I don’t really say “I love you” that often, but I want to start using it more often to to express love to those who support me most! Call someone you love and comment what they say :)
In Brazil we often often say "I love you". From child to adults, to our parents, siblings, friends, pet's, we really like to express our affection using this phrase.
Wow I really enjoyed this video bro! Haha yes you got to express your love for those who are your family and loved ones. No one’s got your back then those closest to you. Much love from another brown brother @JESSEOGN
I mean ITS sad that the never Say IT but when some Family call me Just to say to me that He/ she Love me i Would be worried to. And i even have No Problem saying IT to my Family.
I think for both was, because his expression change after hearing her replied too was and eye opening to him and he acknowledged it was sweet ❤ hear her happiness.
It’s heartwarming they respect “I love you” it has meaningful implications for them. I live in USA where some or most throw around “I love you” giving it no meaning. I grew up not hearing it and it’s the same with my husband. But with our children we say it daily to each other. In my culture we can’t say “Goodbye” or “bye” to anyone. The only time we say “goodbye” is when they’re on their DBed or at their funeral service. When we end our conversation it is “ok, talk to you later” or “see you later” especially with our love ones. I don’t do it but some of my family members will say “goodbye” to those they don’t like. 😂😳😬🤫
@@madamadam5951 Just because love isn't verbalized doesn't mean it's not acknowledged or not there. Many times, its shown more through actions than words. When it is verbalized, it's profoundly meaningful/a big deal. While it's nice to hear "i love you" so often, on the other hand, it kind of loses its meaning. Everything has a good and bad side.
As soon as I learned how to say it, I would say it to my Japanese grandma. She would always giggle. Then I would start doing hearts with my hands and saying it louder to make her laugh. I miss her so much
4:19 she said "I love you too" and laughed because she was too shy to say it back but didn't want to miss the opportunity to have that sweet moment with her husband. That was so cute.
I’m Asian. I did that once - calling my mom and told her I love her. She yelled back at me and said… “Do not do this ever again! I thought you’re going to die or something!”
When my mom hugged me for the first time ever it was weird...and I was at least in my mid-20s. She hugs my son, but not any of her kids lol..which I'm okay with. And when she started saying I love you it was weird because she didn't say it for 25+ years...now she doesn't anymore.
@@makaylang1790Lol that's weird, maybe she felt guilty and decided to give back the hugs she didn't give in years. Are you east Asian or indian? I heard it's mostly east Asian moms and indian moms who do this 00-42 28/09/2024
@@helenaborgespeixoto7598 Yes I'm Asian. I'm almost in my mid-40s and I've only gotten 1 hug from her. She hugs my son. I hug my son a lot. I'm not mad or sad or anything..I just can relate to how these people felt shy and awkward. When it comes to my parents it just feels weird when they never did that's all.
The use of keigo between the married couple was so wholesome to me idk why I just think it’s very sweet that they spoke like that to one another especially given that it was a confession. They’re adorable
@@Cat-tg8nk It's not always about being distant, using Keigo is also a way to elevate the status of the other person, to show deep respect and gratitude, verses using common language.
Anata is the exception on pronoun avoidance, here it has the sense of you, half of my soul\soulmate (Horace to Vergil in Odes) brother in arms bad boys 2 Using kenjougo for ones own Uchi Okay, using kenjougo because you want to respect ur partner, I haven't searched this or knew it so idk. I do know using familiar speech is apt for the situation. Formal is totally for distancing each other in social status tho, polite is just being polite eg 明日 あすpolite あしたcolloquial みょうにちformal Honjitsu is formal んです polite informal\ colloquial for colloquial spoken languageんだ「話し言葉」 Forgor iirc there's a familiar word for cooked rice
i love how at 4:06, he used the opportunity presented to turn it into a moment for them, and instead of being awkward about it, he rolled with it and said that while he was walking through the park the feeling just came to him and he wanted to call her and say it. past not only hearing in her voice how much she enjoyed that sentiment, the guy also expressed gratefulness in pushing him and giving him that opportunity out of nowhere. he was very apparently happier after the fact
As a Mexican woman, this was a huge cultural shock for me! It made me feel sad but at the same time, I know my perspective is biased by my own experience.
My mom was Mexican and my dad is white. My mom was the person in the family that would always say I love you. I always said it back, but rarely said it first and I pretty much never said it to my dad after I became a teenager. Now that she’s gone my dad and I say we love each other a lot more often than we used to.❤
as a Brazilian, it was a shock for me too because here we are the complete opposite, it's so common to say that we love people, even strangers, we love to see the smile of those who listen and say that aaaah
@softsuny I'm a half Japanese in Brazil, and I never say te amo to my family either. It just feels too uncomfortable. Minha mãe é a br, e nem ela tinha costume de falar, agora que fala de vez em quando, mas acho que meu pai nunca falou.. ou uma vez ou outra só
3:45 was the most wholesome thing I have seen in a while. Both him and his wife exude kindness despite them obviously being very formal in their interaction. I especially liked how his wife clearly felt a bit embarrassed and giggled about it. But then in the end accepted and returned the gesture with sincerity.
guy with the wife is a great sample. he delivers the word perfectly to his wife. you can tell the shock & happiness of the wife on the other line. the words of appreciation first right before he says I love you really hits her. who else won't smile from that. the first lady also did it very well.
Being from a Native American cultural background saying “I love you” is just like breathing air. We say it to each other anytime someone leaves the house or if we’re hanging up on the phone. I would be devastated if my family didn’t say it back! I totally understand why most people don’t though.
That’s super interesting. Do you say it in your native language, or in English? If you do use your native language, does it translate literally to “I love you” in English, or is it more nuanced? Thank you 🌸
Interesting... Eng is not my first language and I mostly use it on social media,, but I found it easier to say I love you in eng than my own language. I don't even remember when was the last time I said I love you in my language 🥲 it just feel .. really intimate that I might start crying lol
This is what I also do with my family especially with my siblings. I can’t go a day without telling them how much I love them. When I go out, call or when I go to sleep. I never know what’s going to happen in the future and if one day I’m not there I want them to know that I loved them till the end.
We asian don't like love language because we're too shy to say it but it doesn't necessarily we don't love our family. It's just different context with western saying "I love you" because saying I love you MOSTLY! meaning I like you in romantically way as a person or interested in person. It just very very STRONG WORD and we do not use it frequently.
The way some of them added in Why they loved them. Trying to convey their true feelings beyond just the words. And how giggly and happy their families were to hear it! Specially the wife. Five years without saying it! Adorable.
I'm Australian, but my parents lived in Tokyo for about 7 years - I visited them frequently. There was a little cafe near their house in Ebisu that I frequented almost daily for lunch. I was still learning Japanese at the time, so didn't know how to say a whole lot to thank them for my meal each day, so just started saying "Ai shiteru" to the staff. This made them all laugh, but I carried on the joke for days and weeks to follow. Still years later the little old lady who runs the cafe still remembers and gives me a loud "Ai shiteru!" whenever I come in. I love their culture so much.
what really gets me is that more than one person had something specific they wanted to say to thank the other person before they actually said i love you. it just goes to show that, even if they dont say the words, the feeling is always on their mind. very sweet video
2:40 "Please don't do stupid things" .. I laughed because I've been in both sides of the phone and yeah if my kid calls me to say that my first thought will be "thanks but .. what did you do now..." 🤣🤣
The phrase Aishteru (愛してる) is an imported expression. It started out as a literal translation of “I love you” from Western literature. When Japanese translators first encountered the expression around 1900’s, there was no real equivalent of it in the Japanese language. The Japanese people usually don’t express the idea of “I love you” verbally or when they do, they say it in a very indirect way, especially ones born before the 1990’s. One of the translators, after much struggle, translated it as 私は貴方のためなら死んでもよい (I would die for you) because he knew the literal/direct translation would sound wrong to the average Japanese back then. Even today, the expression Aishiteru does not sound or feel native to the language. It sounds like a bad transition that was forced on the Japanese people and language.
i read that aishiteru was only used romantically in the past, but now people use it in non-romantic contexts too. is this true? is it still considered somewhat of a romantic term?
As an American I guarantee if anyone randomly called their parents and said "I love you", their parent would ask something like "what do you want?" or "are you in trouble?".
I love how the Japanese say if the person is free to talk before continuing the conversation, the Japanese are so polite and thoughtful of others. hope to visit one day
So crazy! My son is 5 and bursts out saying I LOVE YOU to everyone in the family randomly throughout the day. He even tells his friends that he loves them like friends. It's the most heartwarming part of my day.
I had my son very young at 18. Everyday since he was born id say I love you to him multiple times per day, and one day when he was 1 sitting in my lap he said I love you and it made me jump because he wasn't making much sentences yet just a lot of one or two word gestures. It was the first time he said it back, ill never forget it. I started crying and saying it to him to get him to say it again. And he hasn't stopped, I always tell him I love you multiple times per day and he says it back and makes a kiss noise at the end before bedtime or if he goes in his room or school or just leaving the room at all we always say it. Hes 9 now, I hope he never stops. This is huge culture shock to me hearing people saying thank you back instead of I love you to lol.
My mother died when I was 23. I was less than 2 hours from getting on a plane to get home to say my goodbyes. Ever since then, I have never left someone I love without saying, "I love you." I never want to lose another person without knowing that I told them how much they meant to me.
Similar story here. My dad died by suicide when I was 11. My sibling and I started hugging people then, family, friends, cuddle puddles the lot. (this made for some misunderstandings on our visit to Japan whoops.) My Japanese mom felt rather awkward about it but now 18 years later at least over text she is warming up from her side.
Nice of you, but you know that your mom knew. People know. I know, who likes me without people telling me too. All the best from Berlin Germany. Never wrong to be or say something nice ;)
The contrast between the first girl and first guy were so funny. She gave such warm words of thanks leading up to it but the dude went straight for it. haha
The guy saying it to his wife was so beautiful, she got giggly, he literally put a smile on her face by saying that and she took her time to say it back. She deffo loved to receive a call from her husband to thank her for the support she gave and tell she is loved. It is amazing.
I can understand the people in this video. I am Mexican and only recently started hugging my parents and saying I love you. I find that even when I do say these things I'll say it in English instead of Spanish and my voice becomes more playful. Maybe to ease the intensity of those words hehe.
That's interesting. I would have guessed that spanish speaking cultures would be more open to saying "I love you". I haven't met a spanish speaking person yet who wasn't warm and huggy. 😂
@@tessw9744 Yes exactly haha. I'm too cold for a Mexican and other family members think I'm being rude but I'm just not used to being affectionate jsjs.
@@asan4106 my brother's are the same way.. they just aren't used to it but doesn't mean they don't mean it or won't say I love you it's just uncommon... But specifically for me I don't mind all the hugs and what not but the words I love you don't feel special to me bc I hear it so much, so I can say it and not really mean it which is why I don't say it a lot
This was so sweet. Growing up in Hawaii a lot of Japanese culture influenced the population so this is something we know quite well. Even bowing in certain situations is normal here. 😅I forget how much Japanese I actually understand I barely glanced at the subtitles I’m so happy my years of studying worked out well
@@smolmishka609 same here 😂 grew up on Oahu and I bow sometimes and make haole friends take their shoes off in my house. They can use the house slippers for guests or keep their socks
My Japanese host mom thought it was really sweet when I told my parents I love them over skype and I could tell she wished her kids said it to her. Tell your folks you love them! (In a context that makes sense)
The one calling his wife she sounded so happy well more shocked but also happy 🤗 Also saving the word makes it mean a lot more when it's not said as much. So hearing the word for the first time in a long time may make you feel really good. ❤️
Absolutely not true. I tell my mom every day I love and I appreciate her because she means the world to me, same thing with my boyfriend. And every day they seem just as happy as the last. Why "wait" to tell people you appreciate them?
@@penitentone6998 "Saving the word makes it mean a lot more" is objectively not true. I never said everyone always means it. Saying "I love you" frequently doesn't necessarily decrease its importance if you're being genuine about it.
I’m so surprised on how different the culture is there. I live in Canada and I say I love u to my parents every day. Especially before I go to sleep or before I leave for school in the morning. But ig it’s different for everyone. Or I even just say it casually to my close friends like “love u bye!” Yk?
@@ii4826 not all westerners. I realized some time ago that I didn’t truly love many people around me and said that I loved them whenever they said it to me due to social pressure and habit so I stopped and now respond with “I care about you and I’d love to truly love and appreciate you one day. But until I do, I don’t want to say something I don’t mean”
I actually think it's more an American thing to use "love you" as a filler expression. Probably also because in English the verb to love is quite general and doesn't make distinction between romantic and affectionate love, so you use it for anything. However in Europe, like in Japan, we have different expressions when it comes to say "I love you" and the equivalent for the english "to love" is generally used only for romantic love . When talking to our parents we would most likely choose another expression.
I'm American and I only say I love you to my close family members because I 100% genuinely love them with all of my heart because they mean the world to me. I care so deeply for them that I would put my life on the line to protect them and make them happy. If that's not love then idk what is. I feel that when said it is a reminder to them, and to ourselves, of how deep we truly feel for each other.
It’s interesting learning about other cultures being American my family always says it when leaving. It’s jus natural and being sure if anything happens that’s the last thing you said too then.
This so cute and wholesome!! My family doesn't really say "I love you" either, everything is said through actions which is fine but one of my love languages is words of affirmation though so it would be nice to be heard sometimes lol
I am 52 years old Japanese and have never said "I love you" to anyone including my kids. Some of my ex boys said it to me. It is quite unimaginable for me to imagine my late father saying "I love you"to me but I had always felt he would willingly die for me.
Japan has such a respectful culture. Notice how everyone asked the person on the phone if they were free so as to not intrude to much on their time. Meanwhile im over here like "mom, what are you doing?..........well stop and listen to my story....."
LMAO FACTS. When I call my mom, if she answers she now has to make time for me. Like low-key "momma, you brought me into this world now you have to talk to me randomly. Sorry not sorry I love you."
Leading up to saying “I love you” they have very endearing words of thankfulness. That is showing them why they are about to say the words “I love you” and that they truly mean it.
I'm from Latin America it's easy to me to say i love you, to give hugs and kisses to my relatives and friends its amazing how some cultures handle feelings
I’m Panamanian and I’ve literally never heard my family say I love you. Hugs and kisses to everyone, yes, but “I love you” was never said out loud. It’s interesting to know the differences even across Latin America
Same, as an American and also just the way my family raised me, I feel very comfortable saying it even though they carry so much weight, but I only say it when I mean it!
As a Nigerian immigrant that grew up in the U.S., I can count on one hand the number of times my parents said "I love you" outloud. They say it marginally more often now, as well as initiate hugs, but I think that's because I began making it a habit to hug them every morning. Now it's just normal. Though I still struggle to say I love you without feeling embarrassed😂.
My family is different hugging saying I love you was just normal also a Nigerian immigrant in America, but I don’t think that was all that normal for them when they were growing up and ironically I think I am more conservative Nigerian so saying I love you as I have grown up has become an awkward thing for me that and I think actions are more powerful than words
This was a really nice idea for a video, hopefully once everyone in it (and their parents) get over their collective embarrassment they'll appreciate that they were able to say it to their Parents, they won't' be there forever y'know? In fact, if you're reading this why not give them a call and let them know how much you do love them? Gonna do that myself now, thanks for bringing some wholesome positivity to the world dude!
Saying, I love you, is entirely different in meaning to the 'luv ya!' you hear with people ending a call on their phones here. Yes, no doubt there is love, but the actual three words send another message, far more intimate and special. The guy calling his wife, first offering her thanks, was very touching. Robert, UK
I think the married guy being formal was relatable. I'm not married, but when I speak in Punjabi to Punjabi friends, I tend to use respectful language that get surprised as well. I think the guy is just very respectful, and can't bring it to himself to speak casually to his wife; which I respect.
This was a beautiful video. honestly I feel weird saying it as well. I feel bad for the girl who sister just said bye bye.. she seemed shocked and embarrassed. I want to hug her. :( I think I only said it to my father once or twice my entire life and it feels weird. a bit easier to say to my mom now, but wasn't before. You probably helped a lot of them become closer with their parents and think emotionally.
@@hevxhevI don’t think it’s sad it’s more like the girl making the call got embarrassed that she “failed” the interview haha. That’s why she seemed dejected cause the response wasn’t very interesting
I'm 38 years old, and I have never once heard my Japanese grandmother say, "I love you," to me. I never really thought about it before seeing this video. I guess now I understand why. It's a culture thing.
As a Southern woman from America, it seems so sad that tou wouldnt twll your family how much you love them at all times 😢❤ I understand its a translation vs expression thing, but to be able to say, even when you cant show, how much you love someone means something special ❤❤❤❤❤
In Japan, when we say “love” it usually means “愛” which is romantic love. So it’s funny seeing this because we usually say we appreciate them “感謝” rather than love.
@@michaeldavise5221 yes you are correct, but I was mainly making a point on how 愛 never actually means loving your mother in a grateful way. If you know what I mean
I'm Filipino and I always tell my family I love them, even my friends so it's very interesting to see this cultural difference. I think there is value in only saying the term once in a while so it has more meaning, but I also believe that there's value in being more affectionate because you never know when will be the last time to talk to your loved ones. I personally do not believe that my endearment for them is watered down because of how often I express it, rather it's a testament of how often their presence makes me feel happy and loved that I feel the need to express it to them so much.
I am half Filipino, and my Filipino side of the family is just like this. We say “I love you” all the time. They are also very physically affectionate, everyone hugs each other even in public. They sometimes put their arms over each other’s shoulders even just walking through the mall or something. Idk if my family is more physically affectionate than the average Filipino family, or if that’s a Filipino thing in general. But I absolutely love it :)
@@isaachester8475 Me too, I know that physical and verbal affection is very important for people's growth in their childhood and for maintenance into their adulthood, especially when talking about mental health, so I'm glad we're on the same boat and received a lot of affection
Agreed. It hurts to see people use one cultural norm to invalidate another. I grew up saying I love you to my parents, my siblings, I say it to my friends too because I do love them. Telling them that after every phone call or goodbye doesn't weaken the meaning of it because when I say it, I genuinely want them to know it. Otherwise I wouldn't say it! Scarcity doesn't give my words value, I place more value on what is said rather than what isn't.
I am so glad you brought up the subject! I’ve been living in the US for 30 years, so used to say I love you to my family here. (my fam is blackanese, BTW😊✊🏽) When I talk to my family in Japan, I feel awkward to say “daisuki” which is more commonly used to express affection among Japanese. However, I feel more natural to say I love you since I've been hear so long, but I know that is awkward for them. So I usually type I love you in katakana, “アイラブユー❣️” which has been working out😊❤
This is the one of the best thing a person can do to randomly go to people and ask them to say "I love you" to some one who is special. It reminds them that how special they are. Keep spreading love. Bless you !!!
In italian we have 3 different expressions to differentiate between "I love you" and "I like you", or "愛してる" and " 好きだよ" -Ti amo ("I love you"usually used when you are in a romantic relationship, and very rarely used to family members) -Mi piaci ("I like you"...pretty cheesy, very rarely used...) -Ti voglio bene (quite hard to translate...it can be used towards anyone you feel affection or love, but it is important to highlight that it doesn't include any romantic/sexual connotation: therefore you can use it with family members, friends, romantic partners, etc. I personally really like this phrase, since it encapsulates the true essence of "love" without sounding as cheesy or heavy as "愛してる" or "I love you") In my case, I say "ti voglio bene" to my parents at least once a day, I sometimes use it with my uncle and aunts, and I have said it to my friends maybe a few times
Sono abbastanza sicura che se le altre lingue avessero qualcosa di simile al "ti voglio bene" che è inequivocabilmente platonico, molte più persone esternerebbero il proprio affetto. Fa strano sentire "I love you" in contesti platonici.
Well said, except that ti amo encapsulates the essence of love better, while ti voglio bene feels more loving because it's used more often for this. This is sad, I think the word amore has gotten cheapened by pop culture. . .
I know it’s a culture difference, but even in my home we never really said it. I started telling my mom I loved her. It was so awkward at first, but I continued to say it and now it’s so normal for us to say it.
This video was just so wholesome ❤ Also I really never said that to my mom either (I live in EU) but I usually thank her and express how appreciative I am of her as my mom. Sometimes it’s not really needed to say it cuz you can feel it through the attention and gestures that person gives to you, still it’s nice to say it some times tho.
As an African (Kenyan)growing up no one ever really said I love you so it’s something that’s very weird to say and is barely said. But the actions will show you how much your parents or family love you but the words are very difficult to say. Luckily with other cultural integrations we can comfortably say I love you to friends or younger siblings and bf/gf. This video was very heartwarming but sad at the same time cause I’d love to tell my mom I love her and I’d love to hear the words from her without it feeling weird.
In Japanese culture, they value the word "Love" so much that they really don't throw it out as much as westerners do. We say "I love this game, I love this movie, I love this song" and the like. But for them aishiteru or "love" is something more deeper. That's why they only really say it to people they are VERY close to, like family and lover. It's also why they use the word "suki" or "like" more, and they use it in the way we use love in English. Even in anime we rarely hear the word "aishiteru" and more of "suki"
Its funny how I rather say I love you in english to my parents instead of my native language. Just shows that english 'love' has less weightage due to overusage. Btw i'm not even Japanese
i DONT know about Japanese having this greater appreciation and value for the word Love…I think it’s just not part of their culture….The Japanese are very introverted and shy….and I think it has to do more with that then anything else..
@@E47rogue Yes, but also "love" has a very deep connotation for them. That's why even love confessions are "suki" or "like" only. Because love is a very heavy ideology for them (Idk if heavy is the right term lmao but it's the direct translation for "omoi" so I picked that). If we nitpick the word itself, the ai in aishiteru means "deep/passionate love that was built over time". shiteru is just "doing/to do" don't mind that much lmao
As a half Japanese person, my relationship with my mom’s side of the family is very different compared to my dad’s side. Japanese mostly express their love through gifts and acts of service. However, the only time I ever said I love you to my Japanese family was when I hugged my grandfather and told him I loved him while on his death bed. He passed away soon after I returned to America with my dad and brother 😢
4:40 My parents were like this. Keigo always to each other. It was their way of showing their love and respect. I admire it when couples do this in languages that have a 'formal' aspect. 😊
Dang 5 years and had only said I love twice?! I say it to my husband at least once a day if not more! And he to I. We also tell our son everyday that he is loved not only by us but by his whole family dead or alive that they all love him. He also say we are proud of him. Everytime I get done talking to one of my siblings or parents I say it as well. I also say it to close friends and cousins. I just love them all so much and never want anyone to question if they are loved or not.
"I love you" loses meaning when you just say it without being genuine. You can hear it in the voice. Thats why ppl think your joking or your in trouble. You have to be sincere about it or it wont mean anything. That husband was a good example of doing it and meaning it. Said how she has been so supportive of him and that he loves her. So is the first lady.
@@yoshifan52 I'm pretty sure when Americans say I love you to their parents, they mean it as much as anyone else, even if it's more common to say it frequently here.
I'm Mexican and I honestly can't imagine not giving my family hugs when I see them (it's actually somewhat rude at times when you don't give relatives or friends hugs) or telling my Mom that I love her every once in a while. Yet I've learned that it depends on the person and culture that determines how people feel about showing their affection towards one another.
Pero no dices te amo, dices te quiero, por que te amo es muy diferente, yo jamas en la vida les he dicho a mis padres te amo, es demasiado fuerte la palabra, en cambio te quiero si lo he dicho
In my family (& many friends) saying I love is like saying talk to you soon. It’s said after almost every conversation. I’m thankful to feel & to give so much love & comfort to my family & friends. Lost my lil sister recently, last time I seen her we said I love you & hugged & it was very genuine! I’m thankful for that last positive moment with her even though it was months prior to her leaving this world❤
It’s very wholesome. As an Asian myself, it’s very weird for family members to say I love you directly to each other, at least in my family lol When messaging or in writings, sure. But saying it out loud? I don’t think I can do it lol And my parents would think I’m about to jump off a building or something 😂
I love this showcase of the Japanese culture that others may not know of. Many people would judge this as cold behavior or harmful, but I feel like it isn't. It's just different. I feel like actions speak louder than words anyway. I don't know how many times I've heard or said "I love you" from and to non-family when it wasn't genuine. The husband saying it to his wife though. So heartwarming. It's ok not to do things the same as others. You can best believe the Japanese show their love for each other, even without saying it.
Actually not. In life they are also very cold and formal to each other. I have jp husband and big family. Their meeting together are like snow age, funeral in my country are warmer then their reunions.
I can agree i actually think saying i love you is most often used to emotionally coerce or guilt/shame children and spouses. Id way rather just be treated with respect and let that speak for itself.
while you have good points, let's not forget Japan has a high rate of suicides. coincidence? Japan's culture is admirable in many ways, but they're not perfect
@@andresv.8880 japan is actually low in suicides, they rank like 49th for that. suicide is and always has been one of the leading causes of human death across all cultures, but people like to censor and silence that fact because of dogmatic natalism. japan is more lax with letting creatives speak about it, that's all. their culture is less death negative, at least when it comes to media, which is a very good thing as it leads to suicidal people being able to express their pain
Wow. I had no idea it was such a big deal to say “I love you” in Japan. Meanwhile in south Florida we’ll even say “I love you” to our friends and even favorite coworkers lol. I say “I love you” to my family every time we get off the phone, not to be morbid but you never know when it’ll be the last time
Would say its the same for atleast the nordic countries in Europe also. Would be so "weird" to say "i love you" to someone. I would have the same panic.
I can see that. I am an Asian who learn English and it is SO much easier to say I love you in English to people rather than saying it in my language cuz it feels like western culture doesnt put that much weight into the words
I’m Japanese and I’ve never said “aishiteru” to my parents. If I have to say “aishiteru” to them, I’m gonna say “aishiteruyo” or “aishitemasu”. So, I think you got really good point!
Oh fr I’m Indian and it’s just weird to say ily in the 2 Indian languages I know. To your partner too it’s just dramatic, if anything. I like you on the other hand is much easier and common!
The English version would probably be "Love you" and "I love you so". LIke you said about aishiteru, "I love you so" is more romantic and has a madly in love sound to it. But I'm not American xD
Love this! What a perfect country to do this in :) I grew up in a house where my parents didnt tell us they loved us and it really had an effect on me when i realized later as an adult that i never truly felt loved growing up. Sure i had clothes and toys and was fed and for that im grateful, but i was never made to feel or told i was loved. Now that i have a son (im 30) i tell him I love you many times a day. Hes 5 and aside from morning, school dropoff, pickup, night and usual times to say i love you, Ill randomly tell him while hes playing too. Ill call his name and when he says "yea?" I say "I love you". I could also come and kiss him while i say it. I want him to know and feel that hes loved all the time even if the situation doesnt call for me to express it. Thats how kids should feel and if theyre raised with expressed love, theyll be able to express it themselves as adults. And thats really what this hurting world needs. More Love.
I remember as an adult the first time I told my Asian grandmother I loved her (on the phone). She paused and then said it back which surprised me! Sometimes it just takes one person to get out of their comfort zone and start it!
I grew up in a loveless household, now I make sure to say I love you as much as I can. I see a lot of people saying “it’s less valuable if you say it a lot” and I could not agree LESS. I respect that other cultures are different, sure, but that’s not even what the people in this video are saying. “No one says it to me, so I don’t say it” “It’s embarrassing” Not one person said “I don’t say it so it will be special when I finally do” Actions speak louder than words, but we still use our words to communicate. You can say something a million times, and that has no bearing on its value. It can only lose value if you don’t *mean it* every time you say it. I tell my grandmother I love her about 8 times a day. Not to hit some arbitrary number or because I feel obligated, but because I DO love her and I want her to KNOW I love her and know that I’m not afraid to TELL her I love her. The fact that I say it so much tells her (who also grew up in an abusive and neglectful household) that I think about her often and it’s always with love. People need to hear it. This is true for other affirmations too. We need to hear “good job” and “I’m proud of you” and “you’re my friend” and yes, even “I love you”. You don’t have to say it 10 times a day. You don’t need to say it every day. Or every week. But you have to say it. Because if you keep waiting for perfect moment, you might lose your chance all together.
This was really cute! To be honest, even as a second gen Asian-American with first gen parents, my family didn't really say "I love you" a lot growing up. But now that my family is all living apart at the moment, my siblings and I say "I love you" every time we call our parents. lol Right now being the youngest and living abroad, I have an almost nightly call with my parents and we always make sure to say "I love you" before we hang up!
I find it so interesting how they even have manners when calling on the phone. They always ask the other person if they are busy and if they have time to not inconvenience them. I love that. Gonna start doing that too!
I find it so interesting to see that quite a few people in the comments pointed to this same thing. For me it is so odd, isn't it logical that the person you are calling to might be busy or it might be inconvenient for them to speak? Wouldn't you yourself appreciate being asked if you are available for a conversation?
Psych101 helped me understand love. That triangular theory of love... Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. You can 'love' a random stripper at a bar... just passion though. You aren't sharing your hopes and dreams, or wanting to know her in ten years... it's just about sex. You can 'love' the ideal spouse and share all three... that's the one people seem to think of when they think 'I love you'... but there's eight types in this theory... we can have love for everyone we wish to know. Doesn't have to be an Earth-shattering love. Don't be so scared.
This concept is just soooooo different for me. I’m American but I tell my parents I love them literally everyday! Sometimes I’ll tell them I love them multiple times during the day. This is so interesting to me!
I lived for a while in Japan, when I learnt that they rarely say 愛してる even to their own families and spouses, I felt kinda sad for them, they are always embarrassed or shy to say it and a lot of times when they say it the other person instantly think that they are going to do something bad, I've heard it from my friend's mother, I dared him to tell her, and he did it in person, right in front of me, and the first thing she said "I know you're going through tough times but taking your own life is not the answer", it was especially shocking to me since I grew up in a country where expressing your love to others especially family members was normal, it wasn't too common for the word to lose its meaning but it wasn't rare for it to give an entirely different meaning
yeah... but hey at least they were concerned enough to immediatly try to stop them from hurting themselves. There actions speak louder then their words.
Most of the Asian culture are that way. I’m Vietnamese and growing up I’ve never heard my parents saying I love you to us kids. It’s the same way with my other Asian friends. In the Asian culture they don’t really show much affections to the kids. In a way, they think that it’s spoiling them rotten to show to much affections. But I don’t think that’s true at all, that is the bad aspect of the Asian culture that I would not emulate to my own child. Now that I have a kid I say I love you to her all the time and it seems natural, but I hardly say I love you to my parents because it doesn’t feel natural because we never heard them say it.
I’m Japanese. I love my parents very much, and I tell them “Daisuki ”(= I like you very much ) almost everyday. But I had never tell them ”Aishiteru”(= I love you) I believe that it is not common for Japanese children to tell their parents “I love you ”. Parents do say it to their children, or to their partners. Maybe it is because there is a difference in the meaning of "I love you" and "Aishiteru”.
I think there seems to be a very different meaning. When English speakers say "I love you" there are several different levels of severity of that love which make it a vague concept we use most often to say "I appreciate you"
I think we're all shy to say "I love you" to our parents even in other countries, I'm from Switzerland and I left for a 1 year exchange in Tokyo and I told for the first time in my life "I love you" to my dad at the airport before leaving, he was really suprised and emotional
never say never! while i generally agree with this, i personally get a bit exhausted dealing with people that give a lot of compliments and verbal affirmation. I know the intentions are usually good so I'm not mad about it but it can get uncomfortable if it is overdone. I know other people that feel the same way so i feel like it's important to do your best to read people and respond accordingly. Since I know not everyone can read my thoughts, I'll try to gently ask people to cut back on it when they talk to me if i sense they aren't picking up on hints that i drop.
This makes me feel better about my mom. She said, "I love you," only in the last years in her life. I find this so very sad. I don't know if it's healthy to find it so uncomfortable to say you love your own family, friends, or your spouse. It just shows you how different social norms and mores are in other countries. I remember numerous Japanese exchange students coming to the States and living with host families. They would sob before going home. One day, I asked one of them why they were so emotional. She said it was the freedom to express herself so openly that she would miss terribly. Last time I heard from her she was obtaining a visa to live and work in Canada. It was too hard to get one to live in the U.S., so she chose Canada. She just could not stay in such a rigid social construct after being here. I think we shouldn't take our social freedoms for granted. That's why I'm very concerned about censorship. Ultimately, it will fail. You can't give a country's people a Constitutional right and then try to put the genie back in the bottle. Most of us will die for freedom of speech. If you have to be fake, that's worse than prison.
I don’t really say “I love you” that often, but I want to start using it more often to to express love to those who support me most!
Call someone you love and comment what they say :)
In Brazil we often often say "I love you". From child to adults, to our parents, siblings, friends, pet's, we really like to express our affection using this phrase.
I want to say thank you so much for putting in Japanese subtitles below the English translations this is very helpful for learning.
just called my dad, he didn't answer unfortunately because it is 1 am
We need more parts like this
Wow I really enjoyed this video bro! Haha yes you got to express your love for those who are your family and loved ones. No one’s got your back then those closest to you.
Much love from another brown brother
@JESSEOGN
That sister who just hung up 💀
Real sibling moment right there
frfr
ngl that could perfectly be me with my brother lmfao 💀
My brother would probably freak out thinking I would do something stupid right after
She was so mean
Just the "bye bye" alone sent me 😂😂
the parents probably worried if they committed a crime is so funny 😭😭😭
Lmfaoo right 😂❤
it's not funny it's completely normal
@@chocoblin5887 No its not
"please don't do anything stupid" 🤣🤣
I mean ITS sad that the never Say IT but when some Family call me Just to say to me that He/ she Love me i Would be worried to. And i even have No Problem saying IT to my Family.
the girl who called her dad at the beginning has such a lovely relationship with him
I needed to be reminded about this! But you’re so right. Appreciate the reminder!
@@smeech5177
yea in my culture we tend to show love by actions not by words
I loved when the dude called his friend and he goes "i love you too bro" thats true friendship, real bros aint afraid to say it
ikr it was so cute 😭
@@iiris4nah it wasn't cute it was MANLY
@@YSleepishthe manly kind of cute.
lmaooo and he hung up on him 😂
oh YEAH! so true, manly AND cute ^^@@YSleepish
The guy saying I love you after 5 years absolutely made his wife's day.
I think for both was, because his expression change after hearing her replied too was and eye opening to him and he acknowledged it was sweet ❤ hear her happiness.
I hear a child coming that very night XD
day? might've made her week. month even
@@eldesconocidosenork5981 Jesus is Lord,He died on the Cross for our sins then rose again 3 days later repent.
It’s heartwarming they respect “I love you” it has meaningful implications for them. I live in USA where some or most throw around “I love you” giving it no meaning. I grew up not hearing it and it’s the same with my husband. But with our children we say it daily to each other. In my culture we can’t say “Goodbye” or “bye” to anyone. The only time we say “goodbye” is when they’re on their DBed or at their funeral service. When we end our conversation it is “ok, talk to you later” or “see you later” especially with our love ones. I don’t do it but some of my family members will say “goodbye” to those they don’t like. 😂😳😬🤫
The guy who called his wife that was so cute you can tell she loved it!! Tell your wifes you love them !!
kinda tragic that they are so formal with each other and never say basic things like i love you after 5 years of MARIAGE...
@@madamadam5951 Even in Keigo, sometimes it's just polite, especially if you're nervous.
@@madamadam5951 It seems like they're comfortable that way and already know that they love each other
@@madamadam5951 Just because love isn't verbalized doesn't mean it's not acknowledged or not there. Many times, its shown more through actions than words. When it is verbalized, it's profoundly meaningful/a big deal. While it's nice to hear "i love you" so often, on the other hand, it kind of loses its meaning. Everything has a good and bad side.
Very heart warming
As soon as I learned how to say it, I would say it to my Japanese grandma. She would always giggle. Then I would start doing hearts with my hands and saying it louder to make her laugh.
I miss her so much
What an amazing story.
This is so sweet. What a lovely memory.
had me in the first half ngl
broke down at the end
@@yoshiEgg_main stay strong.
Aw she was prob shocked from all the love
4:19 she said "I love you too" and laughed because she was too shy to say it back but didn't want to miss the opportunity to have that sweet moment with her husband. That was so cute.
I’m Asian. I did that once - calling my mom and told her I love her. She yelled back at me and said…
“Do not do this ever again! I thought you’re going to die or something!”
Oh no😆💀
2:37 haha… wasn’t like this
Is it? 🤣
When my mom hugged me for the first time ever it was weird...and I was at least in my mid-20s. She hugs my son, but not any of her kids lol..which I'm okay with. And when she started saying I love you it was weird because she didn't say it for 25+ years...now she doesn't anymore.
@@makaylang1790Lol that's weird, maybe she felt guilty and decided to give back the hugs she didn't give in years.
Are you east Asian or indian? I heard it's mostly east Asian moms and indian moms who do this
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@@helenaborgespeixoto7598 Yes I'm Asian. I'm almost in my mid-40s and I've only gotten 1 hug from her. She hugs my son. I hug my son a lot. I'm not mad or sad or anything..I just can relate to how these people felt shy and awkward. When it comes to my parents it just feels weird when they never did that's all.
The use of keigo between the married couple was so wholesome to me idk why I just think it’s very sweet that they spoke like that to one another especially given that it was a confession. They’re adorable
I think he did it in front of interviewer.
it kind of made me sad. it feels quite distant. id be very sad in a marriage where i cant just speak casually, using inside jokes and such.
@@Cat-tg8nk It's not always about being distant, using Keigo is also a way to elevate the status of the other person, to show deep respect and gratitude, verses using common language.
Yeah, the way he attached it to a very specific statement of gratitude and appreciation seemed super thoughtful.
Anata is the exception on pronoun avoidance, here it has the sense of you, half of my soul\soulmate (Horace to Vergil in Odes) brother in arms bad boys 2
Using kenjougo for ones own Uchi
Okay, using kenjougo because you want to respect ur partner, I haven't searched this or knew it so idk. I do know using familiar speech is apt for the situation. Formal is totally for distancing each other in social status tho, polite is just being polite eg
明日
あすpolite
あしたcolloquial
みょうにちformal
Honjitsu is formal
んです polite informal\ colloquial for colloquial spoken languageんだ「話し言葉」
Forgor iirc there's a familiar word for cooked rice
i love how at 4:06, he used the opportunity presented to turn it into a moment for them, and instead of being awkward about it, he rolled with it and said that while he was walking through the park the feeling just came to him and he wanted to call her and say it.
past not only hearing in her voice how much she enjoyed that sentiment, the guy also expressed gratefulness in pushing him and giving him that opportunity out of nowhere. he was very apparently happier after the fact
That was so nice. She was so happy.
Japanese rizz
@@knight1506 w nihon rizz
"i love you"
"Thank you" 💀
@@andreaschintu5024 she said I love you too
Dang, the guy telling his wife "I love you" and her saying it back melted my heart. That was sweet
timestamp pls
broooo she sounded so happy too haha
In formal too. Most impressive.
4:26 you can hear her smiling from ear to ear, that was adorable. I have a feeling this encounter brought them even closer after that
Thats why he thanked him for great timing meeting him
Guy was smooth too lol
“I’ll be home after lunch” we know what that means ;)
@@zanetusken don't make it werid
@@Hemlock_2X it's his fucking WIFE, how is that weird to assume he's definitely getting some tonight?
As a Mexican woman, this was a huge cultural shock for me! It made me feel sad but at the same time, I know my perspective is biased by my own experience.
My mom was Mexican and my dad is white. My mom was the person in the family that would always say I love you. I always said it back, but rarely said it first and I pretty much never said it to my dad after I became a teenager. Now that she’s gone my dad and I say we love each other a lot more often than we used to.❤
Huh Mexicans can be pretty shy too, I too am Mexican and last time I said it to my parents probably was back in new year's or something lol
Same
as a Brazilian, it was a shock for me too because here we are the complete opposite, it's so common to say that we love people, even strangers, we love to see the smile of those who listen and say that aaaah
@softsuny I'm a half Japanese in Brazil, and I never say te amo to my family either. It just feels too uncomfortable.
Minha mãe é a br, e nem ela tinha costume de falar, agora que fala de vez em quando, mas acho que meu pai nunca falou.. ou uma vez ou outra só
3:45 was the most wholesome thing I have seen in a while. Both him and his wife exude kindness despite them obviously being very formal in their interaction. I especially liked how his wife clearly felt a bit embarrassed and giggled about it. But then in the end accepted and returned the gesture with sincerity.
guy with the wife is a great sample. he delivers the word perfectly to his wife. you can tell the shock & happiness of the wife on the other line. the words of appreciation first right before he says I love you really hits her. who else won't smile from that. the first lady also did it very well.
Where was he?
@@HasufelyArod4:26
Being from a Native American cultural background saying “I love you” is just like breathing air. We say it to each other anytime someone leaves the house or if we’re hanging up on the phone. I would be devastated if my family didn’t say it back! I totally understand why most people don’t though.
That’s super interesting. Do you say it in your native language, or in English? If you do use your native language, does it translate literally to “I love you” in English, or is it more nuanced? Thank you 🌸
Interesting... Eng is not my first language and I mostly use it on social media,, but I found it easier to say I love you in eng than my own language. I don't even remember when was the last time I said I love you in my language 🥲 it just feel .. really intimate that I might start crying lol
It's common across all of America, but I could definitely see it being more important to close-knit community families.
This is what I also do with my family especially with my siblings. I can’t go a day without telling them how much I love them. When I go out, call or when I go to sleep. I never know what’s going to happen in the future and if one day I’m not there I want them to know that I loved them till the end.
We asian don't like love language because we're too shy to say it but it doesn't necessarily we don't love our family. It's just different context with western saying "I love you" because saying I love you MOSTLY! meaning I like you in romantically way as a person or interested in person. It just very very STRONG WORD and we do not use it frequently.
4:19 When she also said “I love you’ my heart melted. Such a great video idea!!
Ugh same. Loved this ❤
But still, keigo with their partners is strange af
@@victorairaf More polite then formal.
I WAS JUST SO HAPPY THIRD WHEELING HERE. LIKEEEE YAZZZZZZZZ.
@@victorairaf It felt like they were saying it as a gag.
The way some of them added in Why they loved them. Trying to convey their true feelings beyond just the words. And how giggly and happy their families were to hear it!
Specially the wife. Five years without saying it! Adorable.
Right?!? She sounded like the most adorably happy woman on the planet.
I'm Australian, but my parents lived in Tokyo for about 7 years - I visited them frequently. There was a little cafe near their house in Ebisu that I frequented almost daily for lunch. I was still learning Japanese at the time, so didn't know how to say a whole lot to thank them for my meal each day, so just started saying "Ai shiteru" to the staff. This made them all laugh, but I carried on the joke for days and weeks to follow. Still years later the little old lady who runs the cafe still remembers and gives me a loud "Ai shiteru!" whenever I come in. I love their culture so much.
very cute. ty for sharing.
That dude's wife was so flustered by it haha 😄. Japanese couples are adorable.
what really gets me is that more than one person had something specific they wanted to say to thank the other person before they actually said i love you. it just goes to show that, even if they dont say the words, the feeling is always on their mind. very sweet video
There's so many different ways to say "I love you" without using the words, no? Still nice to hear, though!
I think most of them are doing that partly to build up the courage to say it and to make it seem less awkward 😂
Yes i love that too ❤
Lmao that guy's friend was the only person who reciprocated with zero hesitation "love you too bro"
Bros before hose every time.
2:40 "Please don't do stupid things" .. I laughed because I've been in both sides of the phone and yeah if my kid calls me to say that my first thought will be "thanks but .. what did you do now..." 🤣🤣
And the follow-up "I'm embarrassed" made me laugh 🤣
The phrase Aishteru (愛してる) is an imported expression. It started out as a literal translation of “I love you” from Western literature. When Japanese translators first encountered the expression around 1900’s, there was no real equivalent of it in the Japanese language. The Japanese people usually don’t express the idea of “I love you” verbally or when they do, they say it in a very indirect way, especially ones born before the 1990’s. One of the translators, after much struggle, translated it as 私は貴方のためなら死んでもよい (I would die for you) because he knew the literal/direct translation would sound wrong to the average Japanese back then. Even today, the expression Aishiteru does not sound or feel native to the language. It sounds like a bad transition that was forced on the Japanese people and language.
Interesting :)
This is really cool context!
Very informative. Thanks for this comment.
月が綺麗ですね ❤
i read that aishiteru was only used romantically in the past, but now people use it in non-romantic contexts too. is this true? is it still considered somewhat of a romantic term?
I think in Japan, 8/10 parents would be concerned if their child all of a sudden called just to say “I love you.” it’s that uncommon.
You can tell when the first guy said it to his mom and she said please don't do any stupid things. Kinda scary tbh
As an American I guarantee if anyone randomly called their parents and said "I love you", their parent would ask something like "what do you want?" or "are you in trouble?".
my parents would think i'd be about to commit if i called them and said that out the blue
In the US, doing that so suddenly gives the impression you're about to die and you're giving your last words.
I think that is every parent.
My parents would probably think I'm committing suicide if I suddenly said 'I love you'. 😂
99% of Japanese parents may think so.
Same, or that I murdered someone
This is weird, here in Brazil i say "Iove you" everytime to my parents
I say it often to my dad, but if I was to suddenly call him just to say it then yeah he’d probably get worried
or I'm going to commit terrorism.
I love how the Japanese say if the person is free to talk before continuing the conversation, the Japanese are so polite and thoughtful of others. hope to visit one day
Meanwhile in the UK, if we're busy, we just don't answer. 🤣
I mean, don't you? It's not even politeness, it is just common sense.
I guess it's very common in Asians , in India, first thing I would always ask my parents if they are busy
@@thayspamacheno628 how is it common sense? Lmao learnt to use the phrase right
@@D__Ujjwal India is in Asia
I feel like the husband and wife needed that I love you, I feel like their relationship was strengthened by this moment of appreciation and honesty.
So crazy! My son is 5 and bursts out saying I LOVE YOU to everyone in the family randomly throughout the day. He even tells his friends that he loves them like friends. It's the most heartwarming part of my day.
I had my son very young at 18. Everyday since he was born id say I love you to him multiple times per day, and one day when he was 1 sitting in my lap he said I love you and it made me jump because he wasn't making much sentences yet just a lot of one or two word gestures. It was the first time he said it back, ill never forget it. I started crying and saying it to him to get him to say it again. And he hasn't stopped, I always tell him I love you multiple times per day and he says it back and makes a kiss noise at the end before bedtime or if he goes in his room or school or just leaving the room at all we always say it. Hes 9 now, I hope he never stops. This is huge culture shock to me hearing people saying thank you back instead of I love you to lol.
@@aydadae7337 that's beautiful
My mother died when I was 23. I was less than 2 hours from getting on a plane to get home to say my goodbyes. Ever since then, I have never left someone I love without saying, "I love you." I never want to lose another person without knowing that I told them how much they meant to me.
That hit oof
I hope you’re doing better now 🤍
Similar story here. My dad died by suicide when I was 11. My sibling and I started hugging people then, family, friends, cuddle puddles the lot. (this made for some misunderstandings on our visit to Japan whoops.) My Japanese mom felt rather awkward about it but now 18 years later at least over text she is warming up from her side.
you made men shed tears with this 🥲
Nice of you, but you know that your mom knew. People know. I know, who likes me without people telling me too. All the best from Berlin Germany. Never wrong to be or say something nice ;)
The contrast between the first girl and first guy were so funny. She gave such warm words of thanks leading up to it but the dude went straight for it. haha
4:12の人の言葉遣いが大人びていて羨ましい。素敵な奥さんってことがよく分かる❤
The guy saying it to his wife was so beautiful, she got giggly, he literally put a smile on her face by saying that and she took her time to say it back. She deffo loved to receive a call from her husband to thank her for the support she gave and tell she is loved. It is amazing.
7:17 That "I love you too bro" was great 😂😅👌🏾
Really “two bros chilling in the hot tub five feet apart cuz they’re not gay” vibes.
I can understand the people in this video. I am Mexican and only recently started hugging my parents and saying I love you. I find that even when I do say these things I'll say it in English instead of Spanish and my voice becomes more playful. Maybe to ease the intensity of those words hehe.
That's interesting. I would have guessed that spanish speaking cultures would be more open to saying "I love you". I haven't met a spanish speaking person yet who wasn't warm and huggy. 😂
@@tessw9744 Yes exactly haha. I'm too cold for a Mexican and other family members think I'm being rude but I'm just not used to being affectionate jsjs.
@@tessw9744it takes a lot of effort saying something so sensitive without crying😂
Might just be me but hugs anytime 😎👌
@@asan4106 my brother's are the same way.. they just aren't used to it but doesn't mean they don't mean it or won't say I love you it's just uncommon... But specifically for me I don't mind all the hugs and what not but the words I love you don't feel special to me bc I hear it so much, so I can say it and not really mean it which is why I don't say it a lot
Same, Brazilian
This was so sweet. Growing up in Hawaii a lot of Japanese culture influenced the population so this is something we know quite well. Even bowing in certain situations is normal here.
😅I forget how much Japanese I actually understand I barely glanced at the subtitles I’m so happy my years of studying worked out well
I was born and raised on big Island and I moved away 3 years ago but I still nod my head and kinda bow even without meaning to 😂😂
@@smolmishka609 same here 😂 grew up on Oahu and I bow sometimes and make haole friends take their shoes off in my house. They can use the house slippers for guests or keep their socks
I lived on O'ahu for ten years before moving to Japan, so I also realized how much I learned about Japanese culture just from being in Hawai'i.
It's so cute when they start with thanking them for something, it's obvious that they were things they've been wanting to say 💕
I can't decide what was more wholesome, the husband and wife or just the two friends lmao
My Japanese host mom thought it was really sweet when I told my parents I love them over skype and I could tell she wished her kids said it to her. Tell your folks you love them! (In a context that makes sense)
The one calling his wife she sounded so happy well more shocked but also happy 🤗
Also saving the word makes it mean a lot more when it's not said as much. So hearing the word for the first time in a long time may make you feel really good. ❤️
Absolutely not true. I tell my mom every day I love and I appreciate her because she means the world to me, same thing with my boyfriend. And every day they seem just as happy as the last. Why "wait" to tell people you appreciate them?
@@robins2819 "Absolutely not true" Some people can say "I love you" many times. Doesn't mean they mean it.
@@penitentone6998 "Saving the word makes it mean a lot more" is objectively not true. I never said everyone always means it. Saying "I love you" frequently doesn't necessarily decrease its importance if you're being genuine about it.
I’m so surprised on how different the culture is there. I live in Canada and I say I love u to my parents every day. Especially before I go to sleep or before I leave for school in the morning. But ig it’s different for everyone. Or I even just say it casually to my close friends like “love u bye!” Yk?
@@ii4826 not all westerners. I realized some time ago that I didn’t truly love many people around me and said that I loved them whenever they said it to me due to social pressure and habit so I stopped and now respond with “I care about you and I’d love to truly love and appreciate you one day. But until I do, I don’t want to say something I don’t mean”
That's just you
I actually think it's more an American thing to use "love you" as a filler expression. Probably also because in English the verb to love is quite general and doesn't make distinction between romantic and affectionate love, so you use it for anything. However in Europe, like in Japan, we have different expressions when it comes to say "I love you" and the equivalent for the english "to love" is generally used only for romantic love . When talking to our parents we would most likely choose another expression.
I'm American and I only say I love you to my close family members because I 100% genuinely love them with all of my heart because they mean the world to me. I care so deeply for them that I would put my life on the line to protect them and make them happy. If that's not love then idk what is. I feel that when said it is a reminder to them, and to ourselves, of how deep we truly feel for each other.
@@arlance6703 "Filler expression"? Hm, what do you mean exactly?
私にとって、『いつもありがとう』『感謝してる』は、『愛してる』より上の言葉🍀
心に馴染む。
It’s interesting learning about other cultures being American my family always says it when leaving. It’s jus natural and being sure if anything happens that’s the last thing you said too then.
愛してるって言葉でごまかして態度に表さなかったら、安っぽい言葉だと思う
何かあった折にその都度ありがとうの方が、素直に気持ち伝わるかと
This made me cry because as an Asian this is so heartfelt I don't hear this often
This so cute and wholesome!! My family doesn't really say "I love you" either, everything is said through actions which is fine but one of my love languages is words of affirmation though so it would be nice to be heard sometimes lol
I am 52 years old Japanese and have never said "I love you" to anyone including my kids.
Some of my ex boys said it to me.
It is quite unimaginable for me to imagine my late father saying "I love you"to me but I had always felt he would willingly die for me.
Love is also a feeling it doesn’t need to be said for it to be true :))
Well maybe you should start...
That’s sad
Terrible and sad. You missed a lot.
It's never too late to get started.
Japan has such a respectful culture. Notice how everyone asked the person on the phone if they were free so as to not intrude to much on their time.
Meanwhile im over here like "mom, what are you doing?..........well stop and listen to my story....."
LMAO FACTS. When I call my mom, if she answers she now has to make time for me. Like low-key "momma, you brought me into this world now you have to talk to me randomly. Sorry not sorry I love you."
7:35 Proof that the boys are international
Just guys being dude.
Leading up to saying “I love you” they have very endearing words of thankfulness. That is showing them why they are about to say the words “I love you” and that they truly mean it.
I'm from Latin America it's easy to me to say i love you, to give hugs and kisses to my relatives and friends its amazing how some cultures handle feelings
I’m Panamanian and I’ve literally never heard my family say I love you. Hugs and kisses to everyone, yes, but “I love you” was never said out loud. It’s interesting to know the differences even across Latin America
But it still depends on the situation. If you say it out of the blue they think you want to ask for money (*꒦ິ꒳꒦ີ)
Same as a New Zealander
I'm also from Latin America and it's not easy to me. Not because I feel I can't say it, I just don't think it's a word we say it so randomly.
Same, as an American and also just the way my family raised me, I feel very comfortable saying it even though they carry so much weight, but I only say it when I mean it!
As a Nigerian immigrant that grew up in the U.S., I can count on one hand the number of times my parents said "I love you" outloud. They say it marginally more often now, as well as initiate hugs, but I think that's because I began making it a habit to hug them every morning. Now it's just normal. Though I still struggle to say I love you without feeling embarrassed😂.
It's sweet that you formed that habit on purpose
as a fellow nigerian immigrant, i had to do the same thing! lol i swear we all live the same life.
Kind of sad.
My family is different hugging saying I love you was just normal also a Nigerian immigrant in America, but I don’t think that was all that normal for them when they were growing up and ironically I think I am more conservative Nigerian so saying I love you as I have grown up has become an awkward thing for me that and I think actions are more powerful than words
It started with my mom and I, but now my dad joins in and I'm happy to say we say I love you and hug each other every time lol.
This was a really nice idea for a video, hopefully once everyone in it (and their parents) get over their collective embarrassment they'll appreciate that they were able to say it to their Parents, they won't' be there forever y'know? In fact, if you're reading this why not give them a call and let them know how much you do love them? Gonna do that myself now, thanks for bringing some wholesome positivity to the world dude!
I see a lot of gratitude. They show love by service and action. Expression of love in words is also important.
Saying, I love you, is entirely different in meaning to the 'luv ya!' you hear with people ending a call on their phones here. Yes, no doubt there is love, but the actual three words send another message, far more intimate and special. The guy calling his wife, first offering her thanks, was very touching. Robert, UK
I think the married guy being formal was relatable. I'm not married, but when I speak in Punjabi to Punjabi friends, I tend to use respectful language that get surprised as well. I think the guy is just very respectful, and can't bring it to himself to speak casually to his wife; which I respect.
Word. It''s nice and also reflects his respect for her which is a form of love. Sometimes we tend to be too casual with our loved ones.
@@leechrec Exactly
They’re so shy this video was so cute ❤ love this
This was a beautiful video. honestly I feel weird saying it as well. I feel bad for the girl who sister just said bye bye.. she seemed shocked and embarrassed. I want to hug her. :(
I think I only said it to my father once or twice my entire life and it feels weird. a bit easier to say to my mom now, but wasn't before. You probably helped a lot of them become closer with their parents and think emotionally.
Yeah I picked up on that a little crushed 😭
Yeah that actually made me sad, so awkward. I get it tho sibling relationships are usually a bit complicated
Lol I thought her sister was being playful. It seems like something my brother would do to me, but I know he means well.
@@hevxhevI don’t think it’s sad it’s more like the girl making the call got embarrassed that she “failed” the interview haha. That’s why she seemed dejected cause the response wasn’t very interesting
I'm 38 years old, and I have never once heard my Japanese grandmother say, "I love you," to me. I never really thought about it before seeing this video. I guess now I understand why. It's a culture thing.
As a Southern woman from America, it seems so sad that tou wouldnt twll your family how much you love them at all times 😢❤
I understand its a translation vs expression thing, but to be able to say, even when you cant show, how much you love someone means something special ❤❤❤❤❤
In Japan, when we say “love” it usually means “愛” which is romantic love. So it’s funny seeing this because we usually say we appreciate them “感謝” rather than love.
Isn’t 恋 more strictly to romance? Than 愛
@@michaeldavise5221 yes you are correct, but I was mainly making a point on how 愛 never actually means loving your mother in a grateful way. If you know what I mean
@@bloxgame4823 uh oh 😬
Yeah its pretty much all asian cultures, we never say I love you to family members, thats only for romantic love.
Imteresting that appreciate means thank you in chinese
I'm Filipino and I always tell my family I love them, even my friends so it's very interesting to see this cultural difference. I think there is value in only saying the term once in a while so it has more meaning, but I also believe that there's value in being more affectionate because you never know when will be the last time to talk to your loved ones. I personally do not believe that my endearment for them is watered down because of how often I express it, rather it's a testament of how often their presence makes me feel happy and loved that I feel the need to express it to them so much.
What a beautiful way to put it. I totally agree.
I agree, but I am sure that Japanese do have other ways to express their affection towards each other. Though it seems they are a bit restraint.
I am half Filipino, and my Filipino side of the family is just like this. We say “I love you” all the time. They are also very physically affectionate, everyone hugs each other even in public. They sometimes put their arms over each other’s shoulders even just walking through the mall or something. Idk if my family is more physically affectionate than the average Filipino family, or if that’s a Filipino thing in general. But I absolutely love it :)
@@isaachester8475 Me too, I know that physical and verbal affection is very important for people's growth in their childhood and for maintenance into their adulthood, especially when talking about mental health, so I'm glad we're on the same boat and received a lot of affection
Agreed. It hurts to see people use one cultural norm to invalidate another. I grew up saying I love you to my parents, my siblings, I say it to my friends too because I do love them. Telling them that after every phone call or goodbye doesn't weaken the meaning of it because when I say it, I genuinely want them to know it. Otherwise I wouldn't say it! Scarcity doesn't give my words value, I place more value on what is said rather than what isn't.
I am so glad you brought up the subject! I’ve been living in the US for 30 years, so used to say I love you to my family here. (my fam is blackanese, BTW😊✊🏽) When I talk to my family in Japan, I feel awkward to say “daisuki” which is more commonly used to express affection among Japanese. However, I feel more natural to say I love you since I've been hear so long, but I know that is awkward for them. So I usually type I love you in katakana, “アイラブユー❣️” which has been working out😊❤
This is the one of the best thing a person can do to randomly go to people and ask them to say "I love you" to some one who is special. It reminds them that how special they are. Keep spreading love. Bless you !!!
This was so heartwarming
In italian we have 3 different expressions to differentiate between "I love you" and "I like you", or "愛してる" and " 好きだよ"
-Ti amo ("I love you"usually used when you are in a romantic relationship, and very rarely used to family members)
-Mi piaci ("I like you"...pretty cheesy, very rarely used...)
-Ti voglio bene (quite hard to translate...it can be used towards anyone you feel affection or love, but it is important to highlight that it doesn't include any romantic/sexual connotation: therefore you can use it with family members, friends, romantic partners, etc. I personally really like this phrase, since it encapsulates the true essence of "love" without sounding as cheesy or heavy as "愛してる" or "I love you")
In my case, I say "ti voglio bene" to my parents at least once a day, I sometimes use it with my uncle and aunts, and I have said it to my friends maybe a few times
Sono abbastanza sicura che se le altre lingue avessero qualcosa di simile al "ti voglio bene" che è inequivocabilmente platonico, molte più persone esternerebbero il proprio affetto. Fa strano sentire "I love you" in contesti platonici.
Well said, except that ti amo encapsulates the essence of love better, while ti voglio bene feels more loving because it's used more often for this. This is sad, I think the word amore has gotten cheapened by pop culture. . .
I think it's similar in German - especially with parents we'd use the variant that does not include the romantic / sexual connotation obviously.
!!!espresso benissimo
@@dorottagati6883 Quello penso anch'io!
I know it’s a culture difference, but even in my home we never really said it. I started telling my mom I loved her. It was so awkward at first, but I continued to say it and now it’s so normal for us to say it.
This video was just so wholesome ❤
Also I really never said that to my mom either (I live in EU) but I usually thank her and express how appreciative I am of her as my mom. Sometimes it’s not really needed to say it cuz you can feel it through the attention and gestures that person gives to you, still it’s nice to say it some times tho.
As an African (Kenyan)growing up no one ever really said I love you so it’s something that’s very weird to say and is barely said. But the actions will show you how much your parents or family love you but the words are very difficult to say. Luckily with other cultural integrations we can comfortably say I love you to friends or younger siblings and bf/gf. This video was very heartwarming but sad at the same time cause I’d love to tell my mom I love her and I’d love to hear the words from her without it feeling weird.
In Japanese culture, they value the word "Love" so much that they really don't throw it out as much as westerners do. We say "I love this game, I love this movie, I love this song" and the like. But for them aishiteru or "love" is something more deeper. That's why they only really say it to people they are VERY close to, like family and lover. It's also why they use the word "suki" or "like" more, and they use it in the way we use love in English. Even in anime we rarely hear the word "aishiteru" and more of "suki"
You're right, but even for lovers it's very rarely said. Almost always "suki" or "daisuki."
Its funny how I rather say I love you in english to my parents instead of my native language. Just shows that english 'love' has less weightage due to overusage. Btw i'm not even Japanese
Suki or Daisuki, right?
Aishiteru is usually used for ppl already together, and have been together for a long time.
i DONT know about Japanese having this greater appreciation and value for the word Love…I think it’s just not part of their culture….The Japanese are very introverted and shy….and I think it has to do more with that then anything else..
@@E47rogue Yes, but also "love" has a very deep connotation for them. That's why even love confessions are "suki" or "like" only. Because love is a very heavy ideology for them (Idk if heavy is the right term lmao but it's the direct translation for "omoi" so I picked that). If we nitpick the word itself, the ai in aishiteru means "deep/passionate love that was built over time". shiteru is just "doing/to do" don't mind that much lmao
My Japanese host sister wrote a letter to me and signed it with "I love you" .....I feel so honored now :')
As a half Japanese person, my relationship with my mom’s side of the family is very different compared to my dad’s side. Japanese mostly express their love through gifts and acts of service. However, the only time I ever said I love you to my Japanese family was when I hugged my grandfather and told him I loved him while on his death bed. He passed away soon after I returned to America with my dad and brother 😢
4:40 My parents were like this. Keigo always to each other. It was their way of showing their love and respect. I admire it when couples do this in languages that have a 'formal' aspect. 😊
Dang 5 years and had only said I love twice?! I say it to my husband at least once a day if not more! And he to I. We also tell our son everyday that he is loved not only by us but by his whole family dead or alive that they all love him. He also say we are proud of him. Everytime I get done talking to one of my siblings or parents I say it as well. I also say it to close friends and cousins. I just love them all so much and never want anyone to question if they are loved or not.
I knew a lot of them would have that response. Your kid just randomly calling you and saying I love you would be scary even in America.
Especially in America 😐
Yep.
"I love you" loses meaning when you just say it without being genuine. You can hear it in the voice. Thats why ppl think your joking or your in trouble.
You have to be sincere about it or it wont mean anything. That husband was a good example of doing it and meaning it. Said how she has been so supportive of him and that he loves her. So is the first lady.
We wanna spread this trend in Japan and make Japan more heartwarming and wholesome
No
It’ll wear down its value if it becomes widespread to say it all the time like in America
@@yoshifan52 I'm pretty sure when Americans say I love you to their parents, they mean it as much as anyone else, even if it's more common to say it frequently here.
@@yoshifan52 we mean it
@@yoshifan52 Nah man we mean it I say I love you to my parents all the time and they know I mean it.
I'm Mexican and I honestly can't imagine not giving my family hugs when I see them (it's actually somewhat rude at times when you don't give relatives or friends hugs) or telling my Mom that I love her every once in a while. Yet I've learned that it depends on the person and culture that determines how people feel about showing their affection towards one another.
Pero no dices te amo, dices te quiero, por que te amo es muy diferente, yo jamas en la vida les he dicho a mis padres te amo, es demasiado fuerte la palabra, en cambio te quiero si lo he dicho
@@alexKB18886 opino lo mismo
Im mexican too but I barely hug or tell that to my parents, so it even depends on the region of our country. Mexico is a huge place after all!
@@alexKB18886exacto! Solo le digo “te amo” a mi novio.
Nunca se lo he dicho a mis papás 😅
Yo le digo a mi mamá te amo mucho 😅😅😅😅😅 a mis hermanos y a mi papá.
In my family (& many friends) saying I love is like saying talk to you soon. It’s said after almost every conversation. I’m thankful to feel & to give so much love & comfort to my family & friends. Lost my lil sister recently, last time I seen her we said I love you & hugged & it was very genuine! I’m thankful for that last positive moment with her even though it was months prior to her leaving this world❤
It’s very wholesome. As an Asian myself, it’s very weird for family members to say I love you directly to each other, at least in my family lol When messaging or in writings, sure. But saying it out loud? I don’t think I can do it lol And my parents would think I’m about to jump off a building or something 😂
I love this showcase of the Japanese culture that others may not know of. Many people would judge this as cold behavior or harmful, but I feel like it isn't. It's just different. I feel like actions speak louder than words anyway. I don't know how many times I've heard or said "I love you" from and to non-family when it wasn't genuine. The husband saying it to his wife though. So heartwarming. It's ok not to do things the same as others. You can best believe the Japanese show their love for each other, even without saying it.
Actually not. In life they are also very cold and formal to each other. I have jp husband and big family. Their meeting together are like snow age, funeral in my country are warmer then their reunions.
I can agree i actually think saying i love you is most often used to emotionally coerce or guilt/shame children and spouses. Id way rather just be treated with respect and let that speak for itself.
while you have good points, let's not forget Japan has a high rate of suicides. coincidence? Japan's culture is admirable in many ways, but they're not perfect
@@andresv.8880 japan is actually low in suicides, they rank like 49th for that. suicide is and always has been one of the leading causes of human death across all cultures, but people like to censor and silence that fact because of dogmatic natalism. japan is more lax with letting creatives speak about it, that's all. their culture is less death negative, at least when it comes to media, which is a very good thing as it leads to suicidal people being able to express their pain
@@ANIMAL.LOVERS.DONT.EAT.ANIMALS I don't have any sources, I should say it was something I heard a while back. do you happen to have any sources?
Wow. I had no idea it was such a big deal to say “I love you” in Japan. Meanwhile in south Florida we’ll even say “I love you” to our friends and even favorite coworkers lol. I say “I love you” to my family every time we get off the phone, not to be morbid but you never know when it’ll be the last time
Haha! Same, raised in Florida. Hugs and “I love you’s” for literally everyone and anyone
Would say its the same for atleast the nordic countries in Europe also. Would be so "weird" to say "i love you" to someone. I would have the same panic.
I can see that. I am an Asian who learn English and it is SO much easier to say I love you in English to people rather than saying it in my language cuz it feels like western culture doesnt put that much weight into the words
@@kayleighearl9408 thats cool that you have that culture of hugs and say ever that you have any oportunitie to say love u vere nice of your part
I feel like aishiteru has a crazy-in-love nuance to it. Aishitemasu feels more natural to parents. But I’m not Japanese.
That’s actually a very good point. Never thought of it that way.
I’m Japanese and I’ve never said “aishiteru” to my parents. If I have to say “aishiteru” to them, I’m gonna say “aishiteruyo” or “aishitemasu”. So, I think you got really good point!
Oh fr I’m Indian and it’s just weird to say ily in the 2 Indian languages I know. To your partner too it’s just dramatic, if anything. I like you on the other hand is much easier and common!
The English version would probably be "Love you" and "I love you so". LIke you said about aishiteru, "I love you so" is more romantic and has a madly in love sound to it. But I'm not American xD
Love this! What a perfect country to do this in :) I grew up in a house where my parents didnt tell us they loved us and it really had an effect on me when i realized later as an adult that i never truly felt loved growing up. Sure i had clothes and toys and was fed and for that im grateful, but i was never made to feel or told i was loved. Now that i have a son (im 30) i tell him I love you many times a day. Hes 5 and aside from morning, school dropoff, pickup, night and usual times to say i love you, Ill randomly tell him while hes playing too. Ill call his name and when he says "yea?" I say "I love you". I could also come and kiss him while i say it. I want him to know and feel that hes loved all the time even if the situation doesnt call for me to express it. Thats how kids should feel and if theyre raised with expressed love, theyll be able to express it themselves as adults. And thats really what this hurting world needs. More Love.
I remember as an adult the first time I told my Asian grandmother I loved her (on the phone). She paused and then said it back which surprised me! Sometimes it just takes one person to get out of their comfort zone and start it!
I grew up in a loveless household, now I make sure to say I love you as much as I can.
I see a lot of people saying “it’s less valuable if you say it a lot” and I could not agree LESS.
I respect that other cultures are different, sure, but that’s not even what the people in this video are saying.
“No one says it to me, so I don’t say it”
“It’s embarrassing”
Not one person said “I don’t say it so it will be special when I finally do”
Actions speak louder than words, but we still use our words to communicate. You can say something a million times, and that has no bearing on its value. It can only lose value if you don’t *mean it* every time you say it.
I tell my grandmother I love her about 8 times a day. Not to hit some arbitrary number or because I feel obligated, but because I DO love her and I want her to KNOW I love her and know that I’m not afraid to TELL her I love her.
The fact that I say it so much tells her (who also grew up in an abusive and neglectful household) that I think about her often and it’s always with love. People need to hear it.
This is true for other affirmations too. We need to hear “good job” and “I’m proud of you” and “you’re my friend” and yes, even “I love you”.
You don’t have to say it 10 times a day. You don’t need to say it every day. Or every week.
But you have to say it. Because if you keep waiting for perfect moment, you might lose your chance all together.
This was really cute! To be honest, even as a second gen Asian-American with first gen parents, my family didn't really say "I love you" a lot growing up. But now that my family is all living apart at the moment, my siblings and I say "I love you" every time we call our parents. lol Right now being the youngest and living abroad, I have an almost nightly call with my parents and we always make sure to say "I love you" before we hang up!
no, i'm Chinese and I was told "I love you" fairly often from family growing up. Same with saying it.
I find it so interesting how they even have manners when calling on the phone. They always ask the other person if they are busy and if they have time to not inconvenience them. I love that. Gonna start doing that too!
I find it so interesting to see that quite a few people in the comments pointed to this same thing. For me it is so odd, isn't it logical that the person you are calling to might be busy or it might be inconvenient for them to speak? Wouldn't you yourself appreciate being asked if you are available for a conversation?
Psych101 helped me understand love. That triangular theory of love... Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. You can 'love' a random stripper at a bar... just passion though. You aren't sharing your hopes and dreams, or wanting to know her in ten years... it's just about sex. You can 'love' the ideal spouse and share all three... that's the one people seem to think of when they think 'I love you'... but there's eight types in this theory... we can have love for everyone we wish to know. Doesn't have to be an Earth-shattering love. Don't be so scared.
My parents died at far too young ages ~ my mom at 30 & dad AT 43, SO I make sure MY PEOPLE hear I LOVE YOU often.
This concept is just soooooo different for me. I’m American but I tell my parents I love them literally everyday! Sometimes I’ll tell them I love them multiple times during the day. This is so interesting to me!
I lived for a while in Japan, when I learnt that they rarely say 愛してる even to their own families and spouses, I felt kinda sad for them, they are always embarrassed or shy to say it and a lot of times when they say it the other person instantly think that they are going to do something bad, I've heard it from my friend's mother, I dared him to tell her, and he did it in person, right in front of me, and the first thing she said "I know you're going through tough times but taking your own life is not the answer", it was especially shocking to me since I grew up in a country where expressing your love to others especially family members was normal, it wasn't too common for the word to lose its meaning but it wasn't rare for it to give an entirely different meaning
yeah... but hey at least they were concerned enough to immediatly try to stop them from hurting themselves. There actions speak louder then their words.
Most of the Asian culture are that way. I’m Vietnamese and growing up I’ve never heard my parents saying I love you to us kids. It’s the same way with my other Asian friends. In the Asian culture they don’t really show much affections to the kids. In a way, they think that it’s spoiling them rotten to show to much affections. But I don’t think that’s true at all, that is the bad aspect of the Asian culture that I would not emulate to my own child. Now that I have a kid I say I love you to her all the time and it seems natural, but I hardly say I love you to my parents because it doesn’t feel natural because we never heard them say it.
悲しいよね。。。日本のために祈ります！
I say I love you to my mom and my SO multiple times a day, sometimes 5x in a single goodbye which is reciprocated every time.
まあ子供には言っても親に言う言葉ではないかな...。日本では
I’m Japanese. I love my parents very much, and I tell them “Daisuki ”(= I like you very much ) almost everyday. But I had never tell them ”Aishiteru”(= I love you)
I believe that it is not common for Japanese children to tell their parents “I love you ”. Parents do say it to their children, or to their partners. Maybe it is because there is a difference in the meaning of "I love you" and "Aishiteru”.
I think there seems to be a very different meaning. When English speakers say "I love you" there are several different levels of severity of that love which make it a vague concept we use most often to say "I appreciate you"
3:02 "i rub you"😂
THIS is the type of "on the streets interview" we need 😊
I think we're all shy to say "I love you" to our parents even in other countries, I'm from Switzerland and I left for a 1 year exchange in Tokyo and I told for the first time in my life "I love you" to my dad at the airport before leaving, he was really suprised and emotional
Nah not me I always say I love you to my mum and dad.
Why would u think everybody is the same way lol
I think it’s different for every culture and every family, but that is a really nice story about your dad :)
I don't now about that, here in Brazil we say I love you (eu te amo) to our parents, partners and friends frequently
Switzerland is low contact similar to Japan with it being a distance based culture and politeness focused
I love how polite everyone was. The first part of each call was so considerate of the other person. Love it
I loved this video, the married couple was so cute... the wife was so happy :)
Saying kind and loving words may be weird, but it never HURTS a relationship to give kindness, love and compliments.
never say never! while i generally agree with this, i personally get a bit exhausted dealing with people that give a lot of compliments and verbal affirmation. I know the intentions are usually good so I'm not mad about it but it can get uncomfortable if it is overdone. I know other people that feel the same way so i feel like it's important to do your best to read people and respond accordingly. Since I know not everyone can read my thoughts, I'll try to gently ask people to cut back on it when they talk to me if i sense they aren't picking up on hints that i drop.
I'm a little shy
But now after learning an entire country feels the same, I feel more brave
This makes me feel better about my mom. She said, "I love you," only in the last years in her life. I find this so very sad. I don't know if it's healthy to find it so uncomfortable to say you love your own family, friends, or your spouse. It just shows you how different social norms and mores are in other countries. I remember numerous Japanese exchange students coming to the States and living with host families. They would sob before going home. One day, I asked one of them why they were so emotional. She said it was the freedom to express herself so openly that she would miss terribly. Last time I heard from her she was obtaining a visa to live and work in Canada. It was too hard to get one to live in the U.S., so she chose Canada. She just could not stay in such a rigid social construct after being here. I think we shouldn't take our social freedoms for granted. That's why I'm very concerned about censorship. Ultimately, it will fail. You can't give a country's people a Constitutional right and then try to put the genie back in the bottle. Most of us will die for freedom of speech. If you have to be fake, that's worse than prison.
I hope she's doing well. I can say from experience that Canada as a whole isn't doing the greatest right now, so I hope she's alright. ❤