The quiet relationship killer: How resentment destroys your relationship - slowly, but surely
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- Опубликовано: 29 июн 2024
- In this eye-opening video, we explore the nature of resentment in relationships. It's a crucial watch for anyone who's felt misunderstood or overlooked in their relationship and is seeking ways to address these feelings constructively.
In this video, you'll discover:
- The Two Faces of Resentment: Understanding the 'Heated' outbursts of anger and the 'Cold' shutdowns of withdrawal.
- The Dangers of Letting Resentment Fester: Why it's vital to address issues head-on rather than allowing them to silently damage your relationship.
- Modern Relationship Challenges: How many couples fail to truly confront each other, leading to unresolved tensions.
- The Subtle Signs of Growing Distance: Recognizing the less obvious indicators of resentment
Join the conversation and share your experiences in the comments. Have you encountered heated or cold resentment in your relationship? How did you approach it?
So graceful and wise. Thank you Terry, you are a Legend. What the World Needs Now… ❤
You're amazing Terry... From your first book about men and depression, many years ago to now... Your presence and being has helped me stay alive... And keep on going. 🙏
What a beautiful way of speaking about something we all have some experience with and probably want to improve! In your gentle way, you invite people into the conversation --- through your tone and warmth and pacing. It is gentle, tolerant and patient -- making room for the gray areas that some find themselves in. These videos are hugely helpful, poignant and accessible. Thank you.
This works! And the Fierce Intimacy course transformed my relationship to one of my dreams.
What do you do if your partner refuses cooperation? What if he is highly avoidant and shuts down and withdraws at even the most non-violently communicated gentle requests and "instruction manual" to yourself?
I would love to hear a response to this one also, or when the other is "just happy with things the way they are"
Hi there, great question. This is one we could make a future video on since it isn't one I can tackle here in a brief comment. It's really something to address in Therapy with a trained RLT Therapist. There is a whole dance going on between both partners and to say it's all about the other partner is almost never accurate.
This other video we made may also be helpful - ruclips.net/video/uyYIgqftc2E/видео.html
I love this! I have a life long struggle with abuse from childhood that I have only learned had created my survival mode of life. I hope that as I learn to change those strategies I will be more able to walk into this way of doing relationships!
Thank You!
This is as Important with friends and all other people, but most have not been taught anything of this kind, to be respectful and kind and accept different opinions or just having different lifeviews, or lifesituations.
You're fantastic Terry! Thank you for your wisdom and experience! You just make so much sense and are so loving,!
Thank you so much!!
Really love your approach, Terry. So clear and full of humility with a focus on mutuality. Thank you!!!!
Thank you so much!
Thank you for the wisdom & all you share Terry 🙏
Thank you Terry your work and message is great!
This ad ice sounds so doable!!
Thank you for sharing!!
Seems like there's a lot more modes for me personally than the 2 mentioned, childish and the "wants to make it better". I think my most common mode is "wants to understand the underlying values" being expressed by someone I'm connected to, especially my partner but also my close friends and immediate family. For me values are at the heart of compatibility and compatibility determines the limits of healthy intimacy, at least if your own integrity is important to you. Resentment is often a symptom that you're not holding true to yourself.
How do you get over resentment when he keeps doing the same things that I’m resentful for? I can get over the past, but when the past continues to happen at what point is the past the past? Last week was the past therefore don’t hang onto it? Two minutes ago was the past therefore don’t hang onto it? At what point am I allowed to feel?
How do we get the feedback wheel?
Hi There, Terry has another video with more detail - ruclips.net/video/79bbVhkZpAg/видео.html - and we go into full detail in our courses, especially The Art of Relational Living.