@@hopemcelligott4313 it's OK to play hard to get the first week's, but after that you really need to get rid of that behavior. It pushes man away who only needs to put in triple the effort. Men also should feel appreciated and feel wanted. They are also human beings with feeling and are also worth it.
I learned that my guy is a keeper. After being in an emotionally abusive marriage for many years, I’m so grateful I’ve found a good one. Thank you for this video
A good partner is supportive Builds you up, holds your hand, makes sacrifices for you, compromises for you. then he genuinely cares about you. He sees the good in you believes in you when you don't see it in yourself, he respects, he considers you, is considerate of your feelings 💥
After watching this, I know without a doubt I have found a really great man. Celebrated our one year anniversary a few weeks ago and I've never been happier in a relationship. He was so worth the wait. Kind, loving, supportive, great communicator/listener, hardworking and funny. I could go and on. Thank you for sharing this video and helping people understand what a good partner actually is. So glad I found mine.💕
When i have an issue with my husbands behaviour, i present it as MY problem, which it is. I ask him to assist me with that problem. I try to stay away from making the issue his "fault" or something he's done wrong. I want to address my discomfort without him feeling like I'm finding fault with him. I don't believe that there has to be someone at fault, just that i want his assistance in making it more comfortable for me. This approach has worked very well for both of us and we are stronger for it. It stops the seeds of resentment before they can even start.
@@dajuanajones5559 Sure...Ill say that i would really love to chat and could really use his help with something. Whenever that chat can take place i let him know im having trouble with something. I try not to say Im having a problem with him, his choice, his behaviour, because I think that implies the other person is doing something TO you and they just arent. I may say "Im finding it difficult to make all the meals, i was hoping you wouldnt mind helping me out with some of them." Because he isnt the one having the problem, I am. If i want the problem to be fixed, im going to need his help. This works for us though x And there is literally NO blame game. And he too has been able to do the same. We literally dont argue very often and when we do ...someone is usually not feeling well or their best self. But the other understands this, so it never escalates. I think we have both just had enough of the negativity and mutually just choose not to have this as a part of our relationship. The beauty of relationships, you can make them into whatever you want ...as long as both parties are safe, happy and healthy x
Thank you for this. Sometimes we take things for granted and focus on the negative. Hearing this and recalling the moments I've had with the guy I'm dating, makes me realize how much he's sacrificing his time for me. And I just want to thank you for reminding me of how awesome he is. Thank you! Forever grateful for this. ❤️
The secret is contentment. My fiance was shocked when he took me ring shopping and he went for the big diamonds...I went for the tiniest diamond. He insisted on the bigger one. And I refused. After 28 years I still have my beautiful tiny diamond wedding ring. He released I was not in it for how valuable I am with what he buys. He then worked harder on pleasing me. He knew money and diamonds did not give me value. Or our relationship . Contentment in self and relationship. You Don need a ring.
I love this!! I feel like I would be the same way. I like the simple things of life. May God continue to bless you. I pray to find a great loving man someday and live our lives together
You have a very even, realistic and logical way of explaining the minds and actions of men - while understanding the same about women - with a nice touch of humor here and there . Very helpful. TY ; )
Both men and women need to have their emotional and mental life straight. The expectations will either slow you down or just simply ruin it for you. If you have addictions or negative attachments then sort those out first, because the other person doesn't have the time or ability to save you from your negative past. We all got to bring something positive and useful into a relationship. Step up to the plate with inner richness and not just expectations.
While I see your point, and agree to it to an extent.. It would also mean that every person with some sort of trauma, can not look for a partner.. not even a friend actually. And this is not true.. we can. Honesty is a must, about the bad as well as the good. Both my partner and I are heavily traumatized. He has PTSD, I have C-PTSD. One might think this is a horrible match, but we find different. When I have a totally insane reaction, being triggered and I have no clue whats going on, he will see it. And when he needs a hand because he is having flashbacks and seeing images from war.,. Um fine just being there as an anchor until it passes. Due to our trauma , and being mature enough, we can draw on eachoter, rather than just drain eachother.
@@Goldenhawk583 we all have our strong and weak sides. How much we are able to give, take and handle varies from person to person and also your upbringing and experiences in life. We expect the perfect partner while we ourselves have many imperfections. We should right from the beginning expose our weak side and concerns and see how our significant other reacts to it. Emotional availability from both is a key factor to a healthy relationship. I learned that all my imperfections came from my generational past and that I have no intention to repeat the past anymore. My parents live in a screwed up relationship and they just don't see it. I faced my demons and let go of the things I loved and now my life has a whole new meaning. I look at dating totally different now that I am in a healthy relationship with myself. I appreciate your insight a lot. Regards, Jojo
When I met my guy, I didn't like him at all - he was annoying and not at all my type. We agreed to just be friends. He persued me, and continued to do so for over a year before he won me over, and I decided to give him a chance. We are over the "honeymoon" phase and in to the first ever "going to get tough", and he is just amazing. Exactly like you talked about in this video. When I am loosing my cool, he is just absorbing it, and then he is like.. okay lets sit down and talk about this. When he is an idiot, he is the first one to state that he is an idiot, and then he would like to sit and talk about that. He sais all the time that he loves to learn about me, and he is facinated by my thunder, and he is always interested in what made me feel that way. He spends nearly all his free time on me. When I cross his line, he backs off- like completely off - but always with letting me know that he isn't going anywhere, and ready to talk and let me learn about HIM, when he comes back. He is investing so much in our relationship. We had our first big argument recently, and I was the worst one - which I am not proud off. But he said to me - "You know, regardless of what happens, if we are not married in the future we will at the very least be friends, because loosing you would hurt more than anything else." He is SO patient, so calm always, and so willing to put in a LOT of work, and I did know that he is a good guy - but when he said that to me, and in the way he said it. I don't really think it was till then that I actually realized just how amazing he actually is. He is definitly a keeper.
I tried telling him what I needed, but he changed the subject or devalued my feelings. I have come to realize that he didn't truly love me and that we didn't matter. What he wanted or needed was the only thing that mattered.
I always value your videos so much! I learn a lot, not only about men, but also about myself and what partner I am and what partner I need. Thanks Geert! 😊
Wish I knew this earlier in life 😅 It's hard to learn how to be in a mutually respectful relationship, when you're brought up to value other people's feelings over your own. But these videos really help ❤
Just thank you so much for sharing this! I had to watch your video twice 😉... All the things you said about the price to pay for a relationship acceptance, and being a man respectful of their partner's feelings and boundaries are so important! We're talking about it as something necessary to create a relationship in the long run, but it's indeed so rare. Those elements are absolutely to be kept in mind, they're so helpful!
I definitely can get many emotions and I am so grateful when he asks to talk it out. But I dont like when someone goes into problem solving mode because sometimes I just want to vent about my feelings ya know
It is true that your mind gets used to what the other person is doing for you, and you start to take things for granted. Super valuable video, the channel is super! Thanks
There are needs and wants in life. Humans need relationships. We are relational beings. Problems in today’s era have risen in relationships because people’s value on relationships has gone down. People don’t see the value of relationships anymore.
He remembers everything I say to him - he is the most wonderful man I have ever met. It seems he also loves me, for who I am now - not for my potential. I'm the same towards him. God's richest blessinga & thank you for all your great advice. They help me not stagnate & go into panic mode.
@@lindseydickey9282 I have 1 experience with that and I never went back. I sharpened my skills to dip (cut losses), mirror (equal give and take), screen potentials (honesty) and the works (sieve all BS).. Watch out for opportunists.
Yes, this might be true, though being independent does has its downfalls. I have asked a few men who wants an strong independent genuine woman they all have agreed that these kinds of men all said that they still want their women to need them as well. I am a very strong and independent woman who has always had mentioned that I need my man to be able to be a couple who is in a partnership and to help and allow another to grow in the way that can only happen within the comfort that the commitment is being nurtured to enable and keep the potential of awesome going
Women need to open up and learn to communicate, we men are not mind readers. The fact that we are still there for you, when your behavior is at its worst. That should speak volumes to you, how important you are.
I agree, William, as the woman who struggles to open up. Guys are NOT mind readers, and nor should they or anyone else be expected to be. It’s hard to open up, but it is much better to share vulnerably and potentially hurt each other in the moment than for it to unexpectedly blow up in your faces later after a build-up of miscommunications. (And yes, I’m speaking from personal experience).
If my mutually exclusive mate bought me a beautiful ring that was a perfect fit 😎 I would cherish it forever if his intentions were pure. Every time I look at it reminding me of how much I am loved, cherished, adored, wanted, appreciated, valued and the bond we share. Universally symbolic of True Love & Committment ☀💙 💍 its not so much the ring as the connection ☮☯
Hi! all you said is true my husband is a great guy we are married for 21 years the more I love him. Ty too for thru your explanation I am now aware who are my true friends. Tc stay safe
Ask that girl to look at his heart and the consistency of his actions. Not the size of the ring. Silly woman. Some women don't even get a 'happy birthday' wish every year. I have been in a LDR with a man who is living in another country. He is not a man of many 'sweet' words to buy my heart but he makes time to talk to me every single day, and has been for the past 2.5 years now. His time equals his love and commitment to me and our relationship. And for that, I thank God for him and us everyday.
Hey Hjeert, I love & value your insights and presentations ❣And especially your original name 😊 which apparently is difficult for some people... There's something incredibly UNIQUE and Extraordinary about YOU, 😍 So... please keep up with your Valuable contributions to our lives 💙💛💜
My boyfriend just recently got drunk on call. (We are in a long distance relationship, he’s from Illinois, and I’m from Canada.) he got drunk on call. At first it was funny, just oh haha you’re acting dumb. But then it got serious. It got to the point where he could barely stand. His brother walked in, and the call ended. 20 minutes later his brother called me, and I could hear my boyfriend crying in the background saying things like “I just wanted to know what type of drunk I was so I didn’t hurt her in the future.” (This was drunk him speaking btw.) and “I wanna say good night to Samantha before I pass out :(.” and “What if she breaks up with me???” And it really warmed my heart. What do you all think of that?
HAMS is a great program, it works great for so e people, as an alternative to AA but definitely a cry for help. I pray that he finds Jesus and knows how much he's loved.
For a long distance relationship to work, you should be planning on getting together in person ASAP and as often as possible. Real time spent together is required to determine if you're compatible. It's gotta be more than chemistry and physical attraction. Are your lifestyles compatible? Are you both emotionally mature? And do you share the same values? Good luck!
Wow, Brian. That was just great. I wish everyone would hear this. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight with us. I'm wishing you every happiness.
Im not totally self sufficient. Im independent in many ways but in some ways I love to depend on a good kind man. Thats very attractive and good feeling and they always feel happy with that as well..At least I have had received many roses...still female x male is great
I thought he was, until he broke it twice easily, I realized he really didn't treasure me enough. I'm slowly opening up again to date. Gonna be more careful to protect my heart this time.
Set boundaries early on, and only after him showing his respectability you should trust. With enough trust you can let the boundaries go. Trust goes both ways, its not just you in the relationship, its also someone else. You both need to trust each other and boundaries are there to allow it to happen. Good luck on your next relationship.
If a guy knows that a woman has strong feelings for him, (while not in a relationship and knowing that chances are slim), and shows him every day that she loves him (and her being happy doing so because it makes her happy), and he has never reciprocated clearly, but can't let her go, what does that mean? -Confused Sunflower
I think the ring can sometimes say something about how much he's actually invested in you. I was the 3rd wife and was given a $300 birthstone ring as a wedding ring. I was very attractive and a lot of men hit on me, not realizing I was married. He definitely could have afforded a small diamond or something basic. After 5 years I saw why he couldn't stay married and left him with his addiction.
Thank you so much! All your videos that I have watched, have been very helpful. But also sometimes makes me wonder, are there similar videos out there, that would help understand things or life in reverse? Might be helpful in order to strike a balance as all your videos are so well done. Thanks again!
Thank you very much much for your advice … I need it coming from guys option!! God bless you ! I love your advice….☺️ i find out my boy friend is all that you said ! I happy 😊
My boyfriend of 5 years gives me mix signal even with this video. He does put up with the emotional me. Plus he has put up with my family ( in this past year most passed) but when we argue he won't talk it out to grow are learn from it he my listen to what I try to say and agree but he doesn't change anything He helps me around my place yard work, car work that kind of stuff, financially he helps if I need ( never made ask) but we don't spend a lot of face time he comes on the weekend keep busy doing stuff we just don't spend one on one time He works all week so we don't go out. In the 5 years we have been together we have gone out to eat that is all we have ever done. But as far as I can tell that is just who he is. I have confronted on all the issues there the same ones that they have always been. But he won't change. He respects me Maybe in some ways. I don't feel like he will/would/has thought about my feelings before making a decision. Maybe from time to time. His signal are so mixed. What do you do with that. He just lives a very basic life..
My exes never buying me anything, they even never here anymore in 10 months hahah.... only stayed for 3 months and they left...... So many red flags i ignored just because i loved the person is....
@@oliveblack1043 nah, i think i dont need that. I just wishing new person is coming. My last ex, His social circle makes me uncomfortable to stay. I think its healthier stay away from him.
I'm not conditioned to be a temporary partner(spouse) of my prospective husband only for some months or years , on the contrary I believe we will have a lifelong marriage built on honesty and love.
Don't play hard to get, play hard to forget.
❤️
Oooohh, I love this one! I always wonder why women think being chased and hard to get keeps a guy interested. On the contrary
Dont play hard to get, be hard to get
@@MariaV0071 Women do that because we know the harder you work for something the more value it has
@@hopemcelligott4313 it's OK to play hard to get the first week's, but after that you really need to get rid of that behavior. It pushes man away who only needs to put in triple the effort. Men also should feel appreciated and feel wanted. They are also human beings with feeling and are also worth it.
I learned that my guy is a keeper. After being in an emotionally abusive marriage for many years, I’m so grateful I’ve found a good one. Thank you for this video
Congratulations!
Yr lucky
Same
A good partner is supportive
Builds you up, holds your hand, makes sacrifices for you, compromises for you. then he genuinely cares about you. He sees the good in you believes in you when you don't see it in yourself, he respects, he considers you, is considerate of your feelings 💥
In fairytales. if it suits him to have you around, he will do that maybe
@@amnbvcxz8650 Or he's out of options 😂
After watching this, I know without a doubt I have found a really great man. Celebrated our one year anniversary a few weeks ago and I've never been happier in a relationship. He was so worth the wait. Kind, loving, supportive, great communicator/listener, hardworking and funny. I could go and on. Thank you for sharing this video and helping people understand what a good partner actually is. So glad I found mine.💕
This is so nice to hear, I'm so happy for you! 😊
Yay!! I'm sincerely happy for you!!
@@gigi9301 Thank you! Still together. Celebrate 3 yrs next month🙂❤️
@@pipermcpickles5283 Thank you! Still happily together for 3 yrs🙂
Deals with your emotions, trying to support you.
Respects your boundaries.
Paying the price of a relationship.
4:15 is when he gets to it..
Thank you lmaooo
When i have an issue with my husbands behaviour, i present it as MY problem, which it is. I ask him to assist me with that problem. I try to stay away from making the issue his "fault" or something he's done wrong. I want to address my discomfort without him feeling like I'm finding fault with him. I don't believe that there has to be someone at fault, just that i want his assistance in making it more comfortable for me. This approach has worked very well for both of us and we are stronger for it. It stops the seeds of resentment before they can even start.
Can you share a example of your approach question mark
@@dajuanajones5559 Sure...Ill say that i would really love to chat and could really use his help with something. Whenever that chat can take place i let him know im having trouble with something. I try not to say Im having a problem with him, his choice, his behaviour, because I think that implies the other person is doing something TO you and they just arent. I may say "Im finding it difficult to make all the meals, i was hoping you wouldnt mind helping me out with some of them." Because he isnt the one having the problem, I am. If i want the problem to be fixed, im going to need his help. This works for us though x And there is literally NO blame game. And he too has been able to do the same. We literally dont argue very often and when we do ...someone is usually not feeling well or their best self. But the other understands this, so it never escalates. I think we have both just had enough of the negativity and mutually just choose not to have this as a part of our relationship. The beauty of relationships, you can make them into whatever you want ...as long as both parties are safe, happy and healthy x
Thank you for this. Sometimes we take things for granted and focus on the negative. Hearing this and recalling the moments I've had with the guy I'm dating, makes me realize how much he's sacrificing his time for me. And I just want to thank you for reminding me of how awesome he is. Thank you! Forever grateful for this. ❤️
The secret is contentment. My fiance was shocked when he took me ring shopping and he went for the big diamonds...I went for the tiniest diamond. He insisted on the bigger one. And I refused. After 28 years I still have my beautiful tiny diamond wedding ring. He released I was not in it for how valuable I am with what he buys. He then worked harder on pleasing me. He knew money and diamonds did not give me value. Or our relationship . Contentment in self and relationship. You Don need a ring.
I love this!! I feel like I would be the same way. I like the simple things of life. May God continue to bless you. I pray to find a great loving man someday and live our lives together
@@wshelby83 you are so kind. Thank you. May you be blessed too. 🌺
If and when the time for a ring presents itself, I shall purchase my own. I don't wait for men to ask me out, give me gifts
Continued. Or love me. I would rather be respected, the way men want women to respect them.
You have a very even, realistic and logical way of explaining the minds and actions of men - while understanding the same about women - with a nice touch of humor here and there . Very helpful. TY ; )
Both men and women need to have their emotional and mental life straight. The expectations will either slow you down or just simply ruin it for you. If you have addictions or negative attachments then sort those out first, because the other person doesn't have the time or ability to save you from your negative past. We all got to bring something positive and useful into a relationship. Step up to the plate with inner richness and not just expectations.
While I see your point, and agree to it to an extent.. It would also mean that every person with some sort of trauma, can not look for a partner.. not even a friend actually. And this is not true.. we can.
Honesty is a must, about the bad as well as the good. Both my partner and I are heavily traumatized. He has PTSD, I have C-PTSD. One might think this is a horrible match, but we find different.
When I have a totally insane reaction, being triggered and I have no clue whats going on, he will see it. And when he needs a hand because he is having flashbacks and seeing images from war.,. Um fine just being there as an anchor until it passes.
Due to our trauma , and being mature enough, we can draw on eachoter, rather than just drain eachother.
@@Goldenhawk583 we all have our strong and weak sides. How much we are able to give, take and handle varies from person to person and also your upbringing and experiences in life. We expect the perfect partner while we ourselves have many imperfections. We should right from the beginning expose our weak side and concerns and see how our significant other reacts to it. Emotional availability from both is a key factor to a healthy relationship. I learned that all my imperfections came from my generational past and that I have no intention to repeat the past anymore. My parents live in a screwed up relationship and they just don't see it. I faced my demons and let go of the things I loved and now my life has a whole new meaning. I look at dating totally different now that I am in a healthy relationship with myself.
I appreciate your insight a lot. Regards, Jojo
@@joachimpeteransorge4946 stay safe:)
We attract what we want with our attitude.
If he tries to be your rock while letting you be the swirling sea🎯
YES 💙
Every point.... tells me breaking up with the ex was the perfect decision :) thank you
When I met my guy, I didn't like him at all - he was annoying and not at all my type. We agreed to just be friends. He persued me, and continued to do so for over a year before he won me over, and I decided to give him a chance. We are over the "honeymoon" phase and in to the first ever "going to get tough", and he is just amazing. Exactly like you talked about in this video. When I am loosing my cool, he is just absorbing it, and then he is like.. okay lets sit down and talk about this. When he is an idiot, he is the first one to state that he is an idiot, and then he would like to sit and talk about that. He sais all the time that he loves to learn about me, and he is facinated by my thunder, and he is always interested in what made me feel that way. He spends nearly all his free time on me. When I cross his line, he backs off- like completely off - but always with letting me know that he isn't going anywhere, and ready to talk and let me learn about HIM, when he comes back. He is investing so much in our relationship. We had our first big argument recently, and I was the worst one - which I am not proud off. But he said to me - "You know, regardless of what happens, if we are not married in the future we will at the very least be friends, because loosing you would hurt more than anything else." He is SO patient, so calm always, and so willing to put in a LOT of work, and I did know that he is a good guy - but when he said that to me, and in the way he said it. I don't really think it was till then that I actually realized just how amazing he actually is. He is definitly a keeper.
How long have you two been together?
YOG
Beautiful
He remembered every detail even from the last moment you met. Such a guy i wanna spend the rest of my life with!
This is wonderful...understanding what a good supportive partner is in relation to what a woman needs.
I tried telling him what I needed, but he changed the subject or devalued my feelings. I have come to realize that he didn't truly love me and that we didn't matter. What he wanted or needed was the only thing that mattered.
I always value your videos so much! I learn a lot, not only about men, but also about myself and what partner I am and what partner I need. Thanks Geert! 😊
You can't have the cake and eat it.
I love the part where the guy helps build your confidence instead of demolishing it.
Brian, You are an amazing teacher, and your playfulness in teaching makes your message easier to hear. Your partner is lucky to have you.
This came right in front of me... When i needed the most ...
He is a great guy and is of worthy to wait for...
Wish I knew this earlier in life 😅 It's hard to learn how to be in a mutually respectful relationship, when you're brought up to value other people's feelings over your own. But these videos really help ❤
Thank you for sharing, Brian. All 6 signs are important, I have found #6 is most important to me...respect and consideration.
When it gets tuff, he's there for me n I for him.
My guy has knocked it out of the ballpark!! He identifies with all of these points regarding the right man. Thank you for this video. ❤️
Just thank you so much for sharing this! I had to watch your video twice 😉... All the things you said about the price to pay for a relationship acceptance, and being a man respectful of their partner's feelings and boundaries are so important! We're talking about it as something necessary to create a relationship in the long run, but it's indeed so rare.
Those elements are absolutely to be kept in mind, they're so helpful!
I must be that weird person that it never gets old when my partner holds my hand or kisses me. No matter how long we’ve been together. Never. ☺️
I definitely can get many emotions and I am so grateful when he asks to talk it out. But I dont like when someone goes into problem solving mode because sometimes I just want to vent about my feelings ya know
Oof--I seem to never find anyone who cares enough to help solve a problem! Lmao 😩
Hi Sam.....yes totally agree we need a rant with someone simply nodding🙂💜
Then tell him that you just need him to simply listen to your ranting and he doesn’t need to actually provide a solution. He can’t read minds
@@Go90go90-q4h This is true, we can say nicely 'now shut up and listen'
It is true that your mind gets used to what the other person is doing for you, and you start to take things for granted.
Super valuable video, the channel is super! Thanks
Thank you so much!! This helped me get over my ex once and for all. He's a good guy but he doesn't value me.
THIS. 💜 Same here, Melissa. So pleased I can finally say it too, and without anger or FOMO. And just let him go. It wasn't meant to be.
That’s why I’m marrying him…♥️
There are needs and wants in life. Humans need relationships. We are relational beings. Problems in today’s era have risen in relationships because people’s value on relationships has gone down. People don’t see the value of relationships anymore.
He remembers everything I say to him - he is the most wonderful man I have ever met. It seems he also loves me, for who I am now - not for my potential. I'm the same towards him. God's richest blessinga & thank you for all your great advice. They help me not stagnate & go into panic mode.
I have this man in my life now ❤️
This comes in the right time, because I questioned it myself. Thank you so much for your content and your work! 🙏🏼 Wish you the best!
What a great sense of humor you have, Brian. Your videos are entertaining as well as informative
Wow, you have written so many books. 🎉congratulations on your success & I appreciate your videos & wisdom.
Perfect timing, thank you - I've found a good one & its early days. Love and appreciation to you Bian 💯💞🙏
I'm wishing you success and every happiness 💞
Being self-sufficient woman is attractive. The less you need the more you receive.
Depends. If you can't count on the man at all... It gets really obnoxious. Women and men are supposed to help each other and be partners
Men can’t handle that..... they want to be needed
@@lindseydickey9282 I have 1 experience with that and I never went back. I sharpened my skills to dip (cut losses), mirror (equal give and take), screen potentials (honesty) and the works (sieve all BS).. Watch out for opportunists.
Yes, this might be true, though being independent does has its downfalls. I have asked a few men who wants an strong independent genuine woman they all have agreed that these kinds of men all said that they still want their women to need them as well. I am a very strong and independent woman who has always had mentioned that I need my man to be able to be a couple who is in a partnership and to help and allow another to grow in the way that can only happen within the comfort that the commitment is being nurtured to enable and keep the potential of awesome going
Very astute
“My guy doesn’t buy me donuts” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Fab video!!!!!! Really, lovely short enough, and complete and clear, thx!
I just found out I am a great woman 😂
Aaaaaaw that's awesome🧚♀️did the right person help you see that? Sometimes the wrong person can ruin our selfworth
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😂😂😂
Women need to open up and learn to communicate, we men are not mind readers. The fact that we are still there for you, when your behavior is at its worst. That should speak volumes to you, how important you are.
I agree, William, as the woman who struggles to open up. Guys are NOT mind readers, and nor should they or anyone else be expected to be. It’s hard to open up, but it is much better to share vulnerably and potentially hurt each other in the moment than for it to unexpectedly blow up in your faces later after a build-up of miscommunications. (And yes, I’m speaking from personal experience).
If my mutually exclusive mate bought me a beautiful ring that was a perfect fit 😎 I would cherish it forever if his intentions were pure. Every time I look at it reminding me of how much I am loved, cherished, adored, wanted, appreciated, valued and the bond we share. Universally symbolic of True Love & Committment ☀💙 💍 its not so much the ring as the connection ☮☯
I appreciate your comments. You sound sincere and knowledgeable. Again thanks, you make me think…
5:00 our emotions would blow all his circuits! 🤣🤣🤣
I love your work Brian, I’ve got a good one for the first time in my long life and it’s beautiful 😍
Thank you Brian I needed this
Thank you Geert 🥰
I just want to say Thank You and send you a big HUG.
The opening of the video hit the message home really hard! Easily one of your best videos 😍
Starts at 4:16
Haha! I love your videos - “cars going around in circles or guys throwing a ball around and trying not to drop it.”
Another great video Brian!
Thank you Brian for another insightful video. Love your videos!
Hi! all you said is true my husband is a great guy we are married for 21 years the more I love him. Ty too for thru your explanation I am now aware who are my true friends. Tc stay safe
Thank you Brian
Love your content, learning so much Geert. 😘👍
Ask that girl to look at his heart and the consistency of his actions. Not the size of the ring. Silly woman. Some women don't even get a 'happy birthday' wish every year. I have been in a LDR with a man who is living in another country. He is not a man of many 'sweet' words to buy my heart but he makes time to talk to me every single day, and has been for the past 2.5 years now. His time equals his love and commitment to me and our relationship. And for that, I thank God for him and us everyday.
How are people still with someone that doesn't wish them Happy Birthday? Esp. in the era of calendar notifications?
I needed to hear this~ Thank you
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I totally agree with you! His delivery is different
I'm glad I watched this I had started taking many things for granted and it just started feeling routine but this reminded me I have an amazing man.
You nailed it!!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing.
My boyfriend just recently got drunk on call. (We are in a long distance relationship, he’s from Illinois, and I’m from Canada.) he got drunk on call. At first it was funny, just oh haha you’re acting dumb.
But then it got serious. It got to the point where he could barely stand. His brother walked in, and the call ended. 20 minutes later his brother called me, and I could hear my boyfriend crying in the background saying things like “I just wanted to know what type of drunk I was so I didn’t hurt her in the future.” (This was drunk him speaking btw.) and “I wanna say good night to Samantha before I pass out :(.” and “What if she breaks up with me???” And it really warmed my heart. What do you all think of that?
HAMS is a great program, it works great for so e people, as an alternative to AA but definitely a cry for help. I pray that he finds Jesus and knows how much he's loved.
For a long distance relationship to work, you should be planning on getting together in person ASAP and as often as possible.
Real time spent together is required to determine if you're compatible.
It's gotta be more than chemistry and physical attraction.
Are your lifestyles compatible? Are you both emotionally mature? And do you share the same values?
Good luck!
@@yusufshuaibu362 Please go away.
I believe you have his heart. If you feel the same you can move mountains together
Brian, thank you for the video. I enjoy your sense of humor.
Sincerely, thank you
Wow, Brian.
That was just great. I wish everyone would hear this.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight with us.
I'm wishing you every happiness.
@@marysebastian1220 I'm not interested in your recommendation..
Dear God🕯🕯🕯
May are be able to receive that love.
Amazing!! I love this !!Thank You 😊 💕
Cheers and I have rapid emotions, am a creative,cancerian empath!!!
Bit too much for myself sometimes lol👈🙂and an introvert ,and an exuberant loner!!
My guy is all of this... YAY!!
Im not totally self sufficient. Im independent in many ways but in some ways I love to depend on a good kind man. Thats very attractive and good feeling and they always feel happy with that as well..At least I have had received many roses...still female x male is great
A video that I need to watch everyday!
I'm single! I dated some losers in my time. The guys who wouldn't buy you donuts! 😭
@@jamesrobert4443 I live in Australia but I'm from Hungary. Currently single and probably will stay that way forever.
@@marysebastian1220 No thanks! I've done just fine without a man. 😁
Thanks this is an eye opener. Made me make a major decision
I have just confirmed to myself once more that I divorced my ex for all the right reasons... :) Thanks for another great video!
I thought he was, until he broke it twice easily, I realized he really didn't treasure me enough. I'm slowly opening up again to date. Gonna be more careful to protect my heart this time.
Set boundaries early on, and only after him showing his respectability you should trust. With enough trust you can let the boundaries go.
Trust goes both ways, its not just you in the relationship, its also someone else. You both need to trust each other and boundaries are there to allow it to happen.
Good luck on your next relationship.
Thanks Brian for the tips notes to look out for!😉
Thank You!!!
Any gift is worth way more than the value because he thought of you & its special even if it’s $5.00.
Well now I know my friend is a awesome guy
If a guy knows that a woman has strong feelings for him, (while not in a relationship and knowing that chances are slim), and shows him every day that she loves him (and her being happy doing so because it makes her happy), and he has never reciprocated clearly, but can't let her go, what does that mean?
-Confused Sunflower
He is using her
She needs to tell him what she wants and if hes on the same page.
I think the ring can sometimes say something about how much he's actually invested in you. I was the 3rd wife and was given a $300 birthstone ring as a wedding ring. I was very attractive and a lot of men hit on me, not realizing I was married. He definitely could have afforded a small diamond or something basic. After 5 years I saw why he couldn't stay married and left him with his addiction.
Sorry but this is your bad choice. You never vetted him enough and settled
The way you describe sports is exactly how I feel about it. 😂😂😂
Please make videos in point format, so that it's easy to consolidate everything :)
How beautiful and sad to know my friend is a great man who matches all 6 qualities yet we are just platonic friends.
Thank you so much! All your videos that I have watched, have been very helpful. But also sometimes makes me wonder, are there similar videos out there, that would help understand things or life in reverse? Might be helpful in order to strike a balance as all your videos are so well done. Thanks again!
Really interesting things to focus on
Thank you! 👍👍👏👏
Thank you ❤
I had heartbreaking relationship when man didn't show 4 points of these 6
@@marysebastian1220 thank you, I don't have a need
@@jamesrobert4443 I'm from Russia
Thank you very much much for your advice … I need it coming from guys option!! God bless you ! I love your advice….☺️ i find out my boy friend is all that you said ! I happy 😊
Ya - advantages of being in a relationship yet still being a bachelor. Good one!
My boyfriend of 5 years gives me mix signal even with this video. He does put up with the emotional me. Plus he has put up with my family ( in this past year most passed) but when we argue he won't talk it out to grow are learn from it he my listen to what I try to say and agree but he doesn't change anything
He helps me around my place yard work, car work that kind of stuff, financially he helps if I need ( never made ask) but we don't spend a lot of face time he comes on the weekend keep busy doing stuff we just don't spend one on one time
He works all week so we don't go out. In the 5 years we have been together we have gone out to eat that is all we have ever done. But as far as I can tell that is just who he is. I have confronted on all the issues there the same ones that they have always been. But he won't change. He respects me Maybe in some ways. I don't feel like he will/would/has thought about my feelings before making a decision. Maybe from time to time. His signal are so mixed. What do you do with that. He just lives a very basic life..
I'm so sorry to hear that so many of your family passed in the past year. Sending love and prayers that you'll have strength and peace. ❤❤❤
My exes never buying me anything, they even never here anymore in 10 months hahah.... only stayed for 3 months and they left......
So many red flags i ignored just because i loved the person is....
@@oliveblack1043 nah, i think i dont need that.
I just wishing new person is coming.
My last ex, His social circle makes me uncomfortable to stay. I think its healthier stay away from him.
I hope there is a right guy for me.
Wow, such a great video!
Brian Nox...a couple of things:
1) Please ask me out
2) I dare you to switch things up and wear a pink shirt
?!? Why Pink 🙄
So true! And cars going around in circle haha
Well you hit the 6 key points I see in my man, thx Brian…
I'm not conditioned to be a temporary partner(spouse) of my prospective husband only for some months or years ,
on the contrary I believe we will have a lifelong marriage built on honesty and love.
Great feedback