Why We Don't Show Our Baby Online (Ep. 2)
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- Опубликовано: 12 авг 2023
- Why we don't show our baby online
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Jess, I love that you said “this is not her job.” So many family channels will force their children to create content and shove a camera in their face and they didn’t chose that life. You also mentioned the word consent which is so important. Kids don’t understand social media and don’t have the knowledge to consent to being online. I wish more people would have the understanding that you and Gabe have, it’s so important. You are wonderful parents and are doing an amazing job in case you needed that reminder❤️
These are the types of conversations that are meant for a podcast platform!! So so glad you guys are doing this & talking about this topic. We need more proactive parents that are thinking critically about how to protect their children!!
you are so beautiful!
I'm sure she is but it's also mostly sunlight mixed with light makeup
I was so excited for this ep to come out. Out of all the couple vloggers, you guys have always been a favorite and now I know why. You guys are so honest and vulnerable to have this conversation, and you're absolutely 100% correct, this needs to be an open conversation. I appreciate your perspective, and thank you for being so open
I'm so glad you're talking about this. I feel like rather than making people fear, this can bring awareness. It's important for parents to chose to protect their children over fame/money.
I’m only 13 minutes in but, holy cow this is so real and attention catching! Jess & Gabe you guys are so obviously one of the most genuine and real people, with such real conversations that are brought to light in a very deep, yet light- hearted way. This podcast is so far, TOO good!! Congrats guys. THANK YOU for this piece you share with us🩵
You guys are so intentional with how you're raising Kiah, it's beautiful to see how much you're thinking about everything and putting so much effort into it - with the emails, the letter on her 1st bday, private family vlogs this is just so wholesome. I genuinely hope your babies grow up appreciating all of this (the years after they start secondary school (year 7 upwards, so aged 12 upwards) can be a toughie with all of the outside noise so I hope all of this just warms their souls to know just how loved they are. I'm honestly taking mental notes from you guys for my own future babies. Loving these raw convos💖
THANK YOU SO SO MUCH FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS!!!! oh my gosh the relief I feel that you two were the ones to come out and make this video. I’ve been saying for a while that a really good, level headed family channel needs to be the start of a movement that SO badly needs to happen. Thank you thank you! 😭🩷 hopefully at least one family takes something from this and makes a change. It’s so so important.
i have been watching the two of you since 2015/2016 and not once have i stopped watching and loving your content and videos. the vulnerability and authenticity that the two of you omit (individually and as a couple) has been one of the most beautiful things to witness on youtube, and the internet as a whole. it is the biggest honor and pleasure to have watched you two over the years grow, evolve, get married, become parents, and as you so wonderfully put, "live life together." the creation and existence of this podcast makes me so beyond happy and i can't wait to continue on this journey with you both :')
As a mom to a four month old & trying to figure out how to parent & share life in the social media age, this was such a good conversation to hear. Thank you! 🫶☺️
Absolutely agree with this topic of respecting your child’s privacy and putting out the online boundaries to protect her from lurking predators out there. I really hope this create more awareness of the fact that it is something not to be frowned upon but rather practiced in this current age. Fame can never recover the traumas and regrets that follows if things took a bad turn. I’m so proud of you two for successfully pulling this off and thank you for willing to share your real personal experiences. God bless!
This is a good video and an amazing conversation
I loved the depth in this episode! You guys are so wise, and I have been watching you guys from the beginning, and always wanted to know your opinions on some of these deeper and heavy topics. Thank you both for being great role models for people of all ages, you truly are such a refreshing place on the internet. Looking forward to future episodes, and the merch line!! The designs look amazing!
loved this podcast!!a small recommendation would be adding timestamps or chapters in the video. keep these videos coming we are lovin it!!!
Also I hope you guys post parenting tips and stories more and more. I am due in March and really love having Christian influencers to look up to and follow. Praying for your family and wisdom as the years come
Congrats! 🙌🏼😊
I was about to start cooking - this is perfectly timed, thank you so much! ❤️ Also I think a lot of celebrities/influencers overshare their children on social media so I like you two don‘t show her face/barely show her in general. She‘s barely a year old, she can‘t even talk yet (properly I suppose) so how can she make a decision like this? YOU guys chose to be on RUclips and social media, she did not. Once she‘s old enough to make that choice, she can and she will. I love that you‘re setting and respecting her boundaries even though she‘s not even aware of them herself. A lot of people’s children in the spotlight would benefit from your mindset. 🤍
At first I always wondered why aren’t they posting her.. but after listening to this, I support your guys decision so much! And even reconsidered posting my kids. Way to bring awareness!👏🏼
Awful people will really go to great lengths to use photos posted online inappropriately. I worked as a TV reporter and people would take my images and try to sell inappropriate stuff online. One time they used my photos to catfish on Tinder...so it has also made me really careful about what I post, where it's posted and who gets to see it. It's so necessary to protect children from this kind of stuff...
I'm a silent follower and I just wanna say thank you both for not sharing your child online ❤❤❤
I also love good christian influencers like you both that are down to earth and honest ☺️💯
This is so wonderful you guys. Everyone needs to watch this! Even for non-influencers it’s so important to care and respect our children’s privacy.
Also I’m in disbelief over the stuff with Jess and Sof. I’m so unbelievably sorry.
I have so much respect for you guys, so so so much! you're both such wonderful parents and i'm sure your daughter will be forever grateful and appreciative of you keeping her life private and respecting her privacy as much as you do. i wish more parents on youtube protected their kids because it really is a scary world out there
Hey ❤ I’ve been following ye for years, since Gabes vine days. I am so glad to hear you both talk on this topic, it’s so important!!!
I grew up not knowing what my purpose was in life and then I stumbled on social work. I work with children and families all the time and it is so hard to showcase the dangers of social media. Also because of it still being quite new, some parents don’t have access or all the education on it until it is too late. Although it has so many pros it also has these massive cons that can be life altering. There are so many families that I know that if they could turn back time they would never post their children or give them social media accounts at a young age. It is honestly every parents decision on what they feel is best but the more that social media progresses, the more danger it becomes on the data and information that can be accessed with a click of a button.
I respect you both greatly for doing this for your child and may god bless you and your family 💕
Lots of love, Cait x
I actually really agree with all of the points you have made. I’ve never really thought about it from those perspectives.
My one thought is, when she gets old enough to attend school or another child’s birthday party, will she have to sit out from class/group pictures? I feel like that would be hard to control who’d get a hold of photos like that after they are taken in a larger group that’s not family.
Thanks for making this video. It’s made me very thoughtful about the topic🤍
You're fantastic parents! The way you explained it is remarkable, and it truly makes perfect sense when you piece it all together. It seems like you were under pressure from people asking, but you went the extra mile by offering advice and sharing examples from your own experiences to solidify your decision.
Loved hearing this topic. It’s so important to be informed as a parent on this topic living in a social media world. I’m a single momma and I had to firmly tell my circle she is not to be posted online. Little ones deserve privacy.
Im so glad you guys evolved and instead of just posting videos on yt, you guys have a podcast now 😍🥹 genuinely so proud and so excited to see more of this coming! ❤
Man, that was a good conversation, Parenting is so tough, as someone who's not married yet or has any kids this was low-key overwhelming because there's so much to think about when it comes to being a parent, but yeah there's no hard and fast rule like Gabe said everything is an experiment and damn haha well this was something to take away for the future, thanks thanks!!!
Hey from Aussie land! My husband and I got married last year, and are wanting children in the future and this is something we have agreed on for a long time. Thank you for the advice, thoughts and tips on this subject. Awesome podcast 😊
Beautifully said! I think that in asking your kids/teens if they’re okay with you sharing a photo of them, you’re modeling/teaching them to do the same for others including yourself and friends.. extending a mutual respect for others, not just themselves! It also instills the value of thinking before posting in general. Great conversation! Love listening and learning with you guys 🤍 ( around 28:00 )
As someone who has been a part of bringing awareness to individuals about the real dangers associated with social media and the trafficking industry- I love that you guys are talking about this. I honestly think it’s needs to be talked about more. Trafficking in on the rise in North America and there is so much unawareness regarding this topic because it’s “difficult” to talk about.
Thanks for spreading awareness!❤
I am glad that you two are talking about this topic. There's this woman on my Facebook that I went to high school with..and I don't really know her. Although, she posts her two sons literally every day in different various photo albums. It makes me uncomfortable because she'll tag their location, and them in their swim trunks at the beach.. anything you can think of. I have always felt icked by it because there are creeps out there, she isn't a famous or viral blogger so it's weird. I liked all the points you guys brought up. You seem like genuine amazing parents.
You two are such good parents. And I'm loving your podcast! I'm so excited for you!!
Happy Sunday from central California! My favorite young Christian couple. So transparent sharing life’s challenges. Your podcast is so refreshing. All the best.
I respect if parents choose to not show their children- the only thing I don’t get is if some post pictures or vlogs with their children allll the times with the camera in their faces but then blurry their faces…. Like… pick a side. So you don’t want to really post them but also want to profit of the fact, that people are interested in seeing those ‘family channels' ?! Those content creators cringe me out the mostttt
I agree! I totally respect them and their decision, however I find it a bit strange to make all these videos about her yet not show her face! If they don’t want her on the internet she shouldn’t be on the internet! People say exploiting children is bad, yet they’re still making money off her especially with these weird thumbnails teasing her face!
I have so much respect for your choice and for you discussing this on your podcast. I understand that most people don’t have the privilege to understand your decision, but as someone who has worked in child development and child welfare for years and is now finishing my masters in child therapy, I think this is such an important discussion to be had. It is not good for children’s development to grow up as a child star or child RUclipsr. Even aside from their self-view and the extreme risk of harm, it teaches them that their boundaries are not important and that is so detrimental to their development, attachment, and life trajectory.
I love this conversation! As a parent, protecting your children is your #1 responsibility. I think a lot of people lose sight of that when they live in the spotlight.
I think this was a conversation worth having. I enjoy how much thought is put on what to post these days when so much is shared. And I also agree with you that there are so many creeps online 😢 and taking care of children is much more important than having many views.
It’s amazing and encouraging to see a channel with so many followers speaking about this. Praise the Lord! I’m really enjoying this conversation and pray it plants many seeds for others. Thank you for being an encouragement to others and for protecting your child!🤍✊🏼
Love how open and honest this is! Loving the podcast! 💗
Would love to hear more about the BTS and emotions of posting yourself online, really eye opening!
I absolutely loved the podcast, and loved today’s episode idea💡and I loved, loved even more your way of talking to each other! It was a genuine, and sweet discussion done with so much respect and love ❤️ Thanks guys for sharing your thoughts with us, appreciate it, and keep it up ❤👏🏼
I have and still get lots of flack from my family and in-laws for wanting to keep our daughter offline. As a society it is SO ingrained to over share on social media that the idea of asking someone to taper that back is shocking to them. Thank you for making this podcast ep because it really verbalizes so much of this whole concept of keeping your child offline well. I feel like I’ll have a better way to explain why I’m not comfortable with her being online and I’d feel so comfortable sending this episode to them if necessary.
For me I would say that Gabe’s point on creepers or scammers etc, is a really important point to discuss. It will be most important because it is something that does not affect just one individual but also that individuals child. With keeping this point everything you discussed, when do you think your daughter will be fully be apart of not just your podcast but also your channel. I’m not a parent, but I feel a good age to start introducing any kid to social media would be around the age of 10.
I love that you don't post Makaia's face on social media, you are being protective and loving to her and she will grow to appreciate that, even during those hard teen years, she's going to know love and support from her wonderful mum and dad xo
I have been watching you guys since 2017 & have gone through the same life stages at the same time as you. Now my husband and I have 3 children & it makes me all the more proud to be a follower of parents that love and protect their baby! You two see beyond the numbers, money, and fame, your daughter will be so thankful you chose to protect her. Thank you for being a great example🙂
Thank you for talking about this! Please continue to talk about this topic and spreading awareness about harmful effects from social media for your kids
It such a relief to see someone with a platform talk about this and have these opinions! Everything you guys said was on point! We have to protect our children at all costs. The world is so cruel. I’ve been a follower for years but this video just made me prouder than ever to support you guys! Thank you for starting this conversation, more people need to be having it ❤️
I honestly could just thank you enough for this! You have no idea how much this could mean for everyone as a parent, all of us who have kids, social media is already so dangerous at this point of lives. I mean I could judged about it but knowing is gonna take a hard turn. You two just made a difference already to put it more concerned about this topic. Really something for someone as a first time parent could learn and listen to this part of your video! 😊
Finally a couple that doesn't exploit their child for money
This is so important. I've never really thought about all sides to this topic. I'm not a parent per say but I have 16 years younger sister and in some parts I feel like her second mom.
I saw so many videos about how showing your kid can be dangerous because of the hidden predators, and yes, maybe it is not so common but it can happened to anyone and that's so so scary!
And the other aspect is to see how stuff on the internet can shape young minds, the influence is far too big sometimes so if there is a chance for kids to grow without internet I would take it.
This video brought so much clarity and helped expose the perspective from those who are actually in the business of social media … (I’m not even a mom yet or an influencer, but I feel like I gained so much from watching this!!) Thank you guys for sharing your wisdom!
I used to post my son a lot when he was little because I was so excited to share him and his milestones even with just family, but now that he’s a teenager, we are very private even with family. He wants his privacy and space and I completely respect that.
I’m a podcast OG OG 💪🏼 thank you for sharing this conversation on your platform. So much food for thought especially as my husband and I are having conversations about family planning. Love the ideas of private vlogs, family/friend screenings for kids projects and having an email account set up 🥺
There’s a show on hbo max about online predators called “undercover underage”, it goes into the depths/severity of how sick the world of social media can be with the random creeps who prey on children, and it firmly formed my mind on how I plan to guard my kids from social media and I don’t even have kids yet. I commend you both for all of these points, it’s so smart.
You are not scaring people. You're educating them and allowing people to consider what could potentially occur should they choose not to be as mindful. I absolutely love your content, every video you upload and also feel a little sad that you have had to explain and justify your actions that make perfect sense. Lots of love to you 3 Xx
can’t wait for the merch!!!
and i’m loving this so far! this convo is SO important
I only have started watching but I'm glad you're taking this decision so strongly and talking about it. There's family channels that exploit their kids and only now they are starting to talk about their experiences. Let kids be kids
Yayyy so excited ❤ been waiting for this.. love you guys & you’re doing a great job at just talking about everything we can relate to ❤
My husband and I have talked about this for years. We now have a 3 week old and have found the hardest part being creating boundaries with family. We don’t post any photos of her face and family has had a hard time with understanding our reasonings. But it’s so worth setting those boundaries.
This is absolutely spot on…wish ALL family vloggers would listen to this and take ur advice!!! Super smart and amazing people ❤ keep protecting ur child/children!!
It’s so incredibly dangerous to put children on the internet for so many reasons that you mentioned and also it’s not putting fear in people….parents need to hear this loud and clear!! It’s obviously dangerous and could be very harmful for them n their future as well….and judge away…we all should, if parents vlog their children full time it’s absolutely the time to judge.
I love this whole conversation!
One thing that I’ve been wondering these last couple years is: whatever happened to good old photo albums? Like actual printed photos? Or home videos? I’ve never really understood the argument „Oh I just want to post this for the memories“. But why do you have to post online? Why not keep it just on your laptop or wherever you like to save files or print pictures etc. I understand the „posting private“ but I still don’t think it’s safe. Things can get leaked and as soon as you put anything out there on the internet on whatever platform (even if private) you really can’t control what will happen to that.
It’s so scary! It’s sad, you can’t post anything anymore without feeling like someone will do something to the photo. That’s why I freak out especially when I see people post back to school photos with their posters and it says their school name and teachers name!
Great podcast already! I watched Ep 1 and Ep 2 and they both were great :) Also thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic and for also being very kind about others choices. I think this topic and internent/technology safety needs to be talked about more to kids that have any access to the internet or social media and also kids and adults that have public accts with a decent following.
Love you guys❤ I learn so much from you two and I appreciate your reasoning behind general privacy. Makes me happy to see
I have older kids so I’ve always appreciated when influencers keep their kids off of social media. If someone has a private account for only family and friends sure. But not when strangers can see. I don’t even “like” the pics of the faceless emoji kids 😂. Weirdos abound. But I’m also the person that doesn’t think it’s great to post in a bathing suit for a bunch of strangers. Again, weirdos abound. And ya just never know what they’re up to. You’re doing a good job protecting your child. You’re the only ones who can and she needs you🙏🏼💕
Im loving this podcast wow wow you guys are so well thought out and your values are inspiring, I have one suggestion regarding the podcast setup- I wish there would sometimes be shots of both of you in it, i think its hard because your sitting directly across form each other but the flipping back and forth can get boring, would be interesting if there can be some shots of both of you guys. Just a friendly suggestion Love u guys.
You guys are setting a good example!
❤wish all parents like this😢my annoying 7 year old nephew only knows of RUclips since he was toddler and it messed it up SO MUCH. He acts like he 2. I'm so Against cellphone too. Heck no. Go play outside .be a kid and watch cartoons and play with TOYS
This talk was so great. I'm so glad you guys put all those insights out. Not only to "justify" yourselves but to inform people (I really liked how you guys researched and brought study based information other than personal opinions). You two are amazing parents and a total meant to be couple 🩷
Such an important conversation to be having! I have real questions about the developmental implications of all of this, and also, the notion that your parents have so much control over your narrative and disseminate it online to so many people. I think there will be a lot of trauma there down the line that a lot of people don't understand/even begin to think about.
I totally love the way that you include Jess's love for pop culture and the duration of your podcasts. Can't wait for more! Sending you love from Greece
Are y’all going to be talking about your faith on this podcast? I would love to hear y’all talk about Jesus and use this platform for that🤍
wow, pure thoughtful. respect this 🩵
I appreciate that you opened up on an important topic and I personally find this kind of Podcast more interesting when it’s about you, then podcast speaking about news of important celebrities and fame that we can actually search in internet if we are interested.
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the absolute best parents. Everything you’re doing is in consideration for ur daughters’ life and feelings. Its so amazing to see. Also, I absolutely LOVE all the ideas u guys are doing to make sure Kaia has a lot of memories to look back on. The emails, the personal family vlogs, adorable. I would’ve loved if my parents did that for me. She’s going to appreciate all that u two are doing when she’s older and understands why y’all set the limits u did. I’m loving this podcast and love u two 🫶🏽🫶🏽
I am so blessed and thankful that I did not have my daughter during this current time of electronics. She was in middle school early high school during my space. But, you guys are way ahead of the game on where you want to go with raising kids. Being in agreement. Since your career is with electronics, they need to know the difference. But say what
You mean, mean what you say and give the kiddos an age- 13 or whatever and it gives them something to
Look forward to it. You guys are doing great. With the kindle you guys add the books- unfortunately there are a lot of books that are not appropriate. God Bless you guys
Awesome podcast - Great to hear you talking on deeper conversations that needs to be happening more right now! Great stuff guys. I totally admire and respect your choice here!
I love this! There are so many dangers in the the world and I love that you are not exploiting your children by opening them up to those dangers. I have gained so much respect for you both!
Very insightful! You touched on it slightly but would love if you guys can talk about how you navigate tech use/social media yourselves and what you would do/ how you would allow your children to use it
I’m almost 30 years old with a 4 and 2 year old, and I learned a lot from this podcast. You both have so much wisdom.
suchhhhhhhh an important episode and topic, thank you guys for the courage to be able to speak on this issue with all seriousness because it is so real and prevalent and people need to realize it :/
I’m glad you guys talked about this, because you mentioned that it is tough to talk about this topic. But this needs to be talked about and those are all really good reasons why.
Just subscribed from seeing you guys on dad challenge podcast, you guys are great! Hopefully y’all can inspire those who are completely reckless with exploiting their children!
RESPECT! I hope other youtubers come to the same conclusions you've made here! Sharing your child online should be illegal and you two are paving the RIGHT way for future youtubers!! Respect, you have my subscribe. THANK YOU.
Thanks for talking about this ❤️ it does makes sense for you guys with the large following that you have, but I feel like it would kind of suck to be so limited on what you can post 😅 because your daughter is probably beautiful! however, this did motivate me to go through facebook followers and delete a lot of people that I haven’t seen in years! Especially since I’m about to have my first baby in 1 month! So thank you guys ❤️
Im so sorry to hear your experiences with creeps online, Jess and Gabe. Thank you for speaking out, you guys are really awesome, and I know your kid will be immensely grateful for your choices ♥️
This conversation was so so so needed in this world. I commend you guys, I respect you guys and I'm so happy for your family 🫶🏼
This topic needs to be talked about more! I agree wholeheartedly.
The only family I've finally heard have this conversation🙏 too many family influencers to tag here that I wish did.
This is the only conversation I want to be hearing from family influencers anymore. And yet it's not. Money blinds people. Thank you guys for having this convo.
You're allowed to judge parents and influencers who are abusing their power. At this point, don't be afraid to offend people.
I really appreciate, and respect your guys decisions. Y’all are awesome❤️
I love you guys!!! Awesome podcast! Perfect balance of deep light fun and serious! Perfection!
I have huge respect for you guys deciding not to show your sweet girl on social media. My husband and I are expecting our first child and have nowhere near a following like you guys nor do we have social media as our jobs, and we are even having the conversations of showing our child on social media, and we are leaning more towards not.
It’s a scary world out there and I 100% agree with you guys on doing our best to protect our children! ❤
I just finished listening to the last episode of the podcast. I just put my AirPods on and started cleaning my whole apartment while listening to you guys. I really enjoyed the topics you have talked about. Can’t wait for the next one. xoxo ❤
I agree with everything you say about parenting. I also agree that social media is dangerous. but I think you forgot exactly in this episode that social media has ensured that you are in a relationship now because without social media you would never get to know each other and can also bring something very beautiful. Love this podcast! you to are so pleasant to listen to
I really like this podcast so far. It’s really nice to see you guys have a more long form conversation on your thoughts about things. And I’m excited to see who your guests are soon. 😊 I just beg of you to never have The LaBrants come on. I know they’re popular Christian RUclipsrs, but they’ve just done so many awful things.
Such an important conversation. Thank you for having the courage to talk about this important issue guys!
I have so much respect for yall with keeping makaiahs face hidden, and your plans for the future as she gets older. I don't even have kids but my husband and I have had so many conversations regarding this topic, and I am 100% keeping my kid off social media and setting those boundries with friends and family. But I agree with setting the boundries with your kids and electronics/social media!
Thank you so much for being open about this topic, even though there was no obligation on your part to share. I really respect both of you and the decision you made as parents; I just know your daughter is going to have such a lovely upbringing in the Lord.
Such a great conversation. Thank you guys 🤍
You guys are so easy to listen to. So glad you’re doing a podcast
I love this couple. So much love, maturity and respect. Never losing the north.
I wish you and your family the most happiness ❤
Super love your reasoning behind why you don’t show Makaiah on social media 💯 I’d do anything to go back to my childhood days not having to use social media and worrying about my notifications and numbers of likes. I just wish I could go off grid and be 100% present. But can’t do that since I work for an advertising agency. Moderation and self-control is gonna be key 🔑
been loving your podcasts, they make my day ❤