How to Spot Autism in High Masking Autistic Women Preview for This Friday’s Video
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A mask can be like a façade or an optical illusion that looks flawless at a certain angle but on a different angle or perspective, it looks different and the illusion breaks down. Essentially, the mask implies something that doesn’t really exist. Instead behind the mask is a hidden inner experience. The distinction between the person and the mask is it is what is underneath that is the most important thing and this experience needs to be validated.
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Do you consider yourself ‘high masking’? How have you found validation for your experience?
Yes 100%
Yes. I haven’t found it.
Yes. I finally crashed. Nobody cares anyway.
I've crashed too. I'm going to get assessed next week. Just hold on & do something you enjoy. I get how you are feeling totally.
Yes. I've shared it with a few people and in some cases I got the "No, I don't think you're autistic". I'm a teacher so people tend to think that because I talk in front of s lot of people every day I cannot possibly have issues with social situations. I mask the most when I'm at work.
High-masking is like customer service voice for all of eternity
*SCREAM INTERNERALLY* "How may I help you?" :smile:
It's why I have resting bitch voice :/ And I literally echoed "Welcome" to a guy in a store the other day.
That is the perfect way to put it
roflmao
Radio voice!
30 years of masking and people never believe that I’m autistic. The most invalidating thing is when people say I’m ‘pretending to be stupid’ when my skill gaps become apparent.
I have gotten that ..
Same here not diagnosed officially yet, but I turn 30 in april
My teenager who doesn’t have typical autistic speech patterns gets called manipulative by friends when challenges present like having a shut down
@@annie.hi. it’s insane to me that people would believe we WANT to be like this
That's so cruel. You are very brave, thank you for sharing.
After 36 years of masking i had/have a full blown identity crisis about who i am.
Diagnosed as autistic with 37, and now with 38 i just try to find myself and get back in a comfortable "shape".
I think I know what you mean by "shape". For me (diagnosed in my 40s) it's like I've been living constrained in a cage and now the cage is gone, but I'm still learning to stretch and grow myself into my natural shape. It takes some time.
I had a full blown melt down in the middle of the high street one day as I literally have no idea who the real me is and it made me really panic …finally getting my assessment aged 51 maybe now I’ll find out
Rel, sisters. 43, just diagnosed self suspecting for a year
@@cazridley5822 63. Waiting for a written report.
Omg . I feel quite the same since I Had an Breakdown lately . And than were diagnosed recently. I masked myself for so Long i guess i cant find myself ...
And sorry English ist Not my mother language.
Best wishes for your Future .
This is my issue right now. I masked so well that most people don't believe me, but they don't understand how soul-crushing it is. To keep up appearances.
just see what it means to not bring a mask. do what you feel but in public. it’s ok to be a person so accept yourself and the mask becomes less a required tool.
Feeling it too, thank you for the words
@@chinmeysway I tried this and had a neighbourhood watch group aggressively approach me for looking suspicious 🤣. I looked too interested in their front gardens 😂 there were cats and flowers everywhere though!
@@stephstevens2ahh i luv looking at ppls yards for sure! shame ppl are so paranoid. it’s not community building to own homes in a neighborhood it turns out. so that’s on them not you and your curiosity! if we all trusted each other better use of masking wouldn’t be a thing. it’s a response to societal collective action problems more that neuro predisposition.
Very recognizable. Always adapted myself to my environment creating a social mask. When I tell people bout my autism and the struggles and insecurities around social endeavors they all look at me weird.
it’s ok to be looked at weird maybe? i mean those ppl are into being some weird dysfunctional emotional cardboard out of touch type ppl and you’re welcome to look at them weird. we’re all fucking weird so. as long as you articulate your experience well then just avoid meat zombie non thinkers or there’s also ways to say a lot without the term autism. you’d be surprised maybe how relatable the symptoms are or that’s what i’ve found. the mask is a huge huge spectrum just as neurology is.
I'm one of the few females on the spectrum I know that didn't mask much. I officially found out in my late 20s, after persuasion of a male autistic friend to get checked out. When I told people about a diagnosis I had a lot of people respond that they weren't surprised! Though, some older family members didn't believe me because they said there's nothing wrong with me (they were thinking one has to be like Rainman or something) instead, I am just a picky eater and eccentric. 😅
Very similar story here, except, I am double your age. My Mum went quiet when I told her. Then two weeks later she said "yes, you are." People who know me well (there are not many) have all confirmed that they think I am.
Should I try to get diagnosed? My friend, who flagged this to me, is so tired, so deep in burnout she can barely move around.
I don't want to feel like that.
@@christinechapman9764Getting burnout happens without diagnosis aswell, so I don't think it's connected to getting a diagnosis. One reason to NOT get a diagnosis is if you feel like you don't need any support/resources or even just validation/proof that you are on the spectrum, but burnout comes regardles of diagnosis so don't let that stop you.
@@ellem8990 thanks for the advice, I kind of came to the same conclusion myself since writing that. Knowing that I am neuro diverse in itself has helped me, I may not get any adjustments, but I make my own. I will be okay 👍
I’m 26 and didn’t know I’ve been masking my entire life. Copying any form of behavior that is considered “normal”, from peers to movie and tv show characters. I’m slowly trying to unmask and be myself. But I realize that my true self isn’t this overly excitable person which was the reason for my masking. Excitability is socially acceptable compared to not caring about things I really don’t care about or having a resting face.
Your first statement is SO true. I've often said that if I'd been born male, my social conditioning wouldn't have been as successful (and draining).
Bingo. The strength would have been identified likely and protected. The focus on women tends to be what doesn’t work as opposed to what does.
Yes, it’s been a wild ride for many years. Now I’m trying to unmask while awaiting an official diagnosis.
Thank you for all you share. I’m learning so much. However, most people think I’m lying or faking. It’s incredibly difficult to navigate.
I so relate to this. I was afraid of starting my RUclips channel for this reason. Many people doubt my diagnosis and it’s disheartening, but I need to keep moving forward and share my voice so that people can understand.
I self diagnosed. Have been ridiculed by "friends" and sadly, the family.
Yessss!!!! Keep going !!!
The.people who need to hear you will have another opinion .
Lol everyone says im autistic but apparently I might never diagnosed. That's a lot of money
This short feels very much like a tease.
I can't wait to watch the full video 💖💖💖
Yes and I'm wondering where to find the rest of it.
@@minakelly4081me too
I have masked for 51 years to the point I have no idea who the real me is ..I have my assessment in 2 weeks time ..the me that lives in my head is and who is very unhappy is way different to the external shell the world sees
I hope you get your diagnosis. And even if you don't: be kind and patient with yourself. It takes time to get to know and rebuild yourself after decades of masking.
(I was diagnosed at 54 in 2019. What a - wonderful - journey it has been. Hoping the sam for you!)
@@lisedenmark thank you for such kind words it’s really hard when all your life you have been told you are bad or weird or had your own mother tell you that you aren’t right in the head but I’m hoping that diagnosis will give me the permission to be me and to be nicer to me
Your comment rang true.I will be 54 soon.My daughter has Autism 1 and other co morbid conditions.I have always felt earth wasn't my home.@@cazridley5822
I'm autistic too and I'm starting to believe this is true of everyone. If you need to explain masking to someone who doesn't get it, I'd explain it as how everyone isn't "really themselves" when they are at work, but when they come home they can take off that mask
It’s exhausting to high functional mask if you work full time for long days. 😢
@@catxtrallways I can relate. I’m sorry you went through that. As an adult I’ve looked back and realized that my family gaslit my symptoms and swept them under the rug as they enabled my masking as shyness or being quiet. I had no social skills. Then forced into preschool.
@@catxtrallways lol I love your reply and relate on so many levels. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. For me, I struggled reading social cues and girls we’re not assessed back then (dating myself lol). Then I was abandoned or mistreated by relationship partners bc I was “too difficult” or couldn’t love them right whatever that means. 🙄 As an adult, I’ve done a lot of self work while single. I fully accept my quirky kinky self and celebrate all of me. Stuart Smally is right but talks like my grandma lmao. Happy Thanksgiving 🍁
The thing is, that almost all people do that. Thats called “professional behaviour“ and can go as far as acting like normal even when close relative died. So people might not get it that there is a difference between their masking and autistic masking.
Sometimes, even in the comfort of my own home, I don't feel authentic
When I realized I had almost all of the traits of adult autistic women at age 38, I told my closest friends and they immediately were just like, “No, you’re not.” I still haven’t figured out how to get diagnosed and I just don’t talk about it anymore, but I’m more sure than ever.
You can talk to your gp who would refer you or directly contact a psychiatrist (they are doctors able to make these diagnosis). Though I'm sure your bestie ment to reassure you, you know yourself better than anyone else. The other comments here confirm that sometimes, the people closest to us are not well informed or love us too much to see the full picture. It would be a shame to not trust yourself and to spend your life with that doubt in the back of your head. You deserve to understand why you are the way you are and to learn what work for you. You've got this!
I don't know if I am, it sucks, I want to be able to protect myself if people expect me to be normal but I don't know if I'm just exaggerating. Like I don't feel autistic enough to think I am autistic because I can handle a bit of change and new environments. But today I feel on the verge of shutting down and I try to google why I can't emote but it just comes up with emotional blunting and I am definitely feeling way too much I can't name anything under the surface.
Someone came and said I can't hide in my room all day, and I said I was stressed, and they asked why... I hate that question, I don't know. So I started crying trying to give reasons and all I wanted was for her to leave but she hugged me because I was crying. I want to be diagnosed so I'm not so confused and self doubting. I wish I were the kind of person who would have a meltdown when I got hugged but all I said was thank you. I guess I had a panic attack after
I was told by my SPOUSE that I needed to work harder to get to know people because I seem to tense up and seem anti-social. old me (before diagnosis) would try (and fail) to be more "normal". New me, simply said, "sure babe" but internally I was like, "naw, I'd rather read a book, deuces" ✌. fyi, he knows my diagnosis, but is a typical neurotypical ...
My family doesn’t believe I have autism or ADD. Even though my sister was diagnosed with Asperger’s and my son has been diagnosed as on the spectrum. I’m in my 60’s so I have had a lot of experience in the social and work world to study how to act and how to blend in. When I was growing up there wasn’t a spectrum, only kids who couldn’t communicate or were completely antisocial were considered autistic. I’m learning a lot from you. I lived my whole life thinking I was not smart or hard working or normal.
Thank you😊
You're welcome 😊
Thank you. When I had a relative ask the waitress if the pizza 🍕 included cheese and tomato sauce, it confirmed alot of what I was thinking.
When I first heard about masking I genuinely thought, “well how could that be a symptom if everyone changes hides parts of themselves.” And I guess partially people hide parts of themselves, but they don’t hide and change everything to conform like I do.
I love your videos. You are helping me a lot. Diagnosed last year at 64. It’s been very rough to say the least. Thank you!!
I don't see my mask as not me. It is a part of me i cultivated out if the things I admired in the world and wanted to be and used those to learn how to express myself in the way I wanted to express myself. It just isn't the full picture per saw. But I many ppl behave differently out in the world then they do in privacy or with friends so I personally don't see that as a difference in myself. It just takes me alot of energy and sometimes I odnt feel like I want to put it on because it's u planed or whatever, but it is me and accept it as part of me. And I'm going to love it the same as I love me and be less hard on myself. And if others question me. It isn't any different thna being questioned about anything else I've ever done or been in my life. It's only hurtful when those close to u tell u its an excuse and don't support u. But that's on them in the end. Their lives must be their own kind of bad to be that kind of negative nasty person.
That's an interesting perspective on masking, I really need to reflect about it. Maybe the mask has become my real identity, somehow? I mean, if I take the mask and what is behind are just the autistics traits, I don't exist at all! 😮
I am very ahead of my age academically and when I tell people I’m autistic they r unbelieving
Amazing message got this by each inner circle person I've told. I'm here to spread peace and love.
I’m right where you are speaking about being, that high-functioning/high-masking yet-to-be-diagnosed adult woman who always knew there was something off. Is it common to lose yourself (feel like you don’t know who you are) if you go undiagnosed and don’t realize how masked up you’ve been for 36 years? My mother had a mental health stigma that kept her from pursuing consistant care for my ADHD when I was young. ADHD showed itself in the 1st grade, my teacher spoke to my mother in a conference and recommended testing. Yup, ADHD. My Mom didn’t want me on medication because she wasn’t convinced (stigma) and had her own resistance to treating her own mental illness with medication. She’s a skeptic that only really sees “autism” as non-verbal and low-functioning. So I never was able to pursue my questions, or voice them really. I’m a chatterbox, and even though it took me a while to be able to read people slightly, I still can’t tell if I am making people uncomfortable. I am highly self conscious, highly self-corrective, and my mental script is always on and thinking. I’m an extrovert, but over the years I’ve closeted myself because my self confidence has been effected by others perception (or what I think they perceive). I have a very high-speed brain and tend to notice details about things that others don’t. I’m a “funny” blend, not “haha”, but different in my opinion… I have never known another adult female with AuDHD to compare experiences, so I have spent years wondering why I am how I am. Thank you for your videos, thank you for providing a place for education, I always appreciate your insight! I’m on my journey of self discovery, and you’ve helped me so very much in that process!
I thought you were going to tell us how to spot autism in a person.
Says preview for Fridays video
Some people claim high masking since early childhood as reason no one noticed anything, including themselves for decades. Masking takes some degree of social awareness & self control.
This is me - definitely masking since early childhood, plus I have ADHD which also masks it.
@@rainbowstarks I don't believe in masking fulltime for decades so that no one notices anything including the person themselves
Things can happen unconciously. If a small child has the ability to analyse and make themself fit in, they might not even recognize what they did.
@@lovepeace2373 several people expressed noticed differences with both me (PDD-NOS) & son (Aspergers) in childhood. This masking fulltime since early childhood excuse without realizing is BS
@@BipolarCourage with YOU.
You are one person.
Many times infants, older children and even adults are not diagnosed, thats simply a fact.
I can’t even fake eye contact ugh I just look away all the time and seem rude
Me too
It’s because of you that I found out that I and most of my family are autistic. Thank you so much 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I don't consider it masking. I just add social cues I've learned into my already awesome personality.
A lot of people at my school tell me in not autistic, I might not be. I have done a lot and I mean a lot of research, I’ve tried to be able to do a test but it takes too long. I would be level one autistic. People say I’m not autistic because I don’t act like someone would if they have level three autism. I do stim, I have sensory issues, and my friend that is diagnosed with autism tells me I’m autistic (not as a joke.) I get upset when people tell me I don’t act autistic because it’s normalized that kids that have autism act crazy and aren’t smart. When I go nonverbal no one cares and keep talking to me, I am forced to talk. IM TIRED OF IT!!
I don't think I ever really masked except this one time I smiled the biggest fake smile in a picture. I'm pretty certain I'm autistic I've always felt othered and different from my family and there was always a focus on trying to force me to be something other than who I am. Pretty sure I get it from my dad.
I don't know if I have autism, people I'm shy, and they might be right but I know it's not, when I talk to someone my mind is like 'Why are you talking to me?', 'How do you talk?', 'What do you talk about' and that equals what I call word vomit, I say a lot of stuff that just tries to continue a conversation and I'm reminded this is why I don't like talking. Cause eventually I run out of words. It's left with awkwardness. So I awkwardly just leave.
Thank you for your videos. They are extremely helpful, reassuring and down to earth. Insightful too. :)
Im running into this right now. First time Ive been open and transparent on the job.
I would add that the little personal pretend 'tests' that colleagues try on you that we have to jump hurdles with ie...done by ther staff, not a propper inquiry...are the worst. The assumptions as well are herendous!
I'm a professional high masking autistic individual. People eventually will end up treating me badly because I seem unmeaningful or stupid at times. Not that professional.
Thank you.
louder for the mysogynistic bogus 'psychiatrists' in the back
I’m 23 now, it feels like I’m unable to do anything because of the constant masking. I’m afraid anything I create will be something that the mask thinks is art when in reality it’s nothing like what I want. Being raised around constant stress and anger (telling the dog to shut the fuck up and get out of the way then saying how much he loves her) has fried my brain, it genuinely feels like there’s no comeback.
I like your voice💖✨
That's the nicest thing I ever heard anyone say in my whole life.
Oh my goodness! I was just thinking about this. After being a leader in business & my church for years, I was diagnosed with ADHD (originally self diagnosed) 2 months ago & ASD last Wednesday. It’s like the final puzzle piece has been given to me. I’ve been a bit angry, that no one has ever picked this up before, but as you say, we mask. I’ve always felt different & always said I’m a chameleon. Now I know why. I was thinking about how at times I’ve been quite the sophisticate & others, that I am clumsy & goofy.
So so so relieved to find out what’s been going on my whole life.
Part of me wishes this was true for me. I'll be 40 this year. If I'm well rested, not overestimated, feeling comfortable. Yea I can easily mask very well. But I still struggle with monopolizing conversations that involve an interest of mine. I still at times will get blind sided by a "good morning, how are you?" My brain system just locks up cause it's like my mind is on a highway and someone suddenly dropped stop sign in the road and it makes no sense. So my thinking locks up, I can't even think. I've been known to stare at them. Or pass them by without saying anything. I try to go back and explain later if I'm not too embarrassed or just plain forget.
Thank you SO much!!! ❤😂🙌🏻☀️🌈💃🏻🥰
It sucks when u have genuine interests hobbies etc ppl think some thing has to be wrong 😑
Why ain’t poll not allowed to be happy
The heavy makeup some people wear(is that high masking?) is a serious turnoff. If there is a port wine stain, okay, but even that can be treated.
Thank you for sharing this content!
Absolutely. When i finally open up they don’t have the best response
This was my EXACT situation!
Ive been masking all my life, now that I stopped, they all tell me that I'm acting weird
Making me feel SEEN over here! 💜
All I do is mask when I tell people that I'm on the spectrum I'm told I'm not
I learnt not to tell anyone
Many people mask habitually in their adulthood. I don’t know how not to mask even when I’m exhausted from doing so. At those times I can become reclusive. It’s very much a people exhaust me so I’m gonna need to be by myself to recharge situation. Been like that since I was a toddler but now the difference is I have vocab and communication tools to advocate for myself.
I'm bit high-masking mostly out of fear judgement from others because I feel as though I'm different from them 😔
I've just been diagnosed at age 50. I've always felt like I don't know who I am.
I'm unmasked rn and I'm struggling so much with living .
Elon Musk (not the best example).
Gretta Thurnberg.
The guy who directed the last Ghostbusters movie (the good movie).
Temple Grandin (professor).
Kim Peek.
My son.
my son
I hear it sometimes.
Can you have Autism but also are able to notice people emotions and feelings. Because I feel like I have Autism but I am very good with telling people's emotions and feelings due to tones of voices and facial expressions, but I'm able to do this because I hyper focus on it and because of anxiety, trauma, etc.
are you really good at it, or do you think everyone is constantly mad, threatening or disapproving you? there's a big difference
@@DiggerNecessaryah-
also, being diagnosed young doesn't mean masking doesn't happen. i was a lucky afab in the sense that i got both my adhd and autism diagnosis (technically i was diagnosed with asperger's but i reject that term personally) as a child, but i think my parents still tried to treat me NT and so i am at 36 still learning to unmask
My own personal experience:
Me: “mum I think I’m autistic.”
Mum: “you’re not autistic.”
🙃
"but you don't seem like you have several disorders"
"yeah I learned to act like in the 25 years I wasn't freaking diagnosed, Harold"
it reminds me of when Sia was asked by an autistic woman who was an actress why she didn't hire an autistic actress for her film and she replied maybe you're just a bad actor. high masking autistics are more or less by definition experts at certain kinds of acting already
Absolutely correct
True
Doesn't everyone mask at work? What is the difference between high masking and masking?
The World is not for us Autistic people, masking Kill me is not good for me. 😖
Masking is a truly horrible thing we have to go through, but try to stay positive for people who will except the real you.
✨ Self Isolation ✨
Masking is a lie for youself
i feel the same way, im not autistic, but my son is and I have ADHD
I never knew all my problems in life were actually autism, I bullied it out of myself and my dream in life was to become rich and get my own house and to not have to deal with society and finally take a breath of not wanting to wear fucking socks, it's not what the problems are it's the emotional disturbance about such small things and noo emotion towards most important issues of life, like I changed jobs because of having to wear socks but never understand why people think about marriage or kids and because I don't feel anything for it, I never went out for it. I am very good at studies and controlling myself, infact I freak out if routines are disturbed, but I can't spell things and that's why school wss horrible but I was excellent in college, I can't learn things unless I teach them to myself soo any kind of cources freak me out, but I get a book and read it in one seating and I teach myself those things in snap of a finger
thank you for this
I'm really curious, given the occurrence of women being diagnosed after 35 (I'm 42) because of the ability to mask..... How do the functions of estrogens in the brain contribute to "masking ability" in pre, peri, and post menopause females with ASD??
Thank you
I don’t mask well. But folks still question me. They just think I’m crazy or an asshole. I really am exhausted with people
I'm a social butterfly who can get on with anyone! In other words, I'm the hardest working person in the room lol
This is me and I have a hard time dealing with impostors syndrome from it or dealing with people thinking lying.
Would be cool to share these videos, the shorts, on Instagram or TikTok.
Who is to determine what is my true self? You? The so-called “autistic community”? Or, perhaps, healthcare professionals who do the diagnosing? No! None of those. I’m the one to decide what to consider my true self. And if I don’t like particular behavioral patterns I happen to have (including those that would qualify as symptoms of neurodiversity) and am making a tremendous effort to rid myself of them, no one - I repeat, no one - had a right to impose that on me as my “true self”. That’s why I have no interest in being diagnosed. Because my true self has nothing to do with whatever weird habits I might have for whatever reason.
I have been masking since first grade which is when I started public school now I don’t know what’s under the mask
That's me
This guy's beard is very symmetrical
They better deal with it, by saying that's it just the way i am. But no, she doesn't have Asperger's.But I think that even a blind person can see it.
my family doubts that i am actually autistic for some reason, when i was a kid, now, i could tell that i was definitely autistic while now, im pretty much masking all the time. 😅✌🏻
As an autistic person with a strong preference for dating other autistic women, this sounds handy.
How am i menna find fridays vid dnot even know how i stumbled across this one
I stopped trying to explain this to the people in my life. It's like talking to an npc.
Man. Here I am just obsessing over anime and coming up with the darkest, most sadistic things(though I’m too kind to act on any, it’s just another obsession) and when I told my friend I’m autistic-
My friend: 👁️👄👁️ wHaT DaH hEcK aRe YoU sAyInG? aFtEr aLl tHiS TiMe I NeVeR KnEw-ArE yOu LyInG rN????
Me: “Nope-“ 💀✋
I honestly don't get how people can judge people with autism.
So, what were the signs? 😊❤
Anyone else find it really difficult to mask as a female? So I'm not autistic diagnosed, but it's likely I have it (I am OCD diagnosed however). I can keep a mask on for awhile because my ability to provide first impressions is really good, but getting to know me is.....different. The mask essentially falls off on its own the more I talk to people, because I have a problem with oversharing and revealing that I'm not exactly "proficient" at work for example. Gotten disparaging comments about my age, my learning ability, my ability to deal with anxiety, it's pretty horrible. I envy autistic women who can mask fairly easily.
Heavy metal detox is what everyone has to do
I spot them like a stoner who recognizes other stoners (which I also recognize) 😅
*I’m disappointed that neither Jack or Ethan picked up on the fact that ‘The Donner Party’ is 1 letter off from ‘The Dinner Party.’*
I'm a identical mirror twin I'm a female andy twin sister and I are both 22 and autistic. We mask being autistic in public really well. At home not so much. Most of my coworkers don't know that I'm autistic. Just today I was in a store and I was looking for fidget toys and I asked a worker and she showed me. I didn't think I needed to say anything about myself being autistic. Not only was my friend there helping me look and she's autistic as well. Anyway the employee said normally teachers with autistic kids or parents of autistic kids come in here to get fidget toys not normal people and I snapped back well both my friend and I are autistic and she said oh sorry and shut up and walked away. I thought her comments kinda rude. Proves point that I'm good at masking and that you sometimes can't tell that people have a disability. So don't just say it's for this group of people bc you don't know them and they could have a disability or they could be getting it for someone who has a disability.
Why get all bent out of shape with ignorant people? Say nothing, consider the source then leave with whatever you've purchased.
I try to keep this in mind: stupid is as stupid does. Then think to myself, they'd NEVER be able to handle living this life! 😅
Years after my diagnosis I still feel like i dunno where the mask ends and where I start and this triggers me so much. Especially with youtube videos I can't tell where I am myself. And i keep struggling asking myself why this is so important to estabilish. Why can't I mostly enjoy being me?
Hey I think I have Asperger’s. Like I feel a disconnect from every body socially. Like it’s so easy for everyone to start a conversation with each other or picking up on hidden jokes. I feel like I have that Third Rock feeling. I can’t put my finger on it. I just know there something different about me could it be??
what you described has a chance to overlap with the common diagnosis of Asperger. But still i am not a doctor. And even if i believe that self-analysis is super valid, male sure to let doctors make final diagnosis. You can make researches, talk to people, but if possible have a talk with a specialist for better and valid answers. I know it is expensive and also a privilege in many situations. But a diagnosis isn’t a finish goal. It is a starting point. :) - just wondering: do you have memories of you as a kid? Can you recall any of the specifics you mentioned from your childhood?
@@renflowergrapx Yes, I remember at 6 years old. I have no sense of danger or never understood danger. I used to put my hands on hot irons, stoves, electrical sockets. I did a lot of animal cruelty. I also put my brother in the hospital on purpose. I couldn’t feel anything and I was around 14. Also my mother noticed and told me I need to work on my emotions maybe by a book because I seem to rub people the wrong way or I need to be more polite to people. I don’t know like I said something feels off when I am around people.
@@Koba18013 All right, thank you for sharing. I don't want you to be this specific online, unless you feel comfortable to. i'd love to give you answers, but i'm not in the position to do so. What you describe can fit different situations and conditions. I'd recommend to take note of ALL the traits you believe belong to it and most of all a list of all the traits you believe cannot be part of it. Confronting a specialist it might be usefull to have a clear view of all the aspects you want to discuss of. For me it has been crucial.
Do you know any youtube channels by none aspergers but the other form of ASD1?
@autismfromtheinside Is it possible to lose the ability to mask if there is something wrong with your brain, like Traumatic Brain Injury or White Matter Disease?
It’s hilarious yeah I don’t know autistic I don’t look like a lot of things doesn’t mean I am them either
I know it’s not the same, but I have social anxiety, a lot, and each time I speak about it with someone they basically laugh at my face and go « No you don’t! 😂 » and it’s so annoying because I am literally having social anxiety at the SAME TIME I’m telling them I do and OF COURSE I try to hide it! You want me to run away like I’m doing in my mind?
So I guess I can't tell my boss to stop being rude to me.
It's so horrible home much I mask and I tried to be myselfes and just got rejected from sosiaty