Terrible Christian Dating Advice
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- They Lied To You About Christian Dating
My name is Ally Poirot, and I am joined with my husband, to discuss ten of the worst pieces of Christian dating advice that have infiltrated the church and created a lot of misconceptions about dating as a Christian. We take a Biblical look into God’s heart when it comes to dating in order to bring clarity and light to these claims. We will cover topics such as whether dating is biblical or not, “God told me you’re my spouse,” saving your first kiss, waiting for marriage, family approval of the relationship, and much more. We are sure you have heard many of the claims we are correcting in this video, and if this is something you have been praying about, our hope and prayer is that it brings clarity to you. Please let us know your thoughts and whether this was helpful or not. God is calling His children forth to learn the truth about His plans and promises.
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Thank you for leading this babe. You always have such wisdom to share.
Aww thank you for joining me! I always value your perspective my love!❤
Dude random thought, you look a lot like Brock Purdy.
@@WSlopeAggie lol
@@dliteoftheworld Doesn't he though? Don't tell me you don't see it
This couple is SOLID! Great video
You guys have been helping me a lot with these great videos! I’m currently going through a break up with a Godly woman I thought I would marry so it’s been very hard. But I know God has a plan for me, and I will keep trusting in Him. Thank you for the great videos 🤍
Currently dating someone who came to my life when i was done with relationships, turns out we think the same, like the same things and we are not virgins nor with each other, ive started my journey with Christ and sugested we wait now until marrige and shes fine with it, she is still open to God i just pray she feels the holy spirit in time as i do, i was watching your video on your DM video and felt this calling that this was what i needed to do and she said she felt the same thing around the same time. Still new to everything and still learning but after some learning this is feeling right. Good content you two.
this was such a good video! i’m currently single and just trying to focus on Jesus and ask Him to prepare me for what He has for me! hopefully i’ll be with my God willing future husband soon but until then just praying!
Amen❤same
Praise the Lord🙌 I am so glad to hear this video ministered to you! Well said Camryn! Focusing on Jesus and His preparation is key! We are praying and standing in faith with you for the promises of God in your life to come to pass in His perfect timing🙏💛
Hello sister
@@allypoirotDang I got a sex ad before the vid
Don't go out there looking for love but let God bring love to you ❤❤❤
Still waiting for the Lord i know he will come through for me ...
So you don't proactively look for a husband?
wowww, Jackie Van Tine literally made the exact same video the other day, amen Ally! God is definitely speaking!!
oh wow! that's so cool! God truly is speaking. I have been waiting on the Lord for each new video topic. I don't want to make a video without His direction because He knows what people need more than me. When He spoke this topic to my heart, I knew it was because there is someone who really needs to hear it. He is just so intentional🥹💛🙌
Such great advice!!
There is a difference between dating and courting. I do not believe dating is biblical. That is a term and idea that Christians are borrowing from the world. Just because one believes that dating is not biblical does not mean that one thinks you don't have to get to know the person first. There is a way to get to know a person, who they are, their values, what makes them tick, what makes them happy, what makes them angry, and what Godly characteristics they have, without this concept of dating that has been pulled from the world and slightly altered for us to use in our own context. As Christians, the Bible says we are not to draw anything from the world and try and make it our own or use it for His glory. There is a way to get to know someone without having extra feelings and emotions in the mix that could cloud your judgment which often comes even from these Christian dating relationships.
I also don't understand why people think if you're not dating, you'll never meet someone, as if we don't meet people in our every day lives. If someone says they don't date, it's immediately assumed most of the time, that the person just stays in the house all day or they don't do anything, you can't can possibly meet someone like that. But who said that person just stays in the house all day and doesn't do anything? I always get asked the question, "Well how are you ever going to meet someone if you don't date?" I meet new people every time I go out to the park, or to the store, or at my job, or when I go on trips. You don't have to be actively looking to date someone to meet someone who might be your spouse. Most of the time, it's when you're not looking for that the person that God brings them. I met the first person I courted at their church because their church invited me to dance at the event the church was putting on. After the event, the guy I courted came and talked to me and that's how we met. I wasn't look for anyone at the time, in fact I was just focused to doing the ministry that God gave me. In the end, it did not work out with that person, but I got to see a lot of things about him as we courted, and learned a lot about him, his values, most importantly where he was spiritually and after about 6 months it was very clear that he wasn't the one God had for me, and I was able to see that and have a relationship with that person where there were no extra feelings and emotions attached to make me feel heart broken like what probably would have happened if we dated.
I also think you all slightly miss interpreted the scripture when talking about marriage. If 2 believers are married, yes they can not leave each other. If The believer is married to an unbeliever, and the unbeliever does not want to be with the believer, Paul tells the believer to let that person go and they are not bonded to that person, and only in that case are they not bonded. It is only when the unbelieving person wants to stay with the Christian that the Christian has to stay with them. It should also be noted that these scriptures are directed to married people not those that are dating which as I said above is not biblical anyways.
"1 Corinthians 7: 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace."
Hey Gabe and Ally❤ I really needed to hear this
We are so glad this helped you! You are so loved!💕
Thank you ❤
Another great video guys❤❤
You both are my favourite couple 🤭❤️
Thank you! We love you and appreciate your support💛🙏
Awesome word❤🎉
Im a bit confused.. if its good its from GOD.. but right before GOD gives you his best the enemy send you something good? How can the enemy send something good?
Enemy sends you something, what looks like it is good - but it is not. It is a temptation. Devil fools us to believe it is good for us, but in reality, it is not. We have to pray to God to know what's really good for us (what's coming from Him) and what's not (what is coming from the enemy).
I hope you understand now. If not - pray for an open heart!
God bless you! 🤗
I met my future wife and we are developing our friendship until God gives us the okay to get married. Taking proper steps.
I’m thankful for your faithfulness in posting these videos
When I was young I was very dumb. I wanted to date a virgin because I was a virgin but over the years God has taught me that I’m a guilty sinner too. And though sex is an entirely different sin it doesn’t mean that the person in the relationship who made the mistake it’s less worthy… as a matter of fact it should show God’s mercy and that persons love for the person who made the mistake to show that even though the mistakes were made you are still of so much value and equal to the one who didn’t make the mistake. It would create so much healing for the person who made the mistake in the end
Brother don’t get confused. Body count matters. I am ok with one but a majority of women out there will lie about their body count to keep you around like my ex did or it will be a huge number. Be careful my friend. Pair bonding is a thing and as a 22 year old virgin, I am not risking a future family with a retired promiscuous woman
@@christianrodriguez5346 I think you’ve got me confused, I’m not saying to get married to a woman who has been around and around and around. But if a woman has truly changed her ways for Jesus and she has made mistakes and regrets them truly then I believe she deserves a second chance. I also believe that God will match you with someone you desire to be with. I desire a virgin because I’m one. And of course buddy, be careful around all women. Some put out a very believing facade
@@christianrodriguez5346 and yes I agree, don’t take it lightly if she has. And be careful not to believe them right away. Test them
I would have loved if I find out this video back on 2015. I wasn't Christian at that time, I was catholic, but the Lord was working with me. Now I'm married dragging my cross everyday until Jesus call her.
Hello, what does having a deep conviction/confirmation from the lord about a potential partner look like ? And I mean practically. Any books of the Bible you guys would suggest that would aid someone in a process like this.
Do you think attraction to a persons physical appearance is still important in a relationship?
(Also i love your videos and you have helped me turn to Christ and grow my relationship with the Lord.)
Very true
I am confused about what you said about kissing. I have a girlfriend and we are both Christian and we intend to get married and we are waiting for marriage. But we kiss a lot, and it's great. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Especially since we have set some boundaries like no kissing while laying down cuddling so it doesn't get "too nice" we call it
Kissing is part of the sexual act, I don't think you should subject yourself to the "how far can we go" notion... don't create avenues to fail yourself 😊
I dont date non virgins. Its not about forgiveness. I just dont want to invest my time and effort into someone who will have difficulty appreciating it because they are emotionally attached to an ex/exes and have pair bonding issues. Promiscuity is a tendency of masculinity. These amongst other things. You can be forgiven for cutting your arm off, your arm is still gone.
I get that but at the same time I don’t. That’s doesn’t seem right to me. Sex before marriage is a sin, but If I’m 45 and I’m dating a man that lost his virginity at 22, but he has repented, and is truly a Godly man, I’m not going to be “oh you lost you’re virginity at 22? Yeah nope.” I don’t think it is biblical at all to not date somebody based on whether they are a virgin or not. I get it’s your decision, but I don’t think it’s forgiving. And don’t get me wrong, I totally prefer if somebody is a virgin and I’m not promoting sex before marriage, but we shouldn’t base whether is a Godly Christian or not based on their virginity.
@emeraldpeabody5229 forgiving someone doesn't require you marry them, and my reasons for not marrying a non virgin don't have to do with me not forgiving them.
Well I didn’t say you would have to marry a non virgin. There are good Christian’s in both men and women that are virgins and not virgins. So to say right off the bat that you just discount someone as a prospect for marriage based on whether they are a virgin or not does not seem like Christ (because we are supposed to follow Christ and his examples he set for us while he was on earth) to me.
I’m not saying you have to marry someone who is not a virgin, but like I said, I don’t think you should just discount someone because they are not one. And it’s not like you are saying you would PREFER someone who is a virgin, you are saying they HAVE to be a virgin.
Maybe you don’t see it this way but that does not seem Christlike to me at all.
I hope you find a good Godly person to spent the rest of your life with in marriage, whether they are a virgin or not.
@emeraldpeabody5229 nobody is good. Only God is good. As I said before, it's not about forgiving. I dont think it's wrong for me not to marry someone for my reasons if they are to fall into said category. Do not put words into God's mouth and do not misconstrue.
I’ve not put words in Gods mouth at all. I have given my opinion as you have yours. I stated I do not think it is Godly. I did not say God has said that and I am certainly not putting words in His mouth.
1:58-3:08 No there is hope for you with someone who is in your circumstances too but NOT with someone who waited. I will never be with a woman who isn't a virgin because I am one. I don't have to forgive her because she didn't do anything wrong to me but she still did it. Whereas if I didn't, I have every right to say goodbye & will to a woman if I realize she isn't a virgin too. That being said, you both waited so that perspective of yours is afforded to you from a place of having both been virgins so it's hypocritical on your part.
Totally agree brother. I can’t be with a woman who didn’t waited. My recent ex lied about being a virgin and I figured out she lied. Quickly lost all attraction and dumped her without any mercy. When a woman finds a man they truly want they will lie just to keep him around. It really is hard to figure out the truth hence why I thank God for showing it to me. I just pray for a woman who followed God’s rules
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Hey friend!