how to speak to f*cking ANYONE
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Learn how to talk to anyone and improve your life instantly! In this video, we cover why you should learn to talk to people, what you need to be a great conversationalist, and specific tips for talking to girls. Discover the power of charisma, confidence, and the "theatre of life" mindset. Plus, get rapid-fire tips on body language, making conversation, and more. Whether it's for better social interactions, making more friends, or finding a partner, this video has you covered. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more!
You know we keep things quick, efficient, and no-bs around here… Below are 13 extra bonus tips that I would’ve included in the video but, I’d rather save you some time to go out and actually implement these tips 🤝
- Don’t forget to smile
- Maintain eye contact about 80% of the time
- Let them finish their sentences, never cut someone off
- Don’t criticize (except for close friends on occasion)
- Never complain about things or be negative (Especially in meeting for the first time)
- Compliment people on what is genuinely impressive to you
- Learn to crack jokes at the right time
- Use the other person's name often
- Don't be afraid to use pauses and silence for emphasis
- Be genuinely interested in what people have to say (Everyone always knows at least one thing that you don’t)
- Always look out for closed or open body language
- Understand you won't always be in a social mood and that’s okay
- And finally, never rush the farewell of a conversation - express your appreciation for their time then exit smoothly
If I missed anything, keep the advice chain going below 👇
If you guys need complements 1. Complement her hair, it’s a more casual complement and she prob worked hard on it 2. Complement her eyes it seems like an awkward thing to tell someone but I swear it’ll make her smile just try it
I’m the 100th like
wym by the body language part
@@avengedstevenfoldA7Xam a girl, these are facts, a lot of work goes into our hair so we don’t have to fix it throughout the day unlike makeup. Complementing makeup is also good, like “that shade of blush looks good” or something like if they try a different makeup style then normal but be honest
@@lucystafford8692 ok thanks
I was in the grocery store and this girl was on this platform putting stuff at the top of the shelf. All I said to her was “make sure you don’t fall” now we have a kid on the way (deeply terrified though)
Are you being for real??
Hell yeah, it's always the small things
@@OlderBrother_ it's average...
@@Generic_Phantom with a lovely personality
W for you
The thing that makes me socially awkward is that I'm constantly afraid that the person i want to start a conversation to isn't intrested and doesn't want to talk
And that's ok. Not everyone will want to talk. You don't even want to talk to everyone you know.
But statistically there are THOUSANDS of people just in your country who are similar to you and on your wavelength.
Just do it. You'll be dead one day and you won't get to say "fuck it" and just try.
If you never talked to a person before its impossible to not be interesting. If you already talked to this person you kinda know how would they react. If you ask more than answer you cant go wrong but there will always be npcs.
They don't. The trick is finding someone who is kind to strangers and don't need to be carried through a conversation
You never know unless you initiate. You can tell right away.
@@somaszanto5508 for me personally when some stranger asks me for something, i can't help but be full focus on him, firstly suprised some random guy requires something from me even though i see him first time, secondly cautious, to make sure he's not a danger for my life
My take:
1) be confident
2) listen more than talking yourself
3) maybe the most important thing: be authentic
1) be tall
2) be handsome
“Wow, you’re such a tall and handsome lady!”
@@RTZemunNope, sure they absolutely help, but staying obsessed with superficial things like that is exactly what is going to make you unlikeable lol
@@Corvothing24 its a joke, but ok.
joke is where, you? @@RTZemun
A moment of silence for the people who actually liked the first story
Fr I thought that was a pretty good story, the 2nd one sounded more like the guy was trying to ahrd to tell a story. Sounded like one of those college frat boys just making something up for attention out of a group of people.
Yeah, it felt more natural and direct than the second one. It's "sharing an interesting moment from your life" vs "telling a story in a way that tries to be as engaging as possible".
me fr
Lmao yeah I was not paying attention and thought he used the first story as an example and I was like "yeah, sounds cool, imma try it" and then he's like "BORING"
Fr, the second one irritated me. It even makes it sound like he was lying.
The calculator and weather app in the thumbnail is crazy
It's basic inventory for me in high school
They always got your back
@@JorgeOHara120 bro nah we so cooked, I uninstalled the calc and weather apps. Now tryna get rid of the setting
Just put down your phone completely wtf???
@@Uknowwho5356 😭
2:04 be careful with this one. Used wrong, this can be very annoying. Sometimes when someone asks you a question they genuinely just want an answer, not for a 1-way ticket to Yapperville
especially if the situation is more time dependent, like if I'm waiting in line for something. if I got a bus coming in 2 minutes then I want a more concise answer
Yeah, and having a story for every answer gets kinda weird after a while
But i think theyd probbaly listen to you if you used listened to them first
"friends are theater" this man has never felt true comradery
You must be living in a Disney movie.
@@rock3tcatU233 nah man i just have actual friends that like me for who i am
depends on the friend group lol, most "friends" are just acquaintances that you're talking to mostly to diversify your social circle and network. truly real and close friends you can trust are a rarity nowadays unfortunately
@@todowizz9534 then you're hanging out with the wrong people my guy
@@joeyboy8873 everyone has more than one social circles u don't act in front of ur true friends but what abt Coulleigues ,classmates and such u know them yes but u don't act like yourself in front of them
increasing my charisma stat rn
Maxing out my aura🔥🧘🔥
bro thinks he can solo out charisma with yt vids at 3 am 💀
@@gusslxhow’d you know it’s midnight
Working on getting mine up before school starts again💯
@@yes.2913 Lmao same here
Why tf am I watching this😭😭🔥🔥🔥🔥
Cuz we are cooked gang
Because we need it gang
Two weeks ago a friend made fun of me in front of two girls. Every time I met them one of them starts saying «hello» again and again because I dont talk
Because you saw shrek on the thumbnail
Because the algorithm knows you better than your therapist
1. Compliment, observation, question
2. Search for common points
3. Let people talk about themselves
4. Become a good storyteller
Well, I let her talk for 2 and a half hours while I inserted my interests and opinions.
She didn't ask me almost f****ng nothing.
Never felt such an indifference against me in my life from someone who wanted to have lunch with me.
At least I hope she liked the conversation XD.
Probably wouldn't chase a person like this since you'd want someone who asks questions like "what about you" since this shows interest in you too. If they're not doing this then they don't really care about you, however they aren't bad for just friends or a hookup, so there's that.
@@thatplantmain6180that’s true. Usually I like to engage with the person I’m talking to like “why is that?” Or “what made you pick that?” And refrain from talking about myself. It is nice when I’m asked questions
This is why the whole "just listen!!" shtick is such a giant meme lmao. People literally don't give a single shit
That can be my problem as well. They talk for two hours about God knows what, I bring up something interesting, they say cool, then return to their thing.
LOOL L
My best advice: Be good at geography! When you ask them where they are from you can instantly talk about that region etc. They will be stunned about your knowledge and like you more because you talked about their region. Only works when they are from a different place so at college or when traveling
Thanks man
nerd
Good point👍
Time to lock in at geo guessur lol
i can attest to this. I'm born and raised in MA, but I went on a road trip all the way to and from TX for the very first time a year ago, and explored a lot of beautiful places over there. i had endless stories coming back. there was a point in time I met a couple different people over the last few months that were from TX, and I talked to them as if I were from there. really good way to make them feel like home.
Honestly, this is better than brainrot RUclips shorts videos.
And bro, how are you so underrated 😭😭😭 🙏🙏
Duh anything is better
no shit this is better
you are beginning to believe
lmao what do you mean “honestly”
no shit 😂
no shit... did you enjoy the brainrot videos or something??
Someone: Starts talking about something i'm actually interested at
My brain: Remembers every single word said in this video
My mouth: *"damn that's crazy"*
I kinda want to put these tips into practice but...man that just ain't who I am. That just feels fake, like I'd be playing it up for the people. I'm not a circus, I'm a real person. I guess I'll keep being bad at speech 'cause this ain't it.
Literally me. Oh my god, some of these tips just sound like "If you're shy, tough luck, be a different person."
Feel this one
On the one hand I really don't want to be silent most of the time, I end up judging myself for being too unsocial and feel bad, but on the other hand, well, trying to start a conversation even if you don't have anything to say, and probably not even in the mood to talk at all, since it is so, it is a complete dogshit
It is hard to accept, but I guess if you're naturally not much of a fan of talking, it's better to try to accept yourself rather than try to be who you are not by such unnatural attempts to be more social
Yeah kinda what I was thinking about
If you're shy, overcome it
I did a while ago and it feels natural to me
If you enjoy being shy, and want to stay that way, that's perfectly fine, but of you don't like it and want to be more sociable, then yeah you basically have to become another version of you, because who you are is literally just what you tell yourself you are, you can easily become a different version of you, nothing is stopping you except yourself an your preconceived notion of who you believe to be, but it's just a belief you hold, and when you feel like a belief you hold doesn't serve you anymore, then it's time to get rid of it.
I am actually pretty good at listening to people yapping away. It’s the talking part that I struggle with.
Same
When someone says something all I can do is respond with "yeah" or just laugh I suck that bad
Fr bro
Bro I just learned twice as much in 6.mins compared to a whole month of school
Thank you man
you learn rizz in school?
@@adammarkszobek655 no, I mean just anything related to learning
At school we mostly learn garbage
@@adammarkszobek655 I think he means that he learned more life skills than academic skills that we likely not be used muched
@@adammarkszobek655This guy 💀💀
The hardest thing for most dudes it seems is realising when it's time to give up and stop hounding a girl
fr no girl will want someone that can't even take a no, i don't know what they're hoping for by standing there 💀
i've watched most of your videos and finally onto this one and I just wanna say, please do not ever stop this kind of content, it's extremely helpful and valuable and I really appreciate it man. Thank you 🙏
Don’t worry, I’ve got a very exciting next few months of videos planned 💪
Hey man. Just found your videos. Ong the most real and valid advice on RUclips. Thanks for not selling a bullshit course. Got my sub.
Appreciate you bro 💪
Ever since I started going to the gym, my life has gotten consistently easier and better. My ability to be social, my confidence, and my self awareness has just increased. I've been able to break away from being an NPC and now I feel like a person. Now I worry less and I just do things that I want with little to no anxiety to hold me back. Obviously I still have self doubts about a lot of things, but I'm more sure about myself and my decisions, so making a choice is less demanding of my mental health. It's been great, 10/10, go to the gym you guys.
“Toilet skibidi” always works
Bro that is pedophilia
It’s true
Fr they laugh like crazy on that, works with most of a brainrot (confirmed by personal experience)
@@OfficialSaulmaybe if your 5
“You’re gonna tell her skibidi toilet” - Franklin from the newest Family Friendly video
As that exact guy and having multiple addictions I see this as an absolute win
For clarity, I'm an alcoholic and a chain smoker.
0:29 don't be bald and short 😭😂
Im short and going bald soon
So yeaaa🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@pooravsankhyan7700just get jacked
@@pooravsankhyan7700get big then, some women love jacked bald guys, and grow a bear.
@@ignaciod06How do u grow a bear 😂
@@nocturn9164 beard** 😂
Bro I came here just thinking this was a joke video but I came out with confidence and a new look on social interactions
You pretty much summed up a decade of experience right there, kudos and you have a new subscriber
i’m a professional yapper but i feel like when i talk to new people, it’s like i’m leading the whole conversation 😓 i pause to let others speak, and i’d love to listen as much as i speak!! but the only people who share my energy are my friends
as a older brother (who obviously didn't have a older brother to help me with what i struggle with),watching this feels like having a moment of wisdom with the older brother i never had.
Damn, that's exactly my story. Sometimes I feel jealous about my little brother, because he has all my experience I've got the hard way
I was at school the other day, we had a new student come in for our woodwork lesson from Ukraine (immigrant) so I went up to him and asked what city he lived in in Ukraine. As simple as that, we had a whole conversation going. Sure, a little broken English from both of us, but it worked out well.
I already knew all this, but it's good to be reminded. I just take the "not caring" aspect to an extreme and blab on and on because as I say, there's 8 billion other people in the world. It's good to be reminded to shut up and listen more often than I speak, as difficult as it is for me.
Bro, god must havr sent you to us. So much valuable information in just a short time. Keep up with the good work 🤙
Glad you enjoyed 🙏
Jesus is the ultimate director of this theater we call life 🔥🔥🔥
The last tip is probably the most useful and overlooked one. Too bad I suck at empathy and eye contact for that, but now I'll at least try to look for clues to bounce consciously.
How have I just stumbled upon the holy grail for introverts
i dont want this to be all calculated and complicated i just want to go with the flow
Dudeee imagining you’re in a movie is spot on 😂 like I would always imagine as if someone’s watching me perform improv and all I can think abt is doin my best 😭😭
Broski the video is perfect. Its so much information for one video tho. Thank you big bro
My problem is I enjoy talking to people for few minutes or few hours depending on the situation
but then I get bored of them and don't feel like talking to them ever again
maybe it has to do with the way I grew up, But anyway thanks for the video✌ 😁
Totally agree here - Let’s say you’re at a networking event (Boring convos mostly), I just rip a bunch of caffeine for excitement then go in with a goal.
If it’s a networking event, I’m gonna talk to 5 new people to try and connect on LinkedIn.
If it’s talking to random girls at a bar, I’m gonna try and get their number.
If talking for the sake of talking is boring, make it a challenge 🫡
Why this randomly popped up on my RUclips feed after I was cursing myself soundly for messing up a conversation with someone today, I have no idea, but I'm glad it did.
Kept seeing this on my recommened like 6 times this week and finally just decided to click it
I used to be the perfect talker, but then the ecstacy lost its effect...
3 pills didn’t hit. I am a lost soul
Try to remember what made you effective talker and try to do the same but sober. 90% is that you are not afraid to say any stupid thing and do it confidently on X
This is easy to say but disgustingly hard to replicate for someone who has absolutely no good social skills, I'm struggling to talk in front of strangers, I'm at loss of words and don't even know what to say once I'm there.
You don’t run out of things to say when you’re talking to yourself. So the key is to just be comfortable when talking to people
Thank you so much dude! I really lost all social skills after Covid. Wish I had an older brother
this is literally base level communication
I won't lie, I just thought that I hated talking to people and I wasn't interested in them, but in reality I think its a combination (like 70/30) of low self-esteem because I doubt my own social skills, making social situations stressful, and just normal introversion.
Confidence about one's social abilities can go a long way. Once you start doubting that, it becomes a spiral; you become anxious in social situations, making you panic and make mistakes, "proving" to yourself that the doubts are true. Once you break out of the cycle you can make gains.
What goes on in my head is: "this is scary, I don't know what to say, I'm probably not interested anyway, I should just dip, I can't do this". I realize that the third statement is just a cope for the first two.
I had a friend who had insane storytelling skills now I realize how important that is
Now i havetk learn how to have stories to tell. I bet no one will be interested in how i spend my days laying in bed browsing through social media
is it weird that at 3:10 i thought the second story was the example of bad storytelling? i thought this because it mentioned what you were thinking (i thought people don't like hearing the other person saying "i" or "me" since it makes them uninterested,) and had awkward humor. but the first story stuck to facts, was concise, and easy to listen to.
i think my storytelling is cooked lol
I disagree. I don't think you need to incorporate every single one tip to your kit, this specially.
The second story he told irritated me greatly. It was overly bombastic, and it didn't sound very genuine. The language sounds very cool kid-ish.
Surely you can improve your storytelling and add some ornament, but it doesn't need to be that exaggerated. If it doesn't come naturally to you, don't force it too much.
That depends greatly on your goals, though. If you're looking to improve your flirting or acquainting with many people, I guess it's okay. But if you're just socially awkward or want to make a couple of friends, then it just may be better to be yourself, bring something to the table and making sure to keep the conversation comfortable and enjoyable (like asking questions and all the other stuff the guy in the video mentioned).
@@JaponesbelloI agree, you can also just mix it with your personality. Some people are super silly naturally and some are incredibly logical. That’s just what it is.
If you tell Storys, keep one red line that you follow and Keep up a faster pacing on smaller Details, because poeple get bored easily. "Get to the point"
"Everybody say Coloradoooo" (trying to take picture while skiing)
(some photo bomber, skiing through the middle) "I'M A GIRAFFE"
Who else remembers this meme?
Ironically, I’m a Coloradan, and I’ve never skied. You’d actually be surprised how little people talk about skiing here
Murasaki Juice is the most knowledgeable being on planet earth. His brain is filled with USEFUL information.
Dang these tips are just what I already kinda do, I'm glad I randomly learned these myself by thinking lmao
Ngl I tought this was gonna suck from the intro but this is actually pretty useful
How did I never think of these basic skills bro, thank you!
Every old person gets this knowledge as a senior starter pack I swear, it’s like a trap
for me it is just being honest and confident dont be scared to say anything if someone doesnt want to talk to you just leave this person lol
I literally open the video just because of the thumbnail, is just so good
Thanks bro, i always end up sitting awkwardsly saying nothing and it makes my friends feel awkward or uneasy
Me: walks up to a black person
Also me: “you like chicken bro?”
Start the conversation like this : "Did you ever hear the tragedy of Darth Plagueis The Wise?"
Bro i was literally gonna search how to speak and this guy popped up in my fyp
That “mindset hack” section just made me re think my life and question nearly everything I ever knew
Best objectively social skills video rn
This was a very helpful video because I find it hard to have conversations with people so thank you
Always have a flirty tone when talking to any girl. From little girls to old grannies.
This only helps if ppl actually wanna interact with you
Bro ik all this shit. I bring up something ik they like talking, they yap about that thing and i make convo by asking questions they're eager to answer, but often (with girls) they never ask me anything personal and I don't wanna butt in now and say hey maybe it's time for me to share something.
do it when there is a silence or expecting one
if a girl never asks you about yourself she might not be the right one dawg
If you ever don’t know what to say, simply repeat the subject of the other persons last sentence in a questioning voice. E.g.: „I went to Aldi to buy groceries yesterday“ „groceries?“
Keeps the conversation going 100% of the time.
"yeah idiot, don't you know what groceries are?" great advice, thanks!
nice video I have severe social anxiety I think this will help
Can you make a religious friendly version ( *no swearing* ) so more of us can share this?
Thanks, i was trying to get really good at making conversation, and this really helps with talking to girls
My advice, talk to yourself and see if they join in.
i love this video man you've revolutionised my life
this dude is underrated asf how u only got 20k i subbed
Amazing video! Just subbed! Going to watch it again later today and then start implementing it in daily life. Thank you.
I used to be super socially awkward, but than i realised most people are pretty shy at first and actually dont fucking care and would even like if you talked to them.
@olderbrother Dude, your vids are just incredible! Very efficient and interesting but maybe the rythm is a bit too fast. I think it could be easier to understand everything without having to go back if the rythm was a bit slower; otherwise, can't wait for the next one!!
Thank you, and I do appreciate that feedback ✅
thank you dude i have autism this helped alot woohoo
Same boat, same boat.
Same boat, same boat
Same boat, same boat
Same boat, same boat.
autism is showing in this comment section
Just get the one friend who never stops talking but everyone likes and make him your roommate. You will get some of his skill within weeks, no effort. I can hear him talking in the next room right now
Guys, what kind of people we like if we have to study how to speak💀
the only reason I clicked on this was to see why the calculator, weather and settings were in the thumbnail
99% of guys avoid talking to girls and pretend to be on their phone and they go on those apps. If you don't then your mental
Its easy to know this consciously but much more difficult to apply subconsciously
You content is gold Brother, Please keep providing us with things like these More consistently! 🙌
this woulda been great 5 hours ago 💀, ive just fumbled so bad
Genuinely, thank you for this vid.
I am someone who suffers from anxiety, and has autism so it ain’t that easy, I really do be trying out here though 😭
Thanks to this video, I can now speak to God.
The holy tongue ⛪️
Easier said then done😂
I’ll keep the info in mind it should come in handy one day
My advice
1. Be confident
2. Yap
the hard part is that if the other person has the same problem lol
It depends on the person for this strategy to work
Tbh it seems like too much energy and effort just for a chance that a person will return that same energy back too you as far as social skills go
This is why i stopped talking to people. Too many sweats
lmao
“You burn weed?” “Of course!”
💀
( 1:16 )
I can't speak to fucking anyone, but I manage to talk to folks alright.
Likely gonna get lost in the comments but for the 3 people who find this comment this might save you (mild yap session incoming)
One thing people forget when trying to talk to people is to see if they SHARE THE SAME INTRESTS AS YOU. Even I was genuinely caught off guard when I realized how easy it is to talk to people I've never met in my life who like the same things I do. Like soccer? Join a camp to socialize with other people. Like planes? Join a club and you can start a conversation from literally anything.
One thing you need to keep in mind is that results are never instant; they never are when it comes to making completely new friends. Also, I did all of this in high school and I cannot tell yall if this is practical in a working setting. But if you happen to still be in school, I'm telling you 2 things: Join as many clubs as you can and GTFO of RUclips or any social media; It literally sucks the soul out of you.
TLDR: Join groups of people who share the same interests and go tf outside :)
U r translating the book in the thumbnail into internet slang lmao
When I end up talking about myself I feel bad afterwards, dont do that please.