It's Time to Let That Sh*t Go
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- Опубликовано: 1 апр 2021
- How to finally let go and move on from anything.
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Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I help people build themselves physically/mentally through fitness and self help videos.
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Thanks for all the love y'all ❤
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Another great video Cole :)
Your videos always make me feel better. Thank you.
Thanks bro , even though everything you've said is known but still need a familiar person or a friend to keep reminding us to be brave ....it feels good to know there are people out there going through same situations
Your videos are so much useful 👌love from India🇮🇳
Man your writing is shit hahaha just like mine. Just started journalling a few weeks ago and improving my writing is a must lol
Do not let your past ruin your life🙏
Yessir
I am guilty of doing that and let people bring it up and use it against me. It hard to move on when people keep bringing bs from the past and mistakes. People disrespect my physical and mental health issues an discrimination I get over those explaining why I feel worthless and hate and distrust others. I swear this is giving me anger issues. Can’t work out to release it neither.
Amen brother.
@@rolon-ew5kl totally can relate t o somethings
Thanos said it
“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself”
and make new ones for yourself, your not dead! live on and love what was and still is good in life..being happy you..is the best ever..
I'm 23 and I feel like I'm in one of my lowest points. I have a lot to learn. Thank you for sharing this
Same
I believe in you stranger! Just want to tell you that you are amazing
same
21, glad im not alone in this
I wish you the best in your journey out of that low point, man!
“Attachment is the root of all evil & unnecessary suffering.”
agreed.
Attachment to the past*
@@pouyan_m I think attachment in general.
all attachments, including social expectations, family expectations, people opinions, negative future outcomes....
let it go all of them, oh and perfectionism
Is one attached to their child?
Key point of the video from Cole:
"IN ORDER TO LET GO AND MOVE ON FROM PAST EXPERIENCES AND PEOPLE, YOU MUST OUTGROW THE VERSION OF YOURSELF THAT WAS PRESENT WHEN THESE PAST EXPERIENCES OR PEOPLE WERE PRESENT IN YOUR LIFE!"
much love Cole!💜
Keep walking the path of God :)
That's what it's all about 👍
thanks bro i wanted to be inspired but not watch a 12 minute video cheers for the quote
@@ColeHastings That is really, really hard
Not helpful at all
Letting go of the grudges are easier than.. letting go of a guilt.. forgiving yourself and letting go of the mistakes you have made. regrets..
This is so true.
Haven’t read a more truer comment yet
You ain't kidding.
yeah
Yeah but at what point after this person did you wrong is it okay to finally let it go? 1 hour? 1 day? 1 month? 1 year? We are allowed to feel the pain that comes with betrayal or anything else someone does to hurt us. But how long are we allowed to feel this pain for? And depending on the degree on which this person hurt you, (especially in extreme cases like abuse, assault, etc), does it become okay to feel these thoughts. Especially when that hurt has caused you extreme mental battles like depression, anxiety, ptsd, trauma, etc? How can you just throw all hate in your heart out for a person that has caused you a lifetime of suffering? Especially depending on the importance of the role this person played in your life.
Lost a friend who stopped caring about me that I truly cared about and it's been hard but I'm accepting it and moving on with my life.
I'm here now.. Good luck to you
Same
Let go of friends. People are extremely emotional. Had a friend who had a toxic girlfriend. Ever since she left, he became enraged and started becoming toxic himself. He threw all that toxicity on me and then abandoned me and would in 2 week intervals, call me for things that he needed whether it be money or a place to sleep or food.
I stopped talking to him completely. Turned out he had a new group of friends, dude's spending too much time looking for a replacement girlfriend.
I was emotional and depressed and he would come over and tell me stories about how he met this girl who he thinks is the one. Every few weeks there's a new girl. He never asked me how I was, just where I was. I stopped talking to him and it made him more bitter. Called me stupid, fat, and a bad friend.
I gave up on him and just let go. Started finding self happiness. Positive? I'm happier.
Negative? I'm home a lot. I feel like a homebody.
Same :(
We are forever changing. The universe doesn't stop for anyone sadly. You may not feel change but even from a year ago you have somewhat changed. It's just a pebble in the road of your dream. You got this!
This man is growing like crazy and deserves every single bit of it.
Love you dude ❤ thanks for being here
God dammit yes. Hints at what life can be like depending on mindset and mental constructions, facts on human psychology, I guess this is what the world needs right now, we all need to learn how to be with ourselves in order to be with each other and not against each other
"It's pretty black & white, you either let go or don't, let go and you will grow internally, don't and you will fall into the distractions of lower vibrations"
“Don’t allow your past or present condition to control you. It’s just a process that you’re going through to get you to the next level.”
Nice
💯💯💯💯💯
I love that society is starting to focus more on mental health and it's not coming from the top-down but rather the bottom-up.
Pray for me i'm trying to move on from a breakup guys and it has caused me immense suffering i have gone thru alot in the past year or so.
good luck man🙏🏽
goodluck g. stay strong. keep walking tall king ❤️
Look at it like this , it was for a moment and relationship was there . people change g.
You got this brother
you are a king❤️
I’m only 25 and I never felt this much pain from a girl literally we planned a future together we did a lot and when it ended badly I was deeply hurt and depressed this video helped a lot I’m still on this journey but this helped thank you man
Keep going brother! Time will heal
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back.
Hey man, how’s it feel these days? I’m going through the same right now
You’ve become a pillar of the male empowerment and improvement community. You’re serving a lot of needed information to boys looking for direction. Thanks Cole.
Sometimes I forget the type of impact I'm making on these teenagers. Very happy to help. Love y'all
@Angry Pengu I second that, I have watched a few of Cole's videos and none of them reek of sexism or misogyny while other so called male empowerment channels are built on the very foundation of putting women down, objectifying them and controlling them. I found this channel kind of wholesome.
the pain i'm carrying is too much, i'm so desperate to let it go
My best wishes to you, hope you’re able to let go!
Me too 😵🤕
*Be Strong For You* 😁i love u man
You just helped me more in 11 minutes, than my therapists has in 3.5 years of frequently discussing this topic.
Love to hear that my friend!
From my experience, therapists are bs.
@@namegoesfirstthenlastname1785 Not necessarily and not all. But a lot of therapists seem to approach stuff the same for most and not individualize therapy :/
@@Chizuru94 I agree, I don’t think there’s many therapists who are competent enough to approach a topic of improving your life on an individual level
I literally started crying. Thank you for this. The other day, I went for a hike and I started crying uncontrollably. felt utterly and completely worthless. As if I was sinking. It was the most I've ever felt. It stood out a lot. This video gave me that extra push to heal. Also more solutions. Thank you so much.
I'm there too. You're not alone. But let's keep pushing :(
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
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My man. I have so much trouble letting go of a relationship right now. I have to heal from a shit ton of baggage but don’t have it in me to let go of a relationship. I’m too afraid to lose something precious.
Same boat man its been 2 weeks now
i was there 5 months ago. Litteraly the 6 of november 2020. The amount of time u need to recover differs from person to person. Let yourself suffer for a moment, and then rebuild yourself. Im not fully there yet, not gonna lie, but i have practiced to love myself more. Start good habits, and get rid of bad ones. Focus on your dreams and goals, and take one step at a time. If u cant sprint, jog, if u cant jog, walk, if u cant walk, crawl, but dont stop! it will get better.
My feelings exactly. It's been almost a month now, but I still can't let go 😢
Use it as an opportunity to grow personally and love yourself even more.
Same boat, it's been 3 months .
Great video again Cole!
Real recognize real. You're the GOAT bro
Yes 😊
Staying off social media helps with this too
Every single video of this guy is a blessing wtf
Much love
A lot of these 'self-help' videos can come across to me as conceited in delivery, or just not hit home for me effectively.
You seem very wise for your age, thank you for sharing your knowledge of the world friend .
Much love
There is a lot of "old soul" wisdom to be gained from your videos. I really struggle with letting go of negative experiences or something a toxic person did or said to me, even if it was years ago. Watching several of your videos has been as helpful as a few sessions of good therapy- and for free too.
Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the the person you're holding a grudge against to die.
Thank you so much, happy to help. Indeed grudges are completely unnecessary negative energy
Yup i agree. Definitely got old soul energy.
Noting is at a constant, there are things that change, and things that prosper
Indeed
Said it once, I’ll say it again. This man is gonna be great and widely recognized one day.
Love you bro, thank you so much
Sometimes i wonder is cole hasting reading my mind🤔
I am 🤫
I’m still learning to do this. A lot of my anxiety and insecurities come from holding on to my past failures and grudges. The hardest part is realizing that no matter how mad you may be at someone else, they’re not the ones responsible for you staying bitter afterward. Getting over yourself is hard. Great video!
It’s easier, in my opinion, to move on when other people do you wrong, but what about when you’ve done someone else or yourself wrong and not being able to fully forgive or move on with the emotional damage and the result of the damage..?
two former friends left me cuz I was "too negative" to this day in trying to figure out if I really did harm them or not but I still can't figure out what. I moved on but it still there somehow...
I struggle with that as well. Mostly because I have a hard time forgiving myself for past actions. It's important to remember that you are not you're past, and you are under no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday
@@somedoomermetalhead7377 same here. I still have a long way to go in forgiving myself to what I did to that person, he still haunts my mind sometimes, but I do agree. We can change for the better!
Depending on the damage done. One IS obligated to take responsibility for their mistake. To own up to it and realize the hurt they've caused. After that, I think we are allowed to heal and forgive ourselves. But we can't just do SOMEONE bad one day and move on the very next day. Self forgiveness doesn't happen overnight and it takes time. It also varies depending on how bad we were or what we did.
You just forgive yourself .
I had a bad experience getting bullied at the workplace. Even though it's been a few years, I feel my hair raising every time I recall it. It definitely takes a lot of work and self acceptance to overcome those "samskaras" but it is a challenge worth overcoming.
Sory to hear you made that experience as well. My brother is in the same spot and he never got over it so far (and is really impulsive, angry, aggressive and hateful just when recalling any of hte events). Maybe he can someday find a good therapist etc. to get into a better spot (and get over his possbile CPTSD). I'm in a similar boat, btw, but mostly due to my ADHD (my brother seem to deal with other struggles than ADHD, btw).
I'm 15 and was looking for girlfriend last year. I got rejected blocked and neglected by all if them. I wasn't a simp but I've not that let that stop me from moving onto creating a better me for the future. I sure learned some lessons and have acknowledged it to make sure that I I do not repeat it again.
no one will be with you longer than yourself, everyone and thing will come and go, accept that. Do get to know yourself. Do get to love yourself. Do take care of yourself. Do learn to love yourself. No one will be with you longer than yourself, others may let you down, lie to you, cheat you, use you, disrespect you, attack you. Don't do that to yourself. l love me and want the best for everyone and that starts with yourself loving yourself, best of luck!
I hold grudges for everything. From elementary school to now. In late 20s. Against peers, teachers anyone.
I thought i will get my revenge somehow. That karma will strike them and i will be able to watch.
Only recently i figured it is not how people should act. That i should let go. Maybe not forgive. Definitely not forget. But let go. I dont need it anymore.
Holdiny onto resentment will only make your life negative. Forgive but not forget and dont let those emotions hinder you from being happy
You telling me shit I don't want to hear, it's what I need though. Appreciate it bro...
The other day I messaged the person who had hurt me and told them that I’m burying the hatchet and that I forgive them and I’ve felt better ever since
Love to hear that
The best way to truly forgive someone, in my opinion, is to focus your energy on improving yourself! In that way, you would have no energy to hold grudges!
I had a bad day waking up but I’m watching you’re videos to get a better mindset and move on and be more positive and so far it’s working thanks so much
Very glad I could help
Been in a series of unfortunate events from a big breakup to life problems and yes thank you so much for such a helpful video. It means a lot..
you're a good man Cole, everyone can learn from this!! much love x
Thanks brother
I called up my ex today, it went really well. We both don’t want a relationship atm (I need to find myself for a bit) but I told her that I want to start building a connection with her again & she agreed. I also told her that at the end of all of this I want to begin to build back up to a new relationship and she again agreed, she said we gotta take slow steps but she does want to end up with me down the line🤙🏼 no matter what hardships happen during your life time just know that you can learn from those experiences and grow into a newer & better person. Stay active and stay motivated, I love you all. Have a great day and Thankyou for reading this far
It's hugely encouraging. Thanks, man!
Needed this today cole. the last 6 months has been a roller coaster but i’m finally shaping my life how i want it to be!
Same!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep shining! 💎
@@oshilh38 We don't know. We just have to accept the fact and spend all our energy on ourselves...Wishing you peace and luck
I’m trying to learn to be a better person. I needed to hear this. Thank you. 🙏🏽
I'm glad I came across your channel. Alot of your content is so relevant to the things I'm trying to do in my life.
this is an amazing video. this and the other video on getting rid of toxic people are the 2 that i often come back to for self reminder . thanks for doing what u do mate.
It took me years just to get over my initial friends in college betrayal. Whenever I see them happy on social media, I still feel a slight pain.
Also I got an Ad from my college when I watched your video ahahaha.
Cole, thank you so much for the content. I'm 24 also and I can relate to all your videos. I'm not going to lie it's like we live a similar life with similar problems at the same ages. Thank you for helping me through tough times. You've answered a lot of questions I've had for awhile. Keep it up. You're truly inspiring!
Your content has been the most helpful for me. I have watched many youtubers but the advice is really relatable to my own world view, thank you so much for supporting me during this breakup.
Thank you Cole, I really needed to hear this ❤
Always a great message
You're officially my favorite RUclipsr. I find your videos so relatable and I love that you don't try to be or act like someone you aren't. Your editing gets better every single time. Thanks for all your hard work and stay humble!
Wow, means a lot Alexander! Much love to you brother
Thank you man for this I gotta get to work on myself all this anger inside me is holding me back need to outgrow this and move on
Hey Cole, thanks so much for making this video. It’s really helping me in my time of need. Cheers to moving on. 🥰
Ooops, pierced my soul with this video. It’s exactly what I needed to hear , thank you! 🙏🏾
This dropped at a time when I really needed it
This video has helped me a lot to deal with life's negative experiences. Thank you so much Cole !!
Happy I found this video. Really needed it especially today.
I love the journaling suggestion. I started getting back into it, but I’ve never thought to throw the negative entries away. I think I keep them to reflect on later when I’m further down along my own personal growth and see how far I’ve come. I’ve mostly been venting about work 😂
Wow, very well said! Yes, learn to forgive, move on, and let go all the negative energy in life. Learn to love yourself first. Life is so beautiful, so live happily and in a positive way.
Cole, thank you for this. Your videos were harsh and hard to watch at first but have been so helpful in accepting tough truths. Your perspective has been a blessing.
Ok this is becoming one of my fav channels ! 🙌🏽
Man this was a relief. Thank you so much man. God bless you brother!
Much love to ya
Keep it going, you improve my life day by day
Cole! I'm so proud of you! I see the level up in this new video! Man is really inspirational. Keep growing KING.
Some of this stuff is so damn hard to let go. I don't know why I get so freakin obsessive about it.
Similar situation here, what I've learned is that our brains are moldable like plastic, we've condition our brain to repeat an action whether it's a good or a bad one, when you're trying to move on from the past your brain is bound to repeat the action you fed it for a long time
In order to break this cycle you have to replace bad habits / thoughts with positive ones and reject the negativity, it may take time but your brain will adapt to it for a betterment of your life
I feel like I can relate to this. I get obsessive about it as well. One thing that is sort of helping me is recognizing that the way YOU feel is a choice. Say it out loud to yourself if you need to and put yourself in a position where you can understand where the emotions are coming come, and fix it. Takes a damn long time but you can do it
Been going thru this since start of this year. Friends, family, love, etc.
Ok I’m gonna start letting go
I’ve been recently checking out your videos, and I have to say that you’ve got a good, real perspective on self-worth. You’ve been through it, and rather than becoming jaded and bitter, you’ve turned it into a positive and consistently share your journey with the world. Thank you.
Dam this really hit home for me today. Needed to hear this. Thanks dude!!!
Cole Hastings back at it w another vid. 🙏🙏
Needed to hear this. Thank you.
You're very welcome
Cole !!! I really wish you see this I needed to hear that !!! THANK YOUUUUU ! I knew most of this but hearing it is a game changer THANK YOU 🙏
Keep making videos man it’s only honesty that can get me through man. Just anyone like this Steve.
What a beautiful video.
Thank you
Perfect timing
Great video! Helped with my constipation!
Thankyou Cole, this is exactly what I needed to hear
*The most important two days of your life is first when you were born and second when you find out why.*
Have an amazing day ladies and gentlemen.
Thanks for content. It was calming to listen to this while constantly on the move.
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Words of wisdom, and a great positive video. Glad I subscribed to this channel. Cheers!
Powerful stuff Cole. Thank you so much for this. It's made a real impact on me. Keep helping the world because you're making a difference.
One of the best skills you can ever learn is forgiveness and letting go of what happens to you in life. Suffering is inevitable, how you react to this suffering makes all the difference. Let it go, today’s a new day.
Great video dude, I can see you’ve learned lots. Take care. 👍
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your editing is so good bro :)
Thank you ❤
You make such great deep and meaningful videos man! You have gotten a loyal subscriber! Keep making videos true to yourself as well those that will help others in this journey of life.
Thank you Cole. You bring us a better understanding on how we all work, more precisely than friends telling us we should do this or that, even though these friends are precious people in this very world. Much love and respect 🙏
My mom committed suicide 2 years ago and unless you went through it, you don't just let it go but just cope.
Attachment is the root of all suffering
Thanx. Im glad i found you and subscribed, this all sounds to me like a buddhistic teachings and view on life , problems and suffering.I heard all of this, but you really explained honestly and simple as it should be. Great content cause i really belive it can help people with most of its problems, cause in this life they dont learn us in school about emotional baggage of life, we must see it and understand it for ourself.
Your vids always come at the perfect time! Thanks 💯
Because of this video, I am going to finally finish my apology letter to my best friend even though she hates me
Then burn it brother.
I'm still hurting while it seems she moved on so fast.
Hi get help from The relationship restorer Dr Steve who helped me to reunite back with my ex... He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me get to back with my ex I have been enjoying a happy, peaceful relationship.
What> sApp him
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Thank you Cole! Of all the "Letting Go" advice videos I've watched, yours truly resonated and made sense to me. This video helped me to make the first step! Cheers
You're very smart and helpful. I love your videos, man. Thank you for all of your wisdom.
forgiving yourself for things youve done? doable.
forgiving yourself for things you haven’t done?
impossible
I'm really loving your channel and ways of portraying insights. This one is applicable to me in a large hurdle i've been trying to overcome, as my last girlfriend essentially used and threw me out, while lying and exhibiting narcissistic behaviors of enjoying the turmoil and suffering she was inflicting. She ultimately left me for someone she met on tinder, but didn't seem to work out for her. Fast forward a month after break up and we both work at a farmers market so I have to see her every week, right out the gate she was always vying for my attention, she managed to move her booth closer to mine every week, until she was right next to me, and this was opening the wound I was trying to let go of and heal, which resulted in not living to my potential and hitting vices hardest to the point of almost flat lining my business from apathy of incentives to care anymore.
I ignored her for the most part, but she would go all out next to me, leaning on the booth like a damsel sighing, bringing up subjects about things we used to do together, going to every girl that gives me attention to talk to and assert her dominance, as well as public displays anytime I gave her some attention, so I cut her off. But learning to forgive her has been my greatest asset as it allows me to let go completely and see her as the damaged broad who is in a situation of many bad choices, that I ultimately was dumb enough to allow into my life even after witnessing many red flags, because I was holding out for the power couple concept that never had a chance. Even though I still encourage her to continue advancing her business, because she is ultimately doing community building food awareness work, something I believe in, I do it when I decide, not on her time, and if she disrespects me when I give her an inch of validation, she gets told off in detail and put in the dark again until I decide.
It's annoying to deal with such a uncivil person that I have emotional history with, but that's life, I'm stronger for it, and it's ultimately what women want in a man, someone to keep them in line while leading and bolstering up those around them.
I'm glad I found this channel. I'm in the worst phase of my life, and my best retreat is to watch videos on here, multiple times.
I really needed that message, thank you very much!
Wow! Pretty darned amazing, Cole! ☀
I just wanted to say that i truly appreciate that you have taken the time and energy to film your own "stock footage". It is so much more meaningful and makes a way higher quality video. This is rare to see, and i hope that others see your work and decide to do the same.
I know this is an older video of yours but I just wanted to comment because this is the first video I’ve seen that doesn’t say you need to get over or release all your pain but it acknowledges that some kinds of pain do in fact stay with you for a long time and that it’s ok if it does. And just accepting that it will can give you the peace you need to move on really struck a cord with me and has helped me see things in a different perspective so thank you so much!
This is so true and Beautiful!