Happy Tuesday from Psych2Go! We noticed that a lot of our lives revolves around our subconscious mind, so we wanted to share with you guys 10 potential defense mechanisms that could be operating under the radar. Please share this video with someone who may benefit from this video! :)
Now, this is going to be mouthful, but: I am in middle school, and in middle school there are a lot of rumours. I used to listen to those rumours, and they made me feel bad. I guess I would use sublimation, by telling myself "I'll show them! When I'm older I'll be the best", then tell myself to keep on trying hard on my work. I did. Now I decided I would not listen to these rumours, because I didn't want to feel bad, then spend my time on making myself feel better. I decided that I could use the time I would potentially use bettering myself, to do better in schoolwork. There are still rumours, and I have a general idea of them, but I try to not let them bother me. Am I doing a bad thing? Is that dissociation?
Thanks a lot! I wasn’t even aware of some mechanisms I kind of regularly use. A video about coping with depressive episodes would be nice. It often gets very hard for me to keep up my time schedule for my study when the relapses start to kick in. I would really appreciate it!
@Chenai, Some of these defence mechanisms are actually good. For instance, sublimation where you're channeling your negative energy into something positive!
Honestly, me too. I've been experiencing really bad depersonalization/derealization for a good 3 years now and it goes on 24/7. It's quite a terrifying feeling to be honest, it's like i'm going insane but I know i'm not. Am I in the matrix? Am I dreaming? Am I in a coma? I got out of depression/anxiety so my life and mood is actually looking up, but the weird fuzzy feeling of dissociation still persists? I'm not sure, I hope this isn't real, I can't even think about anything anymore, my body just acts on its own. Help?
I have a bad habit of ignoring my problems and issues and pretending they don’t exist. This makes it easier to cope but I am slowly learning to accept reality and face my fears instead of pretending they don’t exist
A jar of pickles That's amazing that you can admit that is a problem you have, that is always the first step to becoming a better you! I dissociate and I need to work on that
A jar of pickles Yup, just thinking about my potential problems is already triggering my anxiety. Dissociation and intellectualisation is my most common cope. I think particularly dissociation is the most efficient and permanent, combined with intellectualisation, dissociation will force you to get off your ass and to try and actually realise your fantasies and ideals, negating all your previous fears and insecurities. I don’t know where humanity would be without these mental processes, probable naked in the jungle eating leaves.
I think it should be said that these behaviors are not inherently bad or should be avoided! Anyone likes to dive into a dream world once in a while for example. But what is important is that you are somewhat aware of it, especially if it hurts you or others!
True, daydreaming can become addictive, so like you said everything in moderation. But I can be aware that I'm daydreaming and still do it for hours which can lead to neglect and injury. So make sure you don't under estimate daydreaming as like everything it can become maladaptive, and no one will take you seriously.
@@thomasfrancomusic8852 holu Frick I saw this the other day I now i want to thank this channel for showing me this, I know have to work in order to stop this.
"10 Psychological Defense Mechanisms" Summary with time stamps: 1. Displacement 0:23 2. Projection 0:39 3. Rationalization 0:51 4. Reaction Formation 0:10 5. Regression 1:22 6. Repression/Denial 1:33 7. Sublimation 1:53 8. Dissociation 2:10 9.Intellectualization 2:34 10. Compensation 2:55 I recommend watching the video for more info and details. (also it would be nice if Psych2Go put these kinds of summaries along with time stamps in their description so that it would be easier to find what we are looking for if we don't have the time to rewatch the video). I recommend watching the video for more info and details. (also it would be nice if Psych2Go put these kinds of summaries along with time stamps in their description so that it would be easier to find what we are looking for if we don't have the time to rewatch the video).
I feel like I’m the king of repression. A lot of bad thing have happened in my life and I’ve lost people I care about, but the trauma seems so big to take on that I pretend it’s just a day where I don’t see them and ignore it one day at a time. Sometimes it hits me they’re gone but most I can repress my feelings. I think counseling would be beneficial in my case.
I lost people too, and most of the time I act as if they were sick when they didn't come to the christmas dinner or something else, or they couldn't be here at that moment because they had something to do.. just to not to think the reality, that sometimes seems so distant and irreal.
i use disassociation, and i am a maladaptive day dreamer. it was my way of getting out of loneliness. now that i am 17 i struggle to connect with real people since for a long time i only had my ''fantasy-friends'' with unrealistic connection with them
1 displacement, diversion of emotions to someone else, your friend says something hurtfull, lash out on someone else 2 projection your own feelings, motives to someone. you think the partner was unfaithfull while u are 3 rationatiolisation, justify unacceptable behaviour, steel and think they have enough 4 reaction formation, opposit to how u feel, attracted but act like u dislike her 5 regression, referting to childlike behaviour, scream cry 6 repression, dinial into subcontious, deny addiction, forgot the crime but u where witness 7 sublimation, refocus into more acceptable: agression into excercise 8 disasosation, detachement of reality, own world, fantasy 9 intelectualisation, overthinking, misdirection of focus: overthink details of funeral in stead of expresding grieve 10 compensation, emphasize your strenghts
Displacement Sublimation Disassociation Intellectualization Compensation I’m all of these, I’m a very defensive person and I’m in therapy for that. My automatic reaction when someone is upset is to say sorry even if it’s not my fault. If any of these is affecting your life, please talk to someone there is no shame in it ❤️ Doing this I found out that I have bpd, depression, anxiety and amount other things but I’m getting treatment and have been for almost 8 years, I know a lot of people don’t see the point but instead of seeing them as a shrink or someone you pay, think of them as an unbiased source to vent to and honestly I learnt so much about myself by just venting and my psychologist just listening and waiting until I finished to put her input in, it’s been my saving grace and I’m very pro mental health! I love this channel so much ❤️
Rexeil Carl Molina are there any particular points that you would like mentioned? We would love to hear your thoughts! Perhaps expansion on the topic of disassociation, for instance?
Psych2Go Maybe about Reaction Formation, there are times that I react differently, for example I unexpectedly laugh when I am sad or when I fight, there are also times that when I say the truth, people think I lie or vice versa. But I would be grateful for any of the topics above.
Psych2Go I second that! This video was great but it was a bit too fast and too short. I would love some further explanations on the different behaviours and maybe where they're common or something. Some more examples. That would be great!
@@Psych2goFocusing on failing activates my pain defense mechanism aka I feel pain so much so that I can faint. Any strategies to stop relying on this defense mechanism?
I have watched your videos for quite some time, I first started watching when I was having serious depression and I watched videos like "Are you Depressed" and others, and they extremely helped. Now I'm much more positive (still slightly depressed but now nearly as bad) so I'm really thankful for these videos. My personal defense mechanisms are reaction formation and dissociation
Sky 23 why does everybody with BPD talk about it like a badge of honor? Most of us don't even get diagnosed with anything but probably have psychological problems as well. and who is to say that diagnosing it it's helpful because then you can just say that it is because of your diagnosis that you have your issues instead of dealing with them like everybody else
jrg305 in all seriousness though. It's a serious thing you have to deal with everyday of your life and you never know when it's the illness or when it's just you. Having a mental disorder/mood disorder is a challenge for yourself and others around you. And many people can't even ask for too much support cuz it can feel like you're asking for too much. At times, i guess, anyway. Can't speak for everyone. And nobody ever denied everybody has issues.
When I'm experiencing unpleasant and stressful feelings, I dissociate into a world of fantasy, where I am an idealised version of myself, with a different name, living a completely different life surrounded by idealised people. In fact, I have a habit of doing this even if I'm not stressed but just wish to escape into my ideal life. I've got an imaginary alter-ego around whom I've created a fantasy world, and has been with me from around the age of 12. I turn 34 at the end of the month.
I always use Reaction Formation as a defense method. Everytime when I showed my anger, no one cared or turned things around, that I over react or they are the victim. Sometimes I did understand them, because it showed me, they are aware of the problem, but I didn't felt satisfied. I learned since elementary school, that I should never cry in front of my enemies, because then they know what's hurt me and repeat hurting me. I can talk with my friends about it, but I can't talk about my problems or feelings in my family, because they never support or help me. If I had a fight with my family and tried to explain my site of the story, they don't listen. Sometimes I just wanna cry to let all the feelings and negative energy out of me. I have to wait until I'm alone at home for at least one hour, so I can cry in my room and sometimes scream into my pillow. I feel a bit better after this. I love my parents and my mum is really lovely, but she doesn't help me with that either. She loves me and cares about me, but I still wanna hide my feelings from her, because it's just a waste of time to fight or try to explain something to my family. I also use Dissociation. I dream about my perfect life: My parents care about my feelings, I have my dream job (Detective, but more like Sherlock Holmes or Hercule Poirot) and have one of my rolemodels as my dear friend with whom I can live and they teach me stuff and spend their time with me.
Repression/denial and Dissociation are ones I tend to use. Dissociation is becoming more frequent because I’ve been under major stress and had to deal with a lot of trauma recently. It really sucks
I was mentally abused for ten years by my former stepmother. I have little memory of anything she did or my childhood, and I am now having to go through it by myself because my family will not make therapy a priority. I am having to use old pictures of myself and old drawings to trigger memories because my brain has learned to forget things like that easily. Is this a common long term defense? Is there a term for it I can research more on? Please help! I want to be able to actually remember what she said and treated me like so I can remember specific moments and lies she ingrained in me so I can treat them as such and truly move on.
Olivia Beakman its normally that your brain simply erases traumatic moments but I only knew this in relation with physical pain but I think it is the same. I also once hao that I had an accioent and I hurt my knee and the people from the ambulance had to fix it. They told me I was awake but I can't remember anything. But some memories from that day came back months later. I know you can't compare that but I think the best way is to relax and not directly think " I got to remember this" but think about your childhood in common ( this advice comes from a random teenager, not a psychologist. Just so you know)
Liz xD I've noticed that when I talk about my childhood with my Gramma who has a mind like a steel trap it helps. Thank you. Glad you're okay too - you must have been in a lot of pain.
Hey I know I'm literally one year late commenting on your comment lol but if your still around , mAy I ask if you doing any psychedelics boost that trait or just your imagination it'self,?
@@Foxsea96 "Disconnecting from reality and living in your own world" doesn't have to involve psychedelic. I'm just watching a show, listening to music or draw for a bit.
Dissociation is my bread and butter at this point. I didn't have any friends or anyone to really talk with for quite a large portion of my life (circa 4 years). In that time, I started to gravitate more and more towards fictional characters, idolising them and making up scenarios in my head where I could talk to them. Which ones depends on what fandom I am in at the time. I still do this even now that I do have friends and I keep wishing some magical power will take me away from this world so I can physically be with the characters I love. Writing about it makes it feel less real so I don't even practice writing, a hobby I love, to deal with these feelings. I feel lazy, like I'm making up excuses for why I don't "work" or why I'm broken. I feel shitty all the time and I don't know how to stop in any other way than to dive back into my fantasy world and talk to the people there. And they don't even know more than I do because they're in my head! And the worst thing is... I don't want to stop. I fear it will make my life boring and that the things I enjoy will become worthless to me and the characters I love won't be alive to me anymore.
I didn't even know dissociation was a thing! It explains so much. I spent a whole year in a completely different world, I didn't talk to anyone, I didn't pay attention in class, and I spent all my free time and work time in my own head until I didn't know what was real anymore...
I use reaction formation, repression/denial and dissociation. I try to avoid my problems for as long as possible and sometimes I pretend I don't even have them in the first place (I pretend it doesn't bother me or that I'm happy with it) or I try to forget about them completely by dissociating
Originally the trope didn't used it as a mechanism itself, but more as a character trait that was not harmful (i'm talking back in the 80's and 90's), just to genuinely show anger.
Rationalization.... Sometimes when I get in a bad mood, I try my best to compromise with myself. My example: " Look, you are around your friends and you cant be angry around your them because you know you are scary when you get angry, BUT you can listen to music when you get home and punch the air for as long as you want. Dont break anything, though. " Is this a bad thing? I really dont know because I have done this coping ever since I was young. If it is, please tell me if I should do anything otherwise.
i'm not sure what this is called, but i think it's avolition. it's when you completely detach yourself from all emotion to help you cope with anxiety. that's what i did and i can't seem to get out.
aelunannatic I’m honestly a little jealous. I know it must be hard on you at times, but just thinking about not having anxiety.... This is giving me anxiety, actually.
Meghan Kearns it's seems nice until all hell breaks loose, you then have to deal with years of repressed emotions and feelings. I was in the abyss for weeks (dying inside but no one noticed) and generally felt anxious and bad for months, non stop. The good side is I had to change/evolve to deal with it, change is great.
Toto Toto I guess the fact that you’ve learned from your experience and accepted a change (which yes, it can be nice) makes it okay. Thank you for sharing that. I do hope to be able to change my anxious ways one day. Not looking for it to be gone... just easily managed. If that makes sense?
Meghan Kearns i have severe anxiety and just being without it makes me feel empty. imagine you start shaking and crying but you don't feel sad or scared. you just sit there confused in your panicked shell. this isn't easily managed. i detached myself unconsciously and only began to realize when the world started to feel empty. i'd rather have my anxiety back, honestly.
aelunannatic Do you know that song “Pain” by Three Days Grace? One of my favorite lines of lyrics says “I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all”. With that being said, I do agree with you. Btw, I have had that happen to me before. It usually confuses me and tires me out so much, I end up eventually falling asleep. I appreciate you telling me this. Is there any way you think you could, in a way, “knock” yourself back into how you used to be? Like, trying to feel again? Even if it means being full of anxiety again. I’m not sure if that would be possible. They say when you really put your mind to something, anything is possible. I say BS, but I’ve been able to put my mind to a few things. Like, for example, “knocking” myself out of some OCD tendencies I had at a much younger age. I basically had to convince myself I was being ridiculous and couldn’t live easily with how embarrassing it all was. To me, at least.
I just don't really have emotions, I feel hallow or just underlyingly monotone, nothing makes me upset, idk if that's a defense or some things wrong with me but yeaj
Actually, it used to be the exact same thing for me. I would generally be not as cold as a sociopath, but still colder than everyone else. I remembered all of the bad events but felt nothing because of them, actually, I usually got a bit colder when thinking about them. Then, after searching for the answer for awhile, I noticed that I sometimes would lash out at people for no reason. I found out that I had just one of the defense mechanisms listed in the video, but a few of them combined. I would imagine that I was completely fine with it, I would repress the sadness and anger, and once it became too much, I would take it out on others, without even realising it. I would recommend looking at your actions and what effects have on you immediately, but soon afterwards too. Take some time to reflect on yourself, and the answer should be at least clear enough to lead you on from there. If not, then go see a physiatrist about it, because it wont be fine if you leave it unattended, it will only get worse, and one day in the future, no matter what problem you have, you'll regret not fixing it.
nobody You could be a psychopath. All of the movies about psychopaths make psychopaths out to be people who are crazy, but in reality, being a psychopath just means you were born without being able to feel sadness. One example I can remember of someone who was a psychopath was that his grandmother had died, but he didn't feel upset about it. I hope this can help you just a little bit. Or it may make you feel bad, sorry if it makes you feel bad.
When I was 17, I was sitting in class and suddenly had access to 10 years worth of sexual abuse memories (age 4 to 14). When you remember something like that, you (emotionally) feel the same as if it had just happened. It took a very long time to recover.
Intellectualizition is my go-to. You cannot be upset when you’re too busy deducing, researching, and extrapolating your deepest traumas. Turning terrible realizations into “Eureka!” Moments.
Someone: *Dives deep into talking about family and dysfuctional parents* Me: Haha nope! Let's talk about that awesome band p!atd. Me later in my room: *curls up, try not to cry, cry and go over suicidal/homocidal thoughts*
Are you trying to cope and keep yourself mentally healthy? If so, great! If not... 🥘☕️ Here’s some warm soup and hot tea! I hope this’ll do for now, pretending this food and hot tea is homemade. Enjoy, and life *will* get better! Even if it seems like it won’t, trust me, it will eventually. My heart goes out to you 💕 Stay strong, you can do this!
@@petalmist0288 Nah, I'm okay, I have friends, video games, books and youtube to keep me going. Family is a touchy subject but I don't think too much about it. Thanks, but I'm not a caffeine person so I'll just take the soup.
I have a habit of ignoring yet acknowledging my problems. Similar to procrastination. I know they are there, I know I'll have to face them sooner or later. But I wait until the day comes or I deal with it very slowly, almost near the deadline, sometimes before that. Other times my body just shuts down and I get sleepy. And other times I try to shove away the emotion that is troubling me
Hey! I really like your videos and I just had an idea for one that you might like. It would be about some people (including me lol) that feel sad after ending movies, series, a video game or a book. It actually is really interesting and has a lot to do with people's emotions. Hope your read this!
Psych2Go Thank you for reading it and responding! Hope someday (ofc if you want) it inspires you all to make a video about it! ❤️ Love the channel btw!
1-displacements sometimes 3-rationalisation sometimes 4-reaction formation 5-regression sometimes 6-repression/denial 8-dissociation 9-intelectualisation
I probably showcase each and every one of these behaviours when faced with different people who thread my path on a regular. Thanks for putting a name to the act
I tend to dissociate and repress a lot, followed by intellectualization and reaction formation. One of the healthier ways I cope with things is through writing, which I guess would fall under sublimation. I'm just now learning coping skills -- at 25 -- because no one ever bothered to teach me them as a child. It actually kind of boggles my mind to know that it's something that you CAN teach.
Disassociation was a huge one for me growing up. I use to lay in bed for hours as a kid living in my own cartoon world as a superhero. Drawing new characters for my world... listening to the same music over and over. I remember not wanting to leave that world. It was comforting in a time of my life where I had little to no control over what happened to me. I recently told my brother about all this. He says that's probably why I don't remember the things he remembers about our childhood.
You worth more popularation than that. I mean, your videos are contentful and well-animated. There is not many channel can do that. Btw I hope my poor english can say my appreciation.
CyberDragon5561 I would say so. Sometimes they can raise you levels of esteem just because you are good at them or have fun with them. I tend to feel very good when I play videogames or know a lot about a certain topic. Usually I am the most introverted person ever.
CyberDragon5561 Well, yeah when you lose you may get sad, but if you have fun playing the game or your determined to win, then you may be able to go back to happy. And it's not necessarily a bad thing to be sad. Or you could play a game where no one loses.
CyberDragon5561 Well then after you play a game that makes you mad, do something that makes you happy. Like your favorite hobby (IF your favorite hobby is videogames then do your second favorite hobby).
Run from people who habe displacement, my dad was one of these he used to work from 7 -> 5 come home and never asked how have you been doing? instead he started questioning whether me and my older brothers followed his orders or not. Now I am 30, I am so thankful to my mother that she raised us well so otherwise we could have killed him or turned our lives upside-down.
I usually laugh when im in a difficult situation. I walked 5 miles to my ex a couple days after we broke up. When i showed up i asked to talk and she told me to leave. She had no emotion on her face so i couldn't help but to point it out and laugh. She asked why i was laughing which eventually turned into crying and then yelling at her when i was walking away. It was hard for me to believe that i would go through all this effort for someone just to have them to tell me to leave. I sat at a park for an hour bawling my eyes out. I had crashed my car the week before. Laughed about it. Then a month later got robbed at gunpoint and laughed about it. She hasnt come back since, and im on a better path in school and health. 💚🤍
I was going to log in on betterhelp.com but they wrote me . "we cant help you " i really wanted join to this ... :/ to get some help or someone who i can talk about this topics. Please help me
RonnieDarkness hey Ronnie! Could you please go into further detail about this? If you want to chat to someone in private, please email me at wendy@psych2go.net
Definitely a Reaction Formation user here. I love your content with relaxing music, the video was a bit too fast for me to catch up to but (could always use the pause button). Thank you!
Thanks for this! This helped me a lot into understanding our lesson, sometimes definitions in books can be really complex. Examples is a big help too :)
Dissociation isn’t just living in your own world, it’s scary, terrifying even, especially when it happens so suddenly. It’s useful, indeed, it protects us from traumatic experiences and stress but if it doesn’t pass quickly, it becomes maladaptive and it’s an issue.
This year, I got the opportunity to be a leader for my section in band. It was a rollercoaster of new experiences and learning to take my mistakes and balance the results. But one thing has been consistent. The planning. Every time an event would come up I’d have numerous pages on how to solve issues that might come up. One of our freshmen feels uncomfortable next to a certain sophomore? make sure I or another person is between them at ALL times. Another freshman is stressed about not memorizing a song? Help them memorize it by slowly piecing each part together. A subordinate thinks I’m unfit to be leader and thinks they would do a better job despite the fact that THEY DIDN’T EVEN TRY OUT?! Make a very elaborate and over complicated plan to make her aware that even tho we’re friends, I won’t take this attitude from her. That last plan fell through spectacularly when she tried to manipulate me into sadness by telling me someone was mad at me and expecting me to wallow in guilt and self loathing instead of immediately confronting the person about it besides that being her second attempt to do that exact same thing with the same result. I ended up yelling at her. Pro tip, if your trying to manipulate someone, trying to manipulate a no bs, extremely confident person only leads to you getting your metaphorical teeth beaten into your metaphorical skull. Regardless, when my plans fell through, all I had was my raw emotions which does not feel good... I don’t know if this will help anyone, but it feels nice to get off my chest...
I tend to dissociate from reality, and act like my problems are no big deal, that’s how I can put on a convincing smile and move forward, I place myself in a different setting in my head, with idealistic reality’s so I don’t have to face my problems. I am fully aware it may not be the healthiest coping method, but it’s the only one that works
When becoming aware of defense mechanisms in your behavior you can act on it. Your mind, your control. But when noticing defense mechanisms in someone else and dealing with the fallout it causes, how do you deal with it? - Do you hold up the mirror to someone? - Do you directly address the issue, while respecting the person? - Do you say and do nothing? - Do you distance yourself from the person? - Do you feel with it in another way? Identifying someone's boundaries can be difficult, since their emotions are so personal. What's your way?
Rationalizing problems and overthinking happen a lot to me, but you see when you just focus on the future and you don't have to worry about the past only the present to get you to your goal. I'm very dissapointed in my social life and I can rationalize the feeling that everyone hates me by just being like, nah, they dont, why would they say they're my friends if they hate me. Ahahah I've gotten to the point where I guess I'm talking about my internal problems through a RUclips comment... Legendary
I was a victim of bullying from 3rd Grade all the way to graduating from high school. I refused to socialize with especially large groups since 3rd Grade because of that. Only close relatives were allowed anywhere near me, and even then there were times I just needed to be ALONE; that way no one can hurt me......
When I feel stressed, I use that feeling and push it more to myself and make me cry and depressed, and then when I'm feeling depressed, I harm myself in many different ways like staying on my bed, starving myself, staying up too late etc. My brain has already adapted, and I feel good and for me it is normal. When I tell my friend what I do to deal with stress, they go "Omygod what are you doing to yourself?" and sometimes "You need to see a therapist", I get so confused, for people it isn't normal but why, in my perspective, it is normal for me to do this? I researched and found out it is my defense mechanism to handle the stress, my anxiety, my depression and my problems. I actually even thought I was intolerant to stress lol. I do different things now, I listen to music, or draw, or just do something that makes me feel relaxed rather than harming my body. EDIT: Stress is my everyday life, home or school, or even outside. I get stress everyday and I don't feel relaxed at all, I don't even know what relaxation feel before I discovered my new ways of coping
Number 10, Compensation. "The counter balancing of perceived flaws." Well perceiving is believing to me. Compensation is needed to adjust to relationship reality. I would call it a necessary defense mechanism.
Happy Tuesday from Psych2Go! We noticed that a lot of our lives revolves around our subconscious mind, so we wanted to share with you guys 10 potential defense mechanisms that could be operating under the radar. Please share this video with someone who may benefit from this video! :)
Now, this is going to be mouthful, but:
I am in middle school, and in middle school there are a lot of rumours. I used to listen to those rumours, and they made me feel bad. I guess I would use sublimation, by telling myself "I'll show them! When I'm older I'll be the best", then tell myself to keep on trying hard on my work. I did. Now I decided I would not listen to these rumours, because I didn't want to feel bad, then spend my time on making myself feel better. I decided that I could use the time I would potentially use bettering myself, to do better in schoolwork. There are still rumours, and I have a general idea of them, but I try to not let them bother me. Am I doing a bad thing? Is that dissociation?
Thanks a lot! I wasn’t even aware of some mechanisms I kind of regularly use. A video about coping with depressive episodes would be nice. It often gets very hard for me to keep up my time schedule for my study when the relapses start to kick in. I would really appreciate it!
Psych2Go Could you please tell me the name of the background music?
Psych2Go Say, know the Background Music for this?
@Chenai, Some of these defence mechanisms are actually good. For instance, sublimation where you're channeling your negative energy into something positive!
Dissociation is my #1 talent in life!
Adam Greenhill Same here
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Honestly, me too. I've been experiencing really bad depersonalization/derealization for a good 3 years now and it goes on 24/7. It's quite a terrifying feeling to be honest, it's like i'm going insane but I know i'm not. Am I in the matrix? Am I dreaming? Am I in a coma? I got out of depression/anxiety so my life and mood is actually looking up, but the weird fuzzy feeling of dissociation still persists? I'm not sure, I hope this isn't real, I can't even think about anything anymore, my body just acts on its own. Help?
I have a bad habit of ignoring my problems and issues and pretending they don’t exist. This makes it easier to cope but I am slowly learning to accept reality and face my fears instead of pretending they don’t exist
A jar of pickles That's amazing that you can admit that is a problem you have, that is always the first step to becoming a better you! I dissociate and I need to work on that
I do that too
A jar of pickles Yup, just thinking about my potential problems is already triggering my anxiety. Dissociation and intellectualisation is my most common cope. I think particularly dissociation is the most efficient and permanent, combined with intellectualisation, dissociation will force you to get off your ass and to try and actually realise your fantasies and ideals, negating all your previous fears and insecurities. I don’t know where humanity would be without these mental processes, probable naked in the jungle eating leaves.
Me too! It took me ages to accept the existence of my anxiety.
Bro, I’m smoking weed and felt that to my core
I love how the music was timed to when the person unplugged from real life to fantasy
Very nice video. Straight to the point and all.
Mari Akutsu Thanks for the feedback!
What’s the background music called?
@@Cup1dsLover sounds like the instrumental to Crush's song 'Sometimes"
@@Cup1dsLover The name is in the description: "And so it begins"
I think it should be said that these behaviors are not inherently bad or should be avoided! Anyone likes to dive into a dream world once in a while for example. But what is important is that you are somewhat aware of it, especially if it hurts you or others!
Teflo Very true! Life is all about moderation and balance. It is not necessarily black and white :)
What if you do it multipile times a day and you have like 5 defense mechanisms?
True, daydreaming can become addictive, so like you said everything in moderation.
But I can be aware that I'm daydreaming and still do it for hours which can lead to neglect and injury. So make sure you don't under estimate daydreaming as like everything it can become maladaptive, and no one will take you seriously.
@@acoulthard9048 Maladaptive daydreaming
@@thomasfrancomusic8852 holu Frick I saw this the other day I now i want to thank this channel for showing me this, I know have to work in order to stop this.
My favorite: "I know I'm wrong, but everyone else is too!"
lol
viktorayy :D 【animated】 that sounds like a certain cheeto-small handed- president..... just saying
Is it wrong if I say I do that often?
whataboutism
Damn that's my favourite weapon
"10 Psychological Defense Mechanisms" Summary with time stamps:
1. Displacement 0:23
2. Projection 0:39
3. Rationalization 0:51
4. Reaction Formation 0:10
5. Regression 1:22
6. Repression/Denial 1:33
7. Sublimation 1:53
8. Dissociation 2:10
9.Intellectualization 2:34
10. Compensation 2:55
I recommend watching the video for more info and details.
(also it would be nice if Psych2Go put these kinds of summaries along with time stamps in their description so that it would be easier to find what we are looking for if we don't have the time to rewatch the video).
I recommend watching the video for more info and details.
(also it would be nice if Psych2Go put these kinds of summaries along with time stamps in their description so that it would be easier to find what we are looking for if we don't have the time to rewatch the video).
I hope psych2go makes a video on regression
Thank you time saver
Thank you 😊
I feel like I’m the king of repression. A lot of bad thing have happened in my life and I’ve lost people I care about, but the trauma seems so big to take on that I pretend it’s just a day where I don’t see them and ignore it one day at a time. Sometimes it hits me they’re gone but most I can repress my feelings. I think counseling would be beneficial in my case.
Robey Hines Same
U r handsome
I lost people too, and most of the time I act as if they were sick when they didn't come to the christmas dinner or something else, or they couldn't be here at that moment because they had something to do.. just to not to think the reality, that sometimes seems so distant and irreal.
Robey Hines what were the “bad things” ?
How can it be beneficial?
i use disassociation, and i am a maladaptive day dreamer. it was my way of getting out of loneliness. now that i am 17 i struggle to connect with real people since for a long time i only had my ''fantasy-friends'' with unrealistic connection with them
delirious jj can we talk?
Me too. I'm 20 and i always had those fantasy-friend inside my head. They have their own lives.
How do you dissociate ??
@delirious jj: I'd give my spleen to be 17 again.
Has anyone found a solution for this
1 displacement, diversion of emotions to someone else, your friend says something hurtfull, lash out on someone else
2 projection your own feelings, motives to someone. you think the partner was unfaithfull while u are
3 rationatiolisation, justify unacceptable behaviour, steel and think they have enough
4 reaction formation, opposit to how u feel, attracted but act like u dislike her
5 regression, referting to childlike behaviour, scream cry
6 repression, dinial into subcontious, deny addiction, forgot the crime but u where witness
7 sublimation, refocus into more acceptable: agression into excercise
8 disasosation, detachement of reality, own world, fantasy
9 intelectualisation, overthinking, misdirection of focus: overthink details of funeral in stead of expresding grieve
10 compensation, emphasize your strenghts
Thank you, also dissociation*
thanks
Psych2Go: "Which defense mechanisms do you use?"
Me: "ALL OF THEM."
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SAME!!!
Devon Wells yeah it depends on the situation really but I’m usually a quiet smol bean
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Primary defense mechanism: Sarcasm.
GuyNamedGray me too! Is that on the list?
Yess 😂
Sarcasm = Rage's slightly more subtle baby brother... or maybe sister... (gender goals???) ;o)
I think I've begun doing this all the time and I can't stop, every word I say sounds sarcastic or mean. help?
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I use a big mother freakin tank as a defense mechanism
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Technically thats accurate hehe
Damn bro tanks are cool but have you tried a plane?
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Displacement
Sublimation
Disassociation
Intellectualization
Compensation
I’m all of these, I’m a very defensive person and I’m in therapy for that.
My automatic reaction when someone is upset is to say sorry even if it’s not my fault.
If any of these is affecting your life, please talk to someone there is no shame in it ❤️
Doing this I found out that I have bpd, depression, anxiety and amount other things but I’m getting treatment and have been for almost 8 years, I know a lot of people don’t see the point but instead of seeing them as a shrink or someone you pay, think of them as an unbiased source to vent to and honestly I learnt so much about myself by just venting and my psychologist just listening and waiting until I finished to put her input in, it’s been my saving grace and I’m very pro mental health!
I love this channel so much ❤️
Can you please do a more in-depth version of this? It's really interesting
Rexeil Carl Molina are there any particular points that you would like mentioned? We would love to hear your thoughts! Perhaps expansion on the topic of disassociation, for instance?
Psych2Go Maybe about Reaction Formation, there are times that I react differently, for example I unexpectedly laugh when I am sad or when I fight, there are also times that when I say the truth, people think I lie or vice versa. But I would be grateful for any of the topics above.
Definitely! That's a common one. We'll look into it! There was once a question by someone about why they laugh in a funeral when they don't mean to.
Psych2Go I second that! This video was great but it was a bit too fast and too short. I would love some further explanations on the different behaviours and maybe where they're common or something. Some more examples.
That would be great!
@@Psych2goFocusing on failing activates my pain defense mechanism aka I feel pain so much so that I can faint. Any strategies to stop relying on this defense mechanism?
I have watched your videos for quite some time, I first started watching when I was having serious depression and I watched videos like "Are you Depressed" and others, and they extremely helped. Now I'm much more positive (still slightly depressed but now nearly as bad) so I'm really thankful for these videos. My personal defense mechanisms are reaction formation and dissociation
Shadowfire We are so proud of your growth!
Hi
Dissociation all the way, lol! Thanks Psych2go, love the animations and your videos are really helpful for us psychology students ♥
Rabiya Tisekar Glad we could be of help!
I suffer from BPD and it’s safe to say that my defense mechanism is dissociation.
Thank you for this video, it’s very informative ❤️
Sky 23 why does everybody with BPD talk about it like a badge of honor? Most of us don't even get diagnosed with anything but probably have psychological problems as well. and who is to say that diagnosing it it's helpful because then you can just say that it is because of your diagnosis that you have your issues instead of dealing with them like everybody else
Sky 23 glad you found it useful!
jrg305 great point but wrong comment. She said "i suffer from"
Dream Villain ^ coping mechanisms, no? Which would that be? @psych2go
jrg305 in all seriousness though. It's a serious thing you have to deal with everyday of your life and you never know when it's the illness or when it's just you. Having a mental disorder/mood disorder is a challenge for yourself and others around you. And many people can't even ask for too much support cuz it can feel like you're asking for too much. At times, i guess, anyway. Can't speak for everyone.
And nobody ever denied everybody has issues.
When I'm experiencing unpleasant and stressful feelings, I dissociate into a world of fantasy, where I am an idealised version of myself, with a different name, living a completely different life surrounded by idealised people.
In fact, I have a habit of doing this even if I'm not stressed but just wish to escape into my ideal life. I've got an imaginary alter-ego around whom I've created a fantasy world, and has been with me from around the age of 12. I turn 34 at the end of the month.
The Music is called 'And So It Begins' by Artificial Music
Nejis Thighs thanks
Nejis Thighs Thank you =)
Nejis Thighs thank you so much
Nejis Thighs You mean the BMG of this video?
Azure Rathalos Yea
I always use Reaction Formation as a defense method. Everytime when I showed my anger, no one cared or turned things around, that I over react or they are the victim. Sometimes I did understand them, because it showed me, they are aware of the problem, but I didn't felt satisfied. I learned since elementary school, that I should never cry in front of my enemies, because then they know what's hurt me and repeat hurting me. I can talk with my friends about it, but I can't talk about my problems or feelings in my family, because they never support or help me. If I had a fight with my family and tried to explain my site of the story, they don't listen. Sometimes I just wanna cry to let all the feelings and negative energy out of me. I have to wait until I'm alone at home for at least one hour, so I can cry in my room and sometimes scream into my pillow. I feel a bit better after this. I love my parents and my mum is really lovely, but she doesn't help me with that either. She loves me and cares about me, but I still wanna hide my feelings from her, because it's just a waste of time to fight or try to explain something to my family.
I also use Dissociation. I dream about my perfect life: My parents care about my feelings, I have my dream job (Detective, but more like Sherlock Holmes or Hercule Poirot) and have one of my rolemodels as my dear friend with whom I can live and they teach me stuff and spend their time with me.
Yep. Dissociation. I always wondered what it was I was doing whenever I face a difficult thought or situation that’s hurtful or tough to accept.
Woah... This explains alot of my "habits", i understand so much now! Thank you!
Repression/denial and Dissociation are ones I tend to use. Dissociation is becoming more frequent because I’ve been under major stress and had to deal with a lot of trauma recently. It really sucks
Repressing and disassociating.
Sam Henders same
Thank you for the video! You guys are so helpful and informative. Could I suggest "how to deal with mentally ill parents?" Thank you, love you guys ❤
Lilly Ponygirl Thanks for your suggestion! We will keep it in mind.
I really adore this animation style :)
Gardine Thanks for your feedback! We have a couple more new styles on the way :) please let us know which ones you prefer!
I was mentally abused for ten years by my former stepmother. I have little memory of anything she did or my childhood, and I am now having to go through it by myself because my family will not make therapy a priority. I am having to use old pictures of myself and old drawings to trigger memories because my brain has learned to forget things like that easily.
Is this a common long term defense? Is there a term for it I can research more on? Please help! I want to be able to actually remember what she said and treated me like so I can remember specific moments and lies she ingrained in me so I can treat them as such and truly move on.
Olivia Beakman its normally that your brain simply erases traumatic moments but I only knew this in relation with physical pain but I think it is the same. I also once hao that I had an accioent and I hurt my knee and the people from the ambulance had to fix it. They told me I was awake but I can't remember anything. But some memories from that day came back months later. I know you can't compare that but I think the best way is to relax and not directly think " I got to remember this" but think about your childhood in common ( this advice comes from a random teenager, not a psychologist. Just so you know)
Liz xD
I've noticed that when I talk about my childhood with my Gramma who has a mind like a steel trap it helps. Thank you. Glad you're okay too - you must have been in a lot of pain.
Probabl, but I don't remember. I'm happy that you have someone to talk to.
I wish you all the good for you,it's cool you're willing to actively heal your traumas
Emynodupeus Dupeusnoemy
Thank you.
I really like the animation and my defense mechanism is disconnecting from real life
Same
Glad you Lesly's work! We will do more of it! :)
Hey I know I'm literally one year late commenting on your comment lol but if your still around , mAy I ask if you doing any psychedelics boost that trait or just your imagination it'self,?
@@Foxsea96 "Disconnecting from reality and living in your own world" doesn't have to involve psychedelic. I'm just watching a show, listening to music or draw for a bit.
I think that living in my fantasy is what takes me away and when I get scared or anxious it’s so easy to float away to those fantasy places
Dissociation is my bread and butter at this point. I didn't have any friends or anyone to really talk with for quite a large portion of my life (circa 4 years). In that time, I started to gravitate more and more towards fictional characters, idolising them and making up scenarios in my head where I could talk to them. Which ones depends on what fandom I am in at the time. I still do this even now that I do have friends and I keep wishing some magical power will take me away from this world so I can physically be with the characters I love. Writing about it makes it feel less real so I don't even practice writing, a hobby I love, to deal with these feelings.
I feel lazy, like I'm making up excuses for why I don't "work" or why I'm broken. I feel shitty all the time and I don't know how to stop in any other way than to dive back into my fantasy world and talk to the people there. And they don't even know more than I do because they're in my head! And the worst thing is... I don't want to stop. I fear it will make my life boring and that the things I enjoy will become worthless to me and the characters I love won't be alive to me anymore.
I didn't even know dissociation was a thing! It explains so much. I spent a whole year in a completely different world, I didn't talk to anyone, I didn't pay attention in class, and I spent all my free time and work time in my own head until I didn't know what was real anymore...
I really love your content!! Could you do a video on constant depersonalization, just some tips or advise? If not thats ok!
PeachyCactus Thanks for the suggestion! We will keep it in mind.
I use reaction formation, repression/denial and dissociation. I try to avoid my problems for as long as possible and sometimes I pretend I don't even have them in the first place (I pretend it doesn't bother me or that I'm happy with it) or I try to forget about them completely by dissociating
1:17 so, every tsundere in anime XD
yes
What I was thinking
Yup!
Originally the trope didn't used it as a mechanism itself, but more as a character trait that was not harmful (i'm talking back in the 80's and 90's), just to genuinely show anger.
exactly
Rationalization....
Sometimes when I get in a bad mood, I try my best to compromise with myself. My example: " Look, you are around your friends and you cant be angry around your them because you know you are scary when you get angry, BUT you can listen to music when you get home and punch the air for as long as you want. Dont break anything, though. "
Is this a bad thing? I really dont know because I have done this coping ever since I was young. If it is, please tell me if I should do anything otherwise.
How is this art style so perfect?? Also i really love your content :3
Candiied Candles Thanks for the feedback!
Psych2Go no problem :>
your voice is so calming like can u be every school teacher i have id actually learn something.
i'm not sure what this is called, but i think it's avolition. it's when you completely detach yourself from all emotion to help you cope with anxiety. that's what i did and i can't seem to get out.
aelunannatic
I’m honestly a little jealous. I know it must be hard on you at times, but just thinking about not having anxiety....
This is giving me anxiety, actually.
Meghan Kearns it's seems nice until all hell breaks loose, you then have to deal with years of repressed emotions and feelings. I was in the abyss for weeks (dying inside but no one noticed) and generally felt anxious and bad for months, non stop. The good side is I had to change/evolve to deal with it, change is great.
Toto Toto
I guess the fact that you’ve learned from your experience and accepted a change (which yes, it can be nice) makes it okay. Thank you for sharing that.
I do hope to be able to change my anxious ways one day. Not looking for it to be gone... just easily managed. If that makes sense?
Meghan Kearns
i have severe anxiety and just being without it makes me feel empty. imagine you start shaking and crying but you don't feel sad or scared. you just sit there confused in your panicked shell. this isn't easily managed. i detached myself unconsciously and only began to realize when the world started to feel empty. i'd rather have my anxiety back, honestly.
aelunannatic
Do you know that song “Pain” by Three Days Grace? One of my favorite lines of lyrics says “I’d rather feel pain than nothing at all”. With that being said, I do agree with you.
Btw, I have had that happen to me before. It usually confuses me and tires me out so much, I end up eventually falling asleep. I appreciate you telling me this.
Is there any way you think you could, in a way, “knock” yourself back into how you used to be? Like, trying to feel again? Even if it means being full of anxiety again. I’m not sure if that would be possible. They say when you really put your mind to something, anything is possible. I say BS, but I’ve been able to put my mind to a few things. Like, for example, “knocking” myself out of some OCD tendencies I had at a much younger age. I basically had to convince myself I was being ridiculous and couldn’t live easily with how embarrassing it all was. To me, at least.
great video Psych2Go, it is helpful and just wow this is an amazing video!!
Time stamps:
0:06 Defense Mechanism
0:23 Displacement
0:39 Projection
0:51 Rationalization
1:11 Reaction Formation
1:23 Regression
1:35 Repression/Denial
1:54 Sublimation
2:11 Dissociation
2:35 Intellectualization
2:57 Compensation
I just don't really have emotions, I feel hallow or just underlyingly monotone, nothing makes me upset, idk if that's a defense or some things wrong with me but yeaj
Actually, it used to be the exact same thing for me. I would generally be not as cold as a sociopath, but still colder than everyone else. I remembered all of the bad events but felt nothing because of them, actually, I usually got a bit colder when thinking about them. Then, after searching for the answer for awhile, I noticed that I sometimes would lash out at people for no reason. I found out that I had just one of the defense mechanisms listed in the video, but a few of them combined. I would imagine that I was completely fine with it, I would repress the sadness and anger, and once it became too much, I would take it out on others, without even realising it.
I would recommend looking at your actions and what effects have on you immediately, but soon afterwards too. Take some time to reflect on yourself, and the answer should be at least clear enough to lead you on from there. If not, then go see a physiatrist about it, because it wont be fine if you leave it unattended, it will only get worse, and one day in the future, no matter what problem you have, you'll regret not fixing it.
anhedonia? its a condition..
Both of your cases sound like depression symptoms
nobody You could be a psychopath. All of the movies about psychopaths make psychopaths out to be people who are crazy, but in reality, being a psychopath just means you were born without being able to feel sadness. One example I can remember of someone who was a psychopath was that his grandmother had died, but he didn't feel upset about it. I hope this can help you just a little bit. Or it may make you feel bad, sorry if it makes you feel bad.
Me too! I was hoping they covered this in the video but it didn’t. I thought I was the only one who felt like that🤔
Here are all the types of defense mechanisms:
1. Displacement 0:23
2. Projection 0:38
3. Rationalization 0:51
4. Reaction Formation 1:10
5. Regression 1:22
6. Repression/Denial 1:33
7. Sublimation 1:54
8. Dissociation 2:10
9. Intellectualization 2:34
10. Compensation 2:55
I really like the music/sound effects!
Thanks! We are going to be experimenting with sound effects and music in our upcoming videos. We want to elevate our content!
Psych2Go great!!
“Dissociation”? I’ve always used the term “Escapism” instead
Always uploading great content. Thanks for making it, I look forward to seeing every new post 🙆
FirstTime ISawJupiter Thank you! We will have at least two more new uploads this week :)
Psych2Go awesome 🌝
psych2go is my favorite yt channel.
When I was 17, I was sitting in class and suddenly had access to 10 years worth of sexual abuse memories (age 4 to 14). When you remember something like that, you (emotionally) feel the same as if it had just happened. It took a very long time to recover.
Intellectualizition is my go-to. You cannot be upset when you’re too busy deducing, researching, and extrapolating your deepest traumas. Turning terrible realizations into “Eureka!” Moments.
Someone: *Dives deep into talking about family and dysfuctional parents*
Me: Haha nope! Let's talk about that awesome band p!atd.
Me later in my room: *curls up, try not to cry, cry and go over suicidal/homocidal thoughts*
Are you trying to cope and keep yourself mentally healthy? If so, great! If not... 🥘☕️
Here’s some warm soup and hot tea! I hope this’ll do for now, pretending this food and hot tea is homemade. Enjoy, and life *will* get better! Even if it seems like it won’t, trust me, it will eventually. My heart goes out to you 💕 Stay strong, you can do this!
@@petalmist0288 Nah, I'm okay, I have friends, video games, books and youtube to keep me going. Family is a touchy subject but I don't think too much about it. Thanks, but I'm not a caffeine person so I'll just take the soup.
@Cosmic Jordan Okay! In that case, I wish you good luck and safety during this lockdown all the same~
Have a great day/night/afternoon!
I have a habit of ignoring yet acknowledging my problems. Similar to procrastination. I know they are there, I know I'll have to face them sooner or later. But I wait until the day comes or I deal with it very slowly, almost near the deadline, sometimes before that.
Other times my body just shuts down and I get sleepy. And other times I try to shove away the emotion that is troubling me
Hey! I really like your videos and I just had an idea for one that you might like. It would be about some people (including me lol) that feel sad after ending movies, series, a video game or a book. It actually is really interesting and has a lot to do with people's emotions. Hope your read this!
Fran Very relatable! It’s common to grow attached to the characters, and temporarily feel slight emptiness when it’s all over.
Psych2Go Thank you for reading it and responding! Hope someday (ofc if you want) it inspires you all to make a video about it! ❤️ Love the channel btw!
1-displacements sometimes
3-rationalisation sometimes
4-reaction formation
5-regression sometimes
6-repression/denial
8-dissociation
9-intelectualisation
Best way to go about problems:
Stop caring and just go to bed
I use dissociation a lot. Listening to music and pretending I’m in another world makes me feel better. It helps me escape.
"i'm not projecting, you're projecting!"
Alex Holland ha ha!
I probably showcase each and every one of these behaviours when faced with different people who thread my path on a regular. Thanks for putting a name to the act
Dissosiation
I tend to dissociate and repress a lot, followed by intellectualization and reaction formation. One of the healthier ways I cope with things is through writing, which I guess would fall under sublimation.
I'm just now learning coping skills -- at 25 -- because no one ever bothered to teach me them as a child. It actually kind of boggles my mind to know that it's something that you CAN teach.
Disassociation is my life and repression, yep still trying to figure out how to live what ever "normal" is
1.displacement 0:23
2.projection 0:38
3.rationalization 0:51
4.reaction formation 1:09
5.regression 1:22
6.repression/denial 1:34
7.sublimation 1:54
8.dissociation 2:10
9.intellectualization 2:34
10.compensation 2:55
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Thx!
My teacher played one of your videos in class! i really like your channel! very nice :D
I use humour. I'm dying inside lol
i love how the channel is improving so well!! keep it up ♡
..vol... tron?? Thank you! We want to improve the quality of our videos even more :)
100% dissociation
Hi
I’ve used disassociation so much I have an entire world, timeline, lore, and everything.
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We love you too!
Disassociation was a huge one for me growing up. I use to lay in bed for hours as a kid living in my own cartoon world as a superhero. Drawing new characters for my world... listening to the same music over and over. I remember not wanting to leave that world. It was comforting in a time of my life where I had little to no control over what happened to me. I recently told my brother about all this. He says that's probably why I don't remember the things he remembers about our childhood.
when I am sad I write poems . hahaha
Priyanka Shrivastav writing is a great creative outlet and coping mechanism!
Share one , I do it sometimes too😁
Dark debunker ya sure. but it kind of depressive. hahahs
Priyanka Shrivastav no problem I like drepressive poems and songs
Priyanka Shrivastav are you Indian? Don't mind if you are not.
You worth more popularation than that. I mean, your videos are contentful and well-animated. There is not many channel can do that. Btw I hope my poor english can say my appreciation.
Is it good to play competitive online games when you have a super low self esteem?
CyberDragon5561 I would say so. Sometimes they can raise you levels of esteem just because you are good at them or have fun with them. I tend to feel very good when I play videogames or know a lot about a certain topic. Usually I am the most introverted person ever.
CrystallizedSoul658 what if you get sad everytime you loose?
CyberDragon5561 Well, yeah when you lose you may get sad, but if you have fun playing the game or your determined to win, then you may be able to go back to happy. And it's not necessarily a bad thing to be sad. Or you could play a game where no one loses.
CrystallizedSoul658 that doesn't happen with me. I loose and get discouraged and then basically stop playing. I start to loose every game I play
CyberDragon5561 Well then after you play a game that makes you mad, do something that makes you happy. Like your favorite hobby (IF your favorite hobby is videogames then do your second favorite hobby).
Run from people who habe displacement, my dad was one of these he used to work from 7 -> 5 come home and never asked how have you been doing? instead he started questioning whether me and my older brothers followed his orders or not. Now I am 30, I am so thankful to my mother that she raised us well so otherwise we could have killed him or turned our lives upside-down.
emotional numbness pls
I use:
- Reaction Formation
- Repression/Denial
- Dissociation
Dissociation I live on lala land lane😂
I usually laugh when im in a difficult situation. I walked 5 miles to my ex a couple days after we broke up. When i showed up i asked to talk and she told me to leave. She had no emotion on her face so i couldn't help but to point it out and laugh. She asked why i was laughing which eventually turned into crying and then yelling at her when i was walking away. It was hard for me to believe that i would go through all this effort for someone just to have them to tell me to leave. I sat at a park for an hour bawling my eyes out. I had crashed my car the week before. Laughed about it. Then a month later got robbed at gunpoint and laughed about it. She hasnt come back since, and im on a better path in school and health. 💚🤍
I was going to log in on betterhelp.com but they wrote me . "we cant help you " i really wanted join to this ... :/ to get some help or someone who i can talk about this topics. Please help me
RonnieDarkness hey Ronnie! Could you please go into further detail about this? If you want to chat to someone in private, please email me at wendy@psych2go.net
Psych2Go yes i will Think about it thenk you so much .
Definitely a Reaction Formation user here.
I love your content with relaxing music,
the video was a bit too fast for me to catch up to
but (could always use the pause button).
Thank you!
Social isolation because of trust issues.
Ps: am I the only one?
No. Social isolation has become my lifestyle for years.
Thanks you just saved me from 2 hours of studying...... ❤ keep growing and doing this noble work ❤
Thanks for this! This helped me a lot into understanding our lesson, sometimes definitions in books can be really complex. Examples is a big help too :)
Dissociation isn’t just living in your own world, it’s scary, terrifying even, especially when it happens so suddenly. It’s useful, indeed, it protects us from traumatic experiences and stress but if it doesn’t pass quickly, it becomes maladaptive and it’s an issue.
This year, I got the opportunity to be a leader for my section in band. It was a rollercoaster of new experiences and learning to take my mistakes and balance the results. But one thing has been consistent. The planning. Every time an event would come up I’d have numerous pages on how to solve issues that might come up. One of our freshmen feels uncomfortable next to a certain sophomore? make sure I or another person is between them at ALL times. Another freshman is stressed about not memorizing a song? Help them memorize it by slowly piecing each part together. A subordinate thinks I’m unfit to be leader and thinks they would do a better job despite the fact that THEY DIDN’T EVEN TRY OUT?! Make a very elaborate and over complicated plan to make her aware that even tho we’re friends, I won’t take this attitude from her. That last plan fell through spectacularly when she tried to manipulate me into sadness by telling me someone was mad at me and expecting me to wallow in guilt and self loathing instead of immediately confronting the person about it besides that being her second attempt to do that exact same thing with the same result. I ended up yelling at her. Pro tip, if your trying to manipulate someone, trying to manipulate a no bs, extremely confident person only leads to you getting your metaphorical teeth beaten into your metaphorical skull. Regardless, when my plans fell through, all I had was my raw emotions which does not feel good... I don’t know if this will help anyone, but it feels nice to get off my chest...
I tend to use:
Reaction Formation
Isolation
Intellectualisation
I tend to dissociate from reality, and act like my problems are no big deal, that’s how I can put on a convincing smile and move forward, I place myself in a different setting in my head, with idealistic reality’s so I don’t have to face my problems. I am fully aware it may not be the healthiest coping method, but it’s the only one that works
When becoming aware of defense mechanisms in your behavior you can act on it. Your mind, your control.
But when noticing defense mechanisms in someone else and dealing with the fallout it causes, how do you deal with it?
- Do you hold up the mirror to someone?
- Do you directly address the issue, while respecting the person?
- Do you say and do nothing?
- Do you distance yourself from the person?
- Do you feel with it in another way?
Identifying someone's boundaries can be difficult, since their emotions are so personal. What's your way?
I somewhat use denial, regression and the one where you act the opposite you feel. And dissociation
Happy Tuesday too, psych2go. Great video. Much gratitude to your channel. Gratitude is a subject needing covered
1. Displacement
2. Projection
3. Rationalization
4. Reaction Formation
5. Regression
6. Repression/Denial
7. Sublimation
8. Dissociation
9. Intellectualization
10. Compensation
I really like how you use examples to explain everything.
I wish the channel made more videos with this style and just generally as good as this one
I've used the 10th (compensation) my whole life, and I must say it helped me a lot.
Rationalizing problems and overthinking happen a lot to me, but you see when you just focus on the future and you don't have to worry about the past only the present to get you to your goal. I'm very dissapointed in my social life and I can rationalize the feeling that everyone hates me by just being like, nah, they dont, why would they say they're my friends if they hate me. Ahahah I've gotten to the point where I guess I'm talking about my internal problems through a RUclips comment... Legendary
6, & 8 are ones I'm aware of. I would have preferred it if you also talked about the negative effects of some of these.
I was a victim of bullying from 3rd Grade all the way to graduating from high school. I refused to socialize with especially large groups since 3rd Grade because of that. Only close relatives were allowed anywhere near me, and even then there were times I just needed to be ALONE; that way no one can hurt me......
thank you so much! this was so helpful and the animations are just so cute!!
My Psychology final is in 2 days. Thank you for this!
When I feel stressed, I use that feeling and push it more to myself and make me cry and depressed, and then when I'm feeling depressed, I harm myself in many different ways like staying on my bed, starving myself, staying up too late etc. My brain has already adapted, and I feel good and for me it is normal. When I tell my friend what I do to deal with stress, they go "Omygod what are you doing to yourself?" and sometimes "You need to see a therapist", I get so confused, for people it isn't normal but why, in my perspective, it is normal for me to do this? I researched and found out it is my defense mechanism to handle the stress, my anxiety, my depression and my problems. I actually even thought I was intolerant to stress lol. I do different things now, I listen to music, or draw, or just do something that makes me feel relaxed rather than harming my body.
EDIT: Stress is my everyday life, home or school, or even outside. I get stress everyday and I don't feel relaxed at all, I don't even know what relaxation feel before I discovered my new ways of coping
Number 10, Compensation. "The counter balancing of perceived flaws."
Well perceiving is believing to me. Compensation is needed to adjust to relationship reality. I would call it a necessary defense mechanism.
Yeah, that seems healthy! I feel that they should mention which are healthy nd unhealthy mechanisms. However, some of them depends on the individual.