Should parents charge adult kids rent? Inside the family debate
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- Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
- With rising housing costs and soaring student debt, half of U.S. adults between the ages of 18-29 are opting to live at home - and that has led some parents to charge their adult kids rent. NBC’s Kaylee Hartung reports for TODAY on the growing trend that has mixed reactions.
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Paying $200 isn’t realistic. The average rent in Denver is $1,800
My son pays us $1500 rent and he appreciates it because he knows how expensive his own apartment and utilities would be not to mention any housing he could afford in our area would like be in a neighborhood were his car Would be stolen frequently.
Clearly you commented before you watched the full video
Depends whether you rent the whole house.
$200 is less than many family’s cable or cell phone bill. The parents are very generous to not charge more.
It's still absurd either way and a burden for no reason. It doesn't teach anything.
They charge more she can't get out. What would be the purpose of charging more than she can save.
My parents gave me all
The rent back as a gift for my first
Home. I also went to nursing school and my parents didn’t charge me then until I got a job.
I'm praying mine do the same but i have my doubts so Im trying to save what I can til the day comes when I can finally move out.
You were doing something with your life. Not sitting around causing your parents stress.
im trying to save money now for my sisters down payment. in asian families we try to work together. also california is expensive. my mom taught us to work together.
i felt really good when i paid for their vacation to thailand! my parents did all they could . i cant imagine when they moved to this country w so little.
i also taught my younger siblings to do what i did. be resourceful. apply for scholarships. work when you can part time. dont put a hand out. our parents dont even make minimum wage since they are immigrants
We have allowed both of our children to live at home rent-free while they were going to college. Our thought is that is our way to help them out since we do not have the money to pay for their schooling. Not having to pay rent, utility bills or food bills has allowed them to finish college and be basically debt free when they get out, versus being riddled with a mountain of debt that they have to dig themselves out of after college. We want to help set them up for success. They both have credit cards that we had them open to gain some credit...they are aware of the importance of paying them off every month. They are expected to work as much as they are able during school and work FT jobs in the summer, buy their own vehicle (we bought their first ones in high school), pay for their own gas, pay for their vehicle insurance and own cell phone bill. They are both good kids, respectful in our home and are good students academically, which is how it is able to work for us. I also have to mention that they both are going to community colleges so they ended up not needing to take out school loans and only lived with us for a few years after high school. We do expect them to move out after college.
I agree with you and I’m not just saying that cause I’m 20 and still live with my parents
Totally understandable.
My parents were perfectly fine with me living with them at no expense because I was studying/in school. And even when I started working (I did try and help pay), they wouldn’t allow me to pay for anything. My parents told me to keep saving so I could afford a good place in a safe neighborhood.
My parents are really awesome 💯❤️
Wow incredible 😊
My parents are paying reparations for the mental abuse by not charging me rent. They don't need money as they were lucky to buy a home before housing inflation and get jobs without a college degree and still pay for a house. I will move out until I pay off my card and student loan debt and save enough to rent a place where I can live in peace without interruptions from the outside.
Why did your parents show you so much kindness and yet you cannot wait to leave the house? I am sure your parents can live with less stress if you can quickly get out n pay the rent outside for yourself.
If I were your parents, I will ask you to leave now , since living with your own parents is so stressful n you want to be free of them. Just go now.
Lucky
@@kaistitch2967 very
Asian families usually kids help pay rent for parents once they can start working
The last part is 100% correct. When they do move out many don't return and you will miss them. ❤
Adult kids should not have to be charged. They should OFFER AND INSIST on paying SOMETHING. It's called being a responsible adult.
I have a 20 and 22 year old and they started to pay $150/month each three months ago. They actually like paying something to help out which is the way it should be.
I pay $600/mo but it depends where they are in their careers and how much is made. THen you can increase that amount as they make more.
Absolutely.
My son moved back in with me at 21, just after he got out of the military on medical discharge, so he was receiving medical pay and going to college on the GI bill. He was giving me $300 a month to help with electricity (went up 30% with him here) and food. It's very expensive to live in Hawaii so that was a big help. I myself was giving my parents (back in the 80s) $150 a month after HS and working full time.
Hi, I live in Hawaii too. No military background but I finished school and have a white collared job but the pay is just not sufficient to live independently. It’s not that I haven’t tried to apply for high paying jobs but at this point I feel so discouraged because they just deny me even an interview because they want experience. I actually grew up in a multi-generational home and was raised by both my parents and grandparents and thought it was the norm. Eventually my grandparents and father passed away and left the house to my mother and a small percentage to me and my sister. I still live in the home but help out my mother when she is in need of cash for large unexpected expenses because she doesn’t work and has a lot of health issues. Mother told me she doesn’t feel right to charge rent because she was mostly a housewife and my father was the provider and accumulated all the wealth and assets when he was living. She was also criticized and not trusted from my father’s side of the family for that reason so she always felt the property truly belong to me and my sister who are his children which I think is not really true and she is entitled to his properties and assets to benefit her!
Totally understandable he is still young , and doing good with his life with military background and still helping out. I would do the same for mine.
@@jon6309 DOn't give up at least you are trying your best. It is ok to try something different like moving to another state that offers more opportunity. That is what my 21yr old son does he was just in Hawaii , he works tourism and travel. He went to UTAH and is now in Colorado doing well. with his CDL LIC.
@@kmc1steelers998 I’m actually thinking of moving to Japan because it’s very affordable now but an aunty who lives there warned me that their immigration policy is very strict and it’s hard to get a visa to live there long term.
@@jon6309 I would give it a shot. I have a dear friend of mine who is a teacher there and she really loves it, and they pay well.
How are people supposed to save for a home, if parents are charging rent?
😂😂😂😂? 200 a month?? Really? It's just paying for their own food !! Especially now
There’s migrants that get here with nothing at all and 2-3 years later they’re buying a house. Once you’re 18 you’re old enough to be responsible for your own financial stability in life
@@rickyricardo5423 Not possible unless they earn 300k a year.
You will live NO WHERE for 200 a month. You can easily save paying that.
I`m 23, living with my parents (Russia), don`t plan to move out until I get married and start my own family. I don`t pay them rent, but I try to help out (buy food, do chores etc) plus don`t ask them for money. Totally satisfied, hope they are too :D
My son offered to pay rent when he graduated high school. I declined and told him to save and invest.
He was still so young, and I understand that, when he get's 30 and needed to come back that is different, and if he has children that is different. The additional help, is needed in these circumstances.
$200 a month is not too bad. She’s right a single room is like $800 plus split utilities.
Where I live, it's $700 a month for a one bedroom one bath apartment, and $800 a month for a two bedroom two bath apartment, and that doesn't include utilities! Yikes! The average salary here where I live for one person is $22k a year. I work in a small town 20 minutes away from where I live (in the country with my parents), and I make almost $37k a year including yearly bonuses, but that's before taxes, so it's more like $31k after taxes. I'm probably going to have to get a part time job on the side and save up even more, that way when I'm ready to move out, I'll be able to put a big down payment on a house.
@@MobileGamingChronicles what area are you in? $800 for a two bedroom apartment is like half of what the rate is here. Honestly it’s insane we should need 2 jobs just to rent and live. Especially when you consider what is going on with immigration, why are we allowing so many people here for opportunities when our own young people are so disenfranchised we have to work multiple jobs just to barely afford to rent a lonely apartment, no mention of a family or kids, a house and land… things that we are actually entitled to, not for free, but for a reasonably attainable cost. Housing is so expensive because it is in high demand because of the current invasion via immigration.
@@bluecolumbine I agree. I live in Mount Airy, North Carolina.
@@MobileGamingChronicles Sounds like your in Macomb Illinois
Is this what’s on the agenda next? Normalizing kids paying rent to their parents? Explains why abortion laws getting repealed and now child labor laws going out the window….. let’s get a way to make kids pay…. Like they aren’t already living ridiculously complex lives now required just for them to graduate.
What kind of a family are these … who throws their own children out … being responsible is the quality they will learn from parents …
I am one of the ones that lived with my parents after I graduated from college until I was 30 and went to PA school thanks to the awesome price of housing in the Bay Area. I had a full time job and went to night school at a community college but my parents never had me pay rent instead my paycheck went into a my own personal savings account. However I understand parents who do make their children pay rent to live there I just feel that it shouldn’t be at 18 but maybe 21 or 22 and above and it’s each individual parents choice what they want to do and we shouldn’t judge them for it and I would rather they have their child pay rent instead of kicking them out of their home at 18.
I didn’t charge my daughter rent but she has to pay her part of the cell bill and buy her own food/necessities. I’m actually happy she’s stayed home because rent where I am at has skyrocketed I told her to try to wait till things settle down. Another important thing is to start building your credit
My parents charged me rent so that when I moved out it taught me responsibility. I am never behind on my rent. So I think its good to charge rent if your child is working but if they're not working then they should at least do errands like laundry, groceries, walk the dog, etc until they do find a job. We have too many squatters that want to live off people for free because their parents did not teach them responsibility.
I love that parents do this! I think the parents are doing them such a favor by giving them low rent and building that habit of paying rent. Because lets face it, its easier to learn to be on a budget while expenses are still relatively low, and when parents don't have them pay rent kids are usually not prepared for the real world when its time to go. and lets be real $200 is a steal to be in a safe comfortable environment.
I disagree,
Gulk gulk gulk
I disagree I taught my kids financial freedom parents who charge there kids rent are just a product of the rat race that’s all
Children going to college full time - no rent
Children working full time - rent
Able-bodied unemployed children - homeless
"You got to get up, get out and get something."
- Outkast
Yes, this helps them to learn the responsibility of adulting as well as helps the household
My parents started charging me rent after I graduated high school. It taught me how to manage money and be responsible. When I moved out, my parents had given me all the rent money I gad paid them to help start my adult life!!
I was responsible and knew how to manage money long before graduating high school. How are a lot of people learning this after college?
YES
Well for me no. My son who still at home at 33 didn't pay for anything until he got first job,it was his idea to help out. Know he pays 80 percent of the rent,and does all up keep and he's just best room mate ever. However when he turned 20 we seperated from parent child relationship to roomate. I don't have to ask he just does it! He is looking to go out on his own but its so expensive,so hes building savings to find a home and raise a family. My son a year older moved out at 17 got a job and apt with friend, and my daughter moved out at 16 and my oldest at 19. But each child is different, some want and need to leave right away, others not so much lol. But each should contribute if they do stay. I never got a free home,and I loved working. But allowing adults to be lazy is so wrong ! Yes help don't contribute to lazy behaviours it helps no one hurts everyone.
I"m 40 and still at home..but that's because rent has gone up in PA and employers still pay unlivable wages to keep up with rent and inflation. not something anyone can control..but I do pay rent since I'm home for now.
I was out on the street at 16 due to my mother's death. I had no family to take me in. I am 41 now and have four children. I own my three vehicles and my home is paid off. I will charge my children rent if they are not going to school at age 18. Life is not free and no one in this world will give you anything for free. This is a hard lesson but a good lesson these young adults need to learn.
Being on your own forces you to grow up. This is why I think adult children should move out of their parents house.
@@lunistylz322 I worked under the table for a tree cutting service for roughly two years paying for motel rooms and sometimes staying in missions. Back then no one really questioned a teen on their own. Around 18 I got into a program with Job Service they paid my first months rent and deposit for a studio apartment. They also got me full-time legitimate employment with a thrift store it wasn't great but a start. Three months into my lease the management company I rented from seen I was struggling to pay rent and offered me a law care job with the company for 2.50 more an hour than what I was making. I did lawn care for roughly a year and a half when Darwin the head guy with the management company offered me a step up to maintenance. From there I took off running making money. I did maintenance for three years then left to a construction outfit and became a carpenter. Within 6 years of being under the table I owned about 3 thousand in tools and was making Davis Bacon wage as a carpenter which I still am today. That's how I made it.
@@AntiMasonic93 I agree. These parents are not doing their kids any favors by making life "comfortable" for them.
Great now im 19 1and i pay 800$ since lat august at least im not on the streets right till my car breaks down or an emergency comes out...Yay Im so responsible 😐.
My parents do that to me too .
Rent by me is too expensive. If family can afford it then don’t charge so they can save. On the flipside I know parents living with kids for free to save also. I live with family and we share rent. Although before Covid I was never home so I didn’t want to waste money paying separate Internet, rent, etc. when I hardly used it. My mom grew up with her grandpa living with them. I don’t see why more people don’t do it for affordability nowadays. I could’ve gotten a different roommate instead, but I already know that family and I get along super well so why not have them as my roommates?
I think it's important to point out that not all adults living with family members are young and just starting out. Some adults move back in to be connected with family. Some move back in to help care for their aging parents who are more likely to own their own homes and would like to stay there. Some lived independently and worked full-time jobs previously and, due to layoffs or injuries or other circumstances beyond their control, are currently unemployed, but they KNOW how to budget money; they just don't have enough of it for the time being, and living with family temporarily eases the financial burden.
My husband and I lived independently and paid all our own bills for 15 years before moving back in with my parents part-time. We have plenty of experience budgeting, paying off bills and student loans, and saving money. We both have 800+ FICOs. We bought two used vehicles with cash and never carry a balance on our credit cards. We don't need to be taught a lesson about how to manage money, and we don't pay my parents rent. HOWEVER, we DO pay rent to a separate landlord is a different state 2000 miles away where we live the other half of the time. Since Covid, my husband has been working remotely most of the time. We can't give up our rental near his job, nor can we commit to purchasing our own home closer to where our parents live because his corporate bosses have been extremely noncommittal about their long-term plans for work-from-home.
Because rent is so expensive on the west coast, even with rent-controlled housing, paying a second set of rent payments to my parents in the Midwest might strain our budget, and, frankly, my parents don't need the money. If they were to charge us more than a couple hundred dollars a month, we would just leave, and our parents really, really seem desperate to keep up around, probably because they don't want to lose easy access to their only grandchild, which is what would happen if we had to move back to the west coast full-time simply because of the long-distance involved. We like spending time in the Midwest, we're happy that work from home allows our daughter to have a close relationship with her grandparents, and the schools in the Midwest have been better for her. But, there's no reason we couldn't enroll her in her old school again if we had to move because our parents suddenly decided to charge us rent to live with them.
Due to my husband's highly specialized qualifications and work experience, it is extremely unlikely he would be able to find a job in a rural Midwest state. So, this is the way it is, and people who judge us for not paying our parents rent while we live at home really need to go mind their own business because this is the arrangement we've worked out. My mother grew up in a multi-generational household at a time when nobody paid rent to live with other family members. This is between us and our parents, and it's simply nobody else's concern.
200 dollars is help for the electricity water and food you use. It’s nothing .
Shouldn’t have kids if you can’t afford your bills though.
$200 bucks is nothing these days. I had to pay $50 a week in the 80s for rent which is the equivalent to $200 to $250 month in rent. And that was on a minimum wage of around $3.00 an hour.
While in school no! I want you to focus on your schooling and not worry about paying rent or even putting in extra hours at work to pay for your schooling. However once that's done Yes you should contribute a small fee to live under our roof. I did it at a younger age and it was a crazy amount that I had to pay. If your kids are working and finished school. Sure help out and it will teach you how to save money and it will also teach you to buy the things you need and not the stuff you want.
Day a person starts to become an adult is the day they move out of their parents home .
Not really u can move out but still ask ur parents for money like my brother his mortgage is only 500 he’s behind on his HOA fees and he ask for money all the time he has a child that I provide for financially more times then non it’s being less as she’s gotten older but he’s not on his own car insurance my mom have given him car after car because he’s recked his previous cars with accidents and claim it’s not his fault 😂 me I live at home I pay all my bills and help pay mom’s medical bills I have a savings I paid a small amount of rent just because u live outside the house don’t make u and adult especially when u can’t financially provide for u and ur kids by yourself if my mom was to pass today or tomorrow my brother would be homeless yes I would be forced to get my own place but for me it’s manageable because I don’t have kids debts and other responsibilities I would just have to get a second job
@@ScreamTatumRiley -So true
Use that money and buy her her own house
It’s depends if they are In college don’t charge them.If they have a goal in mind they are saving for like a house or car don’t charge them.The only way I think it would be fair to charge is if they are 21 plus years old and just waste their money.The reason I say 21 is because they get to experience a couple of years of being an adult and figuring out who and what they want to be without the added stress of me breathing down their neck for money.
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). Wen ppl live with their parents it can cause them to revert to the belief that just like in childhood they r unable to change negative conditions and stressors in their life the thing is they aren't actually a child anymore nor r they actually in the same situation they actually can change it now but being around their parents causes conditional powerlessness to kick in
Yeah my parents don’t charge me I’ll pay a bill here and there but I must respect their rules always. Also I will need to take care of them when they are older so they help me all they can now bc the point is I will have to care for them one day it’s a cultural thing
Your still doing your part with helping.
Same
I would say as long as you pay your parents rent for living in their home after you finish high school or after college is over, there isn't anything wrong with that. $200 per month is VERY low. That's what I paid my parents when I lived with them at age 23 in the year 1999, and I thought that was really good bargain back then. Utilities included as well.
I admire/respect young people so much more who live independently.
If not in college. YES!!!
I say it depends. IF the young adult is in school fulltime and working parttime for books and out of pockets expenses, then I would keep supporting them. However, if they are working and living at home then I would charge a modest amount of rent. I think $200.00 a month is modest. This barely covers the utilities they use. This is kind of a help the less mature young adult might need to make the transition. They change their own sheets, do their own wash, keep their own car, do their own cooking etc. I am IN FAVOR!
I think every family is different and this girl is paying 200 a month for rent not a 1000 a month if you dont want to charge your kids rent then so be it dont critize families for doing different some families teach there childrens how to be an adult nothing wrong with that either your parents provided for you for 18 years theres no issue to help them back i paid my parents rent i paid half of the utilities and they didnt ask me to do all that they literally only wanted 50 dollars a month i offered that because my parents did so much for me as a child growing up that i felt i needed to help them back i dont live with them anymore but i still try to help them as much as i can me and my husband arent rich but weve helped them with furniture and helped with vehicle issues i mean theres nothing wrong with giving back to your parents they do alot while your growing up i show them how much i appreciate them for that there only getting older they wont be around forever.
My thoughts, if you started earning $ and (may still) living with parents, as courtesy, contribute some (or pay portion of rent). With the current economic situation, helping each other out is the best we can do.
That's what we charge our adult child as well. She wants to help and it makes her feel good. When my husband and I and 2 kids lived in my mom's basement we paid $700/mo and that was 18 years ago (we were able to buy our own home 15 years ago)
Of course she doesn't mind staying with her parents. She is only paying $200 a month! That doesn't teach her anything!
So bankrupting your kids teaches you stuff?
We are adoptive grandparents of our soon to be 17 year old. My husband (papaw ) recently had a major surgery. Our sweet grandson has been such a HUGE help !! God surely blessed us with this one. I can't fathom charging him rent with all he does for us. I use a cane and he never fails to hold my arm as I manage getting into our car. He pays for his way far over with all the good he does. It is our honor to help him get a good foundation in life.
For most 18 years old, this might work. But those with disabilities or different cultures, than it may not work. IMO, it's all about the 'child' and the situation.
Oh yeah especially working grown child/children.
Wonderful parents! Teaching responsibility.
Of course charge rent. Maybe not a lot but at least something. Seems like a no brainer.
I have told my son starting when he was 10 that he wasn’t living at home after school for free. I told him that if he goes to college he can stay at home rent free and we will continue to pay for most of the expenses he has. When he gets a job after graduation and he wants to stay at home he will be paying rent which will go into an account that he will get back once he decides to leave. He has been told this repeatedly over and over since he was 10 and he doesn’t seem to have any problems with it
Not sure why is news, after you graduate and have a job is kind of natural that your obligation is to help the household. I mean is the least you can do for your parents
I think it all depends on situation
If u r responsible young adult, work, go to school and are respectful, u have a life outside of ur parents home, it would b natural to instinctively go shopping, pay some bills, help around.
If u r a deadbeat in ur room playing games. Time to leave
If u r living with single mom who struggles financially, u should definitely take a part in financial burdens.
If ur parents are financially secure u should finish college and leave home, no need to pay rent if u r a responsible adult and ur parents home is paid off etc
I'm Gen Z and very grateful I have been able to live at home after college. I have not been able to obtain gainful employment despite graduating top of my class in college, internships, and working multiple jobs through college. The world has changed.
This conversation truly makes me sad. I think of the film Moonstruck, and how sad the mother was when Loretta told her that she and Johnny were not going to move into the house with them after marriage. Yes, it was a large brownstone. Yes, they are an Italian/American family. I just don’t think that we TRULY appreciate the people we have in our lives anymore. When someone is living with you it doesn’t make YOU responsible for their food/cable/internet/cell/loans. People just used to appreciate the true nature of family. I can say this, I will never ask my ‘future’ children to leave, EVER. I have got to have room for them, and EVERYTHING that they are going to connect to in their life, in my life. My door will never be closed, ever- under any circumstances.
I would never move back in with my parents and not help them with that. Families work by helping each other. I would have no problem paying a few hundred a month to help my family. That is what we all are here for NOT TO TAKE.
Probably makes sense if costs are too, but only if they are earning money, not if they are a student, and if they do have time chores make sense as they prepare you for life and help out. Except if you can't earn barely any money due to minimum wage being set back lower than inflation. In the same vein, if your parents fell on hard times, house got reposessed whatever, most people would want to let them stay for free. It really goes both ways.
There's nothing wrong with this concept.
No moving boyfriends or husbands into my house!!!!!!
Boomers are just greedy
Charging them rent implies that they are going to be living their long term. These people should be looking at getting their own apartments even with roommates. If you can live at home and pay rent, why can't you live with other adults and pay rent.
Because it’s inconvenient and not as safe to live with strangers.
I’m so grateful to my family for providing literally everything I need and want.
I did not have to work at all while studying, and my tuition fees were 100% paid by them.
No debts!!!
Too expensive and unsafe. The parents still love their young family member
If my kids were looking for a job I wouldn’t charge rent until they’ve saved enough to be on their feet, then they can choose to live at home for a “discount” competitive with our area as I’d want them to learn responsibility but want them to pay off any debts like student loans/cc/car (if I am unable to provide those thingS) instead of gaining debt.
However if they pay to live at home, and again depending on my own situation as well, my hope is to save/invest that “rent” and offer it as a surprise back one day -- either for their future wedding, down payment for a house, etc. it’s not something they’ll know or expect back but its hopefully something that I can do.
Yes yes yes. Yes yes yes. They get too comfortable and start to get lazy.
I'd say if the parents need the money to stay afloat, I'm fine with that, but if they're doing fine on their own, I'd say either let the adult child save up what they got left after bills so they can put a big down payment on a house, or charge them "rent", but take that money and put it in an interest bearing account, then when they're ready to move out, give them all that money so they got a cushion if anything bad happens, or they can put it all towards the house they want to buy. It's cheaper in the long run to own a home when you pay a lot less at the end of the year for property taxes, whereas you'll be paying way more per month renting.
Every familys situation is different. Rent shouldn't be presented as a punishment. My son, lived away, moved home for work and contributes. It does kids a disservice by allowing them to not contribute and have a huge disposable income.
I think charging to help them learn the financial responsibility is ok if it’s a reasonable amount and only if given back to them once they move out so they have a down payment toward their own home. My 19 yo son works FT and only pays for his car insurance. I want him to save and he knows it’s expected of him. If he starts blowing his checks relentlessly, then we’ll be having a different conversation. He knows this season of life is a blessing to be able to build that bag.
They talk about it like it’s common to have parents. Financially stable parents, even.
My parent's didn't charge me rent but I offered to help them with the bills.
I wouldn’t charge my kid rent. They would have to work or be in school. If they are working, they could contribute by paying a small bill, running errands.
This girl is being charged only $300 a month rent, in these times in 2023 that is absolutely nothing. I would give anything in this world to pay that. My rent is $1600 a month X12=$19,200 a year and that’s without paying for food, doing laundry, cable, gas (Oven), transportation $3,048.00 just on yearly metro card to ride the trains and busses unlimited to go to work back and forth. And me & my wife have to pay our own health insurance $400 a month X 12=$4800 a year. I live in New York City and most of the rents here are between $2,000 to $3000 a month. Our apartment is the size of a small box truck. And that girl is not even married, wait until she gets married. And now I’m 50 years old. These days most people are turning there box trucks and busses and sprinter vans into apartments to avoid paying rent. I wanted to do that with my wife just for us to save money, she refused and this is why we are poor. If I was this girl, I’d write down a financial plan. I’d go get a regular job, then open up a bank account and get a huge loan for about $15K. Pay off my parents year rent of $3600. Then take the rest of the money and invest it in a cheap used van, fix it up little by little to look like an apartment. Then slowly pay back the loan to the bank in order to have excellent credit. After the year is up, move out from the parents and into the van, now she can sign up to a 24 hr gym to take a shower. I’ve been paying bills since I was 18 years old. If I only knew then on what I know now. I’d be a very wealthy man today if I could go back in time. I would love to trade places with that girl.
That’s what my parents required. Makes perfect sense and helps kids understand the importance of responsibility and accountability.
Im shocked that this is controversial
Imagine needing money from your kids
How much rent
Our son pays his $1500 month rent to us on time every month! So proud of how responsible he is as a young adult at 22. We gave him a car that’s he’s been driving for four years now but he also saves $350 each month towards his future car so hopefully he can pay for it in cash. We could not be more thrilled with how responsible he is with money. He is going to have no problems living on his own in a few years.
That’s way too much. Does he have a high paying job?
@@Julie-oh5gp that may be too much for you but perfectly fine for my son. That amount includes more than lodging and I would have you know my son set the amount. He pays on time and still saves very well each month. We have a bigger plan for him also but I won’t get into that on here.
@@tiffanymoore6763are you saying the money he gives you $1500 a month, you’re going to give back to him in a big lump sum?
I agreed with this!
You aint making no profit charging $200 a month. She probably eats that much food and uses much electric
I am, starting this and my sons hate it and i told them its 250 a month or find your own place. I think this builds character and responsibility. Right now they pay for their ridiculously expensive clothes and chipotle. I want my sons to be MEN not just legally but morally.
Yup I miss my baby! They gotta get out but I miss her terribly
I think it’s okay but if you are a parent who had and raised a child in poverty or minimum income, I feel like it’s pretty trifling. You bring children into the world you couldn’t even afford and didn’t set them up for success, but charging them when they are struggling in young adulthood. Nah…
What if I made it very clear to my momma that I’m planning on moving out whenever I can?
Imo after 18 it's pay to stay unless they're in some type of school getting decent grades Obviously, it should be proportional and fair but free rides only causes laziness and entitlement.
My deal I got listed as primary on my lease now so I have them as my backup but we live together. I’m not giving them 💩 neither. We have to pay the landlord. It is what it is.
I don’t got student loans anymore or car payments for now. But, at least I have a place to crash. Plus, I pay for food and not sure about moving out cuz NO one has my back like they do!
@@chaoticallysay2625 Well you are helping with food groceries are expensive
Best parents! That's a girl of strong character!
No family members need to charge other relatives rent money. Parents need to have their own money. They need to get a side hustle if they want more money. Children age 16 and older need to have their own money. As rich as my husband and I will be, we do not need our children’s money. I only rent for my apartment, tiny house, and dance studio.
Who is anyone to say how others raise their children?? Especially this??? Really? Its helping out? Its not your business! Most the experts are divorced 1 child that doesn't like them and both in therapy! Then they are supposed to be experts!
I don’t see nothing wrong it’s a great way to help them become independent and also if they would have gone to college I wouldn’t have charge my kids they could work n use that money earned to fund their education. It makes them more appreciative of what they have and also don’t take anything for granted. My parents told me go to college or go to work n pay rent.
I understand the cultures that believe and live multigenerational households but what I don’t understand is who is paying for everything if you can move back home with a whole family and your parents would never dream of charging you anything? Triple water, gas, electric and wear and tear on home and mom and dad are just supposed to pay for everything for everybody forever?
Everyone should be pitching in
I do agree to make your adult children pay 2 00/300 monthly and this would include food. Absolutely reasonable. You will not live anywhere for free. That is not realistic for a 35 year to be proud with coming back home with children to feed and NOT to expect to pay for anything. That is not real life. Extended families ALL PAY FOR THEIR own way. That is what makes it WORK. To many adults want to come home to live for free.
“Paying” can be done in different ways without brutal and direct simple money involvement. That’s too transactional and conditional, teaches the wrong lesson and makes one believe the world is fake and hostile if their own parents put conditions on their “love”
Some parents need the rent money for bill and food and can’t give the money back and it’s not a life lesson it’s real
My sister and myself (and a few of my friends) always gave a part of our salaries to our parents because he were living there, using electricity, gas, food, etc. The ones dont giving money are taking advantage of their parents. I blame both of them, and parents are teaching them nothing good for their future allowing them to do that.
My mom never charges me rent but I do pay 150 to 180 when I get paid I pay her medical bills when I can because im tryna help her get rid of her debt and I help her with my grandma which I don’t have to because we don’t have good relationship it’s getting better tho but me and my mom we have an awesome relationship and we both are in nursing school and I also help financially with my niece and nephew as far as school clothes I have been for years because the parents don’t really have the money everything goes to rent I will live in my paid off car then pay the rent that’s out here today
Do parent pay rent if their child take care of them?
If my children cannot afford to pay rent or need economic help in any way, I will instead, help them in every way money wise n welcome them home.
This is because they have shown love n respect all the while.
If not, they can go solve their own problem.If they are dying to be free of their parents, I would ask them to go fast soall of us dont have tolerate each other. Just go.immefiately.
I would make my child pay rent Never pay!
Childish adults are far too common. Outright spoiled, this is an excellent way to encourage independence. Kids these days don't know how good they have it 😆
Personal story, I was 17 going to school had a job and paid rent to sleep on a couch in an abusive household. I moved out as soon as I could and learned to grow up quick. It may sound terrible but looking at how other people my age matured hardship made me stronger.
Should adult children charge their adult parents reparations?
Make sure if you charge rent and comment publicly for government media you report the over 600 year income. . Love police state America
Why is this considered controversial?
I know right?
Of course grown kids should pay rent.
I paid rent when I turned 18 years old while in college to my mom.
As a brown kid - we pay with our sanity and mental health