How To Spot Energy Vampires
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- Опубликовано: 29 окт 2007
- drjudithorloff.com/ Energy vampires are people who suck you dry. Author of NYT BESTSELLER EMOTIONAL FREEDOM, Dr. Orloff, describes the different types of drainers which are featured in her book. Learn to spot drama queens, chronic talkers, sob sisters and more. For additional information and FREE E-NEWSLETTER on keeping your energy high check out drjudithorloff.com/
"POSIITIVE ENERGY" available on website. 
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positive companions are so important. I bless my circle of friends. I'd be lost without them.
the best way to deal with EVs is to not be emotionally reactive. Then they don't get any juice. Stay calm, detached, and go about your business. Keep something wonderful on your desk to shift your attention. The 3 minute meditation I discuss in Positive Energy helps to calm you down and shift the energy too.
families can really test your limits!
yes, sometimes getting away is the answer. But when you can't--for instance with some relative--setting kind but firm, consistent boundaries can work miracles.
"No" is a sacred word.
often narcissists won't even hear that you've said NO
A former friend of mine was definitely one of these "sob sister" characters. When she would call me, it was pretty much an hour of her talking at me and me getting in an "uh-huh" or a "cool" every few minutes. I once drove 4 hours in a car with her and I think 3 1/2 of those hours were filled with her talking about her romantic problems and issues with her parents. I used to feel so drained and exhausted after hanging out with her. I'm glad I finally distanced myself from her for good!
Thanks for sharing this with me and my youtube community. There are many of us empaths out there!
yes, the happiness factor! I'm all for making fun in life.
This is so true - I have known all of the people described!! It shows how important it is to say what we feel and not to remain trapped with these 'energy vampires'. Thank you!
Thank you Judith for sending this video -
it was coming to the right time to remember me!!
Best wishes
Cornelia
It's so hard to see, but I also recommend making more me time. Video was helpful. Got my first runner's high and I really think I'll literally run (well jog) away from my problems, just to rejuvenate and go back at my strongest.
my mom is a sob sister & drama queen.i dread her coming to my house. i knew she was an energy vampire but have not been successful in shielding her from my energy. i can't wait to try you technique. your a real help .thanks Dr. Judith.
yes, yes, yes. self-nurturing is so important
maybe you have infinite energy--yes!
I love Caroline.
You are welcome for the catagories.
well said. I love that you say we all need to have a big ear and a shoulder. Very nice. Very compassionate.
excellent point. Setting firm but clear boundaries is a powerful tool and we must learn from one another!
Glad it resonated. Hope my centering and grounding techniques help.
thanks mother river. happy holidays.
It's awesome that you even admit to it because a lot of people don't. You know and accept this about yourself, and you will work on it. Self-reflection is hard for many people to do, that's why they stay so busy.
How To Spot Energy Vampires - people who leave you exhausted after interactions with them!
Actually, introverts, with the modern usage of the term, are always exhausted after interactions regardless of whether they' re interacting with energy vampires or not. Consequently following this reasoning, all people that are hanging with an introvert are energy vampires. That's not a reliable criterion.
@@arispaxa3670 People who do not have strong enough auras get their energy sapped without realizing it or not, introvert or not also. What strengthens the aura? Stones, crystals, essential oils, high frequency emotions, being in good physical shape, placement to the other person and body language----many other variables help strengthen the aura, too so people cannot sap as much energy from you. Some tap more than others, if too much, avoid those people.
Thankyou. I'm glad you relate. I feel supremely complimented by you.
youtube is amazing. I love it. excellent work at avoiding the soap operas. what a relief that can be!
great work.
thanks. It is so important to train others to respect space and boundaries!
love good associations! thanks so much for sending.
Thank you so much Judith! :-)
You're wonderful!
Your book "emotional Freedom" helps me A LOT!
in my difficult times..
Love,
Gil :-)
amen! setting boundaries are so freeing.
wonderful. we all need reminders.
Thanks for posting.
fantastic. balance is key.
excellent. the sixth sense always comes in handy.
compassionate, loving people may attract them or those who are reluctant to set boundaries. I agree, someone getting on your nerves now and then is different than an EV.
thank you so much, very helpful, very kind of you.
My sister omg so true ..Drama all the time exhausting ..she is everyone you listed ..in my face .
glad it was helpful
Thank you for this. You are so right!
Awesome information that anyone can relate to.
OMG who doesn't know an energy vampire or drama queen?
Cathy
thankyou Jane. Yes we must rebel against these drainers and speak up.
GREAT AND APPRECIATIVE 👌👍👏👏👏👏
on my website there is a longer version under "presentations". Chapter 9 of Positive Energy goes into this topic in great detail as does my CD Positive Energy Practices. Glad you enjoyed the vid.
tonglen is a powerful practice. It takes spiritual development to enact and be effective. thanks for the great point.
thankyou for your gratitude.
I couldn't agree more.
Hi again, I just picked your book up from the library. I also did this test today to see what my aura is (though I can't see them) It came out to be crystal & this is what it said about it:
Crystals are rare, though Dr. Virtue believes there are more being born right now. Crystals are sensitives and healers. They are so sensitive to other people's energy that they need lots of time alone to clear their energy fields. They are the chameleons; they take on other's energies and personalities.
No, you are a beautiful human.
compassion is the secret of the universe
True, one does meet so many types of people and have always known when my energy level goes down, so call a halt when they start getting carried away. Face it, we all need a big ear and a shoulder, but one must know how much to handle on our own as well and trust our ability to face obstacles.
I'm an energy vampire. but I like to think I'm helping people by listening to them.
absolutely right !
thanks for reminding me ...
WOWWWW... the energy vampire grandmother is ALL OF THOSE!! ahahahahahah i need to read your book
I've know lots of E.V.'s but did not understand ; now the pieces fit.
Some folks call them drama queens. But those 2you talked about, they are all about themselves it clearly shows. If they are too busy to listen to you, I'm afraid they are not good friends. Seek others, good luck.
This was good...isn't there a Part2 video for this?
Oh, I don't feel so alone! I think I have been bitten by the vampires before, lol. Thank you for sharing! :)
I'm so happy. thanks.
you're very welcome!
Ditto.
We live in a fallen world, with emotional carnage all around us.
I live in a quite spot in a small NZ town. The bird life awakes Me. I make sure that I limit My involvement with people. I treasure My peace of mind.
God is VERY good and near.
I envy you!!! Lol. GBU. 😣😣😇😇😇
yes. thankyou.
thankyou. cricizers cut to the heart but if you set kind firm limits you can make headway.
agreed. you are not overreacting!
I find this one very interesting because I work with an energy vampire. He's the kind you didnt mention, but he's very mean ...the type that cuts you down, makes you feel less than he is, he's a bully basically. I've noticed that I feel very worn out or tired around him, which usually I'm pretty bubbly. So this video really resonated with me. :)
thankyou Zendoc!
peace and love much appreciated
This is essential information. That last part especially got to me - I'm an artist who has drawn a LOT of jealous people to me. They try to make me feel subhuman, or worse (and literally) - retarded. I often feel held back from drawing but am learning to get over this. Thanks for posting!
absolutely!
a double thankyou!
I had narcissist family member who was all of them! sob sister drama queen who also was a constant talker. Total energy vampire, who also constantly blamed and criticized and badmouthed everyone
beautiful.whatever works for you.
OMG, thankyou!
Please get a copy of Positive Energy and practice the strategies in the book, they are tried an true!
yes, this is possible. And it's okay as long as it doesn't drain you.
love the james bond ejection cure for EVs. I will remember that!
ok thx Judith :)
Yes, definitely you are absorbing energy from others. that can make you tired. i know. i do it. please take a look at my book Positive Energy. i talk a lot about this in chapter 1 and there are articles on my website. learning how to manage your energy can make a huge difference!
ask your family members what behavior is draining and begin to shift it. beautiful question.
yes, some EVs do it maliciously. you might want to check out my book Positive Energy chapter 9 where I go through all the kinds of energy vampires. It's so important to learn to center yourself and not let jealous people steal your artistic talent or your power. thankx for your comment.
love it
I just recently found out I'm an empath which is good because now I can learn how to halt it. But for years as a highly sensitive person I didn't know certain people were sucking out my energy. Only one old coworker/friend many years ago I could tell did this. Not on purpose but that's how she was. I did notice just how tiring she was at such a young age for myself.
When your sensitivity is grounded and protected it is a very beautiful thing. Please check out Positive Energy for a guide.
Actually I just ate some of you right now, for typing that positive statement. I feel like I have more energy to do my daily routine now, thanks latinflow!
Great bit! I think just being aware of people who are exhibiting EV behavior and attitudes can really help one spot them and handle them quickly instead of being subjected and drained by their negativity. . . unless of course you get stuck in a car with one like someone else here mentioned...that's where a James Bond ejection seat would come in handy ;-)
right you are. EVs usually don't know they're draining unless they are the malicious types who go for the jugular
thankyou mad ranter
Almost everyone has played the vampire role. We all need to learn how to stop doing this to ourselves and other people because we need to love ourselves and each other.
Yes... I'm quite sure there's plenty of those about too... !!
Not usually, but sometimes--for instance malicious backstabbers do.
Only one way. Relax, dont let yourself get nervous and thats it...
Thanks Judith, I am reading Rosetree's book and just did her thing once to stop it though I know I have to practice it. But if you think I should get that one I will and order it today from the library. For I'm suffering at this moment, it's out of hand and I just got home and it happened again. I had to stop the person to make sure they were OK. I'm still emotional right now. Thanks
is there a part 2? x)))))
be sure to use it for the good. then it will be a blessing.
being trapped in the car is the worst! awesome limit setting~
dang miss orloff is a big vampire herself.!
well put !!
how do you stop the insesant talker..i realise
their need, and have a hard time taking
care of myself...WHAT does it take to put
ones self first ??:)
@ehabtouch .. this is the best answer i have ever heard of in this post so far.. very good and so true..
so true
do you best to spread love no matter what anyone is doing. think of people you love, pray for the EVSs, work to create a better, more peaceful, less fear tinged time. That is the heroes journey.
when I hear this it kind of makes me wonder if I'm one of this energy vampires.
As crazy as that sounds it could be true.Which one? I don't know.
That helps... especially the last one mentioned. How do you silence the critics ?
Love and Peace to all :)