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I love your work Lynn I'm such a fan.. 🤗🤗.. Kindly bring a Christian Psychologist to share their advice and experience with regards to narcissist people. I survived to tell the tale and there is so much more involved.. The fact that she can suggest someone go back because it is not physical is beyond crazy I know of some who have committed suicide for not being able to cope and let's not chat about how it affects children as that is how narcissistic people are made. We who believe in Elohim and creation know our God lives in us and we are spiritual beings not atoms. We all belong to our God and those who have accepted Christ have earned the right to he called children of God, and we treat ourselves and others as such.. I recommend Benjamin Zulu..
Hello I really I 💓 to listen and Digest with all your topics.i congrats for a very Educative discussion and for poeple had pass all those stages. And well explained.Be blessed for the Vlog.
Lynn, you have just described my 22 years of married life. I've had to listen to this over and over again. I've never heard anybody who described almost word by word how my relationship was. It's taken me years to walk the path of healing. Thank you so much for this sharing. It is for me.
Thank you so much Lynn. Please keep doing more of these shows. I have a narcissistic mother who is a champion gaslighter. For years I knew I am useless, bad, ugly, stupid, cursed, you name it. N then I would live in confusion because out there, people are nice to me and they like me, but at home, my mother tells me am useless, cursed, etc. So I was always in a back and forth emotional rollercoaster, doubting myself, my identity, my abilities, and then to make it worse, we live in an African society that tells you that your mother is always right and you must always listen to/respect/love her. But everything changed when I started reading about toxic/dysfunctional families, childhood traumas, generational curses, etc. and suddenly everything started to make sense. I now have very clear boundaries with her and I don't entertain any toxic/negative behavior from her. My life has drastically changed since I made these changes...
Oh my goodness we have similar stories but unfortunately I still live at home .I stay in my bedroom n do not come out though. I hope n pray that you have healed or at least in the process of healing.
We are so broken, till we free ourselves from families who damage us. Toxic family members are the worst. Bravo to those who survived. We need more people to talk about this. Thank you ladies for giving us this space to let it out.
@@evelynbrenda7373 Well said Evelyn. The universe has no idea at all how narcissistic family members can damage your soul, spirit, health and much more. They are worse than any disease and unfortunately they cannot be helped or cured. Only thing is to be your self supporter and uplifter - be selfish to the core. That way, at least you'll have loved yourself more should everything go south with them family! Never deny yourself anything because of them coz they'll never look after you ..ever!!! Shalom!
“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but you stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” - Jill Blakeway
Amen. My current predicament after walking out of an 11 year toxic union and choosing to keep my peace and endure on self healing journey with my three kids. But alas, my ex and his family are working overtime to malign me as a form of intimidate me into submission. Good luck to them. There is no turning back for me. I say no to toxic narcissistic energies. Onwards and upwards.
Lynn let me tell you, I was married to someone who made me feel worthless, since he could even tell me things that made me feel no body would ever want me ,didn't know about narcissism then, had no one to talk to, but something was telling me No,people don't live like this He even made me believe if I walked out wouldn't make it,am grateful am learning
@@shazmeenbank1630 listen ever thing you said i experienced. It as if yoy were tight there with me seeing what was taking place.I honestly did not know this character trait.ontil i was in relationship i was CONFUSED it affected me so much i start RESEARCHING ,reading books just to seek out what is this ,,,,and one word kept coming up every time narcissist. NARCISSIST!!!!!
This is so true. Very educative. Narcissists prey on the weak and vulnerable who have high ideals and low self-esteem - this gives them power and control over their victims (supply). Gaslighting is part and parcel of narcissism - distortion of reality and crazy-making, where you question your sanity and what's actually true. There IS healing after narcissistic abuse. Learn and grow , find your voice, find your power and worth, and go no contact. Narcissists can't be fixed unless they truly want to change, which is rare, because they love the gains from their abuse. Keep doing the brilliant work Lynn. Lovely outfit by the way!
I was once with a narcissist man even though I didn't know it. When I left him, he hacked my email, sent messages to my friends accusing me of many untruths, he wrote a letter to my boss, who chose to ignore him, so I could lose my job and then he started stalking me! This went on for a year, when he finally stopped. A real nightmare and I was very scared of men after that. I am grateful to now be in a good relationship with my spouse of 8 years but ladies, please note the red flags! You cannot change him. Thanks for educating us.
Jesus Christ, i am just in the introduction and i can clearly see what i was in for 10yrs but Jesus is Lord that i have made it after leaving the toxic marriage.Lynn, keep inviting her again and again
I've been waiting for this conversation. It's true, I didn't know how broken I was until I left. Narcs and gaslighters ruin your life faster than you think
I had a boss who was a bully, she tried so many times to reduce me to nothing. I hated my job, I was depressed, my core hated people, I almost quit my job. One day I got my voice and I told my truth and refused to be bullied. I eventually got a transfer. I am happy now.
Narcissist never change.It's the story of the frog and the scorpion..Someone described it as eating meat, you eat meat because you love the flavour not because you hate cows, your desire for the meat has nothing to do with your feelings for the cow. The same way, narcissist need your emotions/reactions, it has nothing to do with their feelings for you, you are just an object and all they need from you is your reaction...stay in and you will be the gift that keeps giving.
Perfectly put. I stayed and at 71 he married another young woman of two and both now squandering what we built together for 47 years.....carries foodstuffs from me for their consumption!!!
There's also alot of friendship trauma that goes on after leaving narcissistic friends and gaslighters... Never overlook how people make you feel especially those who question everything you do in a condescending manner ... There's hope and light ahead as long as you remove yourself from the denial part.... Making up for the damage they've caused because maybe they are the only friends you have at the moment ... Don't be a VICTIM... Make a choice and leave.
Today's topic has really helped me see myself differently and understand myself. I felt like it is me you were talking about. I now know alot I didn't know before and I feel very positive to face life positively. Thanks so much Lynn you have always been a blessing to me, although I've been a silent follower today I felt I must comment. God bless you
I've heard a lot about narcissism but you've explained this so clearly and specific i have gotten my confirmation exactly when I heeded it the most. Thanks greatly
I was in a relationship whereby I was being told that there's no one else who will care for especially with kids nobody will accept me...I was afraid of getting out but once I did I knew am never going back...they tell me now I live like an animal since I don't have a home to go to but I'd rather this than being depressed in a relationship
Sikuhizi I have a whole book dedicated to this show for taking notes to go through ,God bless you Lynn we learn everyday💗,your guest today was beyond words intelligent and beauty 🥰,you both look beautiful ❣💯😍
I love the content Lynn! It's what we need not just what is trending. Shazmeen I listen to the vibe on 97.1 every Sunday, thank you for the encouragements and insights.
OMG! The first 35 seconds spoke to exactly what I am dealing with. I had left this comment on the first video that I've watched of Lynn Ngugi's but selected this second video to watch and oh my in the first few seconds of Ms. Banks speaking this is the exact thing I am going through. I have copied the comment here as well. Thank you again for this show. Thank you for the show. Thank you Ms. Banks, I have saved this video to re-watch because I am experiencing a lot of this. I have broken up with the person who was mentally abusive because I couldn't take the constant negative words and negative disregard towards me. I didn't realize it was mental abuse until after I'd moved out and gave myself permission to say that I was being mentally abused. I have to remember my why for breaking from him and realize he needs to want to get help for his issues. I was always defending myself and I've lost track of time from all of the mental confusion he was putting me through. I had to walk away but still feel triggered almost daily from the abuse. I am happy to have come across your video Ms. Lynn Ngugi. Please keep up the great work. God Bless you and your channel. Thank you Ms. Banks. May God bless you both.
Thanks so much for this session. I love that voice, so calm and uplifting. Thank you. These talks have helped me to heal from the narcissistic people I've had in my life. I also healed so I won't be narcissistic towards my kids. That feeling that comes to the physical sounds like faith
Lynn Thank you sooooo much for this programme that brings a lot of exposure to this toxicity and abuse that has been so prevalent in our society and culture. Lynn Thank you for providing the professional support and the advice provided. Many elements of our african culture is narcissistic and very abusive. There are many broken people as a result and many have gone to an early grave. Its time to bring awareness in our society. Lynn l love you for being you and for the good work you are doing. Baraka ♥️♥️
I am going through this kind of abuse with my Kenyan partner, it's devastating, he made me forget who I am, I lost myself for him, he called me names, humiliated me, belittled me but I stand for myself no matter what and when I confront him or criticize him he acts like a child, holding a grudge for days, 'punishing' me with silent treatment, acting like I don't exist. But many times I witnessed his huge insecurities which doesn't match the 'strength' he displays while being mostly verbaly abusive. He has the same patterns all the time. But after 3 years I am done. I love him, it'll take time to stop, but I don't like him anymore. I don't want him in my life anymore. I am ready to be me again and be happy alone and surrounded with healthy people.
@@TheEkilnoom You have described my experience to the tee. My relationship lasted 5 years.By the time i was leaving, I looked like a human wreck. Tired,wornout,depressed,weak,numb, with a foggy brain. It takes time to heal, you need to have that discipline of stay NO CONTACT, only this will help you and bringing your lost self back. Trauma bond with the narcissistic person feels like Love.
@@imconcerned5947 I am sorry. I hope you finally own your life and are ready to receive true blessings. Yes, this is true. No contact is the best and the only solution. I'm finally at peace, because I made a decision. He brought me nothing but uncertainty, lies and manipulation. I deserve to be cherished and loved the right way. I deserve much better than a fake person with nothing to offer except acting, fake personality, fake words and actions. The bad thing is he is on a constant search for supply, like a kid for attention, and he's already grooming new possible victims. The circle will just continue. I hope it'll bring him slaps he'll need to recover from. I didn't keep quiet, I openly spoke about his behaviour and stood for myself, so I brought him injury and shame, which narcs can not stand. Now he can put new masks and go on with his miserable life. I don't care at all.
Personally, this is so helpful to hear before getting into any serious relationship or marriage. This is FREE ADVICE! Thank you Lynn for the amazing mentorship/counseling you provide on this platform. Talking is therapy.
Lynn I am your number one fan...i'm 24 and i like watching each and every story you post.There are so many lessons to learn from your amazing platform.
The more I listen to this, the more my eyes and mind are opening. I have followed the story since the last one with Anne Njugi who had a narcissist mother. As mentioned earlier I too have been raised by a narcissist grandmother whose toxicity sipped to me through my mother but I broke that cycle. I literally wrote a 5page letter to my mum just opening up to her and now the tension that was between my mum and I has eased. Unfortunately … I don't know whether its denial or ignorance...my mum hasn't been able to break away from her mother.
When you have been suffering from something for so long but u don't know. Only to understand the diagnosis after watching this show. Still writing my story. I will one day give my testimony 😭😭🙏🙏. Please God hear my cry
Oh my goodness this young beautiful lady just explained this topic soo clearly more than anyone else have ever heard. She has finally answered questions have heard all my life, I lived with a naccistic parent for 30 years. Thank you soo much lyne.
This is the reality of Narcissists people.Narcissists tend to be selfish and self-involved and are usually unable to understand what other people are feeling.
God bless for covering this. The healing journey is tough but worth it. A Bible verse that made me wake and heal, Proverbs 14:10-20. Now I help others heal.
This is so true. Been with a narssist and it's crazy so draining, they will make everyone hate you even your family, denies everything they say despite the messages on the phone, pictures, videos, just crazy we need a medicine for them. So draining.
The only channel I won’t miss to listen to ,aki lynn you are just a darling no one can defeat you in a manner you carry your interviews ,may God continue favoring you sis
I blocked one everywhere he hacked my fb account all friends he posts my photos more than 2per day with some crazy captions.. this people are dangerous... it's my friends who reached out to me concerning the account bcoz the chatting was so much different from mine
Am still wondering why my friend had to lose her job because her husband made the administration believe that she doesn't take her roles as a mother to their children as she should. The man who is a narcissist is abusive and always causing drama at her workplace yet they are separated. I pray that God locates her and opens doors for her. It is well my friend.
This happened to me but I thank God after going to my work place in the name of destroying my job the administration turned him down,he was told he isn't the one who employed me
I had to let one go, couldn't handle the behaviour...... At the end of most of the conversations we had she must say,,, me I can't live there, me I can't do this, my kids can't study in that school .. She made me feel bad I decided to cut the relationship
Thanks Lynn Ngugi for hosting such a beautifully intelligent speaker like Shazmen Banks who has helped enlighten and educate us about these wonderful topics at hand! ASANTEE SAANA 🙏 Dada Lyne
Yaani never had such an angelic explanation broken to us like to a toddler. Great conversations 👌 mind opening. I surely i am in such a relationship feels more like a gas lighter... the person who is always critical... uses what you say against you when there's an argument.. emotional abuser always upset 😡 and holding grudges for more than a month, punishing me and silent treatment and also looking for excuses, blaming me in all that happens
This is awesome, it's counseling alot of people who are going through this , dealing with people who have no confidence in themselves it's a big deal, Lynn you never disappoint keep scaling the Height God Bless you for us all💞💞💞💕💕💕💕💝💝💝💝
Women have fear to Leave because of the Kids or financial insecurity or one is in a Foreign Country and you do not know where to start especially when one is New in a Country
I can really relate to this but thank God I discovered it before raising my next generation, imagine a parent blaming you for not interacting with people yet when you were younger she wouldn't allow you to have friends or even interact with visitors and also blame you for being shy yet she killed your confidence 😢😢
@@kate4kaniniit has been almost a year without talking to my mother and I was thinking am unworthy child,,, but the good thing is am at peace,,,,,, but it pains when other people starts to tell you that you need to talk to your parents, need to go home
Thank you Lynn. Thank you very much for having such discussions. Please if it's possible can we have a spiritual perspective of narcissistic relationships.
Woooow . I was doing dishes recently and I was thinking about how some of my loved ones gaslight me and how they always have to to extend blame on me . This is a conversation for me 🙂. Thank you for this 😊😊
This is one of the best topics you have ever brought. Narcissists are the worst people you can ever meet. They destroy you gradually. They are broken people. The best way is to flee from such a relationship without loking back. Narcs reduce you to nothing by working gains your self esteem. It's never enough, no mater what you try to do for them. It's a always a big relief when you break up with a narcissist..
Ukitoka kwangu utaenda? 💔Hata niki hanya, si bora unakula? 💔. Hao madems wako warembo kukuliko. 💔. Usitoe hiyo Channel, TV ni yangu. 💔. Heri mm ni Malaya na nina kulipia nyumba 💔. Only God knows what l was passing through 😭😭. Team gulf like tuki songa 🙏🌹🥰
A narcissistic person will call you a narcissist in the midst of them emotionally abusing you, leaving you so confused😭😭. They'll do the same exact mistake like you but they'll constantly magnify your mistake to cover up for their own! Or rather make their mistakes look smaller!!! They are the worst creatures alive!!!! 😔😔
Me Nacheni niseme, you know this discussion is serious when you see the beautiful hair until over the knee length but no one is talking about It😀 you Girls are Beautiful lot of love 💓
Wow wow I can't get enough of your teaching on importance topic. Thanks so much for making it clear about gaslitghers and naccisist people may God bless you abundantly and we need more and more of this topic👏👏🙏thanks Lynn and shaanez bank
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I love your work Lynn I'm such a fan.. 🤗🤗.. Kindly bring a Christian Psychologist to share their advice and experience with regards to narcissist people. I survived to tell the tale and there is so much more involved.. The fact that she can suggest someone go back because it is not physical is beyond crazy I know of some who have committed suicide for not being able to cope and let's not chat about how it affects children as that is how narcissistic people are made. We who believe in Elohim and creation know our God lives in us and we are spiritual beings not atoms. We all belong to our God and those who have accepted Christ have earned the right to he called children of God, and we treat ourselves and others as such.. I recommend Benjamin Zulu..
Hello I really I 💓 to listen and Digest with all your topics.i congrats for a very Educative discussion and for poeple had pass all those stages.
And well explained.Be blessed for the Vlog.
Lynn please bring a guest to discuss a covert nassisist, that is a hidden type of naccisist
Yes narcissists will always make you feel guilty for their mistakes and behaviour.
Amazing topic, she's engaging 👌👌👏
Lynn, you have just described my 22 years of married life.
I've had to listen to this over and over again. I've never heard anybody who described almost word by word how my relationship was. It's taken me years to walk the path of healing.
Thank you so much for this sharing. It is for me.
Thank you so much Lynn. Please keep doing more of these shows. I have a narcissistic mother who is a champion gaslighter. For years I knew I am useless, bad, ugly, stupid, cursed, you name it. N then I would live in confusion because out there, people are nice to me and they like me, but at home, my mother tells me am useless, cursed, etc. So I was always in a back and forth emotional rollercoaster, doubting myself, my identity, my abilities, and then to make it worse, we live in an African society that tells you that your mother is always right and you must always listen to/respect/love her. But everything changed when I started reading about toxic/dysfunctional families, childhood traumas, generational curses, etc. and suddenly everything started to make sense. I now have very clear boundaries with her and I don't entertain any toxic/negative behavior from her. My life has drastically changed since I made these changes...
Oh my goodness we have similar stories but unfortunately I still live at home .I stay in my bedroom n do not come out though. I hope n pray that you have healed or at least in the process of healing.
Wow am glad that now we are learning
Thanks
We are so broken, till we free ourselves from families who damage us. Toxic family members are the worst. Bravo to those who survived. We need more people to talk about this. Thank you ladies for giving us this space to let it out.
@@evelynbrenda7373 Well said Evelyn. The universe has no idea at all how narcissistic family members can damage your soul, spirit, health and much more. They are worse than any disease and unfortunately they cannot be helped or cured. Only thing is to be your self supporter and uplifter - be selfish to the core. That way, at least you'll have loved yourself more should everything go south with them family! Never deny yourself anything because of them coz they'll never look after you ..ever!!! Shalom!
“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but you stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” - Jill Blakeway
So true💯
Very true, when my ex, who is my daughter's father walked out on us, he ensured he went about to destroy me to others to see me as a bad person.
@@giftytengey2066 Hoping you are getting through it..Sorry u went through that
Amen. My current predicament after walking out of an 11 year toxic union and choosing to keep my peace and endure on self healing journey with my three kids. But alas, my ex and his family are working overtime to malign me as a form of intimidate me into submission. Good luck to them. There is no turning back for me. I say no to toxic narcissistic energies. Onwards and upwards.
@@rebeccarachel1770 Amen
Lynn let me tell you, I was married to someone who made me feel worthless, since he could even tell me things that made me feel no body would ever want me ,didn't know about narcissism then, had no one to talk to, but something was telling me No,people don't live like this
He even made me believe if I walked out wouldn't make it,am grateful am learning
I am learning.
I feel you gal, gone through this,,,,,, unfortunately one doesn't know about narcissist before,,, struggling in it.
@@naomisagina3123 So true...
This young lady know what she is saying RIGHT ON POINT
Thank you so much
@@shazmeenbank1630 listen ever thing you said i experienced. It as if yoy were tight there with me seeing what was taking place.I honestly did not know this character trait.ontil i was in relationship i was CONFUSED it affected me so much i start RESEARCHING ,reading books just to seek out what is this ,,,,and one word kept coming up every time narcissist. NARCISSIST!!!!!
Unfortunately there is no cure for narcissism. Don't ever stay with one thinking they will change. They won't.
Very true. There is absolutely no cure.
True
Right, I know
Accountability feels like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge your behaviours! Don't let people walk over you🚶♀️
I agree with you......
Welcome to Lynn's channel where being the 1st viewer is almost impossible..The love that flows here is abundant~
Welcome home dear❤
We appreciate your love and support🙏
@@LynnNgugi Thanks~
And being the first one always feels good
Exactly,haha
@@standout254 inauma but inabidi tuzoee
This is so true. Very educative. Narcissists prey on the weak and vulnerable who have high ideals and low self-esteem - this gives them power and control over their victims (supply). Gaslighting is part and parcel of narcissism - distortion of reality and crazy-making, where you question your sanity and what's actually true.
There IS healing after narcissistic abuse. Learn and grow , find your voice, find your power and worth, and go no contact. Narcissists can't be fixed unless they truly want to change, which is rare, because they love the gains from their abuse.
Keep doing the brilliant work Lynn. Lovely outfit by the way!
I was once with a narcissist man even though I didn't know it. When I left him, he hacked my email, sent messages to my friends accusing me of many untruths, he wrote a letter to my boss, who chose to ignore him, so I could lose my job and then he started stalking me! This went on for a year, when he finally stopped. A real nightmare and I was very scared of men after that. I am grateful to now be in a good relationship with my spouse of 8 years but ladies, please note the red flags! You cannot change him. Thanks for educating us.
Sorry for what you went through am also in the same situation pray for me.
Can we have this angelic voiced lady as the group therapist?? Lively, lovely conversation
Living with a narcissist is like living with a real devil, they never rest, always scheming eviel
They are very evil. They are upto no good
Guys don't forget we also have friends who are narcissists too!
Celebrities too...Diana B
A lot n they are everywhere
I once had one
@@chichinyagonya4119 usiseme hata ,mine was excess and ever bitter
Jesus Christ, i am just in the introduction and i can clearly see what i was in for 10yrs but Jesus is Lord that i have made it after leaving the toxic marriage.Lynn, keep inviting her again and again
I had a narcissist supervisor I almost lost my mind until I said enough is enough and quit the job. When i look back I thank God.
High fiveeeee
I've been waiting for this conversation. It's true, I didn't know how broken I was until I left. Narcs and gaslighters ruin your life faster than you think
I had a boss who was a bully, she tried so many times to reduce me to nothing. I hated my job, I was depressed, my core hated people, I almost quit my job. One day I got my voice and I told my truth and refused to be bullied. I eventually got a transfer. I am happy now.
Thanks Lynn I succumbed to this but so grateful that through research with such videos I discovered myself and moved out with my head high
Shazmeen here today.. always following her on switch tv . this is a great talk taking notes 📝 .
Narcissist never change.It's the story of the frog and the scorpion..Someone described it as eating meat, you eat meat because you love the flavour not because you hate cows, your desire for the meat has nothing to do with your feelings for the cow. The same way, narcissist need your emotions/reactions, it has nothing to do with their feelings for you, you are just an object and all they need from you is your reaction...stay in and you will be the gift that keeps giving.
Wow ,good advice.
Spot on.
Perfectly said
Perfectly put. I stayed and at 71 he married another young woman of two and both now squandering what we built together for 47 years.....carries foodstuffs from me for their consumption!!!
There's also alot of friendship trauma that goes on after leaving narcissistic friends and gaslighters... Never overlook how people make you feel especially those who question everything you do in a condescending manner ... There's hope and light ahead as long as you remove yourself from the denial part.... Making up for the damage they've caused because maybe they are the only friends you have at the moment ... Don't be a VICTIM... Make a choice and leave.
This is so true 💯
Yes that’s true
Today's topic has really helped me see myself differently and understand myself. I felt like it is me you were talking about. I now know alot I didn't know before and I feel very positive to face life positively. Thanks so much Lynn you have always been a blessing to me, although I've been a silent follower today I felt I must comment. God bless you
I've heard a lot about narcissism but you've explained this so clearly and specific i have gotten my confirmation exactly when I heeded it the most.
Thanks greatly
I was in a relationship whereby I was being told that there's no one else who will care for especially with kids nobody will accept me...I was afraid of getting out but once I did I knew am never going back...they tell me now I live like an animal since I don't have a home to go to but I'd rather this than being depressed in a relationship
Don't worry dia...ur not alone am also thru that path..but who is our God...
I am sitted here on a sunday morning listening to this and I feel this is the most empowering message I have heard this year. I am liberated!
Am telling you this is profound...i know my loved one's will be helped
Key to growth is to un-learn what you were taught then re- learn the right things.
Lynn Ngugi
I love you with all my heart. You make me find myself each day with/ through the guest you chose to bring into the show. 💛 U
Sikuhizi I have a whole book dedicated to this show for taking notes to go through ,God bless you Lynn we learn everyday💗,your guest today was beyond words intelligent and beauty 🥰,you both look beautiful ❣💯😍
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I love the content Lynn! It's what we need not just what is trending. Shazmeen I listen to the vibe on 97.1 every Sunday, thank you for the encouragements and insights.
OMG! The first 35 seconds spoke to exactly what I am dealing with. I had left this comment on the first video that I've watched of Lynn Ngugi's but selected this second video to watch and oh my in the first few seconds of Ms. Banks speaking this is the exact thing I am going through. I have copied the comment here as well. Thank you again for this show. Thank you for the show. Thank you Ms. Banks, I have saved this video to re-watch because I am experiencing a lot of this. I have broken up with the person who was mentally abusive because I couldn't take the constant negative words and negative disregard towards me. I didn't realize it was mental abuse until after I'd moved out and gave myself permission to say that I was being mentally abused. I have to remember my why for breaking from him and realize he needs to want to get help for his issues. I was always defending myself and I've lost track of time from all of the mental confusion he was putting me through. I had to walk away but still feel triggered almost daily from the abuse. I am happy to have come across your video Ms. Lynn Ngugi. Please keep up the great work. God Bless you and your channel. Thank you Ms. Banks. May God bless you both.
…..the moment I realized I was worthy of more…… Great statement. It has to be always “I” not others.
Thanks Lynn, such lessons are very expensive and rare to get. I have learnt a lot. Be blessed.
Thanks so much for this session. I love that voice, so calm and uplifting. Thank you. These talks have helped me to heal from the narcissistic people I've had in my life. I also healed so I won't be narcissistic towards my kids.
That feeling that comes to the physical sounds like faith
Lynn Thank you sooooo much for this programme that brings a lot of exposure to this toxicity and abuse that has been so prevalent in our society and culture. Lynn Thank you for providing the professional support and the advice provided. Many elements of our african culture is narcissistic and very abusive. There are many broken people as a result and many have gone to an early grave. Its time to bring awareness in our society. Lynn l love you for being you and for the good work you are doing. Baraka ♥️♥️
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I am going through this kind of abuse with my Kenyan partner, it's devastating, he made me forget who I am, I lost myself for him, he called me names, humiliated me, belittled me but I stand for myself no matter what and when I confront him or criticize him he acts like a child, holding a grudge for days, 'punishing' me with silent treatment, acting like I don't exist. But many times I witnessed his huge insecurities which doesn't match the 'strength' he displays while being mostly verbaly abusive. He has the same patterns all the time. But after 3 years I am done. I love him, it'll take time to stop, but I don't like him anymore. I don't want him in my life anymore. I am ready to be me again and be happy alone and surrounded with healthy people.
@@TheEkilnoom You have described my experience to the tee. My relationship lasted 5 years.By the time i was leaving, I looked like a human wreck. Tired,wornout,depressed,weak,numb, with a foggy brain. It takes time to heal, you need to have that discipline of stay NO CONTACT, only this will help you and bringing your lost self back.
Trauma bond with the narcissistic person feels like Love.
@@imconcerned5947 I am sorry. I hope you finally own your life and are ready to receive true blessings.
Yes, this is true. No contact is the best and the only solution. I'm finally at peace, because I made a decision. He brought me nothing but uncertainty, lies and manipulation. I deserve to be cherished and loved the right way. I deserve much better than a fake person with nothing to offer except acting, fake personality, fake words and actions.
The bad thing is he is on a constant search for supply, like a kid for attention, and he's already grooming new possible victims. The circle will just continue. I hope it'll bring him slaps he'll need to recover from.
I didn't keep quiet, I openly spoke about his behaviour and stood for myself, so I brought him injury and shame, which narcs can not stand.
Now he can put new masks and go on with his miserable life. I don't care at all.
Today I was literally spoken to. Bless up Lynn
Never settle for less.it was very educative thanks lynn and shaz
Great show.
Shazmeen did justice to the topic.
Asante coach
omg!!! this hit home so hard ....God led me to this video at the right time!
Personally, this is so helpful to hear before getting into any serious relationship or marriage. This is FREE ADVICE! Thank you Lynn for the amazing mentorship/counseling you provide on this platform. Talking is therapy.
Learning something new each en every day, you are a angel sent Lyn,we love you gal
We are here again to be enlightened. Lynn uko smart sana. Hii rusungu wacha niskie Kama my English teacher aliwesa.
Niko njiani nikiendea fees yangu 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Afadhali kizungu..mimi nilikuwa naona hesabu naskia kutoroka...hehe
Lynn I am your number one fan...i'm 24 and i like watching each and every story you post.There are so many lessons to learn from your amazing platform.
Her voice is incredible it's like she's pinned everything so lovingly.. and the lessons I'm getting from here I'm amazed... Thank you thank you ❤️
The more I listen to this, the more my eyes and mind are opening. I have followed the story since the last one with Anne Njugi who had a narcissist mother. As mentioned earlier I too have been raised by a narcissist grandmother whose toxicity sipped to me through my mother but I broke that cycle. I literally wrote a 5page letter to my mum just opening up to her and now the tension that was between my mum and I has eased. Unfortunately … I don't know whether its denial or ignorance...my mum hasn't been able to break away from her mother.
only in this channel we learn new teams gaslighting for me
Lynn You have no idea how insightful some of these conversations are.🙏
Lynn may God bless ur work u encourage many, keep going sky is the limit
This is therapy beautiful, beautiful
When you have been suffering from something for so long but u don't know. Only to understand the diagnosis after watching this show. Still writing my story. I will one day give my testimony 😭😭🙏🙏. Please God hear my cry
Narcissist is the hardest person to deal with! 😭😭💔😭 I'M STILL HEALING
sending hugs...you will heal
@@jeddymoon3803 thank you my dear
Hugs mummy. I am healing too.
@@celsuiiii8054 Thanks namesake💯❤
🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂hugs dear
Am distracted by the hair lynn and Shaz looking like a real life Rapunzel the topic so educative and informative
Oh my goodness this young beautiful lady just explained this topic soo clearly more than anyone else have ever heard. She has finally answered questions have heard all my life, I lived with a naccistic parent for 30 years. Thank you soo much lyne.
This is the reality of Narcissists people.Narcissists tend to be selfish and self-involved and are usually unable to understand what other people are feeling.
God bless for covering this. The healing journey is tough but worth it. A Bible verse that made me wake and heal, Proverbs 14:10-20. Now I help others heal.
Lynn thank you much for this episode we are many out here suffering with the same.
This is so true. Been with a narssist and it's crazy so draining, they will make everyone hate you even your family, denies everything they say despite the messages on the phone, pictures, videos, just crazy we need a medicine for them. So draining.
Loving how she explains in detail
The only channel I won’t miss to listen to ,aki lynn you are just a darling no one can defeat you in a manner you carry your interviews ,may God continue favoring you sis
The only way to move on narcissist is to go no-contact, leave them and block them everywhere
True,it works💯🙏
Yes
I just did le0
100% true
I blocked one everywhere he hacked my fb account all friends he posts my photos more than 2per day with some crazy captions.. this people are dangerous... it's my friends who reached out to me concerning the account bcoz the chatting was so much different from mine
Eish let me first appreciate Lyn's dressing code,you rocking mama and looking elegant in that dress🥰💯❤️
"You always have a choice" 💯
Am still wondering why my friend had to lose her job because her husband made the administration believe that she doesn't take her roles as a mother to their children as she should. The man who is a narcissist is abusive and always causing drama at her workplace yet they are separated. I pray that God locates her and opens doors for her. It is well my friend.
Wonderful conversation which I New this before.
Thanks
This happened to me but I thank God after going to my work place in the name of destroying my job the administration turned him down,he was told he isn't the one who employed me
Amazing story so without further ado let's hear your thoughts
As usual, thank you for coming to our world( humanities world) Lynn.
I had to let one go, couldn't handle the behaviour...... At the end of most of the conversations we had she must say,,, me I can't live there, me I can't do this, my kids can't study in that school .. She made me feel bad I decided to cut the relationship
Lynn you Rock with that hot pink and your hairstyle so sweet.love your work.We always get to learn something always..Favour in your LN Show.
Each everyday I learned so much from your work Lynn. May God bless you big sis.
Thanks Lynn Ngugi for hosting such a beautifully intelligent speaker like Shazmen Banks who has helped enlighten and educate us about these wonderful topics at hand! ASANTEE SAANA 🙏 Dada Lyne
Yaani never had such an angelic explanation broken to us like to a toddler. Great conversations 👌 mind opening. I surely i am in such a relationship feels more like a gas lighter... the person who is always critical... uses what you say against you when there's an argument.. emotional abuser always upset 😡 and holding grudges for more than a month, punishing me and silent treatment and also looking for excuses, blaming me in all that happens
This is awesome, it's counseling alot of people who are going through this , dealing with people who have no confidence in themselves it's a big deal, Lynn you never disappoint keep scaling the Height God Bless you for us all💞💞💞💕💕💕💕💝💝💝💝
Women have fear to Leave because of the Kids or financial insecurity or one is in a Foreign Country and you do not know where to start especially when one is New in a Country
Learn the laws of the land. They protect you and mist support you. Don't be chained to a relationship that will eat you away.
I can relate to that.
This is great informative information on wellbeing of relationship both in personal and business levels. Well done.
Thanks Lynn for this talk,by so doing so you helping alot of people from being victims to victors and also helping them heal in the right way
I can really relate to this but thank God I discovered it before raising my next generation, imagine a parent blaming you for not interacting with people yet when you were younger she wouldn't allow you to have friends or even interact with visitors and also blame you for being shy yet she killed your confidence 😢😢
That's me hun, l literally moved continents to be away from that toxic 'mother'. 10years down the line, no contact.....no problem. Peace .
Heish
@@kate4kaniniit has been almost a year without talking to my mother and I was thinking am unworthy child,,, but the good thing is am at peace,,,,,, but it pains when other people starts to tell you that you need to talk to your parents, need to go home
What a mind opening conversation there...Thank you so much for this😘
Have met such people and it sad dealing with them and it draining 😭😭
AMEN. AMEN , thank you SOOOO. much for discussing this topic... can i tell you i HAVE A STORY lord have mercy
Anyone here after Lucy's interview????? Thank you Lynn Ngugi
Wow! Very good information, factual information that I wish everyone could be aware of.
I was with one for 8 years it was hell I’ve been away from him for 6 years now thankfully, this explanation is 100% accurate
Nice topic, please get someone to discuss effective disciplining children from 0-18 years
Thank you Lynn. Thank you very much for having such discussions. Please if it's possible can we have a spiritual perspective of narcissistic relationships.
Woooow .
I was doing dishes recently and I was thinking about how some of my loved ones gaslight me and how they always have to to extend blame on me .
This is a conversation for me 🙂. Thank you for this 😊😊
Lovely topic Lynn it will help alot of people out there. Thanks for sharing and God bless you always ❤️.
This is one of the best topics you have ever brought. Narcissists are the worst people you can ever meet. They destroy you gradually. They are broken people. The best way is to flee from such a relationship without loking back. Narcs reduce you to nothing by working gains your self esteem. It's never enough, no mater what you try to do for them. It's a always a big relief when you break up with a narcissist..
A must watch....so educative. Thanks Lynn.
Please share
These 2 Ladies are really God sent. I love the show....thumbs up👍🏿
The guest is very smart. She is very gifted.
What a great show. i once dated one, i don't regret, i learned.
Thanks Lynn For this episode
Ukitoka kwangu utaenda? 💔Hata niki hanya, si bora unakula? 💔. Hao madems wako warembo kukuliko. 💔. Usitoe hiyo Channel, TV ni yangu. 💔. Heri mm ni Malaya na nina kulipia nyumba 💔. Only God knows what l was passing through 😭😭. Team gulf like tuki songa 🙏🌹🥰
Waaah...I have passed all this... I fought like hell.it had to.stop..
Niko na potential kukuliko , ukijua waschsna vile wananirukia huko nje can relate
A narcissistic person will call you a narcissist in the midst of them emotionally abusing you, leaving you so confused😭😭. They'll do the same exact mistake like you but they'll constantly magnify your mistake to cover up for their own! Or rather make their mistakes look smaller!!! They are the worst creatures alive!!!! 😔😔
You've described my situation 😔I need to wake up.
Exactly
Tuned in for the show💖 with much love
Watching....we appreciate you soooo much love you n the good job you are doing Lynn
Jameni nipewe likes za kuja mbio.May GOD save us from Narcissistic People.Virtual Hugs to everyone who at one point has dealt with a narcissist🙏🙏🙏
Me Nacheni niseme, you know this discussion is serious when you see the beautiful hair until over the knee length but no one is talking about It😀 you Girls are Beautiful lot of love 💓
Hold on are we gonna just ignore how Lyn is beautiful n gorgeous on that dress .
Thank you❤❤
Thank you my dear sister Lynn Ngugi in terms of English subtitles thumb up👍👍👍💓💖💓🌹👏
Wow wow I can't get enough of your teaching on importance topic. Thanks so much for making it clear about gaslitghers and naccisist people may God bless you abundantly and we need more and more of this topic👏👏🙏thanks Lynn and shaanez bank