After my dad passed, I made it a habit to tell ALL my loved ones, "I Love You" when I left, they left, or we were getting off the phone. Those were the last words my husband ever heard me say, the last words my mother heard me say, and the last words 2 of my brothers heard me say to them. Let me tell you, that has brought me so much comfort over the years that they never doubted how I felt about them... Much love from Charleston SC.
I did the same Janie starting when my children were born. I wasn't raised hearing those words but my children were. They are 38 yrs.old now(twins) and I still never hang up the phone or say good bye without telling them that I love them.
My mother never told me she loved me until I was 48, and she was dying. I never speak to anyone without telling the I love them, or just random people i speak to I say I hope you have a happy day. NEVER MISS AN OPPORTUNITY TO LET SOMEONE KNOW YOU LOVE THEM!
Isn't music amazing? A song like this can deliver a message that cuts straight to our hearts no matter our background, race, economic status, etc. It's great that you're being so intentional in being a better dad every day.
Someone once said, God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. We should listen twice as often as we speak. As I got older, it was amazing how much wiser my Dad became.😉
Most people don't catch that the first chorus was sung only with the boy's choir, the second only with the adult's choir and the final one you can hear both of them singing together. :)
Saw them do this live back in the day when this was new. About 4000 people in the concert hall and EVERYONE sang the choir part!! Not a dry eye in the house. The poetry of these lyrics hits different, especially to those of us who have lost their parents. As an old white guy, I want to tell you that I'm proud of you for soaking in the message in this song, thinking about it and applying the goodness of it into your own life and family.
My adult Kids hear "I Luv you at the end of every phone call, or conversation, I vow it to be the last words they hear me say!, after the sudden loss of their Mother, I can do no less!!!
My mom use to sing this to me all the time and now that she passed a year ago I cry every time but I did tell her how I feel and how much I loved her and most of all how much I appreciate her
I've heard of this song for years & never listened to it.. until now.. I'm literally crying my heart out because me & dad fell out just before he passed over..I cannot get past the grief and knowing he was alone..I'm so sorry dad, I love you.☮️🇬🇧
I went through my youth thinking my father didn't like me, and we just moved through life not really talking; when he suddenly died I felt really bad, that I never told him that I loved him. This sing always brings me to that point, every time; but my oldest sister told me that he loved me, and he knew I loved him. I guess l just needed to be able to tell him.
Oh my God.... Mine also took his life but 2 months after my eldest boy was born. Here's my long distance hug to you ❤️ It is really hard but I strongly believe that if you talk to his spirit, he'll listen 🙏🏻
I read that Mike was riding on a train and felt the presence of his father then found out that he had passed at about the same time while he was on the train.
You’re 1 million % correct. I wish i would have learned this lesson before i lost my best friend and my father. Leave nothing on the table. Tell loved ones that you love them, everyday. Blessings to you and your family, Sceez
I have to agree because both songs remind me of my dad difference is I spent as much time with my dad as I could my Dad is was and still is I pray to heaven everyday just hoping to hear his voice and when I hear these two songs my eyes start to tear up
I was one of the lucky ones, I heard this song 11 years before my dad passed, and just like you every word rang true to my heart. So less then a year after this came out my dad had a 2nd heart attack. I was living 3000 miles away in Scottsdale, Arizona. After a phone call from my dad who told me what had happened I spent the next month selling all my furniture , car and motorcycle. I shipped my tools and everything that didn't fit in my wallet or suit case was left behind. I went home with my wife and son on the first nonstop back. I took care of both my parents until they passed a year apart 10 years later. It was this song that taught me what I needed to do and that it needed to be done immediately , thank God I heard it in time. I cried the first time I heard it but like I said I was one of the lucky ones. So if this is your first time and someone out there needs to know you care.....PICK UP THE PHONE and be one of the lucky ones. peace and love
I struggled as a child, trying to understand my father; he was very stoic, and his mantra was "men don't show emotion, never cry". I always felt there was something wrong with me, for being emotional; it got so hard, that if l felt like crying, my throat would tighten and it felt like chocking. Like the song said, l wasn't there the morning my father passed away; l felt lost, because l never got the chance to say "l love you". Plus I always wondered if he loved me, for who I was; I still struggle today, to be open with others and let them know how l feel about them.
Your job as a parent is to help your children grow and learn to be happy and healthy people. That requires open conversations, even when they can be uncomfortable.
I lost my father when I was 20 and our last words were not kind, my father was an abusive alcoholic this song came out around the same time and I could not help but cry Everytime I heard this song. It took me 15 years to not cry when I listened to this ✌️
my dad was great but his heart only made it to 51. i was in the middle of my BS teen shit and i regret every time i fought with him. he was a good man doing the best he could with 5 sons in the projects lol. no wonder his heart gave out.
My dad is my idol and hero. I tell him every damn day. He raised two strong women. I remember hearing this song back in the day, and in my geriatric Millenial experience, I know how important it is to make myself available to my parents, and to let them know me.
I have watched thousands of you tubers react to songs and yours is the most heart felt and best reaction I’ve ever seen. I’ve always loved this song and it came out when I was in HS. Such a powerful message and so amazing it still resonates so well. So glad you got so much from the song. Thank you for your reaction.
Couldn't have said any of it better my man. I became a father for the first time just a couple years ago at the age of 49. My old man is a decent dude, but came from a family and a generation that didn't value communication of these types of things. Me and my daughter are going to have a very different relationship. This song is an all-time classic.
One of my favourite songs. My mother died very suddenly in 1988 and this song was on the radio waves at the time. Could not be more poignant. I was over mum and dads house for dinner on Sat night, left early for some reason. Mum asked me to stay a bit longer, I said no, I will pop over again on Monday after work. My mother died that Monday morning. I wish I had told her all the things I had to say, in her living years. Love you my darling one ❤
Dude, im still waiting for my dad to snap out of his bullshit,, im nearly 50 and never been hugged by him or told he loves me.. this shit hits hard. Been crying for over 30years to this song. Some dads are hard work.
Maybe you should ask him to come and listen to this song with you. It surely couldn't hurt. There's a lot of things I wanted to tell my father that I never got the chance to. My heart hurts for you brother. Please don't stop trying to reach him .
My mother never did but on the day she died, I felt it didn't matter so much as she showed me in MANY ways what her feelings were. She came from a time where they didn't seem to do that. She was born in 1916
Hey. This is an English group. This video was filmed in October 1988 in West Somerset, England. The guitar player (the man standing in the cemetery in the video) co-wrote this. I think he was in another country when his dad passed away
'We only sacrifice the future...it's the bitterness that lasts.' This song makes everyone reflect on what they experienced growing up and what they hope to be doing with their own children. Life is unpredictable. Regrets are part of the human experience.
It's not "benefits", it's bitterness. "We only sacrifice the future, it's the bitterness that lasts", meaning we build up and repress feelings and that makes us only angrier in the future.
Well don't I look a mess! Always loved this treasure. Mom and Dad were here when it came out and are now both gone, but we were fully there for each other, as I know you will be.
None of us understood when we knew everything LOL. Tell your sons that you're proud of them and that you love them. It makes them strong on the inside & soft on the outside while criticism makes them strong on the outside & soft on the inside.
It is a powerful an highly emotional song, written by B. A. Robertson and Mike Rutherford (the lead singer here). For anyone, like myself, who consistently crossed swords with their Father, now feels the remorse and pain because of this song. My Father died a few years ago and sadly, we never got around to reconciling our differences. It is something that now, forever haunts me.
I hope the children in the choir have received the understanding of the song as well. I'm sure they have listened to this song over and over thru the years. Certainly an important message for all of us.
Oh man, I saw your earlier stuff and you were just a comedian, and here you're growing into a full, human, relatable man. Hats off to you my friend, I'm so grateful to see your journey.
Appreciate your honesty. I'm 67 and my father and I had strained relationship but we became close when he was dying of cancer in 92. So love your Pops even if you don't understand him❤❤❤❤
The setting for the video must be England. Mike is the 'dad' in the video and co-wrote both the music and the lyrics, but also played guitars with Genesis. He wrote a lot of the band's music and lyrics (with the other band members). This (Mike + the Mechanics) was a side project, much like Phil Collin's work was. It helped keep the band together for decades. You should check out more from Genesis, Collins and The Mechanics. A lot of great and varied music (and lyrics).
I love you. You are a beautiful spirited young man. You’re authentic and that’s the quality that will give you the relationship with your kids you want. Thank you for an incredible reaction. ❤️
So powerful. Thank you for playing this powerful song. Your heart is good and your a great father. Overcome with emotion hearing real life circumstances. Pray for the future. 💜🙏
That line is “we only sacrifice the future, it’s the bitterness that lasts “ - rather than benefits (easy to mishear lyrics). The lines before that were about arguments between the present (current generation mindset?) the past (previous generation mindset?). It’s about how arguing over differences only hurts the future because it causes bitter feelings that linger.
I had a father and a step-father. My father was an abusive alcoholic that my mom divorced when i was very young and my step father raised me. It just hit me that i never told either of them that I loved them. I re united with my father before he died of cancer when he was 55 and my step father died in a helicopter crash when he was 55. Affection and love was never shown by either of them or by me and that still bothers me. Yep the living years can't be replaced.
I’ve watched several reaction videos on RUclips about this song after hearing it on the radio and out of all of them you have with out a doubt the best insight to this song you clearly understand it extremely well thank you so much doing this video and that word doozy I haven’t heard that word in a long time but that’s the best decision of this song it always gets a emotional response out of me every time I hear it me and my father had a very conflicted relationship like you and your father and now we don’t it took him having a stroke, this song, and many heart to heart conversations and we realize we had alot more in common than we thought and we truly cared and wanted the best for each other
Just like you said, this song hits very different once you become a father. I liked it as a teenager, but since I became dad myself, can't listen without crying.
My brother and our mother argued over his choice in a wife. We could all see the mistake he made and years later, he realized it. He divorced her to the relief of everyone related to him or friends with him. But the bad blood between Mom and him during her living years kept them apart. When she passed, his regret and heartbreak over lost time with our mother tore him up. Listen to this song. The living years when both of you can work things out and live each other is you only chance to love. Do not wait!
I'm 70. I've heard lots of songs. I can't think of one that nails it the way this nails it...!
Real men cry, real men show feeling, real are no afraid to show feelings.
This song should come with a Warning: TEARS AHEAD!
After my dad passed, I made it a habit to tell ALL my loved ones, "I Love You" when I left, they left, or we were getting off the phone. Those were the last words my husband ever heard me say, the last words my mother heard me say, and the last words 2 of my brothers heard me say to them. Let me tell you, that has brought me so much comfort over the years that they never doubted how I felt about them... Much love from Charleston SC.
I did the same Janie starting when my children were born. I wasn't raised hearing those words but my children were. They are 38 yrs.old now(twins) and I still never hang up the phone or say good bye without telling them that I love them.
So sorry for your losses,yet how wonderful that you connected with your loved ones in love each and every time! Life lesson learned,beautifully...💞
My mother never told me she loved me until I was 48, and she was dying. I never speak to anyone without telling the I love them, or just random people i speak to I say I hope you have a happy day.
NEVER MISS AN OPPORTUNITY TO LET SOMEONE KNOW YOU LOVE THEM!
Isn't music amazing? A song like this can deliver a message that cuts straight to our hearts no matter our background, race, economic status, etc. It's great that you're being so intentional in being a better dad every day.
Love this comment
I think it's the most important song of all time
Someone once said, God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. We should listen twice as often as we speak. As I got older, it was amazing how much wiser my Dad became.😉
Most people don't catch that the first chorus was sung only with the boy's choir, the second only with the adult's choir and the final one you can hear both of them singing together. :)
Damn I never noticed. Brilliant
I've been watching a few reactions & nobody caught that
Saw them do this live back in the day when this was new. About 4000 people in the concert hall and EVERYONE sang the choir part!! Not a dry eye in the house. The poetry of these lyrics hits different, especially to those of us who have lost their parents. As an old white guy, I want to tell you that I'm proud of you for soaking in the message in this song, thinking about it and applying the goodness of it into your own life and family.
My parents are now gone, if yours are still there, talk to them while you can and don't regret it.
very well said sir hug your parents they raised you well...
Thank you brother!!....I finally got to let my tears flow, 14 years after losing my dad...
My adult Kids hear "I Luv you at the end of every phone call, or conversation, I vow it to be the last words they hear me say!, after the sudden loss of their Mother, I can do no less!!!
Great song from back in the days. Glad to see a strong young man being a real father and man. It's good to see, stay that way sir never change 💯
My mom use to sing this to me all the time and now that she passed a year ago I cry every time but I did tell her how I feel and how much I loved her and most of all how much I appreciate her
This is one of those songs that every human on the planet needs to hear.
I've heard of this song for years & never listened to it.. until now.. I'm literally crying my heart out because me & dad fell out just before he passed over..I cannot get past the grief and knowing he was alone..I'm so sorry dad, I love you.☮️🇬🇧
I went through my youth thinking my father didn't like me, and we just moved through life not really talking; when he suddenly died I felt really bad, that I never told him that I loved him. This sing always brings me to that point, every time; but my oldest sister told me that he loved me, and he knew I loved him. I guess l just needed to be able to tell him.
This hit hard. My dad committed suicide right before my son was born. Then this song came out. Jerking tears
😢
I'm so sorry.
I leave it to God
Oh my God.... Mine also took his life but 2 months after my eldest boy was born. Here's my long distance hug to you ❤️ It is really hard but I strongly believe that if you talk to his spirit, he'll listen 🙏🏻
I read that Mike was riding on a train and felt the presence of his father then found out that he had passed at about the same time while he was on the train.
You’re 1 million % correct. I wish i would have learned this lesson before i lost my best friend and my father.
Leave nothing on the table. Tell loved ones that you love them, everyday.
Blessings to you and your family, Sceez
There are two songs which absolutely slay me. "Cat's in the Cradle" hits hard, but this one hits even harder.
Yes! Me too! Tears flow every time!
Also, "Everything I Own" by Bread
This song, Cats in the Cradle, and Wind Beneath my Wings always hit me hard..
those are two for me as well as Leader of the Band from Dan Fogelberg… they all make me think of my dad that passed on.
I have to agree because both songs remind me of my dad difference is I spent as much time with my dad as I could my Dad is was and still is I pray to heaven everyday just hoping to hear his voice and when I hear these two songs my eyes start to tear up
I was one of the lucky ones, I heard this song 11 years before my dad passed, and just like you every word rang true to my heart. So less then a year after this came out my dad had a 2nd heart attack. I was living 3000 miles away in Scottsdale, Arizona. After a phone call from my dad who told me what had happened I spent the next month selling all my furniture , car and motorcycle. I shipped my tools and everything that didn't fit in my wallet or suit case was left behind. I went home with my wife and son on the first nonstop back. I took care of both my parents until they passed a year apart 10 years later. It was this song that taught me what I needed to do and that it needed to be done immediately , thank God I heard it in time. I cried the first time I heard it but like I said I was one of the lucky ones. So if this is your first time and someone out there needs to know you care.....PICK UP THE PHONE and be one of the lucky ones. peace and love
I struggled as a child, trying to understand my father; he was very stoic, and his mantra was "men don't show emotion, never cry". I always felt there was something wrong with me, for being emotional; it got so hard, that if l felt like crying, my throat would tighten and it felt like chocking. Like the song said, l wasn't there the morning my father passed away; l felt lost, because l never got the chance to say "l love you". Plus I always wondered if he loved me, for who I was; I still struggle today, to be open with others and let them know how l feel about them.
This is one of the most powerful lyrics ever written and their music and performance of the song just hits you right in the soul
Considering how profound your response to this amazing song is. I suspect that you're going to be an incredible father. I salute you. Me too. ❤
I think this song makes every man think of their father. Miss you dad.
it's the BITTERNESS that lasts.
I’ve listened to this song hundreds of times, but this is the first time I’ve heard it. Thank you.
It’s the BITTERNESS that lasts… not benefits.
You pick up on the meaning of these songs so quickly! Kudos.
I played this song at my dad's funeral. Everytime I hear it, it brings a tear to my eye, and brings back memories of the time I spent with him.
Your job as a parent is to help your children grow and learn to be happy and healthy people. That requires open conversations, even when they can be uncomfortable.
THIS was “pop music “ back then. Normal pop radio music. Pure brilliance
I lost my father when I was 20 and our last words were not kind, my father was an abusive alcoholic this song came out around the same time and I could not help but cry Everytime I heard this song. It took me 15 years to not cry when I listened to this ✌️
Sometimes it is good to cry, it is impossible not to with these lyrics.
😢bless your heart
my dad was great but his heart only made it to 51. i was in the middle of my BS teen shit and i regret every time i fought with him. he was a good man doing the best he could with 5 sons in the projects lol. no wonder his heart gave out.
My dad is my idol and hero. I tell him every damn day.
He raised two strong women.
I remember hearing this song back in the day, and in my geriatric Millenial experience, I know how important it is to make myself available to my parents, and to let them know me.
I bawl EVERY SINGLE TIME I hear this song...
Paul Carrack has a phenomenal voice. Mike penned a great song that I am sure Dad heard from beyond. One of my favorites. Thank you.
Brilliant reaction "you can listen as well as you hear" you listened bro 👍
Appreciate your thoughtful reaction to this song.
I have watched thousands of you tubers react to songs and yours is the most heart felt and best reaction I’ve ever seen. I’ve always loved this song and it came out when I was in HS. Such a powerful message and so amazing it still resonates so well. So glad you got so much from the song. Thank you for your reaction.
Couldn't have said any of it better my man.
I became a father for the first time just a couple years ago at the age of 49. My old man is a decent dude, but came from a family and a generation that didn't value communication of these types of things. Me and my daughter are going to have a very different relationship.
This song is an all-time classic.
Your insightful, thoughtful, and caring. It's young people like you that gives me hope for our future. Peace from Northern Michigan.
He said, it’s the bitterness that lasts, not the benefits.
Excellent reaction to this song. Bravo.
''We only sacrifice the Future, it's the bitterness that lasts''.
One of my favourite songs. My mother died very suddenly in 1988 and this song was on the radio waves at the time. Could not be more poignant. I was over mum and dads house for dinner on Sat night, left early for some reason. Mum asked me to stay a bit longer, I said no, I will pop over again on Monday after work. My mother died that Monday morning. I wish I had told her all the things I had to say, in her living years. Love you my darling one ❤
😢😢😢❤
I’m sorry 😞 ❤
This should be the anthem of the world
I’ve listened to this song a few times in the past year or so, since my Dad passed, and it gets me every time.
"we all talk a different language, talking in defense".. may be the truest statement ever made... "It's the bitterness that lasts"
As watch your reaction on this song which I heard when it came out, I aee your soul being touched. That's what this song does.
Dude, im still waiting for my dad to snap out of his bullshit,, im nearly 50 and never been hugged by him or told he loves me.. this shit hits hard. Been crying for over 30years to this song. Some dads are hard work.
Maybe you should ask him to come and listen to this song with you. It surely couldn't hurt. There's a lot of things I wanted to tell my father that I never got the chance to. My heart hurts for you brother. Please don't stop trying to reach him .
My mother never did but on the day she died, I felt it didn't matter so much as she showed me in MANY ways what her feelings were. She came from a time where they didn't seem to do that. She was born in 1916
say I Love You… At they end you did the right thing…❤️🩹🩷
This is why we love you, brother.
Hey. This is an English group. This video was filmed in October 1988 in West Somerset, England.
The guitar player (the man standing in the cemetery in the video) co-wrote this. I think he was in another country when his dad passed away
'We only sacrifice the future...it's the bitterness that lasts.' This song makes everyone reflect on what they experienced growing up and what they hope to be doing with their own children. Life is unpredictable. Regrets are part of the human experience.
Skeez you are a special person…don’t forget that. The honesty you express makes you so real and true. That is special. Hold onto that forever…🙏🏻❤️
I was about to comment but you said it all. 😊
It's not "benefits", it's bitterness. "We only sacrifice the future, it's the bitterness that lasts", meaning we build up and repress feelings and that makes us only angrier in the future.
The video clip for The Living Years was filmed in West Somerset, England near Porlock Weir and the hamlet of Culbone.
Well don't I look a mess! Always loved this treasure. Mom and Dad were here when it came out and are now both gone, but we were fully there for each other, as I know you will be.
What a nice young man you are. Nice reaction
None of us understood when we knew everything LOL. Tell your sons that you're proud of them and that you love them. It makes them strong on the inside & soft on the outside while criticism makes them strong on the outside & soft on the inside.
It’s the bitterness that lasts….
It can't do anything BUT make us emotional. It's a holy song.
"Now it's clear" Respect.
It is a powerful an highly emotional song, written by B. A. Robertson and Mike Rutherford (the lead singer here).
For anyone, like myself, who consistently crossed swords with their Father, now feels the remorse and pain because of this song.
My Father died a few years ago and sadly, we never got around to reconciling our differences. It is something that now, forever haunts me.
Please think about Paul Carrack, no matter how we do appreciate Mike Rutherford.
We had plenty songs like this in the 70s 80s 90s... exactly why those 3 decades were the best in music ever
Greatest lyrics ever written!
I hope the children in the choir have received the understanding of the song as well. I'm sure they have listened to this song over and over thru the years. Certainly an important message for all of us.
They are old enough to be the 'generation before' now.😁
What a wise guy you are! Learning from the past is not easy, you did it,good job.
Oh man, I saw your earlier stuff and you were just a comedian, and here you're growing into a full, human, relatable man. Hats off to you my friend, I'm so grateful to see your journey.
Appreciate your honesty. I'm 67 and my father and I had strained relationship but we became close when he was dying of cancer in 92. So love your Pops even if you don't understand him❤❤❤❤
The setting for the video must be England. Mike is the 'dad' in the video and co-wrote both the music and the lyrics, but also played guitars with Genesis. He wrote a lot of the band's music and lyrics (with the other band members). This (Mike + the Mechanics) was a side project, much like Phil Collin's work was. It helped keep the band together for decades.
You should check out more from Genesis, Collins and The Mechanics. A lot of great and varied music (and lyrics).
Lost my Dad when I was 3 and wish I had had some more living years with him.
Sorry for your loss
Your absolute sincerity in reacting to this song will take you to better places. Just don’t ever forget this
This one is timeless
It's the bitterness that lasts
The lyrics here are a different level. Fantastic song
Cry your eyes out! It's an emotional song 😭
You got it, brother!! Coming from a 67 year old white guy!
The things I would've said to my dad... ❤RIP Charlie 1/7/51-12/19/17 Love you, Pop.
You're a good man, stay that way...
Such a great song. Straight facts. Hits hard. Mike and the Mechanics have a few hits. ✌️😎
You are amazing your beautiful family will be 👌
I love you. You are a beautiful spirited young man. You’re authentic and that’s the quality that will give you the relationship with your kids you want. Thank you for an incredible reaction. ❤️
So powerful. Thank you for playing this powerful song.
Your heart is good and your a great father. Overcome with emotion hearing real life circumstances. Pray for the future. 💜🙏
Bless you. This is one of the most understanding reviews I've ever heard. Bless you and your family bro.
Oh this is a heartbreaker.. get your hanky ready 😢 stunning song
One of my favorites
That line is “we only sacrifice the future, it’s the bitterness that lasts “ - rather than benefits (easy to mishear lyrics). The lines before that were about arguments between the present (current generation mindset?) the past (previous generation mindset?). It’s about how arguing over differences only hurts the future because it causes bitter feelings that linger.
Screezoramo, u are the cutest and wisest young man ever. Gr8 intuitive reaction.
Straight from the heart reaction bro....awesome! Thx!
Most definitely a tear jerker; say the loving things you should say to your loved ones before they are gone ❤
I cry ever time!!! Absolutely love this song!
Your best reaction yet. Really felt it, really enjoyed it. Thanks.
I stopped at this song because my father had died in this year and when my daughter was born I thought of this song.
That was a beautiful reaction. Thanks for being so genuine. The setting looks to be in England if I had to guess. north coast.
I hear ya buddy, this song makes me tear up every time I hear it. One of the best written songs that captures the human experience.
I had a father and a step-father. My father was an abusive alcoholic that my mom divorced when i was very young and my step father raised me. It just hit me that i never told either of them that I loved them. I re united with my father before he died of cancer when he was 55 and my step father died in a helicopter crash when he was 55. Affection and love was never shown by either of them or by me and that still bothers me. Yep the living years can't be replaced.
I’ve watched several reaction videos on RUclips about this song after hearing it on the radio and out of all of them you have with out a doubt the best insight to this song you clearly understand it extremely well thank you so much doing this video and that word doozy I haven’t heard that word in a long time but that’s the best decision of this song it always gets a emotional response out of me every time I hear it me and my father had a very conflicted relationship like you and your father and now we don’t it took him having a stroke, this song, and many heart to heart conversations and we realize we had alot more in common than we thought and we truly cared and wanted the best for each other
Good therapy, watching your videos.
Just like you said, this song hits very different once you become a father. I liked it as a teenager, but since I became dad myself, can't listen without crying.
My brother and our mother argued over his choice in a wife. We could all see the mistake he made and years later, he realized it. He divorced her to the relief of everyone related to him or friends with him. But the bad blood between Mom and him during her living years kept them apart. When she passed, his regret and heartbreak over lost time with our mother tore him up.
Listen to this song. The living years when both of you can work things out and live each other is you only chance to love. Do not wait!