So Frank as an INFJ himself is also observing and taking everything we are saying and fitting it into his knowledge of the world and how the universe works.😂 edit: lol i didnt expect this many likes. thx
You can't prevent an INFJ from knowing from the moment where you start talking, and even if you don't talk actually. But you're not forced to take it as a threat. You can choose to see it as a gift and something attractive because someone will always be here to understand you 😊.
As an INFP, when he said "Man, what doesn't make them attractive?" my heart almost melted because I felt appreciated and maybe I'm just overthinking or I'm too emotional but It felt really good to hear that and that was wholesome 🥺🌹
I have an INFP friend and she is exceptionally cute. We were talking about her in our friend group the other day and I said: "u know, the rest of us can do cute things every now and again, but she just is cute - it's like her essence, adorable behaviorjust like seeps out of her". So yea, as an INFJ I find my P personality opposite very endearing
Lol same here and then I try to figure out why they aren't weird and don't think the way I do because to me I'm not weird at all it's just where my brain takes me
@@Crackokaine there's no need to find people like you. I am autistic and i'm really not used to interact to people "like me". And what i found out is even people with exactly my personality type and autism are totally different from me. You need to find someone which can appreciate your mind's framework, maybe some of your passion, even if they do not approach them the same way you do. So yeah, keep working on accepting you'll probably never find somebody like you, but you can find people that can work with you in interesting way.
As an INFP, I absolutely Like talking to INTPs, whom they use their feelings a little bit. We have similar Intuitive and Sensitive World, so it makes a great opportunity to interact, specialy with our Extroverted Intuition. But It's important for INFPs to don't sink in feeling and use their thinking function more with INTPs And exactly the opposite for INTPs.
I'm an INFP and I have social anxiety. Yesterday I called my mother during an anxiety attack, because I felt like I wasn't interesting enough for people to befriend me and I just felt like I was boring. This morning, my mother sent me this and told me to remember it my whole life ... I definitly will
I'm an INFP too and I often think that I'm boring. It got to the point where I literally never talk about myself and just ask people questions about themselves, talk about their experiences and so on. But what I've realised lately is that we are not boring, some people are just not ready/capable of exploring the depths of their souls like we can. You're good don't worry ❤️
Frank: (About INFPs) "Man, what doesn't make them attractive?" Me, an INFP: Oh Frank, are you just trying to flatter me, boost my confidence and, for a moment, stop my imaginative chaotic mind and make me feel special even if it is just for a couple of minutes? Because if that's what you intended, then you succeded. Thank you :3
I'm an INFP, my crush is an INTP and damn I'd spend HOURS listening to their logical talks or discussing with them, bringing both logic and feelings into the conversation and trying to find a common point. With our Ne it'd be so crazy and fun.
That might be such an interesting couple. That would be a pure joy to analyse this kind of relations. Sorry I don't want to sound creepy. I'm just very interested in personality interactions. -INFJ
I've had a number of (non-romantic) relationships with INTPs and it's been very much like that. When the Ne clicks, it really can be a lot of fun, and if you're on similar levels intellectually, there can be a lot of interesting exchanges of knowledge, ideas, and insights.
I'm a INFJ with a ISTP partner, and I love it. There's no power manipulation room in an ISTP's heart. They just want to do their own thing and that creates an environment where I don't need to worry about what they need. I get burned out with most relationships I have because I tend to morph into an idealistic version of what the other party wants from me. It's nice read someone's mind that says, "just do what you want to do, so I can do what I want to do."
I married an ISTP as well, he doesn't always understand my feelings and is horrible at advice, but he is great at just listening and being there. It's also nice, because he understands when I need to be alone. He can be a little too isolated sometimes, so I just have to be vocal about needing time with him.
That is why I have always loved ISTPs,just minding their own business,no complicated puzzles to solve. As much as I love solving puzzles,I do not like spending a great deal of time trying to,so I think they could be my comfort people. I don't know if it's gonna sound weird or not. ~INFJ
@@reneecoons5057 I have had the same problems with my ISTP too, but it’s also nice because it’s all resolved from communication. I have to be vocal sometimes with my needs, but it’s a good feeling the trust has been built with actual work.
“ENFP will say things that they think are funny, and bonus if you think it’s funny too.” You are correct. That joke was for my brain, and I’m going to laugh at it. If you find it funny? Awesome! That means the joke was either actually funny, or we’re on the same wavelength lol.
One of my bosses is an ENFP and he can derail any task for HOURS if he’s left alone with his thoughts for more than 10 seconds. (He sits next to an ENTJ and I have no clue how any work gets done in that office).
ENFPs are so much fun to be around. As a very introverted INTP, I don't want to spend my "peopling time" with just anyone, and ENFPs are never a waste of time. Even when they're literally just wasting time.
As another INFJ, the whole puzzle and looking at how everything connects is definitely true about me and although it happens on autopilot, I definitely do put a lot of my thinking on this, for sure. Like, I love looking at how things relate to other things so much that it probably is like 95% of my thought process.
Same, but then I ask questions and I want to understand how their psychology works lol The problem is that they don’t like it People don’t really find this attractive 😭
As an INTP/ENTP, INFJs are just flat out awesome to talk to. You guys are so skilled at taking stuff that we offload from our minds and fitting them together and converting them into constructive advice, and it’s unprecedented. One of my best friends is an INFJ, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world
@@Stormrunner1229 wow thank you so much! I always doubt myself on my ability to talk to others but that's really nice to hear :) life is just like one big puzzle to me ahaha, and you INTP/ENTP are so awesome too, in fact my best is an entp so there you go ahahahaa
On INTJs and being mysterious: I, as an INTJ, have never figured this out. I have literally told people exactly what I was going to do, exactly what responses I expected from others as each stimulus hit (including the people I was talking to), and then executed said plan in front of their noses, like a magician who has just explained the magic trick you are about to see. And somehow they still found me fascinating. I do not understand this reaction to something that comes as easy to me as breathing, and which, I just explained all the boring details about to my audience. It's like some kind of comedy sketch where I try to be as honest as I can be, but everyone is convinced I'm lying unless I'm doing my best Julie Newmar Catwoman impression. Only then am I telling the truth -- except I'm also hiding stuff, obviously, because I'm not really Catwoman. Maybe the rest of the world needs to learn that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, as Freud said?
@@recoveringsoul755 LOL. There have been other good Catwomen, but Julie's top of my list. And Frank Gorshen is by far the best Riddler. Mark Hamil is my favorite Joker (and that's a really tough category), and I haven't made up my mind on Penguin between Burgess Meredith and Robin Lord Taylor because they're both very different takes but very very good. Kevin Conroy is obviously best Batman.
@@infdox9051 Yes. Clearly it's a trap. A clever, clever trap that they can walk away from at any time. But they are too fascinated by it to do so, I guess?
Wow as an ENTP I relate to this so much. I tell people exactly what's going on with me and they 1) don't believe me and 2) find me "mysterious" and/or "puzzling" I am as WYSIWYG as it gets, albeit the information is usually delivered unemotionally. And one feeler once explained to me this is why she refused to believe my words, because I didn't accompany them with a display of emotion.
Finding out as a INFJ that we know what it’s like to be misunderstood. That’s why we use our analytical mindset to figure you out. Being a friend with a INFJ is like having your own unlicensed therapist as a friend. When we know you we know how to improve the friendship. That includes communication, listening, being there, maybe distracting if you need it and most importantly connection. We care for others on a very deep level.
Really? I've had people freak out and tell me "how do you know everything?" point-blank, non-sarcastically. And I would ask, "what is it that I know that bothers you?" "Everything!" "What everything?" "Everything." My intuition both 'gets people' and 'gets to people'.
i hv an infp friend and this hits right on the spot. the first time i met him, i thought he was kind of odd and out of reach. but soon i get to know him, he somehow makes me feel at ease instantly. his words of comfort are not typical like what people would say. his words are beautifully arranged, and his way of thinking is so unique and really different from others. he makes me want to get to know him more. this emotional connection with him is allegedly undescribable yet so beautiful, that i feel like whenever i'm with him, it feels like a dream. a dream that i don't want to wake up from. he is like a little fairy or a unicorn to me. he really has such a beautiful soul. -infj
That’s incredibly sweet to hear, it’s clear how much you cherish your friend and his perspectives. Thank you for confirmation about this aspect of us INFP’s, we find ourselves an enigma and I think he would really appreciate hearing how you see him 💙
Our words of comfort aren't typical because we really don't wanna say something insincere. So if we are going to comfort someone, we need to think deep and find something we actually believe and. -INFP
It's really fascinating how your types are insecure to a fault but have no clue how charming you can be. I must admit though, it's fun to mess with your heads and making you nervous sometimes...just to exploit this observation for amusement or just a unique method of calming you and my groupmates on a collaborative work. Welp, they call me 'devilman' for a reason. -xNTP
When I actually open up and show that “uniqueness” to people I feel like the best friendships come from it. Thanks for making me feel like I’m not a weirdo but instead…unique. I like that. Maybe still a weirdo too though.
As an Estp, a lot people think I’m weird, insensitive, overly confident and over all an attention seeking ball of to much energy that nobody wants to put up with. Basically they just think I’m really annoying. Except that’s also why I have tons of friends as well who said they envy my confidence, they love how I can just do what I want when I want and stand out from everyone else because it’s fun! People admire me because I can brighten up a dull situation! Life’s fucking boring so god sent me to make it more entertaining. My weirdness is unique, sure call it insensitivity... I call it honesty, you can NEVER have to much confidence, attention seeking? What’s wrong with that? If I don’t seek attention then how can I get more opportunities in life than others, to much energy? Be glad your not seeing my other side... when I’m tired my “insensitivity” doubles. If you piss me off when I’m tired you will either cry, hate me for life or develop at least 10 new insecurities about yourself... maybe all three! Believe it or not there was a time in my life where I lost that motivation and enjoyment I got from being alive. I started worrying about what others thought of me. I started lying and putting on a fake smile so others wouldn’t see how much stress I was under. I doubted myself all the time because I went through the days putting in no effort I listened to all the horrible things people said about me and I started to believe them. I forgot who I was. I was so depressed for a long time because something in me broke and it happened so suddenly that I didn’t know how to fix it. I let it build up without opening up to others or asking for help because I was scared that my friends and family would realize and maybe not like how I changed. It took me so long and I gave up so many times but I kept going. Eventually I found myself again and now I’m doing a lot better. Of course I still sometimes have those negative thoughts and emotions come back to me but I just remember the people in my life who help me to remember that confident girl I once was. It just takes time. Not everything in your life has to be “the best thing ever” otherwise you won’t be able to enjoy the small things as you let your expectations get to high. Only to come crashing down later. ANYWAYS that was kinda long even though nobody will read this but what I’m trying to say is if someone doesn’t like you then who cares? That or... bite their dick off. :D Stay strong my dudes!
My best friend is an INFP while I'm an INFJ we understand each other so well, it's like we're meant to be each other's friend. She has a lot to talk about while I listen patiently. Sometimes she said that I might be bored listening to all of her stories, stuffs she encountered, what she wants, the dreams and her ideals in life, and what life is for her, but I said that it's okay and that I love listening to her. She also understands me, my inner feelings, my likes and dislikes. Whenever we talk, it'll take hours, minimum is 3 HAHAHA but I love it. I just love how mature she thinks despite her age. I believe that we just complimented each other so well and I'm so thankful for it.
As an INFP myself, I've always really liked INFJs, I just feel like more than any other type, they are the best at understanding other people and how they feel, and I think that's what I like about them. Also they're usually always super nice
Im an INFP and my bestie is an INFJ I felt every word of wt u said We understand and compliment each other so well!! She's like the other side of me We talk a lot obvio
Another INFP with an INFJ bestfriend here. INFJs will always listen no matter what and that's what she does. She likes to understand me on a deeper level so it's always so easy going to her when I have issues that no one else will understand. But what makes me sad is as much as I share and as much as she takes in its not easy being the opposite. INFJs don't share what hurts them as to not burden others and they like to lock up their emotions to provide more support for other people and as an INFP I hate that because I want her to open up more so bad. I want her to cry in front of me letting all the stuff hurting her out so that I can be the listener and help her out
@@yanoizikawa770 INFJ's really don't tend to share their pain specially to someone they're comfortable with. It's because we're afraid (there's a better term for this) to show our vulnerable side. It can also be because we don't want to burden other people with their struggles in life because we believe that we're all going through something, and if we share our burden with others, we think that it'll add up with their burden, and we don't want them to suffer too.
INTP with an INTJ girlfriend here... I find her sort of "mysterious" side is usually just the result of her understanding/knowing a lot of things but not being unable to put them into words--at least not effectively. They don't show you the process, they show you the product--and when you question the process, they can become a little irritated because... they often don't really know how they arrived at their conclusion. Not exactly, at least, but they are often still right nonetheless. I love deciphering her thought processes. After knowing her for a few years/talking pretty much daily, I'm often able to take what she says and reword it in a way others can better understand, lol. So, I'd say INTJs are mysterious and once you get to know them, that mystery opens up into a brilliant/complex inner world. At least, from my experience.
That is what i call perfection . As an intj I want someone who can get my thoughts without me trying to explain them or put into words . There is too much happening in my mind and it sometimes gets too complicated for me to express my thoughts , thats why we do not like talking too much as we think no one will get our point and it ends up with people thinking we hide everything from them. Of course we lie too , but who does not? But trust me, it doesnt mean we hide everything.
It surprises me at the same time kinda not that INFPs think they're not attractive. I'm attracted to an INFP and I'm an ISFP, everything Frank said about what's attractive in an INFPs is true! Man, they're so eloquent, so wise and their understanding of human nature even without the experience to back all their knowledge up is so amazing. They're so wise beyond their years. They're such a lovely wise feelers! They're also dense so my INFP would prolly never know that I like him, being the coward ISFP that I am. 😭
While I can confirm that we can be dense and potentially oblivious, in all honesty from my perspective as an INFP, what stops us most is self doubt and lack of unshakable certainty. He probably has already thought about it a lot and is too unsure of the situation to fully make a decision on whether or not you truly do like him. We are very hesitant and will not move forward without weighing all the options, and even then we are aware of our own fantastical thought processes to be dismissive of our own judgements to begin with. The best thing you can do is just be completely honest and try to show him in a very direct way.
Ohh whatever decision you make, I support you! Depending on the situation, INFPs would really appreciate your nice words (though some may feel reluctant at accepting compliments (-ω-))
As an INTJ, I can also relate to the INFJ in which I listen to everything and just make a mental image of how do the people around me work. I never get surprised because everything they do fits perfectly in my mind. I also am mysterious, I do not intend to but I’ve realized that even my friends don’t know a thing about my hobbies, the things I like, music I listen to. I’m not hiding it from them, they just never ask
From an outside perspective, about the last thing, maybe it's not only that they just never ask, but also you just haven't shown them a clue about it, so naturally that does not give them a chance to even think it, so ask is very far
lol I am INTJ, but want to connect to family members b/c I value it. So I am trying facebook (seriously lol I do test out as an INTJ) and I struggle b/c I put up articles of what I am interested in and those things that I think will be helpful or having an effect on the world -things I care about.... crickets... no interactions... no one cares... and I Know that I could put up different posts that would likely garner more engagement, but that would be fake and I want to show them the real me... but the real me is and facebook sucks! I always knew it did... but I want to connect to family... sigh... maybe I can fix their computers or offer other services??? something... it just sucks.
So what I've (INTP) learned/ observed about the attractiveness of my people: ENTJ (hubby): BOLD. Sees a wrong, addresses it fearlessly. Super smart. ENFP (son): CHARMING. walks into a room, and is best friends with anyone he speaks with. Can make even shy people feel seen. ISTP (son): All sorts of weird facts floating in head. Helped me gain an appreciation for concrete reality. Helped me see the value of vocational training as opposed to the bias I had toward academic knowledge. INFJ (daughter): Halo effect. She made no effort to befriend anyone, yet everyone she meets wants to be her BF. Has an uncanny ability to read micro expressions. Even mine, when I am putting on a flat affect. Freaked me out when she started reading me like an open book. They are all pretty amazing.
Infp here.. hairstylist. The other day I was talking to a man.. and I thought, I gotta ask him what his type is.. we have got to be opposites. I was right, he was an estj. I said... you're so damn logical... do you ever just do what feels right instead of what makes sense? He said no. I said, man.. that's like all I do! He said "your life must be chaotic" 🤣🤣 lol one of the most interesting convos I've had in a while. Thanks for the video!
Usually that just turns people off, but that might be because I'm surrounded be sensors. I had a girl telling me straight to my face that I shouldn't say or do certain things because it intimidates people. We had a whole argument about if faking is good or bad. I find it sad that some people prefer to hide parts of themselves to fit into the crowd but that's the sad reality.
@@YehudiNimol If that's what she told you, and was willing to argue with you about it, then you know what you need to know about her. She's not someone you should have these kinds of conversations with, nor should she be allowed close enough to you to think it's ok to tell you how you're supposed to be. She is the one who's intimidated, and she's projecting that issue onto you and expecting you to alter yourself to make her feel more comfortable. Big no-no.
INTP - I was in an entrepreneurship class for several weeks. as it was drawing to a close I was sitting at a table with 5 other people. I was geeking out over something (I don't even remember what now) and everyone else was silent and listening. I never control conversations and I got self conscious and I said something like 'sorry, I'm talking to much'. One of the guys who I was on really good terms with said 'no! What you are saying is fascinating! Don't stop now!' Sometimes the deep ideas we have are attractive, you just got to get us into the right flow to express them.
As an ISTP, I can agree with what you say. And yes, we really are complicated people to get to know and especially to deal with, so getting more intimate as an ISTP is difficult especially for a love relationship. In the end, it's worth it.
@@ihay472 well, it usually takes about a year for me to feel comfortable enough and start opening up a little. Just another year and a half to become close to someone
@@ihay472 I would say it is worth it. My brother is an ISTP, and he is always there for me. Not in a caring way but "mess with my sibling, you mess with me". Even that may be a bit too "feely", he does it even more bluntly. We are like partners in crime, and it is so fun because my ability to understand and get people to trust me. Then he just goes/does and says whatever he wants to them. It is always so funny to see how he never gets in trouble (Pygmalion effect), and I don't either because I look so innocent. I can build a perfect 4 Square empire or give someone their karma without ever being involved. It is perfect.
last night, I talked with my INFJ friends about things that I cooped up for the last few years. It's came naturally and not awkward as I always feels with my other friends. Maybe because we're a feeler, we can understand each other well. For me as a private person, telling people about the feeling that I feel took so much courage. Without being judged and relating to her is one of the best feeling ever.
Evet , ben de bir ınfj yim. Ve arkadaşlarım içinde tuttuklarını bana anlatırsa çok mutlu olurum. Onları anlamaya çalışırım. Asla yargılamam. Destek olurum.
ISTPs intimidate me but they are extremely attractive (especially the women, who tend to be athletic and take care of their appearance without ever appearing overdone). What makes them attractive: 1) they ask a lot of questions and they're attentive listeners 2) they have that self-contained mysterious air about them 3) they always seem calm 4) they are competent 5) they appear interested in you while also appearing to give no f*cks
as an ISTP woman, thank you for saying that not many people talk about us in these videos (especially the women ISTP) so it makes me happy for us to be noticed!
ISTP here. Its so rare to see a comment on or made by ISTPs in these videos, haha. Not so sure about the asking questions part, since i have a hard time focusing on what others say (my SO hates this side of me, since sometimes he thought im ignoring him when im actually not) Everything else is pretty accurate though.
All checks, not number5 tho. We like asking questions, so we can get a chance to know/learn you. When we are interested in something, we like to observe. After a while, we might get bored because we already know what we want to know. We are indeed good listeners because all we can do is asking questions. We don't like to share what we really are untill we feel comfortable with that person. In fact, people hardly get to know us because they do ask stupid questions that they don't even care what the answers are. Also, i usually ask the questions to keep the conversation going and sometimes i don't care (we don't know how to end the conversation + that awkward silence will make me uncomfortable XD)
When you said "OH MAN" in a heavy Deep-Fried accent, this ENFP knew he was in for a treat. You gave a very nuanced take that perceives us seriously, and I greatly thank you for it.
I am an INFJ married to another INFJ, so I completely agree with Frank on what is attracitve about INFJ's! I believe that is why I was immediately drawn to my husband. Very intense listener that tries to understand everyone. As someone who never really felt understood, it was refreshing that he wanted to get to know me and understand me! And from my own perspective, I do try to solve people...one of my biggest hobbies is trying to match make for my very close friends! Especially when we have deep conversations about them feeling lonely or wanting to get married one day and it seem like it will never happen for them. 😞 I become super optimistic and make it my life's mission to find their soul mate! For my cousin, I searched through hundreds and I mean hundreds of girls on Facebook through friends and prayed that the Lord would allow me be able to find my cousin's match on there and He answered my prayer! My cousin has been with his girlfriend for a year and 1 week now and they seem very happy! I hope a ring will appear on her finger very soon! 😊😍
I’m definitely a matchmaker for my friends. My friends simply tell me who they like and by simply just watching their crush I can tell if they like them or not😂 idk why. If they don’t I try setting them up with other people
As an INFJ female dating an ISFP male, you nailed it! I love my partner’s authenticity. He really doesn’t care what other people think, and yet he’s extremely compassionate and kind.
For me, the most attractive thing about ESTJs is when you can see behind their ''orderings'' that they actually care about you and are just trying to find a way to help you, even if it's not the best approach to do it, but you can see it, that they are not just trying to boss you around, but they actually want to see your best. I really like when this happens. Same with ENTJs, but it's kind rarer with the ESTJs that I met
@@ElodieN_INTJ_Typology_Insights yeap, it's just like when you see Gordon Ramsay being cute with kids on the show. You know he can make anyone cry, but when he is nice with the kids it brings some strange kind of joy to me, like ''o bem venceu''
One of my closest coworkers is an ESTJ, the other is an INFJ (I'm an INFJ myself). I agree; i can tell my ESTJ friend may rub some people the wrong way because she is very orderly, and isn't afraid to gather people if tasks need to be done, or if there is a more efficient way to do things. But personally I never get offended or put off by her, but my other coworkers do. Especially since their inferior function is Extraverted Feeling. They typically put their emotions aside when making decisions more than all the other types (along w the ENTJ type, as well tho).
you can tell he is an infj because how uncomfortable he seems when it comes to talk about the attractiveness of his type, and how he ended moving the conversation to other stuff not really related to attractiveness.
You explained INFJ so well! as and INFJ, I am unintentionally trying to understand other peoples thinking process and stuff, so auto piolet fits great!
One of my closest friends is an ISTP. I dont even feel like I actually know them but when they decide to be fun or bold i really love it. Spot on as always.
Well as an ISFP-A I should say that you're spot on.. when I'm in the verge of collapsing while doing some project & if someone tell me, dude... you never gonna make it... here comes my "sudden burst of sparks" like.. bish just wait & watch..!
All the things about my ISTP hubby that intimidates others, I find so cute. I also love how he does his own thing at all times. I’m an ENTJ and that kind of tenacity is super attractive to me.
I'm ENFP and my husband in INFJ and what you said bout INFJ is definitely him, but I do that too. So when we met, we basically knew exactly who each other was within 10min of talking to each other, it was almost like talking to an introverted version of myself and we've been married 8yrs now. Although, I have noticed with ENFP you mention them being the life of the party, but that's only if we're comfortable. We read people very quickly, so if we sense the people aren't enjoying our antics we tend to go awkward and quiet because we then become uncomfortable. But if we're comfortable and people seem to be reacting well to our antics then yes, we're not going to stop the jokes coming and we are very random haha XD Mind you, that could be dependant on the scale too. I'm almost 50/50 when it comes to the I/E and F/J so I guess I'm more of an ambivert and other ENFP's higher on the E scale may be more what you tend to mention. BUT This here post is a clear example of how ENFP's can talk too much haha XD *awkward*
I absolutely relate to your point! I immediately pick up on people who are uncomfortable or don't care about what I'm talking about, and then I basically back away slowly. When that conversation ends I'll find someone else to talk to or something else to do as an excuse to get away. If I think we both seem connected, even if I've just met you, I could talk with you for hours!
@@Purple_Hearted_Izzy17 yes exactly. I'm the same 😁 when we're comfortable we're very extrovert but when we're uncomfortable we're very introvert haha 😄
I can give you a better one for ENTJ: when we're leading, we carry people along with us on our mission, and they like that. That clear vision and strength of purpose inspires them.
Another thing is you ENTJs are non-annoying tsunderes. It's like a perfect mix of being blunt and can't admit your true core feelings to others. I think you can confidently say "be my boyfriend/girlfriend" but having a hard time to utter the words "i love you" alone. You always need to have an end goal in your words and actions that it can be comical sometimes (still amazing though). -INTP devilman
I love how he managed to explain that about INFPs bcoz that's literally what i think about them! They make you feel valued. Also, i love how they value morals and principles! And about INTPs, i would say i love how they give the most practical advice and bring you down to earth bcoz my INFJ self needs that sometimes!!💀
As an ISTP, I am honored to be intimidating. And yes it is a bit hard for people to figure out my personality mostly because people don't try hard enough to get to know me or I don't show my true colors incase it freaks them out. And I'm not very good at socializing. I give one word responses and especially with strangers I'm not good at keeping conversation or even showing interest, my bad. Even sometimes my mom is like "Why didn't you get up and talk to her or something?" And I'm all slouched down like, "uh... I didn't want to"
Okay… as INFJ maybe I attract people by being a good listener (although I feel I am not doing anything, just listening), but I hear more often that people like that I am not judgmental (I.e. open to different views and human behavior) and accepting of people. People feel that they can be who they are. That is the biggest compliment one can give imo
Yes! This video is a W for us INFPs! Some of the compliments I most often get are that I’m authentic and I’m always myself. My mentor said that during my high school graduation. I’m quiet and reserved around the vast majority of people, but that means I never break who I am. Another compliment I have gotten quite often is that I can phrase thing quite beautifully. My psychologist told me that, and some other people as well. I’m often told I speak with a certain maturity (and I’m 18). And my unique perspective and ability to improvise on things is something people seem to appreciate about me too. I have autism, so that kind of adds fuel to the fire of a unique perspective. It shows in certain forms of art I practice. Mostly writing. I want there to be a lot of symbolism, ambiguity, double meanings and such. But I also want my characters to stay human. In terms of music, I play the piano. And I haven’t really ever learned to read sheet music. I just play off sound and intuition. And some people say I just play with this innate groove that you just do or do not have. And I also like taking some pictures now and then. And a big compliment, is when I’ve made a photo and I see other people copying my angle. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
As an ISTP, I agree with this. I am aware and unaware that whatever I do intimidates people lol. My INFP friend told me that the first time she saw me, she thought I would punch her if she said hi to me😂
@@MegaMaster215 I also feel like I've never met any other ISTP. I am not really close with my friends either. I want to find people who resonate with me. Its frustrating how I have to tone down my opinions to seem less critical / blunt towards others since honesty is so important for me. I'm currently fighting the ISTP urge to delete my comment cuz it feels like too much of me is being exposed.
I feel comfortable around ISTPs though. It's like... why would I waste my time on beating around the bush? They are direct people who call out BS without judging people (at least in my experience). I don't feel the fear of being judged because if they don't like me, they simply won't engage with me but won't badmouth me or generalize my entire personality because of one mistake. ESTPs intimidate me though. -An INFJ
I'm glad someone else sees how funny ESTJs are! I'm an INFJ, so very different to them, but I have a deep appreciation of their humor and their hidden, awkward warmth.
When Frank said "Now we come to INFJs.." I thought "There's nothing attractive about us." Then Frank said "Not attractive." I literally laughed out loud suddenly HAHAHA my officemates were shookt.
Love it!! ENFP (sometimes INFP) married to ENFJ and you’re spot on! People are just so fascinating! Even the ones I can’t understand. Noticed your ring within 1 second but already knew you got married because I watched your Live a few weeks ago 😁
Just to help you out. If you get tired easily at a gatherimg then you're an Introvert. Extroverts get more hyped as gathering goes. Introverts gets tired. :) I'm an infp and I'm always loud and fun at parties. But give me 30 mins, I'll be somewhere alone, or sitting down being quiet. I call it my charging moment :p Infp's can develop confidence over time but still an introvert cuz of reason above.
INFJ here with an ENTJ mom and what you said about ENTJ’s actually puts into words what I find interesting about my own mom. My mom is very opinionated about a lot of things and it’s very interesting for her to tell me and my brother about these opinions and bounce my own opinions around. Although she is pretty quiet about her own opinions around a lot of people she isn’t very close with it.
As an INFJ, you pinpointed exactly what I love about INFPs. INFPs are the one type that can offer a new, insightful perspective to me on the topics that interest me the most (the human experience).
I’m an INFJ, and I’m absolutely a good listener who tries to “solve” people and fit everything into what I know (or rather what I think I know) about the world and the universe. That’s 100% accurate! I have this friend who I’m pretty sure is an ESTP. Like what Frank was talking about, she just says whatever she’s thinking and doesn’t worry about how it comes across. I get such a kick out of her because she says all the things I’m thinking but I’m too nice to say out loud.
Introverts are attractive because they are a big surprise themselves. If you are put off by someone’s reserved behavior don’t be discourage…they reserve their personal world for those that matter to them. The freak flag, booming personality & honesty awaits. Trust, you are in for a surprise if you just let others show you who they are 💜 -ENFP
as an ISFP dating an INFJ I found this video so accurate! He (my bf) can really step up when needed but he knows when to be softer as well. It is truly an attractive trait! I struggle socially but he allows me to be myself. Love this video! Keep it up Frank!
I'm an infp who has an infj bestie and u knw, it's kinda scary yet amazing how intensely they listen to u. Like when we talk, I would sometimes mention something as a passing comment, just general stuff that I don't expect her to remember. Then months down the line, when we talking about the same thing or something similar, she says that she remembers me mentioning that passing comment. Always leave me shocked😂
As an ENTP with my best friends being ENFP and INFP.. yeeees!!! As an ENTP talking to an INFP is the best because they just get the small details of communication so well and because they have this "good grasp on what it's like to be a human", they truely make the feeler type stuff sound almost logical and can definitely voice this in a playful argument soooo consider me hooked :D For the ENFP, she's nuts and I can't even begin to explain how much I love her for it, but yes, never a dull moment or a "boring conversation" with ENFP, she's the party, she's the moment, people love being around her and she often complains that people are too boring - yet they love her hahaha
Frank talking about INFPs: …man, what doesn’t make them attractive? Me, and INFP: 😳 stooooooooooop 🤭😌 Tbh one of the things that I’ve always liked about myself no matter how poorly I generally think of myself on the whole, is my ability to talk about something in a way that’s not only eloquent but *relatable* and easy to understand. While we as INFPs strive to always be uniquely ourselves, we are never so disconnected that we couldn’t understand *and* convey what it means or how it feels to be “the only sentient race in the sector” (and we’re made out of meat!). Relatability is our greatest strength and honestly our downfall sometimes lol bc it’s that part of us that can look at a monster of an individual and see the parts of them that were once human, that we can not help but want to reach out to. Of course a healthy INFP will know when it is not a good idea to do so, or when to throw the towel in so you speak before things get too messy or detrimental to our own well-being, learning how to do that unfortunately comes at the cost of some really really difficult lessons 😬 But we’re resilient, self expression helps us get through them, and we *always* walk away with a deeper understanding of what it means to be here. I think I wrote all this as I know I need to be reminded of it when I’m feeling shitty about myself, but I hope it makes other INFPs feel good too 💕
FJ gave ISFPs a compliment? I think my timeline shifted? 😅 It’s true, we’re not dumb. We just have the audacity to believe in ourselves. Also, I suspect that we may rely on intrinsic motivation, more than extrinsic motivation. I’ve been thinking a lot about what motivates me lately. No matter how many motivational books & videos I consume, ultimately it’s the joy from the actions I take from my to do list. Not motivational affirmations & other stuff that may work for other types. Also knowing when to rest so that we have the energy to do all the things on our goal lists.
I really love and appreciate my ESFJ auntie. She's the glue that holds our family together. I don't know how she manages parties with all of us introverts, without any of us feeling drained afterwards. I never feel socially drained at an Emily party, I swear she's a magician ❤️.
Thank you so much for this video! It really is wonderful to appreciate what’s great about each type. As an ENFJ, we definitely love giving advice, and will gladly do our best to help. It’s gratifying to see our more rational side recognized. After all, it’s not doing anyone any favors if we completely ignore all logical sense, even if it makes people feel better to do that at the moment. Ti definitely works in service of Fe for us, but I think it’s an important support component for it. And not that anyone asked, but I find INFJs the most attractive. I always feel so heard and understood by them, and we click in a really deep and natural way.
Some ideas for other videos (though perhaps they've been done before?): - Extracurriculars that the 16 personalities were a part of in high school - What friend types will generally round out each of the 16 personalities' close friend groups (given we each can only really juggle a few close friends - what types might we decide to be around and are all our friends the same type or are they all different?) - Friend types we hang out with in high school when we're all less sure of ourselves and more the textbook version of our types because we haven't done a lot of growth versus friend types we hang out with in adulthood - Normal, adult things each of the 16 personalities have issues with (some will just have a lot, in general, like me - an INFP - cos I'd rather be in my head than interacting with people or doing practical things) but things like taxes or maintaining friendships or being at work on time sort of things, I was thinking? - We all kind of get each of the memes of the personalities but what are each of the personalities most likely to try and work on first and change? Obviously this'll differ from circumstance and social background and whatever but I'm just curious if you have thoughts, FJ? Just given you've done a lot of research and talked to a lot of different people. Anywho, don't know if that's helpful but I enjoy the videos 🙂
My little observations: ISTPs: I like that you said they are intimidating, I also think they are obviously strong personalities. However even if they'd never admit it, they are scared of conflicts and do anything to avoid them. Even physically run away. When you realize this, they are not that scary anymore... ENFPs: I love their humor because they are not just randomly jumping from one point to another. They get to next idea throught quick thinking and linking their thoughts. They are also open-minded and don't care about gossip. For me as an INTJ it's very attractive... INTJs: I agree, we can talk for hours. For years I thought I was like open book, but later found out we seem secretive. I like to be mysterious, so I don't talk that much anymore. It's more interesting.
@@janaella4591 Like an ENFP I would say I prefer avoid conflicts too, Is better seeing from afar where the flames can't get you :v But, then again is a personal opinion, don't know if other ENFP will think the same :v
As an istp, I was really shocked to find out that you/people tend to find us intimidating, since the main reason we (or at least myself) stick to ourselves is because we’re kinda scared of other people
@@wasserphoenix65 personally I’m not that scared to talk to people, but usually whenever I tried to talk to one of the “popular” kids, I’d always freak out and pray they wouldn’t make fun of me
I know an istj and she's so much like that too. Tbh I get annoyed by you istj-guys easily (because I feel like you don't get my infp-values) but I really appreciate your honesty and authenticity
Finally a comment about us, scrolled long enough to find it. Yeah, I cant stand that, it is the most difficult thing about dealing with other people really. Stuff like playing games makes me straight up leave. My parents intentionally telling me the wrong time to prove that I should hurry up with doing something is annoying. Even reading an INTJ-INFJ conversation above on how to strategise dealing with other humans is a bit scary, I will strategise what I say to some stranger in a certain conversation before approaching too but that is about it, relationships arent a game of chess after all. And of course we cant stand it, why the hell would anyone want to be around somebody they cant trust? But for some reason "white lies" get a pass in society....
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Well, being weird/"not a human" doesnt necessarily mean people wont listen to you as it might be that unique perspective they are looking for. It will only be true most of the time as probably wont be many people lol. As for ISTJs vs ESTPs, that is a huge difference, we share literally no functions whatsoever. An ISTJ could definitely end up being listened to if they end up recognised as experts at their workplace or when with their friends or so on but we dont really have the charisma to make people sit up and take notice of us when we enter a room or make friends easily unless he really tried to study how to be more charismatic I guess, that is more of an extrovert thing in general. Ask yourself, is he constantly looking for new experiences and adventures? An ESTP does (dominant Se), an ISTJ wont most of the time. We d never jump off a cliff without thinking about it or find fun in seeing people get mad like the video says. We will say the truth that needs to be said but we wont make people mad for no reason. ESTJs are our extrovert counterparts so if you meant them that is more understandable
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Hmm no, I didnt look very hard into it. What makes you think he isnt ESTJ but that he could be ISTJ or ESTP though? And about feeling odd with people, same here, small talk sucks, many trends are stupid and I like meeting some people but am fine sitting in my room by myself. You just need to find the people that really appreciate your values and that are capable of such discussions and befriend them
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs I have just seen your edit, as you said all types are capabale of empathy and in fact ESTPs have better people skills due to their tertiary Fe while our Fi makes it harder to tell how people are feeling at a glance. It is tertiary in both cases as well, not sure why we would be better at empathy than them. Yeah nurture can definitely change people a bit, most cultures value extroversion which is the bane of us introverts. Idk what playing pranks on family members has to do with any of this, engaging in talks when spoken to is just being a normal human while walking up to people you dont know (which I dont do myself) would mean overcoming shyness but not necessarily being an extrovert if it isnt done all the time. The second comment has good points though, ESTJs tend to be more in your face especially if they arent close to you due to being extroverts. Healthy ESTJs learn to tone it down a bit overtime but still that should be there. An ISTJ is more likely to not expend the energy and instead judge you silently and only tell you you are doing something wrong if you are close to them or it is their job to tell you or something. If you are close to us or if working together on a project though we will definitely tell you when we think you are wrong because we care about you/the project s success, that can turn into bossiness with stubborn enough people depending on the situation. Fair enough on the Si point, I actually won national-level prizes in Spanish in school contests as a Romanian so I guess that is why lol
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Yeah, physical activities like that make sense as well even though I personally barely do any. Do you have your own farm or are you working for somebody?
I have 3 INFP friends (just like me), and really, they seem to be very interesting. I have two ENFJ friends, I like them, but especially one. He talks about things that seem so basic and popularly uninteresting, but he speaks with a passion that infects me so much that I get entertained by everything (but as I am an INFP, sometimes I get lost in my thoughts during the conversation and I end up losing some points...) My best friend is ESFJ, and I really like how social she is, but she kind of wears me out sometimes, lol. And now I know why I always felt a vague feeling coming from my friend. This is a normal thing for INTJs.
I love your videos! So informative. I am a personality type junkie and I have found learning about the different personalities has really helped me relate better at work and home. I am an ENFJ and you hit the nail on the head every time! 💜 After watching this video, I now understand why sometimes people look confused after asking me for advice HAHA!
As an INTJ I do choose to hold some things back, but even if I wanted to, I don't have the time to tell you everything that's in my head. Also I hold things back that I don't think that you'd understand.
As an ISTJ: nailed it. I do NOT guess peoples motives nor do I like “reading between the lines”. Just say it, man! 😂 Some people appreciate my straight forward bluntness, some don’t. 🤷🏻♀️ I think I need an INTJ or ISFJ for a romantic relationship.
@@TechTalk-6G depends on who you ask really, I have seen people pairing us with like half the types. From those you mentioned to ESTJs, ESTPs, ISFPs and ISTPs I have seen many suggestions. The thing is, the same differences that make couples "more complete" and apparently "attract people" (never understood/felt in action the opposites attract idea myself) can easily turn into sources of conflict as well. As somebody that has never had a crush (so take this with a pinch of salt I guess), what I imagined as my ideal girlfriend is far more of a reclusive nerd type like INTJ or INTP. I think extrovert-introvert couples, while clamoured by many as the Holy Grail, could easily get too draining for the introvert and lead to huge arguments over how to spend free time."There is a party this weekend, do you want to come?" "No." "Damn, I cant understand how you can stay at home so much, you are such a recluse, what is wrong with you?". Then again, we do need them to approach us as we dont do much of that and mature people would be more understanding of each other. As for feelers, I d be scared of unintentionally hurting them and not being able to tell that due to that exact bluntness we were talking about, though I suppose Fe users especially would be useful in helping me decipher social situations. ISFJs seem fine enough if they dont bottle up any disagreements they might have (because I cant tell you are mad and what made you mad if you dont tell me. Tbf I sometimes retreat as well when I think that there is no point in saying anything but I like to believe I d be better about that in a relationship). Their description in this video immediately reminded me of James Milner lmao, can they play RB for my football team as well? See, we can make jokes as well, take that people who think we cant. The ESFJ energy in this video is a bit scary in a "how can you just do that" way but I suppose they are taking the spotlight off of me so that works lol. Their Thinking function is 4th too, sounds like an even bigger clash with my thinking preference. ESFPs would just wreck my plans probably, dominant Se is a scary thing.
Any combination can have a healthy, successful relationship, they'll just have different areas to work on, different strengths/weaknesses as a couple. MB is hard for me, because as an ambivert, I'm half ISTJ and half ESTJ. As an enneagram 1, I joke with my husband that I'm just glad I'm already married, because on paper, I can find a reason to not marry each and every type, ha! I was married before I got into personality types, I'm with an INTJ, enneagram 4, and it is what it is. ♥️
@@HalfBlindPlans Fair enough, we all have flaws, we are obviously talking theory here, still looks to me like the more differences there are the harder they will be to overcome. Not impossible, but hard. Interesting that you are half-half introvert vs extrovert, full-blown introvert here. Have you watched FJ s subtypes video? I am curious how you score on that. INTJs do seem really cool as I said, then again I read a conversation between an INTJ and INFJ once on strategising how to deal with people and it was a bit creepy, I will plan out what I say to a stranger or at a job in the future or when I am writing a comment here on the Internet etc but not to such a degree lol.
Lol INFJ 😆 I can definitely relate, I masquerade extroversion but I'm horribly introverted, more than 80% I'm pretty sure. I always want to observe, place, and understand everyone 😁
@@watertigress9328 same here, to be fair. ;) I actually don’t mind being in big groups but I’m always very much the observer. Whatever jokes I have to tell come out online or in small groups (if it happens to be face-to-face) only.
@@watertigress9328 same here (again). I like positive acknowledgment just as much as the next person but generally when I’m going about my day-to-day business I’d rather just blend in and go about my way, not necessarily because I’m honing in on Ni that much at all times but just because I only like (positive) attention when it’s needed/relevant to me as an actual person and not just because of what I might happen to be wearing for convenience (or what-have-you). I’d also rather initiate conversations with people I need/want to interact with on my own terms and not have random acquaintances I don’t really want to do small talk with popping up (unless I actually want to do small talk with them, which actually does happen every so often but not as a general day-to-day rule). I really like how friendly a lot of people are (and when it counts I’m usually up for a good conversation) but really when you’re just trying to mind your business on your way to the park/grocery store being stopped by every Tom, Dick and Harry you had one conversation with 16 months ago for the sake of them getting your attention or roping you into unnecessary small talk is just annoying. I’m not as allergic to it as the typical INFJ (I dip in and out of that and a sort of reserved/non-quirky ENFP shadow if that makes any sense) but I’d still rather not do it most of the time (I use headphones to stop the chances of that happening more than I actually want to blaze iTunes/Spotify). From what I’ve seen ENFPs aren’t too interested in random small talk, either.
I'm an INTP and I know something about weridness🙃 "They know that they're werid" ...I'm laughing😆 But I really respect you because of your big knowledge, it's hard to impress INTP with something like that. True compliment from true INTP. Now, with watching your videos I can read people perfectly and use it as a power, a tool to tell them "I know everything about you" and explain things when they are tired😈
FJ is awesome. And INFJs generally like to say meaningful things and to leave an impact on people so what you say makes perfect sense. Oh god, INFJs know they shouldn't reveal the personality and psychology observations and secrets because it's like opening the Pandora's box for other types. They won't care about morality. FJ what have you done 😥 ?!
As an INTJ I can say that there is always something else going on in my mind as I share my ideas, plans or opinions. It's just something that happens simultaneously, for example: It might be something I have been studying recently, and while I am speaking something just clicks in my head and so I share that, and then maybe that will remind me of something else, but at some point I feel I am talking too much and will just stop, and people can feel I am keeping information from them lol
@@nialanderos I'm a bit curious because I don't think I've ever actually met an enfp in the real world. What exactly is it with unpredictability/predictability - Order/Chaos that makes you enjoy the frenetic side of things?
@@VVanDraven You’ll know if you’ve met one of us, we are a collection of random thoughts strung together with a charming bow. I think for me I have a very short attention span and get bored easily. I enjoy the thought of doing something daring, sometimes more than just doing it. I would say I’m incredibly spontaneous and sometimes let my impulses control me.
@@nialanderos Personally I find it difficult to be spontaneous unless I'm in an Se splurge or something. So basically it comes down to attention span? I wonder what kinds of things are considered "interesting" and hold your attention for longer periods of time.
It seems that a lot of people in my life were ESTJs. Also, ENFJs are super good at helping and giving advice, I always feel a lot better, and a bit more wise after talking to my ENFJ friends. Great video! I learned something new after watching it (the ESTJ humor thing)
@@Anonymous_Anon882 Oh? How so? I'm not disagreeing btw, I'm just curious to know more about this. Also, I don't know why, since they're perfectly nice people, but I don't really trust my ENFJ friends, I feel that they're good people who genuinely care about others, and that's where my problem stands, they're nice and caring towards everyone, so how do I know where I stand with them? Are they nice to me because they like me, or are they nice to me because they're a good person? ESFJs I guess could fall under this same umbrella, but the one ESFJ that I know of (I'm sure I've known loads more) I wasn't a big fan, they were too in my face.
@@oakhoax168 ruclips.net/video/yTUBOgWtzsk/видео.html I feel like that video might explain the ENFJ personality better than I ever could (I’m more of an interested follower than an expert per se so I have to draw the descriptive line at what I don’t feel like I actually know for sure). But what I do feel like I kind of know is that the dominant Fe-Ni combination (which is the same in INFJs but obviously inverted/reversed) makes them come across as more honed into people/society as a whole than discrete individuals per se (quite unlike Fi) but at the same time they’re genuinely the nicest, most generous people in the world. They probably come across as a bit detached from you in an individual in that sense because they’re always looking out at everyone as a whole by default but they tend to see the good in everyone so you’re probably fine with your ENFJ friends. They tend not to be insincere. :)
@@Anonymous_Anon882 I will watch the video, thank you, and thank you for the explanation. What you said makes sense, and I can definitely see that, honestly, I think I do the same thing myself but not to as much of a degree, I'm not usually a warm and friendly person who approaches someone, but I'll treat everyone the same unless they come at me or are bullying someone or something. I've actually had someone say to me once that they didn't know where they stood with me, because of the fact that I'm friendly to them, but I'm also friendly to everyone else. I'm going to watch the video now, and I'll probably end up watching ones over the other types too if they're there lol.
As an Enfj everything you said was relatable especially the (no you're wrong) thing , actually someone once said to me ( after I kinda decide a very logical and tough decision in work ) he said I was so surprised I didn't think you can came out with such a decision tho it offended someone but you told him the truth and what's needed how did you do that as a feeler? ) and he he was an Intp
Thank you for making this video. I’ve been stressing out about my master’s thesis deadline for a while now. The fact that I am constantly procrastinating doesn’t help at all. Hearing what you said about attractiveness and reading the comments really made my day (despite making me cry… honestly I think I needed to cry). I wish you all the best and hope you continue making such great, inspiring, and enjoyable content! -from an INFP
Seriously, what doesn't make INFPs attractive and what's not to like about them?! The most warm-hearted, genuinely caring, kind, funny, and creative people on the planet. You just don't want anything bad happen to them or hurt them.
@@helgaioannidis9365 I'm sorry to hear that and I hope you had overcome that period. You guys are amazing and your kindness is a strength, it's not a weakness❤❤❤ and no one should bully you 😤
@@affinity266 you're so sweet 🥰 I'm good now. Many years have passed. Only a slight distrust towards groups has stayed and I guess will always stay. Have a lovely week 💖
You're always so spot on with ISTPs, but I feel like you're simultaneously missing that they can be very funny and mischievious when you get to know them. They're not always so... flat.
ISTP's are very standoffish UNLESS they are attracted to someone. Then, they just instantly become the most charming person in the room. I've seen my ISTP husband flip the switch multiple times.
Yay! Thank you for doing this! Psych2Go did a video on what makes each personality attractive a while ago, and I remember I was feeling quite depressed at the time and desperately needed a pick-me-up, so I watched their video, only to find that they had completely forgotten to include my personality (INTJ)! Felt like such a kick in the teeth. They seem to really like antagonizing INTJs, unlike you. You're always nice to us.
I'm an ISFP and my husband is an ESTJ. Very accurate descriptions! I've always been myself. Even as a kid, peer pressure never got to me. My husband can be a "hard butt" but makes me laugh so much.
The thing not mentioned here is as an INFJ when we do finally understand someone we are often disappointed. Not everyone, but many people are just not that interesting or don't realize how they cause their own problems or unwilling to beyond surface level conversations.
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Translate your videos to arabic plz❤️
@FrankJames Next video - you’ve done attractive, now do cool
I'm sorry
Finally, the video where he tells us HOW to stay cool and attractive.
😂
Now I just have to learn to be cool lol
No, he tells us how we are ALREADY attractive. Small difference
@@larsthemartian9554 exactly 😂
@@edi0157 yea and you need to STAY that way.
Lol he’s trying to make us INFPs feel good about ourselves for a change. Thanks, Frank!
I LOVE the INFP type and agree with everything Frank said. (Not an INFP)
I’m an ISTJ and I freaking love INFPs, they really are the best.
As an infp i felt this comment
I love INFPs. I'm related to a bunch of them, and they're some of my favourite people.
-INTP
@@yeahweburnstuff Awww thanks! 🥰
So Frank as an INFJ himself is also observing and taking everything we are saying and fitting it into his knowledge of the world and how the universe works.😂
edit: lol i didnt expect this many likes. thx
Lol have you not seen the polls?
You can't prevent an INFJ from knowing from the moment where you start talking, and even if you don't talk actually. But you're not forced to take it as a threat. You can choose to see it as a gift and something attractive because someone will always be here to understand you 😊.
Exactly :)
@@kyurei4478 yep
yes .
As an INFP, when he said "Man, what doesn't make them attractive?" my heart almost melted because I felt appreciated and maybe I'm just overthinking or I'm too emotional but It felt really good to hear that and that was wholesome 🥺🌹
Such and INFP thing to say I feel like I’m overthinking literally my whole INFP personality in a nutshell 😂 we r ❤ and appreciated!! No worries babes
@@lundynh3383 Thank you~~ 🥺 love u ❤
It's nice to hear some compliments every now and then
I have an INFP friend and she is exceptionally cute.
We were talking about her in our friend group the other day and I said: "u know, the rest of us can do cute things every now and again, but she just is cute - it's like her essence, adorable behaviorjust like seeps out of her".
So yea, as an INFJ I find my P personality opposite very endearing
Same…it’s like we really matter in the world even though we’re really quiet and feel useless sometimes 🥺
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14:11 INFJ
I was looking for that comment, thank you very much bro
Yes perfectly that's what I do as infj like it's described in this video:Attractive thank you now it's more clear ☺️
I do do that. INFP.
someone pin this
As an intp, I can confirm that I didn’t think I was that weird until I actually talked to people.
Lol same here and then I try to figure out why they aren't weird and don't think the way I do because to me I'm not weird at all it's just where my brain takes me
It’s self isolating really bad because it feels like I won’t be able to find people like me and I’m forced to accept that
@@Crackokaine there's no need to find people like you. I am autistic and i'm really not used to interact to people "like me". And what i found out is even people with exactly my personality type and autism are totally different from me. You need to find someone which can appreciate your mind's framework, maybe some of your passion, even if they do not approach them the same way you do. So yeah, keep working on accepting you'll probably never find somebody like you, but you can find people that can work with you in interesting way.
i’m so deep in the ni-ti loop that this is incredibly relatable lol
As an INFP, I absolutely Like talking to INTPs, whom they use their feelings a little bit.
We have similar Intuitive and Sensitive World, so it makes a great opportunity to interact, specialy with our Extroverted Intuition.
But It's important for INFPs to don't sink in feeling and use their thinking function more with INTPs
And exactly the opposite for INTPs.
I'm an INFP and I have social anxiety. Yesterday I called my mother during an anxiety attack, because I felt like I wasn't interesting enough for people to befriend me and I just felt like I was boring. This morning, my mother sent me this and told me to remember it my whole life ... I definitly will
I'm an INFP too and I often think that I'm boring. It got to the point where I literally never talk about myself and just ask people questions about themselves, talk about their experiences and so on. But what I've realised lately is that we are not boring, some people are just not ready/capable of exploring the depths of their souls like we can. You're good don't worry ❤️
INFP as well, I am currently at that stage of only-talk-about-others. I just want to thank you for being such a kind soul!! ❤️❤️
😭😭😭🤧 That is just so sweet!!!
@@alt.storia thank you, you just made my day ❤️
@@IcyVee523 ❤️
Frank: (About INFPs) "Man, what doesn't make them attractive?"
Me, an INFP: Oh Frank, are you just trying to flatter me, boost my confidence and, for a moment, stop my imaginative chaotic mind and make me feel special even if it is just for a couple of minutes?
Because if that's what you intended, then you succeded. Thank you :3
I'm an INFP, my crush is an INTP and damn I'd spend HOURS listening to their logical talks or discussing with them, bringing both logic and feelings into the conversation and trying to find a common point. With our Ne it'd be so crazy and fun.
Yesss! It can be a great match, if they both use their last function a little more!
I'm an INFP and I love hearing the ideas of INTPs. They are amazing people.
That might be such an interesting couple. That would be a pure joy to analyse this kind of relations. Sorry I don't want to sound creepy. I'm just very interested in personality interactions.
-INFJ
I've had a number of (non-romantic) relationships with INTPs and it's been very much like that. When the Ne clicks, it really can be a lot of fun, and if you're on similar levels intellectually, there can be a lot of interesting exchanges of knowledge, ideas, and insights.
Same :) INTPs are delicious.
I'm a INFJ with a ISTP partner, and I love it. There's no power manipulation room in an ISTP's heart. They just want to do their own thing and that creates an environment where I don't need to worry about what they need. I get burned out with most relationships I have because I tend to morph into an idealistic version of what the other party wants from me. It's nice read someone's mind that says, "just do what you want to do, so I can do what I want to do."
I married an ISTP as well, he doesn't always understand my feelings and is horrible at advice, but he is great at just listening and being there. It's also nice, because he understands when I need to be alone. He can be a little too isolated sometimes, so I just have to be vocal about needing time with him.
That is why I have always loved ISTPs,just minding their own business,no complicated puzzles to solve. As much as I love solving puzzles,I do not like spending a great deal of time trying to,so I think they could be my comfort people. I don't know if it's gonna sound weird or not.
~INFJ
@@reneecoons5057 I have had the same problems with my ISTP too, but it’s also nice because it’s all resolved from communication. I have to be vocal sometimes with my needs, but it’s a good feeling the trust has been built with actual work.
that's great! glad to hear that about an istp. (coming from an istp)
i appreciate it
-from a chaotis istp
(a little estp ig)
“ENFP will say things that they think are funny, and bonus if you think it’s funny too.” You are correct. That joke was for my brain, and I’m going to laugh at it. If you find it funny? Awesome! That means the joke was either actually funny, or we’re on the same wavelength lol.
That's it! 😀
I like enfps. I really do. they immediately caught my attention.
I'm Estj btw
One of my bosses is an ENFP and he can derail any task for HOURS if he’s left alone with his thoughts for more than 10 seconds. (He sits next to an ENTJ and I have no clue how any work gets done in that office).
My ENFP mother and ISFJ father made each other laugh for over 50 years. Their home was always full of laughter and I loved that.
ENFPs are so much fun to be around. As a very introverted INTP, I don't want to spend my "peopling time" with just anyone, and ENFPs are never a waste of time. Even when they're literally just wasting time.
As another INFJ, the whole puzzle and looking at how everything connects is definitely true about me and although it happens on autopilot, I definitely do put a lot of my thinking on this, for sure. Like, I love looking at how things relate to other things so much that it probably is like 95% of my thought process.
Same, but then I ask questions and I want to understand how their psychology works lol
The problem is that they don’t like it
People don’t really find this attractive 😭
As an INTP/ENTP, INFJs are just flat out awesome to talk to. You guys are so skilled at taking stuff that we offload from our minds and fitting them together and converting them into constructive advice, and it’s unprecedented. One of my best friends is an INFJ, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world
@@Stormrunner1229 as an INFJ I would say thanks because not many people would appreciate the way we treat friends
@@Stormrunner1229 wow thank you so much! I always doubt myself on my ability to talk to others but that's really nice to hear :) life is just like one big puzzle to me ahaha, and you INTP/ENTP are so awesome too, in fact my best is an entp so there you go ahahahaa
same here!
On INTJs and being mysterious: I, as an INTJ, have never figured this out.
I have literally told people exactly what I was going to do, exactly what responses I expected from others as each stimulus hit (including the people I was talking to), and then executed said plan in front of their noses, like a magician who has just explained the magic trick you are about to see.
And somehow they still found me fascinating.
I do not understand this reaction to something that comes as easy to me as breathing, and which, I just explained all the boring details about to my audience.
It's like some kind of comedy sketch where I try to be as honest as I can be, but everyone is convinced I'm lying unless I'm doing my best Julie Newmar Catwoman impression. Only then am I telling the truth -- except I'm also hiding stuff, obviously, because I'm not really Catwoman.
Maybe the rest of the world needs to learn that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, as Freud said?
Well, Julie Newnar wasn't really Catwoman either (who are we kidding? She was the only Catwoman ever!!!)
@@recoveringsoul755 LOL. There have been other good Catwomen, but Julie's top of my list. And Frank Gorshen is by far the best Riddler. Mark Hamil is my favorite Joker (and that's a really tough category), and I haven't made up my mind on Penguin between Burgess Meredith and Robin Lord Taylor because they're both very different takes but very very good. Kevin Conroy is obviously best Batman.
People can't handle honesty and truth
@@infdox9051 Yes. Clearly it's a trap. A clever, clever trap that they can walk away from at any time. But they are too fascinated by it to do so, I guess?
Wow as an ENTP I relate to this so much. I tell people exactly what's going on with me and they 1) don't believe me and 2) find me "mysterious" and/or "puzzling" I am as WYSIWYG as it gets, albeit the information is usually delivered unemotionally. And one feeler once explained to me this is why she refused to believe my words, because I didn't accompany them with a display of emotion.
Finding out as a INFJ that we know what it’s like to be misunderstood. That’s why we use our analytical mindset to figure you out. Being a friend with a INFJ is like having your own unlicensed therapist as a friend. When we know you we know how to improve the friendship. That includes communication, listening, being there, maybe distracting if you need it and most importantly connection. We care for others on a very deep level.
This is sooo true, finding other INFJ's makes me so happy I feel so understood 😭
"we care for others in a deep level" is such a sadly INFJ statement others don't understand
💯💯💯
The part that got me laughing was that I do not have certificate. Bro i'm INFJ with psychologist major!!! Hahahah
Really? I've had people freak out and tell me "how do you know everything?" point-blank, non-sarcastically. And I would ask, "what is it that I know that bothers you?" "Everything!" "What everything?" "Everything." My intuition both 'gets people' and 'gets to people'.
i hv an infp friend and this hits right on the spot. the first time i met him, i thought he was kind of odd and out of reach. but soon i get to know him, he somehow makes me feel at ease instantly. his words of comfort are not typical like what people would say. his words are beautifully arranged, and his way of thinking is so unique and really different from others. he makes me want to get to know him more. this emotional connection with him is allegedly undescribable yet so beautiful, that i feel like whenever i'm with him, it feels like a dream. a dream that i don't want to wake up from. he is like a little fairy or a unicorn to me. he really has such a beautiful soul. -infj
Kdbqjbzsjbs just- just... so cute💕💕💕💕
Aawww thanks infj! Awww that's so sweet uwu
-infp
I died of jealousy like 10 times from this XD. I hope, it goes well with him - infp :3
That’s incredibly sweet to hear, it’s clear how much you cherish your friend and his perspectives. Thank you for confirmation about this aspect of us INFP’s, we find ourselves an enigma and I think he would really appreciate hearing how you see him 💙
Our words of comfort aren't typical because we really don't wanna say something insincere.
So if we are going to comfort someone, we need to think deep and find something we actually believe and.
-INFP
“What makes INFP attractive? Man, what doesn’t?”
🥺thank u
It's really fascinating how your types are insecure to a fault but have no clue how charming you can be.
I must admit though, it's fun to mess with your heads and making you nervous sometimes...just to exploit this observation for amusement or just a unique method of calming you and my groupmates on a collaborative work. Welp, they call me 'devilman' for a reason.
-xNTP
@@jankyyard5610 ahahahahah
I know, I needed this so badly 🥹
When I actually open up and show that “uniqueness” to people I feel like the best friendships come from it. Thanks for making me feel like I’m not a weirdo but instead…unique. I like that. Maybe still a weirdo too though.
you're type is rlly cool!!!
As I always say, ‘normal’ is a laundry cycle dearies. 😊
Weirdos are my fav, so cute, innocent, and loveable ❤️
jus be a good weirdo is fine
As an Estp, a lot people think I’m weird, insensitive, overly confident and over all an attention seeking ball of to much energy that nobody wants to put up with. Basically they just think I’m really annoying. Except that’s also why I have tons of friends as well who said they envy my confidence, they love how I can just do what I want when I want and stand out from everyone else because it’s fun! People admire me because I can brighten up a dull situation! Life’s fucking boring so god sent me to make it more entertaining. My weirdness is unique, sure call it insensitivity... I call it honesty, you can NEVER have to much confidence, attention seeking? What’s wrong with that? If I don’t seek attention then how can I get more opportunities in life than others, to much energy? Be glad your not seeing my other side... when I’m tired my “insensitivity” doubles. If you piss me off when I’m tired you will either cry, hate me for life or develop at least 10 new insecurities about yourself... maybe all three! Believe it or not there was a time in my life where I lost that motivation and enjoyment I got from being alive. I started worrying about what others thought of me. I started lying and putting on a fake smile so others wouldn’t see how much stress I was under. I doubted myself all the time because I went through the days putting in no effort I listened to all the horrible things people said about me and I started to believe them. I forgot who I was. I was so depressed for a long time because something in me broke and it happened so suddenly that I didn’t know how to fix it. I let it build up without opening up to others or asking for help because I was scared that my friends and family would realize and maybe not like how I changed. It took me so long and I gave up so many times but I kept going. Eventually I found myself again and now I’m doing a lot better. Of course I still sometimes have those negative thoughts and emotions come back to me but I just remember the people in my life who help me to remember that confident girl I once was. It just takes time. Not everything in your life has to be “the best thing ever” otherwise you won’t be able to enjoy the small things as you let your expectations get to high. Only to come crashing down later. ANYWAYS that was kinda long even though nobody will read this but what I’m trying to say is if someone doesn’t like you then who cares? That or... bite their dick off. :D Stay strong my dudes!
My best friend is an INFP while I'm an INFJ we understand each other so well, it's like we're meant to be each other's friend. She has a lot to talk about while I listen patiently. Sometimes she said that I might be bored listening to all of her stories, stuffs she encountered, what she wants, the dreams and her ideals in life, and what life is for her, but I said that it's okay and that I love listening to her. She also understands me, my inner feelings, my likes and dislikes. Whenever we talk, it'll take hours, minimum is 3 HAHAHA but I love it. I just love how mature she thinks despite her age. I believe that we just complimented each other so well and I'm so thankful for it.
As an INFP myself, I've always really liked INFJs, I just feel like more than any other type, they are the best at understanding other people and how they feel, and I think that's what I like about them. Also they're usually always super nice
Im an INFP and my bestie is an INFJ
I felt every word of wt u said
We understand and compliment each other so well!!
She's like the other side of me
We talk a lot obvio
Another INFP with an INFJ bestfriend here. INFJs will always listen no matter what and that's what she does. She likes to understand me on a deeper level so it's always so easy going to her when I have issues that no one else will understand. But what makes me sad is as much as I share and as much as she takes in its not easy being the opposite. INFJs don't share what hurts them as to not burden others and they like to lock up their emotions to provide more support for other people and as an INFP I hate that because I want her to open up more so bad. I want her to cry in front of me letting all the stuff hurting her out so that I can be the listener and help her out
Infj, best friend: infp. Yeah, talking is a 3 hour minimum, but it's because we're just that engaged
@@yanoizikawa770 INFJ's really don't tend to share their pain specially to someone they're comfortable with. It's because we're afraid (there's a better term for this) to show our vulnerable side. It can also be because we don't want to burden other people with their struggles in life because we believe that we're all going through something, and if we share our burden with others, we think that it'll add up with their burden, and we don't want them to suffer too.
INTP with an INTJ girlfriend here... I find her sort of "mysterious" side is usually just the result of her understanding/knowing a lot of things but not being unable to put them into words--at least not effectively. They don't show you the process, they show you the product--and when you question the process, they can become a little irritated because... they often don't really know how they arrived at their conclusion. Not exactly, at least, but they are often still right nonetheless.
I love deciphering her thought processes. After knowing her for a few years/talking pretty much daily, I'm often able to take what she says and reword it in a way others can better understand, lol. So, I'd say INTJs are mysterious and once you get to know them, that mystery opens up into a brilliant/complex inner world. At least, from my experience.
That is what i call perfection . As an intj I want someone who can get my thoughts without me trying to explain them or put into words . There is too much happening in my mind and it sometimes gets too complicated for me to express my thoughts , thats why we do not like talking too much as we think no one will get our point and it ends up with people thinking we hide everything from them. Of course we lie too , but who does not? But trust me,
it doesnt mean we hide everything.
Dude I’m just an ENTP listening in but that was such an incredible compliment I had to congratulate you on it👍🏼
This is probably why we always have INTP/INTJ symbiote whether it's friendship, romance, or co-workers.
As an INTJs, we don't reveal all of things in our heads, we know that others can't catch up, it's like we come from the future
Aw man, this is so pretty
I’m also an intj, I relate with the way you described how you think her thought process is
It surprises me at the same time kinda not that INFPs think they're not attractive. I'm attracted to an INFP and I'm an ISFP, everything Frank said about what's attractive in an INFPs is true! Man, they're so eloquent, so wise and their understanding of human nature even without the experience to back all their knowledge up is so amazing. They're so wise beyond their years. They're such a lovely wise feelers!
They're also dense so my INFP would prolly never know that I like him, being the coward ISFP that I am. 😭
You can do it!!! Hope everything turns out well!!🤧
Can confirm about the dense part
- INFP
While I can confirm that we can be dense and potentially oblivious, in all honesty from my perspective as an INFP, what stops us most is self doubt and lack of unshakable certainty. He probably has already thought about it a lot and is too unsure of the situation to fully make a decision on whether or not you truly do like him. We are very hesitant and will not move forward without weighing all the options, and even then we are aware of our own fantastical thought processes to be dismissive of our own judgements to begin with. The best thing you can do is just be completely honest and try to show him in a very direct way.
I concur that I’m dense when it comes to knowing if people like me.
Ohh whatever decision you make, I support you!
Depending on the situation, INFPs would really appreciate your nice words (though some may feel reluctant at accepting compliments (-ω-))
As an INTJ, I can also relate to the INFJ in which I listen to everything and just make a mental image of how do the people around me work. I never get surprised because everything they do fits perfectly in my mind. I also am mysterious, I do not intend to but I’ve realized that even my friends don’t know a thing about my hobbies, the things I like, music I listen to. I’m not hiding it from them, they just never ask
I'm in a similar situation myself.
From an outside perspective, about the last thing, maybe it's not only that they just never ask, but also you just haven't shown them a clue about it, so naturally that does not give them a chance to even think it, so ask is very far
lol I am INTJ, but want to connect to family members b/c I value it. So I am trying facebook (seriously lol I do test out as an INTJ) and I struggle b/c I put up articles of what I am interested in and those things that I think will be helpful or having an effect on the world -things I care about.... crickets... no interactions... no one cares... and I Know that I could put up different posts that would likely garner more engagement, but that would be fake and I want to show them the real me... but the real me is and facebook sucks! I always knew it did... but I want to connect to family... sigh... maybe I can fix their computers or offer other services??? something... it just sucks.
I also feel like I can relate with an INFJ
-INFP
So what I've (INTP) learned/ observed about the attractiveness of my people:
ENTJ (hubby): BOLD. Sees a wrong, addresses it fearlessly. Super smart.
ENFP (son): CHARMING. walks into a room, and is best friends with anyone he speaks with. Can make even shy people feel seen.
ISTP (son): All sorts of weird facts floating in head. Helped me gain an appreciation for concrete reality. Helped me see the value of vocational training as opposed to the bias I had toward academic knowledge.
INFJ (daughter): Halo effect. She made no effort to befriend anyone, yet everyone she meets wants to be her BF. Has an uncanny ability to read micro expressions. Even mine, when I am putting on a flat affect. Freaked me out when she started reading me like an open book.
They are all pretty amazing.
That is Quite the fascinating family dynamic.
~(° o゜~)
Infp here.. hairstylist. The other day I was talking to a man.. and I thought, I gotta ask him what his type is.. we have got to be opposites. I was right, he was an estj. I said... you're so damn logical... do you ever just do what feels right instead of what makes sense? He said no. I said, man.. that's like all I do! He said "your life must be chaotic" 🤣🤣 lol one of the most interesting convos I've had in a while. Thanks for the video!
as an infp who often seems to scare people away with my strangeness and philosophical talks, thanks for this i needed the ego boost lmfao
Another thing attractive about INFJs is their ability to speak about deep things so well. 😊
YES, I completely agree! :)
Usually that just turns people off, but that might be because I'm surrounded be sensors.
I had a girl telling me straight to my face that I shouldn't say or do certain things because it intimidates people. We had a whole argument about if faking is good or bad. I find it sad that some people prefer to hide parts of themselves to fit into the crowd but that's the sad reality.
@@YehudiNimol If that's what she told you, and was willing to argue with you about it, then you know what you need to know about her. She's not someone you should have these kinds of conversations with, nor should she be allowed close enough to you to think it's ok to tell you how you're supposed to be. She is the one who's intimidated, and she's projecting that issue onto you and expecting you to alter yourself to make her feel more comfortable. Big no-no.
@@YehudiNimol I also live surrounded by sensors and I completely understand you...
Some INFJs be writing the most online but barely say two words in real life when they don’t have to.
INTP - I was in an entrepreneurship class for several weeks. as it was drawing to a close I was sitting at a table with 5 other people.
I was geeking out over something (I don't even remember what now) and everyone else was silent and listening. I never control conversations and I got self conscious and I said something like 'sorry, I'm talking to much'. One of the guys who I was on really good terms with said 'no! What you are saying is fascinating! Don't stop now!'
Sometimes the deep ideas we have are attractive, you just got to get us into the right flow to express them.
As an ISTP, I can agree with what you say. And yes, we really are complicated people to get to know and especially to deal with, so getting more intimate as an ISTP is difficult especially for a love relationship. In the end, it's worth it.
Is it worth it? I can only hope. I'm a year into dating and still barely know him.
@@ihay472 well, it usually takes about a year for me to feel comfortable enough and start opening up a little. Just another year and a half to become close to someone
yea man
@@garnarum sounds about right. As an ESFP this is almost physically painful for me.
@@ihay472 I would say it is worth it. My brother is an ISTP, and he is always there for me. Not in a caring way but "mess with my sibling, you mess with me". Even that may be a bit too "feely", he does it even more bluntly. We are like partners in crime, and it is so fun because my ability to understand and get people to trust me. Then he just goes/does and says whatever he wants to them. It is always so funny to see how he never gets in trouble (Pygmalion effect), and I don't either because I look so innocent. I can build a perfect 4 Square empire or give someone their karma without ever being involved. It is perfect.
last night, I talked with my INFJ friends about things that I cooped up for the last few years. It's came naturally and not awkward as I always feels with my other friends. Maybe because we're a feeler, we can understand each other well. For me as a private person, telling people about the feeling that I feel took so much courage. Without being judged and relating to her is one of the best feeling ever.
Evet , ben de bir ınfj yim. Ve arkadaşlarım içinde tuttuklarını bana anlatırsa çok mutlu olurum. Onları anlamaya çalışırım. Asla yargılamam. Destek olurum.
INFP who’s too unique in terms of expressing myself then… that’s why I’m here, trying to figure out what makes me attractive🙂
ISTPs intimidate me but they are extremely attractive (especially the women, who tend to be athletic and take care of their appearance without ever appearing overdone).
What makes them attractive: 1) they ask a lot of questions and they're attentive listeners 2) they have that self-contained mysterious air about them 3) they always seem calm 4) they are competent 5) they appear interested in you while also appearing to give no f*cks
Haven't meet one in person, but quite think they are cool for the reasons you have mentioned 🤧
as an ISTP woman, thank you for saying that
not many people talk about us in these videos (especially the women ISTP) so it makes me happy for us to be noticed!
ISTP here. Its so rare to see a comment on or made by ISTPs in these videos, haha. Not so sure about the asking questions part, since i have a hard time focusing on what others say (my SO hates this side of me, since sometimes he thought im ignoring him when im actually not) Everything else is pretty accurate though.
All checks, not number5 tho. We like asking questions, so we can get a chance to know/learn you. When we are interested in something, we like to observe. After a while, we might get bored because we already know what we want to know. We are indeed good listeners because all we can do is asking questions. We don't like to share what we really are untill we feel comfortable with that person. In fact, people hardly get to know us because they do ask stupid questions that they don't even care what the answers are. Also, i usually ask the questions to keep the conversation going and sometimes i don't care (we don't know how to end the conversation + that awkward silence will make me uncomfortable XD)
as fellow istp's said here, yes its hard to find istp comments, thanks.
When you said "OH MAN" in a heavy Deep-Fried accent, this ENFP knew he was in for a treat. You gave a very nuanced take that perceives us seriously, and I greatly thank you for it.
ENTJ are also super charismatic and know how to talk and laugh in any social situation, opinionated or not ;) good vids I always enjoy them !!!
I agree, I got 9 years relation with an ENTJ, the best speaker. Adapt to every people like INTJ INFJ, but with a better ability to communicate.
I am an INFJ married to another INFJ, so I completely agree with Frank on what is attracitve about INFJ's! I believe that is why I was immediately drawn to my husband. Very intense listener that tries to understand everyone. As someone who never really felt understood, it was refreshing that he wanted to get to know me and understand me! And from my own perspective, I do try to solve people...one of my biggest hobbies is trying to match make for my very close friends! Especially when we have deep conversations about them feeling lonely or wanting to get married one day and it seem like it will never happen for them. 😞 I become super optimistic and make it my life's mission to find their soul mate! For my cousin, I searched through hundreds and I mean hundreds of girls on Facebook through friends and prayed that the Lord would allow me be able to find my cousin's match on there and He answered my prayer! My cousin has been with his girlfriend for a year and 1 week now and they seem very happy! I hope a ring will appear on her finger very soon! 😊😍
Seems like we all need our matchmaker INFJ or at least us introverts, would save us the trouble of actually meeting so many people...
I’m definitely a matchmaker for my friends. My friends simply tell me who they like and by simply just watching their crush I can tell if they like them or not😂 idk why. If they don’t I try setting them up with other people
@@edi0157 I mean I don't disagree with you there!! 😉😊
@@sethvandycke904 That is awesome!! We definitely try to find solutions to EVERYTHING!! Especially peoples' loneliness. 🥺❤️
@@hannahwatson265 but never cure our own 😎
As an INFJ female dating an ISFP male, you nailed it! I love my partner’s authenticity. He really doesn’t care what other people think, and yet he’s extremely compassionate and kind.
For me, the most attractive thing about ESTJs is when you can see behind their ''orderings'' that they actually care about you and are just trying to find a way to help you, even if it's not the best approach to do it, but you can see it, that they are not just trying to boss you around, but they actually want to see your best. I really like when this happens. Same with ENTJs, but it's kind rarer with the ESTJs that I met
This is so true✨
They have a soft side.
@@ElodieN_INTJ_Typology_Insights yeap, it's just like when you see Gordon Ramsay being cute with kids on the show. You know he can make anyone cry, but when he is nice with the kids it brings some strange kind of joy to me, like ''o bem venceu''
Agree, 100%. My ESTJ husband is exactly that way
One of my closest coworkers is an ESTJ, the other is an INFJ (I'm an INFJ myself). I agree; i can tell my ESTJ friend may rub some people the wrong way because she is very orderly, and isn't afraid to gather people if tasks need to be done, or if there is a more efficient way to do things. But personally I never get offended or put off by her, but my other coworkers do. Especially since their inferior function is Extraverted Feeling. They typically put their emotions aside when making decisions more than all the other types (along w the ENTJ type, as well tho).
you can tell he is an infj because how uncomfortable he seems when it comes to talk about the attractiveness of his type, and how he ended moving the conversation to other stuff not really related to attractiveness.
What type you are? So impressive your analysis
You explained INFJ so well! as and INFJ, I am unintentionally trying to understand other peoples thinking process and stuff, so auto piolet fits great!
One of my closest friends is an ISTP. I dont even feel like I actually know them but when they decide to be fun or bold i really love it. Spot on as always.
Well as an ISFP-A I should say that you're spot on.. when I'm in the verge of collapsing while doing some project & if someone tell me, dude... you never gonna make it... here comes my "sudden burst of sparks" like.. bish just wait & watch..!
All the things about my ISTP hubby that intimidates others, I find so cute. I also love how he does his own thing at all times. I’m an ENTJ and that kind of tenacity is super attractive to me.
I'm ENFP and my husband in INFJ and what you said bout INFJ is definitely him, but I do that too. So when we met, we basically knew exactly who each other was within 10min of talking to each other, it was almost like talking to an introverted version of myself and we've been married 8yrs now. Although, I have noticed with ENFP you mention them being the life of the party, but that's only if we're comfortable. We read people very quickly, so if we sense the people aren't enjoying our antics we tend to go awkward and quiet because we then become uncomfortable. But if we're comfortable and people seem to be reacting well to our antics then yes, we're not going to stop the jokes coming and we are very random haha XD Mind you, that could be dependant on the scale too. I'm almost 50/50 when it comes to the I/E and F/J so I guess I'm more of an ambivert and other ENFP's higher on the E scale may be more what you tend to mention. BUT This here post is a clear example of how ENFP's can talk too much haha XD *awkward*
I absolutely relate to your point! I immediately pick up on people who are uncomfortable or don't care about what I'm talking about, and then I basically back away slowly. When that conversation ends I'll find someone else to talk to or something else to do as an excuse to get away. If I think we both seem connected, even if I've just met you, I could talk with you for hours!
@@Purple_Hearted_Izzy17 yes exactly. I'm the same 😁 when we're comfortable we're very extrovert but when we're uncomfortable we're very introvert haha 😄
Yes I relate to not always being the life of the party unless im comfortable
I can give you a better one for ENTJ: when we're leading, we carry people along with us on our mission, and they like that. That clear vision and strength of purpose inspires them.
As an ENTJ I confirm this 😂
Another thing is you ENTJs are non-annoying tsunderes. It's like a perfect mix of being blunt and can't admit your true core feelings to others.
I think you can confidently say "be my boyfriend/girlfriend" but having a hard time to utter the words "i love you" alone. You always need to have an end goal in your words and actions that it can be comical sometimes (still amazing though).
-INTP devilman
I love how he managed to explain that about INFPs bcoz that's literally what i think about them! They make you feel valued. Also, i love how they value morals and principles! And about INTPs, i would say i love how they give the most practical advice and bring you down to earth bcoz my INFJ self needs that sometimes!!💀
As an ISTP, I am honored to be intimidating. And yes it is a bit hard for people to figure out my personality mostly because people don't try hard enough to get to know me or I don't show my true colors incase it freaks them out. And I'm not very good at socializing. I give one word responses and especially with strangers I'm not good at keeping conversation or even showing interest, my bad. Even sometimes my mom is like "Why didn't you get up and talk to her or something?" And I'm all slouched down like, "uh... I didn't want to"
as an entp, the stuff you say about us is always deadly accurate 😭 keep up the good work!!!! love ur videos man
You guys rule
@@bananaflavouredtea8044 we do 😎 haha thanks though :D
And then most of my non-entp friends are like “what? do you need help?”!🥲
How come you guys don’t dress like suave barristers on a daily?
@@Anonymous_Anon882 good question tbh
Okay… as INFJ maybe I attract people by being a good listener (although I feel I am not doing anything, just listening), but I hear more often that people like that I am not judgmental (I.e. open to different views and human behavior) and accepting of people. People feel that they can be who they are. That is the biggest compliment one can give imo
Yes! This video is a W for us INFPs!
Some of the compliments I most often get are that I’m authentic and I’m always myself. My mentor said that during my high school graduation. I’m quiet and reserved around the vast majority of people, but that means I never break who I am.
Another compliment I have gotten quite often is that I can phrase thing quite beautifully. My psychologist told me that, and some other people as well. I’m often told I speak with a certain maturity (and I’m 18).
And my unique perspective and ability to improvise on things is something people seem to appreciate about me too. I have autism, so that kind of adds fuel to the fire of a unique perspective. It shows in certain forms of art I practice. Mostly writing. I want there to be a lot of symbolism, ambiguity, double meanings and such. But I also want my characters to stay human. In terms of music, I play the piano. And I haven’t really ever learned to read sheet music. I just play off sound and intuition. And some people say I just play with this innate groove that you just do or do not have. And I also like taking some pictures now and then. And a big compliment, is when I’ve made a photo and I see other people copying my angle. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
As an ISTP, I agree with this. I am aware and unaware that whatever I do intimidates people lol. My INFP friend told me that the first time she saw me, she thought I would punch her if she said hi to me😂
I feel like most of us(ISTP) have an INFP friend
hahaha yeah
@@vrie2053 You guys got friends?? i don't even have a bestfriend (as ISTP) i feel like i never met other istp (my people) XDDD
@@MegaMaster215 I also feel like I've never met any other ISTP. I am not really close with my friends either. I want to find people who resonate with me. Its frustrating how I have to tone down my opinions to seem less critical / blunt towards others since honesty is so important for me. I'm currently fighting the ISTP urge to delete my comment cuz it feels like too much of me is being exposed.
I feel comfortable around ISTPs though. It's like... why would I waste my time on beating around the bush? They are direct people who call out BS without judging people (at least in my experience). I don't feel the fear of being judged because if they don't like me, they simply won't engage with me but won't badmouth me or generalize my entire personality because of one mistake.
ESTPs intimidate me though.
-An INFJ
I'm glad someone else sees how funny ESTJs are! I'm an INFJ, so very different to them, but I have a deep appreciation of their humor and their hidden, awkward warmth.
When Frank said "Now we come to INFJs.."
I thought "There's nothing attractive about us." Then Frank said "Not attractive."
I literally laughed out loud suddenly HAHAHA my officemates were shookt.
Love it!! ENFP (sometimes INFP) married to ENFJ and you’re spot on! People are just so fascinating! Even the ones I can’t understand.
Noticed your ring within 1 second but already knew you got married because I watched your Live a few weeks ago 😁
Just to help you out. If you get tired easily at a gatherimg then you're an Introvert. Extroverts get more hyped as gathering goes. Introverts gets tired. :)
I'm an infp and I'm always loud and fun at parties. But give me 30 mins, I'll be somewhere alone, or sitting down being quiet. I call it my charging moment :p
Infp's can develop confidence over time but still an introvert cuz of reason above.
As an infj, I agree to everything he said about us and other types when considering the people i know with these personality types.
INFJ here with an ENTJ mom and what you said about ENTJ’s actually puts into words what I find interesting about my own mom. My mom is very opinionated about a lot of things and it’s very interesting for her to tell me and my brother about these opinions and bounce my own opinions around. Although she is pretty quiet about her own opinions around a lot of people she isn’t very close with it.
As an INFJ, you pinpointed exactly what I love about INFPs. INFPs are the one type that can offer a new, insightful perspective to me on the topics that interest me the most (the human experience).
I really love and appreciate when people ask me for advice on any subject. You got that right.
-ENFJ
Hi fellow ENFJ!!! so glad to see another ENFJ in the comments :D
I literally love ENFJ! Just wanted to say that, hope you have a wonderful day ❤️ - an INFP
HELLOO!!! a fellow enfj here!!!!
Suuup guys! ENFJ reporting, hope y’all are doing great :D
@@psnada7524 I've been great so far. I hope you also have a great day.
I’m an INFJ, and I’m absolutely a good listener who tries to “solve” people and fit everything into what I know (or rather what I think I know) about the world and the universe. That’s 100% accurate! I have this friend who I’m pretty sure is an ESTP. Like what Frank was talking about, she just says whatever she’s thinking and doesn’t worry about how it comes across. I get such a kick out of her because she says all the things I’m thinking but I’m too nice to say out loud.
Introverts are attractive because they are a big surprise themselves. If you are put off by someone’s reserved behavior don’t be discourage…they reserve their personal world for those that matter to them. The freak flag, booming personality & honesty awaits. Trust, you are in for a surprise if you just let others show you who they are 💜
-ENFP
Well, the issue is some of us dont like you all s unpredictability but thanks for the praise, you are right-ISTJ here
😉
7:12 That’s so sweet. I’m glad I found your channel.
as an ISFP dating an INFJ I found this video so accurate! He (my bf) can really step up when needed but he knows when to be softer as well. It is truly an attractive trait! I struggle socially but he allows me to be myself. Love this video! Keep it up Frank!
I'm an INFP and the way you described it made me smile 😊
I'm an infp who has an infj bestie and u knw, it's kinda scary yet amazing how intensely they listen to u. Like when we talk, I would sometimes mention something as a passing comment, just general stuff that I don't expect her to remember. Then months down the line, when we talking about the same thing or something similar, she says that she remembers me mentioning that passing comment. Always leave me shocked😂
As an ENTP with my best friends being ENFP and INFP.. yeeees!!!
As an ENTP talking to an INFP is the best because they just get the small details of communication so well and because they have this "good grasp on what it's like to be a human", they truely make the feeler type stuff sound almost logical and can definitely voice this in a playful argument soooo consider me hooked :D
For the ENFP, she's nuts and I can't even begin to explain how much I love her for it, but yes, never a dull moment or a "boring conversation" with ENFP, she's the party, she's the moment, people love being around her and she often complains that people are too boring - yet they love her hahaha
Frank talking about INFPs: …man, what doesn’t make them attractive?
Me, and INFP: 😳 stooooooooooop 🤭😌
Tbh one of the things that I’ve always liked about myself no matter how poorly I generally think of myself on the whole, is my ability to talk about something in a way that’s not only eloquent but *relatable* and easy to understand. While we as INFPs strive to always be uniquely ourselves, we are never so disconnected that we couldn’t understand *and* convey what it means or how it feels to be “the only sentient race in the sector” (and we’re made out of meat!). Relatability is our greatest strength and honestly our downfall sometimes lol bc it’s that part of us that can look at a monster of an individual and see the parts of them that were once human, that we can not help but want to reach out to. Of course a healthy INFP will know when it is not a good idea to do so, or when to throw the towel in so you speak before things get too messy or detrimental to our own well-being, learning how to do that unfortunately comes at the cost of some really really difficult lessons 😬 But we’re resilient, self expression helps us get through them, and we *always* walk away with a deeper understanding of what it means to be here.
I think I wrote all this as I know I need to be reminded of it when I’m feeling shitty about myself, but I hope it makes other INFPs feel good too 💕
I relate soo much especially the last paragraph 🤗
Thank you so much for that! Very relatable, and you expressed it all beautifully🥲
As an INFJ I appreciate your type so much, I can always talk about deep topics with you guys without feeling uncomfortable or coming across creepy.
@@raccoonbiceps9613 thank you kindly TrashPandaArms
I absolutely blushed
I appreciate your review of ISTP😬 amazingly spot on lol
FJ gave ISFPs a compliment? I think my timeline shifted? 😅 It’s true, we’re not dumb. We just have the audacity to believe in ourselves.
Also, I suspect that we may rely on intrinsic motivation, more than extrinsic motivation. I’ve been thinking a lot about what motivates me lately. No matter how many motivational books & videos I consume, ultimately it’s the joy from the actions I take from my to do list. Not motivational affirmations & other stuff that may work for other types. Also knowing when to rest so that we have the energy to do all the things on our goal lists.
I really love and appreciate my ESFJ auntie. She's the glue that holds our family together. I don't know how she manages parties with all of us introverts, without any of us feeling drained afterwards. I never feel socially drained at an Emily party, I swear she's a magician ❤️.
ESFJ aunties are super-cool.
Thank you so much for this video! It really is wonderful to appreciate what’s great about each type. As an ENFJ, we definitely love giving advice, and will gladly do our best to help. It’s gratifying to see our more rational side recognized. After all, it’s not doing anyone any favors if we completely ignore all logical sense, even if it makes people feel better to do that at the moment. Ti definitely works in service of Fe for us, but I think it’s an important support component for it.
And not that anyone asked, but I find INFJs the most attractive. I always feel so heard and understood by them, and we click in a really deep and natural way.
ISTPs re lowkey the most attractive personality out there . Most badass anime characters are always istps.
I agree! I love ISTPs
thanks ;)
i don't think i am a badass...
Some ideas for other videos (though perhaps they've been done before?):
- Extracurriculars that the 16 personalities were a part of in high school
- What friend types will generally round out each of the 16 personalities' close friend groups (given we each can only really juggle a few close friends - what types might we decide to be around and are all our friends the same type or are they all different?)
- Friend types we hang out with in high school when we're all less sure of ourselves and more the textbook version of our types because we haven't done a lot of growth versus friend types we hang out with in adulthood
- Normal, adult things each of the 16 personalities have issues with (some will just have a lot, in general, like me - an INFP - cos I'd rather be in my head than interacting with people or doing practical things) but things like taxes or maintaining friendships or being at work on time sort of things, I was thinking?
- We all kind of get each of the memes of the personalities but what are each of the personalities most likely to try and work on first and change? Obviously this'll differ from circumstance and social background and whatever but I'm just curious if you have thoughts, FJ? Just given you've done a lot of research and talked to a lot of different people.
Anywho, don't know if that's helpful but I enjoy the videos 🙂
My little observations:
ISTPs: I like that you said they are intimidating, I also think they are obviously strong personalities. However even if they'd never admit it, they are scared of conflicts and do anything to avoid them. Even physically run away. When you realize this, they are not that scary anymore...
ENFPs: I love their humor because they are not just randomly jumping from one point to another. They get to next idea throught quick thinking and linking their thoughts. They are also open-minded and don't care about gossip. For me as an INTJ it's very attractive...
INTJs: I agree, we can talk for hours. For years I thought I was like open book, but later found out we seem secretive. I like to be mysterious, so I don't talk that much anymore. It's more interesting.
This comment deserves more attention! I agree to all of this!
-ENFP
I still refuse to believe to this day that I actually look intimidating even though I've been told that straight to my face. Like really...me? pfft
Muy cierto lo que dices, como ISTP si hay algo que más aprecio es la armonía, siempre evito los conflictos y más con las personas que más aprecio.
True , as an istp I hate conflicts , i am afraid of hurting people , it's the inferior function where your fear exists .
@@janaella4591 Like an ENFP I would say I prefer avoid conflicts too, Is better seeing from afar where the flames can't get you :v But, then again is a personal opinion, don't know if other ENFP will think the same :v
As an istp, I was really shocked to find out that you/people tend to find us intimidating, since the main reason we (or at least myself) stick to ourselves is because we’re kinda scared of other people
yes yes exactly that lol. i get panic attacks when there is just a small chance that i have to talk to someone (ex.School). Its just so scary.
@@wasserphoenix65 personally I’m not that scared to talk to people, but usually whenever I tried to talk to one of the “popular” kids, I’d always freak out and pray they wouldn’t make fun of me
@@galacticsalt7336eso mismo me pasa a mi también jajaja
So true about ISTJ's. I am brutally honest towards everyone, and I never understand why people act fake towards others.
Same, just tell people what’s up! I’ll admit that I’m a super neurotic ISTJ, and guessing gets me ruminating and it turns into a whole thing.
I know an istj and she's so much like that too. Tbh I get annoyed by you istj-guys easily (because I feel like you don't get my infp-values) but I really appreciate your honesty and authenticity
Finally a comment about us, scrolled long enough to find it. Yeah, I cant stand that, it is the most difficult thing about dealing with other people really. Stuff like playing games makes me straight up leave. My parents intentionally telling me the wrong time to prove that I should hurry up with doing something is annoying. Even reading an INTJ-INFJ conversation above on how to strategise dealing with other humans is a bit scary, I will strategise what I say to some stranger in a certain conversation before approaching too but that is about it, relationships arent a game of chess after all. And of course we cant stand it, why the hell would anyone want to be around somebody they cant trust? But for some reason "white lies" get a pass in society....
As an INFP, at my core: I'm just a human trying to figure out how to be human
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs that goes for many introverts tbh. INTP, INTJ, me as an ISTJ, all of those types could say that lol
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Well, being weird/"not a human" doesnt necessarily mean people wont listen to you as it might be that unique perspective they are looking for. It will only be true most of the time as probably wont be many people lol. As for ISTJs vs ESTPs, that is a huge difference, we share literally no functions whatsoever. An ISTJ could definitely end up being listened to if they end up recognised as experts at their workplace or when with their friends or so on but we dont really have the charisma to make people sit up and take notice of us when we enter a room or make friends easily unless he really tried to study how to be more charismatic I guess, that is more of an extrovert thing in general. Ask yourself, is he constantly looking for new experiences and adventures? An ESTP does (dominant Se), an ISTJ wont most of the time. We d never jump off a cliff without thinking about it or find fun in seeing people get mad like the video says. We will say the truth that needs to be said but we wont make people mad for no reason. ESTJs are our extrovert counterparts so if you meant them that is more understandable
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Hmm no, I didnt look very hard into it. What makes you think he isnt ESTJ but that he could be ISTJ or ESTP though? And about feeling odd with people, same here, small talk sucks, many trends are stupid and I like meeting some people but am fine sitting in my room by myself. You just need to find the people that really appreciate your values and that are capable of such discussions and befriend them
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs I have just seen your edit, as you said all types are capabale of empathy and in fact ESTPs have better people skills due to their tertiary Fe while our Fi makes it harder to tell how people are feeling at a glance. It is tertiary in both cases as well, not sure why we would be better at empathy than them. Yeah nurture can definitely change people a bit, most cultures value extroversion which is the bane of us introverts. Idk what playing pranks on family members has to do with any of this, engaging in talks when spoken to is just being a normal human while walking up to people you dont know (which I dont do myself) would mean overcoming shyness but not necessarily being an extrovert if it isnt done all the time. The second comment has good points though, ESTJs tend to be more in your face especially if they arent close to you due to being extroverts. Healthy ESTJs learn to tone it down a bit overtime but still that should be there. An ISTJ is more likely to not expend the energy and instead judge you silently and only tell you you are doing something wrong if you are close to them or it is their job to tell you or something. If you are close to us or if working together on a project though we will definitely tell you when we think you are wrong because we care about you/the project s success, that can turn into bossiness with stubborn enough people depending on the situation. Fair enough on the Si point, I actually won national-level prizes in Spanish in school contests as a Romanian so I guess that is why lol
@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Yeah, physical activities like that make sense as well even though I personally barely do any. Do you have your own farm or are you working for somebody?
I have 3 INFP friends (just like me), and really, they seem to be very interesting.
I have two ENFJ friends, I like them, but especially one. He talks about things that seem so basic and popularly uninteresting, but he speaks with a passion that infects me so much that I get entertained by everything (but as I am an INFP, sometimes I get lost in my thoughts during the conversation and I end up losing some points...)
My best friend is ESFJ, and I really like how social she is, but she kind of wears me out sometimes, lol.
And now I know why I always felt a vague feeling coming from my friend. This is a normal thing for INTJs.
Yay! Frank's talking me up 🥰🥰🥰🥰 (I mean he's talking everyone up but! 🍑) as an INFP I feel super cool and attractive now ❤️
Right? Feel mad loved Lol
I love your videos! So informative. I am a personality type junkie and I have found learning about the different personalities has really helped me relate better at work and home. I am an ENFJ and you hit the nail on the head every time! 💜 After watching this video, I now understand why sometimes people look confused after asking me for advice HAHA!
As an INTJ I do choose to hold some things back, but even if I wanted to, I don't have the time to tell you everything that's in my head.
Also I hold things back that I don't think that you'd understand.
the fact that INTJ's timestamp is 4:44 shows how attractive we are :) hehe
Thank you for the timestamp!!
Yep and that's one of my angel numbers
As an ISTJ: nailed it. I do NOT guess peoples motives nor do I like “reading between the lines”. Just say it, man! 😂
Some people appreciate my straight forward bluntness, some don’t. 🤷🏻♀️
I think I need an INTJ or ISFJ for a romantic relationship.
Maybe we could do with an INTP too, those guys are robots anyway, I am sure they dont mind bluntness lol
Good match for ISTJ are sensors and feelers like ISFJ, ESFJ, and ESFP
@@TechTalk-6G depends on who you ask really, I have seen people pairing us with like half the types. From those you mentioned to ESTJs, ESTPs, ISFPs and ISTPs I have seen many suggestions. The thing is, the same differences that make couples "more complete" and apparently "attract people" (never understood/felt in action the opposites attract idea myself) can easily turn into sources of conflict as well. As somebody that has never had a crush (so take this with a pinch of salt I guess), what I imagined as my ideal girlfriend is far more of a reclusive nerd type like INTJ or INTP. I think extrovert-introvert couples, while clamoured by many as the Holy Grail, could easily get too draining for the introvert and lead to huge arguments over how to spend free time."There is a party this weekend, do you want to come?" "No." "Damn, I cant understand how you can stay at home so much, you are such a recluse, what is wrong with you?". Then again, we do need them to approach us as we dont do much of that and mature people would be more understanding of each other. As for feelers, I d be scared of unintentionally hurting them and not being able to tell that due to that exact bluntness we were talking about, though I suppose Fe users especially would be useful in helping me decipher social situations. ISFJs seem fine enough if they dont bottle up any disagreements they might have (because I cant tell you are mad and what made you mad if you dont tell me. Tbf I sometimes retreat as well when I think that there is no point in saying anything but I like to believe I d be better about that in a relationship). Their description in this video immediately reminded me of James Milner lmao, can they play RB for my football team as well? See, we can make jokes as well, take that people who think we cant. The ESFJ energy in this video is a bit scary in a "how can you just do that" way but I suppose they are taking the spotlight off of me so that works lol. Their Thinking function is 4th too, sounds like an even bigger clash with my thinking preference. ESFPs would just wreck my plans probably, dominant Se is a scary thing.
Any combination can have a healthy, successful relationship, they'll just have different areas to work on, different strengths/weaknesses as a couple. MB is hard for me, because as an ambivert, I'm half ISTJ and half ESTJ. As an enneagram 1, I joke with my husband that I'm just glad I'm already married, because on paper, I can find a reason to not marry each and every type, ha! I was married before I got into personality types, I'm with an INTJ, enneagram 4, and it is what it is. ♥️
@@HalfBlindPlans Fair enough, we all have flaws, we are obviously talking theory here, still looks to me like the more differences there are the harder they will be to overcome. Not impossible, but hard. Interesting that you are half-half introvert vs extrovert, full-blown introvert here. Have you watched FJ s subtypes video? I am curious how you score on that. INTJs do seem really cool as I said, then again I read a conversation between an INTJ and INFJ once on strategising how to deal with people and it was a bit creepy, I will plan out what I say to a stranger or at a job in the future or when I am writing a comment here on the Internet etc but not to such a degree lol.
Lol INFJ 😆 I can definitely relate, I masquerade extroversion but I'm horribly introverted, more than 80% I'm pretty sure. I always want to observe, place, and understand everyone 😁
But more times from the comfort of your own room (or riding solo in a not-too-busy pub. with something or two to drink), right?
@@Anonymous_Anon882 Exactly. A crowd is considered 3 people in my eyes 😅
@@watertigress9328 same here, to be fair. ;)
I actually don’t mind being in big groups but I’m always very much the observer. Whatever jokes I have to tell come out online or in small groups (if it happens to be face-to-face) only.
@@Anonymous_Anon882 Yeah. I just despise attention
@@watertigress9328 same here (again). I like positive acknowledgment just as much as the next person but generally when I’m going about my day-to-day business I’d rather just blend in and go about my way, not necessarily because I’m honing in on Ni that much at all times but just because I only like (positive) attention when it’s needed/relevant to me as an actual person and not just because of what I might happen to be wearing for convenience (or what-have-you). I’d also rather initiate conversations with people I need/want to interact with on my own terms and not have random acquaintances I don’t really want to do small talk with popping up (unless I actually want to do small talk with them, which actually does happen every so often but not as a general day-to-day rule). I really like how friendly a lot of people are (and when it counts I’m usually up for a good conversation) but really when you’re just trying to mind your business on your way to the park/grocery store being stopped by every Tom, Dick and Harry you had one conversation with 16 months ago for the sake of them getting your attention or roping you into unnecessary small talk is just annoying. I’m not as allergic to it as the typical INFJ (I dip in and out of that and a sort of reserved/non-quirky ENFP shadow if that makes any sense) but I’d still rather not do it most of the time (I use headphones to stop the chances of that happening more than I actually want to blaze iTunes/Spotify). From what I’ve seen ENFPs aren’t too interested in random small talk, either.
I'm an INTP and I know something about weridness🙃
"They know that they're werid"
...I'm laughing😆
But I really respect you because of your big knowledge, it's hard to impress INTP with something like that. True compliment from true INTP. Now, with watching your videos I can read people perfectly and use it as a power, a tool to tell them "I know everything about you" and explain things when they are tired😈
FJ is awesome. And INFJs generally like to say meaningful things and to leave an impact on people so what you say makes perfect sense. Oh god, INFJs know they shouldn't reveal the personality and psychology observations and secrets because it's like opening the Pandora's box for other types. They won't care about morality. FJ what have you done 😥 ?!
Same!!
S M A R T fam
As an INTJ I can say that there is always something else going on in my mind as I share my ideas, plans or opinions.
It's just something that happens simultaneously, for example: It might be something I have been studying recently, and while I am speaking something just clicks in my head and so I share that, and then maybe that will remind me of something else, but at some point I feel I am talking too much and will just stop, and people can feel I am keeping information from them lol
“They love being unpredictable.” Don’t put logic to my chaos. I feel called out. -ENFP
So you admit you love being unpredictable then?
Guilty. I mean who wants to be predictable? Maybe my ISTJ roommate lol.
@@nialanderos I'm a bit curious because I don't think I've ever actually met an enfp in the real world. What exactly is it with unpredictability/predictability - Order/Chaos that makes you enjoy the frenetic side of things?
@@VVanDraven You’ll know if you’ve met one of us, we are a collection of random thoughts strung together with a charming bow.
I think for me I have a very short attention span and get bored easily. I enjoy the thought of doing something daring, sometimes more than just doing it. I would say I’m incredibly spontaneous and sometimes let my impulses control me.
@@nialanderos Personally I find it difficult to be spontaneous unless I'm in an Se splurge or something. So basically it comes down to attention span? I wonder what kinds of things are considered "interesting" and hold your attention for longer periods of time.
It seems that a lot of people in my life were ESTJs.
Also, ENFJs are super good at helping and giving advice, I always feel a lot better, and a bit more wise after talking to my ENFJ friends.
Great video! I learned something new after watching it (the ESTJ humor thing)
ENFJs are probably the most down-to-earth, friendly of all the 16 types. INFJs are somewhat like that as well but obviously have a much darker side.
@@Anonymous_Anon882 Oh? How so? I'm not disagreeing btw, I'm just curious to know more about this.
Also, I don't know why, since they're perfectly nice people, but I don't really trust my ENFJ friends, I feel that they're good people who genuinely care about others, and that's where my problem stands, they're nice and caring towards everyone, so how do I know where I stand with them? Are they nice to me because they like me, or are they nice to me because they're a good person?
ESFJs I guess could fall under this same umbrella, but the one ESFJ that I know of (I'm sure I've known loads more) I wasn't a big fan, they were too in my face.
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I feel like that video might explain the ENFJ personality better than I ever could (I’m more of an interested follower than an expert per se so I have to draw the descriptive line at what I don’t feel like I actually know for sure). But what I do feel like I kind of know is that the dominant Fe-Ni combination (which is the same in INFJs but obviously inverted/reversed) makes them come across as more honed into people/society as a whole than discrete individuals per se (quite unlike Fi) but at the same time they’re genuinely the nicest, most generous people in the world. They probably come across as a bit detached from you in an individual in that sense because they’re always looking out at everyone as a whole by default but they tend to see the good in everyone so you’re probably fine with your ENFJ friends. They tend not to be insincere. :)
@@Anonymous_Anon882 I will watch the video, thank you, and thank you for the explanation.
What you said makes sense, and I can definitely see that, honestly, I think I do the same thing myself but not to as much of a degree, I'm not usually a warm and friendly person who approaches someone, but I'll treat everyone the same unless they come at me or are bullying someone or something.
I've actually had someone say to me once that they didn't know where they stood with me, because of the fact that I'm friendly to them, but I'm also friendly to everyone else.
I'm going to watch the video now, and I'll probably end up watching ones over the other types too if they're there lol.
@@oakhoax168 what’s your type out of interest?
Thanks for validating my ISFP !!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 I’ve never felt that someone understood me so well and LIKED what they understood 🥰
I always thought the most attractive thing about ENTJs was their confidence. It's makes everyone notice them as soon as they walk through a door.
As an Enfj everything you said was relatable especially the (no you're wrong) thing , actually someone once said to me ( after I kinda decide a very logical and tough decision in work ) he said I was so surprised I didn't think you can came out with such a decision tho it offended someone but you told him the truth and what's needed how did you do that as a feeler? ) and he he was an Intp
As an INFP it’s hard to think of myself as attractive at all, so thanks for saying you think we are 🥲
Thank you for making this video.
I’ve been stressing out about my master’s thesis deadline for a while now. The fact that I am constantly procrastinating doesn’t help at all. Hearing what you said about attractiveness and reading the comments really made my day (despite making me cry… honestly I think I needed to cry).
I wish you all the best and hope you continue making such great, inspiring, and enjoyable content!
-from an INFP
Seriously, what doesn't make INFPs attractive and what's not to like about them?! The most warm-hearted, genuinely caring, kind, funny, and creative people on the planet. You just don't want anything bad happen to them or hurt them.
As an INFP that was bullied for 3 years as a teenager, thank you ❤️❤️❤️
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I'm sorry to hear that and I hope you had overcome that period. You guys are amazing and your kindness is a strength, it's not a weakness❤❤❤ and no one should bully you 😤
@@affinity266 you're so sweet 🥰
I'm good now. Many years have passed. Only a slight distrust towards groups has stayed and I guess will always stay.
Have a lovely week 💖
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One of my teachers insulted me saying that I act like I fell from sky, but it was a compliment for me
You're always so spot on with ISTPs, but I feel like you're simultaneously missing that they can be very funny and mischievious when you get to know them. They're not always so... flat.
INFPs finally got some love! 🤩
As an INFP this was a real confidence boost 🥹
ISTP's are very standoffish UNLESS they are attracted to someone. Then, they just instantly become the most charming person in the room. I've seen my ISTP husband flip the switch multiple times.
Yay! Thank you for doing this! Psych2Go did a video on what makes each personality attractive a while ago, and I remember I was feeling quite depressed at the time and desperately needed a pick-me-up, so I watched their video, only to find that they had completely forgotten to include my personality (INTJ)! Felt like such a kick in the teeth. They seem to really like antagonizing INTJs, unlike you. You're always nice to us.
I'm glad you were included here, can't believe they did that!
Hey fellow INTJ, I would NEVER watch Psych2Go if I were you. They don't know what they are talking about.
I saw this video too, I was deceived too.
I don't mind INTJs. You guys really do have that air of mystery and hidden mental treasure.
My dad's an INTJ, and I think he's pretty awesome. We have great talks, especially now that we're both adults.
-INTP
I'm an ISFP and my husband is an ESTJ. Very accurate descriptions! I've always been myself. Even as a kid, peer pressure never got to me. My husband can be a "hard butt" but makes me laugh so much.
I'm an isfp and i feel a lot of pressure,but I'll do what I want to do
The thing not mentioned here is as an INFJ when we do finally understand someone we are often disappointed. Not everyone, but many people are just not that interesting or don't realize how they cause their own problems or unwilling to beyond surface level conversations.
Probably why we prefer our own company :)
as an infp i feel appreciated c: thanks alot for this ego boost!