How to Tell Your Boss You Are Unhappy
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2025
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Career Success Coach, Jennifer Tardy, provides an explanation as to why you should have a conversation with your boss.
If this fits your situation, I will walk you through how to have the "I'm unhappy" conversation with your boss. I provide the why, when, and tips on how to do so. I am a Certified Professional in Human Resources (PHR), a Certified Diversity Professional (CDP), as well as a Certified Life Coach and Recruitment Thought Leader. !
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You really helped me find the right words. I'll surely talk to my boss in coming days. Am little relaxed to see that it's not only me who is going through all this. Thank you so much!
Hope you're doing well now ❤
Not all bosses are as understanding as you are or actually care about their employees :(
Not all is an understatement
Agreed!
@Phillip Rayan yup, I've been using Instaflixxer for months myself :)
God - I really needed to hear this today. I'm so tired of having panic attacks when I think about work. I think I'll talk to my boss on Monday.
I'm glad you found this video helpful! You deserve to be happy. Good luck!
Thank you so so much. I’m a female in a male dominated position and I work for an amazing company however I have been dealing with such backlash about how I’m not strong enough and I’m not fast enough compared to others in my field. I am literally anxiety ridden every morning and night and I have stepped into closets and bathrooms to cry or even just regroup but the only “help” I’ve been given is to not call in and work through it and tough it out. I cannot work like that and on top of everything I’m in the middle of a separation with my husband and we have a young son whom happens to be autistic so it’s been extremely difficult. I’m going on to work today to have this conversation. I am scheduled today so that may look bad but they’ve cut my hours back to one day a week :(
How are you now??
Hi. How did it go?
I am really sorry to hear about your situation. I can’t imagine how difficult that must be. I hope and pray that things start working out in your favor. God bless you
I'm reading this 2 yrs later and can Identify with this. Male dominated job and same. I
HOPE THAT YOU'RE LIFE IS BETTER NOW.
I've cried too. I got to the point of working through it by processing my own pain in private. My attitude was horrible at work because I was dealing with a ton of stuff On top of work stress and being kinda ostracized by "the Boys Club" coworkers.
I did tell the boss I was thinking of quitting.
Long story short I didn't.
The Boss's Boss talked to me because I'm am a decent worker . I got a little raise, was heard, & my work load got easier. 😊
The toxic environment stayed the same though. But I had to learn -on my own -to deal with my frustrations and feelings by processing them and staying to myself 99% of my shifts. I had a great day @ work next Monday for the first time since I was hired.
When they cut your hours down to one day a week is a message they are not interested in keeping you or value your work.
I had an employer pull this crap on me. They cut my hours down so the hours worked were only enough to pay your benefit deductions. The end result was paychecks for $0.00. They left me with nothing to cover my living expenses, pay Bill's, buy food, or pay for gas to fill the tank in my car so I can get to and from work. On the second week, I saw the schedule for the third, and fourth weeks. All of the weekly schedules had me only scheduled to work only one day a week. I went home, and started to apply for other positions, and updated my resume. Also, I contacted human resources. H/R said there was definitely something going on, and to schedule you so you only have $0.00 paychecks required someone planning behind my back to try to force me out. A new job came to me right away so I gave them my two week notice. After giving my notice, I just did not go back.
I am blown away by your communication skills. I’ve come across many great speakers, but you are one of the best I’ve heard in my life in person and online. Your message is clear, delivered precisely, and the content is immensely helpful and insightful. I followed along peacefully and gladly, you had my full attention... I am so impressed and in awe of your skill... Thank you SO much for this message. 🙏
Wow, thank you! I appreciate you being here and your kind words!!
I second this!
So very helpful and I get on that first thing Monday. I just started a new roll on Tuesday last week and it is courage to allow our voice to be heard after so many years of suffering in silence. Thank you, thank you. 🙏
Thank you, Jennifer! This video is spot on for what I'm going through. I dread waking up because of my job and talk myself out of quitting every single day. Now I know how to share my feelings with my manager.
I am SO happy to hear that. I am rooting for you. Wishing you the best of luck.
Thank you so much! This was exactly what I needed to hear. ‘I want to be successful, but I am not sure I can get that here unless things change’ 👏🏻
Sometimes I wonder what my boss does to earn her paycheck. Thank you
Probably nothing
Very good but some Supervisors are not understanding, some Supervisors would prefer you to resign rather then allow you to transfer if they found out that you are unhappy. Some Supervisors feel that they don't need that change and they tried to make you feel that YOU are the problem.
You are correct. You will always be your best advocate.
I tried to talk to my supervisor and she shut me down. She never even made an effort to have a professional relationship with me. I just told her I've accepted a job offer and she is PISSED. She even started micromanaging me and undermining me in front of my co-workers. She did not even share the departure news with the team. This is why managers are blindsided with resignations.
Yeah exactly most of the time it's not realistic trying to talk with them as there's a risk that they can shut you down and make your life 10x times harder. IMO it's always better to quiet quit and start fresh.
I want to switch to a completely different position and I am afraid they will fire me for being unhappy with my current position. It’s not that I can’t handle it .. it’s mainly because it’s not what I wanted to do from the beginning. This has been very overwhelming and I don’t know what are the right words to say...
Hi Kim. I'm proud of you for wanting to move on from a position that isn't the best fit for you. Have you had the conversation yet? Did this video help with wording?
What happened?
Fantastic video. Plan to have this conversation with my boss tomorrow, your video really made me feel empowered!
I am so happy to hear that! How did the conversation go?
@@CareerSuccess My boss actually listened to me and promised to take steps towards change. Let's see if the promised change happens quickly. I will reevaluate in 2 months to see if I can stay or I should move on because nothing happened. Thanks again for your video's!
I have a meeting tomorrow, because I said "we need to have a serious 1 on 1" because of a coworker situation that I faced yesterday that is ongoing.
A teacher with very good perspective and a kind tone.
Very helpful!
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This is great...I really needed this!
Thanks this is perfect for the conversation I am going to have tomorrow, my boss has been good enough to set up a meeting to resolve issues, so I will follow your advice!
I am so happy that you found this helpful. I hope your conversation goes well! Let me know & good luck!
Thank you for this information. I have a meeting scheduled with my supervisor about me not being completely happy. This video help answer questions about my situation. Wish me luck. And hope we have some changes in my team.
Hello there -Great timing! I am so glad that the info is useful to you and provides some greater support for your meeting. Thanks for stopping by the Career Success Channel. Best wishes for continued success ahead.
Did the meeting work out for you or did it make the boss turn on you. What ended up happening?
Most bosses don't want to hear it. Most bosses want their employees to say nothing and pretend to be happy.
I told my boss 2 weeks ago that I felt I could not succeed in this position and wanted to have a conversation with her. I ask again yesterday, we are expected to meet today. I am going to HR today as well wether we meet or not. I don’t want to leave the company, however I am making myself sick working in this position on this team.
Amazingly helpful thank you.
I really appreciate this video, it's clear and educative. Thank you for sharing this knowledge with us 🥰
You are very welcome, and thank you for the feedback. It is always good to hear if the information provided is helpful. We appreciate your visiting the Career Success Channel.
I feel like I just did yoga
Thank you for your culm voice and full explanation
Many individuals who are content with their job and colleagues are reluctant to quit their organization. However, they may find it necessary to switch managers or supervisors. In essence, when there is a high turnover rate and multiple employees resign, it could be an indication that the manager or supervisor is not meeting their expectations. It is almost like the employees are firing their manager or supervisor instead of the other way around.
2021 and i'm still using this video!
I am SO happy to hear that! Thank you for being here.
Thank you! Awesome information tat I plan to use this week.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for making this video it was exactly what I needed to hear
I'm so glad!
I did say the honest feedback but I saw no effort on the manager side to change and in fact justifies the wrong actions. Therefore I am going ahead w the plan. So far so good. I will know the final decision of the new hiring mgr soon. Wish me luck.
I definitely wish you the best of luck!
Thank you , you are Awesome! I’ll give some feedback soon.
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Very helpful video packed full of useful tips. I appreciate your presence and calm tone.
Thank you so much for your comment! Glad to have you here.
You are so awesome! Love your teachings, just what I needed.
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Really good information; however, in a "right to work" state with At-Will employment it is a little difficult to bring discontent up for discussion without having some leverage under your sleeve...and the thought of "why if they are just keeping me happy for some time until they find my replacement" will always remain...
Thank you for sharing!
Thank youuuu
I work for a company who really don’t care. I am in health care, 14 weeks pregnant and my leads don’t care if I lose my child. I am still asked to lift heavy, push heavy and I am pulling most of the work on my shift. The man on my shift sits around and talk on the phone, and house shop on the computer for 3 hours. He’s putting in 7 when I am putting in 24 in 8 hours and I am so overwhelmed. I came home and broke down to my husband. I do plan on having a conversation today.
I am so sorry to hear you are having an experience like that. I applaud you for making the step to have a conversation. You have to be your own advocate! Wishing you luck. Keep me posted.
What if your boss is the issue....
Thank you for your encouragement.
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If you tell your boss you can't cope. You have a target on your back in my opinion.
This video has been very helpful. I guess my concern is that if I specify that I love my company and I am just voicing my concerns, could they fire me ? Not that they should or could .
When you give your feedback (or voice your concerns), let your boss know that you cannot be successful because of "concerning issue" and you want to be successful in your position with the company. Let your boss know that you want them to be a thought partner for you.
At the end of it all, IF they were to fire you for your honesty that is a company you don't want to be working for.
I hope this helps. I'm proud of you for wanting to use your voice!
Thank you for this
My pleasure! I'm glad you found it useful!
I told my boss and she told everyone in the shop I was unhappy. Now, I got hateful women saying I'm going thru change...I'm not right.😢
Thank you!
I usually quit. lots of jobs out there . Some bosses just suck.
Agree
I like to sell but the administrative and follow up tasks take away from the sales... It takes so much time to babysit these accounts, it is draining. I don't know how to succeed with this.
Wow thanks this is great advice.
I'm so happy to hear that this was helpful for you! I am wishing you all the luck!
Love this video, im only trying to transfer to another department with same company. Spoke with boss about issues he tried to fix sonewhat but not totally. Asking for better work equipment, another department has it. Hope he accomodates will have to make some changes. Hes really angry that im trying to transfer.
I'm sorry that you are experiencing a boss who gets angry because you want better for yourself. Keep in mind that managers/leaders are also human and at times it can be hard for them to see the "good" in an employee moving on over their own needs to have a good employee stay on their team. Stay focused on your goal and good luck to you. Keep me posted!
What if you don't interview well and your scared to leave?
Ok but why should I go out of my way to make them realize what’s going on when it’s literally their job to know wtf is going on
Agree
This is wat I tell people that want to be BOSS.
Hi there! Thanks for leaving a comment. What specifically do you share with people who want to be a boss?
Please, what do you think are the steps to changing department within a company especially when you don't liaise much with other managers of same company?
Hi there, great question! Thank you for bringing it to me.
You can do two things! First, share your interest in learning about the other department with your current boss. They should be in the loop (and may be able to help you). If you don't feel that they would take it well, you may not want to.
Next, Set up an introductory meeting with the leader of the department of interest and learn more about the department. At the end of the meeting, express an interest in working within the department one day. You’d be surprised at how many people have gotten opportunities because they expressed interest before a job was open!
Let me know how it goes! Good luck.
Thank you so much, this was so informative. How do I deal with being unhappy due to my not doing the job I interviewed for. I love the company, love what they stand for but if the duties I currently perform was even mentioned in job description or during the interview, I would not have excepted the position at all.
Hello, thank you for stopping by the Career Success Channel. I am sorry that it seems there's a huge disconnect between the role and responsibilities you applied for, and your current role. I recommend scheduling a meeting with your manager, and take the job description from the role you applied for with you. Tell your manager that the role you are working in is not what you applied for, then proceed to share your requirements and tasks in the current role versus the job description of the role you applied for. Be clear on stating that you are not happy in the role because it is not what you envisioned. Ask for his/her help to resolve the issue. Best of luck to you. Keep us posted.
Work from home due to covid has worsened this condition
Thanks for visiting the Career Success Channel, and sharing your perspective. It is good practice to share any concerns with your leader. There may be some career adjustments that you two can work on. Best of luck!
I really like your content so thank you. I feel a bit left out though like I’m not supposed to be here listening to your content as a white man. Thank you again for your content though. I can tell you really care about helping others and I’m assuming white people too so I just wanted to share my feelings. Thank you again.
This maybe off topic but How about anybody Leaderships/ Provider officials without being confrontational, some people is not welcoming!
Thank you for your question. In most organizations managers have 1 on 1 meetings with their staff, at least once a month. This would be a great time to have this conversation. During this meeting I would ask your manager for professional feedback regarding your performance, then move into discussing your concerns in the workplace. This is an open forum between the two of you. If these meetings aren't currently being held, I recommend you schedule one. That is completely acceptable. I hope this conversation goes well for you and Thank you for watching!
What if you are the supervisor :/
I am having full on panic attacks about my job, how do I tell him that? I mean that’s concerning. I’ve only been at this job 2.5 months when it takes 6 to “get”. And yet he doesn’t want to talk about the issue at the center, he wants to find another reason, any other reason other than the center of my problem.
I think that there are multiple parts to your question. The first thing that I would share is that before you go to your manager, be clear on what you believe the core of the problem is AND what you need to see happen on the job to fix this problem. In doing this exercise, you may discover that the problem isn't something that your manager can fix, but maybe you need their support while you are working on it on your end. As for the last part of your question, I wonder if your manager isn't talking about the problem because he doesn't know what it is, or if he thinks he is talking about the actual problem. The goal here is to be as clear as possible with your manager when you state the problem and also when you state what you need in order for it to be fixed. Keep me posted!
Same situation is currently going on with me. I am new to a project in my organization. A technology which i thought that i wanted to work on. After coming in the project i saw there were no proper knowledge transfer. Only recordings which doesn't tell much about the actual work and just the theory of it. I was assigned a tedious process for which i have to stretch to 13-14 hours whenever it is being done. Because of this there is a constant fear of doing something wrong. And getting an escalation on my head. This fear has increased so much that i am having stress and anxiety. I even have come to this conclusion after experiencing it that i made a wrong judgement call in deciding the technology. What's done is done. It is time to talk to my manager and tell him what's going on with me. I can see resignation as the only option for me because in my organization changing projects is a task which lags to 6-9 months. Sometimes an year! And i don't want to go through that process again. Any suggestions before i go speak will be much appreciated.
3rd possible outcome: being punished :-(
Well, I had a talk with my boss about a psychotic coworker who was discriminating against me. The idiot boss says that I'm the problem.
Thank you for sharing!
So sorry about that
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I was going to listen but I'm white.
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