What TURNS OFF Each of the 16 Personalities?
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Heyy frankie
I love the McGyver shows! 😁 (24 year old INFP)
Hey Frank I got an idea for a video, what are the Music Tastes of the 16 personalities?
0:38 - ESTPs
1:14 - ESFPs
1:59 - ISTJs
2:35 - ISFJs
3:13 - ESTJs
4:04 - ENTJs
4:53 - ESFJs
5:27 - ENFJs
6:03 - ISFPs
6:39 - INFPs
7:09 - ISTPs
7:49 - INTPs
8:20 - ENFPs
9:03 - ENTPs
9:54 - INTJs
11:03 - INFJs
(Roughly.)
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Thank you!
Thanks for the shortcut, it really saves time.
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Ty!
INFJ one is extremely accurate. I get frustrated when I feel like I'm not being listened to when it's a moment where I want to open up and talk about something that I think is neat.
And because we worry about being judged, we don't do it often. I speak from experience. Also an INFJ.
I feel that all the time as an enfp, man
I’m an INFJ and I feel the EXACT same
Omg same, I just wanna punch someone in the face when that happens
This is so Relatable 😂 and then I have an episode of “Nobody understands me”
I'm INFJ and it annoys me when people give short answers without depth. I might as well assume that they're not interested and may never ask again
Lol I loveeee short answers because I hate to talk to people for more then 2 seconds
@@mrpenguin8024 I see... I guess for me it depends on who it is as well. Short answers from strangers or someone strictly professional is ok but not from friends or family
For me, I love short answers, but that's because I love not attracting people. What I mean is: I could become attracted to being in a (platonic) relationship with you if you shared stories, thoughts and emotions with me, but if you didn't, we'd just be chill next to each other, working together. However, that last relationship would mean less to me.@@mrpenguin8024
the infj that i met, always giving short answer, made me think they like short answer😂
@@dailymeowion 😂 Yeah, I give all the time short answers when I want to focus on myself, I don't like pick up the phone instantly, I prefer call back. When the topic is uninteresting for me, I prefer listening or giving the impression that I am listening ^^.
But when I find a person who like the same things I like, oh my goodness, I am unstoppable. Verbal, diarrhea 😅
As an INFJ that's so accurate 😀✨I mean I kinda hate going out with someone who doesn't even try to start a conversation while we are together...sure I love my alone space but when I decide to socialize with the people and then they start to ignore me and give me a cold shoulder.... that's when I get mad🙂
Not me. I’m ok if people doesn’t want to talk. There is always a reason and I enjoy showing people the right to integrety and to be quiet./Infj
I'm a probably INTP (idk) and somehow this happens to me often. As You claimed, when I'm out of my house, and I meet someone I know and then I decide to socialize... I mean, it doesn't have to be about emotions but if you wanna talk about it, I think it's cool. I just want to have a deeper conversation, even if we talk about several topics. Well, actually I don't know how to stop when the conversation is interesting, I use that as a distraction or procrastination, haha. In any case, when I'm in the mood of socializing, it's upsetting when the other person is too much cold, or when they're not even trying to make the conversation to flow. In those moments, I just don't know what to say and it's uncomfortable cuz I'm not sure what would be the best to do. I don't know if I just have to say good bye...even saying good bye is akward.
For me, it’s in between. I love my alone space and would you like to have the other person talk first BUT I also don’t mind the silence as long as there’s some stimuli
Atleast they should listen to what we were saying. Like, not hear, but to listen.. That will work for me. But, too much cold shoulder is definitely a turn off. I mean, if someone gives constant cold shoulders, they might be having some conflict inside or they might be not interested 😅
@@sketchflix6425 most of the times, is the second one. If not, a mix of both.
I'm an INFJ and regarding movies, I had an ex who was exactly like this: "Yeah it was good" (refuses to elaborate further). I criticized her "lack of critical analysis", and she criticized my "over-analyzing of the movies". However, paradoxically, we really loved each other^^
It might be my infj subconscious as an enfp but I hate that TOO I want people to talk about things or things I like and it's easy for me to over share and spit ball with people
Of course! It's part of our job to pay attention to what does excite and interest others. Lack of response is lack of interest without saying so.
If you aren't still together, you didn't really love each other. You may have like each other. You may have been in lust. In any case, at least one of you didn't really love the other.
@@edennis8578 Wtf ?
@@edennis8578 newsflash people break up all of the time it doesn’t invalidate their love lol
3 things which turn off most INTJs:
1. Inauthenticity - when an individual desperately acts like somebody whom they truly aren't.
2. Unreliability - when someone breaks promises a lot and proves to be very unreliable and untrustworthy.
3. Unethical - when a person lacks morals and basic etiquettes often acting obnoxiously due to intense jealousy
I feel like these are concerns for the INTP as well.
first 2 ones definitely, the 3rd one doesn't look too nice either
And INFJ
Well name a person who'd be attracted to that
Can we just appreciate how this man plays 16 different people so perfectly?…
He has Bipolar lol 😂
@@KamdiOnyekwelu ew.... he is INFP.
Yeah it’s cuz he’s an infj
Sometimes I'm scared that he would lose his personality somewhere while doing research on all 16 personalities and acting like he had that personality lol
@@minhtu5059 You don't lose something YOU adapt and as someone in theater we go to many uninvited places and have fun.
Mostly in our minds
0:39 - ESTP
1:14 - ESFP
2:03 - ISTJ
2:37 - ISFJ
3:13 - ESTJ
4:06 - ENTJ
4:56 - ESFJ
5:33 - ENFJ
6:05 - ISFP
6:39 - INFP
7:08 - ISTP
7:45 - INTP
8:20 - ENFP
9:02 - ENTP
9:53 - INTJ
11:03 - INFJ
Thank you!
I'm always looking for time stamps :)
Thank u!!!
Thanks girl
@@rubiesofgold7698 wow thats cool. i usually find these pretty accurate too
Ttytytytytytyty!
The INFJ one is so accurate. Completely agreed.
With the INTJ, I'd say more specifically that it's not that I'm upset with explaining stuff to people. I'm upset with explaining obvious stuff to people. And I'm especially upset if I have to explain the same obvious thing all the time, or the person doesn't seem to be getting it after my second or third attempt to try to make it relatable to them.
Because on the one hand, I'm probably going to have to explain some of what I want. I can't expect you to just psychically know. (And the people who do psychically know because we're on the same wave length are immediately on the path to friendship). And then maybe I need to adjust my explanation to something you understand better or an experience you've had, so that you can make the leap in logic.
But if I've made a reasonable attempt to communicate, and I feel like you're not meeting me halfway, this is just not going to work out. I do not have the energy for this relationship, and you will be cut out of my life.
yesss especially when its to a couple of people who have different views somethings it’s just easier to act like your idea was not the ideal one
Are these normally percievers that do this type of thing and give you a hard time?
That's my "let them stick their fork in the electric socket, because they'll definitely learn then" Point that I reach even with my level of patience.
As an INFJ I've got exactly the same reasoning. No point in explaining something over and over if someone doesn't understand or doesn't make an effort to. But if I think that there's more of a connection with someone, I'll be more patient but if they still don't get it times over then the connection will ultimately be lost on my side. I also don't like when someone only talks about vapid topics at length.
It's also frustration with explaining the abstract stuff that seems natural to us because it drains energy
This video is a perfect example of why as an ENTP I love INxJs. Like yes, let's analyze the emotional dynamics and plotline of the movie we just watched (INFJ) and yes I want to hear all about your crazy business plan and I *will* understand it (or attempt to)(INTJ).
Another reason why we need an ENFP+INFJ buddy cop series. If an INFJ asks me what I thought about a movie, I will tell you. And re-enact the coolest scenes. And brainstorm 15 possible sequels. All in the span of time it takes us to walk from the theater back to the car. I have picked up a new instrument, started a business, and written a book all in the same DAY. Thanks for more insight, FJ!!
As an INFP, I'd have lots of great ideas, but I'd not do anything with them XD
This x100! As an INFJ dating an ENFP I think a buddy cop series would be my fav show ever!
As an ENFP with an INFJ sister, this is spot on!! Definitely would love that series 😂
As an INFJ with a best friend ENFP I'd say we did some crazy stuff together. We could visit a gallery together, get angry at each other while our attitudes don't match, go our separate ways & instantly turn out on the same bench in an hour.
I'd definitely vote for such a series. I would even volunteer to share some really funny scenes.
Actually, as an INFP, I think I relate to INFJs here more than to my own type. I don’t understand people with whom you try to connect emotionally, you share your feelings etc and they’re like walls most of the time
The movie example.. has happened so many times to me! I've learned to realize that not everyone watches movies with as much passion or like to analyze things as much as I do - infj
Same
@@user-zs5tp9zi6n Same. But I'm an INFP who won't watch a movie unless I know I'm going to be passionate about it. It can be so disappointing for the movie to end when it ends rather than letting it carry on afterwards through conversation 🙁
I would say that another thing that turns off an INTJ is people who are drama llamas. I will avoid drama queens like the plague every day of the week. I like my people group to be a drama-free environment.
INTJ. I agree with you. I can't stand when people start drama or talk behind people's backs. It's one of the fastest ways people can lose my respect and trust, because even though I'm not the one they're talking about, there's every probability they are talking about me too when I'm not around. So I'm careful to no longer share important things with them from then on.
That said, if I sense something is going on, it will bother me until I figure it out. My intuition is good enough that I can always tell if something is off, but It can take a long time for me to process what I'm experiencing enough to figure out what exactly is wrong or different. Social interactions are already struggle enough without me working in the dark. In those cases, I greatly appreciate someone filling me in with just enough basic info so I can know what's expected of me.
@@KnightsandPages couldn't agree more..
It's nice to know there's other people share the same thought in this full-of-strange-confusing-people world..
Like,, why do they like to repeatedly gets hurt and makes people hurts in this never ending drama that they make themselves? It baffles me the most..
True its like wasting my time instead of working my ass of on some ideas that i had. As an intj i also dont like to talk much to people who have no sense it bores me, and i dont like people who generalized certain things or like women should be like this and like that 😒
This INFP agrees ✋😊
As an INFP and also an ethical vegan... I felt this. You described me so accurately. This can also be a bad thing tho and can lead to INFPs feeling or being isolated. I know I have experience it lol. It's important to remember we are all human and trying to figure things out.
Why are you an ethical vegan?
@@Jaxan-dq2jy I am against all forms of animal exploitation
So cool you are... Fellow infp here and I am also a ethical vegan trying my best 🙌🤗
Not all INTPs are vegan...
Does this mean that our subgroup would not be considered... ethical... (according to "the norm?").🤔
have been longtime activist for lives of human children...does that count?
As an INTP, this is exactly why I love INFJs so much. No one seems to hold my attention quite like they do and we can talk non stop for hours without ever getting bored.
Interesting. I don't know if you know about cognitive functions in MBTI, but I'm an INFP so I have Ne second like you do, except it's backed up by Fi instead of Ti. My sister is an INFJ and we can talk for long periods of time about stuff, but I like to switch topics a lot, and her with her dominant Ni wants to narrow one topic down forever. I get drained after a while. Maybe you match Ti with INFJs, and that's why you can talk for so long? 🤔
@@maggieo1683 INFPs are great too! I have a friend who is one and we get along very well. Generally speaking, intuitives are my types of people.
The video accurately portrays both INTPs and INFJs and what I love is that they love to have deep conversations. My best friend is an INFJ and every time I go hang out with him we’ll lose track of time and talk for like 8 hours straight!
For INFJs, there’s a certain mysteriousness that always leaves me wanting to know more about them, to try but never fully succeed at figuring them out. For an INTP, this can drive us nuts as we try to establish a logical framework to understand things and people and override Fe and Fi with the brute force of Ti. Once we know a few things we’ll continue to refine from there.
The dominant Ni of the INTJ draws me to them because it’s a big departure from my Ne. We have the same judging functions (Ti, Fe) but our perceiving functions are the opposite. Because of this, I believe we can see the world in a similar light but we might arrive at the same conclusion in different ways.
Ni can be a double edged sword, however. INFJ’s strong intuition doesn’t always make logical sense to me and they can make up their minds about people in ways I cannot comprehend. Once they make up their mind, good luck trying to change it. When an INFJ you may have connected with decides they don’t want you in their life anymore you may get the door slam treatment and be forgotten about forever without explanation. They’ll easily move on and you’ll be reduced to a hollow shell of what you once were before you met them. It’s a problem I’ve dealt with before and am currently dealing with again. 😔
@@maggieo1683 as also INTP I can confirm that Ti we share with INFJ helps us to deep dive in specific topic, even deeper than INFJ do, to the point when INFJ can get exhausted. As of INFPs, they're good to talk if you're keeping it on topic they can relate, otherwise INFP looses interest in conversation rapidly. INFJs value topic itself for it's worth, thus switching to something Ne-similar can be unpleasant for them.
@@mikhail-yakubov great explanation, thanks for sharing!
Yea as an INTP I hate it when I try to talk with people about hypotheticals or something that interests me only for them to not care so it’s nice when someone actually listens and holds a great conversation
As an ESTJ, I can confirm ... maybe that is why I am a math teacher, I love explaining how to do things properly. That being said, I also adore it when my students show me a new way of doing something that I had never considered. It makes my heart happy.
As an ENFP, I have NEVER been described more accurately. Great work, FJ. 😂😂😂
Same 👏
haha thanks
Yes, it was refreshing to not be portrayed as the flaky blue haired character this time 😊
the video clips were on point too
Truuuuulyy
Being one that barely comment in RUclips , I have to say that the Intp one is so true that I think I should leave a comment. It really struggles me a lot and the fact that people around me couldn’t understand my points makes me feel that I’m weird . It’s really thankful to hear this struggle given into words.
when you talk to people, particularly when trying to explain your position, do you get that puppy dog head-cocked-to-the-side expression from them?? 😆
I loved MacGyver! The original. But I’m not in a nursing home! 😂
Good stuff as always! 😊
🙌🏿
Same! I loved the original 80's MacGyver, not the new one. It came out before I was born, but as far as I'm concerned the new version is not MacGyver and never will be. Thankfully there's such a thing as re-runs and DVD sets :D
I was in elementary school 😂 It’s nice to know someone younger than me can appreciate the original 😁
Yes, and I had such a crush on Richard Dean Anderson.
MacGyver is tops! 'Spose I'm showing my age by saying tops.
Thanks for the tips on how to get rid of unwanted contacts with other people.
-INTJ.
I'm ENFP and I definitely fit both the ENFP and INFJ descriptions. That's probably why I get along so well with them!
As an INFJ this was spot on -- If you ever watch a movie with me prepare for a 2 hour debrief and analysis afterwards.
I even pause the movie to process a scene lol
@Gold Ink Yep - I do that all the time too 😂
First time I'm commenting on one of your vids because you nailed the INTP part so perfectly, I even have tears in my eyes because of how true your words were. Lol
aww, so glad to hear that
As an INFP I think I would talk all night about the film we saw together with an INFJ 🤣
Being an INFP who loves this channel, I believe I would do this as well, with the topics of conversation focusing on the psychology and sociology of the characters. 🤭
And an INFJ I agree with that🤣
As an ISTJ, what turns me off the most (aka the trait that makes me dismiss automatically potential partners) is not knowing how to discuss like an actual adult. Victimize, shout, start speaking of something else, take it as an attack... discussing is stressful, but sometimes it is the only way to sort things out.
For me, Infj, that ability is also very important.
As an ISTP it’s somewhat related but, people who’s definition of discussion involves name calling and morally grand standing. There’s few worse feelings than a discussion that feels like it’s going nowhere full of judgements and personal attacks.
as an infp, i strongly agree, someone who argues rationally and doesn't necessarily shout or call me names is someone i will adore, like for example my intj mom
I think communicating like a mature adult transcends personality types and applies to all not-psycho people 😂
Amen, I want to a rational conversation with an adult, not an overgrown toddler throwing a tantrum. We all have bad days, but it shouldn’t be our default behavior.
As an INTJ, things that really turn me off are:
-When people are nosey
-People who think its their job to make negative comments about others. Don't you have anything better to do? Like ... Go read a book or something and learn to do something useful.
-When people barge into my conversations, there is a polite way to join it. You talking above us or about yourself randomly, isn't it.
-When someone gets close to me physically without asking me first. I also don't like people touching me without my permission.
-Hypocrites (to many of them)
Yes to everything you listed.
INTP here and that's a very succinct explanation of the people I dislike the most. Unfortunately most of the people I know are like that to varying degrees and it's ok, I can look past it if they have other good qualities, but there's a subset of people that are really all about niceties, gossip, tradition and convention, where it seems everything that matters to them only matters because that's what their social group or society have decided it matters, and they are the sort of people that I won't talk to more than I absolutely must to get what I want from them.
As an INTP, what you said is so accurate. And for the INFJ one, in my friend group we are 2 INFJ, an INFP and me, an INTP. And it's the best group, we all kinda complete eachother. We have a lot of deep conversations, we understand eachother. And, idk, it's just kinda perfect this way.
ENTJ - very true! I do find myself consistently trying to motivate the INF’s in my life to want to grow and have a go-getter attitude. It comes from a place of love - I want to see my loved ones succeed! ❤
As an INTP, I became very aggravated by the person he described while he was describing them.
Oh man that's true xD I'm INTJ and especially the part about having plans and ideas that totally make sense in my mind, but when it comes to the point of telling someone about my reasons I'm like eeehhh... No xD
As an ISTP, I thought the section on my type would be something about being emotionally unstable (definitely a thing I don't wanna deal with), but I hadn't thought of the "not even wanting to try" thing. It's always disappointing and to an extent feels like a personal rejection. If someone wants to give something a try but is anxious about it, I'm more than happy to support them and make the task less daunting. I want other people to feel capable and confident! I was a teacher for almost a decade, I feel as though this is what I have to offer.
The INTJ thing is just me in every school project.
OH my goodness yes!!
Thank you so much for articulating my need for more meaning perfectly, Frank. I could happily chat anyone's ear off with my thoughts on a movie or play I've just seen, but when the other person simply responds with merely "It was OK, I guess", it really stumps me! Please, tell me WHY you thought it was "OK!"
And then they get upset when you want to know why they only thought it was okay, like 😓
As an INTP, I will often think more highly of something then I let on. I just really hate being emotional or expressive, so it often sounds like I didn't really like it. I value the words spoken over the emotion behind the words, so if I say "it was good", then that's it, regardless of how I say it.
Everyone should know who macgyver is!!! The reference should never die 😆
MacGyver is my favorite verb.
I love Macgyver and wish he was real. One of my friends is a little bit like him. I'm still not sure what type he is because he has a lot of INTP traits as well but is extremely productive
As an isfp
I totally agree with what you said. I have an infp friend who reacts less than I expect and she makes me feel like I am deeply interested in nothing. Whenever I am so interested and told her about my obsession with full of energy, she is like “oh that’s cute” . I even regret that I talk about it sometimes 😂😂😂 Btw she is my best friend and I know that some infps feel deep but express less.
To be honest (as an INFP) the list of things which put INFP off is endlesslyyyy longgggg 😂
As an INFP too, I especially hate it, when someone cant talk about a topic more than two sentences and keeps switching even in the same sentence, before I can even answer. I also dont like people that constantly insult and annoy each other as a joke, especially when I dont know them that long. If thats your main way of socialising, there is something wrong.
People that are always in a rush are annoying too, if I want to have stress i can go to work lol.
Lastly I hate it, when people dont accept a no and try to convince you otherwise over and over again.
TLDR: Yeah there is lots of turn offs for an INFP, but i can overlook some of these things, when it is not the norm and is balanced with good qualities. Nobody is perfect 😂
@@epicmatter4555 yesss i absolutely hate the same thing, for example when people try to convince me to like kids (or anything that they personally like and think everyone should 🫠 bitches I‘m not basic 🫠 ) and people who think i SHOULD do this and do that to be „happy“ totally trigger my evil side 🥵 the endless list makes so hard to make friends 😩 i end up only getting along with another INFPs 😭
@@vananhoannguyen1378 I dont know the type of most people I was or am friends with, but to me it seems, that I can get along with all intuitive types usually.
But you are right, I hate it as well, when people tell me i have to do x or y, to live "right". Their goals in life are not the same as mine and there sure as hell isn't a best way to live it 🙄 I guess if there is one thing I hate the most, than it is ignorance.
You should make a skit of the 16 personalities getting their order wrong (Food orders, online shopping orders, ect.)
INFJ, eats it anyway or picks at it and says nothing.
LOL i think thats a fun idea
@@FrankJames Wow! I flipped when I saw you respond, I wasn't expecting you to see my comment!
Oh yes hahaha. I'd love to watch this.
INFP, Doesn't want it because it's not what they wanted... But can't bring themself to correct it... So it's just a meal of disappointment as they attempt to hide the fact that they don't want to eat it... I hate when that happens! Wait. What were we talking about? 🤔
OK, as a fellow INFJ, the last one got me. Like the dreaded 'K' response in texting. When I type a paragraph and get 'idk, u?' in response...gaaaahhh.
Kudos on having such an incredible insight into 16 diverse mindsets, Frank. You're in touch with SO many emotions, so we salute you! ♥️
As an INFJ, my biggest turnoff is actually passive aggression. 😅 My respect for people who can't communicate directly (and privately among the involved parties), instantly goes way below zero.
@@goldink2813 But it is not about confronting and exposing peoples every insecurity just because you can see it. :) Because there is a time and a place for everything - and not everything is your business.
What I am talking about are people who have a negative behaviour/arrogance, that directly impacts you. And when you try to make them stop, they draw in the whole office, play the victim, and gather everyone to turn against you. Where I much prefer an open and discreet conversation, only among the parties involved.
But you have to respect peoples boundaries as well - or you may actually cause more harm than good. Not everyone wants to be put in the 'victim' box by a stranger, or share their deepest, darkest secrets and insecurities with strangers.
The thing is, you never know the full story, unless they tell you. And they do not have to, just because you want them to. So be careful not to let your own ego (your need to be the 'fixer') make you violate other peoples boundaries. Just because you don't see or understand the way they deal with things, does not mean they are not going deep. They just don't want to share it with you.
I think understanding boundaries is a VERY important thing to understand. For everyone, but especially the FJ's. Because if used wrong, you will break people rather than help them - just to boost your own ego. And that is the one part of themselves many FJ's are not quite so objective. They love to consider themselves 'truth seekers' and 'fixers', even 'saints'. But they definitely have an ego. And use their 'good intentions' to justify the damage they do to other people.
EFF YES!!! THIS!!!! 👏👏👏
Ppl do that only when they are cowards and low self esteem esp covert narcissistic
The reason we INTJ's hate the explaining is because in all reality we've already explained it SEVERAL times and I LOATH having to explain/repeat myself over and over. If I have to repeat/explain it more than twice this means you weren't listening. SO, at that point the person can kick rocks>>>!!! I don't keep people in my life that are another problem to have to fix, I could use that time to get MY stuff done.
I call that my "Point I want you to stick your finger in the electric socket because you'll learn then, won't you?" point
Intuition introverted thing. Happens to us INFJs too...if you replace "opinions, demonstrable ideas or thoughts" Te with "passions, daydreams or feelings" Fe.
I'm generally quite patient in explaining things, as long as people are actively listening. I don't mind clarifying or trying to explain something a different way, because I realize my INTJ/ ADHD brain is basically a dissociated, psychedelic squirrel trapped in a pinball machine. I have to make concessions if I want to be understood.
That said, if I don't feel like someone is listening, I won't repeat myself. And if someone tries to talk over me, I walk away.
@@KnightsandPages I agree, there is a difference between someone actively trying to understand, listen and grasp; with those people I'm very patient. It is when I can tell they made no effort to listen the first few times that I'm done. This is a huge reason why I've started to make people "tell me what I've just said" and I frequently summarize what I think they've just said so I know we're on the same page. I will admit there are times I don't want to explain it because there's no time and they need to trust me and if they can't do that I walk away.
I am an INTJ and actually identified quite a bit more with the INFJ type. I had an experience recently with a girl where I (being emotionally reserved) tested her in our getting to know each other phase. I asked her a rather deep question, one of those that I like to immerse myself in. She just gave me a rather superficial answer and I have to admit that it was a terrible disappointment for me because I realized that in reality she was not a person as deep as I had intuited before meeting her. So yes, being an INTJ I hate superficial responses when it comes to making yourself and your opinions known.
Yeah, I know. There are endless possibilities. In fact I must say that the question was not somewhat controversial, it was rather a more casual one in which I wanted her to give me more details about her way of living at a specific time of the year, you know, just to know her better and make her talk about herself (she's even more introverted than me, a tough bet early on I think). I guess she just had no interest. Our interaction was complicated since the beginning because I never felt reciprocated since I approached her first, but somehow I felt very attached to her. She used to say too much to me without really talking to me. Since we don't really share the same environments within our campus, the only way I was able to get a chance to meet her was by looking her up and being direct, so I guess it was either that or nothing given the situation. Anyway, I once again pushed my own introvert limits for nothing. And to clarify, I had made previous efforts to meet her in the past, this event was just the culmination of a misguided intuitive process, I learned my lesson.
@@lillianv27 Thanks! I appreciate the advice. What a piece of gold finding nice people on the Internet. Best wishes!
@@lillianv27 I fear it could be a scam bot. Be careful.
This Intp can relate to that as well, although I can be fluffy for funsies, if I wish.
As an INTP, I approve this message. This makes SO. MUCH. SENSE. My grand dysfunction is rebelling when someone tells me, "THIS is how people are/you are supposed to act," or, "THIS is the way we have always done it/it needs to be done." On the other hand, I need structure and boundaries in every day life, so I have had to negotiate a balance, even if I feel like throwing up, or throwing on a clown wig and storming off. (Perhaps dancing off...)
same here I absolutely HATE IT
And the thing is, from an INTP perspective, we actually might be one of the more sociable introvert types if not for worrying about relational expectations. The spontaneous social interactions I enjoy the most, with strangers no less, are when someone randomly comes asking for help problem solving (not a relationship one, though) and my inner creativity gets to have a field day. Our innate curiosity and helpfulness can come out if we can maneuver past the social norms.
@@SpaceKestrell totally agree. This transient “knack” for sociability and/or entertaining people is one of the reasons I abandoned the belief that I was an Intj.
@@SpaceKestrell also, I am curious: do you often get asked if you are a store employee?
@@scratchoriginalsdh not really. My clothing style ( lack there of ) is usually too unrelated to anything to fit a store outfit. I usually never initiate social interactions - aside from normal polite smile/nods.
As an INTP, I can confirm that this is true. This is one of the few times he gets INTPs accurately, most of the time I just don't understand what he's talking about. 😂
True!! 😂😂
Nah as an INTP, I’m always trying to act normal in public
@Sam Benham
Perhaps heroic efforts sometimes are made...
However,
do we really have an accurate idea of what "the norm" of normal is? 🤔
You are probably an infp, he is actually quite accurate when it comes to intps, but this time, what he said actually applies more to infps.
@@rmp7400 hahaha, right?!
As an INFP, that is accurate 😂
I was untimely taking a drink of water when he went over the INFPs & I choked cuz I started laughing at the accuracy! 😝
@@IPureHeart LMAO 🤣
INFP is on point. Also, 26 here and Ioved watching MacGyver growing up. Used to get dvds of it from the library, though none of my older siblings seemed to appreciate it overmuch😅🤣
Found this channel 4 days ago, and am loving it!! 💛 BUTTTTTTT...
*I wrote this complaint multiple ways and have decided they all sound annoying, so here's my best one.*
MY HUMBLE REQUEST:
I want a constant title card with the specific type being discussed that changes as we switch types. This will allow me to easily follow and learn about the types and spot patterns more easily.
Note: This request does not apply to comedy sketch videos.
Anyway, I will continue to watch all of your videos and thumbs up either way. You are brilliant & I appreciate you and this community. 🖤
My high-point of this video is I knew Macgyver! 😆 I grew up watching the old series(Reruns, I'm not in a nursing home yet!)
My low-point was when you talked about INFJs . . . because yes - to use your example - I want to talk about the meanings and depth and flaws of films but most of my friends either think something is 'good' or 'meh'. This is why I go on youtube and listen to video essays on said films, just so I can hear someone else talk about a film and not just on its face value.
INTP is accurate. I hate it when some people act like something's wrong with me just because I don't act like them, even tho I'm not necessarily doing anything wrong
As an ENFP, the thing I hate the most is my attempts of starting fun conversations (At least it seems like an interesting thing to me) being *completely ignored* . Even though sometimes it's also kinda my fault to just throw something out there unrelated to the previous topic that was being discussed lol.
The INTJ thing is true, I also really dislike sensitive people. Having a dark sense of humor (as I believe most INTJs do) and being resistant to being insulted most of the time, I cannot handle being around someone who cries at the smallest jab or is instantly made uncomfortable by the idea of something dark alone. Of course this can vary- Being sensitive to certain topics of mental health is understandable. But once I met someone who couldn't even finish listening to a villain character's monologue, because it was about how other people meant nothing to them and it was depressing them. That is a level of sensitivity I cannot withstand.
That is my greatest flaw as an ENFJ. I put everything and everyone on the same standard of selflessness as I do. Nothing pushes me away more than selfish folks who clearly has something to give but refused to just cause. It's always an eyebrow raising moment when the selfish one ask for help 🙄
I would say this is true for me (not my biggest turnoff- that would be arrogance and narcissism) but it’s more with people I know than strangers. If someone takes me for granted for too long, or fails to reciprocate repeatedly, then that can eventually flip my psycho switch. Once that switch is flipped I’ll calm down but become completely apathetic to that person. Even if I’ve poured months or years of energy into them. Once I get to the apathy stage, there is no going back. Don’t expect yourself from others, it doesn’t end well. - fellow ENFJ
Me, an INTJ, I don't want to attract ppl anyways so it's ok if I do these things
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Haha, "I'll never get over the trauma of pooping my pants in 2nd grade." 😂 Aww, that would be pretty traumatic. But seriously, yes. INFJs like connecting emotionally, and when someone slams that door, well, so do we...on them. Funny and educational video! Editor Kevin did a great cleanup. Lol. 😀👍
If someone don't have a growth mindset, I seriously don't want to be around them all the time.
- ENTJ
I am an ENFP who loves my "one trick pony" INTJ husband, and am so thankful that his job supports me to be a stay at home mom and dream up my future jobs as an author illustrator/travel consultant/charcuterie business owner 🤩
I hope feminism will help me find a woman that will support me being a stay-at-home dad sculptor violonist ninja. Life's hard. 😅
As ENFP I highly agree
I changed my "life goal" like 4 times during my teenage years
I wanted to be an artist... I wasn't good enough so I just started learning math.
Then I desided to be an actor and spend a good amount on training in that field.
Then I studied math and geography in highschool but chose humanistic studies on my final exam.
I was thinking about becoming a fireman but it was quite short sited.
Finally last minute I changed my plan of becoming an actor because I got into Japan oriented collage...
I have no idea what I'm doing in life. I don't even know what I'll do in 2 weeks. I hate when people want to "meet up next month"
My guy. We'll talk in 3 weeks about that
(also I change my hobbies like once a month xD)
I feel you. I do the same.
I am currently on a Muay Thaï moment and it is very very hard to stick to it. 🥴
I thought i was an intj but watching this made me reconsider lol
I could relate to many of the other personalities super well here, while the intj was a little farther from me, but in other skits or videos i see myself in the intj
As an INFJ I hate disturbances when I'm doing my creative project or drawing and I hate drama and gossip. I hate gossip so much that I ghost on people who gossip. And one note I like color code like ISTJ
I love how intps are just un-explainable, I love em.
~Your entp mate⚡
Weirdo. Pariah. Unusual. Unique. Confusing. I've heard it all. Actually, I came up with "pariah" on my own. It came out of existing for years within the Christian Church culture. 😉
Omg yes! As an ISFP art (all forms) is very important to me. I could never be with someone who doesn't appreciate it.
As an ESTJ, I don't think I give a lot of advice to people. But! I ask people why they are doing what they are doing and I do find people, who are full of excuses, very unattractive
For me (ISTJ), there is beauty in chaos… with limits, but I’m not that organized myself.
What I find myself allergic to is people who care too much about social status and will ostracism the ones who don’t. I have hated that type of thing and avoided people like that since I was in grade school. I wonder why most in my type don’t seem to relate to this, though.
I could be mistaken, but concern with social status isn't a perfect correlation with one of the MBTI traits, and thus its spread could be more varied rather than being within one type like ISTJ maybe?
@@connormcgee4711 I might also be rejecting some types of status and not others, I suppose. For one, I don’t usually like when someone tries to bypass my subjective personal preferences for e.g. what styles I like to wear or what people I like to be around. I think that’s Fe.
@@aprilhelm518 Oh yeah that's Fe for sure! I wonder what hierarchy status would be then? Thanks for bringing this up, this is more complex than I thought.
I think for me it’s people who are dishonest and lack integrity. It says a lot about a person if they can’t do what’s right. -ISTJ
@@manib. I think that would be everybody.
ENTJ. Nailed it! My biggest bet peeve are people who have zero curiosity about the world around then. I find it maddening when people don't ask question of just have no eagerness to learn or grow their knowledge.
As INFP, I like people who think differently than me, I wouldn't go away just for values difference as long as there is respect between the parts. What is a no-go is when someone tries to prove me wrong. I can ignore the person, but if the person is insistent it can trigger my savage mode (believe me, you'll never want to see a triggered INFP).
I love this! I can respect people who have different values as long as they respect me.
as an isfj, 100% do not rush me... I will plan accordingly and take my time.
As an INFP, I do agree I find anyone against my morals unattractive. Depends though. There are some things I can agree to disagree with like politics. My boyfriend (an INTP) & I love debating everything. Yet we can usually get over it very quickly. However the only real argument we had was one that went against my morals. It was early on in our relationship, so I was ready to leave. But he had the perfect apology & was genuinely sorry. Which he sucks at apologies so I knew he was actually sorry when he was able to apologize.
Now also finding that what I find attractive is men who respect my boundaries & validate me. Whereas he just finds me not being a shit person & having morals attractive.
That & right now I only find him attractive. Anyone else looks at me & I am just like gross. He's just so edgy on the outside but a huge nerd on the inside, that also treats me like a human with feelings, & gets uncomfortable around others yet comfortable with me. So attractive. Fitting my story book narrative perfectly. Meeting my high standards.
My boyfriend is an ISTP and loves cars. I can totally relate to the example! I tell him I don't know how to do a certain thing to a car. He follows up with "Have you ever tried to do it?" (The answer is always no) "Well then, I'll have you help me one day so I can teach you." My learning styles are observing and doing so this works out.
That's sweet..
What turn- off INFJ:
1. Giving them a ring.
2. Knocking on their door.
3. Asking them to behave normal.
4. Small talk.
Its funny, but as a truly in and out INFP I actually related also with the INFJ example that you made. It makes me furious when I want to discuss th thoughts and emotions that I live through something and the other half/or person doesn even bother to philosophise about it with me… dang that is something I cant comprehend. I always analyze things, like mostly through feeling and like to talk about it with someone. And philosophing is my go to thing. And yep I’ve done the test milion times in different moods, timings and time frames and always INFP which I beileve to be true because I see myself in it the most. What does this mesn then? Are we similar in more ways with INFJ. Also this is my first comment ever and I rewrited it multiple times 😅 I send lots of love and cherish your emtions and values pppl❤ (also sorry for my grammar, hope it makes sense)
Agreed
Ended my last relationship because the guy was exactly the 'i liked it' person
(INFJ)
Meee too! The zero depth types....weird how I thought I was crazy back then.
It took me 30 years to realise that, I have literally stopped expecting other ppl to express any emotions when I'm around them. I wonder how do they survive with small talk...!!! Which truly sucks.
ISFP and pretty much everything that was said was spot on. More or less don’t have an issue with the “oh, that’s cute” to an artwork unless that piece really meant something to me. Now what would be a definite turn off for me is to criticize my jams/interests or try to control me. Like FJ said I do live life though passion and everything that I really enjoy is something personal. So if your the type of person to say “Your music is trash” I will *NEVER* share my interests with you again or want to hang out
INTP here and I can confirm this
As an Enfj, I understand even the most selfish people are most likely struggling with their life.
I understand their reason. It’s still no excuse.
Hahaha I resonate with this.
Lol i agree, also, quick question do you believe that enfjs can be mysterious to other types like istj or istp or Infj?.
@@q111g3 only if they decide that they don’t want to associate with a person at all in my case-
Ig we could but most of the time we’re quite open to everyone
@@LOLrpop ikr well all the 3 types I mentioned which supposed to be my best friends see me as a mysterious person and don't understand me which I find weird I mean yeah I am enfj but a lot of things I don't do as enfj should have, and am mostly known as being evil "somehow" and sometimes they say I'm more evil than Satan "which way too crazy to believe" because I think of myself as good person and I didn't do a bad things to them or others.
I mean yeah I do have a creepy smile and fox eyes but that don't mean it supposed to be mean I'm evil, right?
As a 53 year old INFJ, I've become a hermit because humanity is so boring.
As an INTJ I expect people to lack understanding of me and as I am working with other people I try to find simple ways to either lead them to the same conclusion or explain my thought process in less than 2-3 sentences.
It is extremely challenging sometimes because of how elaborate my plans can get on occasion, hence why I try to keep things on my end as simple as possible.
I personally find it extremely annoying when I have all of my options in front of me but somebody is lagging behind or not doing their part of the job, ESPECIALLY when I make things as simple as "Here is a list. Here is what we are missing. Here is what you need to do. Come back to me if you have any questions."
99% of the time it works ... The other 1% despite how much I want to scream - I try to find a better fit for them.
INFJ here. When I ask people's opinions and they give me short answers I could go feral, actually.
I agree completely with your INFJ description.
Introverted-intuitive types wanting to be trusted early on…I feel that. I recently became so angry with family members over something that seemed simple (even to me). But upon reflection, I realized I was angry because they didn’t trust my intuitive sense or my vision. It didn’t matter that the issue was relatively small. 😅
Also, as a fellow INFJ, I find it consoling and inspiring that Frank has developed a talent for talking fluidly to a camera. I am trying to teach myself this skill and, boy howdy, it does not come naturally. 😂😂
"None of my audiences know who MacGyver is." Me, over here, being an ISTP and growing up on MacGyver, but the new one bc im young-
I love the little squeak sounds that play when words pop up now.
Also, the guy falling in the background without a parachute was unexpected, and hilarious 😂
Great job on the video, Frank! Your content never gets old ❤
If I’m not mistaken it’s the sound Yoshi makes when he eats something😂
True for ENTJ. I hate those people who are not satisfied with their life but not willing to change and they tend to be my friends. I just don’t understand.
Ironically, as an INFJ, I am also not unlikely to be the one saying 'Yeah, I liked it'.
I usually do this when I'm doing my best not to lead someone on.
I'm an ISFP but I related so much to ENTJ and INTJ; however as for the latter, I don't mind the challenge of proving the validity of my ideas. to me, in a way, that's the best part, because I'd want the other person to be on board for all of the same reasons that make me excited. I also super appreciated how Frank used the sandbox metaphor to explain how Ne can manifest. As a single minded ISFP, that definitely gave me some perspective and helped me understand that Ne has a form of focus too. I have quite a few high Ne using friends in my life, and the perceived lack of direction annoys me at times--this explanation was strangely comforting and presented something that I could relate to. I related the least to ESTP. Ouch! But in my experience with the ESTP in my life, that's exactly the case. As for the ISFP segment, I relate completely, but the thing that turns me off the most is when people steal my ideas or art style, or try to imitate it. I know some people say this is the highest form of flattery, but to me, it makes me feel like the other person doesn't know themself well enough to just do their own thing. It almost makes me feel like I'm in charge of babysitting them or parenting them through their self discovery, and I don't want to feel that way in any relationship. Thanks for this video Frank!
Before watching the video: "Being intellectual lazy and of nebulous character."
*watches the video*
After the video: "Close enough."
- INTJ
Also, at 42, I most certainly know who MacGyver is.
As an ISTP female, I don’t find I’m turned off by people who aren’t naturally mechanically inclined. However loud and overly emotional people (drama queens) and yes…bad drivers, are deal
breakers for me.
ISTP here. Our 4th function Fe can't handle people who do emotions poorly. However I've found that as I've matured I've come to love people who do emotions well. That's how I ended up married to an ENFJ. My ride or die.
@@Sammi84 I agree.
People who do emotions well are fine with me. I enjoy the articulation and clarity of a well thought out feeling.
My ESFJ MIL is the worst to me (ENTJ), because she wants people to do was she wants, although what she wants is utter nonsense. My husband (INTJ) is only slightly more patient than me. (Source of conflict. ESFJ do not like Free Thinkers).This video is spot on.
ISFP was completely accurate!
omg how did you pick up the one for intjs! that’s amazing!
indeed, the people i consider closest to me, are those who trust me when i pick out a path for them, trusting that as we go on the path, all will be made clear.
i don’t solve problems for people who constantly want me to explain everything to their level, especially when I know they are missing concepts and experiences to get it.
Oh my GOODNESS!! Frankkk!! The INFJ example you used literally happened to me on a date and it was an absolute turn off!! I wanted to dive into the themes of this amazing movie we had just seen and he replied with, “Yeah, the special effects were cool.” In that moment, I felt like we were from two planets! He was such a nice fellow, but you gotta at least meet me half way, my man.
I love my Infj, but he literally wants people to open up right after his first sentence ever spoken to them. I tell him, some people need a little time to unfold; people can't DO what you do. It's like you guys are primed to get into someone's soul and know them before they even speak, so it's kind of an unfair advantage. That being said, definitely by the end of a date one should know whether the other person is capable of going "deep" at all.
@@scratchoriginalsdh A fair point! It is always a good reminder to let people unfold in their own time.
But in this particular case, I wasn’t asking the poor man to bear his soul to me. I was asking him to engage on the themes of a story. And we’d known each other for a year before going on this date, so I don’t think it was a huge ask? Just a personality difference, and one I hadn’t really expected. I was still young and that experience did teach me that not everyone feels stories deeply, especially upon first watch/read. 🤗
@@marissabulso6439 oh gosh yeah, if you already knew him for a while. And I get the context (of the question being asked). Personally, I would be weighing out that one response with the rest of the evening’s interactions to see if there was something more to this person, but then again, I am not an Infj. 😉 You obviously made the right call, it just didn’t take you all night to figure it out like it would have me.
10:06 is very agreeable. Appreciate it
This is great, can you make a video of the 16 personalities setting their goals, my husband is ISFJ and I am INFJ it was interesting the difference in our goals settings process
That's so true, what really make us (INTPs) upset is the awkward looks that make you feel crazy or asking questions like "are you okay? " Without a reason
Very true. I have a collegue who once said to me "I don't know which of these cables is the hdmi cable for the beamer and I am not willing to learn something like that". And she always assumes that I will do everything ITrelated for them. That made their status in my mind go down extremely low. (ISTP)
I love how he always begins with my type so I don't have to look for time stamps 😁