I'm so confused like sex with men just feels like a chore not to mention men are useless In bed anyway, I get turned on more about woman of colour (all darker) I fantisy about woman, I get hot for woman I find woman stunning find men Meh, I been in love with a couple girls never did anythink thought I was just werid even if I go on a date with a man I feel sad and tend to look at woman lol I'm just more scared to be brave enough to ask a woman out could I be? Gay and just been doing what I was forced to believe was normal?
Everyone's daily reminder that if are questioning your sexuality or gender, don't feel like you need to rush to specific labels or to know exaclty what you are immediately. Not knowing isn't something that makes you less valid, it is part of the process, and for some of us it is a comfortable state to be in maybe forever. Everyone is on their own completely different journey. Great video, and good luck to all of you looking for answers about themselves
Honestly, I’m jumping same day today- somehow I just feel it, like, it just makes sense. I realized earlier that I feel NO attraction towards men other than platonic, and I’ve never felt it
Hi Lynn, this video was actually confirmation to me that I'm straight! I'm aro/ace but prefer the platonic company of men, and enjoy the playful banter with gay men because we both know it means nothing. But I have an aro/ace friend who only realized her saphic attraction 10 years in because of all that internalized heterontormativity ... so I think it's only fair that I ask myself honest questions before I can say without question "Yup, I'm aro/ace/straight and queer!"
I’m in middle school, I have been questioning my sexuality for a while, litterly started questioning if I was lesbian all day And now I’m having an existential crisis
I'd say I'm bi with a heavy preference for non-men (yes, including ppl under the non-binary umbrella, I'm non-binary myself lol) and it's okay to have a preference if you're attracted to multiple genders, wether it's a heavy preference or not :)
Here's how I figured it out. I noticed the "girl crushes" I had were regular crushes on girls and the "crushes" on guys were all platonic with one exception. What confirmed it was doing online roleplay scenarios, I noticed of the romantic ones, the "girl love" ones felt the most right and natural. Realizing I'm a lesbian has been mostly a freeing experience but the fact I'm new to this means there's so much to learn and explore. I'm 18 so I'm still quite young.
I wonder how many men watch this video, even if not applicable to themselves 😂 I‘m a cis man myself but I‘ve really enjoyed your videos for the past few months as you helped me find out I was ace, your video about „Signs you may be asexual“ was literally the first video I watched once I learnt that there was such a thing as asexuality 💜 So thank you so much for helping me understand myself better, keep up your great work
I have always identified as bisexual and I actually have a boyfriend. Things were great in the beginning and I was head over heels in love with him but now I am not sure we are right for each other. We had a girlfriend for a little while and she was my first girl kiss and i loved it. We have tried being poly and I really enjoyed it but now I am finding myself questioning if I am a lesbian and finding myself just wanting to be with a woman but I don't want to hurt him, I don't know why I feel like this now after all this time, and possibly coming to terms with being a lesbian and being out and open about it like coming out seems really really scary because I don't know what to expect. I am so lost and confused and don't know what to do. It's also like if we were to ever break up I don't think I would want to be with men anymore. Seeing a straight couple kiss makes me feel some type of way but seeing a lesbian couple kiss makes me happy and excited. I pictured marrying him and having kids with him at one point but now I feel like I'd rather do those things with a woman instead. Does that make any sense? :( Any advice? -Maya
I'm now questioning if I'm an oriented Aroace towards Women. I'd much rather hang out and engage with them platonically. I think guys might be off the table for me. I mean, I'd see guys at work and be 'work friends' but I would hang out with women outside work 100%.
I agree with everything but the recommendation of the master doc. The creator came out as bisexual not too long after. Before learning of this, the doc still felt off because to me, it had elements of aego ace and aego ro spectrums, not to mention the explicit description of ficto- spectrum people. But I will say, functional labels absolutely have their place.
i can't even think about marrying or dating a boy but then i can imagine being with a girl for some reason😭 (i've also been thinking if im asexual or lesbian)
Well, I can definitely say that I am a bisexual lady, who is more interested in other ladies rather than men. Sorry but there's just something I can't explain. Maybe I'm more lesbian than bisexual? Guess time will show and tell me😄
Hi, i've never really had a physical relationship with a man, but I identify with almost all of this 😭. But i struggle with telling other people what I am because sometimes I feel like what if I am not and I'm a liar to people, i've seen myself being mad at other people for switching up quickly before. Any tips on being adjusted to get rid of internalized homophobia? [BTW I am not this way towards other people, I just feel somewhat of a Stockholm syndrome with myself because I've dated guys before.]
Most of my friends have told me things that I say or do are not normal for straight people, and my only sexual interests are to women, men repulse me. So i'm pretty sure I am. still, sometimes feel this way like what if i'm just trying to fit in or something
Oh gosh, just read the first two parts of your MasterDoc link and am crying so had to stop reading. Will just watch your video instead. Thank you for putting all this out there.
People think I'm just a straight guy but I don't really find the straight guy fantasy type women appealing. Now, the women that lesbians get flustered over, those are the ones I like! I feel quite convinced that I am a transbian.
@@LittleWolf02 for me too , because I don’t even try and no girls come up to me might be because I seem kinda tough idk lol . I might try a dating website but mostly just catfish .
Here’s my realisation if you guys are still confused 1. I always used to pick my male crushes or i would “like” boys because my friends did (this goes for celebrities too) 2. Billie Eilish She was my realisation and this was some time after she came out This could go under obsessing over female artists or celebrities 3. I liked a girl She was so beautiful each time i thought about her i would get the most craziest butterflies 4. Searching ‘girls kissing’ This should’ve been a dead giveaway but when i was around 7 or something like that i would search that up I know some people didn’t do that but if you did your probably queer 5. I liked 2 of my art teachers Both of them were so beautiful i o honestly used to call for help just so they could talk to me 😭 (Also when they would flick their hair i would loose my mind) I could do a part 2 if you guys want
me: "im pan" me everytime i see/think about men: 🤮🤢😑🙄 me thinking about other women: yes just yes im starting to relize im probobly a lesbian saying i. really only have crushes in girls to
And can you make a video how to understand are you bi with a preference for non-men or are you a lesbian??? /hj hsrs Also thank you, your videos are very good!❤
im a girl, i usually never comment, i’m sure i like men, i find them attractive especially their bodies but there’s this girl in class that makes me wanna show off just for her, i’m very girly so idk if i unconsciously want to make her jealous of me for idk what reason or i have a crush on her, she used to smile at me and me too, it was all good, all innocent , i had no thoughts until months passed and we haven’t exchanged smiles in a while bc i found another group of friends, it’s bad to say but i sometimes ignore her on purpose, i once felt empty when she wasn’t at school, like i wanted her to be there to look at me, she sometimes pops up in my head for no reason and it’s making me so confused, should i talk to her? i rlly dont know what this is bc it has never happened before, it would be nice if someone answered my comment, thank u😭
Honestly I’m probably Lesbian and when I tried dating or liking guys I want to instantly stop dating and liking them and I pay more attention to like girls so I really think I’m a lesbian and I only think about girls and stuff and yeah I’m probably lesbian
I watched your video because I am a man, I was maried to a woman for 14 years (just divirced this summer) and while we were, and still are, best friends, I always felt that I was the drive in our couple. In retrospect I feel like I kind of forced her (no violence, I just really wanted to be with her and I can be really persuasive) into a relationship and her parents, plus her culture (she is Polish), gave her no way out. I know that her first experience was a non desired lesbian experience with her cousin and that broke something for her. During our 14 years, sex was always difficult as she suffered from vaginism and, for the last 8 years, we basically had non penetrative sex mostly. Now, I am mostly a guy, but I am always more at ease with women, men tend to make me uncomfortable, also my psy told me that my inner child might be a little girl, so maybe it is what attracted her to me in the first place. I feel like that first experience, plus the outside pressure, forbid her to explore sexuality with a girl. She told me it feel gross (wich to me is linked to that trauma she had) to think about it, but also, when in a movie there is a lesbian sex scene, she tend to watch it avidly while when there is a straight scene, she immediatly turn her head and say it is gross. She also tend to be really close to her friend girls, but one at a time, and look somehow heartbroken when that girl do not return the exclusivity that she is looking for. So, I feel like there is nothing I can do to help her, as in this is not my place to do so, but I wish her to be happy because I know that she has a sex drive (I gave her multiples toys and I know she use most the ones that are not penetrative, and she use them often wich I think mean she is not a-sexual) but that this first, well, rape, broke something for her. I never told her any of this because she only spoke once of that rape and is not open to talk about it anymore. Also, she is seeing a psy herself since we started beeing together, originaly because she had a hard time accepting me as a partner, wich she never did in the end. She say it is because I am a mecanician and she pictured herself with a doctor or something (she is PHD) and cant live with the "class" difference but I feel this is more than that as you can guess. She said to me when we decided to part ways that she cant picture herself with me but refused to expend on that. My question is how can I help or even should I help?
I am genderfluid with a non-binary partner. Im not sure if im lesbian though. I don't really like men. I don't get the appeal in men. Ive dated a few before and i just couldn't get into the comfortable/actually loving them. I only like women and non-binary people. Am i lesbian or something else? I thought i might add that like i find some men attractive just i wouldn't date them the thought of dating cis men disgust me. I know it sounds weird that im saying cis men but like yeah.
I'm honestly questioning my sexuality I'm currently in a relationship with a guy he's perfect but the problem is I don't know I like him like that it always feels like something is missing like I wish he was a girl sometimes it's hard cause I don't know how to tell him
I already know that I am a lesbian but watching this video was like hitting all the points except for one. I've never kissed a girl but every time I think about it my heart almost explodes and my head nearly catches fire. Every other point I hit easily. Men just are not attractive to me, like I can pretend but I certainly won't be happy. I kinda want kids with another woman or an enby, but the idea of having kids with a man is just no, it is entirely unattractive as a prospect and makes me want to run off. Other women and enbies in my thoughts in those ways turn me into a blushing idiot where I can barely speak. And the last point of looking at these types of videos. Once again I know I am a lesbian but I figured it'd be fun to see how much I hit the mark. Turns out it's pretty high according to this video at least. Also your glasses are really cute.
Ihad a crush on my first babysitter (that I remember.) I was 4 or 5, she lived next door & was in high school. ALAS! It was not meant to be! (Thank God, that’d be really sick…)
This has further proven that I am indeed a lesbian :) Btw thank you for your videos, they've been super helpful and have led me to figure out that I'm also ace along with being under the non-binary umbrella 🫶🫶
The part about not wanting kids until you picture it with a woman just shattered my brain
Well you can adopt also ask a guy friend for a spirm donation
Yeah but she said it was just because she didn't want to "do all the work", not because it *just felt right* to be with a woman instead of a man.
Ive gone from thinking I was a lesbian, thinking i was bi, pan, omni, and then back to lesbian 🥲
You're not alone😢
I'm so confused like sex with men just feels like a chore not to mention men are useless In bed anyway, I get turned on more about woman of colour (all darker) I fantisy about woman, I get hot for woman I find woman stunning find men Meh, I been in love with a couple girls never did anythink thought I was just werid even if I go on a date with a man I feel sad and tend to look at woman lol I'm just more scared to be brave enough to ask a woman out could I be? Gay and just been doing what I was forced to believe was normal?
LITERALLY. IN THIS EXACT SAME ORDER
Same 😭
Same😅
Everyone's daily reminder that if are questioning your sexuality or gender, don't feel like you need to rush to specific labels or to know exaclty what you are immediately. Not knowing isn't something that makes you less valid, it is part of the process, and for some of us it is a comfortable state to be in maybe forever. Everyone is on their own completely different journey. Great video, and good luck to all of you looking for answers about themselves
Honestly, I’m jumping same day today- somehow I just feel it, like, it just makes sense. I realized earlier that I feel NO attraction towards men other than platonic, and I’ve never felt it
Hi Lynn, this video was actually confirmation to me that I'm straight!
I'm aro/ace but prefer the platonic company of men, and enjoy the playful banter with gay men because we both know it means nothing. But I have an aro/ace friend who only realized her saphic attraction 10 years in because of all that internalized heterontormativity ... so I think it's only fair that I ask myself honest questions before I can say without question "Yup, I'm aro/ace/straight and queer!"
Lesbiab
Lesbiam
Less Bien
Girls
There you go
It’s ok take your time
I’m in middle school, I have been questioning my sexuality for a while, litterly started questioning if I was lesbian all day
And now I’m having an existential crisis
Same with me right now
I did but now I am out to my parents and some close friends
Same I went from straight to bi to pan now I’m questioning if I’m lesbian
I'd say I'm bi with a heavy preference for non-men (yes, including ppl under the non-binary umbrella, I'm non-binary myself lol) and it's okay to have a preference if you're attracted to multiple genders, wether it's a heavy preference or not :)
Here's how I figured it out. I noticed the "girl crushes" I had were regular crushes on girls and the "crushes" on guys were all platonic with one exception. What confirmed it was doing online roleplay scenarios, I noticed of the romantic ones, the "girl love" ones felt the most right and natural. Realizing I'm a lesbian has been mostly a freeing experience but the fact I'm new to this means there's so much to learn and explore. I'm 18 so I'm still quite young.
I wonder how many men watch this video, even if not applicable to themselves 😂
I‘m a cis man myself but I‘ve really enjoyed your videos for the past few months as you helped me find out I was ace, your video about „Signs you may be asexual“ was literally the first video I watched once I learnt that there was such a thing as asexuality 💜 So thank you so much for helping me understand myself better, keep up your great work
I mean hey they could be trans right
That's literally me. I had a crush on a girl and realized i wanted to be a girl like her too
Also, you might be a man watching this video - and feeling connected to what is being said - just in reverse!
@rheiagreenland4714 Yeah I often wonder if the crush is "I want to be with her" and not rather "I want to *be* her"
I have always identified as bisexual and I actually have a boyfriend. Things were great in the beginning and I was head over heels in love with him but now I am not sure we are right for each other. We had a girlfriend for a little while and she was my first girl kiss and i loved it. We have tried being poly and I really enjoyed it but now I am finding myself questioning if I am a lesbian and finding myself just wanting to be with a woman but I don't want to hurt him, I don't know why I feel like this now after all this time, and possibly coming to terms with being a lesbian and being out and open about it like coming out seems really really scary because I don't know what to expect. I am so lost and confused and don't know what to do. It's also like if we were to ever break up I don't think I would want to be with men anymore. Seeing a straight couple kiss makes me feel some type of way but seeing a lesbian couple kiss makes me happy and excited. I pictured marrying him and having kids with him at one point but now I feel like I'd rather do those things with a woman instead. Does that make any sense? :(
Any advice? -Maya
I'm now questioning if I'm an oriented Aroace towards Women. I'd much rather hang out and engage with them platonically. I think guys might be off the table for me. I mean, I'd see guys at work and be 'work friends' but I would hang out with women outside work 100%.
Same
Samee, it's like do I experience romantic attraction, no, do I really like holding hands with my female bffs, yes!
Love hugging women and feel comfortable with women more than man
I agree with everything but the recommendation of the master doc. The creator came out as bisexual not too long after. Before learning of this, the doc still felt off because to me, it had elements of aego ace and aego ro spectrums, not to mention the explicit description of ficto- spectrum people.
But I will say, functional labels absolutely have their place.
Started singing Katy Perry's "I kissed a girl" when the sign about liking kissing girls lol
Also me being pan and still watching this video😅
It really do be like that sometimes😂😂😂 but that just makes me wanna do a 5signs you might be pansexual video next
If you feel like it, go for it
Yess please! I need that pan video sm lol@@lynnsaga1397
i can't even think about marrying or dating a boy but then i can imagine being with a girl for some reason😭
(i've also been thinking if im asexual or lesbian)
Well, I can definitely say that I am a bisexual lady, who is more interested in other ladies rather than men. Sorry but there's just something I can't explain. Maybe I'm more lesbian than bisexual? Guess time will show and tell me😄
Me a lesbian: mhm yes good to know
Hi, i've never really had a physical relationship with a man, but I identify with almost all of this 😭. But i struggle with telling other people what I am because sometimes I feel like what if I am not and I'm a liar to people, i've seen myself being mad at other people for switching up quickly before. Any tips on being adjusted to get rid of internalized homophobia? [BTW I am not this way towards other people, I just feel somewhat of a Stockholm syndrome with myself because I've dated guys before.]
Most of my friends have told me things that I say or do are not normal for straight people, and my only sexual interests are to women, men repulse me. So i'm pretty sure I am. still, sometimes feel this way like what if i'm just trying to fit in or something
Thanks, this helped me so much
Beautiful lynn you are such an awesome peron love you're video's if there was more people in the world it would be a better world
😊😊😊😊
Oh gosh, just read the first two parts of your MasterDoc link and am crying so had to stop reading. Will just watch your video instead. Thank you for putting all this out there.
People think I'm just a straight guy but I don't really find the straight guy fantasy type women appealing. Now, the women that lesbians get flustered over, those are the ones I like! I feel quite convinced that I am a transbian.
I’m gay but don’t try to find gf anymore being that I’m 33 lol 🙂
I'm gay but finding girlfriend is kind of hard when you are 15 years old😅😅😅😅
@ that sounds tough lol
@@xhtiaf hi yeah it's pretty hard 🤣😅
@@LittleWolf02 for me too , because I don’t even try and no girls come up to me might be because I seem kinda tough idk lol . I might try a dating website but mostly just catfish .
@@xhtiaf I'm going to be honest with you I can't really read that well 😅😅 sorry but I got most of what you said
If i were to come out any time soon i would say i am a lesbian, even though i see myself as more aromatic with a woman preference
Wait... I'm realizing things...
I'm still ace...
But my brain just imploded
Ya the first one is me becase im dating a boy but its not a nice feeling but when i m with girls its like the best feeling❤😊😂😮🎉
the last one called me out hard thank you 🏳️🌈❤️🩷🤍🧡❤️
Here’s my realisation if you guys are still confused
1. I always used to pick my male crushes or i would “like” boys because my friends did (this goes for celebrities too)
2. Billie Eilish
She was my realisation and this was some time after she came out
This could go under obsessing over female artists or celebrities
3. I liked a girl
She was so beautiful each time i thought about her i would get the most craziest butterflies
4. Searching ‘girls kissing’
This should’ve been a dead giveaway but when i was around 7 or something like that i would search that up
I know some people didn’t do that but if you did your probably queer
5. I liked 2 of my art teachers
Both of them were so beautiful i o honestly used to call for help just so they could talk to me 😭
(Also when they would flick their hair i would loose my mind)
I could do a part 2 if you guys want
I know I was gay when I was owning grade 5 and I'm lesbian
Thank you for including non-binary lesbians, I think I might be a non-binary lesbian.
Questioning ones sexuality would make the word a better place? huh?
0:45
THERES A KITTY CAT
I WANT KITTY
I like how I still watched this despite knowing I’m hetero oriented aroace lol
me: "im pan"
me everytime i see/think about men: 🤮🤢😑🙄
me thinking about other women: yes just yes
im starting to relize im probobly a lesbian saying i. really only have crushes in girls to
And can you make a video how to understand are you bi with a preference for non-men or are you a lesbian??? /hj hsrs
Also thank you, your videos are very good!❤
im a girl, i usually never comment, i’m sure i like men, i find them attractive especially their bodies but there’s this girl in class that makes me wanna show off just for her, i’m very girly so idk if i unconsciously want to make her jealous of me for idk what reason or i have a crush on her, she used to smile at me and me too, it was all good, all innocent , i had no thoughts until months passed and we haven’t exchanged smiles in a while bc i found another group of friends, it’s bad to say but i sometimes ignore her on purpose, i once felt empty when she wasn’t at school, like i wanted her to be there to look at me, she sometimes pops up in my head for no reason and it’s making me so confused, should i talk to her? i rlly dont know what this is bc it has never happened before, it would be nice if someone answered my comment, thank u😭
I’m a girl and I’m a lesbian
Honestly I’m probably Lesbian and when I tried dating or liking guys I want to instantly stop dating and liking them and I pay more attention to like girls so I really think I’m a lesbian and I only think about girls and stuff and yeah I’m probably lesbian
Is me surrounding myself with lesbian and Omnisexual friends a sign that I could be lesbian?
I'm straight but kind of questioning. Would not wanting kids, (just not wanting them in general, no matter if I was with a man or not.,) be a sign
I watched your video because I am a man, I was maried to a woman for 14 years (just divirced this summer) and while we were, and still are, best friends, I always felt that I was the drive in our couple. In retrospect I feel like I kind of forced her (no violence, I just really wanted to be with her and I can be really persuasive) into a relationship and her parents, plus her culture (she is Polish), gave her no way out. I know that her first experience was a non desired lesbian experience with her cousin and that broke something for her. During our 14 years, sex was always difficult as she suffered from vaginism and, for the last 8 years, we basically had non penetrative sex mostly. Now, I am mostly a guy, but I am always more at ease with women, men tend to make me uncomfortable, also my psy told me that my inner child might be a little girl, so maybe it is what attracted her to me in the first place.
I feel like that first experience, plus the outside pressure, forbid her to explore sexuality with a girl. She told me it feel gross (wich to me is linked to that trauma she had) to think about it, but also, when in a movie there is a lesbian sex scene, she tend to watch it avidly while when there is a straight scene, she immediatly turn her head and say it is gross. She also tend to be really close to her friend girls, but one at a time, and look somehow heartbroken when that girl do not return the exclusivity that she is looking for.
So, I feel like there is nothing I can do to help her, as in this is not my place to do so, but I wish her to be happy because I know that she has a sex drive (I gave her multiples toys and I know she use most the ones that are not penetrative, and she use them often wich I think mean she is not a-sexual) but that this first, well, rape, broke something for her. I never told her any of this because she only spoke once of that rape and is not open to talk about it anymore. Also, she is seeing a psy herself since we started beeing together, originaly because she had a hard time accepting me as a partner, wich she never did in the end. She say it is because I am a mecanician and she pictured herself with a doctor or something (she is PHD) and cant live with the "class" difference but I feel this is more than that as you can guess. She said to me when we decided to part ways that she cant picture herself with me but refused to expend on that.
My question is how can I help or even should I help?
I am genderfluid with a non-binary partner. Im not sure if im lesbian though. I don't really like men. I don't get the appeal in men. Ive dated a few before and i just couldn't get into the comfortable/actually loving them. I only like women and non-binary people. Am i lesbian or something else?
I thought i might add that like i find some men attractive just i wouldn't date them the thought of dating cis men disgust me. I know it sounds weird that im saying cis men but like yeah.
I'm honestly questioning my sexuality I'm currently in a relationship with a guy he's perfect but the problem is I don't know I like him like that it always feels like something is missing like I wish he was a girl sometimes it's hard cause I don't know how to tell him
I have kissed so many guys and I always hated it. I thought I just hated kissing...
where is the link I need the quiz
It's not a quiz it's actually a whole master doc that will tell you a bunch of stuff about lesbianism I hope you find it helpful!
Let me help you out - cis-het people do not typically want to take "am I gay" quizzes.
Nice Video
I haven't kissed a girl yet but I want to
4:52 This.
I already know that I am a lesbian but watching this video was like hitting all the points except for one. I've never kissed a girl but every time I think about it my heart almost explodes and my head nearly catches fire. Every other point I hit easily. Men just are not attractive to me, like I can pretend but I certainly won't be happy. I kinda want kids with another woman or an enby, but the idea of having kids with a man is just no, it is entirely unattractive as a prospect and makes me want to run off. Other women and enbies in my thoughts in those ways turn me into a blushing idiot where I can barely speak. And the last point of looking at these types of videos. Once again I know I am a lesbian but I figured it'd be fun to see how much I hit the mark. Turns out it's pretty high according to this video at least.
Also your glasses are really cute.
Ihad a crush on my first babysitter (that I remember.) I was 4 or 5, she lived next door & was in high school. ALAS! It was not meant to be! (Thank God, that’d be really sick…)
I’m a straight girly and I have dreams about me kissing Billie Eilish
I'm in third grade and I already know I'm gay.😅❤
i am so confused
I dreamed about two women does that make me a lesbian ❤
genderfluid lesbians are also a thing, like me 🏳🌈 :D
I mighte
🙏❤️🏳️🌈🟦
Your cat is cute
What if I am sexually lesbian but biromantic 😣 women scare me, I learned how to ride a bike - not a scooter 😂
Nvm i think im not lesbian, thx tho
Here's my question tho, can an amab nonbinary person be a lesbian?
Yes, the gender (nonbinary) is more important than agab (amab). Any non-men can be a lesbian
@@saboten_frog Thank you 😊
You're free to call yourself that bit no actual lesbian will date you if you look like a man and have male anatomy.
@@Amelia-V That's cool bc there's plenty of pan girls that are down for me tbh 😂
ALL nonbinary lesbians are so valid and loved
I'm a non binary lesbian
This has further proven that I am indeed a lesbian :)
Btw thank you for your videos, they've been super helpful and have led me to figure out that I'm also ace along with being under the non-binary umbrella 🫶🫶