I don't have a hard time attracting people. I think it is much harder to genuinely find someone you can connect with (without ulterior motives), feel vulnerable enough to be emotionally intimate with, and feel understood.
Agreed. My problem isn't "getting a girl," it's finding a decent girl, period, let alone getting her. I tried dating apps but deleted them because there were hardly any women that I even wanted to swipe right on.
@@Ishmam_Dhrubo been incel many times. Been dumped due to my clingy mess of a self from years ago. I might attract women but keeping them is another story. Not the case now a days but old me was total insecure mess
@@jcransome5616 She can swipe right and leave you on read, belief me (women can lose attraction extremely easy). I think that every high value male should develop game.
I'm 6'2, Athletic and not a bad looking guy. I get people giving compliments about my looks on a weekly basis. Am also outgoing and can hold a conversation but have had a dry spell for two years. It's gotten to a point where I am frustrated because I know the attraction is there with women but I can't get the connection I'm looking for. Maybe it's me, I don't know... But all I want is one girl. I am not looking for ONS anymore they are empty. I'm at the brink of giving up on love.
Feel ya bro, as a little bit shorter, probably less athletic atm guy, shits tough. I’m personally lost between trying to be “the bad boy” and being “who I am” because nothing seems to have an effect. Of course living in Vegas might be the problem for me cause I don’t own a penthouse.
If you and other people that replied to your comment are that attractive and still can't get a girl I think I should already give up on this because to be very much honest nothing attractive arround me and yet I'm chasing fantasy dreams. Girls never give me any attention therefore I'm not even thinking about getting a beautiful girl, but I'm afraid I will not get any girl.
I'm quite a handsome guy, I'm not a male model but I've been told many times I'm really handsome and I get looks in public on a daily basis. Based on my experience with girls: do NOT, as an attractive guy, mistake lack of trust for lack of attraction. Most women are suspicious when a handsome guy approaches them or tells them they like them, and this cold behaviour is - way more often than not - a lack of trust and NOT a lack of attraction.
- believe in yourself a bit more - play it chill - don't take anything to seriously - be a bit funny or goofy - If nothing works remember that being single is great
@@emperornephew6487 I mean I’m only funny when I’m silly , I have a hard time making up jokes or humor sometimes” . I would think that RN don’t try to be funny but rather learn humor first - like what I’m about to do also
I am reasonably attractive and have status, and women usually like me a lot. It never helped me getting a girlfriend. All the women I liked in my life, without exception, were already taken, usually married. I think the biggest problem of high quality men by far on the dating market is that we have instinctive standards, we look for a suitable match. However, those women are rare and have a massive sexual market value, so they are usually off the dating market latest by age 25,usually much earlier. I couldn't figure out how to find attractive yet single women. I am already older and feel I need to give up on the idea of ever finding love.
Do you get lots of matches? Do you get lots of Instagram follows? Are you getting friend requests? Are women dming you? If not, then women aren’t attracted. Your friends and family don’t have a valid opinion
I've had the same problem. I have women interested in me, but they're not women I'm interested in. It's hard for me to find women I'm interested in, at all. I'm 29 and ready to settle down, so I'm looking for a wife, not just a girlfriend or a fling, so my standards are very high. You're right that many of the highest quality women are already married by 25, often by 22-23. I've been coming to terms recently with the fact that I'll just need to date younger women.
I've been told my entire life that I'm good looking, and I'm still a virgin at 29... I had SEVERE social anxiety & low-esteem growing up, which pretty much made dating unfeasible. It's improved quite a bit since then, but now the problem is it seems like every, single, fairly attractive woman I meet is already taken/ married. I'm not even exaggerating.. Every. Single. Woman. It's becoming more and more apparent that I might have simply just missed the boat 😕
I went up to about 13 women for their number at the gym and 11 said they were taken/married. The ones that are single are single for a reason and have so much emotional baggage that it's better for them to sink into their despair than to give them a time of day.
I'm practically the person as addressed in the video, just with a little addition of being pretty cold to people I don't know cuz I kind of dislike being around strangers and crowds. That was probably one of the reasons why I didn't really find myself in serious relationships. Didn't really mind not having a girl for years, but I have one now who actually appreciates me for who I am and understands me inside out. The degree of compatibility is just indescribable. Thank God for blessing me with such a wonderful person. Love her so much :)
Many Women want an attractive guy until they actually land one. It brings out a lot of insecurities it seems and they can’t handle when the man is just as “pretty” if not prettier than they are.
I've heard it said that girls want a guy that's just a little bit better than them overall, but that they don't like it if he's too far out of their league. They think that they won't be able to keep him and it drives them crazy. I think that's true.
This is a tough one. A lot of women say I’m really good looking but I’ve had friends make fun of the way I look so I’m not sure where I live on the spectrum. Guess I’ll have to start going out to bars and clubs and find out. Never really been a big fan of doing that but every time I have done it I’ve had a decent amount of success.
If you believe you’re attractive, you most likely are If you believe you’re funny looking then most likely you are. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Have the confidence
@@jkshallinheritearth3883 I know it sounds confusing but I’ve dated pretty hot women but I’ve also been rejected by sixes and sevens so I guess it gets a little confusing you start to wonder if you are just believing your own hype. Like am I really objectively attractive or am I just some women’s kind? Also I have radically changed my appearance a lot over the years. I was always bald but as I’ve gotten older I have grown my hair out so this also affects the way I perceive myself at times because I’m not sure which version of me is more attractive. I don’t know dude I get in my head about it but all the comments on here are pretty helpful.
I mean, if you are good looking but dont feel confident your confidence is perceived to be 10x lower than if a normal looking guy has low self confidence. Girls dont expect a very good looking guy to have confidence isues. They expect the good looking guy to be good in all the other aspects of life when in fact being good looking and unconfident sucks cause you are constantly on the spotlight. Ive been told im good looking even tho I know every girl has a different taste.
The checklist for what makes men attractive to women is longer than it is vice versa. Because of that you can be a good looking guy but also not be attractive if you are deficient in confidence and social skills, ect. I remember a family friend “a straight male” said he thought I was one of the most handsome men on the planet. But I can’t find a girlfriend save my life.
This is it. You need to have a masculine personality/aura or hope you find a girl that likes a shy guy. Otherwise, being good looking and unconfident can really play against you
For me the issue isn't looks or status its more so finding the right girl who aligns with my values and checks my boxes as my goal is to find my wife not just hook up with a cute girls for some time.
Ive been told im good looking all my life but I have been waiting for a nice, authentic, intelligent girl. That is my struggle, every girl where I live is some sort of characature of an instagram personality with the will and ambition of a farm animal. They just throw on fake tan and get drunk every weekend and have got zero understanding of anything in the world. You cannot even converse with them about anything other than something on netflix or how drunk they got last night.
This comment and the thoughts in it have kept me awake for so many nights, our problem surpasses looks here, you are not looking for chicks, you're looking for a woman. So videos like this my friend won't help you much, it is more a matter of luck finding a girl who's pretty with a harvested mind and openess to new topics
Since most, or a large amount, of women nowadays are like this, make yourself better. Keep working on yourself and when someone matches you, they’ll be there and they’ll be a woman, not just like every other girl. Become better for your sake and people will be attracted to your accomplishments. When you become more successful and start earning your way into successful groups, you’ll find better people in general.
@@nimaelyasi4287 most women follow a trend like most men if most women in a certain place are drunk the men likely moreso do not generalize it bites you in the ass harder then your dad hitting you with a stick so hard it breaks after one strike
@@nimaelyasi4287 mmmh as a woman myself, I used to think like that, and yes is true in many cases, but also many times, after the first impresion, I discovered many girls with much more depth to them, than what it seems at first sight, and now I'm more open to people😃, and also have more friends, turns out I just needed to give more space and time to the other person.
@@CharlieBennettGuitar I agree. I had this "it'll just happen when you least expect it" attitude for years and it never got me anywhere. It's only since I've been putting active effort into intentionally trying to meet women that I've started making progress.
@Alek Wolf i don't think he meant it literally tho. of course that if you just wait for the right girl to come, she will never ever come to you. the point is, after trying and failing with so many girls, one day you'll meet a girl that clicks with you
I’ve been in the same situation, Im very handsome but I’ve never had a girl being interested in me.. and to top it off I’m an introverted type of man so I’ve never been the most interesting man out there..
My suggestion would be to break the nervous barrier for you and the girl…a simple longer look and smile might cause a girl to approach you. Other than that, remember to stay “alpha” and never crumble over ur shyness.
I'm a solidly handsome guy. Not exactly a model, but quite above average. In line of the concept of incongruence: do NOT, as an attractive guy, hit on below average girls, even if you genuinely like them. It does not matter how much game you have, hitting on a girl who is much below you in attractiveness is often met with a big dose of skepticism. Go for girls that are of your own level or slightly below. I've made this mistake in the past, most girls that would react negatively on my advances were the ones lowest in attractiveness
Yes a look like a Walmart version of David Gandy. And when I look for girls as friends (I don’t approach or want sex with girls since many girls are so full of themselves nowadays, I usually don’t want to force anything), it ends up with 1) being ghosted and then seeing them irl with them being unaware of the damage given to me. 2) being liked
In my experience it has to do with their confidence. Pretty girls know they are worth your attention, and in my case i get looks from pretty girl and the average ones act snobby/ look angry. Trust me it has nothing to do with you it's in their minds
Yeah the uglier ones have the most to say.. but on podcasts the yare loud we want attractive dudes( HONEY YOU CAN'T HANDLE ATTRACTIVE DUDE YOUR EGO IS BIGGER THAN YOUR BODY )
Bro. I’d never dated a girl until a little over a month ago. Lots of girls had crushes on me, but we never dated. Last month a girl approached me and started to talk to me. I asked her out and we had some pretty flawed dates. I had 0 game. But I was genuine with her and everything worked out
I had the same issues as well. I will see from their body language that they are interested. But it almost like they put this wall and try to ignore me on purpose. Thanks this help a lot
your english is fine :) I had/ have the same problem, but imo it is really often just a lack of experience. I am still a very quiet person in most circumstances, but I am no longer uncomfortable with basic social situations. That comes with age :) (Though you should try to meet as many new people as you can and use opportunities to socialize etc, especially if you do not really want to in that moment)
Samee got the shy and attractive problem.. once there was this girl in the bus sitting next to me and she was looking at me all the time the only thing that came out of my mouth was "hey" and she said "hey" and then it stopped XD fckng awkward I know
It really boils down to not putting yourself out there and not taking risks. I'm about to try cold approaches mainly because I don't leave the house much. Also, I get a lot of attention from girls online and IRL so that might help.
I think the good looking guys that struggle in dating are generally ones that are late bloomers. It takes a while for their personalities to catch up with their looks.
Girls check me out at me all the time. And when i say all the time, I mean all the time! Clubs, shopping malls, events, the streets, at the doctor and even in the most odd places you could possibly think like the bus! Basically everytime I step out of the house! I know I am extremely good looking but I just don't know how and when to approach. I just enjoy the validation when it happens and then regret it after for months and years to come! I am 19 and have never had a girlfriend, I am just praying it's not that much of a big thing...
For handsome guys: don't try too hard building attraction. You have to play the "don't fuck up" game and make sure your game aligns with your perceived value
Humm, okay I'm a shy person but everyone thinks I'm not. So saying nothing is easy as long as I don't get nervous. But your advice has been helping me so I can't complain. Thanks man
Bro there's nthing in the modern girls/women. Don't make any love affair. I'm also a single. If you understand women's psychology deeply thrn you'll never like them anymore.
Just confidence bro, if you're attractive and confident, everything about women is piece of cake. I mean, when I talk about confidence, it's the ability for you to maximize your sexual appeal well.
My issue is that I was annoying and obnoxious when I was younger and now that I’m older and more mature, everyone still calls me annoying and stuff because I’m in school and it’s hard to change peoples opinion of you.
I bet ur not even 20 yet, don’t even worry about it….to be honest , girls ur age probably want guys 5-7 years older than u/them. If you want to search for a relationship so young, I’d definitely suggest a girl 1-2 grades below you !
I'm very handsome when I walk at street like a famous actor but I'm fucking arrogance I always looking for better unitel I found myself single for 10 year's, 😂
@@barmyrishiarts4978 Is not low self esteem. I don't think I'm ugly, but I know I'm not the most attractive person either. I'm normal, but I've accepted it and I'm happy about it.
@@barmyrishiarts4978 Is not low self esteem. I don't think I'm ugly, but I know I'm not the most attractive person either. I'm normal, but I've accepted it and I'm happy about it.
I thought I was the only guy called handsome yet single for life. I just don't get it. Sometimes I wish I were ugly then my rejections would makes sense. I think women just have too many options so they easily shoot down a great guy like myself just for fun. They get a real thrill about it.
Damn Bratt, just got some same experience this days! Dolls really exited if u got model look, and “model” behaviour. It’s sad but real fact( Thx for videos goat
Im a runway model but Im one of those weird looking models...not conventionally attractive but unique looking. Im very androgynous and its hard for me to get attention from girls cause im automatically assumed to be gay or feminine
Bro just lift, trust me on this one. I was 130lbs and now I weigh 175lbs, most of the gain is lean muscle. Also very androgynous face and did some modeling, people call me pretty boy. But women think I am much hotter now, having broad shoulders, a thick neck and buff arms will help you a lot. You don’t have to be huge just buff, still fit size 29 jeans and I used to wear 26-27. Oh and lift for your own confidence first and foremost, that’s more important than women
@@cosmo7779 pretty boys are actually the most desired by girls. I have feminine features but my cheekbones and facial structure is masculine, so it really helps! Girls desire a mix of masculinity and feminity in a guy
This video is what I needed. I'm a pretty good lookin 6'4 " dude with style and when I'm outside walking with ppl like my brov, they tell me I'm getting eyeballed all the time by girls. But when I talk to some they seem real cold and shy. I feel like a lot of girls are showing ppl who they think are attractive the cold sholder as a defense mechanism. I don't really fckin know, it really confuses me. But it probably has to do with my vibe i guess
Exactly, I was talking at work with a girl. She didn't aks me questions. Only I did ask her. I just want to talk but most good looking are cold. I get also the idea they do it because of defense or scared i flirt with them. I just wanna talk so annoying.
honestl man im good looking tall, ripped real hadsome but its crazy how the world can make you feel like you aren't all because you actually are handsome it genuinely is weird as fuck. The girls who like you don't smile whyen you look at them etc its just weird. That's why most women will never date an attractive guy
@@alleyezonme40it is weird. In social settings they'll eye ball you alot and always walk around you or near you but expect you to approach. Soon as you do they already gunned you down before you even attempted to talk to them. It's bs lol. If they're with friends you most likely are going to only attract the least attractive and craziest one out the group. Because she has no fear of rejection from an attractive guy because it wouldn't be as shocking compared to rejecting a better looking girl. Even in old age women settle down with out of shape guys or just plain Jane casual men they're more comfortable with , which is nothing wrong with that but it's the facts. Handsome men usually just can get quickies and one night stands. But keep in mind that you won't be the cause of any of it and most likely the woman would be the one doing all the heavy lifting. Because she only has one goal in mind. But will pretend like they're shy . Whole time their just not trying to look desperate and give themselves away.
@@pàrés_wtf69 Ur a woman? Maybe u know then. Bc I'm fr frustrated that all gals think I'm out of their league. They just stop working but I myself am really jus a real insecure goofy guy too.💀😭
"Isn't she cute? Alright get outta here." *smack* 🤣 Good man You're totally right though. We really have to live by different rules. Just like rich people, others look at us and assume we have everything when we're probably more miserable than they are. But you have no right to complain in their eyes, so you have to be humble. Women are intimidated but they also make a whole lot of assumptions that you have to prove to them aren't true or they won't waste their time with you. I'd say life is easier for guys who rate a 7 or 8. Attractive, but not so attractive that people make assumptions about them
When you are a guy, looks don’t necessarily mean that much to women. Looks do matter to a certain degree but personality and status are definitely want they look for.
I think looks, personality and status are the three pillars, with each one having different value to different women. Looks are very useful but can falter fast if you don't have personality to back it. Personality on the other hand, that NEVER fails
keep lying to yourself. looks matter to women as much as looks matter to men no woman gives a fuck about status unless it's about marriage and forming a family
@@neolink8197 nope I'm a descent good looking guy 5'9 gets attention from. Girls but much quickly within days they loose interest in me once i was fed up to a point i asked one why they started been so off around me and one said that my personality is trash and boring keep in mind i got a friend who's below average and shorter yet way more successful with 68 laycount when i asked him for tips he told me. I'm too shy and have a feminine personality. And gaved me the "just be confident bro" advice which incels hates. I'm usually rated at least 7/10 by both girls and guys max 8/10 and uglier and average guys even fat ones have better dating life and social life than me. "looks are everything" my ass 🍑👈🏼
@@qanniccwomen do not equally care about looks as much as men do, literally saying that proves you DON’T understand women at all lol, women are hypergamous, men are not hypergamous, google the word hypergamy
@@AnanAdhil2571lamborghiniyes you live in the real world and finally understand blackpill redpill & manosphere is full of cow poop, looks are not that important to women, if all you have going for you is looks, you have to match women’s energy & be her *jester* in a way, it’s the truth, looks aren’t the end all be all to get women, you don’t just look good and BAM you’re smashing all the chicks, the only way to smash a lot of women easily without having to be a jester is to have an above average lifestyle, men are success objects women are sex objects, once a woman sees you have noticeably above average lifestyle, then she’ll be attracted to you, and smashing her will be smooth, that’s how you actually win with women, not looks, every guy who claims looks is the best/most important are either losers who aren’t connected to reality, or they’re spreading misinformation to keep guys ignorant
Im 6’0, i have hunter eyes, sharp jawline, decent bodyfat percentage, green eyes, good looking eyebrows and i have a decent amount of muscle mass. Ive also had multiple compliments and my friends are absolutely shocked i cant “pull”. But i suffer from a crippling loneliness that has haunted me for all 18 years on this planet. Not once have I done anything with a girl. The more interactions I have with these evil creatures the lonlier I feel. Its like a tease. I met this beautiful girl at a party once, and she went around telling all of her friends i was the “cutest guy in the world”. At that moment I thought it was all over… the loneliness, crying myself to sleep every single damn night, but no. It was just a tease. I even go to the lengths to pray to our lord to put a woman in my life, I sometimes tell him I will take my own life if he doesn’t, letting me rot and burn in hell. Maybe in hell I won’t experience this loneliness.. its all I think about every second of every day and it has me depleted of all energy and motivation. Im not the type to feel sorry for myself, but what the hell am i supposed to other than to cry for help. I’ve tried everything. Someone please give me advice or something. Hopefully this reaches the right soul.
The only thing that has ever worked for me is changing location. Going where you are understood, appreciated and in the same wave frequency, is priceless. ✈️
i was spoiled since a child when it came to attention from women but now in my late 20's I've been single most of the time because of various reasons but mainly because I'm very picky and never been the type to chase or really approach women most women always assume i have a lot of women or a girlfriend and i have like 0 patience lol
the problem is not attracting women but attracting my life partner. im past a point in my life where casual sex is all im looking for. i want a women a partner too bring out the best versions off each other and too live with and support
its all about networking and making new friends. Also, your current friends must appreciate you that much to introduce you to a girl. it has nothing to do with appearance
as a girl, when i see an attractive guy, I always think he is taken or he is out of my league. Afterall, most attractive men only date girls who look like models
Hey dude I've just "stumbled" upon your video (well I was looking actually on YT and also across google, this vid came up I subbed) and I just have to say right off the bat, this is quite possibly the most useful and relevant video I have come across for myself, literally maybe ever; the opening scene you did, well, yeah that's the level of sadness and frustration I have felt at times with this. This eventually turns into some sort of cognitive rumination, or an obsession, to some even to the delusional level, where you can never break out of day after day... or longer, it's incredibly unhealthy for anyone. It's funny actually because the song "i wanna know what love is" by foreigner came on just as I am writing this lul, synchronicity or something. I guess I'd class myself as alright looking, I mean according to science itself this should have something to do with it. I am not beating around the bush here I don't relate to the commenters, they have had interest I have had very fleeting interest who then I don't see anymore and I am rejected or invisible to the rest at best. Most other articles online focus on apparent reasons that apparently don't work to get women, so do youtube videos, I don't really find these useful as I've tried it and nope. so thx ill give it a shot.
The problem is when we think girls dont like me, they dont really engage in conversation and it feels like mixed signals. But in reality they could actually like you, even if they are quiet around you. But we interpret it as disinterest, while for her it is a "subtle hint" that she is submissive around us. It is confusing, I wish everyone was just direct.
To this day it’s still crazy to see absolutely peng men get zero to harsh responses from chicks in clubs and those that can just talk and realise that just being cool and not insecure is the way to connect with women find it so easy
Honestly one of the best videos I have seen on this topic! Just simple and good. Just be greatfull to look good you don’t need to hide it. They think of you as a nice man so just let them
Wow, ok this guy is actually making sense. I'm an attractive guy (not my words), my face is fine but not as good as this guys, but my physique is top tier. I'm outgoing, charismatic, confident, DGAF if I offend people so I say what I want, but even though I can walk into a venue and befriend half the people there, have lots of respect from guys, girls want nothing to do with me. At all. I think it's because they look at me and think, wow, this guys cute, in seriously good shape, seems to know everyone, he's charming and cool, but there's something...off about him. That thing that's "off" is that although I'm aware of how I look and how people see me and can PROJECT confidence, I don't truly FEEL confident. However...that lack of internal confidence is a RESULT of years of nothing but rejection and disinterest from women, not the cause of it. I was confident for a long time and eventually lost it when it became impossible to remain confident when all I was getting was rejection. So...how do you undo that mindset that was formed from years of consistently bad results? Because now, whenever I approach a girl, even though my natural extrovert takes over and I'm funny, charming, challenging etc. Deep down I know it'll go the same way as the last 1,496 girls I approached and not go anywhere, and sure enough, it does.
Being gay I have a bit of a different dilemma. I used to get rejected a lot before I grew into my looks, groomed very well (including the way i dress and hold myself) and started hitting the gym. Now I'm a god damn compliment magnet to the point were I've grown both numb and annoyed by them. Even people who reject me still leave me with "You're gorgeous, just not my type personally". This all being said, I've never actually been in a relationship and not for lack of me trying. I always seem to land them in the beginning, but can never hold onto a guy for longer than a week or so. I'd like to believe I act relatively normal as I keep the same sense of humor that won them over initially. I text back, fully down to set up plans and my love language is time spent so I never mind going out at a moment's notice. Once they see I'm down for something legitimate (or temporary) they always back out. Sometimes, you can have all the cards, but you're just mad unlucky
I feel like gay people have it a tad easier than straight guys when it comes to catching someone's attention, even if gay people represent a minority among the global population.
@@jayymorris5285 I feel like gay people nowadays are more confidence on themselves than the average straight guy overall, not sure if it is pride or self worth, maybe both, maybe is society crushing on straight men, maybe is a lack of father figure. Another thing I noticed is that as gay man don't have that tension that straight guys feel when trying to approach the opposite sex (something that women seem to be hardwired to detect) , therefore a non straight man will be in a significant advantage when approaching woman. Anyhow, this are just assumptions I had made out of pure observation and vicarious experience.
Bruh I got a problem... no bitches but gay dudes plenty in my dm's would be like owning a damn harem for dudes... Problem is I am not interested in dudes while getting hit on by them , while being rejected by any woman xD almost feels like god wants to turn me but jokes on him if that was his goal he will get me behind him when I leave earth I am gonna make that mofo regret this decision.
One stop caring you are attrive to her two stop caring what She thinks of you 3 self care of urself 4 working on ur self image upgrade ur self 5 . Stay busy has man. 6 have value for you
Only if you are attractive AND outgoing. I am attractive and get attention initially but women lose interest fast because I am shy and don’t like to talk much. Women always want the guy with the biggest mouth in the room.
@@portman8909 “Lazy”? Not my fault that I suffered childhood traumas that inhibited my potential for social interaction. The idea of even saying ‘hi’ to a female terrifies me even though I know I’m attractive. Attractiveness isn’t everything.
This makes so much sense🤣 I’m 6’5, athletic and get compliments saying I can model, I get the girl but can’t keep her past the talking stage because I have the neediness of a little girl 😭 or if I showed insecurity it would be an instant turn off, I’m glad I found this video, will take this advice
$$$ MONEY $$$ - it's in a women's genes - if they're hot women, they look for someone that's financially stable to live an easy stress free life. Not some loser who she will support. My cousin who had women left right and centre approaching him couldn't get very far after the girls would learn that he was an electrician. One of my friends who was a complete nerd looking dude (short, thick glasses, not very attractive) but came from an EXTREMELY rich family had gorgeous women crawling off him once they found out his dad owned a big corporation. So funny to observe...
I believe I m a bit good looking, after I m done with my cutting, I ll look even better cause I have big muscles. My friends are all really really handsome, tall, strong, but I lack of height, I m 166cm tall. Thing is, all my friends are players, and I never had a problem talking to girls it was always natural to me, but ever since my last breakup I lost the spark, and now I m clueless of how to approach the one girl I finally like, after two years of my breakup. I never go out because my friends are busy, so I m feeling lonely, and honestly, I think It ll stay that way for at least a while, cause until I max out on my appearance, I ll never have the confidence to talk to girls...yes I am karolos, I m 16 years old, I bench 225 and I m scared to talk to girls 😂
176 cm tall with a aesthetic physique i worked for over 7 years and with a chiselled face with almond eyes thick eyebrows and a small pink lips and a feminine nose i got excellent hair too thick, soft and glowing used to get huge ton of compliments from both guys and girls and had been approached by girls out of nowhere all these raised my confidence which got me into the dating market, almost no luck at all. Approached over 600 girls, like more than 500 girls rejected me, got only around total of 20 numbers, 9 went to a date and only got laid with 6 girls (all ghosted me and looks at me with disappointment because i wasn't good in bed) and was feeling like shit and thought how average or below average guys would be like way worst but when you look with a clear mind in real world billions of men who are average or below average both short and tall are married or have a gf and eventually met a friends friend who looks like garbage yet have a bodycount of 60+ asked him for advice and he said i got a way more feminine personality more feminine than women i have approached..... Hate that guy ngl.
I don't have a hard time attracting people. I think it is much harder to genuinely find someone you can connect with (without ulterior motives), feel vulnerable enough to be emotionally intimate with, and feel understood.
Preach
She has 99 other options
That’s why
Spot on
Agreed. My problem isn't "getting a girl," it's finding a decent girl, period, let alone getting her. I tried dating apps but deleted them because there were hardly any women that I even wanted to swipe right on.
same modern whmen thats why
Finally someone talking about the problem of being attractive and single 🙂
Exactly
is there mirror in your house?
koi ni bhai. mai tera drd smj skta hun… mai bbhi jada akarshit hun 😂
@@Aditi12355 *Emotional damage
Rowdy guys are lucky
Everyone thinks looks is enough. Your vibe. Your personality. It absolutely matters.
-says an absolute chad looking man
Rrrrright. Women swipe left cause of “bad vibes”
@@Ishmam_Dhrubo been incel many times. Been dumped due to my clingy mess of a self from years ago. I might attract women but keeping them is another story. Not the case now a days but old me was total insecure mess
@@Ishmam_Dhrubo Bro believe me it does, Im also good looking and I have struggle with females my entire life.
@@jcransome5616 She can swipe right and leave you on read, belief me (women can lose attraction extremely easy). I think that every high value male should develop game.
I'm 6'2, Athletic and not a bad looking guy. I get people giving compliments about my looks on a weekly basis. Am also outgoing and can hold a conversation but have had a dry spell for two years. It's gotten to a point where I am frustrated because I know the attraction is there with women but I can't get the connection I'm looking for. Maybe it's me, I don't know... But all I want is one girl. I am not looking for ONS anymore they are empty. I'm at the brink of giving up on love.
Feel ya bro, as a little bit shorter, probably less athletic atm guy, shits tough. I’m personally lost between trying to be “the bad boy” and being “who I am” because nothing seems to have an effect. Of course living in Vegas might be the problem for me cause I don’t own a penthouse.
Shit I can't even get one night stands despite being fairly attractive.
Ur me bro we in the same situation we even the same height but it’s like every time a women gets close to me I push her away
If you and other people that replied to your comment are that attractive and still can't get a girl I think I should already give up on this because to be very much honest nothing attractive arround me and yet I'm chasing fantasy dreams. Girls never give me any attention therefore I'm not even thinking about getting a beautiful girl, but I'm afraid I will not get any girl.
Son wtf we do not use that four letter word...
Sometimes being extremely attractive is also a problem. Nobody wants to try on you since they think you are out of their league lol 😂
False, attractive people live life in easy mode
Ahahhahahahahhah it happens
@@gerardoa9179Not for me, shit most girls are intimidated by me and the ones who aren’t try to lead me on and play games so I can pursue them.
My crush once told me whether I only talk to her😢. Maybe she thought I am a playboy.
They also scared of dating good looking guy cuz they may think hes getting attention of girls
I'm quite a handsome guy, I'm not a male model but I've been told many times I'm really handsome and I get looks in public on a daily basis. Based on my experience with girls: do NOT, as an attractive guy, mistake lack of trust for lack of attraction. Most women are suspicious when a handsome guy approaches them or tells them they like them, and this cold behaviour is - way more often than not - a lack of trust and NOT a lack of attraction.
U just Exposed my Life as Nobody done till now
@@thebiker7698😅
Girls love ugly looking guys..bro it's fact
Same.
- believe in yourself a bit more
- play it chill
- don't take anything to seriously
- be a bit funny or goofy
- If nothing works remember that being single is great
I am too goofy and make fun of myself all the time, i can't stop. I wanna be funny , and it is costing me
@@emperornephew6487 I mean I’m only funny when I’m silly , I have a hard time making up jokes or humor sometimes” . I would think that RN don’t try to be funny but rather learn humor first - like what I’m about to do also
i've been single my whole life its not great at all
@@kw7814 literally it's not, like not! It's so saddening etc. I mean i can't even have multiple sides at once, why could it be cool?
@@emperornephew6487 trust bro women love goofy guys just keep being yourself
I am reasonably attractive and have status, and women usually like me a lot. It never helped me getting a girlfriend. All the women I liked in my life, without exception, were already taken, usually married. I think the biggest problem of high quality men by far on the dating market is that we have instinctive standards, we look for a suitable match. However, those women are rare and have a massive sexual market value, so they are usually off the dating market latest by age 25,usually much earlier. I couldn't figure out how to find attractive yet single women. I am already older and feel I need to give up on the idea of ever finding love.
Do you get lots of matches?
Do you get lots of Instagram follows?
Are you getting friend requests?
Are women dming you?
If not, then women aren’t attracted. Your friends and family don’t have a valid opinion
Não don’t give up man you’ll find her in no time! God bless!
Are you getting lots of matches?? friend reuqeswt? DM's? Do they approach you in real life??
@@JTO1247 man stop it with this cope Disney fantasy
I've had the same problem. I have women interested in me, but they're not women I'm interested in. It's hard for me to find women I'm interested in, at all. I'm 29 and ready to settle down, so I'm looking for a wife, not just a girlfriend or a fling, so my standards are very high. You're right that many of the highest quality women are already married by 25, often by 22-23.
I've been coming to terms recently with the fact that I'll just need to date younger women.
I've been told my entire life that I'm good looking, and I'm still a virgin at 29... I had SEVERE social anxiety & low-esteem growing up, which pretty much made dating unfeasible. It's improved quite a bit since then, but now the problem is it seems like every, single, fairly attractive woman I meet is already taken/ married. I'm not even exaggerating.. Every. Single. Woman. It's becoming more and more apparent that I might have simply just missed the boat 😕
date younger brah
I went up to about 13 women for their number at the gym and 11 said they were taken/married. The ones that are single are single for a reason and have so much emotional baggage that it's better for them to sink into their despair than to give them a time of day.
Social anxiety is a destroyer of lives.
Damn
Divorce rate is over 50% bro join some social clubs!
I'm practically the person as addressed in the video, just with a little addition of being pretty cold to people I don't know cuz I kind of dislike being around strangers and crowds. That was probably one of the reasons why I didn't really find myself in serious relationships. Didn't really mind not having a girl for years, but I have one now who actually appreciates me for who I am and understands me inside out. The degree of compatibility is just indescribable. Thank God for blessing me with such a wonderful person. Love her so much :)
Please help me, I also have become pretty cold towards people. How did you fix it?
Many Women want an attractive guy until they actually land one. It brings out a lot of insecurities it seems and they can’t handle when the man is just as “pretty” if not prettier than they are.
Facts. All that insecurity comes out
Comforting lie
So true.
I've heard it said that girls want a guy that's just a little bit better than them overall, but that they don't like it if he's too far out of their league. They think that they won't be able to keep him and it drives them crazy. I think that's true.
@@jcransome5616 Look at his profile picture. He's likely speaking from experience.
This is a tough one. A lot of women say I’m really good looking but I’ve had friends make fun of the way I look so I’m not sure where I live on the spectrum. Guess I’ll have to start going out to bars and clubs and find out. Never really been a big fan of doing that but every time I have done it I’ve had a decent amount of success.
If you believe you’re attractive, you most likely are
If you believe you’re funny looking then most likely you are.
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Have the confidence
Honestly bro if you can look at yourself in the mirror without screaming, chances are you’re a decent looking guy
Lol, you've had success in cold approaching & you're still not sure if you're attractive or not! 🤣
@@jkshallinheritearth3883 I know it sounds confusing but I’ve dated pretty hot women but I’ve also been rejected by sixes and sevens so I guess it gets a little confusing you start to wonder if you are just believing your own hype. Like am I really objectively attractive or am I just some women’s kind? Also I have radically changed my appearance a lot over the years. I was always bald but as I’ve gotten older I have grown my hair out so this also affects the way I perceive myself at times because I’m not sure which version of me is more attractive. I don’t know dude I get in my head about it but all the comments on here are pretty helpful.
Do you matches on apps
Lots of follows on insta?
Friend requests ?
Dms from women?
If yes
Being physically attractive means nothing if you're not mentally attractive, being both however is a very lethal combination
if you are physically attractive but mentally unnatractive the mental part takes a bigger part
@@PaulTC97 What do you mean mentally attractive?
@@egertroos1691 with attachment issues and things like that
@@PaulTC97 ok
I mean, if you are good looking but dont feel confident your confidence is perceived to be 10x lower than if a normal looking guy has low self confidence. Girls dont expect a very good looking guy to have confidence isues. They expect the good looking guy to be good in all the other aspects of life when in fact being good looking and unconfident sucks cause you are constantly on the spotlight. Ive been told im good looking even tho I know every girl has a different taste.
Brett is the older brother everyone needs🙏
*step
The checklist for what makes men attractive to women is longer than it is vice versa. Because of that you can be a good looking guy but also not be attractive if you are deficient in confidence and social skills, ect.
I remember a family friend “a straight male” said he thought I was one of the most handsome men on the planet. But I can’t find a girlfriend save my life.
This is it. You need to have a masculine personality/aura or hope you find a girl that likes a shy guy. Otherwise, being good looking and unconfident can really play against you
For me the issue isn't looks or status its more so finding the right girl who aligns with my values and checks my boxes as my goal is to find my wife not just hook up with a cute girls for some time.
Exactly. I'm in the same boat.
Bro same, everyone is always telling me to screw a bunch of girls and I'm like, I don't want that......I want something real and permanent....
Me too , I don’t do it with random girls just for fun , waiting for my special one …
Ive been told im good looking all my life but I have been waiting for a nice, authentic, intelligent girl. That is my struggle, every girl where I live is some sort of characature of an instagram personality with the will and ambition of a farm animal. They just throw on fake tan and get drunk every weekend and have got zero understanding of anything in the world. You cannot even converse with them about anything other than something on netflix or how drunk they got last night.
This comment and the thoughts in it have kept me awake for so many nights, our problem surpasses looks here, you are not looking for chicks, you're looking for a woman. So videos like this my friend won't help you much, it is more a matter of luck finding a girl who's pretty with a harvested mind and openess to new topics
@@AndresGomez-ws3fx yep, you are right, at that point, it's only a matter of luck
Since most, or a large amount, of women nowadays are like this, make yourself better. Keep working on yourself and when someone matches you, they’ll be there and they’ll be a woman, not just like every other girl. Become better for your sake and people will be attracted to your accomplishments. When you become more successful and start earning your way into successful groups, you’ll find better people in general.
@@nimaelyasi4287 most women follow a trend like most men if most women in a certain place are drunk the men likely moreso do not generalize it bites you in the ass harder then your dad hitting you with a stick so hard it breaks after one strike
@@nimaelyasi4287 mmmh as a woman myself, I used to think like that, and yes is true in many cases, but also many times, after the first impresion, I discovered many girls with much more depth to them, than what it seems at first sight, and now I'm more open to people😃, and also have more friends, turns out I just needed to give more space and time to the other person.
you know what? the right one will come to you sooner or later. happened to me as well
that's awesome man
This is bad advice for someone who needs to take action
Bad advice
@@CharlieBennettGuitar I agree. I had this "it'll just happen when you least expect it" attitude for years and it never got me anywhere. It's only since I've been putting active effort into intentionally trying to meet women that I've started making progress.
@Alek Wolf i don't think he meant it literally tho. of course that if you just wait for the right girl to come, she will never ever come to you. the point is, after trying and failing with so many girls, one day you'll meet a girl that clicks with you
I’ve been in the same situation, Im very handsome but I’ve never had a girl being interested in me.. and to top it off I’m an introverted type of man so I’ve never been the most interesting man out there..
My suggestion would be to break the nervous barrier for you and the girl…a simple longer look and smile might cause a girl to approach you. Other than that, remember to stay “alpha” and never crumble over ur shyness.
I'm a solidly handsome guy. Not exactly a model, but quite above average. In line of the concept of incongruence: do NOT, as an attractive guy, hit on below average girls, even if you genuinely like them. It does not matter how much game you have, hitting on a girl who is much below you in attractiveness is often met with a big dose of skepticism. Go for girls that are of your own level or slightly below. I've made this mistake in the past, most girls that would react negatively on my advances were the ones lowest in attractiveness
Yes a look like a Walmart version of David Gandy. And when I look for girls as friends (I don’t approach or want sex with girls since many girls are so full of themselves nowadays, I usually don’t want to force anything), it ends up with 1) being ghosted and then seeing them irl with them being unaware of the damage given to me.
2) being liked
Facts
In my experience it has to do with their confidence. Pretty girls know they are worth your attention, and in my case i get looks from pretty girl and the average ones act snobby/ look angry. Trust me it has nothing to do with you it's in their minds
Yeah the uglier ones have the most to say.. but on podcasts the yare loud we want attractive dudes( HONEY YOU CAN'T HANDLE ATTRACTIVE DUDE YOUR EGO IS BIGGER THAN YOUR BODY )
@@yourbodyis75waterandimthir44 damn bro i never thought about it that way
Bro. I’d never dated a girl until a little over a month ago. Lots of girls had crushes on me, but we never dated. Last month a girl approached me and started to talk to me. I asked her out and we had some pretty flawed dates. I had 0 game. But I was genuine with her and everything worked out
I got 0 zero game too you got any tips??
How old are you?
Lying
I had the same issues as well. I will see from their body language that they are interested. But it almost like they put this wall and try to ignore me on purpose. Thanks this help a lot
Its my problem, i am introverted, shy etc. I also do the gym and occasionally box but it doesn't help me much with self-esteem (sorry my eng)
your english is fine :)
I had/ have the same problem, but imo it is really often just a lack of experience. I am still a very quiet person in most circumstances, but I am no longer uncomfortable with basic social situations. That comes with age :)
(Though you should try to meet as many new people as you can and use opportunities to socialize etc, especially if you do not really want to in that moment)
Same ass problem here
Samee got the shy and attractive problem.. once there was this girl in the bus sitting next to me and she was looking at me all the time the only thing that came out of my mouth was "hey" and she said "hey" and then it stopped XD fckng awkward I know
It really boils down to not putting yourself out there and not taking risks. I'm about to try cold approaches mainly because I don't leave the house much. Also, I get a lot of attention from girls online and IRL so that might help.
Bro have yo got any success?? Tell us
I think the good looking guys that struggle in dating are generally ones that are late bloomers. It takes a while for their personalities to catch up with their looks.
That was me, took till middle age to feel that power within.
Girls check me out at me all the time. And when i say all the time, I mean all the time! Clubs, shopping malls, events, the streets, at the doctor and even in the most odd places you could possibly think like the bus! Basically everytime I step out of the house! I know I am extremely good looking but I just don't know how and when to approach. I just enjoy the validation when it happens and then regret it after for months and years to come! I am 19 and have never had a girlfriend, I am just praying it's not that much of a big thing...
same bro, it hurts
I see you got the confidence, now you need to show it
Nah you arent
Girls do approach "extremely good looking" guys by themselves
@@umopumo No they don't, you've been watching too many Tiktok videos.
@@umopumo girls hardly ever approach guys . Idk who lied to you
For handsome guys: don't try too hard building attraction. You have to play the "don't fuck up" game and make sure your game aligns with your perceived value
Damn your content rly aligns with most of the questions I ask myself
I am not attractive but I'll still watch🙂
Same
Vibsssss lmao
eat raw meat
Nothing is unattractive, the way you present yourself is more important and your perspective too.
Understood 😄
@@Kunal_3725 yea dumpsters are attractive 🤡
Humm, okay I'm a shy person but everyone thinks I'm not. So saying nothing is easy as long as I don't get nervous. But your advice has been helping me so I can't complain. Thanks man
that moment when you are not attractive but you get the girls cuz you follow Brett maverick
bang
@@BrettMaverick dam son
Lol
@@ezbozoeznub452 dad, is that really you? ☹️😮
@@npn8945 yea get glass lets pour milk
I’m single because A) I am neurodivergent and B) I’ve had severe childhood trauma that makes me feel like I don’t deserve love even though I do.
Bro there's nthing in the modern girls/women. Don't make any love affair. I'm also a single. If you understand women's psychology deeply thrn you'll never like them anymore.
Just confidence bro, if you're attractive and confident, everything about women is piece of cake. I mean, when I talk about confidence, it's the ability for you to maximize your sexual appeal well.
*Stop focusing solely on your appearance and start improving your social skills and mindset. That’s what makes the real difference.*
My issue is that I was annoying and obnoxious when I was younger and now that I’m older and more mature, everyone still calls me annoying and stuff because I’m in school and it’s hard to change peoples opinion of you.
I bet ur not even 20 yet, don’t even worry about it….to be honest , girls ur age probably want guys 5-7 years older than u/them. If you want to search for a relationship so young, I’d definitely suggest a girl 1-2 grades below you !
Let me know what you think of all the new videos!
Funny cool love them
I like them! Short, digestible info is nice :-)
They're nice
Keep them coming!
I'm very handsome when I walk at street like a famous actor but I'm fucking arrogance I always looking for better unitel I found myself single for 10 year's, 😂
Thank you for this. Even not being attractive, this helps.
You have a low self esteem that's it,if you think you are attractive you are attractive..if you think you're otherwise..you are so
@@barmyrishiarts4978 Is not low self esteem. I don't think I'm ugly, but I know I'm not the most attractive person either. I'm normal, but I've accepted it and I'm happy about it.
@@barmyrishiarts4978 Is not low self esteem. I don't think I'm ugly, but I know I'm not the most attractive person either. I'm normal, but I've accepted it and I'm happy about it.
@@MannyVegaNieves sounds good
I thought I was the only guy called handsome yet single for life. I just don't get it. Sometimes I wish I were ugly then my rejections would makes sense. I think women just have too many options so they easily shoot down a great guy like myself just for fun. They get a real thrill about it.
Yeah fuck em there's better ones out their
Damn Bratt, just got some same experience this days!
Dolls really exited if u got model look, and “model” behaviour. It’s sad but real fact(
Thx for videos goat
Im a runway model but Im one of those weird looking models...not conventionally attractive but unique looking. Im very androgynous and its hard for me to get attention from girls cause im automatically assumed to be gay or feminine
drop the pic bro
you can date other models easily. im sure they understand
Bro just lift, trust me on this one. I was 130lbs and now I weigh 175lbs, most of the gain is lean muscle. Also very androgynous face and did some modeling, people call me pretty boy. But women think I am much hotter now, having broad shoulders, a thick neck and buff arms will help you a lot. You don’t have to be huge just buff, still fit size 29 jeans and I used to wear 26-27. Oh and lift for your own confidence first and foremost, that’s more important than women
@@cosmo7779
What's your height?
@@cosmo7779 pretty boys are actually the most desired by girls. I have feminine features but my cheekbones and facial structure is masculine, so it really helps! Girls desire a mix of masculinity and feminity in a guy
This video is what I needed. I'm a pretty good lookin 6'4 " dude with style and when I'm outside walking with ppl like my brov, they tell me I'm getting eyeballed all the time by girls. But when I talk to some they seem real cold and shy. I feel like a lot of girls are showing ppl who they think are attractive the cold sholder as a defense mechanism. I don't really fckin know, it really confuses me. But it probably has to do with my vibe i guess
Exactly, I was talking at work with a girl. She didn't aks me questions. Only I did ask her. I just want to talk but most good looking are cold. I get also the idea they do it because of defense or scared i flirt with them. I just wanna talk so annoying.
honestl man im good looking tall, ripped real hadsome but its crazy how the world can make you feel like you aren't all because you actually are handsome it genuinely is weird as fuck. The girls who like you don't smile whyen you look at them etc its just weird. That's why most women will never date an attractive guy
@@alleyezonme40it is weird. In social settings they'll eye ball you alot and always walk around you or near you but expect you to approach. Soon as you do they already gunned you down before you even attempted to talk to them. It's bs lol. If they're with friends you most likely are going to only attract the least attractive and craziest one out the group. Because she has no fear of rejection from an attractive guy because it wouldn't be as shocking compared to rejecting a better looking girl. Even in old age women settle down with out of shape guys or just plain Jane casual men they're more comfortable with , which is nothing wrong with that but it's the facts. Handsome men usually just can get quickies and one night stands. But keep in mind that you won't be the cause of any of it and most likely the woman would be the one doing all the heavy lifting. Because she only has one goal in mind. But will pretend like they're shy . Whole time their just not trying to look desperate and give themselves away.
It's more like they get nervous around good looking guys ,i get nervous too and my brain just goes blank like i don't even know my name
@@pàrés_wtf69 Ur a woman? Maybe u know then. Bc I'm fr frustrated that all gals think I'm out of their league. They just stop working but I myself am really jus a real insecure goofy guy too.💀😭
A lot of girls find me attractive, I just have absolutely no game.
Don’t need to jester game if the broad finds you attractive.
"Isn't she cute? Alright get outta here." *smack*
🤣 Good man
You're totally right though. We really have to live by different rules. Just like rich people, others look at us and assume we have everything when we're probably more miserable than they are. But you have no right to complain in their eyes, so you have to be humble. Women are intimidated but they also make a whole lot of assumptions that you have to prove to them aren't true or they won't waste their time with you. I'd say life is easier for guys who rate a 7 or 8. Attractive, but not so attractive that people make assumptions about them
When you are a guy, looks don’t necessarily mean that much to women. Looks do matter to a certain degree but personality and status are definitely want they look for.
I think looks, personality and status are the three pillars, with each one having different value to different women. Looks are very useful but can falter fast if you don't have personality to back it. Personality on the other hand, that NEVER fails
keep lying to yourself. looks matter to women as much as looks matter to men
no woman gives a fuck about status unless it's about marriage and forming a family
@@neolink8197 nope I'm a descent good looking guy 5'9 gets attention from. Girls but much quickly within days they loose interest in me once i was fed up to a point i asked one why they started been so off around me and one said that my personality is trash and boring keep in mind i got a friend who's below average and shorter yet way more successful with 68 laycount when i asked him for tips he told me. I'm too shy and have a feminine personality. And gaved me the "just be confident bro" advice which incels hates. I'm usually rated at least 7/10 by both girls and guys max 8/10 and uglier and average guys even fat ones have better dating life and social life than me. "looks are everything" my ass 🍑👈🏼
@@qanniccwomen do not equally care about looks as much as men do, literally saying that proves you DON’T understand women at all lol, women are hypergamous, men are not hypergamous, google the word hypergamy
@@AnanAdhil2571lamborghiniyes you live in the real world and finally understand blackpill redpill & manosphere is full of cow poop, looks are not that important to women, if all you have going for you is looks, you have to match women’s energy & be her *jester* in a way, it’s the truth, looks aren’t the end all be all to get women, you don’t just look good and BAM you’re smashing all the chicks, the only way to smash a lot of women easily without having to be a jester is to have an above average lifestyle, men are success objects women are sex objects, once a woman sees you have noticeably above average lifestyle, then she’ll be attracted to you, and smashing her will be smooth, that’s how you actually win with women, not looks, every guy who claims looks is the best/most important are either losers who aren’t connected to reality, or they’re spreading misinformation to keep guys ignorant
The gym always feels good
Im 6’0, i have hunter eyes, sharp jawline, decent bodyfat percentage, green eyes, good looking eyebrows and i have a decent amount of muscle mass. Ive also had multiple compliments and my friends are absolutely shocked i cant “pull”. But i suffer from a crippling loneliness that has haunted me for all 18 years on this planet. Not once have I done anything with a girl. The more interactions I have with these evil creatures the lonlier I feel. Its like a tease. I met this beautiful girl at a party once, and she went around telling all of her friends i was the “cutest guy in the world”. At that moment I thought it was all over… the loneliness, crying myself to sleep every single damn night, but no. It was just a tease. I even go to the lengths to pray to our lord to put a woman in my life, I sometimes tell him I will take my own life if he doesn’t, letting me rot and burn in hell. Maybe in hell I won’t experience this loneliness.. its all I think about every second of every day and it has me depleted of all energy and motivation. Im not the type to feel sorry for myself, but what the hell am i supposed to other than to cry for help. I’ve tried everything. Someone please give me advice or something. Hopefully this reaches the right soul.
I was the same, until I didnt give a damn about what others thought, and found the power within, its masculine inner confidence.
man i hope you doing okay in life. god is cruel life is cruel and unfair
The only thing that has ever worked for me is changing location. Going where you are understood, appreciated and in the same wave frequency, is priceless. ✈️
i was spoiled since a child when it came to attention from women but now in my late 20's I've been single most of the time because of various reasons but mainly because I'm very picky and never been the type to chase or really approach women most women always assume i have a lot of women or a girlfriend and i have like 0 patience lol
Valuable advice for men in such a situation
My crush once told me whether I only talk to her😢. She thought I am a playboy. It really sucks.
Never thought about it this way! Great content
😂 Your girlfriend is amazing and the little "clap" at the end... guys this is the sparkle every relationship should have.
This advice is actually good for EVERY guy. You don't even have to look like a model for it to work.
Yea ok
Are you serious?, your looks as a man largely determine your dating success or failure.
@@masteryoda498 Let me put it this way: If looks were so important, I would be married with kids by now.
@@mistercool3859 yeah that's pretty rich and believable coming from default pfp "MisterCool".
@@ChrrolloDI Writes the guy with no photo screen shot.
the problem is not attracting women but attracting my life partner. im past a point in my life where casual sex is all im looking for. i want a women a partner too bring out the best versions off each other and too live with and support
Imagine telling yourself “yes yes I am attractive. I just can’t get girls. What’s the problem I’m such a babe”
I can tell your a chameleon incel. Why do you dudes come to these videos just to sound indirectly insecure towards other men?
I don't imagine, that's my reality
Were all gonna make it brahs
Brett literally, I don’t know where you get your research but If you don’t hear this enough brotha you and your channel, matter.
its all about networking and making new friends. Also, your current friends must appreciate you that much to introduce you to a girl. it has nothing to do with appearance
In general, the more you'll try to get women to like you, the less they'll like you 👍
True 😂
Yeah ignore them, they'll ignore you harder, pf, not even know you exist
perceived value is a cool way to say looks
as a girl, when i see an attractive guy, I always think he is taken or he is out of my league. Afterall, most attractive men only date girls who look like models
I dont even think i can call myself remotely attractive.
So a average guy can only rise in esteem but a good looking guy must not be lowered in esteem
Thankyou for this!!! No one gets what it’s like to be attractive, but all else ends there! frustrating AF. i can attract and that’s it.
My biggest problem is probably that I look for girls in all the wrong places like for example in my dads basement.
This is what it means to be mature...understanding the stereotype you represent and acting like it.
I don’t want a girlfriend, I just want to make female friends. But when I try, they just end up catching feelings and that’s where I just cut the line
as an unattractive guy i see this as an absolute win.
Hey dude I've just "stumbled" upon your video (well I was looking actually on YT and also across google, this vid came up I subbed) and I just have to say right off the bat, this is quite possibly the most useful and relevant video I have come across for myself, literally maybe ever; the opening scene you did, well, yeah that's the level of sadness and frustration I have felt at times with this. This eventually turns into some sort of cognitive rumination, or an obsession, to some even to the delusional level, where you can never break out of day after day... or longer, it's incredibly unhealthy for anyone.
It's funny actually because the song "i wanna know what love is" by foreigner came on just as I am writing this lul, synchronicity or something. I guess I'd class myself as alright looking, I mean according to science itself this should have something to do with it. I am not beating around the bush here I don't relate to the commenters, they have had interest I have had very fleeting interest who then I don't see anymore and I am rejected or invisible to the rest at best.
Most other articles online focus on apparent reasons that apparently don't work to get women, so do youtube videos, I don't really find these useful as I've tried it and nope. so thx ill give it a shot.
I know for a fact I’m good looking and I’m like 6’2 but it seems like they always ignore me. It’s the weirdest thing in the world to me
Same g I don’t get it dog
this makes sence, im very attractive too, i work in tv but cant get a woman, im too old now im over 40 i wish i knew this when i was in my 20s.
Dude man your a chad bro listening to you advice doesn't help the average dude with all respect sir.
Guys don't forget about our height thou 😂
Bruh he really smacked that and told her to get lmao!!!!
I’m handsome but I can’t get no girlfriend wtf!
Maybe you're chinese because I am too
@@auberninja5090bruh 😂
@@ogcodeine625 what
@@auberninja5090 if u handsome u handsome,dooesnt mather chinese u or japanese
@@ogcodeine625 Ive heard that Asian men were ranked the least attractive
The problem is when we think girls dont like me, they dont really engage in conversation and it feels like mixed signals. But in reality they could actually like you, even if they are quiet around you. But we interpret it as disinterest, while for her it is a "subtle hint" that she is submissive around us. It is confusing, I wish everyone was just direct.
I don’t know if I’m attractive or not, I suffer from BDD
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To this day it’s still crazy to see absolutely peng men get zero to harsh responses from chicks in clubs and those that can just talk and realise that just being cool and not insecure is the way to connect with women find it so easy
10 months late, i know, but a lot of girls just won't give a shit unless you're 6'3, attractive and earn 250k/year at 20 years old
It's sometimes funny watching people cope and still try to see women as humans after all you've went through.
This video just makes a new me. Thanks🙏🏾
I have this worry that people already perceive me as shy so that if I were to become more confident they wouldn't notice
It really annoys me how other guys think being a goodlooking guy is such an advantage. It's almost a disadvantage
Being an ugly or average guy is much worse
@@acceptyourself9582 I have social anxiety and I am not handsome looking
Definitively recognize myself doing this sometimes. No wonder girls seem interested, but pull away after talking for a while
My problem is that girls never text me and just play games with me and I'm very attractive
Ok, I just want to appreciate how genius of a YT title this is! 🎉
great advice and all, but this here seems restrictive on the guy's true personality if not hiding it completely
Honestly one of the best videos I have seen on this topic! Just simple and good. Just be greatfull to look good you don’t need to hide it. They think of you as a nice man so just let them
Wow, ok this guy is actually making sense. I'm an attractive guy (not my words), my face is fine but not as good as this guys, but my physique is top tier. I'm outgoing, charismatic, confident, DGAF if I offend people so I say what I want, but even though I can walk into a venue and befriend half the people there, have lots of respect from guys, girls want nothing to do with me. At all.
I think it's because they look at me and think, wow, this guys cute, in seriously good shape, seems to know everyone, he's charming and cool, but there's something...off about him.
That thing that's "off" is that although I'm aware of how I look and how people see me and can PROJECT confidence, I don't truly FEEL confident.
However...that lack of internal confidence is a RESULT of years of nothing but rejection and disinterest from women, not the cause of it. I was confident for a long time and eventually lost it when it became impossible to remain confident when all I was getting was rejection.
So...how do you undo that mindset that was formed from years of consistently bad results? Because now, whenever I approach a girl, even though my natural extrovert takes over and I'm funny, charming, challenging etc. Deep down I know it'll go the same way as the last 1,496 girls I approached and not go anywhere, and sure enough, it does.
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9 in 10 girl stares at me but no one ever approached me 😢😢😢😢
Being gay I have a bit of a different dilemma. I used to get rejected a lot before I grew into my looks, groomed very well (including the way i dress and hold myself) and started hitting the gym. Now I'm a god damn compliment magnet to the point were I've grown both numb and annoyed by them. Even people who reject me still leave me with "You're gorgeous, just not my type personally". This all being said, I've never actually been in a relationship and not for lack of me trying. I always seem to land them in the beginning, but can never hold onto a guy for longer than a week or so.
I'd like to believe I act relatively normal as I keep the same sense of humor that won them over initially. I text back, fully down to set up plans and my love language is time spent so I never mind going out at a moment's notice. Once they see I'm down for something legitimate (or temporary) they always back out. Sometimes, you can have all the cards, but you're just mad unlucky
I feel like gay people have it a tad easier than straight guys when it comes to catching someone's attention, even if gay people represent a minority among the global population.
@@MyNameisRevenant Well do tell! This is an intresting take, I'd like to hear your reasoning. 😄
@@jayymorris5285 I feel like gay people nowadays are more confidence on themselves than the average straight guy overall, not sure if it is pride or self worth, maybe both, maybe is society crushing on straight men, maybe is a lack of father figure. Another thing I noticed is that as gay man don't have that tension that straight guys feel when trying to approach the opposite sex (something that women seem to be hardwired to detect) , therefore a non straight man will be in a significant advantage when approaching woman. Anyhow, this are just assumptions I had made out of pure observation and vicarious experience.
Disgusting
Bruh I got a problem... no bitches but gay dudes plenty in my dm's would be like owning a damn harem for dudes... Problem is I am not interested in dudes while getting hit on by them , while being rejected by any woman xD almost feels like god wants to turn me but jokes on him if that was his goal he will get me behind him when I leave earth I am gonna make that mofo regret this decision.
One stop caring you are attrive to her two stop caring what She thinks of you 3 self care of urself 4 working on ur self image upgrade ur self 5 . Stay busy has man. 6 have value for you
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OMG You just gave what I always wanted!!!!
Must be easy being attractive.
Only if you are attractive AND outgoing. I am attractive and get attention initially but women lose interest fast because I am shy and don’t like to talk much. Women always want the guy with the biggest mouth in the room.
@@Josh-fp2qn I don't get attention because I'm unattractive and socially awkward.
@@portman8909 Nah… I’m 6”2, muscular, above average face, but I still cannot pull females. Im antisocial and nervous.
@@ndnsjensbsuiajs7514 You are just lazy, no sympathy from me.
@@portman8909 “Lazy”? Not my fault that I suffered childhood traumas that inhibited my potential for social interaction. The idea of even saying ‘hi’ to a female terrifies me even though I know I’m attractive. Attractiveness isn’t everything.
This makes so much sense🤣 I’m 6’5, athletic and get compliments saying I can model, I get the girl but can’t keep her past the talking stage because I have the neediness of a little girl 😭 or if I showed insecurity it would be an instant turn off, I’m glad I found this video, will take this advice
$$$ MONEY $$$ - it's in a women's genes - if they're hot women, they look for someone that's financially stable to live an easy stress free life. Not some loser who she will support. My cousin who had women left right and centre approaching him couldn't get very far after the girls would learn that he was an electrician. One of my friends who was a complete nerd looking dude (short, thick glasses, not very attractive) but came from an EXTREMELY rich family had gorgeous women crawling off him once they found out his dad owned a big corporation. So funny to observe...
Yea well why would you want a women whose a gold digger anyway
If your using money and status to get women to like your no different than a guy banging prostitutes and hookers
Well those gorgeous women will divorce rape the nerd and attain his assets 🤷🏻♂️
@@bigal98761 to dig em in they butt and forget em
don't go for the girl that you want go for the girl that wants you
Very well said
I believe I m a bit good looking, after I m done with my cutting, I ll look even better cause I have big muscles. My friends are all really really handsome, tall, strong, but I lack of height, I m 166cm tall. Thing is, all my friends are players, and I never had a problem talking to girls it was always natural to me, but ever since my last breakup I lost the spark, and now I m clueless of how to approach the one girl I finally like, after two years of my breakup. I never go out because my friends are busy, so I m feeling lonely, and honestly, I think It ll stay that way for at least a while, cause until I max out on my appearance, I ll never have the confidence to talk to girls...yes I am karolos, I m 16 years old, I bench 225 and I m scared to talk to girls 😂
176 cm tall with a aesthetic physique i worked for over 7 years and with a chiselled face with almond eyes thick eyebrows and a small pink lips and a feminine nose i got excellent hair too thick, soft and glowing used to get huge ton of compliments from both guys and girls and had been approached by girls out of nowhere all these raised my confidence which got me into the dating market, almost no luck at all. Approached over 600 girls, like more than 500 girls rejected me, got only around total of 20 numbers, 9 went to a date and only got laid with 6 girls (all ghosted me and looks at me with disappointment because i wasn't good in bed) and was feeling like shit and thought how average or below average guys would be like way worst but when you look with a clear mind in real world billions of men who are average or below average both short and tall are married or have a gf and eventually met a friends friend who looks like garbage yet have a bodycount of 60+ asked him for advice and he said i got a way more feminine personality more feminine than women i have approached..... Hate that guy ngl.
"Hey Jimmy, we're just letting you know you're fired"
"Ah, it'd be nice if I could fucking read"
And what if I'm not attractive plus I can't get anyone
Nothing works… everyone is closed off nowadays… nightclubs, restaurants, they want Mr. Perfect. Focus on money and finances DATING IS DEAD.