I am a fragile, broken man
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- Опубликовано: 2 авг 2023
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oooh this was pretty good i especially thought the girl was beautiful and very good act
thanks 4 having me it was fun and nice to see how it came together :))
You were so good in this!!!
What a simp, where'd you find her, the dump? The dump truck?
Anyway why can't I find matching socks?
same
And both with strong attitude and shiny smiling which we can feel from seeing. Keep going.
It's weird how some people can spend so much time on things that are incredibly pointless, silly, and that add literally nothing of value to the world. I'm glad she came to her senses and put the guitar down to help you figure out the relative sizes of those toy men.
Organizing the tiny men is a metaphor your getting your ducks in a row and perspective.
@@handlesshouldntdefaulttonames would you stop reading into things and contributing your perspective to the discussion gosh
@@zac9311gosh GOSH!!
@@Ler-ky1tzgosh oh jeeze gosh..GOSH jeeze oh gilly gosh
Gosh darn good golly@@andrewhilbert4790
at the start of the video you can see joel feels like the smallest, but by the end he is definitely the shortest
That's the most beautiful thing I've read in the last 46 minutes❤️
oh my god...thank you for saying thiss.
My favourite part is when Joel said “now I am become fragile, organiser of height”
I like when Joel said "It's heighting time" and he heighted all over them.
No joke is every funny for so many times
@@truthwatcher2096 overused jokes are the best jokes
Definitely one of the jokes of all time
Joel's instant booing at Tiana is like the voice inside my head that instantly boos whenever I make an important life decision
I know that feeling.
As your doctor, you should stop making decisions 👩⚕️
Sorry that's just me booing at your decisions cause I dislike them
as your lawyer, you should stop being a doctor
@@Key.Fantasyas your dad, you should stop being a lawyer
As someone who is also trying to get his little guys in a row from smallest to biggest, I relate to this.
I’m working on biggest to smallest, any tips?
@@marcusjensen835 start with the biggest
@@hauntswargaming That's a fatal mistake. Two of my roommates at the old folks home passed away from starting with the biggest ones. Come to think of it, might have only been one of them. The other was into auto-erotic asphyxiation.
You should always start in the middle. Like with a jigsaw puzzle or a pudding.
@@marcusjensen835 Look for the different ones.
Smallest to shortest*
The way you played a fragile, broken man in this one really resonated with me as a fragile, broken woman
It is hard to love ourselves when nobody loves us, but it is an effort we must do precisely because of our loneliness. May Jesus bless you. Love yourself. It's so important.
It is hard to love ourselves when nobody loves us, but it is an effort we must do precisely because of our loneliness. May the flying spaghetti monster cast an aura with unlimited duration and 150% increased aura effect to magically enchant you. Love yourself. It's so important.
Booo get a room why don'tcha?
you guys should definitely have fragile, broken sex together
@@reallyanotheruser7290Le epicly trolled.
This was the video equivalent of shards of glass going into my eyes
😵😵
Like in a good way?
@@Joel-HaverI mean…Where’d you get this video? The dump truck?
@@thew0rm105you hear this guy?
@@ElDuderinoh Loudest and clearest pile of flaming hot cheeto dump I reckon I've ever
A man never stands so tall as when he stoops to measure little guys from smallest to shortest.
This was a poignant sketch. There's a lot of gold in this hill. It had a lot to say about how egos can get in the way of us doing things. What's more important? Lining up the little man? Playing guitar? Supporting your partner and making them feel special and valid? Cheering your friends on? Working on things together? Do we hold each other back by needing love? Lots to think about and your cute little cabin is such a flex
You put it in such beautiful words, thank you
Ikr I couldn’t stop smiling
yeah no, not really. but you said it nicely.
Very well said
Also I wonder if by constantly needing to help someone "get their little guys in a row", do we sacrifice our own pursuits for happiness? And when we achieve those pursuits, do we find it necessary to filter or downplay them so as to not shift the light of focus from someone's struggle? Is there any longevity to be found in servitude to a fragile, broken one? Will love and devotion always prevail if we sacrifice our selfrespect?
We have now entered what film historians refer to as Joel Haver's "Yellow Phase". A natural evolution from his Blue Phase. Remarkable.
are the colours referring to the phases a body goes though after being shredded by a landmine?
@@cobaltno51they are a reference to the colours on those different heighted little fellas
Ummmmm
I like how her character doesn't have an emotional reaction to his booing, or take it personally, but knows something else is going on. I've really been trying to be like that recently, less reactive to or impacted by what others say or do, and to try to approach with empathy. Not that you let others walk over you, but just to start with trying to understand. It's not easy, but I think it is worthwhile.
She has a reaction that starts out a little upset, but yeah, after some thinking, she boils it down to confusion and intrigue. Very useful mindset to have.
boooo :)
May your life be full of joy and satisfaction. Bless you for trying. It's so hard.
Boo, where did this guy get this idea from, the dumpster di.. the dump? what an idiot, only idiots think like this
Thank you for putting the words to your thoughts on this
That shot of the guitar in the end hit different though. Like, she can't put energy into what she loves cause she's with someone who is having such a hard time that she has to put energy into what he loves. Deep stuff, Joel!
People always describe movies as having a "dreamlike" quality, usually when they have trippy or surreal imagery, but for me Joel's videos are the most spot-on example of this. Usually dreams are mundane, set in familiar yet unusal spaces, with conversations that seem nonsensical but also reflect real world fears, anxieties, etc. Like in this video, Joel's character is clearly feeling inadequate, comparing himself too much to his friend, trying and failing to accomplish seemingly pointless tasks. This, to me, is the perfect recreation of what dreams feel like.
I'm really glad Joel saved this friendship by admitting defeat. That was his win. She seems like a very nice person.
Are you talking about the video or real life?
I let you decide, but you don't have to either@@youregonnaburnalright7333
I actually got a bit emotional at the kindness she showed Joel in this one. Really wholesome :)
I feel that
Isn't the joke that his pathetic neediness is actually crushing her talent?
@@AnthonyFlack that's certainly an interpretation you could take away, I usually just like to call it 'helping a friend in need'
@@AnthonyFlack Or, she could clearly tell that he's a fragile, broken man, and needed a W.
@@AnthonyFlack i think it's about perspective, her being the bigger person, and having her priorities straight, her self-esteem is secure while he's falling apart, she can show him the full song later, he can apologize for his attitude later, and he already said he liked it so far, at that moment she saw him in need and understood that insisting on continuing with her music right then was pettier than him wanting to organize the toys, because his need for emotional support seemed deeper and more urgent than her need for support with her music, she wanted to love her friend in need more than she wanted to play her music to him
The final shot of her abandoned guitar is so sad, as she puts aside developing her talent to comfort Joel's man-child character.
It's a flaw of modern affluent society. Sacrificing the time and energy of the smart and strong for the weak and useless.
That song was like shards of glass in my ears but in the best way possible. So beautiful
“Well they better be listening” might be the best line in the channel
How can someone be so gentle, loving, kind, and supportive, all while also taking zero offense and not just immediately lashing out in retaliation? She’s a keeper.
You know this is a sketch right?
@@warrenhepburn9285prove it
@Drakoman07 Prove what? That this is a sketch? What, what.. you uhhh, you think you can prove that? That’s easy pal. Here, take a look. See there’s Joel, he’s a uhhh a small broken man. See? That’s fiction. Joel is instead the guy who stepped on the landmine.
@Drakoman07 ok tough guy quit replying to yourself
@@Drakoman07 huh? I’m so lost
That hushed voice scene felt so raw. Loving it as always.
How is it possible that every human Joel comes into contact with is also a good actor?
maybe he just doesn't show the bad ones or he's just a great director
Some directors just know who to cast for all the right reasons, Joel is one of those directors. Makes me think of Christopher Nolan
In addition to him probably being a good director, people that take filmmaking seriously tend to surround themselves with like-minded individuals. So he probably knows lots of good actors because he hangs out with lots of actors.
cuz he's a great director
Because we are all actors, pretending we are separate people. We forget that it’s all an act, for fun, to honor the miracle of being.
God, I felt this. When you feel like you’re constantly losing every single day, even the smallest things feel so crushing. Something silly can feel like a life or death struggle, and seeing others succeed easily can make you feel even worse about yourself. You might not be saying anything out loud, but your internal thoughts are just like this fragile, broken man.
If I were Joel’s friend, I would use sandpaper to shave down some of the little people to make them different heights.
If I were one of those little people I’d run the heck away with a couple of close friends and hide from the giant sandpaper monster together so that we can be the tallest and get the most attention from Joel and his friend
why...? they're already different sizes. that just sounds cruel
Some people just want to watch the world sand
Nice, might be a good idea to have a saw on you, since it'd be easier to shorten the ones that need a lotta shortening. That's very kind of you, to Joel, not the little guys, i don't think they will like it
Do it slowly, sanding just a tiny bit from one guy one day, and another guy another day. But start with the tallest one, otherwise they'll all be too short.
The song she plays is “Catholic Country” by Kings of Convenience. This was literally the song I was learning on guitar this past week; wild.
best song ever alert!
I was so giddy when I heard her starting to play it. That song and band has such a special place in my heart (cause of a girl of course)
as someone with adhd and autism i relate to this video very hard tbh
just feels to me like its a good representation of what it feels like to not be able to understand and excel at the things neurotypical people can, and how getting assistance can really help
or yknow maybe im looking too much into it and this is just a video of a guy trying to organize his little guys in a row lol
either way, great video joel
👍
I too think this video is more than just a video :)
As silly as this was, that ending shot was kind of ominous/melancholic. By helping the fragile man, she put her project on hold. Will she finish her song? Or will she be destined to pursue the Sisyphus task of smallest to shortest...smallest to tallest?
She has the right idea to pull Joel up, but her methods of giving him baby points may be suboptimal.
I feel the same way, but when I watched a second time, I think the timing of the ending line is perfect, and lifts the scene back up at the last moment, leaving you with both emotions. It left me feeling like it's natural to feel sad if your friend is so fragile they can't give you attention/space, but ultimately it's usually better to give them the care they need, if you have the ability/energy.
Someone's comment also mentioned it could be a metaphor for a child/parent relationship, and I agree. I would go further though and say you could see a 'fragile friendship' as being very similar to a child/parent relationship at times.
Yeah, I cant help but feel mixed emotion by her relenting just to make him feel better. Sometimes the little figures just are all the same size, and you have to come to terms with that.
I don't know if this is something you'd do, but I think we'd enjoy hearing you talk about your projects. Like how they do actor's discussing their biggest roles, you could do one where you go across your favorite videos and discuss your process and ideas on creating them. :)
Boooooo! Boooooo! Where'd they get this idea, the dumpster?
I second this!!!
Yeah!
I literally cried during his breakdown. It was so exaggerated and unrealistic but at the same time so relatable on some fundamental level. We've all felt like that at some point and it's great to see it. It's great to see a fragile, broken man getting so much love and understanding. Thank you Joel for this beautiful film, touching as always.
Why am I suddenly crying so hard after it cut back to the guitar sitting against the bed
She plays very well..I miss my guitar. Good seeing you doing stuff Joel.
Find a guitar. There are incredibly good guitars for cheap right now, more so than at any time in the past. On the used market, they're even cheaper. I couldn't live without at least one guitar-well, I could technically live, but I wouldn't want to.
@@sundaynightdrunkyeah, a $20 thrift store guitar is 1000 times better than no guitar.
Lady: what do you think of Russian dolls?
Joel: They're full of themselves!
🤣🤣🤣
This was in many ways, a masterpiece
Joel always win baby game cause I always call him baby cause I love him
Seeing this fragile, broken man being fragile and broken made me cry because I really felt how fragile and broken he was and it reminded me of how fragile and broken I am as a fragile, broken man.
As someone who struggles a lot from depression and anxiety. This hit really deep, and from what I interpret from it, just made me feel some really intense emotions. It really does feel like this sometimes. Thanks Joel.
I struggle with depression and psychosis too. It's nice to find people who can relate. This is one of my favorite sketches from Joel.
I love how this is just about really being here and listening to your friend, helping them through something that might be silly or trivial but clearly still bothering them.
Geez, what a supportive friend. I think anyone would be lucky to have such a lovely person
This is a really cute view into a sibling relationship 🥺
Had to pause the video mid bite at "very realistic poster, we gotta take that down, we shouldn't have such a realistic poster hung up" because I was about to choke and die from laughing
this hit me in a very personal place, i am so glad to see i'm not the only one that struggles like this. thank you for this!
She's so patient, it's adorable. Nice hairstyle too
I think she is patiently sabotaging him.
Damn, this touched me. Feeling different from others and feeling like no one understands you. But there’s a beautiful connection that happens when someone tries to see things from your perspective, that really got me
Size isn't always just about height. Personality counts.
such a nice guitar solo though
Love that your sketches can end so wholesomely
DUDE THE SECOND I HEARD HER PLAYING GUITAR I INSTANTLY RECOGNIZED IT AS CATHOLIC COUNTY FROM THE KINGS OF CONVENIENCE. i am literally the human shazam.
really disappointed that I didn't get to see the little guys in proper order
You can tell by the end how Joel really changed as a person by convincing Tiana that the dolls were different heights all along.
She is so patient and kind to Joel, I loved that. Made me feel good
Joel's acting is so convincing
Woah this is actually so deep. Joel was just projecting his own problems onto other people. There’s so many lessons to be learned from this.
This is my favorite video that you've made. Thank you. That is all.
This might be my favorite sketch you've done Joel, me and my spouse were dying watching it
Hope to see more of you two this is great
What an emotional rollercoaster. I was even pissed at Joel for interrupting the song. Its really a beautiful piece.
Joel your movie making skills have always been good, but your acting... man, I got chills from that performance dude. Keep doing what you love and we'll keep loving what you do!!
she is the best, for example, for a person who doesn't think egoistically and approaches him but talks to him calmly, asks him what he's doing and why and she responds perfectly to him and just goes along with it. If there were more people like that in the world, there would be a lot less fighting 💗
True, it's interesting to see how everybody has a different takeaway from it ❤
I'm mesmerized by the furniture and style of the room, it feels refreshing and open. Just a relaxed fresh-air kinda vibe. Interior decoration gets a 10/10 on the chill meter.
Never thought a 5 minute skit could summarize gender issues so well.
I came from the baldurs gate video, but boy, this is gold, man! I've never saw a good skit for a while now. You are awesome, man. Keep it up! Will binge all your content when free. 🎉
Tiana and Joel make a great pair. So calm, so thoughtful. This reminds me of The Kids Table when Joel was traveling across the US, but now it's Europe. Haha
Europe?
@@Jhost90 Yeah, Joel went to Europe. I don't know where you've been. Lol
@@jenniferbauman uhmm having my life and not necessarily following everything a RUclipsr does? 😅
Too bad though, would have loved to bump onto him randomly!
@@Jhost90 rude, but true.
@@jenniferbauman I mean I would argue the rude thing to say would be "I don't where you've been LOL" but hey
This could be a metaphor for him being a child and her being a parent. He interprets and interacts by imagination; she by observation. They disagree and she is better anchored to the real world. He keeps losing in the real world. Then she starts imagining with him and his win is the connection they share.
I see it as somebody struggling with a task and having that struggle feel trivialised by somebody comes by who's been more experienced
I think you're spot on. He's done other videos where all the actors are the same age but they are clearly playing parents and children.
Or Joel is just a fragile, broken man
@@blatchie4608That's what you see on the surface. OP is talking about subtext.
tbh as a handicapped person, it's just hard to hold on to your self-worth sometimes.
The acting in this was...touching
I don't know why, but I really resonate with this fragile, broken man
Man, I really like your videos. I like how they make me feel. It's the same feeling when I watch a Mattias Pilhede video, and that's a compliment.
JUST LET HIM PLACE THE LITTLE GUYS IN ORDER OF HEIGHT.
This was much cuter than I expected going in. Thanks for sharing your fragility
I love how we never know the relationships between Joel's characters. This guy is actually her band manager. Great at finding gigs and has great chemistry with the band, just a bit weird.
As absurd as this is, i've had boyfriends like this who are so emotionally starved and dysregulated that they swallow you whole via your empathy. Makes you forget who you are, don't do it
you've had multiple? the fact that's the sort of person you look for says more about you than it does them, and the fact you let yourself 'forget who you are' even once makes one wonder why you pursued them in the first place. it almost sounds like you're trying to push responsibility for your choices onto someone else, "they're starved" "they're dysregulated" "they swallow you whole" "they make you forget who you are". maybe blaming them for your issues makes it easier to avoid admitting you have a weak sense of self, or a lack of self control maybe? you're so emotionally dysregulated you let them take over your life. well, food for thought maybe. i like to take responsibility for my issues instead of putting blame on other people, i've found it infinitely more constructive.
@@JooJingleTHISISLEGIT Woah woah woah you're coming on pretty strong here mate! But it's interesting because I used to do what you just did to others too and i'd like to address that.
Please be careful with people: understanding psychology isn't worth much without compassion.
Like, if I was still stuck in unhealthy patterns today, believe me I'd be very aware that there's a problem. But I would still be too emotionally overwhelmed by/not ready to accept the weight of my own role in it, and I'd still need that twisted shift of responsibility to cope, until i felt better equipped to handle it.
That requires to feel safe, first. To feel validated in how i did my best to survive up until now, and most importantly, validated in the very real, unjust suffering i was put into from day 1 without compassion from caretakers. Then I could process it all, learn self-compassion, grieve and move on to meet my self for the first time. You don't get that with a YT comment, it took me 4 years of therapy.
There's a whole life to unpack that leads to who people are today, you can't just invalidate and shame them into doing what you think is best for them from afar.
If I hadn't been ready to take in your massive opinion on how i should be living with a step back, i promise you it would have hurt me more than helped me.
People need compassion most especially when they are lost and vulnerable - which i absolutely was back then. But i do get it, it's hard not to want to help others when we see a pattern we recognize in them. Please just be careful.
Man this one hit me hard today. I just made a lot of progress on a project I'm working on today and someone really gave me a low blow. This cheered me up and made me realize I'm just being a silly goose. Thank you for cheering me up Joel. Trips me out how this came out a couple hours after the event. Now I can go to sleep, it's past midnight here in Asia.
Joel's monologue literally made me cry a bit, goddamn.
There are a lot simpler ways to tell us you need glasses Joel. It’s ok.
Instantly Fell in love with her Kind vibes. As always great video
Oh, that shot of the abandoned guitar. Heart-breaking.
This is so sweet honestly
it makes me cry when ever I see A fragile, broken man struggling to sort smallest to tallest
Man, I just love the design and decoration of that room.
Metaphor of a relationship right there.
Prime storytelling, deep emotion, relatable 😭
Its amazing how joel can just play himself and be funny ❤️
Oh man. The wine glasses. Recontextualizes everything. Beautiful work.
This was actually adorable
it’s okay man
Wow, one of your most heartwarming skits, Joel.
Sweet film, made me feel things, 10/10 will watch again
Stay strong, Joel. Having a reason to smile is all that matters, at the end of the day
Well this was adorable
Man, if you think about this for like 2 seconds longer, it's so deep. I'm gonna sound like a hippie, but I can almost feel what Joel's trying to get across here. I don't think I'd be able to explain it well.
I feel the same as you, and I'm glad you have found more words to explain what I felt after watching this. This is such a beautiful and deep piece ❤️🩹
Thank you Joel, I almost cried at the last part.
Keep up your great work!
Why am I crying? God bless you Joel
ur story telling is so unique and great.
Booing is always funny to me-- like it's just so silly that we universally agree on a sound to just mean "nope, not this!"
That said, this is _particularly_ good booing 👏
That zoom on the guitar though. Perfection 🤌
One of your best ones, loved it.
“your brain, and my little pieces” would be a fantastic concept indie EP.
its so nice to have understanding and kind friends
This is a like a mother consoling a child for getting cyber-bullied .
Theframe after Tiana sits down to help Joel, it honestly feels the guitar is rolling her eyes.
Powerful stuff! Gosh dang dynamic, dramatic, delightful.