How Asian American Women Claim Their Leadership | Tutti Taygerly | TEDxRutgersCamden
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- Опубликовано: 2 июн 2024
- Asian American women often feel the pressure to conform to the model minority stereotype, fight imposter syndrome, and aim to lead authentically as an "other" in the corporate world. From her personal journey identifying as a banana in college (yellow on the outside, white on the inside) through a 22 year career as a design leader in tech and now an executive coach, Tutti Taygerly moves beyond the stereotypes and shares three strategies for how to claim your leadership and succeed in workplaces not built with you in mind. Tutti coaches co founders and tech leaders to embrace their unique leadership style to achieve professional impact and a sustainable company culture. She focuses on working with women, people of color, and immigrants. Previously she was a design leader at design firms, startups, and large companies including Disney and Facebook. Tutti writes for Harvard Business Review, Business Insider, and Fast Company and her book Make Space to Lead shows high achievers how to reframe our relationship to work.
Tutti grew up in seven countries on three continents and is settled in San Francisco as her home base. She spends her time parenting two spirited girls, obsessively reading, and paddling out for the next wave. Find her at tuttitaygerly.com. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
7:05, the lonely warrior. I got goose bumps imagining those people who have fought a good fight for so long, on their own, finally being surrounded by their people. Absolute bliss!
That was the bit that got me too!
Yes I sent to my sis, thanks for forwarding this to me.
Thank you... I can definitely feel the lone warrior. She is me... so I'm really glad that it resonated for you. My hope is that continuing to share these stories will inspire "others" to lead with courage and compassion.
OMG yes that part! love it sooo much
@@tuttitaygerly2408 good answer Tutti, I am too!
It's refreshing to see a shift in leadership styles. We need more leaders who bring their true selves to the table and lead with compassion and candor.
I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like to have people assume you're naturally these list of things just because of some bs stereotype that's been pushed. I am pretty amazed by Tutti's realness and genuine passion in spite of what she's been faced with.
it's 2023 and that still happens.
Thank you for your empathy to the situation. I think we all make these assumptions... having a first impression of people is how we survive the barrage of info that overwhelms us in the world. We all do it... and it's been done to many of us too! I appreciate your taking the time to comment and I'm grateful for your feedback & compliments.
@@emma.st.charles Yes unfortunately this still keeps happening. And likely will continue to. At least we're having more open conversations around the topic
@@tuttitaygerly2408 definitely, awareness is the first step towards change
Finding your allies is absolute crucial in any environment, especially the workplace.
good link, thanks
I can't imagine how difficult it is for Asian women to carve out this kind of space in their professional lives. So many stereotypes and assumptions
Gen Y here! This talk made me reflect on my own career journey and the importance of finding fulfillment in my work. It's time we advocate for ourselves and shape our own paths.
"I didn't want to consider the intersectionality of race and gender and how it was actually core to my leadership" I think this is something that would resonate with a lot of people. We often try to turn our backs on the very qualities that give us an advantage or help define what our actual purpose is.
that makes a lot of sense. some really good bits of wisdom in this talk
This presentation challenges the notion that being an 'other' is a disadvantage. It encourages Asian women to reclaim their differences and use them as sources of strength and innovation.
so many times i've been apart of suppressing my roots instead of embracing them
I appreciate Tutti sharing her personal journey and struggles as an immigrant in the corporate world. It's important to shed light on the challenges faced by minority groups.
The term "intergrated leadership" gets me excited! Thank you Tutti!
Important, very very important!
Lol that's weird bro
Tutti's personal experiences serve as a reminder of the importance of intersectionality in leadership discussions. We must recognize and address the unique challenges faced by individuals who belong to multiple marginalized groups.
Such a great explanation of the double glass ceiling. Thank you for the insightful teaching.
I hadn't heard of that idea before. insightful indeed
So many of my friends are getting into their 30s and realising how much of their ancestory and history they have not honoured in their journey and are now ensuring to incorporate their spirit, not the stereotypes, but their spirit. I get this vibe from Tutti. What a beautiful human!
this is something I've seen happen myself. it's interesting to think about the difference between how those people presented themselves when they were younger and how they present themselves now.
What a great observation seeing this happen with friends in their 30s and later on in life. I do think there's some accuracy in needing time and experience to truly be able to reflect. It was definitely the case to me.
@@katiaromanow We are ever evolving as humans. Keeps things interesting!
Oh wow the feelings she describes about not wanting to be an other are so relatable and difficult to work through. It took me a long time to make peace with the fact being perceived as an "other" wasn't really up to me.
making peace can be tough
Yes, this is so true. Making peace is up to you... but unfortunately being perceived as an "other" is entirely within the system. This insight is gold!
The emphasis on integrating one's cultural heritage and values into leadership is a powerful message. It reminds us that our differences can be our greatest assets and sources of strength.
Loved what she said about claiming your differences, in my experience denying them only ever hurts you but when you embrace/express all of yourself things just fall into place
I am so supportive of this! What a way to not only imagine but put into action what needs to be done for a better future for Asian women!
Thanks for sending this Arch...
got this too Archie, love it as well.
Really powerful perspective, amazing share.
In a perfect world being an Asian woman in a leadership role would be seen as a massive benefit to any company. You ladies know how to get shyt done.
I appreciate Tutti's emphasis on embracing one's differences and reclaiming them as strengths. I think there need to be more conversations about how diversity of leadership styles and perspectives is essential for creating inclusive and innovative work environments.
You’re sharing the inner thoughts of so many people Tutti. I expect you’ll impact the thinking of even more. Thank you!
I appreciate your support. And yes, so many of us think like this and worry / wonder that we are freaks. I'm on a mission to dismantle the debilitating effects of feeling the not belonging of imposter syndrome.
yes, I think a lot of people feel like this, not just Asian American women
@@jonjrarcher Thank you for sharing that. It was my hope that it could reach beyond Asian American women.
@@jonjrarcher very true JA!
Love this! Thank you Tutti...🥰🥰🥰
sending to my cousin, thanks for emailing me this
This is a strong opening and I can definitely relate to those “not wanting to think about” kind of impulses… It can be really tough to actually look at how you show up in the world.
Tutti's emphasis on incorporating cultural values into leadership makes me curious about the ways in which individuals from different cultures navigate and blend their cultural behaviors within the corporate world... I can see how understanding and appreciating these nuances would help create a more inclusive work environment.
Tutti's strategies are applicable not only to Asian women but to anyone who feels like an "other" in the corporate world. These insights can help individuals navigate and thrive in challenging environments.
I get what she's saying about the armour of supreme confidence and always knowing how to solve the problem but personally I find it super endearing when one of my bosses doesn't know the answer to something and we get to find out together. It's like a little reminder that they're also a human just doing their best.
It's 2023 and people still see each others race before their character.
yeah. although I dont think we should aspire to being 'colorblind' we should be careful not to view people as their race before all their other qualities
I know, isnt it time?
Tutti's point about carrying over cultural behaviors into the workplace is eye-opening. It makes me wonder how many of us unknowingly bring aspects of our own cultural backgrounds to our professional lives. It's a reminder that diversity goes beyond just visible differences and includes the unique perspectives and approaches shaped by our cultural heritage.
I had similar feelings growing up in the 90's and wanting to have less of an accent, less of an obviously not-from-here kind of name but now that I'm older I realize my culture and my home life is a blessing as well as a huge part of who I am.
very well-expressed, it is so important that videos like this about the minority experience are being made
yes, I found it quite eye-opening
The concept of finding allies who are similar to you and allies who are different is a powerful strategy. It highlights the importance of both support networks and diversity of thought.
Absolutely! So many allies are of different races and genders than us. Diversity in allies also matters.
I appreciate getting to learn through the experiences and stories of others so I can be a better and more informed ally. There are also great takeaways I can apply to my own leadership!
This is so great! What amazing self-reflection to aim to be a better ally (we all need to do this!) as well as applying takeaways to your own leadership. Brava!
Advocating for one's self is difficult, but having a group of like minded people who are living the same experience to advocate along side you is a sure way to fight the good fight.
Just watched and WOW, what a powerful and passionate message, exceptionally well done and told in a way true to how you show up in the world. This will be inspiring to so many....thanks for having the courage to deliver this to the world.
Thank you for taking the time to watch. Yes, it was both terrifying and exciting to deliver the message. And I felt stronger the more I got into the talk. I figure that's how anything new and challenging is to most people.
Her authenticity really does shine through here
@@shannelnasir2218 Thank you! I appreciate your watching and taking the time to comment. I'm grateful.
100% agreed
thought the same thing!
I've often felt the pressure to conform to expectations. This talk inspired me to embrace my unique perspective and make a positive impact as a leader.
What she says about 'moving from humility to advocacy' really struck me, like... I've always found it completely effortless to talk about how amazing someone else's work is and put it in other peoples faces on their behalf but just can not do the same thing for myself.
Loving the look at cultural behaviors in leadership styles. I think it's really interesting seeing how individuals from diverse cultural backgrounds navigate and reconcile their cultural values with the expectations and norms of the corporate world. Understanding these dynamics can lead to a deeper appreciation and recognition of the value that cultural diversity brings to leadership and organizational success.
The concept of finding allies who are _different_ to you as well as ones who are similar is something I've never considered. It highlights the importance of both support networks and diversity of thought and honestly I think it's a great approach
Absolutely! So many allies are of different races and genders than us. Diversity in allies also matters.
Interesting to hear about the model minority stereotype and how it affects Asian Americans in the workplace!
It's really interesting what she says about talking to other Asian women in her team who seemed confused by the concept of their personal goals. I've never really thought about the way a persons cultural upbringing would influence their attitude towards their career but it seems super obvious now that I have.
Tutti, I am so grateful for courageous individuals such as yourself, absolutely SHATTERING that glass ceiling.
Tutti's journey showcases the power of authenticity. By embracing her true self and leadership style, she was able to achieve success on her own terms. This is a valuable lesson for everyone in the corporate world.
The notion of moving beyond humility and embracing advocacy resonates strongly. It's time to break free from the traditional stereotypes and assert ourselves in the pursuit of our goals and aspirations.
Really good TED, congrats Tutti!
You know she keeps good company, bet you one of her closest friends or even her made that amazing outfit
It's intriguing to consider how cultural behaviors intersect with professional norms in the workplace. Tutti's talk reminds us that everyone brings a unique blend of cultural influences to their work, and it's important to recognize and celebrate these differences. I wonder how organizations can create spaces for open dialogue and understanding to promote cultural integration and mutual learning among their employees.
These insights really challenge traditional leadership norms. It's refreshing to see the value of listening, consensus-building, and empathy being recognized as strengths.
Great insight and perspective. I appreciate your willingness to be vulnerable and share your experience. I love your three strategies, so useful.
Thanks for watching and taking the time to leave some feedback Nicole. I truly value your taking the time. I hope that one of three strategies may resonate for you to put into action.
agree 100%
Definitely agree that finding your tribe and allies is key. Having a supportive network of people who understand your experiences can make a significant difference in overcoming imposter syndrome and feeling a sense of belonging.
I'm the ytest person, outside and in...and use to break my heart when my chinese friends at school called themselves a "banana" I didnt know why then but I think i have a better idea now. this is an amazing talk, thank you Tutti
The emphasis on finding your people and building a support system is essential. We all need allies and mentors who can guide and uplift us throughout our professional journeys.
There is some really amazing advice in this talk Tutti, thank you. Definitely sharing with my sisters.
Yes! Sharing with sisters is the way to go. We learn together!
Wonderful presentation: so inspiring and heartfelt. More importantly, so many practical tips.
She makes some really interesting points and now I don't think I'll be able to stop myself wondering what cultural behavior's people are bringing with them into the workplace
Advocacy is crucial. It's inspiring to hear Tutti encourage Asian women to advocate for themselves and their career aspirations. Self-advocacy can lead to more fulfilling and meaningful work experiences.
@tutti Thank you for a great talk, applicable to all women that I coach in Design.
So inspirational! Great advice for anyone who feels like an 'other' in corporate leadership. Thank you!
This talk offers valuable insights for leaders of all generations. It's a reminder to continuously learn, evolve, and create inclusive environments.
She is a great speaker!!!
It's important to challenge and dismantle stereotypes in the workplace. By defying expectations and embracing our authentic selves, we can pave the way for more inclusive leadership!
This is such a great talk by an amazing and articulate speaker. Though her focus is on "How Asian American Women Claim Their Leadership" Tutti provides so much food for thought for anyone who feels stereotyped, marginalized or a victim of self-induced imposter syndrome. Thanks for opening up and sharing!
So true! I'm glad that you could connect and resonate with the message even not being an Asian women. I believe that so many of us are "othered" through being marginalized or trapped in our own imposter syndrome. I appreciate your support.
This is a great talk and everything but I just have to say what an outfit!! Took me a couple minutes to realize the pattern on the back matches her shirt. Just gorgeous.
We've seen progress, but there's still a long way to go. It's inspiring to see someone like you advocating for change and empowering Asian women in leadership.
Congratulations, Tutti. Very effective talk and one that addresses issues that are so familiar to me. 👏👏👏🙏
What a very raw and honest talk from an absolute powerhouse.
Thank you for the talk! I am struggled to navigate my career with a series of recent reorgs, which has put a huge setback in my career. I start to think of it as an opportunity to fresh, new opportunities. And by looking back my past professional lives, I could clearly see that deliberate advocacy could've significantly advanced my career faster.
This talk has definitely made me think about some things and it's super interesting to think about how my cultural upbringing might affect my behavior in the workplace without me even realizing it
This talk is awesome Tutti, thank you for sharing your perspective on a subject that not everyone might get
What a sparkly human being! And some incredibly thought provoking points being laid out here. This is really important stuff.
Honest and helpful. And useful for everyone who feels different, or has values that conflict with expected styles at work or home
Wow I didn't realize it was like this for these women. Thank you for the perspective check Tutti
Empowerment can do amazing things but building each other up and empowering like minded individuals is what life should be all about!
Absolutely! It's really about building each other up and connecting with like minded individuals. This is my hope that it's how we all live our lives.
Love this talk!!!!
thank you for sharing with me! so good!
I do too!
Thanks Tutti for "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down". Haven't met that saying before.
I hadn't heard it either!
awesome job Tutti. this talk rules
I got the link (obviously) yes Jan should see this too.
me too LD!
This was very interesting for me, and not a perspective I would get from anywhere else. Thank you.
Great insight and teachings for all of us.
You are such an inspiring leader. Great insights!
Awesome talk, great perspective.
Great natural speaker....
I know this is totally beside the point of this excellent talk but I love your hair color!
Very powerful talk Tutti... thank you
Such an important message for all, taking us several layers deeper into why diversity efforts actually matter and how one can set themselves up for leadership success while not compromising on their authenticity, personal values and culture. Thank you for being a courageous leader and example Tutti!
Thank for taking the time to watch. You’ve summarized it well - we’ve all got to find our own way to lead while not compromising on authenticity. It’s a lifelong journey!
agree 100%
wow, inspiring!
👏so good!
WOWZER!! You are an incredibly gifted presenter & truly inspiring.
This is a fantastic topic and you deliver extremely valuable leadership strategies that drive impactful results.
Thank you for sharing your passion & expertise to help pave the path for others. Awesome job Tutti!!
Thank you for watching and supporting. I'm glad to hear that the leadership strategies resonated for you. I've found the specifics of them to work well for many people I've supported.
This is an incredibly powerful message on so many levels. I have many times been the other, and I have many times been the one who could other. It’s great to consider how to own your subtle biases just as much as you own your integrated leadership.
we all have conditioning to unlearn!!
Absolutely agreed! We all have biases and judgements and have been on both sides of the othering
Laying down some enlightening facts, connecting cultures, and bringing hope to so many others. Love this Tutti. What a fantastic message for so many.
I’m hoping that there’s a little something for every learning style, whether it’s fact-based, seeing yourself in the stories, or tugging at emotional connection. Thank you for supporting
yeah, even though I'm not asian I found a lot here that felt very relevant for me
An empowering message and something that so many people can use!
I appreciate the support Tony. I hope that the strategies will be simple enough that people can put them into practice immediately.
i really appreciated the part about the woman who learnt through her mentorship with the yt guy and how NOT to lead.
Wow the part about how Asian women feel selfish putting their own needs above the well being of the group is super interesting and also seems like a direct reflection of the culture right?
The strategy of claiming your differences is a powerful way to bring authenticity and cultural richness to leadership roles. It's a reminder that we don't have to conform to a single mold.
@tutti so much feels from a fellow “banana”
Right? I think that so many of us bananas and oreos have this deep desire to be of the majority. It takes some deep introspection and clarity to figure out who we are as leaders. And there's no one right way.
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I can't even explain how much energy I feel I've wasted trying to project that "I know how to solve all the problems" kind of attitude.
Yes! I completely agree. I've spent so many decades do this. And so have my clients. It's such a protective measure to help make ourselves feel better... and it's so hard to recognize it.
I've never thought about how my cultural upbringing affects how I turn up in the workplace quite like this. It's a little sad that the values I've been taught about benefitting a community can't be applied to a workplace if I want to excel and be noticed in my career. Says a lot about modern professionalism I guess.
I freaking love her pants!!!!
haha, really?
You are a very smart woman!
How about she is a very smart person!
@@bettygould3679 agree Betty!
you stirred the pot bro!
I am sharing this...
same