@@Oliviathesillykid yeah but do you have people that support you? Not people who might literally beat you up for being anything but straight or people who say they would support you but really they wouldn’t.
I feel you. I'm 14 and idk what's going on , I m a girl and I seem to like a girl . I m terrified I really hope I m straight. I mean just think of what will be the others reactions? I even have a friend who doesn't support but even my friends who support idk how they ll act after hearing this. Idk what's happening I hope that one day I ll grow up and think that "omg I was so stupid back then why did I think that I was gay"
@@lovl4ever hey you’ve got time I’m 22 almost 23 and I’ve been repressing my feelings since I was probably your age so don’t worry about it that much. The one thing you definitely shouldn’t do is let it fester that at least for me hasn’t gone well.
The whole "not knowing if you want to be like them or date them" thing is so on point with me! I didn't experience it for the first time until my second to last year of middle school. A girl in the class above me was so beautiful and everything I thought the ideal woman should be, and even though I told myself that my admiration for her was because I viewed her as my idol, there was always a lingering feeling that I wanted more than that. Then high school came around, I got the same feelings about an entirely different girl, not being certain if her beauty made me want to emulate her or kiss her, but this time, I knew it was mostly the latter.
@@여보바닐라 I- I just did that- I mean the imagining stuff, I just thought that okay let's try imagine a woman and it felt weirdly similar to when I imagine man? And here I am because never in my life I've had crush on any girl 😂 questioning my existence is kind of everyday thing but yea..
It's sad because It's already late when I realized that I'm bi. I'm from a very religious family (Filipino), and there's also this prejudice against same sex relations in our place, so I was very confused during my high school years because I have this huge "interest" in a girl in our friend group. I can't stop looking at her and she always intrigues me. I feel calm whenever I see her and she's like a stress reliever for me, that even if I'm super stressed that day, seeing her happy makes me smile and feel relieved. I didn't know why I feel this why at that time though and I tried to ignore the feeling to the point that I even decreased my contact with her because I hate feeling confused. Then a few years passed and we graduated from high school(gr10). I transferred school in my senior high, and well, I felt relieved that I won't feel that feeling of confusion again. A few months passed and I heard that she was diagnosed with leukemia. She lost her hair, she got pale and frail and her overall appearance was just devastating to look at. I felt sad at that time but I also again tried to ignore this feeling because... Why would I be this sad ? I mean, there's a certain level where you can feel bad for someone... I occupied myself with academics and got very busy. A few months passed again and it was just after a huge typhoon passed that I heard the news about her passing away. I honestly didn't know how to react... Like I don't know why but I can't feel her being dead, you know ? But, when we were about to go to the graveyard for her burial, I shed tears... Remembering how I won't see her again and all. I thought it was a normal reaction at that time, everyone was crying too. It was college when I found out that I'm bi. I mean, I can be with anyone, boy or girl... But when it comes to love, I feel like that doesn't exist anymore for me. My only guilt is that it's already too late when I realized what I actually felt about her. P.s... sorry for the grammar, english isn't my first language😅... Just wanna share this.
Hello, im so sorry about your loss. I have the same story almost. I didnt know it because I was raised as a Muslim and its not normal to like someone from the same sex. It took me until mid college years to understand and that I really liked my best friend. I got jealous when I see with her boyfriend and I had to act normal. Later on I told her that I liked a girl. Anyway some other stuff happened.... We got drifted away for some reasons. For the last 2,5 years I missed her in my life and checking if she is doing okay. I was angry at her mostly. Two weeks ago I learnt she suicided before turning 29. I have been crying my eyes out and thinking about her constantly. Watching our videos. I wish I could be with her in a different country or culture that she was not afraid of kissing. Or something intimate. I think I will never fully admit her going like this. And will never forget. I'm sorry about your loss too. It hits differently when you really care about that person.
I‘m ace/pan but some of these were still very relatable 🤝🤍 also I‘m forever a part of the „in love with your best friend of the same gender“ gang. I swear there are soo many of us out there😆
I’m so glad I found your channel because I’m demisexual and questioning if I’m bi and this video was very helpful 😊 Like I get crushes on fictional girls and guys but I don’t like any real people?? lmao
Hii, I also get attached to fictional caracters very quickly (kinda romantically I guess) but from what I‘ve heard so far I would suggest you to check out some aroace peoples experiences. It has helped me out a lot. Don‘t put to nuch pressure on yourself 🤍 from a fellow acespec person
You don't need to tell them I have the same thing and I'm not out, only my bff knows and at first i felt the pressure that I need to tell my parents but then I realized that I don't owe them that information and I can just be myself with out telling anyone.@@Sillychild-5643
hey! nice video! I just wanted to talk about muy experience of being cis and questioning my gender. Long story short, I questioned my gender for a really long time, experimented with pronouns and stuff, and then realised I was cis. And nothing wrong came from questioning! I'm just saying this because my younger self would have found really comforting if someone told her it was okay to question your gender and not be trans, because I used to feel so guilty for it. I don't doubt most people that question their gender and sexuality is because they are not straight or cis, but if you are, that's not a bad thing. You'll just end up knowing more about yourself. Ps: I'm bisexual and I resonated so much with your video, specially with the story of your first crush
Bruh, at one point in childhood when every girl I knew talked about wanting to kiss and date boys, I got tired of it and thought to myself: "Gosh, they only talk about wanting to kiss boys! Well... I want to kiss girls! Because no girl talks about kissing other girls! But I'm not gay - " B O I THAT AIN'T STRAIGHT WHATSOEVER 😂 ( Edit: I had to type this again bc I couldn't see it when I typed it the first time )
I’m almost 30 and I’m questioning my sexuality right now. It’s confusing, I’ve had very few crushes on women (like major crushes where u get nervous and can’t speak around them) but I feel for the most part I have a type of girl I get attracted to. I’m not sure about the physical intimacy part and how much I’d really like it? I’ve had experiences hooking up with women but it never went too far. I know I love men and enjoy men (even though I wish I didn’t lol) but there’s something about women that gets to me every now and then
I am almost 30 too. Last year I finally realized I was atracted to guys after falling in love for one. I had signs all my life but my asexuality was masking it.
Well now im sure that im bi, and not just a straight passing/heteroflexible person! Thanks!!! Also when you mentioned “you can’t tell if you want to be them or be WITH them.” The gender envy is extremely relatable - I get the most envy from androgynous looking people, but sometimes I get envy from guys and girls. The struggle is real :/
@@whiteheart4309 Want to be them: this isn’t literal. This means different things for different people. For me, i just wish i could look as androgynous/pretty/masculine as them. Want to be with them: you find them attractive and may or may not want to date them.
I don't know if I'm bisexual I'm wondering because I like me being muslcar women, and flex with muscles when girls around, Im not dreaming about dating them or smth I just like being musclar women...I also like to protect my girl friend's is that making me bi? Please someone say
I came out as bisexual to my parents and brothers in the early months of the last year, they accepted it and my dad even went to the gay pride parade with me. Recently I came out to my aunt and uncle and they supposedly "accepted" me but said I was confused and it was not a big deal to announce it to them, so this month I've been questioning my sexuality but your video made me feel much better, thank you!
can you help pls i dont know am i bi, lesbian or just straight and maybe i have thinking that i might be aromantic or asexual. before i had two girl crushes but still i have more guy crushes and im still thinking what i am
I’m very very aroace, but I do experience the same amount of attraction to all genders….it’s just totally platonic. Much love to all my bi friends! I am also starting to realize that some of the things that I mistook for romantic and sexual feelings may have been gender envy, which is a whole other issue…
i relate to ALL of them 100%, i'm cryingggg 😂 i hadn't realized i was bi untill about 23 years old and i didn't even know being bi was "a thing" growing up too! i live in a pretty homophobic country and last year it became even worse but i'm so happy i came out to myself, my bff at the time (she took it well but we drifted apart cos i had a huge crush on her and she was straight 🙂), then last year i told my parents, my brother and even to my 70 y.o. grandma 😂 everybody were totally okay with it (and i'd make a huge fuss if they weren't lol, so i wasn't very scared or anything c: ). so i've been partly open bi for a few years now and it's amazing! 😊✌🏻💕 thanks for a great video, biiii~~~ ^_^
Ohh glad to hear atleast you came out as your real self that's pretty good 🌸 I was also confused about my sexuality and I just found this year that I m bi ( I am 19 ) and no one knows that ...I got attached to one of my frnd and I think I m in love with her but she is straight 😭 I didn't told her yet that I love her ...what to do 😭???
Another interesting video keep it up and would like to see a 5 signs you might be demisexual , demiromantic, graysexual, grayromantic, biromantic, aceflux, aergosexual, pansexual, panromantic, heteroflexable, split attraction
Hey, I’m 13 and questioning my sexuality. I know I like guys, but I think I like girls too. This has been going on for two years now, and I’m really confused. I think I had crushes on girls in the past, but they didn’t feel the same as my crushes on guys. I feel like when crushing on a girl, I’m less attracted physically and more emotionally, if that makes sense. I can easily say when I think a guy is my type, but for girls it’s harder. I can imagine myself with both male and female, but I’m not sure it’s enough to say I’m really bi. I don’t want to come out if I’m not fully sure I’m bi. I think I have a crush on my friend right now, but I’m not sure. Since I feel like people here are probably queer or questioning their sexuality, does someone have any tips for me to know if I’m really bi??
Honestly I don’t know whether this happened when you were younger but the fact that you questioned that you were bi really reminded me of the scene in jaiden’s video: “being bi is attracted to two genders, I don’t really care for either so I guess I’m bi or pan” and then turned out...to be ace
@@zak27986 It has nothing to do with your regular life it's just a simple thing that your hormones release dopamine for same gender as yours or opposite gender and yeah if you are in love it doesn't matter who the person is and in simple languages you'll feel just normal
There is literally only one sign: having had fallen in love with both men & women. Being in love is a pretty unmistakable feeling. If you're unsure whether you're bi or not, it may not be bc you feel equal attraction to the sexes, it might be equal indifference i.e. you're more likely asexual.
I've only ever had crushes on girls. But I can't really call myself straight, why? Well, putting aside the obvious genderfluid thing that complicates all this, I could see myself being romantically involved with whatever gender. Plus most of my friends are comprised of girls and in general I feel more comfortable around girls. So naturally I'd lean more towards them in attraction? I'm also aroace so like that makes figuring this out a bit difficult as well 😅 Idk maybe I should call myself pan? Idk I just find myself liking people based on personality more than looks and platonic and romantic feelings are really hard to tell apart so idk it's all confuzzling 😂😂
The fact that you could see yourself romantically involved with whatever gender make me think of Panromance ( attraction to anyone romantically regardless their gender ) , but I should let you discover yourself :)
This one is weird for me because I'm definitely asexual and probably aromantic but I still theoretically like the idea of romantic relationships, so with no sexual or romantic attraction to speak of the idea of gender when choosing a potential partner just seems irrelevant. I guess the labelling isn't that important but I feel a strange pull toward biromantic despite never experiencing romantic attraction at all as far as I can tell. On the other hand maybe it's just society making me feel like romantic relationships are necessary because I'm having a much harder time accepting the label of aromantic despite very obviously never having felt that kind of attraction in 35 years.
There is a think called queerplatonic relationships. This is the definition from google "Queerplatonic relationships (QPR) and queerplatonic partnerships (QPP) are committed intimate relationships which are not romantic in nature. They may differ from usual close friendships by having more explicit commitment, validation, status, structure, and norms, similar to a conventional romantic relationship." I don't know if that is what you are feeling but it sound similar if you want to look into it
I think the biggest giveaway for me (as a guy) was when I found a guy cute on more than one occasion. I like the types that are clean shaven, more androgenous looking, ish. I've grown up thinking gay = bad, and have been trying to suppress those feelings for so long, but as I grow older after school - I find it's easier to just embrace who you are and accept this is something you can't change, nor should you.
I love your content! You’re very helpful and informative. I came out as bisexual at the age of 30 and I knew I was attracted to guys in elementary school but I always pushed those feelings down. I was raised in a religious family and didn’t deal with those feelings til way later in my life. Thank you 🙏🏽
New here and enjoyed these signs for I always questioned my trans identity and questioned if I might be bi as well. Because I always felt indecisive what to choose. Definitely can relate how a religious home can cause me to stuff and keep all my feelings inside. I sometimes wonder why I am so afraid of a relationship with someone no matter a person's gender or identity.
me and my friend when I was like 5 would pretend that we were married and sleep next to each other in a tent 😭 I still don't know if that was a sign or not idk
I had this feeling as well: do I want to be like him and do I want to date him? I tried to bound myself to the Imagination that I am just jalous and want to be like him but so often there was no reason since that person wasn't any better than me. I figured out I was somehow drawn to this person (of the same gender). I fought against it so badly until I gave up on this and eventually dared to question myself if this is a part of homosexual desire. I found that I must be bi since I also fell in love with girls, eventually with a man too. I needed this final proof to completely know about myself. It took me decades!
I think it's so amazng that sexuality is a spectrum and everyone has different preferences! I'm a girl and I had more boy crushes than girl, but I can very well imagine myself with a girl. For me, it's not about the gender, it's about the person.
When I was younger I had a crush on a girl for the first time (I had had crushes on boys before). I thought "this is just a phase, everyone is willing to date/able to fall for the same gender if the person is perfect" until I learned that most people aren't like that and I'm bi :D
So my first sign that I was bi that I never payed attention to or even thought about was in about high school or early college, I started looking at guys differently and then one night I hung out with a bunch of my friends from college and we were playing truth or dare and I ended up kissing one of them(another guy) and actually enjoyed it. Then I was like whoa, I like men too! Then I pretty much stayed closeted until recently where I started to come out to some of my close friends and work friends.
I'm also on the asexual spectrum and I had crushes on both girls and boys when I was younger and I'm still not sure if the boy crushes were just wanting to be like them/get their attention 🤷♂️ and I am still not sure if I like guys or not because I really like girls but sometimes things pop up where I'm like "oh, hello there sir" and I don't really see or feel like I would want a long term relationship with a guy but maybe that's just because of growing up with alot if homophobia and negativity around I don't know anyway what does that all mean? Opinions?
I go through phases of insecurity about my sexuality and rn I’m in a pretty good one and can say I related to all of these even if they weren’t what I thought they were originally. Like I never exactly had a “am I straight or gay” moment but I’ve definitely had a “I don’t feel like I’m either but I’m attracted to guys so I must be straight right…?”. But I think being aroace-spec also made it hella complicated
I’m a lesbian who identify as bisexual first. And I have all of these signs. However, I don’t experience a signifying of being a lesbian too. Because I think for most lesbians, we try to see if we’re not attracted to men because we already know we are attracted to women. I still go back and forth because lesbian and bisexual. But I think bisexual people really enjoy their experiences with men while I always was craving something more. Yet, I’m also afraid to date women. So, it’s like I’m gay for no reason. I also never thought about getting married to a women because all you saw growing up was relationships between men and women and between men. Gay women were never truly an option for me and I still get uncomfortable watching gay women, even when I know I’m attracted to women.
Bro one thing i did not know other people struggled with was if I'm gay or not or if I'm bi or not those two were right on point with me! Wait does this mean🤔
me being 5/5 on the signs lol. im almost 100% sure im bi but i havent came out to anyone irl yet, im out online but i find that a lot easier than having face to face interactions about my sexuality. hopefully im able to be completely out in the future :)
There's one part of me that considers my closeted bisexuality to be indicative an initiatory group think mentality where trauma is transferred culturally through means of the natural selection of ideas and behavioral patterns. Then there's another part of me that considers the potential for my root chakra and throat chakra to have been polarized into a disparity of masculine and feminine charges. Then there's another part of me that understands the trauma bonding that is created from being raped by a man. Then there's another part of me that understands the feminine role of caregiving displayed by my father and my desire to recreate my family dynamic. Even in the clear understanding that much of this is potentially a sociocultural phenomenon, I still can't hide from the fact that the desire to be with men is still there. While I don't identify with the tribal affiliation known as LGBT, nor do I necessarily feel the need to broadcast my personal life to the public, I must make it clear that I don't know what is alien to me and I don't know what is natural. Can someone give me some feedback?
am i bisexual if I have sexual attraction towards both genders but I can only really see myself pursuing a relationship with a man? this might change, i'm not sure.
I came out as bi to myself not really knowing what it meant after watching this video 190 days ago .now i have a boyfriend thank you for being the very first step in my queer experience
Hii tysm for this video I’m a boy and I’ve always been confused about my sexuality sometimes I think I’m gay sometimes I think bisexual. I have a crush on a boy in my class he talks straight wears straight boys clothes and have all straight boys but I have this feelings to him i kinda think he’s gay but that’s just what I think. I can honestly finally realize who I am 💗💜💙
I liked boys ever since I was very young and while growing up I always wondered about the lgbtq and all of that so I researched about it and started supporting them then I reached a stage where I was wondering what would happen if I was ever bi but I never liked girls so I was like im probably not and its just my curiosity,But when I went to 11th grade,I got into an all girls school and I thought my dreams of finding an bf in high school was over but then I was also making jokes to my friends that I might rizz a girl while Im there.Then I started going to this school and there I saw a girl..she had very pretty smile and was so cute literally the embodiment of a golden retriever..at first I thought I just admired her and then we had also a thing where we started pretending we were married and our friends were in on it..at first it started off as a joke but I slowly started developing feelings and soon enough yeah I fell for her..girls are generally very touchy with each other so she hugs me,holds my hands etc and she probably do it as affection but im here feelin butterflies...and I know she is probably straight and this is not normal here,my parents wont even know that a girl can love a girl...and yeah this is my story and I know no one would read this but yeah just wanted to share something
Can i get some help so bascially im a boy I have hocd whenever i thought a boy looked good i got anxiety and felt uneasy i never had a crush on boys and have never felt sexually attracted or romantically attracted to them i like boys who look good but nothing more but when ive had a crush on a girl ive felt happy i wanted a life with the i felt really happy. So does this mean im bi
I have a problem that I need help with.So I have a crush on my cousins best friend and my uncle doesn’t like my cousins best friend or her parents.My auntie doesn’t like her parents.So I have told my cousins best friend and she likes me as well.I said I need time to think probably about my sexuality and I’ve decided I’m bisexual but I don’t know if I should date her or not as my uncle doesn’t like her.🥲 I hope that made sense.
It took me a long time to realize I was demisexual and I’m not sure why because anytime someone reciprocated my crush I didn’t want to do anything with them and then thought that meant I didn’t like them anymore🥴
This was so helpful, thank you:) I think I might be bi and this you talked about things that no one else has and that was really clarifying to me!!! :>
Ok so I havent had any bisexual leanings till about a year ago when I kissed a girl on Molly and stated questioning it. I thought we had some connection that was beyond friends and couldnt stop thinking about it for weeks and so confused. Again a couple weeks ago I experienced the same thing totaly soberly I made a connection with a girl but the feelings werent that sexual more so that sort of connection thinking I wouldnt mind kissing her/holding her. But this could also be me suppressing my desire. I think maybe this makes me pansexual though because Im perdomenantly attracted to men but when I have that strong connection some romantic feelings arise? Any thoughts? Im 23 and kinda confused
The desire of attraction is within all souls, however, the soul (a point of light) is genderless, either male or female. The soul simply plays it part according to the body's gender. The first mistake humans made was to identify themselves as male and female, a body, rather than the soul occupying the body. Sometimes a soul will have stronger feelings for the same body type or just with the soul alone, the personality, which is absolutely normal. Souls have been taking birth to male and female bodies since time immemorial. And in some births we are drawn to a certain body preference due to past life experiences.
For me, I think I might be bisexual, but instead of attraction to men and women, it's cis women and afab nonbinary people. I do know that I'm genderqueer because I feel just as much a man as I do non-binary.
#3 was so so accurate! I met one of my best friends in the 6th grade, and for like a year I thought she was so cool, I wanted to do all the same things, etc. And in the seventh grade I was like, 'oh wait...' Now I watched this video and I think I might be realizing things. That makes total sense now.
Thanks so much this has really helped me a lot with figuring out my sexuality. I’m still in school and I’ve developed feelings for my friend that’s the same gender. now I’m trying to figure out how to cope with it and maybe eventually tell my family.
I was always so confused because i thought i just had strong preferences to men and only attracted to women a little, but honestly i think im only romantically attracted to women (personality and stuff) yet with men i guess its both sexually and romantically. Also im a guy btw
At lunch (in school) was just eating my food then started to realize that I was starting to think "dang my friend is very pretty" and started to feeling I was blushing
I would disappoint my family if I revealed that I was Bisexual and I tried my best to hide it and I was even so close to having a gf but I broke up with her bc of what my family will think and how it would affect them if they found out and I’m a Christian and stuff so I don’t know.But I really like both genders.
Me watching this video, thinking I might be aromantic since I never felt romantic attraction. I thought I could be asexual too but then sometimes it happened to me to think about sexual situations with men but recently I'm starting to think about those situations with girls too and I don't dislike it. When I imagine those situations the people involved are not people I know btw.
My family doesn’t expect me as bisexual but the only people who expects me for me is my grandpa and my friends I thought my grandpa wouldn’t when I told him that I came out bisexual he supported me because he is old but he still excepted me and he still loves me
y’all why do i like women sexually but not emotionally? like i’ve never been in love w a girl but i’ve lusted over them… but at the same time i COULD date one? if it weren’t for religious trauma and guilt
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I’m absolutely terrified of even the thoughts of being bisexual first I don’t even know if I’m bi but I’m definitely not straight.
Hey your not alone I have 3 boy crush and this year I like one of my friends that is a girl
@@Oliviathesillykid yeah but do you have people that support you? Not people who might literally beat you up for being anything but straight or people who say they would support you but really they wouldn’t.
@kimcoon2922 omg I legit got a crush on my bff but she has a crush on a guy and I don't want to ruin our friendship 😭
I feel you. I'm 14 and idk what's going on , I m a girl and I seem to like a girl . I m terrified I really hope I m straight. I mean just think of what will be the others reactions? I even have a friend who doesn't support but even my friends who support idk how they ll act after hearing this. Idk what's happening I hope that one day I ll grow up and think that "omg I was so stupid back then why did I think that I was gay"
@@lovl4ever hey you’ve got time I’m 22 almost 23 and I’ve been repressing my feelings since I was probably your age so don’t worry about it that much. The one thing you definitely shouldn’t do is let it fester that at least for me hasn’t gone well.
6th sign that you might be Bi: You specifically searched “Signs I might be Bi” or any related question.
-Bi person
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i took a test and it told me im bi a few days later i seach "why am i bi" LOL
Me, a bisexual, watching this for some reason
Me lol
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The whole "not knowing if you want to be like them or date them" thing is so on point with me! I didn't experience it for the first time until my second to last year of middle school. A girl in the class above me was so beautiful and everything I thought the ideal woman should be, and even though I told myself that my admiration for her was because I viewed her as my idol, there was always a lingering feeling that I wanted more than that.
Then high school came around, I got the same feelings about an entirely different girl, not being certain if her beauty made me want to emulate her or kiss her, but this time, I knew it was mostly the latter.
So true!! ❤️💜💙
I’m in the same situation, so true
Why do these videos not help me at all like I’m still super confused and don’t know if I’m just imagining things😭
@@여보바닐라 same…but I think I might have a crush on my bff 😶
@@Incognito-Life oh cool😏
@@여보바닐라 not really 😭
In the same shi rn 😭😭😭@@Incognito-Life
@@여보바닐라 I- I just did that- I mean the imagining stuff, I just thought that okay let's try imagine a woman and it felt weirdly similar to when I imagine man? And here I am because never in my life I've had crush on any girl 😂 questioning my existence is kind of everyday thing but yea..
The last sign tipped me off because I am questioning if I’m bi
Same bestie same
It takes a lot of time to digest the self Coming-out. It does tip you off. I know! 💙💜❤️
It's sad because It's already late when I realized that I'm bi. I'm from a very religious family (Filipino), and there's also this prejudice against same sex relations in our place, so I was very confused during my high school years because I have this huge "interest" in a girl in our friend group. I can't stop looking at her and she always intrigues me.
I feel calm whenever I see her and she's like a stress reliever for me, that even if I'm super stressed that day, seeing her happy makes me smile and feel relieved. I didn't know why I feel this why at that time though and I tried to ignore the feeling to the point that I even decreased my contact with her because I hate feeling confused.
Then a few years passed and we graduated from high school(gr10). I transferred school in my senior high, and well, I felt relieved that I won't feel that feeling of confusion again.
A few months passed and I heard that she was diagnosed with leukemia. She lost her hair, she got pale and frail and her overall appearance was just devastating to look at.
I felt sad at that time but I also again tried to ignore this feeling because... Why would I be this sad ? I mean, there's a certain level where you can feel bad for someone...
I occupied myself with academics and got very busy. A few months passed again and it was just after a huge typhoon passed that I heard the news about her passing away.
I honestly didn't know how to react... Like I don't know why but I can't feel her being dead, you know ?
But, when we were about to go to the graveyard for her burial, I shed tears... Remembering how I won't see her again and all. I thought it was a normal reaction at that time, everyone was crying too.
It was college when I found out that I'm bi. I mean, I can be with anyone, boy or girl... But when it comes to love, I feel like that doesn't exist anymore for me.
My only guilt is that it's already too late when I realized what I actually felt about her.
P.s... sorry for the grammar, english isn't my first language😅... Just wanna share this.
😢sorry for your loss
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girl im with you- except for the girl liking part.. and the loss- sorry btw.. but im in a very religious family
Well your gong to hell
Hello, im so sorry about your loss. I have the same story almost. I didnt know it because I was raised as a Muslim and its not normal to like someone from the same sex. It took me until mid college years to understand and that I really liked my best friend. I got jealous when I see with her boyfriend and I had to act normal. Later on I told her that I liked a girl. Anyway some other stuff happened.... We got drifted away for some reasons. For the last 2,5 years I missed her in my life and checking if she is doing okay. I was angry at her mostly. Two weeks ago I learnt she suicided before turning 29. I have been crying my eyes out and thinking about her constantly. Watching our videos. I wish I could be with her in a different country or culture that she was not afraid of kissing. Or something intimate. I think I will never fully admit her going like this. And will never forget. I'm sorry about your loss too. It hits differently when you really care about that person.
I‘m ace/pan but some of these were still very relatable 🤝🤍 also I‘m forever a part of the „in love with your best friend of the same gender“ gang. I swear there are soo many of us out there😆
The struggle is very real unfortunately 😅 but I’m happy it was still relatable
Another pan/ace! I related to a lot of these as well.
How can one be ace and pan? Or ace and bi?
ughhh yes preach
Yes the best friend thing is very real
I’m so glad I found your channel because I’m demisexual and questioning if I’m bi and this video was very helpful 😊 Like I get crushes on fictional girls and guys but I don’t like any real people?? lmao
Hii, I also get attached to fictional caracters very quickly (kinda romantically I guess) but from what I‘ve heard so far I would suggest you to check out some aroace peoples experiences. It has helped me out a lot. Don‘t put to nuch pressure on yourself 🤍
from a fellow acespec person
I’m so happy it helped! I’m demi too but the boys part was a lot harder for me to realize
@@lynnsaga1397 I just don’t know how to tell my parents
You don't need to tell them I have the same thing and I'm not out, only my bff knows and at first i felt the pressure that I need to tell my parents but then I realized that I don't owe them that information and I can just be myself with out telling anyone.@@Sillychild-5643
hey! nice video! I just wanted to talk about muy experience of being cis and questioning my gender. Long story short, I questioned my gender for a really long time, experimented with pronouns and stuff, and then realised I was cis. And nothing wrong came from questioning! I'm just saying this because my younger self would have found really comforting if someone told her it was okay to question your gender and not be trans, because I used to feel so guilty for it.
I don't doubt most people that question their gender and sexuality is because they are not straight or cis, but if you are, that's not a bad thing. You'll just end up knowing more about yourself.
Ps: I'm bisexual and I resonated so much with your video, specially with the story of your first crush
I appreciate this comment so much. I definitely think it should be something talked about more and not be something you should feel shame about☺️
I had almost the exact same experience
Bruh, at one point in childhood when every girl I knew talked about wanting to kiss and date boys, I got tired of it and thought to myself:
"Gosh, they only talk about wanting to kiss boys! Well... I want to kiss girls! Because no girl talks about kissing other girls! But I'm not gay - "
B O I
THAT AIN'T STRAIGHT WHATSOEVER 😂
( Edit: I had to type this again bc I couldn't see it when I typed it the first time )
Ye that’s definitely not straight lol
I’m almost 30 and I’m questioning my sexuality right now. It’s confusing, I’ve had very few crushes on women (like major crushes where u get nervous and can’t speak around them) but I feel for the most part I have a type of girl I get attracted to. I’m not sure about the physical intimacy part and how much I’d really like it? I’ve had experiences hooking up with women but it never went too far. I know I love men and enjoy men (even though I wish I didn’t lol) but there’s something about women that gets to me every now and then
I respect Your opinion, I Queer/Gay and I wish I wasn’t attracted to guys But I am :/
Im 24 I'll be 25 in may and I feel the exact same way.
I am almost 30 too. Last year I finally realized I was atracted to guys after falling in love for one. I had signs all my life but my asexuality was masking it.
As someone who came out as bisexual a month before watching this, I am watching this to see what I truly am
Gorgeous?
Congratulations! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Well now im sure that im bi, and not just a straight passing/heteroflexible person! Thanks!!!
Also when you mentioned “you can’t tell if you want to be them or be WITH them.” The gender envy is extremely relatable - I get the most envy from androgynous looking people, but sometimes I get envy from guys and girls. The struggle is real :/
I dont understand " you cant tell if you want to be them or be with them "
@@whiteheart4309 Want to be them: this isn’t literal. This means different things for different people. For me, i just wish i could look as androgynous/pretty/masculine as them.
Want to be with them: you find them attractive and may or may not want to date them.
I don't know if I'm bisexual I'm wondering because I like me being muslcar women, and flex with muscles when girls around, Im not dreaming about dating them or smth I just like being musclar women...I also like to protect my girl friend's
is that making me bi? Please someone say
Thank you so much for this video! Definitely been realizing recently that I’ve been bisexual for a long time too.
I came out as bisexual to my parents and brothers in the early months of the last year, they accepted it and my dad even went to the gay pride parade with me. Recently I came out to my aunt and uncle and they supposedly "accepted" me but said I was confused and it was not a big deal to announce it to them, so this month I've been questioning my sexuality but your video made me feel much better, thank you!
and true.. im always questioning.. i don't know if im straight or not😂😂😂 now that's it im bi
I'm still questioning
I’m just now having the realization, it’s both hard to deal with yet deeply freeing at the same time
can you help pls i dont know am i bi, lesbian or just straight and maybe i have thinking that i might be aromantic or asexual. before i had two girl crushes but still i have more guy crushes and im still thinking what i am
Hi! I have recently been thinking that I am bi. I could relate to everything you said in this video. Thank you! :)
I’m very very aroace, but I do experience the same amount of attraction to all genders….it’s just totally platonic. Much love to all my bi friends! I am also starting to realize that some of the things that I mistook for romantic and sexual feelings may have been gender envy, which is a whole other issue…
i relate to ALL of them 100%, i'm cryingggg 😂 i hadn't realized i was bi untill about 23 years old and i didn't even know being bi was "a thing" growing up too!
i live in a pretty homophobic country and last year it became even worse but i'm so happy i came out to myself, my bff at the time (she took it well but we drifted apart cos i had a huge crush on her and she was straight 🙂), then last year i told my parents, my brother and even to my 70 y.o. grandma 😂 everybody were totally okay with it (and i'd make a huge fuss if they weren't lol, so i wasn't very scared or anything c: ). so i've been partly open bi for a few years now and it's amazing! 😊✌🏻💕 thanks for a great video, biiii~~~ ^_^
Awww I’m so glad you had a great experience coming out !!
Ohh glad to hear atleast you came out as your real self that's pretty good 🌸 I was also confused about my sexuality and I just found this year that I m bi ( I am 19 ) and no one knows that ...I got attached to one of my frnd and I think I m in love with her but she is straight 😭 I didn't told her yet that I love her ...what to do 😭???
I'm not bi, but I still appreciate this video because it raises awareness of being bi! Gender envy is real tho ;u;
Another interesting video keep it up and would like to see a 5 signs you might be demisexual , demiromantic, graysexual, grayromantic, biromantic, aceflux, aergosexual, pansexual, panromantic, heteroflexable, split attraction
Yep those are all on my list☺️
@@lynnsaga1397 awesome
Hey, I’m 13 and questioning my sexuality. I know I like guys, but I think I like girls too. This has been going on for two years now, and I’m really confused. I think I had crushes on girls in the past, but they didn’t feel the same as my crushes on guys. I feel like when crushing on a girl, I’m less attracted physically and more emotionally, if that makes sense. I can easily say when I think a guy is my type, but for girls it’s harder. I can imagine myself with both male and female, but I’m not sure it’s enough to say I’m really bi. I don’t want to come out if I’m not fully sure I’m bi. I think I have a crush on my friend right now, but I’m not sure. Since I feel like people here are probably queer or questioning their sexuality, does someone have any tips for me to know if I’m really bi??
Honestly I don’t know whether this happened when you were younger but the fact that you questioned that you were bi really reminded me of the scene in jaiden’s video: “being bi is attracted to two genders, I don’t really care for either so I guess I’m bi or pan” and then turned out...to be ace
I’m biromantic so I still say Im bi to random people who I know don’t understand asexuality lol
@@lynnsaga1397 lol
I just like, people
Ok I'm am bisexual bye 🙂🙂🙂🙂
@@zak27986 It has nothing to do with your regular life it's just a simple thing that your hormones release dopamine for same gender as yours or opposite gender and yeah if you are in love it doesn't matter who the person is and in simple languages you'll feel just normal
There is literally only one sign: having had fallen in love with both men & women. Being in love is a pretty unmistakable feeling. If you're unsure whether you're bi or not, it may not be bc you feel equal attraction to the sexes, it might be equal indifference i.e. you're more likely asexual.
I've only ever had crushes on girls. But I can't really call myself straight, why? Well, putting aside the obvious genderfluid thing that complicates all this, I could see myself being romantically involved with whatever gender. Plus most of my friends are comprised of girls and in general I feel more comfortable around girls. So naturally I'd lean more towards them in attraction? I'm also aroace so like that makes figuring this out a bit difficult as well 😅 Idk maybe I should call myself pan? Idk I just find myself liking people based on personality more than looks and platonic and romantic feelings are really hard to tell apart so idk it's all confuzzling 😂😂
Literally same and dude I took like 1M sexuality test and still confused
@@Venus_xx I mean no rush in figuring yourself out :)
The fact that you could see yourself romantically involved with whatever gender make me think of Panromance ( attraction to anyone romantically regardless their gender ) , but I should let you discover yourself :)
This one is weird for me because I'm definitely asexual and probably aromantic but I still theoretically like the idea of romantic relationships, so with no sexual or romantic attraction to speak of the idea of gender when choosing a potential partner just seems irrelevant. I guess the labelling isn't that important but I feel a strange pull toward biromantic despite never experiencing romantic attraction at all as far as I can tell. On the other hand maybe it's just society making me feel like romantic relationships are necessary because I'm having a much harder time accepting the label of aromantic despite very obviously never having felt that kind of attraction in 35 years.
There is a think called queerplatonic relationships.
This is the definition from google "Queerplatonic relationships (QPR) and queerplatonic partnerships (QPP) are committed intimate relationships which are not romantic in nature. They may differ from usual close friendships by having more explicit commitment, validation, status, structure, and norms, similar to a conventional romantic relationship."
I don't know if that is what you are feeling but it sound similar if you want to look into it
I think the biggest giveaway for me (as a guy) was when I found a guy cute on more than one occasion. I like the types that are clean shaven, more androgenous looking, ish.
I've grown up thinking gay = bad, and have been trying to suppress those feelings for so long, but as I grow older after school - I find it's easier to just embrace who you are and accept this is something you can't change, nor should you.
I love your content! You’re very helpful and informative. I came out as bisexual at the age of 30 and I knew I was attracted to guys in elementary school but I always pushed those feelings down. I was raised in a religious family and didn’t deal with those feelings til way later in my life. Thank you 🙏🏽
Man my friend is attractive and i still find girls attractive me telling my friend my other friends in the back round “bi bi bi bi”
New here and enjoyed these signs for I always questioned my trans identity and questioned if I might be bi as well. Because I always felt indecisive what to choose. Definitely can relate how a religious home can cause me to stuff and keep all my feelings inside. I sometimes wonder why I am so afraid of a relationship with someone no matter a person's gender or identity.
You know what I still don't know that I am a bisexual or not ❤😢
me and my friend when I was like 5 would pretend that we were married and sleep next to each other in a tent 😭 I still don't know if that was a sign or not idk
I had this feeling as well: do I want to be like him and do I want to date him? I tried to bound myself to the Imagination that I am just jalous and want to be like him but so often there was no reason since that person wasn't any better than me. I figured out I was somehow drawn to this person (of the same gender). I fought against it so badly until I gave up on this and eventually dared to question myself if this is a part of homosexual desire. I found that I must be bi since I also fell in love with girls, eventually with a man too. I needed this final proof to completely know about myself. It took me decades!
Your content is so amazing, hon! Thank you for doing what you do and keep up the good work ;) ❤
Thank you so much you have no idea how much this means to me☺️
@@lynnsaga1397 Ofc! ^-^ You're welcome
I think it's so amazng that sexuality is a spectrum and everyone has different preferences! I'm a girl and I had more boy crushes than girl, but I can very well imagine myself with a girl. For me, it's not about the gender, it's about the person.
i can’t tell if i’m bi or a lesbian and it’s really frustrating 😭
When I was younger I had a crush on a girl for the first time (I had had crushes on boys before). I thought "this is just a phase, everyone is willing to date/able to fall for the same gender if the person is perfect" until I learned that most people aren't like that and I'm bi :D
I think I might be a lesbian, which feels odd since I have been saying I was bi for the longest.
Im sure 😂 but still watching ❤🎉 happy pride everybody
So my first sign that I was bi that I never payed attention to or even thought about was in about high school or early college, I started looking at guys differently and then one night I hung out with a bunch of my friends from college and we were playing truth or dare and I ended up kissing one of them(another guy) and actually enjoyed it. Then I was like whoa, I like men too! Then I pretty much stayed closeted until recently where I started to come out to some of my close friends and work friends.
I'm also on the asexual spectrum and I had crushes on both girls and boys when I was younger and I'm still not sure if the boy crushes were just wanting to be like them/get their attention 🤷♂️ and I am still not sure if I like guys or not because I really like girls but sometimes things pop up where I'm like "oh, hello there sir" and I don't really see or feel like I would want a long term relationship with a guy but maybe that's just because of growing up with alot if homophobia and negativity around I don't know anyway what does that all mean? Opinions?
I go through phases of insecurity about my sexuality and rn I’m in a pretty good one and can say I related to all of these even if they weren’t what I thought they were originally. Like I never exactly had a “am I straight or gay” moment but I’ve definitely had a “I don’t feel like I’m either but I’m attracted to guys so I must be straight right…?”. But I think being aroace-spec also made it hella complicated
I’m a lesbian who identify as bisexual first. And I have all of these signs. However, I don’t experience a signifying of being a lesbian too. Because I think for most lesbians, we try to see if we’re not attracted to men because we already know we are attracted to women. I still go back and forth because lesbian and bisexual. But I think bisexual people really enjoy their experiences with men while I always was craving something more. Yet, I’m also afraid to date women. So, it’s like I’m gay for no reason. I also never thought about getting married to a women because all you saw growing up was relationships between men and women and between men. Gay women were never truly an option for me and I still get uncomfortable watching gay women, even when I know I’m attracted to women.
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Bro one thing i did not know other people struggled with was if I'm gay or not or if I'm bi or not those two were right on point with me! Wait does this mean🤔
At sign 3 I stood up, pointed at the screen and yelled "Yes. THAT!". It scared the cat.
Thank you :)
I have all 5 of them😮
Bi confirmed
I have another sign you might be Bi….. because your watching this video lol
Thanks so much I finally had the courage to open up to my friends and family
IM STRAIGHT
IM STRAIGHT
IM STRAIGHT
IM STRAIGHT
IM STRAIGHT
IM STRAIGHT
IM STRAIGHT
IM STRAIGHT
I grew up thinking everyone was bi, and just had to pick straight or gay.
me being 5/5 on the signs lol. im almost 100% sure im bi but i havent came out to anyone irl yet, im out online but i find that a lot easier than having face to face interactions about my sexuality. hopefully im able to be completely out in the future :)
Thank you sm this video help me realize that I was bisexual and it really helped me be proud of me being bi so thx sm
There's one part of me that considers my closeted bisexuality to be indicative an initiatory group think mentality where trauma is transferred culturally through means of the natural selection of ideas and behavioral patterns. Then there's another part of me that considers the potential for my root chakra and throat chakra to have been polarized into a disparity of masculine and feminine charges. Then there's another part of me that understands the trauma bonding that is created from being raped by a man. Then there's another part of me that understands the feminine role of caregiving displayed by my father and my desire to recreate my family dynamic. Even in the clear understanding that much of this is potentially a sociocultural phenomenon, I still can't hide from the fact that the desire to be with men is still there. While I don't identify with the tribal affiliation known as LGBT, nor do I necessarily feel the need to broadcast my personal life to the public, I must make it clear that I don't know what is alien to me and I don't know what is natural. Can someone give me some feedback?
The feedback is: You don't have to put disclaimer that you don't consider yourself to be a part of the LGBT+ community to identify as bi.
am i bisexual if I have sexual attraction towards both genders but I can only really see myself pursuing a relationship with a man? this might change, i'm not sure.
I came out as bi to myself not really knowing what it meant after watching this video 190 days ago .now i have a boyfriend thank you for being the very first step in my queer experience
It’s said that I’m whatching this video and I already know I’m a bi 😢😮😅😊❤😂
I’m bisexual and I have a crush on a gay guy and wondering is he bisexual or just gay.
Hii tysm for this video I’m a boy and I’ve always been confused about my sexuality sometimes I think I’m gay sometimes I think bisexual. I have a crush on a boy in my class he talks straight wears straight boys clothes and have all straight boys but I have this feelings to him i kinda think he’s gay but that’s just what I think. I can honestly finally realize who I am 💗💜💙
#2 is a dead giveaway lol "that guy is fine as hell....that girl is fine as hell too" 😊❤️🥰
I don't know if I am Bi, but this video helps! Maybe I am Bi, thank you! ^^
I liked boys ever since I was very young and while growing up I always wondered about the lgbtq and all of that so I researched about it and started supporting them then I reached a stage where I was wondering what would happen if I was ever bi but I never liked girls so I was like im probably not and its just my curiosity,But when I went to 11th grade,I got into an all girls school and I thought my dreams of finding an bf in high school was over but then I was also making jokes to my friends that I might rizz a girl while Im there.Then I started going to this school and there I saw a girl..she had very pretty smile and was so cute literally the embodiment of a golden retriever..at first I thought I just admired her and then we had also a thing where we started pretending we were married and our friends were in on it..at first it started off as a joke but I slowly started developing feelings and soon enough yeah I fell for her..girls are generally very touchy with each other so she hugs me,holds my hands etc and she probably do it as affection but im here feelin butterflies...and I know she is probably straight and this is not normal here,my parents wont even know that a girl can love a girl...and yeah this is my story and I know no one would read this but yeah just wanted to share something
Can i get some help so bascially im a boy
I have hocd whenever i thought a boy looked good i got anxiety and felt uneasy i never had a crush on boys and have never felt sexually attracted or romantically attracted to them i like boys who look good but nothing more but when ive had a crush on a girl ive felt happy i wanted a life with the i felt really happy. So does this mean im bi
I have a problem that I need help with.So I have a crush on my cousins best friend and my uncle doesn’t like my cousins best friend or her parents.My auntie doesn’t like her parents.So I have told my cousins best friend and she likes me as well.I said I need time to think probably about my sexuality and I’ve decided I’m bisexual but I don’t know if I should date her or not as my uncle doesn’t like her.🥲 I hope that made sense.
It took me a long time to realize I was demisexual and I’m not sure why because anytime someone reciprocated my crush I didn’t want to do anything with them and then thought that meant I didn’t like them anymore🥴
Should i be with a girl to be 100% sure that im bi??
because after my last relationship with my ex he made realize alot of things abt myself
This was so helpful, thank you:) I think I might be bi and this you talked about things that no one else has and that was really clarifying to me!!! :>
Ok so I havent had any bisexual leanings till about a year ago when I kissed a girl on Molly and stated questioning it. I thought we had some connection that was beyond friends and couldnt stop thinking about it for weeks and so confused. Again a couple weeks ago I experienced the same thing totaly soberly I made a connection with a girl but the feelings werent that sexual more so that sort of connection thinking I wouldnt mind kissing her/holding her. But this could also be me suppressing my desire. I think maybe this makes me pansexual though because Im perdomenantly attracted to men but when I have that strong connection some romantic feelings arise? Any thoughts? Im 23 and kinda confused
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The desire of attraction is within all souls, however, the soul (a point of light) is genderless, either male or female. The soul simply plays it part according to the body's gender. The first mistake humans made was to identify themselves as male and female, a body, rather than the soul occupying the body. Sometimes a soul will have stronger feelings for the same body type or just with the soul alone, the personality, which is absolutely normal. Souls have been taking birth to male and female bodies since time immemorial. And in some births we are drawn to a certain body preference due to past life experiences.
For me, I think I might be bisexual, but instead of attraction to men and women, it's cis women and afab nonbinary people. I do know that I'm genderqueer because I feel just as much a man as I do non-binary.
#3 was so so accurate! I met one of my best friends in the 6th grade, and for like a year I thought she was so cool, I wanted to do all the same things, etc. And in the seventh grade I was like, 'oh wait...' Now I watched this video and I think I might be realizing things. That makes total sense now.
Yes I'm bie I was trying to learn the difference between bie and pan. 😅 thanks for this. 😊
And thus the holy trinity of purple is complete 💜🙌
I can see more colors
1 minute in... "yup I'm bi"
I identified as bisexual two years ago, with 18, and yesterday night, I've noticed, I'm a demigirl and I'm androgyne.
You have a cute cat that features at the beginning :)
SO RELATABLE! this is literally me when i was questioning! like i thought i was when i started crushing on my girl bsf of 3 yrs
I'm Bi, and my sign was nr.4. I was unsure if I was gay or straight. It turned out that I was a bit of both😁🩷💜💙
Thanks so much this has really helped me a lot with figuring out my sexuality. I’m still in school and I’ve developed feelings for my friend that’s the same gender. now I’m trying to figure out how to cope with it and maybe eventually tell my family.
Thank you! =)
I’m Batman🦇
I was always so confused because i thought i just had strong preferences to men and only attracted to women a little, but honestly i think im only romantically attracted to women (personality and stuff) yet with men i guess its both sexually and romantically.
Also im a guy btw
At lunch (in school) was just eating my food then started to realize that I was starting to think "dang my friend is very pretty" and started to feeling I was blushing
I love how she said bye at the end 😂
i happened to experience the "I want to be like them" a lot. and yes guess what I am right now
All of signs are SO TRUE
I would disappoint my family if I revealed that I was Bisexual and I tried my best to hide it and I was even so close to having a gf but I broke up with her bc of what my family will think and how it would affect them if they found out and I’m a Christian and stuff so I don’t know.But I really like both genders.
Welp I just ground out I’m bi
Me watching this video, thinking I might be aromantic since I never felt romantic attraction. I thought I could be asexual too but then sometimes it happened to me to think about sexual situations with men but recently I'm starting to think about those situations with girls too and I don't dislike it. When I imagine those situations the people involved are not people I know btw.
I kissed a girl and I like a boy💀💀💀
My family doesn’t expect me as bisexual but the only people who expects me for me is my grandpa and my friends I thought my grandpa wouldn’t when I told him that I came out bisexual he supported me because he is old but he still excepted me and he still loves me
y’all why do i like women sexually but not emotionally? like i’ve never been in love w a girl but i’ve lusted over them… but at the same time i COULD date one? if it weren’t for religious trauma and guilt
Same situation
Same here! I think it’s bisexual hetero romantic
Ok ok i didnt think i was bisexual but ig im attracted to my bff🩷💜💙