My dad passed in 1995. Dad told me on his deathbed that I was a good daughter, that I'd always been a good girl. I was 40 at the time. He asked me to look after my Mom 'until he could come home'. He never did. I hope he sees that I've spent all these years taking care of Mom, just like he asked. I miss him so much.
My dad passed in 1995 too, and I didn't get to see him because the hospital didn't think it was a good idea. I wish I had so many things I wanted to say to him. I hope he and Mom are together and dancing in heaven. RIP, Daddy, July 10th, 1951- July 8th, 1995 and Mom, January 16th, 1947- May 4th, 2021. I love and miss you both
I was rushed home from Afghanistan to be with my family and say goodbye to my dad. I got to my parents house and walked into my dad's bedroom. My mother made everyone leave so I could be alone with him. We talked and he told me he was very proud of me. After about 15 minutes I told mom to bring everyone back in. My dad passed away 10 minutes later. That 15 minutes was the best 15 minutes of my life. God I miss that man.
God bless you man. Your dad heard your voice as he left to go back home. He is on the other side waiting for you in a world so beautiful that your own 'earth-bound' mind can't even imagine it... for now. That's what's coming your way my friend... an infinitely beautiful existence on higher levels where all existence is based on love.
My Dad passed suddenly, and without warning in 2002. The night before, I had gone to see him. The last thing that I ever did with him, was give him a hug and say, "I love you." Not a day goes by that I am not thankful that it was the last interaction between us. Since then, especially now that I am older(and terminally ill), I make sure that I say that to my loved ones every chance I get,, because I know what a comfort it has been to me for the past 20+ years. I suggest that everybody do the same
My dad drowned when I was 5 and I was devastated even then. 67 years later I still think about him and wonder what we missed together. I cry every time I hear this haunting song.
You poor fellow. You were dealt a blow. The absence in your life must have made you feel cheated. You didn't have a dad to fall out with and finally realise he was right all the time. God love you John.
Those final words I wasn't there that morning When my Father passed away I didn't get to tell him All the things I had to say I think I caught his spirit Later that same year I'm sure I heard his echo In my baby's new born tears I just wish I could have told him in the living years I love you Dad even though you wasn't there i miss you ...
The sad story of me and my late father, the day I picked up the phone, time had already run out and it was too late for us. I'm 60 years old and I can't listen to this song without breaking uncontrollably in tears. Song is from 1988.
I'm 44 and I just lost my Dad on September 19, 2023. Even though he and I fixed things in our own way, it still hurts. But he's always with me, and I see him in my 3-year-old daughter's smile. Talk to your parents. PLEASE. Love you Dad. Forever. Until Valhalla.
Tears come easy listening to this song. If you need a good cry put this on, but have your phone close so you can make that phone call. You know who have to call.
Beautiful song! My dad is battling cancer and he's scared. We don't have the best relationship, but I will try to do everything to be the best son I can...
Hello Brian, I'm 82 years young, and have just been diagnosed with a form Aggressive Cancer, I will do all I can to reconnect with All my grown up kids, love and respect from Perth Australia. 😎🖐🦘
I don’t know if your Dad is still with you 🙏… If you spent the time trying to just be present with him the past doesn’t matter. You were there when it really mattered and that is a blessing 😇🙏
Please help your dad to see past his fear. Oddly for your own sake as well as his. Find someone from his life he's missed, like his parents or maybe a sibling, who've gone ahead to talk about before he gets to his last days. When those last days arrive reassure him that he will not be alone as he leaves here to set off on his next big adventure because the people you've been talking about will be waiting for him. For my dad in the very early hours of the day he died as he became restless to help calm him I described a 'party bus' (my parents had both been tram conductors, mum during dad after the war) filled with both my grans, my aunt (his sister) drinking a Cinzano & lemonade, my brother and cousin jiving down the aisle and my uncle (his BIL) making sure there was enough food in the buffet whilst sneaking treats to the long gone family dogs and finally I told him I could see mum in her conductress' uniform hand out waiting for his fare - side dig as he genuinely forgot his money on their first date! For my late partner who died in 2022 his younger daughter and I were by his hospital bed as his elder daughter and only granddaughter were with us, from their home in Scotland 4 hours away, via Watsapp. His girls told him how proud of him and to be his daughters they were whereas I thanked him for our "Adventure of a Lifetime" (one of our fave Coldplay songs - not bad for a guy who was 81 at the time) but eventually it was me who 'gave him permission' to leave us as some people seem to need. I thanked him for fighting to stay as long as he had but then told him that he wouldn't be alone when he left us because Doreen, his late wife who died in '91, and Emily, twin to his younger daughter who only lived for around 24hrs, were waiting for him and that he and Emily had 50 years to catch up on. I think it took his girls aback to hear me speak so easily about their mum but as I told his daughter just before we left the hospital Doreen had never been a ghost to me. I hope you find a way to allay your dad's fear.
Didnt talk to my pops for five years and it sucked. Really glad I came to my sense swallowed my pride and let him back into my life. Lifes too short to stay mad at the ones you love.
Lost my Dad Dec 2008, lost my Mum Jan 2009 2 weeks later 😢both in not particularly nice ways, miss them every day and I wish I had had longer with them both, trouble is you think your parents are going to be there forever and you feel very vulnerable when they have gone. Make sure you tell all your family how much they mean to you and never ever go to bed on an argument with anyone you are close to.😢
We lost my brilliant wonderful grandparents 2nd and 20th December 2002 my Nan held on to see my son on his 7th birthday on the 19th then left to be with grandad. It feels like yesterday even though it’s nearly 22 years. I miss them terribly
Beautiful song. I lost my father earlier this year to Covid-19. Holds even more meaning to me now, especially the last verse as " I wasn't there that morning, when my father passed away". Heartbreaking 💔 But we left nothing unsaid.
@@HarriBestReactions Please accept my condolences on the loss of your father. I have loved this song since it's release, it's such a reminder not to let time pass to say the things we need to say as tomorrow is not promised. Your comment really touched me, it brought tears to my eyes. So happy that you left nothing unsaid, I hope it brings some comfort to you during this time. Both my parents died unexpectedly and I did not have the chance to say the things I would have wanted to say. We were never estranged and saw each other frequently but sometimes we just don't talk about the important stuff. Such regret! Take care and be well.
My heart goes out to you. That last verse is especially poignant to me, too. My Dad passed away when my son was just a few months old. I constantly think about the things that they both missed out on by not getting the chance to know each other.
Harry, my son was born in 1998. The first thing I saw in my baby was my Father's face. This song started up in my head and I did catch my Father's spirit at that moment. I still talk to my Father and tell my son about him all the time. May peace be with you.
Harry, my friend, I have great respect for your posting your honest reaction to this song. There is no reason to apologize for not being upbeat after hearing such a deeply emotional song. You probably have a few hundred viewers who wanted to give you a brotherly hug. You're also absolutely correct that this song translates to nearly every culture. I played this for my daughter a few years ago and before the last chorus, she burst into tears, held me tightly (cutting off circulation) and made me promise to never die. While I could promise it, I did decide to get healthy (lost 52 lbs). So, if there is even one person who heeds your message to sort out their differences before it's too late, then I am positive to the core of my soul that your father would be very proud of you. Cheers!
My father passed over29 years ago, we had a huge falling out and didn't speak to each other the last ten years of his life , I would give anything to change that.
This song is pure poetry. I never really 'listened' to the lyrics of this song despite hearing it thousands of times on the radio. It was only after my pops died that it resonated with me. I always cry when I hear it now , it's almost as though its a different song - the meaning now is so clear
Harri, This song says it all. My dad and I had a fight the day before he passed, but we made up that night. "I love you" was the last thing we said to each other. The next time I saw him after that, was at the funeral home. He was only 34 and it was exactly one week prior to my 14th birthday. Years later, my two children's birthdates literally bookend the date of my dad's passing. Dad's passing was 48 years ago. I still thank God for us settling our quarrel the evening before he passed. Lost my stepdad of 42 years 2 years ago. I missed my time to thank him for taking me in as his own son as he passed unexpectedly. It was just as hard if not harder losing him as it was my biological dad. Another song that kind of goes hand in hand with this one is 'Cat's In the Cradle' by Harry Chapin. Speaks to what you spoke of chasing something in your life and thinking you would spend time with your dad later. Thank you for sharing Harri. Appreciate your honest reactions and a big virtual hug and much love to you brother.
So eerie reading your comment. My dad died 50 years ago at age 36, two days after my 15th birthday. My wife and I shared the same birthday and our oldest son was born 3 days before it. In one 5 day period we have 3 birthdays and my fathers passing. I lost my wife 2 years ago to cancer. This song just gets more relevant and harder to listen to. Take care.
@steveturner3999 Thank you for sharing, Steve. I am so sorry for the recent loss of your wife. My prayers to you and your kids for peace and strength. As unbelievable as this may sound, my ex-wife(my 2 kids' mom) passed away unexpectedly 2-1/2 years ago. Her birthdate(day & month) was the same date as my dad's passing.
my son & I saw Mike & the Mechanics in concert. i cried like a baby listening to it with my son sleeping with his head on my lap Mike is /was the guitar player in Genesis
Such a beautiful, profound song. From Mike Rutherford and his mechanics. My father passed away and I never got to say I love you..."In the Living Years".
My dad died when I was 20. Of course I didn’t get to tell him all the things I had to say. But my daughter, his first grandchild, was born one week before he died. He held her once as we were in the same hospital. Thus “I’m sure I heard his echo in my baby’s newborn tears” hit me hard at the time. I claimed the song as our own, back then in the 80s. 💔
In 1972 I was15 and I lost my dad. Several years later I admitted to his brother that he reminded me of him. I was terribly embarrassed at the time to have admitted this but very thankful that my uncle understood, and was careful in kindly pointing out that he could never be a replacement.
Harri, I think you are such a thoughtful, sincere, kind, open, honest, genuine, stand-up man and I just wanted to thank you for that. It doesn't have to be someone we love or even know, but i just wanted to say these things to you while we are in "The Living Years". Blessings and Peace upon you, Brother.
The human condition, mistakes, regret and pain, but if we learn from our life experiences, we can move forward.. love your honest and intelligent reaction. All the best to you.
First time I’ve seen your channel. A wonderful heartfelt reaction. I always have a hard time listening to this song without crying because of unresolved or unsaid things with several friends and family members who have passed away. I agree with you - talk before it’s too late. Thank you, Harri.
I never used to tell my dad I loved him as it always felt a little “un cool” when I was a kid. As an adult watching my dad get older as I do, I tell my dad every time we talk/meet that I love him. Don’t have regrets. ❤️🙏❤️
My father had many regrets not telling his father what he wanted to say before he passed. This song became his favorite. He played this for me when I was a child and I never fully grasped the truth expressed in this song until I became much older. Now this song is one of my favorites. Thank you for your reaction and your experience.
After hearing this a long time ago , i used it as a catalyst to make sure i saw as much of my dad as possible knowing one day he wouldn't be here and spend time with him, after 4 yrs without him im so glad i did, still hurts but hopefully did him proud.
I’m a Son and a Father. My dad passed when I was 43, two years later I was hit with autoimmune diseases that have taken most of me. My son and I are close, but I’m sure he has things to say…I hope he does. My dad and I had a pretty great relationship, but this song really hits me as so much was still left unsaid. I just needed someone to cry with someone…thanks.
Lost my dad in 2006 to cirrhosis of the liver, he was a disabled Vietnam Vet, and the drinking and stuff killed him. Two months later, I lost my stermother to ALS, Lou Gehrigs Disease. And a year later, lost my brother to suicide, and all within that short timespan, I had a stroke, and went through a divorce. I never got to properly mourn them, and to this day would give anything to be able to talk to them again. Tjis song hits so close to home for me.
This song always got me. More so now in my 50s, having lost both parents and my sisters, i can't get through the first verse. Amazing when music can take you on a journey. When it can reach in and grab your heart and soul. It's a beautiful thing.
They are singing every word I feel. I loved my father and mother so very very much. Did they know? I was, without doubt a trial and tribulation. Oh God I do hope so, if not I do not think I can ever forgive myself!
There is a way to talk to those who have passed away!! Myself, I have always have been stricken by the fact that those people lost are now able to read our minds!! Then, they know they were loved!! Conversations take place in our hearts on this kindred spirit level that settle and resolve completely!! I still think it is way more real to do this "In The Living Years"
Lost my dad to a massive coronary in 2000. Never got to tell him I lived him one more time and he never got to meet my baby girl or got to know my son. I think of him every time I hear this song.
Mike and his dad were distanced. In part because his carecer election as musician didn't like his father. This song was written little bit after Mike's dad passed the way. The lyrics revels how guilty he felted for not to have a better relationship with him. After all the message is forget and love your love ones. Enjoy them, ' cos at last,... We don't know how long we're gonna stay in this World. Salutes!
I feel you, Harri. I was 15 when my little brother was taken in a terrible accident. While we had never fought, I was both brother and dad to him, helping to raise him since he was born. I was at work when it happened and I felt the guilt of not being there for him when I should have for almost 40 years. It was only a few years ago that I found I could resolve my feelings by finally accepting there was nothing I could have done and no way to foresee what happened. But what I wouldn't give for just a few minutes to tell him one more time that I love him. I have two sons now, both in their 20s. I distinctly recall how I felt when they were the same age as my little brother and how I became overprotective for that time until I realised what I was doing. Say it now.
Every time, I always wonder if I showed my parents how very much I loved them. I was a complete little shit growing up. My parents never, ever gave up on me and were always there!
I prefer your true and authentic self and besides its charming to see a man not deny their true feelings and emotions keep it up and don't change yourself for nobody! Be yourself it's very endearing to see
Even though I had my dad until his ripe old age of 91 & told him how much I loved & respected him, I neglected to broach the subject of the way his words wounded me sometimes. I was too weak or afraid that if I did, his response would only wound me more. I was too concerned about his feelings & how my words would affect him & how I would feel if his words were unfeeling & harsh that I would be hurt more. Five years later I still wonder if opening a dialog about this would have given him an opportunity to apologize & an opportunity for healing.
Beautifully spoken analogy from your reaction Harry. Life is to short. Tomorrow is not promised no one! You hit the nail on the head brother! Thanks for your heartfelt❤advice to those people who refuse to speak to one another for whatever reason. Your reaction made me tear up, I could feel your emotions man. I believe your father is always with you and your children, as is mine with my children. God bless you and your family! 🙏✌
Thankful for your vulnerability. This song goes straight to the heart of what we universally may be struggling with. Life is too short indeed. It takes both to want to reconnect, and that's not always an achievable thing.
My father suffered from MS for 20 years before passing at 49 years of age. He been gone for 20 years and not a day goes by that this 53 year old doesn't think of and miss my father. I never got to recall know him as an adult, nor did the fact that the illness put him in a wheelchair allow us to do much of anything together. We were both into sports and hunting, fishing, but the wheelchair never allowed that. Allow water to go under the bridge and bury any issues while you still have the chance.
They say there’s only one thing worse than death…that’s having those who are the closest to you die. Huge props to you Harry. We’ve all been there. The pain is real. ❤
I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Father. I can only imagine that He looks down on you and is very, very proud of you. This is one of the Top Father’s Day tracks out there.
My parents split in 1975 when I was 5. I never had much of a relationship with him after that. I was deployed to the Gulf War in 1991 and I got a letter from him. I was angry, I wrote back but didnt want much from him. He died several years ago and I never spoke to him. This song is tough for sure. I cant blame myself, I was so young and never had a chance to grow up and make peace.
I think that one thing great thing about this song is that it doesn't say who is "right" and "wrong". You have to accept that you're simply *not* going to see eye-to-eye with your {parents | children | friends} about everything. But you should keep those connections and friendships open, even though there are some things which you're just never going to agree on. You need to respect the things that do bond you together, or you're going to live many years regretting the walls you built up.
Perfectly said & something many seem to miss. Relationships with parents are not always easy, but yes, keep the connection, accept your differences. Talk if you can, but if not, just accept. Different generations, different perspectives.
What a beautiful reaction man, really got me thinking. It's my birthday today you filmed this a year ago. You wouldn't have known a year ago this is what I needed today. Thank you.
Harry my brother it is very much a pleasure to watch you give your heart felt reactions. We all have feelings and regrets. I lost both parents by the age of 27. All the life advice I needed and missed. I would give anything to hold them one more time. God bless you sir and keep your videos coming.
There is no death people. You can still have a relationship with loved ones who are non physical. It's different of course, but absolutely possible. This Multiverse is beautiful and amazing..........we are ALL connected.
There is death. But when you think you’re communicating with the dead it’s actually demons and will lead you to Hell. Those are demonic spirits masquerading as people you know. But if you really want to communicate with your loved ones post death - give your life to Jesus Christ so you’ll meet them in Heaven if they surrendered their life to the Lord before passing. Just remember, there are no friends in Hell. Choose the Lord Jesus Christ.
Went through a hell & back five year gauntlet of half mad gatekeeping & abusive relations just to get in contact with my biodad finally in 2004. Spent a halting, awkward next few years trying to build some relationship between us as adults, only to have him pass on in 2008. Being his sole surviving inheritor having left no will meant inheriting a surreal stranger's few belongings not lost along the way by a lifetime of being a touring musician. This song kicks me so hard in the feels I think I could have mike arrested on assault charges. Its power never diminishes to me, personally. There is a profound, deeply layered wisdom expressed in every line. Heck, the reason I found you was of my need to occasionally replay this song on the anniversery of his passing. This is as potent wisdom as can be told between humans, and as close to a expressing the shape of a wound to those of us who didn't or couldnt make make use of those living years.
@@HarriBestReactions It comes from an honest place, with a number of years to dwell & reflect on my unquiet ghosts. I don't mean in a literal sense, of course. Just haunted by memories & regrets for things I might have done differently. Life is too short, too precious. In our constant distraction by trivial things we all too easily let all what's really important slip away from us until it's too late. Music has become very important to me, I wish i'd spent more time learning to perform it when I was surrounded by all those remarkable musicians every day as a child growing up on the road. If you don't mind some suggestions, when I indulge that special place of melancholy as a purgative coping mechanism this song is part of a very selective playlist. Perhaps you may draw some value from it as I have. James Taylor's "fire & rain" Dan Fogelberg "leader of the band" Dixie Chicks "landslide" Israel Kamakawiwo'le "somewhere over the rainbow" Patty Loveless "you'll never leave harlan alive" Eric Clapton "tears in heaven"/"fathers eyes" Metisse "Boom Boom Ba" Peter Gabriel's album(!) "Up". Blue Oyster Cult "Dont fear the reaper". (No idea what all you've listened to or not, so just putting this all out there, for you or whomever else may need music to carry you through some dark spots) Thanks for responding back! Cheers, mate!
My father died from cancer, & found out 6 months before he passed away. Sadly there were times when I did argue with him, moreso than happy times. I did & do love him & this song certainly means so much to me. RIP Dad 💝💝
The lead singer Paul Carrack does this song still to this day as a solo artist. Although he didn't wrote it but has a strong emotional connection since his own father died when he was only 11 in a industrial accident.
I absolutely love songs that someone wrote from the heart that other people can relate to!!! Love this! I remember hearing this back in the day but never took it the way I do now!!!
Please dont apologize for your honest reaction to this emotional song. That's why I come here. I'm sure everybody who's heard Living Years has a similar reaction because its very powerful. Thanks for covering this one.
God bless you. I also lost my father 4 years ago. We were close I've talked to him almost everyday of my life but that's never enough once you've lost a dear one.
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My dad passed in 1995. Dad told me on his deathbed that I was a good daughter, that I'd always been a good girl. I was 40 at the time. He asked me to look after my Mom 'until he could come home'. He never did. I hope he sees that I've spent all these years taking care of Mom, just like he asked. I miss him so much.
God bless you. I know exactly how much you love and miss your father. My Dad passed away 50 years ago and I still miss him. 😢❤
My dad passed in 1995 too, and I didn't get to see him because the hospital didn't think it was a good idea. I wish I had so many things I wanted to say to him. I hope he and Mom are together and dancing in heaven. RIP, Daddy, July 10th, 1951- July 8th, 1995 and Mom, January 16th, 1947- May 4th, 2021. I love and miss you both
I regularly talk to my Dad. We get on OK now. It's important. X
You are loved for doing so
Miss my dad so much I cry at this song as one of his favourite songs
I was rushed home from Afghanistan to be with my family and say goodbye to my dad. I got to my parents house and walked into my dad's bedroom. My mother made everyone leave so I could be alone with him. We talked and he told me he was very proud of me. After about 15 minutes I told mom to bring everyone back in. My dad passed away 10 minutes later. That 15 minutes was the best 15 minutes of my life.
God I miss that man.
God bless you man. Your dad heard your voice as he left to go back home. He is on the other side waiting for you in a world so beautiful that your own 'earth-bound' mind can't even imagine it... for now. That's what's coming your way my friend... an infinitely beautiful existence on higher levels where all existence is based on love.
God bless you, brother. May your dad rest in peace.
Love this
My Dad passed suddenly, and without warning in 2002. The night before, I had gone to see him. The last thing that I ever did with him, was give him a hug and say, "I love you." Not a day goes by that I am not thankful that it was the last interaction between us. Since then, especially now that I am older(and terminally ill), I make sure that I say that to my loved ones every chance I get,, because I know what a comfort it has been to me for the past 20+ years. I suggest that everybody do the same
My dad drowned when I was 5 and I was devastated even then. 67 years later I still think about him and wonder what we missed together. I cry every time I hear this haunting song.
You poor fellow. You were dealt a blow. The absence in your life must have made you feel cheated. You didn't have a dad to fall out with and finally realise he was right all the time. God love you John.
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God Bless you
God Bless you
Yes I know
This song makes me cry every time. Not exaggerating. Literally every time.
you're not alone
@@HarriBestReactions every time too for years, saw them at a festival cried like a little girl everyone was looking at me, I think they understood
Those final words
I wasn't there that morning
When my Father passed away
I didn't get to tell him
All the things I had to say
I think I caught his spirit
Later that same year
I'm sure I heard his echo
In my baby's new born tears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years
I love you Dad even though you wasn't there i miss you ...
Me 2
I am mopping up my face right now.
The sad story of me and my late father, the day I picked up the phone, time had already run out and it was too late for us. I'm 60 years old and I can't listen to this song without breaking uncontrollably in tears. Song is from 1988.
Never be ashamed of shedding tears for those you have loved and lost.
I'm 44 and I just lost my Dad on September 19, 2023. Even though he and I fixed things in our own way, it still hurts. But he's always with me, and I see him in my 3-year-old daughter's smile. Talk to your parents. PLEASE. Love you Dad. Forever. Until Valhalla.
I lost my dad on the same day 2023
Real men show emotion so thank you for showing your humanity.
God bless you
Tears come easy listening to this song. If you need a good cry put this on, but have your phone close so you can make that phone call. You know who have to call.
This guy sums this song up so well for millions of people ❤
Your honesty is the best reaction. Thank you, Harri.
If this song doesn't get to you, you aren't human. I cry every time I hear it.
Beautiful song! My dad is battling cancer and he's scared. We don't have the best relationship, but I will try to do everything to be the best son I can...
Hello Brian, I'm 82 years young, and have just been diagnosed with a form Aggressive Cancer, I will do all I can to reconnect with All my grown up kids, love and respect from Perth Australia. 😎🖐🦘
I don’t know if your Dad is still with you 🙏…
If you spent the time trying to just be present with him the past doesn’t matter. You were there when it really mattered and that is a blessing 😇🙏
Please help your dad to see past his fear. Oddly for your own sake as well as his.
Find someone from his life he's missed, like his parents or maybe a sibling, who've gone ahead to talk about before he gets to his last days.
When those last days arrive reassure him that he will not be alone as he leaves here to set off on his next big adventure because the people you've been talking about will be waiting for him.
For my dad in the very early hours of the day he died as he became restless to help calm him I described a 'party bus' (my parents had both been tram conductors, mum during dad after the war) filled with both my grans, my aunt (his sister) drinking a Cinzano & lemonade, my brother and cousin jiving down the aisle and my uncle (his BIL) making sure there was enough food in the buffet whilst sneaking treats to the long gone family dogs and finally I told him I could see mum in her conductress' uniform hand out waiting for his fare - side dig as he genuinely forgot his money on their first date!
For my late partner who died in 2022 his younger daughter and I were by his hospital bed as his elder daughter and only granddaughter were with us, from their home in Scotland 4 hours away, via Watsapp. His girls told him how proud of him and to be his daughters they were whereas I thanked him for our "Adventure of a Lifetime" (one of our fave Coldplay songs - not bad for a guy who was 81 at the time) but eventually it was me who 'gave him permission' to leave us as some people seem to need.
I thanked him for fighting to stay as long as he had but then told him that he wouldn't be alone when he left us because Doreen, his late wife who died in '91, and Emily, twin to his younger daughter who only lived for around 24hrs, were waiting for him and that he and Emily had 50 years to catch up on.
I think it took his girls aback to hear me speak so easily about their mum but as I told his daughter just before we left the hospital Doreen had never been a ghost to me.
I hope you find a way to allay your dad's fear.
Didnt talk to my pops for five years and it sucked. Really glad I came to my sense swallowed my pride and let him back into my life. Lifes too short to stay mad at the ones you love.
My brother and I had a terrible fight for years. I was lucky enough to make peace with him, before his heart stopped. NEVER wait!
I LOST MY MOM AND DAD 3 WEEKS APART. AND 40 YEARS LATER I STILL CRY FOR THEM.😢😢😢
Lost my Dad Dec 2008, lost my Mum Jan 2009 2 weeks later 😢both in not particularly nice ways, miss them every day and I wish I had had longer with them both, trouble is you think your parents are going to be there forever and you feel very vulnerable when they have gone. Make sure you tell all your family how much they mean to you and never ever go to bed on an argument with anyone you are close to.😢
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We lost my brilliant wonderful grandparents 2nd and 20th December 2002 my Nan held on to see my son on his 7th birthday on the 19th then left to be with grandad. It feels like yesterday even though it’s nearly 22 years. I miss them terribly
Beautiful song. I lost my father earlier this year to Covid-19. Holds even more meaning to me now, especially the last verse as " I wasn't there that morning, when my father passed away". Heartbreaking 💔
But we left nothing unsaid.
So sorry to hear that Karen..May his soul RIP
@@HarriBestReactions Please accept my condolences on the loss of your father. I have loved this song since it's release, it's such a reminder not to let time pass to say the things we need to say as tomorrow is not promised. Your comment really touched me, it brought tears to my eyes. So happy that you left nothing unsaid, I hope it brings some comfort to you during this time. Both my parents died unexpectedly and I did not have the chance to say the things I would have wanted to say. We were never estranged and saw each other frequently but sometimes we just don't talk about the important stuff. Such regret! Take care and be well.
RIP
hug
My heart goes out to you.
That last verse is especially poignant to me, too. My Dad passed away when my son was just a few months old. I constantly think about the things that they both missed out on by not getting the chance to know each other.
Harry, my son was born in 1998. The first thing I saw in my baby was my Father's face. This song started up in my head and I did catch my Father's spirit at that moment. I still talk to my Father and tell my son about him all the time. May peace be with you.
I am currently estranged from my adult son, and it kills me. This song hits harder now than it did when I was 12 and it first came out.
Harry, my friend, I have great respect for your posting your honest reaction to this song. There is no reason to apologize for not being upbeat after hearing such a deeply emotional song. You probably have a few hundred viewers who wanted to give you a brotherly hug. You're also absolutely correct that this song translates to nearly every culture. I played this for my daughter a few years ago and before the last chorus, she burst into tears, held me tightly (cutting off circulation) and made me promise to never die. While I could promise it, I did decide to get healthy (lost 52 lbs). So, if there is even one person who heeds your message to sort out their differences before it's too late, then I am positive to the core of my soul that your father would be very proud of you. Cheers!
Wow! Thats such a touching story..Hugs and live to your daughter..she might have just saved your life..Kudos to the healthier you
Great singer and band. The chorus added much power and emotion to the song.
Yes, you can say it to him. Our loved ones who have passed away are aware of our lives now, and will understand more than we can imagine.
I have cried many times when I hear this song. I lost my dad 2 years ago and I miss him so much.
...to missing our dads ❤
I always post his song online every Father's Day. I ask all who hear it to learn to live by the words.
My father passed over29 years ago, we had a huge falling out and didn't speak to each other the last ten years of his life , I would give anything to change that.
I didn't speak to my father for 35 years but after my mom died I reached out we're good now.
This song came out the same year I lost my dad. It's guaranteed to make me cry every time.
This song is pure poetry. I never really 'listened' to the lyrics of this song despite hearing it thousands of times on the radio. It was only after my pops died that it resonated with me. I always cry when I hear it now , it's almost as though its a different song - the meaning now is so clear
I love the contrast of a child choir on one side and then an adult choir on the other ...
For all of us who have lost a loved one. This track never fails , to bring on the tears.
Harri,
This song says it all. My dad and I had a fight the day before he passed, but we made up that night. "I love you" was the last thing we said to each other. The next time I saw him after that, was at the funeral home. He was only 34 and it was exactly one week prior to my 14th birthday. Years later, my two children's birthdates literally bookend the date of my dad's passing.
Dad's passing was 48 years ago. I still thank God for us settling our quarrel the evening before he passed.
Lost my stepdad of 42 years 2 years ago. I missed my time to thank him for taking me in as his own son as he passed unexpectedly. It was just as hard if not harder losing him as it was my biological dad.
Another song that kind of goes hand in hand with this one is 'Cat's In the Cradle' by Harry Chapin. Speaks to what you spoke of chasing something in your life and thinking you would spend time with your dad later. Thank you for sharing Harri. Appreciate your honest reactions and a big virtual hug and much love to you brother.
So eerie reading your comment. My dad died 50 years ago at age 36, two days after my 15th birthday. My wife and I shared the same birthday and our oldest son was born 3 days before it. In one 5 day period we have 3 birthdays and my fathers passing. I lost my wife 2 years ago to cancer. This song just gets more relevant and harder to listen to. Take care.
@steveturner3999 Thank you for sharing, Steve. I am so sorry for the recent loss of your wife. My prayers to you and your kids for peace and strength. As unbelievable as this may sound, my ex-wife(my 2 kids' mom) passed away unexpectedly 2-1/2 years ago. Her birthdate(day & month) was the same date as my dad's passing.
@@squired2802 Wow! Needless to say I will remember you.
@@steveturner3999 As I will you...
my son & I saw Mike & the Mechanics in concert. i cried like a baby listening to it with my son sleeping with his head on my lap
Mike is /was the guitar player in Genesis
Such a beautiful, profound song. From Mike Rutherford and his mechanics. My father passed away and I never got to say I love you..."In the Living Years".
My dad died when I was 20. Of course I didn’t get to tell him all the things I had to say. But my daughter, his first grandchild, was born one week before he died. He held her once as we were in the same hospital.
Thus “I’m sure I heard his echo in my baby’s newborn tears” hit me hard at the time.
I claimed the song as our own, back then in the 80s. 💔
Paul Carrack, the singer, comes from Sheffield like me 😁
In 1972 I was15 and I lost my dad. Several years later I admitted to his brother that he reminded me of him.
I was terribly embarrassed at the time to have admitted this but very thankful that my uncle understood, and was careful in kindly pointing out that he could never be a replacement.
Harri, I think you are such a thoughtful, sincere, kind, open, honest, genuine, stand-up man and I just wanted to thank you for that. It doesn't have to be someone we love or even know, but i just wanted to say these things to you while we are in "The Living Years". Blessings and Peace upon you, Brother.
Lisa you are such a sweet soul..I was still smiling from your last comment,then i see this..Thanx Lisa💙
Such a lovely comment! If we all did this regularly the world would be a better place. Thank you for the reminder.
The human condition, mistakes, regret and pain, but if we learn from our life experiences, we can move forward.. love your honest and intelligent reaction. All the best to you.
Thanx Alicia😀
First time I’ve seen your channel. A wonderful heartfelt reaction. I always have a hard time listening to this song without crying because of unresolved or unsaid things with several friends and family members who have passed away. I agree with you - talk before it’s too late. Thank you, Harri.
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The song is a great one when it reaches our heart....
I never used to tell my dad I loved him as it always felt a little “un cool” when I was a kid. As an adult watching my dad get older as I do, I tell my dad every time we talk/meet that I love him.
Don’t have regrets. ❤️🙏❤️
My father had many regrets not telling his father what he wanted to say before he passed. This song became his favorite. He played this for me when I was a child and I never fully grasped the truth expressed in this song until I became much older. Now this song is one of my favorites. Thank you for your reaction and your experience.
After hearing this a long time ago , i used it as a catalyst to make sure i saw as much of my dad as possible knowing one day he wouldn't be here and spend time with him, after 4 yrs without him im so glad i did, still hurts but hopefully did him proud.
I’m a Son and a Father. My dad passed when I was 43, two years later I was hit with autoimmune diseases that have taken most of me. My son and I are close, but I’m sure he has things to say…I hope he does. My dad and I had a pretty great relationship, but this song really hits me as so much was still left unsaid. I just needed someone to cry with someone…thanks.
I cry each and every time I hear this and I had a great relationship with my dad. beautiful beautiful song!
Lost my dad in 2006 to cirrhosis of the liver, he was a disabled Vietnam Vet, and the drinking and stuff killed him. Two months later, I lost my stermother to ALS, Lou Gehrigs Disease. And a year later, lost my brother to suicide, and all within that short timespan, I had a stroke, and went through a divorce. I never got to properly mourn them, and to this day would give anything to be able to talk to them again. Tjis song hits so close to home for me.
This song always got me. More so now in my 50s, having lost both parents and my sisters, i can't get through the first verse. Amazing when music can take you on a journey. When it can reach in and grab your heart and soul. It's a beautiful thing.
They are singing every word I feel. I loved my father and mother so very very much. Did they know? I was, without doubt a trial and tribulation. Oh God I do hope so, if not I do not think I can ever forgive myself!
They knew. Parents always know deep down that we love them.
I was 17 when my mom passed away.That was 28 years ago now.
I was 17 when my Dad passed away on 11th April, 1971. 50 years ago now and I still miss him.4My Mum passed on 25th May,1996 so 25 years ago.
May she rip, mothers....their special aren't they.
There is a way to talk to those who have passed away!! Myself, I have always have been stricken by the fact that those people lost are now able to read our minds!! Then, they know they were loved!! Conversations take place in our hearts on this kindred spirit level that settle and resolve completely!! I still think it is way more real to do this "In The Living Years"
Lost my dad to a massive coronary in 2000. Never got to tell him I lived him one more time and he never got to meet my baby girl or got to know my son. I think of him every time I hear this song.
Mike and his dad were distanced. In part because his carecer election as musician didn't like his father. This song was written little bit after Mike's dad passed the way. The lyrics revels how guilty he felted for not to have a better relationship with him. After all the message is forget and love your love ones. Enjoy them, ' cos at last,... We don't know how long we're gonna stay in this World. Salutes!
Wow. Harri you moved me with this one. I’m so glad I was close to my dad until the end. He was always the rock I could lean on.
That 3rd verse always hits super hard
I feel the same for my uncle. I really, really wish I could see him and talk to him just for one more hour.
I feel you, Harri. I was 15 when my little brother was taken in a terrible accident. While we had never fought, I was both brother and dad to him, helping to raise him since he was born. I was at work when it happened and I felt the guilt of not being there for him when I should have for almost 40 years. It was only a few years ago that I found I could resolve my feelings by finally accepting there was nothing I could have done and no way to foresee what happened. But what I wouldn't give for just a few minutes to tell him one more time that I love him.
I have two sons now, both in their 20s. I distinctly recall how I felt when they were the same age as my little brother and how I became overprotective for that time until I realised what I was doing. Say it now.
Every time, I always wonder if I showed my parents how very much I loved them. I was a complete little shit growing up. My parents never, ever gave up on me and were always there!
Very deep song that I've had the privilege to see Live.
God Bless You..
This is a beautiful song. Very moving and powerful. Message is clear not to leave things unsaid. It may be too late otherwise. Don't have regret.
Sitting at my favorite pub. Trying to not tear up. Dad died 11 yrs ago.. trying to hold back tears.
I prefer your true and authentic self and besides its charming to see a man not deny their true feelings and emotions keep it up and don't change yourself for nobody! Be yourself it's very endearing to see
Even though I had my dad until his ripe old age of 91 & told him how much I loved & respected him, I neglected to broach the subject of the way his words wounded me sometimes. I was too weak or afraid that if I did, his response would only wound me more. I was too concerned about his feelings & how my words would affect him & how I would feel if his words were unfeeling & harsh that I would be hurt more. Five years later I still wonder if opening a dialog about this would have given him an opportunity to apologize & an opportunity for healing.
I feel your pain. I lost my father 22 years ago. Thanks for sharing. Much love and respect from Baltimore as always.
''I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away '' a line that resonates with us all .
Your dad is looking down from Heaven and is proud of you ♥️
Beautifully spoken analogy from your reaction Harry. Life is to short. Tomorrow is not promised no one! You hit the nail on the head brother! Thanks for your heartfelt❤advice to those people who refuse to speak to one another for whatever reason. Your reaction made me tear up, I could feel your emotions man. I believe your father is always with you and your children, as is mine with my children. God bless you and your family! 🙏✌
Thankful for your vulnerability. This song goes straight to the heart of what we universally may be struggling with. Life is too short indeed. It takes both to want to reconnect, and that's not always an achievable thing.
God bless you Harry and thanks. Many tears.
My father suffered from MS for 20 years before passing at 49 years of age. He been gone for 20 years and not a day goes by that this 53 year old doesn't think of and miss my father. I never got to recall know him as an adult, nor did the fact that the illness put him in a wheelchair allow us to do much of anything together. We were both into sports and hunting, fishing, but the wheelchair never allowed that. Allow water to go under the bridge and bury any issues while you still have the chance.
They say there’s only one thing worse than death…that’s having those who are the closest to you die. Huge props to you Harry. We’ve all been there. The pain is real. ❤
I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Father. I can only imagine that He looks down on you and is very, very proud of you. This is one of the Top Father’s Day tracks out there.
To late for me and my dad RIP Dad sorry for everything and I do and always did love you
My parents split in 1975 when I was 5. I never had much of a relationship with him after that. I was deployed to the Gulf War in 1991 and I got a letter from him. I was angry, I wrote back but didnt want much from him. He died several years ago and I never spoke to him. This song is tough for sure. I cant blame myself, I was so young and never had a chance to grow up and make peace.
Thank you Harry for your heartfelt emotions yes this song tugs at the heartstrings 😢 I wish , I should have said more , thanks again!
I think that one thing great thing about this song is that it doesn't say who is "right" and "wrong". You have to accept that you're simply *not* going to see eye-to-eye with your {parents | children | friends} about everything. But you should keep those connections and friendships open, even though there are some things which you're just never going to agree on. You need to respect the things that do bond you together, or you're going to live many years regretting the walls you built up.
Perfectly said & something many seem to miss. Relationships with parents are not always easy, but yes, keep the connection, accept your differences. Talk if you can, but if not, just accept. Different generations, different perspectives.
LOVE THIS SONG AND THE LYRICS
I love your reactions. You feel like a friend I've known my whole life. Hugs my good man.
What a beautiful reaction man, really got me thinking. It's my birthday today you filmed this a year ago. You wouldn't have known a year ago this is what I needed today. Thank you.
Great vocals, Great lyrics = Great Song!! ♠W.G.
Never apologise for your emotions. Thank you for a beautiful video. Stay safe ❤️🙏❤️
Harry my brother it is very much a pleasure to watch you give your heart felt reactions. We all have feelings and regrets. I lost both parents by the age of 27. All the life advice I needed and missed. I would give anything to hold them one more time. God bless you sir and keep your videos coming.
This song is so true thank you Harri.
There is no death people. You can still have a relationship with loved ones who are non physical. It's different of course, but absolutely possible. This Multiverse is beautiful and amazing..........we are ALL connected.
There is death. But when you think you’re communicating with the dead it’s actually demons and will lead you to Hell. Those are demonic spirits masquerading as people you know. But if you really want to communicate with your loved ones post death - give your life to Jesus Christ so you’ll meet them in Heaven if they surrendered their life to the Lord before passing. Just remember, there are no friends in Hell. Choose the Lord Jesus Christ.
@@tennesseeminnissi2445 no no no
One of the most heartwrenching and beautiful songs ever.
I loved this honest reaction.
This song is precious for us all. I'm sending love and comfort to you and all who need it today.
One of the most emotive and meaningful songs ever. I've watched and listened to a number of reactions about it. Thanks for yours.
every time. the loss of your dad you are brave and strong xx
With you, buddy! 👍
Went through a hell & back five year gauntlet of half mad gatekeeping & abusive relations just to get in contact with my biodad finally in 2004. Spent a halting, awkward next few years trying to build some relationship between us as adults, only to have him pass on in 2008. Being his sole surviving inheritor having left no will meant inheriting a surreal stranger's few belongings not lost along the way by a lifetime of being a touring musician. This song kicks me so hard in the feels I think I could have mike arrested on assault charges. Its power never diminishes to me, personally. There is a profound, deeply layered wisdom expressed in every line. Heck, the reason I found you was of my need to occasionally replay this song on the anniversery of his passing. This is as potent wisdom as can be told between humans, and as close to a expressing the shape of a wound to those of us who didn't or couldnt make make use of those living years.
Powerful experience you shared here mate
@@HarriBestReactions It comes from an honest place, with a number of years to dwell & reflect on my unquiet ghosts. I don't mean in a literal sense, of course. Just haunted by memories & regrets for things I might have done differently. Life is too short, too precious. In our constant distraction by trivial things we all too easily let all what's really important slip away from us until it's too late.
Music has become very important to me, I wish i'd spent more time learning to perform it when I was surrounded by all those remarkable musicians every day as a child growing up on the road.
If you don't mind some suggestions, when I indulge that special place of melancholy as a purgative coping mechanism this song is part of a very selective playlist. Perhaps you may draw some value from it as I have.
James Taylor's "fire & rain"
Dan Fogelberg "leader of the band"
Dixie Chicks "landslide"
Israel Kamakawiwo'le "somewhere over the rainbow"
Patty Loveless "you'll never leave harlan alive"
Eric Clapton "tears in heaven"/"fathers eyes"
Metisse "Boom Boom Ba"
Peter Gabriel's album(!) "Up".
Blue Oyster Cult "Dont fear the reaper".
(No idea what all you've listened to or not, so just putting this all out there, for you or whomever else may need music to carry you through some dark spots)
Thanks for responding back! Cheers, mate!
Hits home every time...
You have my full attention.
Love this song. So deep yet so emotional! Great reaction!
My father died from cancer, & found out 6 months before he passed away. Sadly there were times when I did argue with him, moreso than happy times. I did & do love him & this song certainly means so much to me. RIP Dad 💝💝
The lead singer Paul Carrack does this song still to this day as a solo artist. Although he didn't wrote it but has a strong emotional connection since his own father died when he was only 11 in a industrial accident.
really brings it home doesn't it - beautiful but a hard, emotional listen.
I listened to this song with my dad. I’m so grateful, for the song, the time, the conversation, and his homemade muscadine wine.
I absolutely love songs that someone wrote from the heart that other people can relate to!!! Love this! I remember hearing this back in the day but never took it the way I do now!!!
I lost my dad a couple of days ago. I just don't know what to do right now, but this was so beautiful and so helpful.
Thank-you Harri.
Please dont apologize for your honest reaction to this emotional song. That's why I come here. I'm sure everybody who's heard Living Years has a similar reaction because its very powerful. Thanks for covering this one.
God bless you. I also lost my father 4 years ago. We were close I've talked to him almost everyday of my life but that's never enough once you've lost a dear one.