You could see the nervousness in every parent as they were preparing to say I love you. I know in Asian culture, emotions are not easily expressed, but this was very touching.
Hey man, I seen your pfp.. how are you doing? Is everything okay? I hope your life is good and wish nothing but happiness for you. If you’re going through something, know that everything happens for a reason and it’ll pass.. even though it doesn’t seem like it. Stay strong and patient! Sending you love ❤️
It's kind of sad to think something is wrong when parents say I love you to their children. You tell the sincerity in the last lady's voice, others also realize the importance. I tell my mom and siblings regularly that I love them, but actions say a whole lot as well.
in Asian culture, we know our parents love us when they show us how hard they work to keep us afloat. They remind us of why they work hard and of their struggles and why we need to work hard ourselves. We are shown love in a different asian way but we never doubt the love is not there. Edit: good to know I stirred a can of worms. Now I rememeber why I shouldn't post comments online, because we all become keyboard justice warriors lol. Just love your child whichever way you see fit. A children loved is one children saved. How you believe that to be right for you, I hope you practice it to the best of your abilities. ✌️ ☮️
@@yeloautosports This is not true, some may doubt the love if they don't hear it. Words are still important. I'm sure a lot of Asian people WANT to hear it, but it's just so normalized not to say it. This needs to change.
@@yeloautosports I have to agree with the other commenter, love can easily be doubted if it's never expressed directly. "I love you" is an unmistakable show of love, but working hard for your children can mean many things that have nothing to do with love. Asian parents are often fixated on public image, for example, so it's entirely possible that some parents make sacrifices for their children because it's what they have to do to maintain their status among their peers.
@@yeloautosports it's common, but that doesn't make it the best thing to do. it is very common for children from cultures like this (i am not Asian so i am not and will not make assumptions about that, but my culture is the same about this one thing) to feel like they are failures or burdens to their parents, or that their successes are not appreciated while their failures are always seen and commented upon. not every child struggles with this. but many do, so it would be good if more parents felt like they could be open about their feelings with their kids, both happy and sad. i think it is good for the parents too. they are not bad people for raising their kids the way they know how, and they DO express love just in different ways (another comment somewhere mentioned "have you eaten?" which is an expression of love i heard all the time growing up!) but they deserve to feel like they can be open too. it feels good to express your love openly! when i learned how to do it i could see how happy it made the people i love and that's a good feeling. everyone deserves that.
There are generally two types of Chinese parents, the tiger parents who never really showed their affection to you but cares about you behind your back, or the Chinese parents who are caring and kind and give you the support you need. Chinese parents normally show their love through actions instead of actually saying I love you.
These parents were also children who probably grew up without receiving an 'I love you' and you see how liberating and emotional it is for them to finally say it ❤️
Instead of Asian parents directly saying “I love you” to their kids, instead they say things like.. “Did you eat? Go eat” “Wear warm clothes” “Drive safe and take care of yourself” and being strict to them, that’s their way of showing love 😂❤️
Ellen well idk.. my parents also say I love you occasionally too but majority of asian parents don’t say it cause it’s too awkward and would rather say other things to express i love you
@@dvorah346 yeah I agree. My parents would never say that. We just didn't grow up like that. People might think that we are just overreacting and should say I love you but trust me it's one of the hardest things to do for most asians.
I've told my son I love him nearly every day since he was an infant. We've never ended a phone conversation without his saying he loves me -- even if his friends are there with him.
That is kinda sus actually. In my Asian family, we never really say, "I love you" to each other. Actually, we don't even hug each other. If my family said that our of the blue, I'd be pretty suspicious of them.
@@penguins647 They need to express it back in words, it is not good to hide emotions, so I feel something is wrong there and you can see how painful it is for the parents, they say they always wanted to say I love you, but the tradition in the East prevents them from doing so. Hopefully over time this will change because look how much happier they are once they say this and it builds up the Kids confidence also and makes everybody feel good to hear this from parent or son.
Yeah the dad looked a little sad when the son only said okay. He did tell his dad to take care of himself and his health so the speculation of the son being a bit flustered and not knowing how to respond (although it’s common sense for us to just say it back) isn’t a stretch. I guess that’s how he puts his love into words if he’s not used to actually saying “I love you.”
A lot of people say actions speak louder than words, but don’t underestimate the power of words. Being told by your parents that they love you and are proud of you is actually very important.
yes completely agree. even when you're really close with each other it's really necessary to keep reminding each other these things. this simple three words can literally mean a lot to someone
As an Asian I m jealous of ppl who hug and exchange I love yous everyday I m gonna try saying it to my mom tomorrow if she reacts positively imma continue or nah I did he dead
My grandpa was like this. He never had a childhood, he didn’t know what “love” was. Even when he had his kids he didn’t know how to say the words, but once he started having grandchildren things started to change. He loved his family and always showed it through his actions, it wasn’t till later he was able to show it through words.
@gökotta words and actions should go hand in hand. actions are what prove our feelings to be true, but language is what clarifies to our loved ones what those feelings are
@@TawnyDarko no they don't. They expect allot from there kids because they never had the opportunity themselves maybe you should look up how much millions of people died because of the great leap forward then get back to me
For someone that grew up in an Asian household: being told ‘ I love you’ or ‘ I’m proud of you’ is something that never happens. Idk I just find it so nice when I hear ‘ I love you’ from my friend’s parents. It kinda hurts, maybe they’re busy is what I think.
Me: calls my mom and tells her I love her after this video. Mom: what did you break? Me: nothing mom, just wanted to say I love you Mom: you broke something didn't you? Me: no- Mom: stop lying I'm coming home now Me: 👁️👄👁️
Maria ღ in Asian culture(or at least Chinese), the parents don’t often say “I love you.” So when your parents say it, it’s a rare occurrence and the response “ok” or “I know” is common. Or at least it’s common in my Chinese household. I can’t talk for everyone ._.
i mean he never only said that, he said other loving comments such as "take care of your health, dad". plus (as @twig said) "okay" means "me too" or "i know" in asian culture especially chinese and korean.
I think some of those kids were probably shocked and didn’t know what to say but I hope in the long run this brought families closer together or at least some peace.
I know I would have been shocked. One time I got mad at my dad, which never happens, but he kept doing something I really hated and I exploded, then he told me he loved me, I couldn't say it back that was way too awkward. My parents never tell me they love me. I wish I was used to it though and they did say it.
Once my mom called me and suddenly said "I love you" and I was just speechless.. I really got scared and left way early from school and ran all the way to home to check if she's alright or not! As I reached the home and went inside I saw her laughing and smiling while watching TV.. I immediately sat on the floor and started crying. My mom was so surprised that she came hugged me right away! And I never heard my parents say I love you more often so that was really precious.. now whenever they praise me or say good about me I record it my phone cuz it's really rare and that's my true treasure.....
@@dennisengelen2517 Sometimes, parents have a hard time expressing their gratitude and love for their children. Especially if they never felt it or their parents never said "I love you" to them. They show their affection in other ways, like taking care of the child, feeding the child, doing activities together, traveling, etc.
This must be so nice to hear coming from your parents. I only really heard my dad say “i love you” to me, but never from my mom. I literally hate this about Asian culture, being so emotionally reserved and not being expressive about their feelings. I don’t want kids but I do have a nephew now and I literally tell him I love you all the time! I don’t care if its awkward for my brother to hear me say it to his kid, but I want him to grow up getting used to hearing those words- even if my brother and his wife won’t. I want my nephew to get used to hearing “i love you” and not cringe. And be able to say “i love you” back without feeling like running away in a corner feeling embarrass about saying it.
It's not just Asian culture. My mother is American of British and Scottish descent, and she never said she loved me until I was thirty years old and had produced a grandson for her.
Just out of curiosity - do you feel like the way your parents are (your mom in particular) played a big role in you not wanting kids? As for myself, my mother has always been very controlling and it was always her way or the highway - basically your usual tiger mom. I've personally seen how my sister's kids are a source of multiple issues between my sister and my mom. She has even caused a rift in the past between her and her husband due to her personality although that has since been resolved. For these reasons, I've also had no interest in having kids.
I think it's just what they're used, anyone's free to correct me but I've heard they don't express feelings easily, making this video more powerful. Even if, the kid did say "take care of yourself", and that's something
yes that's true, Asian parents don't express affection as much as other cultures. my mom is Japanese, and while she did say she loves me from time to time, I don't feel comfortable expressing my love or admiration openly toward anyone except my partner. It really makes me sad that I don't feel like I can truly express my love for my family members, it feels like they'll never know how much I truly care for them. I plan to change that when I have kids so they'll always know and feel secure.
i hope the son feels the same way. i'm hispanic but my dad has never said it, so i don't imagine the day he says it (if he ever does lol) I'll be able to respond easily. i love my dad but they're hard words to get out when your family has never been that way.
Chinese parents rarely say “I love you”, they do whatever it takes to protect their families. A great culture, great people, say less, do more, proud of Chinese.
ツMyrthe Well THATS becuase the children never hear that often. It makes them uncomfortable or confused. But also happy, like their parents, they hide their emotion.
Im german. My grandma hardly ever told anybody that she loved them. She grew up during the second world war and I think she was still traumatized. My granddad is a hopeless romantic 🙂I always knew that my grandma loved me dearly. She made my favourite meals when I stayed with my grandparents, she watched movies with me and we often ate icecream. she always scolded my in her own way.... "be nice to your mother- you should be glad, that you even have one!", "wear some propper clothing- it is cold"..... even some tips on parenting I used for my own child. I miss you granny. Your potatosoup was a thousand "I love you"s worth!
If my mom tells me “I love you” I will probably break down. It’s not that she doesn’t love me or I don’t love her... it’s just, we never clearly said these 3 words..
@Aon E It’s apart of culture because well idk damn, no Asians teach a kid about why they do that. It’s more of a cycle, being raised in a strict family with less affection, the child raised strictly having another family and raising them the same way their family taught them. It’s 90% the environment and generation teachings, some can be genetic. If it’s really bad to the point of mental issues, it can be linked to your newborn as well, as long as you give them love even when it’s so hard to because saying “I love you” is very new to your culture/family. All depends on how you were raised.
@Aon E I actually dont really think it is about culture. Some people just have trouble expressing their feelings. For example, I grew up in Mexico with really lovely parents and an expressive family. However, I find it really hard to say "I love you" to my parents while they find easy saying those words to me. Why do I find it hard? Idk, I am just not used to say that, and that is the main reason of why I dont use those words. If I say I love you to them, it would be too emotionless :b
@@diegozarate4328 thats true as well. but as an asian, i would definitely say that its also apart of culture. none of my asian friends and I ever heard our parents say those words except for 1 because her parents want their child to know that she is loved since both her parents always doubted if their parents even liked them. and its honestly rlly uncomfortable for me to say it to my parents (not that i ever did, but videos like this makes me think). i say it to my friends all the time but i would nvr say it to anybody in my family. thats why i agree with u and Aoe E. then again, it might be because im not close to any of them. coming from a person that cried when her father apologised for the first time. maybe my family aint right
I still remember being Asian my parents don't show any emotions . But one morning my mom very lovingly said she loves me and is going and I thought she is going to work like normal and I teased her like I love u tooo maa , and she never returned . She with an accident on the day. It's been two years , I miss u ma. Love u❤️
Lack of affection is such huge a issue with Asian upbringings. It really creates generations of broken people who struggle for the rest of their lives to feel affection.
I wouldn’t say it’s lack of affection, it’s just Asians have a different way of expressing it compared to what Americans are used to. An example is statistically a lot of Asian parents support their kids all the way through college without exception. It’s quite common for parents to go up to HS and say “you’re on your own” once their kids hit college. From what I see though, Asians are quite willing to support them through it and even beyond if they can. Basically my point is is that Asians tend to prefer actions over words. I’d say that is one of the biggest reasons why our families are close with each other even if we never verbally express it. But I do agree that parents should remove the cold face and verbally communicate with their kids more often. It goes a long way to tell your kids you’re truly appreciative of their company
its not that we dont love eachother, its just that we usually do it through actions (e.i cooking favorite meals, support in hobbies, even small help in homework)
@@emaiden Very true! I think Asians brought up in the West will tend to compare their Asian parents to other parents. This creates a sense of lack and deficit - why don't I get hugs and kisses, or words of love. But as you said it's simply expressed in caring actions rather than specific actions of affection.
jupiter I say it but they never say it back and rarely say i love you. I can’t even remember the last time my dad or mum has said that to me. they call me bad name more than they show affection
I feel like loving your family no matter what is also super big in america and we're taught to say we love someone without really knowing what the word means. Its more of a greeting or salutation then it is something meaningful
Yes! 😂 or when there are babies and they would playfully hit them (not hard don’t worry) and they say, “that’s how we show at love to you” now when I beat the shit out of siblings I’ll say “it’s my love towards them” but it ain’t really lol.
Clorox Bleach when my mom comes home from work and brings home my favorite snacks I can see that she loves me. When she tells me to drive slower and carefully because of the rain, I can feel that she loves me.
you know sometime Chinese parents just be timid to say some emotional words to us，it makes them kind of embarrassed。but they love us so much，give us all of what they have
I feel u I’m sobbing in an ocean like I’m cosplaying the ocean I can’t take it I can’t help but cry when someone else does and those words I don’t know if I’m gonna exsperience them but let’s keep on with life
陈明 I’m Chinese and My mom says it to me and my siblings but I guess it’s cause we’re still kids my dad used to say it to me but him and my mom got a Divorce and I live with my mom and my mom hates my dad so she doesn’t let me see him but I have a step dad and when he says “I love you” to me I never know what to say back cause I don’t love him so I just walk away
I loved all these parents. The man at 2:42 made me smile especially. The son immediately thanking him and saying that he loved him back makes me think he says it more often than other dads. Bless all these kind people 🙏
The good part is that they are saying “I love you” and the sad part is it’s very true that Asian parents have a very hard time saying they love their children, I’m also Asian myself and I have never heard my parents say “I love you” till my 16 birthday
They do. My mom says I love you whenever she makes sure I have food, or whenever she goes out of her way for me. My dad says I love you when he comes home from work and makes sure I understand my homework, and always tells me well done when I've scored a hundred, and when he takes the time to explain computer science to me because I said it was interesting.
It’s not saying they don’t love their kids It’s that they should also be telling them Never underestimate the power of words Just because they never used them doesn’t make them unimportant Knew a girl who broke down crying because her parents never told her they loved her or were proud of her like all her friends’ parents did, thought she was an obligation not seen as a person with her own thoughts She came out as lgbt and asked if they loved her They disowned her
@@samuraix558 I understand your point but, those 3 words are sooo powerful. I've not heard them from my parents but my boyfriend and it helped me a lot with my self esteem
growing up in america with my chinese mom she always told me how much she loved me and the words spoken by the lady in the video near the end were words my own mother always told me. my mom passed away last year and this video really reminded me of her
I am literally sobbing. This was so difficult for them. I'm so proud of them. And I'm sure their children needed to hear those words at least once in their lives❤️
My guess is that these parents were initially offered some $$ to phone their kids to say "I love you", and after the call maybe some felt emotional and declined the $$ offer.
Westerners can't understand how very RARE it is for an asian parents to say just that. I mean look at my parents im 19 2nd year college and it's been two years since i heard them saying "I love you son" "Im very proud of you" the emotion just suddenly burst out like a dynamite or something
decades go by, its extremely rare to hear these 3 incredible words. i mean yeah, i agree with most of the comments, i'd be questioning my asian parents what's wrong and why so sudden, but can you imagine what could've changed throughout your own childhood if you heard this. it's heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time.
Not just asians, its common in many cultures. It really sucks, I dont even know my dad anymore. I can go weeks not talking to him, simply because there is nothing there for us to talk about. He never liked to check up on us when we were young and never really got involved, yeah he worked and provided which I am grateful for, but in terms of communication, its not there. Hes just another stranger to me, it really hurts.
My mother also does the same thing, and if I forget to say that I love her, I rush to call her and say that I love her. I still tell my dad that I love him when I'm leaving for work.
If my parents suddenly call me just to say "I love you" for no apparent reason. Im flying over to them immediately just to make sure they're actually alright. The anxiety will kill me.
@@sahassaransi_mw Exactly, i mean, within the asian community, parents don''t usually say i love you, so he was probably surprised. Especially after years and years of not saying it, i'm pretty sure he already knew that his dad loved him : )
don’t recall my parents ever directly saying “I love you” either. I think their love and concern is shown in the little things they say like “drive safe” “take care” “be careful” “dress warmly”
True. Not chinese, but finnish. It's weird to say I love you to your family out loud, sometimes saying it even to your significant other feels... awkward lol.
Having Asian parents, I can confirm that they rarely say "I love you" (mine at least) Instead they worry about how I need to get above 98 for every test (very precise I know)
my Mother never told me she loved me my whole childhood. Or adulthood. Then when she got dementia, she started saying it all the time. It's one of the few beautiful things about the illness. For some people, they lose their fear. I know she loves me and always has but her own childhood stopped her from being able to say it I think. At least we say it now.
Dementia expresses your true emotions towards someone due to lack of emotional attachment, but in some cases such as your mothers it’s different now she can seem to not be as strict or resentful towards her children.You’re so blessed and I hope your mom is doing well as to yourself. 💙 much love from Sydney Australia x
When your so busy trying to protect your child you forget to tell them how much you love them. I'll remember as a parent to make sure my child knows I love them.
I am Asian. My parents never say “I love you”. I think even if someone asks them to say that, they would feel so weird and not able to say it. Why? That’s how they are brought up. they were born in tough time, their main goals were survival and their all got tough love growing up. They are not used to hugs and kisses or sweet words. If you surrounded by loving words growing up, then expressing it would be normal and easy so you might find it’s hard to believe that’s it’s difficult for some other people just to say I love you. But if you see it from their shoes, growing up never hearing such words, then expressing is is not easy. my parents never express their love with words, they just not used to it. But do they love us? Of course, they love us to death. They work day and night and sacrifice everything to bring us up. They never have a day off. My father is the kind of dad who would stop what’s he doing no matter how busy he is and spend the rest of the day making us some handmade toy even when he knows we might just get bored of it the next hour. My mom is the mom who would put herself last in line for anything. Love doesn’t have to be expressed with words.
Agree, they clearly love you deeply. But it's sad to feel unable to say it. They grew up in tough times...but so did my mother, and my great grandparents, and they were showered with "I love you" and physical affection by their family members. Those things make even brutal times easier to bear. I grew up poor enough that we were cold in winter and had to stand in lines to get food handouts. But I always was told how loved I was, was hugged and kissed. I was given time, and knew the people who loved me worked so hard for my welfare...I just also heard the words directly. I wish your parents had families able to give them that gift. They clearly deserved it ❤️
@@melissasaint3283 thank you. My country went through hundreds of years in wars with various countries. My parents were born in wars time, not just wars But also the living conditions and horrible culture at the times makes it hard. There’s starvation, slavery, foreign domination etc. During my grandparents life time, poor people being treated less than animals, especially woman, it’s part of the stupid domination strategy, when people were so poor, so illiterate, they’re easier to be exploited. I don’t know the proper words to explain it. Both my parents lost their fathers at very young age. My grandmas had to toughen up to protect their kids, and to survive. They worked day and night non stop and lucky enough to get by. The children would be taking care of themselves. Even in my childhood times when the wars were over, we still had hard time with food, we had to eat insects like grasshoppers, so I can’t imagine what the previous generations had to go through. I don’t think they had time to even sit together, let alone showing affection.
My parents don't say "I love you" to me and my brother on a regular basis, but we both feel how much they love us. I just feel people framing it as "sad" that parents don't tell their kids they love them are just not able to get past their own way of thinking and what they consider to be normal.
Honestly same, my family constantly say I love you to one another and it’s such a nice feeling to have those words said to you even if it’s everyday, I keep it as a beautiful blessing in my life
"I love you". See. Asian kids even though noticeably confused still can't believe the words get said. It doesn't even matter if it's a prank. The fact that it gets said really hits.
I truly thought every parent said "i love you" to their kids. I'm finding this out just now, lol. I'm Brazilian and we are really "warm" here, meaning we are all into hugs, kisses and we always say I love you to the people we love. My parents say it to me all the time and i say it back.
Yeah I'm not Brazilian but my family is super affectionate. It's nice. I just think letting people know ya love them is important. It's like my chest will swell with love if I don't express it to people
My family gives each other hugs and says I love you (USA), but I’ve met families both in and out of my culture who do it so much that it shocks ME. It would be funny to see a super outwardly affectionate family (like yours) to hang out with a loving but not outwardly affectionate family (like the ones in this video). I feel like everyone’s minds would be blown haha
Nós temos o costume inclusive de conversar com o bebê ainda na barriga kskkk falar que já amam, que quando nascer vai ser feliz, saudável, é algo tão fofo, descobri agora que não é comum no resto do mundo
i grew up always being told “i love you” by my parents and i always told them “i love you too” back. i think we exchange these words multiple times every day. a few months ago, my grandma in poland was diagnosed with coronavirus. she already had lupus and other health lupus and she had a stroke very recently before that. we believed she would die. so, during that time, my mom said “i love you” to her. and she told me it was her first time saying it to my grandma ever in her life, and my mom is in her fourties.
Meral Ozgur oh thank you, in fact, my grandma went through the coronavirus very well without any symptoms! thank you for the thought, i hope this comment finds you and your family well.
This actually kinda makes me sad, I'm Filipino canadian and expressing love in my family is as common as breathing. If you come from a family that doesn't express their affection often, then just know that I love you, and am always willing to give you a virtual hug when you need it!
I actually started tearing up while I read this, so much going in my family and I don't want to sound stupid but I kinda annoyed by my dad my mom does not love him and I do said to take a divorce but whenever he calls us or talk I just don't know what to do.
It breaks me to tears to see old Asian men telling their kids they love them. These men are stoic and probably come from parents even less affectionate.
Ok so like...am I the only person in the comment section who has said I love you to their parents and have heard it from them as well? And before anyways says something, I'm asian too.
Man same here. I just started a few years ago and it's true that it's hard to say for the first time but when everybody get used to it, it feels lighter and happier inside :)))
Nope. lol i mean I don’t hear it from my parents as often but I would just out of habit casually say “love u k gn” or smth like that and it’s not like my parents aren’t tiger parents lol 💀
me: **walks in room where my mom is** Mom: wHaT me: hi mom Mom: did you break your phone this time? me: no Mom: well what happened? me: i Love you Mom: I love myself too, now go do the dishes. *bAsEd oN a tRuE sTorY😔*
You've got to wonder how they reacted when they ended the call with their parent. I'd imagine at least some of them found it very powerful to hear. And I love that they wish them good health and tell them to take care of themselves as well. It's precious to see them smile afterwards too
notice how most of the time, it's their first time saying "I love you" to their children even tho they're probably 50-60 years old they're children are probably 20-40 which means they never heard their parents say "I love you" to them for centuries. 😢
So if your mother never told you that she loved you and she did randomly one day, you would be able to formulate a response better than Ok or thank you? Probably not. This comment is ignorant. They don't know how to process that when they've literally NEVER HEARD IT
asian parents don't really say "i love you" to their child, especially if the family is more reliant on tradition. i mean, it really just depends on the family itself but it's not something they'd hear normally which is why they reply with "ok" and "thank you". for me it's hard to explain, but if you went through with it then it's easy to understand.
@@feyjuice It's a looming feeling. I'm not Asian but black. I didn't hear I love you for the first time until I was sixteen and that was a deathbed I love you. I get it wholeheartedly
It breaks my heart to heart to hear a parent say " I love you " to their child for the first time, and their own child is so unaccustomed to it they don't know how to respond, and just wish them good health. They must have been hoping deep in their hearts that their child would say " I love you" in return. Every child needs to know their parents love them. And every parent needs to hear it back. It's just part of the human experience. We are meant to love, and be loved. Love is not just romance. It's honor, and dedication, and sacrifice, and charity, and selflessness, and humility, and kindness, and empathy, and compassion, and loyalty... it's getting up at 3 am to get a babies fever down, and calling your mom on a random day just to say hi, and that you're thinking of her. While showing love is wonderful, HEARING it is truly healing to wounds we didn't even know we had.
Yeah this is what gets me. I have three kids 12,11,3 and maybe one on the way. Every day I tell them I love them and give them positive reinforcement we need to build kids up not tear them down for small things.
its asian culture. we show love in different ways. But i agree it would be nice to hear. It doesnt mean we dont feel like our parents love us, its just that we know they love us because of the actions they do and the things they remind us of on the daily. just a cultural thing i guess
Had tears in my eyes.. My parents don't say often like cheesy things. And if they say it I will be like, have any work for me? My parents would rather use, eat a lot, be safe and maintain your health instead of I love you, and I don't hate it.
I tell my kids I love them constantly. They are autistic and my daughter doesn’t always say it back. It’s fine with me. She shows me in her way. My son couldn’t speak until he was 8 and now tells me he loves me all day long. I’m so glad these people were able to express their love out loud to their children. Hugs💕✨
When its the first or rare occasion of your parent saying they love you its 100% expected. Why would they say it to their parents when their parents never said it to them?
If they call you when you're in a workplace or around other people, you might not be able to say "I love you" back without people overhearing, which might be a stressful situation.
Depende kkk eu sei que minha mãe me ama, sempre soube, mas ela nunca disse em palavras e nem costumávamos nos abraçar e tal, ela só disse que me ama quando eu estava indo embora do Brasil hauahshs minha mãe é filha de japones
@@camilapaes7146 sim vdd,vai de pessoa para pessoa,mas aqui no Brasil é mais comum isso,não que lá os pais não amam os filhos,mas eles não demonstram tanto com palavras assim,kkk vai de cultura tbm 😂
It's rare for Asian parents to say “i love you” to their kids. They usually act cold but they care about us a lot deep down 💕 it'd hard to see tho, sometimes I feel like they hate me :(
@@kingtut7213 I'm not sure, I never asked my parents. But I think they rather show it in their actions? And maybe they're just not used to it since their parents didn't say it to them so they feel like it's awkward.
@@kingtut7213 I don't know the reason. But I've never heard my parents say it as long as I can remember. They just show their love with actions, I guess. We also think saying I love you and stuff is western culture
My mum's Thai and she can be cold but we have a really good relationship! She says I love you sometimes. When people say Asian even though Thai I'd Asian I don't really think they are referring to Thai lol
Asian parents: I love you
Their child: **audible confusion**
lmao that's clever
😂😂😂
I'd totally as well, as its not common to say those 3 words. It'd probably be told only when the parents are about to die / kill themselves.
@@birdieculture I’m Asian. It’s a joke
I made the no.of likes from 999 to 1000
It's so exciting to do this stuff
I'm happy🥰
Also titled: "ASIAN CHILDREN FREAK OUT THINKING SOMETHING BAD HAPPENED TO THEIR PARENT"
😂😂😂
We won’t get use to that if our Asian parent said they love us
I mean Id freak out too.
I’ll drag all my siblings to return home the weekend 😂
😂
If my mother called and said I love you I'd probably think that she is dying or about to commit a crime.
Can relatr
omg so my dad
fr
same
Same.
You could see the nervousness in every parent as they were preparing to say I love you. I know in Asian culture, emotions are not easily expressed, but this was very touching.
some asian cultures. South East Asians dont have a problem telling their kids they love them XDXD
their kids probably think they're going to off themselves or something.
Hey I’m Asian
@@Waltyworld hey man✋🏾
They express is through their actions. Much more powerful than saying I love you.
Dad : "I love you"
Son : "ok"
Dad's smile : gone
😔😢
Damn
ya that made me sad lowkey man
He must have been in front of a senior hence must’ve been uncomfortable.. I am
Sure he must’ve had called back again ☺️✨
Now I feel bad because I do this
Dad: "I love you"
Me: "Okay so what's the diagnosis?"
lmao
E b o l a
@@xyl. That disease is so 2015
@@imhere1303 *c o v i d*
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Plot twist: after this video they started to “I love you” more often
i really hope so :3
awwwwww :D
Hey man, I seen your pfp.. how are you doing? Is everything okay? I hope your life is good and wish nothing but happiness for you. If you’re going through something, know that everything happens for a reason and it’ll pass.. even though it doesn’t seem like it. Stay strong and patient! Sending you love ❤️
@@mac3ymace oh wow 😳
@@Internallyded Are you okay? Genuine question.
It's kind of sad to think something is wrong when parents say I love you to their children. You tell the sincerity in the last lady's voice, others also realize the importance. I tell my mom and siblings regularly that I love them, but actions say a whole lot as well.
in Asian culture, we know our parents love us when they show us how hard they work to keep us afloat. They remind us of why they work hard and of their struggles and why we need to work hard ourselves. We are shown love in a different asian way but we never doubt the love is not there.
Edit: good to know I stirred a can of worms. Now I rememeber why I shouldn't post comments online, because we all become keyboard justice warriors lol. Just love your child whichever way you see fit. A children loved is one children saved. How you believe that to be right for you, I hope you practice it to the best of your abilities.
✌️ ☮️
@@yeloautosports This is not true, some may doubt the love if they don't hear it. Words are still important. I'm sure a lot of Asian people WANT to hear it, but it's just so normalized not to say it. This needs to change.
@@yeloautosports I have to agree with the other commenter, love can easily be doubted if it's never expressed directly. "I love you" is an unmistakable show of love, but working hard for your children can mean many things that have nothing to do with love. Asian parents are often fixated on public image, for example, so it's entirely possible that some parents make sacrifices for their children because it's what they have to do to maintain their status among their peers.
@@yeloautosports it's common, but that doesn't make it the best thing to do. it is very common for children from cultures like this (i am not Asian so i am not and will not make assumptions about that, but my culture is the same about this one thing) to feel like they are failures or burdens to their parents, or that their successes are not appreciated while their failures are always seen and commented upon. not every child struggles with this. but many do, so it would be good if more parents felt like they could be open about their feelings with their kids, both happy and sad.
i think it is good for the parents too. they are not bad people for raising their kids the way they know how, and they DO express love just in different ways (another comment somewhere mentioned "have you eaten?" which is an expression of love i heard all the time growing up!) but they deserve to feel like they can be open too. it feels good to express your love openly! when i learned how to do it i could see how happy it made the people i love and that's a good feeling. everyone deserves that.
@@yeloautosports my parents whooped me and tied me to a tree full of ants. They provide my food though, im legit so confused now
If my mom called and say i love you... I'll fly to her worrying that she's in trouble or something 😶
🤣🤣🤣
Hahaha lol same 😂
I’d think that she is dying
i'd get a freaking panic attack.
Same
"I love you"
"ok"
Sometimes we can't express our feeling either.
Sometimes we express our feelings through tear.
We cry inside 30 min after the phone call
i mean you never hear those words so you become emotionally akward towards parents when they suddenly are very affectionate
It runs in the blood :-)
That was really sad when they couldn’t say the same
mom: i love you.
the kid: "WHAT'S WRONG?"
literally me.
eastana
Same. I'd be so worried.
@Angelica Suti W
From Indonesia?
Same 😂
Aweee I was the 2k like🥺
There are generally two types of Chinese parents, the tiger parents who never really showed their affection to you but cares about you behind your back, or the Chinese parents who are caring and kind and give you the support you need. Chinese parents normally show their love through actions instead of actually saying I love you.
These parents were also children who probably grew up without receiving an 'I love you' and you see how liberating and emotional it is for them to finally say it ❤️
my mom still struggles to tell me she loves me. i still sneak it in at the end of every phone call and she just says "uh huh" lol.
She loves you 🙂!
Also hopefully will help break that cycle for their kids too, even if most of the kids seemed to be in adulthood already. Still nice to see.
They are hopefully breaking that cycle.
"50 to 60 points on your exam is ok"
Those must have been the hardest words to say for that mom. 😂
Yeah in Front of the camera. The son had the best time
I hate to laugh but I did 😭😭💀
grades dont matter
Would rather say 'I love you" lol😂
The mom stopped being a tiger mom because she was in front of the camera.
if my mother called and told me she loves me i'd probably think she's dying
:'(
Same tbh
@That one person that will never be funny thanks :D yours is awesome too
@That one person that will never be funny you're very funny
Same 😢😢😢
Instead of Asian parents directly saying “I love you” to their kids, instead they say things like..
“Did you eat? Go eat” “Wear warm clothes” “Drive safe and take care of yourself” and being strict to them, that’s their way of showing love 😂❤️
Hannah S ? No.. my parents are Asians and they say “I love you” with no hesitation idk why people are saying Asian parents not saying I love u
Ellen well idk.. my parents also say I love you occasionally too but majority of asian parents don’t say it cause it’s too awkward and would rather say other things to express i love you
@@dvorah346 yeah I agree. My parents would never say that. We just didn't grow up like that. People might think that we are just overreacting and should say I love you but trust me it's one of the hardest things to do for most asians.
Yea same with mine
Hannah S I’ve never seen that before from other Asian families friends I visited so idk
As a dad to three young children, (14,12 and 8, as I write this), I tell them I love them almost every day. I never want them to question that.
You are a perfect dad💪♥️
Good man 💪
its so great you do that, sometimes children forget it
Actions speaks louder than words even children know that.
I've told my son I love him nearly every day since he was an infant. We've never ended a phone conversation without his saying he loves me -- even if his friends are there with him.
Asian parents: "I love you"
Child: yo that's kinda sus
Relatable
That is kinda sus actually. In my Asian family, we never really say, "I love you" to each other. Actually, we don't even hug each other. If my family said that our of the blue, I'd be pretty suspicious of them.
@@wheresdarice3988 Instinctive first thought: "ok, what's the diagnosis?"
I’d probably think my parents r about to put me up to adoption
@@potatoranger9707 ngl, this would be a possible outcome
did you see when the said said “i love you” with a big smile hen the son was like “ok, dad” that made me cry
Maybe he just can't find any words to say only simple word "ok" but i think he was so glad too.
Some son feels very shy to reply I love u but inside they are too happy I can understand so nothing wrong about it 😋😋😋😋😋
I hope that didn’t make the dad sad
@@penguins647 They need to express it back in words, it is not good to hide emotions, so I feel something is wrong there and you can see how painful it is for the parents, they say they always wanted to say I love you, but the tradition in the East prevents them from doing so. Hopefully over time this will change because look how much happier they are once they say this and it builds up the Kids confidence also and makes everybody feel good to hear this from parent or son.
Yeah the dad looked a little sad when the son only said okay. He did tell his dad to take care of himself and his health so the speculation of the son being a bit flustered and not knowing how to respond (although it’s common sense for us to just say it back) isn’t a stretch. I guess that’s how he puts his love into words if he’s not used to actually saying “I love you.”
A lot of people say actions speak louder than words, but don’t underestimate the power of words. Being told by your parents that they love you and are proud of you is actually very important.
yes completely agree. even when you're really close with each other it's really necessary to keep reminding each other these things. this simple three words can literally mean a lot to someone
Totally. Why do we have to choose one. Everyone deserves to see, feel, and hear love.
ikr these kids are lucky to be told by that....
@@0_o806 as an Asian, i agree too🥺
As an Asian I m jealous of ppl who hug and exchange I love yous everyday I m gonna try saying it to my mom tomorrow if she reacts positively imma continue or nah I did he dead
My grandpa was like this. He never had a childhood, he didn’t know what “love” was.
Even when he had his kids he didn’t know how to say the words, but once he started having grandchildren things started to change.
He loved his family and always showed it through his actions, it wasn’t till later he was able to show it through words.
Words are secondary though. The actions prove the thought more than any words can.
@@RunninUpThatHillh but also words that you never thought someone would say to you, will mean a lot. Especially coming from your own parents
@gökotta words and actions should go hand in hand. actions are what prove our feelings to be true, but language is what clarifies to our loved ones what those feelings are
@@RunninUpThatHillh Children really need to hear those words from their parents, though. It damages the psyche when they are never told “I love you.”
@@TawnyDarko no they don't. They expect allot from there kids because they never had the opportunity themselves maybe you should look up how much millions of people died because of the great leap forward then get back to me
It's so sad that kids cannot think of their parents casually saying 'i love you' to them without thinking something is wrong. Hope this can change!
i think it's mostly because they never say ' i love you' to us....
so when they suddenly say that we just think somethings up...
@@michellerose7753 yes and that should change lol
it's just a part of chinese culture... most chinese parents don't express love to us through words but rather through actions
For someone that grew up in an Asian household: being told ‘ I love you’ or ‘ I’m proud of you’ is something that never happens. Idk I just find it so nice when I hear ‘ I love you’ from my friend’s parents. It kinda hurts, maybe they’re busy is what I think.
It’ll never change if Asians are continued in this cycle where you’re raised strictly. Impossible zz
mom: Hi
Kid: "I'm thinking my grades are bad"
This kid had the best timing 😂
same
you just know that mum made a second call after the camera was off ... hahahaa
👉🥺👈
Lol
Most asian parents dont really say i love you to their children. Thats why they get suprised 😅. We feel the love tho. Actions over words ❤️
Lmao same with Arabs parents when my mom said I love you out of nowhere I felt so uncomfortable because I am not used to sweet words by my parents
So true!
So very true😉
Very true!
Hahaha true 😂
I'm bawling my eyes out while eating chips. Now they're extra salty.
Extra flavor 🤤
Omg I feel seen!!! 😆 🤣
i'm screaming in laughter
This comment made me laugh while I was also crying and now I’m sad I don’t have chips to cry on
I should do the same thing
Me: calls my mom and tells her I love her after this video.
Mom: what did you break?
Me: nothing mom, just wanted to say I love you
Mom: you broke something didn't you?
Me: no-
Mom: stop lying I'm coming home now
Me: 👁️👄👁️
Tell us how she reacted when she found out you haven't broken anything and just wanted to say I love you ^^
did this actually happen
THIS IS FRAEKIN TRUE
@Lalalisa
ooooooof.
lol
Seeing the dad saying “I love you” and then he’s son just said “ok”.. it made me so sad, you could see how the dads smile just dropped
Maria ღ in Asian culture(or at least Chinese), the parents don’t often say “I love you.” So when your parents say it, it’s a rare occurrence and the response “ok” or “I know” is common. Or at least it’s common in my Chinese household. I can’t talk for everyone ._.
Actually, I think the son was in shock
i mean he never only said that, he said other loving comments such as "take care of your health, dad". plus (as @twig said) "okay" means "me too" or "i know" in asian culture especially chinese and korean.
@@twig7497 yeah it's rare in Indian culture too
It is different culture, Chinese won’t say I love you often they show love via action
I have Asian parents. And I always ask my mom "do you love me?"(like all the time) And she says "if I didn't you would be left in the streets by now".
LMAO-
BWUHAHAAAHA my mom has said retorts like this too...eventually I started saying i love you to her and she got more and more comfortable with it.
Always detouring words and never saying actual i love you lol. I wonder why it is so painfully hard for them
Same here.. and i actually felt bad because of it as i felt she materialized love.. 🥺
omg my mom says that all the time! xD
I think some of those kids were probably shocked and didn’t know what to say but I hope in the long run this brought families closer together or at least some peace.
Yeah l hope 💔
I know I would have been shocked. One time I got mad at my dad, which never happens, but he kept doing something I really hated and I exploded, then he told me he loved me, I couldn't say it back that was way too awkward. My parents never tell me they love me. I wish I was used to it though and they did say it.
"I'm thinking that is my grade too bad"
Boy I feel you
Mom: *I love you*
Son: -what was the grade on my last math test?-
AAHAH IM DYING
@@childe.mp3846 Lmao me too😂
@@parkjimin-standkb-62 Armyyy
@@childe.mp3846 & Stayyyy
Armyyyyyy
Once my mom called me and suddenly said "I love you" and I was just speechless.. I really got scared and left way early from school and ran all the way to home to check if she's alright or not! As I reached the home and went inside I saw her laughing and smiling while watching TV.. I immediately sat on the floor and started crying. My mom was so surprised that she came hugged me right away! And I never heard my parents say I love you more often so that was really precious.. now whenever they praise me or say good about me I record it my phone cuz it's really rare and that's my true treasure.....
THIS IS SOO Precious 😭😭😭
This made me tear up! 😭😭😭💞
Which cruel country do you live in if parents don't even say they love you?
@@dennisengelen2517 Sometimes, parents have a hard time expressing their gratitude and love for their children. Especially if they never felt it or their parents never said "I love you" to them. They show their affection in other ways, like taking care of the child, feeding the child, doing activities together, traveling, etc.
@@the_ffca_me I agree☺️
Parents All Over the World: “I love you.”
Asian Parents: “Have you eaten?”
THISSS
As asian uh nope my mom never asked me that?
My mother🤣🤣
Yesssss.
TRUEEEE
This must be so nice to hear coming from your parents. I only really heard my dad say “i love you” to me, but never from my mom. I literally hate this about Asian culture, being so emotionally reserved and not being expressive about their feelings. I don’t want kids but I do have a nephew now and I literally tell him I love you all the time! I don’t care if its awkward for my brother to hear me say it to his kid, but I want him to grow up getting used to hearing those words- even if my brother and his wife won’t. I want my nephew to get used to hearing “i love you” and not cringe. And be able to say “i love you” back without feeling like running away in a corner feeling embarrass about saying it.
It's not just Asian culture. My mother is American of British and Scottish descent, and she never said she loved me until I was thirty years old and had produced a grandson for her.
Your nephew is really lucky to have you in his life ❤
@@stoverboo yeah but that’s not a direct result of American/British/Scottish culture, that’s likely because of the way your mum was raised.
@@lilballerina Thank you. Currently speaking, I have 2 now! Lol! I love them both to pieces! 💕
Just out of curiosity - do you feel like the way your parents are (your mom in particular) played a big role in you not wanting kids? As for myself, my mother has always been very controlling and it was always her way or the highway - basically your usual tiger mom. I've personally seen how my sister's kids are a source of multiple issues between my sister and my mom. She has even caused a rift in the past between her and her husband due to her personality although that has since been resolved. For these reasons, I've also had no interest in having kids.
He looked so sad after his son said “ok dad.” I want to cry, he’s too precious 🥺🥺
@Marie G yea
Well a relationship has to be built and nurtured
I think it's just what they're used, anyone's free to correct me but I've heard they don't express feelings easily, making this video more powerful. Even if, the kid did say "take care of yourself", and that's something
yes that's true, Asian parents don't express affection as much as other cultures. my mom is Japanese, and while she did say she loves me from time to time, I don't feel comfortable expressing my love or admiration openly toward anyone except my partner. It really makes me sad that I don't feel like I can truly express my love for my family members, it feels like they'll never know how much I truly care for them. I plan to change that when I have kids so they'll always know and feel secure.
@@NocciolaGelato00 you got that right
I tell my mom I love her
mom : What did you do?
me : nothing!
mom : what do you want?
Lol same
🤣🤣🤣
Haha
Mom :How much do u want 😂
Not for me . I tell my mom I love her mostly every and kiss her cheek.
The first dad was smiling when he told his son “i love you” , but when the son didnt say it back his smile started to fade, so sad
i hope the son feels the same way. i'm hispanic but my dad has never said it, so i don't imagine the day he says it (if he ever does lol) I'll be able to respond easily. i love my dad but they're hard words to get out when your family has never been that way.
Not the child's fault. His father never said those words to him until a person with camera wanted to shoot for a video.
It's the start of them getting comfortable with it. This is what I hope and pray for, for them.
@@respecthumankind333 just imagine how messed up it is when you have to get comfortable with your own parents...that too after yearss...
@@mindyourownbusinessmaam8415 this is a little bit too much of assumption for a 15 seconds clip just saying
It's crazy how different we all are in culture, but feel the same way.
Yeah it is crazy. I never thought of it that way
Feelings are universal, it’s just culture and language differences.
It is just different but never wrong.
Well, of course. We're all made by God, who is love, therefore we feel it too. 🥰✝️💜
Chinese parents rarely say “I love you”, they do whatever it takes to protect their families. A great culture, great people, say less, do more, proud of Chinese.
That's literally Asian parents in general, loL- xD
RaiKi Pau in this video shows Chinese parents, they’re talking in Chinese
I dont knooow, I think a "i'm proud of you" or a "i love you" can change a lot of things in a kid life
@@chiahow I know that they're Chinese? I'm just saying it refers to all Asians?
@@Flo-xx4ez It'd be weird, and hard to get used to, though- 😂
Interaction between the father and son at 2:43 is the cutest. The son's laugh after his dad says I love you is adorable.
yes, the best response.
ツMyrthe Well THATS becuase the children never hear that often. It makes them uncomfortable or confused. But also happy, like their parents, they hide their emotion.
Im german. My grandma hardly ever told anybody that she loved them. She grew up during the second world war and I think she was still traumatized. My granddad is a hopeless romantic 🙂I always knew that my grandma loved me dearly. She made my favourite meals when I stayed with my grandparents, she watched movies with me and we often ate icecream. she always scolded my in her own way.... "be nice to your mother- you should be glad, that you even have one!", "wear some propper clothing- it is cold"..... even some tips on parenting I used for my own child.
I miss you granny. Your potatosoup was a thousand "I love you"s worth!
She knows.
Not me crying at this H E L P
@@thecov3n SAME😭
If my mom tells me “I love you” I will probably break down. It’s not that she doesn’t love me or I don’t love her... it’s just, we never clearly said these 3 words..
@Aon E It’s apart of culture because well idk damn, no Asians teach a kid about why they do that. It’s more of a cycle, being raised in a strict family with less affection, the child raised strictly having another family and raising them the same way their family taught them. It’s 90% the environment and generation teachings, some can be genetic. If it’s really bad to the point of mental issues, it can be linked to your newborn as well, as long as you give them love even when it’s so hard to because saying “I love you” is very new to your culture/family. All depends on how you were raised.
@Aon E I actually dont really think it is about culture. Some people just have trouble expressing their feelings. For example, I grew up in Mexico with really lovely parents and an expressive family. However, I find it really hard to say "I love you" to my parents while they find easy saying those words to me. Why do I find it hard? Idk, I am just not used to say that, and that is the main reason of why I dont use those words. If I say I love you to them, it would be too emotionless :b
Yes, one time I broke down because my mom said I love you
@@diegozarate4328 thats true as well. but as an asian, i would definitely say that its also apart of culture. none of my asian friends and I ever heard our parents say those words except for 1 because her parents want their child to know that she is loved since both her parents always doubted if their parents even liked them. and its honestly rlly uncomfortable for me to say it to my parents (not that i ever did, but videos like this makes me think). i say it to my friends all the time but i would nvr say it to anybody in my family. thats why i agree with u and Aoe E. then again, it might be because im not close to any of them. coming from a person that cried when her father apologised for the first time. maybe my family aint right
@@user-qx2kb9jl4y Yeah, that is true too.
I still remember being Asian my parents don't show any emotions . But one morning my mom very lovingly said she loves me and is going and I thought she is going to work like normal and I teased her like I love u tooo maa , and she never returned . She with an accident on the day. It's been two years , I miss u ma. Love u❤️
Ohhh,broke my heart.😢
Sorry to what happen ..may she rest in peace...hope u have blessing days...
So Sorry~Take Care x
komal Kiran vaid bless you xx
In very sorry for your loss..
May your mother rest in peace..
😔😔
dont say that，dude😭
Parents: I love you, Child
Asian Kids: *Proceeds to call an Ambulance*
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭
PLLEASEEEE😭😭😂😂😂🤚🏻
🤣🤣😂😂
😭
Lack of affection is such huge a issue with Asian upbringings. It really creates generations of broken people who struggle for the rest of their lives to feel affection.
I wouldn’t say it’s lack of affection, it’s just Asians have a different way of expressing it compared to what Americans are used to.
An example is statistically a lot of Asian parents support their kids all the way through college without exception. It’s quite common for parents to go up to HS and say “you’re on your own” once their kids hit college. From what I see though, Asians are quite willing to support them through it and even beyond if they can.
Basically my point is is that Asians tend to prefer actions over words. I’d say that is one of the biggest reasons why our families are close with each other even if we never verbally express it.
But I do agree that parents should remove the cold face and verbally communicate with their kids more often. It goes a long way to tell your kids you’re truly appreciative of their company
@@kaz7690 I agree. My ex husband is Asian. Wed likely still be together if he was more affectionate and less rigid as a person.
its not that we dont love eachother, its just that we usually do it through actions (e.i cooking favorite meals, support in hobbies, even small help in homework)
@@emaiden Very true! I think Asians brought up in the West will tend to compare their Asian parents to other parents. This creates a sense of lack and deficit - why don't I get hugs and kisses, or words of love. But as you said it's simply expressed in caring actions rather than specific actions of affection.
@@kaz7690Lack of affection is the correct word usage, you just want specificity. It's a lack of verbal affection.
Strange how Asian culture is considered to be more family oriented, yet this happens.
@@nadyacthianty8230 you are 100% right!
I guess we kind of expect the love to come through actions instead of words? But me as an Asian myself do think we need to be open with our family.
You mean water chicken?
Not saying "I love you" to someone doesn't mean you don't love them, actions speak louder than words
@@sunhopii8534 yes actions speak louder than words but yesterday my dad told me he was proud of me and it felt better than any action
I never say “I love you” to my parents it’s so uncomfortable and I have a weird feeling inside me.
Because they didn't get you used to it
maybe you should, even if it doesn’t seem like much it can mean a lot to your parents 😊
jupiter I say it but they never say it back and rarely say i love you. I can’t even remember the last time my dad or mum has said that to me. they call me bad name more than they show affection
sooyoung I hope they stop calling you bad names and one day just sit down and say they love you
yea same my parents like to show their love with actions
My parents way of telling me they love me:
“You want some food Son?”
Sameee
"Wear a jacket, if not don't blame me when you get a fever tomorrow."
*sneezes once*
"SEE? I told you you're gonna get sick >:((("
Plkachuzzz yes-
@@plkachuzzz yes this is how they tell us they love us
@Imxginxtive_ Issxc daamnnn
As an American it’s so wild to see this. I can’t imagine never hearing my parents say I love u to me or my siblings. Wow
As an American as well my dad never told me he loved me even when on his deathbed 😢
Omg. I’m sorry for that luv. Hopefully u have broken that cycle. I tell my children and grand child. I love them everyday and Rby Rby we love u 2. ♥️
I feel like loving your family no matter what is also super big in america and we're taught to say we love someone without really knowing what the word means. Its more of a greeting or salutation then it is something meaningful
@@viepng love ya, goodbye
16 years of age and I've never heard my parents say I love you
Who else is lowkey tearing up--
me too--
Highkey*
I'm shedding tears ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
Here- a tissue -
I need one for myself lol
Me too
Asian parents show love through actions, and fuss.
Exactly 😂😂😂😂
@Clorox Bleach I think actions have more value than words
@Clorox Bleach it's different for sure but it doesn't make it any less legit or meaningful.
Yes! 😂 or when there are babies and they would playfully hit them (not hard don’t worry) and they say, “that’s how we show at love to you” now when I beat the shit out of siblings I’ll say “it’s my love towards them” but it ain’t really lol.
Clorox Bleach when my mom comes home from work and brings home my favorite snacks I can see that she loves me. When she tells me to drive slower and carefully because of the rain, I can feel that she loves me.
It might sound awkward but just can't help being emotional after hearing those three words especially from elderly parents!
you know sometime Chinese parents just be timid to say some emotional words to us，it makes them kind of embarrassed。but they love us so much，give us all of what they have
I feel u I’m sobbing in an ocean like I’m cosplaying the ocean I can’t take it I can’t help but cry when someone else does and those words I don’t know if I’m gonna exsperience them but let’s keep on with life
Got you to 1k
陈明 I’m Chinese and My mom says it to me and my siblings but I guess it’s cause we’re still kids my dad used to say it to me but him and my mom got a Divorce and I live with my mom and my mom hates my dad so she doesn’t let me see him but I have a step dad and when he says “I love you” to me I never know what to say back cause I don’t love him so I just walk away
I loved all these parents. The man at 2:42 made me smile especially. The son immediately thanking him and saying that he loved him back makes me think he says it more often than other dads. Bless all these kind people 🙏
The good part is that they are saying “I love you” and the sad part is it’s very true that Asian parents have a very hard time saying they love their children, I’m also Asian myself and I have never heard my parents say “I love you” till my 16 birthday
I’m Haitian and the first time my parents said it was on MY 16 birthday too!!
I'm Asian too,my dad saids that all the time but not my mom lmao.
european. 26 years. Not even once, too
I never heard my parents saying i love you to me. Not even my dad passed away, he never tell it to me.
@@nhatthanh4070 No wayyyy, for me it's my mum and not my dad haha.
Its not that all of the parents don’t love their children... it’s the matter of telling it to them
They do. My mom says I love you whenever she makes sure I have food, or whenever she goes out of her way for me. My dad says I love you when he comes home from work and makes sure I understand my homework, and always tells me well done when I've scored a hundred, and when he takes the time to explain computer science to me because I said it was interesting.
Yeah those people love their children too. They just don’t say it
It’s not saying they don’t love their kids
It’s that they should also be telling them
Never underestimate the power of words
Just because they never used them doesn’t make them unimportant
Knew a girl who broke down crying because her parents never told her they loved her or were proud of her like all her friends’ parents did, thought she was an obligation not seen as a person with her own thoughts
She came out as lgbt and asked if they loved her
They disowned her
Absolutely. There's are a million ways to say "I love you" and verbally saying it is just one of them. :)
@@samuraix558 I understand your point but, those 3 words are sooo powerful.
I've not heard them from my parents but my boyfriend and it helped me a lot with my self esteem
"After the beginning everything is easy. The first time is the hardest"
growing up in america with my chinese mom she always told me how much she loved me and the words spoken by the lady in the video near the end were words my own mother always told me. my mom passed away last year and this video really reminded me of her
Rip, god bless you and your family
Deepest condolences for your loss, Kim 🙏
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
im sorry for your loss
I am literally sobbing. This was so difficult for them. I'm so proud of them. And I'm sure their children needed to hear those words at least once in their lives❤️
My guess is that these parents were initially offered some $$ to phone their kids to say "I love you", and after the call maybe some felt emotional and declined the $$ offer.
Westerners can't understand how very RARE it is for an asian parents to say just that. I mean look at my parents im 19 2nd year college and it's been two years since i heard them saying "I love you son" "Im very proud of you" the emotion just suddenly burst out like a dynamite or something
decades go by, its extremely rare to hear these 3 incredible words. i mean yeah, i agree with most of the comments, i'd be questioning my asian parents what's wrong and why so sudden, but can you imagine what could've changed throughout your own childhood if you heard this. it's heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time.
Same, for me it feel awkward to hear those words even hugs from my parents are weird
Not just asians, its common in many cultures. It really sucks, I dont even know my dad anymore. I can go weeks not talking to him, simply because there is nothing there for us to talk about. He never liked to check up on us when we were young and never really got involved, yeah he worked and provided which I am grateful for, but in terms of communication, its not there. Hes just another stranger to me, it really hurts.
@@shakos4105 hey man, it's never to late to start a relationship with him if that's what you want. Good luck ;)
If I hear my parents say I love you to me, I'd be speechless and idk what to do lol.
My mom say to me "Je t'aime" every hour in the day, it's like a routine... And I never get tired of it. *Je t'aime Maman*
I'd respond similarly with *«à la folie»* ❤
@Just Someone Yes it means I love you Mom, and it's French
Mine never said it
@@0remy0 Say it to her, wouldn't hurt ✨
My mother also does the same thing, and if I forget to say that I love her, I rush to call her and say that I love her. I still tell my dad that I love him when I'm leaving for work.
when he said that the first time is the hardest... it was so sad but also so sweet, it implies he plans to say it more in the future !!
This is how many people cried
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No begging for likes please
@@Skribbly1 Agreed
No begging
Literally as I read your comment I started crying...
I cried because I do not have parents. They died because of the Corona virus
Edit : thanks for the likes guys 😭💝💗
When you have Asian parents but they say “I love you” 24/7
*THESE POOR CHILDREN I FEEL SO BAD-*
GASP! I HAVE FOUND A RARE CREATURE ( omg I'm happy to know that not all Asian children have the same fate and live happy lives)
wow im alr cringing thinking abt my parents saying it
Mine are like that
MxchaSwirl you shouldn’t say that because they don’t need their parents to say I love you for them to know. Please don’t say that
Shah md mohtadinur Rahman uhmmmm ok but you know just because they don’t say I love you every day doesn’t mean that their lives are miserable
If my parents suddenly call me just to say "I love you" for no apparent reason. Im flying over to them immediately just to make sure they're actually alright. The anxiety will kill me.
No, because you aren’t wrong
I know right
If my parents calls me out of the blue like this and tell they love me
I'll reach there at the earliest to make sure they're alive n well.
I'd think my parents are gonna die or something
it would scare the shit out of me hahaha
my parents: i love you
me: m-merry christmas
GGSGSGSGS FR
@@KimSeokjin-hx1zo PLS ID BE CONFUSED AS FUCK
BRUUHHH SAAMMEEE 🤣🤣🤣
SAME HAHAHHAA
JAJJAJAJAJAJAJAJAJ
when the boy said "ok dad" his smile dropped and it looked like he was about to cry:(
when?
@@avocadeo 0:49
I wanna slap that son
「angelic eve」 but after , he told his dad look after himself and his health, I feel he cares about his dad, just don’t know how to say it so direct
@@sahassaransi_mw Exactly, i mean, within the asian community, parents don''t usually say i love you, so he was probably surprised. Especially after years and years of not saying it, i'm pretty sure he already knew that his dad loved him : )
Me: *calls to my dad* "DAD , I LOVE YOU "
my African dad : *since when?*
I'm crying your comment made me 😂
Maaaannnn they really be gangsta when we say those words 😅🤣🤷🏾♀️
😂😂as a nigerian my dad would think I did something wrong or im about to die
@@Soul.413 glad I made u laugh :)
@@sanc_livia ikrr
I miss my dad in heaven so much. Show your love with your parents while they still here.
Sorry for your loss 😢
You will see him again, God Bless you.
I’m so sorry for your life, I’m sure your father is having a fabulous time on the afterlife
Sorry for your loss, mate. Unfortunately my parents don't deserve it so
@@qqwertykei hugs
don’t recall my parents ever directly saying “I love you” either. I think their love and concern is shown in the little things they say like “drive safe” “take care” “be careful” “dress warmly”
Its the little things that matter
True. Not chinese, but finnish. It's weird to say I love you to your family out loud, sometimes saying it even to your significant other feels... awkward lol.
@@hanac5586 I'm finnish and I can tell its awkward
i've seen wall posters that are more loving than this.
Yea, arab parents are like that.
Having Asian parents, I can confirm that they rarely say "I love you" (mine at least) Instead they worry about how I need to get above 98 for every test (very precise I know)
@@Omna420 Yeah ikr they sit you down for like half an hour to make sure you understand the one or two questions you get wrong
That's just kinda sad tbh
@@Omna420 OMG LOL SAME BROOOOO
they dont say i love you as much as other cultures, but no one shows it as much as they do... you just have look deep.
@@everous_ Yeah very true
me watching this video with a mom that’s literally never missed saying “i love you” a day in my life watching this: 👁 💧👄 💧👁
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My parents never said ‘i love you’
@@taehyung_ahh8049 same
@Sam K 👁💧👄💧👁
@Sam K im asian but my parents often say i love you to me 👁️👄👁️
@@lily-ju6jj mine NEVER have and also I think the last time they hugged me was when I was a baby to carry me cuz I can't remember
我妈有时候突然说爱我我真的会吓到XD
my Mother never told me she loved me my whole childhood. Or adulthood. Then when she got dementia, she started saying it all the time. It's one of the few beautiful things about the illness. For some people, they lose their fear. I know she loves me and always has but her own childhood stopped her from being able to say it I think. At least we say it now.
Dementia expresses your true emotions towards someone due to lack of emotional attachment, but in some cases such as your mothers it’s different now she can seem to not be as strict or resentful towards her children.You’re so blessed and I hope your mom is doing well as to yourself. 💙 much love from Sydney Australia x
She loved you. All mothers do.
This is heartbreaking but beautiful
When your so busy trying to protect your child you forget to tell them how much you love them. I'll remember as a parent to make sure my child knows I love them.
good, keep it that way. Don't let ur child end up like that one smart kid I know because their aura is so freaking dark..
Something's wrong with this CHANNEL..
U know what..This channel always make me shed tears everytime I watch the video... Idk...Y...:')
Leskerettt irriyaa someone in this channel is always cutting onions 🤧
Same. This is what I watch when I need a good cry. Always feel better afterwards.
I know, too depressing in a good way. Lool
I feel you 😅♥️
Same😢
I am Asian. My parents never say “I love you”. I think even if someone asks them to say that, they would feel so weird and not able to say it. Why? That’s how they are brought up. they were born in tough time, their main goals were survival and their all got tough love growing up. They are not used to hugs and kisses or sweet words.
If you surrounded by loving words growing up, then expressing it would be normal and easy so you might find it’s hard to believe that’s it’s difficult for some other people just to say I love you. But if you see it from their shoes, growing up never hearing such words, then expressing is is not easy.
my parents never express their love with words, they just not used to it. But do they love us? Of course, they love us to death. They work day and night and sacrifice everything to bring us up. They never have a day off. My father is the kind of dad who would stop what’s he doing no matter how busy he is and spend the rest of the day making us some handmade toy even when he knows we might just get bored of it the next hour. My mom is the mom who would put herself last in line for anything. Love doesn’t have to be expressed with words.
Agree, they clearly love you deeply.
But it's sad to feel unable to say it.
They grew up in tough times...but so did my mother, and my great grandparents, and they were showered with "I love you" and physical affection by their family members. Those things make even brutal times easier to bear.
I grew up poor enough that we were cold in winter and had to stand in lines to get food handouts. But I always was told how loved I was, was hugged and kissed.
I was given time, and knew the people who loved me worked so hard for my welfare...I just also heard the words directly.
I wish your parents had families able to give them that gift. They clearly deserved it ❤️
@@melissasaint3283 thank you. My country went through hundreds of years in wars with various countries. My parents were born in wars time, not just wars But also the living conditions and horrible culture at the times makes it hard. There’s starvation, slavery, foreign domination etc. During my grandparents life time, poor people being treated less than animals, especially woman, it’s part of the stupid domination strategy, when people were so poor, so illiterate, they’re easier to be exploited. I don’t know the proper words to explain it. Both my parents lost their fathers at very young age. My grandmas had to toughen up to protect their kids, and to survive. They worked day and night non stop and lucky enough to get by. The children would be taking care of themselves. Even in my childhood times when the wars were over, we still had hard time with food, we had to eat insects like grasshoppers, so I can’t imagine what the previous generations had to go through. I don’t think they had time to even sit together, let alone showing affection.
Thankful you can see their love. So, do you not hear them say 'I love you" to each other, either?
@@miss_bhello7925 they would be embarrassed saying that in front of the kids. It’s silly i know, but they are happily married for 49 years.
My parents don't say "I love you" to me and my brother on a regular basis, but we both feel how much they love us. I just feel people framing it as "sad" that parents don't tell their kids they love them are just not able to get past their own way of thinking and what they consider to be normal.
Finally someone making a episode of ASIAN PARENTS SAY “I LOVE U”
I have an overprotective, Scottish mother. I love you is like breathing to her.
LMAOAOAOOA
This so wholesome
Same, but my mom is an overprotective Turkish mother
Honestly same, my family constantly say I love you to one another and it’s such a nice feeling to have those words said to you even if it’s everyday, I keep it as a beautiful blessing in my life
@@rinnieunchanged benimki de, cnm annem yaa~
"I love you".
See. Asian kids even though noticeably confused still can't believe the words get said. It doesn't even matter if it's a prank. The fact that it gets said really hits.
harder than a truck
True
True 💯
they were told to do this but i will never see it as a prank.
I truly thought every parent said "i love you" to their kids. I'm finding this out just now, lol.
I'm Brazilian and we are really "warm" here, meaning we are all into hugs, kisses and we always say I love you to the people we love. My parents say it to me all the time and i say it back.
You are lucky mate
Yeah I'm not Brazilian but my family is super affectionate. It's nice. I just think letting people know ya love them is important. It's like my chest will swell with love if I don't express it to people
Yeah that's blk people lol
My family gives each other hugs and says I love you (USA), but I’ve met families both in and out of my culture who do it so much that it shocks ME. It would be funny to see a super outwardly affectionate family (like yours) to hang out with a loving but not outwardly affectionate family (like the ones in this video). I feel like everyone’s minds would be blown haha
Nós temos o costume inclusive de conversar com o bebê ainda na barriga kskkk falar que já amam, que quando nascer vai ser feliz, saudável, é algo tão fofo, descobri agora que não é comum no resto do mundo
If my parents said this, I would think they’re dying or is leaving me and putting me up for adoption.
same
i grew up always being told “i love you” by my parents and i always told them “i love you too” back. i think we exchange these words multiple times every day.
a few months ago, my grandma in poland was diagnosed with coronavirus. she already had lupus and other health lupus and she had a stroke very recently before that. we believed she would die. so, during that time, my mom said “i love you” to her. and she told me it was her first time saying it to my grandma ever in her life, and my mom is in her fourties.
Aww, I hope you grandma gets better
Meral Ozgur oh thank you, in fact, my grandma went through the coronavirus very well without any symptoms! thank you for the thought, i hope this comment finds you and your family well.
@@haidufam8332 No problem! (my families also doing well thxx)
Your mom broke the chain.
@j u n g k o o k a e s t h e t i c you’re confused about what I said?
This actually kinda makes me sad, I'm Filipino canadian and expressing love in my family is as common as breathing. If you come from a family that doesn't express their affection often, then just know that I love you, and am always willing to give you a virtual hug when you need it!
Thank you Star Platinum, I didnt Jotaro was this soft •////•
@@faivana_ huehuehue he has his moments
@@subitzasuresh5524 Aww I'm here anytime!
I actually started tearing up while I read this, so much going in my family and I don't want to sound stupid but I kinda annoyed by my dad my mom does not love him and I do said to take a divorce but whenever he calls us or talk I just don't know what to do.
@@Gigizzz_ do you need any advice for that?
It breaks me to tears to see old Asian men telling their kids they love them.
These men are stoic and probably come from parents even less affectionate.
Ok so like...am I the only person in the comment section who has said I love you to their parents and have heard it from them as well? And before anyways says something, I'm asian too.
Man same here. I just started a few years ago and it's true that it's hard to say for the first time but when everybody get used to it, it feels lighter and happier inside :)))
Nope. lol i mean I don’t hear it from my parents as often but I would just out of habit casually say “love u k gn” or smth like that and it’s not like my parents aren’t tiger parents lol 💀
Omg your the one that made “The boy in the beanie” omg I love you so much
It feels awkward saying that to someone for me so oof
I’ve said it to my parents and heard it from them, and I’m chinese.
me: **walks in room where my mom is**
Mom: wHaT
me: hi mom
Mom: did you break your phone this time?
me: no
Mom: well what happened?
me: i Love you
Mom: I love myself too, now go do the dishes.
*bAsEd oN a tRuE sTorY😔*
that’s just depressing😭
thats a little funny
i stan your mom Xd
Lmao this is what true normal moms do!
@@amxu_ me too😂
This is so strange to me... "I love you" is like "goodbye" in my family. Even now that I'm an adult we still say it once every day at least!
the culture is very different in China.
Yes!!!
same, it’s basically the equivalent of saying goodbye in my house
Same, even though I'm Asian
to us it's the equivalent of saying u don't have money in a date that ur supposed to pay for lmao
You've got to wonder how they reacted when they ended the call with their parent. I'd imagine at least some of them found it very powerful to hear. And I love that they wish them good health and tell them to take care of themselves as well. It's precious to see them smile afterwards too
notice how most of the time, it's their first time saying "I love you" to their children even tho they're probably 50-60 years old they're children are probably 20-40 which means they never heard their parents say "I love you" to them for centuries. 😢
honey your counting is off a little, decades not centuries 💕
@@yolksocc “a little”? 🤣🤣
lol cut them some slack, they're probably a kid
@@yolksocc LMAO
You mean eons right?
Mom: I love you son
Me: Are you ok? Is it hard to breathe? Mom wait I'm coming!
Yeah when they say that they probably need something
Why do i feel bad when the child reply "ok" " Thank you" Instead of i love you too .... If my parents told me that i will reply i love you more ❣❣
It's not easy to express what u feel,
I would personally get awkward and emotional too
So if your mother never told you that she loved you and she did randomly one day, you would be able to formulate a response better than Ok or thank you? Probably not. This comment is ignorant. They don't know how to process that when they've literally NEVER HEARD IT
asian parents don't really say "i love you" to their child, especially if the family is more reliant on tradition. i mean, it really just depends on the family itself but it's not something they'd hear normally which is why they reply with "ok" and "thank you". for me it's hard to explain, but if you went through with it then it's easy to understand.
@@feyjuice It's a looming feeling. I'm not Asian but black. I didn't hear I love you for the first time until I was sixteen and that was a deathbed I love you. I get it wholeheartedly
by the video u can tell the parent has never told them that, they mustve been confused or just awkward lol
It breaks my heart to heart to hear a parent say " I love you " to their child for the first time, and their own child is so unaccustomed to it they don't know how to respond, and just wish them good health. They must have been hoping deep in their hearts that their child would say " I love you" in return. Every child needs to know their parents love them. And every parent needs to hear it back. It's just part of the human experience.
We are meant to love, and be loved.
Love is not just romance. It's honor, and dedication, and sacrifice, and charity, and selflessness, and humility, and kindness, and empathy, and compassion, and loyalty... it's getting up at 3 am to get a babies fever down, and calling your mom on a random day just to say hi, and that you're thinking of her. While showing love is wonderful, HEARING it is truly healing to wounds we didn't even know we had.
Yeah this is what gets me. I have three kids 12,11,3 and maybe one on the way. Every day I tell them I love them and give them positive reinforcement we need to build kids up not tear them down for small things.
its asian culture. we show love in different ways. But i agree it would be nice to hear. It doesnt mean we dont feel like our parents love us, its just that we know they love us because of the actions they do and the things they remind us of on the daily. just a cultural thing i guess
Had tears in my eyes.. My parents don't say often like cheesy things. And if they say it I will be like, have any work for me? My parents would rather use, eat a lot, be safe and maintain your health instead of I love you, and I don't hate it.
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ikr :( Their actions and the care they give proves how much they love us...
@@pardonbeach5425 yah🤍
@@apekshyadhakal3067 sorry if this sounds rude, but are you from India?
@@pardonbeach5425 nope I am a neighbor. South asian but make it Nepali
Why I feel happy, it's like my parents are saying to me, But don't.
FELT FELT FELT FELT FELT FELT
You should start saying it to them first then and see how long it takes for them to say it back to you. It's important. Give it a try!
I love you
@@amira4274 🥺🥺 love u too
@@shoyo6402 I hope everything turns out better for u, you don’t deserve that, stay strong love🥺🥺
I tell my mother I love her everyday, and she tells me she loves me and appreciates all I do. I couldn't imagine not ever hearing those words.
I know! It’s just a cultural thing. I always end a phone call with ‘lovey you, bye’.
Cant relate.
@@naimanura ahahhahaah same,
I'm Chinese and my mom hasn't ever said I love u too me ;-; but I'm used to it
@@naimanura
Same
I tell my kids I love them constantly. They are autistic and my daughter doesn’t always say it back. It’s fine with me. She shows me in her way. My son couldn’t speak until he was 8 and now tells me he loves me all day long. I’m so glad these people were able to express their love out loud to their children. Hugs💕✨
That boy at 2:55, he made me cry so hard truly. his answer to his dad was full of emotion
It broke my heart that most of them didn’t say “I love you” back... 🥲😞
Yes , because their parents just never told that to them before 😢
I feel like most of them don’t know how to respond to that
When its the first or rare occasion of your parent saying they love you its 100% expected. Why would they say it to their parents when their parents never said it to them?
If they call you when you're in a workplace or around other people, you might not be able to say "I love you" back without people overhearing, which might be a stressful situation.
Here in Brazil saying "I love you" to our family is something so normal XD
It's intrigant to see how is different in other countries…
Simmm velhoooo kkkkk beijar abraçar falar que ama💜😊
Depende kkk eu sei que minha mãe me ama, sempre soube, mas ela nunca disse em palavras e nem costumávamos nos abraçar e tal, ela só disse que me ama quando eu estava indo embora do Brasil hauahshs minha mãe é filha de japones
@@camilapaes7146 sim vdd,vai de pessoa para pessoa,mas aqui no Brasil é mais comum isso,não que lá os pais não amam os filhos,mas eles não demonstram tanto com palavras assim,kkk vai de cultura tbm 😂
@@victoriafernandes0703 com certeza amam,é impossível uma mãe não amar o filho,por mais que nn demonstram,mas amam pode ter certeza
@@victoriafernandes0703 nn acredito em o que a internet diz,mas eu tenho 100% de certeza de que sua mãe te amou alguma vez
The last one where the mom was saying all those sweet things to her child made me so, so emotional.
It's rare for Asian parents to say “i love you” to their kids. They usually act cold but they care about us a lot deep down 💕 it'd hard to see tho, sometimes I feel like they hate me :(
ikr same here!!
Galaxy_ Ocean Why is saying “I love you” hard in Asian cultures? This seems extremely sad to me
@@kingtut7213 I'm not sure, I never asked my parents. But I think they rather show it in their actions? And maybe they're just not used to it since their parents didn't say it to them so they feel like it's awkward.
@@kingtut7213 I don't know the reason. But I've never heard my parents say it as long as I can remember. They just show their love with actions, I guess. We also think saying I love you and stuff is western culture
My mum's Thai and she can be cold but we have a really good relationship! She says I love you sometimes. When people say Asian even though Thai I'd Asian I don't really think they are referring to Thai lol