HYPERSEXUALITY: Signs, Symptoms, Treatment, & More!
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Hypersexuality is more common than people realize and it's extremely important to know the signs of "hypersexual behavior." It can have a HUGE impact on our decision making and especially our relationships. In fact, the average percentage of people who experience "Hypersexual Bipolar Mania" is around 57%. This video covers a broad spectrum of hypersexuality for anyone who wants to learn a lot about it - (not just those who have Bipolar Disorder).
When you were first diagnosed and started talking to doctors about Bipolar Disorder, chances are you were never told about "hypersexuality." I've seen some great doctors over the years and not a single one mentioned this to me.
An overwhelming number of people have asked me to make a video talking about this. Most have been the partners of someone who has Bipolar Disorder. Part of the problem is how uncomfortable people are with discussing Mental Illness and especially sex. Even in relationships, couples don't tend to talk about hypersexuality unless there's a big problem.
For partners who cheat, the often don't talk about it until they get caught. For partners who are getting "lots of great sex," they might not see it as a problem until their partner's mania is completely out of control.
Hypersexuality, just like Bipolar Disorder is "cyclic" - meaning it can come and go in cycles. There are usually distinct patterns of behavior or signs when someone starts to get hypersexual. Learning to identify these signs can be used as another TOOL to know when Bipolar symptoms are starting. Being overly-sexual can be a sign that mania is here. Having no interest in sex could mean that depression is on the horizon. It's up to each person to learn what hypersexuality means for them.
I'd love to hear what you think in the comments below and if you have any questions, I'll always do my best to help!
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Ty for your channel
I used to suffer from hypersexuality and intense lust , and I can tell you that fasting helps a great deal, once you can control your mind you can control your body
The Machine truth
The Machine it’s like a drug to me... Seems like if I can stay away from that first “hit” I’ll be ok ...
Well, I am diabetic so I cannot do that. I would pass out!
Ditto
Beautiful and Brilliant reply
"Effects more women than men": because the social expectations and consequences of sex are different, it might be easier to identify in women, but written off as normal male behavior in men.
Psycho-chemically, there is research suggesting bipolar brains either do not produce endorphins regularly, or don't always use them normally. Between the hyper sexuality and substance abuse both cited as much more common in bipolar disorder, the most common drugs to abuse are opiates. These drugs may not even cause a euphoric feeling as much as just "not awful".
I’m glad you commented. That is fascinating and really got me thinking. Hope you have a peaceful weekend :-)
-Rob
@@nachogoatcheese1761 exactly my thought
Love this comment ✨🙏🏼🫀
FACT
I am studying psychology and recently took a class that discussed disorders. Hypersexuality was not mentioned as a symptom of Bipolar. Thank you for educating others with your channel.
Wow Fascinating- thank You for educating us- I too am passionate about psychological education
Usually it is under “excessive involvement in activities that have high potential for painful consequences.” In the DSM-V.
Have a good friend that was diagnosed with what they use to call Manic Depressive, and now called Bipolar Disorder. Along with hyper sexuality. The hyper sexuality got stronger with age. Initially just taking clothes off during a manic high. As years went by, the watching of porn and calls to phone sex lines, and eventually the act of sex with others came with no protection. Cost of a marriage. Spent a lot of money to get the fix as well. My friend actually denied it and would become angry when confronted with it. Drugs helped for a while, but when the high would start, refused to take them. Eventually had to be hospitalized to get under control. No meds have worked for longer than 2 to 3 years, and then they are adjusted or another one is tried. It's so sad. I remain a friend who trys to understand even when not wanted. I do know the child hood life was with a self centered mother who stayed home and both parents drank. Not much physical affection from what I saw.
It is often not specifically labelled "hypersexuality" in the lit, partly attempting to destigmatize bipolar disorder, but they DO mention "risky sexual behavior" in a lot of it, usually related to mania.
Psychology was my study in school too. You right this wasn't taught. Learning new things is growth.
I've suffered from this for a long time but never knew it was a symptom of the disorder I just thought I was a terrible person..
Me too. Yesterday I said a prayer asking God to help me with this. Look what came up on my screen today! Every doctor I’ve approached about this has changed the subject....IMMEDIATELY!
StrangeAsMe same
It's a lot easier to accept and be yourself when you recognize what it is. Don't let any haters succeed in trying to make you feel guilty about it.
oil_goddess So did I. For years it went undiagnosed because I just never told anyone about it. I was involved in many sexual deviant behaviors. Some being extremely risky. I was finally diagnosed after a suicide attempt about 8 years ago. It took many different mixes of medications in order to get my symptoms under control. One of the side effects though is that it has left me virtually impotent. Thankfully I have a very understanding wife.
I’ve been convincing myself I was a terrible person for years. But without even admitting to my hyper sexuality, I was diagnosed with Manic Bipolar a couple weeks ago. Now it all makes sense. Feels like my own personal hell.
There is a very strong connection between hypersexuality and childhood sexual abuse. The majority of porn stars have said that they were abused
Physical and emotional abuse as well.
Sure they have
I'm too stupid to pour piss out of a boot yes definitely I used to date a few of them and also correspond with a couple and they related that about their past! Many of them need a lot of counseling and help and love and ways to get out of the industry...
Check!!!
I'm too stupid to pour piss out of a boot I’m familiar with various porn stars and that is not the case...bipolar yes and other mental problems and some cases yes abuse but it’s not rampant...
This illness makes it almost impossible to have a relationship.
That's not true, sure it can bring obstacles but with the right person and lots of honesty it is possible. Don't lose hope.
It does make it almost impossible
Is that because of the desire to have sex with others outside the relationship? One lady said that if the father of her child had just asked for an open relationship she could have accepted that, but she could not deal with his lying and cheating.
I can never keep a relationship
@@Mote78 Yes, I have spoken to other women about this and they told me the same as well. The lying and cheating is what they can't deal with but if the guy is honest then the relationship would have worked out. Not every woman is like that but there are plenty who are.
PEOPLE NEED TO TALK ABOUT THIS MORE.
If it wasn't so demonized or ostracizing we can get done
"Obsessing over what you can't have".This is the Real Challange
You are not alone
Or obsession over something you can have and know you shouldn’t...
Wow you said it all
me too
Definitely the obsessing
Been married to my wife for 21 years and she was diagnosed with bipolar in 2008. I wouldn’t say she’s hyper sexual but our sex life is riding along in the roller coaster that is her bipolar. It’s feast of famine with almost no middle ground. Thank you for the video. It helps me understand more what her mind is doing to her and to our marriage. And keep an eye out in the future if it escalates.
No one talks about it because we feel like freaks. I've felt both dirty and abusive because of cheating on my gf, She forgave me, which hurts more than than I can explain. It's not fun, it's not cool and it destroyed my life.
Hei man, how are you know? Can I get ur WhatsApp to sharing time?
Omg my husband does this!! And it has ruined my life. He says he’s sorry and all of these things. He was just diagnosed with Bipolar 1 with psychotic features. I get he has this but why all the cheating and it can be with anything that allows him. Its scary
Along as you pick yourself up., make that commitment ., there is hope.
I feel like a total loser I am such a sexually addicted person it has ruined my entire life the things I've lost include my wife two daughters a house a career as a firefighter paramedic making 85 Grand self-respect self-esteem dignity and worst of all spiritual sickness and probably eventually death!
@@michaeldundee8300 I’m sorry man. I hope that your mistakes don’t cause you to lose sight of the fact that you still have some good to offer. Ghandi said “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” I think this is important to remember whenever one is struggling through dark days. I hope you can forgive yourself.
I’m so glad I came across this video, I was disagnosed with bipolar at 13 and I’ve always been hyper sexual I would think I was disgusting and pray it away . I still am confused about it I won’t go into details but it’s so bad. This is kinda insane because this is so spot on and I really have been battling this demon and I’ve isolated everyone around me
Understand sending up prayers
we are all human and have desires of the flesh. There are ways to go about fulfilling these desires without possible negative outcomes. Doesn't mean u are disgusting or weird, only human. Like everybody else. No one does whats best all the time. Still sometimes, who's to say. I can tell you for me personally, talking about these things to a person who is full of wisdom, patience, and who cares will be a huge step in to finding yourself
You have already taken step partly because of this comment so keep up the good work man. Be good to yourself man.
Hang in there. It gets better, I promise!
I diagnosed with bipolar that is true iam hyper sexual
I could never see myself diagnosing a child with bpd at 13. There used to be a rule of waiting until early to mid 20s before giving that dx. By any chance was your hyper sexuality associated with trauma? I wonder if ptsd would be more suitable for many when it comes to addressing the root of the hyper sexuality. I notice my patients with bpd dx prior to my care tend to likely have a significant trauma history that needs unpacking. Not to say this is you. Just general and I was curious about whether you could relate
I changed my diet. I stopped sugar completely, stopped smoking and drinking. I eat clean and healthy now. I strongly believe the diet is connected to sex addiction. My whole life changed!! Simply by removing toxins in my body.
How did you kick sugar?
Any tips or advice would be appreciated.
Yeah, i think pronounced depression makes us do less sociable things and if your able to work at rebalancing your brain you can shift things.
@@insuchaway i havent kicked sugar or diet cola completely but the process of writing down your consumption then willfully weening it could be a start?
@@insuchaway I started off by stopping refined sugars. White and brown sugar, soda, all candy. I just used honey, maple syrup, and eat fruits but you still should limit your intake. So I eventually stop those as well. It definitely made a difference. Also I was eating plenty vegetables daily, definitely no processed food of any kind, and I cut out dairy as well which was more of a challenge for me. Also no alcohol, drugs, smoking, and sugar. Sugar is a drug. If you ever done any they will make your sexual thoughts increase. Since changing my diet Ive only had 8 sexual encounters this year. trust me it wasn’t because of covid. Im amazed and so grateful. Try changing your diet.
@@te9591 Definitely; I will implement this immediately.
I put myself in many dangerous situations because of this I look back and can’t believe so many of the bad decisions I made
Jeanne Feldman me too
Can't imagine if I were a woman and could essentially get any sexual activity I want at almost any time. Super dangerous.
What was your symptoms was
@@0oo00 This is not true. I’m married and we don’t have sex and the men I want, don’t want me, no matter how “available” I may seem or how “hot” I look. Women can’t get any sexual activity at almost any time. It’s extremely frustrating for us as well.
I can't believe I'm alive
It only struck me last year how apt of a comparison hypersexuality is to drug use. I was getting tattooed and my artist was making conversation. Somehow we got to talking about our past and I mentioned my bipolar. He asked how that was going and I said that I was stable on meds at this point but it had been rough for a while. He asked if it was drugs and I said that I’d just had a bit too much sex. He then said, “Oh, so sex was your drug”. Which completely shook my world because I’d never considered what I’d been doing to be on the same level as a drug addiction. When play it back now, almost two years out from my two year long hyper sexual manic episode I’m astonished that I didn’t see how bad it had gotten.
If we keep with the drug metaphor, I didn’t slow myself down and wean myself off of my drug, I cold turkeyed after an overdose. Almost two years ago I finally ran myself into a case of SA which threw a cold bucket of water all over my hypersexuality. I was then celibate for the next 7 months (aside from one failed attempt where I dissociated the entire time, so that was fun) until I met the person who is now my life partner and I’ve not been with anyone since.
Every single escalation you mentioned I did. You essentially drew a road map for of my two year period. I’m just starting to struggle with feelings of shame and repulsion. For the first 1.5 years or so I think I put that time out of my mind, but now that it’s been long enough I think my mind is ready to deal with it, but I don’t know how to begin.
I suffer from this disorder and I was never sexually abused... I’m praying and meditating...
Ah, same :(
The cause-and-effect idea is comforting but false. I am alcoholic because I am alcoholic.
Call me
Pray the Rosary 📿
When I was manic, Sex became my drug, it was like Heroin to me. I would have it whenever/wherever with whomever. I was reckless & caught a lot of STD’s😒🤢. It’s under control now, thank god. 🙌🏼
P J hey man, how did you get it under control? I’m suffering with it now.
@@Eli-jc4ep medications, diet, meditation, awareness of your own state, writing diaries. It all helps to understand which one of your needs and thoughts are illness and which one are actual and real need. Sometimes it doesnt help sometimes it does... worth to try. But its difficult
Wow brother I hope none of stds are fatal...i m glad you got a grip
P J Same story.
eli lev Medication (in my case, lithium) helped me. I also got into an exclusive relationship with the man I love, 7 years ago. Wanting to keep him in my life made me want to work on it. Not everyone is able to do that for a relationship, though! Without the medication, it would not have been possible. I also went to chemical dependency treatment and applied a lot of the coping strategies, building structure in my life, and other things I learned to the hypersexuality issue, too.
You truly are a polar warrior and we thank you for what you do
Jeromey Cole thank you for such a wonderful comment! A lot of people read and liked your comment. We are all polar Warriors! We’ve been through the “initiation and rights of passage” to call ourselves warriors!!
What means polar warrior ?
My partner (male) is a 36 yo bipolar type 1. He's developed a crisis prevention system, and whenever either of us start feeling significantly disconnected during sex, like we are together but his mind is more on reaching climax than in connecting, we start setting observation alerts towards anxiety management. Since we've done this his crisis have reduced sooo much. Being able to have insight and support regarding early symptoms is key.
Can you go into more detail about the steps you take if you don't mind?
Hypersexuality is the symptom I have the most problems controlling. Thanks for this video.
I’m glad I’m an asexual and aromantic bipolar. My mania is bad enough. I can’t imagine what it would be like if I suffered from hyper-sexuality too. To all the people in the comments, keep going, you’re all doing a fantastic job. Great video, by the way!
unfortunately, i am an aroace who struggles with hypersexuality while not having attraction,, it's not fun to deal with. when mania comes around, it gets worse.. but, you learn your way around it if you can try. :D
@@N0rtmiik3 I thought I was a fake aroace person but your comment put down the thought lol. (I thought that you can’t have hypersexuality while being aroace..) Also, relatable!
FACTS!!! It makes it difficult to have a relationship, it's overwhelming to someone that doesn't understand Bipolar Disorder (etc.)...
It’s overwhelming even if you understand it. Understanding it doesn’t make it easier.
Beautifully done.... symptoms, treatment, understanding, nonjudgmental, and sympathetic.
Just being diagnosed, and realizing I'm not the only one makes me feel better.
Yeah we all suffer...welcome.
You can share facebook or numbers
Wow! We all have battles to conquer. But hope you doing great Tara!!
I agree 👍
Is it all bad? It's has to be fun sometimes
I'm freaked out by how accurate this is
You are far better than a professional Presenter (like someone who presents some talk show, lecture, etc). I wonder but I know for sure you're doing impromptu speech maybe with some going through what you are going to talk about. All in all, you're a great speaker, know the subject, and wth man, you are a subject! I think you are doing God's work here, man. You're a godsend to many bipolar guys and girls and also the loved and loving ones around them. I wish you a long long life and enough strength and luck to carry on every second of it. And I salute your spouse if you have one for that understanding and all the love. She is an Angel too. Love you both.🤘
Brave Heart Right! Intelligent and articulate and he knows what he's talking about.
Brave Heart WOW!! Thank you so much for the most wonderful comment! Your words really made my evening. I’m so glad I can help so many people who need it. Starting this channel is one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done.
marilynnmarie24 thank you so much! My head is going to swell up so big from all of these comments, I won’t be able to get it in the next video frame LOL. All of these kind words are what keep me motivated to continue doing what I’m doing. It really means a lot to me :-)
Polar Warriors ! Dont worry, Your head won't swell any bigger. 😊
Kidding....😁
I know for sure you're not the kind that lets success or fame or praise gets to your head. You know how to handle Praise, the right way.
You're good, man. All the best for you.🤘
Thank you so much! =) I hope you are doing well this week my friend!
Addicts brains tend to be Obsessive- compulsive when our brain picks up something we cant stop thinking about it. It can randomly pop up & seem so urgent. U try to think about something else but it keeps popping up. It really sucks. U have to control what u watch, listen to, or go around bc it can trigger it.
Very true!
Fax
Fax the truth
Being bipolar is NO joke.
Eish my husband has it and wont accept that he suffers from it, l got children with him and l have and still am suffering through it,l dont know what to do
I have biopolor but I have good and bad days and I'm alone. Nobody wants me
Being Human is no joke- everyone in this world has something to work on constantly. ( period )
Indeed is NO joke. Not at all. My sun took his life recentlly. I feel powerlessness. Sad I could not help to prevent it.
I agreed with that . I have just been diagnosed with b,I, p d
Have talked to a million doctor's and never been told about this. I thought it was just me.
Cookie Mcdaniel I've had the same experience
Cookie Mcdaniel RIGHT!!! I have had so many people ask me to make a video about this. I’m so glad it is getting some information out there. Finding a good doctor that REALLY understands bipolar disorder can be so far and few between. I’m so glad the video helped. It is not just you! I’m sure feels good to know that :-)
Aleksandra Momcilovic thank you for the comment and I’m so glad this video is helping so many. I really hope it helps a lot of people put words to the feelings they might not understand. :-)
I am happy to hear that I am not alone! I thought I was totally nuts and that it was JUST ME as well. I am so thankful for this channel. I have learned so much here. I rarely comment but this subject hits home really hard. I put a profile up on "OnlineBootyCall" and had about seven different men come see me within three days time. None of them satisfied me, and I found my vibrator not even enough. I clamped my nipples and clitoris with strong pressure to induce pain while I masturbated. Isn't that a mess! I deleted the profile I JUST PAID FOR and would have been good for three more weeks. I will not do this!!!!
TheVickiJune thank you so much for sharing with that kind of transparency. It is so important that we discuss issues like this, and it’s definitely not an easy one for people to talk about. I think this will be a really helpful video for the channel considering most doctors don’t even bring this up. Thanks for all the comments on my videos and for supporting what I’m doing here! 😊😊
Wow thank you for this video. I’ve tried my whole life to explain this to people and they just don’t get it. Not even the professionals. They always want to call me a nympho. Smh. I usually avoided relationships because it was so hard to find someone to keep up with me or even to satisfy me regularly. I always felt like the guy when it came to that part of the relationship. You know how they say women are always complaining or never wants it well it’s always been the total opposite for me. Thank you again for this video. I’m definitely going to subscribe to your channel.
My wife was officially diagnosed bipolar about a year ago. Your videos have been helpful as I've started trying to understand more. Thank you.
As a 20 year old woman that's been diagnosed for 4 years but have been experiencing symptoms when I was 9, (SA victim here!) THANK YOU. I was so disgusted at myself for so long. I oversexualized myself for so long and I feel so dirty. It took me 11 years to clean myself again. Thank you so much.
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I had to leave my wife of 10 years because of her constant cheating. I still care and worry for her. But she would always lie, and constantly search out whatever sexual episodes she could. As a combination of her hypersexuality and insecurities. But to protect my self and our child, I had to build up the strength to let her go because I couldn't let her choices affect our life. She always ends up at seedy motels and enjoys horrible drugs. And with a 2yo, that's not going to work. I still hope and pray every day that she grows up and realizes her child needs her
I'm sorry that happened to you, but I sometimes wonder how a person can do that, I've been hypersexual and it's the worse thing ever!!! But I never cheated, cheating is wrong so it doesn't matter how much I suffer I could never do that to someone, even when we split for a while I didn't sleep with anyone so I really do know how people could but I try not to judge because everyone is different and just because I've got the willpower doesn't mean everyone can
@@253Anglela My girlfriend and I split and she slept with 2 guys within the next 10 days. That's all she admitted to but she was talking to several other men. She just got off her medication recently and I think this is what ultimately led her to leaving me. She also got real nasty with me and started blaming me for all of our problems but I did nothing wrong.
Your wife is ill and adding a drug/alcohol use disorder on top of that would most certainly make her hypersexuality much more difficult to cope with.
That being said, you have to make the right decision for you and your child at the end of the day. No matter what happens in our lives ultimately the individual has to make the decision to seek treatment for their mental health AND follow through with their treatment plan.
It's not that she's childish and "needs to grow up"... she's a sick person that needs to get well. The sooner that you learn that, the better off you and your child will be.
@@elizabetharmstrong6467 I'll politely disagree!!! As a mother it's my responsibility to stay on my medication ect like adults do, to put her child through that is very selfish and irresponsible imo
@@elizabetharmstrong6467stop making excuses. If she really needed sexual stimulation, she could’ve watched porn. Instead she decided to cheat like the absolute scum that she is. Cheaters are lower than dirty. I’m saying this as somebody who has Hypersexuality
I have definitely had cyclical times of hypersexuality and could not understand what was wrong with me. I jokingly referred to those times as TND's (temporary nymphomania days). I had no idea that other people with a bipolar diagnosis were dealing with this symptom too and that it could be helped by finding the right medications. I hope more people get this information so they don't have to suffer the pain associated with periods of hypersexuality. Thank you for talking about this!
Ok, I admit............when I'm manic I love it! The hard part is the downward spiral of the depression.
Same
@@captainswan3079 You think you guys can elaborate a little more?
Facts
@@kingphillieman This is a late reply......but what do you want to know?
@@kingphillieman I'll take a stab at it. I"m Bipolar II which means I spend most of my time in depression with, well, little desire to even live on some days. Sucks, but getting out of bed is a true challenge. Suicide is common in those with BiPolar 2. When our mania hits, we feel alive and on top of the world. I wonder if that is what it feels like to be "normal". I'm in the best of mood, I'm quick witted, super happy and can get more stuff done in 5 min than most can do in a week.......or so it seems. I'm very talkative and flirty with the ladies and my "game" gets turned on. Sex is awesome and it could be 8 hours long in one session. I have been very risky in the past and will......well screw anyone that's a female. On some nights I said screw it I"m just getting a hooker. And porn...well you get the idea. It's a major boost to endorphins my body has needed it seems. This feeling of mania can go on for 2-3 days straight! No sleep. The first day is great, second day is just as good but thoughts are a little more foggy. Third day I am still on the manic "High" but just can't turn my brain off to relax and sleep. Then I pace the floors while my wheels spin upstairs as ideas pop in and out. I talk to people that aren't there but I know they aren't there so yeah, I guess I hear people talking to me in my head in a faint voice that really are thoughts people are talking to me. At this point I start hearing things like door bells ringing, or my ex GF calling my name. I go to look and nobody is there. Then, I finally sit or lay down and I'm out like a light. 12-15 hours later I wake up groggy and wiped out. Chemically my body has been depleted of all endorphins and adrenal fatigue has kicked in and I slip back into depression which lasts sometimes 3 months as my body is "recharging". It's tough to do anything.....then, I start feeling excited about life and bam, Mania is triggered once again. I know this will only last for 3-4 days tops so I enjoy it while I can I guess. It's a constant roller coaster and the depression part is the most lonely feeling in the world.....even if you have people around because I can't connect with them. I'm just bla with flat emotions. Most only know me when I'm manic and the life of the party. I tell many of my friends I've been on "vacation" when I'm depressed as I don't like people seeing me like that. Yes, the meds help, but like many when I start feeling better I just stop taking them and the madness starts all over again. Took me 4 years to find what worked for me medication wise.
Early childhood abuse is the common factor in my experience
Same
Same here but it's at it's peek during times of anxiety and depression... Then I feel like shit afterward and do it again 🤦🏾♀️ plus it drains the shit out of me because I could go for hours or even days SMH... I can't stand it, but the feeling is great until I after I orgasm and then I feel disgusted with myself SMH... It's truly a problem
So sorry for you...
Can i help you somehow?
True and I have schizoaffective I've been abused in many ways it is hard to live with the regret of the past
Same here
That was the first "symptom" expressed and acknowledged with my son. Poor guy. He went through alot before he was given a diagnosis of bipolar. He actually came to me first saying he thought he had a problem. I tried to comfort him letting him know that it could be normal due to puberty. However sadly that was not the case. Its rough seeing him go through such. I'm glad he is getting some help though I wish there was better services to be honest. Thank you for this video.
I also struggle with this I feel depressed afterwards " what's wrong with me?" Why was it so easy to stop before and its so hard now." My bipolar signs got worse as I got older.
I think you are so wonderful for educating people who have this illness and people working with people who are bi polar
Awe - thank you so much Faye!!!
-Rob
I now know it's OK to feel the way I feel
And not be ashamed of it
I've heard so many people tell me I'm a freak because I like certain things done
This is why I never tell people how I feel
It was such a relief to get my diagnosis of Bipolar II, and the symptoms it causes. My hypersexuality during my late teens and early twenties was always asouce of shame and guilt to me. It's so comforting not to know that I was not just being promiscuous for the sake of it.
I am so glad I found your channel, I’ve been in denial about my bipolar, but the more of your videos I watch the more I’m starting to accept the diagnosis.
I struggled with this during previous long-term manic episodes. Luckily, I have an AMAZING wife who, while she was hurt and I still haven't gained back the level of trust I enjoyed, understood my plight and stuck by my side. I am proudly 100% FAITHFUL now and I love her more than ever!
@@NOBODY-cn6fj why are you being mean? This is a place people share problems and don’t feel judged. If you’re going to do that and discard someone’s situation then leave.
Hell yea!
I wouldn't stay. It would trigger my mental illness. Would u stay if she was cheating on you?.
Great video!! This is one way my mania presents and because I don’t have the stereotypical “creative genius” mania, my friends and family question my bipolar diagnosis. Hypersexuality takes away all my reasoning and puts me in life-threatening situations. It’s shameful and dangerous:(
I’m so glad the video helped and thank you for the kind words 😊😊😊
Thank you for sharing.
This video alone has helped me understand my recent diagnosis of bipolar. It explains why my relationships sucked, why I developed an addition to pornography, and made look for my triggers that gets me into most manic episodes. You are doing a great thing here and I really appreciate the hard work you put in this information.
Life is so difficult, and this a such a difficult test. Thank you for the work you are doing. I so respect how you've taken your test and turning it into helping others to heal. May we all find our balance. Onward and Upward, Warriors!
Thank you so much!
How did you Stop, I struggle 2017 and Now
You are an amazing speaker. Crystal clear and immensely informative. Thank you.
The symptoms of hypersexuality describes how I feel to a T. It took me a long time to come to this bc I was never taught about hypersexuality, and I feel like our culture promotes and celebrates strong sexual urges, so this made it hard for me to realize I have a problem.
I think there is a connection between PTSD in childhood and hyper sexuality as an adult. It’s like an itch that has to be scratched wether it’s safe or not. The deed has to be done no matter what. Your not in control, it’s in control. All of the good judgment in you goes out the window! This is the scary part of bipolar.
@@woodfreewoman6845 where do you get them?
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Yes I completely understand what you said. I am bipolar type 2 and i'm in a 12 year relationship with my boyfriend but i'm extremely sexually attracted to his boss. It's to the point of wanting to RIP his clothes off and have sex with him for hours. I have just realized that It's part of being bipolar disorder type 2 and I should of been diagnosed when I was a teenager. I think that knowing this information when I was young would of saved me a lot of regrets. God bless you from Kingston Ontario Canada
@@lolasimmons9152 12 years dating a guy?? Most women who have dated that long are at least subconsciously sick of a guy who hasn't made a commitment or said good bye. Boss fanasies are common, especially if boss seems decisive. Type 1 w other issues, and have exes who still like me and some who pity me realizing what we could have been. You may want to obliquely talk things over with boyfriend before you wake up and realize you deny your feelings for a futile relationship.
this was so on point and true for me its like empty sex and the feeling when its over is horrible wow u hit the nail on the head directly.
E. Black i’m so glad! I really put a lot of time into researching this video and choosing my words very carefully. Thank you so much for the support and I hope you will continue to stop by my channel :-)
Caroline Settles that’s very true. Bipolar can cause so much damage in its wake. I’m sorry you had to be one of those affected by this. I think it’s wonderful that you are learning about it though. We need more people who don’t have Bipolar doing that!
Caroline Settles so true sis.
Polar Warriors Sir you have a lifetime supporter u are very in tune with the issues you speak about and its a major blessing .Keep doing what your doing and be fearless in getting into these adult topics because we the people need to know that we are not alone .bpd does not mean we are absent from having needs sexually but we Must know how to give tge best and receive the best.Thanks again .hugs xoxo .May God continue to bless you as you bless others with your insite and wisdom.
Thank you so much for the support and kind words =) It means a LOT to me!
-Rob
My friend has this, and it put distance between us. She had a mental breakdown and had to increase her meds. She was 52 years old diagnosed bipolar. In my opinion, demons always twist human sexuality. ✨️
there are no demons dont blame your mistakes on something spiritual
This was so interesting, all these years I thought I was crazy, oh wait.
Call mr
Nahh jus different
Not many people like to discuss this topic. Thank you for doing so.
Bobby Gordon thank you so much Bobby! It always makes me feel so good to get a comment from you brother.😊😊
@@PolarWarriors i have to be careful discussing it because, i know this is stupid, i become competitive and i know i can accidentally trigger myself or someone gave up shame about sex a long time ago, way before my first episode, im more ashamed to admit i watched a few seconds of a MMA match then i am to admit the things ive done sexually
I definitely get this. I get it when I am manic severely, and the symptom goes throughout my life because I also have hormone problems (PCOS). I've never cheated during these episodes, but I have gone through a hard core porn addiction. I'm also bi so I've been obsessed with trying to join an orgy in the past but never been able to find one. I'm really into BDSM. And I find myself increasing my interests more and more. I truly think the key to this is finding a balance, like you say. I definitely need someone I trust and who can give me 100% their attention and intimacy when I usually feel empty either way. But I also need them to be open to my interests, while keeping me grounded and safe. It's such a crazy thing because hypersexuality can be so, so dangerous. I am lucky that I haven't developed any serious diseases, or even died. I have had my fair share of abuse and trauma because of it, though. And I think the thing that needs to be brought up is that it can happen to people at a very young age, for me it probably started happening when I was about 10, which was frightening. I didn't get diagnosed with bipolar until I was 21. I've lived a life.
Chelsea B just like I said in the video, there is nothing wrong with pushing the limits of sexual exploration in a relationship. I know it can be harder to find people who are like-minded (in a world where people don’t discuss sex openly), but they are out there. It is great that you are aware of all of this. Self-awareness is really the hardest step for most people to take. I have so much respect for you being faithful in your relationships. That’s rare and I know it takes a lot of self-control. I hope the video helped a lot and you are very welcome on my channel. Stay safe and stop by anytime! :-)
My x-girlfriend is bipolar and would go through the hypersexuality thing. We were together for seven years and apparently she had been cheating on me with many different men the entire time. It blows my mind, and the things that she did are unbelievable. I don't buy this as an excuse for a bipolar person to cheat. We had sex at least twice a day, and apparently she still needed more sex from other men. I only caught her a few times, but she would say things and tell me about it while talking about other things, like word salad, without actually telling me. She was really sneaky. So that's why we broke up. She is a liar and a nympho, and she won't take her meds, which actually worked. She just doesn't care and is actually still having sex with groups of guys, I hope she realizes that she can't go through life like that. I wish her the best.
my 1st love also bipolar.i tried many times to forgot her butn't succeed.she has every symptoms of bipolar disorder.
This sounds exactly like what my last relationship was like. I'm currently going through the breakup and the pain. I still am in love w him but this is just something I must do for my own health and sanity. It's incredibly hard and painful to let someone go who you're in love with.
Run!
Same here. Going off to cafe and …..
Hypersexuality is hell, espically when you're in a relationship.
But, the ones who stay and see you through it, that's what actually matters.
I struggle so much :( it hurts and i need people to talk to about it.
You're not alone :)
I just ended a relationship a week ago due to his sex addiction and cheating. Hardest thing ever since we have a child together
Aww, I'm so sorry, you had to go through horrible things. My poor boyfriend had to endure horrible things as well. I'm surprised he has stayed with me. Course we are long distance so that helps us both. Please be kind to yourself. *hugs*
This really hit home. I knew something wasn't right with me. Thank You
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This sucks I'll never get a girl they will think I'm a monster. Which I'm having this fuckt up mental health issues
METTA WORLD PEACE YOUNIOR that sounds like the depression talking my friend. I had to not worry about dating for a while and just focus on getting better before I could maintain a healthy relationship. It just takes time, and it’s totally worth it. Try to be gentle on yourself until things get a little better. I’m glad you found my channel and I hope the videos help :-)
-Robert
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Polar Warriors thank you.keep up the good work 👍🙏
METTA WORLD PEACE YOUNIOR you are very welcome and I will have a lots more videos to come. Stop by anytime :-)
Sooo glad I found this channel. Thank you!!
Recently diagnosed at 28 but psychiatrist said I should have been diagnosed since age 12/13.
Glad to have a deeper and growing understanding of myself now
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You have a wonderful way of explaining in detail exactly what I experience during my mania. I feel a little less alone. Thank you. Xo
Dawn Marie Hill i’m so glad and you are very welcome here on my channel. It is so liberating to not feel alone. So many people just don’t talk about this stuff. Stop back by anytime. I will have lots more videos to come :-)
I can so relate to this and know that I personally have dealt with this part of the Bipolar condition many years ago. At the time, I had no idea it had anything to do with my Bipolar condition.
Thank you for creating this channel and for all you do to devote your time and energy to helping others with Bipolar illnesses!
Phronsa i’m so glad the video helped! You are so very welcome and I hope you will continue to stop back by. Starting this channel is one of the most rewarding things I’ve done in my life :-)
I was diagnosed years ago, which answered many questions, but I never knew this could be attached to it. I have lived with such shame for most of my life because parents and partners told me I was weak to the sin nature. Good to know there is more to it
the first time I visit your channel, I made comment asked about hypersexuality, and here you go make a video about it :D Thank you so much, you have no idea how much help you giving people here.
Amr Adam I try my best and thank you so much again for the wonderful supportive comment. I’m really glad you found my channel and are a part of this growing community here 😊😊😊
I just thought this was me. Being in a relationship with this can be toxic to the relationship and can make you come off as insensitive etc. So glad someone is talking about this
Sarah Wright i’m so glad it helped! I’m not afraid to talk about the things that most people won’t. We need more of that so it’s my pleasure to help :-)
I Have Been Sent To Piss Off the whole world it can be really destructive, that’s for sure. I’m glad you found my channel and I hope the video helps some. Maybe consider seeing what the doctor says about it or something they can do to help treat your symptoms so you can find a better balance. It doesn’t have to be like this, but it definitely takes work to change such a primal part of our nature.
Can u explain with detaild?
You explained this topic pretty well! I’ve experienced this twice during my two times full blown mania. It got worse over time because I didn’t know that I have bipolar. It’s still hard to forgive myself until now because of what I’ve done. All the damage that I’ve caused others. I wish I could redo the past.
Me tooo
Before I was diagnosed and got help and medication, I had more partners than I can count. I have been married twice and divorced twice. Now I would just like to have a normal relationship.
Pray the rosary 📿
This is so hard for me to hear and talk about. The bipolar groups I've attended in the past, don't even address this. But it's very real. And of all the behaviors of mania that I had, this one was the most dangerous. I'd like to think my dad was watching over me from heaven, because there were several times I could have been raped, murdered & throned into a ditch somewhere. Thank you for addressing this. It may be hard to understand for those people who have bipolar, but not hypersexuality. It's a thrilling feeling at the time, but looking back, I can't believe some of the things I did. I'm lucky to be here.
Alison Abuhadema A very warm welcome to my channel! I’m so glad the video helped Allison. Thank you for the kind words, and I’m so glad I finally addressed this topic. It is so important, and I’m lucky to be here still also :-)
Alison Abuhadema you have no idea how bad it is for me as well. Its caused me more virginity and ive slept with someone 10 years older then me. Right now im suffering with it. I watched this video before commenting this comment. Im watching it again to control my mania.
tara gorby I hope you have a psychiatrist, who can help you with this. For me, I did not have good psychiatric help. My mother is bipolar and I also was a medical social worker. Looking back, I should of been prescribed an anti-psychotic medication. And just as important, a support system. You never know how long hypersexuality will last. Please try to get help as soon as you can. I don't want anything bad to happen to you. We have this illness, but I believe in most cases, we're understanding and loving Souls. Maybe it's because we've been to Hell and back. I know my hypersexuality was part of that hell. And remember, You Are Not Alone. Most everyone here, can be one of your support systems. XOXO
Polar Warriors I've been to your channel before, but I can't remember the topic LOL. But I did call you a BFF, because you're one of us. Please don't take this the wrong way, but you're cute too. And no, I'm not hyper sexual right now LOL.
Thank you for the wonderful comment and for the encouraging words to a fellow “Polar Warrior” 😊
A wonderful woman forwarded this to me as she was just diagnosed with bipolar and other issues. She’s been dealing with these symptoms which have gradually intensified over the short time I’ve known her. She sent this video on the start of her treatment tonight. I hope I can help her as much as possible as she begins her journey to balance, health and happiness. I’m here for you GJ.
Beautiful!
OH CRAP ! ! ! ! Yet another door has been open and now I understand so much of my past..... It's yet another example of both extremes. It is so incredibly gratifying to finally understand - and on the other side of the fence - enrages me that someone has so spot on identified me. But even as all these thoughts swirl around - I'M SO VERY GRATEFUL TO THIS MAN for helping me to understand and comprehend so very much of what I've been and helping me to identify my many facets. THANKI YOU ! ! !
Amazing. And yes my head is spinning lol. I've had depression for about 10 years and gone through phases of not wanting sex for months to needing it everyday. I've only ever experienced 2 cycles of hypersexuality but can pinpoint it to the lack of closeness and experiencing existential crisis at that particular time!
Diane Piddock i’m so glad the video helped and a very warm welcome to my channel Diane :-)
Yes i agree.
I was totally depressed with bipolar depression for at least 10 years. My libido was in the floor mostly during that time which totally confused my husband when I confessed flirting with men and setting up a tryst (didn't happen, thank God) with a man on Ashley-Madison. We almost decided to divorce, but we are getting help. Took a whole year to heal from that. Not doing that again.
I could help you next time you go hypersexual.
I it would help me save the money I give hookers. We could be pen pals.
@@ellielouiseroberts8602 this hypersexuality is part of our illness . if we share this symptoms with our partners without fear we can help each other. flirt for me is not cheating , have sex is infidelity when it is not talking inter-us, in my personal view, i am not lying ... another thing is loyalty.... it is the most important feeling i can have for my partner. i can give my life for him or her....my mind and soul is for that person, no mistakes...
I’m bipolar and have hyper sexuality. I LOVE this part of it and I would hate it to go away. My partner and I participate in BDSM and I feel this really helps me. I don’t think it should always be thought of as a negative.
It is seen as a negative because for the vast majority, it isnt only BDSM and it interfered alot with their life and it distrsses their partner. Not everybody is lucky enough to have a partner that accepts this type of sexual relationship, for the vast majority, they don't have a partner that part takes in it. I am not saying BDSM is bad or anything I'm just saying it is rare and very hard to make and to embrace and work with a partner to make this habit work. :)
I am 75. I am finally diagnosed as bipolar and I am very sexual.😢 thanks for the clarification. I always cheated on my partners. Now, knowing this, I can work on my mind. Thank you soo much.
You are out of control and dondn't realized it. What you and your Partner do, in the maniac phase, is dangerous.
Absolutely agree 💯
Mate. You are a legend! I cannot thank you enough.
JASON PUSZ awe! Thank you so much for the kind words Jason. You are very welcome here and stop by anytime. It’s my pleasure to help :-)
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It’s really nice to finally put a name to what’s going on. I knew something was wrong when I couldn’t deal with being away from my boyfriend for two weeks...and I started obsessing over things I wanted to do when I saw him again. 😅
I'm glad you talked about this!!!!
Recently got diagnosed with bipolar 2, and i've suffered from hypersexuality since i was 17 - i'm almost 19 -, been through really intense and risky stuff and i can still be in danger...and when i'm depressed i ALWAYS feel extraa guilty and ashamed of myself, and i hate it when people compliment me cause it makes me feel terrible that they don't know how much i'm horrible...
The meds are working, but sometimes i just can't control anything...
But this video and the comment section made me feel understood!
Awe... Be gentle on yourself. You still have sooooooooooo much life to live. So much time to change whatever it is you like. This channel is a great resource. I hope you will continue to stop by =)
-Rob
Thank you for this, my friend has been diagnosed as bipolar and hypersexuality is a part of his history. This helps me be a better friend.
Great video, you definitely hit some of the key points related to hypersexuality and bipolar disorder. Currently in the DSM5 the only thing postulated is high risk behavior which encompasses hypersexuality. However I completely agree with you that hypersexuality should have its own niche. Because when present I have seen many of my patients lives completely destroyed by this.
Even though I don't suffer from hypersexuality, I personally believe that this video is point on and nessesary. Also mentioning the medications and their definitions was awe inspiring. I'm just a seeker of medical knowledge in simple layman's terms for my personal information. Thanks, it's really been educational.
This hurt my life at one point in time. I didn't know I was bipolar or why I was behaving the way I was. I have misread people's intentions at times. Then realizing what I had I hated myself. I was embarrassed and ashamed. I still am. All I can do is learn about my disease and be a better person.
I can’t believe I found this. I remember feeling like this followed by feeling disgusted with myself
I started regular masturbation when I was around 5 years old and I was never sexually abused as far as I remember. I link my frequent compulsive masturbation with depressive mood. It definitely helps to drop out stress and unused energy, relax, and finally sleep when you are in your oversleeping mode. It looks like I spend my life "energy" for something else when I am in mania mood.
I thank you so much for addressing this subject. I went through a horrible time with this some years ago when I experienced a full-blown mania. I had no other connection with the others involved and that hurt some of them. I have felt bad about that ever since. I was not in a relationship at that time - thank goodness - but to this day I feel bad about hurting these people because they liked me and wanted to spend time with me outside the sexual part and I wanted nothing to do with it. Since then and after much reflection on it, I have developed an adverse reaction to sex. Shame overcame me. I did go for testing because I wanted to make sure I had not hurt these individuals in an irreversible way and all is well. Still, to this day, when thoughts of sex come into my mind, I feel an overwhelming sense of shame.
You are so welcome Michelle! Thanks for sharing some of your experience in the comments and supporting what I'm doing here. I have so much regret also for relationships I've done damage to. Many of them I've mended, and many I had to let go. It was sad, but they were all an important part of my growth process - weather they realize it or not. Stop by my channel anytime =)
-Rob
Went through this in my late 30s. If I had only known what I know now, I could have avoided hurting so many.
Just Eve meeeee tooooo! I wish I could go back in time and talk to myself, but I wouldn’t have listened back then. I guess we all have to reach a certain place on our journey. Thank you for the comment :-)
Hurt is avoided by expressing expectations. For example telling someone beforehand, I just want this. Then they accept or decline to participate within the limitations.
Thank you
For this fantastic explanation of what bipolar is. My ex girlfriend was raped when she was very young and had this disorder. I always thought she didn't even like me because the way I was treated by her. Now I understand she couldn't control her sexualality and she did love me. I really loved her and never could forgive her for what I felt I was put through. I am sorry I found this video a little to late
Awe that's so sad that you left the relationship thinking that. I'm going thru that same thing with my husband now n 8m like what is wrong with you, you act like you have a secret vendetta against me n you are treating me fukd up bc you hate me!? He swears he loves me, n we've been together 15yrs n I'm jus now finding out everything n he's gotta much worse! Unmedicated jus was diagnosed recently. So I get where your coming from. It's hard to stay with someone you feel like hates you bc of how they treat you, n he says he doesn't mean too. But in my head how can he treat me so fukd up n not mean to!? But I guess he has to love me some what. But I can't wait til his doctor appointment.
I am so glad you've broached this subject! My libido has sky-rocketed again recently (usually it's pretty non-existant) and I'm trying to keep a lid on it. What's doing my nut at the moment is every new day I wake up living with Bipolar, I feel as though my Hubby is listening to me less and less, not just about the Hypersexuality but everything to do with it. I know I'm not dealing with it on my own as I have a wonderful friend who has read lots of stuff about it to try and help me, but not having the love of my life learning about it, makes me feel very alone.
There is an amazing resource I want to recommend to you. It's a book called "Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder." That has changed my relationships more than any other source. If your hubby is willing to give it a read, he will have a whole new understanding of what we go through AND what to do to be more help. Even if you read it and share info with him, it's a brilliant book. You can grab a cheap used copy online if you'd like. So glad the video helped. It's such an important and not-talked-about subject. I'm working on changing that =)
-Rob
Polar Warriors thanks so much for the suggestion. I have ordered a copy of the book and will give it a read before explaining it to Hubby as he hates reading. I was diagnosed last July and he hasn't read a single book, or watched any videos. I've recommended your channel to him and will keep reminding him to watch a few of the videos.
Keep up the good good work!
Thanks so much Julie. I was poking around looking at audio-books to listen to when I'm falling asleep and I found that they have that book in audio! I'm not much of a reader usually, so that might be a good alternative also. Stay strong and I'm here if you have any questions =)
When I finally saw a psychiatrist for my mania, not only did my mood stabilize, but my hypersexuality calmed down a ton
@Philip Thomas I was very hypersexual during a very severe manic episode. I told my doctor and I was put on a mood stabilizer, the first two didn't work but the third one worked literally overnight.
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So it is true. At school, we had some classmates that had this type of disorder, male and female. We called them different names, all due respect, freakon, Horny, boys crazy and the like. Yet, we never thought of them as mania bipolar. We were too inmature to understand them.
I'm in my first real relationship now and for the first time experiencing the decline in hypersexuality with someone else in mind. This literally came at such a serendipitious time because i've been in this relationship for a while now (we'll be going on two years in summer) and my depressive cycles have been very short within the last few years. I feel like this time may be a little bit different because I've never really expereinced a prologned decline in the sex part. It's always been the most steady. I really needed this, I honestly can't tell you how much. It's a conversation I've been putting off with my partner but now I'll have another resource to direct him towards when I do go to talk about it. Thank you so much for this video! I'll definitely be subscribing and turning on notifications. I'm very big on introspection. I want to work with my demons, not fight against them. I know that sometimes the problem is something that isn't entirely in my control but it means I have to be mindful of the signs that are surrounding the problems to better spot it and inform loved ones.
Ashley Adulting I am so glad the video has become a good resource for you! Thank you so much for the comment and sharing a little about your experience with this. I was hypersexual when I was younger, but now I battle the exact opposite. Talking to my partner was the best thing I could do. Otherwise it would be easy for them to feel unattractive, or unloved because of the lack of “normal attention” someone my age would show. It really takes having a partner who is willing to be faithful and patient when we don’t have the desire. I have found that even just giving my partner a massage or having that touch without having sex still helps bridge the gap a lot. 😊😊
Polar Warriors Yes! Thank you ❤ We talked about it tonight and will likely talk later about it but he's being super supportive! I showed him the video as well, for some more background. He recognized the difference but wasnt sure how to voice it. Since I know how it feels to not feel desired when the other person is just unable to unable to reciprocate my constant need I wanted to make sure he knew it wasn't that. 🙏🏻 This channel is so lovely and I look forward to future videos!
IM SO HAPPY!!!!! Continue to keep me posted on how it goes. Tell him that I am so proud of him for watching that video with you. I support both of you so much and if he has any questions, let him know that he is welcome to contact me :-)
Polar Warriors YOU'RE SO FLIPPN SWEET! Thank you ❤ I will definitely tell him!
Ashley........ I think you should keep him! My boyfriend ( LDR Which really really helped when I was hypersexual and get tendencies still) He caters to that BUThe also gently tries to switch my focus
Thank you so much for this , I've been in a on off relationship with a man who has bipolar. It's really hard , but I do love him 💔 Your videos are really helpful xx
Tinisha Searle you are most welcome! I hope you will continue to stop back by my channel and learn more. The more you learn about bipolar disorder, the easier it will be to recognize his symptoms and help. I think it is wonderful that you are learning about this and trying to help someone who suffers. You have my upmost respect for that!
Carol Miles - For some reason your post appeared and repeated here 7 times! But yes I agree, that no one should stay with a person who cheats on them or spends their money like "water" as you said. However the original poster here Tinisha, didn't mention that her boyfriend is doing those type of things, just that he's bipolar. Now, bipolar people can have a tendency to go out and do more risky things to get their "high" or fix if you will. And that can include an increased risk of cheating, unprotected sex, drugs, gambling, spending money very foolishly, eating too much junk food, and other things. In reality it's always best to stay away from those with very unhealthy behaviors that don't match with your values. Otherwise you ruin your own life and are unlikely to even help your bad partner anyway.
My bipolar boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday and it's so hard... I don't understand mental illness, but I love him very much! He was so sweet at first mania, but then the crash. It wasn't real love
Chris Payne I agree with you
@@aieshalawes9850 hope you've found peace...
This is how I am.. I’m into bdsm and I’m married to a vanilla man and it’s like if I don’t get off a certain amount of times a day I’m anxious all day and in a bratty mood. I want a full blown bdsm lifestyle in my marriage and my husband is refusing me and it’s really affecting me sexually pretty bad.. I haven’t cheated on him nor am I thinking about it nor will I cheat on him, I just want this WITH HIM AND ONLY HIM! But I’m also BPD and him saying “no” to me makes me feel rejected and unwanted and unloved. I’m a masochist and I love PAIN and I don’t feel like I’m fully satisfied. My husband and I fight because of this and he says things how me wanting sex all the time is pushing him away, he doesn’t want sex every day or even all the time... he’s starting to say he doesn’t want to be with and can’t handle me anymore when we fight... I try to distract myself to help keep my mind off wanting to have sex with him, but I crave him 24/7...
I can relate to this.
All of it.
I'm the same way, you are not alone
It sounds as if counseling may help.
Current situation
Relatable. I haven't experienced this exactly but have seen it first hand in friends. Don't feel alone at all.
I've never come across your channel before but I search "hypersexuality" and I am so thankful for this video and your channel. I will be following closely. Hypersexuality has been the main symptom for me during manic episodes, and it is a living hell. It interrupts me even from sleeping. I've felt so alone becuase no one seems to relate and this video helped me so much.
I’m so glad you found my channel and you are very welcome here! I really appreciate the kind words very much. There’s a link at the very top of each video if you would like to join me on Patreon. I have lots of additional content there, and will always respond to questions or comments on there :-)
Thank you for describing the most confounding symptom I had before being diagnosed a having Bipolar disorder. It took years 15, before I got a new psychologist who said that having the thoughts and stinking raging feelings of every guy is hot and thinks I am. The Doc helped us said, you were not on meds
Whatgoesup Mustcomedown you are absolutely welcome! Thank you so much for the comment and I really hope my channel is helping. Lots more videos to come :-)
I was addicted to heroin from age 19 to 39. I was also a virgin until age 39. My first lover, a woman initially just renting my spare room, became my live in fwb for three years. She also helped me quit the needle cold turkey. How? The one thing I found more addictive than heroin...sex.
We parted very amiably, and I am eternally grateful to her, but it seems I have traded one addiction for another.
Peace bro i think you should find a healthy passion and pursue it
You’re a blessing Rob.
Thanks for spending so much extra time on these videos.
You’re so appreciated.
Brandon Fisher thank you so much Brandon! You have no idea how good it feels to get comments like yours. I’m so happy to help people not suffer like this. It’s the most rewarding thing I’ve done.😊😊👍👍☀️☀️
I am a Christian and struggle with why would God create people with this terrible disorder in the first place. That being said, although He put it on you, He also gave you the gift of being a great presenter of material on the subject. You are a great help for myself and a host of others as well, I am sure.
Thank you for this information I’ve not been diagnosed . The best way I described it with people is like a man is supposed to be yes exactly the more you have the more you want
It’s a terrible part there’s an angry side to it if you don’t get it you get angry
Can I say that I knew it had to stop it was taking over so I broke all contact with everyone online it’s animalistic
This is VERY INTERESTING!!!!!! I have experienced this since I was a teenager or maybe even before. I just don't talk about it due to the embarrassment. Others don't react well with you telling them you feel like you have hormones like a boy.
Thank you for posting this. I had an awful experience with someone with bipolar and what I now understand as this sexual aspect. It was a crazy scary situation, which I'm still processing. But this gives me logic and rationale. Not an easy life for my friend. Thanks again.
Thank you for discussing this I think as bipolar ppl we are always in desperation, just trying to feel better. Random sex ends up making us feel more guilty than we already do. I for one am not a person who has ever talked about sex to much of anyone, not even therapists or my bff’s. It’s a difficult subject to discuss. We don’t want ppl to think we’re creepy. And we do need help to fulfill whatever is driving our illness behaviors. Thanks for doing this
kimmie dirette you are so very welcome and I am happy to hear that the video is helping so many people. You are absolutely right… People just don’t talk about this stuff. Making this video was a really good choice. I think it will reach people who don’t even have bipolar, but struggle with hypersexuality. Stop by again soon, because I will have lots more awesome videos to come :-)
I have a lot of concerns about hyper sexuality, especially when it involves confusion about gender preference. I wonder how often this concept is part of the problem.
Probably minimally. You're either gay of some kind or you're not. And that's okay. I've asked myself the same questions though. I'm just more open that others.
I've seen other people comment saying that during mania they actually had sexual experiences with the gender they aren't normally attracted to.
I'm the same, don't know sometimes if I'm gay , straight, trans, definitely in Mania will take on any role
I’ve been struggling with this for years and I’m just now learning about the symptoms of my bipolar disorder. Not gone lie, I need some help to deal with this. I’ve ruined my family with not only this but the manic rages that I couldn’t control. And the same thing is happening again with my new relationship, I just need a better way to get through!!
You just described my partner, who shows signs of HS, the highs and lows are incredible.
adoptamuslim234 A warm welcome to the channel and I’m so glad the videos are helping. Hypersexuality is a hard one for so many couples. I hope the information in this video was helpful :-)
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Thank you for talking about this . I thought I was the only one going through this. I have bipolar and anxiety and depression. Hypersexuality is a big issue in my life and I'm embarrassed to speak about it. How do I ask for help. I don't like taking my medication because it's also a side affect. My problem was getting so bad I was wreckless and almost went down the wrong path. I can't keep a job. I prayed to God and gave my life to him. Now I'm pretty calm . It comes and goes and I mess up from time to time. God is helping me.
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Finding love seems to help... Which really starts with treating the self kindly, and understanding ourselves.