Signs Each of the 16 Personalities are STRUGGLING

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  • Опубликовано: 11 окт 2024

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  • @melodyconte
    @melodyconte 2 года назад +855

    I appreciate that your sponsored segments are just as entertaining and funny as your main content 😊 I see you, Frank!

    • @spectorcsm
      @spectorcsm 2 года назад +28

      Ikr lol probably the first and only sponsor segment I've ever watched through in any video haha

    • @EllePlowPlow
      @EllePlowPlow 2 года назад +15

      He’s the only RUclipsr that I watch the sponsored part of his videos. He always makes it worth it lol

    • @Lolo-lt2lf
      @Lolo-lt2lf 2 года назад

      FRRR

    • @Lolo-lt2lf
      @Lolo-lt2lf 2 года назад +1

      Fr FJ

    • @theporcelainunicorn8194
      @theporcelainunicorn8194 2 года назад

      100% agreeeeee

  • @medusagorgon9
    @medusagorgon9 2 года назад +986

    Mental health is such an important issue! We have to get past the stigmas and taboos people have created around it! Thanks for this!

    • @unnecessaryapostrophe4047
      @unnecessaryapostrophe4047 2 года назад

      The "stigmas and taboos" are a byproduct of the culture of psychology. The vocabulary and norms associated with mental health treatment are alienating to many people, especially men.

    • @Пинагод
      @Пинагод 2 года назад +13

      This is a quote from my favorite RUclipsrs on the importance of mental health: "Think of how many people who've died from a leg injury. Now, think of how many people who have died out of PTSD."
      The guy that quoted that has been through the military and often talked about how many men left that place filled to the brim with mental health issues, yet they're never given the chance to properly express it, neither do they even realize that they needed help to begin with. A lot of people think that since mental health happens mentally, it can be overcome, but the whole point is that it can't be naturally healed like a physical injury. Sure, it doesn't actually hurt as much as a physical injury - But it isn't as easy as solving that physical injury. What makes mental problems hurt is how complicated and influential it actually is.

    • @Anonymous_Anon882
      @Anonymous_Anon882 2 года назад

      At the end of the day, it a footballer injured his knee and had to take time out, no-one (let alone a severely-dyspraxic 14-year-old who couldn’t kick or even straight-walk his way out of a plastic bag) would see him as incapable or incompetent/kick him while he’s already-down because they know he’d spring to agile-action once he was back on his feet. Similar Phoenix-esque analogy for mental illness and eventual recovery. Only a low scumbag with a dead I.Q. was use someone’s bearing during a very low point in their life as indicative of their overall nature and capabilities. Things happen to everyone and anyone can be anything.

    • @FirstNameLastName-wt5to
      @FirstNameLastName-wt5to Год назад

      We should stop calling it mental health as if it’s a problem that needs to be fixed. It’s really just normal human reactions to a messed up world. Labeling it as a mental health issue is invalidating and the only purpose is to sell you drugs so you don’t demand the world change and be not so messed up.

    • @Anonymous_Anon882
      @Anonymous_Anon882 Год назад

      @@FirstNameLastName-wt5to it’s really not. Psychotic depression, catatonic schizophrenia, trichotillomania and Bell’s mania have existed since the beginning of time and (in some form or-other) across all the world and are not ‘normal reactions to a messed-up world.’ An illness is a sodding illness, whether it’s a general-medical or psychiatric/mental-health one. Don’t be silly.

  • @helenwood8482
    @helenwood8482 2 года назад +435

    All very recognisable. I'm INFP and once in a bad patch I dropped my keys (I hadn't slept in days) and I burst into tears and told my sister, "I'm so stupid, I can't even hold things now." She suggested I might need to have a rest.

    • @nicoleestigarribia3131
      @nicoleestigarribia3131 2 года назад +49

      This is so relatable and accurate, the exact kind of situation I find myself in when I'm struggling. I recently had a rough patch (at least a week without sleep, and chronic health issues) and was in such a vulnerable and fragile emotional state, I would burst into tears at any little thing.
      I had to do a chore around the house that took me a long time to start, so my brother told me "go do something else, I'll take care of it." I fell apart. I couldn't stop crying, shaking and blaming myself for being so irresponsible and not helping anyone. He was very confused and just comforted me.

    • @alittleinfppanda
      @alittleinfppanda 2 года назад +40

      An elderly couple once told me I'm fat and I called my mom, sobbing, and apologized for being a failure at life. 😔

    • @juliaweasley
      @juliaweasley 2 года назад +39

      This made me laugh out loud. I'm sorry, it's just I'm an INFP as well and I can absolutely relate to this. I can find this hilarious now but when it's happening I'm "distraught".

    • @MamaMOB
      @MamaMOB 2 года назад +26

      Sounds about right. I got a flat tire once and ended up walking in circles for about five minutes until some nice man helped me. And I mean literally walking in circles. And I literally mean 5 minutes.

    • @bluehats1
      @bluehats1 2 года назад +14

      As an INFP, I would not say that I was stupid. I would just sit on the floor and cry.

  • @V62926685
    @V62926685 2 года назад +576

    I approve this INTP struggle-bus description 100%.
    Also - I love this format. Brief, but succinct and using the cognitive functions to explain. Keep up the great work man :D

    • @AskForDoodles
      @AskForDoodles 2 года назад +22

      Can confirm.
      Me, default: 👁👄👁
      Me, struggling: 👁 👄 👁

    • @SnekSnak12
      @SnekSnak12 2 года назад +3

      Also.. hes funny

    • @HollieBlack
      @HollieBlack 2 года назад +15

      Same, I was nodding and finished his his sentence when he started saying we have to "find the absolute perfect..." solution . I have to write my problems and solutions out, make pros and cons lists, do research, ask for advice anonymously from strangers online, do more research, etc 😅

    • @JuguitodeUwU555
      @JuguitodeUwU555 2 года назад +3

      Totally! 👌🏻 Today I was writing a list of pros and cons about starting my master's degree rn or next year :p Is such a pain in the head

    • @emp9413
      @emp9413 2 года назад +1

      That intro was hilarious!

  • @omarplayz4454
    @omarplayz4454 2 года назад +252

    hi again frank

    • @entangledatoms7153
      @entangledatoms7153 5 месяцев назад +1

      This appears to be a sign of struggle.

    • @omarplayz4454
      @omarplayz4454 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@entangledatoms7153 a sign of struggle?

    • @entangledatoms7153
      @entangledatoms7153 5 месяцев назад

      @@omarplayz4454 woah. I wasn’t expecting you to reply to a 1 year old comment. Anyways, that was my poor attempt of a joke.

    • @omarplayz4454
      @omarplayz4454 5 месяцев назад

      @@entangledatoms7153 oh ok all good

  • @Musicandfilms7
    @Musicandfilms7 2 года назад +72

    You nailed the INTJ, when I'm struggling with something everything in my life stops untill I solve that problem

  • @ashleyshotwell3452
    @ashleyshotwell3452 2 года назад +278

    INFJ is definitely me. I escape into books or binge my favorite RUclipsrs for long periods of time. Also, I've been known to 'create a movie scenario' in my head while I'm trying to fall asleep if I'm having a particularly difficult time getting there. I did this a lot as a child, and still do sometimes as an adult in her 30s.

    • @raddaks2039
      @raddaks2039 2 года назад +11

      INTP and same on the scenario to sleep thing. I think it's just a helpful sleep aid? At least that's how I treat it.

    • @thetiredworm2100
      @thetiredworm2100 2 года назад +18

      Making scenarios in your head before sleep is very common, it’s normal, BUT can become unhealthy if daydreaming begins to inhibit your life, your constantly escaping reality into an idealistic or fun world for hours and hours, you seem to constantly wonder off while doing things your supposed to be doing.

    • @pinkie547
      @pinkie547 2 года назад +6

      Omg the "create a movie scenario" part is so true! I do it almost everyday (or everyday) to go to sleep!

    • @lanascribe
      @lanascribe 2 года назад +4

      Omg me too!!! Thanks for making me feel like a little less of a weirdo!

    • @maudline
      @maudline 2 года назад +1

      Are you me?!

  • @hourlymichi2594
    @hourlymichi2594 2 года назад +290

    that’s true, as an INFJ, i was in depressive loop and struggling months ago and the only thing that entertain me enough to distract me was by watching your videos over and over again lol 😭

    • @rielhawkrht2536
      @rielhawkrht2536 2 года назад +4

      Have you seen the show "The Mentalist"? I know this might sound stupid, but it has this odd wholesome effect....

    • @zumizumi2319
      @zumizumi2319 2 года назад +2

      Me too😭

    • @anonymous-cx7ng
      @anonymous-cx7ng 2 года назад +2

      I’m ISFP I was born depressed I have autism too

    • @ti9erlilly
      @ti9erlilly 2 года назад +3

      For my latest one, it was Markiplier and his friends. Before that, it was How I Met Your Mother and New Girl, and before that it was Supernatural and Bones. My first ones were Lord of the Rings extended edition, the OG Star Wars trilogy, and Harry Potter. Then I'll sometimes play the same song on repeat for hours. It's a different song almost every time, last time it was "Black Creek" by Brent Cobb. All of my coping content take turns, depending on what time of year it is and what type of thing I'm struggling with. I'm doing ok right now, so I've been branching out watching new things, and getting out of the house more often, but it'll come back around soon enough. 😅

    • @lawrencebolt3540
      @lawrencebolt3540 2 года назад

      Just broke up with an INFJ. Some of you are super super toxic. 🙄

  • @alextorres990
    @alextorres990 2 года назад +141

    Omg my ENFP mom used to literally drive me crazy when she was struggling. When she broke up with my step dad, she woke us up at 3am and drove 2 states over so we could zip line across some random mountain. ENFPs are all fun and games until you're 6 years old and screaming across a mountain, at 7am 🤣. I love it.

    • @stellatelmi
      @stellatelmi 2 года назад +3

      Lol.. I just quit my job last month.. without knowing what to do next.. and almost destroyed a long time relationship.. Im supposed to be very stressed out cause I have no income now.. but.. hell, I feel better.. lol

    • @aramskaef6955
      @aramskaef6955 11 месяцев назад +4

      Wow as a 22 yo ENFP, this sounds VERY unlike my parents but kinda like me. I remember once I got really mad at home so I just decided to WALK to the nearest town to us (15 km away) and back. It was pretty fun tbh, I saw some cool spots that I never had seen before!

    • @IndigoBellyDance
      @IndigoBellyDance Месяц назад

      ENFP mom here: having a hard time right now, we r all fun & games till shit hits the fan & u r bringing your kid to get expensive dessert at 9pm at night. & having all the deep convos. And telling your kid u r dead inside
      Asking my kid if I can take a traveling job

  • @Takisan111
    @Takisan111 2 года назад +126

    As a neurodivergent INFP, you are absolutely right. For a long time I believed that every thing that went wrong was my fault and I often talked down about myself for being a useless load to everyone. I eventually did something spontaneous and had a good time and it motivated me to get therapy. Turns out all this bad stuff makes less sense when sad out loud.

    • @Takisan111
      @Takisan111 2 года назад +6

      ​@@Gjakdjruknownhpjs Yes there is a difference though it's worth noting that even neurotypical INFPs can be different from each other. I brought up my neurodivergence because I took a very different path to get to the same place. Because of the extreme different ranges in neuro diversity there is no one size fits all, even with folks in the same group. In my case I am a verbal autistic that has gotten really good at masking in public. The biggest struggle for me while typing was figuring out learned traits vs natural traits as I changed so much of myself over the years to fit in. I frequently tried to convince myself that I couldn't be an INFP because of how much I changed myself. An INFP is all about trying to be authentic and staying true to themselves as opposed to me who grew to genuinely not like myself for the longest time because I abandoned everything that made me happy for some validation from other people. I would later learn that this actually helped me be the INFP I am today as I've learned the hard way how bad it feels to be fake and that the common stereotypes you see online are not the ideal I need to live up to. I don't need to be an all loving sunshine child, I just need to find a version of myself that makes me happy.
      Intuitive vs sensing was the easiest to figure out since sensors tend to be more focused on current matters and are good at doing things as they happen. My mind bounces everywhere and I spend ridiculous amounts of time planning things out only to chicken out at the last moment and wing whatever I was trying to do (do not recommend, it doesn't always work).
      Judging vs perceiving was a lot harder because it essentially boils down to organization and planning. As an autistic individual, I have a daily routine that keeps me focused which most people would immediately assume makes me a J type. However my routine is born from overstimulation and is a learned habit I began doing as a desperate attempt to have some control over my life. Outside my routine, I'm very disorganized and any plans I make are usually flexible enough to change at a moments notice. I'm an organized chaos type of person.
      Thinking vs feeling was also a very difficult one to figure out as xNxPs are obsessive learners, always looking for new things research. So simply being into research or learning was not enough to decide. Not helping me was the issue of my routine and overstimulation issues. I have a habit of numbing myself emotionally just so I'm not overwhelmed by every single complicated emotion I come across in the wild. I genuinely wondered for a while if I was an INTP because of how some people in my past have compared me to a robot (something INTPs are unfairly stereotyped as being like). What ultimately sealed me being an F type was the question what matters more in making a decision. A thinker will decide to do something because the facts say this is the best course of action. A feeler decides based on how each options makes them, well, feel. Despite my faith and interests in facts, sometimes taking that approach risks something happening that I would rather not deal with.
      Of all the choices however, the one that has given me the most sleepless nights was introvert vs extrovert and it all boiled down to how child me was so much more outgoing and hyperactive than present me. That was a serious mistake to do. There's a reason its recommended that children don't bother with MBTI till they are older. A child is still growing and changing. Who they are changes every day. Despite what I tried to convince myself, I was absolutely not an ENFP with anxiety issues. I'm so much an introvert that I actually miss the 2020 quarantine.
      Anyway, I think I had a point somewhere in this but I think I went on a bit of a tangent. I know you asked specifically about neurodivergence in MBTI and all I did was talk about myself for several paragraphs. It's getting late where I am so I need to stop for now but if you have any further questions I'm open to answer them the best I can later after I've slept. I didn't even get into the cognitive functions this time around. I hope at least something in this huge messy wall of text helped a little.

  • @ktvx.94
    @ktvx.94 2 года назад +118

    Man I can 100% confirm the INTJ one. I usually tidy my room once a week or when I'm trying to rest my eyes and hands from tech while doing something productive, but when I'm feeling down my room gets horrendously messy and I have no energy to do anything but what's absolutely necessary for my job and maybe watch some videos or play a game, then just lie down.

    • @nikolmichalou8426
      @nikolmichalou8426 2 года назад +22

      Also an intj and it's super accurate. You can really tell if I'm struggling or not just by looking at my kitchen. If I'm fine it's going to be clean and tidy everyday, but if I'm struggling you'll see dirty dishes from the whole week laying around everywhere

    • @sushi_tuna01
      @sushi_tuna01 4 месяца назад +2

      so we're all just collectively rot in bed when we're struggling

  • @jobethhillyard4192
    @jobethhillyard4192 2 года назад +126

    yup INFP is pretty accurate. This might be specific to me, but I will also start to shut down and isolate myself as much as possible. Talking about my struggles never helps and just makes it worse so I don’t bother anymore. But yeah, we basically go into crisis mode 🤠

    • @AnnieIsaLau
      @AnnieIsaLau 2 года назад +26

      Yeah I shut down, that's what I do most. But if I find the right people to talk to, then I'm happy to share.

    • @larada7549
      @larada7549 2 года назад +19

      I think too if you find the right person, sharing does help! most people just try helping or understanding your struggles for you and that's so unhelpful and exhausting but if you have someone who just accepts what's going on and is there for you, it eases the struggle for me at least

    • @luminyam6145
      @luminyam6145 2 года назад +5

      Agree, I shut down too. Fortunately I married my conscience (ESFJ) and I tell him everything. But at first I just shut it all down, sometimes it takes me days or weeks before I can discuss the issue without breaking down and crying.

    • @angelagoodwin5758
      @angelagoodwin5758 2 года назад +2

      @@AnnieIsaLau Exactly!

    • @angelagoodwin5758
      @angelagoodwin5758 2 года назад +6

      @@luminyam6145 It must be a blessing to have someone in your life you can talk things over with.💙

  • @larada7549
    @larada7549 2 года назад +68

    the infp is so accurate.. I had a mental breakdown the other day because I couldn't open a jar and that's when I concluded maybe something bigger is going on 🙃

    • @lishayost144
      @lishayost144 2 года назад +4

      wow, I so relate to this. -intp

    • @haileye5513
      @haileye5513 2 года назад +1

      Frr

    • @acharich
      @acharich 2 года назад

      Sounds like my Mrs.. 😅😭🤣

  • @figs449
    @figs449 2 года назад +45

    Struggling INFJ here! I think the reason we do the same thing over and over again like watching your favourite film or over exercising, (I can walk and walk when I'm stressed, I suppose it's because it's a physical thing in the real world, so it makes me feel like I'm doing something but in reality I'm over thinking and going into a spiral) is because when I'm struggling making basic decisions like what to eat, what drink to choose etc causes so much stress that doing the same thing alleviates some of that 'extra' pressure.

    • @Missmagazinebura
      @Missmagazinebura 2 года назад +3

      Me too. I overthink

    • @mussharatnaaz1325
      @mussharatnaaz1325 2 месяца назад

      Hey 👋. Just checking on you. I understand how you feel. Are you doing fine now?

    • @Imelda123
      @Imelda123 2 месяца назад

      Yes exactly. Dinner? A decision about dinner? Surely you jest! A new book? What are you trying to do, kill me?

  • @anealin
    @anealin Год назад +15

    I am an infj. My 14 yo cat is struggling with several surgery complications at the moment, and she is like a daughter to me. So I really feel like being detached from my body and from reality, and I do some routine things religiously like cleaning the house, ironong clothes just to feel in control. My day is a constant care for my cat not also physically, but also in my mind: I observe patterns, analyse tests, create possible outcomes and plans for them. Actually, it helped save her twice, but this is draining. I feel like I send her energy in a background mode so I have to be focused.
    Infj life....

    • @wren_.
      @wren_. 8 месяцев назад +3

      is your cat alright OP?

  • @currymuttonpizza2
    @currymuttonpizza2 2 года назад +134

    INFP here. I said in another comment that I also related very deeply to ENFP and INFJ, but I was thinking about the INFP bit and how you said we’re a tough read because of our reputation for being depressed. I think the key difference is that a healthy INFP will say "everything sucks and is pointless, so enjoy what you can, life is meant to be enjoyed, we are meant to connect with others and make their lives brighter too, even quietly." A lot of people who don’t have this outlook will see "everything is pointless" over the positives, and it comes off as pessimistic, but I don’t feel that it is, it can be freeing. But an unhealthy INFP will say "everything sucks and is pointless" and we draw the worst conclusions about the world and how other people view us. Connecting real life to something more poetic and abstract is what fuels us when we’re doing well, and when we’re not doing well, we lose that footing, and not only will we assume the worst in every possible situation, we conclude that the connecting to the abstract is just a sign that we’re horrible people who are incapable of being fully present in the moment. And also that the world is going to end anyway so there’s no point in doing something fulfilling in the meantime etc etc.
    I’ve had it happen where it’s like a three step process: step one is the ENFP reaction. Step two is where I come crashing down from that impulsivity and withdraw closer to the INFJ reaction. But the INFP fatalism is usually when I realize I’ve been withdrawn for so long and I can’t forgive myself for it, and it’s the worst one, and what usually pushes me to get help.

    • @lishayost144
      @lishayost144 2 года назад +7

      I relate a lot to what you're saying, even down to the progression of a struggle to where eventually you're finally at the end of your rope and you finally realize you really need help. - intp

    • @soph.b6054
      @soph.b6054 2 года назад +5

      Yes and no. Believing the world is pointless isn't inherently an INFP thing, that's just your worldview. As an INFP I certainly don't believe that. Everything else though I can relate to

    • @naginiriddle7091
      @naginiriddle7091 2 года назад +12

      @@soph.b6054 I don't think it's necessarily that the world is pointless so much that you start thinking nothing you do will change the circumstances or outcome, so why try?
      I related heavily to the op here. One example I can think of is just having friendships. I struggle with them so much, and all I can seem to do is see the negative, and it gets to the point where I sometimes think it isn't worth the effort of trying to figure out friendship because I am doomed to just not find good friends. And on top of that, I think of myself as a failure because it must be me that is causing the search for friends to not succeed. So then I want to stop trying because it just feels easier and less painful than trying.
      I haven't actually given up on it, and am working very hard at it, trying to recognize triggers that cause me to shut down, and trying to trust myself and others. But I really understand the feeling that my efforts are futile and that I am just destined to never succeed at it.
      The good news is that I've been taking steps for the past 2.5 years to move away from that kind of thinking, and I'm more conscious of my mental health and recognizing when I'm struggling and trying to make sure I think rationally and take care of myself. I still have moments of doubt and failure, but I'm getting better at recognizing those moments and seeking help during them. I feel like I've made a lot of progress, but I also know it is still going to take time and practice to get myself in a healthier state of mind.
      And after all that, I am sure I will still come off as moody and depressed 😅 that infp life, hahahaha

    • @soph.b6054
      @soph.b6054 2 года назад +5

      @@naginiriddle7091 That's fair- I can also relate to that. I struggle with a sort of toxic perfectionism, where if I feel like a task isn't going to turn out exactly the way I want it to, I don't even attempt to do it. It really sucks honestly. But similar to you, in recent years I've been trying to shut those doubts down, because all it does is to stop me from reaching my potential. I think life as an INFP is a journey of telling our inner critic to shut the hell up 😂

    • @Datsyoashley
      @Datsyoashley 2 года назад

      As an INFP i try to enjoy every moment of my life and i mean that quite literally, whenever i have a chance to do smth fun or relaxe i absolutely will i just straight up ignore everything

  • @izanai3790
    @izanai3790 Год назад +14

    ISTP - Literally so accurate because I just disappear from the face of the world whenever I’m going through something🤣 but I also relate to ENTP where I believe most of my struggles come from my commitments and then I rashly quit/get rid of those commitments after being so done with everything

  • @sharmaineandes9296
    @sharmaineandes9296 2 года назад +94

    an INFJ here, imagination really is my escape to reality hahaha.. and now watching a lot of clips and videos just to ease my stress really .. well I'm somewhat good at dealing my own struggles :)

  • @lacusrengoku5087
    @lacusrengoku5087 2 года назад +51

    I am INFJ, and I just got my professional license of counseling.

  • @katharina3362
    @katharina3362 2 года назад +158

    I´m an INFJ and honestly, I really struggle at identifying my own feelings a lot of the time. I can immediately tell if and why someone is feeling a certain way, but when it comes to my own feelings, I can´t seem to figure them out.

    • @JustHereToHear
      @JustHereToHear 2 года назад +10

      Same my friend.. I need to get away fr everything and write things down sometimes, it may help

    • @igtg
      @igtg 2 года назад +5

      i feel you..

    • @pinkie547
      @pinkie547 2 года назад +6

      Same honestly, I'm starting to get all my feelings messed up and confused that I myself don't even know how I should feel, so I see how others feel 'bout a situation and just.. feel the same-

    • @katharina3362
      @katharina3362 2 года назад +4

      @@pinkie547 yes same! I feel like I´m always waiting for other to tell me how I should feel and that´s so strange?

    • @chrisr9952
      @chrisr9952 2 года назад +7

      Journaling helps unscramble my mind and to even get anything done at all. I find I can write more honestly than I can share with others. I definitely sympathize with you on feeling others emotions way more clearly than my own; sometimes I feel like the emotions of those around me are my own... Then I get home and pace around for hours until I actually determine how I feel.

  • @pari546
    @pari546 2 года назад +58

    The ISTP is quite accurate to how I am while struggling which blew my mind. Thanks FJ! 😁

    • @coyotech55
      @coyotech55 Год назад +5

      ISTP, I've disappeared more than once for awhile under big stress and only re-emerged when I had new plan worked out - somewhere else. I'm not too good at repairing relationships and situations that go seriously wrong. I prefer to just leave and start over. Therapy doesn't do that mindset much good. If they're taking the house, my old man is crazy, and I got fired, I'm taking my dogs and my truck and getting out of Dodge. That's a really common solution nowadays. And if the problem isn't so serious and is solvable, I'll just solve it. I hate drama, especially my own.

  • @taradonelson9242
    @taradonelson9242 2 года назад +41

    Yep, INFP here. I've been fixating on tiny perceived flaws that I usually wouldn't care about and neither would anyone else. Thanks for helping me acknowledge how much I'm struggling. I'll make sure to take it easy on myself this week 😉

  • @folkis982
    @folkis982 2 года назад +160

    So happy for a new video! I really like our work and it is so relatable to watch! Keep up the good work!👍/INTP

  • @analisamelculo85
    @analisamelculo85 2 года назад +14

    As an INTJ, I doubted a lot about the J part, Most of my life I've been a really organized person that always got things done and had a lot of plans that I always achieved, but these last couple years, my life is so messy and I feel like I don't care about deadlines, my health, my career or anything. Someone did something really heartbreaking and actually illegal to me. Since then, I kinda lost confidence in myself, as this powerful person I used to feel, that event made me feel vulnerable, weak and impotent.
    It's just recently that I've realized that I am not this person, and that traumatizing event that I've been neglecting and acting like I moved on from it, is the cause of my current bad mental health.
    Neglecting that events affect my mental/emotional health is such an INTJ thing to do, and well, learning about MBTI along with taking therapy has helped me confront those repressed old emotions

  • @StephanieJeanne
    @StephanieJeanne 2 года назад +95

    Cool idea with the bus theme. I died when the bus driver's door was a female wearing a sandal. 🤣. In seriousness, it's good to know what to look for in others as well as oneself. Thanks, Frank. 😊

    • @micke7
      @micke7 2 года назад +4

      very well done video.

    • @darkestuberwald1725
      @darkestuberwald1725 2 года назад +6

      You sound like a right INFP :)

    • @DoriterEater
      @DoriterEater 2 года назад +4

      @@darkestuberwald1725 I am an INFP and I endorse OP's message.

    • @StephanieJeanne
      @StephanieJeanne 2 года назад +9

      @@darkestuberwald1725 INFJ actually.😊 The fact that I didn't notice I typed "door" instead of "foot" might be proof of that.😆

    • @shelbywoo3229
      @shelbywoo3229 2 года назад +10

      The female foot had me cracking up!

  • @aimee5259
    @aimee5259 2 года назад +140

    INTJ here. Struggle-vision is such a good term! Been there, done that.
    Also, YES to the importance of mental health!

    • @jolie7228
      @jolie7228 2 года назад +11

      Agreed! I feel like every time I get into the struggle-vision mode, my family and relationships go “out the window” unless I can schedule time for them… this often leads to break-ups and bitter family members. People often feel like I treat them like appointments or items when I’m stressed because I feel like I have to organize all creation just to not be constantly anxious. Considering therapy.-also INTJ

    • @Jha9124
      @Jha9124 2 года назад

      Similar problems....!! 😶

  • @rosieleaverton
    @rosieleaverton 2 года назад +19

    I struggle a lot with anxiety (OCD, social anxiety, etc), and as an INTP, you are so correct. I just become so distant when overwhelmed because I don't know how to process emotions well and I become sort of a robot that absentmindedly goes through the days, not really taking anything in, just going through the motions and routines.
    I've been trying to get a hold of my OCD's obsessive thinking, and I've been getting a lot better recently, but it's so hard not wanting to talk about emotions and thoughts and just keeping it inside, but at the same time just wanting to spill everything to someone I trust.

  • @janmots2829
    @janmots2829 2 года назад +24

    That's a very astute observation of the INFJ when struggling because I have a habit of wanting to control things even things way out of my control which in the past led to very unhealthy behaviours. However, I'm now starting to manage my life better & feel good as a result of it. Thanks for an interesting video FJ. 👍

  • @BigSisAne
    @BigSisAne 2 года назад +25

    “ISTP will disappear until they work through it”
    This is why most of my sick days are mental health days. So I can work through it. The last one ended up being physical as well, throwing up due to stress really is something

  • @jennifermorris6848
    @jennifermorris6848 2 года назад +59

    OMG! This ENFP just rode the struggle bus last week. I bit people’s heads off. Snapped at my boss. Once I allowed other people to do the things I’d been guarding. Later in the day I was given an award for all the help I give people. YIKES! I was shamed by my snappy behavior earlier in the day. (Maybe I’m ENFJ?)

    • @Dfd_Free_Speech
      @Dfd_Free_Speech 2 года назад +2

      Sounds indeed more like an ENFJ to me, as ENFP's typically are always happy when someone else does the(ir) tedious work ;-)

    • @acharich
      @acharich 2 года назад

      @@Dfd_Free_Speech 🎯🤣

    • @m_n_a_b
      @m_n_a_b 10 месяцев назад

      ENFP tend to go into full on ESTJ mode when in charge of a project and a group of people. We shut down our Fi in order to focus on Si and use Te to organize the tasks. As a result, we can feel overwhelmed by others not cooperating in accomplishing the goal the way we thought they should, and by factors we didn't anticipate. We guard things that we view as a paramount task to the success of the project and tend to delegate, in a rather bossy manner, the things we don't see as paramount. Since we aren't naturally good at Si, we tend to force ourselves to hard-core focus in these moments. It is utterly draining and overwhelming. At least for me, I find myself snappy, too.

  • @sunshineandrain869
    @sunshineandrain869 2 года назад +8

    I totally relate to the INFP, being one myself. Sometimes when I’ve been stressed for a long time, my TE will try to kick in and I might stay up super late feeling like I desperately need to reorganize my pantry or all the drawers and closets in the house. I think I have control issues with my environment because of my childhood. I also have 3 kids and a husband so I’m always stressed because I never get alone time. 😬😵‍💫

  • @shelbywoo3229
    @shelbywoo3229 2 года назад +15

    I almost always bypass sponsor info…not this time! I love seeing multiple FJs in scenes.
    Re: the content - my son is an INFP so this is very helpful as someone who wants to love him in the best and most helpful way. I’m an ISTJ so there are always opportunities to learn from each other. He’s a wonderful human being!

  • @Valkyrie-dx2oc
    @Valkyrie-dx2oc 2 года назад +16

    The infj one is very clearly correct to me. I had a really bad childhood and when I finally got somewhere safe and normal, I couldn’t process everything I went through. So from the time I woke up to the time I went to bed I read books. Literally escaping to a different reality. It helped me and I learned a lot as well but in the process I completely neglected my younger sister and she never forgave me for abandoning her too. Didn’t realize till I was older what I was doing and how it affected her.

  • @whaddyaa
    @whaddyaa 2 года назад +15

    INFP who's been riding the struggle bus for a loong time here, and this was spot on once again. When I told my mom about my mental health issues her first response was "finally you're telling me something"

  • @annabelwestwood6192
    @annabelwestwood6192 2 года назад +25

    As an ENFJ, you are so completely right. I always keep in my struggles until it boils over, and I’ll be nearly in tears whilst telling people I’m alright. Then when I finally admit what’s wrong it all comes spilling out over the pot of my emotions.

    • @butterscotch_cremebrulee
      @butterscotch_cremebrulee 2 года назад +5

      WHY are we like this?!

    • @riveroverland5902
      @riveroverland5902 2 года назад +8

      Same! I have legitimately told someone ‘I’m okay’ with tears pooling in my eyes and a huge smile on my face. Then when the flood gates open I’m just drowning in unstoppable tears. Why are we like this XD

  • @rickyspanish9625
    @rickyspanish9625 2 года назад +24

    Spot on for me an INxJ, every year since high school I go through a season of stress where I end up gaining then re-losing 30+ pounds lmao. Thousands and thousands of calories is a great way to silence the brain, but only perpetuates the issue because I wake up feeling physically unwell as well as already being mentally unwell.

    • @johnknight9150
      @johnknight9150 2 года назад +3

      (INTJ) Do you have any other pursuits that could take you out of that state and re-channel your energies? Have you ever tried drumming? Or rock climbing? I drum almost every day and I'm particularly interested in double-kick drumming and extreme interdependence. Something like Meshuggah will take over your entire brain and can even knock you into a weird zen state just trying to control it.

  • @doublesuicidio5830
    @doublesuicidio5830 2 года назад +19

    This actually hits really hard as an INFP!! Once, when I was in a truly bad place mentally, I dropped a spoon and had a full-blown mental breakdown over it. Like, you know, "I can't even hold a spoon properly, I can't do the simplest things, I should be dead" and in general I've had many similar situations. It always makes me laugh when I feel better, because those are things I wouldn't normally care about and yet at hard times I end up crying over dropped cutlery

    • @letsreadtextbook1687
      @letsreadtextbook1687 Год назад +1

      As fellow infp, reading this makes me simultaneously laugh and sad 🤣🥲

  • @carolinethompson376
    @carolinethompson376 2 года назад +11

    That's really interesting. I'm an INFJ enneagram 9 and when I'm stressed out I'll get passive aggressive (not good) or I'll go to the piano and play loud and fast (do not disturb!) But what I didn't realise is the tendency to look for distractions when there's stuff in my life I feel I have no control over. Currently I'm very interested in genealogy and would happily spend all my time exploring that. Maybe that's a sign...

  • @optimist-ri1439
    @optimist-ri1439 2 года назад +6

    As an ISFP, I agree I will start a new project then drop it and start another, then another, I keep those to myself now. I would add another side of the ISFP when struggling, at least in my case, its rashly purging things to simplify my life. Regrettably, I have thrown out things and left relationships rashly. Seeing debt & material possessions as things that can keep me hostage stresses me out, so I'm very cautious about making rash purchases.

  • @tankambli
    @tankambli 2 года назад +10

    As an ENFJ, what you said is absolutely true! I've fallen into endless loops of I'M FINEs because it feels like I'm reassuring myself that even though I may not be fine right now, I will soon be fine. On one hand, it keeps me hopeful that whatever I'm currently feeling won't last and it'll eventually pass by, but on the other, I reject or ignore my current issues and it causes them to linger for longer than, say, if I acknowledged them and accepted my struggle.

  • @lisarodriguez6966
    @lisarodriguez6966 2 года назад +8

    INFJ, here. Recognizing I've fallen into struggle vision. Made an appt to finished the intake process and to schedule a therapist for assessment.

  • @sophiavincent7485
    @sophiavincent7485 2 года назад +10

    10/10- research, 10/10- concept development, 10/10- practical execution.
    Love how you carried the bus concept through the whole video, even the sponsored segment! Great video 🌟

  • @ees3876
    @ees3876 2 года назад +6

    oh my gosh the infp one is so accurate for me. im an artist and i just went through a bad art block this month, on top of feeling pressured to finish two projects this month and putting it off the whole time. i couldnt stop putting myself down for every little mistake i was making, in my art and in general. but im doing better now :) i have good friends who remind me im doing my best

    • @acharich
      @acharich 2 года назад +1

      🤗🤗🤗

  • @joycliffe266
    @joycliffe266 2 года назад +36

    As an INFP, I had to chuckle over Frank's line that, "They get a reputation for being these depressed, mopey people even on a good day." Sad, but true.

    • @aMereHooman
      @aMereHooman 2 года назад +5

      sad, but not true. at least I'm not. people can't even guess that I'm sad without me telling (which is impossible)
      I wonder why we're different?

    • @Multitudes_
      @Multitudes_ 2 года назад +5

      @@aMereHooman You're different because the stereotype is *not* true! Of course there *are* sad/depressed INFPs, as there are unhealthy and unhappy people of every type, but that just gets wrongly overgeneralized to INFPs as a whole.

  • @tinymarshmallow3789
    @tinymarshmallow3789 2 года назад +35

    Hey frank, just wanted to let you know your content to so amazing and your such an amazing person. Just keep up the good work and keep making people smile! 😊😃😊

  • @sweetsoldier5
    @sweetsoldier5 2 года назад +12

    the explanation of infp was spot on. I can keep my emotions inside and seem positive and happy around people as long as I can distance myself from my feelings. But when I'm struggling I can't and I cry over anything and not let it go until I have solved the issue. People think it's a small problem or none at all but it is so much bigger in my head.
    Not that long ago something happened that made me sad for days and it became this worldwide problem because I was overthinking it alot.
    I was walking with my dad and we met two people, one of them we knew, the other one we didn't. I hugged the person I knew and when I looked at the stranger he held a cigarette in his right hand and I had no idea what to do because that's the hand you use to shake somebodies hand with so I just took a step back and said hi to him. We stood there for a while and talked to them and everything was fine, but I couldn't let go of the fact that I didn't shake this mans hand. So I started crying when I finally came home to my apartment and was alone. I felt so bad about it that I sent a message to my friend and told him to tell his friend I didn't mean to be rude, I just didn't know what to do. A couple of days later he told me his friend didn't even think about it and he told him to tell me not to worry or feel bad about it 😂

    • @daniella4800
      @daniella4800 2 года назад +3

      I love your story-infp here by the way

    • @sweetsoldier5
      @sweetsoldier5 2 года назад +2

      @@daniella4800 thanks! It was awkward afterwards haha I thought to myself, mabey I made it even worse now.. what if he thinks I'm a mental disaster who cry over anything but I got over it eventually and I don't even know why I would make such a big deal about it 😅 but we can't help being sensitive, we care alot but that's also what makes us awesome🥹

  • @elise85391
    @elise85391 2 года назад +8

    As an INFJ I have been using books to escape reality ever since Covid hit. Everyone always asks me how I read so much with everything else I have going on, and I'm like, lol, I just ignore my responsibilities, because reading is the only thing that lets me set aside any thoughts of the real world for a while

    • @ChronaWyvr
      @ChronaWyvr День назад

      INTJ and I totally feel you on this! 🖤

  • @bodine219
    @bodine219 2 года назад +7

    Nailed the INFP for sure. And ENTJ if my sister is anything to go by. It's funny how we're opposites but the struggle bus looks pretty similar -- it's just whether the criticism comes from yourself or others.

  • @AzaraZ2008
    @AzaraZ2008 2 года назад +8

    Me: I feel like all the struggle-bus descriptions of INFJ are really accurate. Great video!
    Also me: Yeah I think I've been struggling my whole entire life haha (intense anxiety music plays)

  • @infinitedonuts
    @infinitedonuts 2 года назад +9

    I’ve definitely experienced the struggling as an INFJ. My first year of college, every night I would exercise night for hours on end until I couldn’t even lift anything, eat food that I really enjoy more than I should of, and I’d also obsessively clean my room (although I think this behavior has now translated to OCD as it stayed with me after I went home for the summer).

  • @TheSimplelifemama
    @TheSimplelifemama 2 года назад +8

    Excellent video as usual. As a 34 year old ISFP I have finally learned to keep my mouth shut and not just up and tell people I’m starting a new project, job, hobby, skill or school because there have been way too many time where I didn’t stick to it and felt embarrassed later. And let me tell you the impulse spending with us is STRONG! I’m still trying to discipline myself because that FiSe grip (I.e. I see it and I want it) is rough 😩. I’m gonna get it together one day, hopefully before I’m 40 lol.
    And my INFJ husband! You hit the nail on the head! He goes from fasting and working out on week days to eating a whole pizza on the weekends. 🫣 And I’m like how??!! This is horribly unhealthy.

  • @jenniferhanses7064
    @jenniferhanses7064 2 года назад +16

    Welp, can't argue with that. As an INTJ, when life sucks, I do not have the energy to clean things, up to and including myself (not a problem if I have a work schedule to keep to, as showering will be part of that, but weekends mean I don't have to shower until I want to). I also don't have to do dishes until I want to. Things like that. Now, sometimes I will do mindless repetitive tasks (I remember doing all of the cardboard recycling after I had moved and my cat died). But for the most part, cleaning is just not an option.
    Of course, my mom is an ISTJ, with a particular obsessive compulsive cleanliness thing. We're both depressed at the moment because Dad is dying. So in addition to her needing to clean her environment because she's an ISTJ, I get all kinds of harassment because my environment is not clean. Which just makes my own depression worse, and makes me less likely to pull together and clean anything.
    I'm going to add for context that in terms of messiness, I'm not actually all that bad. I don't do rotting food in the house, I keep my papers filed, and I can't stand stuff left on the floors because I WILL trip over it and hurt myself. I just don't vacuum my house twice a week and wash my sheets once a week (heck, i don't make my bed more than throwing the sheets back on top). And sometimes things are a mess around my desk. Or I don't clean the cat boxes daily. But, you know, not good enough for OCD ISTJ Mom on depression. Or at any time, really, but the stress and depression is making it worse.

    • @arnavranka4510
      @arnavranka4510 2 года назад +7

      I hope things get better. As a fellow INTJ, I have also been through this.

    • @jenniferhanses7064
      @jenniferhanses7064 2 года назад +5

      @@arnavranka4510 Thank you.
      I got asked to pick up sticks that had fallen in the backyard. I picked up sticks. Mom then yelled at me for not doing what she asked because she has stick radar and notices the least little thing wrong. And I have ever more diminished desire to help her do anything.

    • @arnavranka4510
      @arnavranka4510 2 года назад +5

      @@jenniferhanses7064 Yeah, there are certain phases in life like this. We just need to carry on with our daily routine, and one day it will be over.

    • @rachelbass7914
      @rachelbass7914 2 года назад +2

      ♥️

  • @megane0125
    @megane0125 2 года назад +6

    INFP is accurate 😂 but maybe sometimes the self blame is warranted. Sometimes I would want other people to blame me to "feel better" and once they do I would feel hurt for blaming me 😅 but now I learned from a self help book that guilt is a selfish emotion and instead of blaming myself over and over, I should fix whatever that needs to be fixed, learn from my mistakes, and move on.

  • @l23r4
    @l23r4 2 года назад +13

    It’s mad how you always get each of these so accurate!

    • @ayil_5399
      @ayil_5399 2 года назад

      exactly 1000% !!!

  • @zip7317
    @zip7317 2 года назад +32

    As an Esfj, I do very much agree with this. So that's why I'm trying to be a bit less expressive, so far it's working, sorta.. Btw, I love your videos they really help me understand myself a lot better. Keep up the good work! And take care to whoever is reading this.

    • @lishayost144
      @lishayost144 2 года назад +2

      It's healthy to express yourself. Better than holding it in. -intp

  • @Amanita._.Verosa._.
    @Amanita._.Verosa._. 2 года назад +8

    I can feel physically paralyzed by reality when I'm stressed. I have to push myself to do something and doing something I've done over and over limits stressing out even more were I to do something wrong by trying something new.
    Also, imagination is a huge help.
    -INFJ

  • @naowright9308
    @naowright9308 2 года назад +7

    I knew an ESTJ who was a chef. Once I was relating a story to him regarding one of his grown children and an onion. He began to get so defensive I couldn't even finish the story. It was like the onion was him and instead of dissecting the onion I was dissecting him. I never got to the point because he took the example so personally.

  • @Hime.Gusano
    @Hime.Gusano 2 года назад +7

    I'm an INFP and damn that depiction of an INFP struggling is so franking accurate. Just a couple of weeks I had a meltdown on the subway because I was running late (like 20 min) to meet up with my boyfriend. I ran to the station but when I was arriving the damn thing closed its doors. I cried and hyperventilated until the next one came. I spent the whole ride thinking that I should be dead and alone for disappointing everyone with my unpunctuality u.u
    Context: I was in a stressful time, near the end of the semester

  • @angelagoodwin5758
    @angelagoodwin5758 2 года назад +22

    The torture we INFPs put ourselves through in private can be worse than our 'sin'. We tend to think we've done the most unforgiveable things when most people wouldn't even be phased.

    • @sillysoul3663
      @sillysoul3663 2 года назад +8

      Yes! Believing that you have been the most heartless monster to ever exist because you were having a bad day. No one really cared or noticed, or they understood since who couldn't relate to a bad day? But whoever I mildly lashed out at doesn't know that I also cursed their entire existence in my head, and that's why I feel like a terrible person whenever I am struggling.

    • @sharnice4366
      @sharnice4366 Год назад +2

      Ohw my gosh i feel i am absolutely validated!!!

  • @soraneyorumi2017
    @soraneyorumi2017 2 года назад +5

    Even in the struggle bus I seem to be both an INFP and an INTP. It seems like I react to others struggling like an INTP, the "there's a lot of emotions here that I cant process so I'm just going to suggest the most logical solution to the problem". As well as when I am struggling I am 100% checked out of reality, but also judging myself for literally nothing. But there's also the INFP response to others issues like "these are bad feelings, bad feelings are icky, how about this not icky thing"

  • @Somniatica
    @Somniatica 2 года назад +8

    As an ENFJ, in addition to me mmmmBURYING MY FEELINGS, I isolate myself from others. Maybe it's just me but I always feel a sense of guilt when it comes to my emotions. It's not about being around others, it's that I feel like my emotions aren't worthy of others opinion? Kaifisos just the thoughts of an ENFJ 😅

    • @sumlf8832
      @sumlf8832 2 года назад +3

      OMG yessss...when I'm struggling I'll just stay in my room (even if it two days) and try to heal myself alone. Idk, does that make sense, am I the only enfj who do this?

    • @Somniatica
      @Somniatica 2 года назад +1

      @@sumlf8832 Makes sense ;-; heal alone so you don't burden others. Part of me does it so others don't see my ugliness but maybe so others want to help me heal even if I won't let them in.

    • @sumlf8832
      @sumlf8832 2 года назад +1

      @@Somniatica yeah understandable 🥲..btw, I checked out you channel and wow you have a beautiful voice 🤧 (needed to say this, bcs I really like it)

    • @Somniatica
      @Somniatica 2 года назад

      @@sumlf8832 🥺 jsjdjsoskkw thank you so much!! Made my night

  • @CaveyMoth
    @CaveyMoth 2 года назад +4

    Lol, an ENFP I work with just put in his notice this week, and is going to move across the country! He has really been struggling.
    I'm still trying to find that perfect solution for my life. Maybe the next hobby will help!

  • @sasaandersson4055
    @sasaandersson4055 3 месяца назад +3

    As an INTJ when I was struggling with my mental health I had a hard time imagining a future because I didn’t/couldn’t see one (I haven’t watched the whole video yet so I’m not sure what he says the signs are in INTJs) But as soon as I started to feel better I also started being able to plan out my future again (and I actually realized that after years of struggling with my mental health, I still had the same sort of feeling in my plans as when I was younger)

  • @DoriterEater
    @DoriterEater 2 года назад +5

    I have noticed that when I start getting hypercritical of myself there is some greater stress going on, and usually I realize it too late and hit a wall and have a mental breakdown. I wish that it was easier for me to express my emotions and process them sooner with crying, crying is actually hard for me. -infp

  • @lizzysalway6844
    @lizzysalway6844 2 года назад +9

    Wow, so true. I’ve learnt not to act on it, but as an ENFP, when life gets tough, I’m like “Seems like it’s time to move to Australia now…”

    • @m_n_a_b
      @m_n_a_b 10 месяцев назад

      Same!!!! I haven't acted on it, because I adore my INTJ husband and know our life is rooted where we are. But, I will say... when we are both stressed, even he likes my suggestions of leaving it all behind and moving somewhere warm to live under a pier by the ocean. 😂

  • @yuiitodoro7791
    @yuiitodoro7791 2 года назад +4

    Wow , the isfj one is spot on....i have been struggling about not knowing what course to choose for college for months now ....and it is staying the same....and the controlling of the story is so spot on...i am not moving forward at all....and I can relate with infj too....i am using my distractions so much to avoid reality and the problems that comes with it

  • @Flyboy_73
    @Flyboy_73 2 года назад +4

    ISTJ here and I definitely go overboard on trying to fix something or doing manual labor when I’m stressed out & feeling like I don’t have control. But I’ve also noticed myself exhibiting traits of INTJ’s struggle vision and INFJ’s tendency to do the same obsessive repeating pattern nightly and over-binging on certain foods (usually sweets).

    • @brucebolduc3403
      @brucebolduc3403 2 года назад +2

      Istj here. Guess it explains why I exercise after work

  • @affinity266
    @affinity266 2 года назад +14

    Man, you shouldn't make a sponsor ads that are catchy and funny like this! we will keep re-watching them and ignore the lesson! 😎

  • @kriistyyanne
    @kriistyyanne 2 года назад +4

    You just described me to a T! I’m an ESFJ and I’m very vocal with my emotions. Gets me into a lot of trouble as I vent about work at work and they don’t like that 😬

  • @delucien4075
    @delucien4075 2 года назад +9

    I'm an ENTP, and let me tell you-- Once, I neglected all my school work and responsibilities during this horrible time I was going through, and I barely passed my classes even though I usually get decent grades. I didn't think this would be that accurate... I feel exposed

    • @clairechan3973
      @clairechan3973 7 дней назад

      This was literally me last year I failed one class 😂😂

  • @sparkiebunnie8
    @sparkiebunnie8 2 года назад +6

    I never realized why I just stop taking care of myself when things are making me struggle. INTJ here and it makes sense now.

  • @mjprozac
    @mjprozac 2 года назад +2

    I have a long term relationship with anxiety and depression as well as a Forrest Gump like compulsion to run, so yeah. I feel called out :) I might have run twice today to make it through the day advising clients about their eviction cases...I was impressed by how well you got my husband (ESTJ's) and son's (ENTP's) too.
    I do want to say that the Struggle bus looks way nicer than the buses we take to get around here, and with those reclining seats I may not mind so much...

  • @trinaq
    @trinaq 2 года назад +12

    Only $1.50 for the struggle bus?! That's quite a struggle?!

  • @Bellaknooww
    @Bellaknooww 2 года назад +3

    I love how this is both interesting and informational, thanks Frank James!

  • @jayofsunshineusa2113
    @jayofsunshineusa2113 2 года назад +4

    I am an enfj and I have indeed smiled widely and told people I'm fine while tears are running off my face 😃 it's a thing 👍🏻

  • @rachaeld6491
    @rachaeld6491 2 года назад +4

    this video won a like when I got to the sponsorship ad. It was so deserving of a like at that point, that I had to pause the video to come down here to express my absolute joy at how perfect the ad was. excellent, just hilarious

  • @gabriellaleighton
    @gabriellaleighton 2 года назад +32

    ENTJ here, very accurate. I would also add that if it get worse the "moral checks" can lead to awkward over-sharing when we can't hold in stuff any longer, and then isolation since we get the feeling no one understands us and that might mean we are actually "bad" for others and it's better we stay away. All this while being ridiculously productive of course.

    • @flutterykhatun2054
      @flutterykhatun2054 2 года назад

      awh man after hearing this i feel like my entj bff wasnt actually always just happy like i thought. 💀
      THIS VIDEO JUST MADE ME QUESTION MY UNDERSTANDING ABOUT HER FOR 5 YEEAAARSS AHHH
      like she pulled through a lot of hard situations with a smile like its nothing....
      im an intp btw so struggles understanding others ofc oh god... and all these fkin time i thought mb she just hates to talk about anything to me... okay she does tell me things ngl but yea shes really like that at times suddenly being a little sad and am liks "no tf ur doing great ur amazing" and then we just end up having a whole conversation where me explaining how and why im obsessed with her and i always felt like im being too emotional while she just asked a small question and we were talking about normal stuff but i just made it so deep kinda felt guilty, and she was super nice back and saying thank you everytime this happens made me subconsciously think she tries to keep me happy... shes so precious... i keep cancelling plans with her tho i feel so lucky to have her attention i hate doing that... its a 76% introvert struggle

    • @Peaceout4337
      @Peaceout4337 2 года назад

      Yup. The struggle is real lol

    • @coffeetalk888
      @coffeetalk888 2 года назад

      Likewise. ENTJ here as well. Truly accurate. 🤣

    • @lmart16
      @lmart16 2 года назад

      People think we're "not normal" but then we watch others who are WAY out of left field. I also tend to flip into my best friend's area of INTJ and slow down when bothered, isolating myself from others when I just can't.

    • @12Prophet
      @12Prophet Год назад +1

      @@flutterykhatun2054 It's a common thing for ENTJ to carry a lot of weight with a smile like that. For us, it's kind of like a really REALLY powerful firestorm intensity inside, and we either channel that at our problems or a chosen task. And having that much intensity constantly, and having to muzzle it over and over when talking to others, it's a little exhausting. We don't like to worry others with our problems, and prefer to help others with their problems.
      And to OP, I felt it in my soul when you mentioned the over sharing bit. We kinda have to overshare though. Because they won't understand where our perspective is without the underlying context of the problem and WHY it's a problem. Stay strong Gabriela (love the name by the way.)

  • @zalhiami
    @zalhiami 2 года назад +1

    Oooh god as usual it's very spot on XD
    I am the kind of person who NEVER forget birthdays but during college (aka covid/quarantine etc) I fell into a pretty bad depression (like clinical depression not just my usual INFP sadness) and I forgot almost every birthday possible. It made me HATE myself soooo bad... I look at it now that I am slowly getting better and I am just like "why did I even think that way ?!"

  • @ForeverSweetx3
    @ForeverSweetx3 2 года назад +4

    Frank are you okay?!
    ENFP is so on point. Quitting jobs and moving to another country.

  • @sariahsue
    @sariahsue 2 года назад +3

    INFP here. When I'm feeling upset or stressed or even sick, I don't even need to wait for little things to go wrong. I'll just start remembering everything that has gone wrong in my life EVER! Like every bad day attacking you at once! Fun times!

  • @RooibosGinger
    @RooibosGinger 2 года назад +25

    Me an INTJ with clinical depression, not having left their waste infested room in 17 months: *This is accurate 👍*

    • @briannabrewer392
      @briannabrewer392 2 года назад +7

      I'm sorry, I know how much that sucks as an intj myself who has to fight to stay out of that place everyday. I hope one day you'll find the strength to pull yourself up. Stay strong friend.

    • @gentlykim
      @gentlykim 2 года назад

      Have you tried not being sad?

    • @taniaborealis
      @taniaborealis Год назад +2

      @@gentlykim
      Bruh, wtf? We don't have on-off switch buttons for feelings.

  • @skippyjonjones23
    @skippyjonjones23 2 года назад +2

    I have clinical depression, anxiety and PTSD plus having chronic pain and health problems so I’m on the struggle bus all day every day. My negative coping strategies tend towards distraction or intentional numbing but if I’m really in my feelings, I just self isolate. I hate having to fight my body and mind on a daily basis just to get anything done.

    • @Justmahya
      @Justmahya 2 месяца назад

      Hello, I'm really sorry for what u been going through 😢. It was a year when u posted this. Are u better now? Or getting better?
      I wish u all the best ❤

  • @homicidaltoaster1665
    @homicidaltoaster1665 2 года назад +4

    It's always a good day when you upload!

  • @annegetson7825
    @annegetson7825 2 года назад +2

    As an INFP I feel that I just shut down when I’m really struggling . I don’t ever share how I’m feeling to anyone, I don’t talk to anyone when I’m stuggling. I don’t do anything at all, I just fully stop life. No sleeping, no eating, just thinking about how much of a failure I am and a burden to every one and how much better off everyone else would be without me. I cry on the inside, and almost never cry outwardly.

  • @ghostridda
    @ghostridda 2 года назад +3

    As an infj, I normally binge eat when I'm struggling. But I will use the struggle as a 'high' to workout and maybe I might lose weight. Thanks Frank

  • @maryjane6990
    @maryjane6990 2 года назад +2

    Your video is just like an episode of an old TV show for me, very warm and funny) and I love the vintage font you use!
    It's interesting that I have both infp+infj reactions while struggling: think that i'm a bad person and escape from reality...by watching your sketches particularly:)

  • @johnknight9150
    @johnknight9150 2 года назад +5

    Another thing to look out for with struggling INTJs: secret addiction or illicit indulgence. INTJs are usually good with self-control, but when we struggle to hold on, you may find us heading down a physically destructive path, though it's probably something we try to keep hidden. This may be drugs, fast driving, adrenaline seeking, heavy drinking, pornography, smoking... anything to physically escape ourselves momentarily

    • @meriemz26
      @meriemz26 2 года назад +2

      Facts, i relate ( another INTJ)

    • @johnknight9150
      @johnknight9150 2 года назад +1

      @@meriemz26 Which emoji(s) would be appropriate for such a response? I'm thinking a thumbs up combined with someone looking downward with shifty eyes.

  • @rielhawkrht2536
    @rielhawkrht2536 2 года назад +2

    Ok.... that was creepy. I wasn't expecting this to be so precise. I've been struggling for some time and yes, it is in fact quite different from the usual tunnel vision. Struggling is like, I know I should tidy up and text my best friend, but.... I can't. I also think that my therapist might be an INFJ haha

  • @GentlemanGamer94
    @GentlemanGamer94 2 года назад +9

    ENFJ here, and yeah; I gotta say you nailed us 😉 When I'm in a not-struggle-y place, I find myself more easily able to share my various emotions and experiences- even when it involves revealing more embarrassing or less flattering sides of myself I otherwise try not to show- if I feel like it'll be of some help or encouragement to someone else.
    When I AM struggling though, I feel like a pop can that's been shaken up too much. There's a lot of internal pressure building, but I don't wanna open myself up for fear of my emotions exploding and splashing onto everyone, making a huge mess. I logically and experientially know that I SHOULD be sharing the emotional struggle with other people, it's helped me and others in the past, but it can be difficult in those moments to work past that fear of spilling the emotional equivalent of diet root beer on those around me. 😛

    • @cayesh1234
      @cayesh1234 2 года назад +1

      AHH, so true! So true! I am in a place like this right now. It's difficult, because normally, you're in tune with the emotional landscape, just relaxing, and then, it becomes a minefield.

  • @ceciliafaith4132
    @ceciliafaith4132 2 года назад +2

    INTJ here!
    The way I struggle was pretty much my entire family (INTJ, ENTJ, ISFP, and ESFP) thrown into one big melting pot. I often find myself get incredibly cynical of the future, AND I will double-down on whatever emotion I have, though I usually find a place to be by myself and sort it out instead of act impulsively.
    It's also not uncommon for me to passively "ask" people if I'm a good person because I see myself as so terrible sometimes that other people have to tell me, though I struggle to actually believe them.
    As for what he said about INTJs: Pretty much. I want to sit in the emotion by myself and piece through it in order to get over it while everything else in my life gets little to no attention. I fall into the trap of losing all motivation to do anything.
    Thanks for the video, Frank! Great content as always! ;D

  • @xkathygee
    @xkathygee 2 года назад +13

    INFP is so true. My first instinct was always not to tell anyone when I was struggling. Even when I had depression, no one noticed. It was only when I found the right person that I learned it was okay to tell people. But I still need to remind myself every time.

  • @esraaabd-allah1626
    @esraaabd-allah1626 2 года назад +2

    The INTJ'S struggle is so true that it's so enlightening...Thank you Frank!

  • @EveningTV
    @EveningTV 2 года назад +4

    I am curious how personality disorders impact the 16 personalities. Are they completely skewed , do narcissists mostly fall into certain types, or is this irrelevant for them as most of psychotherapy is?

    • @Missmagazinebura
      @Missmagazinebura 2 года назад +1

      Yes and how about bipolar disorder ? Like if someone’s mean to them they just quit their jobs

  • @riveroverland5902
    @riveroverland5902 2 года назад +2

    ENFJ here, I know there’s not a lot of us here in the comments section but this came at a great time. I remember being young and doing the exact same thing, say I’m fine with tears streaming down my face and a huge smile. If you’re going through the same, just know you’ll get through this

  • @missk8715
    @missk8715 2 года назад +9

    Actually, INFPs, when stressed tend to get very blunt, critical, direct, hostile, way more aggressive than our normal selves. We feel bad about it later for sure.

    • @SamKatlein-jd8tm
      @SamKatlein-jd8tm 9 месяцев назад

      Same :( i hate myself for it, i wish i had nobody, that way no one would get hurt

    • @missk8715
      @missk8715 9 месяцев назад

      @@SamKatlein-jd8tmi don't really hate myself for it, I'm normally nice and I hate conflict because I don't know how to handle it in a level-headed, assertive way, it's either avoid it altogether or snap. I just wish I had the skill to handle it better

  • @GartekVilen
    @GartekVilen 9 месяцев назад +2

    As an INFP, what was said about my struggle was so deeply and painfully accurate. Of course like everyone else, I can relate a little bit to some other types like ENFP and INFJ, we're only human. But the INFP one was the most relatable to me that it just hit me in the feels. It's too accurate.

  • @iris7750
    @iris7750 2 года назад +4

    You are a cool person Frank. I enjoy your content.🙂☺️

  • @faitgrace
    @faitgrace Год назад +1

    Intj here - the things you mentioned have been my metric for how I'm doing for several years - never had a vid like this be so spot on

  • @antrazitaj5209
    @antrazitaj5209 2 года назад +6

    "INTJs stop taking care of themselves and their environment"
    Actually taking a look at my flat.
    Fair

  • @posieandrosie
    @posieandrosie 2 года назад +1

    lol the sponsored segment was so funny, and actually i have an ESFP relative and i actually see those signs in them... very helpful content 😊 me being an infj, i was like oh so that's why i think the same thing over and over again when i'm struggling basically every day 😂