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Thank you so much for making this video. My husband has bipolar. We married each other twice. The first marriage lasted seven years and it ended because his bipolar episodes. We went on our own way after our divorce. Seven years later we started to date again, and we got remarried last year on June 17th. My husband's episodes are simular to yours. Once again we're going through his episodes and it's not easy. While I was watching this video he came into the room. I asked my husband to please sit down and watch this video with me. David watched the whole video. He loves it and asked me to save it. I also subscribed. Thanks for sharing your story. God bless.!
Hi Butterfly 🦋! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. He also started doing cameo like shout out videos free for patreons! He also has shorter, more personal videos and posts on there, including an interview with his partner. Take gentle care! Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds For ten dollars a month, you can message Rob directly, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
I am in love with someone who suffers from bipolar. We met about a year and half ago. Had the most intense start/get to know phase. Were so in love. He used to share everything with me from his painful past relationship to his days and every little detail. He seemed to be working so hard at educating himself and trying to stay healthy then one episode and he hit the lowest of low and got unwell. Now he seems to not be doing so well. It is so heartbreaking to see him go through all that. He slowly drifted away and I had no idea what had happened when changed so much. So one day I told him how I still loved him and would never leave, and wanted us to be together. For him to only say he was not ready and had his mind all over the place and didn’t want a relationship. It was so hard. I know he needs help. I know he needs love and support but he keeps pushing me away and it’s the most excruciating pain. I never knew what bipolar was until I met him but I also didn’t know what real love and empathy was until that moment 😢 I don’t know anything about his healing because he barely shares anything anymore. I hate it. I pray and wish healing to anyone suffering! May we all have the strength and courage to love and heal (whether suffering from bipolar or having a loved one who does)❤️
Hey Rob,long time no hear but I'm ok working very hard to Change my situation.Be that as it may,I would like to know how u deal with anger ?Like the kind that is dangerous almost to the point of laughter because the rage & anger is so much u can only laugh but are fuming on the inside,then it tends to seem like a light thing when in fact you are just so outraged that u can't do anything else.I'm at that place, on top of being a spritual person and intuitive yet there are still the unwanted voices or and thoughts at times its like I'm a freaking guess in my own body .Im just So over this Rob.I recently decided to finish my high school education and graduate in June. What a blessing, yet so many other things Iike I beat myself up bc of my age its humiliation times 3. I trust No one I see the world so different from what I did in the past.Not having my space ,time ,privacy respected along with living in a place in which I Hate with great the greatest passion and all I can do is work as hard as I can to Change it which by the way is a Fact a Promise to Myself that I will do .I am finally choosing Me Myself and yet I am trying to at least acknowledge my feelings and not just cast them away as others Always has.Anyhow thanks for being you & what you do to encourage others such as we are even though we all all unique and special in our on way yet we can relate being Warriors. Continue to Slay Rob bc I will😘😘😘
@@erikblack9663 Hi Erik, I am not an expert, but I know a temper can cause trouble. The phrase he used in this video "punch a wall" made me laugh. My first job was in a fast food restaurant. When I was mad about something, I would punch the door to the walk-in freezer. Until the time I could barely move my hand after I did it. I'm in my 50's now, and go for a fast walk to let off steam, then use words instead of fists for anger, so far. Life is a work in progress. God bless you.
@@maryw4511 it's very hard to be a family member or a relationship person with a bipolar person because you don't know how to react to them and it takes a lot on the other person's end so I'm choosing not to go in that direction because I don't want them to end up killing themselves
@@tammeyj1958 I'm sorry if I was too casual in my comment. I have bipolar and it is difficult for my family too. Please call 911 (emergency) or 211 (not emergency) anytime your family member says or indicates they are considering suicide. May God bless you and your family.
The denial is what was killing me. Finally accepting and seeing the pattern and seeking help when I was 19... I caught it super early and after some trial and error I found the right medication cocktail. I'm 24 now and I'm on my way to graduate school to get a masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and hopefully be able to help people in the same situation I was. Wish me luck :)
That's wonderful Rick. Best of luck to you as you embark on this new journey! :) I hope it works out really well for you! -Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
i’m 24 now and starting to realize the truth however a lack or in denial support system is hurting me even more , i want help but don’t know where to start . a regular doctor visit first ?
My relationships/marriages always ended up in the toilet. It was always the other persons fault in my mind. I am newly diagnosed bipolar II and your videos are helping sort through the train wreck of my life. The train wreck that I created do to my mental illness. I am so blessed to have a loving partner now that is walking the journey of healing with me.
Good for you. I hope I can say the same thing one day. I ended an 8 year relationship almost a year ago and still do not feel ready to start a new one. This time I want to do some work on myself and become strong enough emotionally so I don't help destroy a good relationship. I'm happy for you that you found a partner that will support you on your journey.
My bf believes he has bipolar disorder and after doing some research I feel like he does. I want him to seek help for HIMSELF but it's so hard to get him to even call and make one
@@coriisvilla2925 mine too. He absolute hates the idea of therapy and I understand it’s not for everyone, but trying could be a start. I’m hoping to find or even start a small support group to help me and others find more coping methods and advice on how to be there for them
@@luzyera11 LMK what helps you cope because IK our mental health is important too. I recently started therapy for myself and we've decided to take a break for now. But IDK how to help him anymore or just be patient. Is there any advice you have that may be helpful
That resonated with me big time -- thinking that something's wrong with my job, relationship, or living situation. I've experienced so many rounds of that thinking...
Same thing here. I've left jobs and dropped out of school and put way too much on my plate only to crash and burn. Also pushing people away because I was genuinely ill. I'm happy I can look back at that now and recognize the signs. Therapy has been a big help. There is hope
You are so talented. I don't have bipolar , but I love your channel. I can tell you are a kind man with a good heart and I love that you are helping others.
This is exactly what I feel when I'm getting symptomatic: Something is wrong with my job, my relationshio/friendships and the place where I live and, above all, I badly need to change everything completely in order to finally feel better😆. I could listen to you for hours - it always feels as if you were the male version of mine 😂🙊.
It doesn't help to change anything while under an episode as you take yourself with you wherever you end up. I lost the love of my life by not knowing I was bipolar and was being treated with SSRI'S.
Sadly. This is getting harder in the modern world because it feels like most of us have bad livong situations and it makes financial stress worse. It is hard enough to get well in good times, but without a stable financial safetey net, it can become unfeasibky difficult.
Sorry about the comments being disabled on the video! I made an error in the new RUclips settings that determine if videos are "made for kids" or not. I'm so glad I got this fixed because the comments are such an important part of the Community here
Haha that's funny, I just finished watching this and I went to like and add it to my favorite's list and was super confused about the comments being disabled. I refreshed the video and saw your comment and was relieved haha; I'm not sure if you'll see this Rob but I can't thank you enough for the helpful content you continue to put out. Thanks so much and remember your work is valued and appreciated by many
Rob, thanks again for all that you do for the BP community, those who suffer with it as well as those who suffer with us. Every video of yours that I (and my wife) have seen has been clear, informative, and most importantly caring. I thank GOD that my BP is being managed with lower doses of meds than some and trying to better care for myself. I am also extremely blessed to have my wife walking through our lives side by side together. For others suffering with BP, take care of yourselves, take your meds, see the doctor when you need to do so, and try to work at your relationships with your friends and loved ones. Especially put extra work in your closet relationships when you're well. We are better going through life not as lone wolves, but with friends and loved ones. If you are alone currently and in a bad way, then PLEASE remember that GOD always loves you, and Do Not Harm Yourself or Others!!!!! The statistics on BP suicide are truly frightening for those who are off medication and or very unbalanced. Remember GOD loves you (John 3:16 17), you will be missed by someone, and life will be better again for you. Take care and GOD be with you.
This video made me cry. The amount of times I have wanted to give up and end my relationship when I have my low episodes is insane. And then I always wondered why once time had passed why I didn’t feel that way anymore? Why I felt so separated from that thought process? I recently got diagnosed so I’m doing a lot of research and it’s very comforting to relate to other people.
It’s great to hear about someone else’s personal experience with bipolar disorder because when I search around the internet 99% of the content I find on bipolar disorder is giving a general description of the illness, which isn’t helpful - I’m already aware of my symptoms. Sharing our specific stories is unifying, thank you for your channel!!!
This sounds so much like my relationship, she always blamed me and treated me like shiz . I gave her 11 years of my life and tried everything to make it work. I let it go because of the lies deception, feeling invisible and waiting for commitment promises that never happened. I love her so much and hope that she realizes that I would've given her the stars from the sky if I could ,but it was never enough .this isn't an easy disorder and I sympathize but it takes two to put in the work and i gave it 11 years she gave it zero .thank you for these videos they help me alot.
Maybe as advice you can introduce her to this channel it has helped me ....currently I don't know if I am blaming my relation because of my illness or i am actually in a bad relation .....on the brink of marriage and I am scared of ruining his life and mine ....the difference is I realize more about this illness... for the longest time even after the diagnosis I thought I was normal because my episodes kick in just once in two years I have long moments of stable period but now periods of instability is more frequent and I am blaming the stress around me like not being called back for my job or the upcoming wedding I feel I am not ready for :(
I don't want this to be be me.. I'm sorry you lost 11 years. I'm at 6, and still feel like I'm selfish and guilty as if I should've know that THIS time.. she's gonna have a break down due to honesty
Thank you for telling your relationship story. I've done some very similar things, even dropping out of college and moving to another state where I didn't have a job or anything. My bipolar symptoms began to creep up around 10 years old, which is young. Every relationship I've ever been in has ended in disaster. Most relationships that end do, but I'm talking bipolar disaster here. My wife refuses to leave me and we've been married for 13 years. Things are strained right now, but I finally have a team of medical professionals trying to figure out the right cocktail of meds and therapy for me. Wish me luck.
My husband is 46 and finally realized that he needs help. We have been together for 25 years and I have known the entire time that something was wrong. I started researching about 5 years ago and sharing the information with my husband. About 6 weeks ago he finally realized that he needed help, after a manic outburst.
After my last self-sabotage with alcohol and relationships I sought professional help, meds and therapy and realizing I can do things to help manage the madness is such a powerful step!
I'm so glad you've taken steps towards better managing your symptoms. Best wishes to you as you continue on this path!-Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
My last relationship was for 10 years and alcohol was such an enemy. I feel horrible for the things I put him through. I have now been married for 6 years and my husband and I have not drank a sip of alcohol for 7 years. He decided not to drink when I realized that I could not handle alcohol anymore. It has been a better life without it. I still have horrible downward spirals, but they are far better without the alcohol. Thank you for your video. My husband actually introduced me to your channel. We need more people like you and your followers to be brave and just tell their stories, so thank YOU and thank you guys/gals below
Hiya, I have just ended my relationship with my bipolar partner of 15 months. I am aware that he has had a cycle in all his previous relationships and I too was in this rapid cycle with him. I have been educating myself all the way through his journey, but he then started chasing elsewhere and the longer I remained the further away I was being pushed away, I too lost my sense of self in this whole experience. It’s been the most enduring journey, I made the decision that I need to look after myself ultimately as he is still unable to take ‘responsibility’, walking away was the hardest thing I have ever done. There has also been no intimacy for 12 months. I love him dearly, and I truly hope he finds a place a comfort eventually xxx
I'm no doctor so I won't diagnose him. What I know is that all the love that we once shared nor my willingness to fight any issue by his side. Even after constantly educating myself learning how to curve my words to make sure I didn't offend him. When in reality I was just begging for him to let me in. It not enough
I’m bipolar and just ended my relationship with my boyfriend today. I know he can really relate to this because he told me the same thing. He felt I kept pushing him away. He lost his self because he’s alway thinking about how to help me and that made him tired. I understand him and his decision because I love him. I just want to be better so that I can be stable and have a happy relationship soon
I had to end mine after almost three years and it hurt so much! I had enough when I lost myself in begging for his attention and affection. I had to request to spend time with him because he said I didn’t earn it. Next thing you know I’m pregnant driving at 2am looking for him while he ignored all my calls and texts. I finally found him drinking and driving and ensured he came home safely. After he acted like nothing happened and when I said I had enough he grew angry and said he’ll always go out and always take care of himself first.
My girlfriend breaks up with me whenever she hears something she doesnt like about herself. Unlike Rob she isn't humble and her narcissistic abusive personality makes things so much more difficult. Luckily she keeps to her meds but hearing Rob and a few others mention a therapist sounds like the only other answer possible. Rob got to a place where he knew he had to fix himself and face his demons. That takes so much courage and self awareness ... you fully acknowledged and owned your past actions and responsibilities. Well done mate. All the best 👍
Sounds just like my ex girlfriend, mine used to bring that behaviour to the bedroom and wondered why I lost interest in her. Although I made the right decision I kind of miss the ,,,I'll do anything anywhere crazy stuff probably the main attraction tbh I now studying this Chanel so I don't make the same mistake again, I told her you pushed the button to far this time she just flipped the finger walked off ranting onto her next victim hopefully.
He’s not my boyfriend, lol, so I’m looking at it very differently lol. My son broke his own heart by breaking up with a wonderful woman in a manic/mixed episode and said things that can never be taken back. She has tried to remain friends but because he refuses all kinds of treatment, he seems to be having episodes more and more frequently and he is making it impossible for her. It is heartbreaking. Now he has become anorexicly thin at 114 lbs and 5’11” at age 35. As his mother, I am powerless. I had reached a healthy place of loving him from afar and remaining detached to a large degree. His health is waning and still, he refuses any kind of treatment available on this globe. 😢
@@stuart4679. Thank you. It has reached the point where I don’t know who to talk to. Even my wonderful therapist encourages acceptance which I pray and meditate about. My meditation is the greatest relief. The reality that my adult son is killing himself is unavoidable. Perhaps there are people who can completely love and completely detach from someone they’ve known all their lives. I haven’t found that trick yet.
My ex has bipolar disorder we broke up like 10 times and it was really hard to go trough those break up I tried alot to understand her but it was really hard I hope she finds someone who is able to understand her alot more than I did. If any one has a partner with a bipolar disorder just understand them and love them give them hope and all the support you can. Learn about the disorder and help them.
Sorry to hear mate. I was in a similar situation except i believe I have bipolar as well and it became a fire and dynamite situation and I just couldn't get back with her even though she wanted to because she cheated on me but I couldn't get over it even though I had feelings for her too. She was a lot worse whether it be from trauma or just because it's a worse case but I think I've been with two girls at least with it one was for sure from trauma the other I'm not quite sure because she was very deceptive
Yes, love them and help them, and also learn to remove yourself from the relationship when it is too much. If you want a functional partner then reconsider... it is an awful lot of work that usually gets no recognition, retribution, or appreciation. They use you until you are drained and your needs are not even considered most of the time.
Interesting... This video says "my story" and people STILL dislike it. Perfect example of how we aren't open to reason when we are sick. I LOVED this video by the way
I can't put into words the help that this is giving me with understanding what someone is going through. Unfortunately I'm on the backend of this after they made a terrible decision to end things only days after we were in such a good place. I'm dedicating myself to understanding and being there no matter what. Thank you for all you do I'm sure I'm not the only one searching for answers and comfort to ease the pain.
I just had my heart broken from a bipolar ex who cycled and just decided to break up with me for no reason. Nothing was wrong and everything was going fine in our relationship. I’ve never known a pain this brutal. The person had informed me they were bipolar early on when we first met. I knew a bit about the illness and certainly expected changes in mood and maybe even periods of not seeing each other, but I never expected to just be brutally discarded out of the blue when the very first cycle hit. They just coldly blocked me from everywhere on social media and then over text without responding to me at all. It feels like a complete lack of empathy. I am assuming they are unmedicated.
I can’t believe how spot on this is. I got diagnosed with depression and anxiety for years and finally recently got the bipolar diagnosis. I didn’t believe it at first, but the symptoms all align. Everything in your video is what I’m going through. Chasing the high of mania. Alcohol and drugs to amplify it more. On anti-depressants that absolutely increase mania but not wanting to get on bipolar meds because then I won’t be able to feel as “up”. It is so hard. I’m currently in a low which is why I arrived to this video among others. I appreciate your honesty and shared experiences. I have also met people when I’m in my mania, and I feel like once I cool off, they won’t like me for me. It’s been extremely hard to navigate, and it is nice to know I’m not alone. I also feel the constant urge to just uproot my life in some way - moving, big purchases, ending or starting relationships. It is potentially life-altering.
Thank you so much and I thank GOD for your videos because I was just diagnosed with Bipolar 1 a week ago I left the office feelings relieved and at the same time embarrassed but to sum my story up is I'm 48 and just getting diagnosed but as a teenager I knew something was wrong but never had a clue that. I had a serious problem.but I could go on and on about my life but you nailed it and really appreciate what you are doing
I'm type 2 bi polar and i feel constantly down well atm neutral and all i wanna do is sleep after work... I'm always agitated and have to force myself to interact with ppl... I'm unmedicated
As a partner of a bipolar 1 person, this video was so very needed 🙏 Your story seemed relatable to me in some way cause of my partner's story. It's so sad to see how less research has been put into this disorder when clearly so many have been impacted by it.... You're doing such a great job of giving us all much needed info and tips about this illness. Thank you ☺️
Thank you for being so generous with your time teaching how to live with bipolar. I was diagnosed recently with cyclothymia at age 58!!! What I told the psychiatrist nurse was going on in my thoughts and behavior coul qualify me back at ten years old. My mania includes arts and crafts, clothes, and constantly buying new journals because this one I will write in daily-and that stops in about a week. I believe now that the meds help me greatly. I have bought dogs and then had to regime them-a Great Dane, a collie, and a schnauzer. I lookin my closet today as I am minimalissing thinking who lives like this??? Where did all this stuff come from? A big relief is your explaining thins. I have been a member of AA 23 years, got sober which I now see my desperate attempts to self medicate and over years couldn’t live without it. Plus pain pills for brief times like toothaches and surgeries felt like I needed to stay on the opiates, but didn’t have a regular supply so I didn’t get hooked. I love being in this warrior group living one journey day at a time. You reminded me to be truthful about this and so far I have two people similar to me. Thank God for being fearfully and wonderfully made. I am learning to love me all over again. Plus no spending half a paycheck on crap. Take care!
I have the same disorder and I also abused alcohol as well as many , many other harmful substances in order to try to level the roller coaster! When I got clean and sober and took my meds properly I finally started getting better! It will never go away I don’t think but I’m much more capable of dealing with it now ! People should understand that it will never be easy but we must play the hand life dealt us as best we can! I constantly study my illness and learn everything I can about it in determination of fighting it effectively! This condition has at least made me a very strong person inside even through the terrible times ! I know I’m stronger than my problem but I battle it constantly and refuse to give up! You have made me even stronger with your great insight and honesty about the subject! The worse I feel, the harder I fight this hell on earth in hopes of one day defeating it ! Probably never happen but I will never surrender to it ! Thank you for your help!!!
This is the most accurate description to my life I have ever come across. Thank you, I very much can relate. I’m 37 and have been struggling with getting back on medication. This video has been very helpful.
thank you so much for sharing this story. I relate to it so much looking back on my life and troubles in relationships, jobs etc. I haven't been diagnosed, in my family it was "if you don't have an illness we can see you're not really sick" mentality and now that im an adult in my early 30s I'm seriously seeking help before I destroy my life anymore than I already have and this helped tremendously.
Hello, beautiful! I remember AMAZING you at 19! You've always been warm and considerate, heartbreakingly handsome and your singing could bring any woman to her knees. You had a natural power over people.. but, you never took advantage of it. You've found your purpose.. teaching... Life gave us lemons... and you took yours and turned it into a healing tincture to share. My lemons...I blame for making me old and sour. Kyle deserves better. Every year, Christmas makes me realize how much happiness he could have found.. with someone else. God Bless you, Rob. Thank you for all you do for so many of us ... bipolar messes.
Don't beat yourself up because you suffer from Bipolar Disorder. Your partner chooses to be with you and this is a gift. Don't sabotage it by not thinking you deserve to be happy with him. Work on yourself, find pleasure in the simple things, and stop beating yourself up. I did that in my past relationship and it ended up destroying it. Cherish what you have and seek God to help you through your struggles. My faith has gotten me through terrible crises and without Jesus Christ, I would have quit. I sincerely hope for recovery and light to come your way. Blessings to you, Tana. 🙇♀️
It’s so breathtaking to hear someone else finally be able to communicate what I’ve always felt and thought about but had no idea how to express bc other people don’t listen or understand the depth of how serious everything you’re saying really truly affects us.
You give me so much insight. Thank you for you're service. I can tell that you doing this isn't just for us but for you as well. I just moved from another state and got caught between medical insurances. Been manic since December. It's March. A couple of weeks ago I made a second attempt on my life. Called the ambulance on myself then left the hospital. I live alone. No family here no friends. I'm checking in in the morning. I love to work. I can't right now. Gotta get right. I finished my 4th book last night. Can't seem to put down the pen. Thank you for being you. Keep on! We are paying attention
This was an immensely brave and helpful video you've shared. I was with someone for 20 months who suffered the severity you describe. She totally denied anything was wrong and the relationship nearly ended my life. So I take my hat of to you for sharing this with everyone
Thank you so much for being out there and without knowing me, helping me to understand what is the biggest problem of my life. I've watched already several of your videos and I finally stopped crying or thinking about ending my life. Today is my birthday and for the first time in my life I'm completely alone. Living by my self during a lockdown with bipolar and depression it's probably the most challenging situation I've ever been to. Today you are my only guest and thanks to you I have learned so much about my self and where my life changing decisions originated but what's more important, that I don't have to continue living like this. Few hours ago, I've decided to stop being self pity and make something good for my self, so I won't remember this birthday as the saddest day I could ever had. It was the best decision I've made to click on one of your videos ! Thanks to you I will remember this bday as the day when 'everything changes for the best' :) (quote from Chinese fortune cookies I hang on my screen 2 days ago). For the first time today I'm feeling peaceful and I'm smiling :) I have no words to say how fantastic guest you are on my 41st bdy !
I'm so glad you were able to turn your day around!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Perhaps watching on of our more uplifting videos like the reasons why bipolar is not that bad and reading the comments on that one, there are so many really cool stories. The video of watching in action is one of my faves, rob plays two roles and I really find it funny. Anyway, so glad your a part of polar warriors! Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member Rob: I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much
@@PolarWarriors I do wanna help you guys and I do consider become a patreon, as soon as my life will stop shaking like a earth quake you will see me there :) Please, don't stop your fantastic work x
I have just come across your channel and I have to admit, of all my research; you have broken down the best ways to understand and express the struggles of having bipolar. I've had a hard time attempting to explain why I am the way I am to someone who has had zero experience or knowledge of bipolar. I will most definitely be sharing your channel.
I'm so glad you discovered Rob's channel and that you've found he explains things so well. I have to agree with you there! :) Thank you so much in advance for sharing the channel with others!
Newly diagnosed and reflecting on past relationships and this helped a lot. I realized during manic phases I'd make friends with these TERRIBLY narcissistic individuals, mostly because I'd go on spending sprees for them, give them my things, do crazy things to entertain them. Then I'd come crashing down from the mania and I'd see them for who they really were. Disclaimer- I do take full accountability that when I realized these friendships were toxic I hit the nuclear detonation bomb and RAN instead of talking it out rationally like I would want to when not in an episode. However it certainly hurts a whole lot once you come out of a manic phase and some of the people you thought we're the closest to you are just fake and just taking advantage of "good" times. Been having a hard time dealing with feelings of not only betrayal but of the guilt I feel about those situations and myself. This helped show me I'm not alone and like you said- to not take things too personally
For bipolar sufferers and their partners alike, this is such an important video. My marriage of 11 years was full of cyclical, undiagnosed mania that significantly affected our ability to understand and support each other. And, oh the empty promises I'd make when panicking about being left. That marriage ended badly, but I'm hopeful for a future relationship in which I can be vulnerable and honest. Your channel is so very helpful, thank you.
Your experience is 100% parallel to mine.. it's so crazy! Past 20 years, I have moved across the country soooo many times, had soo many jobs and sooo many relationships. And I truly believed each time that that's what I needed to do! Finding out that I'm not the only one who's done this is amazing, I started bawling watching this and still am. I am so thankful for you sharing your story.
I am clearly bipolar ...once a Dr listened to my life story and he said the same thing. Every three years I have quit my job and dumped everything I own to Goodwill or given it away to a friend, hauled ass to a city where I've never lived and haven't got a job( with usually $1200 to $2000 to my name ) I usually break up with someone and move to another city with no warning. Then in three years do it again and dump the new boyfriend because I don't have any indication that they are the ONE....then I've moved back to live with my single mom three times....I've lived in 11 cities and at least 29 different living situations!!! I've had two marriages and a new relationship every 2 or three years ....living with the person and then abruptly leaving with no warning.....I've quit jobs on a whim and moved with no job waiting....lol. I thought of that as just being part of my adventurous spirit !
Im 31 years old and just been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. You helped me understand so much of myself. Im a honest person like you. Thank you. I just subscribed. Polar Warriors. Ive had to changed so much of myself. I have therapy and much more..but i crashed and burned for years and never understood why until I went to a mental hospital but was misdiagnosed and had antipsychotics and they messed me up..bit now im on the right meds thank you
Thank you for the videos Robert! Happy New Year to you! March will be one year together with my long-distance guy in Texas. He just celebrated working 34 years at American Airlines on December 30. He sticks to a monthly budget and takes his meds daily. He has other health issues as well and very open to talking about it. I am so proud of him and how well he stays on top of everything daily. He also is a single dad who has a 29-year old autistic son that lives with him. Sometimes I do have to encourage him to take a day of paid vacation to just be lazy at home. Even with living 800 miles apart, it has been the best relationship ever. I love him more every day.
Thank you for this video. It has been enormously helpful. I'm not bipolar but I work for someone who is. And these videos help me understand why my acts asked the way he does, and how to avoid or dodge most of his (idk what to call it) unhinged behaviors/neuroticism.
For me, this video was incredibly insightful. I have come to a point in my life where I am really weighing the relationships in my life and my own actions and decisions that affected them, usually for the worse. I mean relationships beyond the romantic type, including the ties I have with my friends, family, employers, neighbors and community as a whole. This video offered advice that speaks on how you can better manage relationships with anyone if you have bipolar. I think back on the last decade of my life and the connections I've made and destroyed and see carnage. Thank you so much for all your posts because they truly speak to me at a time in my life where I think I most needed them. I hope with these and other supports I will pivot away from my destructive and cyclical behaviors or at the very least learn to mitigate the damages. Lessen the suffering. 🙏💜🙏
I want to thank you so much for describing what almost experience for experience matches my story of blindly operating in a manic state without even knowing it. It’s been a journey that has lasted about 8 years to get to the point where my family and I are solving or have solved the stigmatized mystery. My grandfather had “manic depression” but no one told me I was susceptible and weren’t going to until i went looking for answers. Today marks my first day of knowing without a shadow of a doubt I have a disease and can stop being penalized in life for it. So blessed to hear this.
Hi Jonathan, that must be a relief and as you said a blessing to hear that. I'm not sure who had it first in my family, but there are several of us who have bipolar disorder and I think one of my grandmothers had it. I was relieved when I learned that I had it because it explained so much. Thank you for sharing some of your story with us. If you'd like to help support Rob in what he does with Polar Warriors so he can continue to make more videos like this, I'd encourage you to consider joining him on Patreon. He posts exclusive content there and is available to reply to direct messages through that platform. There's a wonderful community there. I'll include the link so you can check it out. I hope your weekend is off to a good start. Take care! -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member) www.Patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Hearing about your stories being a tears to my eyes because of how much I can relate to you and your past. Watching your video made me realize I’m mentally ill and I’m pushing the people I love most away. I think I was having an episode because just last night I was ready to end a relationship of 1 year and move away again. After watching this video I am more aware of what I have done and I am thankful to have come across your channel.
I just found out about my illness and didn't know what was going on with me. I knew something was not okay. But didn't know exactly what. I have been single for the past 3 years now and was because I was always blaming myself and blaming them too and just not good. Now that I saw this video of yours makes lots of sense in many of my actions. Now I am focus just on getting better. Thanks for making this video Sir.
Awesome video and thanks for the incite. My ex wife and mother of our beautiful children is someone I believe to be suffering from this disease. After our divorce she wanted to reconcile a year later and for the past 3 years it's been a roller coaster. She even felt she could be bipolar but no treatment or help. I eventually chose to leave not just the relationship but the state to try and get back to a life I can live and provide for my children. I understand she is going through something and I learned that I'm not equipped to manage myself and her. I pray all works out for those who suffer from this disease and their loved ones who want to see them do better. Namaste 🕉️🙏🏾
Wow! You just described my life exactly! I truly appreciate your open honesty. Hearing you describe what you have experienced has helped me to understand myself and this disorder better. I've reached out to accept help finally, thank you so much!
This is the most reliable video , exactly detailed about how my bipolar 1 treats me. Thank you, he describes bipolar disorder way better then any psychiatrist.
Thank you for your honesty and sharing your life. Your transparency will help me understand my 18 yr old son more. He is showing symptoms and I am exhausted. I will keep on keeping on for him and still take care of myself, as well. May God bless you for your kindness in doing what you’re doing.
U helped me a lot..thank u..no one could ever understand the series of success and failure..stillness and rage..beginnings and endings..financial stability and bankruptcy..good job and unemployment..I am now 32 and the older I grew the worse and more intense the episodes become..no one could understand..I lost a lot..job..studies..relationships..family..money..I also started experiencing extreme anger episodes where I can cause much damage unconsciously..I am starting to understand bit by bit and stand by my side and forgive her and be kind to her on the journey..thank you for sharing ur life steps..this truly gives much help and guidance..thank you:)
You explain so much! Really helps me understand what happened. Mental illness is so crazy. Irrational, disruptive, and painful for us family members. We love so much because there is so much to love and then we loose them and they blame us and we start to believe them because they are so convincing. But out of control lives are not worth living, or worth living with. It feels demonic.
You are awesome.. have made such a positive impact my in my life and a greater much need understanding as to why I felt and acted as I did!! I am now able to forgive myself for the mass destruction I brought on my self and loved ones... I have been able to let go of shame and regret... I have prayed n prayed for answers as to why?? N God led me to you! Keep it up we need it!! You great!! Thank you again for everything you do!
I’ve recently been starting to accept and become aware that A lot of the times I swear I’m right I’m not and I’m just manic and angry So when u said don’t punch holes in ur relationship because there not so easy to patch up Gave me such a big motivation
Dear Rob, I wanted to take a moment to thank you for creating a bipolar channel to share with the world. Your willingness to share your story and experiences with the world is truly inspiring, and it's having a real impact on people's lives. Your channel provides a platform for people struggling with bipolar disorder to connect with others who understand what they're going through. Your insights and guidance are helping people to manage their symptoms, find effective treatments, and ultimately, to lead more fulfilling lives. I'm so grateful for your guidance, and I know that many others feel the same way. By sharing your story, you're helping to break down the stigma surrounding mental health issues and showing hope for struggling people. Thank you again for all that you're doing. You're saving lives and making a real difference in the world. With gratitude, Marty
Hey there! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. For a very limited time he is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now in which he can lend an ear, give advice or answer questions. Take gentle care. Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
I'm so appreciative of this channel and all of your insight and willingness to share your experience with Bipolar Disorder. My current partner of over 7 years has Bipolar 1 and likely Rapid Cycling, and we're currently in the throes of them going through a deep manic and psychotic episode, perhaps the worst one to date. Their mania and psychosis contains a lot of rage, and it's hard to not feel like we're at an impasse. I try my best to not take things personally and to recognize when threats are empty and meant be a mechanism of control over this difficult situation, but it's excruciating when I become the focus of all of their blame because I am the closest person to them in their life. I'm not sure what else I'm trying to say, but as painful as this period of time is I feel some comfort in knowing we're not alone. Thank you.
It sounds like a very difficult time for both of you. I'm so sorry to hear you are going through such a rough period right now with your partner's illness. I hope that this episode passes soon. I also hope that they're getting help from professionals although I do understand that even with that it can still take time for episodes to go away. You're definitely not alone in this. There are many couples going through similar situations. I hope that things improve soon. Best wishes to both of you. I wish you both more peaceful days ahead. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
I believe 100% finding this video tonight was a sign from somewhere. For the past year I have really been learning exactly what having bipolar disorder meant for me. It’s been one hell of a journey the past ten years with different adventures to different states with different husbands while feeling like I’ve already lived my best life because I hit my rock bottom with drawling in a jail cell 2 years ago. My fiancé doesn’t understand me, yet I hope, or understands how I know I achieve certain things within our relationship. Your “testimony” says everything I’ve not been able to express about my life with bipolar and it helps me show him that recovery is possible. That I don’t have to be that person anymore. Thank you.
I'm single for 5 years now. I want, I wish, for the next woman I kiss to be the one I die with. It is a dream - just like my next job being the one I'll retire from. I know I am a dreamer, but I hold dearly to those dreams. Hence the super importance to take BP2 seriously. Learn it, embrace it, master it. I hope I am not just delusional.
Have been seen a wonderful with 3 mental illness and WOW does he no how to kiss a girl no one could ever kiss me like that and no will ever kiss like he does 8 months 😳 so I think you will find that right girl do not rush into I wait 6 years I would never let a other guy kiss or make love to me good luck
That’s wonderful! I’m so glad this video has been helpful. Please do keep stopping by the channel. If you’d like to connect with me personally, here is a link to my private community: www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors -Rob
Honestly, this is a gift. Thank you so much for bring willing to put yourself out there for the betterment of others. You are an earth angel. Thank you. All the love and light I can muster to you!
Thank you so much Robert! I watched most of your videos all made me can’t stop tearing. You are very mature , honest ,loving and talented really really appreciated you share your stories. I guess u r similar age with my boyfriend. I ‘ve been dating him for 1year and half. He is bipolar 1 and took medicine everyday more than 5years . I feel really painful being around with him now . I’m tough girl but this time I feel burn out and I just wanna lying on my bed all day. I feel helpless coz none of my friends or my mum know my situation . The reason is I don’t want them to worry about me . I can only talk to his parents but somehow his parents r scared to deal with him. If I talked to his close friend , all I found is my boyfriend lied abt how things happened, accusing things I didn’t do or I didn’t say. I’m the one always to blame he is the most innocent victim and no matter what he is always the one need to be take care. He can’t see it the way yelling at me , break things, said and send lots of hurtful , mean words to me which is hurt me. He always delude himself and the ppl around him. He is very sensitive and narcissism but I can tell him directly. Instead, every time when we had small fight or big one I’m the one always apology and beg for his forgiveness . the reason i know this is the thing he love to heard. (However not always work coz sometimes he switch his mood so fast no matter what I said or do still can’t satisfy him ) Another the worst feeling for me is after his episode, when we talk about it. He still think that he is got triggered by me and I’m the one fuckup , apologies and I should do everything for him the way he want . He is very good at talking. He made me feel guilty and scolded me to the point that I wanna kill my self. I don’t know how to help him anymore . I found online articles about the lying part but I’m so scared to send that to him. I don’t want turn out he will claims that I attack him and have another big fight . I didn’t lie and I did a lot things make him happy, support and take good care him. I love him but I don’t know if I can still move forward. I searched online but I can’t find any videos regarding how their behaviour affect someone’s feelings , really hope ppl can understand what we (living with person who has BD)been through , his friends or family pls don’t blame on me coz I really don’t have super power to stop him drinking. I’m not good at talking or expressed the pain in my heart. I hope u can share your story or thoughts with us 🙏
I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 this week. My mom was Bipolar 1 and untreated. I watch these videos every night, thank you so so much for making me feel normal.
Thank you SO MUCH for this video... I'm on the receiving side (my wife is bipolar and we are together 14 years now) and i'm watching your video's a few months now, seeking for answers (we only know for 1,5 years now she is bipolar, but she's not really doing anything with this information) after i've had a 4 years burnout because of this, combined with getting 3 children together (and she got 2 postnatal depressions also), I've been in so deep shit with myself because (self-doubt/anxiety) of this. And I've been her caretaker all those years (till this day), but her 'episodes' finally took the best of me after beiing 10 years together...The last few years we are building on our marriage again and is working out fine, besides the fact I am actually still overloaded on regular/daily basis. Only i'm affraid it will go wrong again because she's not living like she is bipolar (she also knows/says that I'm the one all those years that sees the signs (even in early stages) and am the one that will keep running things while she's having an episode, like I always do). Only taking her anti-depressants and nothing more... But god, I still love her so much! (P.S: In my experience she has 2 or 3 (light/medium hypomanic episodes every year and 1 big manic episode about every 2 years. The depressions are pretty much under control since she takes sertraline (AD) since she had the first postnatal depression in 2011)
It's generally not recommended for people who have bipolar disorder to take an antidepressant without a mood stabilizer. It can lead to very uncomfortable mixed states and rapid cycling.
Your time line sounds like my relationship time line currently. I'm just starting to realize what been going on for years. I've been a stay at home mom for a while now and every few years I'll have long stretches of mania followed by depression. But the pass years especially the last year I've noticed it because more rapid.
I love this guy, he's an champion over the inner struggle, I haven't made it there yet nor has my son's mother but goodness does this inspire me to be and do better and get me on the path of change. Instead of seeing ourselves as victims of anything, more like an survivor than perhaps someday, a Champion! Thank you!
I really love your honesty. I just had an awful conversation with my bipolar other half. He got all tangled up with his thoughts and tracking what I was saying as a supportive person. He suddenly became horribly vicious and accusatory that I was'nt listening nor did I care. We are talking about a major change moving north selling his inheirited house. It's a place full of ghosts. Two bad things now. He is back on meds for about 9-12 months after off meds since 2004. Second is a person using him who he refuses as that way. He will not get him out of the house (as he says he will) and gone with his stuff for good. It's nutty as this guy is living in the house and I'm in a old RV at a rest stop or camp ground. Yes, my other half is breaking me. I've known him for 33 years. Mental illness has been part of my life since a child as my mother was bipolar as well without diagnosis for most of her life. Your videos are helping me stay on firm ground. Thank you.
You explained this so well. I’ve been in so many relationships that ended for the same reasons. now that I’m in a relationship with somebody who is bipolar as well it definitely puts me in his perspective sometimes and helps me understand myself better.
It was deja vu. Hitting pause is wise for me. Yet I run like the hatter. Thank you for this insight. It helps in relationship..you're doing a great job.
Once in a while I come back to watch this video. It helps me to make some sense in a situation where I was left for no reason after a long, long period of great times with this amazing man. Before cutting me off he just told me that he doesn't want to drag me into trouble with him and after a while blocked me everywhere. He was in a very bad place. I still miss this amazing person everyday.
Okay, checked in last week and said you changed a lot for me. Had my first appointment with my shrink today and just picked up my script. Going to give this a go and keep watching. I'm sure you hear this all the time and have no idea your interest level in it, but if you aren't already, you should consider going to school to do this professionally or even run a group. Your great dude. Thanks a lot for everything.
Thanks for sharing your story. Bipolar illness is in my family. My late mom and sister had it. And I'm guessing my.late brother had it too though he was undiagnosed. Am glad I found your helpful channel!
Thank you for the amazing video, I’m so glad I found it. My beautiful partner ended our relationship abruptly - and had withheld his diagnoses from me. My whole world came crashing down and now it’s been 4 months since it ended. In my heart I am absolutely hoping he can reach out to me once he starts to get better. I wish he could see this video and see that there are others out there that have suffered and overcome. I hope he chooses to admit to himself for himself that he deserves love and that he wants to start looking after himself for a brighter future. He also made excuses to his family that make no sense as to why it ended: the whole video hits home 😢
Hi, you should send this video to him. Threw email or something. One day when the times right he might watch it. I’m in the same boat almost 6 months and nothing. I understand.
I realized recently that I'm having bipolar disorder. When thinking about my past it is like a nightmare living with my illness without knowing it. Now I'm educating myself about my illness more.
Same here. It is kind of a relief to understand that I was sick while all of that was happening or while I was doing weird stuff. But it doesn't go away.
Thank you for your transparency. Being in a relationship with someone with bipolar is hard, especially when you're discovering that you may also have it, despite not having an official diagnosis. I appreciate all the tips you've given. It's definitely encouraging.
Hi @sarahtrinkitty868! Thanks for joining the conversation in the comments. I'm very accessible and happy to answer any questions you have... Below is a link to my private community on Patreon. It's where you can message me directly and I'll get back to you right away. We can also arrange a phone call if that would be more helpful. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors -Rob
Wow this help me to understand what happen with us. Even know my heart got broken into pieces I’m glad I was part of your life cause I did learn so much and I’m so happy we can’t still be very good close friends. I respect you so much Rob!! This video really help me to finally understand that it was nothing I could do to save us at the time.
Thank you for sharing this entire channel. I was diagnosed w depression in college and since have received a bipolar 2 dx. Everything you share is so relatable. Gives me hope.
Hi @JT-lu8tm! Thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I know this illness can be incredibly hard to navigate. I'd love to offer any support I can... If it interests you, I have a private community where you can message me directly and network with other people who are going through similar struggles. No pressure of course, but it would be great to have you join us. I'll include a link below: www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors -Rob
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I 100% agree. Also before you realize your partner actually does have a problem, there is the constant not understanding how they could be so heartless towards you, say things you would never even consider saying, and wondering why they have no remorse for it, and then after the episode has passed telling you how much they love you. It’s absolutely mind boggling when you don’t realize what’s going on.
Damn... this is so spot on for my relationship and the current "mixed episode" we are going through now... its like a mirror of every other episode every time... Its almost like shes following a script where she blames me for all of her lacking in life and moves out over night and is starting a "Life Coach" business with her friend who is equally lost... shes practically ghosted me for the 5th time and every time she comes back 2-3 months later its always how she now sees the pattern and will get it under control next time.... that obviously doesnt happen. Awesome video and description man.... thank you for putting the clarity out there. I am no doubt not perfect but I sometimes wonder if this time it really is something ive done... but this is too spot on and validates my gut instinct that this is another episode.. go through this every 6 months to a year...
Bipolar is ruining my life.. on paper I have it all, but in real life I’m really really struggling. Hope I find the right med dosage soon. This video helps so much. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
How are you? I'm struggling as well looking for answers. Asking myself whats wrong with me. I seeded normal but then I question the mania and the next day I'm sad and hopeless
I also don't know how to deal with my issues as well was diagnosed young and now it's affecting me.......I am trying to find a reason and I get it finding a reason helps but you tend to victimise yourself and blame others especially those who are close to you which is always not a good thing
Sweetheart go to a good doctor I mean a good one and tell him or her everything and get meds if doesn’t work go back get another one also get a good psychologist to help u on a weekly basis or at least bimonthly stay away from drugs and alcohol anyway I can relate to u been bipolar for 40 years!!!
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I've seen my wife in bad mental shape and I so often forget that she's sick b/c she doesn't ''look'' sick. She explains her symptoms even WHILE she's experiencing them! That alone makes her appear normal to me. Each description of a mood is so foreign to me, (as she is often mildly manic to which I'm accustom to) I write it off to her nerves and I'm now ashamed of doing that. Maybe I don't want her to be sick so much that I'm not facing reality myself? When we are together she seems so normal it's hard to believe she has bipolar. She's funny, smart, creative, best friend, a great listener, beautiful, but then she can change in seconds if I accidentally say something to trigger her! It's so hard to be around her when she's irritable. It's not the normal persons irritable, she's caps locked IRRITABLE and I'm always the reason or the fall guy. You've made me realize it's not always me. You've got a great channel going here Robert. I've been catching up here on you tube with the many helpful insights you share with others who have this illness. I will continue to learn from you by listening to your channel now; as my wife who has been following you for some years has been telling me to. I feel much more informed by watching and listening to your plights. Thanks for trying to help so many people who suffer.
I hear you buddy. We have to remind ourselves we arent the fall guy, it's not our fault, this isnt a normal relationship and that we have placed ourselves in a very vulnerable position.
Thank you for not quitting on your wife. She loves you and is trying her hardest to be the best person she can be. I applaud your efforts to learn about this disorder so you can support her as well as yourself. Always remember to take care of yourself so you remain healthy. Good Luck to both of you. 👍
I going through this with my girlfriend! Thats how got to this video and your comment happens to be at the top. We’ve already broken up couple times and left wondering whether this relationship is worth it.
@@dkg6826 if you love her, it is worth it. There is a group called NAMI(National Association for the Mentally Ill).They are an organization that helps friends and family members cope with a loved ones mental illness. You might look up a group near you. The group usually has doctors, therapists, and clinicians that speak at the meetings. They meet once a month. Don't give up on your partner. Hope she is seeking support as well. Good luck.
I really appreciate your videos! It's very helpful and gives me a better understanding. Also, it's nice to know that there are other people going through similar things. When I was diagnosed with Bipolar, I felt and still do fell broken.
When you described the feeling of needing to change everything I felt so exposed but things made so much more sense. Watching really helped me see things in a different light and has given me hope that I will be able to work through the challenges with my amazingly understanding and accepting boyfriend.
I just wanted to say thank you. I put myself in the hospital 4 years ago after I had my biggest mania episode and didn’t understand what was happening and the person I just started dating was so scared of my weird behavior they were gonna call the police on me (I wasn’t violent, just having delusions and arguing with them about what was real and what wasn’t and freaked them out). Was diagnosed with bipolar amongst many other things that they ended up taking away I guess??? then just treated me for bipolar. I haven’t truly believed I was actually bipolar till I found your video about the anger, and you described exactly what I’ve been scared of myself for years about. Then in this video you nailed it once again. Idk why but these two videos finally gave me relief I needed to hear. You just describe it so well that I feel normal again. Thank you dude. Subscribed
"Intelligent Introspective" - Accepting responsibility for our action(s) is transforming regardless of what side of the (bipolar) relationship one is on.
What an incredibly brave man you are, not least for putting it all out there for the world to see. Well done mate, major respect to you, and those loved ones around you. I’m learning so much, and may just have shed a tear or two. Looking forward to learning more.
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Thank you for putting yourself and these videos out there for us to help get information, 35 and have been recently diagnosed with bp2 and honestly it’s scary, my past makes so much more sense now though , a lot of damage done and has been so hard on my wife and kids, hopefully with continued treatment and getting informed as much as I can we will have a better future. Thanks again and all the best.
Keep helping yourself and ask your wife to join a Celebrate Recovery meeting along with you. It is great and the understanding and support you get will help you get through the trials of having Bipolar Disorder. Look it up online. There are CR groups in every city. Good luck to the both of you.
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Thank you so much for making this video. My husband has bipolar. We married each other twice. The first marriage lasted seven years and it ended because his bipolar episodes. We went on our own way after our divorce. Seven years later we started to date again, and we got remarried last year on June 17th. My husband's episodes are simular to yours. Once again we're going through his episodes and it's not easy. While I was watching this video he came into the room. I asked my husband to please sit down and watch this video with me. David watched the whole video. He loves it and asked me to save it. I also subscribed. Thanks for sharing your story. God bless.!
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Shut sugar Completely
Wow you’re such an amazing soul. Don’t ever forget
Thank you for sharing your story! It is encouraging.
My husband is bipolar. We’ve been together for 20 years and it’s very hard for me. He’s finally accepting therapy, but still resistant to the meds.
I am in love with someone who suffers from bipolar. We met about a year and half ago. Had the most intense start/get to know phase. Were so in love. He used to share everything with me from his painful past relationship to his days and every little detail. He seemed to be working so hard at educating himself and trying to stay healthy then one episode and he hit the lowest of low and got unwell. Now he seems to not be doing so well. It is so heartbreaking to see him go through all that. He slowly drifted away and I had no idea what had happened when changed so much. So one day I told him how I still loved him and would never leave, and wanted us to be together. For him to only say he was not ready and had his mind all over the place and didn’t want a relationship. It was so hard. I know he needs help. I know he needs love and support but he keeps pushing me away and it’s the most excruciating pain. I never knew what bipolar was until I met him but I also didn’t know what real love and empathy was until that moment 😢 I don’t know anything about his healing because he barely shares anything anymore. I hate it. I pray and wish healing to anyone suffering!
May we all have the strength and courage to love and heal (whether suffering from bipolar or having a loved one who does)❤️
Avoid sugar for him totally
Amen!... I'm in the same spot
Me too
Im going through something similar my gf is being emotionally distant rn and it hurts..
I’m going through this painful feeling too 😢
"I'll take care of myself for you and you take care of yourself for me"
I love that ❤️
I admire your honesty, self awareness, and vulnerability.
Hey Rob,long time no hear but I'm ok working very hard to Change my situation.Be that as it may,I would like to know how u deal with anger ?Like the kind that is dangerous almost to the point of laughter because the rage & anger is so much u can only laugh but are fuming on the inside,then it tends to seem like a light thing when in fact you are just so outraged that u can't do anything else.I'm at that place, on top of being a spritual person and intuitive yet there are still the unwanted voices or and thoughts at times its like I'm a freaking guess in my own body .Im just So over this Rob.I recently decided to finish my high school education and graduate in June. What a blessing, yet so many other things Iike I beat myself up bc of my age its humiliation times 3. I trust No one I see the world so different from what I did in the past.Not having my space ,time ,privacy respected along with living in a place in which I Hate with great the greatest passion and all I can do is work as hard as I can to Change it which by the way is a Fact a Promise to Myself that I will do .I am finally choosing Me Myself and yet I am trying to at least acknowledge my feelings and not just cast them away as others Always has.Anyhow thanks for being you & what you do to encourage others such as we are even though we all all unique and special in our on way yet we can relate being Warriors. Continue to Slay Rob bc I will😘😘😘
@@erikblack9663 Hi Erik, I am not an expert, but I know a temper can cause trouble. The phrase he used in this video "punch a wall" made me laugh. My first job was in a fast food restaurant. When I was mad about something, I would punch the door to the walk-in freezer. Until the time I could barely move my hand after I did it. I'm in my 50's now, and go for a fast walk to let off steam, then use words instead of fists for anger, so far. Life is a work in progress. God bless you.
@@maryw4511 it's very hard to be a family member or a relationship person with a bipolar person because you don't know how to react to them and it takes a lot on the other person's end so I'm choosing not to go in that direction because I don't want them to end up killing themselves
@@tammeyj1958 I'm sorry if I was too casual in my comment. I have bipolar and it is difficult for my family too. Please call 911 (emergency) or 211 (not emergency) anytime your family member says or indicates they are considering suicide. May God bless you and your family.
Thanks
The denial is what was killing me. Finally accepting and seeing the pattern and seeking help when I was 19... I caught it super early and after some trial and error I found the right medication cocktail. I'm 24 now and I'm on my way to graduate school to get a masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and hopefully be able to help people in the same situation I was. Wish me luck :)
That's wonderful Rick. Best of luck to you as you embark on this new journey! :) I hope it works out really well for you! -Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
I wish you all the luck in the world ❤
Real life Transformers 💪🏼❤️💪🏼So proud of y’all!
i’m 24 now and starting to realize the truth however a lack or in denial support system is hurting me even more , i want help but don’t know where to start . a regular doctor visit first ?
@@codyhayes1651You can do it. We're all rooting for you 🙂
My relationships/marriages always ended up in the toilet. It was always the other persons fault in my mind. I am newly diagnosed bipolar II and your videos are helping sort through the train wreck of my life. The train wreck that I created do to my mental illness. I am so blessed to have a loving partner now that is walking the journey of healing with me.
Good for you. I hope I can say the same thing one day. I ended an 8 year relationship almost a year ago and still do not feel ready to start a new one. This time I want to do some work on myself and become strong enough emotionally so I don't help destroy a good relationship. I'm happy for you that you found a partner that will support you on your journey.
My bf believes he has bipolar disorder and after doing some research I feel like he does. I want him to seek help for HIMSELF but it's so hard to get him to even call and make one
@@coriisvilla2925 same.
@@coriisvilla2925 mine too. He absolute hates the idea of therapy and I understand it’s not for everyone, but trying could be a start. I’m hoping to find or even start a small support group to help me and others find more coping methods and advice on how to be there for them
@@luzyera11 LMK what helps you cope because IK our mental health is important too. I recently started therapy for myself and we've decided to take a break for now. But IDK how to help him anymore or just be patient. Is there any advice you have that may be helpful
The fact that you can record this video with little/no cuts is so impressive. Really brings a sense of closeness to the video.
Agreed
That resonated with me big time -- thinking that something's wrong with my job, relationship, or living situation. I've experienced so many rounds of that thinking...
Jared Beckwith same dude, I don’t even know what’s real and what’s not anymore xx
Hope your keeping well?
When I'm Manic, I truly think I'm either Jesus or a Prophet.
Same thing here. I've left jobs and dropped out of school and put way too much on my plate only to crash and burn. Also pushing people away because I was genuinely ill. I'm happy I can look back at that now and recognize the signs. Therapy has been a big help. There is hope
I'm constantly looking for a "better" job and a better mate and a better place to live. Now I know it's me that's the common denominator. Ugh!
@@EnjoyLife-sg3kt seriously? How come? Thanks
1:05 - Broken hearts
2:50 - Overachieving & Mania
12:05 - Pain of heartaches
13:20 - Extreme Choices
14:00 - Constant Episodes
15:40 - Learning about Bipolar
You are so talented. I don't have bipolar , but I love your channel. I can tell you are a kind man with a good heart and I love that you are helping others.
What you've described is what I've been dealing with for 20 years , it's cyclical. I won't ever give up on her. 🙌
This is exactly what I feel when I'm getting symptomatic: Something is wrong with my job, my relationshio/friendships and the place where I live and, above all, I badly need to change everything completely in order to finally feel better😆. I could listen to you for hours - it always feels as if you were the male version of mine 😂🙊.
It doesn't help to change anything while under an episode as you take yourself with you wherever you end up. I lost the love of my life by not knowing I was bipolar and was being treated with SSRI'S.
Sadly. This is getting harder in the modern world because it feels like most of us have bad livong situations and it makes financial stress worse. It is hard enough to get well in good times, but without a stable financial safetey net, it can become unfeasibky difficult.
Sorry about the comments being disabled on the video! I made an error in the new RUclips settings that determine if videos are "made for kids" or not. I'm so glad I got this fixed because the comments are such an important part of the Community here
You're welcome friend 😝
Haha that's funny, I just finished watching this and I went to like and add it to my favorite's list and was super confused about the comments being disabled. I refreshed the video and saw your comment and was relieved haha; I'm not sure if you'll see this Rob but I can't thank you enough for the helpful content you continue to put out. Thanks so much and remember your work is valued and appreciated by many
Rob, thanks again for all that you do for the BP community, those who suffer with it as well as those who suffer with us. Every video of yours that I (and my wife) have seen has been clear, informative, and most importantly caring. I thank GOD that my BP is being managed with lower doses of meds than some and trying to better care for myself. I am also extremely blessed to have my wife walking through our lives side by side together. For others suffering with BP, take care of yourselves, take your meds, see the doctor when you need to do so, and try to work at your relationships with your friends and loved ones. Especially put extra work in your closet relationships when you're well. We are better going through life not as lone wolves, but with friends and loved ones. If you are alone currently and in a bad way, then PLEASE remember that GOD always loves you, and Do Not Harm Yourself or Others!!!!! The statistics on BP suicide are truly frightening for those who are off medication and or very unbalanced. Remember GOD loves you (John 3:16 17), you will be missed by someone, and life will be better again for you. Take care and GOD be with you.
Emilia Lecter Thank you so much!🤗🤗
Polar Warriors
Rob, you are correct, the comments are very important
Thanks for taking the time to fix the problem:)
This video made me cry. The amount of times I have wanted to give up and end my relationship when I have my low episodes is insane. And then I always wondered why once time had passed why I didn’t feel that way anymore? Why I felt so separated from that thought process? I recently got diagnosed so I’m doing a lot of research and it’s very comforting to relate to other people.
Avoid sugar
Same the number of times I have told my boyfriend to break up with me just so that I can be alone and have the pain by myself
I totally get this, I abused drugs to self medicate and it ruined alot of things for me. I think addiction goes right along with bipolar disorder
Wow I think that too ...followed by big trouble. I'm trying not to mess my 8 month probation and I'm doing a really bad job.
It’s great to hear about someone else’s personal experience with bipolar disorder because when I search around the internet 99% of the content I find on bipolar disorder is giving a general description of the illness, which isn’t helpful - I’m already aware of my symptoms. Sharing our specific stories is unifying, thank you for your channel!!!
This sounds so much like my relationship, she always blamed me and treated me like shiz . I gave her 11 years of my life and tried everything to make it work. I let it go because of the lies deception, feeling invisible and waiting for commitment promises that never happened. I love her so much and hope that she realizes that I would've given her the stars from the sky if I could ,but it was never enough .this isn't an easy disorder and I sympathize but it takes two to put in the work and i gave it 11 years she gave it zero .thank you for these videos they help me alot.
I just made it to year 11 myself and am finally tapping out of my marriage as well.
Maybe as advice you can introduce her to this channel it has helped me ....currently I don't know if I am blaming my relation because of my illness or i am actually in a bad relation .....on the brink of marriage and I am scared of ruining his life and mine ....the difference is I realize more about this illness... for the longest time even after the diagnosis I thought I was normal because my episodes kick in just once in two years I have long moments of stable period but now periods of instability is more frequent and I am blaming the stress around me like not being called back for my job or the upcoming wedding I feel I am not ready for :(
this is my biggest fear!
I don't want this to be be me.. I'm sorry you lost 11 years. I'm at 6, and still feel like I'm selfish and guilty as if I should've know that THIS time.. she's gonna have a break down due to honesty
Just curious as to what kinds of things she was lying about?
Thank you for telling your relationship story. I've done some very similar things, even dropping out of college and moving to another state where I didn't have a job or anything. My bipolar symptoms began to creep up around 10 years old, which is young. Every relationship I've ever been in has ended in disaster. Most relationships that end do, but I'm talking bipolar disaster here. My wife refuses to leave me and we've been married for 13 years. Things are strained right now, but I finally have a team of medical professionals trying to figure out the right cocktail of meds and therapy for me. Wish me luck.
My husband is 46 and finally realized that he needs help. We have been together for 25 years and I have known the entire time that something was wrong. I started researching about 5 years ago and sharing the information with my husband. About 6 weeks ago he finally realized that he needed help, after a manic outburst.
I just shared this with my husband. It's such a comfort to have this resource. Thank you for sharing your experiences.
This is actually very beneficial
My heart is broken and your videos are the only thing that give me some explanation of what happened to my once beautiful life.
there is still beauty to be found friend
Sorry Syra. Love you so much. Bye.
Miss you
@@muj3005 if you really missed and cared for me, you would have gotten the right help.
@@PolarWarriors
After my last self-sabotage with alcohol and relationships I sought professional help, meds and therapy and realizing I can do things to help manage the madness is such a powerful step!
I'm so glad you've taken steps towards better managing your symptoms. Best wishes to you as you continue on this path!-Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
My last relationship was for 10 years and alcohol was such an enemy. I feel horrible for the things I put him through. I have now been married for 6 years and my husband and I have not drank a sip of alcohol for 7 years. He decided not to drink when I realized that I could not handle alcohol anymore. It has been a better life without it. I still have horrible downward spirals, but they are far better without the alcohol. Thank you for your video. My husband actually introduced me to your channel. We need more people like you and your followers to be brave and just tell their stories, so thank YOU and thank you guys/gals below
Good for you both of you. 👏
Hiya, I have just ended my relationship with my bipolar partner of 15 months. I am aware that he has had a cycle in all his previous relationships and I too was in this rapid cycle with him. I have been educating myself all the way through his journey, but he then started chasing elsewhere and the longer I remained the further away I was being pushed away, I too lost my sense of self in this whole experience. It’s been the most enduring journey, I made the decision that I need to look after myself ultimately as he is still unable to take ‘responsibility’, walking away was the hardest thing I have ever done. There has also been no intimacy for 12 months. I love him dearly, and I truly hope he finds a place a comfort eventually xxx
In those 15 months How long was he stable? In his episode, Did he go look for partners and not talk to you at all?...
I'm no doctor so I won't diagnose him. What I know is that all the love that we once shared nor my willingness to fight any issue by his side. Even after constantly educating myself learning how to curve my words to make sure I didn't offend him. When in reality I was just begging for him to let me in. It not enough
I’m bipolar and just ended my relationship with my boyfriend today. I know he can really relate to this because he told me the same thing. He felt I kept pushing him away. He lost his self because he’s alway thinking about how to help me and that made him tired. I understand him and his decision because I love him. I just want to be better so that I can be stable and have a happy relationship soon
I had to end mine after almost three years and it hurt so much! I had enough when I lost myself in begging for his attention and affection. I had to request to spend time with him because he said I didn’t earn it. Next thing you know I’m pregnant driving at 2am looking for him while he ignored all my calls and texts. I finally found him drinking and driving and ensured he came home safely. After he acted like nothing happened and when I said I had enough he grew angry and said he’ll always go out and always take care of himself first.
I wish I saw these videos before, nice that people share there experiences.
My girlfriend breaks up with me whenever she hears something she doesnt like about herself. Unlike Rob she isn't humble and her narcissistic abusive personality makes things so much more difficult. Luckily she keeps to her meds but hearing Rob and a few others mention a therapist sounds like the only other answer possible. Rob got to a place where he knew he had to fix himself and face his demons. That takes so much courage and self awareness ... you fully acknowledged and owned your past actions and responsibilities.
Well done mate. All the best 👍
Sounds just like my ex girlfriend, mine used to bring that behaviour to the bedroom and wondered why I lost interest in her. Although I made the right decision I kind of miss the ,,,I'll do anything anywhere crazy stuff probably the main attraction tbh I now studying this Chanel so I don't make the same mistake again, I told her you pushed the button to far this time she just flipped the finger walked off ranting onto her next victim hopefully.
He’s not my boyfriend, lol, so I’m looking at it very differently lol. My son broke his own heart by breaking up with a wonderful woman in a manic/mixed episode and said things that can never be taken back. She has tried to remain friends but because he refuses all kinds of treatment, he seems to be having episodes more and more frequently and he is making it impossible for her. It is heartbreaking. Now he has become anorexicly thin at 114 lbs and 5’11” at age 35. As his mother, I am powerless. I had reached a healthy place of loving him from afar and remaining detached to a large degree. His health is waning and still, he refuses any kind of treatment available on this globe. 😢
@@edrathephoenix it's a sad story. Life really shouldn't be so harsh. Best of luck to you both.
@@stuart4679. Thank you. It has reached the point where I don’t know who to talk to. Even my wonderful therapist encourages acceptance which I pray and meditate about. My meditation is the greatest relief. The reality that my adult son is killing himself is unavoidable. Perhaps there are people who can completely love and completely detach from someone they’ve known all their lives. I haven’t found that trick yet.
My ex has bipolar disorder we broke up like 10 times and it was really hard to go trough those break up I tried alot to understand her but it was really hard I hope she finds someone who is able to understand her alot more than I did. If any one has a partner with a bipolar disorder just understand them and love them give them hope and all the support you can. Learn about the disorder and help them.
Sorry to hear mate. I was in a similar situation except i believe I have bipolar as well and it became a fire and dynamite situation and I just couldn't get back with her even though she wanted to because she cheated on me but I couldn't get over it even though I had feelings for her too. She was a lot worse whether it be from trauma or just because it's a worse case but I think I've been with two girls at least with it one was for sure from trauma the other I'm not quite sure because she was very deceptive
God bless though 🙏✝️
Yes, love them and help them, and also learn to remove yourself from the relationship when it is too much. If you want a functional partner then reconsider... it is an awful lot of work that usually gets no recognition, retribution, or appreciation. They use you until you are drained and your needs are not even considered most of the time.
Interesting... This video says "my story" and people STILL dislike it. Perfect example of how we aren't open to reason when we are sick. I LOVED this video by the way
I can't put into words the help that this is giving me with understanding what someone is going through. Unfortunately I'm on the backend of this after they made a terrible decision to end things only days after we were in such a good place. I'm dedicating myself to understanding and being there no matter what. Thank you for all you do I'm sure I'm not the only one searching for answers and comfort to ease the pain.
I just had my heart broken from a bipolar ex who cycled and just decided to break up with me for no reason. Nothing was wrong and everything was going fine in our relationship. I’ve never known a pain this brutal. The person had informed me they were bipolar early on when we first met. I knew a bit about the illness and certainly expected changes in mood and maybe even periods of not seeing each other, but I never expected to just be brutally discarded out of the blue when the very first cycle hit. They just coldly blocked me from everywhere on social media and then over text without responding to me at all. It feels like a complete lack of empathy. I am assuming they are unmedicated.
I can’t believe how spot on this is. I got diagnosed with depression and anxiety for years and finally recently got the bipolar diagnosis. I didn’t believe it at first, but the symptoms all align.
Everything in your video is what I’m going through. Chasing the high of mania. Alcohol and drugs to amplify it more. On anti-depressants that absolutely increase mania but not wanting to get on bipolar meds because then I won’t be able to feel as “up”.
It is so hard. I’m currently in a low which is why I arrived to this video among others. I appreciate your honesty and shared experiences.
I have also met people when I’m in my mania, and I feel like once I cool off, they won’t like me for me. It’s been extremely hard to navigate, and it is nice to know I’m not alone.
I also feel the constant urge to just uproot my life in some way - moving, big purchases, ending or starting relationships. It is potentially life-altering.
Thank you so much and I thank GOD for your videos because I was just diagnosed with Bipolar 1 a week ago I left the office feelings relieved and at the same time embarrassed but to sum my story up is I'm 48 and just getting diagnosed but as a teenager I knew something was wrong but never had a clue that. I had a serious problem.but I could go on and on about my life but you nailed it and really appreciate what you are doing
I'm type 2 bi polar and i feel constantly down well atm neutral and all i wanna do is sleep after work... I'm always agitated and have to force myself to interact with ppl... I'm unmedicated
As a partner of a bipolar 1 person, this video was so very needed 🙏 Your story seemed relatable to me in some way cause of my partner's story. It's so sad to see how less research has been put into this disorder when clearly so many have been impacted by it.... You're doing such a great job of giving us all much needed info and tips about this illness. Thank you ☺️
Absolutely true. Totally relatable.
Avoid sugar Completely n chk thyroid too
Thank you for being so generous with your time teaching how to live with bipolar. I was diagnosed recently with cyclothymia at age 58!!! What I told the psychiatrist nurse was going on in my thoughts and behavior coul qualify me back at ten years old. My mania includes arts and crafts, clothes, and constantly buying new journals because this one I will write in daily-and that stops in about a week. I believe now that the meds help me greatly. I have bought dogs and then had to regime them-a Great Dane, a collie, and a schnauzer. I lookin my closet today as I am minimalissing thinking who lives like this??? Where did all this stuff come from? A big relief is your explaining thins. I have been a member of AA 23 years, got sober which I now see my desperate attempts to self medicate and over years couldn’t live without it. Plus pain pills for brief times like toothaches and surgeries felt like I needed to stay on the opiates, but didn’t have a regular supply so I didn’t get hooked. I love being in this warrior group living one journey day at a time. You reminded me to be truthful about this and so far I have two people similar to me. Thank God for being fearfully and wonderfully made. I am learning to love me all over again. Plus no spending half a paycheck on crap. Take care!
this man has for most part defined every relationship ive had since childhood
I have the same disorder and I also abused alcohol as well as many , many other harmful substances in order to try to level the roller coaster! When I got clean and sober and took my meds properly I finally started getting better! It will never go away I don’t think but I’m much more capable of dealing with it now ! People should understand that it will never be easy but we must play the hand life dealt us as best we can! I constantly study my illness and learn everything I can about it in determination of fighting it effectively! This condition has at least made me a very strong person inside even through the terrible times ! I know I’m stronger than my problem but I battle it constantly and refuse to give up! You have made me even stronger with your great insight and honesty about the subject! The worse I feel, the harder I fight this hell on earth in hopes of one day defeating it ! Probably never happen but I will never surrender to it ! Thank you for your help!!!
This is the most accurate description to my life I have ever come across. Thank you, I very much can relate. I’m 37 and have been struggling with getting back on medication. This video has been very helpful.
Glad it was helpful! 🙏
thank you so much for sharing this story. I relate to it so much looking back on my life and troubles in relationships, jobs etc. I haven't been diagnosed, in my family it was "if you don't have an illness we can see you're not really sick" mentality and now that im an adult in my early 30s I'm seriously seeking help before I destroy my life anymore than I already have and this helped tremendously.
Hello, beautiful!
I remember AMAZING you at 19! You've always been warm and considerate, heartbreakingly handsome and your singing could bring any woman to her knees. You had a natural power over people.. but, you never took advantage of it.
You've found your purpose.. teaching...
Life gave us lemons... and you took yours and turned it into a healing tincture to share.
My lemons...I blame for making me old and sour.
Kyle deserves better.
Every year, Christmas makes me realize how much happiness he could have found.. with someone else.
God Bless you, Rob.
Thank you for all you do for so many of us ... bipolar messes.
You just left the weirdest youtube I have ever read. Honestly very strange.
@@bobbeckey6941
Don't beat yourself up because you suffer from Bipolar Disorder. Your partner chooses to be with you and this is a gift. Don't sabotage it by not thinking you deserve to be happy with him. Work on yourself, find pleasure in the simple things, and stop beating yourself up. I did that in my past relationship and it ended up destroying it. Cherish what you have and seek God to help you through your struggles. My faith has gotten me through terrible crises and without Jesus Christ, I would have quit. I sincerely hope for recovery and light to come your way. Blessings to you, Tana. 🙇♀️
It’s so breathtaking to hear someone else finally be able to communicate what I’ve always felt and thought about but had no idea how to express bc other people don’t listen or understand the depth of how serious everything you’re saying really truly affects us.
Hi Sydnee! Welcome to the community! ❤️🙏
You give me so much insight. Thank you for you're service. I can tell that you doing this isn't just for us but for you as well. I just moved from another state and got caught between medical insurances. Been manic since December. It's March. A couple of weeks ago I made a second attempt on my life. Called the ambulance on myself then left the hospital. I live alone. No family here no friends. I'm checking in in the morning. I love to work. I can't right now. Gotta get right. I finished my 4th book last night. Can't seem to put down the pen. Thank you for being you. Keep on! We are paying attention
This was an immensely brave and helpful video you've shared. I was with someone for 20 months who suffered the severity you describe. She totally denied anything was wrong and the relationship nearly ended my life. So I take my hat of to you for sharing this with everyone
Thank you so much for being out there and without knowing me, helping me to understand what is the biggest problem of my life. I've watched already several of your videos and I finally stopped crying or thinking about ending my life. Today is my birthday and for the first time in my life I'm completely alone. Living by my self during a lockdown with bipolar and depression it's probably the most challenging situation I've ever been to. Today you are my only guest and thanks to you I have learned so much about my self and where my life changing decisions originated but what's more important, that I don't have to continue living like this. Few hours ago, I've decided to stop being self pity and make something good for my self, so I won't remember this birthday as the saddest day I could ever had. It was the best decision I've made to click on one of your videos ! Thanks to you I will remember this bday as the day when 'everything changes for the best' :) (quote from Chinese fortune cookies I hang on my screen 2 days ago). For the first time today I'm feeling peaceful and I'm smiling :) I have no words to say how fantastic guest you are on my 41st bdy !
I'm so glad you were able to turn your day around!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Perhaps watching on of our more uplifting videos like the reasons why bipolar is not that bad and reading the comments on that one, there are so many really cool stories. The video of watching in action is one of my faves, rob plays two roles and I really find it funny. Anyway, so glad your a part of polar warriors!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
Rob:
I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much
@@PolarWarriors I do wanna help you guys and I do consider become a patreon, as soon as my life will stop shaking like a earth quake you will see me there :) Please, don't stop your fantastic work x
I have just come across your channel and I have to admit, of all my research; you have broken down the best ways to understand and express the struggles of having bipolar. I've had a hard time attempting to explain why I am the way I am to someone who has had zero experience or knowledge of bipolar. I will most definitely be sharing your channel.
I'm so glad you discovered Rob's channel and that you've found he explains things so well. I have to agree with you there! :) Thank you so much in advance for sharing the channel with others!
Newly diagnosed and reflecting on past relationships and this helped a lot. I realized during manic phases I'd make friends with these TERRIBLY narcissistic individuals, mostly because I'd go on spending sprees for them, give them my things, do crazy things to entertain them. Then I'd come crashing down from the mania and I'd see them for who they really were. Disclaimer- I do take full accountability that when I realized these friendships were toxic I hit the nuclear detonation bomb and RAN instead of talking it out rationally like I would want to when not in an episode. However it certainly hurts a whole lot once you come out of a manic phase and some of the people you thought we're the closest to you are just fake and just taking advantage of "good" times. Been having a hard time dealing with feelings of not only betrayal but of the guilt I feel about those situations and myself. This helped show me I'm not alone and like you said- to not take things too personally
Thank you, this really helped me. I resonate with this so much. Trying to understand.
For bipolar sufferers and their partners alike, this is such an important video. My marriage of 11 years was full of cyclical, undiagnosed mania that significantly affected our ability to understand and support each other. And, oh the empty promises I'd make when panicking about being left. That marriage ended badly, but I'm hopeful for a future relationship in which I can be vulnerable and honest. Your channel is so very helpful, thank you.
Your experience is 100% parallel to mine.. it's so crazy! Past 20 years, I have moved across the country soooo many times, had soo many jobs and sooo many relationships. And I truly believed each time that that's what I needed to do! Finding out that I'm not the only one who's done this is amazing, I started bawling watching this and still am. I am so thankful for you sharing your story.
Thanks for sharing!! I'm so glad you found us, OJ!
Thanks for the advice. You have made more sense in 19 minutes than my doctors have for years.
I am clearly bipolar ...once a Dr listened to my life story and he said the same thing. Every three years I have quit my job and dumped everything I own to Goodwill or given it away to a friend, hauled ass to a city where I've never lived and haven't got a job( with usually $1200 to $2000 to my name )
I usually break up with someone and move to another city with no warning. Then in three years do it again and dump the new boyfriend because I don't have any indication that they are the ONE....then I've moved back to live with my single mom three times....I've lived in 11 cities and at least 29 different living situations!!! I've had two marriages and a new relationship every 2 or three years ....living with the person and then abruptly leaving with no warning.....I've quit jobs on a whim and moved with no job waiting....lol. I thought of that as just being part of my adventurous spirit !
Im 31 years old and just been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. You helped me understand so much of myself. Im a honest person like you. Thank you. I just subscribed. Polar Warriors. Ive had to changed so much of myself. I have therapy and much more..but i crashed and burned for years and never understood why until I went to a mental hospital but was misdiagnosed and had antipsychotics and they messed me up..bit now im on the right meds thank you
Thank you for the videos Robert! Happy New Year to you! March will be one year together with my long-distance guy in Texas. He just celebrated working 34 years at American Airlines on December 30. He sticks to a monthly budget and takes his meds daily. He has other health issues as well and very open to talking about it. I am so proud of him and how well he stays on top of everything daily. He also is a single dad who has a 29-year old autistic son that lives with him. Sometimes I do have to encourage him to take a day of paid vacation to just be lazy at home. Even with living 800 miles apart, it has been the best relationship ever. I love him more every day.
Thank you for this video. It has been enormously helpful. I'm not bipolar but I work for someone who is. And these videos help me understand why my acts asked the way he does, and how to avoid or dodge most of his (idk what to call it) unhinged behaviors/neuroticism.
For me, this video was incredibly insightful. I have come to a point in my life where I am really weighing the relationships in my life and my own actions and decisions that affected them, usually for the worse. I mean relationships beyond the romantic type, including the ties I have with my friends, family, employers, neighbors and community as a whole. This video offered advice that speaks on how you can better manage relationships with anyone if you have bipolar. I think back on the last decade of my life and the connections I've made and destroyed and see carnage.
Thank you so much for all your posts because they truly speak to me at a time in my life where I think I most needed them. I hope with these and other supports I will pivot away from my destructive and cyclical behaviors or at the very least learn to mitigate the damages. Lessen the suffering. 🙏💜🙏
I want to thank you so much for describing what almost experience for experience matches my story of blindly operating in a manic state without even knowing it. It’s been a journey that has lasted about 8 years to get to the point where my family and I are solving or have solved the stigmatized mystery. My grandfather had “manic depression” but no one told me I was susceptible and weren’t going to until i went looking for answers. Today marks my first day of knowing without a shadow of a doubt I have a disease and can stop being penalized in life for it. So blessed to hear this.
Hi Jonathan, that must be a relief and as you said a blessing to hear that. I'm not sure who had it first in my family, but there are several of us who have bipolar disorder and I think one of my grandmothers had it. I was relieved when I learned that I had it because it explained so much. Thank you for sharing some of your story with us. If you'd like to help support Rob in what he does with Polar Warriors so he can continue to make more videos like this, I'd encourage you to consider joining him on Patreon. He posts exclusive content there and is available to reply to direct messages through that platform. There's a wonderful community there. I'll include the link so you can check it out. I hope your weekend is off to a good start. Take care! -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
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Hearing about your stories being a tears to my eyes because of how much I can relate to you and your past. Watching your video made me realize I’m mentally ill and I’m pushing the people I love most away. I think I was having an episode because just last night I was ready to end a relationship of 1 year and move away again. After watching this video I am more aware of what I have done and I am thankful to have come across your channel.
I just found out about my illness and didn't know what was going on with me. I knew something was not okay. But didn't know exactly what. I have been single for the past 3 years now and was because I was always blaming myself and blaming them too and just not good.
Now that I saw this video of yours makes lots of sense in many of my actions. Now I am focus just on getting better.
Thanks for making this video Sir.
"Had to lose enough things that I cared about.." I felt this to a core!!
Awesome video and thanks for the incite. My ex wife and mother of our beautiful children is someone I believe to be suffering from this disease. After our divorce she wanted to reconcile a year later and for the past 3 years it's been a roller coaster. She even felt she could be bipolar but no treatment or help. I eventually chose to leave not just the relationship but the state to try and get back to a life I can live and provide for my children. I understand she is going through something and I learned that I'm not equipped to manage myself and her. I pray all works out for those who suffer from this disease and their loved ones who want to see them do better. Namaste 🕉️🙏🏾
Wow! You just described my life exactly! I truly appreciate your open honesty. Hearing you describe what you have experienced has helped me to understand myself and this disorder better. I've reached out to accept help finally, thank you so much!
This is wonderful! I don't know you but I am proud of you. Getting help is scary.
This is the most reliable video , exactly detailed about how my bipolar 1 treats me. Thank you, he describes bipolar disorder way better then any psychiatrist.
Thank you for your honesty and sharing your life. Your transparency will help me understand my 18 yr old son more. He is showing symptoms and I am exhausted. I will keep on keeping on for him and still take care of myself, as well. May God bless you for your kindness in doing what you’re doing.
U helped me a lot..thank u..no one could ever understand the series of success and failure..stillness and rage..beginnings and endings..financial stability and bankruptcy..good job and unemployment..I am now 32 and the older I grew the worse and more intense the episodes become..no one could understand..I lost a lot..job..studies..relationships..family..money..I also started experiencing extreme anger episodes where I can cause much damage unconsciously..I am starting to understand bit by bit and stand by my side and forgive her and be kind to her on the journey..thank you for sharing ur life steps..this truly gives much help and guidance..thank you:)
You explain so much! Really helps me understand what happened. Mental illness is so crazy. Irrational, disruptive, and painful for us family members. We love so much because there is so much to love and then we loose them and they blame us and we start to believe them because they are so convincing. But out of control lives are not worth living, or worth living with. It feels demonic.
You are awesome.. have made such a positive impact my in my life and a greater much need understanding as to why I felt and acted as I did!!
I am now able to forgive myself for the mass destruction I brought on my self and loved ones... I have been able to let go of shame and regret... I have prayed n prayed for answers as to why?? N God led me to you! Keep it up we need it!! You great!!
Thank you again for everything you do!
I’ve recently been starting to accept and become aware that A lot of the times I swear I’m right
I’m not and I’m just manic and angry
So when u said don’t punch holes in ur relationship because there not so easy to patch up
Gave me such a big motivation
Dear Rob,
I wanted to take a moment to thank you for creating a bipolar channel to share with the world. Your willingness to share your story and experiences with the world is truly inspiring, and it's having a real impact on people's lives.
Your channel provides a platform for people struggling with bipolar disorder to connect with others who understand what they're going through. Your insights and guidance are helping people to manage their symptoms, find effective treatments, and ultimately, to lead more fulfilling lives.
I'm so grateful for your guidance, and I know that many others feel the same way. By sharing your story, you're helping to break down the stigma surrounding mental health issues and showing hope for struggling people.
Thank you again for all that you're doing. You're saving lives and making a real difference in the world.
With gratitude,
Marty
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I'm so appreciative of this channel and all of your insight and willingness to share your experience with Bipolar Disorder. My current partner of over 7 years has Bipolar 1 and likely Rapid Cycling, and we're currently in the throes of them going through a deep manic and psychotic episode, perhaps the worst one to date. Their mania and psychosis contains a lot of rage, and it's hard to not feel like we're at an impasse. I try my best to not take things personally and to recognize when threats are empty and meant be a mechanism of control over this difficult situation, but it's excruciating when I become the focus of all of their blame because I am the closest person to them in their life. I'm not sure what else I'm trying to say, but as painful as this period of time is I feel some comfort in knowing we're not alone. Thank you.
It sounds like a very difficult time for both of you. I'm so sorry to hear you are going through such a rough period right now with your partner's illness. I hope that this episode passes soon. I also hope that they're getting help from professionals although I do understand that even with that it can still take time for episodes to go away. You're definitely not alone in this. There are many couples going through similar situations. I hope that things improve soon. Best wishes to both of you. I wish you both more peaceful days ahead. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
I believe 100% finding this video tonight was a sign from somewhere. For the past year I have really been learning exactly what having bipolar disorder meant for me. It’s been one hell of a journey the past ten years with different adventures to different states with different husbands while feeling like I’ve already lived my best life because I hit my rock bottom with drawling in a jail cell 2 years ago. My fiancé doesn’t understand me, yet I hope, or understands how I know I achieve certain things within our relationship. Your “testimony” says everything I’ve not been able to express about my life with bipolar and it helps me show him that recovery is possible. That I don’t have to be that person anymore. Thank you.
I'm single for 5 years now. I want, I wish, for the next woman I kiss to be the one I die with. It is a dream - just like my next job being the one I'll retire from. I know I am a dreamer, but I hold dearly to those dreams. Hence the super importance to take BP2 seriously. Learn it, embrace it, master it. I hope I am not just delusional.
Have been seen a wonderful with 3 mental illness and
WOW does he no how to kiss a girl no one could ever kiss me like that and no will ever kiss like he does 8 months 😳 so I think you will find that right girl do not rush into I wait 6 years I would never let a other guy kiss or make love to me good luck
I don't feel like I can have a relationship with this illness...
This video has helped me in overcoming my guilt and shame in regards to the many relationships that I helped to destroy over the yrs. ❤
That’s wonderful! I’m so glad this video has been helpful. Please do keep stopping by the channel. If you’d like to connect with me personally, here is a link to my private community:
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-Rob
Honestly, this is a gift. Thank you so much for bring willing to put yourself out there for the betterment of others. You are an earth angel. Thank you. All the love and light I can muster to you!
Thank you so much Robert! I watched most of your videos all made me can’t stop tearing. You are very mature , honest ,loving and talented really really appreciated you share your stories. I guess u r similar age with my boyfriend.
I ‘ve been dating him for 1year and half. He is bipolar 1 and took medicine everyday more than 5years . I feel really painful being around with him now . I’m tough girl but this time I feel burn out and I just wanna lying on my bed all day. I feel helpless coz none of my friends or my mum know my situation . The reason is I don’t want them to worry about me . I can only talk to his parents but somehow his parents r scared to deal with him. If I talked to his close friend , all I found is my boyfriend lied abt how things happened, accusing things I didn’t do or I didn’t say. I’m the one always to blame he is the most innocent victim and no matter what he is always the one need to be take care. He can’t see it the way yelling at me , break things, said and send lots of hurtful , mean words to me which is hurt me. He always delude himself and the ppl around him.
He is very sensitive and narcissism but I can tell him directly. Instead, every time when we had small fight or big one I’m the one always apology and beg for his forgiveness . the reason i know this is the thing he love to heard. (However not always work coz sometimes he switch his mood so fast no matter what I said or do still can’t satisfy him )
Another the worst feeling for me is after his episode, when we talk about it. He still think that he is got triggered by me and I’m the one fuckup , apologies and I should do everything for him the way he want . He is very good at talking. He made me feel guilty and scolded me to the point that I wanna kill my self. I don’t know how to help him anymore . I found online articles about the lying part but I’m so scared to send that to him. I don’t want turn out he will claims that I attack him and have another big fight . I didn’t lie and I did a lot things make him happy, support and take good care him. I love him but I don’t know if I can still move forward. I searched online but I can’t find any videos regarding how their behaviour affect someone’s feelings , really hope ppl can understand what we (living with person who has BD)been through , his friends or family pls don’t blame on me coz I really don’t have super power to stop him drinking. I’m not good at talking or expressed the pain in my heart. I hope u can share your story or thoughts with us 🙏
Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts. It's comforting. God bless you
I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 this week. My mom was Bipolar 1 and untreated. I watch these videos every night, thank you so so much for making me feel normal.
Thank you SO MUCH for this video... I'm on the receiving side (my wife is bipolar and we are together 14 years now) and i'm watching your video's a few months now, seeking for answers (we only know for 1,5 years now she is bipolar, but she's not really doing anything with this information) after i've had a 4 years burnout because of this, combined with getting 3 children together (and she got 2 postnatal depressions also), I've been in so deep shit with myself because (self-doubt/anxiety) of this. And I've been her caretaker all those years (till this day), but her 'episodes' finally took the best of me after beiing 10 years together...The last few years we are building on our marriage again and is working out fine, besides the fact I am actually still overloaded on regular/daily basis.
Only i'm affraid it will go wrong again because she's not living like she is bipolar (she also knows/says that I'm the one all those years that sees the signs (even in early stages) and am the one that will keep running things while she's having an episode, like I always do). Only taking her anti-depressants and nothing more...
But god, I still love her so much!
(P.S: In my experience she has 2 or 3 (light/medium hypomanic episodes every year and 1 big manic episode about every 2 years. The depressions are pretty much under control since she takes sertraline (AD) since she had the first postnatal depression in 2011)
It's generally not recommended for people who have bipolar disorder to take an antidepressant without a mood stabilizer. It can lead to very uncomfortable mixed states and rapid cycling.
Your time line sounds like my relationship time line currently. I'm just starting to realize what been going on for years. I've been a stay at home mom for a while now and every few years I'll have long stretches of mania followed by depression. But the pass years especially the last year I've noticed it because more rapid.
I love this guy, he's an champion over the inner struggle, I haven't made it there yet nor has my son's mother but goodness does this inspire me to be and do better and get me on the path of change. Instead of seeing ourselves as victims of anything, more like an survivor than perhaps someday, a Champion! Thank you!
I really love your honesty. I just had an awful conversation with my bipolar other half. He got all tangled up with his thoughts and tracking what I was saying as a supportive person. He suddenly became horribly vicious and accusatory that I was'nt listening nor did I care. We are talking about a major change moving north selling his inheirited house. It's a place full of ghosts. Two bad things now. He is back on meds for about 9-12 months after off meds since 2004. Second is a person using him who he refuses as that way. He will not get him out of the house (as he says he will) and gone with his stuff for good. It's nutty as this guy is living in the house and I'm in a old RV at a rest stop or camp ground. Yes, my other half is breaking me. I've known him for 33 years. Mental illness has been part of my life since a child as my mother was bipolar as well without diagnosis for most of her life. Your videos are helping me stay on firm ground. Thank you.
Nancy Smith sounds recognizable...
Er there are definitely no ghosts.
That's a lot to make have you ever thought of couples therapy ...it can help too sometimes in reflecting issues on ourselves and others
You explained this so well. I’ve been in so many relationships that ended for the same reasons. now that I’m in a relationship with somebody who is bipolar as well it definitely puts me in his perspective sometimes and helps me understand myself better.
It was deja vu. Hitting pause is wise for me. Yet I run like the hatter. Thank you for this insight. It helps in relationship..you're doing a great job.
Once in a while I come back to watch this video. It helps me to make some sense in a situation where I was left for no reason after a long, long period of great times with this amazing man. Before cutting me off he just told me that he doesn't want to drag me into trouble with him and after a while blocked me everywhere. He was in a very bad place. I still miss this amazing person everyday.
A partner gone for 6 months isnt a relationship. Still...i admire his courage
Okay, checked in last week and said you changed a lot for me. Had my first appointment with my shrink today and just picked up my script. Going to give this a go and keep watching. I'm sure you hear this all the time and have no idea your interest level in it, but if you aren't already, you should consider going to school to do this professionally or even run a group. Your great dude. Thanks a lot for everything.
Thanks for sharing your story. Bipolar illness is in my family. My late mom and sister had it. And I'm guessing my.late brother had it too though he was undiagnosed. Am glad I found your helpful channel!
Thank you for the amazing video, I’m so glad I found it. My beautiful partner ended our relationship abruptly - and had withheld his diagnoses from me. My whole world came crashing down and now it’s been 4 months since it ended. In my heart I am absolutely hoping he can reach out to me once he starts to get better. I wish he could see this video and see that there are others out there that have suffered and overcome. I hope he chooses to admit to himself for himself that he deserves love and that he wants to start looking after himself for a brighter future. He also made excuses to his family that make no sense as to why it ended: the whole video hits home 😢
Hi, you should send this video to him. Threw email or something. One day when the times right he might watch it. I’m in the same boat almost 6 months and nothing. I understand.
I realized recently that I'm having bipolar disorder. When thinking about my past it is like a nightmare living with my illness without knowing it. Now I'm educating myself about my illness more.
hope you have visited a psychiatrist
Same here. It is kind of a relief to understand that I was sick while all of that was happening or while I was doing weird stuff. But it doesn't go away.
Avoid sugar
Thank you for your transparency. Being in a relationship with someone with bipolar is hard, especially when you're discovering that you may also have it, despite not having an official diagnosis. I appreciate all the tips you've given. It's definitely encouraging.
Hi @sarahtrinkitty868! Thanks for joining the conversation in the comments. I'm very accessible and happy to answer any questions you have...
Below is a link to my private community on Patreon. It's where you can message me directly and I'll get back to you right away. We can also arrange a phone call if that would be more helpful.
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-Rob
Wow this help me to understand what happen with us. Even know my heart got broken into pieces I’m glad I was part of your life cause I did learn so much and I’m so happy we can’t still be very good close friends. I respect you so much Rob!! This video really help me to finally understand that it was nothing I could do to save us at the time.
Thank you for sharing this entire channel. I was diagnosed w depression in college and since have received a bipolar 2 dx. Everything you share is so relatable. Gives me hope.
Hi @JT-lu8tm! Thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I know this illness can be incredibly hard to navigate. I'd love to offer any support I can... If it interests you, I have a private community where you can message me directly and network with other people who are going through similar struggles. No pressure of course, but it would be great to have you join us. I'll include a link below:
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-Rob
This has truly how I’ve been feeling! I feel so much guilt for having these thoughts I’m glad I’m not alone 🥺
Listening to you gives me hope for my daughter who has BP2. You are a beacon of hope and inspiration! Stay on your path and I wish you good health!
Hi @MariaCruz-sm9zv! Thanks for joining the conversation in the comments. I'm very accessible and happy to answer any questions you have...
Below is a link to my private community on Patreon. It's where you can message me directly and I'll get back to you right away. We can also arrange a phone call if that would be more helpful.
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-Rob
It’s the never ever ever saying sorry for anything that’s the worst.
FACTS
I 100% agree. Also before you realize your partner actually does have a problem, there is the constant not understanding how they could be so heartless towards you, say things you would never even consider saying, and wondering why they have no remorse for it, and then after the episode has passed telling you how much they love you. It’s absolutely mind boggling when you don’t realize what’s going on.
Damn... this is so spot on for my relationship and the current "mixed episode" we are going through now... its like a mirror of every other episode every time... Its almost like shes following a script where she blames me for all of her lacking in life and moves out over night and is starting a "Life Coach" business with her friend who is equally lost... shes practically ghosted me for the 5th time and every time she comes back 2-3 months later its always how she now sees the pattern and will get it under control next time.... that obviously doesnt happen. Awesome video and description man.... thank you for putting the clarity out there. I am no doubt not perfect but I sometimes wonder if this time it really is something ive done... but this is too spot on and validates my gut instinct that this is another episode.. go through this every 6 months to a year...
Bipolar is ruining my life.. on paper I have it all, but in real life I’m really really struggling.
Hope I find the right med dosage soon.
This video helps so much.
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Eleasha Thomas Williams thank you I really thought I was the only one that felt that way !
How are you? I'm struggling as well looking for answers. Asking myself whats wrong with me. I seeded normal but then I question the mania and the next day I'm sad and hopeless
I also don't know how to deal with my issues as well was diagnosed young and now it's affecting me.......I am trying to find a reason and I get it finding a reason helps but you tend to victimise yourself and blame others especially those who are close to you which is always not a good thing
You will Eleasha, just don’t give up! 🙏🏻💕
Sweetheart go to a good doctor I mean a good one and tell him or her everything and get meds if doesn’t work go back get another one also get a good psychologist to help u on a weekly basis or at least bimonthly stay away from drugs and alcohol anyway I can relate to u been bipolar for 40 years!!!
I am so appreciative of Polar Warriors - watching your videos have been very helpful.
Thanks Roz! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. Take gentle care!
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I've seen my wife in bad mental shape and I so often forget that she's sick b/c she doesn't ''look'' sick. She explains her symptoms even WHILE she's experiencing them! That alone makes her appear normal to me. Each description of a mood is so foreign to me, (as she is often mildly manic to which I'm accustom to) I write it off to her nerves and I'm now ashamed of doing that. Maybe I don't want her to be sick so much that I'm not facing reality myself? When we are together she seems so normal it's hard to believe she has bipolar. She's funny, smart, creative, best friend, a great listener, beautiful, but then she can change in seconds if I accidentally say something to trigger her! It's so hard to be around her when she's irritable. It's not the normal persons irritable, she's caps locked IRRITABLE and I'm always the reason or the fall guy. You've made me realize it's not always me. You've got a great channel going here Robert. I've been catching up here on you tube with the many helpful insights you share with others who have this illness. I will continue to learn from you by listening to your channel now; as my wife who has been following you for some years has been telling me to. I feel much more informed by watching and listening to your plights. Thanks for trying to help so many people who suffer.
I hear you buddy. We have to remind ourselves we arent the fall guy, it's not our fault, this isnt a normal relationship and that we have placed ourselves in a very vulnerable position.
Thank you for not quitting on your wife. She loves you and is trying her hardest to be the best person she can be. I applaud your efforts to learn about this disorder so you can support her as well as yourself. Always remember to take care of yourself so you remain healthy. Good Luck to both of you. 👍
I concur FULLY with your comment Sir. I have experienced the exact same conditions.
I going through this with my girlfriend! Thats how got to this video and your comment happens to be at the top. We’ve already broken up couple times and left wondering whether this relationship is worth it.
@@dkg6826 if you love her, it is worth it. There is a group called NAMI(National Association for the Mentally Ill).They are an organization that helps friends and family members cope with a loved ones mental illness. You might look up a group near you. The group usually has doctors, therapists, and clinicians that speak at the meetings. They meet once a month. Don't give up on your partner. Hope she is seeking support as well. Good luck.
I really appreciate your videos! It's very helpful and gives me a better understanding. Also, it's nice to know that there are other people going through similar things. When I was diagnosed with Bipolar, I felt and still do fell broken.
I’m so glad you found my channel and that it has been helpful. Thank you for the kind words. Stop by anytime :-)
-Rob
When you described the feeling of needing to change everything I felt so exposed but things made so much more sense. Watching really helped me see things in a different light and has given me hope that I will be able to work through the challenges with my amazingly understanding and accepting boyfriend.
I just wanted to say thank you. I put myself in the hospital 4 years ago after I had my biggest mania episode and didn’t understand what was happening and the person I just started dating was so scared of my weird behavior they were gonna call the police on me (I wasn’t violent, just having delusions and arguing with them about what was real and what wasn’t and freaked them out). Was diagnosed with bipolar amongst many other things that they ended up taking away I guess??? then just treated me for bipolar. I haven’t truly believed I was actually bipolar till I found your video about the anger, and you described exactly what I’ve been scared of myself for years about. Then in this video you nailed it once again. Idk why but these two videos finally gave me relief I needed to hear. You just describe it so well that I feel normal again. Thank you dude. Subscribed
"Intelligent Introspective" - Accepting responsibility for our action(s) is transforming regardless of what side of the (bipolar) relationship one is on.
What an incredibly brave man you are, not least for putting it all out there for the world to see. Well done mate, major respect to you, and those loved ones around you. I’m learning so much, and may just have shed a tear or two. Looking forward to learning more.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
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teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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Thank you for putting yourself and these videos out there for us to help get information, 35 and have been recently diagnosed with bp2 and honestly it’s scary, my past makes so much more sense now though , a lot of damage done and has been so hard on my wife and kids, hopefully with continued treatment and getting informed as much as I can we will have a better future. Thanks again and all the best.
Keep helping yourself and ask your wife to join a Celebrate Recovery meeting along with you. It is great and the understanding and support you get will help you get through the trials of having Bipolar Disorder. Look it up online. There are CR groups in every city. Good luck to the both of you.