I look forward to waking up to these videos now so much. So much wisdom. I still struggle weekly but I will say hands down God has did such a work in my heart since finding your channel.
This is gold! Your so right! We need more Titus 2 women. My aunt, Ruby Conway, has a channel with similar content and I’m so thankful for both of you for taking the time to encourage wives and mothers with biblical principles and practical helps! Keep it up sister!
I'm a man and I love watching your videos. Every church should be watching your videos, if that happened I do believe it would save a LOT A LOT of marriages and being glory to God. PS. There should be one for men 2 Thank God for you sister. You are a breath of fresh air
I am always positively convicted to keep my house in better order when I watch your videos. I home school 3 kids (12th grade, 5th, and Kindergarten), work from home, etc and I always let the house come last. I use to watch your videos all the time and now I am back to it. I love how inspiring you are, you are a blessing and true gift from our Heavenly Father.
I’ve just found your channel and man what an answer to prayer. Thank you Lord for sisters in Christ uncompromisingly and unapologetically passionate about obedience to your perfect ways Father🙌🏼 Alana I watched WarRoom again last night and in so many ways my marriage is under serious fire and I’ve started this morning with my own secret WarRoom. Your marriage videos helping me organize my prayer life for my husband and us. Thank you. I look forward to exploring all the other videos as well. I’m a homeschooling mum (3&7) and this season of little ones has challenged me like no other. Please pray for our marriage that The Lord would be glorified in our attitudes and lifestyle🙏🏼 Been a dark week of almost giving up. Sincerely Vanessa from South Africa
This is great! I miss marriage Monday's so much!!! You really have a gift for all things marriage, and we all love to hear what you have to say and it really blesses and encourages us all:).
Good morning and thank you for this video. I brought “the excellent wife” years ago but never finished it. We were freshly newlyweds and thought it to be ridiculous to be so submissive to my husband. With time and experience and digging in the word of God daily, I’m slowly getting the realization that this is the way God has designed wives to be. It’s freeing and less frustrating to hold on to wanting control all the time.
Alana...your videos should all go viral, as you pinpoint all of the feelings us men struggle with when dealing with our wife's disrespectful worldly attitude. I was looking for good marriage books and now have some ideas from you. Keep up the good work, however ultimately God is using you to communicate to us through social media.
You are a precious jewel in the sight of the Lord, a Proverbs ruby. "anticipate their needs" so much like Christ! This advice is monumental! ..."adapt to them"...I really like that and it seems to be a key practical tip with submission. Thank you for being vulnerable with saying how hard it really can be..so down to earth and honest..it's so hard when mom's present a perfect life. its so discouraging. But you are an encouragement to me, so so much
Thank you for sharing💖. I always pray to the Lord to help me be a better wife and poof their your videos are lol. I love it, thank you Jesus💖. One thing that really stood out to me and that i need to practice is to make sure everything is in order and together so he doesnt feel overwhelmed and respecting his feelings and bot getting annoyed when he has an attitude. I am working on trying to be the positive force and pray that God can fill me with joy. Have a blessed day sisters💞,
I have trouble with women who stay at home and they have messy houses. We need to keep up our homes and be good stewards. The home should be relaxing. I lnow so many women who are Christians and live like slobs! I don't think living in a complete mess brings God glory in our role as a homemaker. I also think being overly perdectionist is wrong. There has to be balance. I love this video Alana!!!!!
Thanks for sharing those wise points, so true we are each accountable to the Lord and we ought to work heartily for the Lord one of those ways is in loving and serving our family, I don’t want to think up excuses not too because he might not do the same for me, loving and serving the Lord in this way might win my family to Christ so need to persevere all the more but boy it’s easy to fall into weariness and discouragement. Thanks for giving me that reminder and push 😊
Hello! This was such a great advice. I am so glad I came across your channel. I'm finding all marriage and faith related videos and going to take notes while I binge watch. God bless you
I just watched this again and it was just as powerful as the first time, thanks again for your faithfullnes to the Lord, and doing your videos. I found your channel and I've been watching them all day yesterday and today I'm so happy that the Lord led me here, keep up the good work. You are a awesome woman .
I’m so happy I found your channel I needed to watch this video so badly 🙏🏾 Thanks so much. I’m also interested in homeschool so your channel is a great find for me.
Thank you so much for this! I definitely needed some of these reminders & we've been married 24yrs!! I know all of what you mentioned, but we all need reminders once in awhile! Being a homemaker/stay at home mom is hard work, but I'm so thankful to God for this amazing gift! God Bless.
I mean no offense here. I've been married for 16 years and have a wonderful, awesome marriage! But my husband likes to do his own laundry and never folds anything and when I do his laundry for him and I told it and put it away he always says "thank you, but your wasting your precious time with things I can do!!" And my husband and I are always having deep meaningful, emotional conversations; I can't imagine us without them! He is very relaxed and doesn't care for a minimalist super clean, perfect looking house. We are just the right match for each other and I always think everyone has a marriage like ours, but the more I talk with others it breaks my heart to know there is so much distance between their spouses! It amazing how different everyone's lives look! If you could only see my home you would think poorly of me and wonder how we could be so happy and content with our life together! But it works for us!
My husband likes to help me with taking care of the house. I have several health issues and even when I didn't, he would say, "we both live here....we both work....we both take care of the house." I can't lift heavy lots and pans because of my Lupus and RA. He likes to cook with me and he helps clean up. We don't have children. This is our quality time together. We talk...we work well together....we are a team...He grocery shops with me. He lifts and carries everything that is heavy. It is his way of feeling like he is taking charge and taking care of me. At the beginning of our marriage, i was offended because i didnt feel i needed his help, but i have learned to let go. We now literally do everything "together" when it comes do daily living. He was used to doing everything alone and for himself. He was kicked out at 17 and put himself through trade school. He lived alone for many years before we married and developed amazing systems for daily chores. So just having me by his side and doing even half of the the work is a blessing to him. We sit on the bed and fold laundry together. This is how he wants it. This is hard for me, still. I want to fold all of his laundry, but there are some things he wants to fold. He said it's mindless and therapeutic for him. It was hard in the beginning to give into his wishes, but now I find him such a blessing that I can't imagine it any other way.
So glad that I found your channel! Ive been watching several videos and the Lord is just filling me and encouraging me through you, so sincerely thank you. I want to encourage you to continue this ministry
It’s always good to watch your videos. My husband is an ESTJ also, I’m an INFP and we definitely do things differently, but I’m thankful that we have the same goal.
Gosh Alana this has to be the most convicting video...😖😖😖 when you said keep the house in order and go back to basics with time management... was a stab... and then I turned around and saw the big pile of dishes...
Andrea Miller lol girl it's okay . We are only human and God wants us to come back to him always so that we can get the strength and wisdom we need so we can go on living each day ! Take that conviction to God and he will lift you up . :)
Ondrea Torrence thanks so much for the encouragement. And God’s grace is so merciful that it’s amazing how he helps us. The conviction is great though.
I really enjoyed this thanks again very much for what you do. I always get encouragement from your videos. And it's nice to have someone that is on the same page.
I love and agree with everything you said. I think for me all of these things aren’t freely done because Ive had to deal with infidelity, deceit, and lies in my marriage years ago. Although we’ve moved forward and have had 2 more kids since then there must be a stronghold still there I’m not be aware of. I can understand those types of women that have been obvious of their lack of respect for their husband and maybe they too have had to work through something God says you can actually get a divorce over. I chose to continue although biblically I could have divorced but I still catch myself being disrespectful because of the lack of trust I have in him. Anyway just another insight into those other women.. not saying they are right to do that by all means I’m still working on it myself. ❤️
Thank you for this, I love this video and this reminder! Every day I strive and desire to be a godly wife and a good keeper of my home, but I do have a question about that. When my husband is at work and I’m trying to get things done, but my 10-month-old baby girl is super clingy and cries hysterically if I walk away from her, it’s easy for me to give up and just be idle and sit with her all day and not do anything. Do you have any tips or advice for that sort of thing? It’s hard for me to let her cry when I walk away but I know I need to do things so that my husband feels taken care of when he comes home. I’m struggling with this
The Hicks Pack at that age she can be with you with most of your homemaking. I’d include her as much as possible then do the things you need to do alone during her nap or stay up a little later to knock out a little house work. It’ll get easier as they grow:)
Thank you thank you! That helps me so much! I am going to try to implement that for sure. I am so very thankful for your videos! You’re so convicting and that’s just what I needed! Praise the Lord for you and your ministry❤️
Deep breath!! You start with a gracious Heavenly Father - that LOVES you!! I also work and am not good at keeping house. I started with one thing - dishes. I am trying to make sure they are done before I go to sleep every night. I have NOT succeeded at this everyday, but I am getting better! Start small and intentionally lean on Jesus!! Sending hugs from Waverly, OH!!! :)
I would love to not have us living out of the laundry basket and have more order. I have a special needs kiddo and a two year old. I have trouble getting to any work that needs to be done upstairs. I have to have eyes on them both always and I have limited opportunities to work upstairs. Anyone have any ideas? My oldest doesn’t nap and had trouble sleeping at night(common with autism) just looking for any tips that might work for our situation
Jaime Todd I would love to encourage you in that. There are times I can't keep up with getting the laundry put away or getting the house today before bed. My husband knows when that happens it's not out of laziness but lack of sleep or just pure exhaustion from all I am doing. In some stages of life some things have to be let go of so we can do the important things. I think some of the details can be between you and your husband. If it's not a bother to him and it's just not something you can maintain in this phase of life then that's ok. I believe she is using examples and mainly for those who are just letting it go but can get it done. Your situation is different and I'm sure your husband would want you to tend to the needs of your little ones over the laundry. Let your life be the balance that works for you and your husband. And if something gets mentioned that makes you feel bad but it's not possible for you take it before the Lord. Ask Him what is important for your home right now.❤️
Give the 2 year old some laundry to"fold," make it a fun time for all of you, put music on or pop in a short video and hopefully you will tackle that pile. My mom had 5 children, the youngest is severely autistic. It can be done but I know it's the hardest thing when running on little sleep. Be gentle on yourself. Praying for you!
Any advice on how to deal with a mother who hates your husband, says it alot, makes sure my kids know it (their step dad) who doesnt want me to have a good marriage or be happy.
Simply Raising Arrows with Samantha I have had difficult in laws, who were very destructive. My Husband was told by our Pastor if his parents continued to be a problem after talking to them, then we need to keep more space from them. The marriage is so important, and in laws or parents who are verbally destructive, cause tension in the marriage. We had to really step away from his parents for a while. Now we are in contact with them, but my Husband has made it clear to them I am his wife and if they stir up stuff and try to break up our marriage, we will drop contact and visits again.
Simply Raising Arrows with Samantha I think it would be so hard when its your mom. So tough! Could you and your Husband sit down together, as a united front, and be kind but firm with her....setting some boundaries? Maybe even if she doesn't like your Husband she would stop putting him down to you and your kids if she knew there would be hard consequences if it continues? I hope this gets better for you!
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I look forward to waking up to these videos now so much. So much wisdom. I still struggle weekly but I will say hands down God has did such a work in my heart since finding your channel.
This is gold! Your so right! We need more Titus 2 women. My aunt, Ruby Conway, has a channel with similar content and I’m so thankful for both of you for taking the time to encourage wives and mothers with biblical principles and practical helps! Keep it up sister!
I'm a man and I love watching your videos. Every church should be watching your videos, if that happened I do believe it would save a LOT A LOT of marriages and being glory to God. PS. There should be one for men 2
Thank God for you sister. You are a breath of fresh air
I am always positively convicted to keep my house in better order when I watch your videos. I home school 3 kids (12th grade, 5th, and Kindergarten), work from home, etc and I always let the house come last. I use to watch your videos all the time and now I am back to it. I love how inspiring you are, you are a blessing and true gift from our Heavenly Father.
I’ve just found your channel and man what an answer to prayer. Thank you Lord for sisters in Christ uncompromisingly and unapologetically passionate about obedience to your perfect ways Father🙌🏼 Alana I watched WarRoom again last night and in so many ways my marriage is under serious fire and I’ve started this morning with my own secret WarRoom. Your marriage videos helping me organize my prayer life for my husband and us. Thank you. I look forward to exploring all the other videos as well. I’m a homeschooling mum (3&7) and this season of little ones has challenged me like no other. Please pray for our marriage that The Lord would be glorified in our attitudes and lifestyle🙏🏼 Been a dark week of almost giving up. Sincerely Vanessa from South Africa
This is great! I miss marriage Monday's so much!!! You really have a gift for all things marriage, and we all love to hear what you have to say and it really blesses and encourages us all:).
Thank you so much. You are a blessing in my life.
Great marriage advice! Thanks for sharing! 😊
Good morning and thank you for this video. I brought “the excellent wife” years ago but never finished it. We were freshly newlyweds and thought it to be ridiculous to be so submissive to my husband. With time and experience and digging in the word of God daily, I’m slowly getting the realization that this is the way God has designed wives to be. It’s freeing and less frustrating to hold on to wanting control all the time.
Alana...your videos should all go viral, as you pinpoint all of the feelings us men struggle with when dealing with our wife's disrespectful worldly attitude. I was looking for good marriage books and now have some ideas from you. Keep up the good work, however ultimately God is using you to communicate to us through social media.
You are a precious jewel in the sight of the Lord, a Proverbs ruby.
"anticipate their needs" so much like Christ!
This advice is monumental! ..."adapt to them"...I really like that and it seems to be a key practical tip with submission.
Thank you for being vulnerable with saying how hard it really can be..so down to earth and honest..it's so hard when mom's present a perfect life. its so discouraging.
But you are an encouragement to me, so so much
Thank you for sharing💖. I always pray to the Lord to help me be a better wife and poof their your videos are lol. I love it, thank you Jesus💖. One thing that really stood out to me and that i need to practice is to make sure everything is in order and together so he doesnt feel overwhelmed and respecting his feelings and bot getting annoyed when he has an attitude. I am working on trying to be the positive force and pray that God can fill me with joy. Have a blessed day sisters💞,
I have trouble with women who stay at home and they have messy houses. We need to keep up our homes and be good stewards. The home should be relaxing. I lnow so many women who are Christians and live like slobs! I don't think living in a complete mess brings God glory in our role as a homemaker. I also think being overly perdectionist is wrong. There has to be balance. I love this video Alana!!!!!
Thanks for sharing those wise points, so true we are each accountable to the Lord and we ought to work heartily for the Lord one of those ways is in loving and serving our family, I don’t want to think up excuses not too because he might not do the same for me, loving and serving the Lord in this way might win my family to Christ so need to persevere all the more but boy it’s easy to fall into weariness and discouragement. Thanks for giving me that reminder and push 😊
Hello! This was such a great advice. I am so glad I came across your channel. I'm finding all marriage and faith related videos and going to take notes while I binge watch. God bless you
I just watched this again and it was just as powerful as the first time, thanks again for your faithfullnes to the Lord, and doing your videos. I found your channel and I've been watching them all day yesterday and today I'm so happy that the Lord led me here, keep up the good work. You are a awesome woman .
I’m so happy I found your channel I needed to watch this video so badly 🙏🏾 Thanks so much. I’m also interested in homeschool so your channel is a great find for me.
You're amazing!! So inspirational.
Thank you so much for this! I definitely needed some of these reminders & we've been married 24yrs!! I know all of what you mentioned, but we all need reminders once in awhile! Being a homemaker/stay at home mom is hard work, but I'm so thankful to God for this amazing gift! God Bless.
I've added that book to my amazon basket- thank you for the suggestion xxx
I mean no offense here. I've been married for 16 years and have a wonderful, awesome marriage! But my husband likes to do his own laundry and never folds anything and when I do his laundry for him and I told it and put it away he always says "thank you, but your wasting your precious time with things I can do!!" And my husband and I are always having deep meaningful, emotional conversations; I can't imagine us without them! He is very relaxed and doesn't care for a minimalist super clean, perfect looking house. We are just the right match for each other and I always think everyone has a marriage like ours, but the more I talk with others it breaks my heart to know there is so much distance between their spouses! It amazing how different everyone's lives look! If you could only see my home you would think poorly of me and wonder how we could be so happy and content with our life together! But it works for us!
My husband likes to help me with taking care of the house. I have several health issues and even when I didn't, he would say, "we both live here....we both work....we both take care of the house." I can't lift heavy lots and pans because of my Lupus and RA. He likes to cook with me and he helps clean up. We don't have children. This is our quality time together. We talk...we work well together....we are a team...He grocery shops with me. He lifts and carries everything that is heavy. It is his way of feeling like he is taking charge and taking care of me. At the beginning of our marriage, i was offended because i didnt feel i needed his help, but i have learned to let go. We now literally do everything "together" when it comes do daily living. He was used to doing everything alone and for himself. He was kicked out at 17 and put himself through trade school. He lived alone for many years before we married and developed amazing systems for daily chores. So just having me by his side and doing even half of the the work is a blessing to him. We sit on the bed and fold laundry together. This is how he wants it. This is hard for me, still. I want to fold all of his laundry, but there are some things he wants to fold. He said it's mindless and therapeutic for him. It was hard in the beginning to give into his wishes, but now I find him such a blessing that I can't imagine it any other way.
So glad that I found your channel! Ive been watching several videos and the Lord is just filling me and encouraging me through you, so sincerely thank you. I want to encourage you to continue this ministry
It’s always good to watch your videos. My husband is an ESTJ also, I’m an INFP and we definitely do things differently, but I’m thankful that we have the same goal.
I am so glad I found your channel. Thank you ❤️
Gosh Alana this has to be the most convicting video...😖😖😖 when you said keep the house in order and go back to basics with time management... was a stab... and then I turned around and saw the big pile of dishes...
Andrea Miller lol girl it's okay . We are only human and God wants us to come back to him always so that we can get the strength and wisdom we need so we can go on living each day !
Take that conviction to God and he will lift you up . :)
I felt the same way. The laundry! Ugh!
Ondrea Torrence thanks so much for the encouragement. And God’s grace is so merciful that it’s amazing how he helps us. The conviction is great though.
Julia Riemer i know!! I felt the same way with the room.
Same. My husband is way more organized and task oriented than I am. Makes me feel lazy and like a bad wife
Thanks girl please keep up the great work!!! Love you!!!!
I really enjoyed this thanks again very much for what you do. I always get encouragement from your videos. And it's nice to have someone that is on the same page.
Amazing video, thank you so much for sharing!!!
I love and agree with everything you said. I think for me all of these things aren’t freely done because Ive had to deal with infidelity, deceit, and lies in my marriage years ago. Although we’ve moved forward and have had 2 more kids since then there must be a stronghold still there I’m not be aware of. I can understand those types of women that have been obvious of their lack of respect for their husband and maybe they too have had to work through something God says you can actually get a divorce over. I chose to continue although biblically I could have divorced but I still catch myself being disrespectful because of the lack of trust I have in him. Anyway just another insight into those other women.. not saying they are right to do that by all means I’m still working on it myself. ❤️
As a husband i keep everything I need in order I would hovever like my wife to do it
Great video. Definitely did a reality check : )
All the way from Las Vegas NV!
Wonderful ideas!! Is this list available somewhere on the web?
Thank you for this, I love this video and this reminder! Every day I strive and desire to be a godly wife and a good keeper of my home, but I do have a question about that. When my husband is at work and I’m trying to get things done, but my 10-month-old baby girl is super clingy and cries hysterically if I walk away from her, it’s easy for me to give up and just be idle and sit with her all day and not do anything. Do you have any tips or advice for that sort of thing? It’s hard for me to let her cry when I walk away but I know I need to do things so that my husband feels taken care of when he comes home. I’m struggling with this
The Hicks Pack at that age she can be with you with most of your homemaking. I’d include her as much as possible then do the things you need to do alone during her nap or stay up a little later to knock out a little house work. It’ll get easier as they grow:)
Thank you thank you! That helps me so much! I am going to try to implement that for sure. I am so very thankful for your videos! You’re so convicting and that’s just what I needed! Praise the Lord for you and your ministry❤️
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For a working wife that is feeling like she's failing on most if not all of those points.... where do you start in order to fix it?
Deep breath!! You start with a gracious Heavenly Father - that LOVES you!! I also work and am not good at keeping house. I started with one thing - dishes. I am trying to make sure they are done before I go to sleep every night. I have NOT succeeded at this everyday, but I am getting better! Start small and intentionally lean on Jesus!! Sending hugs from Waverly, OH!!! :)
@@elisabethhoward6917 So kind dear Sister!!
I would love to not have us living out of the laundry basket and have more order. I have a special needs kiddo and a two year old. I have trouble getting to any work that needs to be done upstairs. I have to have eyes on them both always and I have limited opportunities to work upstairs. Anyone have any ideas? My oldest doesn’t nap and had trouble sleeping at night(common with autism) just looking for any tips that might work for our situation
Jaime Todd I would love to encourage you in that. There are times I can't keep up with getting the laundry put away or getting the house today before bed. My husband knows when that happens it's not out of laziness but lack of sleep or just pure exhaustion from all I am doing. In some stages of life some things have to be let go of so we can do the important things. I think some of the details can be between you and your husband. If it's not a bother to him and it's just not something you can maintain in this phase of life then that's ok. I believe she is using examples and mainly for those who are just letting it go but can get it done. Your situation is different and I'm sure your husband would want you to tend to the needs of your little ones over the laundry. Let your life be the balance that works for you and your husband. And if something gets mentioned that makes you feel bad but it's not possible for you take it before the Lord. Ask Him what is important for your home right now.❤️
Give the 2 year old some laundry to"fold," make it a fun time for all of you, put music on or pop in a short video and hopefully you will tackle that pile. My mom had 5 children, the youngest is severely autistic. It can be done but I know it's the hardest thing when running on little sleep. Be gentle on yourself. Praying for you!
Any advice on how to deal with a mother who hates your husband, says it alot, makes sure my kids know it (their step dad) who doesnt want me to have a good marriage or be happy.
Simply Raising Arrows with Samantha I have had difficult in laws, who were very destructive. My Husband was told by our Pastor if his parents continued to be a problem after talking to them, then we need to keep more space from them. The marriage is so important, and in laws or parents who are verbally destructive, cause tension in the marriage. We had to really step away from his parents for a while. Now we are in contact with them, but my Husband has made it clear to them I am his wife and if they stir up stuff and try to break up our marriage, we will drop contact and visits again.
Ashlie Leavelle thank you ,ive been trying its so hard when its my mom and she is so involved
Simply Raising Arrows with Samantha I think it would be so hard when its your mom. So tough! Could you and your Husband sit down together, as a united front, and be kind but firm with her....setting some boundaries? Maybe even if she doesn't like your Husband she would stop putting him down to you and your kids if she knew there would be hard consequences if it continues? I hope this gets better for you!
Anyone else hear that weird sound around 1:03-1:16?
Joshua Fuller it’s my chickens lol
I am a dread for him to come home to 🥲