Episode 78: Sudden Death Versus Anticipated Grief

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  • Опубликовано: 13 дек 2024

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  • @funkyflights
    @funkyflights 4 года назад +10

    All loss sucks, but sudden loss kicks you in the stomach and brings you to your knees ... just lost a long time friend, she was only 43 and died suddenly in her sleep... It’s brutally painful... Hard to process, the sadness is overwhelming .. 😞

  • @Serenitynow3
    @Serenitynow3 6 лет назад +19

    My mom died just a few weeks ago...sudden, unexpected death...and the pain and grief is almost unbearable...I feel as though I'm gonna lose my mind. She was my best friend not just my mom. I'm trying to manage with prayers, and go to a counselor but I feel like I've a huge hole in my chest.

    • @portalsofmadnes
      @portalsofmadnes 5 лет назад

      Do you have siblings? Im sorry for your loss

    • @wskhan1778
      @wskhan1778 4 года назад +3

      My mom dead too suddenly around same times your mom dead I am like disabled feel like amputation time won't heal anything this loss of mother continues for life being honest I am not married on top of it so some one could be around me relieve me you can spend time with kids and your partner but your partner must be around you most of the time rake you to places nature etc i am like dead man walking

    • @reenakashu3082
      @reenakashu3082 4 года назад +1

      @@wskhan1778 my mother died last month. i had no contact with her since many months as corona time. i was busy with chidlren. i wish i had called her every day 4 times or gone to her to be there by her side in corona time. she was all alone. i cry daily non stop. she did not tell me that she was in fever

    • @wskhan1778
      @wskhan1778 4 года назад +1

      @@reenakashu3082 I am not being negative but this grief of mother is for life now there's no escape from it if you are too close to your mother and loved her direly then you have to endure this grief forever like myself as long as life is . This is fact

    • @sunriseschubert4391
      @sunriseschubert4391 Год назад

      I feel your loss. My mother passed away unexpectedly in her sleep. I'm not the same anymore. I feel there's a big hole inside my heart & soul.

  • @JT-py7ze
    @JT-py7ze Год назад

    There grief is still visible decades and years later, lost girlfriend of 25 years 3-6-23 I realize this grieving will never end for the rest of my life

  • @cheryljune1603
    @cheryljune1603 3 года назад +4

    My husband died fast and suddenly from covid, only 5 days ago. I’m in shock still

  • @joeyserrano4172
    @joeyserrano4172 6 лет назад +8

    Thank you my husband died suddenly at home in front of my sixteen year old daughter and me. What shock he had felt great. He died on 9-29-2017 a week after my daughter sweet sixteen birthday. Thank you jesus and my church community. My elderly parents have been very Supportive. I pray and pray my faith in God is growing day by day. Thank you i wish i could meet with your group.
    It's 5:10 in the morning i haven't slept will since his passing im in the mist of grief. I miss him so bad
    We were together for 38 years sice we were 16 year old. We had storm but more sunshine than any storm. Thank you for this it give me hope that i too will survive pain
    Enormous pain.

    • @joannm5682
      @joannm5682 3 года назад +1

      I hope you are healing..I relate to your story..52 years my best friend and husband,,suddenly no warnings..no goodbyes!!

  • @randywoodworth5990
    @randywoodworth5990 Год назад

    I've experienced sudden death 5 times, also watching both grandmas waste away from cancer, dad wasting away from a bleeding ulcer.
    It takes a severe toll on you emotionally, mentally, and physically.

  • @renrick
    @renrick 3 года назад +5

    My son was lost in the ocean for 21 hours before we found him. He was my only child, he was 17 and my biggest pain is the violence of his death, and i pray it was quick. My life feels over, it was 3 weeks ago, 8/04/2021

    • @angiemyers9759
      @angiemyers9759 3 года назад +2

      I'm so sorry for your loss.. I lost my son Rick August 3rd 2021..I haven't been the same since. He was only 33..I don't feel like I'm going to make it..this is a pain I wouldn't wish on anyone..no parent should ever bury their child...I pray God will comfort and heal everyone going through this darkness..From all the comments I've read on the other grief videos I've watched, I don't feel very hopeful..for some it's been years and they are still in deep grief. God help us all❤

    • @renrick
      @renrick 3 года назад +1

      @@angiemyers9759 I am so sorry, mama.... we will never be the same. Do you have a grief group? On FB there are many groups, even loss of son groups. It helps me at times ❤

    • @angiemyers9759
      @angiemyers9759 3 года назад +1

      @@renrick Thank you so much ❤...I'm not in any grief groups but I think maybe I should be..maybe that will help..thank you so much for replying..Prayers always for you and all the parents everywhere...hopefully someday the tears will dry from our eyes and we will see the sunshine again 🙏

  • @sallyarellano7493
    @sallyarellano7493 6 лет назад +7

    This was a comfort lost my huband he was in hospice for 9 months we knew he was dying. When he died i was suprise. I was glad we were able to talk about it together. It was so hard to see him suffer. We were drain mentally and physically. I didn't want to let him go. When he got worse i prayed to God to take him. When it did happen there was peace. God sent Angels to comfort us. I thought before l would die. But the peace God gave us my husband went peacefully.

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 3 года назад

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my son jersey on may 24th 2020 during lockdown on a car accident he just turned 22 on his birthday, got hit by a drunk truck driver, that was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 13yr old daughter is my everything and the reason I keep strong, my late wife passed away 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
      I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

  • @AzraelMaya
    @AzraelMaya 6 лет назад +4

    This was really helpful. Thank you 💜

  • @carlaborens4004
    @carlaborens4004 3 года назад

    Thank You 🙏🏾

  • @aces0730
    @aces0730 3 года назад +4

    Both ways are awful. My dad died of a sudden heart attack. My mom and sisters both had cancer.

  • @gloriahenderson3515
    @gloriahenderson3515 7 лет назад +2

    Just did a mini marathon of some of your episodes and wanted to say thank you.

  • @cherylw7726
    @cherylw7726 5 лет назад +2

    My husband died in September 2018, metastatic liver cancer it was 10 weeks from his diagnosis, till the time he passed. Four months later January of 2019 my 35 year old son died suddenly from sleep apnea. Some days the pain is unbearable. Still feel so lost.

  • @hashemsoozandehfar2907
    @hashemsoozandehfar2907 4 года назад

    Thank you for sharing your experiences 🖤

  • @joenation1000
    @joenation1000 4 года назад +2

    My girlfriend of 6 years from Laos died suddenly on October 29th 2020 .... She fell and hit her head , she was weak from Lupus disease , i was in the U.K. when I got a call from her friend , I hadn't seen her in the flesh since January bcuz of Covid travel restrictions , I never expected anything like this would ever happen to me , she was my whole world and it was gone in an instant , she had tried to call me not long after the accident but I was too busy at work to answer , she didn't return any of my messages after that and deteriorated , I never knew she had hit her head hard , the guilt of not answering the phone will never leave me , it keeps going round and round in my mind that she was asking me for help , the guilt is crippling , I couldn't even go to her funeral , listening to other people stories like this is all I have done on evenings since she died

  • @catherinecarillo1077
    @catherinecarillo1077 7 лет назад +13

    My son died of a drug overdose. I had seen him two days before. I wish I could have hugged and kissed him. So there is a difference. My last words to him were " you have track marks on your arms " I would have run to him and hugged him I thought I had more time to help him, I had no idea ... I was numb and in shock. I do agree the pain of the loss is unbearable.

    • @kimmidoesdallas1
      @kimmidoesdallas1 6 лет назад +4

      My son died suddenly a month ago and I know exactly how you feel. I went through and am going through the exact same feelings

    • @simaodedra9439
      @simaodedra9439 5 лет назад +5

      @@kimmidoesdallas1 unfortunately I know how you feel. My husband died of an overdose 4 months ago (he was 33) and the pain and loss is unimaginable. The thought of having to live without him is tearing me apart. The guilt is what's eating me up

    • @brendadrumm9708
      @brendadrumm9708 4 года назад +4

      My son was a pure gent lived with me too many probs with drink the day before he died he layed in his bed he spewed his liver up in pieces in so much pain he never complained he said to me I will be ok when I have a good sleep I could kick myself I said yes u will have a good sleep ur dying as the ambulance men took him out later what cuts
      Me to the bone he looked up at me gave me a kiss his lips were stone cold he was.thirty two

    • @jacquelinestewart3820
      @jacquelinestewart3820 3 года назад +2

      That’s awful I feel your pain so sorry for your loss I lost my daughter of 33 in November I can’t explain how much I want to be with her miss her so much

    • @catherinecarillo1077
      @catherinecarillo1077 3 года назад +1

      @@jacquelinestewart3820 hugs to you.. My heart breaks with yours. I still cry it will be 4 yeas in Aug

  • @gabbydeveau5100
    @gabbydeveau5100 3 года назад +1

    My husband died suddenly after abdominal aortic aneurysm (AAA) at a young 72 years, I have been in shock since,he left in the ambulance at 12pm and the next 12 hours he was gone after a 6 to 7 hour operation.

    • @kathrynroper3941
      @kathrynroper3941 3 года назад

      My condolences my dear. My dad died on 26the of January 2021. My heart is
      Is so sad.

  • @miriamanglada3393
    @miriamanglada3393 5 лет назад +1

    To those these speakers on sudden death l say he went to heaven the pain is great 2 more children and 4 family member's to heaven the sun no longer shines l don't smile l been sick l blame me l pray God will give us strength but it has change me l cry alot l wrote to you once I lreceive some paper God bless may you help May people forget

  • @kimberlymcv8408
    @kimberlymcv8408 6 лет назад +2

    my husband was in need of a transplant that didn't happen , I lost my husband July 10,2018 he was 49 yrs old he would have turned 50 yrs this December