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  • Golden Child Siblings Got $370k From Our Parents, While I Got Nothing. But They Still Mock My 'Small' Wedding That I Paid for Myself! So I Finally Snapped at the Family Dinner.
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  • @ThePawerStation
    @ThePawerStation 5 месяцев назад +463

    Op knows that parents are screwed. The older siblings will not help them and will try to guilt trip Op and Jade in order to financially help both parents.

    • @Vvee.699
      @Vvee.699 5 месяцев назад +1

      Why jade?

    • @aplaszc
      @aplaszc 5 месяцев назад +14

      @@Vvee.699 cause monetarily she was the one to benefit the most from the parents gifts over the years

  • @sthrcnx
    @sthrcnx 5 месяцев назад +211

    Rich people when money can't fix the problem:
    *suprised Pikachu face

  • @Maninawig
    @Maninawig 5 месяцев назад +341

    The irony: a watchmaker is grieving the fact that his parents do not see the value in the gift of time.

    • @dannysilva3210
      @dannysilva3210 5 месяцев назад +12

      Fr

    • @theultimateawesome5516
      @theultimateawesome5516 Месяц назад

      Well yea it’s a story written by ai

    • @ChefRye1
      @ChefRye1 8 дней назад +2

      @@theultimateawesome5516why do you say that? Or were you the favorite child and don’t understand how favoritism works?

  • @CBTenthusiast-lc6sn
    @CBTenthusiast-lc6sn 5 месяцев назад +61

    ironically they are setting up their two eldest for failure with how spoiled rotten they are they are completely unprepared for when not if when thought times hit.

  • @reillycurran8508
    @reillycurran8508 3 месяца назад +7

    The added layer of absolute spite from Laurie in straight up lying about the birthday gift collection.
    Not just stealing money from Jade but also making her an unknowing accomplice in OPs continued abuse for no reason except she evidently just hates him that much for being "weird"

  • @CG-yb6zj
    @CG-yb6zj 5 месяцев назад +20

    So no one was even in the ground yet before the siblings, aside from Jade and OP, were counting up the assets and wanting a 'fair share' of everyone (mainly OP) cut, despite being given the world already 🤔 If you'd look up 'Greed' you'd see their picture

  • @RagtimeSnek
    @RagtimeSnek 5 месяцев назад +11

    I feel sad for OP that he feels the need to explain about the watches and the clock. Does he think it makes him greedy for wanting them? 😕

  • @RougeSakurRAR
    @RougeSakurRAR 5 месяцев назад +4

    Could it be that possibly op's parents were ableist towards him for being autistic?

    • @brandinicole1372
      @brandinicole1372 5 месяцев назад +1

      I was thinking the same thing. The way op was treated and the fact they adopted another child adds up.

  • @blindbrad4719
    @blindbrad4719 5 месяцев назад +6

    If you don't want their money, tell them you want their voice, their voice every time your older siblings jab at you. You want them to tell your older siblings to wind their neck in a be grateful for all the extra help they got instead of sniping at you, and you want them to make your older siblings apologise for jabbing at you not just a pathetic oh sorry till they do it the next time…

  • @peterkn2
    @peterkn2 2 месяца назад +1

    11:40 "they felt like I was doing well and didn't need their help." The motto of very unfair parents. If I could, I would advise the OP to not take any more money or help from parents. I feel like there's a high chance they'll expect him, and not his siblings, to help them out when they run out of money.
    Parents: "We need you to step up and help us. Your siblings can't because they're saving up for [luxury items] and they deserve it. " and if siblings do help, siblings: "because of you, we couldn't get our [luxury items]!"
    The favoritism from parents is always sad and often very obvious.

  • @IOSALive
    @IOSALive 5 месяцев назад +1

    Telltales, Your videos are fantastic! I just had to subscribe!

  • @shawandamartin5135
    @shawandamartin5135 2 месяца назад

    How is a family gathering to crowded or too loud but a professional soccer game is not?

  • @theogtimeclock
    @theogtimeclock 5 месяцев назад +13

    I NEED THEM 1 HOUR STORYS OMG

  • @lauraholland7185
    @lauraholland7185 3 месяца назад

    Some people just don't deserve to be parents

  • @bryanhowell3356
    @bryanhowell3356 5 месяцев назад

    When the rest of your siblings are the golden children you're just the black sheep

  • @frostkren8988
    @frostkren8988 5 месяцев назад +3

    “Jade is adopted”

  • @robd9049
    @robd9049 5 месяцев назад

    Is OP an affair baby? This doesn’t make sense.

    • @brandinicole1372
      @brandinicole1372 5 месяцев назад +2

      OP is on the spectrum so I think that might be a likely reason

  • @phantomsamurai4400
    @phantomsamurai4400 5 месяцев назад +1

    Such useless parents

  • @Dankish1809
    @Dankish1809 5 месяцев назад

    The amount of waffling in this story is unbelievable.

  • @user-sq5mr8ut1o
    @user-sq5mr8ut1o 5 месяцев назад

    This is reposted, not sure if there's more

  • @Random_xl
    @Random_xl 5 месяцев назад

    Sil? Hold up sil? I watch a story that had a sil and she was crazy, must be a common name is storys

    • @LovefromKazahkstan
      @LovefromKazahkstan 5 месяцев назад

      SIL typically stands for Sister In Law.

    • @Random_xl
      @Random_xl 5 месяцев назад

      Ok

    • @Random_xl
      @Random_xl 5 месяцев назад

      @@LovefromKazahkstan I was just confused bc I didn't know if it was a name or something

  • @itsobviouslyyuta1461
    @itsobviouslyyuta1461 5 месяцев назад +2

    Bring out an hour long story pls

  • @Olimar92
    @Olimar92 5 месяцев назад +189

    So the parents would overspend on their first two, and not have enough for the third. Then they adopt and spoil her. OP is just in that sweet spot of always being at the point the parents can't piss away their money.

    • @lil_mis_smiles
      @lil_mis_smiles 4 месяца назад +7

      Yeah, they don't have enough to spoil the 3rd kid but adopt a 4th one an magically they have money to spoil them instead

    • @OwlMasterProductions
      @OwlMasterProductions 4 месяца назад +1

      what does op mean?

    • @Kat-z3p
      @Kat-z3p 3 месяца назад +1

      @@OwlMasterProductions original poster I believe.

    • @OwlMasterProductions
      @OwlMasterProductions 3 месяца назад

      @@Kat-z3p thanks

  • @kratosGOW
    @kratosGOW 5 месяцев назад +183

    Favouritism, abuse and neglect like this should be illegal. Not just immoral.

    • @SalihElsadieg-bl2pv
      @SalihElsadieg-bl2pv 5 месяцев назад

      Favourtisim I understand but they didn't abuse him
      13:1

    • @kratosGOW
      @kratosGOW 5 месяцев назад +8

      @@SalihElsadieg-bl2pv
      Neglecting a child is abuse

    • @Beast900011
      @Beast900011 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@kratosGOW you got to put it into perspective, though. OP was probably provided with shelter food clothes and all the other necessities. You could probably argue emotional neglect though.

    • @kratosGOW
      @kratosGOW 5 месяцев назад +5

      @@Beast900011
      Well, yeah. That’s what I meant at the minimum.

    • @h.dungore839
      @h.dungore839 3 месяца назад +6

      @@Beast900011Op was asked to pay rent for staying at home while attending college though. While all his siblings actually lived lavishly on the campus 🤔that is financial and emotional abuse. It’s funny that the parents are being unfair to their kid who has autism. Like usually the case is that the weaker child is a miracle child thus that child gets more attention

  • @Thaddius0
    @Thaddius0 5 месяцев назад +85

    they asked Jade to pitch in for gifts and then just stole her money. The older kids are rotten

    • @tsbio
      @tsbio 4 месяца назад +6

      Jade should demand they give back the stolen money and then give it to OP.

  • @Spawnofsatan97
    @Spawnofsatan97 5 месяцев назад +50

    Screw the older siblings, screw the parents, I hope and pray that grandad leaves them nothing, and everything to OP. Jade and her husband seem cool as hell.

  • @zardox78
    @zardox78 5 месяцев назад +9

    Ya know, for once I actually believe a story on this channel is genuine. Something about the lack of any real resolution or major dramatic twist. Your 2 older siblings are assholes, plain and simple. And even though they're financially better off, they're not above stealing a couple hundred dollars a year from you just for the chance to smirk triumphantly about it. Yeah, that tracks with reality, unfortunately.

  • @renadu30
    @renadu30 5 месяцев назад +52

    So, whether this story is fake or not, if it is true, I suspect something. The two older siblings were the favourites, and while the parents treated the third child differently, they still went and adopted a fourth child. I am wondering if it is maybe due to the fact that OP has autism ? I know of families who treat people on the spectrum as though they aren't able to have emotions (which, big news, isn't true); maybe they saw OP as a failure, and adopted Jade because they wanted to make sure they had a third "normal" kid ? Just some theory.

    • @Olimar92
      @Olimar92 5 месяцев назад +11

      Or, since OP had such a great relationship with the grandparents, they subconsciously thought he would get more from them. Hell, it was obvious that's what his older siblings thought.

    • @Frooooooo
      @Frooooooo 5 месяцев назад +8

      Sometimes parents just gave on impulses. Like my parents helped my brother to pay for his house down payment, cleared off some of his student loan and pay half of his master degree (+his living expenses during that period as he was doing it overseas) while they had not given anything to me yet. They see that as a "needs" and didn't even think of setting aside some money for me. Yet people think that I was their favorite golden child because how proud they are of me.

  • @hiswifeforever
    @hiswifeforever 5 месяцев назад +376

    F the older siblings and the parents. I hope the grandfather gives all the inheritance to OP and Jade.

  • @karheipa6290
    @karheipa6290 5 месяцев назад +10

    people,jade is a very good example of what to do when you are a golden child.you dont rub it into the 'black sheep of the family's" face,but instead you need to financially help him or her.not just financially,emotionally,physically and mentally.and parents,dont spoil your parents and have a shocked pikachu face when they cut off contact with your rude entitled golden kids and you or they get revenge back at you.

  • @nataliereeves3594
    @nataliereeves3594 5 месяцев назад +14

    Granpa is the definitely the mvp. He has the forcite and awarness to not only c whats going on now but what will happen in the future. Hes trying to help op out and make sure they get what granpa wants them to have now so family cant steal it later.

  • @snowowl777
    @snowowl777 5 месяцев назад +23

    I heard this story on another channel. It always makes my glad that my mother supported and disciplined me and my siblings equally

    • @RedNinja0070
      @RedNinja0070 16 дней назад +1

      Faxx. I always thought my parents where unfair but really they where being equitable. So props to them

  • @thesqweebliest3727
    @thesqweebliest3727 5 месяцев назад +2

    Golden child siblings? Plural? Nah dawg they just dont like you specifically

  • @Profitglutton90
    @Profitglutton90 5 месяцев назад +21

    Less than a minute in and this story is already super interesting.

  • @Taveren
    @Taveren 5 месяцев назад +12

    Jade god you sweetheart... such a princess energy of not knowing money and trying to be generous and its just funny and its a nice break from the sadness

  • @SunGawdRa
    @SunGawdRa 5 месяцев назад +2

    Is it autism or social anxiety?

  • @DarkEinherjar
    @DarkEinherjar 5 месяцев назад +14

    Even low contact is more than these parents deserve.

  • @legiontepes3474
    @legiontepes3474 5 месяцев назад +14

    Nta. Aside from jade op has to go NC with everyone else.

  • @Raph_27
    @Raph_27 Месяц назад +2

    Op is smart on not accepting the parents "im sorry we messed up 🙄" money cause im sure they would use that as a way to make op take care of them when they get older

  • @standardgigachad3297
    @standardgigachad3297 2 месяца назад +2

    The siblings accusing OP of enriching himself through his grandfather... that's FILTHY RICH coming from them lmao

  • @mimiwhite1963
    @mimiwhite1963 2 месяца назад +2

    Op should go no contact with his parents. They absolutely knew they were not being fair and just gaslit him. His siblings are toxic as well. Just go no contact they are crap parents. You better off without people like that in your life

  • @gwenrichard7507
    @gwenrichard7507 5 месяцев назад +22

    OP should organize a retirement gift for her parents. Say "Jade and I (combined) will match the average of the two contributions."
    People who abuse others by enabling are doing it for validation. Show the parents how little the golden children care. Do it right in front of them on speakerphone.
    This is not to hurt the parents but to show that they have put themselves "second to" last. And if one of the two does step up OP doesn’t have to feel bad if the parents get abandoned later on.
    (If any this sounds like confirming the sun rose in the morning then OP should take the parents guilt money and not feel guilty.)

  • @MakLeBinClovisPrcss
    @MakLeBinClovisPrcss 3 месяца назад +1

    2 things
    No.1 first time its more than 1 gold child
    No.2 first time 1 of gold child is nice n doesnt take the favoritsm for granted

  • @56karenandjim
    @56karenandjim 5 месяцев назад +2

    My sister “d” always complained to me about being poor and then told me about her trips around the world. Her husband is a retired doctor and mi e was a school teacher and I was a potter. Nothing but the best for her and the rest of us should be happy with the leftovers

  • @madisondean1074
    @madisondean1074 4 месяца назад +1

    I'm just like OP and Jade. I too am on the spectrum and have known about having it for almost 17 long years. Yes, even at 4 years old I wasn't all that stupid. I sympathize quite well with both Op and Jade as being around large crowds which will involve a lot of noise doesn't help those who are on the spectrum. I've almost had panic attacks before because of it. Meaning I don't like large crowds and certain noises. Usually whenever there are large family gatherings, I just bring along a book to read and my sketchbook materials to occupy myself as I don't like interacting with a lot of people. But I don't let my ADHD and Autism get in the way of living my best life. I currently have a part-time job and I'm considering obtaining an apprenticeship of some sort to become a maritime historian. Meaning I want to study ships for a living. I've been in love with ships, particularly ocean liners of the Edwardian/Gilded Age, since I was a little girl. I share a deep connection to the field because I've been interested in it for so long. Every time someone says I can't make a living out of being a historian, I literally loose my *bleep*! There's so much out there waiting to be discovered and I want to prove that just because one has mental health issues doesn't mean one can't build themselves a promising career.

  • @Panwere36
    @Panwere36 2 месяца назад +1

    Starting with the first time no birthday gifts were bought for the OP it is clear that the two older siblings need a reality check. The parents are pathetic and that level of favoritism need to be held accountable. The fact the siblings tried to gaslight and he isn't letting it fly is a good thing. I hope he records every interaction with them. The fact the adopted daughter/sister sees the favoritism screams volumes.. especially finding out the older siblings lied to her about the gifts also is very telling as well. If the autism is the "excuse", the parents and older siblings are beyond horrible people. It also, I suspect, is they think they are "entitled" to more than they deserve. However... if they really were spending "beyond their means".. then the two older siblings need to pay for the parents.

  • @TrowSonny
    @TrowSonny 4 месяца назад +1

    Funny how people concider themselves adults with jobs but still want money from parents.

  • @Human_being_96
    @Human_being_96 3 месяца назад +1

    I haven't seen the full video and Idk why but I think the paternal grandfather is his dad😭 ( I hate my thinking but what can i say I'm traumatized by this type of scenarios in reddit stories)

  • @DiabloDon
    @DiabloDon Месяц назад +1

    OP, your parents gave you another gift: The gift of being independent!

  • @BleachDemon69
    @BleachDemon69 5 месяцев назад +1

    claims the enhertince is not something he cares about yet continues bring it up, and the parents arent trying work out it theyre playing the defendant in the court offer goods to avoid guilt.

  • @denisewood1528
    @denisewood1528 5 месяцев назад +1

    I'd go no contact with all of them except Jade and her husband. Don't talk about the past,talk about the future and move forward. Live life to the fullest with your wife, sister and bil.

  • @ayiza8511
    @ayiza8511 Месяц назад

    Maybe your parents don’t favour you because they have something against you being on the spectrum? Talk to them

  • @URLHASBEENBANNED
    @URLHASBEENBANNED 5 месяцев назад +11

    We got a fresh story

  • @sheriffoutlaw1144
    @sheriffoutlaw1144 Месяц назад

    Hello hotel op is like I’m really not spoiled all they give me is mid-level watches an old clock and a car and my siblings hundred thousand dollar weddings million dollar houses and shit like that and they’re calling him spoiled

  • @KajiRider1997
    @KajiRider1997 27 дней назад

    His grandpa is Italian and his granny dutch and he has autism. OP is basically me but with a bad family.

  • @dolph1nch1ca46
    @dolph1nch1ca46 3 месяца назад

    The second I heard autism I went yup that makes sense. Just some things I heard laid out the pieces of the puzzle.

  • @jrcell5832
    @jrcell5832 3 месяца назад

    Ppl like this blow my mind, I would have gone NC

  • @DonovanBrooks-Jackson-id9id
    @DonovanBrooks-Jackson-id9id 3 месяца назад

    I mean how can they keep score they can always beat what they did last with something else

  • @AdrianRitchie-j1f
    @AdrianRitchie-j1f 21 день назад

    What game is this they're playing in the video

  • @predatorcote1944
    @predatorcote1944 23 дня назад

    Autism... yeah yta

  • @Sum-kj8jo
    @Sum-kj8jo 4 месяца назад

    The zity, shame on them

  • @ankurdey747
    @ankurdey747 5 месяцев назад

    Idk if that op is still there maybe get checked for Wilson's disease (the brown ring around eyes is called a KF ring)

  • @lisaking6790
    @lisaking6790 5 месяцев назад

    The hell with ops family,cut all contacts with them!! Nothing good will come of it if you keep helping them and finding things and doing things for them…they will never appreciate nor respect you and your wife!! My husband had to cut
    contact with his family,he was the oldest and they treated him and I like shit,it’s so sad it happened around a bad time!it for the best that you walk away from them!

  • @prosteslavek
    @prosteslavek 4 месяца назад

    Op Is german

  • @arhael3594
    @arhael3594 5 месяцев назад +12

    I don't get why OP is being so self-righteous. Accept their money, drain them dry, then block them. It's the only value he will ever get out of his "parents".

    • @malikwillis05
      @malikwillis05 5 месяцев назад

      That's some bitch shit

    • @alberich5355
      @alberich5355 5 месяцев назад +15

      Some Peoples care more about Values than Valueables.

    • @malikwillis05
      @malikwillis05 5 месяцев назад

      That's some bitch shit

    • @reaverkai
      @reaverkai 5 месяцев назад +5

      Ive heard a strong sense of justice/morals is a common autistic trait. So he might feel strongly against doing whats wrong

    • @arhael3594
      @arhael3594 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@reaverkai Not sure it's that. I used to be just like that. But over time and life experience I became pragmatic and calculating.

  • @jjhobibpink21bbgot76
    @jjhobibpink21bbgot76 5 месяцев назад

    The op is korean i think. Older siblings privilege.

  • @denis3208
    @denis3208 5 месяцев назад +2

    Jade is such a cute person, others are garbage and should be discarded as such.

    • @brandinicole1372
      @brandinicole1372 5 месяцев назад +1

      All she wanted was her brother to be treated fairly since she was little. It shows that not all golden children are assholes.

  • @megaskygaming3046
    @megaskygaming3046 5 месяцев назад +1

    Can anyone tell meaning of aita

    • @JB-yb6ks
      @JB-yb6ks 5 месяцев назад

      No

    • @theold4734
      @theold4734 5 месяцев назад +1

      its short for Am i the asshole

    • @JB-yb6ks
      @JB-yb6ks 5 месяцев назад

      @@theold4734 killjoy

  • @jason-gf8dg
    @jason-gf8dg 5 месяцев назад

    Stop babbling and get to the updates.

  • @whittenevan
    @whittenevan 5 месяцев назад

    Not a fan of the comments in the vids tbh..

  • @Kaziglu1
    @Kaziglu1 5 месяцев назад

    Watchmaking school???

  • @aplaszc
    @aplaszc 5 месяцев назад +1

    anyone else fastforward through the parts with comments/replies? I usually find they dont add a whole lot and just eat up time

  • @Marshall74336
    @Marshall74336 5 месяцев назад

    W upload schedule

  • @SilverGhost689
    @SilverGhost689 4 месяца назад +1

    OP mentioned in one of the comment responses and the first update that he has autism. That may well be the reason for the neglect, as his parents may have thought down upon autism.

  • @Megumifushiguro74
    @Megumifushiguro74 5 месяцев назад

    Damn bro

  • @Blacklistwar
    @Blacklistwar 5 месяцев назад

    ✅️

  • @redconvoy
    @redconvoy 5 месяцев назад +1

    I think mom had an affair with FIL.

  • @ambientwishwalker8908
    @ambientwishwalker8908 5 месяцев назад +12

    Gist of the story: Having 1 boy and 1 girl child is enough. Refrain from getting any more than 2 kids if you don't want drama in future.

    • @arandomusername4019
      @arandomusername4019 5 месяцев назад +12

      No the gist of it is if you want to spoil your kids, make sure you have enough for ALL of them
      This has nothing to do with gender

    • @TrueBlue0611
      @TrueBlue0611 5 месяцев назад +2

      People with way more kids have a better bonded family who are very close to one another. It just depends upon the upbringing of the parents.

  • @JohnDoe-h1e8l
    @JohnDoe-h1e8l 5 месяцев назад +3

    It is interesting that the OP says they are “on the spectrum” and “has issues with crowds and sensory overload” but goes to soccer games regularly, enough so his siblings are supposedly buying him soccer game tickets. And as we all know soccer games a re quiet, intimate affairs.
    Sounds like another self diagnosed “I’m on the spectrum” person looking for the attention his parents never gave him so he is just trying to be special.

    • @EliPiMorris
      @EliPiMorris 5 месяцев назад +3

      People on the spectrum can do social events. A lot of us are hobbyist so it's not an uncommon thing. Hyperfocusing on a special interest is very different than socializing and engaging with others.

    • @JohnDoe-h1e8l
      @JohnDoe-h1e8l 5 месяцев назад

      @@EliPiMorris again, you want it both ways.
      I am “overstimulated” by loud noises and large crowds. But I can go out and do things I want to do like go to a large crowded stadium full of loud soccer fans.
      It is the same “argument” that your kid can’t focus on his homework by plays video games for hours, they must have ADHD, quick give them speed with a PG rating.
      You just want to be labeled as special so people treat you special. Okay. If you’re “on the spectrum” what is your favorite train ?

    • @JohnDoe-h1e8l
      @JohnDoe-h1e8l 5 месяцев назад

      @@EliPiMorris still waiting on your favorite train.

    • @ritaerror7829
      @ritaerror7829 5 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@JohnDoe-h1e8l actually it isn't as weird. On family gathering, you are supposed to pay attention to many people at once, because no one gives you instruction who to watch etc. But on events like concerts and football games, you have clear, the loudest/most interesting thing you are watching.
      Overstimulation is weird, but might be compared to hot water. You just push in your hand and it's hot, but of you won't take it back whining, you get used to the temperature.
      Dunno if OP is on spectrum or not. But there are more factors than just "loud noise", and even it depends on it being constant, or just random crashing, and then back to silence.

    • @brandinicole1372
      @brandinicole1372 5 месяцев назад +3

      This is normal for people on the spectrum. My daughter can tolerate walking around theme parks and she enjoys sirc de sole (circus without animals). It’s a reason it’s known as a spectrum disorder.

  • @mouzziewouzzie2305
    @mouzziewouzzie2305 Месяц назад

    What in the Pinocchio bullshite story is this?? Too fake to be entertaining

  • @gldnhrtdrksol3419
    @gldnhrtdrksol3419 2 месяца назад +2

    the problem that i hate is that excuse of '' you seemed to be well off on your own and didn't seem to need any help'' nah bro, maybe you could sit down and talk to me and see if everything is alright, do i need anything or what not. some parents should be worried about the one child that is more independent than an adult... my mom pulled that on me because she favors my brother over me since he was born, when she was pregnant she would smile and say this is the child i wanted. i honestly felt more like a family pet or just a pet since one time my mom told me that she doesnt see me as family, so i guess im just the pet that roamed around the house. but she gave me that excuse a few years later, ofc im gonna be independent and do on my own, because i had NO ONE to rely on but myself so nah, screw that excuse. at least check on your kid and not assume they good all the time since evidently their judgement is horrible.