you should talk to me about retirement (I'm 63 now...retired last year). Moving to Panama next month. I'll email you. I have a lot of thoughts about housesitting, retirement, an the expat life.
WOW WOW!! I DON'T Want that FOR ME Either..It is HeartBreaking Sister Perry~!~!
AMEN AMEN AMEN.. My Sister Friend Would always tell and share.."YOUR LIFE HAS NO DRESS REHEARSALS"... Live & Enjoy
NOW every Moment counts... I Found MY THING & ACHIEVED IT GLory to GOD!!!
Stephanie, your words hit me so hard they nearly brought me to tears. They're so true and profoundly moving. Thank you for awakening us. Personally, I can't express enough gratitude for how your videos have helped me reclaim my freedom and start truly living. This is the most important message I've ever heard. Stay blessed. x💜
This is such confirmation for me. I wanted 2024 to be a year of sabbatical as a result of receiving an award to teach English 20 hours a week for five months in Spain. And I wanted to work "softly" the remainder of the year. Things don't seem to be moving in that direction, but I have spent the entire 2024, so far, traveling all across Europe. I told my kids that if I could spend most of my life broke in order to take care of them, I can go broke to do nice things for myself during my empty nester years. And yet God always seems to make sure that I can do and buy most, if not all, of what I want to do and buy on my trips. Although I don't like big ticket items like cars and homes, I love jewelry, scents, bags, and collectables to create scrapbooks with; and I never fail to return from a trip with most or all of my loves.
As I shift to probable fulltime work back in the U.S., my focus is on what opportunities will allow me to live the soft and slow life I desire. Thanks for this. I'm so glad I came across your channel.
After listening to this video I can appreciate the cruise I bought for myself for my Birthday even more!!! I realize how much joy has been missing from my life and how foreign it has seemed to me. Finding more JOY!!!
Thank you!. This real talk.I owe it to myself to make my dreams a reality.
This is so true and eye opener for a lot of us 🥺
Hi Stephanie, I just tuned in. Retired 2yrs ago. Im having a great time. I have always traveled while working. Taking time for yourself and living life to the fullest.
♥️ Inspirationally Beautiful Message
Thank you. 💗
Whew! This is powerful!!!!
I am so excited by you and your Mom travelling together - internationally and intentionally. For all those who dream to do a similar thing with someone they love. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Peace, Love, & Wellness be with All who receive this message.
♥️ Happy Belated Birthday Mrs. Connie ♥️ Beautiful Blessings
Happy belated birthday, Mrs. Connie Perry 🎉!
I believe God teaches us a lesson over again until we learn. I got really sick at 30 years old and was battling illness for multiple years. Only to jump back into a really toxic work environment at 33 and said "oh hell no!" I didn't go through all of that struggle knowing how precious life is to literally have a job kill me. SO I'm now in my finding out how to "live the life I want to live" stage. It's a process but I know it will be worth it. Bravo to the women who have realized before its too late to live life to the fullest!
You have inspired me and I neva travel alone but I went to Miami by myself . THANK YOU for sharing your story
Thank you for reminding me I will be visiting my friends in Berlin and enjoying myself.
❤👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👸🏾🤗😁 Tyfs Beautiful Queen Stephanie! This makes so much sense!!
Thank you for sharing! Live life to the fullest…got it 👍🏾! Sharing with my kiddo!
Please talk about putting money into some kind of retirement account for the time when you're done traveling or can no longer physically travel.
Love thos. Thank you. We just gave my .om a 90th birthday party. She bought this amazing dress for the party. She has traveled, but more frivolity!!! Yes. Live.❤😊
Thank you! You’re really making me think.. Earlier this year I had knee replacement surgery and I was off from work for 10 weeks and everyone was worried about me but I enjoyed being off. Why? Because it felt like a sabbatical. It may sound pitiful, but I enjoyed being off. I am “the” caretaker in my family. Took care of my Dad till he passed in 2019. Right after that my husband was diagnosed with brain cancer and I took care of him until August 2022. Then several months later my Mom fell and fractured her pelvis and I moved and took care of her. I didn’t move back into my house until I had my surgery. I finally exhaled. Blessings
This is what i needed to hear. As someone who cares for people who are dying (home health), this really hits home and puts things in perspective. Thank you for sharing your story, and your mother's wisdom. I will take this advice 💖
We do not “spend” money, we CIRCULATE money.
I’m not going to put money in the ground after all it’s just a body
Thank you so much for this advice!
Thank you Stephanie what a wake up call🥰
Thank you for sharing these words of wisdom.
Watching replay, thank you for sharing Stephanie 💜
Giving Thankhs.... Appreciate your message.
...... I am channelling the Motherland....
What part of Costa Rica? Beautiful
.....been to Jamaica 3, times caregave my dad 11... years
I love this content. You’re videos are amazing 😻
Thank you for your inspirational message. There are many of us who are ‘ old souls and have given a lifetime of service to others. It is difficult to focus on ourselves. I totally agree that we ‘ including me, should be brave enough to step out and shower ourselves with beautiful and nice things, adventures and such. Again, thank you for always advocating for us as women to always seek out the very best for ourselves 🥰
Hi from Charlotte 👋 I am def blocking off that time (and now need to join the FB community).
Thank you. That's all💐
Blessings Sister Queens!
Hi Stephanie, happy watching this video from your future in July 2024. Great to see you and watch this video. ❤
Thank you!
Uh, I won’t be having a casket!!!! Donating my body to science and having a memorial. I’m not even paying someone to burn my body for $5K and put me in a box!
Such powerful and deep statements. That was jaw-dropping. Thanks to your mom for that gem.
This was VERY Informative.
I Appreciate Your Time and Wisdom.
Thank You Very Much❤
Well said and thanks for sharing
Hi Stephanie…watching the replay…😊
Hi Stephanie! Thank you for the message. I have already planned for my scouting trip to Costa Rica for residency! We might be neighbors...lol! Thank you and continue to be blessed! 😊
Thank you for sharing Ms. Connie's message! It was right on time. But im mad that you will be here in my city while i will be travelling🙄😔
Great video
That won’t be me!
Me neither...I've already started spending in retirement😂
Yes so true my dad passed a few months ago and he was a giver throughout his life and the most expensive thing was his funeral….this is so powerful it breaks my heart 😢
Ha! My mom's name is Connie too! Wise words! Whew!
I don't want that for me either.
Thanks for sharing this it makes lots of sense especially when it comes to black women.
This message was piercing😢
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