Side note: That receptionist needs a reprimand at the VERY least. When OP said "I do not want to see them." She should have called security when they refused to leave. End of discussion.
Hard disagree. That was entirely on him. He’s the one who decided to cave and go down when she told him they were refusing to leave. If he wanted security called then he should have said so. She isn’t going to do it on her own.
@@NeoCreo1 no doll... When she was told he don't want to see them they are HER problem not his. Telling him that they don't want to leave was out of line AF
@@morganablackwater2017 Except that she could get in serious trouble if she called security on them and he didn’t back her up after the fact. It’s a big jump and something you want to make sure of. First and foremost ALWAYS CYOA. If I were in her position I would have done the same, only difference is that I would have added an offer to call security after telling him they wouldn’t leave, which probably would have gotten the same result.
Feels a little manipulative of OP to threaten no contact knowing full well that he's the one paying their future. It also seems like their judgement was clouded by a need for revenge since the uncle pointed out that refusing to help them would've been a better option.
It's not even favouritism, it's just weird hippy lunacy. Why does the useless brother need to be handheld through a community college course? How does the brothers college path have anything to do with the OP's? He's not got a medical condition or something to justify pulling down the OP's entire future just to make younger brother feel better or something. This kind of weird embellishment is where it feels like an AI story generator just farted out a variation on some other story where the younger sibling had a medical condition - so this might actually make some sense even if it were still an unreasonable thing to ask.
@@phillipschwoerke8374for sure. There’s the “Do it for Dan” saga of Dan being favored over OP and nearly stole his (OP) own house. As well as the twin brother story about Ryan being disowned and Sebastian begging for a kidney transplant years later.
@@Tots_lol well people who have the qualities i have stated think that they are perfect and can't do mistake only other around them does mistake in the minds
@@chetankalyanreddyarabandi2818such perspective are created from those around them, as the way they are treating them like some righteous and entitled. Parents are ones to blame, and the child's only fault would've been not knowing it.
@@areszeudion5153 the golden child isn't innocent either instead of atleast making the things right with the treatment of his brother by asking his parents to treat him better he just decided to enjoy the attention and praise not caring about his sibling
If the brothers really had the kind of relationship where they want to make each other happy, why would it make the other happy if he gave up on his dreams?
Because for the parents it’s: If Golden Child is happy then OP is happy, if Golden Child isn’t happy then OP shouldn’t be happy. And if OP isn’t happy, then he needs to get over it”
That’s BS to hold back one kid because it would make the other kid feel bad. Jared sounds like the “equal attention birthday cake kid”. The parents failed both sons. And what OP did to his parents is understandable. If it wasn’t him badmouthing them to the investor after they tried to use OP like that, then it would have been his brother when he takes over the business and wrecks it.
They're spineless 'turn the other cheek' type people. The kind of people that are ok with enabling bad people to become worse, because they never ever stand up to the bad people. Cowardly enablers. Taking the high road never works in real life.
@@mannydcbiancoi disagree. it does not mean that not commiting revenge is enabling it, but instead you have ways to live your life well without causing ruin to others. OPs uncle is right. plus OP still managed to study in college tho. the fact he stopped communicating with his asshole parents and brother that time is also a boon.
The most confusing part is that OP really warned his family not to bother again, but who came up with the idea that Jared pulled up and tried to bully him??? OP was right, Jared was really a no- good idiot all along and all he could do was bark but not bite
Op's revenge makes her the ah. My reasoning is that OP 's parents backed out of their promise but they didn't necessarily stop her from going to her college of choice. So essentially they just backed out of the promise. OP went beyond that. She didn't only back out of the promise but went ahead and knowingly interfered with the deal itself. She could have just not shown up and gone back to no contact, thus pulling the rug out from under them, like they did to her.
On one hand, broken nose is bad. On the other hand, if OP didn't dodge the punch and got his nose broken by his brother in public - his brother would probably go to jail for at least a few months. Hell, maybe a year or two, given all the threats and intimidation before that. Might sound too harsh, but I think at this point the only way they are going to back off and learn some kind of lesson is if at least one of them gets a jail sentence beacuse of their behavior. UPD: Looked up, assaulting someone and breaking their nose is a felony battery, up to 4 years in jail if it's a first offence. Even if he manages to downgrade it to misdemeanor assault - he'd get up to 180 days in jail. Although, given it was videotaped and there was a lot of witnesses, there's a chance his lawyers wouldn't be able to downgrade it that easily. Also, regardless of whatever the sentence he'd get, he'd probably be on the hook for all related medical bills - and, by extent, his parents.
In the initial question, about whether he was the asshole revealing his woes to strangers, I would say yes. He stooped to his parents' level in his pettiness. He even later admits that he didn't do it because he thought it was a good idea, but rather because he was angry and wanted to get back at them. Luckily for him, his family is prepared to dig themselves deeper so that he retains the moral high ground. How sweet of them.
"Be the bigger person" mentality is shit. Its one thing to sacrifice your life for revenge, growing bitter and keeping scores with everyone - and i can sure see why that would be bad... But its whole different story when you get the opportunity to say "hey guys, those people that you respect are liars and abusers" in a way that even your abusers cant ignore. Its not about "revenge", its about saying "hey, those are bad people who hurt me, see this! acknowledge this!" And no "karma" or "god" or whatever other fairy tale wont "bring them to justice". Some crappy people get their ass kicked, but plenty others live absolutely unbothered by your pain or success, sometimes even still profiting from you. And you're not a bad person for being unhappy with that.
Just at the beginning of the video, but wanting your child to work his way trough college "like you" is, I think, forgetting that everything is so much expensive now
@@iwtbrnk you don't need to force them into taking on a mountain of debt to teach them financial responsibility. Literally all of my uncles payed for my cousins' colleges and had them sign a contract where they'd pay them back. No unnecessary headache with dealing with possible financial fraud and/or over inflated interest rates.
I seriously doubt what could possess Jared to even get involved at that point like he could get through to OP. Like dude, you're screwing your own future getting caught up in your parents' crap. Keep in mind that the relationship you've had is disappointing.
See I wouldn't have gone down either time, I would have told the receptionist the only way I would have come down as campus security had been called because my family has abusive tendencies and it's not safe to be around them. I also would have said that I have no contact with my family and that them being there is harassing me. I also probably would of mention I'm in the process of getting a restraining order against them. I highly doubt they would have been able to stay on campus then. Especially at a compass like Caltech.
I'm not saying OP is wrong but I agree with the uncle to just forget about revenge and move on, all of this could have been avoided if OP just tell the parent to just leave him alone and have his uncle talk to them, even if the parent don't care for OP at least his uncle care about him, and what OP did could have made uncle resented him, there are times people will back out on helping people if the person they are helping have a bad attitude, OP should be thankful he has a understanding uncle that is willing to pay for his education and a lawyer that would cost uncle more money
What do you mean this wouldn't have happened if OP just said no? I can easily imagine them coming to threaten him in the same way they actually did but for different reasons. They would have harassed him either way for saying no to going to the party. I honestly believe that if they went as far as to threaten him like they did b4 plus with the brother physically threatening and then assaulting him, this would have happened either way.
I don't saw it this way, If OP said only no, they would start to make the Op's life a living hell, so the revenge was the best option, OP's Parents were publicly humbled down and the golden child gave OP the tools for a RO
@@scrambledEggs102 I said to ask his uncle to talk to them, and yes you're right they might continue to threaten OP but OP can ask his uncle for help and go NC with his parents.
Op already knew how his parents were, yet he did not have the common sense to hava a plan b?? He knew they woild do anything for the golden child even take everything from him, smh.
I think the best thing would have been to expose them at the party and give the man his contact to help his boy, a fellow dreamer that just wanted some tips to get into Caltech. Maybe he would have gotten a friend and colleague. I'm sure the business guy would not help his parents, but op would have gotten a lot of respect for being willing to help.
If they gave all the money to him in one lump payment and the check cleared before the "party" that might be a satisfying option. Otherwise I wouldn't trust them as far as I could throw them.
I think he should have just declined. Maybe his parents won’t get that level of public humiliation, but it’d still be pretty damn humiliating when the child you keep bragging about and promised to show at this party doesn’t show up. I would have just gone NC again.
This is why I think that strict morals are bogus. Like yeah, it wasn't nice what OOP did, but it was fair and I think he isn't in the wrong for that. The uncle was mad because he was "vindictive" and "got revenge" and those two things, imo, aren't always bad things. It sucks that fucked up their relationship, I hope OOP's doing okay
10:55 He would have had the moral high ground if he would have told his parents GFY/ESD and lose my number . But what he did was small, vindictive, and rotten.
I think OP should have turned down their offer and went 'no contact'. He messed with their livelihood. Living his best life would have been his best revenge.
To be fair people was probably worried bout the family business that would go to his brother all the way leaving him nothing. Everyone complaining about his choice is laughable even the uncle is wrong
Judging by how OP said his brother wanted to go to the same college he is The school is probably one of the top leagues universities and college in their country(yk one of the schools everyone keeps hearing about and bragging about their grades if they get accepted or if they’re simply planning to enroll there and take the entrance exam)
OP was wrong for what he did at the party. He could have given money back to his uncle, paid off his college fees, then set some money aside for a car or appartment in the future
The revenge itself is kinda morally gray area, but I really think OP fucked up here. The "I don't need your stinking money" approach can be satisfying, but it's only justified if you are actually using your own money. Was it really worth your uncle's savings to ruin your parents' business and tell them to fuck off? Take the money, repay your uncle and try to move on. The parents apologized and would have paid you double what they promised. Everyone wins. Sure, their motivation might not have been pure and you don't need to forgive them... But as long as they follow through, you can consider eventually mending the fences with them and make sure you have some sort of connection to your family.
While true, this is all hanging on the assumption that the parents are telling the truth, as we have seen....they tend to go back on their word when it comes to op,so I wouldn't have believed them either
@@HoangNguyen-rd6qy What would the investor lose exactly? Op could take his offspring to see the school and the only lie would be about the kind of relationship he has with parents, which does not affect the investor.
@@yawningsoldier7675 the investor thought he was getting into business with trustworthy partners who didn't lie about having a great relationship with their progeny. So they would have lost out on the nescessary info to make an informed decision
@@yawningsoldier7675 the investor would have lost out on info needed to make an informed business decision, which in this story did affect said decision
While I can't say I am a fan of what OP did, unfortunately there is just no way of winning with narcissistic parents. The way they pitted OP against his brother and blatantly favoring one, this is classic narcissism cause the parents want control. Honestly, if not for OP's uncle, those parents would have won with their emotional blackmail and betrayal, cause seeing OP proverbially prostrate and give in to their demands is exactly what they want, cause it meant successful projection of power. For OP's sake, I hope the personal protection order really does keep all those narcissists away, cause unfortunately, some people are really too deluded to think "a piece of paper" will be enough to keep them away from trying to project power over their targets.
Another story with favouritism parents. I always hated the fact that parents treat one kid better than the other, well “others” if there’s multiple siblings.
I think OP just explained his side of the story poorly to his uncle. He spent too much time talking about the old event which they both already were aware of, and not enough about how his parents showed up merely to use him for their own financial gain; they weren't sorry nor were they interested in fixing things, it was all about money. Sure it was petty what OP did, but it wasn't like they were actually trying to change or do better... it's also not like he lied about anything. Still, I'm glad either way that OP's uncle came around. I'm sure it would have happened either way when Jared got involved in the situation and decided to go full neanderthal on OP.
Eh, I do agree with the uncle, he really _should_ have just turned them away. But after being treated that awful for that long, after that massive betrayal, abandonment, and coming back to use him like that? I can see why he'd make the mistake of reacting that way. Especially at what, 19? And only a year after what they did? Thats a wild amount of emotions, and a lifetime of buildup, to be thinking straight. Not to mention it doesn't sound like they did much parenting. I'd never react to something like that, but I was raised better. And at least he understood that it was after, and its sure af not like they _didnt_ deserve it. I think after a lifetime of that kinda treatment, the kid earned one bad decision
Justified? Yes. Was he kind of an AH? Also yes. I think it was wrong, and yet not that bad. It's a matter of "does he want to put himself in their level or does he want to be better than them"? If he wants to be vindictive he's on his right, but does he want to become that kind of person?
I found that a bit petty bc ruining ur family image can end up in massive backlash and news can spread round and u couldve accepted the money and everyone would be happy
What did you gain exactly from doing a bait and switch on your parents when they agreed to pay you for the favor? The only issue I would have had is if the payment was not made upfront.
Having a 2 year advantage is very much. I had only a close to one year advantage and without any effort and high count of sick days came out in the top 10% from my school. Those who performed better had put in much more effort and had to do so bc one year can make all the difference. They truly deserved those better grades for their ambition and work ethics which I so clearly lack. But praising oneself to be academically better than a two years younger brother is pathetic did you give him a hard time and a good ass whoopin' too while you're at it.
So many of these story's have people who believe various relatives MUST co-sign their student loans with no idea what that actually means.The truth is once you are 18 you are not owed anything. You may get lucky and have people pay for you outright or you may get very lucky and have a person take a giant finical chance on you which could fall back on them. Or you may just have to handle your own like most people.
If you can help friends and family that you actually like and you don't, then you're a shitty person. If someone is willing to help you and you screw them over, then you're a shitty person. The uncle was willing to help and all OP had to do was repay him when he could. Calling someone selfish because his family can help and they decide to withhold that help for their own selfish and shitty reasons is really stupid of you.
I would have demanded the money in cash before agreeing to come to the party. I would have answered any and all of the investor’s questions truthfully and honestly. Then, I would tell him that my parents are shitty people and to seriously question whether he should do business with them.
My opinion: What he did just wasn't the right thing to do. Yes he was screwed over by his parents.. and that's beyond stressful.. to have that put on you last minute... However, I think the reason his uncle stepped in to begin with was because he was better than the others. He was a better person, better and more ethical values, etc. Doing what he did at the party may have been payback but he's screwing worth his families money and on no level is that okay. It also shows to his uncle that he's just as vindictive as the rest of his family. Why bring yourself down to match their energy when you're in a good place already. It's petty and immature. help or don't.. it doesn't matter, but why being everyone else down more when you're so far above them anyway. Show them up by doing you better.
Envy? He's curb stomping the brother academically. There's nothing to envy. He's just pissed and rightly so because they promised to cover his educational expenses and changed their minds at the last minute when he couldn't possibly have applied for scholarships and stuff. It's one thing to say he shouldn't expect to have his college years paid for, but his parents actually promised that and welched when he had already done the work.
I'm all for being petty at the expense of the person who wronged you but.....ARE YOU DUMB? What do you do mean they offered to pay twice the amount of your tuition and you still pulled that bullshit? You could've paid your uncle back, paid for the rest of your education and maybe even work on a post graduate degree or use to put a down payment on a house!
It's not your fault it's your parents fault because they are neglecting him and instead they support The Golden child instead of him and that's not right and they should pay for their actions and go to hell for what they have done to him and if they don't see that then you guys are delusional and they don't deserve anything and he did the right thing.
In this situation I'll agree with the uncle that it wasn't worth the revenge. If it were me I would tell the the parents to screw off, or ask for more to help them (Get it upfront) and then cut them out of my life. And don't like how he tried to manipulate his uncle who went out of his way to help OP by threatening no contact when all he said was he was disappointed and didn't demand him to apologize or anything. Maybe its because he didn't good parents but a authority figure can disagree with you but still have your back. He's TA with his uncle.
@@HoangNguyen-rd6qy we don’t know if it was a failing business besides his trauma had nothing to do with the business. It could have failed because of what he did which would not have just affected his parents but the other people who work there. If this business failed because of him then he should feel ashamed because he made other people lose their jobs because he was upset and wanted to be a vindictive brat when business’s fail the people who work their also lose their jobs which isn’t fair it’s quite horrible p. What his parents did was not fair either so if you want to go after them fine but just think about what it could cause fore others.
@@Demonoicgamer666 again not OP's business, not his problem. If the business fail and people become unemployed it's because the parents came up with this ridiculous scheme. OP should feel as much shame as the families of Sandy Hook victims for making the employees at Infowar lose their jobs.
It sucks but unfortunately you should have just grinned and bore it and done what your parents asked you to at the party. Yes your uncle is willing to support you but if you have another way of supporting yourself you owe it to him to see it through.
YTA. Sadly, even wirh the crap that the parents of OP put them through, tanking the deal on purpose the way they did it was a dick move. Could have been far more tactfully done, get the coin, pay uncle back or pocket it, then go NC.
It might be objectively true. If the little brother never actually makes an effort and the OP does then it's a given that the OP will be the better student. Little brother just seems lazy. I can identify - I'm fairly intelligent, not a genius by any means but fairly intelligent. But I was a lazy asf student - I can acknowledge that. Had I made a real effort I know that I could have been a straight A student, but I never did.
@@mnomadvfxyeah it might be but youre seeing this from the OP’s perspective. The achievement scale is likely incredibly warped cuz OP’s a bit of a bragger.
Assuming the OP's claims are true, one wonders how much of it is the result of the parents making the younger brother start school too early so that they'd be in the same classes. That sort of thing can really screw a kid's academics up long term.
OP really sound like a vindictive and manipulative brat and he even proves it in the way he tried to manipulate his uncle into agreeing with his revenge
@@ATbear0912 "I tought he would agree because I was being emotional bit he didnt so I told him that he could cut me off, but I don't have any plans if he does..."
Side note: That receptionist needs a reprimand at the VERY least. When OP said "I do not want to see them." She should have called security when they refused to leave. End of discussion.
Exactly.
Hard disagree. That was entirely on him. He’s the one who decided to cave and go down when she told him they were refusing to leave. If he wanted security called then he should have said so. She isn’t going to do it on her own.
@@NeoCreo1 no doll... When she was told he don't want to see them they are HER problem not his.
Telling him that they don't want to leave was out of line AF
@@morganablackwater2017 Except that she could get in serious trouble if she called security on them and he didn’t back her up after the fact. It’s a big jump and something you want to make sure of. First and foremost ALWAYS CYOA. If I were in her position I would have done the same, only difference is that I would have added an offer to call security after telling him they wouldn’t leave, which probably would have gotten the same result.
Nah....it's fake. None of this happened, it's just ChatGPT back with another half-assed story
First file for assault report with the police and then restraining order on the entire family what kind of parents are they! OP deserves much better!!
Its a story written by AI of course its gonna have parts that don't make sense lol.
In my opinion he should have taken a check that covered all his expenses throughout college and pay back his uncle then block his family.
That's a practical idea! It would have solved his financial issues and allowed him to move on.
Depending on where this takes place, that could be illegal. And it's definitely far more immoral than what he actually did.
@@lucifersatan8240it's definitely not illegal. Imagine rejecting 100k-200k just for a moment of satisfaction.
Yea what he did was very petty and pretty pointless
Feels a little manipulative of OP to threaten no contact knowing full well that he's the one paying their future. It also seems like their judgement was clouded by a need for revenge since the uncle pointed out that refusing to help them would've been a better option.
This is the most straight forward favouritism i ahve evr heard
It's not even favouritism, it's just weird hippy lunacy.
Why does the useless brother need to be handheld through a community college course?
How does the brothers college path have anything to do with the OP's?
He's not got a medical condition or something to justify pulling down the OP's entire future just to make younger brother feel better or something.
This kind of weird embellishment is where it feels like an AI story generator just farted out a variation on some other story where the younger sibling had a medical condition - so this might actually make some sense even if it were still an unreasonable thing to ask.
There are a lot worse ones than this one. Golden child stories are always entertaining!
@@phillipschwoerke8374for sure. There’s the “Do it for Dan” saga of Dan being favored over OP and nearly stole his (OP) own house. As well as the twin brother story about Ryan being disowned and Sebastian begging for a kidney transplant years later.
@@carterjames8829
And the entitled mother stealing OP's house for his pregnant sister
All of these are best stories
“Great grammar”
Restraining order isn't enough. File assault charges against Jared.
Jared thought he could get what he wanted through bullying, intimidation and vi0lence... it's the only thing he learned, apparently.
After all what can you expect from a golden child in most cases they are arrogant, rude and think like they own the world
@@chetankalyanreddyarabandi2818and the sad part is its not even theyre fault
@@Tots_lol well people who have the qualities i have stated think that they are perfect and can't do mistake only other around them does mistake in the minds
@@chetankalyanreddyarabandi2818such perspective are created from those around them, as the way they are treating them like some righteous and entitled.
Parents are ones to blame, and the child's only fault would've been not knowing it.
@@areszeudion5153 the golden child isn't innocent either instead of atleast making the things right with the treatment of his brother by asking his parents to treat him better he just decided to enjoy the attention and praise not caring about his sibling
Say it with me, everyone !
*Inhales*
"DO IT FOR DAN !"
DO IT FOR DAN!
How are y’all the first to notice the “do it for Dan” vybes lmaooo.
What’s do it for Dan?
DO IT FOR DAN!
DO IT FOR DAN!
13:20 annoys me. If they're refusing to leave without speaking to him, and he refuses to speak to them, then get them kicked out? Isn't that your job?
True. Surely they have security there. Sounds like the typical lazy, indifferent employee who sees situations like this as a bother lol
Once again, the golden child has now become the parents black mark of shame and truly in the red bill.
If the brothers really had the kind of relationship where they want to make each other happy, why would it make the other happy if he gave up on his dreams?
Because for the parents it’s: If Golden Child is happy then OP is happy, if Golden Child isn’t happy then OP shouldn’t be happy. And if OP isn’t happy, then he needs to get over it”
@low-keydrama1260 perfect summary of parent's mentality
@@low-keydrama1260exactly. because i can guarantee if the roles were reversed and the brother had gotten into Cornell, they wouldnt have batted an eye
That’s BS to hold back one kid because it would make the other kid feel bad. Jared sounds like the “equal attention birthday cake kid”. The parents failed both sons.
And what OP did to his parents is understandable. If it wasn’t him badmouthing them to the investor after they tried to use OP like that, then it would have been his brother when he takes over the business and wrecks it.
Why ppl always say revenge isn't the way? I think it can be very therapeutic...
They're spineless 'turn the other cheek' type people. The kind of people that are ok with enabling bad people to become worse, because they never ever stand up to the bad people. Cowardly enablers. Taking the high road never works in real life.
thank you
@@mannydcbianco well said!
@@mannydcbiancoi disagree. it does not mean that not commiting revenge is enabling it, but instead you have ways to live your life well without causing ruin to others.
OPs uncle is right. plus OP still managed to study in college tho.
the fact he stopped communicating with his asshole parents and brother that time is also a boon.
"Be the bigger petson"
Translation: Be a doormat
The most confusing part is that OP really warned his family not to bother again, but who came up with the idea that Jared pulled up and tried to bully him???
OP was right, Jared was really a no- good idiot all along and all he could do was bark but not bite
Op's revenge makes her the ah.
My reasoning is that OP 's parents backed out of their promise but they didn't necessarily stop her from going to her college of choice. So essentially they just backed out of the promise.
OP went beyond that. She didn't only back out of the promise but went ahead and knowingly interfered with the deal itself.
She could have just not shown up and gone back to no contact, thus pulling the rug out from under them, like they did to her.
People talk about how he shouldn't have gotten revenge, but it's funny how nobody explains exactly why he should let the parents get away with it.
"do it for dan" ahh parents
On one hand, broken nose is bad.
On the other hand, if OP didn't dodge the punch and got his nose broken by his brother in public - his brother would probably go to jail for at least a few months. Hell, maybe a year or two, given all the threats and intimidation before that.
Might sound too harsh, but I think at this point the only way they are going to back off and learn some kind of lesson is if at least one of them gets a jail sentence beacuse of their behavior.
UPD: Looked up, assaulting someone and breaking their nose is a felony battery, up to 4 years in jail if it's a first offence. Even if he manages to downgrade it to misdemeanor assault - he'd get up to 180 days in jail. Although, given it was videotaped and there was a lot of witnesses, there's a chance his lawyers wouldn't be able to downgrade it that easily. Also, regardless of whatever the sentence he'd get, he'd probably be on the hook for all related medical bills - and, by extent, his parents.
I mean... some cops and firemen take the punch head on when helping a victim trying to get away from their abuser.
In the initial question, about whether he was the asshole revealing his woes to strangers, I would say yes. He stooped to his parents' level in his pettiness. He even later admits that he didn't do it because he thought it was a good idea, but rather because he was angry and wanted to get back at them.
Luckily for him, his family is prepared to dig themselves deeper so that he retains the moral high ground. How sweet of them.
"Be the bigger person" mentality is shit.
Its one thing to sacrifice your life for revenge, growing bitter and keeping scores with everyone - and i can sure see why that would be bad... But its whole different story when you get the opportunity to say "hey guys, those people that you respect are liars and abusers" in a way that even your abusers cant ignore.
Its not about "revenge", its about saying "hey, those are bad people who hurt me, see this! acknowledge this!"
And no "karma" or "god" or whatever other fairy tale wont "bring them to justice". Some crappy people get their ass kicked, but plenty others live absolutely unbothered by your pain or success, sometimes even still profiting from you. And you're not a bad person for being unhappy with that.
This guy's uncle truly has no enemies 🗿🐐
The best revenge is a life well lived
Amen brother
Just at the beginning of the video, but wanting your child to work his way trough college "like you" is, I think, forgetting that everything is so much expensive now
point? like after college it isnt? working through college is perfectly normal
@@iwtbrnk the fact you think it's fine to force your child into debt is wild. 😂
@@southernflight5078 the fact you can't teach your child financieel responsibility and independence is wild
@@iwtbrnk you don't need to force them into taking on a mountain of debt to teach them financial responsibility. Literally all of my uncles payed for my cousins' colleges and had them sign a contract where they'd pay them back. No unnecessary headache with dealing with possible financial fraud and/or over inflated interest rates.
@@southernflight5078 so al of you cousins were still in debt what's your point?
Favoritism is strong with this one
OP is a fool, he could ask for the check before the party with the investor, play along and then, cut his parents.
I don't trust anyone who talks about the school instead of the major.
Why is that? Don't get me wrong, I also think this story is bullshit, but why the school and not the major?
@@BudokaiMan-mr9twbecause they're a moron
I seriously doubt what could possess Jared to even get involved at that point like he could get through to OP. Like dude, you're screwing your own future getting caught up in your parents' crap. Keep in mind that the relationship you've had is disappointing.
See I wouldn't have gone down either time, I would have told the receptionist the only way I would have come down as campus security had been called because my family has abusive tendencies and it's not safe to be around them. I also would have said that I have no contact with my family and that them being there is harassing me. I also probably would of mention I'm in the process of getting a restraining order against them. I highly doubt they would have been able to stay on campus then. Especially at a compass like Caltech.
I'm not saying OP is wrong but I agree with the uncle to just forget about revenge and move on, all of this could have been avoided if OP just tell the parent to just leave him alone and have his uncle talk to them, even if the parent don't care for OP at least his uncle care about him, and what OP did could have made uncle resented him, there are times people will back out on helping people if the person they are helping have a bad attitude, OP should be thankful he has a understanding uncle that is willing to pay for his education and a lawyer that would cost uncle more money
What do you mean this wouldn't have happened if OP just said no? I can easily imagine them coming to threaten him in the same way they actually did but for different reasons. They would have harassed him either way for saying no to going to the party. I honestly believe that if they went as far as to threaten him like they did b4 plus with the brother physically threatening and then assaulting him, this would have happened either way.
I don't saw it this way, If OP said only no, they would start to make the Op's life a living hell, so the revenge was the best option, OP's Parents were publicly humbled down and the golden child gave OP the tools for a RO
@@scrambledEggs102 I said to ask his uncle to talk to them, and yes you're right they might continue to threaten OP but OP can ask his uncle for help and go NC with his parents.
i agree with this. while OP was definitely wronged by the parents, OPs uncle was right that he shouls have been smarter and not vengeful.
Looool that ending was the most classic case of “you have no power here”
Naw Op is better off without these losers.
Op already knew how his parents were, yet he did not have the common sense to hava a plan b?? He knew they woild do anything for the golden child even take everything from him, smh.
Seems like favoritism is in the air.
I think the best thing would have been to expose them at the party and give the man his contact to help his boy, a fellow dreamer that just wanted some tips to get into Caltech. Maybe he would have gotten a friend and colleague. I'm sure the business guy would not help his parents, but op would have gotten a lot of respect for being willing to help.
I think that OP should have just done the thing his parents asked him to do, take the money and go NC once again. 😅😅
If they gave all the money to him in one lump payment and the check cleared before the "party" that might be a satisfying option. Otherwise I wouldn't trust them as far as I could throw them.
Quite - take payment before services given the parents already proved that they are untrustworthy with promises.
I think he should have just declined. Maybe his parents won’t get that level of public humiliation, but it’d still be pretty damn humiliating when the child you keep bragging about and promised to show at this party doesn’t show up. I would have just gone NC again.
id say, either pay me first or i dont go, which both are good options but id rather be paid obviously, then go no contact.
Given the lengths those hypocrites were willing to go to get at you, I can't blame you for wanting nothing to do with them
I wouldn't be surprised if the uncle did had no contact with op for what he did
This is why I think that strict morals are bogus. Like yeah, it wasn't nice what OOP did, but it was fair and I think he isn't in the wrong for that. The uncle was mad because he was "vindictive" and "got revenge" and those two things, imo, aren't always bad things. It sucks that fucked up their relationship, I hope OOP's doing okay
Just help and take the money , then never talk to them again.
The glaring plot hole is OP’s younger bro but going off to college early? Then a year later bro is just now taking a gap year?
10:55 He would have had the moral high ground if he would have told his parents GFY/ESD and lose my number . But what he did was small, vindictive, and rotten.
I think OP should have turned down their offer and went 'no contact'. He messed with their livelihood. Living his best life would have been his best revenge.
To be fair people was probably worried bout the family business that would go to his brother all the way leaving him nothing. Everyone complaining about his choice is laughable even the uncle is wrong
Judging by how OP said his brother wanted to go to the same college he is The school is probably one of the top leagues universities and college in their country(yk one of the schools everyone keeps hearing about and bragging about their grades if they get accepted or if they’re simply planning to enroll there and take the entrance exam)
OP was wrong for what he did at the party. He could have given money back to his uncle, paid off his college fees, then set some money aside for a car or appartment in the future
The revenge itself is kinda morally gray area, but I really think OP fucked up here.
The "I don't need your stinking money" approach can be satisfying, but it's only justified if you are actually using your own money. Was it really worth your uncle's savings to ruin your parents' business and tell them to fuck off?
Take the money, repay your uncle and try to move on. The parents apologized and would have paid you double what they promised. Everyone wins.
Sure, their motivation might not have been pure and you don't need to forgive them... But as long as they follow through, you can consider eventually mending the fences with them and make sure you have some sort of connection to your family.
While true, this is all hanging on the assumption that the parents are telling the truth, as we have seen....they tend to go back on their word when it comes to op,so I wouldn't have believed them either
Everyone wins? What about the investor who would be liec to by OP and get in business with the parents? Screw that guy?
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What would the investor lose exactly?
Op could take his offspring to see the school and the only lie would be about the kind of relationship he has with parents, which does not affect the investor.
@@yawningsoldier7675 the investor thought he was getting into business with trustworthy partners who didn't lie about having a great relationship with their progeny. So they would have lost out on the nescessary info to make an informed decision
@@yawningsoldier7675 the investor would have lost out on info needed to make an informed business decision, which in this story did affect said decision
I smell favoritism
This gives “do it for DAN!”
depending on the circumstances, number of witnesses, and camera footage you can get an assault charge too.
Great job OP 👏👏Serve em right. N is the uncle unwell? N 4get about all the stuff the parents have done past n present.
While I can't say I am a fan of what OP did, unfortunately there is just no way of winning with narcissistic parents. The way they pitted OP against his brother and blatantly favoring one, this is classic narcissism cause the parents want control. Honestly, if not for OP's uncle, those parents would have won with their emotional blackmail and betrayal, cause seeing OP proverbially prostrate and give in to their demands is exactly what they want, cause it meant successful projection of power.
For OP's sake, I hope the personal protection order really does keep all those narcissists away, cause unfortunately, some people are really too deluded to think "a piece of paper" will be enough to keep them away from trying to project power over their targets.
Good luck mate ,but if i were you i would've pressed charges for the assault
Another story with favouritism parents. I always hated the fact that parents treat one kid better than the other, well “others” if there’s multiple siblings.
To be fair he should have just said he'd come and not show up.
They refused to leave a college dorm? Ummm… SECURITY?!?!
Lying parents demanding son lie about lying....😮
I wish we had the problem of my parents not paying for my college tuition and my uncle paid for it for me
Why would 2 brothers of different ages apply for colleges at the same time?
They are only months apart in age. According to the story. And parents held back OP so he and lil bro would start at the same time.
I think OP just explained his side of the story poorly to his uncle. He spent too much time talking about the old event which they both already were aware of, and not enough about how his parents showed up merely to use him for their own financial gain; they weren't sorry nor were they interested in fixing things, it was all about money. Sure it was petty what OP did, but it wasn't like they were actually trying to change or do better... it's also not like he lied about anything.
Still, I'm glad either way that OP's uncle came around. I'm sure it would have happened either way when Jared got involved in the situation and decided to go full neanderthal on OP.
Eh, I do agree with the uncle, he really _should_ have just turned them away. But after being treated that awful for that long, after that massive betrayal, abandonment, and coming back to use him like that? I can see why he'd make the mistake of reacting that way. Especially at what, 19? And only a year after what they did? Thats a wild amount of emotions, and a lifetime of buildup, to be thinking straight.
Not to mention it doesn't sound like they did much parenting. I'd never react to something like that, but I was raised better.
And at least he understood that it was after, and its sure af not like they _didnt_ deserve it. I think after a lifetime of that kinda treatment, the kid earned one bad decision
Justified? Yes. Was he kind of an AH? Also yes. I think it was wrong, and yet not that bad. It's a matter of "does he want to put himself in their level or does he want to be better than them"? If he wants to be vindictive he's on his right, but does he want to become that kind of person?
I found that a bit petty bc ruining ur family image can end up in massive backlash and news can spread round and u couldve accepted the money and everyone would be happy
U could even repay ur uncle on how much he's done for u
What did you gain exactly from doing a bait and switch on your parents when they agreed to pay you for the favor? The only issue I would have had is if the payment was not made upfront.
another fakery. a remix of one at that.
@@kidm0bius190 idk man it seems like you're enjoying these stories
Having a 2 year advantage is very much. I had only a close to one year advantage and without any effort and high count of sick days came out in the top 10% from my school. Those who performed better had put in much more effort and had to do so bc one year can make all the difference. They truly deserved those better grades for their ambition and work ethics which I so clearly lack. But praising oneself to be academically better than a two years younger brother is pathetic did you give him a hard time and a good ass whoopin' too while you're at it.
Now's the time for you to get buff too and take away the one thing Jared is better at.
13:28 Could have just said he wouldn't talk to them, either someone would get them out or they'd have to leave to avoid starvation.
Finally got to see the background game completed at 5:18 😁😁
Do it for Dan 😮💨
Good luck to the finals and i think dad was high and Jared on steroids
So many of these story's have people who believe various relatives MUST co-sign their student loans with no idea what that actually means.The truth is once you are 18 you are not owed anything. You may get lucky and have people pay for you outright or you may get very lucky and have a person take a giant finical chance on you which could fall back on them. Or you may just have to handle your own like most people.
If you can help friends and family that you actually like
and you don't, then you're a shitty person. If someone is willing to help you and you screw them over, then you're a shitty person.
The uncle was willing to help and all OP had to do was repay him when he could. Calling someone selfish because his family can help and they decide to withhold that help for their own selfish and shitty reasons is really stupid of you.
Well i agree withe uncle he should say he wont come
does anyone watch these, but then just dont hear the story cause of the music
I would have demanded the money in cash before agreeing to come to the party. I would have answered any and all of the investor’s questions truthfully and honestly. Then, I would tell him that my parents are shitty people and to seriously question whether he should do business with them.
My opinion: What he did just wasn't the right thing to do. Yes he was screwed over by his parents.. and that's beyond stressful.. to have that put on you last minute...
However, I think the reason his uncle stepped in to begin with was because he was better than the others. He was a better person, better and more ethical values, etc. Doing what he did at the party may have been payback but he's screwing worth his families money and on no level is that okay.
It also shows to his uncle that he's just as vindictive as the rest of his family. Why bring yourself down to match their energy when you're in a good place already. It's petty and immature.
help or don't.. it doesn't matter, but why being everyone else down more when you're so far above them anyway. Show them up by doing you better.
7 years later parents help jared is in prison and you have money thx to us paying your college fees
This story is def only from one perspective its dripping with envy and vitriol by the way he describes his brother.
Envy?
He's curb stomping the brother academically.
There's nothing to envy.
He's just pissed and rightly so because they promised to cover his educational expenses and changed their minds at the last minute when he couldn't possibly have applied for scholarships and stuff.
It's one thing to say he shouldn't expect to have his college years paid for, but his parents actually promised that and welched when he had already done the work.
@@mnomadvfxenvy for the way he was treated. OP’s a little bit of a braggart, wouldn’t be surprised if some things were a little exaggerated.
You were petty af and should have just turned down the offer from your parents.
If you ever feel like a idiot remember
*Jared exists*
They should not of lied to you, but it is there money.
True. But the story is OP's to tell to anyone he wants to. They reaped what they sowed.
Amazin vid once again!!
Unc wildin
It was catharsis
I'm all for being petty at the expense of the person who wronged you but.....ARE YOU DUMB? What do you do mean they offered to pay twice the amount of your tuition and you still pulled that bullshit? You could've paid your uncle back, paid for the rest of your education and maybe even work on a post graduate degree or use to put a down payment on a house!
It's not your fault it's your parents fault because they are neglecting him and instead they support The Golden child instead of him and that's not right and they should pay for their actions and go to hell for what they have done to him and if they don't see that then you guys are delusional and they don't deserve anything and he did the right thing.
Nice bro
In this situation I'll agree with the uncle that it wasn't worth the revenge. If it were me I would tell the the parents to screw off, or ask for more to help them (Get it upfront) and then cut them out of my life.
And don't like how he tried to manipulate his uncle who went out of his way to help OP by threatening no contact when all he said was he was disappointed and didn't demand him to apologize or anything. Maybe its because he didn't good parents but a authority figure can disagree with you but still have your back. He's TA with his uncle.
Op's brothers name is also the name of my friend
I’m 43 seconds in and I already dislike everyone in this story
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fake story?
He definitely got screwed over however not even trying to get a job or internship just for the sake of it makes it seem like work was beneath him
This is a repeat.
They are all repeats.
You turned into your parents- the people you don’t like-how does it feel to be a mini me? Do yo really want to be like your parents?
The uncle is right he didn’t need to hurt the company for all he knows people could have lost their jobs over it.
Not OP's problem, bad business fail all the time. It's not like OP would lose out on inheriting the company since it's obvious it will all go to Derek
@@HoangNguyen-rd6qy we don’t know if it was a failing business besides his trauma had nothing to do with the business. It could have failed because of what he did which would not have just affected his parents but the other people who work there. If this business failed because of him then he should feel ashamed because he made other people lose their jobs because he was upset and wanted to be a vindictive brat when business’s fail the people who work their also lose their jobs which isn’t fair it’s quite horrible p. What his parents did was not fair either so if you want to go after them fine but just think about what it could cause fore others.
@@Demonoicgamer666 again not OP's business, not his problem. If the business fail and people become unemployed it's because the parents came up with this ridiculous scheme. OP should feel as much shame as the families of Sandy Hook victims for making the employees at Infowar lose their jobs.
W video
It sucks but unfortunately you should have just grinned and bore it and done what your parents asked you to at the party. Yes your uncle is willing to support you but if you have another way of supporting yourself you owe it to him to see it through.
Tldr: hes an entitled little man child and its hilarious
YTA. Sadly, even wirh the crap that the parents of OP put them through, tanking the deal on purpose the way they did it was a dick move. Could have been far more tactfully done, get the coin, pay uncle back or pocket it, then go NC.
why was it so bad in you opinion?
Saying your better than him at every single thing is kinda crazy tone it down a bit lil bro
It might be objectively true.
If the little brother never actually makes an effort and the OP does then it's a given that the OP will be the better student.
Little brother just seems lazy.
I can identify - I'm fairly intelligent, not a genius by any means but fairly intelligent.
But I was a lazy asf student - I can acknowledge that.
Had I made a real effort I know that I could have been a straight A student, but I never did.
@@mnomadvfxyeah it might be but youre seeing this from the OP’s perspective. The achievement scale is likely incredibly warped cuz OP’s a bit of a bragger.
Assuming the OP's claims are true, one wonders how much of it is the result of the parents making the younger brother start school too early so that they'd be in the same classes. That sort of thing can really screw a kid's academics up long term.
OP is a whiny little brat!
OP really sound like a vindictive and manipulative brat and he even proves it in the way he tried to manipulate his uncle into agreeing with his revenge
not really
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"I tought he would agree because I was being emotional bit he didnt so I told him that he could cut me off, but I don't have any plans if he does..."
Yeah I kind of agree with the uncle here. Should have said no and moved on.
@@fonandoozmando5961 he is not rude op was pissed at what they did to him and the brat thing is wrong