Acceptance Not Working For Anxiety? Avoid This CRITICAL Mistake
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- Опубликовано: 18 июн 2024
- Many people hear acceptance is the way towards anxiety recovery. But what Shaan find's is that most people use acceptance as a tool to avoid their anxiety.
In this video, Shaan breaks down this common, critical mistake when people are on their anxiety recovery and healing journey.
Let me know in the comments below if you have any questions/concerns and I'll do my best to answer your questions.
This video is intended to be for educational purposes, not diagnosing. You should work with a physician to seek a medical diagnosis.
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This really worked for my physical symptoms. Now I am trying to use the same approach for mental chatter that is still somewhat present. Anxiety is a very tricky mind game.
How u now?
Plz reply
I kako ti ide? Jesi uspela?
I’m fine with the anxiety chillin in my chest. My issue is my thoughts. They become a constant loop of horrible things and even when I let them pass, it’s the only thing I think about.
Do the very best you can to focus on present moment, I know it doesn’t seem real at times, but it is. It’s the same reason why when we watch YT or play video games that we can feel really good, because we’re living in the moment, not caring about the anxiety. We are living our lives. It takes time, but if you retain your focus you can do it. Don’t give up!
You are really and really helping people: Giving people their lives back. I mean, nobody ever explained to me what acceptance really means. I always did it the wrong way and never realized I am using it as a method and damaging myself everyday with even more and more fear. You explained it in this video so clearly and it all made sense. Thank you so much! I finally felt like I was living and breathing normally during an anxiety attack.
Thanks Shaan.. beautifully worded!
You really went thru lot of Anxiety and overcome. Your advice is golden. You have nailed what ACCEPTANCE in this video.
Every time you post a video
It’s just what I need to hear. Every time. Thanks Shaan!
Great job on video. And the visual quality is “AAA”. Looks very professional.
These 3 words of wisdom let it be🙏😊
Thank you for the example of the coaster. It's confusing when I hear just sit with it, watch it etc. This is easier to understand. Thank you
The coaster was best example yet lol seriously leave it in the frame 👍☺️
God bless you shaan Thank you for giving us a new hope
You are an angel Thank you So much ❤️
This the most important video to watch i watch it everyday. Once you believe you are not dying from some undiagnosed condition. Thanks so much shaan
I owe a lot to you and everything you have taught me so I can live my life again. Thank You!!! 💞💞💞💞💞
Thank you!
Did you buy the program a
@@melissabrill8367 hi.. I did not do the mentorship. But if you are feeling stuck or just having a hard time. It’s a great idea. Sometimes we are just doing the simplest things incorrect. We won’t notice it. I have done his workshop. Watched many of his videos. It’s alot of work you have to put into this. But if you want to fully overcome this and are ready or have tried and struggling. Just reach out and see if you are a good fit. They will tell you straight up. It’s free to get in touch with him and his team. Best of luck. ❤️
That ending part is just beautifully interpreted!
Shaan, can you make a video on how to deal with intrusive thoughts and questions about loved ones? How to place acceptance when it comes to irrational questions?
This is so brilliantly explained. I do this a lot and the key is to always stay present. So as soon as I feel anxious I remind myself that I am resisting and wanting the feeling to go away. By just staying present and watching it (accepting it), it goes away. But I can always tell if I'm truly accepting or not because if it stays, I know that I'm not accepting. I'm wishing it would go away.....which keeps it there as you stated.
i agree.. disempower the anxiety by honoring its presence and stay.
Love that saying!
I have been taught that it is not just one thing but a few things you have to do to soften your anxiety and panic attacks. To me acceptance is one of the things to do to minimize the fear then all the other ways to help you with anxiety.
dude I think this is exactly what I've been stuck in for years. acceptance as a compulsive method to push away anxiety.
This was really helpful. Thank you
You’re welcome!
Thank you Shaan.I know acceptance is only way out, I was wondering how and you explained it today.
Glad it helped.
How u now?
U did save a lot of people ❤️
I'm in the beginning stages of anxiety recovery and I have been making the mistake of trying to fully accept an anxiety attack then hope it goes away. I didn't realize I was making a mistake. That is not truly accepting. Thank you Shaan for your insight. I'm making great progress. However it seems that I need a little course correction from time to time
Exactly. It's the "hope it will go away" part that keeps us stuck.
Thank you Shaan for this video. Does it help to repeat a phrase such as "it's okay" or "it's completely fine" internally? Also, can you make a detailed video on the concept of "watching/observing", I really struggle to understand it.
Now I understand ... been doing it wrong for so long that's why it keeps on coming back... Amma try this new learning from you Sir
This is the third time I have gone through this and it gets harder every time, especially now that I am retired.
What are your symptoms
Okay, I am not stupid, I somehow always knew, that acceptance is the way out, that nothing really works in a sense. But I got trapped anyway. Now, thanks to you and your incredible depth and precision of every little tiny detail, which are so important during recovery, I feel like I can do this. You gave me the missing piece and much more than that. The way you are mapping this out for people is absolutely amazing. Thanks man. You clearly know what you are talking about and I am sure you saved so many people from hell. It is not easy, but your guidance is probably the best it can be. Cheers.
How are you now
Hi shaan, I've followed your channel for year and this truly helps big up🙏
Glad it helps!
Fucking talk fast
@@rolandobarcenas760 speed up the video.
Thank you so much
Accpetance means as it is accpet whatever felling, emotion, thought, symptoms and can't want to change
Great Video! 👌
I have a question about anxiety acceptance: Is it ok telling yourself to feel and tolerate the anxiety and uncertainty (like a phrase) so you can focus more on the anxiety? Or is that some kind of compulsion?
Thanks
Now imagine a 300-pound coaster resting on top of your head.
Whats helping me now is reminding myself that im accepting to feel, not to abruply end it (something i probably havent been doing a whole lot). Eventually through that body will know to take care of itself.
hey do you think it’ll be okay if we could potentially share advice or connect, because maybe we can help each other in our journey
@@ulquiorra1235 I'm hesitant there and I'll tell you why- through my journey in therapy, it's becoming apparent to me my response mechanism were shaped during my broken childhood and how I eventually created a shell of patterns as a "defense" during adulthood. The anxiety framework fits differently in subjective experiences. If I were to share one of my own pieces of advice/ insight from my journals and it doesnt really fit you, it might only end up derailing you or maybe intensify your symptoms even more when it's totally unnecessary and might not even be relevant for you during this state where the mind is already working overtime to fix this. And at times my own advices werent good for me myself! I dont want to do that to anyone. Unless done under expert guidance i dont feel it's a good idea to tag along with others in this journey even if its tempting (as harsh as it sounds even I've been there, tried to do that...). Goodluck to you my man. Except what's being discussed out here in this channel, I dont think I will add anything and I feel it's for your own good that I don't do it and the same vice versa.
Thanks
I get the horrible symptoms of anxiety but they don't scare me anymore. Hopefully I recover soon its been really annoying 🤨
how are u feeling now
What do you do when the symptoms prevent you from sleeping?
Look away from it long enough and then when you’re not looking at it, it will sneak off when your back is turned. You won’t even notice when it happened. Leave it at that, put it behind you.
Amazing. 👏
Now this advice I have to write down and KEEP.
Great
if i’m experiencing obsessive thought patterns about body but i actually think i look good and confident and they don’t stress me out and make me feel ugly this isn’t body dysmorphia right ? because the same thing happens with criticism it loops my head but i’m rational about them this isn’t bdd no? i have adhd and ocd
Hi Shaan. Hope you are well. Can we also apply this to anxiety when driving on the freeway? I feel like this is definitely doable anywhere else but driving I feel may have it’s own “real” dangers?
Made videos specifically about driving. Make sure to check those out
O sea que debemos dejar al sintoma y no hacer nada para que se vaya ?? Simplemente dejar de buscar soluciones para la ansiedad ?? Por que si buscamos soluciones significa que le tenemos miedo
Hi Shan...thanks for this information...In my case..It's been more than 2 months m feeling like vomit all the time n cz of this m not enjoying my food...but sometime it goes itself...
This happened to me today, with anxiety i have insomnia as well and sometimes i wake up with that feeling of anxiety, nausea and vomitting and if i try to be more present i cannot, because as i cannot sleep well and deep i cannot focus on present. Just this weird warm sensation in my head and in my body. Really tired of this. Can you tell me how you are doing now? And how you managed ?
I feel for you. I also have nausea, vomiting and loose bowels as my primary physical symptoms. I am just beginning this journey of recovery. All the best
I have this weird OCD of thinking about a dead person who died long ago who was my classmate. she pops up in my mind every now and then.. I didn't had any kind of close relationship with her, was just a mere classmate but my mind just keeps repeating thoughts of her every now and then. I just don't want to think but my mind keeps making this scenarios of thinking. it's frustrating me out
So do what you would normally do even if you feel super uncomfortable with your symptoms?
yes just let it be there and allow it, keep doing what you were doing
Bro I didn't got your free report make a video on it
So, I understand this but with the dissociation anxiety symptom I am so fricken scared by it. Do you allow the symptom and the fear of it, or does that mean I'm not allowing it. With the allowing it, does that mean the fear should go? It blows cuz the dissociation is 24/7 now.....
You accept it...you can still fear it yes
You don't do anything about it
Hi so if I have feelings sensations in my chest I just let them be there also I am experiencing dreams every night and I will wake up with strong feelings in my chest why is this happening I am going through dp and dr thanks
I think I'm 80% recovered I got with setbacks many times but I'm able to handle it . I hope I will be 100% recovered
My depersonalization and derealization intensity is really low 😁, thank you Shaan love from India 🇮🇳🙏🏻
Do you also suffer from intrusive thoughts?
Thanks for the share :)
@@theLGI93 yes I am physics student before anxiety I enjoy to research about universe and it principles but after getting that , they were looking horrible and weird but now it's intensity is low I hope I will back to normal soon and continue my research, day after day my intrusive thoughts intensity started to decrease
@@saqlain3470 what did u do?
@@nainakarera422 listen his videos and read at least a life book , that book will help you a lot :) I'm telling you because I have felt all those feelings now I want to help people
Don't run for recovery let recovery chase you, don't put pressure on your mind how you are feeling just continue living life :)
Am I right to say, when I get debilitating pain day in and day out due to highly sensitized system, and with almost constant fight or flight, you want to let it be there and try my best to focus on "life"??
Sounds ridiculous, but is this the only way out??
Any help here is deeply appreciated
How u now ?
Plz tell
Can’t find the link
When I try to accept. My symptoms and panic attacks get worse
That's good it's trying to protect to you I have pain from anxiety everyday.upperbidy
Pls suggest me ..what to do..m really pissed off
How are you doing now?
I have to stop hating anxiety. Love and hate are opposites. Indifference is the way, but how do I get there?
What I’ve been doing is every time I get anxiety, I tell myself that it’s just my bodies way of protecting me. My brain doesn’t know there isn’t danger and you can’t hate your dog if he barks at the mailman, right? It’s just a false alarm. Think of your anxiety as dog. You love your dog, but sometimes your dog annoys you. You don’t try to get rid of your dog if he barks when there’s no danger right? Haha I hope this makes sense.
@@kyliemartinez1507 have you cured pain from anxiety
basically, don't give a **** to the symptons?
Does anxiety and this brain zap symptom cause our barin damage gradually??🥺
Nope
Awwww this 8s just your intrusive thoughts that's a symptom of you having anxiety
Nope trust me I know. Nope your brain will be fine
When heart palpitations happens i divert the thoughts and fight them but helps, is that a good way to deal with anxiety rather then accepting?
I think what you resist,persist. I tried that and it kind of worked but how long you will fight, new new issues rise up and you need to keep on fighting so I think acceptance may be better. Just started practising.
@@Magicallife888 do you have any contact
@@danialaziz9657 any contact with whom?
@@Magicallife888 i mean do you have personal account social there we talk
@@danialaziz9657 ig plutonichealer
You perpetuate it by fighting it or just seeing it as something that needs your attention and action. It needs you to leave it the hell alone. You are not the solution, your own self talk is the problem. Been there done that, kicked it years ago
Well said!!!
@@byebyepanic Your video explained so well with a visual example that I've been trying to accept "away" my anxiety symptoms (then checking if they are still there) instead of accepting them to be there. Not easy at all.
Bro that self talk.. that's my biggest problem.. every morning the instant i wake up i feel the uncertainty that if this day is going to be fine? Then i start to self talk that it's fine and start to advice myself and start to think that through for solutions.. how to accept this self talks?
Bobby Cannavale !
Who?
He's an actor. He's actually pretty good looking 😉
But shaan in my case I've been dealing with suicidal fears and fears in general that i might get hurt each time i try to accept it it makes me scared and i start to worry about it getting worse in thr future I've been dealing with those intrusive thoughts since January sometimes i bring them just to see how i could would feel but it all leads back to that vicious cycle of fearing the thoughts what should i do ? Should i keep fighting it like that or should i take medication to get rid of it ?
Bro same here but from last 2 years
@@sukhimahal5153 omg bro you've been dealing with this situation for 2 year's? Did you take medication bro did it feel better after medication or you managed it by yourself?
But dont take medication untill any real medical problem. Just consider the thoughts to be bubbles which will pop one day.
That’s not real acceptance, real acceptance would be to do nothing about it. Fear it, yes, it is scary I used to be there 24/7 just like you, but that’s the point of acceptance, accept that you’re scared but don’t do anything about it, don’t fight it. If your fighting it or trying to fix it, you’re not accepting.
@leonid Ivanov it was like hell to me.but yes, bro just continue living the day. I went to different doctors and they all told me that it was just in my mind. So one day I was sitting in the garden and just think about my thoughts, it was just like going through some scrap (as I consider them) but in the end I know that they would not harm me because they are just thoughts.
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Thank you for the example otherwise , I wouldnt have understood this video 😂
Recover..?
Shaan is it normal with anxiety that everytime i try to not fight my head symptoms this weird movement and pulsating feeling in my head and blurry vision 24/7 the fear pops up that i should not ignore it cause it could be something dangerous even though i got a MRI and many tests done all was fine but the MRI was some Months ago and now this fear comes back cause the symptoms havent left.. Literally everytime i dont want to fight the symptoms the fear tells me this is something serious dont lie to your self that your healthy...
How are you now
Talking to coaster 😂😂
Uh oh shaan is talking to inanimate objects again
I'm losing it lol
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