I got my first job as a professional concept artist last week and I wouldn't have pushed myself into applying if it wasn't for your videos, thank you Adam
This is the most heartbreaking thing: this was my reality until art school. And finally, as I start to grow friends, plan a rent, get to know my job... I don't want to lose everyone again as I did in high school.
Same with me. At first I said that proudly, as to show that I can plow through this worldwide crisis without a sweat. Slowly I realized that the truth is ugly. I realized I shouldn't be proud of living, consciously and without intervening, in a way that most people are straight up going mad. Quite the opposite, I should be trying my best to change my situation. I'm addressing this now but, damn, change is hard. Specially during this pandemic.
The ironic thing is, I am and feel like an introvert most times, but right now even I cannot stand this any better than extroverts: we are all the same, in a biological way.
The worst thing about this pandemic for me is what I learned about people and their stunning lack of empathy. It was an abstract idea , how people would react in such a situation, but to see it in real time was the single most perspective changing event. I will never look at people the same, and that is really affecting my artistic connection
@@Magus_Union it's in human nature, all around the world when people get overwhelmed they disassociate from it. Its understandable yet morbid, people are dying all the time, more in catastrophes and sitsuations like these, easiest way to deal with something is not to deal with it at all, deny or not care about others related to it. Not to create an argument about morals, I care about my safety and my family's too, but I doubt anyone here has much emotional connection really to anyone personally on the other side of the world, unless you have family or friends there, I mean random people. You may feel sorry for the people in the country, but don't have much connection to em. Im from finland and that's how I feel about US, I feel forry for you, but people around me are more important, my family, my friends. there are weaker people out there, people who disassociate to the degree where they may even deny all this happening calling it a flu and all that dumb mf-ery. The fact that some people out there don't disassociate as much and go trough with the pain of seeing how horrible others are, I think you, we are the strongest out here.
The fact that humanity in general is so horrible will highlight the people that really care, because it's not easy, and when you meet someone like that, you'll see how extraordinary people can be if they tried
I get it. You're not alone. A lot of people have lost a bit of faith in their fellow person. When you 'squeeze' people, and 'squeeze' the system, you see what comes out: A lot of negligence, short-sightedness, class divisions becoming a matter of life and death.... The worst is this nagging thought that we all knew how to put a stop to this whole mess back last April - and not enough citizens, not enough governments, not enough businesses could put their agendas and pursuits and petty beliefs aside to make it happen. And the money problem was _always_ solvable. The world was tested and this is the grade that came back, and that's what all we have to live with. With luck, this could lead to a change of direction for the better, as Adam is pointing out.
My life didnt change at all in lockdown, I wasnt meeting up with friends before because I dont have any, I wasnt going out I am always stuck in my room for like 5 years now and I feel like I am missing out on the best years of my life and thats what makes me really depressed.
I suffer from depression and I appreciate that you care about this issue enough to bring attention to it. It's a hard struggle, and those of us fighting it need all the support we can get.
You might think you are alone, but it`s not the truth. You have yourself. You have the ability to look at yourself from the side and think about what you can do to better. Looking at yourself with humanity, and realizing you are the person too, and taking care of that person can get you through :)
I know what you mean. I suffered from crippling loneliness and depression for a few years and it really hurt to know I needed people and just think, "How on earth do I DO that? Where do I find people to lean on? What if I'm just a burden to them?" But it is true. The fact that it hurts proves it's true; the hurt is the absence. It took me time to find people and rediscover people I already had but that depression separated me from. More time than I wanted it to take, and it hurt. But I did find them, and if I can, anyone can. You can. Like B Zalec said, YOU are worth taking care of. You are worthy. You are worth having people around you. And you'll find them.
I have not always been aware of how much more difficult has the isolation been for other people. I know what it means to be isolated and to have no choice. Even as an introvert who has been savoring _being alone_ for decades, I realize we put too much pressure on ourselves and each other by saying we should be able to deal with it. I started taking antidepressants recently because my usual coping abilities just were not enough for everthing stacked up so high. Let's avoid toxic positivity and encourage people to reach out to professionals.
Strangers are people too..im here feeling lonely too, but one month later im here hoping you have a good day, a good year, a good life. You are an amazing person, you are special, and wonderful, you are loved. Stay strong
Perfect topic for me, Adam, as I recently lost my Mum to suicide. I'm really happy you're discussing this, I'm struggling a lot right now. Love your videos :')
I’m sorry for your loss Malachi James I hope you feel better I’m actually a fan of your videos so it’s great to see my two favorite art RUclipsrs at once
I appreciate that you're tackling this topic. I am having a hard time coming to terms with the untreatable nature of my depression, but listening to you makes it easier for me to survive the time I have on this planet.
I feel like I've witnessed, a lot of my friends and neighbours losing their parents, having life meltdowns, getting their careers ruined,etc. along with my rough past. These experiences made me reflect on my art, I used to draw a lot of bright, happy, anime art. But now they have gotten a lot darker, reflective, lonely, rainy, etc. Not only art but my taste in films and music aswell. I have gotten a lot introverted, and my friend circle has gotten smaller. Maybe it's a part of growing up, I'm 22 now about to pursue literature in university, changed it from my college science stream. No regrets.
Thank you Adam for this reminder. “Be water my friend.” - Bruce Lee Time is an illusion. Loneliness is an elixir to healing whatever it is that’s triggering you. ⚡️ The following weeks have been a challenge for sure. Life threw me a few curveballs. Losing people I know including those from childhood. It packed a punch. I also lost a bunch of “acquaintances” that I thought would lead to quality friendships. Anywho, it’s 2022 now and I feel the punches back to to back that brought me to question everything again. Staring at the abyss can be powerful and life changing. I’m slowly getting out of the dark now and find myself painting again while listening to your videos as I recently discovered your channel yesterday when I was looking for a bit of encouragement. Because. As a person who loves to encourage others, looking at silver linings and being positive no matter what - it can be much. Uncomfortable AF! There’s so many changes that can be traumatic and lonely from time to time. So here we are confronted by darkness yet resilient enough to bounce back from every trials and tribulations. Hard times are real yet I realized that I’m hard to break if you will. Sure, it can be daunting. I reframed my breakdowns as breakthroughs because I’ve survived so many since the beginning of time. Real post-traumatic growth instead of falling victim in whatever life wants me to experience. I’ve never felt emotionally drained and exhausted. Ego is hurt yet humbled. Painting actually is cathartic and emotionally healing as I look within and realized how far I’ve come along. Whoever is reading this or going through an emotional upheaval. You got this. Ask your Higher Self and call upon a Higher Power. Cry because it’s cleansing to your soul. The only way out is through. You are actually the hero of your own life. I just didn’t know it. 😂 That’s how I managed to find the discipline. Conflict management and using the tools in my toolbox 🧰 that I didn’t have back when I was a young kid. Blessings fella creative humans, warriors and survivors.🎉🎉🎉
For over a year now, I've been sick of god knows what (mainly covid symptoms but negative to all tests) which puts me in a state where i'm more and more exhausted and at the edge of crying each and every day (today was a bit better but still put me on the edge and I think if it were on another day I would've cry), missing school for an entire trimester and all. Now since about a month I've been unable to draw / write because of my right wrist constantly shaking and hurting me. This situation and video made me realize that drawing is probably the most important thing in my life right now and losing it for a month is really painful for me. I'm really greatful to you Adam to talk of this topic and I really wanted to thank you for that. (Sorry if this comment was a bit too personal but I really needed to let it come out. ) (ps : I'm already seeing professionals and I think they're making a great job considering the strangeness of my situation.)
I felt like crap for a few months. And a month ago a change has come. Suddenly I stopped smoking and I'm still going - more than a month now and I want to never start again. I decided to take different commissions and changed so many other things about my art career and personal life and lifestyle. I'm not sure why, but the way everything pissed me off and made me angry and helpless has helped. And changed me. The hope and need for change outside in the world has finally made me do something with my life.
_Get's Notification_ *Oh it's time to draw with adam !* - me everytime thanks, I've been struggling with emotion's of late, so glad you're talking about this :)) ❤❤❤
Almost cried past 40 minutes, I've been blessed for being who I am right now, perhaps more prepared to take on this situation then others. Thus I completely understand all your points, such valuable words in times like this, we need each other, we need to take care of each other, so we all can go further. Hope y'all stay safe. Thank you for this amazing talk.
I suffer from strong Depression und chronic fatigue from lack of relaxing sleep. I lost my sprit for Art ,i sometimes grab my pencils and simply doing something. I wont care if somebody will like it , even i wont very convinced about it. But its so realise, abstract art can be reasing because you dont need to care about right or wrong , its controll of feelings. Because of my Illness i cant leave my home often so nothing much chanched, the only thing is im way more lonely than before. I watch Twich more than before , also Stormchase Livestreams are my breakfree from my lonely world. Its my hobby too, but will never can do it on my own. I will not take things for given. I try to downplay my overwhelm and meltdowns ( im in ASD ) i cut out and canceld everything Media that is giving me anxiety , this helps me to create distance in my own world. I wont like body contact to others, getting touched by people feels uncomforting for me, but even im used to being alone most of the time of my life, being lonely gives me hard time, even i live close together mit my parents , they wont understand me or not even try , livin in they own world and not rying to change something on they own. I suffer on my own issues , also have to handle others problems to and nobody cares , esp in this times people are extremly cold hearted, dont hope for help esp. when you disabled
Lost a really close friend of mine a few weeks ago, and I honestly couldn't watch this video for a week because I was really afraid that this was just going to make me break. Thank you so much for this Adam.
Usually I'm a lurking subber but I'll just say this Adam, your self help themed videos are one of the few things that allowed me to fight back against what is currently the darket and most human rights wise abusive chapter in my life yet both physically, verbally, and emotionally. You're one of the few folks in my life who gave me the strength to fight on regardless of what tommorow will bring, and to that I'm forever grateful.
Thank you for this, Adam. It was much needed. As someone who lost all their grandparents last year, the part about protecting and valuing our elders hit home extra hard and I appreciate you talking about it.
I've lived the covid life for the past 10 years and I can't get out of it. It's destroying me, and at this point I feel too far gone. My youth has been reduced to nothing, not many good memories worth mentioning and a mountain of regrets stand in their place. I love listening to you though, I can fantasize about turning things around for a second wind.
Listen friend,i really feel you.And i guarantee you,you are not missing a single thing.Before covid i was that social guy,but people you see that 'living their age at best' is not real.I sadly cant give you 'that' advice but i feel the same as you,a lot of us do.I hope that you'll find the balance in your life.
@@alicoban7956 Ever heard the saying "youth is wasted on the young"? Most people waste their youth doing something they regret later, I just feel I've gone a step further and done nothing.
Hello Mr Adam, I'm here to thank you for everything, I'm 14 years old and me and my sister who's 18 were Always into drawing and art in general, she was always better than me and people often reacted to my work with disgust or just don't react at all. I was so jealous that my sister got all the support and compliments for her and I just had the pity of others who were better, I tried to evolve as fast as possible I treated arts like a competition I was moved by jealousy and nothing more, I had forgotten why I started drawing in the first place. I isolated myself and dedicated myself to studying the fundamentals all day (or all my free time) I let my responsibilities and social relationships aside because I thought that people would like me more if I had something to show them, I searched for uncountable days and got into various art groups, I wanted people to like me so I created a character that was super ineffective, people hated me and some of them even kicked me out and rejected me. I was giving up on drawing because I didn't evolved enough to be better than my sister, instead I turned into the thing that I never wanted to be a washed out version of my sister and a hateful guy... Until I found your channel, with you I learned to enjoy myself, you showed me a new perspective and restored my passion and that's why I admire you, nobody impacted my vision as hard as you your words changed me and showed me a way to go. Thank you very much
Here’s a little tip for you my friend - artists don’t mix well with “the popular crowds” we find far healthier relationships with our few close dear ones You have a unique personality and horde like groups thrive in commonality - not uniqueness You need friends that embrace and love you for being your complex unpredictable and overthinking self :)
I am so amazed by your way of telling stories. I think everyone should listen to this video, you just worded everything so beautifully and actually made me tear up a couple times. The topic was so sensitive, but you managed to tackle it authentically and respectfully. Thank you for videos like this. You really change peoples worlds.
Before even watching the full video, I just wanted to say thank you, Adam. The title alone got me, because while I've been struggling with depression and other mental/emotional struggles since I was young, recently my mother has been in the hospital for a cancerous tumour, and watching as her health declined to the point she admitted herself to the ER (she's very stubborn, so it wasn't until she was at her wits end, and thankfully it was due to someone who worked at a local pharmacy that suggested she do that, if she hadn't when she did, she would have died...) and being on my own, the cats missing her, me missing her, it's been very hard emotionally and mentally. I'm constantly in a state of anxiety, worrying about her. My depression has spiked multiple times already, but instead of allowing myself to wallow, I've had to force myself to pull through for my cats... I'm taking care of myself because I know I have to, I have to gather all my strength and be strong so that she can be at ease, knowing I'm okay and doing my best, despite my own health sometimes being flippant (and struggling with something physically for about a decade at this point, a slow progress in healing, which would definitely worry her as it can hinder my physical movements and adds a wallop to my depression) -- so thank you, Adam. Your videos always, always feel like a welcome lesson, therapy session, or simply someone who's sharing his experiences and thoughts in life to a fellow human being.
I have had social and gender issues since I was a child, I was definitely not having a good time. I never thought lockdown would be an issue for me and socially it hasn’t changed anything. But then I lost one of my jobs. Then a week later my college closed, I was doing furniture making, you can’t do that remotely. Once that happened I lost my other job. My career, my future disappeared in front of me.that was last summer and no one will hire me without my diploma. Then I lost my bunny who comforted me at times like that, then COVID took the only grandparent I had left, then it took my auntie. Then I lost contact with my councillors. I had already been the lowest a human can be, having tried to end it on two separate occasions long before COVID. Now I am at a stage where absolutely nothing matters. I don’t move, I don’t eat, I barely have the motivation to breathe. My life is gone, my future is gone. I am no longer a person
One of my favourite things I listen to on YT are Fudgemuppets' videos and podcasts on Elder Scrolls lore... my 2nd favourite channel right after yours, Adam
Hi been watching your channel for a few months now and have been struggling with "unspecified psychosis" for about 25 years now and in my experience I've found that things that my friends, dad, extended family, and even yes random people on the internet have brought me more solace, more peace, than any medication, any therapist, or psychologist EVER has. I've seen some horrendous things since I was a toddler and speaking to people I live with really isn't an option especially now that I'm a father, so please keep making these they help my sanity immensely.
First year of game art. The workload has me on tipping point daily. I'm just trying my best, at the end of the day that's all we can do. Listening to Adam while doing my work is thankfully a breath of fresh air. From one Adam to another, thank you for existing!
I am usually good with with my me time. I consider myself a bit of an introvert, but I can say I can relate to this right now, uncomfortably so. No matter how much I have internalized compartmentalization as my main coping mechanism decades ago, it has come to the point that this mechanism is failing. Thank you for sharing this, it is something everyone needs to hear no matter how much they may deny that. 💯
This really had been me the last few months. Landlord suddenly wanted us to move out, so we had a mad scramble to find a new place, which we did. But more importantly, the two housemates I've been living with for the last 13 years or so finally decided they wanted to move out and live on their own in a year's time. And this broke me. Not just the sudden realisation that I'd be living by myself again, but that I'd just been coasting along for the last 10 years or so. It really hasn't been easy, but in 2 months I managed to find a job (not great, but it's a job), made effort to be a little more independent in preparation, etc. It's not all there, still far from it, and I'm still terrified out of my mind just thinking about it but I just keeping telling myself: what else are you going to do? I don't have that many friends to begin with, no real family to speak of (at least in this country), who else is going to do it for me. I still struggle with it every day single day in my own head, and it feels terrible to admit that because I feel like at this age I should be able to handle things on my own, and it really just feels like whining but again, what can I do except suck it up and get things done.
The story was so heartwarming. Ive been feeling lonely tonight, im happy to remember this place to come to. Always makes me feel safe and happy. Thank you
I'm not an artist in the slightest, I cannot draw to save my life. But your videos are so appealing to me as a creative person in general. The ideas / life experiences & ways of thinking that you weave into topics around your craft is such a pleasure to listen to. Thanks for putting this stuff out there mate.
I feel like being on the brink of crying since my childhood. My pain was too much for everyone, so I isolated myself at some point in childhood. I am 31 years old now and I am still doing it. Even as a child I had no idea how to connect to others. And despite of being male myself, I was always longing for naked closeness with boys back then, which didn't change much. I went through a lot and despite of having help through therapy I'm missing true connection. So you could say what most people felt for 2 years I felt for nearly my whole life. What I feel is sadness. Deep and moving sorrow. Grief that could never be grieved. Anger and rage that was never allowed to rage. Utter despair which was an annoyance for anyone in my space. This is what I feel.
I really like how this advice just doesn't apply to the current situation the covid but to anything in general, or at least it's very subjective to person to person. I don't comment on videos much to at all, but I'm going through a hard time right now, and this video helped bring me some comfort and wisdom to my situation and opened up my mind more to different things. It made me see that I should value current people around me more. My situation isn't from the covid lock down but rather some issues within a friend circle oddly enough, and it's so refreshing to have somebody just talking in a comforting and reassuring way to you. You may not see this but, if you do, the reassurance that I've gotten means a lot. It finally gave me the strength to a painting again.
Hi Adam, so many thoughts are running trough my head and so many things I want to say. But most of all thank you for making this video. I have been stuggeling a lot the last few weeks and it's very reasuring to hear you cover this topic. A thing that had really helped me these months were your video's, and I really appreciate them all. I have a whole lot more things I want to say but I don't wanna type a whole book. So again thank you for all these wonderfull video's and I hope I can keep listening to your arttalks for a very long time. ❤️❤️
Adam, your experience and insights are very inspirational, regardless of what the world is doing.I personally don’t believe that the “lockdowns” are anything to be concerned with;as I believe the world has been lied to in a massive way. However, you have a way of expressing yourself that tells me you are a sincere and caring person with kindness for your fellow man in your heart. You’re very appreciated in sharing your thoughts and experience with everyone;well, me. On a separate topic;Sadly, my own ‘lockdown’ is being confined to a wheelchair because of being half paralyzed from a stroke.That being said, your words have always been very helpful and uplifting to me.Thank you.
Thank you Adam, I really love your videos. I went to the doctor last week because I had some medical problems. I couldn't avoid it and just started to cry there. Luckily she was super nice and just tried to calm me down and it seems like I just needed that. Talking about the sickness to get rid of the uncertainty really helped and I'm getting better day by day.
Thank you for this video Adam! I am 19 years old and it has been a year since I ran away from my abusive home. I am on my own now, in a foreign country, only depending on my art to make it through...It gets very difficult at times, to the point I wonder to myself "just how long is this going to last? What are my efforts for?" I can't count how many times I thought I have reached my limit, yet somehow I pulled through. Stay safe Adam! Thank you for sticking with me through it all 🙂.
Wow, that must have been very hard and a very brave thing of you to do! I hope you're doing okay. I hope your art is still providing you with the means to get by safely. Wishing you well.
wow thanks so much adam for this video at this moment my parents and myself have all been sick after they got the vaccine and i have healed but my mom and dad are still struggling and its so heartbreaking and i've been really sad so i really appreciate this video i'll listen to it later when i draw thanks and stay safe sir
Thank you for this video, you talked about something that is a lot on my mind lately. I know the problem that you described. I have a lot of contact online with people who are a lot younger than me. I am 43 and they are partly just teenagers. For these youngsters I am like a big sister or aunt and when they want to talk about problems and just need someone who listens to them, but sometimes they need help that I can't give them. A few weeks ago I had a 13 year old I was chatting with who told me they want to kill themselves because of the bullying they experience and because not even their parents took their suffering seriously. Those are problems where I can't help, even if I have worked as a psychological assistant, I am not a therapist. All I could do was to persuade them to call the phone numbers I gave them and they talked to someone at the suicide hotline. Sadly there are some people who act irresponsible, who won't act as responsible as you and me. They try their best to help in a situation where they are simply not able to. They can't distance themselves from their feeling of helplessness and are not aware that no matter what they do, it won't be enough. I am not able to help beyond listening and understanding and over time I was able to distance myself from the feeling that it is my fault if bad things happened. I can only listen which already helps a lot of people, but I know where my abilities end and where I have to accept that I can't help, that I am helpless facing the problem that someone needs help with. Feeling helpless, feeling powerless, is the worst feeling I can experience, but even if I put myself into situations that make me feel like that from time to time, I won't change because helping others is worth it. I accepted my helplessness, because I accepted that I am only human and that my humanity is the reason why I can help some. Not everyone, but some, and that is enough for me to find purpose in my life.
I've had to work my retail job through the entire pandemic. I cannot tell you how god damn sick of human beings that I am. When this whole thing kicked off, people's driving became erratic and crazy. The people became more insufferable and annoying. People are rude and mean when I'm helping them with the best smile I can plaster on my face, and I can't get on the road without worrying about getting pushed off the road by someone changing lanes right at my bumper. I get ignored when I ask for help, and everybody expects me to help them. I put in my 2 weeks last week. I'm at the point where I don't believe there's any good in people anymore. I just hope I don't completely snap and hurt someone before I'm done. It feels like I'm right on the fuckin edge.
thank you for this talk Adam....i always think of my grandfather when life hit me hard... he endure 2 years on the concentration camps on WW2...so i slow myself down and think its not so hard compared what he endure, and it give me stregth to me and for helping others
This was a lovely talk today. I am lucky I tend to be an introvert and don't interact with people that often anyways, so while I won't say I'm immune to the isolation, I'm probably not as affected as many people. I also am blessed to have a really good job that is easy to work remote. My biggest struggle is not knowing how I can use all that to help others. I try to order from local restaurants and use delivery services to help others who are struggling, but I don't know if that's enough.
Thank you so much, Adam. You brought so much value to my life with this only video and with your art. I've been living relying only on myself for so much time, I am so afraid of asking for help expecially when I need it the most and your message found me when I least expected it, when I was losing my last brink of hope. Thank you again, from my heart and soul❤️
Listening to the rain and your voice is just really amazing serenity for me to draw with, I'm not sure what it is that your energy emits, but at some point the words don't even matter if that makes sense, I'm just wanting to draw with my tablet and hopefully, grow with it. Thank you. ^^
I grew up very poor. I can remember a time my mom had to boil water to give us baths, cook dinner in our chimney, there was a day we had to ate McDonald’s daily since it was cheaper than groceries at the time, we scrambled through thrift stores and dumpsters for clothes to wear and furniture to sit on, some days we didn’t have water or electricity, almost lost our home several times, then the government tried to take us away from our parents due to whatever reason they could find, so we had to constantly lied to not be taken away, we were disowned by our family on both halves. But in it all growing up none of that hurt worse then when my father passed away to illness. We didn’t have no one to reach out to. But we found comfort in ourselves in the end. We ended up living all under the same roof for the longest time, despite a home that was too small to house us all. Wasn’t until recently we had to all part our ways. Since my childhood home finally fell to ruins. I still occasionally drive past my old home I grew up in. It doesn’t have anyone living in it. But I noticed the porch we had was in the shape of a heart. The heart was cracked right down the middle. But it never fell apart. That was strength symbolized in concrete. I’m glad to finally be able to see it in a new pair of shoes I bought brand new. There’s hope, keep walking.
I lost my home to Hurricane Maria a few years ago, and because of that, I was forced to leave my family and homeland. After the hurricane left, I had no water, no electricity nor communications for 7 months. Those were difficult times, but at the same time, they were liberating. I learned about the fragility of life, and how we, as humans, take for granted so many things that we don't even need. Unfortunately, this experience, and being in a country I know nothing about, has led me to distance myself from my "emotional whims", because what I need to do is survive. Thank you Adam, for your priceless insight and for truly caring.
Think this is one of my favorites 🖤 you Adam and fellow listeners What you told about no electricity and how your community stood together and how you could see the good of people even if you had never seen them before until that time reminded me of this movie video essay from the channel LikeStoriesOfOld called "Who we really are when everything goes wrong" think I'd even recommend it to non movie lovers
I was honestly thinking of emailing you and request this topic earlier this week. 9:55-10:53 is me right now. For the last few years, I have been dealing with anticipatory grief due to my father fighting a losing battle against cancer. It's gotten worse for the last few months.. He is my best friend and we have a very strong connection. Daddy's little girl... So to see him like this.. It's so hard to go a day seeing him without having a breakdown. Even to pick up a pencil to start making a simple doodle feels like I'm trying to climb the most treacherous mountain known to man... Unprepared. Being an artist himself, he was the reason I am striving as an artist in the first place. I'd start crying again when my father--who's so encouraging for me to continue making art or work on a project he inspired--looks so fragile and I just don't know what to do. That helpless feeling, clinging onto that last Ember of Hope for a miracle. But when I do try to force myself to finish a piece, I feel like I'm neglecting my father by not focusing on making him comfortable and I just stop and that piece is forgotten. So many illustrations that I was passionate about and eager to show that I am still striving to become an artist for a entertainment studio that my father has inspired me to become. And they're just there.. unfinished. I see them, but I can't get myself to do anything. I'm practically a basket case. I had moments when I had a spark of motivation to finish this comic project my father inspired and encouraged, but as I said before "trying to pick up a pencil to draw feels like I'm climbing a treacherous mountain unprepared." Pardon the word vomit. I just needed to get it off my chest. Nice art btw, and as always I greatly appreciate what you do on this channel. It helps so countless viewers.
I've realized that you might not care that you're alone. But inevitably you will see other people in relationships, comparing your social skills with others and remembering that there might be something wrong with you. Like he said these prolonged periods of time of being alone are what drive people in these dark places. You might not directly sense it. But as time goes on, the heavier the feeling becomes. The unconcious knows that something is not right, that something is missing. That's why we can't just go off living in a castle alone with 30 cats by ourselves. Because at the end of the day, no matter how hard we deny it, we are still social animals.
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I got my first job as a professional concept artist last week and I wouldn't have pushed myself into applying if it wasn't for your videos, thank you Adam
Well a big congrats to you then!
Congrats!
Congrats!
My life did't change nothing because of the lockdown..
This is what i've beem living for 10 years.
are you doing ok?
This is the most heartbreaking thing: this was my reality until art school.
And finally, as I start to grow friends, plan a rent, get to know my job...
I don't want to lose everyone again as I did in high school.
ive been doing soo for like, 13-12 years, only now i realize how i have been cripled by it and how much i need people in my life
Same with me. At first I said that proudly, as to show that I can plow through this worldwide crisis without a sweat. Slowly I realized that the truth is ugly. I realized I shouldn't be proud of living, consciously and without intervening, in a way that most people are straight up going mad. Quite the opposite, I should be trying my best to change my situation. I'm addressing this now but, damn, change is hard. Specially during this pandemic.
Same lol
The ironic thing is, I am and feel like an introvert most times, but right now even I cannot stand this any better than extroverts: we are all the same, in a biological way.
I love no matter what
Yeah me too. I was one of those people that kinda happily lived throughout the first lockdown. Now I really see what other people were talking about
The worst thing about this pandemic for me is what I learned about people and their stunning lack of empathy. It was an abstract idea , how people would react in such a situation, but to see it in real time was the single most perspective changing event. I will never look at people the same, and that is really affecting my artistic connection
Lack of empathy in what way?
Unfortunately it confirmed my bias in how terrible people can honestly be, at least in the USA. I'd rather keep WFH and stay isolated sadly.
@@Magus_Union it's in human nature, all around the world when people get overwhelmed they disassociate from it.
Its understandable yet morbid, people are dying all the time, more in catastrophes and sitsuations like these, easiest way to deal with something is not to deal with it at all, deny or not care about others related to it.
Not to create an argument about morals, I care about my safety and my family's too, but I doubt anyone here has much emotional connection really to anyone personally on the other side of the world, unless you have family or friends there, I mean random people.
You may feel sorry for the people in the country, but don't have much connection to em.
Im from finland and that's how I feel about US, I feel forry for you, but people around me are more important, my family, my friends.
there are weaker people out there, people who disassociate to the degree where they may even deny all this happening calling it a flu and all that dumb mf-ery.
The fact that some people out there don't disassociate as much and go trough with the pain of seeing how horrible others are, I think you, we are the strongest out here.
The fact that humanity in general is so horrible will highlight the people that really care, because it's not easy, and when you meet someone like that, you'll see how extraordinary people can be if they tried
I get it. You're not alone. A lot of people have lost a bit of faith in their fellow person. When you 'squeeze' people, and 'squeeze' the system, you see what comes out: A lot of negligence, short-sightedness, class divisions becoming a matter of life and death....
The worst is this nagging thought that we all knew how to put a stop to this whole mess back last April - and not enough citizens, not enough governments, not enough businesses could put their agendas and pursuits and petty beliefs aside to make it happen. And the money problem was _always_ solvable.
The world was tested and this is the grade that came back, and that's what all we have to live with.
With luck, this could lead to a change of direction for the better, as Adam is pointing out.
My life didnt change at all in lockdown, I wasnt meeting up with friends before because I dont have any, I wasnt going out I am always stuck in my room for like 5 years now and I feel like I am missing out on the best years of my life and thats what makes me really depressed.
You just write the exact situation i am in. These 5 years...
Same boat. My last interaction with "real" friends was 9 years back in college. After that no more.
You described my life, word by word
There is so many of us man.That kinda lifts me up .
Same. I finally was able to see all these people with everything complaining about a few weeks indoors and reply with,"Now you know what it's like."
I've been to many therapists. But I have never been so grateful for my ability to survive as after this message. Thank you.
I absolutely feel that. I hope you are doing well! Take care :)
I suffer from depression and I appreciate that you care about this issue enough to bring attention to it. It's a hard struggle, and those of us fighting it need all the support we can get.
I love you no matter the Circumstances
In tears listening to this. I only recently was able to find mental health assistance and start therapy. I think we all needed this
That’s monumental Edward - you have my full support brother
I know this wasn't your intention, but when you said that people depend on each other, really hurts, if you are lonely.
You might think you are alone, but it`s not the truth. You have yourself. You have the ability to look at yourself from the side and think about what you can do to better. Looking at yourself with humanity, and realizing you are the person too, and taking care of that person can get you through :)
I know what you mean. I suffered from crippling loneliness and depression for a few years and it really hurt to know I needed people and just think, "How on earth do I DO that? Where do I find people to lean on? What if I'm just a burden to them?" But it is true. The fact that it hurts proves it's true; the hurt is the absence.
It took me time to find people and rediscover people I already had but that depression separated me from. More time than I wanted it to take, and it hurt. But I did find them, and if I can, anyone can. You can.
Like B Zalec said, YOU are worth taking care of. You are worthy. You are worth having people around you. And you'll find them.
I have not always been aware of how much more difficult has the isolation been for other people. I know what it means to be isolated and to have no choice. Even as an introvert who has been savoring _being alone_ for decades, I realize we put too much pressure on ourselves and each other by saying we should be able to deal with it. I started taking antidepressants recently because my usual coping abilities just were not enough for everthing stacked up so high.
Let's avoid toxic positivity and encourage people to reach out to professionals.
Strangers are people too..im here feeling lonely too, but one month later im here hoping you have a good day, a good year, a good life. You are an amazing person, you are special, and wonderful, you are loved. Stay strong
Perfect topic for me, Adam, as I recently lost my Mum to suicide. I'm really happy you're discussing this, I'm struggling a lot right now. Love your videos :')
I am very sorry really. i cannot imagine how much is the pain. know that on web there are people with which you can talk and hear you
I'm so sorry to hear that man! *HUG* ;(
I’m sorry for your loss Malachi James I hope you feel better I’m actually a fan of your videos so it’s great to see my two favorite art RUclipsrs at once
@@gulikart-disegnoeillustraz9832 thank you, man. I never really considered seeking people online to talk to, forums and so on. I will give it a try
@@lostcrusader8053 thank you, my friend :)
Thank you, Adam.
Thank you, Adam
I appreciate that you're tackling this topic. I am having a hard time coming to terms with the untreatable nature of my depression, but listening to you makes it easier for me to survive the time I have on this planet.
I feel like I've witnessed, a lot of my friends and neighbours losing their parents, having life meltdowns, getting their careers ruined,etc. along with my rough past. These experiences made me reflect on my art, I used to draw a lot of bright, happy, anime art. But now they have gotten a lot darker, reflective, lonely, rainy, etc. Not only art but my taste in films and music aswell. I have gotten a lot introverted, and my friend circle has gotten smaller. Maybe it's a part of growing up, I'm 22 now about to pursue literature in university, changed it from my college science stream. No regrets.
22 is not a good time to get introverted, do what you can with socialization any way you can, it'll save your life.
@@raffvids Thanks , I'll be in University soon so I'll try to form a circle with people with same interests and start from there :)
"All you have to say is the word: cry"... Damn I cried
Same qwq
adam is stalking me i swear to god how does he know every single time
can confirm this
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Thank you Adam for this reminder.
“Be water my friend.”
- Bruce Lee
Time is an illusion. Loneliness is an elixir to healing whatever it is that’s triggering you. ⚡️
The following weeks have been a challenge for sure. Life threw me a few curveballs. Losing people I know including those from childhood. It packed a punch.
I also lost a bunch of “acquaintances” that I thought would lead to quality friendships.
Anywho, it’s 2022 now and I feel the punches back to to back that brought me to question everything again. Staring at the abyss can be powerful and life changing.
I’m slowly getting out of the dark now and find myself painting again while listening to your videos as I recently discovered your channel yesterday when I was looking for a bit of encouragement.
Because. As a person who loves to encourage others, looking at silver linings and being positive no matter what - it can be much. Uncomfortable AF!
There’s so many changes that can be traumatic and lonely from time to time.
So here we are confronted by darkness yet resilient enough to bounce back from every trials and tribulations.
Hard times are real yet I realized that I’m hard to break if you will. Sure, it can be daunting.
I reframed my breakdowns as breakthroughs because I’ve survived so many since the beginning of time.
Real post-traumatic growth instead of falling victim in whatever life wants me to experience.
I’ve never felt emotionally drained and exhausted. Ego is hurt yet humbled.
Painting actually is cathartic and emotionally healing as I look within and realized how far I’ve come along.
Whoever is reading this or going through an emotional upheaval. You got this.
Ask your Higher Self and call upon a Higher Power. Cry because it’s cleansing to your soul.
The only way out is through.
You are actually the hero of your own life. I just didn’t know it. 😂 That’s how I managed to find the discipline.
Conflict management and using the tools in my toolbox 🧰 that I didn’t have back when I was a young kid.
Blessings fella creative humans, warriors and survivors.🎉🎉🎉
For over a year now, I've been sick of god knows what (mainly covid symptoms but negative to all tests) which puts me in a state where i'm more and more exhausted and at the edge of crying each and every day (today was a bit better but still put me on the edge and I think if it were on another day I would've cry), missing school for an entire trimester and all.
Now since about a month I've been unable to draw / write because of my right wrist constantly shaking and hurting me.
This situation and video made me realize that drawing is probably the most important thing in my life right now and losing it for a month is really painful for me.
I'm really greatful to you Adam to talk of this topic and I really wanted to thank you for that.
(Sorry if this comment was a bit too personal but I really needed to let it come out. )
(ps : I'm already seeing professionals and I think they're making a great job considering the strangeness of my situation.)
I hope you feel better soon
@@tigerfae thanks !
I love to listen to you talking about anything. I have depression and anxiety, and your voice is very calming to me. Thank you
You’re very welcome :)
I felt like crap for a few months. And a month ago a change has come. Suddenly I stopped smoking and I'm still going - more than a month now and I want to never start again. I decided to take different commissions and changed so many other things about my art career and personal life and lifestyle. I'm not sure why, but the way everything pissed me off and made me angry and helpless has helped. And changed me. The hope and need for change outside in the world has finally made me do something with my life.
Also, the movie you're talking about is the remake of "The Day the Earth Stood Still."
I watched this too many times to count, and I had my breakdown and panic attack in daylight at work today, and this video came up. Thank you Adam.
_Get's Notification_
*Oh it's time to draw with adam !*
- me everytime
thanks, I've been struggling with emotion's of late, so glad you're talking about this :)) ❤❤❤
Almost cried past 40 minutes, I've been blessed for being who I am right now, perhaps more prepared to take on this situation then others. Thus I completely understand all your points, such valuable words in times like this, we need each other, we need to take care of each other, so we all can go further. Hope y'all stay safe. Thank you for this amazing talk.
Thanks for taking the time to make this, for supporting all of us and for being here
I suffer from strong Depression und chronic fatigue from lack of relaxing sleep. I lost my sprit for Art ,i sometimes grab my pencils and simply doing something. I wont care if somebody will like it , even i wont very convinced about it. But its so realise, abstract art can be reasing because you dont need to care about right or wrong , its controll of feelings. Because of my Illness i cant leave my home often so nothing much chanched, the only thing is im way more lonely than before. I watch Twich more than before , also Stormchase Livestreams are my breakfree from my lonely world. Its my hobby too, but will never can do it on my own. I will not take things for given. I try to downplay my overwhelm and meltdowns ( im in ASD ) i cut out and canceld everything Media that is giving me anxiety , this helps me to create distance in my own world. I wont like body contact to others, getting touched by people feels uncomforting for me, but even im used to being alone most of the time of my life, being lonely gives me hard time, even i live close together mit my parents , they wont understand me or not even try , livin in they own world and not rying to change something on they own. I suffer on my own issues , also have to handle others problems to and nobody cares , esp in this times people are extremly cold hearted, dont hope for help esp. when you disabled
Lost a really close friend of mine a few weeks ago, and I honestly couldn't watch this video for a week because I was really afraid that this was just going to make me break. Thank you so much for this Adam.
Usually I'm a lurking subber but I'll just say this Adam, your self help themed videos are one of the few things that allowed me to fight back against what is currently the darket and most human rights wise abusive chapter in my life yet both physically, verbally, and emotionally. You're one of the few folks in my life who gave me the strength to fight on regardless of what tommorow will bring, and to that I'm forever grateful.
Thank you for this, Adam. It was much needed. As someone who lost all their grandparents last year, the part about protecting and valuing our elders hit home extra hard and I appreciate you talking about it.
Well my thoughts and heart go out to you my friend - you hold tight
@@AdamDuffArt Will do, thank you ♥
I've lived the covid life for the past 10 years and I can't get out of it. It's destroying me, and at this point I feel too far gone. My youth has been reduced to nothing, not many good memories worth mentioning and a mountain of regrets stand in their place.
I love listening to you though, I can fantasize about turning things around for a second wind.
Listen friend,i really feel you.And i guarantee you,you are not missing a single thing.Before covid i was that social guy,but people you see that 'living their age at best' is not real.I sadly cant give you 'that' advice but i feel the same as you,a lot of us do.I hope that you'll find the balance in your life.
@@alicoban7956 Ever heard the saying "youth is wasted on the young"? Most people waste their youth doing something they regret later, I just feel I've gone a step further and done nothing.
Hello Mr Adam, I'm here to thank you for everything, I'm 14 years old and me and my sister who's 18 were Always into drawing and art in general, she was always better than me and people often reacted to my work with disgust or just don't react at all. I was so jealous that my sister got all the support and compliments for her and I just had the pity of others who were better, I tried to evolve as fast as possible I treated arts like a competition I was moved by jealousy and nothing more, I had forgotten why I started drawing in the first place. I isolated myself and dedicated myself to studying the fundamentals all day (or all my free time) I let my responsibilities and social relationships aside because I thought that people would like me more if I had something to show them, I searched for uncountable days and got into various art groups, I wanted people to like me so I created a character that was super ineffective, people hated me and some of them even kicked me out and rejected me. I was giving up on drawing because I didn't evolved enough to be better than my sister, instead I turned into the thing that I never wanted to be a washed out version of my sister and a hateful guy...
Until I found your channel, with you I learned to enjoy myself, you showed me a new perspective and restored my passion and that's why I admire you, nobody impacted my vision as hard as you your words changed me and showed me a way to go.
Thank you very much
Here’s a little tip for you my friend - artists don’t mix well with “the popular crowds” we find far healthier relationships with our few close dear ones
You have a unique personality and horde like groups thrive in commonality - not uniqueness
You need friends that embrace and love you for being your complex unpredictable and overthinking self :)
@@AdamDuffArt Thank you very much, I'll follow your advice
I am so amazed by your way of telling stories. I think everyone should listen to this video, you just worded everything so beautifully and actually made me tear up a couple times. The topic was so sensitive, but you managed to tackle it authentically and respectfully. Thank you for videos like this. You really change peoples worlds.
This is the most timely title on my notification box.... OMG pls give me an hour of tranquility.😭😭
Before even watching the full video, I just wanted to say thank you, Adam. The title alone got me, because while I've been struggling with depression and other mental/emotional struggles since I was young, recently my mother has been in the hospital for a cancerous tumour, and watching as her health declined to the point she admitted herself to the ER (she's very stubborn, so it wasn't until she was at her wits end, and thankfully it was due to someone who worked at a local pharmacy that suggested she do that, if she hadn't when she did, she would have died...) and being on my own, the cats missing her, me missing her, it's been very hard emotionally and mentally. I'm constantly in a state of anxiety, worrying about her. My depression has spiked multiple times already, but instead of allowing myself to wallow, I've had to force myself to pull through for my cats... I'm taking care of myself because I know I have to, I have to gather all my strength and be strong so that she can be at ease, knowing I'm okay and doing my best, despite my own health sometimes being flippant (and struggling with something physically for about a decade at this point, a slow progress in healing, which would definitely worry her as it can hinder my physical movements and adds a wallop to my depression) -- so thank you, Adam. Your videos always, always feel like a welcome lesson, therapy session, or simply someone who's sharing his experiences and thoughts in life to a fellow human being.
I have had social and gender issues since I was a child, I was definitely not having a good time. I never thought lockdown would be an issue for me and socially it hasn’t changed anything. But then I lost one of my jobs. Then a week later my college closed, I was doing furniture making, you can’t do that remotely. Once that happened I lost my other job. My career, my future disappeared in front of me.that was last summer and no one will hire me without my diploma. Then I lost my bunny who comforted me at times like that, then COVID took the only grandparent I had left, then it took my auntie. Then I lost contact with my councillors. I had already been the lowest a human can be, having tried to end it on two separate occasions long before COVID. Now I am at a stage where absolutely nothing matters. I don’t move, I don’t eat, I barely have the motivation to breathe. My life is gone, my future is gone. I am no longer a person
Adam, make a damn podcast goddamnit
One of my favourite things I listen to on YT are Fudgemuppets' videos and podcasts on Elder Scrolls lore... my 2nd favourite channel right after yours, Adam
I'm hanging in there. Thanks Adam
Hi been watching your channel for a few months now and have been struggling with "unspecified psychosis" for about 25 years now and in my experience I've found that things that my friends, dad, extended family, and even yes random people on the internet have brought me more solace, more peace, than any medication, any therapist, or psychologist EVER has. I've seen some horrendous things since I was a toddler and speaking to people I live with really isn't an option especially now that I'm a father, so please keep making these they help my sanity immensely.
Everyone needs an adam atleast once in a lifetime
Thank you for helping keeping the little spark of hope alive, Adam.
First year of game art. The workload has me on tipping point daily. I'm just trying my best, at the end of the day that's all we can do. Listening to Adam while doing my work is thankfully a breath of fresh air. From one Adam to another, thank you for existing!
GIVE THIS MAN AN AWARD
I am usually good with with my me time. I consider myself a bit of an introvert, but I can say I can relate to this right now, uncomfortably so. No matter how much I have internalized compartmentalization as my main coping mechanism decades ago, it has come to the point that this mechanism is failing. Thank you for sharing this, it is something everyone needs to hear no matter how much they may deny that. 💯
love how your work is this dark almost gloomy look and yet your words are so warm.
Everybody within an 8,167-mile radius: I needed this!
This really had been me the last few months. Landlord suddenly wanted us to move out, so we had a mad scramble to find a new place, which we did. But more importantly, the two housemates I've been living with for the last 13 years or so finally decided they wanted to move out and live on their own in a year's time. And this broke me. Not just the sudden realisation that I'd be living by myself again, but that I'd just been coasting along for the last 10 years or so. It really hasn't been easy, but in 2 months I managed to find a job (not great, but it's a job), made effort to be a little more independent in preparation, etc. It's not all there, still far from it, and I'm still terrified out of my mind just thinking about it but I just keeping telling myself: what else are you going to do? I don't have that many friends to begin with, no real family to speak of (at least in this country), who else is going to do it for me.
I still struggle with it every day single day in my own head, and it feels terrible to admit that because I feel like at this age I should be able to handle things on my own, and it really just feels like whining but again, what can I do except suck it up and get things done.
Feels good hear this kind of thinking and reflections.
The story was so heartwarming. Ive been feeling lonely tonight, im happy to remember this place to come to. Always makes me feel safe and happy. Thank you
I'm not an artist in the slightest, I cannot draw to save my life. But your videos are so appealing to me as a creative person in general. The ideas / life experiences & ways of thinking that you weave into topics around your craft is such a pleasure to listen to. Thanks for putting this stuff out there mate.
You have a very calming voice. It's nice.
I feel like being on the brink of crying since my childhood. My pain was too much for everyone, so I isolated myself at some point in childhood. I am 31 years old now and I am still doing it. Even as a child I had no idea how to connect to others. And despite of being male myself, I was always longing for naked closeness with boys back then, which didn't change much. I went through a lot and despite of having help through therapy I'm missing true connection.
So you could say what most people felt for 2 years I felt for nearly my whole life.
What I feel is sadness.
Deep and moving sorrow.
Grief that could never be grieved.
Anger and rage that was never allowed to rage.
Utter despair which was an annoyance for anyone in my space.
This is what I feel.
I really like how this advice just doesn't apply to the current situation the covid but to anything in general, or at least it's very subjective to person to person. I don't comment on videos much to at all, but I'm going through a hard time right now, and this video helped bring me some comfort and wisdom to my situation and opened up my mind more to different things. It made me see that I should value current people around me more. My situation isn't from the covid lock down but rather some issues within a friend circle oddly enough, and it's so refreshing to have somebody just talking in a comforting and reassuring way to you. You may not see this but, if you do, the reassurance that I've gotten means a lot. It finally gave me the strength to a painting again.
I just want to thank you. You are a wonderful person and eventhough you can not help everyone individually, you help us all with your arttalks.
You're such a wonderful human being. I wish I could be one of your students, and be able to talk to you face to face. You're my role model
Hi Adam, so many thoughts are running trough my head and so many things I want to say. But most of all thank you for making this video. I have been stuggeling a lot the last few weeks and it's very reasuring to hear you cover this topic. A thing that had really helped me these months were your video's, and I really appreciate them all. I have a whole lot more things I want to say but I don't wanna type a whole book. So again thank you for all these wonderfull video's and I hope I can keep listening to your arttalks for a very long time. ❤️❤️
I appreciate you Adam! This is by far one of the best talks I have ever listened to. So much wisdom and truth. Blessings to all.
Adam, your experience and insights are very inspirational, regardless of what the world is doing.I personally don’t believe that the “lockdowns” are anything to be concerned with;as I believe the world has been lied to in a massive way. However, you have a way of expressing yourself that tells me you are a sincere and caring person with kindness for your fellow man in your heart. You’re very appreciated in sharing your thoughts and experience with everyone;well, me. On a separate topic;Sadly, my own ‘lockdown’ is being confined to a wheelchair because of being half paralyzed from a stroke.That being said, your words have always been very helpful and uplifting to me.Thank you.
I cannot express enough how much these videos have helped me, thank you so much dude
A friend recommended your channel and I really appreciate how much thought you put into this and what you took from that experience. Thank you! :)
I thank you for allowing me to have you as an art companion
Everytime I feel down I come and hear your videos while I draw. Thank you so much Adam Duff.
your videos, your words, your art gives me hope. thank you
Thank you Adam, I really love your videos.
I went to the doctor last week because I had some medical problems. I couldn't avoid it and just started to cry there. Luckily she was super nice and just tried to calm me down and it seems like I just needed that. Talking about the sickness to get rid of the uncertainty really helped and I'm getting better day by day.
The most depressing thing in my experience with the lockdown isn’t the lockdown itself ... but the fact that I barely noticed a difference during it.
Excellent. I need to play this for my wife. On auto repeat, overnight.
Thank you for reminding us about how important a community to us humans, master Adam
Thank you for this video Adam! I am 19 years old and it has been a year since I ran away from my abusive home. I am on my own now, in a foreign country, only depending on my art to make it through...It gets very difficult at times, to the point I wonder to myself "just how long is this going to last? What are my efforts for?" I can't count how many times I thought I have reached my limit, yet somehow I pulled through.
Stay safe Adam! Thank you for sticking with me through it all 🙂.
Wow, that must have been very hard and a very brave thing of you to do! I hope you're doing okay. I hope your art is still providing you with the means to get by safely. Wishing you well.
I don't have anything much to say, but I just wanted to say thank you-you've tackled this subject very well
Love you to Adam, take care.
wow thanks so much adam for this video at this moment my parents and myself have all been sick after they got the vaccine and i have healed but my mom and dad are still struggling and its so heartbreaking and i've been really sad so i really appreciate this video i'll listen to it later when i draw thanks and stay safe sir
Your content is like artistic therapy
Thank you Adam, I really appreciate this.
this video is made for me and you, thanks for making this Adam, much love from your listener from the Philippines.
Thank you for this video, you talked about something that is a lot on my mind lately.
I know the problem that you described. I have a lot of contact online with people who are a lot younger than me. I am 43 and they are partly just teenagers. For these youngsters I am like a big sister or aunt and when they want to talk about problems and just need someone who listens to them, but sometimes they need help that I can't give them.
A few weeks ago I had a 13 year old I was chatting with who told me they want to kill themselves because of the bullying they experience and because not even their parents took their suffering seriously. Those are problems where I can't help, even if I have worked as a psychological assistant, I am not a therapist. All I could do was to persuade them to call the phone numbers I gave them and they talked to someone at the suicide hotline. Sadly there are some people who act irresponsible, who won't act as responsible as you and me. They try their best to help in a situation where they are simply not able to. They can't distance themselves from their feeling of helplessness and are not aware that no matter what they do, it won't be enough.
I am not able to help beyond listening and understanding and over time I was able to distance myself from the feeling that it is my fault if bad things happened. I can only listen which already helps a lot of people, but I know where my abilities end and where I have to accept that I can't help, that I am helpless facing the problem that someone needs help with. Feeling helpless, feeling powerless, is the worst feeling I can experience, but even if I put myself into situations that make me feel like that from time to time, I won't change because helping others is worth it. I accepted my helplessness, because I accepted that I am only human and that my humanity is the reason why I can help some. Not everyone, but some, and that is enough for me to find purpose in my life.
Thank you for this and may you take care as well! You rock :D
I've had to work my retail job through the entire pandemic. I cannot tell you how god damn sick of human beings that I am.
When this whole thing kicked off, people's driving became erratic and crazy. The people became more insufferable and annoying. People are rude and mean when I'm helping them with the best smile I can plaster on my face, and I can't get on the road without worrying about getting pushed off the road by someone changing lanes right at my bumper. I get ignored when I ask for help, and everybody expects me to help them.
I put in my 2 weeks last week. I'm at the point where I don't believe there's any good in people anymore. I just hope I don't completely snap and hurt someone before I'm done. It feels like I'm right on the fuckin edge.
This is perfect timing, thank you!
thank you for this talk Adam....i always think of my grandfather when life hit me hard... he endure 2 years on the concentration camps on WW2...so i slow myself down and think its not so hard compared what he endure, and it give me stregth to me and for helping others
This was released on my birthday and I am definitely struggling emotionally but I’m learning and getting there one step at a time
Thank you Adam, I really needed this
Thank you
I hope your doing well yourself Adam! Really admire the wisdom you share. It puts things into perspective.
This was a lovely talk today. I am lucky I tend to be an introvert and don't interact with people that often anyways, so while I won't say I'm immune to the isolation, I'm probably not as affected as many people. I also am blessed to have a really good job that is easy to work remote. My biggest struggle is not knowing how I can use all that to help others. I try to order from local restaurants and use delivery services to help others who are struggling, but I don't know if that's enough.
Another great day to listen to your videos. Thanks for share this wisdom ✨
Thank you so much, Adam. You brought so much value to my life with this only video and with your art. I've been living relying only on myself for so much time, I am so afraid of asking for help expecially when I need it the most and your message found me when I least expected it, when I was losing my last brink of hope. Thank you again, from my heart and soul❤️
wow this piece is gonna be one of my favorites from you adam! keep up the good work!
Listening to the rain and your voice is just really amazing serenity for me to draw with, I'm not sure what it is that your energy emits, but at some point the words don't even matter if that makes sense, I'm just wanting to draw with my tablet and hopefully, grow with it. Thank you. ^^
I grew up very poor.
I can remember a time my mom had to boil water to give us baths, cook dinner in our chimney, there was a day we had to ate McDonald’s daily since it was cheaper than groceries at the time, we scrambled through thrift stores and dumpsters for clothes to wear and furniture to sit on, some days we didn’t have water or electricity, almost lost our home several times, then the government tried to take us away from our parents due to whatever reason they could find, so we had to constantly lied to not be taken away, we were disowned by our family on both halves. But in it all growing up none of that hurt worse then when my father passed away to illness. We didn’t have no one to reach out to. But we found comfort in ourselves in the end. We ended up living all under the same roof for the longest time, despite a home that was too small to house us all. Wasn’t until recently we had to all part our ways. Since my childhood home finally fell to ruins. I still occasionally drive past my old home I grew up in. It doesn’t have anyone living in it. But I noticed the porch we had was in the shape of a heart. The heart was cracked right down the middle. But it never fell apart. That was strength symbolized in concrete. I’m glad to finally be able to see it in a new pair of shoes I bought brand new. There’s hope, keep walking.
Thank you adam for being here for us ❤
thank you so so much
Jesus, why am I crying listening to all of Adam's video
you did it. you found place playing in the background while im drawing. thank you
Whew😅 great message. A lot of people definitely need to hear this
I lost my home to Hurricane Maria a few years ago, and because of that, I was forced to leave my family and homeland. After the hurricane left, I had no water, no electricity nor communications for 7 months. Those were difficult times, but at the same time, they were liberating. I learned about the fragility of life, and how we, as humans, take for granted so many things that we don't even need. Unfortunately, this experience, and being in a country I know nothing about, has led me to distance myself from my "emotional whims", because what I need to do is survive. Thank you Adam, for your priceless insight and for truly caring.
You are very welcome, thank you for sharing that very personal story :)
You sir are a genius. Thank you for your videos.
Think this is one of my favorites 🖤 you Adam and fellow listeners
What you told about no electricity and how your community stood together and how you could see the good of people even if you had never seen them before until that time reminded me of this movie video essay from the channel LikeStoriesOfOld called "Who we really are when everything goes wrong" think I'd even recommend it to non movie lovers
Thank you, I really loved your video and I needed to hear this message.
I was honestly thinking of emailing you and request this topic earlier this week.
9:55-10:53 is me right now.
For the last few years, I have been dealing with anticipatory grief due to my father fighting a losing battle against cancer. It's gotten worse for the last few months.. He is my best friend and we have a very strong connection. Daddy's little girl...
So to see him like this.. It's so hard to go a day seeing him without having a breakdown. Even to pick up a pencil to start making a simple doodle feels like I'm trying to climb the most treacherous mountain known to man... Unprepared.
Being an artist himself, he was the reason I am striving as an artist in the first place. I'd start crying again when my father--who's so encouraging for me to continue making art or work on a project he inspired--looks so fragile and I just don't know what to do. That helpless feeling, clinging onto that last Ember of Hope for a miracle. But when I do try to force myself to finish a piece, I feel like I'm neglecting my father by not focusing on making him comfortable and I just stop and that piece is forgotten.
So many illustrations that I was passionate about and eager to show that I am still striving to become an artist for a entertainment studio that my father has inspired me to become. And they're just there.. unfinished. I see them, but I can't get myself to do anything. I'm practically a basket case. I had moments when I had a spark of motivation to finish this comic project my father inspired and encouraged, but as I said before "trying to pick up a pencil to draw feels like I'm climbing a treacherous mountain unprepared."
Pardon the word vomit. I just needed to get it off my chest.
Nice art btw, and as always I greatly appreciate what you do on this channel. It helps so countless viewers.
I'm so thankful for these videos, they mean so much and I hope you're doing something amazing ♥ thank you so much Adam
I've realized that you might not care that you're alone. But inevitably you will see other people in relationships, comparing your social skills with others and remembering that there might be something wrong with you.
Like he said these prolonged periods of time of being alone are what drive people in these dark places.
You might not directly sense it. But as time goes on, the heavier the feeling becomes.
The unconcious knows that something is not right, that something is missing.
That's why we can't just go off living in a castle alone with 30 cats by ourselves.
Because at the end of the day, no matter how hard we deny it, we are still social animals.