Having a Bipolar Parent: Effects & How to Cope
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Licensed therapist, Dr. Matt Glowiak, talks about the effects of growing up with a Bipolar parent.
Effects of Growing Up With a Bipolar Parent
Bipolar disorder in parents can present challenging environmental factors that can have long-lasting effects on a child. Given the emotional instability of the parent, one may present as warm and loving one moment, but then irritable and aggressive the next. This may be especially true when children act out or make mistakes, as a common part of childhood.
For those presenting with bipolar psychosis, the experience may prove especially scary for children. The paranoia, hallucinations, and delusions may skew a child’s experience of reality-making them fearful of that which presents minimal, if any, harm. In some cases, children may even feel unloved, which damages their self-concept.
Growing up believing that the one person who should love them unconditionally does not can compromise development among all categories (emotional, cognitive, learning, physical, et cetera). Other presenting complications for children may include guilt or depression, anxiety or withdrawal, and shame
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Video by: Dr.Matt Glowiak PhD, LCPC
Article: Having a Bipolar Parent: Effects & How to Cope
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Written by: Dr. Matt Glowiak PhD, LCPC
Medically Reviewed by: Dr.Kristen Fuller MD
Published: January 6, 2023
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I'm at the point where trying to please my parents seems pointless. every time I feel like I'm doing well, there ends up being SOMETHING I screwed up.
Hey there! Thanks for sharing...We have a few articles you might find helpful: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-parenting/
www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries-with-parents/
www.choosingtherapy.com/why-do-my-parents-hate-me/
Hope this helps!
Literally me Everytime
@@Kpopies_GotNoBrain thanks to sharing ❤️
@@Kpopies_GotNoBrain ❤️
I can't even toke to my mom now she single me out and my sister when growing up I could do nothing right she would tell my dad Liye's and spank me for something I didn't do and in her mindset she has never done anything Rong now we are grow up she always says it's my fault it's my bipolar I say you know right from Rong mom you know lying is Rong you perched that to us all throughout awe childhood so I know you know right from Rong she has bipolar I know that you know right from Rong to now none of her children speak to you we can't take the bullshit no more can't have a relationship with a nut my dad passed away a long time ago we are all grown up now but he was a rook for us kids she is always throwing him under the bus like he is still alive for shit she did and blame everything on him and us kids she has never done anything Rong she hates that we loved him more than her well you will love someone more that is nice to you if you were a little nicer and stop lying all the time but I know that she will never change so I washed my hands with her a long time ago she I feel sorry for her now she is all along but my brother and sister said good she did it to herself you and me have nothing be sorry for mental health is a big problem in the world today seeking help early in life is the best thing for everyone that suffers from bipolar don't whant till it's to late and you can't be helped 😥😥😥😥😥
It's like I don't know where to hide when my mom wants to attack me verbally. 😢. this man gets it. it hurrrrts this deep when your parent is bipolar.
Thank you for sharing! Navigating bipolar disorder with a family member, especially a parent, can be so difficult.
Consider reading the full article we published here for more info: www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-parent/
Now that I am 25, I have given up on my dad. He is abusive and later just talks to me like nothing. My mother has chosen to just put up with it. However, life is too short. I will not dedicate my life to someone who doesn't even seek help or takes his medication.
Thank you for sharing 🥹❤️
I deal with this constantly.. I’m only 19 and my dad is bipolar and he’s scary… my mom always says we have to “enable it” because that’s what the psychiatrist says.. it hurts so much I feel like he doesn’t give a f about me ever
This is so relatable I literally can’t. Having a sick parent who refuses to seek help is one of the most infuriating and frustrating things to experience, at 24 I cut my mom off and I can say life feels more peaceful. Misery loves company so it’s best to avoid people who want nothing but to drag us down with them.
I grew up with a bipolar Dad. I truly think most people with bipolar will hurt their kids. It's not just their disorder. It's that their label is why a lot of people make excuses for them. If they are abusing their kid they have to be stopped. At least we're all adults and safe now, but I worry about current children.
Absolutely! Thanks for your comment ❤️
I'm Bipolar, a mom of a 3 year old, I was abused therefor I don't believe in hitting a child, I don't believe in old ways of punishing and I'm extremely loving towards my daughter because I never received love from my parents.
I'm in therapy and on medication so please, not all Bipolar parents will hurt their children!
@@madeleinejansenvanrensburg1042my mother says the same crap and is emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive and chances you are too. Mentally unstable people can’t and shouldn’t be parents.
Absolutely. My mom claims she can’t help being abusive because she’s bipolar, meanwhile she gets mad at me for my learning disabilities which I can’t help anything from. Bipolar people all the time use their diagnosis as an excuse to be a POS and people just eat that up. They get free passes none of us get but you’re only supposed to feel sorry for them because they’re sick. they never have to take accountability, it’s everybody else’s fault for making them mad.
@@madeleinejansenvanrensburg1042my dad was bipolar and he abused me a lot.
I am a mom and I was diagnosed with BPD/Bipolar II. And I feel guilty all the time. The anger and the thoughts of hurting my kids because I can't handle my anger just eat me up inside. I am so aware but when the vicious cycle starts or I'm in my manic episodes, I just lack control over what goes in my head. I am just so lucky I have a very solid support system, which is my husband. He told me the other day to try harder as our children don't deserve our broken parts. It's heartbreakingly true. :(
My father is like this. One moment he is fine but I make a small mistake and he starts screaming and becoming aggressive. At least now I know none of it was my fault.
It was not your fault. Thank you for sharing!
Consider reading our full in depth article on this topic here: www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-parent/
I don’t think someone with bipolar should be allowed to have children. It’s child neglect, neglecting their most important developmental needs. I have a bipolar parent
Thank you for sharing ❤️
absolutely true its like living in hell but blaming yourself and no one around you understands so they just see you as a failed, all the pain inside from arguing and Neve being understood or loved.
@@elinaj3689 thanks for sharing ❤️
Please just don’t make the mistake I made and blaming them etc it’s destined they are mentally I’ll don’t make the same mistake I did fighting with my bipolar dad and makes it worst for him and I
My mom has bipolar and most things this guy is saying is correct
Thank you for sharing!
Microdosing helps look up the name encrypted on my handle, she gives proper guidance
my mom is and I found everything he said is true
Im 16 , and ive been dealing with this problem FOREVER. One day I would be my moms favorite child but the next , she'd rather have a conversation with the dog. I dont want to say anything because I dont want to end up messing up & letting this built up anger get the best of me. You know its bad when you search on yt and find hundreds of other people with a similar issue. I wish there was a factory reset button on life
It puts you into a state where nothing matters in a good way. You truly don't give a shit about anything and you're just happy as fuck as a result, because nothing matters. Nothing matters, nothing means anything, there's nothing to do, there's no point, there's no goal but there's also no boredom, there's no negative meanings attached to the meaninglessness, it's just perfectly meaningless and it's awesome. You're basically just like sitting like a cat on a windowsill enjoying whatever experience is before it, just being and it feels amazing. 🦄
Thanks for sharing ❤️
You nailed it. 👈🏽
More like we are conditioned to be okay with anything.....we are desensitised in a way and their unpredictability is normalised. Although it makes us resilient if the tolerance and familiarity to manipulation and emotionally unregulated ppl is carried forward to other relationships in our life it will land us in myriads of toxic relationships and we will end up draining giving and tolerating negativity.......therefore it is also important to protect ourselves and have strong boundaries......and stay away from ppl exhibiting similiar charecteristics in other relationships n frndships apart fro the parent ....as that is unchangeable
My mother made me a prisoner in my own home obsessing herself over some kid. But she’s bipolar, so that makes it okay apparently
Sorry to hear that…thanks for sharing ❤️
It's never okay bipolar people are monsters
Im 17 Same i got bipolar parents and they may be feel like a prisoner and a i always try to be there for them and help them and tell them how much i love then but sometimes went im at my house there's always fighting and always arguing and and stressed and depression and it was hard most of the time i feel like that im better alone caused went im alone i have more fun and you could just be you caused in my household i couldn't be myself. But i wish that everyone great day dont be sad be happy lived lifw caused yo only lived ones🙏🏻💯❤🔥
I have all of these, I'm exhausted at this point.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
This perfectly describes my father. One moment he is fine but when I make any small mistake and he starts screaming and becoming aggressive, and using offensive language against me. I have also recently found out that he is not my biological father, so I don't have to worry about developing this disorder. I have anger issues, and it only makes the matter worse, as I try not to lash out, but I end up lashing out, and causing problems between us more. Sometimes we end up fighting physically and verbally, and I am still trying to learn how to change my behavior, as his isn't ever going to change. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I try to tell him to relax, and please calm down, but he continues, and ends up aggravating me further.
Thank you for sharing! Navigating Bipolar disorder can be tricky, especially when it's a family member. Consider reading an article we published on having a The effects of having Bipolar parent here: www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-parent/
There's a section towards the bottom of the article that you might find helpful called "How to cope with having a bipolar parent."
Here's another article you might find helpful as well" www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries-with-parents/
@@choosingtherapyif he dosnt drink. His medicine you have to squeeze it into his drinks or food .and you need specific medicine for mania. If he is angry or in hallucination try to calm him down and explain it to him don’t trigger his mania make him away from problems as much as possible
Seek help from someone who he respect or value a lot
Watching this as someone who was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder I feel really weak. I try tellimg myself that I can be a good parent one day but the truth is I'm scared of hurting my children. I think it's best I accept that marriage isn't for me
Social services doesn't care. The cops didn't care. My family allowed it to happen. No one cared that we were suffering. This is why I will not knowingly enter into a relationship with someone who is bipolar.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
the exact same thing happened to me. Im 17 and no one believed me especially the doctors.
@@elinaj3689 thank you for sharing ❤️
I am a bipolar mom and I am on treatment - this is very informative. I know the guilt.
I have conversations with my 13 year old daughter about my behaviour. I have taught her to take some responsibility because that's how I was raised but I explain to her why and nothing is over done - she is allowed and negotiates rest times. She knows that making mistakes is not the end of the world even though she gets afraid to tell me at times, I don't know why. If I overreact I go back and apologise if need be or explain myself in a calmer tone.
Raising humans is a challenge in itself even without bipolar in the mix. There are many many variables to consider and all of us try to do what's best. If You get to learn about your parents bipolar perhaps also seek coping mechanisms for yourself so that you can find peace. That's one way I think.
I stopped caring to help them or be around them my last straw was years ago i dont wanna hear thats my mother no shit im not okay and I dont deserve any of this
Your don’t deserve that….thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
Me right now. We literally tried to tell him to take care of himself… take care of his weight, exercise regularly, stop eating fast food, drinking more water… now he’s in an episode and it’s hard to care. It’s hard to decide if I should care or shouldn’t. I’m just entering young adulthood, yet feel like trying to look out for someone who’s barely been there for me.
@@akshakur3962 thank you for sharing ❤️
I will share my story here .I’m from third world and this makes it much worst both my dad and uncles had mental health problems and got bullied cause of this I didn’t know my dad was I’ll as a child my mother passed away and we were fighting I had terrible childhood dealing with his manic episodes and him not wanting to take his medicine and hallucination he passed away I felt guilty for not treating him better
And now im still living in the past and depressed
@@youngplanetPlease know you did everything you could. It's hard to change someone who does have insight. Please forgive yourself and enjoy your life. This isn't an easy journey. ❤
im 20 and my mom is acting very childish i think i should just get a job and get my licensee and move out
That’s tough, thanks for sharing ❤️
My mom is bipolar and this is 100% accurate
Thank you for sharing ❤️
As a child of a father with cyclothymia, this was very helpful. Thank you for sharing 🤍
Glad it was helpful! Here's the entire article if you're interested in reading more context: www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-parent/
@@choosingtherapyThank you so much!
Ever since I was 5, I’ve found myself just trying to protect my mother and siblings,
She also struggled with addiction, which didn’t help.
We no longer live with her now, after years of abuse and neglect,
We are experiencing the last few years of a normal childhood,
I’m so happy to finally watch my siblings smile and live a normal life, it’s just a shame it came this late.
This video is exactly on point ❤
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
Thank you for this video! You nailed it in 5 minutes 21 seconds! Your perspective was very helpful.
Thank you so much for the feedback ❤️
My mom just recently got off her meds bc of financial issues. I didn’t know that they were for bd, I had always thought she had severe anxiety. Her telling me she had bipolar disorder really cleared up a lot of misconceptions I had about my childhood.
I don't know much about it but I think people with bipolar disorder are not supposed to stop their medication. How she doing now?
My dad is bipolar my mother was taking care of him before she passed away after she die he stopped talking his medicine because she was the one in charge of his medicine .me and him was fighting didn’t know what happen until I grow up I had too much problems in my life not just him my uncles was mentally unstable too and we all lived in same house it was nightmare for me as a child I regret and feel guilty that I was fighting him all the time cause of the non sense behavior .now I’m depressed after he passed away and I still live in the past keep in mind I live in the third world no support or anything makes it’s worst I have now cptsd
That may be related to the ocd but the subtitle being like that, is killing me.
Oh no! How would you phrase it?
I grew up with a psychotic mother, from age 11
That must have been tough. Thank you for sharing!
thanks for this i really mean it
You’re very welcome ❤️
Whenever someone else is suffering my father only is worried about himself not even the slightest bit of empathy then he tries to manipulate u. And my mom might be bipolar as well she just lets everything slide but shes turning quite rude as she gets older, and maybe a bit narcissistic its best just to split from ur parents at that point but I’m too disabled physically and I’m too disabled to move out yet. Im also i think more than moderately autistic according to my tests maybe? I didn’t understand the results though
It's not easy, thank you for sharing! Here's an article we published on having a bipolar parent and how to cope for further reading: www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-parent/
You are not autistic but I don’t know I think it’s the trauma from bipolar because I feel the same and isolate my self had similar experiences
I never had illusions
i have this problem exactly what he say on this video with my mom . im 45 years old now but since we are small kids me my sister and my brother , my mom have this problem .1 week good and 2 weeks sometimes you see it aggressive . but we never go to find for help . and we do everything to see her happy . for us it was normal life and we was scared at the same time . these last 3 years she make us lots and lots of problems in our family , and i start get lots of anxiety and stress try to start doing something to help my mom ,what i have to do pls ? any tips
This literally makes me nauseous within thirty seconds Holy fuck
Navigating Bipolar Disorder and other mental health disorders within a family can often bring up negative feelings. You're not alone there!
Here's an article we published if reading is more your thing:www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-parent/
im 20 and i was recently diagnosed with bipolar 1. can i really not be a father because of this?
Hi there! Thank you for sharing.
Bipolar disorder can be managed through medication and therapy. You can read more about having a bipolar parent in an article we published here: www.choosingtherapy.com/bipolar-parent/
Dude stop switching the angle of the words. It's freaking my brain out.
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