Oh, tell me about. I got that so many times. He told me once. Ok, Wissass, do the Project Your way, But I am Checking it Out, When You are Done. I finished, he told all of my coworkers, to come and see my project. He said, It Was Perfect. As, I was doing it, I was still able to talk and joke, with my coworkers. I loved how, I showed him up. Just doing my job and being me.
If they are threatened by you.....and you are nothing but Professional with them.....trying to speak with them will not work. Avoid them and do not let them drag you down: Professionally or Personally !!! You can't cure STUPID, IMMATURE, IRRATIONAL & JEALOUS !!!! 😣😒They need to GROW UP and act their Age....not their Shoe Size !!!!😒😒😔
@@johnpastore7685I am in my early 60s, years of working experience tells me not to complain to the HR or to my manager because it may backfired or they are not with you. Just leave if you think that place is too shitty.
When your threatened co-workers try to pit everyone against you, especially brand new employees, just stay quiet, do not react to their teasing, just focus hard core on your work. Eventually the tables turn and people who were sucked in get curious and actively seek you out and genuinely try to get to know you.
This is so true. It is sickening how people prey on trying to destroy others character. Going on a character assassination and smear campaign especially when you did nothing to them. Like the saying goes what is done in the dark will sure come to light and hopefully others will see through that sick twisted person's way.
It’s so weird how that works. When you don’t react to their hate, they often times eventually start pretending nothing happened and try to befriend you. That’s happened to me many times. But I still steer clear of them because they’ve already shown their true colors.
@@johnpastore7685It’s especially frustrating to be the only one who sees how evil a certain person is, while that person is actively trying to destroy you. “But they seem so nice.”
I tried spreading recognition around, not to myself but other team members. My boss privately chewed me out and told me never again to do that in front of other team members, other managers or other departments. He said he would take care of all the recognition. Of course, he never did. I don't work there anymore.
Yeah, your boss felt like you were over stepping him and definitely felt threatened by your initiative, which is great. I had the same thing happen when I worked in academics. This individual saw me doing "more" than him and told me to tone things down as not to overshadow his work. So, of course he felt threatened. I was doing a better job than him and people saw it. That threatened his position, so he actively started to politics against me. There's a bad apple in every bunch. I don't work there anymore either. Neither does he. :)
@@josiah5776 Don’t worry about that. I do agree with the feed back on the person that did comment. Your boss did feel you were overstepping. Very glad you are not working there anymore. You don’t need that toxicity
@@BillyDGoat Yes, I got that. Look for another job. In the meantime, do you current job well. Put that on your resume. When you get the other job, leave.
How did you handle it? I usually ignore them and move on with my work. I didn't see any real solution beyond that because if other workers could have their brains twisted that easily then they are not the type of people I respect anyway and it will be soon time to move on.
Wouldn't it be nice if you were legally allowed to have a brawl in the parking lot with these offending coworkers. Just settle it before you clock in and earn their respect. If they mess with you, they get an ass whoopin'.
It is terrific to fantasize about isn't it! Good thing fantasizing isn't illegal. Feel like grabbing them by the tie slam their head against the car and knee them in the balls hard in quick succession. And then to tell them "Did you really think you could just move against me. What is wrong with you being so suicidal to anger me. Just how stupid are you?" ... fantasy, aaah. Makes a man blow off steam without anyone actually getting hurt. 😁😇
3:39 This is what happened in my previous job. People lied about me being incompetent, even though there was an electronic trail of my work that proved otherwise. When I started telling the coworkers I trusted about what was being said about me, most of them were shocked & horrified because they could see clearly that none of it was true. The silent treatment was also extremely frustrating. Certain people would ignore me when I asked questions, even if it was necessary for my particular job.
It's nothing you can do about it unless you're severely harassed then sue they're butts. But other than that, just keep doing you! Others will later realize who you really are as an associate at the work place. Don't try to prove yourself to others, it's a waist of time.
@@johnpastore7685 You feel the need to say "not always" and deflect with your experiences is a problem. Most people in power are not people like me. Opportunities are giving way less to non-white people based on stuff people can't control.
Most sad when it’s the manager. Never given any acknowledgment - no happy birthday, no work anniversary, no acknowledgement when competing difficult projectS - yes multiple projects. While any negative feedback is called out publicly. Also steals ideas as her own.
@@sweetcapricorn Yes, do your best. Don't freak out, over toxic people, or situations. If you feel you have to look for another job, do it. But, do your job, talk to the coworkers that you can talk to. Remember this, if you die, tomorrow you will be replaced. Your are also married to you family and maybe your true friends. Not, your job, even your dream job.
Someone I recently worked with at my current project tried to turn people in the project against me, including her own boss. She was kicked out of the project last month. She’ll likely get kicked out of the company in less than a few months. When you do really good work, are engaged with your colleagues, show up for others, it’s way harder for lazy and incompetent people to turn people against you.
Have you ever tried bad imitations of food you like? When they do that, they're doing a bad imitation. They know they're trying to be like you. But can't, because you're unique.
@@feyzaoz8536 Look for another job. Still be yourself. Watch the girl, as a learning tool on how to improve yourself as a better person. Do something unique that only you can do, see if she can copy you on your uniqueness. If she can, give her a compliment. If not say on a very dry funny tone, I don’t say, or do it like that. But nice try.
Mine has changed her hair color then said the other day “our hair is almost the same color”. I mentioned about getting a coral color for my pedicure and she came in with her fake nails and they were painted coral. So weird!!
I’ve avoided certain ppl- who keep trying too hard as they are wanting something from you. Energy vampires. A lady I work with/ had kept trying message after hours and was becoming non work related- kept having crisis issues . I don’t have the capacity to deal that. if ya give in a bit they take a mile from you.
You are not a psychiatrist. If someone wants me to listen to their problems, they're going to have pay me $1 per minute. At least make some money off of it.
@@JoesVinylShow1980WOW - how does this comment determine i'm diagnosing (i.e. a psychiatrist).. i mentioned nothing about medications or disorders. lol . side note: I am an RN so I know a little bit. Thank you. You Tube trolls everwhere.
@@prepforlife4425 You misunderstood me. I was encouraging you to not deal with coworkers NON-worked related problems after hours. I was just giving you friendly advice. I wasn't trying to insult you or demean you.
I have a co worker who'd mutter to herself that she thinks I'm stupid. It doesn't really phase me that much because people who do that are really insecure. People who aren't insecure don't try to put other people down. Real adults communicate when they have a problem but children in adult bodies will try to put others down to feel better about themselves. I could even sense negative energy from this person before that happened.
These type of people won't amount to much in life. Don't try to force being liked at a job, keep moving and upgrading. I like to think of how people talk about the President who is holding the top spot in the country yet people who are nobodies in in the country have so much negative energy these important leaders.
Do not talk to them. If they try to play dumb and be friendly with you, ignore every single thing they say to you. If they don't do their job to try to sabatage you, tell them what to do, and if they don't do it, professionally tell the boss.
Thank you for the information. I am in some such a situation, where I am the" victim" . I have also noticed that they seem to know how you feel ,and what you're thinking . My coworker will tell the other coworker, " Yeah , she's jealous. She jealous of us because we get along so well..." When in fact, I'm not jealous of them at all. I don't even think about stuff like that. So, how does she know how I feel? Then , there's the one where they presume I have a "predicament" but, I didn't know I was in a predicament! These people are sad and unhappy. Everything they say about me is exactly what they are!😅
You have identified EVERY characteristic of a few co-workers of mine. The "ring leader" is in her feelings because the department manager didn't hire her for the job I currently hold. She simply doesn't have the skillset, and apparently she was under the impression that she was due this job. The behavior of her and the other co-workers is clannish and cliquish. They'll pass by my work station each morning without a greeting, but will greet one another. I'm very good at "handling" her, and I have no interest nor intentions of going out of my way to "fit in" we're WELL PAST THAT! I make my money and I go home. Once I've reached my monetary goal, I'll drop a WEEK NOTICE! LOL!
Yes an older woman is always trying to make me look bad at work She talks to the new guy at work He now doesnt respond to my greetings like he used to I dont waste my time saying greetings unless they say first. I act kind polite to every co worker Even to the passive aggressive ones
Thank you for this wonderful video! I recently got promoted and getting a lot of abuse from a coworker who’s been the company for way longer. It’s really hard because she has to work under me. I find your tips really helpful especially on the part of discussing the workflow with them.
I like the video. Sadly I find your advice around 03:40 is often unsuccessful because the threatened person(s) tend to associate with each other and the people that "would" speak up are the minions/associates of the attacker so the support does not occur. You keep doing good work (which I highly encourage) and it's ignored or minimized. The situation is worsened when your other co-workers think highly of the threatened person or think lowly of the "threatening" person. Sad state. So many cowards out here.
It's why I keep my expectations very low. I don't expect to get praised. But do brag every chance you get once you do something excellent, just so that they can't take credit. If you have a unique personality and unconventional way of solving things, no way they can steal your credit. Only your quirky and unique mind could think of these things.
Don't approach them and call it out would be my advice, because they'll likely deny the animosity and accuse you of being pedantic and make you look stupid. Remember you are just there for one sole purpose and that is to do your job, period. If it's unbearable approach manager but be very cautious with this move also. At the end of the day they're just very petulant and childish and likely covert narcissists and should be treated as such.
I have tried to”educate” my manager about the toxic environment under his charge. It should be his responsibility to deal with this, however, to save any physical energy on his behalf, he enables the toxicity. I will be looking for another job soon.
@@davevenables3534 I had that happen to me. Don’t feel insecure about yourself. Of course, stand up for yourself, you feel you have to, but yes look for another job.
Gosh, its so bad, but the silent treatment / and the passive aggressive behaviour is what I'm being hit with currently. And the lack of eye contact, oh. BOY. Its just juvenile.
I sat right next to a guy at work for over a year. He didn't even acknowledge my existence. Literally never said a word to me including hello or goodbye. If I tried to speak to him, he would look down at the desk muttering something I couldn't hear, even when I was asking how he was. One day, he was really stressed and had a lot of work. I asked him if there was any work I could help him with , his answer was " you think you can learn in 5 minutes what it took me 8 years to learn?" End of conversation as he went back to completely ignored me
There is one at work ,who point out any mistakes and tell people that it was me .and when they investigate ,it turn out to be their mistake now she is restless around me ,when I look her in the eye ,I see the sadness in them .
On jobs there are people who will do whatever to destroy someone. Some do that on the basis that they will do whatever to get ahead by any means necessary. Or on the other hand it can go even further than that. There are people who believe that they know who the evil people are. And they also believe with such people there's only one way to handle them.
What I do is try not to engage with them period. I don't even say hi or bye to them. I just go on about my work, get my paycheck and go home. I keep being myself.
I had that happened to me at my work, but a good tip I use is eye on the prize and keep your expectations low. Also still learn to be nice to everyone even the difficult coworkers. I also found when you show up for work, on time, every week and do your job well while being a team player, upper management will notice and it looks good for you.
These workplace advisors usually give useless advice because people who behave like this are narcissists. So all this advice is basically telling the person who is on the receiving end of a narcissistic person's bad behavior is to just keep being victimized.
Exactly. And it will increase the targeting. You have to cut off the toxic person completely. Gray rock them, even though it’s work. Things can still get done without interacting with them.
I’m in Lloydminster a small town in Canada and have experienced this many times because people here are not well travelled or have never in their entire lives worked or been friends with someone of culture or race. It’s sad.
Thank you for this enlightenment. I am currently subbing for a assistant teacher, 4 more weeks to go. I am a retired elementary teacher with 12 years of good schools under my belt. The current lead teacher (in the same class room) doesn't acknowledge my good ideas and responded with "No, I am in charge." She only communicates when she feels happy (personal problems?). She won't let me speak with students about their learning problems and interferes and leads them away. I don't find her kind with the little ones and they seem to be intimidated by her. A few weeks ago she was sick and I taught the class with a new assistant and we had so much fun and no crying kids, no drama. It was the relief I needed. I decided not to confront her for the sake of the kids and because the end is in sight but will address it with the principal when I leave. I know she feels threatened by me as she uses some ideas from me earlier without giving me credit.
I started a new job a while back where mistakes could turn into tragedies or serious complaints. One team member persistently ignores me when saying good morning, whilst looking only at those they are saying it to. Otherwise, they seem friendly enough and helpful when they are showing me stuff. On occasion, they do say something or suggest a course of action that I disagree with and on a couple of occasions recently it has turned out that what they told me was wrong. I just thank them now, or partially acknowledge what they said if there is a nugget of some truth in what they say, and then ignore their advice and and do my own thing. I kind of get the impression that they think themselves a bit a cut above me because they hold certain responsibilities other team members at my grade don't hold. I wouldn't say that the team is toxic, but there are some worrying elements there. I find the best thing is to just be friendly, professional and polite and treat everyone equally and not to take any passive aggressive behaviours seriously. I focus on doing my job well. I'm not a serious threat because I am too new and have too much to learn. I guess that helps dampen down any likelihood of anyone being threatened by me as they are much better at the job than I am.
I have to work with a guy with analysis paralysis. He is also the boss’s best buddy and shop rat. No way for me to win nor even be involved in higher level work while he sits there overthinking everything. I’m quitting soon. Will let him look worse when I’m gone and no one left to do my work and With issues finding suitable replacements to step in.
Great content!!! I am doing most of the things you advise already and this video gives me confirmation that I am to continue. I’m not totally bother by the situation m, but did have a moment of wanting to question the reason subject in hand is acting in such a way. After a weekend of thoughts and watching your video… I have decided to let well enough alone and continue to redirect the conversation. I think other staff are picking up on her attitude towards me so she is basically hanging herself…no energy lost…so not worth the fighting 😉Thanks
When l was young coworkers picked on me for my inexperienced and amaterish in my trade. Thirty years on (now), coworkers at my newly joint company are jealous of me (cold treatment) because l am presumably too experienced, boss spent longer time discussing stuff with me than others, and in some ways outshines them.
I got your point, but I have a situation where I was hired as a head bartender, and bar manager in a restaurant and my job was to create 10 seasonal cocktails, manage the bar, etc. When I started working, I saw the bartender was close to the owners/managers and he decided a lot of things that I was supposed to do, He always complained about my job, tried to make me look bad, He did not want to follow a recipe or follow the steps of service, but he brings coffee to one manager, red bull to another manager. In the end, I lose my job, cause this guy was an ass-kisser and want my position. He Ignore me, Ignore the recipe, the rules, everything, like cmon I'm the owner's friend. and this type of situation makes owners and managers so blind. My question is why people do not see when they are in a manager position, the same things they saw when they were an employee, that there always this guy with no talent for the job but he tries to compensate it flattery
I am working in a team with a colleague in the same committee, each of us have our clear areas of responsibilities, but she oversees the running of the committee. My co-worker tells me to that i need to update her on details concerning my work so that if anyone asks, she will be able to answer. Yet she witheld info necessary for the successful completion of my job scope as she would receive info from various parties routed to her first since she is the overall i/c. She never discuss anything in person with me citing busy schedule but either would text me in tje night or weekends what we need to do when meeting the client the next day, leaving me scrambling to prepare myself.
Yeah NO. IGNORING this person who is ruining your work reputation by telling you everything you do is wrong or critical of the work you’ve been assigned after it is done or asking you to do something and three seconds after you have instructed the 50 people around you to do it, immediately stop everyone and tell them… quote NOOOO, you don’t have to do that just do what you have been doing. It’s so bad that I have anxiety about going to work when I have to be there with her
Hi Elizabeth, i have another video that covers that specific topic. Go to 8:38 time stamp and it covers what you can do if your boss is threatened by you: ruclips.net/video/6I4i-hawV_8/видео.html
Why would they? Are they worried that they're never going to get promoted? They'll only feel threatened if you prove you're more talented. A team player would appreciate your help.
What if your subordinate makes non verbal signals like saying no by shaking their head while your in mid sentence and negatively blocks you from tasks or invitations to participate as I see fit and would support progress. What if your boss who sees this behavior and says nothing
Great Video. I think I have a situation like this going on between me and another co-worker. I’ve actually asked him once before, “what can we do to help us both work together?” His response, “It’s all on you there is nothing on my end that I need to change”. How do you respond to that?
Not true. I avoid the coworkers that act like they are the boss. Not because im threatened by them, but because i dont like them. Simply dont like their person and what they are. Its a natural and a healthy respons. And if they are not the boss, they should have that respons.
What do all these so-called advisors in the workplace tell the victim of emotional and mental abuse and sabotage to put up with it grin and bear it, ignore and keep working? Why do they encourage victims to keep being victimized?. And assume everything will work out. Don't they know that a cancer if not taken care of will spread?. To me, that's no different than if somebody is being physically abused to tell him well. Just put up with the beatings grin and bare it and stay focused. Maybe eventually Superman will come in and rescue you.
Not really agreeing with this information. Sometimes they are sleeping with someone to get the promotion and sometimws they are incompetent and moved up bc playing thw workplace games. I am in an offci efull of incompetence that is being promoted
Ok question please answer I noticed my co worker acted rude out off blue and she and I are white she oddly did it first time saying don’t talk to me are you on the clock and are you working but dosnt say it too ithers and it’s a first they do I have autism and also another person dosnt look at me either where she says not to be rude but your not supposed to be at counter and wasn’t looking at me but I feel like two managers like people arnt friendly or nit lll likeing I’m by myself
Dont say anything that may incriminate you. Keep your mouth shut, gray rock, do your job, go home. They will find someone else to pick on eventually. You do you. 🙏🏼
I’m the only female on my shift and I work on machines. Messed up my foot because of work since all the “men” couldn’t help me so I helped myself. Completed my shift, completed my tasks, still helped them and went above what they expected me to do. It’s called integrity
O I am very threatened by him but obviously not just that. I want us to work as a team, not enemys.if he wasn't so damn selfish at work maybe I wouldn't be causing hell for my coworker
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Oh, tell me about. I got that so many times. He told me once. Ok, Wissass, do the Project Your way, But I am Checking it Out, When You are Done. I finished, he told all of my coworkers, to come and see my project. He said, It Was Perfect. As, I was doing it, I was still able to talk and joke, with my coworkers. I loved how, I showed him up. Just doing my job and being me.
If they are threatened by you.....and you are nothing but Professional with them.....trying to speak with them will not work. Avoid them and do not let them drag you down: Professionally or Personally !!! You can't cure STUPID, IMMATURE, IRRATIONAL & JEALOUS !!!! 😣😒They need to GROW UP and act their Age....not their Shoe Size !!!!😒😒😔
Exactly!🎯
@@tracivela9137 True, but after awhile it does get annoying. Find another job
@@johnpastore7685I am in my early 60s, years of working experience tells me not to complain to the HR or to my manager because it may backfired or they are not with you. Just leave if you think that place is too shitty.
When your threatened co-workers try to pit everyone against you, especially brand new employees, just stay quiet, do not react to their teasing, just focus hard core on your work. Eventually the tables turn and people who were sucked in get curious and actively seek you out and genuinely try to get to know you.
This is so true. It is sickening how people prey on trying to destroy others character. Going on a character assassination and smear campaign especially when you did nothing to them. Like the saying goes what is done in the dark will sure come to light and hopefully others will see through that sick twisted person's way.
That's still sad to tolerate bad treatment like hazing almost
Yes, had that happen to me. I saw a person for what they were, nobody else did, then everyone else started to see it
It’s so weird how that works. When you don’t react to their hate, they often times eventually start pretending nothing happened and try to befriend you. That’s happened to me many times. But I still steer clear of them because they’ve already shown their true colors.
@@johnpastore7685It’s especially frustrating to be the only one who sees how evil a certain person is, while that person is actively trying to destroy you. “But they seem so nice.”
Jealousy in any workplace around the country is not unusual.
New job, feeling a lot of hostility from new coworkers, they are pathetic. Ive started looking for a new job instantly.
@@booradley0x0 keep looking. You will get your dream job. If you can, put on your resume the job you have now. Then, try to leave on good terms
Yes! This is the way, sometimes. Some people can be so absurd.
No you keep being great!
@@johnpastore7685 100%. I’ve had two interviews and turned down roles as they seemed worse than where I am now. I just need to get out.
This is exactly what I’m going through. Doesn’t help that it’s my first job either.
Someone getting people to turn against me was definitely something I experienced. Nothing worse than toxic work environments.
Been there
people like this thrive in the area that does not quite rise to the level of harassment but they'll make a career of keeping it petty.
The office gossipers are insecure in general. People that stay busy dont have time for that baloney. Period!
I tried spreading recognition around, not to myself but other team members. My boss privately chewed me out and told me never again to do that in front of other team members, other managers or other departments. He said he would take care of all the recognition. Of course, he never did. I don't work there anymore.
Yeah, your boss felt like you were over stepping him and definitely felt threatened by your initiative, which is great.
I had the same thing happen when I worked in academics. This individual saw me doing "more" than him and told me to tone things down as not to overshadow his work. So, of course he felt threatened. I was doing a better job than him and people saw it. That threatened his position, so he actively started to politics against me. There's a bad apple in every bunch. I don't work there anymore either. Neither does he. :)
@@josiah5776 Don’t worry about that. I do agree with the feed back on the person that did comment. Your boss did feel you were overstepping. Very glad you are not working there anymore. You don’t need that toxicity
I had coworkers who literally will interrupt me, not let me talk at all, and totally talk to everyone else present except for me.
Me 2
@@BillyDGoat Yes, I got that. Look for another job. In the meantime, do you current job well. Put that on your resume. When you get the other job, leave.
How did you handle it? I usually ignore them and move on with my work. I didn't see any real solution beyond that because if other workers could have their brains twisted that easily then they are not the type of people I respect anyway and it will be soon time to move on.
There are toxic insecure people in the work place simply there to get paid it’s so annoying thanks for the video
Wouldn't it be nice if you were legally allowed to have a brawl in the parking lot with these offending coworkers. Just settle it before you clock in and earn their respect. If they mess with you, they get an ass whoopin'.
It is terrific to fantasize about isn't it! Good thing fantasizing isn't illegal.
Feel like grabbing them by the tie slam their head against the car and knee them in the balls hard in quick succession.
And then to tell them "Did you really think you could just move against me. What is wrong with you being so suicidal to anger me. Just how stupid are you?"
... fantasy, aaah. Makes a man blow off steam without anyone actually getting hurt. 😁😇
Real talk
Been in that situation. It’s was over stupid things, too
😂😂😂😂
3:39 This is what happened in my previous job. People lied about me being incompetent, even though there was an electronic trail of my work that proved otherwise. When I started telling the coworkers I trusted about what was being said about me, most of them were shocked & horrified because they could see clearly that none of it was true. The silent treatment was also extremely frustrating. Certain people would ignore me when I asked questions, even if it was necessary for my particular job.
It's nothing you can do about it unless you're severely harassed then sue they're butts. But other than that, just keep doing you! Others will later realize who you really are as an associate at the work place. Don't try to prove yourself to others, it's a waist of time.
I really needed to read this comment. Thank you. 🙏
The toxic office gossipers. its not you, let them waste time while you keep doing their job🎉
@@LynnSandler-j9k Not always great. Why do you have to do some else’s job, all the time
I'm Black and a lot of this stuff is way different for us. People will hate on us for their own prejudices.
Sadly, yes. But, not always. As, I white guy, I was a victim of racism, too
@@johnpastore7685 You feel the need to say "not always" and deflect with your experiences is a problem. Most people in power are not people like me. Opportunities are giving way less to non-white people based on stuff people can't control.
@@johnpastore7685 True but generally people who look like you have more power in the situation.
@@EdenP68 not really
We all have power. It's how you use it.
Most sad when it’s the manager. Never given any acknowledgment - no happy birthday, no work anniversary, no acknowledgement when competing difficult projectS - yes multiple projects. While any negative feedback is called out publicly. Also steals ideas as her own.
I have a ton of examples of workplace bullies none will be shared here.😢
Yes, I focus on doing better, not worried about the toxic situation
Same over the weekend I’ve come to this conclusion hoping to have a good week
@@sweetcapricorn Yes, do your best. Don't freak out, over toxic people, or situations. If you feel you have to look for another job, do it. But, do your job, talk to the coworkers that you can talk to. Remember this, if you die, tomorrow you will be replaced. Your are also married to you family and maybe your true friends. Not, your job, even your dream job.
Someone I recently worked with at my current project tried to turn people in the project against me, including her own boss. She was kicked out of the project last month. She’ll likely get kicked out of the company in less than a few months. When you do really good work, are engaged with your colleagues, show up for others, it’s way harder for lazy and incompetent people to turn people against you.
The co worker I’m thinking about copies what I say and what I do at work. Creepy.
Have you ever tried bad imitations of food you like? When they do that, they're doing a bad imitation. They know they're trying to be like you. But can't, because you're unique.
OMG EXXACTLY WHAT I AM LIVING RIGHT NOW. THIS GIRL LITERALLY TRYS TO ACT, TALK, MOVE AND DO EVERYTHING LIKE ME. I CANT STAND IT ANYMORE
@@feyzaoz8536 Look for another job. Still be yourself. Watch the girl, as a learning tool on how to improve yourself as a better person. Do something unique that only you can do, see if she can copy you on your uniqueness. If she can, give her a compliment. If not say on a very dry funny tone, I don’t say, or do it like that. But nice try.
Mine has changed her hair color then said the other day “our hair is almost the same color”. I mentioned about getting a coral color for my pedicure and she came in with her fake nails and they were painted coral. So weird!!
Watch this person, they are so distructive. @@hippiechic702
My supervisor, couldn't understand how I did my job. I always showed, I could do it. It brother him
I’ve avoided certain ppl- who keep trying too hard as they are wanting something from you.
Energy vampires. A lady I work with/ had kept trying message after hours and was becoming non work related- kept having crisis issues . I don’t have the capacity to deal that. if ya give in a bit they take a mile from you.
You are not a psychiatrist. If someone wants me to listen to their problems, they're going to have pay me $1 per minute. At least make some money off of it.
@@JoesVinylShow1980WOW - how does this comment determine i'm diagnosing (i.e. a psychiatrist).. i mentioned nothing about medications or disorders. lol . side note: I am an RN so I know a little bit. Thank you. You Tube trolls everwhere.
@@prepforlife4425 You misunderstood me. I was encouraging you to not deal with coworkers NON-worked related problems after hours. I was just giving you friendly advice. I wasn't trying to insult you or demean you.
I have a co worker who'd mutter to herself that she thinks I'm stupid. It doesn't really phase me that much because people who do that are really insecure. People who aren't insecure don't try to put other people down. Real adults communicate when they have a problem but children in adult bodies will try to put others down to feel better about themselves. I could even sense negative energy from this person before that happened.
These type of people won't amount to much in life. Don't try to force being liked at a job, keep moving and upgrading. I like to think of how people talk about the President who is holding the top spot in the country yet people who are nobodies in in the country have so much negative energy these important leaders.
Do not talk to them. If they try to play dumb and be friendly with you, ignore every single thing they say to you. If they don't do their job to try to sabatage you, tell them what to do, and if they don't do it, professionally tell the boss.
I can see all these signs. How come higher officials are threatened with ordinary employees?Thank you.
From what I've seen, it's almost always insecurity... which is really unfortunate because we should all be on the same team
@@BenjaminPreston ❤️thank you and Merry Christmas 🎄🎄🎄
Arrogance. They're offended when someone lower than them thinks of a great idea. Good managers would accept input. Everyone has a blind spot.
They are insecure and think people will see your better
@@JoesVinylShow1980 Nobody is lower then anyone
Thank you for the information. I am in some such a situation, where I am the" victim" . I have also noticed that they seem to know how you feel ,and what you're thinking . My coworker will tell the other coworker, " Yeah , she's jealous. She jealous of us because we get along so well..." When in fact, I'm not jealous of them at all. I don't even think about stuff like that. So, how does she know how I feel? Then , there's the one where they presume I have a "predicament" but, I didn't know I was in a predicament! These people are sad and unhappy. Everything they say about me is exactly what they are!😅
They’re projecting
@@lester2588 exactly.
Easy said than done. The more you do and strands out. The danger of doing this becomes more dangerous in my case.
You have identified EVERY characteristic of a few co-workers of mine. The "ring leader" is in her feelings because the department manager didn't hire her for the job I currently hold. She simply doesn't have the skillset, and apparently she was under the impression that she was due this job. The behavior of her and the other co-workers is clannish and cliquish. They'll pass by my work station each morning without a greeting, but will greet one another. I'm very good at "handling" her, and I have no interest nor intentions of going out of my way to "fit in" we're WELL PAST THAT! I make my money and I go home. Once I've reached my monetary goal, I'll drop a WEEK NOTICE! LOL!
Yes an older woman is always trying to make me look bad at work
She talks to the new guy at work
He now doesnt respond to my greetings like he used to
I dont waste my time saying greetings unless they say first.
I act kind polite to every co worker
Even to the passive aggressive ones
Thank you for this wonderful video! I recently got promoted and getting a lot of abuse from a coworker who’s been the company for way longer. It’s really hard because she has to work under me. I find your tips really helpful especially on the part of discussing the workflow with them.
I like the video. Sadly I find your advice around 03:40 is often unsuccessful because the threatened person(s) tend to associate with each other and the people that "would" speak up are the minions/associates of the attacker so the support does not occur. You keep doing good work (which I highly encourage) and it's ignored or minimized. The situation is worsened when your other co-workers think highly of the threatened person or think lowly of the "threatening" person. Sad state. So many cowards out here.
Exactly what happened to me.
It's why I keep my expectations very low. I don't expect to get praised. But do brag every chance you get once you do something excellent, just so that they can't take credit. If you have a unique personality and unconventional way of solving things, no way they can steal your credit. Only your quirky and unique mind could think of these things.
Right, and we teach our children, to stand up for themselves. Don't be bullied, or be a bully. The same is also true, for adults and supervisors.
@@JoesVinylShow1980 They still find ways to steal it away from you. I don't let them. Nobody, should.
Don't approach them and call it out would be my advice, because they'll likely deny the animosity and accuse you of being pedantic and make you look stupid. Remember you are just there for one sole purpose and that is to do your job, period. If it's unbearable approach manager but be very cautious with this move also. At the end of the day they're just very petulant and childish and likely covert narcissists and should be treated as such.
I have tried to”educate” my manager about the toxic environment under his charge. It should be his responsibility to deal with this, however, to save any physical energy on his behalf, he enables the toxicity.
I will be looking for another job soon.
Bad advice!!!! Document everything….
@@davevenables3534 I had that happen to me. Don’t feel insecure about yourself. Of course, stand up for yourself, you feel you have to, but yes look for another job.
If they are able to manipulate simple minded coworkers, it can become a real problem.
Some of my coworkers, did not like that I married my wife. They were jealous
They’re weird lol
@@Essencejournalyes
Gosh, its so bad, but the silent treatment / and the passive aggressive behaviour is what I'm being hit with currently. And the lack of eye contact, oh. BOY. Its just juvenile.
I sat right next to a guy at work for over a year. He didn't even acknowledge my existence. Literally never said a word to me including hello or goodbye. If I tried to speak to him, he would look down at the desk muttering something I couldn't hear, even when I was asking how he was. One day, he was really stressed and had a lot of work. I asked him if there was any work I could help him with , his answer was " you think you can learn in 5 minutes what it took me 8 years to learn?" End of conversation as he went back to completely ignored me
There is one at work ,who point out any mistakes and tell people that it was me .and when they investigate ,it turn out to be their mistake now she is restless around me ,when I look her in the eye ,I see the sadness in them .
Aren't most building equipped with cameras? If it is not you, ask supervisors to watch the videos!
@@JoesVinylShow1980 we do not have cameras at work .
Same lying on me not knowing I have been documenting everything she so insecure and jealous it’s literally a diversity issue
It’s annoying that she interrupts me when talking and trying to always tries to imitate everything about me.
On jobs there are people who will do whatever to destroy someone.
Some do that on the basis that they will do whatever to get ahead by any means necessary.
Or on the other hand it can go even further than that.
There are people who believe that they know who the evil people are. And they also believe with such people there's only one way to handle them.
I just started a new job and I’m already looking for a new one. I have co workers who are threatened
Did you find a new job? I’m dealing with this now. It’s so frustrating.
What I do is try not to engage with them period. I don't even say hi or bye to them. I just go on about my work, get my paycheck and go home. I keep being myself.
For me #1 reason for a job is to collect that paycheck in exchange for completing their required tasks. Not to find a friend or a dating partner.
I had that happened to me at my work, but a good tip I use is eye on the prize and keep your expectations low. Also still learn to be nice to everyone even the difficult coworkers. I also found when you show up for work, on time, every week and do your job well while being a team player, upper management will notice and it looks good for you.
When your manager does this to you 😂 and now has taken on the victim role.
These workplace advisors usually give useless advice because people who behave like this are narcissists. So all this advice is basically telling the person who is on the receiving end of a narcissistic person's bad behavior is to just keep being victimized.
They tips are good, but no talking to a manager or jelous person at work out will not work, they will just deny or deflect or lie
Exactly. And it will increase the targeting. You have to cut off the toxic person completely. Gray rock them, even though it’s work. Things can still get done without interacting with them.
Showing your pocket knife collection on the regular is a big one, this ones for XL bullies he said.
Outshine, Soldier, outshine!
I’m in Lloydminster a small town in Canada and have experienced this many times because people here are not well travelled or have never in their entire lives worked or been friends with someone of culture or race. It’s sad.
Thank you for this enlightenment. I am currently subbing for a assistant teacher, 4 more weeks to go. I am a retired elementary teacher with 12 years of good schools under my belt. The current lead teacher (in the same class room) doesn't acknowledge my good ideas and responded with "No, I am in charge." She only communicates when she feels happy (personal problems?). She won't let me speak with students about their learning problems and interferes and leads them away. I don't find her kind with the little ones and they seem to be intimidated by her. A few weeks ago she was sick and I taught the class with a new assistant and we had so much fun and no crying kids, no drama. It was the relief I needed. I decided not to confront her for the sake of the kids and because the end is in sight but will address it with the principal when I leave. I know she feels threatened by me as she uses some ideas from me earlier without giving me credit.
I started a new job a while back where mistakes could turn into tragedies or serious complaints. One team member persistently ignores me when saying good morning, whilst looking only at those they are saying it to. Otherwise, they seem friendly enough and helpful when they are showing me stuff. On occasion, they do say something or suggest a course of action that I disagree with and on a couple of occasions recently it has turned out that what they told me was wrong. I just thank them now, or partially acknowledge what they said if there is a nugget of some truth in what they say, and then ignore their advice and and do my own thing. I kind of get the impression that they think themselves a bit a cut above me because they hold certain responsibilities other team members at my grade don't hold. I wouldn't say that the team is toxic, but there are some worrying elements there. I find the best thing is to just be friendly, professional and polite and treat everyone equally and not to take any passive aggressive behaviours seriously. I focus on doing my job well. I'm not a serious threat because I am too new and have too much to learn. I guess that helps dampen down any likelihood of anyone being threatened by me as they are much better at the job than I am.
I have to work with a guy with analysis paralysis. He is also the boss’s best buddy and shop rat. No way for me to win nor even be involved in higher level work while he sits there overthinking everything. I’m quitting soon. Will let him look worse when I’m gone and no one left to do my work and With issues finding suitable replacements to step in.
They will find their slave shortly after you leave.
Great content!!! I am doing most of the things you advise already and this video gives me confirmation that I am to continue. I’m not totally bother by the situation m, but did have a moment of wanting to question the reason subject in hand is acting in such a way. After a weekend of thoughts and watching your video… I have decided to let well enough alone and continue to redirect the conversation. I think other staff are picking up on her attitude towards me so she is basically hanging herself…no energy lost…so not worth the fighting 😉Thanks
I had two coworkers in my life, told me in front of everyone, said I Don't Have the Guts to do That. I am Surprised You aren't Fired, or Killed
When l was young coworkers picked on me for my inexperienced and amaterish in my trade. Thirty years on (now), coworkers at my newly joint company are jealous of me (cold treatment) because l am presumably too experienced, boss spent longer time discussing stuff with me than others, and in some ways outshines them.
I got your point, but I have a situation where I was hired as a head bartender, and bar manager in a restaurant and my job was to create 10 seasonal cocktails, manage the bar, etc. When I started working, I saw the bartender was close to the owners/managers and he decided a lot of things that I was supposed to do, He always complained about my job, tried to make me look bad, He did not want to follow a recipe or follow the steps of service, but he brings coffee to one manager, red bull to another manager. In the end, I lose my job, cause this guy was an ass-kisser and want my position.
He Ignore me, Ignore the recipe, the rules, everything, like cmon I'm the owner's friend. and this type of situation makes owners and managers so blind. My question is why people do not see when they are in a manager position, the same things they saw when they were an employee, that there always this guy with no talent for the job but he tries to compensate it flattery
And they can't make their lies stick
Coworkers not training properly. Won’t answer any questions in my IM. very weird energy.
Thank you for the very practical tips and insights of addressing work place challenges. With certainty, I can say I'm not imagining what I'm sensing.
On Point. I am living it.
Yes just stay silent...
The best choice…
I am working in a team with a colleague in the same committee, each of us have our clear areas of responsibilities, but she oversees the running of the committee. My co-worker tells me to that i need to update her on details concerning my work so that if anyone asks, she will be able to answer. Yet she witheld info necessary for the successful completion of my job scope as she would receive info from various parties routed to her first since she is the overall i/c. She never discuss anything in person with me citing busy schedule but either would text me in tje night or weekends what we need to do when meeting the client the next day, leaving me scrambling to prepare myself.
Great video very insightful
Yeah NO. IGNORING this person who is ruining your work reputation by telling you everything you do is wrong or critical of the work you’ve been assigned after it is done or asking you to do something and three seconds after you have instructed the 50 people around you to do it, immediately stop everyone and tell them… quote
NOOOO, you don’t have to do that just do what you have been doing.
It’s so bad that I have anxiety about going to work when I have to be there with her
what if it's your manager, and their manager, who are threatened by you?
Hi Elizabeth, i have another video that covers that specific topic. Go to 8:38 time stamp and it covers what you can do if your boss is threatened by you: ruclips.net/video/6I4i-hawV_8/видео.html
Why would they? Are they worried that they're never going to get promoted? They'll only feel threatened if you prove you're more talented. A team player would appreciate your help.
Been in that situation
No one's threatened by me. They just think I'm an idiot because I'm cute
Very good advise
What if your subordinate makes non verbal signals like saying no by shaking their head while your in mid sentence and negatively blocks you from tasks or invitations to participate as I see fit and would support progress. What if your boss who sees this behavior and says nothing
Yup the team lead thinks her silent treatment bothers me it does I actually prefer it that way but I know she trying to get to me
This has also happened to me.
This was helpful - ty!
Great Video. I think I have a situation like this going on between me and another co-worker. I’ve actually asked him once before, “what can we do to help us both work together?” His response, “It’s all on you there is nothing on my end that I need to change”. How do you respond to that?
Be a team player anyways. But keep very good documentation of what you said and done, with times and dates. To cover your butt.
Wow you did all you could do I would journal it and deal with that person only when needed
@@JoesVinylShow1980 sorry I said same as you I didn’t see your post but facts
Not much you can do. Can’t force people to act right.
Not true. I avoid the coworkers that act like they are the boss. Not because im threatened by them, but because i dont like them. Simply dont like their person and what they are. Its a natural and a healthy respons. And if they are not the boss, they should have that respons.
U r correct.
😂 my co-worker your reading him to a T...😂
It’s high school a lot of ppl have no life outta work
What do all these so-called advisors in the workplace tell the victim of emotional and mental abuse and sabotage to put up with it grin and bear it, ignore and keep working?
Why do they encourage victims to keep being victimized?. And assume everything will work out. Don't they know that a cancer if not taken care of will spread?.
To me, that's no different than if somebody is being physically abused to tell him well. Just put up with the beatings grin and bare it and stay focused. Maybe eventually Superman will come in and rescue you.
apparently all my coworkers were threatened by me.
Not really agreeing with this information. Sometimes they are sleeping with someone to get the promotion and sometimws they are incompetent and moved up bc playing thw workplace games. I am in an offci efull of incompetence that is being promoted
Yes because I am awesome
Ok question please answer I noticed my co worker acted rude out off blue and she and I are white she oddly did it first time saying don’t talk to me are you on the clock and are you working but dosnt say it too ithers and it’s a first they do I have autism and also another person dosnt look at me either where she says not to be rude but your not supposed to be at counter and wasn’t looking at me but I feel like two managers like people arnt friendly or nit lll likeing I’m by myself
If they pick on us, this gets the boss of their backs.
I am the first point...I feel threatened but because she is a bully 😬
What do you do if they are your manager?
Dont say anything that may incriminate you. Keep your mouth shut, gray rock, do your job, go home. They will find someone else to pick on eventually. You do you. 🙏🏼
Oh my god where do I begin?
I’m the only female on my shift and I work on machines. Messed up my foot because of work since all the “men” couldn’t help me so I helped myself. Completed my shift, completed my tasks, still helped them and went above what they expected me to do. It’s called integrity
Women want “equality” so you got it
Diamond girl is highly favored and the jelly is all over
What world do you live on?
O I am very threatened by him but obviously not just that. I want us to work as a team, not enemys.if he wasn't so damn selfish at work maybe I wouldn't be causing hell for my coworker
Dude, get a grip.
May I ask why you watching this video how did you find it?
What makes you feel that he is selfish?