Why Getting Married at 26 is "WAY TOO LATE" | Ben Shapiro
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Thank you for putting this video out there. I know there is going to be variation between different people, but I do agree with Ben on how people get set in their ways. I do not think people consider that issue very often. I am a 27-year-old woman, single, and probably unlikely to date or marry because I am so used to being alone now. I was more open to new ways of doing things when I was in college, and I figured at the time that that would change as I got older and got used to having my own place. However, another problem with waiting is figuring out where single guys are these days... Do you two or Ben know where all the single guys went? It seems like they disappeared after I graduated college. Some got married after college, but I see a lot of single women, not men, around my age now. Maybe where I live or work affects this and there is just some geographic or other variation, but I thought ratio of women to men was supposed to be more 50/50 statistically.
P.S., Ben, it sounds like you and your wife have a wonderful relationship! That is a blessing.
I think there is definitely something to it. I'm 30, established in my career, and have learned to thrive on my own. I'm far more set in my ways and far less willing to compromise on certain things. There is something to be said for marrying earlier if marriage is something desired.
I think men feel
The same way in the direction of their gender.
It is a fact that the pool of people decreases drastically in your life when you finish your college/ education.
I guess being social might be helpful, but myself being an asocial person wouldn’t recommend just for the sake of finding a lover/ spouse.
Like don’t join a gym to find girls but because youre in love with the process. Finding a girl there could be a decent bonus.
Also since I’m an Indian although im not into the idea of marriage for myself personally, the concept of “Arranged marriages” would benefit the western culture a lot for people who genuinely wanna get married.
I think its great that we get different views on subjects like this .
30 year old single men are rarer but I’d say church groups, pickleball leagues, gyms. Do 30 year old men leave the house that much? They mostly go to work and home. That makes me believe dating apps are the best but you have to sort through so much bogus and get degraded in the process. So in person stuff would be neighborhood bars, sports leagues, volunteering locally, local organizations that pertain to your interests
Setting an age limit for marriage is crazy.
And stupid. You don't get married for the sake of getting married you get married because you found your partner and you both want to get married
I agree
I disagree, if you are not married then you are an overgrown child..
@@prasannabhat8631 you sound very close minded then
@@Matt-yj5sm What does that even mean?
I mean statistically, marriages that occur between the ages of 28-32 are the least likely to get a divorce
Source : trust me bro
That’s a real statistic. Both things can be true at once, marrying young can turn out great and marrying at 30 can turn out great
Are these recent marriages or are we talking people who got married in the 1960s and 70s?
because they have already been through one and no one wants to do it twice lol
I know people who got married i their thirties or even their forties. And they still had a family
A majority of people get married at 29 and 30.
Nowadays I have heard of many people getting married later.
Same
@@Dionysus_Athena Is that the majority in globally or just in America?
@@jamesmoranthefascinatingyo1764 pretty much all big western countries. Australia, Canada, Britain, USA.
I am 27 and I am not even mentally ready to get married and the thought scares me, since I am not 27 mentally, mentally I am a 19-year-old.
I told my children that the purpose of dating is to discern if that is a person you should marry. Otherwise you are playing with fire. After 53 years I believe that marriage is less about love but all about commiment. And the committment to g_d is more important than the committment to the man. We were both 19 when we were married. We were oblivious to many things but then we became Christians and life changed for every and always.
my life isnt aligned with this but i agree. Sadly at 23 I couldnt pull quality women. I think a lot of guys feel this. I grew up poor and low "status" so I had to "build" myself for a decade until the girls from good backgrounds and options found me as their peer and a viable option. If i was a solid option to women then and had good options I would have pulled the trigger earlier. it was my focus and goal but sadly i simply failed.
Don't say you've failed, you got a chance everyday to get what you want.
As a single (divorced) man in my 60s, very few bad things happen day to day. Over the long haul, things come and go sure. But I think starting off expecting bad events everyday is probably not good.
Maybe it helps to be dull and boring, like me.
A lot of women think life without drama is boring.
Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy? Great advice❤
Well it didn't work out for Steven Crowder.
He doesn’t like girls.
Lol and this guy says the exact same crap as crowder.
It doesn’t work out for most people. Being a teenager and marrying is ridiculous. It’s best to get married at age 30 at least for a guy.
I wouldn’t listen to Ben about women, sex or relationships. He comes from a very specific (and rare) background for most people. If you listen to him as a guy I wish you well.
If you go into a marriage where both people agree that divorce is not an option because of values and you both work and act on those values then it improves your chances greatly. If one person's personality changes wildly and they think they are above the very rules they live by then all bets are off.
"Would you rather be right or be happy" that's so on point lol
I respectfully disagree. In this day and age, it is so hard to find a partner who has the same values as I do and guess what, I am almost 26! I believe that people can change and I am still young and still trying to figure out my life. I am getting off my dad's insurance in a month, but I am pretty independent otherwise! And I am sorry, but it has nothing to do with the girl boss mentality. It has to do with survival and being a contributing member to society! And just life! I believe that I am growing into the person God created me to be and He has someone in store for me. I sadly know one too many women who got married young and ended up in toxic and abusive marriages and then divorced. I am not saying that this is always going to happen, but I want to be with someone who I know will treat me well and has the same values. Anyways, this is my two cents. Peace and love! ❤
Yes, you can determine if someone is a bad fit within 10 minutes. If they say something that's extremely racist, sexist, and it gives you a hint at their values, game over… move on. I don't agree on everything that Ben says, but I respect a man that's willing to say what they believe in publicly with a large audience.
Funny, my wife and I bonded on sexism super hard
what if you're both racist?
I got married at 25, had my first child at 26, 2nd child at 27. We had the best marriage ever for 32 beautiful years. The way I look at marriage is giving. Not taking, just giving. Hubby had the same attitude. We both gave so there was no expectation as far as taking. Both only gave so automatically we both received. Too many couples enter a relationship as give and take. Just forget the take, you'll be so much happier.
I'm a 23 year old that didn't get many opportunities to socialize due to being in an all boys' school with COVID happeneing right after I graduated. Now I'm convinced that I'm screwed.
You’re probably not as old as people and videos like these make u feel mate :-)
@Marie_Adams Marriage is about maturity and not age. 20 yo couple could be more mature than a 30 yo couple and vise versa.
@@JHunter_well yeah but for the most part people in their early 20's are usually not mature enough to marry
@ThatsWhat-She. Exactly I'm 28 years old. And I don't listen to this Jew money man who wants marriage
as a profit in our pockets.
I'm still single cuz a lot of women that I have met, rejected me many times OR... they aren't interested for a relationship
which is not my fault for me being single.
Age can't define your success on marriage.
And marrying young also Cause divorces as well cuz couples aren't mature enough to understand themselves what they want in life.
Bro I'm 23 too now and these are just weirdos 💀 tf you mean marrying at 26 is too late.
Ask anyone older than 28 with a good brain and watch them say 27+ is the age that they did actually felt like an actual adult it's the real adulthood lol 😭. I used to talk with that 28 guy and he used to tel me anyone under 25 for him is child and immature.
I’m 38 and couldn’t care less if I ever get married. Too much to lose as a male.
Defeatist attitude
It's risky getting married it's far more risky staying single
Ngl I just think everyone’s different and marriage can come at different times for everyone. I just don’t see it as a one size fits all thing.
But why would one want to have the state sanction a relationship? Only downside.
Agreed
what's the exclusive advantage and function with marriage over non married couples? commitment doesn't require the institution of marriage. Divorce is still a thing.
i wanna be an old spinster i don't wanna get married but i don't think there is anything wrong with that
I’m 36. No prospects and no freedom to look. I’m stuck being a caregiver. Marriage and family is a luxury reserved only for the wealthy anymore.
I know what Ben believes, but this is not practical in the modern world. Today we let 26 year olds stay on their parents insurance. If you are still on mom and dads insurance, you are not ready to get married and start a family of your own.
Today the rent and cost are living are up but wages is the same no one wants to be in poverty.
@@jbone9900 yeah, that is going to result in delay of marriage and family creation. It takes more to buy a house and provide.
@@franklinwalston9468wow you’ve just solved this retarded debate that conservatives like Ben have been perpetuating for at least a decade.
@@jbone9900you prioritize what you value. If you value good times, video games, fast food, you might as well forget about marriage and children. Marriage is hard and you have to be COMMITTED for life
@@eliannahankin2971 you can have kid without marriage and not everyone wants marriage.
What is the name of the guy on the right who wears red shirt.
I think people get married late because they have other priorities. For example, I am unmarried because I have other priorities such as mental well-being and education.
This guy is speaking nonsense. There are also plenty of cons to marrying young. And there is no guarantee that you will stay together if marrying young. Clearly he has no idea what he’s talking about.
Jesus, how many bad takes can one guy have in one go?
Way too many
0, he is speaking facts.
Well you have at least one with your comment
He’s been married for 15 years and has 4 kids. What do you have to show for?
Who gives a fuck.
Evidently you
😄😆😂🤣
I agree with a lot of what Ben says. I'm not sure if 26 is "way too late," but I do think that's the time when one should at least be thinking about what comes next in terms of marriage and relationships.
Not sure why any man would marry before age 35 or even 40. Aside from possibly not having built enough wealth yet to comfortably provide for a wife and potentially multiple children, most men who get married young may not know or fully understand the legal aspects and potential ramifications of what they're signing up for and agreeing to.
Are men fully aware of the legalities involving no-fault divorce, alimony, child support and child custody, division of assets, do they fully understand the state law which has jurisdiction over their marriage? A man may want to be fully aware of all of those things prior to agreeing to what's essentially a contractual agreement between himself and his potential spouse which could be presided over at full discretion by a judge if the relationship doesn't work out.
If the conversation flows it flows. Great Statement. However my conversation flows with everyone. Oops yeah that was a problem. No wonder 🤔
But what if you’re attracted to people and barely feel like dating, that is assuming someone wants to date u
What the hell does that mean
@@sniperpronerfmods9811 i think it means that I have some lust and attraction never stops even if u dont wish to date, or maybe u havent dated enough or in ages to be interested anymore.
Whatever u chose to do with ur dating life, your instincts would always do their own thing !…
@@tg2112 actually I reread your comment and I understand now... I was just like you, I'm 21, lusted hard for a long time, found a girlfriend 2.5 years. Did not solve the lust issue, that's why we need to pick up our cross, stay strong and follow Jesus!
@@sniperpronerfmods9811 i dont know if I could call myself religious by any means, but I do seek God and appreciate Religious people and all the good stuff they do.
I can imagine being religious can make u appreciate the idea of marriage a lot more and having a gf for 2.5 yrs !!…
@@tg2112 you got this bro stay strong💪💪💪
What about getting married in the 40’s?
There is nothing wrong with getting married in the 40s. The people may be rigid and inflexible.
Ben Shapiro becoming human. Nice.
You absolutely cannot determine that someone is the wrong person within 10 minutes. That is absolute b******* because people can be very good at manipulating.
Nobody listen to him because he does not have good advice whatsoever.
Your messaging is a bit declarative.
Also you leave these comments on *EVERY* Shapiro clip😂
@@benchoflemons398 he has about four or five clips with Ben I've only commented on to. You're apparently very bad at math
And of course my messages declarative because he is full of s***. Nothing he is saying is backed up by reality. Statistics show that the younger you get married the higher the likelihood of divorce because people are not developed enough at that stage to jump into those kinds of decisions. He is just flat-out wrong based on reality. I'm sorry you have a problem with facts what facts don't care about your feelings
You can tell someone is the wrong person in the first 10 minutes but that doesn't mean it's the right person if that makes sense.
@@damianescobedo4143 you won't catch everyone that the wrong person in 10 minutes. A person can trick you for way longer than 10 minutes.
Yeah I mean that's kinda true... You have the puppy love phase and sometime's peoples' true intents and personality aren't revealed until after that period
FACTS ❤
I’m 26 and I’m not married. 🇺🇸🫡💪