Part One : I apologized to my husband's sidechick to save our marriage | Lynn Ngugi Show
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- I apologized to my husband's sidechick to save my marriage
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We need to continue sharing our stories, next generation must do better. therapy plz
Today is my birthday.Happy birthday to me...am your great fan keep soaring higher like an eagle.Goodwork lyn
Sorry to say this Lynn but the guy was clear from the beginning he only wanted a kid,the other thing maybe the guy got pressure from his friend , how could she married his baby daddy best friend,,was she trying to make baby daddy jealous ,am sorry for her but red flags were so many how can you plan a whole wedding alone without ua partner
I don't know who bewitched us women. Unateswa, unajiweza, unaeza Toka but we still stay. May Jesus redeem us
That's my former boss, the most amazing thing is that she was very Ok inthe office and nobody would guess anything.Madam Susan for sure you're the strongest woman have ever met.
Can you imagine that! That's why they say you can never tell what people are going through, just treat everyone with kindness
Suzzy is such a darling i worked with her also at Waruhiu Kowade
Right..
Oh my Susan! She was years ahead of me in campus. Met her while in practice I would never have guessed. She is and has always been strong. So sorry Sue you went through all that but grateful you came out strong out of it.. Shalom shalom
@@nursemaggie2321 p
These are the kind of stories we need to learn from.. LYNN KEEP DOING THIS GREAT JOB!!!
ITS A MINISTRY BY ITSELF
Sure
true
Know your value before marriage, I swear. We push marriage before we teach sense and self value. Very great lessons here! Thank you!
Lesson: if a man tells you he doesnt want you, dont wait to be told again. The suffering to come is just getting ready to be unleashed. Living with a man who does not have love for you is a safety issue.
Everyone must pass through here and recite this like a nursery ryme!
True I experienced that for years abused left right and centre finally I left thank God years on I am so happy new life
Facts
Amen
Yup that's why it's hard to helping ppl because they are going back the men
Greatest lesson. Don't stay in an abusive marriage because of what the society would say
verbal abuse escalates to physical, run!!
Yes!When you end up dead,society will still talk.
Society wil always have something to say.if u die there they wil say u were.stupid .better leave alife b4 its too late.
Kabisaa
Sure..don't.
As parents, we need to stop forcing our daughters to stay in abusive marriages. Are you waiting to be called that she has been killed then start regretting?
They let her down.
So very true Bella 💯
Toxic African culture
@@joanmiksabel3598 1000%. This man could kill this woman.
@@mamajojovegan it's not just African culture. It's people being afraid to face what's going on. I've heard of and known people of AA, Asian and White cultures that have told there daughters the same thing. I was told that the first time I left my first husband by my Mom who had gone through much worse then I was at the time. I listened that time but when it happened again, I didn't. I got the heck out and stayed out. When he tried to kill me, there was no way I was going back, child or not child (one of the reasons I was told I should try to make it work).
What women go thru in this streets,even God gets angry of us because we don't know our worth,Lynn u always inspire me with the stories u bring along
That's what happens when we love man more than God.
@@trixieke8462 absolutely..
Deep
We don't tell our story to gain pity or act like victims.we tell our story to inspire,encourage and to give people strength. To let them know that many others have experienced this too. And that walking out of a domestic violence relationship is possible. And that we should note those red flags and find safe exit. And that we need to learn about "Trauma bond".And that there is better life after DV.And ,"you are not alone." we will tell our stories to give you hope.We are abuse survivors and no matter what,the light that shines in us will always be brighter than the darkness that is outside of us.
Thank you Lynn for being so generous with your show, you offer a lot of wisdom, support and assurance that victim and survivors of domestic abuse are not alone. So valuable.
True
True Suzzy has come from far she has healed and has been through alot i love this girl
True.
narcissistic personality disorder is affecting african families in a big way, traumatised people trying to raise families, lets break this generational curse today!!!! wow she survived!! great show !! do more on this !!
True,people don't realise it though
Narsistics personality in our culture have always been there but now people speak about it. Many women have died from that personality due to abuse. They re most abusive men or women in the society
Exactly 💯 this woman was dealing wth a heartless Narc 💔 😢 😪 she's strong 💪 for surving and telling her story.
Narcissistic people are the worst.They can torment you until you can get mental illness.Avoid these people like the plague.
1ST PEOPLE HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THERE'S A SERIOUS PROBLEM THAT PEOPLE ARE SUFFERING AND STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THE NARCISSIST... MOST OF THE TIME IT'S THE MOTHER OR FATHER AND THEY SHOW A DIFFERENT FACE TO THE WORLD AND PICK CERTAIN CHILDREN AS THEIR FAVORITES SO IT'S NOT EASY
That my past marriage story......he use to tell me one day you will hug your co-wife and don't forget we were together from grass to grace....but when God bless us i hugged my first co-wife 2012.....after two yrs they part ways....2018 i hugged another co-wife....but i had to move out from that marriage .....God of vegence have won my battles.....mother of one teen boy.....so far so good
So sorry 🥺.
So sad. Am glad you walked out
Why were you hugging them
@@bettyk9771 to welcome them to our home
@@funkejames7482 Jesus! I’m so sorry
Never force a relationship with a man who does not love you. True love is never one-sided (1 Corinthians 13).
Lest you find yourself alone in the relationship. With no love, miserable, beaten, abused, down trodden, lacking direction, with support. Surely this people who quote religion as reason for staying. You just confuse me. Which God would want you in such a situation? Yaani what will he gain by your misery
How do you know true love??? And how do you know the other person loves you?
@@nsibidiakwaabasi7456 by how they treat. With respect and concern. They want the best for you.
True love exists but its usually very brief.
I taught this young girl and she was great....just lovely. For me, this is too close home. It breaks my heart. Inspite of coming from a wonderful family, this girl was and is humility itself. Love you very much Susan and I am glad you can smile again.
Don’t STAY with a man “for the sake” of the kids. We are the one who suffer and will PAY endless money for therapy, if we are fortunate.
True 💯
It can also be quite damaging for the kids too, as her story clearly illustrates.
@@betty541 It not just can, it WILL damage the kids. I'm 69 years old and my sibs and I still remember and sometimes hurt from the mess my Dad put us and Mom through.
Many partners Use the children as an excuse to stay in a toxic marriage. That is a huge burden for kids to carry that mom or dad stayed because of them. Leave excuses and do what is right.
You are so correct.
Waiting for part two, hearing Susan's story I am inspired to also tell my story. I too stayed for 22 years in a marriage I shouldn't have stayed in and 12 years of separation. I have never had the courage to divorce although the marriage broke long before it started.
Great lady,she helped me with a custody issue .
Lynn I am from the beautiful Caribbean island of St Vincent and the grenadines but residing in Canada. I love, appreciate and looks forward to your contents. Hoping to one day visit Kenya and get to meet with you. LOVE YOU LYNN.
Hi Rose Bank
You can come to Kenya 🇰🇪 with me...I live in Alberta but I visit Kenya...
@@waridim9249 that would be awesome 👌
Thank you for your support Rose Bank.
Hi Rose bank. Would you connect me in Canada please
@@waridim9249 where in Alberta? I’m in Alberta too
From the moment he told you "if you want a wedding,plan it" that was the first red flag....But am so proud of you,you are one stron woman..
Sure...that was one big one red flag
ruclips.net/channel/UCTmHOU3TeQjpkuBQzvV8vuQ
Wah the first one was I will take care of your child and I want us to have a baby no more commitment or love
No,d flag started wn hi said 'iwant t take care ov yo child n have another child 2geza '.....2rd boom 'u want a wedding?then go a head's.
Lynn, I'm South African! 🙏🏼🙇♀️
Love you and your work. You are doing a splendid work and we appreciate you. I'm challenged by the language sometimes but with just the sound of it, I'm OK. Promise you there's not even one interview I missed. Keep on keeping on, Much love!
Yhuuuu now coming to the interview with Susan the professional? God is good, you're out of that hell fire babes! He was jealous of you and your life. I think you should have told us about his upbringing as well. I bet he didn't get to be brought up by two loving parents! 🤞🏼
Keep doing God' work Susan, 🗣️
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
When I realised that my "X hubby" was toxic,he used to punch🤜 me when making love akikuwa juu yangu,who does that🙄😢😭 I'm the one who told him,"IM AIN'T YOUR WIFE I WANTED CHILDREN"ad that was it,now 21years single ad doing well,God is my husband 🙏Thanx Lynn for the story 😘 ❤
Hey Mary, sending you love and light💛💛
@@LynnNgugi Aaaaaawwww!Thanks soo much Lynn❤ 🫂 hoping to share my stories to this family ad funs of Lynn show.nimepitia my dear buh all in all God gave me wisdom in away ad all is well
Omg. Thanks God you left the psychopath be blessed
That is very sad and abit funny,waah women are suffering
That's rape. Surely. God bless you for leaving him
As a single lady have learn't so so much from this channel and what I can tell my fellow women is never ignore that first red flag, never convince yourself that you can change a grown up man coz the truth is "YOU CAN'T". Let's learn to love and stand up for ourselves.
My dear sister
Your husband was bewitched
Seek prayers
Your story reminds me of my life in marriage. I was made to sleep on the floor when pregnant of my second born baby.
Veeeeeeery true 🔥🔥🔥👏👏👏
@@luisambithe3243 Ahhhh. That is awful. Thsi is why we are failing as a race becuase the men do not appreciate women and children and in return others do not respect them. Shameful behaviour. I hope you are well now?
Also remember, there is jealous when a woman is beautiful and blessed . They always try to bring you down. The truth is this girl is very beautiful beautiful and that can be a reason for jealousy. Also the fact that she is from wealthy family.
Women, we should learn to stick up for ourselves. Never let a man degrade you. Don be swayed by men esp if they may be too good to be true and learn to walk away. You deserve better!
I learned. The first step is to stop sleeping with them. It completely seperates you spiritually from that person. It worked like magic. Slowly the emotions left and boom my eyes opened.
Hope Lynn gives me a chance to share my story someday.
Sent emails but guess tuko wengi.
I have transplanted eyes.
Been through 4 eye surgeries.
Through 10 year domestic abuse.
Gone to America and back to Africa for the sake of my kids since Iam a single mom.
My kids and I missed eavh other too much we could no longer take the distance!!
I went to Kenya High and UoN..
I have a story but few opportunities to share.
Heeeey I want to listen to it.
Oooh no! Sending you hugs wherever you are. Stay strong!
I love 💕💕💕 Lynn
@@inspireasoulchangealife6198 you can.
Iam healed now and I like to share to testify and to encourage others!!
I'm glad you're healed and it's a testimony.May wonderful things keep happening in your life🙏🏿🙏🏿
I've cried watching this. Brings back memories because I can relate 100%. Story of my life too.
Can we just appreciate how beautiful this woman is inside out!
And her voice is just great
The day you realize you don't owe anything to the society with their judgement you become so free.Society can lead you into doing some crap and they over there living their lives.Thanks for sharing your story and Lynn you the GOAT!
And then your kids and yourself end up paying for it, "society" is trash
Sure it is antil u know u owe no one ua life n live ua life the way u would lk to not pleasing or caring what the society will say...unfortunetly many hv died protecting their names when i know i was one of them until i realize life is on my hands n steped out to count out the sky stars m realized how blssd i was
G.O.A.T .....(Greatest Of All Time)just to clarify ! I almost got upset the first time l read it before processing it properly 🙃 😅
@@ariseshine08 helped a soul
This is very true
Thank you for sharing your story Susan, you are so gorgeous inside and out.
The challenge with our African societies is the perception that Marriage is an ultimate goal in life which makes women aspire to very patriarchal narratives & practices of marriage. Men’s violence and abuse towards women goes unpunished because the law caters to masculine domination at the expense of women. This story is so heartbreaking on so many levels. But I applaud your strength Susan, thank you.
From this I conclude that violence can demean you no matter how educative and learned you are hugs mum its well
I put emphasis on how we raise our African girl child. It is absolutely wrong to teach them to endure abuse neglecting to teach the boy child how to respect a woman. This is lifelong slavery preparation. This is a mental issue, not only financial. Speak up against GBV and a paradigm shift is critical esp. on how we raise our kids and our parents/generation should be flexible for the women not to be at the men"s mercy. Whats the point at the end of the day? A dead married child or a divorced, sane and alive child? With this stance on endurance, men will never respect women, as long as they get to know you cant go back home, you are finished.
Sometimes you don't even need to go home. If you are a grown woman with a job, or skills to run a business why go back home? To do what? Just move out, your family will adjust to the change of circumstances
@@Kakwasi Exactly! 💯 Grown ups leave their parents' home. They don't have to be married to live in their own space.
@@waridim9249 yes I move out of my mothers house when I was 23 she wasn’t happy about it but I didn’t care I’m now 29 and doing great
This one hits deep,relatable ..I chose to rewrite my story!thank you to those mother's/parents/support systems that embrace us after such odeals.. love and light to you mama❤️
For me I can’t stand such marriage I grew up suffering seeing many women go through hell , I decided never to suffer bse of a man that’s why I work so hard , marriage isn’t achievement
I agree with you @Patience
Tell them bby
I agree with you @patience
Sailing in the same boat
Sure
Growing up in a dysfunctional family gave me an idea of "what kind of home I did not want for myself" later in life. I'm grateful for that; because I'll never allow a man to treat me like I'm sub-human. It hurts seeing beautiful, intelligent women suffer abuse in marriages. Also, what's with (African) parents refusing their daughters to come back home alive, after a relationship fails?? We can do better!
In most cases poverty push women to tolerate abuses.
@@justinamusyoka4986 very true. Most people are running away from the problems at home
Not only poverty but also titles
He didn't have to treat her so bad even if he did not love her. That was soo inhuman😖 Karma does not forget. Susan is a strong brave woman of God. Survived by God's grace. Sue, you are blessed and loved by God. God is a God of second chance.. Wait and see the faithfulness and mercy of God upon you and your children IJN 🙏💝💐
This was clearly a case of mismatched expectations and needs. I have come to learn that love is not enough in a relationship leading to marriage. I feel for the kids coz they end up suffering for mistakes we make when choosing partners. As a society we should start learning to treat courting like an interview for the greatest job..that of a Life partner. Lay your values, personality, expectations, ambitions, boundaries clearly.. Then LISTEN carefully to a person's responses, cues, thoughts, nuances, body language, behavior in front of others, their past, and views on as many topics as possible that you can discuss.
It will save you major tears and regrets later if we just learn to listen to white and red flags in a person before we make such major decisions in life. 'fear of missing out' and thinking we can change people later will set you up for failure. Grown ups don't just change.. They are set in their ways and will take major will power to just make minor adjustments for you.
When a person tells you something about themselves the first time, believe it!
Yes!
That's well put.👍🏾
Well said!
💯💯
I had a neighbour who was going through the same,she was also a practising lawyer.The husband would kick her and lock her outside the house....why she wasn't leaving yet she was financially stable, I never understood. It is until I experienced them fighting in front of kids and all the kids were crying, my heart sunk and I was so mad with her.I told her that if she can't use her brain and realise those kids do not deserve that trauma,she should never come to my house as she usually did when things get bad.Thank God when I stopped entertaining her,she decided to move out and got a better place with her kids! Narcism is real in these streets.
I know someone like that too.. Sad beyond words
I was hanging on EVERY word! This is like listening in on two sisters! Lynn, I'm watching you from the US and can I just tell you I love how you relate to every woman you profile. You ask the questions I'm wondering in such a thoughtful and intelligent way. THANK YOU for what you are doing! You bring a voice to domestic issues that affect women in a profound way! I can't wait for part 2!
Hmmm... Ladies, have a healthy self-esteem! Do NOT allow anyone at all to abuse you. Your worth is found in Jesus Christ alone. Don't allow anyone to devalue you. You are Royal (1 Peter 2:9) and you deserve the best in all things. God bless. 🙏🏽
Soo sad glad she is okay … and also i appreciate this is in English because some dont even have the slightest English will really appreciate if u put English subtitles on the ones without English please 🙏people around Africa like us are watching aswell ❤️🔥
They actually do put English subtitles...thats why when each show begins they write on the screen for u to turn on the English subtitles(which is "cc" at the top right)... Thats what I always do just when I click on their shows.
@@machayibwalya2915 foreal ? Okay thanks for the heads up i ll check them out
Such an amazing woman! She doesn't deserves her husband at all. Bright career and her children are her blessings. This world may not be kind to her, but God has His eye on her. God loves and take care of the broken hearted. Psalm 147:3
I passed by
Gazed into the coffin
My friend is gone
Year after year
Abused by her husband
Hoping 'tomorrow' would be better
My friend is gone
What kept her
In this marriage
I do not know
Gone forever, never to return...
Woman, you are not alone
You can and will succeed
Beyond this 'farce' of a marriage
Make up your mind
Take a step out
Because with God you can
Beautiful !
Beautiful message.
How I pray to recollect my strength n walk out of this hell I'm in
@@sandrandai6180 May you find the strength you need to make a choice. You have that right. May the Lord come through for you!!!!!!
Lynn all your stories touches me..and indeed it helps us understand the transition of life
I find it very insulting to tell someone they are ugly , we were created in God's imagine.. every one has there own beauty and we are all wonderful
one bafoon tried it on me...i have 2mirrors in my house.. i asked him to use them and tell me if he was proud of what he was seeing....that was the last abuse
@@clementineonami hehe good one
How do men succeed in bringing women down like this? She is so beautiful, with brains and empowered and with a gap between her teeth, traditionally that's a sign of beauty.
Yeah even me in our culture the gap symbolises beauty and many women will give anything to have it. Probably the man had low self esteem and inferiority complex. She is very beautiful and smart in head and a very good career
I am so puzzled as to why he wanted to have a baby with her..and why he proceeded to marry her, albeit reluctantly, and then treated her so badly. What was the point? It was all so unnecessary. Si angetafuta mwenye anapenda amuoe?
@@betty541 narcissists and psychopaths thrive in making people miserable
@@Kakwasi Ok. So, that means that after her, he could have moved on to abuse another victim? Just as he abused her? That's scary.
@@betty541 Yeah unfortunately a narcissist thrive by making people miserable. He will definitely do the same to more women
This woman is beautiful👌. You didn't lose anything mama, that man is a loser! You are blessed for having such a wonderful heart🙏🎉.
Abusive marriages affect everyone even those outside the couples circle. If one can, run and do not look back.
I think your channel is helping me learn a lot a bout life.. Im able to avoid mistakes other people made that made them be in tough situations... Thank you LYNN
Really glad to hear this🙏🙏
How I wish I would visit Lynn just to share my story I just love the way she does her work
Lll
Now this is pure wisdom! Learning from others mistakes!!
People sacrifice way too much for this thing called Marriage...Women Love yourselves unconditionally...marriage is not even an achievment
I wonder where they get that strength coz as for me that grace I don't have
True.. how I wish this good news spread fast
My ex-hubby has a twin I see. This is my story😭. You're a powerful beautiful woman. I'm sorry you went through that.
I like this talk show. It has an authentic and humane thing about it. The modern African stories are amazing without the ratchet OTT manufactured drama we tend to see in some shows here the west.
Another day to remind you that ABUSE IS NOT ONLY BEATING AND PUNCHING...
We have Verbal abuse ...
It's a read flag also..
Beautiful Lynn and Susan❤️❤️
I agree
Very true
@@Mimik70-w3t No abuse is better....
And Emotional Abuse.Financial Abuse...Mental Abuse... It is also
@@Mimik70-w3t preach ma!
Weh...such a thrilling story,,I too went through hell in my marriage of 6yrs and finally i left with 2 boys ..
He never used to provide for his family,alot of insecurities and rules like ones in a constitution..
Finally 5yrs down the line,,am grateful to God,it has not been easy but managing with my kids and all grown..
Never let a man manipulate you for the sake of children,run run away and despite discrimination from family or society sometimes,peace is very important for growth.
Fear men they are full of surprises, sometimes I sit down and picture mahself getting married and mah heart start pumping hard koz you never know what to expect from that, and the stories you hear and see ogopa ndume
Parents as your kids,offer us emotional support it’s very important
Family status can never be compared to someone peace of mind
She’s a courageous lady
A
Beware of narcissists! They feed on your suffering.
True...
I cannot believe my ears! What you went through is indescribable! You’re a beautiful, intelligent lady with flawless skin, please don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Things i don't miss.. A big shout out to LN for bringing yet another amazing episode💕💕 ready to listen...
Lynn, thank you for presenting Susan to us. All the women on this planet with access to RUclips need to subscribe to this channel. Every story you upload opens our eyes, and touches our hearts. You , your crew and your guest are restoring my soul. Susan, you are so courageous. I am so happy God kept you alive to reach me all the way across the world. I am praying for your continued healing. And btw....you are BEAUTIFUL!
Never stay in an abusive marriage for fear of what society might say.U end up losing so much physically,emotionally..Am glad u finally divorced that narcissist.Lynn you and your guest look beautiful.Thanx for airing this stories to educate us
Women are strong... I walked out when I realized that the good community, church, friends, etc can do is to burry me and say she was saying, she has persevered. I said no to narcissist.. Am freeeee..
I can relate very well.I would urge our Family members to change their attitude towards their loved ones.When a woman opens their mouth to say or report what they are going through, trust me that is just a tip of the iceberg. It's always bad.I feel you Susan.its well.
Very Emotional. I thank God she is a survivor. What is encouraging about her life story is that she never gave up her profession which made her not rely on her husband financially. It enabled her to find a house for herself without depending on anyone else
I will talk to my daughters abt the things parent don't talk about of marriage to them, marriage is not a prison it's a place of happiness nd someone start being hostile u have the ryt to walk out,I will tell them they will always be welcomed back ata wakiwa na watoto kumi
You start talking to your daughters early enough. Educate them about their body, respecting and just being open.
I did it with mine I used to wash and shower with her since she was very young. My mother never taught me anything and I hated it and she went through cold war from her husband. I vowed either never to be married or marry a man who respects me and I got the latter.
Now as a grown up daughter she is spot on won't take any rubbish from anybody and I feel proud as a mother. Not yet married but has a boyfriend who respects her.
What's makes me strong as a single mum is just knowing that God Almighty loves me and my kids. He is everything we are today. Susan i will get to you for divorce when I come back home.Be strong for God have a plan and purposes for you and your kids
The fact that he married his late bestfriend's girlfriend just to mistreat her is still a mystery to me. This is just sad! society will not be enduring the pain with you as you are getting abused.. So ladies there is absolutely no reason to stay in an abusive marriage. Btw kids pick up on this so for their sake as well LEAVE!!
Susan is an embodiment of resilience. Her sharing her story with us is a testament to this. She has helped many start their healing journey, helped others realize they are not alone, and above all there is nothing that can't be overcome. Be mightily blessed both Lynn and Susan for this important work and the courage to hold a light to many who are lost ❤️🌹
Mad respect to all women they really pass alot sometimes in their marriages men let us take care of this wonderful women we have in our lives
Suzzy I'm very sorry for what you went through 🤧🤧😭😭
When I met Susan for the first time I saw a beautiful virtuous woman with integrity, discipline, and more. A woman aimed at making her husband's life better, teaching her children, and serving god. this, essentially is the meaning of a virtuous woman..
Thanks for giving me a chance to work with Suzy Telkom.. it was such a blessing....
Let's help Susan get full custody of her children...
I love how genuine and honest she was. Even when there was fault on her side she mentioned it
Waa, my story of 20 years is being told by an experience of 5 years. I still haven't spoken about it publicly 🙈 but I have overcome through a struggle
Abuse victims are often blinded by fear and entrapment. Mental Health, counseling should be encouraged.......
Most of us want our marriages to work, so we do everything in our power to protect it especially if you listen to society who are very judgemental.
A lot of Narcissist husband will make you think you are nothing until you lose your confidence and self-esteem you end becoming a walking shadow of yourself.
True
True, they make you feel like you don't deserve anything good
Well said
So true
Yeah true
Me listening to this,it takes me back to what i used to go through,i can recall nkichapwa asubuhi na mapema ati because i had received his sidechics call on his phone,been through shit too,been trying heal but it gets to no vail...Think i need someone to help me heal.
May you find peace in the Lord Wendy.
Hi Wendy!! All the joy you are looking for starts from within you dear.. It is possible to heal
My storu
A great testimony of what happens behind the curtains. sometimes people can be seeing you driving a posh car, well-groomed and having a nice mansion but they don't know your story and darkest moments. all in all God is faithful
The more I watch your channel the more I get scared of what people call love
True
Same here..scary
Same and am married
Don't be afraid, people have different experiences, just put God first
This woman is amazing I am so happy you survived such an abusive relationship and come out well.
I think people should know that narcissism has no known cure so don't think things will get better if you stay
But they know what they're doing best thing is to leave and never look back.
I can imagine the pressure she had at her working office oo God mental health is very important and if someone can't give you then it becomes hell on earth. This is so painful the guy just knew what he wanted to do with the lady not marriage. A lawyer going through this and shes needed to help us 😭
Am I the only who who never cares about what people think ?I do me ,I live my life and make decisions what work for me .being scared of what people will think can bury yo
I love how strong susan is even though she went through so much pain and humiliation in the past.
I salute you mama 😍
This is more than painful to watch! As Women we have to learn to stand up for ourselves! As parents we must learn to leave our doors open for our daughters to come back. 😭😭😭
A working woman should never stomach nonsense,nobody can feel ones pain and betrayal.
Marriage is not the ultimate achievement in life. A Husband is not God!! It's your life, only you can feel the thorns on the bed you are sleeping on.. Don't mind what other people will say, it's your life. Never wait for a man to tell you they don't want you.. You can manage on your own better when you are in a happy place. Susan I wish you happiness and joy and freedom 🙏🏿😘🤗
This 👏 👏
Say that again. 👏
I shouted Amen to that 🙏
But Sister Jane you said everything well, except your first sentence. Successful Marriage is the greatest achievement as it is beautiful building block of our society and communities.
@@mohammedallah8083 you are right brother. A successful happy marriage is a wonderful thing. What I meant is the pressure that society and family puts on a woman or man to stay in the marriage no matter the abuse. It should not be a do or die thing to stay in an abusive marriage. There is no price to be worn for enduring abuse in marriage. There is and should be no shame in leaving an abusive marriage.
The hospital part when nurse wondered whether he was the husband it's so emotional😭😭💔💔the pain is too much.
Being born in a girls only family doesn't guarantee you to fear people, I come from one and am very tough and so are my siblings, no man can take advantage of me .no never.let's say her parents didn't teach them how to be tough and fight for themselves .who brings you up is very important than where you're Brought up
Me too
It affects. Not every body but most people. You just don't know how to act around men.
I'm called stubborn 😂🤣 because I don't tolerate nonsense...if it's wrong it's wrong I don't sugar coat.
@@beegal3310 Good Girl,that's the way !
Hi gal. Congratulations...I need you to come speak to my 3daughters.. 2 of them are tough... And one even is training for taekwondo classes... I pray they get tough as this life demands .
When you said there are people who had a silver spoon , and life turned out the other way .... I can relate.. I relate
An empowered lawyer to endure all this!!!!! Life is strange In deed.I left my marriage with no job,no plan,I was pregnant with his second child,I terminated it immediately.ladies never ignore a red flag because it will come back to haunt you later.
Oh my! Our kids were in the same school. Such a humble lady, beautiful inside and out. I like that she is encouraging many of us.
Thats a Narcissistic man.Thank God she found herself and she is overcoming it. That was an emotional interview.
In Urban Nguni we call it "Bazothin' abantu Syndrome" when somebody cares so much what other people would say or think. I can only imagine what kind of turmoil that type of thinking brings to the soul. In fact I know a bit of it. I suffered it during childhood. This lady really when through the most.
Wow Susan, you are beautiful! This was a DIABOLICAL husband....many, many lessons in this candid n remarkable interview. Thanks for sharing...Couples...Red flags, red flags, red flags....you could have lost your life....
Thank you Lyn. We can't wait for part two. God bless her and all strong women and men who take bold moves to walk away from toxic relationships.
Oh my goodness,this is too much to bear,I'm literally crying 😭😢😂😂,may God bless you wherever you are,just find it in your heart to forgive him and let go. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Dear Susan this is such an educative conversation, i hope we women would learn to put ourselves first & know that a dysfunctional marriage affects the children more✊thankyou for your courage❤️
She is so brave🙏🙏
Such a great and touching story.thans for sharing
Oh I can't wait for part 2! I can relate to Susan's story😭😭 mob love 💕💕
The pain that women go through in the name of marriage.
Madam @Susan you're so beautiful
You're a strong woman sorry for what you went through God is great 🙏 you overcome the pain much love 💞💞💞💞
Lynn your platform has really helped me alot to Learn more as a young lady as I grow up to a woman's image....keep the good work and may God bless you for impacting lives outside here...and when someone's tell their story doesn't mean they want pity but to help other lives outside here not to fall into
This is so saddening 😭😭 though inspiring..hugs dear
What a narcissist.....women lets believe men when they tell you what they want( dating season) don't force things to fit what you want.
Church girls get played so much coz of being naive.
Lynn you are just an amazing interviewer 👌
Part 2 please
Susan, my dear namesake, what your children are going through is a picture of my childhood. Today, even my scars are not showing, so their future is glorious.
You're life and that of your children is for signs and wonders.
Jesus is using your story to make you a better lawyer and a better person. God bless you and see you at the top.❤
Lyn you look glamorous
Susan you are amazing.
My take home.. nomatter what the society say,I will never stay in abusive rship
Women do sacrifice a lot for their kids, but as much as it hurts sometimes they need to love themselves and say enough is enough.
Well said Doree
A sacrifice that makes no sense at times. As you endure abuse, the same kids are also enduring it. They grow up damaged and they continue the cycle of hurting others. Remember misery loves company