Toxic Positivity, Gaslighting, and Sibling Estrangement
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- Опубликовано: 11 окт 2024
- Many people aren’t aware of the concept of toxic positivity, which is a subtle form of gaslighting and manipulation. This pattern of behavior rejects or glosses over negative emotions to project an upbeat, positive image. Especially evident at this time of year -- on holiday cards and social media -- toxic positivity can be a kind of group gaslighting that creates a false narrative of the happy family. This pattern also can become a form of censorship, as no one is allowed or encouraged to address troubling issues. Ultimately, relationships in a family culture that engages in toxic positivity may become stuck in a superficial, limited connection, resulting in distance between relatives and even estrangement. This intriguing episode explores the little-known pattern of toxic positivity in a family culture and how to address it.
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thank you for validating what I've been experiencing for over 50 years.
You’re quite welcome! It’s good to take hard that you’re not alone. 😊
The lack of empathy and the "just be positive," its SO frustrating yet I still stand. At keast I can stand in my own TRUTH. It compromises my peace and sanity. It's not healthy...it never was.
Thank you so much for this. It was so helpful for me to hear this today. These patterns are so strong in my family and I’ve always given into them just to keep my family. Not anymore, but it is so sad because nothing has ever been able to change for us and I had to accept that sibling was not able to make adjustments or worse, not willing to make. Very painful for me, still. It hurts so much……
Ignoring pain is never good. There is a right way to deal with the wounds of the heart.
My sister is a mental health counselor for the state and she acts so clueless when it comes to the issues with our mother. St first she was on my side and agreed with me then out of nowhere she became cold and distant
It's painful yet needs to be heard, especially from the sibling who bullies and harms even the whole family down to their children seeing their mother being abused.
also, my Aunt is like this..her toxic positivity is disgusting and the things she says are gaslighting. She lives in denial and lives in superficiality...I mean telling me to get over multiple painful traumas that still occur, while her face is botoxed up like no other... She also lived off my family business and never worked in the business a day in her life whereas my brother and I have since we were 12.
Whoa, I just experience all these things described with 3 separate members of my family at different times in the last three months. I thought I was losing my mind. This caused 3 months of intense rumination and lost sleep. Thank you so much for explaining what I've been experiencing.
I was mistaken when I wrote "You had to have known this wouldn't go viral," so thank you. At least 73 souls who were badly in need had some fellowship. It beats 0 souls and 0 fellowship by quite a lot.
Thanks. We aim to create relevant content for the sibling estrangement community. We are quite happy that this video is getting traction. Not sure where you’re getting your numbers from. This is among our most viewed videos.
I made my mistaken assumption based on the likes. I'm thrilled about being wrong, because your work is quite valuable.@@SiblingEstrangement
The story of my life. Wow.
"It takes away any attunement that you were reaching out for" and "...it also edges towards enabling." She nailed it. This is painful to experience. I have a half sister like this who I cut out of my life. I feel sad because I wanted to get to know who she really is, and for her to get to know me, but it was not safe and no longer worth it.
Thank you for addressing this!
Great stuff. As much as I’ve grown from this adversity with your shared knowledge. I have done this toxic positive stuff to myself. Thus dismissing myself? I am giving the narrative over to others as well because it will lead to further estrangement and more gaslighting. It’s not ok I know. It’s damned if you address it and damned if you don’t .Im working on it. Thx
Great information! Also you sound like Ernie from the muppets and I’m here for it ❤
lol 😂
Also, I'm sorry if instead of I apologize for.