Signs Your Boss is Threatened by You
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Let’s talk about the signs your boss is threatened by you.
Insecure bosses typically treat employees poorly with common traits across the board. I talked about signs of a bad boss and how to tell if your boss is threatened by you. In this video, I also cover insecure boss traits and working with an insecure boss.
Toxic boss behavior is often times the same across organizations. Check out this video if you’re looking for what to do when your boss is jealous of you.
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Yes!!
Yeah, I was told by my boss and HR to dumb down my responses and not to be so educational toward customers. I did that to a reoccurring customer and they got concerned with how I was responding to them. I told them what I was told to do. They asked are they here? No. Then they told me talk to talk to them how I would normally.
I am trying to find a new job away from this place. I have also learned from many RUclipsrs on how to spot a red flag🚩 business and this business is the biggest red flag🚩. Now, when I go into an interview I always study the companies landscape and upkeep and their building. If it's unkempt or in disrepair then I don't want to go in their, and to just listen to all the red flag🚩 interview questions.
This is like telling your employer "I hope you are better off dead in North Korea, China, Cuba, Laos, Vietnam, and Russia for real!"
I really love your videos, you are showing and helping in very real and specific work-life issues ❤
Currently I'm dealing with a boss, that I feel relatively new as a manager, is woman (I'm too) and she is completely biased. I highlight some situations and the things go worst. Now preparing for second round 😂 with her or scalate the situation.
I’m not dumbing myself down for any Boss, EVER.
Nice talk
If you have to dumb down they don't have the mental level to be over you.
👏👏👏With you 1,000% !
Same here👍💯
I wouldn't do that either
Bottom line, just leave. Life is too short to deal with shitty, abusive bosses!
My previous boss did all the things you describe so I just walked out and resigned. She didn’t see that coming! I’m now a project manager on an awesome 6 figure project. Cheers 😁
Oh that is so awesome to hear!!! good for you! And congrats on the job 😁
Congrats!!!
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Amazing
About to do this very thing! Wish me luck
If my boss is threatened by me, that’s their problem. And it’s time for me to find another job.
Exactly - That's their insecurity and they should know how to deal with it in healthy manner. That's interpersonal skill.
@@rakeshadhikari5556if that boss is narcissistic, he will turn around to make u look like u don’t have interpersonal skills as u have made him look bad with your competence
I hope you've been doing everything to make your boss's life easier....and, of course, nobody can do what YOU do, right. Take a week or two off and see how they get along without you. I guarantee, work will stack up on HIS deak and he can't handle it as easy as you. Then, YOU ask for a raise.
The question is why do the most useless person becomes the boss.... every single time.
"Because someone has to do the job". Read this somewhere, makes sense. It's not fair but that's how it is.
I've asked myself this question, over and over 🙄
If they were competent, people would get jealous and he wouldn't have become the boss. To become the boss, you need to be average.
Excellent question
@@j.j.9538 dam this one hit hard. Makes sense.
To all the people who see obvious signs of toxicity at your workplace - be it boss or colleagues. If you try to change the situation but it still prevails - You have 2 options - 1. Either just plain get used to their bullshit. 2. If you have an option please leave the place (even if you love your job) - Stop enabling and bearing toxicity. Don't limit your worth and potential. There is always a better place.
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Can't "fix it" if your boss is a narcissist.
If he is threatened by me....GOOD!!!
Unless your boss is breaking the law, I would NOT recommend filing "a report with HR" to document their actions. That is a quick way to lose the fight. HR protects from the top down, unless there is a CLEAR legal benefit to do the opposite... which never happens.
Yup HR is just slaves to the higher ups.
Agree 💯
Yeh Human Resource usually are on the side of the company. Only go to them for non controversial reasons
People are better off documenting things on video or audio on their phones.
HR are sometimes in collusion with the management
So probably there are only few genuine and really mature bosses who know how to well manage their team and company. Most of them sound like these bosses who easily get threatened by innovation, creativity, out of the box thinking and strong confidence in their team.
Bad bosses is caused by executives that just don't have a sense of what's going on in their own business or they don't care. Don't try to fix a house that's already broken down, many good companies are looking for leaders, if you can talk the talk and walk it too then you will be hired, that's the best way for you to really shine.
It doesn't take much to be smarter than the boss!
My old boss did every single one of these things. I did report it to HR, as he was actively sabotaging my career. Eventually I had to quit. There simply was no where for me to go, I even had a private meeting with the president and he knew why I was leaving but didn't do anything about it. When my boss had tried to "discipline" me for a rule he literally made up to get me into trouble and to write me up he threatened me that I could be fired "next time" but I had already decided to quit. So I told him that after the project we were currently working on I was going to leave his entire face changed because he couldn't believe I would quit. The one thing he had over me was gone and he had no power over me. He also realized he was losing one of his most talented employees and he had really screwed up. It was awesome. That was over 14 years ago, I ended up starting my own company and have been working for myself ever since.
Awesome turn of events! Blessing in disguise
Looks like we had identical paths, the same things happened to me and now looking back, it’s what I needed to help open up my business. Who’s laughing now …
Bosses who obviously gaslight you are definitely threatened by you. Catching them in obvious lies, yet them telling you it didn't happen, is a threat to them.
😂😂
those signs are very similar to when your boss wants you to quit.
True!
Yep, my boss does most of these things and he has even resulted to bully tactics to attack my confidence and self worth. Talks over me, dismisses me, shoots down all my ideas, does not recongise my positive contributions, stops me improving, constantly picking fault with everything I am doing even when other team members are doing the same thing as I am but I am the only one pulled up on it and labelled me "difficult". All I have done is support him yet I am treated this way :(
Dude you're worth more and I hope you found a better job.
I always say "a job is like a boyfriend". Pay attention how a job treats you. If the treatment is poor, they are not worth it. Find another one that treats you better. Same goes for boyfriends lol
@@mugensamurai thank you! :)
@@grazynawolska8160 thats a very good way of looking at it! Thank you for the tip! :D
Wow... so sorry to hear that! Hopefully you can get a new job soon! Or at the very least, start preparing a hostile work environment report for HR
Whenever one encounters this, leave. At the first opportunity. And make your departure as painful to them as possible. In 2021 post-COVID banishment phase, new jobs are burgeoning.
Did that years ago: shifted departments because of how an evil boss bullied me, and then filed a grievance that ended his career.😁
I've mostly outshined my supervisors and every one of them were jealous of my success and recognition from above and below.
The weak are always trying to sabotage the strong.
🎯 Well said!
I had a director who chronically avoided answering my critical emails, then complained openly in meetings why xyz wasn't done. Seems the higher you go, the more you encounter colleagues who abuse their powers to keep their jobs. It happens. I only experienced this from one director thankfully.
I have worked for supervisors that don't want the competition in knowledge. They have been promoted due to friendship. They were given free rein in what ever they did .....write ups, firing people. Personal vendettas became a daily occurrence. Bad management seems to be a normal thing in companies now days.
Remember, sometimes the boss will have no choice but to give you some recognition here and there when others are aware of the truth and are watching. Dont let that throw you off. Especially if he or she is also affraid of their boss.
Good topic and conversation, great comments. I find this with lazy ppl. It's like they hate you for working and performing at a high level - their laziness easily gets spotlighted.
100%
They come up with a completely BS reason to fire you and replace you THE VERY NEXT DAY with a sycophant that is incapable of doing your job.
Someone that three years later is attempting to pass a certification test you already have, and is the first (and only) person in decades to exercise the option to take the exam in halves, but failed the first (easy) portion and never tried again.
Turns out I was more qualified than my old boss to run the department as he couldn't pass the certification exam either.
Its sad to me that the "bosses" & "co-workers " even have to go this far. Its because people cant realize they are unhappy with themselves. You should want others to grow and succeed, if you don't, you really need to find yourself and find the meaning to life! Love yourself, love your family and enjoy the moment. Its hard, but try not to let these people get to you, they dont deserve your energy!
but that is the point, toxic and insecure bosses _don't_ want their underlings to grow and succeed.
I WAS a server at a local restaurant. I mentioned to my manager one day that there were some very BAD and UNSAFE practices being done by other management and staff, one of which happens to be the GM daughter. I do comedy on the side, and my manager has been making snide remarks about my ambitions, while at the same time trying to hit on me-but DOES NOTHING about the issues with the staff. Yesterday he accused me of being a no show, and threatened me with my job, instead of just calling me if he needed me to pick up a shift. I just left my shirt , picked up my last check and walked out….bump them!
All of these happened to me even HR sided with my boss. I left. It’s just unhealthy for my mental health.
HR is always on the boss's side.
@@lincolnlane6763 to predict behaviour always look for where the income is coming from. The person who provided the income is the person who everyone will side with in a discussion/debate
I agree with this comment..
This is what is happening to me. HR sided with my team leader even if there's an evidence against my team leader.
same, I read somewhere though that HR is really not our "friend" and are there to protect the employer, After leaving a very toxic job with an evil manager, I managed to walk away but for a while suffered with PTSD
PIP = Update your resume and get out fast! You don't want to check YES next to "Asked to Resign" on future job applications.
I never thought about this but you’re exactly right! I have been placed on a PIP before and it was only a matter of time til I was let go. PIPS are just a way to let a person know it’s time to look for a new job!
My boss is getting ridiculous she has even been as of late stomping into my office with loud footsteps to scare me. I laugh and it makes her worse but I can’t help it it’s so funny!
I work very hard but yet never get acknowledged like everyone else does. Not that I need to be praised but yet I my little mistakes are always pointed out.
So glad to be a remote workers so there’s way less of this silly office politics..
Same here. Salaried workers are paid to work, not engage in office politics.
Remote is wonderful... I am excited to find the best opportunity as I work toward this goal!... 🎉 😊
I have a boss like this right now and it finally clicked. A while ago I used an analogy. "Something is wrong here. It's like when you see a herd of animals running. You don't need to see what they are running from to know SOMETHING is there." My boss runs two businesses with the same owner and there seems to be a lot of dysfunction in both. In fact, when I tell others in my profession who I work for, they'll often make some kind of face and say something like "I've heard of that place." After many signs I've finally figured it out. An old timer constantly says "It's her" and nothing more. I've noticed she constantly finds things wrong with the best employees and things tend to run less smoothly when she is in the actual building. I started working with her son and one day he said to me "be careful, or you'll make my mother jealous." He said it in a joking tone but when I laughed his demeanor changed and he said "No, I'm serious." She's not the owner but she is the director of operations for both businesses. Long story short, I'm experiencing this right now, and I found this video amongst other videos constantly confirming my new opinion. A toxic boss can make entire companies dysfunctional.
I can never recommend talking to HR unless that HR department has a proven and visible track record of helping employees (HR claims of "I'm here to help" don't count). In my opinion, if things are bad enough to where you're considering talking to HR, then you should start looking for another job.
HR everywhere I've been have been about as useful as a water heater in Arizona.
Or you could get creative.
@@kaytlinrodin1660 What were your concerns?
My manager spoke to HR and told them she could handle the problem and they just ignored it just like she did
Very true. HR usually sides with bully bosses.
Sometimes it doesn't matter what you do or say. All you end up doing is losing your self respect and self esteem from. Some bosses only want to look good and could care less about the employee.
My (soon to be former) boss has been doing all seven of these. I thought he was just a narcissistic jerk (which he may be), but this answers a lot of questions. He not only does this to me, but to our entire team. Fortunately, I have enough income streams that I don't need that job, so I am leaving. It is sad that people who just want to work need to spend so much time managing and dodging toxic clowns rather than practicing their professions. I implemented some of the techniques addressed at the end of the video. Discovered them through trial and error. They do work, but I wanted to puke every time I had to pander to this clown, so leaving is better for my mental health.
I'd like to add the following.
1. Your boss stops communicating with you. Te may circulate changes in policy, procedure, etc., but your copy of the memo goes missing. When you go searching and conclude that neither paper copy nor electronic copy exists, but 'somehow everyone else found out', as stated by the boss, your boss is threatened by you and te is probably setting you up for an exit.
2. Your boss assigns other staff to your projects but doesn't tell you. This is a combination of my (1) above and the holding you back from your regular duties.
3. Your boss assigns you a task. You complete it to tis specifications, but it isn't right. You go off to do it again with little voluntary input from the boss. 'Poor', te says; 'do it again'. The correction isn't right. Finally, the boss assigns it to another person altogether, and often in an humiliating way. 'X, can you help so-and-so with this? Te just isn't getting it right'.
4. Your boss rewrites your work for you and tries to get you to sign off on it. Forgery, in my book.
There is nothing you can do but to flee. The power is in the boss' court because of the expense of litigation and because HR does not work to protect the employee rather the organization. Only when the boss's behavior becomes a threat timself will the organization stop the behavior. Sometimes that means moving the boss elsewhere in the organization; sometimes it means firing the boss.
I am on #4
@@RUclipsPurgetheblackplague, ugh! I am sorry to read this. Keep the files and ask for a forensic audit if it blows up.
True they agree the boss not the employee that's not fair
Everyone would leave my boss's team in less than a year as they disliked her so much. I was the only one that put up with her for close to three years. After 2 years of great reviews and even telling me higher management has never seen anything close to what I was doing, she proceeded to micromanage and bully me telling me I wasnt doing enough. I ended up resigning without a notice. It really impacted me as it made no sense, but this video has helped me make sense of things and get my motivation back. Thank you!
Yeah, I was told by my boss and HR to dumb down my responses and not to be so educational toward customers. I did that to a reoccurring customer and they got concerned with how I was responding to them. I told them what I was told to do. They asked are they here? No. Then they told me talk to talk to them how I would normally.
I know the signs well, i've lived that shit for over 20 years and 8 different companies. Although never really had problems with managers, it's always been team leads and supervisors that caused problems for me. I'm highly autonomous and this doesn't sit well with people who are a) stupid and b) think you shouldn't do anything unless told to do so.
Ugh, I had that at my last job. Once trained and up to speed with the other colleagues I can become highly autonomous. At that job we often had no supervisor during the worst summer months due to lack of staff and heavy demand. He just had to be elsewhere doing other stuff and that was fine. The team would coordinate and delegate equality enroute and just get it done. There was no real leader and honestly it wasn’t needed, but out of empathy and compassion I would check with each person every so often in case they were getting frustrated with doing the same task all afternoon and suggest a swap around if they were.
Alas this was enough to get me marked as the unofficial leader. I quickly realised that I was automatically being deferred to and that for the most part the team were happy to follow my lead. I was fair and impartial-I just kept an eye on things and settled disagreements on the very rare occasions that they occurred. But of course eventually HR recruited enough staff and the workload began to lessen and that’s when the trouble started. The supervisor returned and began doing the job he should have been doing the whole time and he did NOT like the easygoing autonomy that the team had developed. Now I admit that I should have noticed this sooner but he really didn’t like the way everyone sort of knew what was expected of them and came to me when it was time to delegate or mediate.
Far too late did I realise what was happening. We’d effectively made him obsolete and surplus to requirements. I only noticed this when he started powerfully asserting himself and very obviously imposing his way of doing things on us. And as if to add insult to injury his method was not only worse but more than one person felt they were being treated unequally and thus cohesion and morale collapsed. When I realised that he was actively targeting me, sabotaging me and lying to me in order to set me up for failure I realised that it was time to get a backup plan sorted and thankfully it was easy enough to quietly negotiate entry to another company that does the same services to clients. I still wonder how it looked for him to abuse the six month probationary period to get me sacked, but then I reappear two weeks later with the uniform of their main competitor.
My boss (immediate supervisor) felt threatened by me, which was rather ironic considering he'd just been promoted over me to a position i should've got all day long (i was the previous supervisors no 2/right hand man). He and another colleague actively said "don't worry, we'll get rid of him somehow". He tried to force me out by cutting my hours. The prick.
There is no place to go as of now. My boss ignores my calls, career emails, basically being isolated despite outstanding performance. I found peace when I blocked his phone , wattsapp etc. Can send me email. I only do my work. That's it.
Spot-on. checking all the marks. The last straw was when a new employee showed up who was introduced to fill the role I was supposed to do. Boss never talked about any of this, gave me a PIP instead. Put in HR complaint. HR replied: "he is your boss - the pip is meant to help you do your job better". Started looking for another job immediately. Stopped pointing out their mistakes and did things exactly as they asked, even if they did not make sense. By the time I was able to move to new job, project was already suffering. Boss never spoke to me, not even on last day.
Hate to hear how workers are treated like garbage as if they had no dignity or value s a human being.
@@mkervelegan Absolutely. It is a putrid work environment what we have in the USA. Especially for easy targets. North Korean like cults of egos, major inefficiency, No workers rights, environment of fear.
Old Boomer was very threatened by me- knowing I am 25 years younger, more educated and had actual qualifications- I'm not even sure why they hired me if he felt this way. The work was RIDICULOUSLY basic, and then he just stopped giving me work, because I finished it so quickly. I was excluded from meetings, he was very quick to try and point out my mistakes and I was just as quick to explain how I am not wrong, and educated him to 21st century standards. He would shut me down in meetings and I was told not to contribute, I was just there to observe. Unbelievable. It was a complete waste of time and I learned nothing other than working in a toxic team and how to manage badly.
Well the issues are very simple. If you’re a threat to your boss that’s a good thing, you just need to outshine them, you need to continue to better, and then you need to replace them. That’s called leadership. It’s also important to build good relationships with those above your boss so that if these threats continue you’ll have allies at the top and it’s always good to have some friends in HR. I’m sorry but all bosses are replaceable and every boss should train those underneath him to be better than him or her.
Yes, but sometimes it’s not that simple. Sometimes office politics keeps these people in these leadership positions when they should definitely be replaced. Sometimes no matter how hard you work things are just out of your control.
@@Justrelaxx101 Right, It is better to leave the sinking ship early if you can.
@@Justrelaxx101 usually the toxic person gets protected for some reason.
I have been fired when my boss was threatened by me
My former manager was quickly threatened by my over zealousness to get ahead and it was a disaster for both of us as we both were fired.
Sounds like the position I am in at the moment. I was always like the guy who brings the team together and share good ideas. But all of the sudden I am on a pip as well. Even though I am performing just as well as others in the team and I know I am. My bosses boss has always disliked me I just feel like its in the air around him. He's always nit-picking as well.
I had this problem a few times, red flag, the boss is younger or worse your age, he finds you as a rival, he or she nicer to less experience co-workers or younger, my boss never wanted to introduce me to the owner even I sold the most. Also, he did not go to college and called me college boy. I quit the next month and six months after I left he wanted to take me out to get a drink.
Did you go?
Sounds like some I know..shes slightly older than someone, nit picks people with quirks didn't at first but likes younger people esp trouble makers and ignoring complaints about these bad eggs..and let them move up the ranks but thus one person never got that..often put alot of wirk on that person and but blame on that person for small mistakes, or things she didn't do she started off fine when 2 or 3 others worked around her but when they left ..she lets bullying go on and she began to bully and people had to fight to get things other than dishes and one gal that went to college she commented shes doing better than her..accuse people of lying when they aren't
This 48 Laws of Power, Law Number One: Never outshine the master.
U r so correct. Although I knew everyone would listen to me on my job, I never out shined my boss. I always purposely made a mistake on all reports I gave him so he could correct something so he could feel good. Sucked but I did it and it worked.
??? Master, we live in at-will employment...Just leave. You deserve better.
Ugh. No one is my master.
Fk the master
@@SK-ql3yf Facts!!
My boss found out I was job hunting while our office was temporarily cealed and I had no Idea as to weather or not the office will reopen, he found out because one of the employers was cross checking with references and they contacted him.
I don't know what he said but he has been taking away my big tasks and assignments and giving it away to a new member of our team. I don't know how to interpret this anymore, am not included in anything anymore 😪
Oof... sorry to hear that :( Hopefully you get a new role and get out soon! Then you won't have to deal with getting cut out of things.
Been really feeling this lately ... Wow...
I know how you feel… I had an insecure boss a couple years ago, and it was miserable for me!
Spot on... my boss started to change treatment after his weakness was shown to management due to his failure explain the project and lead to many difficult conversations. Due to his failure, I was pull in by the BIG boss to explain to management and our client. Ever since the incident, he had been talking me in unfriendly tone, cynically and suspecting me plotting against him. It is just too tired to manage as I am paid to do my job and now I have to work overtime to manage him and his curveball (do not support my promotion and still ask me to stay within the team). Had requested to transfer to another team but was yelled at. Has the urge to resign but advise by my friends not to be silly. I am having sleepless nights from stress and working almost 7 days a week.
Sorry you’re experiencing this. Don’t be afraid to apply elsewhere :)
What about when you notice this kind of behaviour because you demand your labor rights?
my boss was turning co workers against me.
I had an awesome boss that put his trust in us, gave us room to perform, continuous praise and a map for our future. Now I have a boss that is young, inexperienced, silences all ideas and ways of doing things if it goes against his way, has impeded upward mobility, and doesn’t give any praise at all so you really have no idea how you’re doing. It sucks, because I work for a great company and don’t want to leave. I just don’t know how to get out from under him. All of the higher ups seem to think he’s great.
I'm in the same boat.
My soon to be former boss does everything you mentioned. He accuses me of bringing down the entire organization and making him look bad. Yet, it is the other way around because no one likes him, and many would prefer working with me. Yesterday, he went on a rant on how bad I am, and how all racial groups like myself behave this way. Wouldn’t surprise me once he gets investigated and shown the door because I’ll be laughing all the way to the bank.
If you're in the USA and have documented what your boss said about racial groups, you have a lawsuit.
No disrespect but some female bosses can go overboard trying to prove that they can be just as a good as a male.
compensatory syndrome
if your boss is threatened by you, please, do not waste any time or energy to change their behaviours. start looking for an exit strategy. an insecure person would never make a good manager so has many tools in their belt to derail one's career. so don't wait.
My immediate supervisor, a very experienced ex-military person, said to me that I was more qualified than her at our first onboarding meeting. I took that as a compliment because, for me, this was a completely new job and a new area. Two weeks later I made a small error and asked her how to rectify it. I could have started over and hidden it. No one would have ever known. For my openness I was banished for two weeks and made to do menial tasks and micromanaged to hell and back. Following this my skills were never utilised and I was not allowed to grow. I reported her and she realised that I couldn't be pushed about, but management didn't act so after 6 months of this I transferred out of that department.
What you talk about are for large offices with many employees.
My office is small, only 4 of us, and the clients have been with us for decades and they love me. What I HAVE discovered is this: My boss won't tell me everything, which tells me HE still needs to be the "go to" person, even if he doesn't want to do the things I do that keeps the office running smoothly.
I've complained so much, that I don't even feel like commenting about it.
1. Your projects change for the worst
2. Your name doesnt come up
3. Your opinion is silenced/tries to assert dominance or leadership in the group
4. You are labeled "difficult" if you arent going along with the flow
5. You have formal action taken against you
6. You're feeling stuck
7. Other executives stay away from you
What you can do about it:
1. Find out why
2. Stroke their ego to let them know you are not a threat and on their team
3. Pivot your boss to move forward
4. If your boss looks good, you look good. Keep this in mind, communicate this
No, that just makes you seem weak. They will treat you worse
@@stever507 exactly, they do not get to cross professional boundaries with their toxic bs in the workplace!
3. When he moves forward, he'll use that to put more blocages your path, that has been my experience
5. Try to befriend other executives, try to get your boss and his friends fired.
I have been there with a boss that was a carbon copy of this. It's like, "let the games begin", because that is exactly what it is, a silly little ego game.
I'm going through this now. She keeps setting things up for me to fail and I keep getting fooled. Starting to stroke her ego now. It's like 2 jobs. Never file a report. Only makes this worse.
I agree with all the points outlined here but highly disagree with the advice given at the end. You basically advise the employee to brown nose and babysit the feelings of a boss who feels threatened. If a boss is threatened by you he/she might be a narcissist and has far more personality problems that they need to address personally. It is not the job of an employee to reassure and kiss a boss' a*s. Employees deal with enough BS and office politics as it is!!!
Opinion silenced is definitely my manager (who is nothing like as technically proficient as I am) - In any directors meeting when I speak he has essentially three options:
1:) Cut across because we don't have the time - after 5 seconds - but we've got an extra 10 minutes for someone else.
2:) Cut across me in order to support my point - and spend x3 as long, making it his point not mine.
3:) Cut across me in order to turn it into something different from what I was saying - thus turning it into businessy bullshit rather than practical solutions... and making it his point not mine.
... in my case I have good conversations with executives - they're hard to get to though .... without my immediate manager also being there doing his thing... but there are signs a sideways move may be possible so, fingers crossed for that! 🤞
When the owner had a heartattack his son took over the business and my job went down the tubes...I was office manager and knew more about the business than he did.... he resented the fact the customers looked to me not him..Jr took away my job description and I was only allowed to answer calls and refer customers to him...which went into voice-mail and were never acknowledged. ...when I brought it up with his mother she ignored me...when Jr blamed me for his poor management skills and lost customers .. I quit..but not without making out my paycheck ..I had his Mother sign it ...when she asked why I didn't make the payroll out and her check...
I told her she could have her new secretary do it..Jr had neglected to tell her..I quit...since leaving the company Jr has run the business into the ground and lost almost all of the customers to the competition....
🤣🤣🤣 Good for you! Keep your head up high 😃😃😃
super on point! i wish i could learn this earlier! Thank you!
You hit the nail on the head. Great video.
This is the most valuable channel on RUclips!!! I've been dealing with these types of issues all my life from threatened managers 😥😥
What an excellent video! I wish I'd had empowering resources like this when I was younger. There's so much truth in this. You absolutely need to document all that happens in situations like this. The idea of pivoting someone around who is already engaging in actions that indicate they're deeply threatened is something I wonder about. If a boss is so lacking in self-awareness that they're displaying these actions with no idea how obvious they're being, the likelihood is that the person is best off leaving, surely.
This my exact scenario..thank you for confirming my suspicions.
Great topic. I really struggle with micromanaging. Always had a job in sales with high KPIs and targets. Wish that I could just be trusted to do my job. Thanks for tips. It's definitely tough when youre good at being assertive and good at your job!!!!!!!
Yes, that exactly what happens to me. Even when I accept the new role whole heartily, I still shines.
Yep. This is very true.
This is so good to know Benjamin! Thanks for breaking it all down for us!
Not a problem at all! Thank you so much to watching!
Thanks for the info. Great video. 👍
Thanks for watching!
I've been there recently from my past employer. When I asked about my salary to be fair pay to what I do etc. I've been told that my position is probably redundant and been put on personal improvement which has been pushed and pushed, moved and moved. Always given short deadlines with lot of tasks from unrealistic targets to very hard to be achieved in short deadlines and at the end threatened with legal actions against me... I just handed my resignation right away, I could not be asked to continue working in that toxic environment.
Great video...subscribed! 😊💛
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I intimidate a chef at my restaurant because i can manage the restaurant without him and have cheffed 12 hour shifts , 7 days a week without stopping. I am able to control the direction of the team and have every recipe memorized by heart. Boss is being drug tested due to me convincing everyone to come forward to human resources. He has not showed up to work for 2 weeks. Good riddants.
U said it all buddy 💪🏼👍👍
Super content! Thanks for the info! Great video :D
Thanks! Glad it was helpful!
my favorite sign is when my boss panics when i point a knife at him
Way to hit a hot button with your video Ben. You got awesome traction here. :)
Yes! I’ve been amazed by the traction this video has gotten. But as long as it’s helpful to people 😄
Or your boss got a divorce and happened o come to work to "kick the cat".
Yeah she's mean to everyone at work but I'm going to leave it in god's hands yes I've scared her by physical means and words I'm not scared of bully's I'm use to jerks
Yes this is sooo true
I had a part timer get promoted over me, they saw me as a threat! (he'd just been promoted over me!). He tried to force me out by cutting my hours (nobody expected me to stay as it was a promotion that 100% i should've got and he knew it).
OK! Every single one.
I am labeled as difficult cause I am a main driver of remote work positions for those that can and have been doing it the last 2 years. It got to a point that my position was changed from under him to another person so that he does not have to deal with me. I have been a rock star and continue to be a rock star. I am glad he did what he did cause now I am in IT and he just handed me the keys.... either way I am in the mindset that I am ready to be terminated if director decides that is best for "his" career....
Great video topic
Thanks for watching!
My colleague is threatened by me. So he said and do all things to break my mood everytime. So I resigned. I'm happy now. That idiot.
Why do organizations let bosses undermine their organizations like this?
At every job... lmao it's so funny! I keep to myself and do my job and leave.
Very helpful
Thanks for watching, Ali!
Great Video!
Thank you, Christy! Thanks for watching
Living in the realm at work of " your opinion is silenced" & It is making the job harder, more frustrating, and makes me think about sustaining this job for the future may not be possible. It's sad that when someone doesn't have confidence in their own abilities or has insecurities, they want to knock you down in some kind of way or make you dumb yourself down so they feel better. Better. I don't understand that! If someone has good ideas or can contribute to the team effort for the overall benefit of the company or business, that should be appreciated. Sadly, workplace politics or favoritism does still interfere.
Every company should have a policy: mediocre but ambitions people have to be kept out of management. But most middle managers admire ambitious people and promote them. Ambition is not a value.
I recently moved after buying a home in the country. My employer demoted me to transfer me, claiming no higher positions were available. After six months, I just accepted a promotion that would give me some of my money back. This is because my boss is out on knee surgery. I was previously doing HER job making a lot more money. I have been told, when she returns, she will feel very threatened by me and my life will be miserable. I really didn’t want to walk into that type of situation, and now I’m concerned.
I hate my boss because he doesn't give me leave or overload a work. I resign my job
My bosses currently, so they’ve pushed me out and I’m quitting.
I am facing HATE crimes, and forced to work for no pay and have lost 90 lbs