@@tranquility9325we aren't a monogamous species. By sick in the head or immoral you probably just mean that the thousands of artifices and checks put in place to make heterosexual monogamy work have failed
I am 46yrs old, have no children, and never married, I am glad I never did it, Nick, I fall for a person very quickly and get attached, I am very loving and loyal, this has always been my downfall because I always get mistreated and I am no push over. I would never be able to trust anyone with my ❤ever. Look at the world we live in 🌍I don't believe in love anymore.
I can relate to this so much... and i dont know what to do, im stuck in a relationship, and i love her, but i just knoe that this is not the life that i want to live, but i just dont know how to get out of it because she is very happy, but she controls my time, and my activities, and it has gotten to the point in which i just feel... empty, you know what i mean? Like, i feel deattached and numbed and the things that i used to enjoy feels unsatisfying, i feel traped, and i just feel like if i break up with her, she is gonna hate me and i really care about her but wish we could just be friends and... get my freedom back
@@useranonim9514 Pull the band aid off, if the lass wants kids and you don't it a good reason to end the relationship as its the fair thing to do but if you drag it out and she become to old to breed when it ends....and it will.....that will make things far worse for someone you care about.
@@useranonim9514 This is why we have to think about what we are getting ourselves into, it's not worth starting something you are not going to finish. Tell her you need a break and assess what you want to do from there. You have to put yourself first because you are not happy. 😒
we used to marry at 20 and mature and grow together. now we marry at 30 when we are more formed, and we have extremely high expectations that can never be met
Marriage is there to put shackles and restrict freedom. And who in their right mind wants to do that? Marriage has been too much romanticized through movies and people (especially young girls) have been brainwashed that it is an ultimate goal in life.
Married 3 times,divorced 3 times,,, I learned; 1. Their is no such thing as a Low Maintenance Woman 2. Don’t get married too young 3. I’m 74, and I’m still too young
I never been married and I pay the societal price everyday. The only thing people ever ask me is..."are you married?"..."Do you have children?"...and I say...NO. Then, they say...Oh....why not?..."are you gay???"....NO....."well, one day it will happen for you." Blah blah balh. I've had this conversation more times then I can remember -lol
I think being sentient being is the worst curse given to anyone because only sentient beings can suffer. So breeders are terrible. So are religion and mainstream because both of them teach that procreation is good.
Marriage sucks anyways stay childfree stay single guys dont bring any innocent kid here in this cruel existence #antinatalism #osho #alanwatts Even pre nups don't work out for men. Moreover humans r polygamous by nature not monogamous. Marriage is a man-made social construct to keep the society going. It's obvious that no other animal does it. Once a wife asked her husband why he doesn't make love to her daily like bulls do to cows. Then her husband replied go ask the bull if he makes love to the same cow daily 😂 Don't forget getting divorce is expensive too!
I heard that some people only stay together "for the kids". I would like to hope that the parents equally love their children, even if they don't necessarily love each other anymore. But there are some parents out there that outright say to their kid that they regret having them... That's such an unfortunate circumstance for the kids who let's be honest, never got to decide they wanted to be here in the first place. Then, because kids are so eaily manipulated, they can believe one parent into hating the other for reasons that may not even be true. Sad world we live in... 😢
Just look at the divorce rate. So many persons I know have been divorced and remarried and divorced again. This is crazy. And if there are kids the kids are all messed up mentally from the stress they had to endure.
I don’t see a future with anyone because we are losing our roots fundamentally I can’t for the life of me understand people these days I try to be whole because we live once and once you lose yourself that’s it find your spirit before the ego consumes you
Getting a license through a third party to be married is ignorant.... Contracts aren't made with pieces of paper.... You simply ask will you marry me and when they say I do or don't.. this is a full spiritual contract... Then if one of them won a divorce they work it out on their own without a third party interrupting the contract
For me it’s struggling and going through hoops just to make a point. I’m not against the idea of marriage. I’m against the constant pressure of the need and the hype of weddings. Then the tv shows surrounding marriage. Bridezilla, Married at first sight, Bridalplasty, four weddings, and the constant specials on Food Network. Me at sixteen being convinced that I’m going to be a spinster.
Yeah marriage is overrated. You’re taking a risk being married. You can lose your assets, money, and mental health from it. It’s even worse when the kids experience parents divorce and it can affect their mental health if the divorce isn’t healthy. Thing is you can love someone without getting married and you’re most likely better off being single nowadays. Also marriage is a social norm and society pressures people to get married. Good video man and I agree with the reasons you mentioned on why people get married and why it’s overrated.
I think The only reason men go through with all of the problems associated with marriage which are now immense for men is because they want intimacy with a woman. But I’m a man who is gay who has never felt any desire for women. I do not have crushes on women nor do I feel any arousal for women. Therefore, there is zero reasons why I would ever have a wife and kids in my life.
It would be the same thing if you married a man, only no kids biologically unless you wanted to adopt or have a woman do IVF from one of your sperm or the other's sperm.
The point of marriage in the west used to be to ensure exclusivity, but it was policed by the community around the couple through religious and cultural norms, and the penalties associated with breaking them. Since the community is now just a sea of individuals with no particular stake on the outcome of a particular marriage, the norms have largely been abandoned and both the religions and the culture in general, with all their landmarks, exist now mostly for the sake of enhancing tourism, there is no enforcement mechanism. It also doesn't work economically because both parties are working and having children is incredibly expensive. I think the reason it doesn't work for men in particular is that the other party is not going to share what she earns. Or will share it, but the cost will be too high. Or will stop working at some point. Or work a small fraction of the hours the man does, while claiming equality. So in most cases it's a pure financial loss to get married. And that's before you begin to consider the one-sided legal framework for divorces.
@@Cheirosa81 I wish it wasn't. I didn't design a world in which you end up in the streets without money. But I find myself living in such a world. Men get married despite all this, but I think numbers-wise it's a financial loss on average. If you are Jeff Bezos it might not matter to you, but if your are Joe Yerkoff it might matter a lot.
@@Cheirosa81 I thank the patriarchy for a lot. It's vastly superior to any matriarchy ever created. I wish we were living in a patriarchy still, maybe things wouldn't be on fire. Politicians would be held to account for their transgressions, for one thing. Appeals to emotion over facts and logic wouldn't work in regards to important matters. I could go on and on.
Agree with most of what you've said. I think marriage was really just a way to get people to stick together to raise kids, because kids need support from both parents. I think children are the main reason marriage is still incentivized. The world just wants you to bring more people into this shithole existence to make it better for the few. I'm okay with being called a cynic because that's exactly how I see it. Marriage and the dream it sells is marketing, to get you to buy into the procreational ponzi scheme. But about arranged marriages, I do want to fact-check you on one point. At least as far as India's concerned, parents no longer have the final say. The way it works now it's more like arranged dating, after which the man and the woman get to decide if they feel like they're a good fit. That said, some communities no doubt still practice the archaic version but it's much less heard of now.
@@RedPillOption It's not force if you have the option to say no though and it's an option more people are choosing now. Also nobody is forced to "hook up" with anyone. If anything parents on both sides would hate it if their kids hook up with their arranged dates before deciding whether or not they want to get married. These arranged dates are usually pretty formal and PG. There's pressure on both sides to act right because if they don't, it ruins their family's reputation.
What you’re describing is hedonism. It’s why the world is so F’d up.. People Need some discipline and lessons though marriage. The same why people Need bosses. Few leaders 99% followers.
@@ssing7113 we don’t need more people to lead as that has led us to where we are right now. We need more good human beings here but that isn’t happening as the whole system is corrupt and forces people to be desperate thus activating the survival at all costs mechanism.
Nope, disagree….I had a very happy 20 yr marriage, but he passed away…Marriage equals the effort you put into being a partner every day….people nowadays don’t seem to have any morals, want instant gratification, are impatient, and show no compassion for others, and have no negotiation skills…it’s still the best game in town in my opinion!
@ I’m 68 yrs old, and I’ve been around for awhile, and I’ve dealt with many many different types of people in my career..,from my observations, YES very true..,we need a lot more love and compassion in this world, not negativity…
@ This is true…much is dependent on both in the relationship being emotionally available, without past baggage, emotionally mature, and having good negotiation, communication skills,and wanting to put equal effort into establishing a healthy relationship,happy relationship….
Are you gay Nick? I only ask bc whenever you refer to your significant other, you fail to mention their gender, so that leaves me to conclude you're married to another man. I'm not going to judge you, I'm not God, but being coy is a dead give away.
Your saying nobody should live alone is another form of dictatorship. How can you speak for everyone? What do you think of the pope, the Dalai Lama, monks, Jesus Christ, Isaac Newton, Nicholas Tesla, etc? You do you but don't project your sh*t in others.
Humans are naturally social creatures at least in present day and when the evil lockdowns happened, look what happened. Proof is all over the place. There is always an exception to the rule as in some people prefer to be completely alone.
Been married once , did it for the wrong reasons. Paid the price for it! Lesson learnt so never again
I learn seeing others falling 😂
Marriage is the leading cause of divorce
@@6stringsbrainfingers 😂
Now that’s funny😂
Nope. Ppl are unfaithful, most have no morals and ethics and nor are they healthy in the head. THAT causes divorce.
lol
@@tranquility9325we aren't a monogamous species. By sick in the head or immoral you probably just mean that the thousands of artifices and checks put in place to make heterosexual monogamy work have failed
I married for the wrong reasons and it ruined my life and I'm stuck in a horrible life
I am 46yrs old, have no children, and never married, I am glad I never did it, Nick, I fall for a person very quickly and get attached, I am very loving and loyal, this has always been my downfall because I always get mistreated and I am no push over. I would never be able to trust anyone with my ❤ever. Look at the world we live in 🌍I don't believe in love anymore.
I can relate to this so much... and i dont know what to do, im stuck in a relationship, and i love her, but i just knoe that this is not the life that i want to live, but i just dont know how to get out of it because she is very happy, but she controls my time, and my activities, and it has gotten to the point in which i just feel... empty, you know what i mean? Like, i feel deattached and numbed and the things that i used to enjoy feels unsatisfying, i feel traped, and i just feel like if i break up with her, she is gonna hate me and i really care about her but wish we could just be friends and... get my freedom back
Very true. The world is a cruel and evil place.
@@useranonim9514 talk about shitty situation 😆
@@useranonim9514 Pull the band aid off, if the lass wants kids and you don't it a good reason to end the relationship as its the fair thing to do but if you drag it out and she become to old to breed when it ends....and it will.....that will make things far worse for someone you care about.
@@useranonim9514 This is why we have to think about what we are getting ourselves into, it's not worth starting something you are not going to finish. Tell her you need a break and assess what you want to do from there. You have to put yourself first because you are not happy. 😒
we used to marry at 20 and mature and grow together. now we marry at 30 when we are more formed, and we have extremely high expectations that can never be met
That is very true.
😂😂😂 bruh roasted most people
Marriage is there to put shackles and restrict freedom. And who in their right mind wants to do that? Marriage has been too much romanticized through movies and people (especially young girls) have been brainwashed that it is an ultimate goal in life.
@@roseaminty4887 pure fax
@@roseaminty4887 I hope u r a lady too
Married 3 times,divorced 3 times,,,
I learned;
1. Their is no such thing as a Low Maintenance Woman
2. Don’t get married too young
3. I’m 74, and I’m still too young
How long were they?
Thankyou for saying this because we need to tell people the truth ... God does not exist
Woman only wanna marry Chad and Tyrone 💯💯💯
Nah they want to fuck Chad and Tyrone, then marry some average guy and take all his money. Haha sounds like a bad deal if you ask me.
@@MrHDProd u bet
It's just another soul trap.
I never been married and I pay the societal price everyday. The only thing people ever ask me is..."are you married?"..."Do you have children?"...and I say...NO. Then, they say...Oh....why not?..."are you gay???"....NO....."well, one day it will happen for you." Blah blah balh. I've had this conversation more times then I can remember -lol
Only total idi*ts would speculate whether or not you are "gay" just because you aren't married. Some people are beyond st*pid asf. lmao wow.
Tell them you have 10 wives and 38 kids.
@@evelyna_paula1747 women lives r easy
I've been hounded like that too before. In society's eyes if you are not married, you are weird and shun.
I think being sentient being is the worst curse given to anyone because only sentient beings can suffer. So breeders are terrible. So are religion and mainstream because both of them teach that procreation is good.
@@chuahping9299 yessir
Marriage sucks anyways stay childfree stay single guys dont bring any innocent kid here in this cruel existence #antinatalism #osho #alanwatts
Even pre nups don't work out for men.
Moreover humans r polygamous by nature not monogamous. Marriage is a man-made social construct to keep the society going. It's obvious that no other animal does it.
Once a wife asked her husband why he doesn't make love to her daily like bulls do to cows. Then her husband replied go ask the bull if he makes love to the same cow daily 😂
Don't forget getting divorce is expensive too!
I heard that some people only stay together "for the kids". I would like to hope that the parents equally love their children, even if they don't necessarily love each other anymore. But there are some parents out there that outright say to their kid that they regret having them... That's such an unfortunate circumstance for the kids who let's be honest, never got to decide they wanted to be here in the first place. Then, because kids are so eaily manipulated, they can believe one parent into hating the other for reasons that may not even be true. Sad world we live in... 😢
They’re so worried about their kids being labeled as b-stards. The best thing they can do is take care of their kid.
Just look at the divorce rate. So many persons I know have been divorced and remarried and divorced again. This is crazy. And if there are kids the kids are all messed up mentally from the stress they had to endure.
Yea how do people get married then divorced and want to marry again after going through that crap. I never understood that.
I don’t see a future with anyone because we are losing our roots fundamentally I can’t for the life of me understand people these days I try to be whole because we live once and once you lose yourself that’s it find your spirit before the ego consumes you
Getting a license through a third party to be married is ignorant.... Contracts aren't made with pieces of paper.... You simply ask will you marry me and when they say I do or don't.. this is a full spiritual contract... Then if one of them won a divorce they work it out on their own without a third party interrupting the contract
For me it’s struggling and going through hoops just to make a point. I’m not against the idea of marriage. I’m against the constant pressure of the need and the hype of weddings.
Then the tv shows surrounding marriage. Bridezilla, Married at first sight, Bridalplasty, four weddings, and the constant specials on Food Network. Me at sixteen being convinced that I’m going to be a spinster.
Yeah marriage is overrated. You’re taking a risk being married. You can lose your assets, money, and mental health from it. It’s even worse when the kids experience parents divorce and it can affect their mental health if the divorce isn’t healthy.
Thing is you can love someone without getting married and you’re most likely better off being single nowadays. Also marriage is a social norm and society pressures people to get married.
Good video man and I agree with the reasons you mentioned on why people get married and why it’s overrated.
I think The only reason men go through with all of the problems associated with marriage which are now immense for men is because they want intimacy with a woman. But I’m a man who is gay who has never felt any desire for women. I do not have crushes on women nor do I feel any arousal for women. Therefore, there is zero reasons why I would ever have a wife and kids in my life.
@@timothydowd4180 yessir if u remove sex from marriage half population will never marry
It would be the same thing if you married a man, only no kids biologically unless you wanted to adopt or have a woman do IVF from one of your sperm or the other's sperm.
The point of marriage in the west used to be to ensure exclusivity, but it was policed by the community around the couple through religious and cultural norms, and the penalties associated with breaking them. Since the community is now just a sea of individuals with no particular stake on the outcome of a particular marriage, the norms have largely been abandoned and both the religions and the culture in general, with all their landmarks, exist now mostly for the sake of enhancing tourism, there is no enforcement mechanism. It also doesn't work economically because both parties are working and having children is incredibly expensive.
I think the reason it doesn't work for men in particular is that the other party is not going to share what she earns. Or will share it, but the cost will be too high. Or will stop working at some point. Or work a small fraction of the hours the man does, while claiming equality. So in most cases it's a pure financial loss to get married. And that's before you begin to consider the one-sided legal framework for divorces.
@@Cheirosa81 I wish it wasn't.
I didn't design a world in which you end up in the streets without money.
But I find myself living in such a world.
Men get married despite all this, but I think numbers-wise it's a financial loss on average.
If you are Jeff Bezos it might not matter to you, but if your are Joe Yerkoff it might matter a lot.
Wow...well said!
@@Cheirosa81 Divorce is about money too
@@Cheirosa81 I thank the patriarchy for a lot. It's vastly superior to any matriarchy ever created. I wish we were living in a patriarchy still, maybe things wouldn't be on fire. Politicians would be held to account for their transgressions, for one thing. Appeals to emotion over facts and logic wouldn't work in regards to important matters. I could go on and on.
Agree with most of what you've said. I think marriage was really just a way to get people to stick together to raise kids, because kids need support from both parents. I think children are the main reason marriage is still incentivized. The world just wants you to bring more people into this shithole existence to make it better for the few. I'm okay with being called a cynic because that's exactly how I see it. Marriage and the dream it sells is marketing, to get you to buy into the procreational ponzi scheme.
But about arranged marriages, I do want to fact-check you on one point. At least as far as India's concerned, parents no longer have the final say. The way it works now it's more like arranged dating, after which the man and the woman get to decide if they feel like they're a good fit. That said, some communities no doubt still practice the archaic version but it's much less heard of now.
One parent is enough.
Ok but it is still sort of forcing a person to hook up with someone either way. It's not right.
@@RedPillOption It's not force if you have the option to say no though and it's an option more people are choosing now.
Also nobody is forced to "hook up" with anyone. If anything parents on both sides would hate it if their kids hook up with their arranged dates before deciding whether or not they want to get married.
These arranged dates are usually pretty formal and PG. There's pressure on both sides to act right because if they don't, it ruins their family's reputation.
I bet u either make these videos while ur wife is not around or she doesn't know English so well 😂
Maybe, maybe not 🤷
@@RedPillOption haha another wife fearing obedient hubby lmao 🤣
@@finaldestination41 If you say so
What you’re describing is hedonism. It’s why the world is so F’d up..
People Need some discipline and lessons though marriage.
The same why people
Need bosses. Few leaders 99% followers.
@@ssing7113 we don’t need more people to lead as that has led us to where we are right now. We need more good human beings here but that isn’t happening as the whole system is corrupt and forces people to be desperate thus activating the survival at all costs mechanism.
Nope, disagree….I had a very happy 20 yr marriage, but he passed away…Marriage equals the effort you put into being a partner every day….people nowadays don’t seem to have any morals, want instant gratification, are impatient, and show no compassion for others, and have no negotiation skills…it’s still the best game in town in my opinion!
Is your observation on people today really true?
@ I’m 68 yrs old, and I’ve been around for awhile, and I’ve dealt with many many different types of people in my career..,from my observations, YES very true..,we need a lot more love and compassion in this world, not negativity…
For some it works and they are happy which is absolutely fine. But it's not for everyone.
@ This is true…much is dependent on both in the relationship being emotionally available, without past baggage, emotionally mature, and having good negotiation, communication skills,and wanting to put equal effort into establishing a healthy relationship,happy relationship….
Are you gay Nick? I only ask bc whenever you refer to your significant other, you fail to mention their gender,
so that leaves me to conclude you're married to another man. I'm not going to judge you, I'm not God,
but being coy is a dead give away.
@@gregholman2930 Nope not gay.
Why ask? Is it a problem?
That’s why many men have gone there own way. MGTOW 👍
Your saying nobody should live alone is another form of dictatorship. How can you speak for everyone? What do you think of the pope, the Dalai Lama, monks, Jesus Christ, Isaac Newton, Nicholas Tesla, etc? You do you but don't project your sh*t in others.
Unnecessary comment
Do not let your hysterical animus ruin your life, woman.
Opinions are not laws. Don't project your sh*t in others.
Humans are naturally social creatures at least in present day and when the evil lockdowns happened, look what happened. Proof is all over the place. There is always an exception to the rule as in some people prefer to be completely alone.
@@joeber3869 good reply 👏 👌
@@RedPillOption a great manly reply 👌