12 Reasons Why Life is Better When You're Single

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  • Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024

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  • @john-griffin
    @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +317

    This was a bit of a rant.

  • @plundbohm
    @plundbohm 2 месяца назад +653

    “I don't hate people...I just feel better when they're not around.”
    ― Charles Bukowski

    • @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303
      @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303 2 месяца назад +8

      Me too😅😅😅

    • @ethnocentricfun991
      @ethnocentricfun991 2 месяца назад +4

      @@plundbohm love it 😊

    • @rickstephan6707
      @rickstephan6707 2 месяца назад +20

      "The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog." - Mark Twain

    • @plundbohm
      @plundbohm 2 месяца назад +7

      @@Cold_Hard_Truth Ironically I may dislike people but I love humanity.

    • @BB-sf7jv
      @BB-sf7jv 2 месяца назад +3

      Haha

  • @twofarg0ne763
    @twofarg0ne763 2 месяца назад +1377

    He's absolutely telling you the truth about sex and marriage; as soon as you're married after a year or two, your sex life is over. I'm 75, retired, and have been living alone since my divorce 20 years ago. My kids are grown. My life is peaceful and quiet. I play golf, go sailing, go to wine tastings, go hiking, and meet friends for lunch or dinner or at sports bars. I'm far happier without women in my life. I don't need the drama or narcissism. I go where I want, when I want, do what I want. Life is good.

    • @twofarg0ne763
      @twofarg0ne763 2 месяца назад

      @@Zfast4y0u Thank you for the synopsis of my life. I didn't get married till I was 35. My ex wanted sex until we had our 2nd child, then no more. Women are toxic, demanding drama queens, who only care about themselves. If you haven't found that out yet, you will, unless you're female, then you already know.

    • @attroenergizer8115
      @attroenergizer8115 2 месяца назад +81

      i felt it when you said i dont need the drama and narcissism so true my man

    • @philyeary8809
      @philyeary8809 2 месяца назад +29

      We're here to help men, guys....shitcan the divisions.

    • @RtaniDean
      @RtaniDean 2 месяца назад +14

      Perfect.

    • @jarichards99utube
      @jarichards99utube 2 месяца назад +36

      For me the trade 0ff of living single and alone comes down to: PEACE (as in peace & quite) and SELF-DETERMINATION.
      - Divorced, 70SomethingGuy

  • @thewanderingpatriot
    @thewanderingpatriot 2 месяца назад +80

    I got married at 21, divorced by 26. Never looked back. I’m 55 now, retired in Alaska. Life is GREAT. Praise God.

    • @jeremytorgersen
      @jeremytorgersen 23 дня назад

      Very similar! I was married at 22, divorced at 27...Glad I never re-married or had kids. Semi-retired at 38 and I have been considering moving to Alaska, Wyoming, or similar. The peace and solitude is where it's at!

  • @JS6969tz
    @JS6969tz Месяц назад +56

    Never be afraid to be alone. It is the greatest blessing of all.

    • @Ron4885
      @Ron4885 Месяц назад +6

      @JS6969tz I think so, too. It took me a while to get used to it. But all the drama is gone. Peace of mind is valuable.

    • @jpowell2603
      @jpowell2603 25 дней назад +2

      Exactly!!!

  • @rabbiddog
    @rabbiddog 2 месяца назад +762

    Im 61. Went through a divorce 12 years ago. Lost my house, etc. Managed to retire at 60. I spent 27 yrs trying to make her happy and secure, only to have her destroy it. Young men do NOT live for women.

    • @TheBaywork
      @TheBaywork 2 месяца назад +23

      Thank you

    • @dannyrwagamba
      @dannyrwagamba 2 месяца назад +16

      Thanks 🙏

    • @darrenleejones3516
      @darrenleejones3516 2 месяца назад +17

      But most do these days the system has broken them

    • @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up
      @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up 2 месяца назад

      25 years in psychology and psychiatric. 6/100 are Narccisists and yes they will destroy you with pleasure or cheat. 3/100 are antisocial b-clusster dark triad people that will lie,manipulate and maybe kill you ? So, 20 year olds had better study Narccisism on you tube and in Amazons best books on the subject.This behavioural science is easy to follow after a few weeks of study.
      GET IT WRONG ,.....and you will enter hell and lose your sanity and health.Don't vet your partner like the catholic church vets priests and the Police vet new recruits because it destrys the institution of marriage. Take 5 years to be sure because Narcicists are actors that leave all kinds of clues.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад +6

      And for what then?

  • @RaindogGaming
    @RaindogGaming 2 месяца назад +120

    Saving this video. Every time someone asks me why I’m not going to get remarried, I’ll send them here.

  • @terencem881
    @terencem881 2 месяца назад +354

    After divorce met a nice lady who lives a distance away. No drama, I have my place she has hers. Physical side is good. We go halves on everything. Can't believe how much my ex cost. Absolute eye opener. Works for me.

    • @tmee3708
      @tmee3708 2 месяца назад +8

      Sounds ideal.

    • @trevor6607
      @trevor6607 2 месяца назад +19

      Yep this is the way to do it. Keep it fair and keep some separation

    • @jonb8633
      @jonb8633 2 месяца назад +25

      I am in a similar situation but I am widowed. The lady I am dating lives like an hour away. Sex is the best. She cooks nice meals. we go out and have fun

    • @comicus6769
      @comicus6769 2 месяца назад +9

      Absolutely the way to go, I did that for nearly 20 years. We didn't go haves since I made way more than she did and I was older but I had the time of my life taking her on trips all over and it worked out great for her as well. Win, win. Something I never hear.

    • @thomaspepper2201
      @thomaspepper2201 2 месяца назад +4

      I'm still looking, you lucky dog, enjoy !

  • @raygross1931
    @raygross1931 2 месяца назад +275

    54 here. I was married 23 years and raised two great, well-mannered boys she wanted to divorce, I did not. Now after 2 years single, I can totally 100% agree with you.I have purchased land in the most remote area in the United States and am building MY dream home!
    You have a new follower brother

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад

      Whine on together as a choir. Sounds pathetic.

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 2 месяца назад +5

      🙂 cool, let me know when its done, i'd like to see it 😊

    • @chairlesnicol672
      @chairlesnicol672 2 месяца назад +1

      @Raygross Where is your remote land, cuz I wanna stay there too! LOL!!!@

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 2 месяца назад

      @@chairlesnicol672 😒👍 Lets Go!

    • @mrwolf750
      @mrwolf750 2 месяца назад +3

      @@marguskiis7711 With a personality like that I bet you are single.

  • @spaceted3977
    @spaceted3977 2 месяца назад +93

    I am 70 yrs old and never Married or had Children !!! I would Highly Recommend it !!! Peace and Quiet with my 2 Dogs !!!

  • @RunsWithKnives
    @RunsWithKnives 2 месяца назад +182

    I've been single for almost 22 years now and my life has never been so peaceful. I will never give up my peace for a piece ever again.

  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw 2 месяца назад +538

    Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Marriage is a terrible idea for most ambitious men. Keep state divorce laws out of your business and finances. Stay safe. Stay single! You can still have amazing intimate relationships with beautiful women without getting married.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +48

      Thanks for chiming in man that was really good advice. It’s one thing for people to hear it from some guy on RUclips, but I am sure that your words carry a lot of weight. Thanks again.

    • @steveburke7675
      @steveburke7675 2 месяца назад +6

      ...and varied.

    • @howarddavies782
      @howarddavies782 2 месяца назад +11

      There it is from someone who sees it all the time.

    • @rcas350pilot8
      @rcas350pilot8 2 месяца назад +4

      Like it when a lawyer with experience on the issue chimes in. However, I'm not surprised by his comment here.

    • @Ajax-t1q
      @Ajax-t1q 2 месяца назад +2

      Agree

  • @RobertNoppers
    @RobertNoppers 2 месяца назад +504

    It's been three years since I retired, and while inflation has made it tough to maintain my lifestyle, especially when I was living in the city. relocating to the countryside has helped me manage things better. Being single, it’s been a bit lonely since most of my friends and family are still caught up in their routines. But at least out here, it's been easier to stretch my savings, and hopefully, I won’t outlive it.

    • @GLADIATOR-tz7yt
      @GLADIATOR-tz7yt 2 месяца назад

      I’m nearing retirement myself, and I had similar concerns. I started investing later than most, and just relying on ETF compounding wasn’t cutting it for me. After working with a financial advisor, I managed to restructure my investments and am now on track to retire with around $4 million. If I hadn’t sought advice, I doubt I’d be as confident in my plan right now

    • @RobertNoppers
      @RobertNoppers 2 месяца назад

      I’m trying to figure out the best approach for my portfolio. How did you find your advisor? I feel like I need that kind of guidance

    • @GLADIATOR-tz7yt
      @GLADIATOR-tz7yt 2 месяца назад

      I usually steer clear of recommending specific people because financial needs are so personal. But I can say that working with Emily Ava Milligan has made a world of difference for me. I noticed her strategies are tailored to fit personal goals and make sense for different needs. It might be worth exploring to see if her approach resonates with you

    • @RobertNoppers
      @RobertNoppers 2 месяца назад

      Thanks for that. I did a quick search and found her page. I was able to email so I sent over a few questions to get more info. Appreciate you sharing

    • @Chuncy566
      @Chuncy566 Месяц назад

      @@RobertNoppers I'd be extreamly carefull with that one i got a real bad feeling about that one..look out!

  • @Mindokwin
    @Mindokwin 2 месяца назад +186

    I'm 72 never married and I am a multi- millionaire. I just had a regular job but invested and was frugal. The only time I was broke was when I had girlfriends.

    • @ted.angell7609
      @ted.angell7609 2 месяца назад +21

      You just opened your wallet, and there she was 😸

    • @holisticasmrwithpreem-zm7cp
      @holisticasmrwithpreem-zm7cp 2 месяца назад +5

      @@Mindokwin I just love this 😂👌

    • @mehdielatrassi7416
      @mehdielatrassi7416 2 месяца назад +1

      To whom would you consider leaving all you own?

    • @Mindokwin
      @Mindokwin 2 месяца назад

      @@mehdielatrassi7416 Sisters, not that they particularly deserve it. But they will get the house and most of the remaining cash. Mostly my estate is forestland which will go to a land conservancy along with funds for management. But I am still spending and plan on living for a while yet.

    • @daysgo5514
      @daysgo5514 2 месяца назад +2

      im considering of living a life the same way as you. thank you for empowering me.

  • @MrHabs66
    @MrHabs66 2 месяца назад +191

    I got married at 40, divorced at 50. I’m now 58, retired with no debt and with a boatload of money in the bank. I’ll never get married again. A few single mothers have come after me, but they were easy to shoot down. The peace and quiet is truly addictive. Stay single fellas.

    • @eddieBoxer
      @eddieBoxer 2 месяца назад +16

      100% indeed, divorced have money in the bank I never dreamed of, during my marriage I just couldn't buy anything without asking my wife, she had diamond ring, new car, nice clothes, nice house, but I drove an old pick up truck, never again, men do not get married for the love of god, no perpetual love.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад +5

      And what you gonna do with your money. The right answer is -- nothing.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад +2

      ​@@eddieBoxer its your choice.

    • @MrHabs66
      @MrHabs66 2 месяца назад +9

      @@marguskiis7711 Exactly. I used to piss away so much money on my wife. When we split, I was amazed at how much money I was able to save.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад

      ​@@MrHabs66 you not gonna do anything special with the money. Lol.

  • @Barbara-sn5gz
    @Barbara-sn5gz 2 месяца назад +26

    Im a woman who's been married 1 time, divorced and single for 34 years, and never once have I missed being married.
    Kudos to the advantages of being single!
    You hit the nail on the head!

  • @peter-e2q
    @peter-e2q 2 месяца назад +140

    26yrs with a woman, 5 gfs since break up. Now 68, no gf for 4 years. Retired. Handyman. Single. VERY happy!!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +7

      Thank you for sharing your story! It’s great to hear that you’ve found happiness in your own company. Your positivity is contagious!

    • @peter-e2q
      @peter-e2q 2 месяца назад +2

      @@john-griffin so is your video!! :)

  • @georgekibblin9924
    @georgekibblin9924 2 месяца назад +144

    I'm sitting here drinking my coffee and trying not to spit it all over the place! As a man that was married for 24 years, your points are SPOT ON! As women age, I believe that they become unhappy with themselves and their own lives, and we have the IMPOSSIBLE task of trying to make them happy. To be honest, it took me a good five years to recuperate both mentally and financially after my divorce (lost home, savings, half of my retirement etc.) but now I am living my best life without all the freaking madness and stress. Great video!

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 месяца назад +12

      My mom was very critical of me. If I gave a wife I will get criticized left and right. I want PEACE and autonomy which you can never have in a relationship

    • @trevor6607
      @trevor6607 2 месяца назад +14

      This is my nightmare right here brother. Sorry this shit happened to you and you lost everything but glad you came out happy and successful in the end. I am still in a long-term eight year relationship but I will literally never get married and this is exactly the fucking reason why

    • @edhovrud
      @edhovrud 2 месяца назад +11

      Same here, my wife said I didn’t make her happy anymore. The thing is happiness comes from within, nobody can make another person happy, they can bring them fleeting moments of joy, but true happiness is something only we can bring to ourselves.

    • @mr.h2509
      @mr.h2509 2 месяца назад +8

      Nothing new here. Eve wasn’t happy in a garden paradise. I was married 27 years. Now five years divorced. Healed happy and better off financially. It’s chasing the wind trying to satisfy a modern woman. Spend that energy on yourself.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +5

      Thanks I’m really glad you enjoyed it. I hope your coffee survived.

  • @tlsnider4
    @tlsnider4 28 дней назад +7

    I''m 58, was married for 30 years, and have been single for the last 6 years. My mindset mirrors the views you express on this channel. I've really enjoyed the content and watching all the videos. I just wanted to say thanks. I hope all the men out there will listen to the wise advice you're providing. I'd like to add myself as another data point that confirms everything you say is true. I think one of my favorite things you've said is "men are problem solvers, women are problem creators". I don't remember which video this was in, but it really sums everything up so perfectly. Any man who''s every been married or in a long term relationship will know that this is true. He will also know that a women's solipsistic nature will never allow her to understand all the sacrifices he makes to try to make her happy. There is never any appreciation for what you do, only complaints about what you don't do. And married sex(?), infrequent to non-existent, and actually not very good even when it does occur. Why would any man volunteer for this lifestyle? Date women, have sex with women, enjoy women's company, but never, ever, under any circumstance agree to the contract that is called marriage.
    Stay healthy, stay happy, and stay single.

  • @fjr3950
    @fjr3950 2 месяца назад +368

    After 25 years of contentious marriage, I became CEO of my own life.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +22

      I like it! CEO

    • @ranganathprahlad
      @ranganathprahlad 2 месяца назад +4

      😂😂😂

    • @r_unner_G
      @r_unner_G 2 месяца назад +5

      and CFO 😁

    • @fjr3950
      @fjr3950 2 месяца назад +2

      So true! As much as the whole thing cost me (around $1.5M in my case), at least there is now a "fire wall" and what's left is mine (except what I legally have to keep paying which is also insane).

    • @raisa_cherry35
      @raisa_cherry35 Месяц назад

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @tbobtbob330
    @tbobtbob330 2 месяца назад +390

    The main thing I wish I knew about women 40 years ago is that the more committed a woman knows you are to her, the less respect and attraction she'll have for you. I spent most of my life thinking that my wife/gfs would be happier, more committed, and more loving towards me if I could just reassure her I was in it for life. No matter what they tell you - showing your attachment is bad for you and bad for the relationship.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +35

      Great insight

    • @36handy
      @36handy 2 месяца назад +56

      Bingo. 59 never been married however I’ve been in long term relationships. The threat of leaving keeps them on their toes.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 месяца назад +18

      I believe this was one of my downfalls. She knew I hate divorce and would put up with anything and I did. She lost respect and left. There was no 53X for the preceding nine years.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 месяца назад +26

      You must keep her in a "cold war" knowing that you could easily leave if you decided to do so. This way she won't get too complacent and keeps her on better behavior and not take you for granted.

    • @Falconlibrary
      @Falconlibrary 2 месяца назад +25

      We say modern women are selfish, but it's worse than selfishness: they feel contempt for us, especially if expect women to be feminine and nurturing.

  • @jeffbrown3805
    @jeffbrown3805 2 месяца назад +29

    ❤ NO WIFE = HAPPY LIFE. ❤

  • @bigmoney1723
    @bigmoney1723 2 месяца назад +265

    Amen brother. I am 54 and was married for 25 years. 3 kids. However, I am not divorced. My wife dropped dead on me in 2014. I can honestly say that my life is 100 times better now than at any time I was married. Every thing you said is 1000% accurate. My life now is fair and balanced to me in every regard. There is zero drama, zero stress, and zero chaos. I live on my terms alone. You could not pay me to ever get married again and I dont date so there certainly is no reason to ever bring a woman into my life again to possibly screw things up. Yep, the single life is good!

    • @SausageRoll4u
      @SausageRoll4u 2 месяца назад

      That's fucking evil to admit, get therapy dude.

    • @private-private
      @private-private 2 месяца назад +24

      "My wife dropped dead on me"...... thats the funniest thing Ive read. And I totally agree with your comment.

    • @seaotter72
      @seaotter72 2 месяца назад +18

      Same thing here basically I'm 52 my wife passed away 6 years ago and my two daughters are grown up and moved out I dated a little bit in the beginning but soon realized why would I go thru all this crap again!Let's see how it's like being single?And I tell ya it's so much better especially when you have already lived that life.CHEERS😅

    • @michaellacroix8029
      @michaellacroix8029 2 месяца назад +6

      Singing to the choir man,great great advice for younger fellas, definitely food for thought,

    • @timbimjim514
      @timbimjim514 2 месяца назад

      I wish mine would drop dead!😂😂

  • @roccocarlino067
    @roccocarlino067 2 месяца назад +145

    I solved all my relationship problems in my mid 40's when I decided to follow celibacy, and amazingly everything just fell into place. My life as a middle aged man blossomed, I didn't realise just how emotionally draining it was trying to please others, but mostly my own desires! Truly, if you conquer lust, attachment and dependency, life is sooooo much more rewarding and you feel a sense of self-sovereignty.

    • @johnjennings9693
      @johnjennings9693 2 месяца назад

      @@roccocarlino067 you absolutely

    • @johnjennings9693
      @johnjennings9693 2 месяца назад +7

      Absolutely, thank you,

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 2 месяца назад +2

      😏 heehee almost like a Demigod or Nephelim 😎

    • @miterball958
      @miterball958 2 месяца назад +7

      @@roccocarlino067 I like what you say about breaking the just and dependency attachments. I stayed in hell because I was afraid of leaving the cage. Now I have been forced to freedom and I’m beginning to like it.

    • @wandah9468
      @wandah9468 2 месяца назад +7

      Good post! And now you understand why more women than ever are staying away from men. Couldnt say it better than you did!😅

  • @steveburke7675
    @steveburke7675 Месяц назад +11

    I was married for 30+ yrs...first 10 yrs were pretty good...next 10 were OK, tho I did feel like a walking breathing ATM....the last 10 were a dramatic horror. Been single since 2017 and absolutely love it...don't fear it...take complete control of your life.

  • @steveballard515
    @steveballard515 2 месяца назад +148

    Life is to short to spend it doing what somebody else wants you to do

    • @melissasmess2773
      @melissasmess2773 2 месяца назад +3

      Spoken in such beautiful simplicity, thank you! 😂

    • @bobvila6437
      @bobvila6437 2 месяца назад +6

      I agree and I'm a woman.

    • @billyliar1614
      @billyliar1614 2 месяца назад +4

      Or arguing with her about why you won't do it

  • @marklanahan7289
    @marklanahan7289 2 месяца назад +279

    Im 64, been married twice and single for 5 years, and totally single for 3. Every female i have ever dated was an undeclared feminist that i unwittingly pandered to. I decided there is no avoiding them so now live alone. Ive never been happier.

    • @tedangle8224
      @tedangle8224 2 месяца назад +11

      I would never be with a 'feminist!' they can forever remain single with their cats!

    • @marklanahan7289
      @marklanahan7289 2 месяца назад +7

      @@tedangle8224 Trouble is that my mother was one but never said so I chose women like her, I never realised how toxic they are.

    • @mysticone1798
      @mysticone1798 2 месяца назад +5

      Find a traditional, conservative woman. They are happier, healthier, and more caring than any feminist.

    • @marklanahan7289
      @marklanahan7289 2 месяца назад +11

      @@mysticone1798 too late. I can't trust them anymore.

    • @mysticone1798
      @mysticone1798 2 месяца назад

      @@marklanahan7289 Understandable.

  • @richarddubois1141
    @richarddubois1141 2 месяца назад +5

    Every word in this video is true. I'm a 54 year old divorced dad and LOVING my bachelorhood. I appreciate it more than before I married. It's wonderfully freeing to invest my energy in myself versus the exhaustive quest to display whatever appeals to women in any given month or trying to make one particular woman happy and secure. In my 20's and early 30's I used to see married men and envy them, thinking someone wanted them enough to marry them. Now, I look at married men and all I see is a dog tied to a pole in the middle of a fenceless backyard watching the world go by.

  • @DM-fj1qp
    @DM-fj1qp 2 месяца назад +163

    100 percent agree! Once you experience freedom and peace you will never want to go back to being married

    • @handyfisherman
      @handyfisherman 2 месяца назад +4

      Be smart. Don’t start!

    • @shinrinyokumusic1808
      @shinrinyokumusic1808 2 месяца назад +3

      @ace9840 true. i cant buy a house or rent anything by myself in todays economy. i need another income for that

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 месяца назад +7

      I’m over 40 and never married. I have 18 more years till I retire and then I’m going to move out of state. Married life handcuffs you and limits your options. I can go traveling somewhere on a whim which I can’t do if I’m married and most of my expenses would go to raising children

    • @Ajax-t1q
      @Ajax-t1q 2 месяца назад +2

      💯 agree and 💯 agree

    • @eddieBoxer
      @eddieBoxer 2 месяца назад +2

      First 2 years of marriage was good, then sex died down she wanted material things, she cleaned my bank account, divorced and happy.

  • @ttocselbag5054
    @ttocselbag5054 2 месяца назад +139

    Yes brother John. A life without criticism is glorious; all men should experience it! Once you taste true peace and freedom, you’ll NEVER want to return to the plantation!! 👊💪

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +35

      I know, it’s very funny because my ex-wife asked me if I wanted to get back together with her after we had been divorced for a few years. I asked her why on earth would I want to do that? I’ve never been happier. I think I upset her. But it’s the truth.

    • @ttocselbag5054
      @ttocselbag5054 2 месяца назад +19

      @@john-griffin - Yeah man. Once they hit the wall, see their appeal drop, and get a sense of what men of value demand from mates/partners, then the whole dynamic changes. Thanks for being a voice for men brother! You didn’t upset the former Mrs. Griffin BTW, she did that to herself by having an over-inflated ego!

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 месяца назад +3

      ​@john-griffin
      Whoa!! That was brutal to her!
      😢😂😂

    • @robmcguckin7605
      @robmcguckin7605 2 месяца назад +9

      @@ianstuart5660 She earned it.

    • @andrewpizzino2514
      @andrewpizzino2514 2 месяца назад +3

      Preach brother!

  • @LeonardEarnshaw
    @LeonardEarnshaw 2 месяца назад +145

    It’s common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my wife and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you’re ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there’s always a way forward.

    • @LeonardEarnshaw
      @LeonardEarnshaw 2 месяца назад +1

      Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @LeonardEarnshaw
      @LeonardEarnshaw 2 месяца назад +1

      You will be fine

    • @stevechrisman3185
      @stevechrisman3185 2 месяца назад +2

      Hmmm ... not always.

    • @NoWokeComedy
      @NoWokeComedy 2 месяца назад

      @@LeonardEarnshaw bold of you you to assume every women is like your wife. Truth is majority of them women aren't easy to get along with it's like winning the lottery if you find someone that you're compatible with. that's why this redpill and single men YT channels are blowing up.

    • @Rick-i2i
      @Rick-i2i 2 месяца назад +4

      Yes there are always solutions, but it’s always her solution 😮.

  • @larryreis7273
    @larryreis7273 2 месяца назад +88

    I'm with you, man.👍 I did it once, I'll NEVER do it again!! Never had kids thank God. Never wanted them for SO many reasons. She turned out to be a controlling nightmare. I felt like a prisoner. There is nothing worse than being with someone but still feeling alone and losing your FREEDOM. I'm living in harmony and tranquility now.

    • @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303
      @We-Do-NOT-Consent-303 2 месяца назад +2

      Why would you marry someone like that?
      I broke up with many of my girlfriend's at the first sign of them trying to control me😅😅😅

    • @PeterNolan-009
      @PeterNolan-009 2 месяца назад +3

      =====> Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that.

  • @JeremyPezzeca
    @JeremyPezzeca 2 месяца назад +123

    50 year old male here. Mostly single last 10 years and its been the best 10 years of my life in everyway Mostly celibate all those years too. The irony is most men think they'll find their greatest happiness in sex and a woman that loves them but it's actually quite the opposite. Your greatest happiness will be found in celibacy and mastering that side of yourself and not needing or even desiring a woman in your life. It took a lot of hard work for me to here And words do not express how happy I am and the peace and contentment I feel. One of the cons about this is you will radiate.This different energy than every other man in women will be throwing themselves at You everywhere you go, but you will not be interested.Because you know they have nothing to offer you of any real depth or weight. And people will hate you for this. Men will particularly hate you and be jealous of you. Because you have conquered something. Most of them will never conquer or even desire conquering. Once you understand female nature you will realize that most of them don't really love the men they're with. Most relationships are built on status,finances, lust and codependency and not love

    • @Monkeypoop533
      @Monkeypoop533 2 месяца назад +8

      @@JeremyPezzeca spot on.

    • @CharlieBravo887
      @CharlieBravo887 2 месяца назад

      Yes, other men will envy you. They will, of course, _never_ admit this. They, like the wimmin they've sold their souls for, will try to shame and disrespect you because they envy you and want you to suffer because they see your peace and joy and despise you for it just like Cain despised Abel for doing right and slew him. These men, again like wimmin, will try to tell you that you're selfish or not living right for not selling your soul to a witch.

    • @TheBootywest
      @TheBootywest 2 месяца назад +1

      @@JeremyPezzeca Sex can be stressful, believe it or not. You're under pressure to perform and satisfy and possibly reproduce. I'm not saying it's bad but can be hard work

    • @MrSamadolfo
      @MrSamadolfo 2 месяца назад +9

      😏 i rent Services every once in a while, tho i dont care to have any one of them actually move into my homes, dont care for that, besides I need the place free and clear cause i need the space that i can get to lay out all my projects

    • @MrRainbowSprinkles
      @MrRainbowSprinkles 2 месяца назад +2

      My only concern with the long celibacy/SR method is do you lose hair on your head? I'm sure the lack of stress also helps, especially if you're transmuting your extra energy into your passions/goals.

  • @bobbyrebholz2183
    @bobbyrebholz2183 2 месяца назад +31

    Nothing healthy ever comes from being married. You can achieve everything in life as you would during marriage, the only difference is you didn't sign a piece of paper which legally binds you to someone's BS.

  • @Omar_Zazzle
    @Omar_Zazzle 2 месяца назад +200

    At 62 I have never been married = Thank God.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +11

      Well done!👍

    • @michaelanthony1797
      @michaelanthony1797 2 месяца назад +15

      65, same here, Thank God

    • @danielboone72
      @danielboone72 2 месяца назад +11

      52, same here.

    • @CITADEL5
      @CITADEL5 2 месяца назад +17

      I'm 68 and have NEVER considered letting some woman have the power to blackmail me or steal from me.

    • @davidbowman2035
      @davidbowman2035 2 месяца назад +7

      I am 49 and never married.

  • @panamafred1
    @panamafred1 2 месяца назад +184

    Story number one: My second wife and I got married after living four nice years together. On our honeymoon, she announced, "I don't want to have sex anymore." I divorced her.
    Story number two: My third wife, before we got married, upon hearing my story of wife number two said, "I will never turn you away." And she didn't. We enjoyed almost twenty years together, honest, loyal, generous, and loving. She died this week; I miss my best friend and lover.
    These days the risks seem too high. At 76, I don't think I will roll the dice again. I think I will just rent.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 месяца назад +16

      Very sorry for your loss!..❤❤

    • @Ajax-t1q
      @Ajax-t1q 2 месяца назад +7

      Nice one mate

    • @sauter1
      @sauter1 2 месяца назад +2

      Condolences!

    • @panamafred1
      @panamafred1 2 месяца назад +1

      @@sauter1 Thank you.

    • @restassuredworship
      @restassuredworship 2 месяца назад +2

      So sorry for your loss :( God bless

  • @Sams911
    @Sams911 Месяц назад +9

    55 years old here, divorced her in 2015... been with over 100 women age 19 to 56... still single and loving my peace.. Preach brother.

  • @burtbakerack1110
    @burtbakerack1110 2 месяца назад +40

    I’m a 44 year old bachelor, I stopped dating at 31 after having a series of long term relationships. Most of them ended because I didn’t want kids and little interest in marriage. Always seemed like a bad deal for men. Reading the comments for this video brought a big smile to my face. So many men in their 60s and 70s single and living their best life. I hope to get there too. Cheers, fellas!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +2

      Me too on the older happy guys. Very motivating!

    • @u_w5822
      @u_w5822 2 месяца назад +1

      Am 34 now and also stopped at 31 😃

    • @FTYC2022
      @FTYC2022 2 месяца назад +2

      Two grown behind adults living together never really works, unless you can afford to buy a huge home with 2 kitchens 😂. I'm a woman and I refuse to cook and clean up after a grown man, especially I have to work as well. No one should get married. Live your life on your terms. Good decision.

  • @archstantonainthere4526
    @archstantonainthere4526 2 месяца назад +84

    I'm 67, married 34 years, separated/divorced for 10. I would rate 3 of my 34 married years as happy. After sooo many attempts to find a happier place in my marriage, I reached the breaking point most men in this forum have reached. Lost most everything, but so worth it. On the comeback trail and will be ready to retire soon. Sure, I'll have a lot less money, but I'll spend my retired years in peace. No amount of money or stuff can numb the anguish of living with a psychological black hole. To my brothers in pain who are worried about surviving after a long-term marriage, you aren't alone. You've fulfilled your obligations. Give yourselves the gift of peace. You'll be ok.

    • @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up
      @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up 2 месяца назад

      25 years in psychology and psychiatric. 6/100 are Narccisists and yes they will destroy you with pleasure or cheat. 3/100 are antisocial b-clusster dark triad people that will lie,manipulate and maybe kill you ? So, 20 year olds had better study Narccisism on you tube and in Amazons best books on the subject.This behavioural science is easy to follow after a few weeks of study.
      GET IT WRONG ,.....and you will enter hell and lose your sanity and health.Don't vet your partner like the catholic church vets priests and the Police vet new recruits because it destrys the institution of marriage. Take 5 years to be sure because Narcicists are actors that leave all kinds of clues.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад +1

      As a man, isn't odd to whine this way? Who ruled your life? Someone else? Weak as hell.

    • @archstantonainthere4526
      @archstantonainthere4526 2 месяца назад

      @@marguskiis7711 LOL, only a feminist troll would dish hate on a man offering hope and encouragement to other men. Aim your harpie megaphone elsewhere, Karen.

    • @bradleydurbin6784
      @bradleydurbin6784 2 месяца назад +3

      It seems like there’s a growing community of older men who are trying to educate men and make them realize that marriage and women aren’t sugar and spice and everything nice. I’m 61 and I’ve never been married or had kids. What relationships I’ve had was hell. I suggest to tune into some of Rich Coopers podcasts on RUclips.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад +1

      @@bradleydurbin6784 And what for to give up the large part of life? What for? What you have won living without marriage and kids? Can you explain?

  • @rodneyrosse198
    @rodneyrosse198 2 месяца назад +12

    Amen brother John! I'm 55, never been married. No kids. I enjoy my peace and quiet.

    • @fyrish100
      @fyrish100 16 дней назад

      55 next month , same position as you , not many of us about really , it’s good to read these comments and know I’m not the only one .
      Peace & quiet ,no nagging ,no drama 🙏🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

  • @mythically_odd
    @mythically_odd 2 месяца назад +108

    I'm 23 watching this. Just had 1 situation with a girl from my gen....I'm good. I'm still young, got alot of ambition. Not religious but I don't drink, smoke any of that and don't sleep around. Just me and my goals.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 месяца назад +15

      "Youth is wasted on the young". Perhaps not in your case. Best wishes going forward!

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 месяца назад +3

      Good for you, friend, very impressed!
      ❤❤

    • @redparis9225
      @redparis9225 2 месяца назад +16

      I'm in a similar boat as you brother but I'd highly suggest looking into finding God. I know that with the internet and 1000 different perspectives out there it's a bit overwhelming but find Jesus is the greatest anchor in my life

    • @Bass_Playa_Two_Point.O
      @Bass_Playa_Two_Point.O 2 месяца назад +6

      As a 64yo man, I encourage you to stay on your purpose.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 месяца назад

      @@redparis9225
      Good for you!
      ❤️🙏

  • @bobjames6622
    @bobjames6622 2 месяца назад +114

    I've been fully single for 24 years. Wouldn't change it for the world; peace and quiet to pursue my hobbies, no nagging, no drama, no hysterics, no gossip, no having to be interested in pointless, BORING shit, no being dragged around endless clothes shops in shopping malls, and ZERO chance of being booted out of my own house by the little lady.

    • @andrewpizzino2514
      @andrewpizzino2514 2 месяца назад +11

      I thought I was shopping all the time. 8 years of peace and have barely seen a store lol

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад +3

      Be happy then. Commenting here looks pathetic.

    • @bobjames6622
      @bobjames6622 2 месяца назад

      @@marguskiis7711 Ahh, looks like we've found the butt hurt misandrist!

    • @SIB_COMEDY
      @SIB_COMEDY 2 месяца назад +9

      @@marguskiis7711 not as pathetic as yours. His actually has a place on this thread.

    • @marguskiis7711
      @marguskiis7711 2 месяца назад

      @@SIB_COMEDY I, for example, despise dogs. A lot. Do I make videos how I living without dogs is good? Nope. Do I comment under dog themed videos how nasty dogs are? No, because its pathetic.

  • @arniep740
    @arniep740 2 месяца назад +5

    Thanks for this video. SO many true and great points. I am now celebrating 2 years since the divorce.... And I do mean celebrating! I now live with SO much less anxiety, NO conflict on a daily basis. I too was married to this woman for 21 years and looking back, I came to realize that I was so unhappy with her for most of that time. The kindest thing she ever did for me was to tell me she wanted a divorce!

  • @mattwells5022
    @mattwells5022 2 месяца назад +73

    After my divorce 10 years ago I had a 3 year custody case for my four children. My Ex wife was in another relationship the kids suffered at school and home local authorities always involved because of mams behaviour my hands were tied for years. Her family suffered and saw me as the bad guy it was heartache for everyone. Then I got custody of my kids and everything changed never a single issue since everyone couldn't be happier and kids doing well. Me staying single has given us all sanctuary.

  • @hump1953
    @hump1953 2 месяца назад +386

    Oh boy , I’m 71, single, never married, own my house, two pensions and a hefty portfolio…I take four international trips per year to Asia and Latin America for sex.. my parents had a horrible marriage and divorced when I was 10 years old and at that time decided I would never marry… what you say is true…I’m living my best life…

    • @minister5643
      @minister5643 2 месяца назад +3

      Which region, Asia or South America, is better for meeting women?

    • @hump1953
      @hump1953 2 месяца назад +26

      @@minister5643 I prefer Asia- Thailand, Cambodia, Philippines.. Vietnam is nice but a little more conservative there..

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +14

      Man that sounds so good!

    • @Andy-uj1fe
      @Andy-uj1fe 2 месяца назад +3

      Same here!!!!

    • @abbiealverez2960
      @abbiealverez2960 2 месяца назад +22

      Gross

  • @natemunao3451
    @natemunao3451 29 дней назад +4

    My divorce started when I was 51, my 50's were the best 10 consecutive years of my life. It was like being in my 20's but with money.

  • @lpsglitterpaws8536
    @lpsglitterpaws8536 2 месяца назад +22

    I am a soon to be divorced woman (20years) and I don’t thinks that you are jaded at all. You have me excited about the next chapter of my life 😊

    • @regallmusiccorp.8052
      @regallmusiccorp.8052 2 месяца назад +9

      The same fun and freedom that goes with being FREE also applies to women for sure- Now you can go out and have FUN!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +6

      I am really happy to hear you say that. The truth is the first year or so can be a little challenging, But as time goes by, you really appreciate all the freedom and opportunity you have to explore who you are as a single person. You rediscover yourself for the first time! It great! Thanks!!

  • @RobsNeighbor
    @RobsNeighbor 2 месяца назад +18

    My son is 11, and I have been raising him solo, the other day I thought he has never seen me love and care for a women and share a loving life, I have no interest at this point. His mom abandoned him and I have been a great amazing dad doing all I can and he will grow up to be a great loving caring human. Great video!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +2

      Thanks for sharing!! I have been a single dad twice in my life. Its a great job! Thanks again!

  • @stevend8785
    @stevend8785 Месяц назад +13

    I’m currently married 22 years. I’ve never felt as lonely as the last 2-3 years. I’ll be in the same room with her in total silence. Sometimes we exchange 10 words a day. Decisions lol - I can’t even roll down the car window.

    • @Chuncy566
      @Chuncy566 Месяц назад +2

      @stevend8785 I have been there ,i know how that sucks, you would do well to get out of that steel trap,and never get back in another one,once is to many. God bless

    • @haroldyazzie3538
      @haroldyazzie3538 Месяц назад

      Damn😂

    • @jeremiaharyeetey9877
      @jeremiaharyeetey9877 24 дня назад

      Awwww

    • @Gary_oldmans_left_nut
      @Gary_oldmans_left_nut 17 дней назад

      @@stevend8785 go to therapy.

    • @raymonddelacruz846
      @raymonddelacruz846 14 дней назад

      @@stevend8785 dude get out now

  • @PCBFL64
    @PCBFL64 2 месяца назад +39

    I just found your channel, too. It speaks directly to me: 60 years old, divorced for 5 years. Life is getting way better finally. Planning on retiring in a couple years, and doing a bunch of hiking/travelling. I sure look forward to watching more of your videos.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +3

      Thanks, I’ll do my best to make them worth watching.

  • @WildMidwest1
    @WildMidwest1 2 месяца назад +34

    Turning 60 next month and this video resonates. Central western Sierra is full of adventure. Not dragging a bag of complaints around is so much more fun.

  • @carlosenriquecastanedaguti8130
    @carlosenriquecastanedaguti8130 Месяц назад +2

    After watching and reading the comments I feel lucky. I'm 37 y/o and my marriage only last 6 months, it was pure nightmare: dramas out of the blue, 3 suicide attempts (her), tantrums, triangulation, violence, flying objects, etc. I lost everything in the separation but gladly after 2 years, I'm recovered and she is financially broken. Now I see life with bright colors again. Looking forward my future. Thanks for sharing your story!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  Месяц назад +2

      You never know what you are getting until its too late. Try my recent upload "Beware of the Bear in Your Bed". I am sure you will find it both funny and accurate.

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 17 дней назад

      I am glad you got out. You can’t help women like that.

  • @nickwelchoff4677
    @nickwelchoff4677 2 месяца назад +80

    I’ve always brought toxic women into my life. Always ignored the red flags. I finally woke up one day decided to get a Cavapoo puppy and told her to pack her bags and get the hell out. Five years later, best decision I ever met. There’s no benefits for a man to get married.

    • @jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798
      @jonjacobjingleheimerschmid3798 2 месяца назад +9

      Humm......
      So....you thought there were unicorns out there!?
      Think their all toxic!

    • @MrBBaron
      @MrBBaron 2 месяца назад +11

      Yes 95 percent of todays tic tok brain women will destroy a good man's life. Stay single and have the life you wish to live.

    • @nickwelchoff4677
      @nickwelchoff4677 2 месяца назад +2

      @@MrBBaron right on brother

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +3

      That’s a great story. I love it. Traded your wife for a dog. I think you should write a book about that. Thanks for the comment.

    • @palapalak.8907
      @palapalak.8907 2 месяца назад +1

      @@john-griffin
      Love it!

  • @Falconlibrary
    @Falconlibrary 2 месяца назад +68

    I'm 62 next month, divorced for 30 years, never remarried, and I have no regrets. I compare my life with those of married men my age and I'm visibly happier than any of them. Women used to nurture men and give us both peace and joy, but that's long gone. The modern married man is nothing but a walking ATM and women feel contempt for their husbands. Imagine waking up every day knowing that the person next to you in the bed either secretly or open despises you. Know what the big trend is now? "Silver divorce", where women over 60 are divorcing their husbands.
    My pension, my house, my time, it all belongs to me, and no feminist divorce court judge is going to take it from me.

    • @CharlieBravo887
      @CharlieBravo887 2 месяца назад +5

      "Wimmin feel contempt for their husbands."
      This. Why would you sign a contract to give all your stuff--including your peace---to one who despises you?

    • @darrenleejones3516
      @darrenleejones3516 2 месяца назад +1

      Silver divorce , the karma train stops at every station, choo choooooooo

    • @darrenleejones3516
      @darrenleejones3516 2 месяца назад

      @@stuartjohnston4353 she hates you because you hate yourself, she knows you want to be elsewhere but you are too piss weak to leave , they know this so punish you

    • @restassuredworship
      @restassuredworship 2 месяца назад +3

      Foreign women are better, there's a documentary on this I think... American women? Dead last.

    • @drumsnbass
      @drumsnbass Месяц назад

      My ex-wife decided she wanted a “silver divorce”. Fortunately I made significant earnings and was good at saving. We’re both financially stable. But… we could have had SO much more if she had been sane & stable.
      No women in my life the last 3 years. I miss them, but it’s peaceful.

  • @2legit2Kwit
    @2legit2Kwit 2 месяца назад +84

    I’m a 50 year old female and I absolutely LOVE BEING SINGLE.

    • @thedadyouneverhadchannel3544
      @thedadyouneverhadchannel3544 2 месяца назад

      @@2legit2Kwit that’s not the topic attention seeker!

    • @Catherine_2571
      @Catherine_2571 2 месяца назад +6

      Me too. My own marriage was so expensive. I was the bread winner. Realized he was a critic, like my mother. No thanks.

    • @jasminehasan890
      @jasminehasan890 2 месяца назад +2

      @@2legit2Kwit no unnecessary complications

    • @staroceans8677
      @staroceans8677 2 месяца назад +1

      Absolutely !

    • @saranagh7097
      @saranagh7097 Месяц назад

      ✌️🙏👋❤.

  • @NAYR8
    @NAYR8 2 месяца назад +25

    Literally, the best day of my life was when I got diagnosed with cancer, and my wife cheated on me and left. At the time it seemed devastating, now I have made a full recovery physically and financially. The joy of being single, and free is immense! I have taken on more time in hobbies, leisure, and travel. Every day is an adventure, without having to be shackled to an unappreciative, manipulative and psychopathic person. Out of a group of 10 friends I currently have, I’d say about seven of them are married with kids, and miserable. One couple has not had sex in over six months. Now I have full control over my life, and I don’t have to be hindered in anyway. The line you discussed about things being held against you is true lol. my ex was actually mad at me for months, because I accidentally broke a wine glass. I said it was no big deal and I’m happy to replace it. She pouted for months because she said I didn’t have a attitude towards breaking it lol

    • @AlexAlex-lg7hc
      @AlexAlex-lg7hc 2 месяца назад +7

      She was probably the cause of your cancer. When I was married I had constant pains in my chest. Had blood tests done and all that, doctors couldn't understand what was going on. The day she f@@ked off was the day the pains in my chest stopped. I couldn't thank her more for the cure.

    • @restassuredworship
      @restassuredworship 2 месяца назад +1

      Jeez... I'm sorry man. I hate that so many men are treated this same exact way...

    • @NAYR8
      @NAYR8 2 месяца назад +1

      @@restassuredworship bro don’t be like me and suffer! Don’t pay her bills, consign, move in etc. Always maintain your space and emotional health

  • @danbailey1229
    @danbailey1229 2 месяца назад +27

    I was married for 33 years and now I happier than I was the last 10 years I was married. Now I have my stereo in the living room and my guitars and big screen TV. I’m not trying to please anybody but me. We never hated each other and remain good friends because we have 2 grown sons and 2 granddaughters so there’s nothing awkward being together for holidays and birthdays. Life is great.

    • @DanHottenroth
      @DanHottenroth 2 месяца назад +9

      My X and me still also see each other and are still friends. 6 months after the divorce I had many friends, both male and female, mention that the old Dan was back. I didn't realize how much I had changed to just keep the peace and get by. As with you, being able to make decisions without the always compromising was fantastic. I have friends that have a similar setup to yours and their place always feels relaxed and fun to be at.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +10

      That sounds a lot like my ex-wife. I like her a lot better now that we’re not married. She’s a good person, just a lousy wife.

  • @timbimjim514
    @timbimjim514 2 месяца назад +20

    Being responsible for someone else's happiness and financial wellbeing is pretty hard work and quite a burden. Looking after yourself is hard enough!

  • @Autonomous1969
    @Autonomous1969 2 месяца назад +37

    I love being single.
    I do whatever I want whenever I want.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 месяца назад +6

      Freedom is great and is even better appreciated after having experienced the oppression of the plantation's taskmaster. I now believe she did me a favor by leaving.

  • @sonderman8079
    @sonderman8079 2 месяца назад +11

    As a man, the worst thing I ever did by far, until today that I am 64, was to get married. Anyone telling you otherwise is lying.

  • @dannypowers4995
    @dannypowers4995 2 месяца назад +27

    A woman does not love you, she loves the things you do for her. The more you do for her the more she tells you she loves you.🤔

    • @leonelmateus
      @leonelmateus 2 месяца назад +9

      basically, the core of all truths. thye don't actually love. they are gaming you into a feeling that you as a man truly recognize and are capable of experiencing.. the meaning of love to a woman is narcissistic in nature, unless they are a mother then they understand that feeling towards their offspring. but never the man, he simply fulfills a role.

  • @cyberzonie631
    @cyberzonie631 2 месяца назад +53

    There are no “man caves”, there is only your stuff, and yes , being single is so much better for men.

    • @ivearies4187
      @ivearies4187 2 месяца назад +8

      It is for women too! I am just saying 😂

    • @tomlynx2008
      @tomlynx2008 2 месяца назад +1

      @@ivearies4187 That is only partially true.... Being single for men is easier in the sense that we can truly be independent.... We can hang the sheetrock, lay down the carpet, and open our own pickle jars! Be honest, when you make that phone call when one of your appliances breaks down or your car is on the fritz what is the gender of the person that comes to your rescue? Just saying...... The reason women aren't having babies in the corner of a damp cave with a 50 plus percent child mortality rate is because men constructed the world for them to be comfortable in... Women wearing expensive pants suits and making six digit incomes in climate controlled air conditioned environments and complaining about long staff meetings have no real idea what it took to make that world for them..... Look around you and ask yourself who built it?... Just saying....

  • @blackprospector
    @blackprospector 2 месяца назад +6

    Subscribed! Newly divorced (4 months) and I was just telling a young man about the joys of being single today (obviously my phone was listening to me for your vid to pop up on the recommended list). You're spot on and despite the financial devastation, it's better to live suffering alone, than being married feeling, and still suffering, "alone".

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks, I know how tough it is to be in your shoes. I am putting a video tomorrow about the post divorce experience. I hope you like it. thanks again

  • @floatswitch
    @floatswitch 2 месяца назад +18

    Well said! I'm married, 25 years as of a few weeks ago, the only thing i could think about that whole day was everything you just laid out here. I love my wife very much, but love isn't enough anymore. She's getting everything she wants from this contract, I'm not. Recently i realized just how codependent i was with her and i'm determined to break myself of it. No longer will i hang my happiness on if she's happy.
    Anyway, preach brother! You said it all.

    • @johnc.8298
      @johnc.8298 2 месяца назад +2

      Quite a reality check isn't it. You may have taken the "red pill".

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +2

      It sounds like you may need to have a conversation with her. Chances are if you feel this way, she does too. Better to plan a mutually agreeable split if thats where things are headed. Good luck!

  • @orionism42
    @orionism42 2 месяца назад +66

    He's telling the truth. My wife has not wanted it in 5 years, but expects me to sit quietly and just wait for her to decide when we can do it again lol.

    • @thedevilandhertrumpets4268
      @thedevilandhertrumpets4268 2 месяца назад +23

      That’s abusive on her end.

    • @orionism42
      @orionism42 2 месяца назад

      @@thedevilandhertrumpets4268 another man hater that’s what you are. This is a men’s channel.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +25

      You are on your way to being single. She is just waiting for the right moment.

    • @graemeadeane8980
      @graemeadeane8980 2 месяца назад +2

      @@orionism42 she has all the power unfortunately

    • @freddierukundo5742
      @freddierukundo5742 2 месяца назад +5

      She is looking for an excuse to divorce you

  • @lockdot2
    @lockdot2 2 месяца назад +11

    I am 75 and most of my single friends are about the same age not one wants to get married again WHY? EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS 100% SPOT ON !!!! If you have 2 or 3 lady friends that like to do what you want to do enjoy their company and have fun because life is short it is not worth all the problems you brought up about being married thanks again been there and done that YOU DID A GREAT JOB EXPOSING THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW GREAT MARRIAGE IS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @rogerjohnson1600
    @rogerjohnson1600 2 месяца назад +33

    You're 100% right
    I'm 61
    Bachelor for over 25 years
    Best years of my life
    Most long term relationships ,men are miserable
    When you're married someone else is controlling yourself worth, thought pattern ,& happiness....
    Most women are unhappy

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 месяца назад +4

      I’ve been single for 42 years. I wouldn’t change a thing.

    • @darylfoster7944
      @darylfoster7944 2 месяца назад +1

      Nobody controls my thought patterns. Wth is wrong with you?

  • @johnnyjohnn281
    @johnnyjohnn281 2 месяца назад +56

    I’m in monk mode now since my marriage broke up in 2010. The divorce process was nasty and I witnessed every dirty trick in the book from a woman who claimed prior to 2010 to ‘love’ me. Outcome: I lost EVERYTHING! Since then the scales have been peeled from my eyes with regard to the nature of women. Today I don’t date, I have NO intention of ever being in another relationship, and my life is so much more peaceful and fulfilling. I interact with women, sure, but inwardly I view them as I would view a tiger or a leopard: absolutely beautiful creatures, but no way I would get in a cage with one to be ripped to shreds. 🙂

    • @glorgau
      @glorgau 2 месяца назад +5

      Date, but do it on your terms. Your eyes are open.

  • @tonytt9328
    @tonytt9328 2 месяца назад +14

    I feel the need to speak for us happily married men (all 3 of us 😊). My take is men who allow wives to bully/control their lives were already Simps at the courting stage, now deep into the marriage they're not happy like they thought it was all gonna somehow change. I've been happily married over 25 years, my wife brings a peace and calmful energy into my life. I've never once known her to put herself before me and our children. Dare I say I love and more importantly 'LIKE' my wife. I think many happily married men will have a similar story and that's largely because from the outset we knew what we were looking for, didn't ignore red flags, didn't compromise to appease and didn't change our core nature to win over women that deep down we NEVER really liked in the first place.

    • @MicheleArbour
      @MicheleArbour 2 месяца назад +4

      And this is why you’re married and this guy yammering his bitter vitriol is alone

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +3

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts! We need to hear from you guys too

    • @1winstard
      @1winstard Месяц назад

      @@tonytt9328 agreed

  • @travelguy1564
    @travelguy1564 2 месяца назад +33

    I was married for 12 years, been single for the past 19 years - the older I get, the more I LOVE being single. I spend time around senior couples (50's and 60's), and realize I don't have to put up with the BS from a woman. There are good marriages out there but I believe that probably two thirds of all senior citizen marriages are not pleasant. The women NAG and the men have to go along with it - it's something I'm glad that I'm not stuck in! Cheers!

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 2 месяца назад +2

      Two thirds? If true, that is a very disappointing ratio to see.
      Maybe it's an indication of the wider troubles in modern society?

    • @pugsymalone6539
      @pugsymalone6539 2 месяца назад +1

      Spread the word to your peers. Introduce them to this channel. Good luck to you!

  • @northernmichigan4108
    @northernmichigan4108 2 месяца назад +32

    You aren't jaded, you are speaking the absolute truth. I'm 53 going through the beginning stages of divorce with my soon to be ex who is 38. Fellas, DO NOT GET MARRIED!!

    • @Carlosbusiness774
      @Carlosbusiness774 2 месяца назад

      @@northernmichigan4108 you mind sharing the reason for the divorce?

    • @northernmichigan4108
      @northernmichigan4108 2 месяца назад

      @@Carlosbusiness774 She is no longer happy being with me.

    • @lochnessmunster1189
      @lochnessmunster1189 Месяц назад

      @@northernmichigan4108 How long were you with her for, if I may ask?

    • @northernmichigan4108
      @northernmichigan4108 Месяц назад

      @@lochnessmunster1189 12 years

    • @lochnessmunster1189
      @lochnessmunster1189 Месяц назад +1

      @@northernmichigan4108 Cheers. You made a good effort with it.

  • @Beginnerstarterchannel
    @Beginnerstarterchannel Месяц назад +5

    Holy moly bro, hallelujah! I'm just 31 years old and I'm never getting married and I can promise you that

    • @Lee-g8h
      @Lee-g8h Месяц назад

      31 here, it was brutal man

  • @Ghostrabbit22
    @Ghostrabbit22 2 месяца назад +24

    My GF of 6 years said she was unhappy as I do my own thing after spending a week or so with her including a little camping holiday where I paid for everything fuel camp fees food , I also do the coffee and clean ups in the morning , so now she is missing me , well I like to do what I want and she’s turning this into a almost married thing so it’s GOODBYE from me

  • @robertbush8327
    @robertbush8327 2 месяца назад +22

    I'm 59, single after a 7 year common law marriage. This last year I've been single I've never been more at peace. I'm planning for my retirement and now that my kids are grown I feel so free, like the world is out there for my exploration.

  • @rd-dd3us
    @rd-dd3us 2 месяца назад +2

    Being single after 17 years of being in a relationship/marriage is amazing, didn't realize what I was missing. Life is great.

  • @gregory6401
    @gregory6401 2 месяца назад +15

    People look at me as if there is something wrong with me when I tell them I've never been married or had kids.
    I just turned 66, was basically forced into retirement over a year ago, and I will be careful with my remaining funds going forward. Which definitely means I'm staying away from women.
    I stopped dating just after I turned 40 and haven't missed that drama at all.
    There was a time when I wondered why I was always getting the terrible dates and girlfriends but a group of friends at the time did an intervention with me and convinced me that I wasn't the problem. After that, I decided that my emotional health was my top priority.

  • @Bat_Boy
    @Bat_Boy 2 месяца назад +105

    Choose your pain.
    Lifting weights is painful.
    Being fat is painful.
    My wife is often painful.
    Being alone is often painful.
    Working is painful.
    Not working is painful.
    Having a relationship is painful.
    Not having a relationship is painful.
    What pain you choose, says more about you than anything else. Pain is the price of admission for being human.

    • @terraflow__bryanburdo4547
      @terraflow__bryanburdo4547 2 месяца назад +10

      @@Bat_Boy Suffering can be minimized, learn to read the true signals that pain is sending you

    • @IBSteve
      @IBSteve 2 месяца назад

      You forgot to list Having a fat wife is painful. lol

    • @f12sus
      @f12sus 2 месяца назад +1

      Yes… and we can absorb it and alchemize it into new energy…

    • @redfishswimming
      @redfishswimming 2 месяца назад +5

      Being alone is perfection.

    • @homiesenatep
      @homiesenatep Месяц назад

      @@lorenanders702he didn’t say that

  • @safetyman3
    @safetyman3 2 месяца назад +3

    My marriage is ending after 19 years. I have been to trusting, naive, and to much of a giver. I always strived to ensure she was well taken care of and put her first in so many ways. I have weathered situations with her and always tried to be the one she could lean on, no matter what. It has become abundantly clear that none of my efforts to show my love for her have mattered. Some spouses are takers with never a thought about giving. My soon to be ex-wife is a taker; and her taking knows no limit.

  • @dannydaniels7619
    @dannydaniels7619 2 месяца назад +8

    Been married twice! This is a masterpiece of martial advice! Thank you! Now in my late 70’s , after my last divorce life has changed so much for the better. Been working out, traveling and enjoying my time! Life is easy, fun and so much more enjoyable. It reminds me of my time in my late 20’s before I got married the first time. Never to old to learn!

  • @BankerBoy
    @BankerBoy 2 месяца назад +34

    very happily married for years and then she passed and I have been single for 6 years now in my 60s....nothing to be afraid of...peace and freedom...financially secure...I can cook and clean and do what I want when I want....buy what I want when I want...I tell my sons to stay single....its the "new happy" for men

    • @johnballard6725
      @johnballard6725 2 месяца назад +2

      I think a modern guy who cannot cook and keep his place reasonably clean should be ashamed of himself ?!

    • @darylfoster7944
      @darylfoster7944 2 месяца назад +1

      So you're advocating for the end of humanity?

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +5

      Marriage only began in the 15th century. Romantic Love in marriage in the 19th century. I think we can manage. 😃

    • @darylfoster7944
      @darylfoster7944 2 месяца назад

      @@john-griffin who is "we"? So in order to keep our species alive, your plan is to impregnate random women and presumably send them child support, and the kid can grow up without a father while you go hiking and traveling? Is that the plan?

    • @tonyvaninetti3429
      @tonyvaninetti3429 2 месяца назад

      It is the new happy for many younger women too.

  • @Anthony-zo3dk
    @Anthony-zo3dk 2 месяца назад +3

    In a society that is lost, with billions of people who are lost, having a truly deep and meaningful relationship is virtually impossible; so therefore, yes, being single is maybe the best option. But if you are whole, or working on it, as a person, and you truly love another who is whole, or working on being whole, then there is nothing better than to share your life with that person. As a couple it truly makes life easier in all aspects and soulfully complete. Bless you all, and I sincerely hope you will find your own fulfilling experience

  • @philipswain4122
    @philipswain4122 2 месяца назад +12

    I sometimes sleep in my garden, smoke cigars. I travel to the places I want, wear the cologne i want and the clothes i want. I drive the car i want snd go to Vegas for a weekend. Brilliant

  • @deliaalvarado847
    @deliaalvarado847 2 месяца назад +22

    I’ve never met a married man or woman whose life I envied. There’s a liberating freedom in living life entirely on my own terms. In the end, very few regrets come from what we did-almost all are about what we didn’t do.

    • @billyliar1614
      @billyliar1614 2 месяца назад

      And that could apply to divorce

  • @scottmorton5379
    @scottmorton5379 Месяц назад +2

    I’m 60, been divorced 24 years, had girlfriends, as soon as drama starts I’m done. I live how I choose,I let women make their choices, and I make mine. It’s not selfish when you live and let live, it’s freedom.

  • @cecilialaurin414
    @cecilialaurin414 2 месяца назад +9

    Great video just came across it I am 54 year old female never been married and have no kids I do not miss any of it, I have my freedom and can do what ever I want when I want you do not have to ask any one’s permission on what you want to do eat and have the whole bed to yourself you can eat what you want and don’t have to always do dishes. I look at my siblings marriage one is separated and the other is always waiting on her husband crazy men and women take advantage of each other and besides I do not trust men they can cheat on you and do not care staying single is the best choice. Thank you

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +1

      I’m really glad you commented. It’s nice to know that these characteristics are universal. I didn’t want to come off as being anti-woman just pro single. Thanks again.

  • @stevekane4283
    @stevekane4283 2 месяца назад +8

    Spot on my man that was me fear of being alone. 2 marriages spanned forty years now I’m single. And so much more relaxed and happy .

  • @athletikonaol
    @athletikonaol 2 месяца назад +48

    65 now. Never have been duped into marriage. In my view, most of the women I dated were emotionally disturbed. There are women who exist that are not unstable. But they are rare. I really enjoy solitude. And I live my life in peace.

    • @darrenleejones3516
      @darrenleejones3516 2 месяца назад +1

      Once you experience solitude and eternal peace, you will never go back, sometimes takes some getting used to but it’s more addictive than crack 😂

    • @jc4evur661
      @jc4evur661 2 месяца назад

      I can't believe how many I've met that have had very low self esteem...they feel like **** about themselves.

  • @michellemcintosh8761
    @michellemcintosh8761 2 месяца назад +6

    I have grown children and grandchildren and I'm good. My son mentioned that I might be lonely,I said no I'm good I actually like myself better being single ❤

  • @nathanielringdahl
    @nathanielringdahl 2 месяца назад +1

    Great point on “you have autonomy on all issues”
    This one is an amazing relief. To have spaces in the house the way you choose, to be frugal when you know it’s wise rather than capitulating to her overspending, and on and on

  • @ConnieBrown-gu6bb
    @ConnieBrown-gu6bb 2 месяца назад +18

    I’m a divorced professional woman and I feel exactly the same way about remaining single. I’ve used up every ounce of compromise I ever had.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +7

      It’s funny how society kind of frowns on us for remaining single or wanting to be single. It seems like a perfectly natural state to live in. I think it gets all conflated with religion and politics, and who knows what. But once the kids are raised and gone. What’s the point if you’re not getting along with someone you should get out. Thanks for your comment. I really appreciate it.

    • @homiesenatep
      @homiesenatep Месяц назад

      F*ck compromising

  • @sallyrobbins7770
    @sallyrobbins7770 2 месяца назад +32

    Female here - married once - we were both free spirits - loved him - but it did end in 1999 - never married again - this video makes me laugh A LOT - i am very happy single - never had kids - no drama, bills all paid, do what I want when I want ... NO REGRETS

    • @thedevilandhertrumpets4268
      @thedevilandhertrumpets4268 2 месяца назад

      Right there with you!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +2

      I am really glad you like it. Being single is a blessing in many ways. The peace of mind and the ability to do your thing is so valuable. But, if you have the right partner, I think it can be good too. It's just finding the right person is a ton of work, and the odds aren't that great. Thanks for your comment. I really appreciate it, and I'm glad you laughed!

    • @Canadian_Eh_I
      @Canadian_Eh_I 2 месяца назад

      Why do women stop wanting sex?

    • @hendrikvanspankeren251
      @hendrikvanspankeren251 2 месяца назад +2

      That’s really cool. I guess it works both ways, for men and women. I appreciate that you laughed at this. I did as well… There’s definitely a very amusing aspect to this.

  • @andrewosso2943
    @andrewosso2943 2 месяца назад +14

    I'm 57. Divorced for almost 3 years. The biggest thing I enjoy is not having to fight or argue. She always picked the fights and controlled how little we made love. Also, feeling alone with a partner sucks.

  • @TwoWheels4ever
    @TwoWheels4ever 2 месяца назад +9

    57 and just moved by MYSELF again !!!!! Loving it !!! 😀

  • @mikesnaturalroast7748
    @mikesnaturalroast7748 2 месяца назад +61

    Haaaa, 2.5 years into being single, age 63. All he says is true.

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +3

      Thanks for the support!

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 месяца назад +3

      And women age like milk. If I were to date someone it would be someone 20 years younger than me

    • @Randy-tu6sd
      @Randy-tu6sd 2 месяца назад +4

      @@baldeagle4710 "Men age like Sean Connery, and women age like . . . SEAN CONNERY!" 😁
      ~SSM

    • @baldeagle4710
      @baldeagle4710 2 месяца назад +1

      @@Randy-tu6sd 😂

    • @kengaroo5170
      @kengaroo5170 Месяц назад +1

      Marriage is good for a couple of years. Then it goes downhill. Don't waste your life and dreams trying to make a woman happy.

  • @Thatcanadianguyehh
    @Thatcanadianguyehh Месяц назад +2

    Love this video. I hate when my friends say “Happy wife, happy life”. It’s like as long as my wife’s happy I don’t care how I feel. I could never live like that.

  • @howarddavies782
    @howarddavies782 2 месяца назад +9

    He's right. No drama, chaos and yes love, no love for you. Towing the line knowing that if she wakes up one morning and decides you're a jerk then there will be marital breakdown, loss of home and sometimes access to YOUR children. It's not worth it. Good video.

  • @lightworker4512
    @lightworker4512 2 месяца назад +33

    Married for 42 years. Very happy. Blessed that I found my soulmate that understands me and is not narcissistic. Most people get married for the he wrong reasons and end up divorced

  • @paulsteen7641
    @paulsteen7641 2 месяца назад +1

    Really appreciate the perspective! I’m single n so tired of ‘are you seeing anyone’ ‘how’s the dating’….Dating today is a a nightmare n I haven’t met one single woman on hundreds of dates that’s a quality person…

  • @jeffreypryor4549
    @jeffreypryor4549 2 месяца назад +18

    I'm 56, twice divorced, one son who is 35 and lives out west. I've been single for 14 years now, and I will never marry again. I don't even date anymore and I'm just fine. My life is peaceful.

  • @515ventures3
    @515ventures3 2 месяца назад +6

    This guys wisdom is golden!!! I am 43 and i have never been married. Yes, i am listening to every word you say! Thank you!

    • @john-griffin
      @john-griffin  2 месяца назад +3

      Thanks, I’m glad you enjoyed the video. And thanks for the comment too. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it.