Rare to see the golden child sibling not being an AH at the end, but actually matured and genuinely apologized. The parent are the true AH in the story.
My youngest sister was the golden child, and I was the scapegoat. When I left, I went super LC immediately. And almost as fast my youngest sister went from golden child to "new scapegoat". After all, toxic parents still needed someone to blame for them being unhappy (it SURELY could not be their own fault...) The irony was she always said I was being dramatic and exaggerating...she changed her tune really fast once she got the same treatment I did from our dysfunctional parents.
@SYLVESTER-6782 If its a real story, then I think Craig has matured enough because from the way OP worded it they had a genuine talk and it ended well. You can fake apologize, but what Craig did after showed he meant it.
After clearly being perfectly fine and simply wanting a break. He confirmed he has plenty of opportunities he just wanted a vacay to clear his head before diving back into the work force @@coffeelink943
@DarkHeartTheEmo The golden child is a Dan. Dan in the "Do It For Dan" saga does end up building a semi better relationship with OP after he divorces SIL. Even OP's parents get better! So Craig is a Dan.
@@ACandCC I didn't say he wasn't a Dan, but the other Dan try to take the house, this Dan didn't even ask for a job, was his parents that did that, but he didn't know and his also is trying rebuild the relationship with OP.
That's the "beauty" of the golden child-scapegoat child dynamic: the scapegoat child is the one to take the blame for everything going wrong and be the one responsible to fix any issues so that the golden child can continue to be enabled.
its always funny to me when the parents will screw over their other children so much for their golden child but then even the golden child is like "Um i never wanted this tf are you on about??" and the parents end up losing everyone
I'm almost 40. I am telling you. It is good not to know by 25. Very few people are truly happy with the choices they made in their early 20s. You change so much. Avoid a midlife crisis and take your time to truly think about what you want in your life.
@@yamairad1thank you guys for these comments 🥹 I’m 25 and have no clue what to do with my life which is something that’s really been stressing me out for the past few months
Im just amazed at the audacity of Do it for Dan parents. "I created this creature so he can be our punching bag and our slave. I mean we already have one child, do we need another?"
How do u disown your own child, rubbing ur other child's success in there face and when the unloved is finally successful, and your favorite one is unemployed, you wanna ask the unloved to give a job, to the favorite, if I was him, I wouldn't offer him a job, the parents should, either loan him a job or give him money, if there parents work, they should ask there manager to give him a job, EDIT: OMG!! THE BIGGEST LIKES I EVER HAD WAS 25!. YOU GUYS PROVED ME WRONG!
I absolutely hate when the OP says “I'm really confused” or “ I’m conflicted”. Like what is there to be confused about when your own wife says not to do it.
When parents say 'after everything we did raising you' Your child does not owe you shit!!!! It was your choice to have them!!! They say the job offers were below his pay grade. So do they expect OOP to pay brother VP salary?!?!?!
Nah OP don't listen to them. It was your parent's JOB to give you those things growing up; instead of the "bare minimum". They laughed at your dream; insulted you and cut you out of their lives. You owe them nothing. At this point even if they were in dire straights you shouldn't help them either. Let them suffer by themselves. Good luck to OP and his wife.❤❤❤
One like means more respect for Craig Honestly though, Craig is being FORCED to look entitled and the fact that his parents thing that is ok is just ridiculous. Craig was more matured then his parents in this story.
I have a lot of arguments with my parents honestly and at that moment it makes me super mad at them but seeing these stories i honestly can't appreciate them enough, it makes me realise the arguments that we have and the reason they scold me is for my own good and they love me. They also are very supportive, and if I had a business model like the op they wouldn't have only supported me morally but also financially. So yea I am very grateful to actually have them
finally a W wife story. usually with stories like these, their partner would say "you've taking it too far" or "remember god is forgiving, so should we" or "let the past be in the past" BS
Heck, even the golden child l0ser wasn't even in on the parents' behavior sfter the 5 years, and he did the right thing and called out their awful parents, which shows how awful and egocentric the parents are
@@Oppenheimer.J.Robert Nah, he's still a huge a-hole. A couple of apologies here and there don't undo a lifetime of mistreatment, just because life has humbled him. Where was he when the parents kept putting OP down and abandoning him? Oh, right... he was siding with them, every step of the way.
@@DarkEinherjarAnyways, the brother was in the wrong throughout the backstory, but during the actual part of the story that OP was lookin for advice on, he didn't do much.
Like the dude said don’t quit your job just to follow your dream just bc you have a dream doesn’t mean you need to drop everything and follow be realistic and make small decisions to work towards it and when you are ready and feel you can sustain your dream then you work fully
It's so rare to see the "golden child" sibling actually grow up and take responsibility with a real, heartfelt apology. Usually, it’s a different story. The real problem here is the parents-they're the ones who really messed up.
Woah, that’s the first time I heard of a golden child actually acting mature in the story. Who knows, maybe they’ll actually be able to work on their relationship without their parents in the way.
really enjoyed this video, you have a great storytelling style. it's heartbreaking to hear how some families can be so unbalanced in their love. i can't help but feel that the way your parents treated you might reflect their own insecurities rather than your worth. starting a business is a brave and admirable choice, and it’s sad that they can't see that. have you ever thought about confronting them? i think it could open up a lot of conversations.
Being ashamed that your son isn't a vice president at the age of 25? While the older one is at the age of 27? Jesus, that's insane, most people's climb to the top of the ladder usually happens in their 30s.
what a powerful story you’ve shared in this video! it really sheds light on family dynamics and the struggles of pursuing one’s own path. but honestly, i wonder if your parents’ favoritism could also be a reflection of their own insecurities? it seems like they might be projecting their fears onto you. would love to hear what others think about this!
Definitely should help the brother if he has the qualifications, it's not his fault his parents suck. It's great that he turned out okay despite them raising him. Edit: Well I guess it took him a bit of time to get there but he ended up good even if he was a little mean before. Sadly he just didn't work well with you. I wouldn't have blamed OP if they just didn't want to give them a job but they even gave a legit reason for it.
It’s bad parenting to stifle a child’s ambitions. It’s worse parenting to have a golden child and compare the rest of the children to them. The worst parenting of all is demanding that the children whom they mistreated help out them or the golden child.
One of the most despicable things that narcissistic parents do other than traumatize their children especially the scapegoat is pit their kids against each other mistakenly believing that they will have control of their kids coming to them to resolve their issues. This is exactly what is happening in this video basically infantilizing their children and seeing them either as ungrateful and selfish yet they are mature adults who can make their own decisions.
I really hope Greg and Op patch things up and be some kind involved in op's kid life. It would be the perfect revenge on parents, they will come back requesting grandparents rights
I'm willing to bet for his parents it was less about helping Craig and more about getting their star child back in the spot light so they can continue to brag
I would have flat out refused em, they have the nerve 2 ask 4 help after all these yrs of treated him like an embarrassment n failure. The golden child's fall from grace is his own fault n their problem they figure it out.
Parents who keeps choosing a golden child are pathetic failures each child should always be treated equally. They should be called a failure to their face.
Why do people care if other family members turn on you because of BS lies other tell? If any of my family did that, I'd be the first to tell them to leave me alone and any unwanted contact will be seen as harassment and a civil lawsuit will be filled against them. Set up cameras in your home and call police for everything until you have a case to put them behind bars
The business's success was a lot of dumb luck it seems. So here's the lesson: never make fun of anyone. They may be the lucky one in the end and all of your hard work may be wiped out due to unfortunate circumstances.
i would, not only because that would make the family happy, but because him being on board coulkd generate greater income and - if he was incompetent - you could always fire him for poor performance, the only doewnside would be if you hold a grudge, making you a petty ****wit. so hire him for christ's sake!
hes not willing to go for jobs below his pay grade and wont apply for any...so he refuses to do jobs and wants top money for doing it...and he thinks a small business owner will be able to give him ceo money? these guys are a bit cracked.
OP's Parents are Dumb the Vehicle Aftermarket Business is literally a luccrative business venture and It's been growing larger in the 2000s and what Niche OP covers it means he's doing good along with Investors, plus he can even show off new products on the SEMA Show yearly too which equals more growth and profit
I mean I'm still at 9:43 in the story so, not fully done yet...but the parents legit said that Craig found jobs but they weren't at his pay grade. I mean I understand taking a massive pay cut would be daunting to some people, but Jesus something is better than nothing. Take the best off yiu can and either work way up again or looking for a better job while you're still working...
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Rare to see the golden child sibling not being an AH at the end, but actually matured and genuinely apologized. The parent are the true AH in the story.
Yes, it was pretty rare to me too
My youngest sister was the golden child, and I was the scapegoat. When I left, I went super LC immediately. And almost as fast my youngest sister went from golden child to "new scapegoat". After all, toxic parents still needed someone to blame for them being unhappy (it SURELY could not be their own fault...) The irony was she always said I was being dramatic and exaggerating...she changed her tune really fast once she got the same treatment I did from our dysfunctional parents.
Not just that, it’s even more rare for the golden child to side against the pos parents
@SYLVESTER-6782 If its a real story, then I think Craig has matured enough because from the way OP worded it they had a genuine talk and it ended well. You can fake apologize, but what Craig did after showed he meant it.
@SYLVESTER-6782 we need the satisfaction even if its fake👌
Respect for craig apologizing and standing up to the parents at the end and making an attempt to mend his relationship with his brother
Ye because his parents made him look like a desperate fool lmao
After clearly being perfectly fine and simply wanting a break. He confirmed he has plenty of opportunities he just wanted a vacay to clear his head before diving back into the work force @@coffeelink943
Major W
Craig:
OP:
Hate their parents 🤝 hate their parents
So true
Facts
Me too!🤝I hate them too! They so rund!
I still don't know what is the meaning of OP
Original poster op for short@@MominAmin.
Another, “Do it for Dan,” story. These parents are absolutely ridiculous.
I came looking for this comment. I was not disappointed 😅
But this "Dan" isn't like the other "Dan"
@DarkHeartTheEmo
The golden child is a Dan. Dan in the "Do It For Dan" saga does end up building a semi better relationship with OP after he divorces SIL. Even OP's parents get better! So Craig is a Dan.
@@ACandCC I didn't say he wasn't a Dan, but the other Dan try to take the house, this Dan didn't even ask for a job, was his parents that did that, but he didn't know and his also is trying rebuild the relationship with OP.
LOLOLOL "Do it for Dan"
the wife is the real MVP. such great support especially during this age, time, and in the business world
its crazy how every single one of these stories they are hated, they then get a job, and then the parents always beg them to come back.
Of course they do! They want part of the success since they think they’re in entitled to it!!!!
its like these types of parents get programmed to do this or like they're npcs
@timeradiation not all😊
That's the "beauty" of the golden child-scapegoat child dynamic: the scapegoat child is the one to take the blame for everything going wrong and be the one responsible to fix any issues so that the golden child can continue to be enabled.
I was literally thinking that when I read the title
its always funny to me when the parents will screw over their other children so much for their golden child but then even the golden child is like "Um i never wanted this tf are you on about??" and the parents end up losing everyone
Nothing wrong with not knowing what to do yet at 25. That’s still young
I'm almost 40. I am telling you. It is good not to know by 25. Very few people are truly happy with the choices they made in their early 20s. You change so much. Avoid a midlife crisis and take your time to truly think about what you want in your life.
@@yamairad1thank you guys for these comments 🥹 I’m 25 and have no clue what to do with my life which is something that’s really been stressing me out for the past few months
@@yamairad1 But how would I do that? I might change my mind later, when it's all too late and still end up in a mid-life crisis. I'm half your age.
Heck I'm 35 and I don't know what to do. Gonna start an IT job soon, fingers crossed
@@yamairad1I really needed to see this comment, thank you 🙏
Dude my speaker glitched and the narrator sounded possessed and I had a freakin heart attack 💀
ur not the only one lol
The narrator was definitely possessed
lmao it’s the actual audio of the video not the speaker 😭🙏
When?
@@fangirl332313:42
I'm actually more surprised the parents didn't demand OP to give the brother the business
"Do it for Dan!"
"Do it for Dan!"
Im just amazed at the audacity of Do it for Dan parents.
"I created this creature so he can be our punching bag and our slave. I mean we already have one child, do we need another?"
13:50 bro hit late stage puberty
Rare golden child redemption arc??
He wasn’t a golden child. He just wasn’t willing to fight for himself until now.
The parents wouldn’t have helped the OP out if his business had failed and he knows it. To even let that be a guilt trip is ridiculous
The voice change scared me a little bit 13:50
same!
It sounds like OP became evil 😅
@@WhySoSeriouuus to evil
Fr
@@HydroStudios bro you 2 months late
How do u disown your own child,
rubbing ur other child's success in there face
and when the unloved is finally successful, and your favorite one is unemployed,
you wanna ask the unloved to give a job, to the favorite,
if I was him, I wouldn't offer him a job,
the parents should, either loan him a job
or give him money,
if there parents work,
they should ask there manager to give him a job,
EDIT: OMG!! THE BIGGEST LIKES I EVER HAD WAS 25!. YOU GUYS PROVED ME WRONG!
And don't contact them for (how many years they didn't contact)
I got 14k likes once
@@TheBluePhoenix008 lucky
I absolutely hate when the OP says “I'm really confused” or “ I’m conflicted”. Like what is there to be confused about when your own wife says not to do it.
The "Do it for Dan" vibes are real here💀
Fr💀
Huge W for the brother actually apologising and actually trying to mend their broken relationship. We need more people like this
Finally a wife who stands by her husband's judgement not to override it
13:47 The voice change😂😂😂
You don’t owe your parents for raising you. They are legally obligated to. If they didn’t they would go to prison.
Wow, the worst dream-killers in Op's life was his parents...
Glad he didn't listen to them and prospered.
When parents say 'after everything we did raising you'
Your child does not owe you shit!!!! It was your choice to have them!!!
They say the job offers were below his pay grade. So do they expect OOP to pay brother VP salary?!?!?!
What does VP stand for?
@@Thorben2004 vice president
@@fluffypinksheep Thanks
Nah OP don't listen to them. It was your parent's JOB to give you those things growing up; instead of the "bare minimum". They laughed at your dream; insulted you and cut you out of their lives. You owe them nothing. At this point even if they were in dire straights you shouldn't help them either. Let them suffer by themselves. Good luck to OP and his wife.❤❤❤
this had got to be the most chill story compared to the rest...
Always remember. Your parents owe raising you. You don't owe them payback. Especially if they push you out.
One like means more respect for Craig
Honestly though, Craig is being FORCED to look entitled and the fact that his parents thing that is ok is just ridiculous. Craig was more matured then his parents in this story.
I have a lot of arguments with my parents honestly and at that moment it makes me super mad at them but seeing these stories i honestly can't appreciate them enough, it makes me realise the arguments that we have and the reason they scold me is for my own good and they love me. They also are very supportive, and if I had a business model like the op they wouldn't have only supported me morally but also financially. So yea I am very grateful to actually have them
Embarrassment, wimpy son, 😂 "we did everything for you"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DO IT FOR DAN
“My parents disowned me killed my wife, my dog and spit on my face, but AITA for not wanting to bring them back in my life”
I swear these people/stories be pissing me off with that😭🤦🏽♀️
“My parents disowned me , sent a hitman to kill , but i was a hitman too.”
Do it for Craig!
finally a W wife story. usually with stories like these, their partner would say "you've taking it too far" or "remember god is forgiving, so should we" or "let the past be in the past" BS
16:56 he says his brother is Craig then at this point he calls his brother Greg 😂😂😂
NTA. If the parents want to keep enabling their golden l0ser, they can do it with their own resources.
As rSlash says, "THEN YOU DO IT!!!"
Heck, even the golden child l0ser wasn't even in on the parents' behavior sfter the 5 years, and he did the right thing and called out their awful parents, which shows how awful and egocentric the parents are
The brother seems like a chill guy
@@Oppenheimer.J.Robert Nah, he's still a huge a-hole. A couple of apologies here and there don't undo a lifetime of mistreatment, just because life has humbled him.
Where was he when the parents kept putting OP down and abandoning him? Oh, right... he was siding with them, every step of the way.
Y'all gotta censor loser? I say fuck it , youtube is getting more weird breh
@@DarkEinherjarAnyways, the brother was in the wrong throughout the backstory, but during the actual part of the story that OP was lookin for advice on, he didn't do much.
This is giving "DO IT FOR DAN"
Holy crap. The golden child apologized and THE PARENTS WERE THE AH? hats crazzy
Op wife is a blessing.
Like the dude said don’t quit your job just to follow your dream just bc you have a dream doesn’t mean you need to drop everything and follow be realistic and make small decisions to work towards it and when you are ready and feel you can sustain your dream then you work fully
It's so rare to see the "golden child" sibling actually grow up and take responsibility with a real, heartfelt apology. Usually, it’s a different story. The real problem here is the parents-they're the ones who really messed up.
Woah, that’s the first time I heard of a golden child actually acting mature in the story. Who knows, maybe they’ll actually be able to work on their relationship without their parents in the way.
Parents like these, who needs enemies.
really enjoyed this video, you have a great storytelling style. it's heartbreaking to hear how some families can be so unbalanced in their love. i can't help but feel that the way your parents treated you might reflect their own insecurities rather than your worth. starting a business is a brave and admirable choice, and it’s sad that they can't see that. have you ever thought about confronting them? i think it could open up a lot of conversations.
Missed chance to say 'remember you disowned me? You aren't my family"
If someone asks for some thing but you say no and they strat yelling at you they're narcissists GET AWAY
Isn't it that's how parenting work?!
Being ashamed that your son isn't a vice president at the age of 25? While the older one is at the age of 27? Jesus, that's insane, most people's climb to the top of the ladder usually happens in their 30s.
what a powerful story you’ve shared in this video! it really sheds light on family dynamics and the struggles of pursuing one’s own path. but honestly, i wonder if your parents’ favoritism could also be a reflection of their own insecurities? it seems like they might be projecting their fears onto you. would love to hear what others think about this!
13:47 Bro's cover was blown! Omg... He is AI!
(this is just a joke btw)
Would be kinda a hell of a flex to have the brother work for them though
No the OP is not a jerk
Family doesn't want the best for you the want the best from you. Always remember this
Some parents just really doesn't deserve children
Parents really sold. Bros. Vibe he was just taking w after w
So raising your child properly with love and affection is a favor?! It’s something that should be repaid?! What is wrong with some people?
Definitely should help the brother if he has the qualifications, it's not his fault his parents suck. It's great that he turned out okay despite them raising him.
Edit: Well I guess it took him a bit of time to get there but he ended up good even if he was a little mean before.
Sadly he just didn't work well with you. I wouldn't have blamed OP if they just didn't want to give them a job but they even gave a legit reason for it.
After that email, I would've gone to the police. Man, that thing can be considered as a threat
Losing people like them as parents does not seem like an actual loss.
Sounds like they never wanted OP right from the start, and resented his existence badly.
Wife was the MVP of the story and I'm glad Craig (Greg?) seemed to grow up and mature.
Golden child redemption arc? We love to see it!
It’s bad parenting to stifle a child’s ambitions. It’s worse parenting to have a golden child and compare the rest of the children to them. The worst parenting of all is demanding that the children whom they mistreated help out them or the golden child.
2:31 excuse me? Im 27 and I'm still figuring out my shit. Those parents have to pull their heads out of their rear ends.
One of the most despicable things that narcissistic parents do other than traumatize their children especially the scapegoat is pit their kids against each other mistakenly believing that they will have control of their kids coming to them to resolve their issues. This is exactly what is happening in this video basically infantilizing their children and seeing them either as ungrateful and selfish yet they are mature adults who can make their own decisions.
Yep they're Asian.. I'm 100% convinced as this is what happens in my culture
I really hope Greg and Op patch things up and be some kind involved in op's kid life.
It would be the perfect revenge on parents, they will come back requesting grandparents rights
golden wasnt a bad guy he just played his hand he was given. OP was sitting on a royal flush while the golden had a full house.
its rare fr to see the golden child apologized. OPs parents are the AH, they dont deserved OP. Go fully no contact with them
13:51 the voice change?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
“Your baby will suffer because of what you’re doing to your family!”
“Nah, it won’t, I’m not like my parents”
It’s not even like Craig approached op to ask for the job 🙈
I'm willing to bet for his parents it was less about helping Craig and more about getting their star child back in the spot light so they can continue to brag
We repeating 'do it for dan' with this one 🗣️ 🔥🔥💯
Shame for the parents glorifying 9-5 jobs.
I would have flat out refused em, they have the nerve 2 ask 4 help after all these yrs of treated him like an embarrassment n failure. The golden child's fall from grace is his own fault n their problem they figure it out.
they be acting like sims tbh
They are exactly like sims because these people don’t exist in this AI generated story
@@coffeelink943 ong you hatin 💀
Yes, I am holding a grudge. No, I will not let the past go.
When you lean into it, there is nothing they can do.
I would really like to know how people can become so morally bankrupt, because this is appalling.
Parents who keeps choosing a golden child are pathetic failures each child should always be treated equally. They should be called a failure to their face.
Why do people care if other family members turn on you because of BS lies other tell? If any of my family did that, I'd be the first to tell them to leave me alone and any unwanted contact will be seen as harassment and a civil lawsuit will be filled against them. Set up cameras in your home and call police for everything until you have a case to put them behind bars
The parents really are judgemental huh like let OP try for once, and even if the business fails at least OP has experience to get a job
OP sounds like a great guy
16:56 he got upgraded to greg, just to become craig again
Give him the janitor position
The bot hit puberty mid story 💀
The only time i would consider raising a child a favor is when they were oprhaned/adopted otherwise thats your duty as a parent
The business's success was a lot of dumb luck it seems. So here's the lesson: never make fun of anyone. They may be the lucky one in the end and all of your hard work may be wiped out due to unfortunate circumstances.
"I will not be 'family of convenience'."
just make him the janitor.
i would, not only because that would make the family happy, but because him being on board coulkd generate greater income and - if he was incompetent - you could always fire him for poor performance, the only doewnside would be if you hold a grudge, making you a petty ****wit. so hire him for christ's sake!
You know...For every one of these that end in a good way, and that we are able to read...there are about 50 that don't, and we can't.
hes not willing to go for jobs below his pay grade and wont apply for any...so he refuses to do jobs and wants top money for doing it...and he thinks a small business owner will be able to give him ceo money? these guys are a bit cracked.
OP's Parents are Dumb the Vehicle Aftermarket Business is literally a luccrative business venture and It's been growing larger in the 2000s and what Niche OP covers it means he's doing good along with Investors, plus he can even show off new products on the SEMA Show yearly too which equals more growth and profit
13:47 bro hit puberty mid sentence😭
HAHAHAHAHAHA
The robot voice half way through made me jump😭
Story 1: The parents havent got a clue If their nepotism-call will work & what It takes to get a job these days...
well this one feels more plausible
My god those two were just made for each other. Match made in hell😭
I mean I'm still at 9:43 in the story so, not fully done yet...but the parents legit said that Craig found jobs but they weren't at his pay grade.
I mean I understand taking a massive pay cut would be daunting to some people, but Jesus something is better than nothing. Take the best off yiu can and either work way up again or looking for a better job while you're still working...