SOCIETY HATES YOU: How outcasts are born
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- This is an exploration of the current loneliness epidemic, where I also explore my own path into isolation and where i also try to understand why it is that some people prefer to become outcasts, in a world were we are "supposed" to be "social creatures". Whose fault is it, If not our own?
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Videos:- • 35 year old Failed lif...
- • I Have No Friends
- • No Friends No Family a...
Song: The Sound Of Myself by Disasterpeace • The Sound of Myself
Movies: - Joker
- Figth Club
- The Whale
- Drive
- Blade Runner
- Lion King
- Princess And The Frog
- Her
- Donnie Darko
Anime: - Serial Experiments Lain
Book: The Temple of The Golden Pavillion by Yukio Mishima
Sometimes I curse myself for being such a deep thinker. Its like I unintentionally fuel my own depression. This world is so fake and evil; a prison planet.
So take it over and make it better brother. Hit that palpatine grind
@@oboromusha80 I've been told to take up writing by so many people....After reading your comment, I think I will start...thank you...
Agreed pure selfishness
As an autistic person, I relate to this. People just exclude you no matter how hard you try. I’m actually a lot of fun and very funny. But neurotypicals are the majority and they only like other neurotypicals
Joker is a movie about a villain. Most people like that would most likely harm themselves which is very sad. But again, it’s just a movie. I enjoyed the movie, still feel like an outcast, and I’m still never going to harm other people because of it. If anything, I’m over polite to people because of how neurotypicals misperceive people that aren’t exactly like them.
This has been my experience as well. There's just something fundamentally different about me. I don't think im on the autism spectrum but I have been diagnosed with ADHD several times.
same
Most autistic people have friends and relationships, even marriage and family. You're just using it as an excuse to not be social.
Yes! Thank you!! About time someone like us said the quiet part out loud about neurotypical society. They are also perfectionists who don't allow time to see others for who they are. I get seen as funny more than serious about issues that matter. Speaks volumes about the masses if that is their coping mechanism to deal with a hard world or not. Pisses me off most times. I prefer existing alone as a result due to that or even the violations in the workplaces when it comes to us lot who operate differently than they do.
This was church. Society thinks I have cPTSD, social anxiety disorder, avoidant personality disorder and a host of other things, and that's true -- it's just not the whole truth about who I am or how I operate. You have brilliantly expressed the inexpressible.
In my 50 years, Fight Club was the only allegorically life changing movie I've ever seen. It inspired in me a revelation that I was (socially) nothing and never would be. It was the best and worst revelation I've ever had. It was the ultimate freedom. So glad you used it here.
Lastly, you are absolutely beautiful. Your words were such a quickening, a reminder not to get too comfortable. There is an entire forest out there, waiting for me, full of things I don't know yet. That is such a relief. I hope you find your own forest.
Liked, subbed and all the rest.💜
I definitely agree, our personality and our behavior are much more complex and fluid than we are made to believe. It is not a barrier, but something to understand and accept.
I too reached a sort of epiphany while watching fight club, its one of those films that is incredibly necessary to our society and that puts into action a lot of patterns that needed to be brought to life. I also equally love Chuck Palahniuk, the writer of fight club, every single interview by him, brings me more clarity!
I want to thank you for your beautiful words and for all the support. I will keep those in my heart, I deeply appreciate you 🩷 truly grateful for the encouragement💗
I have been through this my whole life. I was always being seen and treated by people as unworthy of love, attention, friendship, and success everywhere I went. No matter how nice I was, nobody wanted to be around me or include me in anything. I was always ignored and left out. I couldn't express my feelings to anybody without getting ignored and misunderstood. I was getting blame for everything when it was not my fault. So, I've been distancing myself from people for years until today because there is nothing I could do to be liked, accepted and wanted. Alot of people, especially those my age group have always seen me as a bad person when I have not done anything to them or been mean to them and they don't know me.
Its OK not to love yourself. But don't hate yourself. You are. You have value. You just haven't found the persons who recognize it yet. Your not alone.
Thank you so much for this beautiful comment. I think that what you said is truly important. We should value our existence instead of isolating ourselves! 💗
@@silentreunion I've always been an out cast I've learned to embrace it. Widowed but I still have purpose. I'm not done yet.
Thats a beautiful message! Thank you for sharing your experience! 🩷 Grateful to know that there is more to this. Im definitely not done as well! Still learning how to embrace being an outcast, but i will get there!
@@silentreunion It's taken me a couple dozen years or so. Maybe you can do better.
I hope so! As long as we keep trying, nothing is lost.
I had a deep shame over my loneliness until CPTSD treatments (ketamine in my case), combined with lots of casual analysis of society I'd done in my spare thousands of hours in my bedroom, revealed to me what my conditioning had prevented me from accepting: it's only sort of a "me" thing. Now that I see I'm more or less an expression of society's inefficiency in serving human needs, a statistic of what happens when the stars align and you get shafted every year for over a decade, I'm somewhat at peace... I can accept that I'm alone, for now. I don't really feel the urge to be social anymore (though the treatments did bring that optimism back for a few months). It doesn't feel like an empty spot, it feels like a train I missed and now I'm looking for more trains to ride. I also have a different idea of what it's like to ride one of these trains; it's just much more boring than we are led to believe unless you are one of the hyper-social surplus-mental-energy people.
When I moved out and experienced the feeling of emptiness that the world itself contained, especially on college campuses, I realized this isn't a me thing, it's an us thing, and it's growing. Still, I had ideas put in my head about how social life was supposed to be like in our world, many of them from portrayals of friendship on tv/etc, and I felt terrible for never getting anywhere near that. Silly me, I believed the world was supposed to function correctly... it is supposed to function profitably, and it's profitable to leave a lot of people behind. I spent years stuck trying to fix myself, when in reality that wasn't a viable strategy because I was fine, it was my external conditions which made me into some sort of a problem.
At the end of the day, I think we have to come to a deeper acceptance of our position and own it. The world needs the natural influence of all of us, not only the ones that the world already works for. We're all connected, and if we don't own our position, then the world loses connection with us and our influence will be lost. Business will carry on as if this plague doesn't exist, and it isn't even a new one. Look up "Bowling alone".
Through all this, I still believe that the average person is trying their best to be their best. There are a lot of fake people out there, but in my experience, the real ones outweigh them by a long shot. Even fake people are often coerced into their behavior due to the stakes. If they have no faith in themselves socially, but have surplus mental energy, they can just spend it on being fake and forgo the risk of being chronically rejected... what they need are reality checks, not resentment imo.
P.S. you'd probably be interested in listening to what Dr Gabor Matte has to say about how society is inherently traumatizing. Personally I believe most people's original trauma is the pressure we have to be consumers when consumption is **publicly known** to not provide happiness or fulfillment, yet it is all that's really offered to us as recreation.
Thanks mate I thought I either have cptsd or autism both overlap at some thing man the society is lost as F now
I relate to this. Luckily I am a lone wolf, but people truly suck.
Interesting 🤔
Most humans are obsessed with maintaining and advancing their place by whatever campfire they have glommed onto.
Some of the best humans have figured out that they can survive without a campfire, maybe because they were forced away into the cold and dark. And once they learn they do not need a campfire - they become very difficult to control with threat of losing their place by the campfire.
Can it be a lonely existence? Perhaps. But now and then, the world desperately NEEDS such people. And - perhaps - it need not really be so lonely as all that. How many close friends does one really NEED?
People who truly care about you, want you to improve and get better. People who are vain and shallow will do whatever it takes to tear you down, make you question yourself, and laugh at the pain and conflict that builds up inside you. I think it because them see you as a theat. Genuinely good natured people are poison to them and others in their circles. They want pass off their vanity as what strive for... Don't fall for the temptation, and stick to those who will hug you help up when your down, and stand by with you to the end.
They laugh at me because i am different, i laugh at them because they are same. Joker
13:20 i agree, I went from heroes supporter and helping people to villain supporter who see and understand reality for what it is and try to attack the root of the problems instead of the symptoms
18:35 I agree
It was a very thought-provoking video. I've been dealing with similar issues for years. For me, the big thing was never give up and find a way to keep moving forward
When I was new in a city that I had already some friend in but that I couldn't spend time with very often, I ended up meeting people through online groups (Meetup, specifically).
From meeting people there to doing other activities with them and spending more time with others, I started meeting new people. Even if some of those connections fell off, by being active and going out to meet with others (not necessarily involving alcohol, really just taking part of an activity, in general), was how I managed to meet a regular group of friends and I have had the chance to actually build some of those friendships properly.
It's not always easy, but going out, taking part and using the internet in the right way, does help to build a social circle, it takes time, it's hard work, but it happens.
I hope that sharing my experience as an example, helps others find out ways to build meaningful connections.
But I relate completely to what the video mentions, it's hard to not have all hoses ideas in the back of my mind in spite of having already a group of people I know and trust, because life is fickle and hard to be sure of something lasting, but that's hard to avoid, those ideas will stay there, and I will continue to try to not mind them.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! You made a good point of how even with friends around, one can still end up feeling left out.
I definitely do not engage in groups online or try to make friends, because i never really knew where to start. I guess you are right it does involve work! But it is a great way to build a community, I’ll keep this advice in mind!
This is true when you find a niche. However, I always find everyone else in those groups secretly get closer and exclude me still.
I often feel that way as well! And often times I want to believe that it is because Im overthinking the situation. But Im afraid that sometimes that exclusion is done on purpose… Im trying not to think about it so much and to just do my thing
When you end up feeling excluded regardless of having put the work for the friendship to work, it's tough, I actually get that.
Can't really do anything other than keep trying and being honest and finding people who actually clicks with you in the right way.
Easier said than done, I went through multiple groups of people in different ways to finally find something that worked out.
The difficult part is getting back on it, after feeling defeated and left alone over and over, how to possibly move on?, .. Only at your own pace, taking time and just doing your best to be true to yourself first and find the way to build a meaningful connection with someone.
There's a good factor of being kind to one self in the process and reminding yourself what your own worth is regardless of other people failing at seeing it.
It all sounds nice and sweet, but it's hard, because everything indicates the opposite.
Can only hope for the best and wish that the feelings of loneliness don't go beyond just being feelings and to find people who is actually valuable to be around and not toxic, negative or straight out abusive
This was really good. I definitely feel alot of relation to this video. Its hard for me to put in words, but thank you for making this. I glad i found it. Little suprised it only has 262 views. Time will tell.
Thank you so much! It’s really affirming to see people relate to this! Glad you’re here 🩷
This video finally explains the way i feel. Growing up as an autistic person it was always hard for me to fit in. This resulted in bullying and years of being ostracized by teachers. Later on i always tried being a people pleaser because I thought that people would appreciate me more if I was a pushover. That just resulted in people manipulating me. A year ago i had to cut off a friend due to me slowly figuring out that they didn't care about me. From that point on i felt like i can never trust anyone, like i always have to be on guard. Due to this im a loner and only have one really close friend. I sometimes wish i could be kind and innocent again but at the same time im afraid of being used again, especially now as an adult when people are even worse then how they were in say middle/highschool. At this point i dont even feel loneliness anymore. I got over the feeling and am now just completely void of the desire to communicate with people except for my one best friend. It feels great to know that im not alone and that people are feeling the exact same as me. Thank you for making this video.
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Wow are you me
This left kind of a bitter taste in my mouth. It felt more like a cry for help and less like a video essay. I wish for you to find the strength you need to win your battles
Thank you so much for your wishes. I think that without realizing, this truly was a cry for help. But it will all be fine!
Appreciate your empathy and having you here 🩷🩷
this video and this channel is definitely made for me. feels like my home rather than the outside world
I've gone through a similar phase. The things that worked well for me were firstly to hang around people just for your own amusement. Just talk to them, enjoy the conversation and dip. If you constantly worry about whether others initiate conversations with you, it will just eat you from within. I just stopped caring whether those people actually were my friends or not, and I'd just be there for the jokes etc.
The second thing that helped me was self improvement. I don't mean cringe red pill content, rather, identify something that you value and work for it. For me, that happened to be knowledge. I hated reading, but I still admired knowledge and intelligent people. I started reading diligently, begining with around ten pages a day. Now I read upto 60 a day, and along with learning plenty of interesting things, I simultaneously developed more self respect for myself for putting in the work for something I value.
I hope this may have helped in any way, and I hope you get through this bro.
The hardest thing to accept is that we are social creatures in conjunction with the fact that there are those who act selfishly, unkind, and will either wish to hurt you, or act indifferently to your hurt. While one would think these aren't social behaviors, they really are. These things, self-absorbedness, acts of hatred, acts of violence, or acts of avoidance are not bad because they are anti-social, they are bad because they are irrational, and they are irrational because it doesn't align with our nature. If we think about it, humans are meant to work together, isn't it? If not, how else would we have built societies? The Great Pyramids? And what of taking advantage of others? Would we be able to do those things if we all acted this way? No, because it's shortsighted, it only provides gains for a day, a week, a month, a few years, however long it goes on for, it'll only get you diminishing returns. Growing, and building connections, living in accordance with one another in respect and love is gainful for a lifetime, without end.
But today we are being put through an unnatural social order. We are taught to be spiteful, to be cruel and disinterested. The self is paramount to the other, and believing otherwise will keep you unsuccessful, and don't you need to be successful to be somebody? Like a nice house, a luxury car, good shoes. You need all these things beyond a person to be a person, that how you get there is second rate... it only matters that you do. Use as many people as stepping stones, take as many shortcuts, be as terrible as you need. Just get the money, just get the respect.
This isn't strong, this isn't hard. It's weak, and stupid. What's hard is being a caring person, what's strong is not desiring those things which may cause you to be socially cut off, and yet still have the strength to continue to be great. This is the problem with heroes in media. It shows being good as a piece of cake, but no... being a terrible person is. Actually finding value in virtue is what puts you in a vulnerable position. That's what takes resilience, and might. If you want to be a strong person, try and give up greed, and try and not be jealous. Really, it seems to me, to be a good person is to be an outcast...
So beautiful! Thank you so much for this comment!
really great views on society, one of the best videos ive seen on youtube
Wow I’m flattered!! Thank you so much!! 💗
Good YT recommendation. Well spoken and well made. Good job!!
Thank you so much!! 🩷
Ever notice how the problem is never the problem? The problem is always those pointing out the problem. Ain't that something?
Yeah, that is the normal pattern… accountability is something that is quite hard for most people and I include myself in this 😅
that’s true
I just liked all the comments agreeing with me 👍
I love outcasts I'm one of em
They're not hypocrites
They're true people by heart
I Love Them
Absolutely fantastic video! I am currently working on a video about Serial Experiments Lain and the internet as a third space for young people. This video helped me realize how important physical third spaces are for us to feel accepted. We need spaces to congregate and exist with each other.
What helped me was going to church. I didn't go to find God or religion, just to be around people. It really helped me a lot and reading the Gospel, specifically the Gospels, has helped me too. The Bible says the proper way to look at the world is thru the eyes of a child and that's how I see the world now
I have also thought of going to church, i think it is a great way to find a community. Im happy to see that things are going well for you, thank you so much for your comment! 🩷 I’ll keep this advice in mind!
@silentreunion Oh I'd also highly highly highly recommend looking up Akira The Don if you haven't heard of him. Literally makes it not physically possible to feel any negative emotions
Oh! Thank you so much for the suggestion! I’ll definitely look him up, I never heard of him before! Seems like he does music!
that's why I went back to church. As I begin to age, I refuse to be alone. Refuse.
@@LLS710 in the church i see women chose tall sucessuful men instead of me
This is actually me. Everything I've thought and felt.
Your channel was a hidden treasure for me
Thank you soo much!!
I'm 9 minutes in and I relate very much to what is being presented in this video.
I've had those feelings since I was 11 but what made my childhood a bit different from the others at the time was that I was exposed to the internet much early on in life I think around 6 years old maybe.
I was always the awkward one who never really fit in with a majority of kids in my age range because my interests were very different for example Instead of playing video games I would buy the newest phone or play on youtube. As I got older and went through some not so nice feelings I began to look inward and went on a spiritual journey and it somewhat helped me understand both myself and the world around me.
What I feel that's problematic is how things like depression is viewed as something trendy or popular when in reality this is pain that never truly stops but when I look at the state of the world right now who wouldn't be depressed this entire reality has turned into dystopian nightmare and with this "need" to be popular online so many of us try to be so different that we all end up being the same.
When women got 255 compliments only, society cries in pain.
When Men are lonely and erase themselves, society laughs.
Sometimes... let's not get sexist and "black pilled" now... Or "red pilled"
@@Uteria_888 So that's how you call to pattern recognition?
@@Uteria_888Nobody cares about a man's problems,its a harsh reality.
Gender isn’t a problem. I’m an outcast and a female trust me, it’s even harder for us females since society expects us to be more sociable
@The_void111 EXACTLY!!!
Good vid and observation!
Hopefully you and other people can strive for atleast the best life they can have no matter how hard life and society tries to take that away.
Thank you so much! I deeply appreciate your words! I’m definitely trying to learn to enjoy life no matter what! 💗
The Toxic Avenger is one superhero movie you might be able to relate to. Seriously.
Thank you for the suggestion!! I will definitely watch it!
@silentreunion Oh, you should. Tromasterpiece.
This is the epidemic of loneliness and the friendship crisis in plain view so thank you for making this video as I am going to utilize with my High School sociology class. The average American is experiencing this so if you are, understand you are not the only one and you are no loser. This is what this time period will be known for, the Great Friendship Recession. The surgeon general of the United States even made a report about it.
Thank you, it is comforting to realize that I am indeed not alone in this feeling!
Thank you so much for this video. You opening up on this in both an articulate, and honest way is truly refreshing; just hearing all the thoughts I've always had, being said by someone else already helps with being empathized with, at best; and being relatable, at least. Thank you for sharing your voice again.
Clearly, lots of people (as seen in these comments here) have the exact same thoughts as well.
While it pains me much to see so many suffer in the exact way that I suffer, it also actually gives me hope that not only are said others are more inclined to be more "awakened" by seeing the toxic social constructs as they are, seeing social climbers and "neurotypicals" as they are- but also gives us black sheeps, if they're willing, if they wish to- put the effort to build something better with each other: with other genuine, mutual, and hurting outcasts that wholly understand. That's how real authentic friendships form.
Without fear, shame, and no need to pretend. They are out there.
It'll take lots of work within, it'll take practice and it'll take an excruciatingly LONG time, make no mistake; but those safe, secure, peaceful, thriving, HUMAN connections are out there.
All it takes is one willing to search, and willing to have hope.
Even if it's just ONE good, real person, in whatever time duration- is worth it.
And always will be worth it.
Be the person who you are, and wish to grow into. With the healthy, better connections you wish to have.
Those right people will find you. It's just up to you ultimately.
If one lonely person relates to another lonely person, we might not feel so lonely anymore.
So please, for the sake of yourself, for the sake of us outcasts- don't give up.
I’ve also realized that the true cool people a are unique and authentic and have also experienced being an outcast at some point.
Humans are just like art. Society dictates what art is most beautiful, and value is attached to that standard.
False meaning is added to the abstract and truly unappealing, in the same way the worst kinds of people are glorified and made valuable.
True art, made with all the love, effort, and suffering of the artist who was just trying to make something to provoke the thoughts and emotions of even one person, is overlooked...the same way the outcasts of society that struggled all their lives just to belong and mean something to just one other single person. Instead of analyzing and appreciating the art as a whole, and understanding the broader meaning...everyone negatively judges the entire piece based off one or two unappealing brush strokes.
This is the main reason Vincent Van Gogh is one of my favorite painters. During his time, the standard of beauty in art was completely different. People hated his art. He couldn't even trade his most beautiful works for a pint of ale. Today, worldwide, his contributions are some of the most cherished commodities. But in his time, he was emotionally and mentally tortured in a society that deemed him unworthy of acceptance. He was lonely, and eventually went insane. The end result, we already know 😢
All of this to say, yes it hurts that we as outcasts aren't appreciated, and even hated by many...but that shouldn't stop you from creating the masterpiece that is you! Hope might be slim, but there are others out there that will find you absolutely beautiful, and cherish all your brush strokes and colors 💖
I feel a lot of what you’re saying. I’ve had my own villain arc and realized at some point that i wasn’t changed into being this. It was a part of me that was born of repression of my personality and pain. But you’re right, i didn’t wish to cause misery or get revenge,…i just turned bitter. Sometimes I struggle with feeling as if I have worth,…but although I won’t say it WILL get better I say to everyone who feels the same as me; it CAN get better…it’s not guaranteed, but it can happen…and if anyone reading this feels the same, just know you aren’t alone completely. We can all get through this.
Thank you so much! I hope many people can truly read your words. It really cam get better 🩷
Take a little time to learn about narcissistic personality disorder. I'm serious. These "social climbers" you are talking about? Yeah.
Also - "The true measure of a man (or woman) is not the good they do for reward or accolade, but rather the good they do while knowing that they are likely to be punished for doing it."
When they hate you for doing the right thing - rejoice in that.
A lot of these loners are narcissists to. There's a type of narcissism where the person is the perpetual helpless victim.
Great video! You gained sub! Keep ‘em up, I’ll keep watching ‘em.
Thank you so much!! Glad you’re here!
I'm literally in tears rn your video literally described my life and that people who think like me exist 😢😢
That makes me really happy, I’m glad I made this video and I am hopeful to see it connect with so many people! Thank you 🩷
No matter what I do I eventually get bullied by my friends and thinking why is this happening, like I did everything to be the best friend you could have and they just control and manipulate you
I feel like sometimes we just need new friends or a whole different environment to truly feel understood. And it sucks because that is not always available, but I hope you get to be appreciated by your friends! Stay well! 🫶🏻
Bro who messed with you leave them either by setting boundaries or ghost them fools don’t get wasted by wannabe cool clones
I'm on the autism spectrum, to a disordered degree, and I cannot find my tribe. I'm usually on the outside looking in, hateful and envious at the Big Neurotypical Family.
Let me just say that there is no morality, no good, no superiority in being isolated and unseen - this is the mental state of a covert narcissist, a craven individual who sees superiority in inferiority.
If we want success and fame, to love ourselves, to be surrounded by loyal acolytes, we must study our envy for these so-called 'filthy rich' social climbers. Their's is an ideal that judges us without words, and so we devalue them and call them evil. This is simply the distorted mentality of a loser and it needs to be substituted with that triumphant gladiator mentality post haste.
Wisdom is knowing the world is as it should be, self-love is knowing one deserves to live higher on that hog, and intelligence is asking how one can get there. Be humble in knowing where you are, but be ambitious in the vision you have for yourself.
Lucifer guide you.
"All my life i was in the cold
Now i find i feel nothing more" - *Wayne Static*
13:40 "Nothing bad happens to these good guys!"
_shows something bad happening to Mufasa_
😂😂😂 You got a point
This is awesome. Here before it blows up.
To steal a song lyric. 'It seems I'm not alone in being alone."
I think i know that song! Its from The Police, i believe! Great lyric, its a good way to summarize this feeling
@@silentreunion To be honest? I struggled for a good 30 minutes trying to find something to say. Keep going, from one fool to the stranger on the other side of the screen.
😂😂 well i guess those 30min payed off!
Thank you so much! I appreciate it!
10:10 holy shit I resonate with this SO incredibly hard. I am at this exact moment in my life.
I saw this video and was suprised when i noticed you barely have 200 subs. You have a lot of insight and i hope you keep up the great work you do!
everyone is moving foward life im the only one moving backwards beeing left out alone no friends no family cares
I understand that feeling. It feel lime everyone is evolving except us. I think the only consolation we have now is that a lot of people feel this way… Try to focus on yourself and understanding why it is that you keep being left out, that is what im trying to do myself
"It is no measure of Health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Keep this in mind.
This one learned a sort of mantra, when it still was attempting interactions with these Empty others: No Hope, No Fear, No Limits. The idea being to stop f*cking with yourself, first, then, anything is possible. Until one butts against one of these Empties. "There's Always a Caveat."
The Buddha said, "Life is Suffering, the Root of Suffering is Desire." To "live" without Desire isn't much of a life. And death is Peace, but, since we're all State Property, death is discouraged strongly.
This one is been outcaste since before it was old enough to go to school, where the Empties made it's existence untenable and then blamed it for their (re)actions to it. Like having an endless line of people-creature-things sit upon it's chest and hit it in the face with it's own hands saying, "stop hitting yourself."
This one has Turned Away, been hikikomori for 6 years now. It will expire alone, as alien as it existed. It lived but a handful of days out of more than 16000 days it was here in this place.
I wrote this comment as it is in my mind, anymore. You can get so far past lonely because of the indifference and gaslighting of others that you dissolve.
Don't reply to me; I get dogpiled every time I comment on anything so I turned the notifications off. Nobody can reach me and so they can't harm me anymore.
Oh, it added itself to your subscribers. Maybe it is deluding itself that this is Safe Space (again), but it seemed so and didn't smell off. It may add-in again as it sees the need.
Hail, Kindred. Perchance you may become less alone with the others it can find.
I know you said not to respond, but i just had to. Thank you for this beautifully written testimony. I feel for you and i am very touched, I am very content with you finding this video and perhaps this channel a safe space. I truly hope that you can keep finding places to fit in. I too feel the need to turn away and isolate myself, but that “desire to live” that you talk about is in fact my main motivation and still, I cannot even begin to explain why. I am also afraid and angry, but there must be some place for me and definitely for you too.
Thanks for your very much appreciated insight. And thank you for being here 💗
The words you used along with with showing bladerunner made it hit so much more,i completly get what you were saying it is this slowly growing resentment from trying your hardest to just be a decent person and still not even beign seen as a human beign,it terrifies me how bladerunner 2049 spoke directly to me in so many ways that no other piece of anything really ever did,i don't know i just had to ramble after watching your video considering how good it is at talking about such a heavy problem,if you take anything from this comment is that you make great videos don't stop making them,and please don't stop trying.
This video and comments I've read thus far are healing balm for me and my aloneness though I've come to embrace being alone with the feeling that I'll never fit in. I really had no clue that there are so many people with the same feelings. So, hello everyone, so very glad to meet you. Smile. I relate with this video and comments. Trying to fit in just doesn't work for me. It seems that most people that may feel like I do simply don't talk about it. I LOVE deep thinking and other deep thinkers. Until I saw this video I didn't know you were out there. I'm truly awed by how I feel after seeing this video. I'm watching it again now. After I subscribe.
Im truly glad that my video can have that effect. I wish you all the best and I hope you find your community and also comfort in being yourself 🩷🩷
Wow I haven't watched a video of yours for a long time and my god this channel has grown quite a lot. Congratulations, Silent Reunion
Wow! Thank you so much! That means a lot! 🫶🏻🩷
I can resonate with this video because I went through all of this and continue to do, well at least with my loneliness. Despite all the periods of being brought down, depression, despair, etc. I have gotten up from it and eventually all this pain and nihilism led me to God and orthodoxy. I continue to fight this brokenness and despair because of all that life had thrown to me. I enjoyed this video, your channel caught my eye. I pray things get better for you and wish to sprinkle some positivity whether you want it or not. I hope your life improves :)
Thank you so much for this comment 🩷🩷 Happy to know that you enjoyed this video and the channel!!
I also hope you improve and Im sprinkling some much deserved positivity back 🥰
Appreciate you!
I believe that accepting is the first step. And believe me, i have hope for each one of us. I’m taking the responsibility of hoping on us🙌🏻
That was very beautiful! Thank you so much 🫶🏻🩷
Yeah the most annoying thing for me is im talented but because of my mental health i can never succeed at anything .. career , relationships everything i do seems tainted .. a really isolating place to be feeling like ill never achieve anything
I relate so much. I’ve always felt like an outsider. Do I accept that this is who I am, or try my hardest to change? It’s difficult …
Im glad im not alone in this! I think it is better to accept yourself, if you try to go against who you are, it will always come back. You shouldnt mold yourself to others, let people understand you first
There is a story behind every deranged mind.
9:10 is super relatable, most of my past relationships are like that
I got this song “Wav.” Where I say
Someway I always end up a stranger
Somehow I always know we’ll fall apart
While everyone around me is changing
How do I accept that I’m over, older, and nothing
Nothing
Ooo I’m nothing
Despite of all the ways I give my heart
Love is only there for the fortunate
Maybe I’ve got nothing to offer
I look around isolated
No one carrying me through the dark
Am I useless?
Reminding me of all the ways I’m nothing
Ooo I’m nothing
Discard of me once you’ve got my all
Disloyalty is all I’ve got
And I’ve been working way too long
All for nothing
I say this to say I relate.
I create to escape this loneliness and I know I’ll have a good life.
Also for the lonely folks. Eat clean possibly once a day. It can help.
Thank you so much for your comment, those are very meaningful lyrics! Very beautiful song, that expresses this feeling very well! Appreciate you a lot 🩷
@@silentreunion i appreciate you. I returned to your work yesterday cause I was going through it. Dealing with customers talking down to me about bullshit that has nothing to do with me.
Keep creating. You remind me of Charles Bukowski. He wasn’t a fan of folks either. But that man kept writing everyday, working shitty jobs and eventually became a voice for the everyday man.
Create everyday. I’m doing it now. I’ll keep you in mind. And thank you ❤️🔥❤️🔥
Thank you so much for the beautiful words!
That was interesting to read cause I actually like Bukwoski’s work, I am a fan of his poetry collections, so this comparison made me quite happy!
I will continue to create now that I have a bit more free time, thank you for the support! 🩷🩷🫶🏻
@@silentreunion of course yo ❤️🔥 I wanted to tell you this too. Nicki Minaj has this interview where she talks about having to be the villain and how she takes the role because she knows other people couldn’t do it.
You spoke about how it’s hard to be the villain but easy to feel like one if I’m correct.
I say this to say. Sometimes you gotta be the person people hate.
I can’t make people like me but I guarantee they won’t get over on me.
You got this 🫡
You are spot on and your presentation was well executed
I think one issue is the collectivism that was supposed to bring us together has done the opposite. Largely for profit driven reasons. We formed divided groups and bubbles that classify us into easy portraits or caricatures. Instead of accepting the nuanced differences of those around us.
Its easy to fall into nihilistic and deterministic viewpoints when you find yourself outside of those for various reasons. Instead of living in the moment you start to see the various chaotic stimulai that impact who we are. Many people believe they are responsible for their actions and more importantly success. However we are all victims of circumstance in various ways. Nature and nurture can have a overwhelming impact for example.
Its the refusal of our nature that often leads us to comparing ourselves and placing those around us into categories thst justify our viewpoints. I do believe in determinism but I think we should try to live within that finite illusion of self despite that. Find slight detours on the often linear path of life, that slowly even if deterministic lead to a new way of living. One that caters to what you want outside of the definitions of everybody else.
Like most people here, I've thought about this a lot. Simply put, this won't change unless we see that the world around us cares about us. So why don't people care? Because they care about the "greater good" more than the people closest to them. Because trust implies vulnerability and it takes a lot of strength and faith to be comfortable with vulnerability. It's much easier to take the selfish faustian bargain of the social contract, even if it doesn't actually benefit anyone in the end.
Truly wise words! Thank you so much for your comment and your perspective! The true strength is in learning to accept our vulnerability and finding comfort in expressing it!
based and doomer pilled.
Nah but seriously soyciety doesn't really give a fuck about people like us who are you know, a bit less normal. And yeah i relate to this video alot since once you start being alone it gets addicting and you wanna continue losing and being a loser and being alone, it starts feeling good that you continue losing in life. So in a way we have to try and escape that.
Good video tho
Thank you!!
Yes, it is definitely a vicious cycle. I think we become too comfortable in our own misery, even if it isn’t entirely our fault. But it definitely is our responsibility to turn our lives around, since the world is not going to change in a way that accommodates us any time soon…Unfortunately 😅
The phone does work both ways. You are right.
Pt.1 of comment: I have felt like this before and was somewhat okay with it for a long time. I was the weirdly quiet kid in school. I found someone online who I feel we have enough in common and hope to meet soon. There have probably been people who felt out of place since the beginning of societies, but I get the impression that certain things were in place that helped people feel like they belong when otherwise they might not. It could also be the western part of the globe's history leading to a more individualistic culture vs eastern cultures being more group based. In some cultures family is considered important in a way that may be seen as refreshingly wholesome.
Pt.2: I feel like there is something in society now that is accelerating the process of isolation. It could be the internet and people's interests becoming very specific as they navigate the endless pathways of the web. This can be good and bad.. Also there is a book from 2000 that may be relevant called Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam (available on Internet Archive) that explains how society was becoming less social even then. My dad says there was a futurist named Faith Popcorn who said back in the 80s that people were cocooning themselves. You may feel alienated from other people but when there is more opportunity to socialize, there is more of a chance for a connection. I picked up a friend from being a grocery cart pusher when I brought up my history interest and he happened to be into it as well. Part of me likes history because it feels like if I study a large amount of people perhaps I can figure out how to live a good life from all the examples out there. Sometimes just knowing people's stories can be interesting and enlightening. I've learned to accept that if I put something out there as something to talk about and it's not accepted, then I gracefully drop it. I consider this as maybe my version of what normies do with small talk to 'test the waters'. The people who I feel most comfortable with may be 1 in 100.
If all you love me for is my usefulness to you , then you do not love me at all. And those things that you say make you love me make me hate you, because you cannot love, not me, not yourself, not anyone.
I don't know anything about you so I might be wrong here, but you sound so young. It breaks my heart thinking someone so young is already having such thoughts and going through those kinds of feelings. I've only started realizing that I failed life around 26-27.
Thank you so much for your empathy. I am indeed kinda young, only 21. But honestly I am glad that I am figuring this out now, it gives my hope. I feel like I may have more time to fix things. That is what makes me feel some relief 🩷
She's ahead of the game.
Lore of SOCIETY HATES YOU: How outcasts are born momentum 100
Hope you upload soon, I love your vids and I hope you’re okay
Thank you so much! I’ll try to upload as soon as possible
Life is great. There’s always gonna be ups and downs. But get out there and experience it!
You’re 21?! You sound 17 dude. But I feel a lot of what you’re saying.
Yeah 21 😅 maybe that is because im a girl 🤣 but my voice is a bit weird anyway haha
Im glad you can relate!
I feel like most people arent crazy or weird but cynically neutral. I see myself as someone that sees things for what they are many times to my detriment, you seem similar.
These peoples lives obviously keep them from feeling that pain but also bars them from any genuine joy or bliss. When you cant feel joy why expose themselves to the pain you endure and destroy their world.
This bug world can only give so much to the people that join it. People of a higher spirit yearn for something that cant be given to you by doing things that are within the moral, legal boundaries of today.
You may want sex or warmth and validation from these people but what they offer is sterile and dead. If you want to find true joy you have to destroy yourself and your ego and venture into the unknown.
Its unfortunate we were born in these times yes but you have no choice in that manner so why care how hard it is
This hit hard Im getting very teary eyed right now I love this video and hit me very very hard I feel like I don't ever belong it's been like this for my life since I was born I tried to get rid of this feeling but it's ok I think
The amount of times I have watched Fight Club and Serial Experiments Lain is a religion at this point. I am proud of being an outcast as it allows me to connect to everyone here right now by being my authentic self, and not a shell of what everyone expects me to be.
Yes! I also have rewatched both an unhealthy amount of times 😂! I am also becoming more comfortable with being a sort of outcast! It is closer to the real me.
Thank you so much for your comment!
Just keep pushing forward. You can find and build something great. Countries outside of the US have much lower costs of living and if you can get a remote job you can functionally be a millionaire off of 40 grand a year. In the Philippines you can get an apartment on the beach for 200 us dollars a month.
Bruh i went from watching squidward sing mulan to this tf going on with youtube recommended
I'm 23 never had a girlfriend and I don't get invited out to parties or anything like that, last year I got invited to 5 parties and that was the most I had ever gone to thinking oh my god maybe now my social luck is changing. 2 months into 2024, nothing... Silly me to think I was actually wanted but looking back on some of the invited I received they were most likely pitty invites... silly me
My experience, to fit in you just stop caring to fit in. You stop giving a crap. That's when people start to be into you. Youre more authentic this way.. you no longer focus on people but your journey and when you're on the right journey, that's when you find the right people, if that's what you seek. With all that being said, I can't help but realize that all of us I think feel this regardless, being lonely. I feel alone more than ever now. It's not a feeling of not being around people but the fact that I've always felt silent, people can't hear me. One day I'll talk about why I feel most of us feel this way.
This is something I'm sure we always heard about growing up, especially as outsiders but I think you don't really understand and appreciate what it really means until you've gone through the wringer and made considerable progress with self-development and understanding WHO you really are as an individual. Of course, there's a lot more nuance than just, "stop caring what others think so much." but I think you won't really get it until you go out of your way to confront and experience the world, good and bad.
What was personally pivotal for me and brought upon a paradigm shift in regards to my formerly catastrophic social phobia was going from sour grapes, "yeah, well, eff them anyway..." to, "Ya know, most people really aren't so hot and tbh I wouldn't want to f with them." Sturgeon's law totally applies to people!
It took me facing my fears and experiencing the world and coming across many walks of life to not be so anxious as I used to be. Through that period, I came to understand who I was, what I appreciated and valued, what I was passionate about, and the type of people I would like to surround myself with. It really came apparent how much mental energy I was wasting on people who wouldn't mean much to me.
It's through experience and time where I better understood why geezers have a reputation for having no chill. It will never stop being funny to me when some ppl start itching for your attention when you've "taken the hint" or concluded they're not really what you are looking for 😅
It's better to be alone than being around with fake people😂😂😂😂😂😂
Same here. Not allowed to rest enough to get my bearings and get a proper life. Forced to do this, like grocery shopping, and them butt-heads are aware I'll half-butt the attempt due to my need to sleep. When you become the sole founding-pillar of your household, rot seeps in DEEP! We aren't regressing, we are progressing into something too FAMILIAR to understand. You got the life you want, but you can't RETURN it because the fupper left the place they were stationed at?!
I'm not taking away from your issues and your understanding of people is correct, although you can live a normal life, women have inherent value, men don't
Based but she will call you a mysogynist
Well i didnt say anything
Strange perspective as over time I CHOOSE to NOT have friends... I found my inner voice and passions while spending time WITHOUT others Friends Family Partners as every individual is influential in many complex ways... We are so consumed with FRIENDS being OUR IDENTITY thats called ATTACHMENT if you have codependency issues YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE LOADS OF FRIENDS.
I'm ONLY focused on PERSONAL GOALS. It's the ONLY WAY.
I think everyone find a way to make things work for them. I sometimes believe that being alone is also the best for me. But I tend to realize that I become much more bitter instead of resting in peace.
I love my time alone, but I also want to know that there is someone waiting on the other side, if that makes any sense.
But im glad you found a way to connect with your inner voice and I definitely feel more people should choose to do the same as you. Like you said, we let ourselves be consumed by the other in our life.
Grateful for your comment!
I was codependent and people still left, even trough i tried my best to make it work. They were always willing to misunderstand me, to not talk about what i did wrong and instead gossiping about me to others.
In nymphomaniac Joe said "people are hypocrites"
I love that movie!
I feel like an outcast because I’m poor
So true honestly 🥲
Don't buy into nihilism, it's easy to, but the only conclusion to nihilism is your own death.
The world is a harsh and cruel place, the people in it more often than not have been eroded by it, even if they want to be good people they are taken to harsh and cruel conclusions.
How do you combat a harsh and cruel world? You be just and merciful in all things and from those two basic principles will come kindness, to others and to yourself.
I think most people can benefit from being a little dumber themselves too. I asked the birds once "are you not cold without clothes? Where's your sens of urgency on that wire, what if you run out of food? Do you not care for your life?" And do you know what they said? That question was so below the crows that they didn't even dain to answer me, cheeky little guys!
If you want a reading reccomendation, I would recommend Fyodor Dostoevsky. Most of his books deal with combating against nihilism, I started with Crime and Punishment, very good book
Wow such a beautiful text and message! In a way I believe nihilism actually saved me, but I must agree with the fact that being a bit dumber would greatly improve my life. Not even dumber, but just more innocence toward people and the world in general.
The question that you proposed to the birds was a truly beautiful statement, I have been thinking about it since I read it!
Thanks for the recommendation! I have indeed read, even if only one, Dostoevsky book. It was “Notes from the Underground”. It left me thinking about my life for a long time! I might check out some other books by him!
Faz um vídeo em português, por favor 🥺
Talvez… não sei muito bem 😅 quem sabe um dia
@@silentreunion 😅
Will you be my friend?
I wish people could find what they miss in life
Like we grow and change
Things dont excite me anymore,and life is getting quieter and quieter with interactions with people
Its all business kinda attitudes
I don't like small talk but cant ponder the world with the cashier at a grocery store lol
So deep conversations are like a shadow of a ghost
Its social media and talk to family bout surface level stuff
Im disabled so its hard to do rveryday things and since the pandemic ive just stayed home
Stuck at home cause no other place to be
Unless im out of milk
And I'm lactose intolerant lol
Seems like if you don't establish friends when your young and keep them
Then finding new friends is near impossible
"Seems like if you don't establish friends when your young and keep them, Then finding new friends is near impossible" brutal, I give up
Whoa this video gets me 😮
You have an option not to care what society thinks, because of the disgusting and irreversible damage people can do to another based on a group basis and indifference. Society is a dated structure in some ways.
Hey there I had sent you an email before but am no longer finding your address, I'm not sure if you don't know what to make your next video about or if you are working on one, or have lost interest or motivation, but I just wanted to say I would love to see another video and wish u the best!
Hey! Thank you so much for the kind comment!! Yes! I remember your email and your video!
Its been a couple of stressing months, but I have some ideas for future videos! Just need to find the time! I hope to publish something soon!
Thank you so much again, wish u all the best as well! And I will certainly watch you videos ☺️ Keep it up!
Hi! I'm 25 and I really resonate with your videos and your cynical perspective even though deep down you seem like a kind albeit misunderstood person. I was wondering if you had other social media we could connect on. I think I saw that you have a contact email but I feel like it would be weird to ask that randomly on an email (though I guess it's weird to ask in the comments as well.) If not I understand just trying to reach out
Hello! Thank you so much! Im glad you resonated with the video! 🩷
Well, at the moment the only social media I have related to the channel is that email in my description.
A bit old fashioned I know, but if you wanna reach out, that’s the way 😅
In the future I’ll probably create something, but at the moment that is all I have.
I agree 100%
I think some of us were born at the wrong time in history.
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I’m here for a reason- the damn RUclips algorithm calling me out, lmao.
Nobody will ever really know you and it’s rare for a person to even truly know themselves.
It’s not that deep, bro. Did you read the 48 laws of power or something? I don’t think that the majority of people seek out that unspoken network of power consciously.
I've been suffering the crisis of faith- the lack there of- the same as you and I recommend turning to philosophy. It’s possible the malice you see in others is just a reflection of the malice in your shadow. Look into shadow work for me and read up on Carl Jung. Basically we there is us- the mask we show society- and the shadow- what we don’t show anyone. People lean into the mask thinking it their true selves and divorcing themselves from their shadow but that is not something obtainable. To me it sounds like you being your best self to please others was you embracing the mask and forsaking the shadow in it’s entirety.
Religion is hard to find in a world where God is dead, but a religious attitude towards life is possible.
Look even if this sounds hokey just look Carl Jung and shadow work, this is just poor explanation of something incredibly nuanced. If you don’t like what you find, forget about me, lol.
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I still believe in God Jesus Christ... I have seen videos and seen genuine weird signs... Imo i cry whenever i think of Jesus dying on the cross... but i will admit some of the rules like having long hair or crossdressing and all that is a no no... And to me i usually like that "androgynous stuff... idk but at least to me i have hope not cope but hope in Jesus that my life isn't in vain or meaningless and existential and nihilistic... Idk if this note helps but i would still want to recommend asking like genuinely sincerely in your heart and soul to ask God for his help and he might do something weird you might not recognize it at first or catch on but i believe it's him... And once i did it got kore prevalent idk... It's all the spiritual realm stuff... But yeah, give it a try girly! Idk.. i did enjoy this video... Because i also feel/felt like an outcast a pariah.... Yeah. GBY.
Thank you so much for this beautiful comment! This was very insightful to read. Even if most of the times i am quite agnostic and tend to believed in a meaningless existence, I have to admit that i do sometimes feel this strange pull to believe something higher, even if just spiritually. I think that feeling that there is something more and that there is meaning out there is something innate to the human condition.
Since i made this video i have been reflecting a lot, and i totally agree with your comment!!
Thanks love, ill definitely give it a try 💖🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
You know which people are happy? The ones that did something instead of crying on youtube. Ones that started new hobby, changend their profession, maybe even someting as small as dressing up a little different than usual. ANYTHING. Because every step forward is a progress, no metter if it's little or in a wrong direction. It is all better than crying and doing nothing. You can cry while doing something and this is a progress too. And don't forget that many of the most succesful people are the ones who were stuck, but moved on.
Well, I wouldn’t consider the act of expressing your feelings to be invalid when it comes to becoming better or even to become “happy”, or whatever that means.
I have my own life outside of youtube, so I think it isn’t fair to assume that I am not doing anything outside of “crying”here. And I do actually have a lot of hobbies. Hell, even spending time on learning how to edit and record for RUclips has been a recent hobby of mine
Is it hard sometimes to do anything with myself? Yes!! Totally! And I refuse to send the message that one should ignore it.
In fact, acknowledging that you are unhappy and lonely and having the courage to say it out loud is the first step to start the journey of improvement.
But what I refuse to be, is a robot who denies these feelings for the sake of showing a brave face to others. Not everyone needs to be successful, but I believe everyone wants to satisfy their own life purpose.
People like probably but more effort into things than people like you ever did. You “people” literally live your little lives on easy mode and put down others to lift yourselves self. Get on our level first.
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If your philosophy has led you to this what good is it
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