10 Ways to HELP Someone With BIPOLAR DISORDER
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- Опубликовано: 23 сен 2024
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-A large number of people who reach out to me are the friends, partners, and family of someone struggling with bipolar disorder. Many have scoured the internet - looking for solutions to a seemingly impossible situation. I know there's a lot of information out there on what bipolar disorder IS, but not so much on “what to do about it.” Polar Warriors is all about “what to do about it,” so today I'd like to talk about 10 ways you might be able to help a loved one with bipolar disorder.
Keep in mind that timing is so important. If the person you care about is too symptomatic, you might have to wait and try these techniques again at a later time. For more videos like this one, check out our playlist dedicated to family and friends.
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-Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors: Bipolar Support
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Helping a loved one is what brought me here.
Welcome!!! 🤗😊☀️☀️☀️
As someone with bipolar, thank you. It can be hard to have people want to truly understand.
Even though I’m not your loved one, this means a lot to me. Thank you. ❤️
@@acoasterbro my friend has given me lots of reason to not want To care anymore, but I just can’t help it.
@@1evilhag_ ❤️
Yes, I’m tired, but I will continue to help him as much as I can.
Right there with ya💜
Same here
I feel this! Hubby is just starting to get diagnosed and it has been 5 years of not being diagnosed,
Sigh...me too.
Omg Yes!
1) 00:50 - Strategic activities based on their mood (particularly incase of hypomania).
2) 02:05 - Set boundaries for bad behavior.
3) 03:13 - Simple clear plan for the bad times when they are feeling down.
4) 04:26 - Help them notice changes in their behavior.
5) 05:27 - Learn as much as you can about Bipolar Disorder
6) 06:54 - Document their mood if you are permitted by them to do so.
7) 07:58 - Know your place, don't play doctor.
8) 09:24 - Have a plan in case you have to call the police.
9) 10:45 - Take care of yourself! Avoid caretaker burnout.
10) 12:13 - Take advantage of the functioning times by encouraging them to move forward with their care.
Thank you very much, Rob.
Your channel is fantastic.
This is AMAZING!! Thank you so much for doing this! 🙏
😊😊
What to do when your loved one won’t go to a dr and hasn’t been to a dri in over 30 yrs?
Thank you so much!
I had a psychotic episode and the police were called. It was probably one of the worst moments in my life and just caused me to break further. I could have been fine if they had just called my husband. But my sister who was there didn’t know what to do. It lasted two hours of throwing up in fear, thinking people were trying to kill me, and running from the police. (Big no no) PLEASE don’t call the police unless it is last resort. It mostly causes more harm than good. I had a paramedic that showed up trained in mental health emergencies and was able to save my life. It’s because of him that I am here today.
I'm so sorry that happened to you! Psychotic episodes are so traumatic. I'm really happy that paramedic knew exactly how to help you! Hugs!
Same here. I live in a small town and now everyone knows I'm bipolar lol! It was a good education for the local cops. They thought I was on drugs and were going to put me in jail but my cop buddy figured out I was manic. They took me to the hospital where I was diagnosed with bp1. Was an awful and embarrassing experience! You are not alone
I'm so sorry that happened. I have found it helpful to make a crisis plan with my friends/family so that there is no questioning what to do.
This shit doesn't define who you truly are🤗I've had a similar experience within the last week too. I'm so sorry you're going through it right now...
In bad episodes I neck a little more Olanzapine then I should and get knocked out so I can hopefully sleep most of it off.
Tell me it’s not what the pysch ward will do anyway hahah.
I need people to talk to when my partner, the love of my life, who has bipolar disorder is having a bad day or week. There's times I feel like I'm going to have a mental breakdown.
Well I wasn't able to get any advice so I had to walk away from the relationship. He got way too nasty and aggressive. Thanks anyways guys
@@bossfine-aura200 I bet you feel guilty like I do, I'm a very strong person been through a lot of adversity in my life but my girlfriend really got to me making me very anxious. Never suffered from anxiety in my life in the end I had to walk away for my own sanity.
I understand that there are support groups.
Al-Anon groups are free and the
12 steps can help everyone.
People who love addicts aren’t all that different than those who love
someone with other conditions.
Just a thought
This was helpful for me.
I am an employer of someone who has been diagnosed as bipolar. It has been so difficult dealing with what's been going on.... the go to is that the person is "on drugs" .... I hate going there with my own thoughts.... this has helped to restore some trust between us and I want to help them try to get a handle on this. They are an important person, and important to the company. Wish there were more resources for not just those that suffer, but for those that suffer with them.
Thank you so much for learning about this. That is so awesome of you!
I actually really respect and admire you for being an employer and caring like that. I'd worked a job years ago and the manager fired me after learning I had this disorder simply because her ex husbdnand had it too. Devastated me a lot and was completely unfair and uncalled for. So it's good to see a kind employer like you and I'm sure your employee really appreciated that kindness
❤ well said
It's very hard 😢but we go through it his very drowzy
I was in denial for years after my diagnosis, and I had a mental breakdown after a manic episode last week and I found your channel right afterwards. Thank you for giving me the vocabulary to help me understand my condition. Seriously. I wept for hours watching your videos♥️ please keep doing what you're doing.
I'm so glad that you've found Rob's videos to be so helpful. It always means so much to Rob when people express their appreciation for him. If you'd like to support Rob in what he does with Polar Warriors I'd encourage you to consider joining him on Patreon. He posts exclusive content there and is able to reply to direct messages through that platform. There's also a wonderful support community there in the community section. I'll include the link for you to check it out. All the best to you! -Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
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God bless you… stay on your meds
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I j😊😊
This man does a wonderful job.
Completely agree. So thankful.
You know Robert, there are so many videos and articles that are just copying information from the DSM, essentially not communicating anything useful. You actually structure incredibly helpful videos in a way that is easy to absorb. Truly, you are a beacon of light to the world. Sincerely. Thank you Robert.
omg yes! I was trying to find videos to show my family about bipolar but they were all just clinical diagnosis and not any kind of personal experience. this channel is exactly what I was looking for. someone who has the disease and spreads genuinely helpful information that can apply to a broad spectrum of those with the illness. thank you polar warriors!
That's so true!
My husband with BP is in a mixed state. One week ago I was loved and protected by him. Today I am hated and need protection from him. We’ve been here before many many times. When it lift, he doesn’t emerge until it is safe. I make it safe by apologizing for my emotions, over-reactions, and for making everything about me. Then we start over. I happened across this channel this morning and I feel less alone already. Just getting started, but thank you. Finally something is making some sense!
It's so hard to be on the receiving end of this illness. I often mention how we can be the hardest on our partners. I can empathize with you. Glad you found our channel. There's a lot of helpful videos here. Stop by anytime =)
-Rob
I was diagnosed 15 years ago and still struggle, but the highs aren't as high and the lows aren't as low, so I see it as a win. But my 32 year old son exhibits many of the same symptoms as I have. I've talked to him about seeing someone, but he refuses to do anything. It's so sad because his life seems to be on hold. He can't seem to move forward. I ache for him and want to help him in any way I can. But he grew up with a mom that was ill and I think he doesn't want to admit that he might be bipolar as well. I don't know what else to do but keep the lines of communication open with him. When he is very depressed I try to be there even more to make sure he doesn't hurt himself. i wish he would at least talk to someone.
Hi Terri, Reading the first part of your comment is exactly how i feel. It’s only been a few years for me but i feel saved and a better version of me! Now for the tough part, above all please DONOT blame yourself! It’s just as awful watching a loved one go through it, but your doing all you can do for him. Unless he starts exhibiting dangerous behavior, it has to be him. I wasn’t ready ( i went off meds for awhile) until mid 30’s. I wish you continued good health and recovery .
Megan Polar warrior ~ admin
I’m keeping you in my thoughts Terri. You’re a warrior remember? We’re all rooting for you and your son.
I have the parallel life to yours amd my son is 31.....it hard I was diagnosed at 18 and inhale gone off meds before and it hard but learning to manage and not controlling myself has been hard butni have gone thru to understand and study my illness in depth ..... as now the dr says I dont have it like wow that dr should be fired
Thank you for the video, I needed to see this. I have a friend who I adore but I didn’t know where to begin to help. Thank you so much.
I have bipolar 1 . Thanks for helping me more than my psychiatrist
I have type 1 aswell and your comment is so true
Psychiatrists only do meds, TMS, ECT, etc, but no counseling.
@@cellogirl11rw55 true
Love your content. 👍 I was undiagnosed for 50 years. In denial for 8 months. Then things started to make sense.
How did you get past the denial? Asking for my little brother.
@@mikelowe9994 i researched syptoms on youtube. There was no denying it, all fit.
Undiagnosed for 50 years. I'm so sorry man
My husband is also in denial but he desperately needs to get help and get on meds. He has been very suicidal.
This is my favorite channel on bipolar disorder. I just found out a man that I love has bipolar disorder. This channel is helping so many things make sense. Tfs. To everyone reading this, Jesus loves you.
Thank you man. That visit to a shrink changed my life, and your vids changed it again for the better. Even at 43 finding out this was the reason for the things I never understood about
myself was really scary. You have made that far less so by having good information. You should be very proud. You are a very good person. Thanks.
Hi Brendan, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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A car wreck in slow motion... ON LOOP ! Thank you Robert for your words of encouragement.
Excellent description!
Thank you so much for this. I'm distancing myself from a bipolar person after 4 years of support, giving thousands because she didn't have food to eat, preventing homicide -suicides as she went into episodes and threatened to kill her baby and herself.... I realized I actually did a lot and helped get on meds, therapy and re-establish contact with estranged family members for more support. I felt guilty about distancing myself, but she showed up after years of being no contact with me, which was her choice. Even so, she was in crisis and I took her back, even though I noticed I had nothing in common with her anymore. After four years of continuous crises ...I feel I can set these boundaries and protect myself.
Thank you for reminding the caretakers to care for themselves too. I have a husband with bipolar disorder and it can be a challenge, but he's worth it.
I always look forward to your videos as they give valuable insight to something I don't experience firsthand and ideas to help me help him. Take care.
I'm so glad I found this channel...I am here to help him help himself and me...its so hard sometimes
My husband of 38 years has been diagnosed with bipolar about 7 years ago. We both enjoy your insightful discussions as they encourage us to reach out to one another in a positive way. Thanks for your heartfelt advice.
I deeply regret telling people about my diagnosis. The people who I know are either ambivalent or weaponize it. Employers who I confided in treated me differently or told the rest of the staff. A former partner would gaslight me into having an emotional reaction, then tell strangers that I was psychotic. There was no benefit to telling anyone. Even the psychs who diagnosed me don't care when I come to them with symptoms that I noticed. I think our appointments boil down to five minutes now and it's mostly them trying to prescribe new meds instead of listening. I'm done reaching out to people. It's the same as being alone or a target. I'd rather be alone.
I know what you mean. It doesn't pay to tell your employer! I farm for a living and I really don't want my banker to know I'm bipolar!! I know it isn't easy but you need to keep looking for supportive people. Don't give up.
@@dang7097 Thanks man. I'll do my best.
Took the words right out of my mouth. I love being alone.
Yes, it's hard to be open or trust people when you seek help or want people to understand, "supposedly" mental health workers were challenging me and saying my illness doesn't exist, denying my medication, I've been bed ridden, unable to talk to people am a dangerous around people because I'm unpredictable yet no one is willing to help, the only way out I conclude is death, and I have strong intentions to conclude that decision to make the suffering go away and get away from deception and fake people overall who pretend I don't exsist, unwilling to help me and my distress, letting me suffer being alive I want to escape this, I've waited patiently with health professionals and no one is helping me, I'm giving up as much as I try to pick myself up I know I'm going to fall again and attempt to kill myself anyways
I am the parent of a 27 year old daughter with bipolar 1 who is still learning how to manage it so we're still learning how to help her too. She is able to live on her own with help from us. We recently helped her move and that was super stressful as you can imagine. I ended up losing my patience and now feel guilty for not being supportive and understanding like I should be for her. What an emotional roller coaster so I've been doing more research today and your videos have been so very helpful as reminders of what people with bipolar are going thru and how best to help them. This is pretty frightening from a parents perspective - I worry about her all the time and want to do everything that I can to help her. Thank you so much for your candidness and if anyone else out there has supportive parents that are doing the right thing - let me know what's working! Thanks again for sharing!
Thank God for my supportive dad and aunt got it from my mom had too but I'm 25 have bipolar type 1 with phoysiuos thought I was Jeremiah or Jesus and was on a mission a dream when I was sleep felt the rapture in my heart and saw the light but the dream was I had the dead sea scolls and walking running in the desert protecting it and I know thiers more to be found but don't know if I'll try or not
I am dealing with my 24 year old daughter who I suspect has Bipolar. She is terribly mean and goes off for no reason. She is complete opposite of how she was when she was a child and it breaks my heart.
Keep learning. MIS-diagnoses is common. Keep listening here.
Thanks for the great content. I would say that if you have someone in your life that cares enough about you to do any of these things, you’re pretty darn lucky. I’m sure there are many people with mental illness that are truly isolated, so it would be a blessing to have someone care...even just a little bit. Especially in these times, people with mental illness are more isolated than ever. 😢
Exactly!
My mom, brother were diagnosed about 30 years ago. Most recently, a friend was diagnosed last summer. I've shared this channel with him in hopes it helps him.
Thank you so much for sharing Rob's channel! I hope he'll watch Rob's videos and find them to be helpful like so many others have. All the best to you and your loved ones!-Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
I have been diagnosed with bipolar 1 with psychotic features. I’m only 22 and the past few weeks my friends and family have all been on me because they feel like I’m acting manic or acting reckless. I don’t feel like I am manic but I guess it’s really hard to tell when I am. The only thing I know is my sleep is super whacked out and I’m not tired so maybe they are right. I was depressed a month or two ago and I just started to feel better. My dr has been trying to reach me but I have been so busy doing things I haven’t been able to get back with her. But thank you for your videos I appreciate everything you do you are the man. And also thank you for being so transparent about your own experience it helps us relate so much more. Thanks again
I’m 22, recently diagnosed bipolar 1 w psychotic features, too. I related to your comment a lot. I failed to notice my mania setting in this time around and I kept shutting out everyone who was trying to warn me. It’s good to be held accountable, but ughh to remember to be open to others letting me know is so hard especially when manic already!!!!
Lol ,i have diagnosed when i was 14y ,now I'm 19 still suffering
I was diagnosed with Bipolar Type 1 with mixed episodes and rapid cycling
Me too. It sucks ;( Meds helps but they can't fix it
I have rapid cycling. Start using exercise, CBD oils and keto nutrition products. Healthy fats are better for the brain then carbs.
@@dahminatorEH Thank you for the advice
I am bpd and my daughter passed in July. I’ve been depressed most of the time and manic briefly twice. I find it hard to keep my house in order so things build up and then then chaos around the house makes me even more depressed, I wish I had people around me that understood and could help me clean and organize the house and help me with my daughters things. I find now I just like to spend time in my bedroom all the time.
Hi, John here. Being diagnosed for bipolar 22 yrs ago, hard as it is try and socialize, it doesn't all have to be positive visits to be good socializing. It has worked well for me, it was a therapists advice and has been appreciated, wishing you good , John
I’m so sorry for your loss.
@@lesliejrogers thank you so much!
I am so sorry for your loss. 💔 Do you have anyone that can help you with the household stuff? Maybe you can hire someone to come in and help tidy up? It might help you feel a little bit better with things organized. Once again I am so sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter. I can only imagine how difficult that must be. I hope you are able to find comfort during this difficult time as well as support from others. My deepest sympathies to you. -Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
I’m so glad with the timing of this because my bestie is dealing with some things and I so badly want to help. She’s not always clear with what she needs from me but I really want to be the best I can be for her
She may not even know what she needs. Just be her friend. :)
My husband was diagnosed several years ago. It hasn't been easy but I am always willing to learn about steps I can take to support him better. Thank you for these tips.
That is awesome!
Thank you for doing this again my daughter has Bipolar 1 and its not easy but listening to you reminds me that I need to understand more
Hi, are you back? I have missed you. Hope you are well.
Thank you for sharing that.
@@francescalegrand6257 it’s so hard I am at my breaking point. But I know I can’t give up on her
@@d.carter just thought if I didn’t deal with it all would be ok unfortunately that is not the case we preserve 😢
@@lrlittlebean sending you love
You sir are a breath of fresh air thank you for everything you discuss openly and honestly, I'm suffering and torn my girlfriend of 7 years is cycling in and out of psychosis episodes, and she cannot see her behavior is abnormal and destructive, she has refused mental health help of any kind, sadly she self medicates with street drugs to cope with her compounding issues, I have tried every angle I can think of to lead her to help,sadly she trashed my home 3 times broke all my things I'm so heart broken , but I have to save myself from her illness and traumas she carries around . Today I had to make the decision to file for a restraing order, hardest thing I have ever had to fo.. this illness has crushed us both. We need more mainstream help and resources. I feel like my hands have been tied. I'm so worried she will die on the streets.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. All patrons can contact him directly by private message and he frequently offers free phone calls!!! If you decide to join, you can mention my name and he will give you a free call. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! We have many family and friends take part. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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A couple of weeks ago my girlfriend was released from the hospital with a bipolar 1 diagnosis. Looking back at our old conversations, I began to make sense of how she was feeling. Since then I’ve been doing as much research as I can about the condition, but what’s been difficult is applying that knowledge to our relationship. I’m glad I found this video. Hopefully I can put these things into practice so we can improve our relationship, but ultimately improve her own quality of life.
I saw the video go up earlier today then it disappeared I'm glad it's up again I always look forward to new video's. Thank you!
Same here
Thank you for all of your info! I was diagnosed bipolar several years but but I’m just now at 43 years old learning about my illness and wow, just wow. I never understood how much work I am. I’m seeing it and trying to get a grip on what I’m really going through.
Thank you for making this video. I'm 8 years in on living with my best friend that is bipolar. It's ever evolving and keeping him safe and being helpful in the journey is a daily struggle. I've got better at detecting the signs through the years and knowing how to navigate but it is still rough.
Hey there ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. He is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now. I think you may benefit from that. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
(H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Working on cars helps me but dealing with the economy sucks street cars and turning wrenches helps me out for sure!
Thank you. It has been so rough. I have so many regrets. But this gives me hope.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
(H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
During our second or third year of dating, after I was officially diagnosed as being on the bipolar spectrum, my gf decided to learn as much as she could about the disorder. Whenever I go on my long rants or seem to get angry, she understood that sometimes I cannot help it. One thing research can’t always teach is the day to day help. I’ll share this vid with her so we both know how to help each other
Love your content, its good to know someone out there is the voice for so many misunderstood souls. Though I dont suffer from bipolar disorder I do have people in my life who do. Bless and thank you for this much needed insight.
What brought me to yr channel was the search for getting to understand this illness I have two of my daughters one was diagnosed at 14 my other just recently at 37 both totally different bipolar issues I know the suffering and struggles it exhausting mentally but I'll keep trying to help my support is in God for him to give me grace wisdom and direction.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
(H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
I totally agree with the comments text on this site I have a daughter that has a 5-month baby it really breaks my heart I hadn't had conversation with her for 2 years she was in Egypt now she comes home and I don't know if she notices the outburst that she has I pray she seeks help I really am concerned about the baby and her safety I am so glad for this gentleman talking about the issues that they have really greatful
Hi @irmabanuelos3698! Thanks for joining the conversation in the comments. I'm very accessible and happy to answer any questions you have...
Below is a link to my private community on Patreon. It's where you can message me directly and I'll get back to you right away. We can also arrange a phone call if that would be more helpful.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
-Rob
Thanks buddy for your time and patience on such a important topic,we appreciate you
Aww we appreciate you too!
hey thanks for that , im a parent of a sufferer , very hard
Yes, I have a teen with BP. It's tumultuous.
Yes this is a very real illness... Why is it ignored so much!!!
Yes it is
I have a partner that have bipolar. Its exhausting and sometimes i feel like giving up.
My man Robert said FILM. 👏🏼THE. 👏🏼 COPS. 👏🏼 😤 YES SIR I appreciate this part. Mental health crises when not handled by mental health professionals can and do often end in tragedy or trauma. This is so so important.
I met a girl at a bar recently, we got along fine, she admitted her bipolar diagnosis but I continued chatting with her by phone, the following days. She eventually invited me up to where she’s from 800 miles away. She ghosted me a week before I was to arrive. Since I can’t refund the ticket, I’m going anyway. I’ll find my own things to do and she knows I’m still going.
@SBC, How did it go ? Did you make contact with her on the trip, or at all ?
Thank you for making your videos. I have Bipolar 1, and no one else educates me as much as you have!
I highly appreciate all your hard work thanks for this amazing effort
30 years ago i got diagnosed. A warrior ever since. Even in the moments of stability i am highly alert for manic or depression symptoms. So its a 42-7 Job to just live life. Still it is underestimated how mental illness is like a mentall marathon every day. Robert thank you for sharing and caring, a Dutch admirer
Thank you so much for sharing your story Tamara! I'm so glad you are a part of this community! 🙏
Thank you for taking the time to create these videos. They are on a different level from all the other videos on the subject. So helpful.
I'm so glad that you find Rob's videos to be so helpful. I agree with you that they are on a different level than others on the same subject. Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment! If you'd like to help support Rob in what he does with Polar Warriors, I'd encourage you to consider joining him in Patreon. He posts exclusive content there and is available for direct messages through that platform. There is also a wonderful support community in the community section. I'll include the link so you can check it out! I hope you've been having a great week :) -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
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Hey bipolar warrior
thank you for making this video it is helpful
with my problem helping someone else that needs little help with bipolar.
Thank you again for sharing your thoughts, experience , comments we are learning alot from you. From Bill.M
Keep up good work
stay good and God bless you. 🙌 stay well .Thanks
I don't have that kind of relationship with anyone. I've been on my own for a long time
keep on fighting my friemd
I just found your channel. I am not medically diagnosed. But every single thing you have mentioned hits home so bad. I've had so much guilt I've been considering leaving life. I don't even know what to say. I don't know what to think ... 😢
Hey there ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. For a very limited time he is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now in which he can lend an ear, give advice or answer questions. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
(H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Wow. I just stumbled across you and I'm blown away with the oodles and bunches of valid, valuable information you put out there!!! I'm reeling with the possibilities on how my wife and I can step up our efforts to keep out son alive and functional. He was diagnosed at 38 with Bipolar One with Schizophrenic Tendencies. You suggestions on what he's going thru and how to help him are so awesome, so down to earth, so achievable. I'll be telling him about Polar Warriors and asking him to join me in viewing your information. ---Thank you---
I have lost so much and carry a ton of guilt because of this disorder. I've taken my medication religiously for some time now and it helps, but I feel it is important to note that it isn't a cure. I've found my body adjusts to what I'm on and then I have to have it increased. By the time I've figured out what's happened, crap has already hit the fan. It's tough, especially when I see how I treat those close to me. I'd do anything to be able to run away from myself at times. It's appalling the things I say and do. But the worst thing for me is when I'm in psychosis. It's scary, and I project on others that they are going after me in the way I feel like I deserve.
Your channel is a blessing. You explain things in a way I am unable to due to long periods of mania, where I'm all over the place, then when I'm back to "normal" I'm exhausted. You are saving my relationship because I'm lucky enough to have someone who loves me enough to listen to your videos.
I have Bipolar Disorder 1 with psychotic features, and it has been hard, just taking it moment by moment. Much love and respect ✌️
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us Brittney! 🙏
Well,I'm here to help myself,but seeing so many loved ones in these comments trying to help their loved ones,it does give me a string of hope.
Thankyou for this video. My wife has the illness I been taking of her for 18 years. These videos are such a big help.😀
Such good suggestions! Especially liked the mental Heath specialist officer if police need to be called. Before my partner was stabilised I had to call the police and they just did not know how to handle him, they did their best of course but I would listen to them and think “ no, no, no he will run away if you keep this up!” ❤️
Thanks Rob. My loved one is diagnosed bi-polar but her narcissistic behaviour is incredibly toxic and makes it so hard to help her. There doesn't seem to be any hope in continuing to try.
I'm in the same situation, as much as this is a great insight into the problem trying to put it into action is unattainable with certain people.
When are people with an illness too toxic for your own mental well-being? Do you totally discard them or distance yourself on a spectrum based on their symptoms. How can you not take things personally even though you know this person is battling a disease? Friendships dissolve over the simplest of things yet dealing with an illness like this often takes familial commitments for helpful bonds to persist and most of those are out of obligation. This is a disease of the mind and whether or not coupled with other issues like narcissism, you must decide whether or not to toss the person aside to better yourself and not let them distort you and your health.
Being bipolar myself, I've watched it happen with my own friends and family. I've watched relationships objectively be embraced, destroyed and fade with my bipolar friends. Being bipolar with a bipolar friend can be rewarding and difficult.
@@dennisrifenberrick6823 I miss her. The wounds she left cut so deep. She knew how to trauma bond someone expertly, God knows her parents probably taught her by example. Your poignant questions are appreciated.
Oh my goodness 😢what a great educational Video my friend. I Went out with the girl who told me was bipolar, and I failed to educate myself around the issue and when I failed to communicate a concern with her, she sold that as a flaw in a week later told me that she had moved on after spending an amazing three weeks together, she was manic according to what you have explained in this video and I was so excited for it, but it seemed like somebody flipped the switch and turned off all that energy that she was radiating towards me now I feel bad because I don’t have her and the energy is gone .
My daughter is closed to begin diagnosed with bipolar. She’s in denial but I’m trying to get her to come to grips with a mental illness. Thank you for your suggestions
I had CPTSD and was misdiagnosed as "BIPOLAR" by doctors in United Arab Emirates and Pakistan. Suffered for eight long years. By the grace of Allah and great Psychologists I am back to normal. May every out there be safe and healthy. Ameen.🥰
Stupid docs made me too suffer for twenty yrs n still suffering n still I M not diagnosed.... In India also not much awareness n treatment help.
Unfortunately, people really DO get
MIS-diagnosed.
Keep learning, asking, seeking.
Doctors are doctors, not gods.
It’s nice to see a new post, even though I am the one with Bi-Polar 2 it’s good to hear what loved ones should know.
Dealing with bipolar disorder along with a chronic medical condition, I find that the physical gets noticed first. Unfortunately, when one is off, the other is right behind it.
Tried looking for tips to help me. It frustrates me to no end that there's virtually no content like this, as you said, about what to do about it, and, for that matter, what YOU AS THE SUFFERER can do about it, which is ultimately who needs this the most. I feel like a specimen because of this. And I hate it. (Not to mention I have unipolar manic episodes, not bipolar disorder.)
I applaud the work you do... I just wanted to share that point of view.
Thank you you're a wonderful man for sharing all your knowledge
This all presupposes that the person has accepted that they have an illness and is willing to accept help. What do we do when they don’t? What can we do for anosognosia or deep denial?
I would say you can try to talk with the person (cautiously in terms of not telling them in a very negative way that something is wrong with them and they're not normal). But in the end, when you're trying and trying and the person doesn't WANT the help because she isn't even aware of the fact that they're e.g. doing harm to themselves and those around them, then slowly you have to distance yourself from them a bit. I have bipolar myself, but I'm aware of the fact that I have full responsibility over me and my actions. The person you're talking about needs to realize this, too. Perhaps, when the person is manic and ends up making a lot of debt or has to face some other consequences from the illness, they will understand. But I truly believe you need to quit the thinking that you can somehow "save" them. Even when you go to therapy, the therapist doesn't solve your problems for you, he's "just" someone who can guide you through this process (I'm not underestimating the power of a therapy, just saying you are on your own in the end). It's definitely helpful when your family and friends want to support you, there's no doubt, but please don't make yourself sick by investing all your time and energy in trying to help someone
Hog tie em and haul em in to the doctor kicking and screaming 😂 that's what they did for me. I eventually cracked and took my lithium
I had my husband watch the 10 signs you are bipolar video...it opened his eyes and he feels better just knowing this is what's been at him his whole life. I feel better now too that he has accepted it and is willing to understand it more. Good luck💜
I need Channels like this to give perspective to my Bipolar I have had since childhood and I want to support your Channel as much as I can. Thank You for the tips...
My sister has been hospitalized annually for the last 4 years. family members know what to look for. This year, we intervened just on time. She is currently hospitalized now for 2 months. She is 64. She is delusional and seems like she is getting resistant to meds. Lots of her meds caused tremors in her arms and legs. One of the sisters is a health care proxy, and I strongly suggest that each BP person have one. Also, a durable POA
To take care of financial matters. My sister does not have one, and its a mess.
Oh my, you are living my inevitable future situation with my older sister. It is a constant worry that consumes me at times, robbing me of my own happiness in the here and now; what is this all going to look like when our parents are gone? I can't obsess over the unknown and I can't pretend this isn't something I am going to have to deal with at some point. If you don't live with this in your family, you just don't get it. I have to stop and remember that what will be, will be. I can't control or fix this.
I'm currently in an incredibly bad bipolar episode, and finding your channel genuinly helped me distract myself from the pain I was experiencing. I am incredibly lucky a I have a girlfriend that loves me, just as I love her. I want to share these videos with her and try to talk with her about this on how we can get through it together. I hope I can trust her.
Hi Lewis! I'm so sorry to hear that you are in a nasty episode right now! My psychiatrist always tells me that any depression lasting more than two weeks or mania lasting more than a couple of days, I need a MEd adjustment or change. I hope you are able to share your struggles with your girlfriend. In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and we have a support group for patrons only on discord. Take gentle care!
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we broke up
I have gotten so much information from your videos. My friend is having a lot of the things you talk about. Even though he never even mentioned bipolar I realize thats what is happening to him. Right now he's not been talking with me since Christmas. I do keep messaging him a few times a week to leave him know I still care. I know he reads it but never answers any of my messages. I just never know if he will come back to me this time. And I can't just give up on him. We talke together every day when he is better but I can always tell when he's going to have a episode. Then he stops communication for months. Maybe this time he won't come back. Listening to your videos do give me support and all I can do is wonder when or if I will hear from him again. Thank you
Such valuable information thank you! A family member was recently diagnosed with bipolar and it has been harrowing, but we are learning more each day and so appreciative of this type of content, thank you and God bless you!
+ Bi polar warriors. The statement that you said about the cycle of wanting to get help but when you're feeling good you basically think that your ok is exactly like me. I tend to ignore my bi polar health problems on my good days thinking that if I take my medication that's all I will need but now I want to do more to help it. Well today anyway. Thanks for sharing info.
Edit Btw I think that your friends should be there in the bad times too. My son has friends who visit him in his bad times in fact they have to be Pushy with him. He has a different illness not bi polar though.
I too love your content I find it very very informative. Lately I've been cycling and feel like my medications are no longer working for me. I know it's time to go onto the doctor and try some more or different medications. I just want you to know this channel really helps me put things in perspective and to know when to get help. Thank you for what you do.
thanks, some helpful reminders as I support my friends
I wish I had seen this years ago to be better prepared for the relationship I had with a loved one who has Bipolar I & BPD. He didn't tell me in the beginning & I was so not prepared for the 3 year on & off rapid cycling. At times, the anger & meanness were so attacking that it almost broke me. Seeing a lot of your videos explaining the issue being the behavior versus the actual person is helpful. Best advice to anyone in a relationship with someone who has any lifelong diagnosis from diabetes to Bipolar, is to learn as much as you can about it. Talk openly with those in your life about it.
Meeting a mutual of a friend of mine who had bipolar disorder and telling me about it is what got me here, ive heard about it before but never knew what todo thank god for polar warriors and youtube! ^^
Thank you so much for creating your content. I really appreciate you explaining what to do in certain situations and how others can get a deeper understanding of what BPD is really like
I'm Type 2 and my husband is usually wonderful. I can be very negative and critical. Also poor me when I think no one understands. I act like Trump and attack verbally when someone is critical to me. Even knowing this, taking my meds and years of therapy, sometimes the extreme negative emotions sweeps me off my feet. I'm 70 now and I'm much more aware but I'm stuck on this emotional roller coaster. The best thing my husband said to me was he didn't understand but loved me and felt bad I fight to keep things in control. When he brings me a glass of water or buys me blue berries, little things but makes me know he cares and is sympathetic.
😊
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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Very helpful as usual! Thank you and take good care!
Thanks, you too!
Thank you Robert great information! Can't ever learn enough about Bi Polar! You are a wise Warrior!👍
I am sorry you or anyone has to deal with this. But know you are a blessing to those of us that love them. Especially when you can’t afford help due to insurance does not cover.
#2 Setting boundaries to avoid hurting people when we're not well, I'd love an example of what you're talking about. I'm going to reference this in our patreon community discussion and see if anyone has something to share. #4 This is a good explaination of why we have to help those who help us, we have to do just as much work on our end. Medication alone won't do this, and those 2 seconds after something happens are the most crucial.... that reaction moment, the moment that causes us to spiral and sink and slide. We have to try. If you were playing a strategy game, or a sport where one opponent is up against another.... we would study the hell out of our opponent, finding every trigger, every angle, we'd make notes, we'd make plans, this is no different. I swear I feel like I need one whole wall in my house to be a giant white board for me and my family to make notes, right there, for everyone to see - it won't get forgotten, it won't get ignored. A place to come up with triggers, putting feelings on trial, solutions in certain situations, just all of it. Thank you for another great video!
This video is a big eye opening for me. Especially after feeling so exhausted from trying to help my loved one who has been diagnosed with bipolar.
My 13 yr old was just diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. This video is going to help between both the households. Dads and My house. I have Bipolar Disorder, but I don’t know how to help someone else with it due to our circumstances are very different. I learned about mine when I was 27, and we are finding out when she’s 13… I’m glad we were able to label this to set her up for success for life. ♥️
Hi Kittyrage! Wow, that's a lot going on! I always recommend people to join a local bipolar support group but in your case you can even consider joining a family and friends support group. In these groups, you get support and valuable information about services and programs. In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. We have both people with bipolar and those who support them. Take gentle care!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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I’m so glad I found this video. My one relative who lives with me has bipolar. Today as I was in the bathroom my relative who has bipolar was acting all nervous because they had a job interview. The job interview was at 300 and I was in the shower at 1130 and my relative was mad at me because I went in the shower first but they had plenty of time to get ready. When I asked why didn’t you take your shower earlier my relative lashed out on me and said I was being rude and said they were offended. So now I have learned to not blast up my music or take my shower as soon as I get up. I have never been disrespectful to my relative who has the illness. I treat everyone the same. I’m thankful I have found this video. I wish I could tell my relative that thier negative behavior effects me but I don’t want to start a fight.
Yes this is the good side of the Internet, not the horrible side....we "Must" the Internet as a positive to help "All" Human beings we are fundamentally and essentially the same❤️
Thank you Robert so much for this. I was angry with my guy (fairly new relationship) this morning cos he is bipolar and sent me some hurtful texts and he was bad last night when we video'd. I didnt respond but was hurting inside and questioning our future . I decided however to look for support and found your channel. After watching your videos i feel so much better and determined to do my research to try and better support him. Ive subscribed and thank you so much again 😊
Thank you for this. This is a complex subject and I feel like I’m always doing things wrong. I have never apologized more than when i moved in with my family member with this illness.
I think you're videos are prodigious and cathartic. I, of course, empathize well. The reflection of myself, a bipolar woman at 57, is somehow in your reflection (double entendre). Thank you!
You are the first person that I've met, that knows what I go through.... Thank you. Anxiety and epilepsy too. lol . I'll be watching every day
Makes lots of sense and sounds very familiar. Always grateful. Take care. Xx
Thank you so much for your courage to tackle this subject in such a personal way. I am a therapist and I plan to recommend your channel to people who could benefit from all of your experience, insight, and education. Again - thank you!!
Hi Heather, thank you so much for your comment and for recommending the channel to others!! That's awesome :) If you would like to communicate 1:1 with Rob he is available through Patreon. He also posts exclusive content there and hosts support groups for patrons only, through discord!! I'll include the link below so you can check out his Patreon, if interested. Take good care.
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Excellent video! I appreciate the heart felt advise you have given to the bi-polar community.
My son was diagnose with bipolar 1 last week he was manic this week he is depress he is absent the whole week he doesn’t want to do anything he just keep on sleeping, lazy to bath to brush teeth. 🙏 he will be ok soon, doctor gave him medicine one is for mood stabilizer and 1 is for psychosis and those make him very tired and sleepy, i hope next week he will be ok and can go back to school.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Until September 15th, he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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I am going with my husband to a psychiatrist on a Monday. In the U.K. I have struggled through 5 years of isolation because after he had a psychotic breakdown in 2018 and spent 6 months in hospital, they insisted he was unipolar depressed even though I’d told them about his cycles, his depression and hypomania. They said they didn’t see any. So for 5 years I suffered and they wouldn’t talk to me because he didn’t give permission, it freaked him out to remember “when he was mentally I’ll and had a psychotic breakdown.” He denied and still does that he is bipolar two….BUT I was proved right when he went to Portugal last November and ended up in a psychiatric hospital. They diagnosed him as bipolar 2 (they talked to me). I am really scared about Monday as my husband doesn’t want me to go…but I’m invited. I got him to sign a consent letter giving me permission.
Hey there ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. For a very limited time he is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now in which he can lend an ear, give advice or answer questions. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
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Appreciate encouragement and advice to end my Social Isolation. Too late! Have often Stayed Away and abruptly drop in on them. In college I was approached by a Moonie or something. Declined their kind offer on that Friday night.
A bi-polar person who is manic and in denial is pretty much impossible to deal with... and dare I say dangerous. 🏃🏼♀️
When someone is in denial that can be hard to deal with. Just because someone is manic and in denial though, that doesn't necessarily mean they are dangerous. Many people are not a danger to anyone when manic. They are more likely to be a danger to themselves more so than to others. Of course there are always exceptions, but the majority of people with bipolar are not dangerous by nature. -Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
Mine threatens to do all sorts of thing, I would like to know if she knows she has bipolar or shes just in denial?
My situation seems impossible but it’s not, my main problem that I have is remembering things. Accepting the reality of what is going on. He told me as long as I show improvement, I’m showing him change and I won’t scare him away. We have a baby together and I want to stay with him, because he is the person I want to stay with permanently.
So far you are the best content creator who really explains well about Bipolar Disorder. Good Job bro!
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Until September 15th, he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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I got diagnosed at 40, spent the next 5yrs in denial so would refuse medication. I’m finally 2yrs out of hospital (was sectioned 5 times) life is much better for me now as the tablets help stop the extremes. I think it’s super important to take medication so that you can live your life much easier. Thank you for spreading awareness ❤
Thank you so much for sharing Cardiff gal!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Thank you for being so open and willing to share and help others.I have only known love when it hurts me.I love someone with BP.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors