What Triggers You Is a Gift
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- Опубликовано: 17 сен 2024
- In this video you'll see Peter Crone helping a young woman find freedom on the other side of being triggered by her roommate.
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"Im not safe" Is also in the body. Trauma is as physical as it is mental.
Yes, 100%
not just mental.. it is literly in the body-cells and trying getting it out is difficult.
Yeah... Certain breathing exercises and somatic therapy will help here.
However, understanding the concept through our conscious (logical) mind does help as a first step.
This was my thinking too. It’s become patterned into the neurophysiology. In fact, may not be in the conscious mind at all, but rather the body takes over. Still this is valuable, but not enough for everyone to clear on the just the mental level.
to avoid confrontation u put yourself in a constant confrontation, omg, so true
Could you please explain?
I get it, but would need clarity.
@@irshikha just watch the video, its a quote from the talk
@@dagmarvoltnerova8993 that's right. When I heard that, I couldn't understand much.
However, you agreed to it.
So, I thought you may have certain example or clarity on this.
@@irshikha ok, this is how i interpret it: as a trauma-aware person i see myself constantly walking on eggshells, meaning, i m always on the lookout, the reality i perceive is that i m always one look away, one moment away, one remark away from a conflict. Which means i am constantly tensed, monitoring, preventing, managing a potential confrontation. As a result of this story/perceived realty I m not relaxed, never really, never deeply conflict-free.
@@dagmarvoltnerova8993 oh! That's so true. You've explained beautifully.
I can relate it to the analogy of "DON'T imagine a _pink_ elephant".
Voila! That's the first thing you'll imagine.
Instead, we must replace it with what we want instead. For eg. "Imagine a _yellow_ elephant".
The Guesthouse
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
~Rumi
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I love this! Thank you!
As a human family, those of us who are strong enough, can practice deep listening and creating safe spaces with compassionate mindful kindfulness. This will radiate.
Your family understands this and lives this way, or just you? I am the only one who seems to understand this. What am I not seeing?
@@GBD81 I am one of two, and it's radiating to some.
Everyone is capable of this at some stage
I liked this and here’s why: Many of us are practicing spirituality and trying to be more “Aware” or “Present”. We read eckhart Tolle, meditate, watch videos etc. Then we do our lives and instantly fall back asleep. This video takes what on the surface appears to be this mundane yoga session which is so much a nothing burger and we are shown HOW to use awareness and presence to discover what is really happening and it’s very deep and important and not a nothing burger.
Wow this is powerful. I often feel that way. “I am not safe”. And I literally hide. Thank you. But now, I am not, not safe.
Holy crap! I'm so sorry to hear feeling unsafe is such a "normal" thing. Be strong folks
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Welcome to the society collective choices led us too, nobody is a saint here, came to experience heaven for the hell of it
Me to a 'T'.. I'm crying. Need to listen again. 🙏💖💫 Thank You Peter Crone and that lovely girl 🤗
Me too. Never knew what had happened to me to make me "this" way
I just wanted to comment incase the woman who volunteered reads these comments. I can see that you are a very giving person and are mindful of the wellbeing of those around you. I’m not too familiar with this speaker but there were a lot of moments where she was patient when he didn’t quite understand and helped him along when his jokes didn’t quite land. She was the perfect volunteer in being open and honest. It’s a beautiful and undervalued trait to have (being mindful and caring of others) but I can see why it can bring on troubling feelings for her and I hope she can find the liberation she is looking for. I just hope she knows that her “ people pleasing” doesn’t come off as entirely selfish or from a place of insecurity. Maybe it can come from a place of “ I care, I care about you “ . it’s refreshing to see or be around someone that cares.
Came across your video, don't know how but it showed up. I am grateful for that since this is something I'm dealing with on daily basis. Just seeing that I am not alone with these behaviors and feelings make me feel less alone. I am going to approach instead of avoiding and pushing away. Thank you Peter and brave girl talking about this!
Same here. Great timing for this video, and it was a helpful framing for the issue. Hope you work through it and come out happy and strong. You got this!
I assume the algorithm fed me it because I've watched a lot of podcasts with him. lots of good stuff in those.
The universal algorithm!💛
@@SisterSunnyFreeSpiritAgree!✨
@@SkavopThank you for your kind words! Have a nice day ☀️
This is such a powerful segment. I also had to work on feeling safe in my adult life. What helped me when triggered was putting my hands on my heart, closing my eyes and telling myself several times "you are safe, it's ok" as if I am telling this to my scared inner child. Even now, at 42 sometimes the tears come, sorrowful tears that I and then any child in this world had to ever feel scared of their own parents/caretakers. It's good to let that sorrow go.
Wow thank you for sharing!!! I AM in Trauma Therapy 😮and yes I need to put my hand on my heart 💜 and reassure my inner child 👧🏻 she is safe!!! We are safe!!!! 😊
Thank you, we can’t thank a teacher enough in 1000 life times. You are both my teachers and I’m blessed
OMG #TruthBombs one after another! Liked, Subscribed & Shared!!!
"Where does the 'I'm not safe' exist then?" "The mind." (19:12)
I totally agree that its in the mind but isn't it also in the body?
We're learning so much about the nervous system and how the body also stores these events/stories/emotions and how realizing at a logical level what happened and what we want our new empowering stories to be isn't always enough - we also need to work with the body to release that stored trauma.
Wondering if Peter has any exercises or thoughts on that? Or, is when he talks about sound/vibration/energy dipping into that?
absolutely loved this demonstration though - powerful. thank you!
I was thinking the same thing about the CNS and how the body stores stories/trauma. I would love know what he thinks about somatic therapy.
Yes there's a book called The body keeps the score that explains exactly this
I love her voice. Thank you for sharing. What a great message Thank you
She seems a lovely caring friend. Good on her! Good person!
Thank you… so many helpful insights for me at this time. ⚡️
Omg, Peter, this is brilliant! 🙏🌱🌸🙏💞
The exercise done at the end is based on Shelly Lefkoe method and Byron Katie
Sometimes, when Peter is explaining something so transparently, my mind goes blank. Not because it is too complex, it is more as if my mind goes: nope, don't want you to get this. I listened to parts of this 5 times and it happened again and again. As if it shuts itself off. Which is kind of scary, because it shows me how I obviously "direct" the input I receive, in whatever form. Does anyone know this experience too maybe?
Edit: thank you for your comments. The message of this conversation is slowly sinking in on so many levels.
Another reason, why this may be hard is, that I have to realise how much life I have lived in this "false" reality (I know, there is no ONE reality as such, in this scenario rather). I have to face and learn to forgive myself for not having been able to see and feel more clearly for such along time - for having mislead my life in a major way. Picking up the pieces.
Very thankful for this conversation between Peter and the woman in the audience. And the kind community here too.
Afraid to learn a new perspective
gosh that sounds so challenging. You really want to understand and 'get it' and it doesn't appear to be sinking in. That experience shows huge self awareness and wisdom in what is happening rather than turning it around on yourself. When you see it as a part of yourself and not you. I experience this too on my biggest 'blocks'. Thank you for sharing your insight into what is happening.
Perhaps sit with that part of yourself and ask the question why out of curiosity. Not to get rid of it but to understand. It may be something you picked up through the education system when information is fed too quickly into children and not allowed to be digested properly.
You might ask yourself what would happen if you allowed it to sink in.
To me it sounds like it’s possible that there is a part that might be too scared to hear/see this clearly, so it shuts down as protection. It can be really scary for our little parts to hear certain truths, because they feel so unsafe and then we would see how unsafe we were.
Maybe this resonates.
Is it possible it could be a trauma response like dissociation or cognitive dissonance? Just a thought.
Thank you Peter
On point
Bold and honest exchange. I really appreciate your honest engagement . You have a bright future.
Your saviour is waiting for you when you continue to ask such honest questions.
I wish I had your courage everyday.
Profound and such an opprtunity🙏❤️
Great to revisit this morning. Thanks as always.
I'd love to have a lifelong friendship with someone like her. She's an amazing and wholesome human.
What a wonderful surprise to come across this video❤
When i go out into public places, for example grocery shopping, there is a fear of myself/my child dealing with a kidnapping or physical attacks, but there is also the fear of judgements/shame, being yelled at or bullied, sexual advances/harassment, and of being forced to experience something against my will. Not only the life or death scenarios, but also the painful ones.
Peter's comment regarding who raised their hands surprised me, a little bit. Im not surprised, but i have never heard of that before. Is this fear of other people, or of being in public spaces, not a thing that many men experience? Or perhaps they were less willing to admit (in front of other men) that they walk around with anxiety?
She is amazing! Nice work 💕
thank you PC and to the beautiful person who was willing to share.
Standing up and clapping - so, so good, the information you uncover and present - thank you!! I look forward to listening to more of these in the future. Thank you, Peter, for your wisdom and insights. :)
The problem with this whole teaching is that it is too self focused/self absorbed/selfish.. the more you focus inward, the more you will be stuck in your head. The cure is to love, forgive and know that you are forgiven. This is what will take you outside of your SELF. If you just read your Bible, you will be blessed by the best teacher, the Son of God.
Thank you for this lesson 🙏
This was so relevant and perfect timing, I really resonated with her share. The practice at the end, opening to I'm not not safe' how can this be maintained and opened in future events? If a trigger like this comes up again, would it be repeating that? Just trying to understand what the ongoing practice/tenchique is?
Absolute legend.
She wanted approval from her roommate and focusing on her during the workout...was to ensure that she was going to agree with her after the class and that is her Gold Star moment if the roommate approves. Definitely Mommy issues and some control because you dont honor yourself...just be authentic! Do love his approach!💜
That was beautiful 🙏❤
💜 ... just cry ... , so much beauty ...
Big Deep Convos like this Is so Useful.
Thank you Peter.
❤porwerful 😮Thanks you
Amazing! I wish you ran in person groups like this in Connecticut!! 💜💜
So looking forward to this!💝
Thanks 😊💜🙏
Yeah. Most people are not just not willing to deal with the issues they have as the false ego tries to cloud them by not wanting to think that they are wrong. and so, as much as people would want to help them, they project what they are onto what they think others are, where in fact others are just trying to tell them that that is the exact issue.
The fear of the death of the ego being built on fluff is why people contribute to perpetuate situations like these, not knowing that the “fall” would be greater the longer one tries to avoid and be ignorant. Ignorance is never bliss. It’s perceived bliss. Humbling oneself to know that one is truly shitty and weak is the only way to help oneself. and getting triggered by others when people let you know such stuff by claiming that others are egotistical and thinking that they are intelligent is actually more to these people detriment. Not knowing that it’s because they are weak truly that they would feel this way and trying to fight back is only going to cover the wound/ “issue” that needs fixing.
Such as people choosing to listen to people in power as being “correct” and not listening to someone who actually is correct but is a nobody, our “lower-rank” then them. and so, people don’t realise that they are actually more susceptible to manipulation by people who truly don’t want the best for them but play into their ego weakness to “please them” accordingly to what they feel is true. Where they think that people that are helping them are the actual manipulative ones. This is the kind of “manipulation” of most people. They “gaslight” themselves in actuality, thinking that others are “gaslighting” them. They think people that speak the truth are the real enemies and the ones that boost their false egos are the “friends”. and so, as much as truly good people want to help them, they can’t due to their own “defence mechanisms” and unwillingness to “humble” their ego. Their own free will kill them more than others try to kill them, all due to their lack of true wisdom.
That is why, people should understand that what triggers you in where something needs to be addressed and worked on, where you truly are weak. Pain is not the enemy but a sign to let you know what needs to be dealt with. If you try to avoid it, it’s like having a wound and avoiding it and letting it fester just because it’s uncomfortable.
I’m sure he knows more than what he is saying here but he has to limit his “knowledge” to the specific situation that he is in as much as he wants to say certain stuff. The lady might not be able to understand even if he says certain stuff and so he has to “dumb/ tone” down the content to her level at the expense of what he really wants to say to help better.
That is always the issues. We are limited to be truly understood for what we truly want to convey by the darkness of others.
It’s just like Buddha or Jesus (I’m using the concept of the Ascended Masters as all-knowing) probably could have worded the “truths” better. But they can’t exactly do so as they were limited to the understanding of their disciples. and so, the “truths” that was passed down were limited to the wisdom of the people receiving the knowledge from them and might not be the exact “truth”. That is why people often can’t understand, misinterpret due to their level of wisdom and knowledge is confused. People that truly probably are wiser would not get the full picture from others that don’t have the same level of wisdom as they share with their specific level of understanding. and the lesser, wiser people often would get angry with their own ego (as their wisdom is also lesser to begin with) as wiser people try to tell them that the truth is likely not that.
and so, all in all, wiser people need to figure out stuff on their own ultimately.
Wow! That was amazing
This is so powerful ❤
I am not sure that not feeling safe is a thought which are represented as words. I have lived all of my life with a deep feeling of unsafety. Traumatic happenings lodge in the body as a cellular memory ..u cannot heal these wounds through mind and logic, for me only. I would suggest she also changes her living arrangements.I don't mean she cant still be friends but no amount of thought can calm a dysregulated nervous system. That's my take on this for what it is worth.
Great introduction for me to your work.
Fantastic!!
such a good video, helped me get to an emotional clearing too :)
The Work
Brilliant ❤❤
Hello Peter and friends, a beautiful conversation, thank you. The screenshot quote which you read, will you make it available. :) Cheers
Is that Rory McIlroy in the crowd?! If so, I like him even more.
Love
I feel like this could be taken deeper in practices for nervous system healing... Many if us have pre-verbal wounds and those can't be accessed by reasoning. You can reason your way out of mind body problem.
Why does this feel so contrived, produced…
I could be inaccurate you but I've done a lot of body/ problem solving questions. I think I scanned the video until 15 minutes through and if somebody goes through a script of questioning but doesn't bring in feeling their body or feeling their emotions about it most of the time it is just words in the air. Do you agree with that because to be honest I can't be bothered to watch the rest of them the video because it doesn't seem like it's transformational
@@chazcazz2764exactly what I was thinking. Awareness of the issue is important, but it's just the very 1st step, just words if you don't retrain the emotional pattern, which as you said, involves naming it, feeling it fully, and doing the work of deprogramming that pattern (in this case, she might name it fear or terror or some such) and training the new emotional pattern you wish to become more reflexive (she might choose empowerment or peace or freedom). He might do this in other videos, but I won't know! It's not something you do with just the conscience mind as we're seeing here. The subconscious mind is where real change occurs, and that means the emotions must be involved, as they are what create the thoughts and actions they're just talking about here. It's why talk therapy can kinda help some people sort of for a minute, but it doesn't usually help people create actual transformation and the empowerment, freedom, and connection they truly desire.
Insightful and helpful but what is the process to do this by yourself, if you can;t afford therapy or help right now? how do. you unpack the wisdom to arrive to new clarity?
Trigger happy 😂
She just explained why I have put up with decades worth of verbal.abuse from my freaking spouse....thanks DAD
Freedom✨💗✨
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What about feeling inadequate 😢
Yes finally pedro Pietro 🎉
What if someone ease dropping and bud in the conversation when I wasn't talking to them and make me feel inadequate
You are more than welcome. However, don't forget you are a guest here...
Can anyone explain what he means at the end about being in a world that's not safe and she says she feels liberated? Thanks
When she said, "It's okay to be scared...it's okay," it reminded me of the song "It's Okay" by nightbirde: ruclips.net/video/ehA_3AgT8HE/видео.html
THIS
I’m sure he knows more than what he is saying here but he has to limit his “knowledge” to the specific situation that he is in as much as he wants to say certain stuff. The lady might not be able to understand even if he says certain stuff and so he has to “dumb/ tone” down the content to her level at the expense of what he really wants to say to help better.
That is always the issues. We are limited to be truly understood for what we truly want to convey by the darkness of others.
It’s just like Buddha or Jesus (I’m using the concept of the Ascended Masters as all-knowing) probably could have worded the “truths” better. But they can’t exactly do so as they were limited to the understanding of their disciples. and so, the “truths” that was passed down were limited to the wisdom of the people receiving the knowledge from them and might not be the exact “truth”. That is why people often can’t understand, misinterpret due to their level of wisdom and knowledge is confused. People that truly probably are wiser would not get the full picture from others that don’t have the same level of wisdom as they share with their specific level of understanding. and the lesser, wiser people often would get angry with their own ego (as their wisdom is also lesser to begin with) as wiser people try to tell them that the truth is likely not that.
and so, all in all, wiser people need to figure out stuff on their own ultimately.
you can also get a kid 3 days a week if you marry someone with children 🤣
Do you think having a bad night terror age 5 which wakes you up can shape you as an adult as I'm overly independent now with no next of kin: I was standing in front of house & a monster was slowly approaching me, I kept shouting "mum, mum" as I saw her standing in front window but was she was looking vacant elsewhere, then the monster reached me & I woke up terrified.
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Thought it was Tom Brady
Bez got smart
Was he flirting with her ?
appreciate the talk. however, apologizing on behalf of all men who ever lived is brutally sexist and an insult to every kind and good-hearted man in your audience. tearing anyone down based on their sex/gender is obviously sexist, including when this attitude is directed at men. would you apologize on behalf of every mexican or asian as huge stereotyped categories? probably not. men are literally 50% of the population so stereotyping at this level is probably the most gigantic over-generalization possible. maybe something to consider. lets lift each other up not tear each other down, brother. wishing you well. ❤
I agree in where I don’t like it when one person says they apologize on behalf of a whole population. In some cases if it was meant as a joke, it’s fine but generally one person can’t speak for an entire population. In this case I think the speaker was just trying to acknowledge the history of women being oppressed and in that history it has been men who have been the oppressor. Thats not to generalize men today as bad but it’s just a fact and a truth that men have been in a position of power longer and are still leading society now as there are still more males in positions of power than women. It’s good that you lead with wanting equality regardless of sex or race but it’s still a very hard truth that women feel unsafe and there’s still reason for women to feel unsafe today. So to achieve this equality is to first acknowledge that the imbalance and inequality is still very much there and a work in progress. It’s not about stereotyping all men or putting men down. It’s about lending a hand to your fellow human and bringing them up. If you are in a position of power ( in our society that’s primarily men) then acknowledging that power imbalance and history of trauma for women is a big and important step. That’s where you can extend your love and understanding.
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I don't know what english you speak, but I don't understand what you talk about. Is it my english? Though I usually understand others speaking english easily
Well I hope you turned on the captions to read what he was saying and get the message he was trying to impart
seriously, i am watching the video second time and can’t see any correlation. Friend wants to see other friend enjoying her workout and doesn’t see how kind and protective she is.
Story about lost lense has no connection whatsoever. I can be wrong.
The other is you. Why is she trying so hard to separate herself from her roommate? That's the question I would like to ask her...
He did !?
I was triggered today when some BIGOTED WHITE CISMALE looked at me!
I am a WOMAN! Just because I have to take hormones and surgery doesn't mean I'm any less of a woman.
People's thiughts about me are so TRIGGERING!
because you seek self love and validation from others. that's never going to work. the world will keep presenting you with such people until you learn to value yourself and not need that from anyone else. the world wants us to heal, it doesn't care about the emotional cost to us.
sorry I also need to add that hormones and surgery can't change a person's sex, it can only try to erase or enhance secondary sex characteristics. it seems people have lied to you. you should investigate what was their agenda.
I take it you’re “trans”
Listen. This might be hard to swallow but you shouldn’t be fixated on controlling how others behave around you, nor should you look to them to validate or appease your ego.
If you’re trans you’re not biologically a female, that’s a fact of life you’ll have to accept. Don’t shame or blame others for not catering to how you see the world.
Wrestling with how others see or attempting to change elements of life that you can’t control will get you nowhere.
Focus on you, find oneness within, and don’t blame others for what’s going on within your mind. Reflect don’t project.
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