From "I Can't" to "I Conquered" - My Journey to Silence the Inner Critic
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- ❤From "I Can't" to "I Conquered" My Journey to Silence the Inner Critic Half of Carla
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In today's video I'm chatting about mental health and our negative narrators. How the we live by a narration and rarely question it! I hope you enjoy it and a few practical tips that might help you!
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Your videos really touch me. A lot of what you say sounds just like me. I have always had negative talk in my head. I think I have let those thoughts dictate my life. At 71, I am trying to change all of this and lose all the extra weight I have carried all these years. I have lost 50 lbs, but are in a slump now. The voice a lot of times says I am not a good person or I am not capable of doing something. I think a lot of this comes from my father who thought girls and women could only do housework. Then I had a husband that did not want to hear how I felt and put me down. 🧠🧠♥♥ I know this is not true. i raised 3 children and have a Master's degree. Keep inspiring others Thank you
5 min after watching this I thought “it’s going to be weird when I get down to a healthy bmi” so I recognized it and changed it to… “It’s going to be GREAT when I get down to a healthy bmi” 🧠💖
Im running behind today Carla!! Im freezing 🥶 Yesterday it was 85° today its 43° thats Midwestern, United States typical Spring weather.
Anyway good afternoon its 2:15pm as im watching now. Hope youre doing well. Ive lost 46lbs in 10 months now. Its completely changed how I feel and how I feel about my body and eating. Therapy has been huge in this. Ive ordered another journal, just waiting for it to arrive. BTW ~ Ive changed my screen name so im not new to your channel. My real name im sure youve seen is Maureen Ortega Diaz. Im telling you because your channel feels a bit more personal to me and I wanted to let you know I was still one of your faithful followers. 🖤
I found your channel earlier today and I'm so glad I did 🥹
Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom x
Thank you Autumn and welcome xx
Wow, I know this voice has been running for as long as I can remember. It is jarring once you recognize and start hearing what it says! I'm working on improving this, but OMG, it's a very slow process. Thank you so much for giving some steps to deal with this,and mentioning the books. Love your content, and I am so very inspired by you! 💗💗🧠🧠
Carla, I find your mental health videos to be incredibly relevant and helpful. I hope you'll continue to post them. I have a running commentary in my head myself. Strange but hope-filling to think it might not be "me" that's the one doing the chattering.
Thank you ❤
You are such a tough person. Truly inspiring.
This video really touched me to the point of tears, but also gave me a lot of clarity. I know whose that voice in my head is. It is a combination of my grandmother and my high school English teacher, and they both told me I was useless and I would never amount to anything, causing me to have imposter syndrome and doubt every little thing in my life. I finally realized that at 38. Thank you, Carla, and I'm wishing you all the best.
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I'm not good enough for that job interview, I'll never get that job ,I'm not applying ....
➡️ I'm applying for the new job, i know I'm good ,i know I'm capable, i know I'll be awesome ⬅️
It's not so long since I'm flowing your channel, but i need to say Girl You Are Awesome, THANK YOU ! Thank you to the moon and back!
❤🧠🙌🏻 Thank you, Carla! This was my second video of yours and I really appreciated it. Self-talk - yes, I definitely have a lot to work on there. I am at the highest weight I’ve ever been and this makes it hard for me to truly enjoy my accomplishments and my relationship with my wonderful boyfriend. I always feel that life will “really begin” when I lose the weight, which is something I have told myself my whole life. I just turned 55. What a waste. Perhaps I can reframe this as something like “I am living well! I have a successful career doing something I love. I have friends and family who love and genuinely appreciate me. I have a boyfriend who truly loves me and wants to spend his life with me. I am mostly healthy! There is so much going well - and they are fundamental things that not everyone has. Be grateful and don’t hold back - live!” Am I on the right track here?
The Kindness Method finally helped me break the negative self talk habit. Once I listed all the things I'd say about myself, I realized who had actually put those thoughts into my head. It was eye-opening! What a huge load off my back to not carry that around anymore!
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I won’t find what I’m looking for.
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I have all that I desire and more.
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You‘re a beautiful person, inside and out, Carla. It hurts to think of you saying that to yourself, about the charity event success.
🧠❤ I won‘t share anything right now, forgive me ❤🧠
🧠🧠❤️❤️🌸my latest negative self talk has been that I look old and unattractive. I know this is not true, I catch myself, yes I am aging, but I try to tell myself I am aging beautifully. It’s like my inner critic can’t call myself fat anymore because I am so close to my goal, so it has switched to finding another aspect of myself to attack. I really appreciate this video, thank you🥰
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Brain brain etc. I have no workkng keyboard on phone. But I see my own talk when I hear you.
❤❤❤❤This was so insightful and critical. I felt I looked like the back of a bus” or like a ‘potato’. I’ve replaced those with positive messages, ‘’I’m stronger”, I am ‘beautiful’, ‘capable’, etc.
🧠🧠🧠💚💚💚 Thank you Carla !! I love your videos!
❤your vlogs are amazing xx
🧠🧠💜💜🖤 I’m not capable of coping, I am strong and can do hard things. Thanks Carla.
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❤❤❤❤ 🧠 thanks this was interesting to get me started thinking about.
🧠😻 I think it's important to try to recognize when you've made headway in making these changes as well. I get additional positive reinforcement when I realize that I have successfully told that inner critic to take a hike repeatedly. This work is worth it!
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Thank you for taking the time. You help me in a way that reaches me. You are kind and supportive in a way that makes me feel like I can accomplish goals. This was a good conversation for me to hear.
Great video. I can do this ❤❤❤
Good afternoon love from Guyana ❤🇬🇾❤ur an inspiration for my walks every morning
Hi, Carla. I had totally forgotten about “blocking.” I used to use the tool often and then for some reason quit. Thank you for the refresher as the tool needs to be implemented back into my life. 🧠🧠💜💜 (cannot leave a “reframing” statement at this time.)
This was profound and I identify with that constant narrative. Thank you so very much for this very beneficial truthful vlog . I find it just so helpful to be able to logically break it all down and refocus full worth . I am a work in progress , love this analysis so much and will revisit this many times as a reminder to be kinder to myself and to also love myself .
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Wonderful video, thank you Carla
Wish you could teach this to young people, so powerful 💗(Joanne)
I wish too xx
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🖤❤️💗🧠🧠🧠 Thank u Carla .There's a woman @ work, whose always saying something, about my work, or about me,sometimes Carla it does get 2 me, but I try not 2 let her get 2 me because life is hard enough ×××
🧠 ❤ That I’m not worth anything. I am worth everything
I'm worthless. I am important, I am not worthless.
I found your channel a few weeks ago , I gained a few stone and wanted to lose it and feel fitter , so I got a walking pad and reduced my calories and I actually lost 4lb last week 😁 your videos are so helpful thank you, more advice on meals please 👍 *you will get bored and give up* - * I'm human and I will give it my best* 🤘🧠🧠 🖤🖤
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🧠🧠🧠💜💜💜 I will never be a good writer...changed to. I am a good writer and look forward to writing.
🧠♥️🧠♥️ I'm good for nothing, I'm good at lots of things 😌 xx
Thanks for sharing. I got very inspired by your video about walking and have been doing it consistently for months now! Thank you.
Also if you read this, do you have any thoughts on walking outside vs a "walking pad"? I was thinking of squeezing in some extra walking by getting one but not sure if the benefit is the same.
Oh for sure get one if you can afford. Any extra movement is great xx
Ugh gross to my measurements have changed so much, my body is healing. My clothes are fitting so much better or i can wear a smaller size. 🧠 🖤🧠🖤🧠🖤
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I am having a hard time losing weight. I’m in menopause. I’m killing myself with exercise and eating healthy with a calorie deficit. My blood panel looks fine so I’m so defeated. I just want to say F it and eat all the crap food and stay fat. I’m 60lbs overweight.
For over 60 years I felt that I was not worthy of love because I was fat. Even though I have lost 100 pounds I still feel unworthy. But I have learned to fake it pretty well. Isn’t blocking almost like stuffing your feelings, kind of like faking it?
Feeling worthless could be thought of as more of a false belief than a feeling. We learn to think little of our worth when those around us don't value us, especially if these people are our parental figures. The inner critic could be reinforcing this belief by repeating this negative narrative.
I think blocking as applied to the inner critic is an effective tactic in rewiring your brain for more positive self talk. When I first started trying to silence my inner critic, I would say 'no' whenever I became aware of a self-critical thought. You wouldn't be blocking any feelings here, just stopping the inner critic from bullying.
Hi Carla, my name is Pam, I live in South Africa and I am nearly 60 years old. Congratulations on the enormous challenges that you have faced and succeeded in coming out victorious. I have watched your facial procedures and after having lost some weight (20kg) a few years ago, which has caused my face to wrinkle sooo badly (I am nearly 60) especially my cheeks near my mouth, I am considering botox and fillers in those areas. Just wondering if you have /had loose skin around your belly that needed trimming or removing. I have a very small apron of belly fat which was caused by my putting on weight after a caesarian section. The extra fat pooches over the scar, and it is really problematic for me especially when the weather is hot (as it tends to be here in Africa) as it gets nasty and sweaty. But I must say you were beautiful even when you were overweight, but now you look absolutely gorgeous.
I have tonnes of loose skin, I would have to have surgery to remove it. There’s little that can be done otherwise. And thank you for your kind words xx
🧠🧠💖💖💄💄. - my inner critic: " I'm so stupid... I'll never figure out this stupid computer system and everyone is getting impatient with me!!!"
reframe: " I will figure out this computer program eventually and I've been told I'm doing ok and I have the perfect personality to work with the clients..." ( Not today, satan!! )
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