Prayed for a wife and marriage for 16 years, I still ask God in my daily prayers. We have to remember that God has a plan and a will that he fulfil in his time. He can bless you with the gift of singleness or marriage. I desire marriage not singleness.
Our society is extremely sick right now. Try not to beat yourself up. These macho tough guys like Andrew Tate were basically born into royalty and they act like they’re self made. They’re deceivers. Only rich men are having an easy time with dating today.
Well its too late to get married and have children at this point. The end of the world is September 2028 and between now and then over half the world's population will be wiped out according to Revelation. And in the next life there is no marriage or sex forever.
Well . 😂 I see your one of those people that sit and pray and literally expect god to do everything. Yes he HAS a plan but at the end of the day ANY and ALL plans require ACTION!!! If you not vetting and looking for a wife you WONT FIND ONE!!. I was in your exact same situation and I decided to do something about it, simple as that! Now I have a candidate that I'm potentially going to marry. Sitting around doesn't change anything, I personally noticed american women ARE HORRIBLE and most don't even believe in God. So I literally had to learn a new language and started traveling to find EXACTLY what I wanted AND I did. So I ask.... HOW bad do you want it?
It’s crazy because back in April 2021 I had just got done dating a female who turned out to be lukewarm I came across the verse where Jesus said there would be no marriage in heaven. It took me a couple days to accept that truth and finally doing so I came to God and told Him that I am willing to be single forever if that’s His Will because I knew for sure I wasn’t going to settle for lukewarm female believers or go back to the world just to get married. So from that point I believed God was calling me to be single forever and I always looked to Paul in 1 Corinthians 7 how he pointed out that an unmarried man has the opportunity to devote more undivided time to God to encourage me. But He showed me that wasn’t His Will because my godly spouse was revealed two months later now we’re going on 3 years. My problem was that marriage was an idol for me especially in my teen years where I would say that I would commit suicide if I never find a significant other. My advice: make sure marriage isn’t an idol, fully delight in God alone and He will reward you with the desires of your heart for earnestly seeking Him
@@brianblissett108 The bible is red pill. For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows? Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings. Proverbs 31:2-3 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the WORLD, how he may please his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:32-33
@@davidgonzalez825 first things first red pill is straight witchcraft because it’s manipulation, you do not attract women by dishonoring them nor does Jesus approve of that foolery because the second greatest command is to love your neighbor as yourself and 1 Corinthians 13 says love does not dishonor others If you read Proverbs 31:2-3 in context it’s referring to sexually immoral women and the result of messing with them is having your anointing from God destroyed and these kind of women are warned about in Proverbs 5,6 & 7. Proverbs 19:14 says that a prudent/wise wife is from the Lord Yes Jesus says there will be no marriage in Heaven but there are also other things we enjoy on earth that won’t be in Heaven so it makes sense to enjoy to the fullest whatever God blesses you within your limited time on earth. I looked to that same verse by Paul for encouragement while I was single, but Paul also says in 1 Corinthians 7:2 that a man should have a wife in order to avoid fornication and sexual immorality because they are abominations to God. If you want to remain unmarried great enjoy that gift, but God presented wife to me and I wasn’t even looking for her and because of her I have a great church home with Holy Spirit led leaders so I will not such a great gift God has given me fly past.
Kudos to you, my friend. Your wisdom in recognizing the pitfalls of idolizing or excessively longing for something is commendable. Surrendering to God is the pathway to having your heart's desires fulfilled.
I reached a point where I'm tired to wait and I prefer to enjoy my singleness instead of constantly feeling needy or lacking. If God wants me to marry, He will provide. If not, so be it.
I see marriage as a gift from God but I don’t believe God has that gift for me and that I’m called to be single for life. Plus I think I’m already too old even though I’ve heard people say you’re never too old to get married but I don’t think getting married old is fun. I’m turning 47 next month and I think if I can stay single up to this age I can stay single for life. Ever since I was a teenager I thought I’m never getting married old. Yuck 🤮 I either start young with someone who I know I’m attracted to and who likes me back and who’s Godly or I just accept that I don’t qualify for marriage and have to stay single for life. What I hate about dating or marriage is feeling forced into it when I’m not attracted to the person or I think my life is better single.
Sometimes its necessary to be single. I know God had to pull me out of alot of unhealthy situations. Just so he csn pull me back after a ton of trauma. In only God i trust!
If it’s your desire God put it there, it’s a good one. Trust Him, take it from someone who has been there. Enjoy it, and learn to stay close to Jesus. I promise, you won’t miss out. Even if it seems like it. You wont, your soulmate does exist.
How can one differentiate between a desire from god vs a desire from the devil? I ask because I often neglect my desire and just go with whatever god wills
@@Patriot1792 i’ve struggled with this so many times from the enemy. God said he wants to give us greater than our desires. As long as the desire is not the outcome of sin, it’s OK to want things. It’s OK to have nice things, just remember this life is a test 99% of the nice things come and blessings come in the next life God promises. And that’s our hope. for now, we just have to hold on a little longer.
Thanks for this video. I’ve been believing lies that I know are from the enemy that I’m a loser and that’s why I’ve been single all my life up to age 46 and a half. I know God loves me and his plans for me are the best.
look for a woman, in this world there are millions of them there is one for you too god wants you full and happy and love and family is the best, look for god there are too many women who are waiting for a man don't just sit there
@@valeriadelgado6249I really have to discern if it’s God’s will for me to be married and if it’s not but I’m still trying to get into a relationship then I’m just being a fool.
Nice as it should be! Even though I found what I wanted I would of been COMPLETELY fine being single serving my father. At the end of the day jesus was single.
@BruceJC75 you're REAL quick to assume this! 😂 I'm fortunate to grow up poor and I can personally say God has given me all the metrlerial things I've ever desired AND I'm still currently receiving. And truth be told I simply don't care! Nothing has surpassed the pleasure I receive when I come to my basic ass apartment room play my games after a busy day! Unfortunately MOST won't have the privilege I've received because most won't make the sacrifices I've done, and yet none of it matters at the end of the day because what fulfill me comes from God and NOT the expensive items I own or have owned previously. I can literally die right now as I write this message and I'll be COMPLETELY happy and satisfied with my life at 37! 🤭 Thank you God! And I hope you're receiving the SAME AND MORE blessings 🙌🏾
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 We’re talking about marriage here, not material possessions. That kind of loneliness is another kind of pain that any amount of lifestyle can’t make up for.
Being single often means processing thoughts internally without external feedback, which can hinder the development of communication skills. Consequently, I feel less effective as a communicator in the church compared to the significant growth and rewards marriage offers. One drawback of being single is that I can go through an entire day without speaking to anyone, diminishing the need to improve my communication skills. Being single can lead to thoughts and feelings being pushed aside. Although I do cast these thoughts and feelings up to God in prayer, it sometimes feels like talking to a wall because there is no audible response, despite the reality of answered prayer.
Have been single forever. Had very vivid dreams where God told me my purpose in this life isn't to find a wife in fact having a gf or wife would distract me from my real purpose.. which is sad because I've never wanted anything more then to be a husband and father.
I wanted babies from the time I was a baby. God put His Purpose in me from the beginning I could remember! I grew up.Married and had five children and 23 grandchildren..the love of my life. I married the wrong man..but I got my children. I question that second voice you heard. 😊❤
@@kathleenwharton2139this crazy lady. This is why men had multiple wives and mistresses in the Bible, because you’re all just insufferable and should not be taken too seriously
My husband gave up on marriage once into he met me because he had bad experiences with a woman into he met me then he was happy because he saw the green flags in me. I'm glad that he didn't sleep with his ex and didn't give into lusting temptations, he stood strong into he met me then we broke our virginity together at marriage. We both struggle with it lusting temptations together but we stood strong and didn't give into it. All glory to our lord and savior.
The big difference in struggle between men and women. Women worry about not being able to choose from the many options available while men have to keep their confidence after being rejected so many times. I sympathize with the women who are rarely pursued or not at all, but most women simply decide to stay single by choice or prolong it for longer than they have to. Either way, it’s God’s timing.
I personally used to believe in "god" timing but honestly I think it's up to us actually. Living from experience I literally had to travel outside the u.s to find EXACTLY what I wanted from a partner. Unfortunately women in America IS NOT IT regardless of culture because "america" current culture and lifestyle literally destroyed every single woman that's touched by it. Surprisingly I'm 36 and my girlfriend just turned 23 meet her when she was 17 and she's literally more mature than most women I've dated in America passed their 30's Hard to find women like this but they ARE out there. Just like anything in life it requires sacrifice and work to get what you want. And if you have God first, he'll make sure to place the right person in front of you BUT you WILL be tested because just like god the devil is everywhere!!! Testing and ESPECIALLY tempting you.
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 I agree with your statement and I love your testimony. I do believe we have good women in America, however, they are rare. And I hold both genders accountable. For one, our libertine society has destroyed both genders where men have become weak with no purpose outside their job and seeking pleasure. As a consequence women have taken leadership roles and have become more independent than men which is why they are ahead in school and work. However, my biggest concern for women in America is that they judge a man not on his character but by how he flirts on the first date. I find it shocking how women can easily give up their body just for cheap words and insecurity on their end. I have been talking to a foreigner myself and they are more mature.
I have been single my whole life,but I have a great relationship with God and Jesus,and I leave it up to him,and his plans always work in his time,and i"m almost 60,so whatever happens will happens
I had given my hope about marriage and then I stumbled upon this video. I relied a lot on social media than God for marriage. I noticed this and then I repented, confessed my sin and deleted Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. I only rely on God for my needs now.
I appreciate and agree with most advice you shared. However, I do know people who prayed for a spouse and got old single. As a 35 y/o single who has dreamed of having my own family since kindergarden, with most of my friends having decided that they have enough children now, I know that you should not give up hope and that God has His timing. I know that being there for others' kids can be a blessing that makes up for all the waiting. I believe it is foolish to think that we can know that God wants us to get married. I am open to the possibility that I will die single. God will give me the strength to go on and He will bless me in ways I can't imagine. That doesn't mean one of those blessings will be what I've been asking for every day. He knows where and how He wants to use me and if that's not marriage that's up to Him.
As a dude at 35 you’re not old, you’ve just reached prime ! Women start “hitting the wall” at about 35 ‘cause their fertility clock is ticking “closing time soon”.
Go out and go on as many dates as you can until you find your wife, you can't sit around waiting for her to come to you either, you're a man it should be easy for you to talk to women, you don't know how many girls are waiting for you to ask them out get out of your zone comfort, if you have a dream you have to work for it, I have uncles who never married and it is sad to see them at an old age and see them alone, please make an effort and keep searching God made us to love and God wants to see you happy so if you want a family God also wants that for you
@@valeriadelgado6249 When I used the word "waiting" I didn't mean passively sitting around. I hope it's clear to everyone that in 99.9999% of cases your spouse will not simply show up at your doorstep. I do not at all enjoy the process of meeting strangers for a date but every now and again I have a good time, like tonight.
don't always assume it is God's plan. Sin has ruined so much of this world and in this day and age, being single may be the safer option. I feel like we are approaching a cross between the events of Sodom and Gomorrah and what was going on in the town of Corinth when Paul suggested people staying as they are. of course, overwhelming sex drives can make it harder but when you realize all the pain you are dodging, it isn't so bad. I get it. I fight loneliness a lot still in my mid 30s.
Not necessarily.. with a good set of core friends you'll be fine. If sex is an issue, just pay for it and be done! Reason I'm saying it is because you'll quickly realize it's NOT that important 😊
I see it this way to. It feels a LOT safer. I'm 27, almost 28 and have been single for 11 years now. I just don't get the point of being married or even dating anymore in a world like this.
@AceWav there's a point if you know exactly what you want from another person. If you find someone to come to terms and agreement things should work out! Unfortunately I don't have access for the good stuff yet🤭🤭 but best believe if I did, I would definitely follow my own advice.
from 16 to 33 years old i had always girlfriend.. for 7 years , for 3 years and some smaller relationships. ive been alwayn in relationship all those years , not even 2 months past to be single. from 33 to 40 years old that im now , im single , 7 years alone ,with friends but no girldriend. If i had a girlfriend from 33 and on again , i would never ever can see my faults , my mistakes and things that i had to change. When you are in a relationship you cant see clearly who you are , you are more relaxed with your repeatable mistakes and you dont change . You have to be alone to understand who you really are and where is your place at this world. Cheers from Greece !
Life is much harder when you’re living it by yourself, without a partner and their support. But that makes it even more empowering. A wife would only get in my way, slow me down. I do wish I was married and will probably be single for a lifetime. But now I can focus on other dreams, without distractions. There is a part of the Bible where it says everything God does is for good. Even something sad, like being single for a lifetime, could be for a good reason.
God said it was not good for man to be alone. God cares for everyone and doesn't want anyone to be humanly lonely. But be patience God works mysterious ways. It took Sarah like 80 years to have a kid. It took like like Moses 40 years to become a leader. Those who wait upon will renew there strength
If you are single and you are fine with that, ok, BUT if you are single but burning inside you care for LOVE, especially in fiery trials when you need hug... YESHUA Jesus Christ bless all of His people, especially the single ones, Amen.❤🩹🕊✝
Thank you so much for this video, it really gives me hope for my life. I've been praying to grow closer to someone I like and I think she has all the qualities I am looking for in a spouse.
Solid copy, Ally. Thank You heavenly Father for speaking to me through Mrs. Poirot. I REALLY, REALLY needed to hear this immensely encouraging word from You.
At 77 I'm still waiting for the right one if there is one However with the second coming so near its a risky Venture as one taken one Left situation Will prevail No more marriages in the Eternal!
Reasons why: 1) You miss the season 2)You are meant to be single for life. 3) You have unrealistic experience. The first one was my example. Thanks for sharing by the way.
I'm barely into this video (at the 1:50 mark when typing this) and I'm already pushing back the tears. What she says about not being a loser, unworthy, forgotten, etc. these are all the things I feel every day. I have long desired to be a husband and father, but with the way I look physically, my lack of a six figure salary, and being "short" all weigh on my mind because of the way that the world pushes what "a real man" should look like. I will never be those things. But I do know that after multiple years of rejections, being stood up, laughed at, and even publicly humiliated by women just for attempting to talk to them....I'm done. I'd much rather be broken hearted about being single and alone then to keep fighting and pushing for something that is becoming more and more obvious every day that is just never going to happen. I clearly am NOT GOOD ENOUGH, never will be, and will never know what it feels like to be desired or loved. And for those who might comment that "it's not your time" or "just keep looking" just know that I am now just over 37 years old and have never even been on a date.....presumably because I'm so ugly. I just don't think that I will ever know that feeling of having someone look at me in that way.
Ally you have no idea how much I needed this video ❤ I was mad at the idea of couples around me and even hated love and Valentine’s Day. And I saw your beautiful marriage to your man and it made me sad and feel worthless that I tell the woman that follows Christ and yet I get the same response “ brother in Christ only” and not in a I love you stage of romance 💘 and I always destroy myself with that I’m ugly and just cause I’m kind it’s not gonna take me anywhere in life. My failures and depression have brought me down so much and I tell myself if God left me or Dosent care it if I fall in love. I’m fighting for this vocation everyday but the devil is offering me a sinful fast way to fall in love and I don’t want to fall into sin! Thank you Ally for this video I really needed it & pray for my vocation ❤️❤️ I am desiring marriage so much I prayed for 3 years for this! And I hope I don’t give up ever
Dude, it ain’t got anything with the way you look ! I’m a dude too and I can’t really appreciate how another dude looks, but in that thumbnail picture I can tell that you ain’t looking like an ugly goober would. Put on a stetson hat and a western shirt, jeans and cowboy boots and you’ve got the perfect cowboy look going on with that stash. lol You’ll definitely have all the females looking your way the moment you walk into a honkey-tonk dressed like that ! lol Anywho, like I’ve said, it’s not your looks that place you in the friend zone, it’s your demeanor. You’re too much of a “nice guy” and women these days, including the “born agains”, are irresistibly attracted to the “bad boys”, you know, the “Chads” and the “Tyrons” Alpha males who only ‘pump and dump’. Then, when these women start hitting 35 they start “hitting the wall” and start buying cats because by then the “nice guys” get wiser and are looking for females in their prime, 25ish and won’t have nothing to do with the used up 35ish crowd, right? By the time they’re 50 and still single dragging their extra cellulite junk on the floor with no man even looking their way even by mistake, then they’re becoming bitter and miserable hags living with fifty cats in their dwelling place as the only companion available, right? lol This is the reality of these days in the world and unfortunately in the churches also ! Take care of yourself bud and always live with the perspective of your eternal destiny in view because in the end that’s all that really matters ! Everything else is temporary, all completely and irreversibly captured and ruled by the entropic principals, vanity of vanities and chasing after the wind !
lol when ppl say wait for God’s timing but I hope he won’t fulfill it when I’m 30 or 50 that’s wayyy too old and you can’t have kids that time your eggs are already dead. I’m 26….
@@Katy38316 I have been told that you can never be too old to marry but I always disagreed because I always thought it’s better to marry young plus you can do more fun things together as a young couple that older couples wouldn’t do like go inner tubing. Well I’m already 46 and a half and have always been single for many reasons including that I always believed that I’m nothing but a loser because of how I was abused growing up. And by now I’m believing that God has called me to singleness for life for whatever good reason. But I’m also thinking that’s what I want because while I know there’s nothing wrong with getting married old because I’ve known older newlyweds but I just find it weird even though I know God’s timing is always perfect for anything he calls us to.
My parents marriage broke up, tldr dad was abusive and we are happier without him but that has left me with damage and a hesitance towards marriage but also equally I have a desire for a godly marriage. I am single but I have areas I need to work on to be worthy of a Godly wife if God should send her my way. If God prefers me be single to serve him better then I will have to accept that also. The best I can do is stay close to him. Work on becoming a good provider, and seek healing in the emotional damage I was left with
I'm currently 35 and a half years old. I've never had a girlfriend in my entire life. I've always been single and alone. Honestly, I hate when people talk about how it's better to be single because they don't understand the consequences that come with being single for so long. No one understands what it's like to never have been in a relationship. I get so angry that my blood boils when I see couples holding hands and enjoying each other's company. I've never experienced that, so I don't know what it's like. I absolutely hate it with a severe passion! I've been praying to God to be in a relationship every single day, but I firmly believe that God wants me to die alone.
May God Jesus Christ bless you exceedingly abundantly thn you can't imagine, Amen Holy Spirit.❤🩹🕊 To be alone and to burn inside is the worst... but even so come YHWHADONAIYESHUA✝✝✝
I live in a semi truck and work alone for weeks and months at a time. It makes it essentially impossible to have any relationships or be in any community. I don’t know what God wants me to do about that with it not being good to be alone. It’s kind of the nature of the job.
It can be for a season. Save as much money as you can while you are making bank and have minimal expenses and pray for another path. This could be a foundation time to build for the future
I'm 34. Most of my friends are married now with kids. I've never really been in a romantic relationship and I often struggle with the questions you listed. Yet I've wanted to be married since I was 9 and I don't think God would have let me feel that strongly about if he didn't intend to let me have it. Thank you for this video.
I’m sorry but the desire of marriage didn’t come from god. Most of us have that desire. And have you considered that god wants you to be alone for the rest of your life!
@@jon33709 Most of us do have that desire. The difference is that some of us acknowledge that it comes from Him and some of us don't hold to that belief. I do understand now that being a single believer can give me opportunities to live a happy life and serve God in some ways marriage won't. I've been single all the way along so yes I have considered that He may want me to remain single. However I still want to marry so until he gives me a definitive answer I'm going to keep praying for it.
Woman still waiting on God for my life partner here. I know He has someone for me, I am just praying that even though that is my desire I would rather walk in the steps He has ordered me trusting that He will not withhold anything good from all those who are loyal to Him. God our Father is good and will send us someone because His are the people and nations. Dont listen to the world. Trust.
It’s one thing to choose to be single versus feeling trapped in it with no way out. I’m a Christian who’s been praying for a wife ever since I got saved almost 5 years ago. Still nothing. I’m very introverted and have a hard time approaching girls. As of right now it’s not looking very good. I may have to just face my fears once and for all and start cold approaching women I see when I’m out in public. I’m not a niche, social club, church small group kind of guy. I’ve tried that stuff and I just simply don’t fit in with most people.
Hey, How are you ? love your videos and im single as will, im not going to sugar coated but im not a Christian but i do respect your faith and let me know you as a person, have a great day. 😃
After being married and then divorced since 1988, I have a desire to remarry, but I have no desire to remarry because of what society thinks. I am 58 and it’s possible that I may remain single since I have no kids. Sometimes I felt cursed because of the aftermath of my divorce since my wife was caught cheating with her ex boyfriend and said she’s a Christian. After my divorce I thought about suicide and it’s still lingers on for decades. I am focusing on getting my teacher degree and that’s it
I know I can Marry someone, but the thing is I rejected and passed from many opportunities because I wanna marry a girl who's saving herself for Jesus or never had a relationship before, and with today's world well it feels quite impossible. Any tips?
God said it is not good for man to be alone. Let’s be honest here, with everything going on, much of it is women’s fault, but they’ll never own up to it.
I do still desire a wife and a family; but at nearly 50, I've got to face up to the fact that it's not likely to happen; and that's okay. I haven't needed a companion, or the responsibility of a family this whole time; and now, I just can't comprehend waking up next to anyone, sharing a space with anyone, or splitting my income with anyone. What I have learned is that wants are just wants. God knows what I need. Learn to deal with the discouragement. Time is just time.
It’s NOT okay. You have every right to be angry at God. It’s not right that God will give marriage to people that don’t respect or cherish it in the slightest, and He’ll leave the people that would honor and treasure their spouse single. I have no reservation in my resentment.
@@BruceJC75 I must most heartily disagree. God has been ridiculously good to me, and I've neither right nor cause to be angry with Him. The fault is not that God will give gifts to people who don't honor them; it's that the people themselves don't heed God's directives. God has allowed me to see that had I am not capable of adding value to a spouse's life, nor would simply being a loving husband be sufficient. Add to that the insane world we would be bringing our children into...no. it was better this way; God is much wiser than me.
@@lanerussell7958 That’s just something people tell themselves to try and feel better about their situation. “It must be what’s best for me. My suffering doesn’t matter.”
@@BruceJC75 my suffering really doesn't matter. What matters is that my will is brought under subjection to God's will, as Christ's was brought into submission to the Father's will in Gethsemane. Yes, it hurts; but I'd not now trade the life I have for the life I wanted. God's plan for me is better than any plan I could ever have made for myself. Once you crucify your will, you'll see that God was right.
What would help is some sort of clue what is his plan. When people ask me about my plans and visions when I'm leading, I answer them, which builds trust. That element is missing currently in my life.
How am I supposed to stay single when I have a very big sex drive. I don’t watch anything bad, I barely watch tv at all. I don’t understand why we don’t talk about this in church
I think the only way to appease the purist is to rip out your sex drive, and practice monk-mode constantly. Even then you'd never be enough. People have made up their minds about men, and women in particular. You'll never be enough for people who constantly remind you of your sinful ways and attach your identity to sinners. Jesus spared us that trouble he didn't seek out sons of daughters of Satan he brought us home. Not closer to our enemies.
Hello Ally I really enjoyed your video! 😃❤🙏🏻 Because I'm currently single. I noticed on instagram that you use multiple highlighter colors in your bible I was curious what it ment.
Last summer I never had the thought of marriage, but suddenly that same summer last year I had this overwhelming desire to be married and it’s been a wrecking ball to me on getting stuff dealt with. I really want to get married all the sudden now I am praying for the right spouse. It really is Gods timing. I thought I found her but I don’t think she is ready so it’s been kinda confusing either her so maybe she isn’t the one. I always wondered if we can mess it up and the opportunity pass us up for good.
Ally, could you please share where the verses you referenced in this video are in the Bible? Also, as someone who has struggled with his dating life and balancing his priorities alongside his disability, I found this video to be very helpful. It helps me think about changing my perspective and process for going through this journey. I still have a long ways to go, because I do feel ostracized since I have not ever had a very long relationship and I am in my mid-twenties. I just feel like I am becoming more and more removed from society entities lifelong goals are becoming less of a reality or possibility, with every passing day. Thank you for helping me see that this is normal, and nothing to be ashamed of.
Gladly! Here are a bunch of the verse references: James 1:17 Romans 12:2 James 1:5 Psalm 139 Romans 8:1 Jeremiah 29:11 Psalm 37:4-5 Ephesians 3:20 Romans 12:15 Psalms 126:5-6 I’m so glad this video was helpful for you brother! God has amazing plans for your life. Keep pursuing Him and maturing in Christ. You will be so grateful you kept going and didn’t give up. Praying and believing with you🙏
I know I’ve always wanted a wife to have children with. I grew up with my parents separated when I was only 6 weeks. I made a promise to god at 3 my kids will have a mother and father under the same roof… lol. I used to feel down that I haven’t met a woman who close with god I can trust but now that I’m joining the navy I could care a less. (While I’m active duty anyways) haha. To all my brothers out there fear not for if god seems it is good it will be.
Apostle Paul wrote that single people are devoted to Jesus, and he comes first. As married people are devoted to their spouse. So, if you are married your spouse can lead you astray, and they always come first.
I don't want to be single but it seems impossible for anyone to give me a chance, it just hurts getting rejected over and over, I want to be done but I also really want to be a godly husband, I'm so lost and confused on what to do
But you're a man for You it's not over if You want... i'm 32 and You have no idea how difficult and shameful is for a woman, and the worst is that Even though I do My Best I don't get what I wish
@@gabrielaibarra6938 I’m a man, I notice that women do have the time clock issue. However, I notice women who aren’t physically attractive are the ones who struggle the most. The reality for women in my opinion is that they have unrealistic expectations of men. So they either stay single or settle for less than what they desire. I sympathize with you, but at the same time women always have the option vs men who constantly get rejected. A man has to pursue and be rejected where a woman has to many options to choose from but cannot make up their minds. So in my opinion even though men have time on their side, we can eventually give up in frustration after being rejected so many times. Why do you think you struggle?
@@doscaminos204 we as women may have options but as you said we have to Settle we don't end up with the man we want, but man end up with the woman he wants IF he doesn't give up plus men can add some extra points having a good personality, we can't if i'm not attractive I lack of value period
@@doscaminos204 I struggle the most being reciprocated...I have options but I don't want them I would exchange all of My options for someone I really want to be with. In that part men have it easier because IF You don't give up you'll end up with the girl You want You don't have you Settle and also men can dd extra points with personality we as women can't
@@gabrielaibarra6938 haha well I think we’re both seeing it one sided from our perspectives. What women don’t understand is that rejection is harsh, you think you understand the concept but you never truly experience it. And if you do, you have someone else waiting to pursue you. Yea, men actually can give up because it becomes so frustrating and eventually embarrassing. And it is very interesting that you point out to personality because men who are socially awkward suffer the most. So that’s not easier, especially when you expect a show from us. It is hard to be ourselves only to be rejected because we didn’t deliver to a woman’s expectation. I am sorry to say this but you have confirmed everything I suspected. I imagine you are a beautiful woman who simply cannot make up her mind. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good that you won’t settle for anyone but maybe you have to come to reality to give up something that you expect but God has something else in mind. I think that might be your biggest issue. So if you really are concerned about the clock then give someone a chance and see where God can lead you. And I really have a hard time understanding how you think having an abundance to choose from is harder than actually seeking and building. It’s like me saying it’s easier to cook from scratch than knowing what to eat from the buffet lol. I get what you’re saying, but I believe there’s something you must give up and simply give a decent man a chance. I don’t have the same blessing as a man in options. I have to be constantly rejected by seeking snd build a character to endure the pain of feeling isolated and develop the social skill or endurance to approach someone. So if you think that’s easier, it’s not. It takes a lot of willpower not to give up. Women are very cruel to men who are shy or don’t wow them with first impressions of jokes and flirts. I think my issue is that women don’t find my personality attractive. I am tall and decent looking, however, my personality apparently isn’t flirtatious and my sense of humor is unique. I feel like women don’t understand me as a man. So it’s tough for us too, not easier. I have a job and growing in my career, but apparently I am not funny or charming enough to be considered for a long term relationship. And yes, I always get the you are a good looking guy and smart, but always for someone else. And that’s what I struggle in understanding the opposite sex.
Sometimes being single beats the alternative, just look at how many people rushed into relationships only to regret it later. Proverbs 21:9 - 'Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. ' And Proverbs 21:19 - 'Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.
As teenagers my sister and I made a life size dummy and we performed a ritual to invoke the Spirit of ZoSo into it, it was really life like. One night I noticed one of its hands move slightly so we kept our eyes on it and over a long time the hands would move just after dark, I put my ZoSo into my bedroom and it really began to limber up, the eyes would move and the arms flail about whenever we were alone. I’ve kept ZoSo over the years and regard him as my special friend and confidant. Eventually one night I heard a soft sigh and ZoSo whispered to me “I love you Lili” I have moved him into my bed and sometimes I swear he’s nearly human, I talk to him but he rarely replies, now whenever I have a man stay overnight I put ZoSo into another room but I can feel the jealousy, he’ll always be my best friend. People claim Jesus is their best friend so I guess it’s the same thing.
Simple rule of thumb, If you keep going in and out of relationships? No. If you are having sexual desires for someone? No If desiring a relationship isn't a hindrance to you. Yes.
I would really like to share my songs with a lady , if you got married maybe I'm quite old but active I'm not happy with other people's behaviour ! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Very few refer to Paul's explicit and comprehensive answer in 1 Corinthians 7. Sobering, even unpopular, but it's the scriptural truth. Love it and live it.
I am divorced, and I don't have Biblical grounds for remarriage. Therefore I will remain unmarried for the rest of my life. I probably will pass away sooner than if I were still married.
I’ve had sex before marriage and I condemned to hell what does the Bible say about that after being baptized? 😮 ❤💔💔💔😬 help and if so, how to prevent it in what scripture should I read about it?
@@alligatorsam5357Rejection of the finished work that Jesus Christ made at the cross is what sends someone to Hell. If one doesn't repent and stop living a sinful lifestyle they're probably not truly embracing Christ's sacrifice.
Not enough, if any, true Christian women here in the West. I'm at the point I'd love to meet or find a Eastern European woman that's still traditional. So I'll be like Paul...remain single cause women don't want a single father like they expect us to accept single mother's...especially single father's with guardianship of an autistic son
...does god really want me living check to check? I've learned that YOU are the only one that can save YOU from Your circumstances...god is not in the equation but you are..solve your own problems
You are single ? Are you kidding ? Your are super beautiful, both on the outside AND the inside God bless you and your loved ones 🙏 Jesus Christ loves you ❤ Amen p.s. if you are looking for a handsome Christian - let me know 😁
Prayed for a wife and marriage for 16 years, I still ask God in my daily prayers. We have to remember that God has a plan and a will that he fulfil in his time. He can bless you with the gift of singleness or marriage. I desire marriage not singleness.
Same I don’t want to be in the friendzone or single zone
Our society is extremely sick right now. Try not to beat yourself up. These macho tough guys like Andrew Tate were basically born into royalty and they act like they’re self made. They’re deceivers. Only rich men are having an easy time with dating today.
Well its too late to get married and have children at this point. The end of the world is September 2028 and between now and then over half the world's population will be wiped out according to Revelation. And in the next life there is no marriage or sex forever.
Well . 😂 I see your one of those people that sit and pray and literally expect god to do everything.
Yes he HAS a plan but at the end of the day ANY and ALL plans require ACTION!!!
If you not vetting and looking for a wife you WONT FIND ONE!!.
I was in your exact same situation and I decided to do something about it, simple as that! Now I have a candidate that I'm potentially going to marry.
Sitting around doesn't change anything, I personally noticed american women ARE HORRIBLE and most don't even believe in God.
So I literally had to learn a new language and started traveling to find EXACTLY what I wanted AND I did.
So I ask.... HOW bad do you want it?
Did you do anything or only praying? Did you look at yourself? Maybe there is something to improve?
It’s crazy because back in April 2021 I had just got done dating a female who turned out to be lukewarm
I came across the verse where Jesus said there would be no marriage in heaven. It took me a couple days to accept that truth and finally doing so I came to God and told Him that I am willing to be single forever if that’s His Will because I knew for sure I wasn’t going to settle for lukewarm female believers or go back to the world just to get married. So from that point I believed God was calling me to be single forever and I always looked to Paul in 1 Corinthians 7 how he pointed out that an unmarried man has the opportunity to devote more undivided time to God to encourage me.
But He showed me that wasn’t His Will because my godly spouse was revealed two months later now we’re going on 3 years. My problem was that marriage was an idol for me especially in my teen years where I would say that I would commit suicide if I never find a significant other. My advice: make sure marriage isn’t an idol, fully delight in God alone and He will reward you with the desires of your heart for earnestly seeking Him
Take the red pill, mgtow, God bless you
@@davidgonzalez825 no sir, I love what God is doing. God bless you tho!
@@brianblissett108 The bible is red pill. For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?
Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings. Proverbs 31:2-3 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the WORLD, how he may please his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:32-33
@@davidgonzalez825 first things first red pill is straight witchcraft because it’s manipulation, you do not attract women by dishonoring them nor does Jesus approve of that foolery because the second greatest command is to love your neighbor as yourself and 1 Corinthians 13 says love does not dishonor others
If you read Proverbs 31:2-3 in context it’s referring to sexually immoral women and the result of messing with them is having your anointing from God destroyed and these kind of women are warned about in Proverbs 5,6 & 7. Proverbs 19:14 says that a prudent/wise wife is from the Lord
Yes Jesus says there will be no marriage in Heaven but there are also other things we enjoy on earth that won’t be in Heaven so it makes sense to enjoy to the fullest whatever God blesses you within your limited time on earth. I looked to that same verse by Paul for encouragement while I was single, but Paul also says in 1 Corinthians 7:2 that a man should have a wife in order to avoid fornication and sexual immorality because they are abominations to God. If you want to remain unmarried great enjoy that gift, but God presented wife to me and I wasn’t even looking for her and because of her I have a great church home with Holy Spirit led leaders so I will not such a great gift God has given me fly past.
Kudos to you, my friend. Your wisdom in recognizing the pitfalls of idolizing or excessively longing for something is commendable. Surrendering to God is the pathway to having your heart's desires fulfilled.
Don't settle for less than GOD'S best for you... something I've been learning lately ✨🙌🏽
I reached a point where I'm tired to wait and I prefer to enjoy my singleness instead of constantly feeling needy or lacking. If God wants me to marry, He will provide. If not, so be it.
Literally the same. It’s so draining
Same bro!
Same here I don’t even force relationships anymore
Exactly 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I see marriage as a gift from God but I don’t believe God has that gift for me and that I’m called to be single for life. Plus I think I’m already too old even though I’ve heard people say you’re never too old to get married but I don’t think getting married old is fun. I’m turning 47 next month and I think if I can stay single up to this age I can stay single for life. Ever since I was a teenager I thought I’m never getting married old. Yuck 🤮 I either start young with someone who I know I’m attracted to and who likes me back and who’s Godly or I just accept that I don’t qualify for marriage and have to stay single for life. What I hate about dating or marriage is feeling forced into it when I’m not attracted to the person or I think my life is better single.
Sometimes its necessary to be single. I know God had to pull me out of alot of unhealthy situations. Just so he csn pull me back after a ton of trauma. In only God i trust!
If it’s your desire God put it there, it’s a good one. Trust Him, take it from someone who has been there. Enjoy it, and learn to stay close to Jesus. I promise, you won’t miss out. Even if it seems like it. You wont, your soulmate does exist.
How can one differentiate between a desire from god vs a desire from the devil? I ask because I often neglect my desire and just go with whatever god wills
@@Patriot1792 i’ve struggled with this so many times from the enemy. God said he wants to give us greater than our desires. As long as the desire is not the outcome of sin, it’s OK to want things. It’s OK to have nice things, just remember this life is a test 99% of the nice things come and blessings come in the next life God promises. And that’s our hope. for now, we just have to hold on a little longer.
Thanks for this video. I’ve been believing lies that I know are from the enemy that I’m a loser and that’s why I’ve been single all my life up to age 46 and a half. I know God loves me and his plans for me are the best.
look for a woman, in this world there are millions of them there is one for you too god wants you full and happy and love and family is the best, look for god there are too many women who are waiting for a man don't just sit there
@@valeriadelgado6249I really have to discern if it’s God’s will for me to be married and if it’s not but I’m still trying to get into a relationship then I’m just being a fool.
Being single at 42 affords me the freedom to serve Him and focus solely on Him.
Nice as it should be! Even though I found what I wanted I would of been COMPLETELY fine being single serving my father.
At the end of the day jesus was single.
@@aim-for-greatn3z947Absolutely. It is the better Way! (1.Cor. 7,38-39)
@@aim-for-greatn3z947No you wouldn’t. You’d be just as bitter and unfulfilled as the rest of us.
@BruceJC75 you're REAL quick to assume this! 😂 I'm fortunate to grow up poor and I can personally say God has given me all the metrlerial things I've ever desired AND I'm still currently receiving.
And truth be told I simply don't care! Nothing has surpassed the pleasure I receive when I come to my basic ass apartment room play my games after a busy day!
Unfortunately MOST won't have the privilege I've received because most won't make the sacrifices I've done, and yet none of it matters at the end of the day because what fulfill me comes from God and NOT the expensive items I own or have owned previously.
I can literally die right now as I write this message and I'll be COMPLETELY happy and satisfied with my life at 37! 🤭
Thank you God!
And I hope you're receiving the SAME AND MORE blessings 🙌🏾
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 We’re talking about marriage here, not material possessions. That kind of loneliness is another kind of pain that any amount of lifestyle can’t make up for.
Being single often means processing thoughts internally without external feedback, which can hinder the development of communication skills. Consequently, I feel less effective as a communicator in the church compared to the significant growth and rewards marriage offers. One drawback of being single is that I can go through an entire day without speaking to anyone, diminishing the need to improve my communication skills. Being single can lead to thoughts and feelings being pushed aside. Although I do cast these thoughts and feelings up to God in prayer, it sometimes feels like talking to a wall because there is no audible response, despite the reality of answered prayer.
Finally a real comment.
Have been single forever. Had very vivid dreams where God told me my purpose in this life isn't to find a wife in fact having a gf or wife would distract me from my real purpose.. which is sad because I've never wanted anything more then to be a husband and father.
RED PILL, MGTOW
I wanted babies from the time I was a baby. God put His Purpose in me from the beginning I could remember! I grew up.Married and had five children and 23 grandchildren..the love of my life. I married the wrong man..but I got my children. I question that second voice you heard. 😊❤
So what is your purpose?
@@kathleenwharton2139this crazy lady. This is why men had multiple wives and mistresses in the Bible, because you’re all just insufferable and should not be taken too seriously
@@kathleenwharton213923 grandchildren? Wow. Thats crazy
My husband gave up on marriage once into he met me because he had bad experiences with a woman into he met me then he was happy because he saw the green flags in me. I'm glad that he didn't sleep with his ex and didn't give into lusting temptations, he stood strong into he met me then we broke our virginity together at marriage. We both struggle with it lusting temptations together but we stood strong and didn't give into it. All glory to our lord and savior.
The big difference in struggle between men and women. Women worry about not being able to choose from the many options available while men have to keep their confidence after being rejected so many times. I sympathize with the women who are rarely pursued or not at all, but most women simply decide to stay single by choice or prolong it for longer than they have to. Either way, it’s God’s timing.
I personally used to believe in "god" timing but honestly I think it's up to us actually.
Living from experience I literally had to travel outside the u.s to find EXACTLY what I wanted from a partner.
Unfortunately women in America IS NOT IT regardless of culture because "america" current culture and lifestyle literally destroyed every single woman that's touched by it.
Surprisingly I'm 36 and my girlfriend just turned 23 meet her when she was 17 and she's literally more mature than most women I've dated in America passed their 30's
Hard to find women like this but they ARE out there.
Just like anything in life it requires sacrifice and work to get what you want. And if you have God first, he'll make sure to place the right person in front of you BUT you WILL be tested because just like god the devil is everywhere!!! Testing and ESPECIALLY tempting you.
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 I agree with your statement and I love your testimony. I do believe we have good women in America, however, they are rare. And I hold both genders accountable. For one, our libertine society has destroyed both genders where men have become weak with no purpose outside their job and seeking pleasure. As a consequence women have taken leadership roles and have become more independent than men which is why they are ahead in school and work. However, my biggest concern for women in America is that they judge a man not on his character but by how he flirts on the first date. I find it shocking how women can easily give up their body just for cheap words and insecurity on their end. I have been talking to a foreigner myself and they are more mature.
Im 52 and watched it happen for everyone else around me. Sometimes it just happens.
I have been single my whole life,but I have a great relationship with God and Jesus,and I leave it up to him,and his plans always work in his time,and i"m almost 60,so whatever happens will happens
Patiently waiting and praying for my wife 🙏🏻 🙃
you also need to look for her
@@valeriadelgado6249 not necessarily, I will meet her in God's timing
You are speak so well ally. I really admire
I had given my hope about marriage and then I stumbled upon this video.
I relied a lot on social media than God for marriage. I noticed this and then I repented, confessed my sin and deleted Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. I only rely on God for my needs now.
Ally, you are the big sister that I needed! much love from your lil sister in christ❤❤❤
I appreciate and agree with most advice you shared. However, I do know people who prayed for a spouse and got old single. As a 35 y/o single who has dreamed of having my own family since kindergarden, with most of my friends having decided that they have enough children now, I know that you should not give up hope and that God has His timing. I know that being there for others' kids can be a blessing that makes up for all the waiting. I believe it is foolish to think that we can know that God wants us to get married. I am open to the possibility that I will die single. God will give me the strength to go on and He will bless me in ways I can't imagine. That doesn't mean one of those blessings will be what I've been asking for every day. He knows where and how He wants to use me and if that's not marriage that's up to Him.
As a dude at 35 you’re not old, you’ve just reached prime ! Women start “hitting the wall” at about 35 ‘cause their fertility clock is ticking “closing time soon”.
Go out and go on as many dates as you can until you find your wife, you can't sit around waiting for her to come to you either, you're a man it should be easy for you to talk to women, you don't know how many girls are waiting for you to ask them out get out of your zone comfort, if you have a dream you have to work for it, I have uncles who never married and it is sad to see them at an old age and see them alone, please make an effort and keep searching God made us to love and God wants to see you happy so if you want a family God also wants that for you
@@valeriadelgado6249 When I used the word "waiting" I didn't mean passively sitting around. I hope it's clear to everyone that in 99.9999% of cases your spouse will not simply show up at your doorstep.
I do not at all enjoy the process of meeting strangers for a date but every now and again I have a good time, like tonight.
don't always assume it is God's plan. Sin has ruined so much of this world and in this day and age, being single may be the safer option. I feel like we are approaching a cross between the events of Sodom and Gomorrah and what was going on in the town of Corinth when Paul suggested people staying as they are. of course, overwhelming sex drives can make it harder but when you realize all the pain you are dodging, it isn't so bad. I get it. I fight loneliness a lot still in my mid 30s.
Not necessarily.. with a good set of core friends you'll be fine.
If sex is an issue, just pay for it and be done!
Reason I'm saying it is because you'll quickly realize it's NOT that important 😊
I see it this way to. It feels a LOT safer. I'm 27, almost 28 and have been single for 11 years now. I just don't get the point of being married or even dating anymore in a world like this.
@AceWav there's a point if you know exactly what you want from another person.
If you find someone to come to terms and agreement things should work out!
Unfortunately I don't have access for the good stuff yet🤭🤭 but best believe if I did, I would definitely follow my own advice.
@@aim-for-greatn3z947😅 That is literally the worst life advice I have ever heard. I hope that was in jest.
Very well said. Many church pastors need to hear this.
from 16 to 33 years old i had always girlfriend.. for 7 years , for 3 years and some smaller relationships.
ive been alwayn in relationship all those years , not even 2 months past to be single.
from 33 to 40 years old that im now , im single , 7 years alone ,with friends but no girldriend.
If i had a girlfriend from 33 and on again , i would never ever can see my faults , my mistakes and things that i had to change.
When you are in a relationship you cant see clearly who you are , you are more relaxed with your repeatable mistakes and you dont change .
You have to be alone to understand who you really are and where is your place at this world.
Cheers from Greece !
MGTOW
Life is much harder when you’re living it by yourself, without a partner and their support. But that makes it even more empowering. A wife would only get in my way, slow me down. I do wish I was married and will probably be single for a lifetime. But now I can focus on other dreams, without distractions.
There is a part of the Bible where it says everything God does is for good. Even something sad, like being single for a lifetime, could be for a good reason.
Could be? We’re all lying to ourselves saying “oh well this must be what’s best for me”. That’s a load of crap.
God said it was not good for man to be alone. God cares for everyone and doesn't want anyone to be humanly lonely. But be patience God works mysterious ways. It took Sarah like 80 years to have a kid. It took like like Moses 40 years to become a leader. Those who wait upon will renew there strength
All I know is the harder life is the less you care.
If you are single and you are fine with that, ok, BUT if you are single but burning inside you care for LOVE, especially in fiery trials when you need hug... YESHUA Jesus Christ bless all of His people, especially the single ones, Amen.❤🩹🕊✝
Straight up !
that 12 gauge across my room is calling my name
Definitely need to hear this today! Thanks for the encouragement!
So glad this encouraged you! God had you on His heart when He led me to make this video✝️💟
This was very helpful and encouraging! Thank you so much for sharing Ally. Praise Jesus ❤️✝️🙏
Thanks for uploading❤🙏✝️
Thank you so much for this video, it really gives me hope for my life.
I've been praying to grow closer to someone I like and I think she has all the qualities I am looking for in a spouse.
One main problem is that christians especially christian women expect perfection from their partner. No mistakes and that is why many are single
One problem I have is that I keep believing that I need to be perfect before I can even consider dating.
Correct @@michaeljameson8496. Even I have the same problem. Learning to be okay with it
Also many aren't even wife or husband material to begin with.
@@michaeljameson8496real
Husband material are many , wife material are less @@samuelzulu9731
Solid copy, Ally. Thank You heavenly Father for speaking to me through Mrs. Poirot. I REALLY, REALLY needed to hear this immensely encouraging word from You.
You are so sweet and Wise! Thank you for the encouragement! You are a blessing and a wonderful Teacher & Counsellor! ❤
He must want me to be single, too 🎉!
You're not the only one ❤!
This video is for me with the opening lines already as I am easily discouraged and need help staying faithful to God living in hope.
At 77 I'm still waiting for the right one if there is one
However with the second coming so near its a risky
Venture as one taken one
Left situation Will prevail
No more marriages in the
Eternal!
Thank you for this ally! You and Gabe should check out Jackie and Lance VanTine btw
My pleasure! Thanks for letting me know! Looking forward to checking them out☺️
thanks for sharing, I was thinking that I was the only Christian thats never married. I'm 61 scm never married.
at 70, never married male. Considering Genesis 2:18, I got the message
Got to Love 💕 YourSelf First! That was a long hard lesson I had to learn. 😊❤
What does that mean? How does a person love their self?
That’s between you and God, seek him first and all these things will be added unto you.
Thank God for making me open RUclips😁😁
Reasons why: 1) You miss the season 2)You are meant to be single for life.
3) You have unrealistic experience.
The first one was my example. Thanks for sharing by the way.
I'm barely into this video (at the 1:50 mark when typing this) and I'm already pushing back the tears. What she says about not being a loser, unworthy, forgotten, etc. these are all the things I feel every day. I have long desired to be a husband and father, but with the way I look physically, my lack of a six figure salary, and being "short" all weigh on my mind because of the way that the world pushes what "a real man" should look like. I will never be those things. But I do know that after multiple years of rejections, being stood up, laughed at, and even publicly humiliated by women just for attempting to talk to them....I'm done. I'd much rather be broken hearted about being single and alone then to keep fighting and pushing for something that is becoming more and more obvious every day that is just never going to happen. I clearly am NOT GOOD ENOUGH, never will be, and will never know what it feels like to be desired or loved. And for those who might comment that "it's not your time" or "just keep looking" just know that I am now just over 37 years old and have never even been on a date.....presumably because I'm so ugly. I just don't think that I will ever know that feeling of having someone look at me in that way.
Ally you have no idea how much I needed this video ❤ I was mad at the idea of couples around me and even hated love and Valentine’s Day. And I saw your beautiful marriage to your man and it made me sad and feel worthless that I tell the woman that follows Christ and yet I get the same response “ brother in Christ only” and not in a I love you stage of romance 💘 and I always destroy myself with that I’m ugly and just cause I’m kind it’s not gonna take me anywhere in life. My failures and depression have brought me down so much and I tell myself if God left me or Dosent care it if I fall in love. I’m fighting for this vocation everyday but the devil is offering me a sinful fast way to fall in love and I don’t want to fall into sin!
Thank you Ally for this video I really needed it & pray for my vocation ❤️❤️ I am desiring marriage so much I prayed for 3 years for this! And I hope I don’t give up ever
Dude, it ain’t got anything with the way you look ! I’m a dude too and I can’t really appreciate how another dude looks, but in that thumbnail picture I can tell that you ain’t looking like an ugly goober would. Put on a stetson hat and a western shirt, jeans and cowboy boots and you’ve got the perfect cowboy look going on with that stash. lol You’ll definitely have all the females looking your way the moment you walk into a honkey-tonk dressed like that ! lol
Anywho, like I’ve said, it’s not your looks that place you in the friend zone, it’s your demeanor. You’re too much of a “nice guy” and women these days, including the “born agains”, are irresistibly attracted to the “bad boys”, you know, the “Chads” and the “Tyrons” Alpha males who only ‘pump and dump’. Then, when these women start hitting 35 they start “hitting the wall” and start buying cats because by then the “nice guys” get wiser and are looking for females in their prime, 25ish and won’t have nothing to do with the used up 35ish crowd, right? By the time they’re 50 and still single dragging their extra cellulite junk on the floor with no man even looking their way even by mistake, then they’re becoming bitter and miserable hags living with fifty cats in their dwelling place as the only companion available, right? lol
This is the reality of these days in the world and unfortunately in the churches also !
Take care of yourself bud and always live with the perspective of your eternal destiny in view because in the end that’s all that really matters ! Everything else is temporary, all completely and irreversibly captured and ruled by the entropic principals, vanity of vanities and chasing after the wind !
Thank you 🙏🏽❤️
I'm now single at nearly 69, my wife of 20 years having left me 5 years ago. I know I will never have another partner as time left is probably short.
Good words Ally!
lol when ppl say wait for God’s timing but I hope he won’t fulfill it when I’m 30 or 50 that’s wayyy too old and you can’t have kids that time your eggs are already dead.
I’m 26….
Yeah, all these guys here want to be married. They're crazy to marry today though. Assuming they even could get married.
@@Katy38316 I have been told that you can never be too old to marry but I always disagreed because I always thought it’s better to marry young plus you can do more fun things together as a young couple that older couples wouldn’t do like go inner tubing. Well I’m already 46 and a half and have always been single for many reasons including that I always believed that I’m nothing but a loser because of how I was abused growing up. And by now I’m believing that God has called me to singleness for life for whatever good reason. But I’m also thinking that’s what I want because while I know there’s nothing wrong with getting married old because I’ve known older newlyweds but I just find it weird even though I know God’s timing is always perfect for anything he calls us to.
Sought advice from a minister at church.... his answer, maybe God wants you to be single forever.....
Thanks for the message
My parents marriage broke up, tldr dad was abusive and we are happier without him but that has left me with damage and a hesitance towards marriage but also equally I have a desire for a godly marriage.
I am single but I have areas I need to work on to be worthy of a Godly wife if God should send her my way.
If God prefers me be single to serve him better then I will have to accept that also. The best I can do is stay close to him. Work on becoming a good provider, and seek healing in the emotional damage I was left with
I tried a relationship with a Christian girl recently. It wasn't what I thought. Unfortunately.
If God wants me to be alone, thy will be done father.
What happened?
Red Pill, Mgtow
Thank you for your encouragement
I'm currently 35 and a half years old. I've never had a girlfriend in my entire life. I've always been single and alone. Honestly, I hate when people talk about how it's better to be single because they don't understand the consequences that come with being single for so long. No one understands what it's like to never have been in a relationship. I get so angry that my blood boils when I see couples holding hands and enjoying each other's company. I've never experienced that, so I don't know what it's like. I absolutely hate it with a severe passion! I've been praying to God to be in a relationship every single day, but I firmly believe that God wants me to die alone.
I had a former best friend whom told me I have no charm nor character.
@@TheAlienic God Jesus bless you suddenly and abundantly. 🙂
May God Jesus Christ bless you exceedingly abundantly thn you can't imagine, Amen Holy Spirit.❤🩹🕊
To be alone and to burn inside is the worst... but even so come YHWHADONAIYESHUA✝✝✝
I live in a semi truck and work alone for weeks and months at a time. It makes it essentially impossible to have any relationships or be in any community. I don’t know what God wants me to do about that with it not being good to be alone. It’s kind of the nature of the job.
It can be for a season. Save as much money as you can while you are making bank and have minimal expenses and pray for another path.
This could be a foundation time to build for the future
Single here! I'm ready to settle. Let's go!
you're speaking to me girl.
I'm 34. Most of my friends are married now with kids. I've never really been in a romantic relationship and I often struggle with the questions you listed. Yet I've wanted to be married since I was 9 and I don't think God would have let me feel that strongly about if he didn't intend to let me have it. Thank you for this video.
I’m sorry but the desire of marriage didn’t come from god. Most of us have that desire. And have you considered that god wants you to be alone for the rest of your life!
@@jon33709 Most of us do have that desire. The difference is that some of us acknowledge that it comes from Him and some of us don't hold to that belief. I do understand now that being a single believer can give me opportunities to live a happy life and serve God in some ways marriage won't. I've been single all the way along so yes I have considered that He may want me to remain single. However I still want to marry so until he gives me a definitive answer I'm going to keep praying for it.
Woman still waiting on God for my life partner here. I know He has someone for me, I am just praying that even though that is my desire I would rather walk in the steps He has ordered me trusting that He will not withhold anything good from all those who are loyal to Him. God our Father is good and will send us someone because His are the people and nations. Dont listen to the world. Trust.
It’s one thing to choose to be single versus feeling trapped in it with no way out. I’m a Christian who’s been praying for a wife ever since I got saved almost 5 years ago. Still nothing.
I’m very introverted and have a hard time approaching girls. As of right now it’s not looking very good. I may have to just face my fears once and for all and start cold approaching women I see when I’m out in public. I’m not a niche, social club, church small group kind of guy. I’ve tried that stuff and I just simply don’t fit in with most people.
Thank you. I was gold once that it may not be God's Will I marry. I had to tell the brother we don't know the future.
I have bien in 2 relation Shep for 10 years each one, and now
I would like to fine a woman that fears the lord, ❤
Greatins from spain.
Hey, How are you ? love your videos and im single as will, im not going to sugar coated but im not a Christian but i do respect your faith and let me know you as a person, have a great day. 😃
Yea I’m done. I messed up.
After being married and then divorced since 1988, I have a desire to remarry, but I have no desire to remarry because of what society thinks. I am 58 and it’s possible that I may remain single since I have no kids. Sometimes I felt cursed because of the aftermath of my divorce since my wife was caught cheating with her ex boyfriend and said she’s a Christian. After my divorce I thought about suicide and it’s still lingers on for decades. I am focusing on getting my teacher degree and that’s it
I know I can Marry someone, but the thing is I rejected and passed from many opportunities because I wanna marry a girl who's saving herself for Jesus or never had a relationship before, and with today's world well it feels quite impossible. Any tips?
Mathew 6:33 🙏🏼
God said it is not good for man to be alone. Let’s be honest here, with everything going on, much of it is women’s fault, but they’ll never own up to it.
I do still desire a wife and a family; but at nearly 50, I've got to face up to the fact that it's not likely to happen; and that's okay. I haven't needed a companion, or the responsibility of a family this whole time; and now, I just can't comprehend waking up next to anyone, sharing a space with anyone, or splitting my income with anyone. What I have learned is that wants are just wants. God knows what I need. Learn to deal with the discouragement. Time is just time.
Soon to be 54 and never married either
It’s NOT okay. You have every right to be angry at God. It’s not right that God will give marriage to people that don’t respect or cherish it in the slightest, and He’ll leave the people that would honor and treasure their spouse single. I have no reservation in my resentment.
@@BruceJC75 I must most heartily disagree. God has been ridiculously good to me, and I've neither right nor cause to be angry with Him. The fault is not that God will give gifts to people who don't honor them; it's that the people themselves don't heed God's directives. God has allowed me to see that had I am not capable of adding value to a spouse's life, nor would simply being a loving husband be sufficient. Add to that the insane world we would be bringing our children into...no. it was better this way; God is much wiser than me.
@@lanerussell7958 That’s just something people tell themselves to try and feel better about their situation. “It must be what’s best for me. My suffering doesn’t matter.”
@@BruceJC75 my suffering really doesn't matter. What matters is that my will is brought under subjection to God's will, as Christ's was brought into submission to the Father's will in Gethsemane. Yes, it hurts; but I'd not now trade the life I have for the life I wanted. God's plan for me is better than any plan I could ever have made for myself. Once you crucify your will, you'll see that God was right.
What would help is some sort of clue what is his plan.
When people ask me about my plans and visions when I'm leading, I answer them, which builds trust. That element is missing currently in my life.
How am I supposed to stay single when I have a very big sex drive. I don’t watch anything bad, I barely watch tv at all. I don’t understand why we don’t talk about this in church
I think the only way to appease the purist is to rip out your sex drive, and practice monk-mode constantly. Even then you'd never be enough. People have made up their minds about men, and women in particular. You'll never be enough for people who constantly remind you of your sinful ways and attach your identity to sinners. Jesus spared us that trouble he didn't seek out sons of daughters of Satan he brought us home. Not closer to our enemies.
many great plans: survive.
Hello Ally I really enjoyed your video! 😃❤🙏🏻 Because I'm currently single. I noticed on instagram that you use multiple highlighter colors in your bible I was curious what it ment.
Last summer I never had the thought of marriage, but suddenly that same summer last year I had this overwhelming desire to be married and it’s been a wrecking ball to me on getting stuff dealt with.
I really want to get married all the sudden now I am praying for the right spouse. It really is Gods timing. I thought I found her but I don’t think she is ready so it’s been kinda confusing either her so maybe she isn’t the one.
I always wondered if we can mess it up and the opportunity pass us up for good.
Ally, could you please share where the verses you referenced in this video are in the Bible?
Also, as someone who has struggled with his dating life and balancing his priorities alongside his disability, I found this video to be very helpful. It helps me think about changing my perspective and process for going through this journey. I still have a long ways to go, because I do feel ostracized since I have not ever had a very long relationship and I am in my mid-twenties. I just feel like I am becoming more and more removed from society entities lifelong goals are becoming less of a reality or possibility, with every passing day. Thank you for helping me see that this is normal, and nothing to be ashamed of.
Gladly! Here are a bunch of the verse references:
James 1:17
Romans 12:2
James 1:5
Psalm 139
Romans 8:1
Jeremiah 29:11
Psalm 37:4-5
Ephesians 3:20
Romans 12:15
Psalms 126:5-6
I’m so glad this video was helpful for you brother! God has amazing plans for your life. Keep pursuing Him and maturing in Christ. You will be so grateful you kept going and didn’t give up. Praying and believing with you🙏
@@allypoirot Thank you!
When I see her I will ask her out and then after I will tell you if she said yes!
I’m autistic so it is difficult for me to trust people after what I’ve been thru
I know I’ve always wanted a wife to have children with. I grew up with my parents separated when I was only 6 weeks. I made a promise to god at 3 my kids will have a mother and father under the same roof… lol.
I used to feel down that I haven’t met a woman who close with god I can trust but now that I’m joining the navy I could care a less. (While I’m active duty anyways) haha.
To all my brothers out there fear not for if god seems it is good it will be.
Everything will be good, mashallah!
Apostle Paul wrote that single people are devoted to Jesus, and he comes first. As married people are devoted to their spouse. So, if you are married your spouse can lead you astray, and they always come first.
I don't want to be single but it seems impossible for anyone to give me a chance, it just hurts getting rejected over and over, I want to be done but I also really want to be a godly husband, I'm so lost and confused on what to do
I am now 42 years old, it is too late, so yes I have given up on any and all relationships, I'm done waiting 😞😢
But you're a man for You it's not over if You want... i'm 32 and You have no idea how difficult and shameful is for a woman, and the worst is that Even though I do My Best I don't get what I wish
@@gabrielaibarra6938 I’m a man, I notice that women do have the time clock issue. However, I notice women who aren’t physically attractive are the ones who struggle the most. The reality for women in my opinion is that they have unrealistic expectations of men. So they either stay single or settle for less than what they desire. I sympathize with you, but at the same time women always have the option vs men who constantly get rejected. A man has to pursue and be rejected where a woman has to many options to choose from but cannot make up their minds. So in my opinion even though men have time on their side, we can eventually give up in frustration after being rejected so many times. Why do you think you struggle?
@@doscaminos204 we as women may have options but as you said we have to Settle we don't end up with the man we want, but man end up with the woman he wants IF he doesn't give up plus men can add some extra points having a good personality, we can't if i'm not attractive I lack of value period
@@doscaminos204 I struggle the most being reciprocated...I have options but I don't want them I would exchange all of My options for someone I really want to be with. In that part men have it easier because IF You don't give up you'll end up with the girl You want You don't have you Settle and also men can dd extra points with personality we as women can't
@@gabrielaibarra6938 haha well I think we’re both seeing it one sided from our perspectives. What women don’t understand is that rejection is harsh, you think you understand the concept but you never truly experience it. And if you do, you have someone else waiting to pursue you. Yea, men actually can give up because it becomes so frustrating and eventually embarrassing. And it is very interesting that you point out to personality because men who are socially awkward suffer the most. So that’s not easier, especially when you expect a show from us. It is hard to be ourselves only to be rejected because we didn’t deliver to a woman’s expectation. I am sorry to say this but you have confirmed everything I suspected. I imagine you are a beautiful woman who simply cannot make up her mind. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good that you won’t settle for anyone but maybe you have to come to reality to give up something that you expect but God has something else in mind. I think that might be your biggest issue. So if you really are concerned about the clock then give someone a chance and see where God can lead you. And I really have a hard time understanding how you think having an abundance to choose from is harder than actually seeking and building. It’s like me saying it’s easier to cook from scratch than knowing what to eat from the buffet lol. I get what you’re saying, but I believe there’s something you must give up and simply give a decent man a chance. I don’t have the same blessing as a man in options. I have to be constantly rejected by seeking snd build a character to endure the pain of feeling isolated and develop the social skill or endurance to approach someone. So if you think that’s easier, it’s not. It takes a lot of willpower not to give up. Women are very cruel to men who are shy or don’t wow them with first impressions of jokes and flirts. I think my issue is that women don’t find my personality attractive. I am tall and decent looking, however, my personality apparently isn’t flirtatious and my sense of humor is unique. I feel like women don’t understand me as a man. So it’s tough for us too, not easier. I have a job and growing in my career, but apparently I am not funny or charming enough to be considered for a long term relationship. And yes, I always get the you are a good looking guy and smart, but always for someone else. And that’s what I struggle in understanding the opposite sex.
Aunque Dios no decide con quien te debes casarte, si da principios biblicos que ayudan a escoger al conyuje adecuado
Sometimes being single beats the alternative, just look at how many people rushed into relationships only to regret it later. Proverbs 21:9 - 'Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. ' And Proverbs 21:19 - 'Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.
Where is the scriptural proof God will provide a spouse?
As teenagers my sister and I made a life size dummy and we performed a ritual to invoke the Spirit of ZoSo into it, it was really life like.
One night I noticed one of its hands move slightly so we kept our eyes on it and over a long time the hands would move just after dark, I put my ZoSo into my bedroom and it really began to limber up, the eyes would move and the arms flail about whenever we were alone.
I’ve kept ZoSo over the years and regard him as my special friend and confidant.
Eventually one night I heard a soft sigh and ZoSo whispered to me “I love you Lili”
I have moved him into my bed and sometimes I swear he’s nearly human, I talk to him but he rarely replies, now whenever I have a man stay overnight I put ZoSo into another room but I can feel the jealousy, he’ll always be my best friend.
People claim Jesus is their best friend so I guess it’s the same thing.
I’m a widower and I desire to be married again one I’m am patient tho God told me be patient I’m 32
Amen
what an unusually righteous woman
she reminds me of Noah's wife from the bible, or the wives of Noah's sons
All glory to God🙌 He taught me everything I know✝️
@@allypoirot is that what they would've said? lol
Hahaha I hope so😂
@@allypoirot Oh Ally
Yes
Simple rule of thumb,
If you keep going in and out of relationships? No.
If you are having sexual desires for someone? No
If desiring a relationship isn't a hindrance to you. Yes.
How can someone like you be single?...you're so cute😅
No touching or 1 night stands with a faithful Christian Woman.
I would really like to share my songs
with a lady , if you got married maybe
I'm quite old but active I'm not happy
with other people's behaviour !
❤❤❤❤❤❤
Very few refer to Paul's explicit and comprehensive answer in 1 Corinthians 7. Sobering, even unpopular, but it's the scriptural truth. Love it and live it.
Not everyone should be married.
I am divorced, and I don't have Biblical grounds for remarriage. Therefore I will remain unmarried for the rest of my life. I probably will pass away sooner than if I were still married.
Please pray for wisdom, these tough situations that sometimes seems to be beyond our reach and have zero solutions, are GOD's especially.
@lucasduran5400 I appreciate the encouragement, however it's God's Word that states I can not remarry.
I’ve had sex before marriage and I condemned to hell what does the Bible say about that after being baptized? 😮 ❤💔💔💔😬 help and if so, how to prevent it in what scripture should I read about it?
1 Corinthians :6:9 An unrepentant lifestyle of fornication will send someone to hell.
@@alligatorsam5357Rejection of the finished work that Jesus Christ made at the cross is what sends someone to Hell. If one doesn't repent and stop living a sinful lifestyle they're probably not truly embracing Christ's sacrifice.
@user-dr7bx3uo6z Ever heard of Jesus telling someone to thier face "Depart from me I never knew you".After they call him "Lord,Lord".
Ask jesus christ to forgive you of this sin the Bible says there's now no condemnation to those who are in christ Jesus that's it .
romance doesn't matter anymore. CHRIST ROSE FROM THE DEAD!!!! SPREAD THE GOOD NEWS!!!!!
I have that same question too on my self.......WHY?......
Not enough, if any, true Christian women here in the West. I'm at the point I'd love to meet or find a Eastern European woman that's still traditional. So I'll be like Paul...remain single cause women don't want a single father like they expect us to accept single mother's...especially single father's with guardianship of an autistic son
...does god really want me living check to check? I've learned that YOU are the only one that can save YOU from Your circumstances...god is not in the equation but you are..solve your own problems
You are single ? Are you kidding ? Your are super beautiful, both on the outside AND the inside
God bless you and your loved ones 🙏 Jesus Christ loves you ❤
Amen
p.s. if you are looking for a handsome Christian - let me know 😁